Saying no ?? I go out if my way to help even when I am not asked 😩 I am tired and already sick .. my entire life I have had anxiety and stressed. This makes so much sense after listening to this Dr
I am the very same always tired feeling burnt out listening to Gabor is helping me my mother was a narcissist I am only reading this now so I have been a servant to her and my family. I am frustrated at trying to change my life at 60. It’s not easy to say no but I’m willing to change this life of service and start to look after myself for once. Good luck to you too 😮
.....and don't forget the Business Leaders, -the global megalomaniacs who control most of our political leaders, either through bribery or blackmail - like the Zionist Congress of AIPAC.
Hey, nice pic! I also was about to say pretty much the exact same thing ! He basically started my self healing journey and started a healing domino effect praise this angel light worker and speaker of truth!
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Gebor Mate is my geri... He is a life changer and I love the quote he stated in Whne the Body says no - “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” I was someone who kept her mouth shut to avoid fights, starting from a young age, which turned in resentment over the years. I hurt myself so much by doing that. A very painful coping mechanism.
My devastating illness was a turning point for me; it enabled me to disconnect, entirely, from my toxic family and the harm they caused. I thank my body for telling me that I needed to make the change.
@bina nocht : Hi there. I've just read what you wrote and I want to tell you that your story and the way you feel are both very similar to my own experience. I stayed around my family because they 'needed' me, I put myself second, I didn't do the things that are important to me (like you not being with your kids at the beach). My mother would often say that she would die without me. I was the one who cared, who did the caring and I was also the receptacle for their negative emotions/fears etc. I believed her when she said what she did. I want to give you some advise if you don't mind......... Please stop doing what you're doing. In the end I got no thanks and realised, through therapy, that they kept me around to use me. I was also not thanked and would be blamed for whatever was wrong in their lives. I realised that I had worth and that my mother would not die without me. In the end the constant negatives and the toxicity and the drama made me very ill and unhappy. I also released, through therapy, that I was constantly trying to get them to love me but they didn't, ever, and they never would have. Please walk away, put yourself and your own family first. I broke all contact and am SO much healthier and happier now. Leaving is by no means easy but it is necessary. By the way, my mother did not die without me. All the best to you x
I’m a musician, artist, and actor and I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago now at the age of 31 but had symptoms for a year before that before I knew what was happening to me. I was recommended a book by Gabor called “When The Body Says No” and it completely changed my life for the better. I was not living in a way that was authentic at all nor in a way that manifested who I truly was and coming off my first prednisone cycle I was about to start work on a job as an actor for Universal Studios Hollywood during Halloween which I used to do years ago but couldn’t do for various reasons the past 2 years but I never forgot how much I loved it. I was terrified to do such a physically demanding job coming off my cycle because I thought it would be a disaster not being on some medication to lower my inflammation. The job was also incredibly physically demanding. The exact opposite happened. I was manifesting a part of me as an artist and an actor in an environment I felt embraced and respected doing something amazing every night that made myself and so many others happy. I was having so much fun even though the work was hard that I almost completely forgot I had a disease. After that experience I now completely understand what Gabor is trying to say. The art was flowing through me. Kind of like “jazzing” from the Disney movie “Soul”. My body knew I was in alignment again and my inflammation never came back until recently as I’ve fallen back into some hard times but I can’t unexperience what I experienced. I can’t unknow what I now know about myself.
Well Chad you are very wise and lucky too allow that information into your life and to assimilate it. Kudos to you well done. I'm 54 I got rheumatoid arthritis about 10 years ago now didn't treat it the first 7 years like a douchebag, and not realizing it was an autoimmune disease just extremely painful trying to do outside work on houses paint contract ladders everything- excruciating. Small cherry tomatoes on first knuckle joint. Intuitively I knew I wasn't where I'm supposed to be in life inside I guess I was grieving didn't know what subconsciously sad and angry take all your subconscious emotions of whatever. Not dealing with them and they will erupted somehow physically. That book, "When the body says NO!" sums up amazing connection between emotional bio physio state. I didn't eat the mornings and procrastinated the dealing with it and it blew into rheumatoid arthritis induced pulmonary fibrosis, nice, it turns out that the lungs in Chinese medicine have to do with grief and sadness. Wow I guess 4000 years of medicine they kind of know a few things?. Joke LOL Well done for becoming your own Healthcare Advocate Chad, you are a light to the rest of us and motivating force for the others. Damn it and just remember it's like when people become millionaires the first time if they lose it the second time they get it back twice as fast the third even quicker so just because it comes back just means you'll get rid of it even quicker now that you know how to short step and hack it out of you. Experience whatever feelings need to be experience it's not us I've come to finally learn your feelings aren't who we are they're just an experience along the way to guide us and learn from. I love the movie and acting and all the other parts you've talked about. Well done seriously be proud of yourself for doing good by yourself doesn't matter if we trip on the path of life most important thing is getting back up I believe. I think you do too. Sincerely, Mike Gordon (cheers)
@@mikeg.4262 thanks for all of that. It is all very encouraging. I see this disease sort of like training wheels on a bike or like bumpers on a bowling lane. Every time I the bowling ball veer off course, there is my rheumatoid arthritis, the bumpers, to guide me back on track. I'm also happy you were able to learn and apply this information to your life as well.
@@SashaLipskaia I’m glad you’ve been moved. I was moved as well. I mean I’m definitely still pretty irritated by the seemingly impossible permanent damage in some of my joints as well as the pesky mild inflammation that occasionally rears it’s ugly head in my life still but it’s so much more manageable than it was before because of how honest I have been in examining my life in how I’ve been living so far from the person I know I truly am inside.
It's not about saying 'no'; it's about authentically saying it. The thing is that you need to have a sense of a true self before you can effectively set boundaries. You can learn how to say 'no' (hence all the courses for learning how to be assertive), but that is not helpful if it is just another socially desirable thing you do. There is no point in saying 'no' if you are not connected to your true self. I do agree that saying 'no' to people who make it difficult for your true self to grow (like a toxic familymember/partner/friend/boss) is always the best option.
If a person is not being their authentic self, and learn about boundaries, saying no is coming from a need to control. Once beginning to say no from the authentic self, I believe it is a humble sense of self awareness ...they are doing this for themselves to show up. It isn't the action of saying no that is the important thing. It is the act of having to say no so you can show up.
Sometimes you need to say No to practice it especially when you have always been a 'yes' people pleasing person. So authentic self needs to be practiced and the needless guilt we are taught to feel will lessen and hopefully disappear So I disagree that it is about control which isn't necessarily so!
Yes, I've been practising Self Awareness and Meditation for the past few years which has given me a sense of my True Self and helped me to be more assertive.
Recovering and healing from a childhood filled with trauma…lived with a narcissist mother and father who wasn’t plugged in. I’m finding myself and becoming whole. Thank you for your work.
It's beautiful to see a person working into their elderly years. When I first saw him before the hair went greyer I thought I was looking a fifty something year old who had aged badly. When I found out he was almost 80. I thought the opposite. He has aged wonderfully. It's someone I agree with because I have healed myself many times since I was 19. Always after healing I look younger and get many comments from people I just met asking my age. Now my life has alot of stress so I don't expect these comments anymore but just knowing I can do this gives such a better outlook for my own kids.
This tension that comes up about disappointing others has accompanied me throughout my life! At nearly 50 this is an experience that feels so disabling!
I had To say No to this person who originally shared this video with me… strange feelings but heads up and stay ahead…. Intentions pure and genuine! Thanks for your time and wish you happy healthy long life ahead!
Well in our dysfunctional society saying no and setting boundaries is one thing having those boundaries respected is another. It's like a restraining order abusers will just ignore them.
YES.....Gabor refers to "the presence of that something else" which inspires and heals us. And how powerful saying "no' is to being authentic. I use my gut feelings and often ask myself "is this a yes or a no?". Over time my inner knowing has become loud and clear.
The original G . Thank you for being so true . Reading one of your books was the gateway drug into my life changing transformative healing journey and I'm happy to say I'm glad to be alive ✨️
Yes it's a process of finding meaning and purpose.l have also realised with time that if you live long enough you may have to go through the process often , it's not a linear path but the trick is to keep on the path, even if you are not moving forward, even if you fall back a few steps which you definitely would because of life's curved balls will not stop until you die. You accept that and it's easier to heal in subsequent attempts.Thankyou for the revision course Dr Matte.
