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1: you can't be honest with them 2: you're constantly on and off again 3: you don't have any shared interests 4: you run in different social circles 5: you want different things 6: your relationship is not a priority 7: you can't satisfy each others needs 8: you have a lot of doubts
Every relationship goes through times of challenge and times of doubt. If you or your partner is looking for a reason to leave, it won't last. But if you're both commited to working on it, it will last. Communication and mutual goals are important.
Im conflicted. We both go through times we are trying to work things out. And we both go through times of doubt. Iv been with him for 10 years. We are engaged. We have a 5 year old son together. And i find myself wondering if this man was the right choice. Everything with him is a constant battle. He seems to regret having a kid with me cuz our veiws on parenting are so different. And i feel bad cuz most of my issues with him are his trauma from his past and how he won't get help or try to heal so he just stays angry most of the time and over reacts to everything out son does cuz he was abused growing up and he cant let go of his childhood and gets angry that he cant act twards our son the way his parents acted twards him. Is that a valid reason to leave someone you love? If they arent willing to heal from their traumas for the sake of raising our kid in a healthy safe environment? Its a take 1 step forward 2 steps back situation. Where we work through it but then it goes back to the irrational over reacting and threats. Hes in a constant state of survival and always feels unsafe. And it's so hard. Hes suicidal and i wanna be there for him but this is not the environment i wanna build for my son.......and i cant change who his father is.....sorry for the rant
@@shaynalee3907 yes leave. We can't fix anyone with trauma. They have to really believe they need help, they can't just say it, they have to act on it. Your child may grow and progress as a person knowing you chose better for the both of you. I'm not saying keep your child from their father, I'm just saying staying in this relationship is neither healthy for you or your child.
I agree with Amber on this, unfortunately. Your partner really needs to LET GO. I also am inclined to think that if he truly loves his son, he will need to bear whatever sufferings/injustice etc he had growing up and put down the hatred, anguish and pain he went through... so that his flesh-and-blood not have to undergo all that crazy fuckshit and it will just be a downward descent into maddening darkness. Of course, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. It will be a ongoing process and it will be challenging as hell for you as his wife to bear. Have a honest and open talk with him, and see if he is at least WILLING to try take baby steps, towards this. He will falter again, and again and again but so long he is certain of your unwavering support and love things will improve. May God bless him, your little one and yourself. Will pray for you.
@@shaynalee3907 yes this man is not willing to heal his past for a better future for you, your child ,& himself. He probably suffers from low self esteem & trauma from his childhood. If after 10 years he won't change, you haven't committed to marriage, he never will. You should start healing yourself because you may be trauma bonded to this man. I dated someone similar but we didn't have a child. We ended things after 5 years but it was difficult. Take care of yourself & your baby. You deserve better. Good luck.
If you are in a relationship & feel like this.. I feel it too. We are on & off a lot & have different tastes. We don’t agree on how to express our love, I love being alone but he is always on my side. It’s a lot.. makes me doubt that something is wrong with me. I love him with every piece my heart & he really helps me emotionally feel less alone but I just don’t know if we are for sure meant to be yk?
@@lunaxcatx hey, perhaps you can talk about wanting a bit more alone time? I am sure he will understand that. Overall just talk about things and I am sure you figure stuff out. But please the person seems really committed please appreciate that :)
@@jappel5193 yess we talk things out a lot, we’ve been together a year n a half & im very committed to him! We both are, I guess like the video said “love isn’t born it’s made” & it definitely got stronger as we tried to talk things out & work it out. He’s very understanding! & has no problem with giving me time!
Another sign: When you tell them about your interests after they bragged about their own interests and they quickly change the subject bragging about other things again to make you feel your interests isn’t as important than it is. Not is it rude, but that’ll make anyone not like you.
I know what you mean...is like whatever they do is extraordinary and what you do is so easy and anybody can do it....or if you get a good job or a promotion they say you just got lucky. Always making you feel nobody cares like them, when in reality anyone can care more than them because they don't give a **** about you.
It takes patience, be honest, speak your mind, no respect, dysfunctional family, different tastes, chemistry or timing is off, do you need space, do you have doubts, nobody's perfect🚩⛔🆘💲✅
To anyone who's young and/or in a rocky relationship, take note of this video. I had an abusive and failed marriage, and I have all 8 signs in the video. I wish I knew this much earlier, but it may not be too late for you.
Nor is it too late for you. Learn to appreciate the lesson you can take from this, even though it has probably been a difficult time. Get up and first of all work on your self love! Soooo important. Hopefully you will not get sucked into a bad relationship again. Stay true to yourself and trust your gut. Always trust your gut, and then, also act on it ;-). Wishinig you lots of good things and please stay strong!
I need some advice. What if it's 4-5 of the 8? With some potentional. There's some abuse(has lessened overtime) involved but also positive change.. our child is what mostly keeps us together but we also do actually love eachother
I agree with all of this except for Number 4. Sharing mutual friends is a good thing but it's also healthy for each partner to have their own friends too.
I also feel that Number 2 is debatable, because sometimes people need to grow and mature before they can commit; I know a couple who broke up twice before they committed, the first time was because one of them was not comfortable with themselves (they would not have worked with anyone at that point) and the second time was because they both wanted to move further, but thought the other was not willing to, so it was a huge lack of communication; After the second breakup, they were miserable and always asking about each other and THAT is what caused them to lay it all out on the table. They've been together ever since. Sometimes, people have to grow and mature before they can make it work. Based on this couple's two times, it was clear they needed growth and were not ready at 'that moment' for the long haul; I'm glad they stuck it out, because they are fun together and inspire me.
@@jephybean It's okay if they need time apart to fix some issues in their lives, but constant push and pull can easily get toxic. And exceptions do exist, but if someone actually cares, they can't help making time for you everyday, even if it's ten minutes. Usually a complete break is not a good sign. If that's what they want, I wouldn't keep my hopes alive. Nobody knows what future holds for us, but I wouldn't put my eggs in that basket anymore. Still, it's better than toxic push and pull. I only feel gratitude for people who honestly told me they had other priorities over me and kindly went after them. It's a much more respectful way to part ways than traumatizing endings or push/pulls.
@@kingboji958 They can be. Our cultural conceptions and biological/emotional makeups can make it hard, but it can happen and when it does it is terrific. I am just coming from a visit to an amazing friend of mine (takes 6 hours of driving). In the beginning of our friendship, it did start as a flirt but after a short while she made it clear that she wasn't into a relationship with me. However, things have grown much stronger since. She'll spend 3 months for a personalized hand-made gift that grows out of our conversations, we visit each other frequently, speak everyday, spend high quality time, have so much fun together, cook for each other, basically most things you get from a relationship and some more, because there is no jealousy, no preestablished roles that make us act a certain way. Sometimes life gets in the way and we don't speak as much, but when we can make time for each other we can start off where we left, no remorse and anger involved. We still look our best, show masculine/feminine forms of care that don't exist in same-sex friendships, and in a way we complete one another, push each other in life. If I went back and had the chance to start a romantic relationship with her, I wouldn't. And it is satisfying in many respects. For instance, my ex that I had been for 6 years texted me a couple weeks ago, and as I was talking to this friend, I completely forgot about the text and later didn't feel the urge to respond. What else could my ex give me that this person doesn't? Sex? That comes with certain prices I don't have to pay in my friendships that can be just as strong. There aren't only two attachments in life. There are multiple. Some people have a sexual relationship but they are not commited, they still consider themselves friends. Some romantic couples quickly turn into roommates with no sexual passion but they find it secure/satisfying and don't end the relationship. Some friendships grow truly platonic and there is no sex involved but you find it stronger than any relationship you've had. Forms of attachment vary, you can have multiple of them at once, or pick one or two depending on your values and mindset.
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Definitely needed this. Thanks! I’m kind of tired of seeing why people aren’t right for me. I need to start seeing how I can be right for other people.
being "willing to drop everything and come running when they need you" (4:25) can be a big warning sign of codependency! ideals of love being the willingness to 'make the relationship with the other our priority', and 'standing by the other person even through times of struggle and hardship', can keep us stuck in very unhealthy, caretaking relationships! I thought I was practicing love by doing these things, but now I see how I was actually being unloving to myself, abandoning my core needs, and keeping myself in an oppressive situation.
I don’t think it’s wrong to be willing to drop everything for your partner (when they really need it) if you have a mutual commitment to do so for each other. When the ‘emotionally strong’ one is expected to do all the heavy lifting in a relationship, that is when things take a turn. Not everything is going to be 50/50% in a relationship, not even emotional labor. But emotional burdens are the one area of a relationship (especially romantic) where both parties need to be making genuine efforts to give it their all, because mutual emotional support is one of the fundamental aspects of a healthy romantic relationship. And I think it’s important to have a realistic outlook on what a person actually needs from their partner. Turning to your partner every time you have a problem out of habit is not ok, but turning to them after you’ve determined that you really do actually need help is another thing entirely.
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It’s not wrong if it’s mutual imagine you have an accident and your partner would drop everything to be there for you after he found out. I think you did right back then but you did it for the wrong person.
Well, that's not the point... I'm the one for my boyfriend, because I watching him, listen to him so most of the times I know what he wants. But not vica versa. He is living in his own dream world, and he is happy when I'm only talking with him, and he cannot see any other guy in my messenger. He started to ring me nonstop when I finish the work at 5pm today. But sometimes I finish the work at 5.05pm or 5.15pm. This happened today as well. I left the office at 5.10pm. He was really upset, and ask what did I do in this 10 minutes. He was there with his car. And he told me that actually I am perfect for him, - my look, my thoughts, my abilities, the way I'm talking, etc. - the only thing that he do not like that I talk with people in general (boys too). And actually he do not even know me, when I feel alive etc., but I know how to behave from him to be happy. We have this crazy on-and-off shit, because I try to live without him, but I do not have anyone else talk to. So it's a fucked up situation, and I'm his world. Literally. So no, it is a really bad advice "to be someone's one".
@@Sara-cl4ql by “be someone else’s one” I simply meant focus on improving yourself instead of trying to find someone to do it for you. If you are clearly unhappy with who you’re with, why stay?
@@sozl5494 I know, but it sounds in this way to me as well. It's hard to tell. I often times try to quit, but there is no-one else to talk to and I have a weird feeling that I would like to help him. It is crazy because I see the opportunity in the boy, but it's like a never ending rush, that never will be in a peaceful period.
@@Sara-cl4ql you basically summarized your relationship with “never will be in a peaceful period”, people often feel that there is no one else in the world that will like them the way their current partner likes them, but it’s simply not true, and I think you know this. The faster you break things off, the faster you will find your next potential partner. Hoping for change in someone is usually a waste of time, you SHOULD be seeing the change already, so if you don’t see it now you never will. It’s not your responsibility to make someone happy, and you’re supposed to be their partner, not parent.
