Eckhart Tolle’s Secrets to Stop Identifying with Your Emotions
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- Опубліковано 18 січ 2023
- In this video, Eckhart explores how to stop identifying with your emotions since they can often cloud our judgement and lead to suffering. Eckhart offers practical advice on how to become more aware of our emotions and detach from them, leading to a more peaceful and fulfilled life.
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- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know; Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not ✨
The joy of Being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form, possession, achievement, person, or event, or anything that happens. That joy cannot come to you, ever. It emanates from the formless dimension within you, from consciousness itself, and thus is one with who you are.
The egoic mind thinks that the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn’t have, or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have.
Homework…
Why is the egoic mind obsessed with ’Should’?
Why does ’Should’ not exist in the present moment?
It's also realizing that the self constructed identity, the conditioning, the pain, the trauma, isn't who we are...
@@CitrusSimon The joy Being includes eating citrus fruits while enjoying it feeling grateful for Being. Cheers and have a good life.
Is anyone of you really in a constant state of awareness? I forget it all the time and it is very rare that Im in that state. After 20 years of trying I constantly fell into this unconsious state.
@@synchron9019 It is the egoic mind that tries to awaken.
But awakening simply just happens by itself, when a person is ready to witness the egoic mind, rather than identify with it.
The difference between witnessing and identifying with the egoic mind is astonishing. And it has to be experienced in order to realise the reality of who we are.
It is a subtle difference. The egoic mind thinks it can awaken simply by practicing, doing meditation, going on retreats, etc.
But no matter how hard it tries, it cant arrive at the present moment.
The egoic mind attempts to get rid of its own thoughts.
The egoic mind believes it can get rid of its own thoughts, and gain awareness. Which can result in severe and enduring mental health issues.
To the egoic mind, awakening happens in the future, or has happened in the past.
Presence does not even attempt to get rid of thoughts, it just simply witnesses thoughts, as they come and go, ebb and flow, like passing clouds. This brings a real comforting feeling to a person, a relief, a calmness, like coming out of cold weather into warming sunshine.
I will say again, The difference between witnessing and identifying with the egoic mind is astonishing, and it has to be experienced in order to realize the true reality of who we are.
I wonder if I'm the only one who can feel a great peace or a sense of expanding myself just by hearing or seeing his talks
No, you are not the only one, it's happening because you are listening to" someone" who is spreading a light of consciousness,so that light of consciousness is also affecting the people who are listening because we are not separate,we are all one, 🙏
@@ChangeYourLife1122 that is so beautiful, his voice transmit so much peace. Thank you! I'm Brazilian 😃
Every. single. time.
You are not alone my friend! I feel the same peace
@@suzanneadamson1306 thank you
An Eckhart a day keep the thoughts at bay!
Those moments of silence while hes not speaking are the most present moments in my life
Yes your focus is on waiting for him to speak nothing else matters.😉
“Without awareness, you don’t have the emotion, the emotion has you “…. I ❤ u Eckhart 🥰
" The only problem with sadness, desperateness, anger, hopelessness, anxiety, anguish, misery, is that you want to get rid of them. That’s the only barrier. You will have to live with them. You cannot just escape. They are the very situation in which life has to integrate and grow. They are the challenges of life. Accept them. They are blessings in disguise.
If you want to escape from them, if you somehow want to get rid of them, then a problem arises - because if you want to get rid of something you never look at it directly. And then the thing starts hiding from you because you are condemnatory; then the thing goes on moving deeper into the unconscious, hides in the darkest corner of your being where you cannot find it. It moves into the basement of your being and hides there. And, of course, the deeper it goes, the more trouble it creates - because then it starts functioning from unknown corners of your being and you are completely helpless.
So the first thing is: never repress. The first thing is: whatsoever is the case is the case. Accept it and let it come - let it come in front of you. In fact, just to say ‘do not repress’ is not enough. If you allow me, I would like to say, ‘Befriend it.’
