Dating 101: The TRUTH About COMMUNICATION “Issues” With Men

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  • Опубліковано 21 гру 2024

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  • @KimberMcC
    @KimberMcC 3 дні тому +28

    All young women need this channel! As an older lady, I learned ALL of this the hard way. Listen to her!

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому

      Most won't listen. The male ghost of 'older women are just bitter and jealous' is haunting through their brains. 😄

  • @Morgan313
    @Morgan313 3 дні тому +31

    This woman spits facts. I wish I realized what she knew as early as she did.

    • @strwbryblondi07
      @strwbryblondi07 3 дні тому +6

      Yes I really hope she is reaching young women who don't have to learn the hard way!

  • @C-Line-m2x
    @C-Line-m2x 2 дні тому +18

    Ladies as an “inexperienced” woman who hasn’t dated much I will let you know she is right. If you have communicated once and he is “confused” or “doesn’t get it” RUN !!!!
    He’s going to try to destroy you.

  • @zforcez9
    @zforcez9 3 дні тому +28

    Lisa is keeping her foot on the neck of the patriarchy this week and I'm here for it!😂

  • @jibarabicha4853
    @jibarabicha4853 3 дні тому +35

    This channel is like coming out of the Matrix, where all of those suspicions of things that weren’t right but you could not put you finger on, are exposed. It is freeing to know that these are not just isolated incidents with some extremely flawed people, but a structure created to keep us from being the free, vibrant and intelligent women we were always meant to be.

    • @biancarowena9040
      @biancarowena9040 3 дні тому +4

      Yes 100% her content has set me free. I thought I was losing my mind but actually men are a-holes and toddlers. And entitled abusers. Legitimately everything makes sense now, now that I can SEE in every day interactions how men don’t see us as fully human. It suddenly makes all I go through make sense

    • @enchanted222
      @enchanted222 3 дні тому +2

      Yes, except matrix means womb. Even that has been subverted! ✨️🦋

    • @Frederiekje221
      @Frederiekje221 2 дні тому

      Same

  • @RaqueLauren
    @RaqueLauren 3 дні тому +164

    That's why it's so satisfying to talk down to them. 10/10 highly recommend. 😂

    • @lynlynell
      @lynlynell 3 дні тому +20

      I will second your recommendation

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 3 дні тому +32

      I talk all the time to them down. I do not care anymore. I mature and grew up I am not anymore a girl, I am a woman.

    • @RedDeadReverie
      @RedDeadReverie 3 дні тому +34

      Agreed. They are so sensitive 😆

    • @AVibeCalledYes
      @AVibeCalledYes 3 дні тому +43

      Factz. It feels so good when you stop caring about being perceived as a villain by men. I have -100 effs to give 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

    • @grayirishgalt
      @grayirishgalt 3 дні тому +1

      Ya’ll with some weak ass beta men. I would walk from these attitudes. There would be no arguements about it.

  • @FishareFriendsNotFood972
    @FishareFriendsNotFood972 3 дні тому +49

    And then women spend tens of thousands of dollars in therapy working on their 'communication skills' because they are convinced THEY are the problem

    • @pigeoness22
      @pigeoness22 3 дні тому +10

      So true, they should invest in themselves instead.

    • @yv_edit
      @yv_edit  3 дні тому +12

      No exactly!!!!

    • @christopherbrown5409
      @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому

      ​@@yv_edit but sometimes women ARE the problem.
      Example 1: T-Swizzle.
      Example 2: YOU.

    • @ВалерияМ-р1р
      @ВалерияМ-р1р 3 дні тому +2

      So true! However men always been a problem lol

    • @AngryTheatreMaker
      @AngryTheatreMaker 3 дні тому +1

      (deep sigh in autistic adult)
      Yes. I'm going the extra mile to spell out what it is I mean to say, and I'm still the problem. Why do I have say ten mea culpas even when I'm just existing?

  • @Alexis-ec9cl
    @Alexis-ec9cl 2 дні тому +10

    That is so true. I had a boyfriend who was just lazy over text, barely heard from him one week. When we finally got lunch and hung out, he was on his phone the entire time trying to coordinate his fantasy league. He was in charge of putting it all together with his friends and he did that without missing a beat. I was lost and forgotten. He can communicate, he just doesn’t want to.