@@sozl5494 you are absolutely right, and I know that. Maybe I just wanted to tell it to someone. I would say without face, but I have a profile picture. 🙂
Yes, you are right - partially. The problem is that according to Myers-Briggs Personality Theory, there are people, that are not able to use their intuition or it is just an inferior skill for them. But as an INFJ, I truly understand, what you mean. I always rely on my instincts, because this is my biggest strength and supporter.
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#6...wow...this one stings a lot. I've known it for a long time, but I wanted to stick it out telling myself that relationships won't always go as expected and that we can work on our relationship together. It got to a point I felt like I was begging. He wanted a relationship that seemed easy and convenient for him. Honestly, thinking back he only gravitated towards anything that seemed easy and convenient for him without caring about how he got it, who else it impacted or without empathy towards anyone else who required the same as him. All he knew was him. I honestly have that feeling like I walked into an obvious scam. You knew it, you freaking knew it, but you did it anyway and now you're embarrassed, sad, angry, displaced and left with less than you invested and the promised return didn't exist to begin with.
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I totally relate. I feel like I could have wrote the same thing. I am sorry for what you are going through and I hope things get better soon. I try to tell myself it is a big world out there and today everything may suck, but there will be better days in the future. Take care and stay strong.
In the same boat too... Ignored red flags or gave her another chance. Hoping things would get better. She said multiple times 'sorry for being a bitch' or just 'sorry' but she didn't improve herself. I ended the relationship. I just feel so disappointed, sad and doubtful. I still wonder if it was the right thing to do. My family and friends said I did the right thing but it's hard to let go...
Sometimes.... The other half is not committed enough to stand by thick and thin... Like a serious physical or mental illness tears the relationship apart. That's life.. Unfortunately not many completely fulfill their wedding vows
@@TheSapphireLeo omg I relate to that to my last ex said that I was being manipulative because I always had mental issues that i wanted to talk to her about and low self esteem, but she’s rarely be there for me and just called me the victim in the end
After almost 3 years, he still doesn't really try to understand me and my mental illnesses better or shows me compassion when I need it.. I know it's not good in the long run but I can't get myself to end this. But yea, deep down I know we're at completely different levels, mentally and socially and it's nothing for forever. I just wish I had the balls to just end it quickly..
@Agent Of Chaos 666 it's true I am obsessed but it's only because my friends are going to be dating soon while I still have no girl friends just friends
Dude... Enjoy it to the max. Build yourself and just kinda blow off the idea of a partner for now. Find a few badass hobbies and build your skills in life. Learn to do something most cannot do. Find your passion in life. And for sure be glad you've not been the target of a ill intended person's "affections", I.e. had a shitty relationship that drains you like a dehydrated vampire. Best of luck, man.
time traveller here, finding reasons to continue to believe in right person wrong time. Seeing this video made me realize they are the one for me, and hopefully one day i'll be with them again. I hope things get better soon, but in the mean time have a good day for whoever is reading this
Just keep in mind, even if you are experiencing any of these, it can be fixed if you both work at it. My boyfriend I have been together 7 years, we've had her ups and downs especially since we were young. We actually truly dedicate ourselves to communicating and making our relationship work. We never had any huge issues, It was just tiny things that built up because we never knew how to effectively communicate. We are working to be better each and every day and I can honestly say I'm beyond hopeful and I love him to pieces. Just because you're experiencing something like this does not mean the relationship is over. It means if you want it, You have to work harder at it and also agree to disagree on certain things. At the end of the day still have fun, bring that spark back and continue to fall in love with your partner each and every day.
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This! I’m going thru some challenging times right now. On that mission to bring back the spark and fall in love again. My partner wants it but it’s resistant since most of our issues were from things I was struggling with that disappointed him. I’m hopeful. I know it would take work and commitment and being creative. Seeing this comment made me more hopeful.
@@valentinagerlsma2767 Yes! Just how many possibilities are there with so many of us! 1- Believe Love is real. 2- Experience it by learning to love yourself first. 3- If you're NOT focusing on what goes wrong and keep yourself open, love will come to you in one form or another. In this order! Love 💕 You CAN!!!
@@yasylismoore8247 I didn't mean for you to feel judged and I understand why somebody won't try to find a relationship. What I meant was : it feels like you are choosing between lifestyles that make you unhappy. I don't care what you do with your life, but I hope for you that you are (at least trying to) be happy, either it is with someone or on your own.
I really wish i would've stayed single after my last relationship. I was happy before it and i thought when i met him he was perfect for me, we never had any issues until one day he broke up with me out of nowhere 😒 now its like I'm starting all over again trying to be happy and just forget about him.
I relate to all of these signs girl. I can’t keep denying that me and my current boyfriend aren’t meant to be. We are 2 different people and our values don’t align. I’ve known this for almost 3 years. It’s time to face the music and accept the fact that we aren’t meant to be.
#6 is so important and hard to tell in the beginning when the attraction is strong and both are happily "in love". I had a friend who wanted a relationship with me and I almost agreed, but something happened made it clear that he only wants what's easy, that my problems are my own, he wants nothing to do with it and has no incentive to be there for me. So instead of starting a relationship together, we're not even friends anymore. Tbh, it's a blessing in disguise, life is too short and love is too precious to waste on flaky guys.
a lot of problems can be resolved with just simple communication.. communicating how you feel, what you’re feeling, etc.. you have to want to be in the relationship and love each other enough to be willing to drop the silly arguments and just fix things. yes, some things are unfixable... but if you both know that you want each other as bad as the other, communication can fix many issues you’re having..
Yes.. but don't obsess over knowing if someone is meant for you or not. If you both want things to work out, and you're both willing to put the work in, it might work out even if there are many bumps in the road. There are bumps on the road in every relationship, even some that make you wonder if they're the right person or not. Doubts are normal, especially for anxious people. I'm saying this because when I got into my first relationship with a person I REALLY wanted things to work out with and who I REALLY care about, I obsessed over everything having to be perfect and it kinda ruined a lot of amazing moments. Obviously if your doubts are well motivated and you don't want to be with the person in question you are right to leave though.
What if that one breakup with you ? And that one has with someone new? Is it ok to still share your feelings to her? And win her back with marriage if she wills it.
Aw I hope you're doing well, I don't know anything about you but I know you're strong and I believe in you! Heart breaks can be hurtful so it's good to cry or talk about it to someone, let your feelings out. Don't keep it inside, it's not the best for you. And don't be upset about it for too long, it'll just hurt you more, I'm sure you'll find the perfect person for you one day don't give up I wish you best of luck, have a great day/night! ^^
I like how you correlate compatibility and happiness in a relationship. Being compatible does not mean that the partners are similar in all ways but it does mean that their differences complement each other resulting to a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship. Then they may call themselves "soulmates".
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If he doesn't get back to you... let it go. That hurts alot. Unfortunately it's going to be even worse if you don't. But wait for a bit. Time will tell. If there's nothing reciprocated for over half a year, or even longer... I wouldn't bother. I would mourn... and then I'll take stock of what happened, learn as much as I can from it and then move on from there. Then you can justify your past in a useful/helpful way (as figuring out what things to encourage and things to avoid) and carry it with you into the present and future.
Small critique: you shouldn’t drop everything and come running when your partner needs you. Your partner isn’t everything, and you shouldn’t always have them as your top priority
Let me guess, you aren’t in a long term, relationship. If you both put your own needs first, you are selfish and the relation will not develop or last. The only way to grow as a couple is to put their needs before your own, with one major caveat: BOTH partners must do it. I’ve been married for over 15 years, my wife is my best friend and I always put her before me, she does the same. Now, we can’t imagine not having that kind of support and reciprocal love. If you lack experience with healthy relationships, you probably shouldn’t be giving advice on them.
@@kd9749 you're very wrong, while it may work, you both should be BALANCED, being selfish is bad of course! But being selfless is also bad, you both have to aknowledge to love each other but also let each other be, i have had so many friends who have been involved in an abusive relationship, why is it abusive? Because both partners expect that the other puts them before themself. This is the same kind of stuff my mom says, "if i wanna one day make you babysit the cat, you have to, we're family, if you have plans to meet up people, well too bad, you'll take care of the cat!", its the same idea "put my needs before your own" You yourself will ALWAYS be the most important person in your life, wether you believe it or not, so YOUR needs come first. You need alone time and your partner needs to spend time toghether? too bad, do what's best for YOU. If the partner can't handle spending time with a friend or alike instead of you, then that is NOT your issue. If you and your partner get injured and you could either only save one and you save yourself, it is NOT selfish, its natural, and so is the same with mental stuff, you DONT have to sacrifice yourself and your mental health for your partner, long term, short term, doesn't matter.
Watching this two weeks after ending a relationship (though it was more of a friendship we were trying to turn into a relationship, but who cares about details) that fit almost all the named signs for both of us. And even though I already know I‘ve made the right decision, this has confirmed it even more.
The fact that I relate to each and every point made in this video is all the confirmation I need to know that I did the right thing by walking away for good. Thank you!
This is all very true. I was in a marriage for almost 20 years. Well 15 plus the 4 we lived together, so basically about 20. Last year I got a divorce, but didn’t feel as sad as I thought I would. She didn’t support my interests of pursuing a music career, which was short lived. So now I basically write poems on UA-cam and Instagram. Since the music industry doesn’t like Asian men...neither does the American public in regards to music. Well rapping or singing in a masculine tone that is...stereotypes have been put in place to block men of my color and limit us to the typical roles of undesirable unattractive office geeks or passive doctors and uncool annoyances. The very element that brought my wife and I together should have been the glue that kept us together, but then her taste in music and lifestyle changed. And I was so into being a father I didn’t really care if she wanted me or not. I love music and hate the way it is now in America, so when I branched out to Korea to listen to their R&B and soul and hip hop, she didn’t follow suit. So that created greater division. I know what I’m saying will trigger a lot of people that feel racism towards Asians doesn’t exist, but it’s my truth. And this is still the main reason why I don’t really care for making music for the public. Most people ARE racist, they just don’t realize it because they’ve normalized this hatred of Chinese and other Asians to the extent it’s just second nature. This issue also brought the divorce into fruition. Thinking she was Asian and would agree with me on this topic was a mistake I made. Don’t assume someone loves you because you share similar upbringing and ethnicity
I mean i think all of these could also apply to friendships too.. not sure why friendships are always looked over and it's always about "romantic" relationships - and no I'm not talking about being "best friends" with your partner but with your platonic relationships
Yes obviously. Me and ex best friend had been friend since we were only 2.5 year old . But all of those signs started to show up and when I was in 8th grade our friendship turned into a toxic friendship. Though some memories of our friendship is still precious to me .
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I wished I learned this when I was in my early 20th not in my early 50th. It would saved me whole bunch of heartache and pain. I was chasing the wrong person.
Eight life lessons I learned over a 14 year period. Pretty much ticked all the boxes for me as to why it didn't work. I am a lot wiser for it and thankful because it taught me a very fundamental reality - I am better off alone. Happier and with clarity and purpose. A relationship is no longer what I desire, need or want. I am happy to live my dreams of love through a great love story and love songs.