You are feeling sad? Befriend it. Have compassion for it. Sadness also has a being. Allow it, embrace it, sit with it, hold hands with it. Be friendly. Be in love with it. Sadness is beautiful! Nothing is wrong with it. Who told you that something is wrong in being sad? In fact, only sadness gives you depth. Laughter is shallow; happiness is skin-deep. Sadness goes to the very bones, to the marrow. Nothing goes as deep as sadness. So don’t be worried. Remain with it and sadness will take you to your inner-most core. You can ride on it and you will be able to know a few new things about your being that you had never known before. Those things can be revealed only in a sad state, they can never be revealed in a happy state. Darkness is also good and darkness is also divine. The day is not only God’s, the night is his also. I call this attitude religious."
the divine is not just some airy fairy thing in
the clouds,
in India, it's said (parphrasing from memory & adding some)
of the Divine Mother that she can pick up
& sooth her crying babies, & yet at the same time is able to
unleash the lightning
that quakes fear into the hearts of even the bravest of warriors, with the strength of a roaring lion.
Wow who wrote this?
@@sallym2837 from a talk by Osho
Thank you
That’s so good ❤
In the Irish Language we don't say "I am sad." We say "tá brón orm" which means sorrow is upon me.
This is beautiful. :)
To most people that say that it translates to "I am sorry"
Talk about how ego comes from residual shame. We need to stop shaming children.
Lol I paused the video on accident and didn’t notice and was just waiting and waiting for Eckhart to speak again because I’m so used to his long pauses and stillness
😂hilarious
Dear Sir, I am Bipolar with Paranoid Schizophrenia on medication. Your talks are helping me.
We experience emotions but we are not them. A very helpful mindset switch to help with not letting emotions consume us.
Who is this “we” of which you speak?
@@eddieafterburner
I physical is you n mindset is other (monkey mind) ..
@@eddieafterburner its the same as the you and your , that Eckhart speaks of 🙏🙏🙏🙏
The first helpful switch is to recognize we are consumed by emotions. Most people have very limited emotional vocabulary (from a psychological perspective) and believe that they are feeling reality, not that it's part of a story they're telling themselves.
One of the most helpful things I've seen in this regard is an image called "The Wheel of Emotion." It can be found searching google images. It uses other nouns to describe the basic emotions we're all familiar with. People think "I'm not angry." But, they might feel invalidated or disappointing (to name just a few of the _100 different feelings_ in the wheel). To me, that was very insightful to realize I'm actually angry. It's the story behind the anger that makes it more speficially this or that. The story makes it more part of the moment, something the moment is doing to me (not me doing it to myself in the moment).
@@eddieafterburner Really...cant you work it out on your own..
I feel the same way. There is so much truth in his teachings. May god bless all of you
Spanish and Portuguese are two of the few languages that differentiate between 'I am' and 'state of being'. For example, we would not say: 'Soy enfadado' (I'm angry) but we would say 'Estoy enfadado' (meaning I am in a state of anger). I don't think many European language have this distinction.
Interesting. And correct! I wonder why the English language can't have distinguishing terms? Because the last thing any of us needs these days, is to "become*any of negative emotions that we may feel .
Awareness has no link with language
@@plsharma3812 I meant that the Spanish language express 'being something/someone' and 'being in a emotional state' differently, unlike German or Italian for example. In languages like Spanish (and Portuguese) we learn that we are not the emotion we are feeling, but that it's only a temporary state. Consequently, we can de-identify from that emotion much 'easier' than other people (Europeans in this case) who do not have that distinction in their languages.
@@plsharma3812 I would say languages were created by varying degrees of unconscious people. Some languages could contain indications of that, and could contribute one way or another.
Dr. Emile Coue discovered over 100 years ago that autosuggestion works. (Patients who repeated "every day, in every way, I'm getting better" really did get better compared to those who didn't.). Autosuggestion has been repeated tested/researched ever since, and found to really work. Words matter. Our irrational subconscious believes the words we use. If Coue had another group of patients say "every day, in every way I'm worse" the results would have been more startling compared to the patients repeating the positive words. (These people didn't know why they were saying it. They were told to do it. They said it mechanistically, not with faith or expectation. They were saying it with the same belief they would if told to say "I"m a candy bar.").
I can imagine if I was raised with a language that differentiated between "am" as a quality of who I am versus an ephemeral state, I would be more open to that difference. (For me, that distinction was meaningless most of my life.).
Eckhart Tolle, an enlightened being, who is so refined in his explanation, that many people will slowly get out of the ego and eventually become enlightened too!
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Eckert may be the only you tube guru who I feel has actually lost most of his ego.
Always good to listen to him !!
This is perfect for self doubt, intrusive thoughts, and OCD.