As a counselor, Mate’s work has expanded my ability to understand that a “diagnosis” is often incorrect; it’s a label of illness that crowds out the ability to move toward wellness-especially in children’s lives. Hearing children say, “I have ADHD” or whatever, is one of the saddest things I have heard. It’s not that there isn’t behaviors that are unproductive, but the model of illness seems often incorrect and out of sync with moving toward health.
So wonderful to see a counselor being personally driven towards expanding their awareness. I've struggled to meet one yet who knows of this guy's work !!
Connecting with your authentic expression "no" is a re- connecting with your heart. Your heart is your health, creativity and life force. It is the ego flesh trying to hold you back to the past. We do not have to coddle it- we need only to guard our precious hearts.
❤First first first of all I want to say that you are an artist you are a "life artist". Secondly, I want to say that sometimes we have to say NO to ourselves because we want to ask our bodies for un strenth that is not there at some point, and we want to do things so badly, but we have to realize that we can't and say NO. Then that relief comes, and we feel like a balm on top of us, like a rain of peace and Tranquility. Thank you for all your love, thank you for all your work, thank you for all your knowledge, and thank you for all your help. ❤ I love you❤
“The essence of trauma is a disconnection from yourself… health means to be whole.. healing is the restoration of those connections to yourself” Reversing the disconnection that trauma imposed on us… Sense of meaning.. more to be felt experientially not intellectually What I’m doing makes a difference in the world .. we are connected creatures.. create art… not just for you… channeling the universe.. something flowing thru them as they create.. a connectedness… xo Gabor is golden .. to all of us .. 🤍💚💙💛🤎
Love it. About the politicians today; they are pretending to care for the environment, but if you look further; you will quickly find out that this is not true. We're actually in deep deep trouble, and global warming (with all its magnitude) is about 10% of our problems (sorry; I have done a lot of research). We need to heal NOW. People that are full of their personal troubles will not be able to observe properly and not be able to take the right actions towards creating a better, more wholesome world. Give yourself the gift if healing!💛💪 I did a lot of work and it's amazing how different you can feel! (It took me years though, but so worth it!)
"Only by discovering alchemy have I clearly understood that the Unconscious is a process and that ego's rapport with the Unconscious and its contents initiate an evolution, more precisely, a real metamorphosis of the psyche. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls. They will practice Indian yoga and all its exercises, observe a strict regimen or diet, learn theosophy by heart, or mechanically repeat mystic texts from the literature of the whole world - all because they cannot get on with themselves and have not the slightest faith that anything useful could ever come out of their souls. … It is rewarding to watch patiently the silent happenings in the soul, and the most and the best happens when it is not regulated from outside and from above. I readily admit that I have such a great respect for what happens in the human soul that I would be afraid of disturbing and distorting the silent operation of nature by clumsy interference.” C.G. Jung, Psychology and Alchemy "Our ability to destroy ourselves is the mirror image of our ability to save ourselves. No culture on earth is as heavily narcotized as the industrial West in terms of being inured to the consequences of maladaptive behavior. We pursue a business-as-usual attitude in a surreal atmosphere of mounting crises and irreconcilable contradictions. Western civilization is a loaded gun pointed at the head of this planet. How can we know who is the other until we know who is the self? The content of the dialogue with 'the Other' is a content that indicates that man's horizons are infinitely bright, that death is in fact, well, as Thomas Vaughn put it, 'the body is the placenta of the soul'. The purpose of life is to familiarize oneself with this after-death body so that the act of dying will not create confusion in the psyche. We are alienated, so alienated that the self must disguise itself as an extraterrestrial in order not to alarm us with the truly bizarre dimensions that it encompasses. There’s light at the end of the tunnel. The problem is that tunnel is in the back of your mind. And if you don’t go to the back side of your mind you will never see the light at the end of the tunnel. And once you see it, then the task becomes to empower it in yourself and other people. Spread it as a reality. God did not retire to the seventh heaven, God is some kind of lost continent IN the human mind. Patanjali specifically says that there are three paths to the goal of yoga. And they are, control of the breath, control of posture, and light-filled herbs. It says it right there. Stanza 6 of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. The psychedelic experience is the beginning of the spiritual path. That's why it's not important that yogas' claim that they can deliver you the psychedelic experience, because it begins with the psychedelic experience, and then you go from there. Apparently, in the Avesta classical period no one would have dreamed of having a spiritual experience without resort to drugs. Drugs are about dulling perception, about addiction and about behavioral repetition...What *psychedelics* are about is pattern- dissolving experiences of an extraordinarily high or different awareness. They are the exact opposite of drugs. They promote questioning , they promote consciousness, they promote value examinations, they promote the reconstruction of behavioral patterns. Psychedelic drugs, especially psilocybin, allow a searchlight to be thrown on these deeper levels of the psyche, as Jung correctly stated. But it is not a museum of archetypes or psychic constructs, as he seemed to assume. It is a frontier of wholeness into which any person, so motivated and so courageous as to wish to do it, can go and leave the mundane plane far behind. Psychedelics can carry you farther and faster than most people care to go. Once you get to psychedelics, it's no longer a matter of seeking the answer, you have found the answer. Now the issue changes dramatically, you must face the answer. ...the mind is more powerful than any imaginable particle accelerator, more sensitive than any radio receiver or the largest optical telescope, more complete in its grasp of information than any computer: the human body- its organs, its voice, its powers of locomotion, and its imagination- is a more-than-sufficient means for the exploration of any place, time or energy level in the universe. I'm not an advocate for everything that rolls out of the laboratory. I'm an advocate for things sanctioned by millennia of usage. The psychedelic experience is simply a compressed instance of what we call understanding, so that living psychedelically is trying to live in an atmosphere of continuous unfolding of understanding, so that every day you know more and see into things with greater depth than you did before. This is a process of education. Our culture takes us out of the body and sells our loyalty into political systems, into religions, into inanimate objects and machines, collections, so forth and so on. The felt experience of the body is what the psychedelics are handing back to us. Our culture definitely takes an egocentric dominator view. The fear of the psychedelic experience is quite literally the fear of losing control. Dominator types today don't understand that it's not important to maintain control if you are not in control in the first place. The fungi became, or is for some mysterious reason still to be discovered, a pipeline into a mind, an entelechy, which we can only image as feminine and can only associate somehow to the environment, to the ecosystem. This is the Gaian mind. This is what the goddess really is. The goddess is a network of connective intelligence that is operating on this planet. I do not think that the government, under the guise of some phony, alarmist, pseudo-scientific rhetoric, should attempt to control the evolution of consciousness. After all, if these things truly are consciousness-expanding, it doesn't take too much intelligence to realize that it is the absence of consciousness that is causing our flirtation with extinction and planetary disaster. The pro-psychedelic plant position is clearly an anti-drugs position. Drug dependencies are the result of habitual, unexamined, and obsessive behavior; these are precisely the tendencies in our psychological makeup that the psychedelics mitigate. The plant hallucinogens dissolve habits and hold motivations up to inspection by a wider, less egocentric, and more grounded point of view within the individual. What I'm talking about is actually is the Mystery of Being as existential fact. That there is something that haunts this world that can take apart and reduce every single one of us to a mixture of terror and ecstasy, fear and trembling. It is not an idea, that's the primary thing to bear in mind. It's an experience. What is needed is a spirit of boundary dissolution, between individuals, between classes, sexual orientations, rich and poor, man and woman, intellectual and feeling toned types. If this can happen, then we will make a new world. And if this doesn't happen, nature is fairly pitiless and has a place for us in the shale of this planet, where so many have preceded us." Terence McKenna
And I thought I was wordy. I often get TLDR responses to my posts, which I had to look up to discover means, "too long, didn't read." But how can you possibly be too long or otherwise "go wrong" by quoting Jung and Terence McKenna? I mean... Well done. Thanks. : )