Okay, I'm convinced at this point that yall have been stalking me. How do you guys always know what I think and what is happening in my life?! But anyways, this video is a r8ght timing for me. I was questioning myself about this one.
In ever rarer cases- Twin Flames are way more intense, instant love & you’ll instantly feel “at home.” Whatever that means for you. It’s a feeling that can’t be explained, but is mutually understood.
Perhaps the most eye-opening UA-cam video I have ever seen. My one and only girlfriend broke up with me recently, and due to my fault. I considered her to be the love of my life. I was drowning in sorrow and regret, wishing I could go back in time and do things differently. Hopefully, I stumbled upon this video. 6 out of 8 signs applied to our past relationships - I realized it had to be this way. Together with couple other Psych2go videos, it gave me peace. Thank you so much❤
Just know this cycle is extra draining. I literally just had an argument with my mate and he got all mad and sad bc I had a different view but we agreed he just can’t see it bc he is so used to me going along with his opinion and I have a different view, even when we agree, then he shuts down. Well I’m done with that dysfunction. I’ve spent 20 years just sitting back watching him making ALL my decisions and decisions about our life and he can’t handle the pushback. Which is not pushback it’s called a relationship. Too bad. I’m done crying over him when he is hurt I cry. Never again. Whew I feel so free and I am not going back. Thanks for the vent space. #freedomtime
@@ITIsFunnyDamnIT 😁 didn’t leave him just mentally and emotionally I grew up. Don’t get me wrong he’s good in so many other ways just not emotionally. My mother and many family members are the same way. Once I set boundaries I refused to let them down or be stepped on by anyone. It was draining for me bc I didn’t accept myself. But NOW nope and listen you don’t have to be disrespectful about it. Respectfully accept yourself and others will follow. Trust me. Most times in my neck of the woods we resort to fighting, bickering and arguing when it doesn’t even take all of that. All of that in your face, I’m going to show you type of behavior is tasteless and useless. Nah, just get to know yourself and know how to exude the beauty within yourself and others will see it and conform. Side toe: I hate that song “savage” bc none of that this way. I’m a woman of excellence and beauty that is uniquely attributed to me. I was giving my power in ways that were bc of not knowing that His strength is within me. It was the Miseducation of Me. Can you tell I’m a huge Lauryn Hill fan, even in how I speak. 🤷🏽♀️ this is who I am sorry. Still learning and for me that is the beauty of growth in this journey called life. ♥️🙏🏽
Add these points as well ... Always being sarcastic towards you ... they criticize you for everything you do or that you are ... Always being grumpy grouchy nagging or mean ... not caring for your emotions ... Always mskes you feel you are at their foot or mercy ... n they doing great favour on you.
I saw a cute guy at work and pursued him and he was nice and all but judging by how he acted towards me around people I just couldn’t understand why he acted so distant but fun over text , eventually I discovered it was embarrassment and blocked him , oh well he missed out cuz I’m a sweet girl I’ll find a guy who appreciate me
Damn hey that is his loss! I am sure you are a sweet person and you should be treated with the respect you deserve. No guy is good enough for you if he treats you even a little less. But well that is just my opinion :) take care!
Thank you so much for this video and your channel 😭 This video just proved to me again the breakup with my ex was the right decision. We both deserve better 😊
Thank you God for removing him from my life. It hurt so much to go through all those months of pure pain but I understand with each given day you give me that it’s so much better to be by myself than with someone who I have no future with . You have something great for me , I will wait for your right timing . In the mean time I’m just going to live my life and enjoy each day as if it where to be my last . Thank You lord
@@nakshatramusic21 "ok" is a bit of a stretch to me, I'm feeling pretty bad, but I'm not wanting to hurt myself which is the most important thing I'm trying to focus on. I appreciate you asking
@@99baking I hope you have a great day today! Stay hydrated and healthy :), don’t give up, and please talk to someone (if u need advice or help ) who you are comfortable with^^
I was with a woman who all 8 signs mentioned here were present. I knew the relationship wouldn't last and it didn't. She stressed me out bad. Always made me feel like I was tip toing on egg shells trying NOT to make her mad. She always insisted I watch shows she likes but she would never watch even one single show I liked. A conversation no matter what it was about. She would always disagree with me and I feel like it was just for the pure sake of disagreeing. I am actually very glad Not to have that toxicity in my life. Sometimes you really are better off alone.
I do not underatand this, sorry English is not my 1st language. What does it suppose to mean as in met the right person in the wrong time? What do I suppose to think or do by that context? Is it reallt the right one or suppose to be sarcastic? Can someone please exagerrate on that?
@@acitysodead so from my point of view it means something like: you've met the perfect person and it seems to be something that's meant to be, that would be the "right person". However, the it was in the"wrong time", or "wrong moment", which means that you were both maybe in different stages of your life, or you weren't in the same level of maturity. This means that you met someone that seems to be the perfect person but the moment you met them wasn't perfect. I hope it helps!
@@RideAcrossTheRiver The place where I live has a lot of liars, drug addicts, and generally creepy people. People in my town have gotten violent to the point of killing, so If true love does exiest, I'll never find it unless I get the hell away from this town that god (if there is one) has clearly forsaken.
I actually hope so too.....when i look at the obituraries in our local newspaper, it shocks me to know the ages of folks passing on is close to my age. IF the Lord gave me a clue and told me that the RIGHT ONE for me, will be waiting with my folks in heavens gates.....I will probably have patience.
Every single one of these were prevalent in my past relationship. I'm so glad I ended things, even though I was scared of being alone. I recognized that I needed to work on my co-dependent tendencies and I'm so glad I got out!
It did. I, have two of those In my relationship, but we make it work because the others are great. Sadly, I know others that have several of these issues in relationships. Great video as usual.
Ok but what happens when you always constantly have that fear of falling for the wrong person? And that gets in the way of getting to know people very well because you find things you don’t like about them and assume it’s not going to work. I’m I too much of a perfectionist or are they valid concerns about things I wouldn’t want to live with being married in the future? I’m so confused all the time and all I want is to be sure about wanting to be with someone. I want to be sure from the beginning that it is the right person to get to know.
Maybe if you're in those situations in the future, ask yourself "would I be willing to put up with this thing they do for say, 5 years" if the answer is no, they're perhaps not for you, but if those things seem minute in comparison to how much you adore them, then maybe they're worth your time?
LIFE, LOVE, PEOPLE WILL ONLY BE WHAT YOU LET IT. IF U LET THINGS AND PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAT AREN'T ADDING HAPPINESS, YOU WILL FIND SADNESS! YOU ARE AN ALCHEMIST! YOU ORCHESTRATE THE ENERGY YOU KEEP AND GIVE! DON'T EVER GIVE UP YOUR POWER! AND ALWAYS MIND THE COMPANY YOU KEEP!
I tried to befriend a few narcissists. All they could think of was themselves. You had to orbit their world and feel *grateful* for the opportunity, but anything less than constant joy and showering praise and you'd get a glimpse of "Hell hath no fury..." It was draining. And after a while, it got SO FREAKIN' BORING.
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I started watching this in fear that my relationship is unhealthy, come to find out me and my boyfriend are literally the same. We dated in 6th and 7th grade but I shortly left the school we were in before 8th grade, this year he got in contact with me and we started dating again (both in highschool now) our personalities are so similar with our music tastes and the things we like, of course me and him disagree on little things like certain animes but thats only because hes not really into that stuff Like I am, we've always had the same sense of humor and have always been best friends this just made me see that we were meant for each other. Good luck to anyone out their struggling in a toxic relationship or still looking for their other half💖 ✨🌈✨ -a random gay guy on the internet
You're still young and only have to worry about things like music taste. When you're older its things like political views, spiritual beliefs, if they have goals and ambition, criminal records, credit scores, careers, kids ugh the list goes on 😩
True me also with my girlfriend we have the same vision and are Christians and we are in a Christ Centered relationship and we want to build the kingdom of God together I just knew that we are meant for each of other ,good like to those still on the search but always know that what you need is not out there but just in front of you!!!!! Lol Bashi Kate.
Sometimes love isn't enough. A lot of aspects must match to let a relationship go on. Sometimes love can also be a problem because it doesn't allow people to break impossible and emotionally draining relationships...they can't quit because despite all, they love each other, but for some or many reasons they can't be together and can't live their love
I wish I found this channel sooner. My relationship of two and a half years ticked all the boxes of what not to have in a relationship, but I just didn't know anything back then and let the relationship steamroll me even though she wasn't compatible with me whatsoever. Still appreciate the experience it had gotten me but the insight this channel gives is unparalleled imo. Thanks Psych2Go for making life a lot more bearable!
9. You're not there for each other at important times, be it happy or sad moments... you're just not there for each other and it's not just one time thing. It's always been like that.
i experienced all of these with my ex, yet it was difficult to admit. now that i’m in a new healthy happy relationship, everything about the past is clear to me and i just feel like it’s important that i learned my lesson form that relationship
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,
@@yasylismoore8247 hey just read your other comment, yes you will definitely that guy didn't deserve you and you will find someone that does and that loves you very much and chooses you every day :)
@@yasylismoore8247 same. I talked to a guy for like 4 years, we were really close. We never dated but we did everything like a couple but one day he just stopped talking to me and bitched about me to his friends. I don't even know why he did that, it's been a long time and I'm trying to get over him.
I NEED ADVICE! This video hit every note. I’ve told my significant other over and over again that we do not make a good couple and that we’re not the right person for each other. He gets mad and tells me that he loves me and that he thinks the opposite, that we can be a good couple If I just tried a little harder. We fight a lot and I sometimes feel manipulated by him. I related myself with every single one of the 8 reasons of this video and felt very understood. For a moment I thought about sending this video to him... maybe if he sees it he might understand what I’m saying and also see that we’re not right for each other.... but also I fear his reaction. I don’t know how he might respond and I’m scared of how angry he can get. What do I do???
Your boyfriend is NOT supposed to make you scared or have power other you, and if he does there is something very wrong with HIM. You need to get help and support of every people you can trust, rely on and talk to. I hope you can get out of this !
You guys are making the world a better place by sharing and letting us know psychology and mentel health ur videos don't deserve dislikes why people do that i don't understand
I think I have finally moved on from him but I still kinda like him.. I really want to tell him but I can’t make things awkward because he is still a good friend
I left my soulmate when she tried to hard to be the best friend to her family that never gave a crap about her. I invested 15 years. She gave random family members the love she should have given to me. Not to mention I financially supported these random people. 15 years and I left. All one sided.
Hi l got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours.
For me what's meant for you is for you. It's all about finding that someone that can compliment on what ever you have. It shouldn't be forced. It should be go with the flow. This video might help but this is my own opinion.