Ocd is an awful illness, from the outside it looks so easy to overcome but when you're trapped inside it, its all consuming. Trusting is the only way out of it, you definitely can't think or analyse your way out of it, I know, i used to spend around 16 hours a day for several years thinking about how to stop thinking, horrible horrible illness. But for anyone currently trapped in ocd at this moment, you can and will recover and when you do things will actually be better than ever mentally, that might seem impossible to believe right now, but it will happen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@johngreen4683what do you mean by trusting if i may ask
@@tadeasdimun7212 hi, trusting in life, the Universe, God or whatever you believe in personally relieves the need to think about anything or the need to work out everything in your head, as thinking and analysing is where the ocd mind gets the energy it needs to thrive. None of us can think our way out of of problem caused by overthinking in the first place. If i can be of any more help please feel free to reply again, im really happy to help in any way i can if possible 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@johngreen4683 thank you for the kind response. I try to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders by my overthinking. You are right, I’m going to try trusting that it will all workout. I think its about time i embrace this uncertainty and get a move on again.
Yes, ruminating OCD.
I always identified anger with adults around me that were not kind. When I therefore felt anger, I judged myself so harshly, I thought I was just like them. Now I know, through humanistic counselling, that emotions are just that. It is a response to the world around you, it does not define who you actually are, you need to look at what is the cause of those emotions, whether that is something external, or driven by the ego. It has led me to reconsider those adults who I perceived as unkind, and to what led them to feel that way.
deep and insightful
@@ianIccyStewart I learnt a lot about my perception of the world with the counselling.
Out of so many voices, yours is the one that REALLY helps anyone, or at least has great potential to help anyone who is open and who is suffering to feel better instantly.🙏
yes, i agree,
his awareness is like 🔑 to 🔒,
instead of 🪒 to 🔒
& he's teaching us to become more aware of this same awareness
that's in
us too
Anxiety = worry = anger = fear. Peace be with you . Thank you for this teaching
In psychology, anxiety is all that, but considered more fundamentally to be living in the future. (Whereas depression = anger = shame, and due to living in the past).
If everyone could have such great therapists as Eckhart and Dr. Joe :)
Total wisdom and yet there is a logic once you start to understand these different layers of all that is.💞🌹🦋
I agree with @blc not only a great sense of peace when I hear the master talk but a feeling of a “knowing”, something you always knew to be the truth it’s confirmation it’s a welcoming a homecoming….
Thank you so very much, yet again, for existing, Mr. Tolle!
Love it..when things go wrong that's when you want to be more conscious...thank you so much Eckhart for such a great reminder...learning from your great wisdom💚💚💚🌟
A great reminder! Thank you, Eckhart!😊💜
A great reminder of what?
@@FIshfood500 To not self-identity with emotions. To not let them overtake us to the point that we build stories in our heads around them that cause us unnecessary pain. ✌️
I felt the knowing the inner knowing through that session
It is important to recognise emotions and why we are having them, this is not the same as being ruled by emotions.
Your wisdom,and your knowledge about our inner dimensions is so helpful, always was and is......but your humor is, what i love as much as your wisdom. Thank you for sharing....
You are a true teacher for me. Once i will not need, to Listen anymore, but, right now, your help and your words are so important. Thomas.
Thank you, I have been feeling sad but the realisation of already knowing that sadness is just an emotion im feeling. Doing the tea send from my identity helps me a lot in feeling my sense of being this shifted my thoughts. I am soo grateful for you in this world you really teach me how to get out of my struggles. I am always aware and now I’ve been awakened for a few years I feel I can see people, the world, life and truth differently. Knowing I am consciousness and not my emotions is the best realisation I’ve ever adopted ☝️
those are the exact same problems he mentions that I have struggled with for most of adulthood but have only become capable of dealing with on a satisfying level within the last couple years, I hope I will improve at unpacking all these anxieties and neuroses I have uncritically internalised after having watched this
This man is so humble and amazing. Just a thought… I am an identical twin . . .
And when people ask me, when is my birthday or where did you grow up or anything similar i say “We grew up . . .”Lol
and also, Anything in our childhood we both say we did this or that.
Kind of weird to think about.
We’ve talked about being identical, twins, and how amazing it is really… To have a constant friend that knows exactly, pretty much what each other feels and thinks. Not ESP or anything, but always have somebody there that’s got the same exact DNA.
Eckhart, I spend most days without thought and emotion except joy. I've been following your teachings for only a short while, but they've made so much difference. I also experience things happening around me, but I feel a bit stuck
That which is stuck can not go.