"Thank you for your kind words@@kimberknutson831 🙏🏻 We've really gotta' break free from the indoctrination and antiquated conceptions of being. But can we ever truly have enough knowledge to have a sufficient understanding of what is happening, of what is good, or best or true? How can we, even @ the collective scale of humanity, understand enough to know how everything is working and will work in the future to properly determine what is truly and enduringly optimal? "We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as persons. In any case, I don't know of a single person who enjoyed this respect as a child and then as an adult had the need to put other human beings to death. The individual psychological stages in the lives of most people are: 1. To be hurt as a small child without anyone recognizing the situation as such 2. To fail to react to the resulting suffering with anger 3. To show gratitude for what are supposed to be good intentions 4. To forget everything 5. To discharge the stored-up anger onto others in adulthood or to direct it against oneself Morality and performance of duty are artificial measures that become necessary when something essential is lacking. The more successfully a person was denied access to his or her feelings in childhood, the larger the arsenal of intellectual weapons and the supply of moral prostheses has to be, because morality and a sense of duty are not sources of strength or fruitful soil for genuine affection. Blood does not flow in artificial limbs; they are for sale and can serve many masters. What was considered good yesterday can--depending on the decree of government or party - be considered evil and corrupt today, and vice versa. But those who have spontaneous feelings can only be themselves. They have no other choice if they want to remain true to themselves. Rejection, ostracism, loss of love, and name calling will not fail to affect them; they will suffer as a result and will dread them, but once they have found their authentic self they will not want to lose it. And when they sense that something is being demanded of them to which their whole being says no, they cannot do it. They simply cannot. When children are trained, they learn how to train others in turn. Children who are lectured to, learn how to lecture; if they are admonished, they learn how to admonish; if scolded, they learn how to scold; if ridiculed, they learn how to ridicule; if humiliated, they learn how to humiliate; if their psyche is killed, they will learn how to kill--the only question is who will be killed: oneself, others, or both. It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person. It is not the trauma itself that is the source of illness but the unconscious, repressed, hopeless despair over not being allowed to give expression to what one has suffered and the fact that one is not allowed to show and is unable to experience feelings of rage, anger, humiliation, despair, helplessness, and sadness. This causes many people to commit suicide because life no longer seems worth living if they are totally unable to live out all these strong feelings that are part of their true self. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His “will” is completely identical with that of the government. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes. Grünewald writes that he has never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child. Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents-and in puberty even the views by his own parents-because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Furthermore, the teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and the political leader has only to harvest what has been sown. When we consider the major role intimidation plays in this ideology, which was still at the peak of its popularity at the turn of the century, it is not surprising that Sigmund Freud had to conceal his surprising discovery of adults' sexual abuse of their children, a discovery he was led to by the testimony of his patients. He disguised his insight with the aid of a theory that nullified this inadmissible knowledge. Children of his day were not allowed, under the severest of threats, to be aware of what adults were doing to them. and if Freud had persisted in his seduction theory, he not only would have had his introjected parents to fear but would no doubt have been discredited, and probably ostracized, by middle-class society. In order to protect himself, he had to devise a theory that would preserve appearances by attributing all “evil”, guilt and wrongdoing to the child's fantasies. in which the parents served only as the objects of projection. We can understand why this theory omitted the fact that it is the parents who not only project their sexual and aggressive fantasies onto the child but also are able to act out these fantasies because they wield the power. It is probably thanks to this omission that many professionals in the psychiatric field, themselves the products of "poisonous pedagogy" have been able to accept the Freudian theory of drives, because it did not force them to question their idealized image of their parents. With the aid of Freud's drive and structural theories, they have been able to continue obeying the commandment they internalized in early childhood: "Thou shalt not be aware of what your parents are doing to you. For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable toll on society-a fact that we are still forbidden to recognize. This knowledge concerns every single one of us, and-if disseminated widely enough-should lead to fundamental changes in society; above all, to a halt in the blind escalation of violence. Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so. To escape this vicious cycle we must face the truth. And we can do it. We were humiliated children; we were the victims of our parents’ ignorance, the victims of their history, of the unconscious scars with which childhood left them. We had no choice but to deny the truth.” Alice Miller, For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
@@kimberknutson831 "We humans are wired for empathy by evolution, but when children grow up in dominator families they internalize this male over female template for relations early on. They then automatically apply it to other differences, whether based on race, religion, sexual orientation, and so forth. People from authoritarian, male-dominated, punitive families tend to vote for "strongman" leaders and for "hard" punitive policies (prisons, wars) rather than "soft" caring policies (healthcare, childcare). Not everyone from this background does. But many people do. And this conditioning can be exploited, as Trump's campaign did, especially in times like ours of economic, social, and technological upheaval. What happened in the US is a regression to the domination side of the social scale. Trump claimed that he, as a "strongman," would solve all our problems, and was elected by fanning fear, hate, scapegoating, the debasement of women. That both Muslim fundamentalists and the Christian right are today focusing their attempts to regain control in a rapidly changing world on frantic efforts to maintain control over women, particularly over women's sexuality. Moreover, given their mythologies about "holy wars," it is also understandable that they should use "divinely approved" violence to do so. If we look at the last decades, we see that the US rightist-fundamentalist alliance demonized partnership-oriented families and painted women's rights as a threat to "tradition" - which of course it is to traditions of domination. These people had an integrated political agenda that recognizes that a "traditional" authoritarian, male dominated, punitive family is foundational to an authoritarian, male dominated, punitive politics. We can see this connection in sharp relief in brutal top-down regimes, be they secular like Nazi Germany or religious like ISIS in the Middle East. For most of recorded history, parental violence against children and men's violence against wives was explicitly or implicitly condoned. Those who had the power to prevent and/or punish this violence through religion, law, or custom, openly or tacitly approved it. .....The reason violence against women and children is finally out in the open is that activists have brought it to global attention. This notion that man can, and should, have absolute dominion over the "chaotic" powers of nature and woman...is what ultimately lies behind man's famous "conquest of nature" - a conquest that is today puncturing holes in the earth's ozone layer, destroying our forests, polluting our air and water, and increasingly threatening the welfare, and even survival, of thousands of living species, including our own. The link between intimate violence in the home and the international violence of terrorism and war is as tightly bound together as the fingers of a clenched fist. When the status and power of women is greater so also is the nation’s general quality of life; when they are lower, so is the quality of life for all. In sum, the struggle for our future is . . . the struggle between those who cling to patterns of domination and those working for a more equitable partnership world." Riane Eisler
@@chuckheppner4384 Wow. That was so much, I am at a loss how to respond other than to say thank you for introducing me to this work. I am not familiar with it and look forward to digesting it. Part of the way through reading this, I was reminded of Julia Kristeva, a Freudian psychologist. In On Melancholia, which is a "fancy" word for depression, she argues that all melancholy (depression) is an effect of unexppressed emotion. As you say, all of that expressed emotion that develops from experiencing childhood trauma and neglect gets turned either outward or inward or some variation on both in later life, and all of it is unconscious and resides in the body at the cellular level. A traumatized body is a machine in constant survival mode that is merely interested in doing what it deems necessary to ensure the survival of the "organism." It, therefore, has a kind of intelligence, but the intelligence is purely mechanical. Can this be considered "authentic?" Well, it is "authentically" implementing what it learned from experience, but this is obviously not what we mean by authenticity. Dr. Besel Van der Kolk defines trauma as "the inability to inhabit one's body without being possessed by its defenses." His primary argument in The Body Keeps the Score is that transcending trauma necessarily and unavoidably involves somehow quite miraculously convincing the body that it is safe in the here and now so that it can drop its defenses and get on with the business of actually living one's life. Dr. Mate says merely surviving is not actually living. He says that we are stuck, sort of frozen in time once "the state becomes a trait," once the survival state becomes a personality trait. I get that. "Actual life" is probably the only place where true authenticity resides and can thrive if that is something that someone desires. I happen to be in that camp and value and privilege authenticity above all else in the human experience. Thanks again for the thoughtful and extremely intelligent words and the new material to explore. I am 58 and started trying to figure some shit out "for real" about 30 years ago. As you also say, is knowing what "it" all means or figuring "it" out even possible? I don't know, but I hope I never stop wanting to learn, and a girl can dream, right? Take care. : )