There has to be equal balance. A relationship should be or generally is a fifty-fifty give and take. But many relationships don't fall this way. Instead, they are usually 80/20 or less or more but not 50/50. The ones that are in this category have balance and both participants put each other's needs ahead of the other. Meaning, my partner puts my needs and what I need and desire ahead of his own and I do the same. Its very challenging. Communication and discussing topics like intimacy are things personally struggle with. That doesn't make me a bad person, does not make me untrusting or dishonest in any sort of way or a bad partner or even incompatible. Im actually very brutally honest and dishonesty, cheating and lying are huge pet peeves in my book. It just suggests I am not perfect as the video suggests and have areas that I need to improve on. Trust, honesty, integrity, communication, being there for each other and when a plan or commitment is made, then follow through with it, do what you say you are going to do. These are challenging areas for many people, myself included. I'm very responsible and attend school and work full time. When you are so busy consumed with making money, climbing the career ladder, trying to be something in life, furthering your own agenda to improve your own success and completion of a degree, etc., that takes not only a good deal of energy but a lot of time and often time away from a relationship. So, when both of you are working hard and diligently to further your success agendas, there has to be time created in all of that or time set aside so where can give each other the time they need be it for intimacy or romance or togetherness. If there's not a good sense of planning or time management and neither participant is giving time or enough time to the relationship the needs are not being met, than it will come apart and not last. This is why there must be a healthy balance in a relationship. Another thing here to mention is if a partner or you are doing most of the tasks and work and the other is not seemingly pulling their fair share of the weight, say you do 80% or 90% and they ten or twenty percent, well that's not acceptable. That's not a balanced situation. If you are the one pulling the most weight you are going to at some point become tired and get frustrated with the other person. So, in essence, both participants before getting into the relationship or even right after, you both must discuss the plans and what is to be expected of the other and come to an agreement and understanding that you both can reasonably and realistically agree on. Then keep your promises. This is called a social contract and it us that defines the give and take fifty-fifty balance. If there are a lot of trust or insecurity issues, mental health issues, if there are issues with codependency or dishonesty, well, much of these issues are unhealthy and can lead to a very toxic relationship. Trust and honest and insecurity issues can be very serious and can lead to toxic relationships that don't typically last. If you are dealing with these things it will upset, frustrate and anger you all the time and in time it will wear you out to where you just can't take dealing with it. Its understandable because such things are not normal of a healthy union. Dishonesty, lack of credibility or integrity, a lot of financial irresponsibility, cheating or lying are all red flags just as much as trust and insecurity issues. I always say if you don't have trust or honesty to begin with you really have nothing. No relationship model, no healthy one has ever been shown that can balance well in that situation. There has to be talk and much discussion right up front about expectations and what is to be. Also, understand that control is not love and vice versa. If you have a controlling partner that's as bad as trust and insecurity issues. Being told what job to do, what and when and how you have to work and forced to be on the same page as the other, told who you can socialize with or talk to, told to eliminate people off your Facebook etc, or clinging constantly to your partner or you have to be with them everywhere is NOT love. This is all control. If you have such a situation it needs to be addressed and dealt with quickly. Frankly, if anyone was like that to me, I would not tolerate being with them. Nobody in a healthy relationship should have to deal with that. So, this brings up a final point, both participants have to trust each other. If you can't you should not be together. Its that simple. If you always have to question your partner, bicker with him.or her where they went after work or who they are talking to online or phone or whatever, or you have the audacity to go through their phone and question them why they still have photos of a long past ex (maybe they had good memories?), if really you are this type of person or your partner is, not only a trust issue but a total invasion of the other's privacy and you are not entitled to their phone or privacy per se, then again if this is the case, you both should not be together. It will only ending up in disaster. Some things just can't be fixed or you aren't qualified professionally to fix them. Whichever the case, be on the lookout for these things and do not let love cloud your judgment. You can still love that person but in order to safe or healthy you may have to love from a distance. To reiterate the video, your needs come first including your own mental health and sanity. No relationship is worth staying in if you are being hurt and suffering this way. Love yourself first and decide ultimately what is in your better first before getting into something with someone else. That way you are bound to have a much healthier possibly more stable situation if you are healthy, know yourself, your boundaries, what you expect and want from a relationship, etc.
I pray the universe grant your heart desire Hey friends I got my relationship fixed with the help of this great spiritualist who brought my ex after many months of separation,,
When I combine my own personal experiences, data on relationships/marriage--(as far as their success rates) & information/videos such as this, it sure seems to me that real lasting love & relationships are quite a long shot.
you dont have any shared interests = your 2 different people with nothing in common. you run in different social circles = you two come from 2 different "worlds" you want different things = you dont have the same goals you have a lot of doubts = you dont think its going anywhere or you feel your just wasting your time trying to get with her TBH, i dont think any female in my current area is meant for me....at least.....i havent really met one throughout my years who i would consider being compatible with a pinch off-topic but...my economics teacher back HS taught us a lesson about relationships and for some reason its always stayed with me: "In order to determine if you wanna spend the rest of your life with a woman; spend at least one night with her." and i did that, but didnt feel very comfortable about it.
Hey! Yes you. The one who is reading this that I would never meet. I truly believe that you would find TRUE HAPPINESS in life. And you know what? Its their lost to lose you. You are BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING! Have a great day.
See, me and my bf’s relationship can relate to some of these, but not in the exact way the video puts it. But I also know I come from a very troubled childhood and often misunderstand things and shut off in order to protect myself. So just because you’re relationship displays some of these signs doesn’t mean it’s hopeless. Every relationship goes thru ups and downs, you just have to work thru them and not give up 🙃
Sometimes it may seem like you’re not always meant to be by the laws of nature , ppl getting in between or having differences.. what matters most is if they keep choosing you❤️
Me and my partner have been constantly fighting over what is going to happen in the future. We're kind of in a long distance relationship, have different goals, and speak different love languages (which in most cases are not satisfied on both parts). We both love each other and would do anything for one another. However, we have different mentalities and once u get over the honeymoon phase, it becomes harder and harder to just accept and suck up ur partner's differences. We are both trying to figure out if we are good or meant for each other and we talked about it several times, including having doubts. Im sending him this video in hopes we find our answer soon.
Yeah, it is also important to note that romance is addiction & marriage is dream not love. When you love someone, just love, you won't worry about their response. If you feel difficulty in loving someone, most likely you are yourself pretending to love someone. Sometimes ever lasting marriage is also not true love, some people just need a partner that's all, they don't really like them. I would say in this case as long as the partner is not troublesome they can be together, once the partner is committing crimes or failing in every business they do which amount to lots of debts for instance, that's when they'll see their partner's true face. These are just my advice, I'm not describing myself. Hope these facts are useful for you 😊.
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@Breanna Jerry I’m happy that you celebrate it, you keep doing what you want! Not everyone respects other people’s beliefs!
1: you can't be honest with them
2: you're constantly on and off again
3: you don't have any shared interests
4: you run in different social circles
5: you want different things
6: your relationship is not a priority
7: you can't satisfy each others needs
8: you have a lot of doubts
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People come into our lives for "a reason", "a season" or a "lifetime". It's healthy to let go, rather than be miserable.
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whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here,....
It sure is!!!
Thank you for saying that :)
Every relationship goes through times of challenge and times of doubt. If you or your partner is looking for a reason to leave, it won't last. But if you're both commited to working on it, it will last. Communication and mutual goals are important.
Im conflicted. We both go through times we are trying to work things out. And we both go through times of doubt. Iv been with him for 10 years. We are engaged. We have a 5 year old son together. And i find myself wondering if this man was the right choice. Everything with him is a constant battle. He seems to regret having a kid with me cuz our veiws on parenting are so different. And i feel bad cuz most of my issues with him are his trauma from his past and how he won't get help or try to heal so he just stays angry most of the time and over reacts to everything out son does cuz he was abused growing up and he cant let go of his childhood and gets angry that he cant act twards our son the way his parents acted twards him.
Is that a valid reason to leave someone you love? If they arent willing to heal from their traumas for the sake of raising our kid in a healthy safe environment? Its a take 1 step forward 2 steps back situation. Where we work through it but then it goes back to the irrational over reacting and threats. Hes in a constant state of survival and always feels unsafe. And it's so hard. Hes suicidal and i wanna be there for him but this is not the environment i wanna build for my son.......and i cant change who his father is.....sorry for the rant
@@shaynalee3907 yes leave. We can't fix anyone with trauma. They have to really believe they need help, they can't just say it, they have to act on it. Your child may grow and progress as a person knowing you chose better for the both of you. I'm not saying keep your child from their father, I'm just saying staying in this relationship is neither healthy for you or your child.
I agree with Amber on this, unfortunately. Your partner really needs to LET GO. I also am inclined to think that if he truly loves his son, he will need to bear whatever sufferings/injustice etc he had growing up and put down the hatred, anguish and pain he went through... so that his flesh-and-blood not have to undergo all that crazy fuckshit and it will just be a downward descent into maddening darkness.
Of course, EASIER SAID THAN DONE.
It will be a ongoing process and it will be challenging as hell for you as his wife to bear. Have a honest and open talk with him, and see if he is at least WILLING to try take baby steps, towards this. He will falter again, and again and again but so long he is certain of your unwavering support and love things will improve.
May God bless him, your little one and yourself. Will pray for you.
@@shaynalee3907 yes this man is not willing to heal his past for a better future for you, your child ,& himself. He probably suffers from low self esteem & trauma from his childhood. If after 10 years he won't change, you haven't committed to marriage, he never will. You should start healing yourself because you may be trauma bonded to this man. I dated someone similar but we didn't have a child. We ended things after 5 years but it was difficult. Take care of yourself & your baby. You deserve better. Good luck.
It's super hard to let go
"Do you relate to any of the signs?"
Oh...no...just... Every single one. 🤷🏼♀️
Sorry to hear that you will meet people that fit you more. If you feel like talking about it I am here for you
Same here...
If you are in a relationship & feel like this.. I feel it too.
We are on & off a lot & have different tastes.
We don’t agree on how to express our love, I love being alone but he is always on my side.
It’s a lot.. makes me doubt that something is wrong with me. I love him with every piece my heart & he really helps me emotionally feel less alone but I just don’t know if we are for sure meant to be yk?
@@lunaxcatx hey, perhaps you can talk about wanting a bit more alone time? I am sure he will understand that. Overall just talk about things and I am sure you figure stuff out. But please the person seems really committed please appreciate that :)
@@jappel5193 yess we talk things out a lot, we’ve been together a year n a half & im very committed to him! We both are, I guess like the video said “love isn’t born it’s made” & it definitely got stronger as we tried to talk things out & work it out. He’s very understanding! & has no problem with giving me time!
This video not only just talking about relationships with your partner but all people that like, your friend, family. Hmmm... Family...
Then we have a problem.
auch
Interesting, Family . . .
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“God removes people from your life because he heard conversations that you didn’t hear.”
I agree with you 💯 % God removed from my family 8 months ago I’m finally healing
So True! Totes needed to hear that. Thank you! ❤
That’s powerful! I love this quote. God is always watching out for the best and has our back! He knows what’s best for us, and I’m thankful 😌🙏🏾❤️
Amen, although some of those conversations I was shown 😔
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Another sign: When you tell them about your interests after they bragged about their own interests and they quickly change the subject bragging about other things again to make you feel your interests isn’t as important than it is. Not is it rude, but that’ll make anyone not like you.