That which can not go is stuck.
If you let It go.
No longer stuck will It Be.
There can only be certainty.
Unless uncertain is what you are.
Shed everything that doesn't serve me.
And serve you I will.
Thank you, Eckhart. Another timely teaching. Peace, and Love! 🙏
i love the teachings. hes so matter of fact with a sense of humor where it applies
Eckart is excellent It really has opened my eyes In many ways!
Vielen Dank! Und liebe Grüße aus Deutschland 💕❣️‼️💕❣️❤️
mr. Tolle,
your awareness is speaking straight thru to me
knocking me out of my mind trance/daydream
what i took for granted, the barrage of mental, constant mental traffic,
that i *thought of* as _normal_ is
in fact, an unecessary aberration, construct,
noise machine,
like a big chugging clanking smelly diesel
powered generator misfiring in my living room,
that ive somehow gotten used to,
how is that possible to have gotten used to that?
how can we pretend that this state of mental traffic noise, with its accompanying emotional roller coaster
*is normal* ?
Tolle has broken clean thru the traffic
that we have
gotten used to
& he's been trying to tell us,
to show us
that there is a way thru
& that we have this way thru
too
just wow
🙏💜🕯️
thank you
Appreciation Master Tolle 🌹💫
Thanks...you are such a lovely person💜
that was amazingly freeing!! thank you.
Just Brilliance. Right on time answers received.
imagining / feeling the empty room method is working great for me!
Thank you Eckhart 🙏
Maestro Eckhart: Muchísimas gracias. 😊🙏💚
Thank you for sharing!
Listening to this one video, with the lilac and gold curtain in the background, was a form of meditation... I believe I was midway of the mountainside and I am certain Eckhart has now grabbed my hand and is pulling me to the mountaintop... Deep Gratitude Eckhart...
So deep. Wonderful, thank you Eckhart Tolle😀
you are great in drawing perception and give time to our minds to follow. i find it satisfying to meet humans who could present their experience and wisdom to put things into perspective. thank you a lot. Thanks for the distribution of your energy. Thanks for showing and help us understanding.
Thank you!
This man is a gift from God.
🙏🏻❤️ Thankyou Eckhart
Wisdom and wit !
Thank you 😊
I am very grateful.......
Woooow this is so good! eye opening 😃
Amazing thanks
It's absolutely the TRUTH. 🙏I say it with great humility,if I hadn't supported my heart with this precious teaching, more precious than gold, I don't know how I would have faced such painful situations as I never imagined facing. We believe we can control life, we believe certain things will never happen to us. It is not so, but all this pain, if you face it with this AWARENESS - of which E. Tolle Is talking about- , will become an enormous treasure and many things will be revealed to you. It's a choice that can be made in just a moment: deciding to welcome what happens without blaming destiny. There is no destiny there is only life which even in the most ruthless pain hides a wealth of love to take your breath away. Place your heart on this certainty do not be deceived by yourselves!💓🙏
I NEEDED every word. This was a huge gift!
Side note, one of my favorite things on the planet is listening/watching Eckhart speak when he lets out a giggle...
6:12 - you're welcome
Gosh, I love this man so much, all of you as well❤
Your teaching video are so excellent. Is it possible to make it with Chinese subtitles for the ppl who read in Chinese only🙏🏻 plz
Beautiful
Thankyou Eckhart✨practice consciousness with emotions awareness is the key
Your intentions define you ⚜
Thank you ! Listening to you I really calm down and I get wiser ! 🌹🌹🌹💜
Muchísimas gracias!!!❤🙏☺️
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True, regards thank you
❤ The sense of I is made of Psychic energy, has nothing to do with our true Self, that is, Consciousness..
Krishnamurti says differently: The anger is the self. One moment later, thought enters and create a separate entity where you attribute that the anger is outside the self. 🎉🎉❤
Yes, take the steps where you see that you can, and that releases the sharp edge of the problem. It’s so simple why do we make it do hard?
❤when we say I we refer to the Body not the I itself.
When we say I went mean
This person confined to the body and this body is felt as ourselves because of the factor we call ego.