You're certainly welcome@@kimberknutson831 🙏🏻 Much RESPECT. "This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Wilhelm Reich was extremely prescient about fascism and it's roots, but his extensive breadth of knowledge was too much truth for it struck fear in the hearts of American Oligarchs. The US Government threw him in prison where he died, his laboratory was destroyed, and his books were burned. A sacred cow, unexamined, grazes and produces a whole lot of bullshit. Nobody wants that, except the people who profit by selling you bullshit. They're the same people who tell you that examining or criticizing the sacred cow is taboo. “Because you have no memory for things that happened ten or twenty years ago, you're still mouthing the same nonsense as two thousand years ago. Worse, you cling with might and main to such absurdities as 'race,' 'class,' 'nation,' and the obligation to observe a religion and repress your love. I know that what you call 'God' really exists, but not in the form you think; God is primal cosmic energy, the love in your body, your integrity, and your perception of the nature in you and outside of you. Hitler repeatedly stressed that one could not get at the masses with arguments, proofs, and knowledge, but only with feelings and beliefs. It was one of the greatest errors in evaluating dictatorship to say that the dictator forces himself on society against its own will. In reality, every dictator in history was nothing but the accentuation of already existing state ideas which he had only to exaggerate in order to gain power. Power, no matter what kind of power it is, without a foundation in truth, is a dictatorship, more or less and in one way or another, for it is always based on man's fear of the social responsibility and personal burden that "freedom" entails. Race theorists, who are as old as imperialism itself, want to achieve racial purity in peoples whose interbreeding, as a result of the expansion of world economy, is so far advanced that racial purity can have meaning only to a numbskull. I know that what you call 'God' really exists, but not in the form you think; God is primal cosmic energy, the love in your body, your integrity, and your perception of the nature in you and outside of you. The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life. Originally and naturally, sexual pleasure was the good, the beautiful, the happy, that which united man with nature in general. When sexual feelings and religious feelings became separated from one another, that which is sexual was forced to become the bad, the internal, the diabolical. The existence of strict moral principles has invariably signified that the biological, and specifically the sexual needs of man were not being satisfied. Every moral regulation is in itself sex-negating, and all compulsory morality is life-negating. The suppression of natural sexual gratification leads to various kinds of substitute gratifications. Natural aggression, for example, becomes brutal sadism which then is an essential mass-psychological factor in imperialistic wars. The fascist mentality is a mentality of the subjugated "little man" who craves authority and rebels against it at the same time. Fascism is the frenzy of sexual cripples. The socially irresponsible man is the man absorbed in sexual conflicts. You have no sense of your true duty, which is to be a man and preserve humanity. You imitate wise men so badly and bandits so well. Your movies and radio programs are full of murder. The reactionary of any kind condemns sexual pleasure because it stimulates and repulses him at the same time. He is unable to solve the conflict within him between sexual demands and moralistic inhibitions. The revolutionary refutes the perverse, unhealthy kind of pleasure, because it is not his kind of pleasure, because it is not the sexuality of the future, but the sexuality which results from the conflict between instinct and morals, the sexuality of authoritarian society, a debased, smutty, pathological sexuality. The basic religious idea in all patriarchal religions is the negation of the sexual needs. Only in very primitive religions were religiosity and sexuality identical. When social organization passed from matriarchy to patriarchy and class society, the unity of religious and sexual cult underwent a split; the religious cult became the antithesis of the sexual. With that, the cult of sexuality went out of existence. It was replaced by the brothel, pornography and backstairs-sexuality. It goes without saying that when sexual experiences ceased to be one with the religious cults, when, instead, they became antithetical to them, religious excitation assumed a new function: that of being a substitute for the lost sexual pleasure, now no longer affirmed by society. Only this contradiction inherent in religious excitation makes the strength and the tenacity of the religions understandable: the contradiction of its being at one and the same time anti-sexual and a substitute for sexuality. Yet alongside this rebellion against the father, a respect for and acceptance of his authority continued to exist. This ambivalent attitude toward authority-rebellion against it coupled with acceptance and submission-is a basic feature of every middle-class structure from the age of puberty to full adulthood and is especially pronounced in individuals stemming from materially restricted circumstances.” ~ Wilhelm Reich, The Mass Psychology of Fascism "The dirty secret of fascism is that its appeal is not rational; it is, therefore, impervious to rational argument. You cannot talk someone out of a feeling of hatred.” ~ Katherine Cross
I knew someone who did this. Before you even got the words out of your mouth, he'd say, "No!" I feel this is a way of keeping tight control on a situation. Maybe fear of allowing any form of outside "force" or manipulation could be the basis here? I mean, if it's always "no" you can hold on tight to your world. But it's not freeing, or allowing energy to flow - which might end up being a delightful experience! Start off small. Say "yes" to one small thing you normally wouldn't say yes to. Your world won't fall apart - and bit by bit you can start to relax and feel safe in letting go. Wishing you well! 💜
I love most of what he has to say and agree with most, but the answer to the last question wasn’t correct, yes authenticity would 100% heal the collective. He’s just saying it likely won’t there’s too many people in power that will not do the inner work, which is correct. But over years and life times with those who ARE doing the inner work, it is definitely heading that way. There’s just be many people who will leave this life time unhealed. But over life times we are already changing and healing the collective.
I have lost all respect for this Dr.after the Harry interview .Imagine he agreed to do this and diagnose with out any scientific analysis .He has become a showmen .Yes he has expereince trauma and seeing many but really charging for the spectacle with the Prince for amusement degrades him and other social scientists ..Very disappointing .he has become a showman and BTW he is neither a psychologist nor a Psychistrist he is an MD and thats not enough to treat vulnerable people .He IS WEIRD !!! stop charlatans !!
Say No to AUKUS wars. Nu lyrics. Would there be wars if we had remained naked? No Where to hide a revolver when you are naked? Where? I know where you're thinking But It's not a good idea Yes... No more rich people, no more poor people when you become naked again Yes Whether you're skinny, whether you're fat, you're simply naked Yes? Let's live as we were born Naked Let's live as we were born Nuuuuu, just naked Nuuuuu, just naked As are animals, which never over do it, They see that we look too much like Monkeys under coats Pelicans with hats Nobody! Simply sucks Let's stay naked Simply naked There wouldn't have been wars if we had remained naked No Are we all sisters and brothers when we are naked? Mmmmh... Let's live as we were born Naked Let's live as we were born Nuuuuu, just naked Nuuuuu, just naked Simply naked Simply naked Simply naked Simply naked.
Saying no ?? I go out if my way to help even when I am not asked 😩 I am tired and already sick .. my entire life I have had anxiety and stressed. This makes so much sense after listening to this Dr
I am the very same always tired feeling burnt out listening to Gabor is helping me my mother was a narcissist I am only reading this now so I have been a servant to her and my family. I am frustrated at trying to change my life at 60. It’s not easy to say no but I’m willing to change this life of service and start to look after myself for once. Good luck to you too 😮
The information he is giving is truly the medicine the world needs, especially the political leaders.
.....and don't forget the Business Leaders, -the global megalomaniacs who control most of our political leaders, either through bribery or blackmail - like the Zionist Congress of AIPAC.
This man is helping to save us, individually and collectively. Helping us to understand ourselves and find peace and meaning.
We all have this ability… : )
Absolutely! ♥️🙏♥️
Hey, nice pic! I also was about to say pretty much the exact same thing !
He basically started my self healing journey and started a healing domino effect praise this angel light worker and speaker of truth!
AMEN OUR WORLD LEADER AND HE WOULDNT WANT PAYMENT THIS MAN 🙏 SAVED MY LIFE XXX AND AS LONG AS MY ASS POINTS TO THE GROUND I WILL BE ANOTHER VOICE AND GO INTO EVERY PRIMARY SCHOOL AND KINDERGARTEN IN PERTH ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA...I WILL & CAN &YES I WILL USE MY VOICE IM 56 GONNA START TODAY NOW....THIS IS THE SECRET...MONEY ISNT THE ANSWER .OUR GOVERMENT HAS A LOT TO ANSWER FOR...EVERY TRAUMATISED CHILD EITHER MENTALLY SPIRITUALLY EMONTIALLY AND ABOVE ALL PHYSICALLY WILL BE HEARD!!!!!!! THE DRAGONFLY HAS ARRIVED. THANK GOD XXX
The VOICE YES BRING IT ON...
How can someone accurately voice the vast majority of major existential concerns in such a short video 🤯🤯🤯
Gebor Mate is my geri... He is a life changer and I love the quote he stated in Whne the Body says no - “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” I was someone who kept her mouth shut to avoid fights, starting from a young age, which turned in resentment over the years. I hurt myself so much by doing that. A very painful coping mechanism.
That same phrase was my take away from that book too.
My devastating illness was a turning point for me; it enabled me to disconnect, entirely, from my toxic family and the harm they caused. I thank my body for telling me that I needed to make the change.
@bina nocht : Hi there. I've just read what you wrote and I want to tell you that your story and the way you feel are both very similar to my own experience. I stayed around my family because they 'needed' me, I put myself second, I didn't do the things that are important to me (like you not being with your kids at the beach). My mother would often say that she would die without me. I was the one who cared, who did the caring and I was also the receptacle for their negative emotions/fears etc. I believed her when she said what she did.
I want to give you some advise if you don't mind.........
Please stop doing what you're doing. In the end I got no thanks and realised, through therapy, that they kept me around to use me. I was also not thanked and would be blamed for whatever was wrong in their lives. I realised that I had worth and that my mother would not die without me. In the end the constant negatives and the toxicity and the drama made me very ill and unhappy.