I know what you mean...is like whatever they do is extraordinary and what you do is so easy and anybody can do it....or if you get a good job or a promotion they say you just got lucky. Always making you feel nobody cares like them, when in reality anyone can care more than them because they don't give a **** about you.
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Red flag for narcissism...
To anyone who's young and/or in a rocky relationship, take note of this video. I had an abusive and failed marriage, and I have all 8 signs in the video. I wish I knew this much earlier, but it may not be too late for you.
Nor is it too late for you. Learn to appreciate the lesson you can take from this, even though it has probably been a difficult time. Get up and first of all work on your self love! Soooo important. Hopefully you will not get sucked into a bad relationship again. Stay true to yourself and trust your gut. Always trust your gut, and then, also act on it ;-). Wishinig you lots of good things and please stay strong!
@@lindabredenoord3478 I needed to hear this. Thank you.
@@lindabredenoord3478 after two abusive marriages, I thought I would be single forever but now I know what what to look for
It's not easy to let the person go or to go yourself even though you know it's not going to last😢
I need some advice. What if it's 4-5 of the 8? With some potentional. There's some abuse(has lessened overtime) involved but also positive change.. our child is what mostly keeps us together but we also do actually love eachother
I agree with all of this except for Number 4.
Sharing mutual friends is a good thing but it's also healthy for each partner to have their own friends too.
I think she means at least your partner knows who's your friends
I also feel that Number 2 is debatable, because sometimes people need to grow and mature before they can commit; I know a couple who broke up twice before they committed, the first time was because one of them was not comfortable with themselves (they would not have worked with anyone at that point) and the second time was because they both wanted to move further, but thought the other was not willing to, so it was a huge lack of communication; After the second breakup, they were miserable and always asking about each other and THAT is what caused them to lay it all out on the table. They've been together ever since. Sometimes, people have to grow and mature before they can make it work. Based on this couple's two times, it was clear they needed growth and were not ready at 'that moment' for the long haul; I'm glad they stuck it out, because they are fun together and inspire me.
@@jephybean It's okay if they need time apart to fix some issues in their lives, but constant push and pull can easily get toxic. And exceptions do exist, but if someone actually cares, they can't help making time for you everyday, even if it's ten minutes. Usually a complete break is not a good sign. If that's what they want, I wouldn't keep my hopes alive. Nobody knows what future holds for us, but I wouldn't put my eggs in that basket anymore. Still, it's better than toxic push and pull. I only feel gratitude for people who honestly told me they had other priorities over me and kindly went after them. It's a much more respectful way to part ways than traumatizing endings or push/pulls.
Guys and girls can't be friends
@@kingboji958 They can be. Our cultural conceptions and biological/emotional makeups can make it hard, but it can happen and when it does it is terrific. I am just coming from a visit to an amazing friend of mine (takes 6 hours of driving). In the beginning of our friendship, it did start as a flirt but after a short while she made it clear that she wasn't into a relationship with me. However, things have grown much stronger since. She'll spend 3 months for a personalized hand-made gift that grows out of our conversations, we visit each other frequently, speak everyday, spend high quality time, have so much fun together, cook for each other, basically most things you get from a relationship and some more, because there is no jealousy, no preestablished roles that make us act a certain way. Sometimes life gets in the way and we don't speak as much, but when we can make time for each other we can start off where we left, no remorse and anger involved. We still look our best, show masculine/feminine forms of care that don't exist in same-sex friendships, and in a way we complete one another, push each other in life. If I went back and had the chance to start a romantic relationship with her, I wouldn't. And it is satisfying in many respects. For instance, my ex that I had been for 6 years texted me a couple weeks ago, and as I was talking to this friend, I completely forgot about the text and later didn't feel the urge to respond. What else could my ex give me that this person doesn't? Sex? That comes with certain prices I don't have to pay in my friendships that can be just as strong.
There aren't only two attachments in life. There are multiple. Some people have a sexual relationship but they are not commited, they still consider themselves friends. Some romantic couples quickly turn into roommates with no sexual passion but they find it secure/satisfying and don't end the relationship. Some friendships grow truly platonic and there is no sex involved but you find it stronger than any relationship you've had. Forms of attachment vary, you can have multiple of them at once, or pick one or two depending on your values and mindset.
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Definitely needed this. Thanks! I’m kind of tired of seeing why people aren’t right for me. I need to start seeing how I can be right for other people.
@@digiornopizza1918 you need to start seeing how can YOU be right for YOURSELF
6. Buy a vibrator
Seek therapy
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being "willing to drop everything and come running when they need you" (4:25) can be a big warning sign of codependency! ideals of love being the willingness to 'make the relationship with the other our priority', and 'standing by the other person even through times of struggle and hardship', can keep us stuck in very unhealthy, caretaking relationships! I thought I was practicing love by doing these things, but now I see how I was actually being unloving to myself, abandoning my core needs, and keeping myself in an oppressive situation.
Very true. When these things happen in an intense relationship, it can be unhealthy.
I don’t think it’s wrong to be willing to drop everything for your partner (when they really need it) if you have a mutual commitment to do so for each other. When the ‘emotionally strong’ one is expected to do all the heavy lifting in a relationship, that is when things take a turn. Not everything is going to be 50/50% in a relationship, not even emotional labor. But emotional burdens are the one area of a relationship (especially romantic) where both parties need to be making genuine efforts to give it their all, because mutual emotional support is one of the fundamental aspects of a healthy romantic relationship.
And I think it’s important to have a realistic outlook on what a person actually needs from their partner. Turning to your partner every time you have a problem out of habit is not ok, but turning to them after you’ve determined that you really do actually need help is another thing entirely.
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It’s not wrong if it’s mutual imagine you have an accident and your partner would drop everything to be there for you after he found out. I think you did right back then but you did it for the wrong person.
this channel really help me a lot to understand certain things in my life
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Indeed.
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Do not focus on finding the “one”, instead focus on becoming someone’s “one”
Well, that's not the point... I'm the one for my boyfriend, because I watching him, listen to him so most of the times I know what he wants. But not vica versa. He is living in his own dream world, and he is happy when I'm only talking with him, and he cannot see any other guy in my messenger. He started to ring me nonstop when I finish the work at 5pm today. But sometimes I finish the work at 5.05pm or 5.15pm. This happened today as well. I left the office at 5.10pm. He was really upset, and ask what did I do in this 10 minutes. He was there with his car. And he told me that actually I am perfect for him, - my look, my thoughts, my abilities, the way I'm talking, etc. - the only thing that he do not like that I talk with people in general (boys too). And actually he do not even know me, when I feel alive etc., but I know how to behave from him to be happy.
We have this crazy on-and-off shit, because I try to live without him, but I do not have anyone else talk to. So it's a fucked up situation, and I'm his world. Literally. So no, it is a really bad advice "to be someone's one".
@@Sara-cl4ql by “be someone else’s one” I simply meant focus on improving yourself instead of trying to find someone to do it for you. If you are clearly unhappy with who you’re with, why stay?
@@sozl5494 I know, but it sounds in this way to me as well.
It's hard to tell. I often times try to quit, but there is no-one else to talk to and I have a weird feeling that I would like to help him. It is crazy because I see the opportunity in the boy, but it's like a never ending rush, that never will be in a peaceful period.
@@Sara-cl4ql you basically summarized your relationship with “never will be in a peaceful period”, people often feel that there is no one else in the world that will like them the way their current partner likes them, but it’s simply not true, and I think you know this. The faster you break things off, the faster you will find your next potential partner. Hoping for change in someone is usually a waste of time, you SHOULD be seeing the change already, so if you don’t see it now you never will. It’s not your responsibility to make someone happy, and you’re supposed to be their partner, not parent.
@@sozl5494 you are absolutely right, and I know that. Maybe I just wanted to tell it to someone. I would say without face, but I have a profile picture. 🙂
What is the biggest sign that someone isn’t meant for you? When your intuition tells YOU they are NOT!
Chile🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 All humans like to ignore our intuition too, but that gut feeling is the truth.
Yep, my gut is telling me😪
Yes, you are right - partially. The problem is that according to Myers-Briggs Personality Theory, there are people, that are not able to use their intuition or it is just an inferior skill for them. But as an INFJ, I truly understand, what you mean. I always rely on my instincts, because this is my biggest strength and supporter.
@@preciousgem84 It could be pure fear also. Hard to distinguish sometimes.
@@sophiezett7560 what exactly is this pure fear of? Is it a fear of the relationship itself or something else? Fear of the person?
*5 things to never do in a rush:*
*1. Make big decisions*
*2. Give away your trust*
*3. Judge someone’s character*
*4. Eat your food*
*5. Fall in love*
Love from a small UA-camr💙
#6...wow...this one stings a lot. I've known it for a long time, but I wanted to stick it out telling myself that relationships won't always go as expected and that we can work on our relationship together. It got to a point I felt like I was begging. He wanted a relationship that seemed easy and convenient for him. Honestly, thinking back he only gravitated towards anything that seemed easy and convenient for him without caring about how he got it, who else it impacted or without empathy towards anyone else who required the same as him. All he knew was him.
I honestly have that feeling like I walked into an obvious scam. You knew it, you freaking knew it, but you did it anyway and now you're embarrassed, sad, angry, displaced and left with less than you invested and the promised return didn't exist to begin with.
Hey I am sorry sometime things don't go as we would like them to. I feel like you have a lot bottled up. I know I am just a random person on the Interne, but if you feel like it please feel free to tell me anything you would like
I totally relate. I feel like I could have wrote the same thing. I am sorry for what you are going through and I hope things get better soon. I try to tell myself it is a big world out there and today everything may suck, but there will be better days in the future. Take care and stay strong.
In the same boat too...
Ignored red flags or gave her another chance. Hoping things would get better. She said multiple times 'sorry for being a bitch' or just 'sorry' but she didn't improve herself. I ended the relationship. I just feel so disappointed, sad and doubtful. I still wonder if it was the right thing to do. My family and friends said I did the right thing but it's hard to let go...
You know? a slap in the face with a brick would had hurt less, sis
@SweetChick10101 Thanks. I've moved on by now. Hope you're doing fine too?
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Me just tryna further convince myself to stop letting him have a place in my heart and mind...
Just know you are worth of being appreciated :)
@@jappel5193 I appreciate that :)
@@legospaceracer123 you are welcome
Wishing all the good things on earth.