So when we say I went refer to the bidy-me person
I just love him I hope he’ll be around for a while I worry about him because he said he had like some surgery
I wish he would make some videos especially for children and teens.
he's often spoke about if there could be schools that taught this to kids,
to really prepare them to observe the contents of what's going on in their own
"inner bodies".
i remember him saying to pay at least as much attention to what's going on within u as u do to what's going on "out there". becuz
"out there" is a concept, projection of mind?
i haven't heard anything but reading between the lines,
i think that is what all the money is for,
Tolle must have set in motion an "organization"
of students to carry on the momentum of what he has been teaching,
for after he's gone.
heard him say that if he had it to do over,
he would have re-titled his book the Power of Awareness of Now, or the Power of Awareness Now, i can't remember which video or exactly how he said it, but his point was to make the emphasis that the power is in the awareness, the awareness isn't "ours"
& awareness happens now,
is now.
Indeed! I have a 16 year old daughter who struggles with her mental health and I believe she could benefit from his teachings. I sent her a link to one of his videos in regards to thoughts/emotions and anxiety but she watched only part of it and lost interest. I think for the younger minds, the wording and philosophy of it all is harder to grasp sometimes?...
Eckhart you are my saviour! ❤❤❤ Thank you immensely for sharing your wisdom with us! ❤️❤️❤️ All the very best of god’s blessings and grace to you and your beloved! ❤️❤️❤️
The deeper 'I'
The spaciousness
I wish the tape continued a little more. Eckhart was talking about the downside of certain drugs or such to achieve the state or a state. (I remembered the younger Ram Dass and Alan Watts :) He used the word paradox, that's my word; Kafkaesque. Anyway, his 'paradox' implied being aware of our seemingly dualistic nature.
OMG!
This is so simple! People are looking too hard!
That is why we can see with the eyes of the source! We become our identity😱
I just become aware of what he is saying. 🙏🏼✨
The timing of this video is just bizarre.... I needed this so badly. I hope to apply this wisdom into my life.... Any tips how you can get grip of your emotions?
Be aware of it. relax behind it. Read/listen the unthered soul book!!!
Great man!!! It s a big chance for us!! Thank you!!!
Thank you, Eckhart! No one in the world helped me as much as you❤
So helpful ❤
Namaste 😎❤️ 💯🙏
Je dis juste Merci, Gratitude éternelle et infinie Monsieur Eckart Tolle ❤ for being with US, what you are, in Earth. Love you for eternity 🙏✨💚♥️
@@EckhartTolleprivate Merci 🙏
@@EckhartTolleprivate
Bonjour Eckhart
These is my question;
Je vais poser une question à Eckart Tolle « depuis que je suis plus consciente et dans l’instant présent, mon enthousiasme et mes rêves ont disparus. J’avance chaque jours sans me soucier du passé ou du futur, je suis le flux de la vie, je me sens plus en paix mais j ai parfois la sensation du coup d ´être une coquille vide, et être dirigé par la vie plutôt que de la vivre pleinement.Est-c’est ça être dans le présent ?
Thanks you for been here in earth for all of them
One needs to think how one can constructively handle the emotions or triggers
I just cannot imagine Eckhart being Angry!
He wouldn’t “be angry” … he’d “experience anger” 😉
I would like to hear more about emotion of love, from where it come from.
True self-love happens when the ego is broken. Only when you truly love yourself you can unconditionally love another person.
Hi Elena, love needs absolutely no thought or thinking to be experienced, love is a wonderful feeling of pure emotional happiness and appreciation. Unhappiness, anger, fear are all 100% dependent on thought and thinking to exist and be experienced, but love is uniquely beautiful in a league of its own ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
Beautiful video 😍
So the key is experiencing emotions as the observer. You have the emotions. The emotions aren't you.
They key is knowing who the observer is.
Yes. It's the same with thoughts .
@@k14michael I would disagree with that in terms of how it's said. Individuating the self in the moment (the observer) from the self thinking/narrating in the moment is absolute the key. But, the observer exists without a "who." Looking for a "who" leads to thinking and defining the observer. That's the part we seek to individuate from. Individuation is huge. The observer exists without observing. In that sense, there is no "who." It just is. We aren't familiar with it because we spend so much time "who am I, who should I have been, who should I be, why am I not (and so it goes... Endless)"
To the op, I would say that emotions arise from the self-talking mind, the inner-narrating sense of who we are. We're constantly explaining our existence to ourselves based upon the past and future. The only thing that's real is the present moment, everything else is a story we tell ourselves. It's that story that, like ma*bation, turns into a feeling/emotion. A thought becomes a story (rumination) producing an emotion. The thought isn't real, it's just better than the unadorned present moment. Something that helps with individuating the observer from the thinker is to consider why the story is better than the present moment. (That usually has to do with egoic expectations, unhappiness with what is, grudges, habituated views of others being all good/all bad -- Jung's shadow, over-identification with Jung's persona.). IMO, there's a lot of overlap of presence/mindfulness with psychology. Both seek to put the person my in the moment, less story-telling, false-self, etc.