I also released, through therapy, that I was constantly trying to get them to love me but they didn't, ever, and they never would have.
Please walk away, put yourself and your own family first. I broke all contact and am SO much healthier and happier now. Leaving is by no means easy but it is necessary. By the way, my mother did not die without me.
All the best to you x
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Gabor is a hero raising collective awareness about how to lead a healthy life and impacting masses of people❤
I’m a musician, artist, and actor and I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago now at the age of 31 but had symptoms for a year before that before I knew what was happening to me. I was recommended a book by Gabor called “When The Body Says No” and it completely changed my life for the better. I was not living in a way that was authentic at all nor in a way that manifested who I truly was and coming off my first prednisone cycle I was about to start work on a job as an actor for Universal Studios Hollywood during Halloween which I used to do years ago but couldn’t do for various reasons the past 2 years but I never forgot how much I loved it.
I was terrified to do such a physically demanding job coming off my cycle because I thought it would be a disaster not being on some medication to lower my inflammation. The job was also incredibly physically demanding. The exact opposite happened. I was manifesting a part of me as an artist and an actor in an environment I felt embraced and respected doing something amazing every night that made myself and so many others happy. I was having so much fun even though the work was hard that I almost completely forgot I had a disease. After that experience I now completely understand what Gabor is trying to say. The art was flowing through me. Kind of like “jazzing” from the Disney movie “Soul”. My body knew I was in alignment again and my inflammation never came back until recently as I’ve fallen back into some hard times but I can’t unexperience what I experienced. I can’t unknow what I now know about myself.
Well Chad you are very wise and lucky too allow that information into your life and to assimilate it. Kudos to you well done. I'm 54 I got rheumatoid arthritis about 10 years ago now didn't treat it the first 7 years like a douchebag, and not realizing it was an autoimmune disease just extremely painful trying to do outside work on houses paint contract ladders everything- excruciating. Small cherry tomatoes on first knuckle joint. Intuitively I knew I wasn't where I'm supposed to be in life inside I guess I was grieving didn't know what subconsciously sad and angry take all your subconscious emotions of whatever. Not dealing with them and they will erupted somehow physically. That book, "When the body says NO!" sums up amazing connection between emotional bio physio state. I didn't eat the mornings and procrastinated the dealing with it and it blew into rheumatoid arthritis induced pulmonary fibrosis, nice,
it turns out that the lungs in Chinese medicine have to do with grief and sadness. Wow I guess 4000 years of medicine they kind of know a few things?. Joke LOL
Well done for becoming your own Healthcare Advocate Chad, you are a light to the rest of us and motivating force for the others. Damn it and just remember it's like when people become millionaires the first time if they lose it the second time they get it back twice as fast the third even quicker so just because it comes back just means you'll get rid of it even quicker now that you know how to short step and hack it out of you.
Experience whatever feelings need to be experience it's not us I've come to finally learn your feelings aren't who we are they're just an experience along the way to guide us and learn from. I love the movie and acting and all the other parts you've talked about. Well done seriously be proud of yourself for doing good by yourself doesn't matter if we trip on the path of life most important thing is getting back up I believe. I think you do too.
Sincerely,
Mike Gordon (cheers)
@@mikeg.4262 thanks for all of that. It is all very encouraging. I see this disease sort of like training wheels on a bike or like bumpers on a bowling lane. Every time I the bowling ball veer off course, there is my rheumatoid arthritis, the bumpers, to guide me back on track. I'm also happy you were able to learn and apply this information to your life as well.
This moved me so much. o proud and happy you are doung the wqirk!! Your magic is in your body's wisdom. Bless you, and keep sharing your heart!
@@SashaLipskaia I’m glad you’ve been moved. I was moved as well. I mean I’m definitely still pretty irritated by the seemingly impossible permanent damage in some of my joints as well as the pesky mild inflammation that occasionally rears it’s ugly head in my life still but it’s so much more manageable than it was before because of how honest I have been in examining my life in how I’ve been living so far from the person I know I truly am inside.
That book really opened my eyes as well! Excellent read that I go back to over and over! Great share!
Thank you. Never stop helping us. We need you to keep talking to us and showing us how to heal.
Yes, so true. The advice is invaluable.
I said No tonight, and I needed to hear this thank you. I feel bad for saying no, but I know it was authentic, so I am trusting the process.
Congratulations on authentic self.
It can also mean saying yes to yourself and life.
It's not about saying 'no'; it's about authentically saying it. The thing is that you need to have a sense of a true self before you can effectively set boundaries. You can learn how to say 'no' (hence all the courses for learning how to be assertive), but that is not helpful if it is just another socially desirable thing you do. There is no point in saying 'no' if you are not connected to your true self.
I do agree that saying 'no' to people who make it difficult for your true self to grow (like a toxic familymember/partner/friend/boss) is always the best option.
If a person is not being their authentic self, and learn about boundaries, saying no is coming from a need to control. Once beginning to say no from the authentic self, I believe it is a humble sense of self awareness ...they are doing this for themselves to show up. It isn't the action of saying no that is the important thing. It is the act of having to say no so you can show up.
Sometimes you need to say No to practice it especially when you have always been a 'yes' people pleasing person. So authentic self needs to be practiced and the needless guilt we are taught to feel will lessen and hopefully disappear
So I disagree that it is about control which isn't necessarily so!
Yes, I've been practising Self Awareness and Meditation for the past few years which has given me a sense of my True Self and helped me to be more assertive.
Thanks. His messaging is on fire right now. So much wisdom.
Saying no is so good ... After a lifetime of saying yes ... No and ontop of it fek off... Feels so good 😊
Recovering and healing from a childhood filled with trauma…lived with a narcissist mother and father who wasn’t plugged in. I’m finding myself and becoming whole. Thank you for your work.
Gabore Mate makes so much difference to my world and I believe to ‘the world’ I hope they listen
Excellent discussion!! A very wise friend once told me, your life will only change, when you start setting boundaries ie saying NO ♥️
Hallelujah!!♥️🙏♥️
You are very fortunate for having such a wise friend and for that wisdom to be shared with u...rare and priceless
True but it can also mean saying yes to yourself and life.
No, no, no, no, noooo, noo, no, no, no! Love you Gabor! 🙂😘
It's beautiful to see a person working into their elderly years. When I first saw him before the hair went greyer I thought I was looking a fifty something year old who had aged badly. When I found out he was almost 80. I thought the opposite. He has aged wonderfully. It's someone I agree with because I have healed myself many times since I was 19. Always after healing I look younger and get many comments from people I just met asking my age. Now my life has alot of stress so I don't expect these comments anymore but just knowing I can do this gives such a better outlook for my own kids.
I saw him grow less old, less tension, less worry lines after practicing traditional Ayahuasca medicine rituals.
Ongoing self healing is so amazing. People who are younger than me sometimes think I am younger than they are.
I was fortunate to see him at a couple conferences I attended...... just an amazing person and he has brought so much to the world of health!
I have learned to say no.. I'm always say yes yes to everyone to please them meet there needs.. but it's okay to say no.. put a barrier 🚧
8:24 says it all. You can have authenticity, or you can have attachment
Self Reflection.
God is that something else flowing through us. He is the Creator of all that is Good. In Him is Light, and no darkness at all.
Be true to yourself. Always.
Children are not extention to parent , that is healthy and a hero , it is really delightful to know this channel
This tension that comes up about disappointing others has accompanied me throughout my life! At nearly 50 this is an experience that feels so disabling!
Doctor gabor just speaks such sense!
Brilliant as usual. Thank you.
Thank you this is food for our mind.
He is amazing and so awakening!👏
Great interviewer with great questions for Dr. Gabor
I had To say No to this person who originally shared this video with me… strange feelings but heads up and stay ahead…. Intentions pure and genuine! Thanks for your time and wish you happy healthy long life ahead!
Well in our dysfunctional society saying no and setting boundaries is one thing having those boundaries respected is another. It's like a restraining order abusers will just ignore them.
I Thank you Dr. your a Gift to all of us!
We first tried that with parents, teachers and relatives- it didn’t go over well. So we got “ hopeless “ to be empowered by the word No.
Ok I am going to practice being my more authentic self. Let’s see if my health improves.
YES.....Gabor refers to "the presence of that something else" which inspires and heals us. And how powerful saying "no' is to being authentic. I use my gut feelings and often ask myself "is this a yes or a no?". Over time my inner knowing has become loud and clear.
He's brilliant.