@@dartharyeshzilla7909 I appreciate that :)
Sometimes.... The other half is not committed enough to stand by thick and thin... Like a serious physical or mental illness tears the relationship apart. That's life.. Unfortunately not many completely fulfill their wedding vows
Yep! Relate to the gaslighting "mental health" part~
@@TheSapphireLeo omg I relate to that to my last ex said that I was being manipulative because I always had mental issues that i wanted to talk to her about and low self esteem, but she’s rarely be there for me and just called me the victim in the end
After almost 3 years, he still doesn't really try to understand me and my mental illnesses better or shows me compassion when I need it.. I know it's not good in the long run but I can't get myself to end this. But yea, deep down I know we're at completely different levels, mentally and socially and it's nothing for forever. I just wish I had the balls to just end it quickly..
If you need wedding stuff to be happy you will never be happy. Love happens only on free will, not by force.
Single is so hard when you see your friends move on without you in life.
@Agent Of Chaos 666 it's true I am obsessed but it's only because my friends are going to be dating soon while I still have no girl friends just friends
Dude... Enjoy it to the max. Build yourself and just kinda blow off the idea of a partner for now. Find a few badass hobbies and build your skills in life. Learn to do something most cannot do. Find your passion in life. And for sure be glad you've not been the target of a ill intended person's "affections", I.e. had a shitty relationship that drains you like a dehydrated vampire. Best of luck, man.
@@LoveNeverFails1 You preach girl
It is hard... and it hurts..
I agree with you. If you ever want to talk I am here
time traveller here, finding reasons to continue to believe in right person wrong time. Seeing this video made me realize they are the one for me, and hopefully one day i'll be with them again. I hope things get better soon, but in the mean time have a good day for whoever is reading this
HOW ARE YOU PEOPLE DOING THIS!?
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*time travel*
HOW?
@@XTP_9837 Idk but its scaring me.... I dont understand
@@XTP_9837 everyone can time travel
How are not able to?
Lol
Just keep in mind, even if you are experiencing any of these, it can be fixed if you both work at it. My boyfriend I have been together 7 years, we've had her ups and downs especially since we were young. We actually truly dedicate ourselves to communicating and making our relationship work. We never had any huge issues, It was just tiny things that built up because we never knew how to effectively communicate. We are working to be better each and every day and I can honestly say I'm beyond hopeful and I love him to pieces. Just because you're experiencing something like this does not mean the relationship is over. It means if you want it, You have to work harder at it and also agree to disagree on certain things. At the end of the day still have fun, bring that spark back and continue to fall in love with your partner each and every day.
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This! I’m going thru some challenging times right now. On that mission to bring back the spark and fall in love again. My partner wants it but it’s resistant since most of our issues were from things I was struggling with that disappointed him. I’m hopeful. I know it would take work and commitment and being creative. Seeing this comment made me more hopeful.
Definitely I can't find anyone who's meant for me I guess..
Don't give up hope so easily!!! Surely there will be someone one day.
also what I’ve noticed in my life: the less you try the more it will just come to you :) trust me, there’s is DEF one out there
A thing like that can be definite only if you believe it to be.
takjak true: you have the power to create your reality :)
@@valentinagerlsma2767 Yes! Just how many possibilities are there with so many of us! 1- Believe Love is real. 2- Experience it by learning to love yourself first. 3- If you're NOT focusing on what goes wrong and keep yourself open, love will come to you in one form or another. In this order! Love 💕 You CAN!!!
Sometimes you are so happy just by yourself. I am happy by my own self .
I’m not happy by myself but I’d rather be alone then be played like I’m stupid
@@yasylismoore8247 you know that's not the only options, right... ?
@@arona6692 exscuse me ????? I don’t believe I asked for your opinion on my decisions in life
@@yasylismoore8247 I didn't mean for you to feel judged and I understand why somebody won't try to find a relationship.
What I meant was : it feels like you are choosing between lifestyles that make you unhappy. I don't care what you do with your life, but I hope for you that you are (at least trying to) be happy, either it is with someone or on your own.
I really wish i would've stayed single after my last relationship. I was happy before it and i thought when i met him he was perfect for me, we never had any issues until one day he broke up with me out of nowhere 😒 now its like I'm starting all over again trying to be happy and just forget about him.
I relate to all of these signs girl. I can’t keep denying that me and my current boyfriend aren’t meant to be. We are 2 different people and our values don’t align. I’ve known this for almost 3 years. It’s time to face the music and accept the fact that we aren’t meant to be.
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I feel ya on this.
Ditto
What values don’t align with you two?
1. Affection
2. Attention
3. Intimacy
4. Space
5. Encouragement
6. Praise
This one was spot on for sure, it was like cataloging the downfall of my last relationship.
#6 is so important and hard to tell in the beginning when the attraction is strong and both are happily "in love". I had a friend who wanted a relationship with me and I almost agreed, but something happened made it clear that he only wants what's easy, that my problems are my own, he wants nothing to do with it and has no incentive to be there for me. So instead of starting a relationship together, we're not even friends anymore. Tbh, it's a blessing in disguise, life is too short and love is too precious to waste on flaky guys.
a lot of problems can be resolved with just simple communication.. communicating how you feel, what you’re feeling, etc.. you have to want to be in the relationship and love each other enough to be willing to drop the silly arguments and just fix things. yes, some things are unfixable... but if you both know that you want each other as bad as the other, communication can fix many issues you’re having..
Completely agree
Yes.. but don't obsess over knowing if someone is meant for you or not. If you both want things to work out, and you're both willing to put the work in, it might work out even if there are many bumps in the road. There are bumps on the road in every relationship, even some that make you wonder if they're the right person or not. Doubts are normal, especially for anxious people.
I'm saying this because when I got into my first relationship with a person I REALLY wanted things to work out with and who I REALLY care about, I obsessed over everything having to be perfect and it kinda ruined a lot of amazing moments. Obviously if your doubts are well motivated and you don't want to be with the person in question you are right to leave though.
"You're the right person but wrong timing" hits so hard.
Been there twice my guy...
What if that one breakup with you ? And that one has with someone new?
Is it ok to still share your feelings to her? And win her back with marriage if she wills it.
Wow the timing on this, just went through a heart break
And this video just pops up
Hey, I am sure you are a strong person it will not be easy but you will get trough this I am sure :)
@@jappel5193 that made me feel a bit better, thank you.
@@overarian wish I could make you feel a lot better but any ways you are absolutely welcome. Let me know if you need some one to talk to
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說到食物，不要以為那些被拒絕的人只吃垃圾。相反，他們學會了在被忽視的肉類和蔬菜中尋找營養。他們學會了清潔，切塊，調味和慢燉慢燉的野菜和肉類，在食品市場上被忽略的部分家用蔬菜和肉類，並且學會了使用芳香的木煙（如山核桃，山核桃和豆科灌木
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Aw I hope you're doing well, I don't know anything about you but I know you're strong and I believe in you! Heart breaks can be hurtful so it's good to cry or talk about it to someone, let your feelings out. Don't keep it inside, it's not the best for you. And don't be upset about it for too long, it'll just hurt you more, I'm sure you'll find the perfect person for you one day don't give up I wish you best of luck, have a great day/night! ^^
If you're unsure about your situation, always ask yourself "what would I tell a loved one in my situation to do?"
That’s such a good advice. Thank you!🤍
@@vesasefaj3946 You're welcome 💛
I like how you correlate compatibility and happiness in a relationship. Being compatible does not mean that the partners are similar in all ways but it does mean that their differences complement each other resulting to a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship. Then they may call themselves "soulmates".
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Looking for answers cause I can’t stop thinking about him. 😞
Same.. :/
You aren't alone
In my experience, the ones I've longed for hardest were actually the worst for me.
... Results may vary.
Question is...Is he thinking about you?
If he doesn't get back to you... let it go. That hurts alot. Unfortunately it's going to be even worse if you don't. But wait for a bit. Time will tell. If there's nothing reciprocated for over half a year, or even longer... I wouldn't bother. I would mourn... and then I'll take stock of what happened, learn as much as I can from it and then move on from there. Then you can justify your past in a useful/helpful way (as figuring out what things to encourage and things to avoid) and carry it with you into the present and future.
Small critique: you shouldn’t drop everything and come running when your partner needs you. Your partner isn’t everything, and you shouldn’t always have them as your top priority
@@blackorangetarotastrology7903 bruh
So true! My biggest mistake:. Putting my partner before anyone else including myself
Let me guess, you aren’t in a long term, relationship.
If you both put your own needs first, you are selfish and the relation will not develop or last. The only way to grow as a couple is to put their needs before your own, with one major caveat: BOTH partners must do it.
I’ve been married for over 15 years, my wife is my best friend and I always put her before me, she does the same. Now, we can’t imagine not having that kind of support and reciprocal love.
If you lack experience with healthy relationships, you probably shouldn’t be giving advice on them.
@@kd9749 thats awesome
@@kd9749 you're very wrong, while it may work, you both should be BALANCED, being selfish is bad of course! But being selfless is also bad, you both have to aknowledge to love each other but also let each other be, i have had so many friends who have been involved in an abusive relationship, why is it abusive? Because both partners expect that the other puts them before themself.
This is the same kind of stuff my mom says, "if i wanna one day make you babysit the cat, you have to, we're family, if you have plans to meet up people, well too bad, you'll take care of the cat!", its the same idea "put my needs before your own"
You yourself will ALWAYS be the most important person in your life, wether you believe it or not, so YOUR needs come first.
You need alone time and your partner needs to spend time toghether? too bad, do what's best for YOU. If the partner can't handle spending time with a friend or alike instead of you, then that is NOT your issue.
If you and your partner get injured and you could either only save one and you save yourself, it is NOT selfish, its natural, and so is the same with mental stuff, you DONT have to sacrifice yourself and your mental health for your partner, long term, short term, doesn't matter.
Watching this two weeks after ending a relationship (though it was more of a friendship we were trying to turn into a relationship, but who cares about details) that fit almost all the named signs for both of us. And even though I already know I‘ve made the right decision, this has confirmed it even more.
The fact that I relate to each and every point made in this video is all the confirmation I need to know that I did the right thing by walking away for good. Thank you!
This is all very true. I was in a marriage for almost 20 years. Well 15 plus the 4 we lived together, so basically about 20. Last year I got a divorce, but didn’t feel as sad as I thought I would. She didn’t support my interests of pursuing a music career, which was short lived. So now I basically write poems on UA-cam and Instagram. Since the music industry doesn’t like Asian men...neither does the American public in regards to music. Well rapping or singing in a masculine tone that is...stereotypes have been put in place to block men of my color and limit us to the typical roles of undesirable unattractive office geeks or passive doctors and uncool annoyances. The very element that brought my wife and I together should have been the glue that kept us together, but then her taste in music and lifestyle changed. And I was so into being a father I didn’t really care if she wanted me or not. I love music and hate the way it is now in America, so when I branched out to Korea to listen to their R&B and soul and hip hop, she didn’t follow suit. So that created greater division. I know what I’m saying will trigger a lot of people that feel racism towards Asians doesn’t exist, but it’s my truth. And this is still the main reason why I don’t really care for making music for the public. Most people ARE racist, they just don’t realize it because they’ve normalized this hatred of Chinese and other Asians to the extent it’s just second nature. This issue also brought the divorce into fruition. Thinking she was Asian and would agree with me on this topic was a mistake I made. Don’t assume someone loves you because you share similar upbringing and ethnicity
I mean i think all of these could also apply to friendships too.. not sure why friendships are always looked over and it's always about "romantic" relationships - and no I'm not talking about being "best friends" with your partner but with your platonic relationships
Yes obviously. Me and ex best friend had been friend since we were only 2.5 year old . But all of those signs started to show up and when I was in 8th grade our friendship turned into a toxic friendship. Though some memories of our friendship is still precious to me .