@@markfuller
Yes, direct awareness is key. But we have first to use language to direct or point to that awareness somehow.
Anything that is totally dependent on thought and belief to exist isn't real and can be allowed vanish if we choose to stop thinking about it or believing in it. The sun, moon and stars are there with or without thought or belief 🙏🙏🙏🙏
yeah
I love Tolle. I really do!
The only problem is he works while I listen to him. Since I stop, he stops too...
Maybe write down one thing you gained from each video and keep it in your pocket to read whenever you need a reminder? Just an idea 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Arigato.
i love these poignant pauses he takes mid explanations...they are so sooo peaceful.
I have to wonder what dreams Eckhart has and if they are anything like the dreams that many of us experience. Sometimes we have dreams that reveal anxiety but as he is awakened do the troubling dreams no longer occur.
Is anyone of you really in a constant state of awareness? I forget it all the time and it is very rare that Im in that state. After 20 years of trying I constantly fell into this unconsious state.
How long does it take for you to realize you're back in an unconscious state (minutes, months)? It's not that bad to find yourself there. The fruit is knowing it fairly quickly (seconds, maybe minutes. Not drawn off into a mild delusion, self-narration without realizing it for a long time).
What have you practiced as a path to awareness/presence? The first video in my playlist was what I followed. The goal is to individuate (familiarize) yourself with "me in the moment" and "me thinking, self-talking, confabulating, labeling, defining in the moment." Just knowing that difference through formal meditation. But, that familiarization should become a habit that you're aware of all the time, can distinguish the difference any time (without practicing in an ideal circumstance).
I agree with the person who said it's not about "trying." To me, it was about repeated exposure to the difference (observing the thinker; realizing I'm not my thoughts, I exist without thought, there is a me and a me thinking). It took months of practicing this, and letting it happen, becoming more familiar in brief moments, and beginning to recognize the difference all the time (out walking, working around the house, when an driver cuts me off.). It becomes a way of being. That can take months or years because we spent decades practicing the self-talking sense of existence. It's a strong habit to replace. It's not about judging that maladaptive self, it's about knowing the difference and practicing less of it. Being more reconciled to "what is" without judgement. The self-talking self is "what is" just as valid as when you recognize that and choose to stop talking. That's just "what is" too. We can be more in the latter by being aware, familiarizing with the difference.
I think for me, the important thing was realizing meditation isn't a thing I do (then go to the store, and then walk the dog, then ...). It's not a discrete activity that something is supposed to happen to me. It's becoming familiar with who I am beyond the thinking state, and carrying that familiarity to the store, on the walk, etc.). Not obsessively, like a task to do. But, like recalling what your neighbor's living room looks like because you've been there. A familiarity that is carried along and you can know "I'm not there right now." That turns into (maybe after months or years) "I'm not there right now, but can be." All of that turns into being there more because you know there's two "is-ness'es" The is of telling yourself what is. And the is that doesn't depend upon that. It's a continuum of more one or the other. Over time it becomes more the other. More automatic recognition how far from the other it is (more or less). More choosing to be with the less confabulated is.
PS: I found some psychology/neurology topics to be insightful of what was/is going on in my head (similar to what you describe struggling with). For example, Dr. Iain McGilChrist's videos about the left/right hemispheres of the brain. That's one of those things everyone has heard of in pop culture, "you're left brain; someone else is right brain." But, he depicts something much more "and," not either/or. And, he depicts something that's at war with itself, like a dysfunctional family. Out of this dysfunction _emerges_ our conscious experience (about 1/2-second after the process begins of "settling" what will emerge). Our conscious experience occupies 5% of our brain. It emerges from the 95% of the brain operating subconsciously. Worse, the 5% is typically distracted half the time, so we're really only "there" (in the sense we think we are) in just 2.5% of the brain.