The original G . Thank you for being so true . Reading one of your books was the gateway drug into my life changing transformative healing journey and I'm happy to say I'm glad to be alive ✨️
Yes it's a process of finding meaning and purpose.l have also realised with time that if you live long enough you may have to go through the process often , it's not a linear path but the trick is to keep on the path, even if you are not moving forward, even if you fall back a few steps which you definitely would because of life's curved balls will not stop until you die. You accept that and it's easier to heal in subsequent attempts.Thankyou for the revision course Dr Matte.
The best interwiever
As a counselor, Mate’s work has expanded my ability to understand that a “diagnosis” is often incorrect; it’s a label of illness that crowds out the ability to move toward wellness-especially in children’s lives.
Hearing children say, “I have ADHD” or whatever, is one of the saddest things I have heard.
It’s not that there isn’t behaviors that are unproductive, but the model of illness seems often incorrect and out of sync with moving toward health.
So wonderful to see a counselor being personally driven towards expanding their awareness. I've struggled to meet one yet who knows of this guy's work !!
Your message for us is so so so amazing, thank you!!!!
Connecting with your authentic expression "no" is a re- connecting with your heart. Your heart is your health, creativity and life force. It is the ego flesh trying to hold you back to the past. We do not have to coddle it- we need only to guard our precious hearts.
❤First first first of all I want to say that you are an artist you are a "life artist". Secondly, I want to say that sometimes we have to say NO to ourselves because we want to ask our bodies for un strenth that is not there at some point, and we want to do things so badly, but we have to realize that we can't and say NO. Then that relief comes, and we feel like a balm on top of us, like a rain of peace and Tranquility. Thank you for all your love, thank you for all your work, thank you for all your knowledge, and thank you for all your help. ❤ I love you❤
I love the reference to ‘buying the child a game boy’ 😂
Modern day society's standard solution to 'good parenting'.
Yes, spoken like a true millenial :D I remember those times...
He is mainly talking about empathic people. Narcs love to disappoint their source if it suits
“The essence of trauma is a disconnection from yourself… health means to be whole.. healing is the restoration of those connections to yourself”
Reversing the disconnection that trauma imposed on us…
Sense of meaning.. more to be felt experientially not intellectually
What I’m doing makes a difference in the world .. we are connected creatures.. create art… not just for you… channeling the universe.. something flowing thru them as they create.. a connectedness… xo
Gabor is golden .. to all of us .. 🤍💚💙💛🤎
Thank you very much 🦋
Thank you 😊
Love it. About the politicians today; they are pretending to care for the environment, but if you look further; you will quickly find out that this is not true. We're actually in deep deep trouble, and global warming (with all its magnitude) is about 10% of our problems (sorry; I have done a lot of research).
We need to heal NOW. People that are full of their personal troubles will not be able to observe properly and not be able to take the right actions towards creating a better, more wholesome world.
Give yourself the gift if healing!💛💪
I did a lot of work and it's amazing how different you can feel! (It took me years though, but so worth it!)
❤👌💯 thank you😊🙏😚
"Only by discovering alchemy have I clearly understood that the Unconscious is a process and that ego's rapport with the Unconscious and its contents initiate an evolution, more precisely, a real metamorphosis of the psyche.
People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls. They will practice Indian yoga and all its exercises, observe a strict regimen or diet, learn theosophy by heart, or mechanically repeat mystic texts from the literature of the whole world - all because they cannot get on with themselves and have not the slightest faith that anything useful could ever come out of their souls. …
It is rewarding to watch patiently the silent happenings in the soul, and the most and the best happens when it is not regulated from outside and from above. I readily admit that I have such a great respect for what happens in the human soul that I would be afraid of disturbing and distorting the silent operation of nature by clumsy interference.”
C.G. Jung, Psychology and Alchemy
"Our ability to destroy ourselves is the mirror image of our ability to save ourselves. No culture on earth is as heavily narcotized as the industrial West in terms of being inured to the consequences of maladaptive behavior. We pursue a business-as-usual attitude in a surreal atmosphere of mounting crises and irreconcilable contradictions. Western civilization is a loaded gun pointed at the head of this planet.
How can we know who is the other until we know who is the self? The content of the dialogue with 'the Other' is a content that indicates that man's horizons are infinitely bright, that death is in fact, well, as Thomas Vaughn put it, 'the body is the placenta of the soul'. The purpose of life is to familiarize oneself with this after-death body so that the act of dying will not create confusion in the psyche. We are alienated, so alienated that the self must disguise itself as an extraterrestrial in order not to alarm us with the truly bizarre dimensions that it encompasses.
There’s light at the end of the tunnel. The problem is that tunnel is in the back of your mind. And if you don’t go to the back side of your mind you will never see the light at the end of the tunnel. And once you see it, then the task becomes to empower it in yourself and other people. Spread it as a reality. God did not retire to the seventh heaven, God is some kind of lost continent IN the human mind.
Patanjali specifically says that there are three paths to the goal of yoga. And they are, control of the breath, control of posture, and light-filled herbs. It says it right there. Stanza 6 of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. The psychedelic experience is the beginning of the spiritual path. That's why it's not important that yogas' claim that they can deliver you the psychedelic experience, because it begins with the psychedelic experience, and then you go from there. Apparently, in the Avesta classical period no one would have dreamed of having a spiritual experience without resort to drugs.
Drugs are about dulling perception, about addiction and about behavioral repetition...What *psychedelics* are about is pattern- dissolving experiences of an extraordinarily high or different awareness. They are the exact opposite of drugs. They promote questioning , they promote consciousness, they promote value examinations, they promote the reconstruction of behavioral patterns.
Psychedelic drugs, especially psilocybin, allow a searchlight to be thrown on these deeper levels of the psyche, as Jung correctly stated. But it is not a museum of archetypes or psychic constructs, as he seemed to assume. It is a frontier of wholeness into which any person, so motivated and so courageous as to wish to do it, can go and leave the mundane plane far behind. Psychedelics can carry you farther and faster than most people care to go. Once you get to psychedelics, it's no longer a matter of seeking the answer, you have found the answer. Now the issue changes dramatically, you must face the answer.
...the mind is more powerful than any imaginable particle accelerator, more sensitive than any radio receiver or the largest optical telescope, more complete in its grasp of information than any computer: the human body- its organs, its voice, its powers of locomotion, and its imagination- is a more-than-sufficient means for the exploration of any place, time or energy level in the universe.
I'm not an advocate for everything that rolls out of the laboratory. I'm an advocate for things sanctioned by millennia of usage. The psychedelic experience is simply a compressed instance of what we call understanding, so that living psychedelically is trying to live in an atmosphere of continuous unfolding of understanding, so that every day you know more and see into things with greater depth than you did before. This is a process of education.
Our culture takes us out of the body and sells our loyalty into political systems, into religions, into inanimate objects and machines, collections, so forth and so on. The felt experience of the body is what the psychedelics are handing back to us.
Our culture definitely takes an egocentric dominator view. The fear of the psychedelic experience is quite literally the fear of losing control. Dominator types today don't understand that it's not important to maintain control if you are not in control in the first place.
The fungi became, or is for some mysterious reason still to be discovered, a pipeline into a mind, an entelechy, which we can only image as feminine and can only associate somehow to the environment, to the ecosystem. This is the Gaian mind. This is what the goddess really is. The goddess is a network of connective intelligence that is operating on this planet.
I do not think that the government, under the guise of some phony, alarmist, pseudo-scientific rhetoric, should attempt to control the evolution of consciousness. After all, if these things truly are consciousness-expanding, it doesn't take too much intelligence to realize that it is the absence of consciousness that is causing our flirtation with extinction and planetary disaster.
The pro-psychedelic plant position is clearly an anti-drugs position. Drug dependencies are the result of habitual, unexamined, and obsessive behavior; these are precisely the tendencies in our psychological makeup that the psychedelics mitigate. The plant hallucinogens dissolve habits and hold motivations up to inspection by a wider, less egocentric, and more grounded point of view within the individual.
What I'm talking about is actually is the Mystery of Being as existential fact. That there is something that haunts this world that can take apart and reduce every single one of us to a mixture of terror and ecstasy, fear and trembling. It is not an idea, that's the primary thing to bear in mind. It's an experience.
What is needed is a spirit of boundary dissolution, between individuals, between classes, sexual orientations, rich and poor, man and woman, intellectual and feeling toned types. If this can happen, then we will make a new world. And if this doesn't happen, nature is fairly pitiless and has a place for us in the shale of this planet, where so many have preceded us."