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Easter eggs of the day! :)
0:50 - ranboo pillow
3:30 - kimi no nawa scene
5:30 - LOREEEEE 😧
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I wished I learned this when I was in my early 20th not in my early 50th. It would saved me whole bunch of heartache and pain. I was chasing the wrong person.
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I think it's important to watch this when you're feeling good not in a slump
Completely agree. This channel gives me pro isolation vibes. It’s ambiguous. It offers insight but it also enables me to be in my head.
Agree..
Eight life lessons I learned over a 14 year period. Pretty much ticked all the boxes for me as to why it didn't work. I am a lot wiser for it and thankful because it taught me a very fundamental reality - I am better off alone. Happier and with clarity and purpose. A relationship is no longer what I desire, need or want. I am happy to live my dreams of love through a great love story and love songs.
Okay, I'm convinced at this point that yall have been stalking me. How do you guys always know what I think and what is happening in my life?! But anyways, this video is a r8ght timing for me. I was questioning myself about this one.
@@blackorangetarotastrology7903 She was talking to the team
and not to you...
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In ever rarer cases- Twin Flames are way more intense, instant love & you’ll instantly feel “at home.” Whatever that means for you. It’s a feeling that can’t be explained, but is mutually understood.
Can you do a video on the difference between compulsive and pathological lying? It would be really helpful for me :)
Perhaps the most eye-opening UA-cam video I have ever seen. My one and only girlfriend broke up with me recently, and due to my fault. I considered her to be the love of my life. I was drowning in sorrow and regret, wishing I could go back in time and do things differently. Hopefully, I stumbled upon this video. 6 out of 8 signs applied to our past relationships - I realized it had to be this way. Together with couple other Psych2go videos, it gave me peace. Thank you so much❤
Some people are just there for your character development.
Just know this cycle is extra draining. I literally just had an argument with my mate and he got all mad and sad bc I had a different view but we agreed he just can’t see it bc he is so used to me going along with his opinion and I have a different view, even when we agree, then he shuts down. Well I’m done with that dysfunction. I’ve spent 20 years just sitting back watching him making ALL my decisions and decisions about our life and he can’t handle the pushback. Which is not pushback it’s called a relationship. Too bad. I’m done crying over him when he is hurt I cry. Never again. Whew I feel so free and I am not going back. Thanks for the vent space. #freedomtime
Can't believe you stayed with him for 20 years, but good you dumped his worthless ass
@@ITIsFunnyDamnIT 😁 didn’t leave him just mentally and emotionally I grew up. Don’t get me wrong he’s good in so many other ways just not emotionally. My mother and many family members are the same way. Once I set boundaries I refused to let them down or be stepped on by anyone. It was draining for me bc I didn’t accept myself. But NOW nope and listen you don’t have to be disrespectful about it. Respectfully accept yourself and others will follow. Trust me. Most times in my neck of the woods we resort to fighting, bickering and arguing when it doesn’t even take all of that. All of that in your face, I’m going to show you type of behavior is tasteless and useless. Nah, just get to know yourself and know how to exude the beauty within yourself and others will see it and conform. Side toe: I hate that song “savage” bc none of that this way. I’m a woman of excellence and beauty that is uniquely attributed to me. I was giving my power in ways that were bc of not knowing that His strength is within me. It was the Miseducation of Me. Can you tell I’m a huge Lauryn Hill fan, even in how I speak. 🤷🏽♀️ this is who I am sorry. Still learning and for me that is the beauty of growth in this journey called life. ♥️🙏🏽
Meant to say “Side note:”
I'm glad that you are leaving the narcissist
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Add these points as well ... Always being sarcastic towards you ... they criticize you for everything you do or that you are ... Always being grumpy grouchy nagging or mean ... not caring for your emotions ... Always mskes you feel you are at their foot or mercy ... n they doing great favour on you.
this sounds like narcissistic behaviour, look it up! it may help
I saw a cute guy at work and pursued him and he was nice and all but judging by how he acted towards me around people I just couldn’t understand why he acted so distant but fun over text , eventually I discovered it was embarrassment and blocked him , oh well he missed out cuz I’m a sweet girl I’ll find a guy who appreciate me
Damn hey that is his loss! I am sure you are a sweet person and you should be treated with the respect you deserve. No guy is good enough for you if he treats you even a little less. But well that is just my opinion :) take care!
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@@brandinelson5765 oh brother...
Thank you so much for this video and your channel 😭 This video just proved to me again the breakup with my ex was the right decision. We both deserve better 😊
Thank you God for removing him from my life. It hurt so much to go through all those months of pure pain but I understand with each given day you give me that it’s so much better to be by myself than with someone who I have no future with . You have something great for me , I will wait for your right timing . In the mean time I’m just going to live my life and enjoy each day as if it where to be my last . Thank You lord
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Signs someone doesn't like me:
1. They're a human person
Are u ok?
@@nakshatramusic21 "ok" is a bit of a stretch to me, I'm feeling pretty bad, but I'm not wanting to hurt myself which is the most important thing I'm trying to focus on. I appreciate you asking
@@99baking I hope you have a great day today! Stay hydrated and healthy :), don’t give up, and please talk to someone (if u need advice or help ) who you are comfortable with^^
I was with a woman who all 8 signs mentioned here were present. I knew the relationship wouldn't last and it didn't. She stressed me out bad. Always made me feel like I was tip toing on egg shells trying NOT to make her mad. She always insisted I watch shows she likes but she would never watch even one single show I liked. A conversation no matter what it was about. She would always disagree with me and I feel like it was just for the pure sake of disagreeing. I am actually very glad Not to have that toxicity in my life. Sometimes you really are better off alone.
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Did u force her to be in relationship or u both were liking each other genuinely! Woman actually behaves like that when they want to end relationship
3:28 "you met the right person in the wrong time" then it shows a kimi no na wa animation! props to the animator and to psych2go
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I do not underatand this, sorry English is not my 1st language. What does it suppose to mean as in met the right person in the wrong time? What do I suppose to think or do by that context? Is it reallt the right one or suppose to be sarcastic? Can someone please exagerrate on that?
@@acitysodead so from my point of view it means something like: you've met the perfect person and it seems to be something that's meant to be, that would be the "right person". However, the it was in the"wrong time", or "wrong moment", which means that you were both maybe in different stages of your life, or you weren't in the same level of maturity. This means that you met someone that seems to be the perfect person but the moment you met them wasn't perfect. I hope it helps!
@@czz002 or you could be committed to someone else!
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Where I live, the most common household is single, never married, no children, not looking, but on Tinder
@@RideAcrossTheRiver The place where I live has a lot of liars, drug addicts, and generally creepy people. People in my town have gotten violent to the point of killing, so If true love does exiest, I'll never find it unless I get the hell away from this town that god (if there is one) has clearly forsaken.
@@redzgaming6880 No time like the present! There's Tinder people and then there's evil.
Or not.
I actually hope so too.....when i look at the obituraries in our local newspaper, it shocks me to know the ages of folks passing on is close to my age. IF the Lord gave me a clue and told me that the RIGHT ONE for me, will be waiting with my folks in heavens gates.....I will probably have patience.
Every single one of these were prevalent in my past relationship. I'm so glad I ended things, even though I was scared of being alone. I recognized that I needed to work on my co-dependent tendencies and I'm so glad I got out!
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It did. I, have two of those In my relationship, but we make it work because the others are great. Sadly, I know others that have several of these issues in relationships. Great video as usual.
Ok but what happens when you always constantly have that fear of falling for the wrong person? And that gets in the way of getting to know people very well because you find things you don’t like about them and assume it’s not going to work. I’m I too much of a perfectionist or are they valid concerns about things I wouldn’t want to live with being married in the future? I’m so confused all the time and all I want is to be sure about wanting to be with someone. I want to be sure from the beginning that it is the right person to get to know.
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I feel you so much😔
Maybe if you're in those situations in the future, ask yourself "would I be willing to put up with this thing they do for say, 5 years" if the answer is no, they're perhaps not for you, but if those things seem minute in comparison to how much you adore them, then maybe they're worth your time?
Not to scare you or something.. confusion all the time is unhealthy.. please talk to therapist to know the root cause of this trait of yours
LIFE, LOVE, PEOPLE WILL ONLY BE WHAT YOU LET IT. IF U LET THINGS AND PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAT AREN'T ADDING HAPPINESS, YOU WILL FIND SADNESS! YOU ARE AN ALCHEMIST! YOU ORCHESTRATE THE ENERGY YOU KEEP AND GIVE! DON'T EVER GIVE UP YOUR POWER! AND ALWAYS MIND THE COMPANY YOU KEEP!
I tried to befriend a few narcissists. All they could think of was themselves. You had to orbit their world and feel *grateful* for the opportunity, but anything less than constant joy and showering praise and you'd get a glimpse of "Hell hath no fury..."
It was draining. And after a while, it got SO FREAKIN' BORING.
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Hey, so how are you doing now after you went away from them? Please know you are imported and didn't deserve all that
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To me it's so obvious that you need to have some interests in common, that if you don't, I consider that as attraction, not love.
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I started watching this in fear that my relationship is unhealthy, come to find out me and my boyfriend are literally the same. We dated in 6th and 7th grade but I shortly left the school we were in before 8th grade, this year he got in contact with me and we started dating again (both in highschool now) our personalities are so similar with our music tastes and the things we like, of course me and him disagree on little things like certain animes but thats only because hes not really into that stuff Like I am, we've always had the same sense of humor and have always been best friends this just made me see that we were meant for each other.
Good luck to anyone out their struggling in a toxic relationship or still looking for their other half💖
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Take care of him, it's rare to get such a perfect relationship
You're still young and only have to worry about things like music taste. When you're older its things like political views, spiritual beliefs, if they have goals and ambition, criminal records, credit scores, careers, kids ugh the list goes on 😩
True me also with my girlfriend we have the same vision and are Christians and we are in a Christ Centered relationship and we want to build the kingdom of God together I just knew that we are meant for each of other ,good like to those still on the search but always know that what you need is not out there but just in front of you!!!!! Lol Bashi Kate.
Sometimes love isn't enough.
A lot of aspects must match to let a relationship go on.
Sometimes love can also be a problem because it doesn't allow people to break impossible and emotionally draining relationships...they can't quit because despite all, they love each other, but for some or many reasons they can't be together and can't live their love
good couples work things out instead of leaving as soon as they disagree
Ah the animation is so cute ^w^
It is I love it it’s my favourite animation style on the channel!