Something about that scale -- and how we're experiencing what emerges to us, a little after the fact -- resonated with what I felt I was struggling with when I started. I described my "losing the state" being like a tv playing in another room, just loud enough that occasionally you can make out what it is, and you get locked into that like a morbid curiosity. It's just loud enough to remember the episode, and start expecting some dialogue. Before you know it, your attention is on that. Like a song you can't get out of your head, you're captivated by this barely perceptible story that you're familiar with. You try to not listen, but it's like a siren song calling you back against your will. When I learned about the details of emergent consciousness (from the subconscious), and the process of "selfing" (the moment to moment 1/2-second process of the subcon determining what to emerge), that seemed to fit the way I could find myself carried away into self-talk, inner-narration. It was more understandable. Then mindfulness (on the present moment, the 1st vid in my playlist) seemed to put me at that brink of emergence, consciously exercising a veto power over what emerges (instead of following it on autopilot).
McGilchrist's left/right brain studies are similarly insightful of the irrational, conflicted subconscious process of emergence. He describes the human brain's corpus colostrum (the divider between the hemispheres) as largely _inhibiting_ connections, _restraining_ the sides into a compromise of consciousness. He has examples of people with just one hemisphere, and how it controlled them. I found that insightful of the real imbalance between the two sides, and how the compromise may not be optimal (can be disturbed, egoic, story-telling).
What would the be the world like, if everyone was like Eckhart?
The joy of Being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form, possession, achievement, person, or event, or anything that happens. That joy cannot come to you, ever. It emanates from the formless dimension within you, from consciousness itself, and thus is one with who you are.
The egoic mind thinks that the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn’t have, or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have.
Homework…
Why is the egoic mind obsessed with ’Should’?
Why does ’Should’ not exist in the present moment?
💖Meister Eckart, what to tell to a person with a tetminal illness about his/her emotions? 💖
I have a question. If someone next to you, your partner for example is behaving out of nervourness and she admits also I am nervous, how are you going to ask nervousness to dissapear by telling her calm down. Nevousness is going to react against you since you are asking it to die and it is going to fight back for its own life. What is one to do in this type of situations?
EFT/Tapping helped me with nervousness/anxiety (living in the future too much). The 2nd video in my playlist is the one I followed. It's about social anxiety, but the principle applies to anything. Just change the narrative he speaks to himself. (I don't know if the chakra stuff is real. But, autosuggestion is very real. It was discovered by Dr. Emile Coue over 100 years ago, and been researched/reproduced endlessly. It's real. To me, the tapping part is making it more real, more emphatic, driving in the words. If you have to tap somewhere, just do it on the chakras. If they're real, all the better. If not, who cares? Autosuggestion is absolutely real.).
For me, mindfulness was destabilizing to me. I depended upon my self-talking existence. Individuating from that (my self in the moment from my self thinking/narrating in the moment) was very rough. I had a lot of overwhelming times for a couple years, especially a couple months. EFT/tapping helped to get through that. I replaced his words with "I'm anxious, it's ok, it won't last forever. I understand why I'm anxious. I'm recognizing a mild delusion I've lived in my whole life. It's like ripping a pacifier from a baby. I'm disturbed by not having this coping mechanism (self-talk). My subconscious doesn't know what to do. It will be ok. Reality's better than fantasy. It takes some time, I just have to be patient follow it where it goes. I'll be ok."
The key here is for your partner to know why they feel anxious. Just informing one's self that they'll be ok isn't enough. It's useful to know why one feels this way now, and will be ok (why it will pass). They should start with "I'm living in the future. The only thing that's real is this present moment. Everything else is a story I tell myself. I'm anxious because of a story I'm telling myself. It has nothing to do with this moment. I'll be ok." (Seeing a therapist could help to understand the underlying issues/psychology. But, mindfulness works too (observing the mind thinking, recognizing patterns, triggers). A graphic called "The Wheel of Emotion" can help too. Sometimes we don't understand the emotion we feel. We have a too-coarse vocabulary of emotions. That graphic helped me a lot to realize what I'm really feeling (contextualize it in a family of emotions).
Nervousness may not be in you at that moment so you could just be with that person without getting nervous about it. In analogy if someone has a basket of apples which you absolutely don't like. Then why would you pick up an apple from the basket and ask the personal why she has apples because you don't want them. If you equate the nervousness with the being you make it personal. Not only for the one who experiences nervousness but also the one who senses it. You don't really have control over the capacity of somebody to control it's emotions so in accepting that you already have given it space and acceptance to be what it is.
Thank you so much for the teaching and the practice as well as for so many laughs. 🧡
"everything is energy." et
EKHART is on earth….i feel safe…