Terence McKenna
And I thought I was wordy. I often get TLDR responses to my posts, which I had to look up to discover means, "too long, didn't read." But how can you possibly be too long or otherwise "go wrong" by quoting Jung and Terence McKenna? I mean... Well done. Thanks. : )
"Thank you for your kind words@@kimberknutson831 🙏🏻 We've really gotta' break free from the indoctrination and antiquated conceptions of being. But can we ever truly have enough knowledge to have a sufficient understanding of what is happening, of what is good, or best or true? How can we, even @ the collective scale of humanity, understand enough to know how everything is working and will work in the future to properly determine what is truly and enduringly optimal?
"We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as persons. In any case, I don't know of a single person who enjoyed this respect as a child and then as an adult had the need to put other human beings to death.
The individual psychological stages in the lives of most people are:
1. To be hurt as a small child without anyone recognizing the situation as such
2. To fail to react to the resulting suffering with anger
3. To show gratitude for what are supposed to be good intentions
4. To forget everything
5. To discharge the stored-up anger onto others in adulthood or to direct it against oneself
Morality and performance of duty are artificial measures that become necessary when something essential is lacking. The more successfully a person was denied access to his or her feelings in childhood, the larger the arsenal of intellectual weapons and the supply of moral prostheses has to be, because morality and a sense of duty are not sources of strength or fruitful soil for genuine affection.
Blood does not flow in artificial limbs; they are for sale and can serve many masters. What was considered good yesterday can--depending on the decree of government or party - be considered evil and corrupt today, and vice versa.
But those who have spontaneous feelings can only be themselves. They have no other choice if they want to remain true to themselves. Rejection, ostracism, loss of love, and name calling will not fail to affect them; they will suffer as a result and will dread them, but once they have found their authentic self they will not want to lose it. And when they sense that something is being demanded of them to which their whole being says no, they cannot do it. They simply cannot.
When children are trained, they learn how to train others in turn. Children who are lectured to, learn how to lecture; if they are admonished, they learn how to admonish; if scolded, they learn how to scold; if ridiculed, they learn how to ridicule; if humiliated, they learn how to humiliate; if their psyche is killed, they will learn how to kill--the only question is who will be killed: oneself, others, or both.
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person.
It is not the trauma itself that is the source of illness but the unconscious, repressed, hopeless despair over not being allowed to give expression to what one has suffered and the fact that one is not allowed to show and is unable to experience feelings of rage, anger, humiliation, despair, helplessness, and sadness. This causes many people to commit suicide because life no longer seems worth living if they are totally unable to live out all these strong feelings that are part of their true self.
In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His “will” is completely identical with that of the government.
Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation.
Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes. Grünewald writes that he has never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child. Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents-and in puberty even the views by his own parents-because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment.
Furthermore, the teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and the political leader has only to harvest what has been sown.
When we consider the major role intimidation plays in this ideology, which was still at the peak of its popularity at the turn of the century, it is not surprising that Sigmund Freud had to conceal his surprising discovery of adults' sexual abuse of their children, a discovery he was led to by the testimony of his patients. He disguised his insight with the aid of a theory that nullified this inadmissible knowledge.
Children of his day were not allowed, under the severest of threats, to be aware of what adults were doing to them. and if Freud had persisted in his seduction theory, he not only would have had his introjected parents to fear but would no doubt have been discredited, and probably ostracized, by middle-class society.
In order to protect himself, he had to devise a theory that would preserve appearances by attributing all “evil”, guilt and wrongdoing to the child's fantasies. in which the parents served only as the objects of projection. We can understand why this theory omitted the fact that it is the parents who not only project their sexual and aggressive fantasies onto the child but also are able to act out these fantasies because they wield the power.
It is probably thanks to this omission that many professionals in the psychiatric field, themselves the products of "poisonous pedagogy" have been able to accept the Freudian theory of drives, because it did not force them to question their idealized image of their parents. With the aid of Freud's drive and structural theories, they have been able to continue obeying the commandment they internalized in early childhood: "Thou shalt not be aware of what your parents are doing to you.
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable toll on society-a fact that we are still forbidden to recognize. This knowledge concerns every single one of us, and-if disseminated widely enough-should lead to fundamental changes in society; above all, to a halt in the blind escalation of violence.
Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so.
To escape this vicious cycle we must face the truth. And we can do it. We were humiliated children; we were the victims of our parents’ ignorance, the victims of their history, of the unconscious scars with which childhood left them. We had no choice but to deny the truth.”
Alice Miller, For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
@@kimberknutson831 "We humans are wired for empathy by evolution, but when children grow up in dominator families they internalize this male over female template for relations early on. They then automatically apply it to other differences, whether based on race, religion, sexual orientation, and so forth.
People from authoritarian, male-dominated, punitive families tend to vote for "strongman" leaders and for "hard" punitive policies (prisons, wars) rather than "soft" caring policies (healthcare, childcare). Not everyone from this background does. But many people do. And this conditioning can be exploited, as Trump's campaign did, especially in times like ours of economic, social, and technological upheaval.
What happened in the US is a regression to the domination side of the social scale. Trump claimed that he, as a "strongman," would solve all our problems, and was elected by fanning fear, hate, scapegoating, the debasement of women.
That both Muslim fundamentalists and the Christian right are today focusing their attempts to regain control in a rapidly changing world on frantic efforts to maintain control over women, particularly over women's sexuality. Moreover, given their mythologies about "holy wars," it is also understandable that they should use "divinely approved" violence to do so.
If we look at the last decades, we see that the US rightist-fundamentalist alliance demonized partnership-oriented families and painted women's rights as a threat to "tradition" - which of course it is to traditions of domination. These people had an integrated political agenda that recognizes that a "traditional" authoritarian, male dominated, punitive family is foundational to an authoritarian, male dominated, punitive politics. We can see this connection in sharp relief in brutal top-down regimes, be they secular like Nazi Germany or religious like ISIS in the Middle East.
For most of recorded history, parental violence against children and men's violence against wives was explicitly or implicitly condoned. Those who had the power to prevent and/or punish this violence through religion, law, or custom, openly or tacitly approved it. .....The reason violence against women and children is finally out in the open is that activists have brought it to global attention.
This notion that man can, and should, have absolute dominion over the "chaotic" powers of nature and woman...is what ultimately lies behind man's famous "conquest of nature" - a conquest that is today puncturing holes in the earth's ozone layer, destroying our forests, polluting our air and water, and increasingly threatening the welfare, and even survival, of thousands of living species, including our own.
The link between intimate violence in the home and the international violence of terrorism and war is as tightly bound together as the fingers of a clenched fist.
When the status and power of women is greater so also is the nation’s general quality of life; when they are lower, so is the quality of life for all.
In sum, the struggle for our future is . . . the struggle between those who cling to patterns of domination and those working for a more equitable partnership world."
Riane Eisler
@@chuckheppner4384 Wow. That was so much, I am at a loss how to respond other than to say thank you for introducing me to this work. I am not familiar with it and look forward to digesting it. Part of the way through reading this, I was reminded of Julia Kristeva, a Freudian psychologist. In On Melancholia, which is a "fancy" word for depression, she argues that all melancholy (depression) is an effect of unexppressed emotion. As you say, all of that expressed emotion that develops from experiencing childhood trauma and neglect gets turned either outward or inward or some variation on both in later life, and all of it is unconscious and resides in the body at the cellular level. A traumatized body is a machine in constant survival mode that is merely interested in doing what it deems necessary to ensure the survival of the "organism." It, therefore, has a kind of intelligence, but the intelligence is purely mechanical. Can this be considered "authentic?" Well, it is "authentically" implementing what it learned from experience, but this is obviously not what we mean by authenticity. Dr. Besel Van der Kolk defines trauma as "the inability to inhabit one's body without being possessed by its defenses." His primary argument in The Body Keeps the Score is that transcending trauma necessarily and unavoidably involves somehow quite miraculously convincing the body that it is safe in the here and now so that it can drop its defenses and get on with the business of actually living one's life. Dr. Mate says merely surviving is not actually living. He says that we are stuck, sort of frozen in time once "the state becomes a trait," once the survival state becomes a personality trait. I get that. "Actual life" is probably the only place where true authenticity resides and can thrive if that is something that someone desires. I happen to be in that camp and value and privilege authenticity above all else in the human experience. Thanks again for the thoughtful and extremely intelligent words and the new material to explore. I am 58 and started trying to figure some shit out "for real" about 30 years ago. As you also say, is knowing what "it" all means or figuring "it" out even possible? I don't know, but I hope I never stop wanting to learn, and a girl can dream, right? Take care. : )
You're certainly welcome@@kimberknutson831 🙏🏻 Much RESPECT. "This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Wilhelm Reich was extremely prescient about fascism and it's roots, but his extensive breadth of knowledge was too much truth for it struck fear in the hearts of American Oligarchs. The US Government threw him in prison where he died, his laboratory was destroyed, and his books were burned.