  • @biancarowena9040
    @biancarowena9040 3 дні тому +20

    Finally someone who can articulate the truth exactly as it is with men, to help us women who are experiencing this behaviour from men all the time, thank you!!

  • @baby.nay.
    @baby.nay. 3 дні тому +28

    I very recently left my abusive bf. He would be unresponsive to my texts for hours , sometimes days . I just had several surgeries and he completely left me alone . But the second he calls me and I don’t pick up or read his mind about why he was calling he would become furious and violent. Some men want entirely 2 different sets of expectations for communication. Your channel is really helping me . I try to watch your videos every morning

    • @karlareadstheclassics217
      @karlareadstheclassics217 3 дні тому +11

      Whatever you do, NEVER go back to him. Keep learning & healing & moving forward.💛

    • @Thetruthwillsetyoufree90
      @Thetruthwillsetyoufree90 3 дні тому +3

      🙏 please love, do NOT let him talk his way back in. If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t act like this.

    • @baby.nay.
      @baby.nay. 2 дні тому

      @@karlareadstheclassics217 thank you for the support!

    • @baby.nay.
      @baby.nay. 2 дні тому

      @@Thetruthwillsetyoufree90 you’re right. Thanks for the support love

    • @SunnyHeartKay
      @SunnyHeartKay День тому +1

      Dump him and don’t look back.

  • @Mylife-g2z1g
    @Mylife-g2z1g День тому +9

    “You don’t know how to talk to me” is the old, tried and true head fake. Come on! Wake up to this turnaround ladies.

  • @Alexis-ec9cl
    @Alexis-ec9cl 2 дні тому +14

    The older I get without getting married or having kids with men, I realize is an actual bullet dodged. None of the men from my past I would have had a successful marriage with. Getting married is not a feat for women. I could’ve been married off years ago, but I’d be miserable with men I am tolerating and hanging on to just to save face. Glad I haven’t succumbed

  • @2stayweird
    @2stayweird 3 дні тому +29

    My ex's sister and I would often both be telling him the exact same things (at different times, without consulting each other first), but would ignore us. Then I noticed if a man said the exact same thing, he would take it seriously. When I brought this up, he denied it was happening. He refused to admit he has any kind of bias, because he prides himself on being "logical and rational" and of course discriminating on the basis of gender would be irrational and illogical. I was like, "well then, we agree you're being irrational" 😂

    • @redleeks6253
      @redleeks6253 3 дні тому +5

      But women behave exactly the same way.
      I was im a group chat and a guy said something like 'there are more births of girls than boys'. I answered that it was incorrect and showed evidence (data) and he immediately was like 'where did you get that graphic from, internet?' (Mocking) and i replied 'the source is the national institute of statistics and yes it has a website for public consultation'.
      The debate was just me and him in the group chat but suddenly 2 women decided to attack and dismiss what i was saying. 'We dont know if these statistics are right and if it was always like that', and I kept going 'the data are from year x..even if not all births are registared (almost impossible) there are no data going against it'.
      The pickmes decided that the man needed support and the best way to support was attacking me and the evidence introduced.
      So lets not keep women out of this. Because the other men didn't chip in and the the debate was somehow balanced without disrespect, it was women who jumped in to personally attack and the evidence.

    • @ds37215
      @ds37215 3 дні тому +6

      ​@@redleeks6253yes, many women defer to men and love going up against other women. Even if, as a woman, you present facts from official databases or well-conducted peer-reviewed studies, they will gaslight you with anecdotes and then start with the personal insults if you still refuse to bow down.

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 3 дні тому +2

      ​​​​@@redleeks6253​​ we call them pickmes, sometimes they identify as Trad wives too , submission to a man is their life purpose. It doesn't even matter if he is ignorant about the topic. For them, male equals leader, when most are but followers, anyways...
      And it's a common statement in the redpill/tradwife/religious community that women outnumber men therefore women should settle and be grateful for any man who looks their way.
      And should even excuse infidelity and accept plygmy because you know, some other women are always waiting for a faux pas ready to compete
      So there, you were destroying an important pillar of their cult by bringing data.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому

      ​@@dearbrave4183Yes, but what about no men. One can have mine they considered to be detached to me. 😄

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 3 дні тому

      I have learned to weaponize this in my favor!