You should go check out Naphia’s channel too! She’s the one animating
This video was released like 2 minutes ago. How is your comment 6 days old....
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Wish I’d watched this before we both spent a year feeling anxious together
I wish I found this channel sooner. My relationship of two and a half years ticked all the boxes of what not to have in a relationship, but I just didn't know anything back then and let the relationship steamroll me even though she wasn't compatible with me whatsoever. Still appreciate the experience it had gotten me but the insight this channel gives is unparalleled imo. Thanks Psych2Go for making life a lot more bearable!
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9. You're not there for each other at important times, be it happy or sad moments... you're just not there for each other and it's not just one time thing. It's always been like that.
thank you, this video made me realize how much I love my partner and how far we've come in our relationship.
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i experienced all of these with my ex, yet it was difficult to admit. now that i’m in a new healthy happy relationship, everything about the past is clear to me and i just feel like it’s important that i learned my lesson form that relationship
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Do you ever cry over a person who wasn't even yours or is it just me?
Hey, you will find someone who will 100% be committed to being yours and yours only, I am sure that right person is out there :)
Yeah I pursued a guy for weeks , got ghosted and cried so much even tho we never dated but I’m over it now I’ll find a good guy and so will you
@@yasylismoore8247 hey just read your other comment, yes you will definitely that guy didn't deserve you and you will find someone that does and that loves you very much and chooses you every day :)
@@yasylismoore8247 same. I talked to a guy for like 4 years, we were really close. We never dated but we did everything like a couple but one day he just stopped talking to me and bitched about me to his friends. I don't even know why he did that, it's been a long time and I'm trying to get over him.
@@nysanayeem4106 I really hope you get over him soon so you can move on you deserve that
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This video hit every note. I’ve told my significant other over and over again that we do not make a good couple and that we’re not the right person for each other. He gets mad and tells me that he loves me and that he thinks the opposite, that we can be a good couple If I just tried a little harder.
We fight a lot and I sometimes feel manipulated by him. I related myself with every single one of the 8 reasons of this video and felt very understood. For a moment I thought about sending this video to him... maybe if he sees it he might understand what I’m saying and also see that we’re not right for each other.... but also I fear his reaction. I don’t know how he might respond and I’m scared of how angry he can get.
What do I do???
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Your boyfriend is NOT supposed to make you scared or have power other you, and if he does there is something very wrong with HIM.
You need to get help and support of every people you can trust, rely on and talk to. I hope you can get out of this !
Seeing this video on my recommended COMPLETELY random is probably the biggest sign of them all
You guys are making the world a better place by sharing and letting us know psychology and mentel health ur videos don't deserve dislikes why people do that i don't understand
I knew it! Again I'm about to sleep and another lecture to learn I'm so loving this!🥺✨💖
Very relatable
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I think I have finally moved on from him but I still kinda like him.. I really want to tell him but I can’t make things awkward because he is still a good friend
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@@laurakendrick7766 I don’t like him anymore
I left my soulmate when she tried to hard to be the best friend to her family that never gave a crap about her. I invested 15 years. She gave random family members the love she should have given to me. Not to mention I financially supported these random people. 15 years and I left. All one sided.
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Honesty. Very important. If you feel like you're drifting, talk about it. If they get mad or defensive about it, definitely a red flag
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For me what's meant for you is for you.
It's all about finding that someone that can compliment on what ever you have. It shouldn't be forced. It should be go with the flow. This video might help but this is my own opinion.
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There has to be equal balance. A relationship should be or generally is a fifty-fifty give and take. But many relationships don't fall this way. Instead, they are usually 80/20 or less or more but not 50/50. The ones that are in this category have balance and both participants put each other's needs ahead of the other.
Meaning, my partner puts my needs and what I need and desire ahead of his own and I do the same. Its very challenging. Communication and discussing topics like intimacy are things personally struggle with. That doesn't make me a bad person, does not make me untrusting or dishonest in any sort of way or a bad partner or even incompatible. Im actually very brutally honest and dishonesty, cheating and lying are huge pet peeves in my book. It just suggests I am not perfect as the video suggests and have areas that I need to improve on.
Trust, honesty, integrity, communication, being there for each other and when a plan or commitment is made, then follow through with it, do what you say you are going to do. These are challenging areas for many people, myself included. I'm very responsible and attend school and work full time. When you are so busy consumed with making money, climbing the career ladder, trying to be something in life, furthering your own agenda to improve your own success and completion of a degree, etc., that takes not only a good deal of energy but a lot of time and often time away from a relationship.
So, when both of you are working hard and diligently to further your success agendas, there has to be time created in all of that or time set aside so where can give each other the time they need be it for intimacy or romance or togetherness. If there's not a good sense of planning or time management and neither participant is giving time or enough time to the relationship the needs are not being met, than it will come apart and not last. This is why there must be a healthy balance in a relationship.
Another thing here to mention is if a partner or you are doing most of the tasks and work and the other is not seemingly pulling their fair share of the weight, say you do 80% or 90% and they ten or twenty percent, well that's not acceptable. That's not a balanced situation. If you are the one pulling the most weight you are going to at some point become tired and get frustrated with the other person.
So, in essence, both participants before getting into the relationship or even right after, you both must discuss the plans and what is to be expected of the other and come to an agreement and understanding that you both can reasonably and realistically agree on. Then keep your promises. This is called a social contract and it us that defines the give and take fifty-fifty balance. If there are a lot of trust or insecurity issues, mental health issues, if there are issues with codependency or dishonesty, well, much of these issues are unhealthy and can lead to a very toxic relationship.
Trust and honest and insecurity issues can be very serious and can lead to toxic relationships that don't typically last. If you are dealing with these things it will upset, frustrate and anger you all the time and in time it will wear you out to where you just can't take dealing with it. Its understandable because such things are not normal of a healthy union. Dishonesty, lack of credibility or integrity, a lot of financial irresponsibility, cheating or lying are all red flags just as much as trust and insecurity issues. I always say if you don't have trust or honesty to begin with you really have nothing. No relationship model, no healthy one has ever been shown that can balance well in that situation. There has to be talk and much discussion right up front about expectations and what is to be.
Also, understand that control is not love and vice versa. If you have a controlling partner that's as bad as trust and insecurity issues. Being told what job to do, what and when and how you have to work and forced to be on the same page as the other, told who you can socialize with or talk to, told to eliminate people off your Facebook etc, or clinging constantly to your partner or you have to be with them everywhere is NOT love. This is all control.
If you have such a situation it needs to be addressed and dealt with quickly. Frankly, if anyone was like that to me, I would not tolerate being with them. Nobody in a healthy relationship should have to deal with that. So, this brings up a final point, both participants have to trust each other. If you can't you should not be together. Its that simple.
If you always have to question your partner, bicker with him.or her where they went after work or who they are talking to online or phone or whatever, or you have the audacity to go through their phone and question them why they still have photos of a long past ex (maybe they had good memories?), if really you are this type of person or your partner is, not only a trust issue but a total invasion of the other's privacy and you are not entitled to their phone or privacy per se, then again if this is the case, you both should not be together. It will only ending up in disaster.
Some things just can't be fixed or you aren't qualified professionally to fix them. Whichever the case, be on the lookout for these things and do not let love cloud your judgment. You can still love that person but in order to safe or healthy you may have to love from a distance. To reiterate the video, your needs come first including your own mental health and sanity. No relationship is worth staying in if you are being hurt and suffering this way.
Love yourself first and decide ultimately what is in your better first before getting into something with someone else. That way you are bound to have a much healthier possibly more stable situation if you are healthy, know yourself, your boundaries, what you expect and want from a relationship, etc.
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TLDR: Compatibility and communication is key in any relationship.
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Glad you like it :) Would you like to see more?
When I combine my own personal experiences, data on relationships/marriage--(as far as their success rates) & information/videos such as this, it sure seems to me that real lasting love & relationships are quite a long shot.
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you dont have any shared interests = your 2 different people with nothing in common.
you run in different social circles = you two come from 2 different "worlds"
you want different things = you dont have the same goals
you have a lot of doubts = you dont think its going anywhere or you feel your just wasting your time trying to get with her
TBH, i dont think any female in my current area is meant for me....at least.....i havent really met one throughout my years who i would consider being compatible with
a pinch off-topic but...my economics teacher back HS taught us a lesson about relationships and for some reason its always stayed with me: "In order to determine if you wanna spend the rest of your life with a woman; spend at least one night with her." and i did that, but didnt feel very comfortable about it.
Totally on point. I had a relationship with all this and I was aware we are not for each other even though we dis love each other.
Dang discovering that your significant other isn’t meant for you while you’re totally meant for them is really painful
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Hey! Yes you. The one who is reading this that I would never meet. I truly believe that you would find TRUE HAPPINESS in life. And you know what? Its their lost to lose you. You are BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING! Have a great day.
Bu in my case i am going to be the who's going to hurt and let go of that person...what am i supposed to do idk anymore
See, me and my bf’s relationship can relate to some of these, but not in the exact way the video puts it. But I also know I come from a very troubled childhood and often misunderstand things and shut off in order to protect myself. So just because you’re relationship displays some of these signs doesn’t mean it’s hopeless. Every relationship goes thru ups and downs, you just have to work thru them and not give up 🙃
Sometimes it may seem like you’re not always meant to be by the laws of nature , ppl getting in between or having differences.. what matters most is if they keep choosing you❤️
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Me and my partner have been constantly fighting over what is going to happen in the future. We're kind of in a long distance relationship, have different goals, and speak different love languages (which in most cases are not satisfied on both parts). We both love each other and would do anything for one another. However, we have different mentalities and once u get over the honeymoon phase, it becomes harder and harder to just accept and suck up ur partner's differences. We are both trying to figure out if we are good or meant for each other and we talked about it several times, including having doubts. Im sending him this video in hopes we find our answer soon.
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before my parents got together, they broke on and off again. Every other one of these things is something that happens between them.
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Welp that's 3 time travelers...
if i see one more time traveler im going to lose it
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Yeah, it is also important to note that romance is addiction & marriage is dream not love. When you love someone, just love, you won't worry about their response. If you feel difficulty in loving someone, most likely you are yourself pretending to love someone. Sometimes ever lasting marriage is also not true love, some people just need a partner that's all, they don't really like them. I would say in this case as long as the partner is not troublesome they can be together, once the partner is committing crimes or failing in every business they do which amount to lots of debts for instance, that's when they'll see their partner's true face. These are just my advice, I'm not describing myself. Hope these facts are useful for you 😊.
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Hey, I am glad you are strong and proud you have survived so much! Take care and if you need someone to tell your story feel free to tell me :)
@@jappel5193 thank u! Ur so kind! 😁
@@wisteriii ^^ you are welcome. You are a wonderful person and deserve a lot always remember that :)
And if you feel like it my discord tag is on my channel "about section" just incase you want to drop your story with soemone
@@jappel5193 the world really deserves more people like you 😊