A sacred cow, unexamined, grazes and produces a whole lot of bullshit. Nobody wants that, except the people who profit by selling you bullshit. They're the same people who tell you that examining or criticizing the sacred cow is taboo.
“Because you have no memory for things that happened ten or twenty years ago, you're still mouthing the same nonsense as two thousand years ago. Worse, you cling with might and main to such absurdities as 'race,' 'class,' 'nation,' and the obligation to observe a religion and repress your love.
I know that what you call 'God' really exists, but not in the form you think; God is primal cosmic energy, the love in your body, your integrity, and your perception of the nature in you and outside of you.
Hitler repeatedly stressed that one could not get at the masses with arguments, proofs, and knowledge, but only with feelings and beliefs.
It was one of the greatest errors in evaluating dictatorship to say that the dictator forces himself on society against its own will. In reality, every dictator in history was nothing but the accentuation of already existing state ideas which he had only to exaggerate in order to gain power.
Power, no matter what kind of power it is, without a foundation in truth, is a dictatorship, more or less and in one way or another, for it is always based on man's fear of the social responsibility and personal burden that "freedom" entails.
Race theorists, who are as old as imperialism itself, want to achieve racial purity in peoples whose interbreeding, as a result of the expansion of world economy, is so far advanced that racial purity can have meaning only to a numbskull.
I know that what you call 'God' really exists, but not in the form you think; God is primal cosmic energy, the love in your body, your integrity, and your perception of the nature in you and outside of you. The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.
Originally and naturally, sexual pleasure was the good, the beautiful, the happy, that which united man with nature in general. When sexual feelings and religious feelings became separated from one another, that which is sexual was forced to become the bad, the internal, the diabolical.
The existence of strict moral principles has invariably signified that the biological, and specifically the sexual needs of man were not being satisfied. Every moral regulation is in itself sex-negating, and all compulsory morality is life-negating.
The suppression of natural sexual gratification leads to various kinds of substitute gratifications. Natural aggression, for example, becomes brutal sadism which then is an essential mass-psychological factor in imperialistic wars.
The fascist mentality is a mentality of the subjugated "little man" who craves authority and rebels against it at the same time. Fascism is the frenzy of sexual cripples. The socially irresponsible man is the man absorbed in sexual conflicts.
You have no sense of your true duty, which is to be a man and preserve humanity. You imitate wise men so badly and bandits so well. Your movies and radio programs are full of murder.
The reactionary of any kind condemns sexual pleasure because it stimulates and repulses him at the same time. He is unable to solve the conflict within him between sexual demands and moralistic inhibitions. The revolutionary refutes the perverse, unhealthy kind of pleasure, because it is not his kind of pleasure, because it is not the sexuality of the future, but the sexuality which results from the conflict between instinct and morals, the sexuality of authoritarian society, a debased, smutty, pathological sexuality.
The basic religious idea in all patriarchal religions is the negation of the sexual needs. Only in very primitive religions were religiosity and sexuality identical. When social organization passed from matriarchy to patriarchy and class society, the unity of religious and sexual cult underwent a split; the religious cult became the antithesis of the sexual.
With that, the cult of sexuality went out of existence. It was replaced by the brothel, pornography and backstairs-sexuality. It goes without saying that when sexual experiences ceased to be one with the religious cults, when, instead, they became antithetical to them, religious excitation assumed a new function: that of being a substitute for the lost sexual pleasure, now no longer affirmed by society.
Only this contradiction inherent in religious excitation makes the strength and the tenacity of the religions understandable: the contradiction of its being at one and the same time anti-sexual and a substitute for sexuality.
Yet alongside this rebellion against the father, a respect for and acceptance of his authority continued to exist. This ambivalent attitude toward authority-rebellion against it coupled with acceptance and submission-is a basic feature of every middle-class structure from the age of puberty to full adulthood and is especially pronounced in individuals stemming from materially restricted circumstances.” ~ Wilhelm Reich, The Mass Psychology of Fascism
"The dirty secret of fascism is that its appeal is not rational; it is, therefore, impervious to rational argument. You cannot talk someone out of a feeling of hatred.” ~ Katherine Cross
5:48 pls listen carfully❤
So helpful
Create and strictly enforce recycling laws.☀️♥️
Please I need subtitles and the transcripción of the talking. Thank you
Thanks
So good ❤
He means in Hungarian health is "egészség", literally "wholeness".
👍 Gabor
My problem is the opposite... I don't trust people, I don't like people... I always say no. I'm trying to learn when to say yes.
Same. I can say NO at work or to family/personal relations but not to my addictions.
I knew someone who did this. Before you even got the words out of your mouth, he'd say, "No!"
I feel this is a way of keeping tight control on a situation. Maybe fear of allowing any form of outside "force" or manipulation could be the basis here?
I mean, if it's always "no" you can hold on tight to your world. But it's not freeing, or allowing energy to flow - which might end up being a delightful experience!
Start off small. Say "yes" to one small thing you normally wouldn't say yes to.
Your world won't fall apart - and bit by bit you can start to relax and feel safe in letting go.
Wishing you well! 💜
He has very dry humour 😋 love it
TRUTH
How do I find different parts of these videos? I found part 4 but can't seem to search for the other parts.
2:28 great point
Nice hearing everyone give each other Covid in the audience during a talk about health and longevity.
I love most of what he has to say and agree with most, but the answer to the last question wasn’t correct, yes authenticity would 100% heal the collective. He’s just saying it likely won’t there’s too many people in power that will not do the inner work, which is correct. But over years and life times with those who ARE doing the inner work, it is definitely heading that way. There’s just be many people who will leave this life time unhealed. But over life times we are already changing and healing the collective.
This is how T. Chalamet will look when he's 60
Is there a full lecture of this??
Which book he talked about , please someone give me the title
Lot of people claim to be used by God for me this is a definition of a person used by God
We are all used by God, but most of us get in the way and thus prevent life's natural flow.
OUTCOME DOOM ANDGLOOM!!!! PERIOD!!!! NICE ONE 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😡😡😡😡😡😡
Isn’t there a similar issue of not saying yes?
No....Yes X
Can you say no to your doctor? They don't seem to get the word.
No.
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Im more of a Yes person, my life is fun and full of experiences
13:10 simply put, narcissists
The climate change is the opposite of what he says
Curious about this man's opinion of another Canadian _ Jordan B. Peterson.
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“Language is very important”, yet he incorrectly defined cure.
and.......?
12:40
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Could I stand watching this for more than 20 seconds?
No.
If this means you suffer then why oh why do you think your comment is something that we need?
You are deeply flawed.Either unable or unwilling to be real or authentic. You’re still breathing… have the courage to begin.
Always be yourself!.. Say whatever you want, nobody has the right to attack you or stop you, NOBODY
I have lost all respect for this Dr.after the Harry interview .Imagine he agreed to do this and diagnose with out any scientific analysis .He has become a showmen .Yes he has expereince trauma and seeing many but really charging for the spectacle with the Prince for amusement degrades him and other social scientists ..Very disappointing .he has become a showman and BTW he is neither a psychologist nor a Psychistrist he is an MD and thats not enough to treat vulnerable people .He IS WEIRD !!! stop charlatans !!
Say No to AUKUS wars.
Nu lyrics.
Would there be wars if we had remained naked?
No
Where to hide a revolver when you are naked?
Where?
I know where you're thinking
But
It's not a good idea
Yes...
No more rich people, no more poor people when you become naked again
Yes
Whether you're skinny, whether you're fat, you're simply naked
Yes?
Let's live as we were born
Naked
Let's live as we were born
Nuuuuu, just naked
Nuuuuu, just naked
As are animals, which never over do it,
They see that we look too much like
Monkeys under coats
Pelicans with hats
Nobody!
Simply sucks
Let's stay naked
Simply naked
There wouldn't have been wars if we had remained naked
No
Are we all sisters and brothers when we are naked?
Mmmmh...
Let's live as we were born
Naked
Let's live as we were born
Nuuuuu, just naked
Nuuuuu, just naked
Simply naked
Simply naked
Simply naked
Simply naked.
I do say no but these heathens still keep coming so know my job begins
Thank you 🙏 ❤