  • @jazstar4622
    @jazstar4622 3 дні тому +31

    The men I left at 20
    Are the same men at
    50 just old .
    No didnt miss out on Mr wonderful 😊

  • @elegantempress1395
    @elegantempress1395 3 дні тому +16

    One of the best videos on Male Nature that I’ve ever seen. 🎯

  • @oOIIIMIIIOo
    @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому +17

    It took me a while to get that they also speak in their own language, too. When I ask a woman if we do this or that and a woman says yes you can count on it that she is on the same page, engaged and supportive. When you ask a man and he says yes it just means that they approve of the plan not that they are engaged. After the 'Yes' they leave out the > you can do it but don't expect me to be a part of it

    • @strwbryblondi07
      @strwbryblondi07 3 дні тому +6

      Yes, I learned that years ago, I think was also mentioned in the book "Men are From Mars..." (🤮) that men don't respond well to the "can" question, which I mean/understand as a polite request. They took it as a weird questioning of their ability which put them in a defensive state (what). Since then I always say to men "will you" instead of "can you" so to not do so would be a total going back on their word and it's incredibly clear I expect they would do the thing.

  • @catretzlaff5758
    @catretzlaff5758 3 дні тому +23

    Yup! Pointed out to my ex husband that he would ignore what I said or argue argue with me but as soon as a man told him he would be like huh I didn't know that! Right in front of my face. He then didn't believe me. Probably because I'm not a man.

    • @jibarabicha4853
      @jibarabicha4853 3 дні тому +6

      I tried giving my ex investment advice and he completely blew me off. Then, an old acquaintance gave him this same advice and told my ex that I knew what I was talking about. It was demoralizing to see how he hung on to this guys every word and devalued my advice just for being born a woman.
      Down the line, he did end up losing money from some bad investments recommended by this man and I thoroughly enjoyed the I told you so moment

    • @SA-ey6nt
      @SA-ey6nt 3 дні тому +1

      OOHhh no, because he didn't want to admit it.. Effin same.. Or I would give whatever idea or piece of information, which in a day or two would become his or someone else's..

    • @Sahalielove
      @Sahalielove 3 дні тому +3

      Planning on confronting my husband about something mean he said to me in front of his and my friends at a party this week, because I know he won’t deny my words so hard in front of others. I know it’s mostly going to stir up trouble, but I’m pissed. Wish me luck!

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому +1

      They know what they do.

    • @AShreads55
      @AShreads55 3 дні тому +1

      @@Sahalielove good luck! Although, always have a plan for worst case scenario.

  • @vick2255
    @vick2255 3 дні тому +15

    Communication does not change people's character, only self-responsibility and willingness to to so.

  • @stumptownvegangal2962
    @stumptownvegangal2962 3 дні тому +14

    I get so stoked every time you throw out a new video. Keep it coming, sis.

  • @GrrrlsRiot
    @GrrrlsRiot 2 дні тому +10

    From my experience, I agree with you one hundred percent. I've dated a lot of men and always had to ask myself if they were somehow faking it on the job or following a script because they couldn't communicate half as cleverly outside of it. And I seriously think they (all men) see us as inferior, I can't explain it any other way. I've never been treated by men as the well-educated and successful woman, always just something they look down on. They only accept a male hierarchy, women remain reluctant to be underlined and excluded. I'm glad I never wasted much of my time on any of these men. Since I've accepted this, I've come to terms with it and accept that none of these men could ever make me happy and love me the way I deserve. I find love in many other things and people, which makes me very happy not to be drained in a straight relationship.

  • @strwbryblondi07
    @strwbryblondi07 3 дні тому +16

    I feel this relates to the dumb but true idea of men being the "head" and women being the "neck" - I noticed to have my ex buy in to any objectively good lifestyle change it had to be HIS idea. Had to have some (usually male) expert reiterate the ideas I had done tons of research into.
    And absolutely, they have no problem communicating and staying true to their commitments when it comes to work. It's because they value women less they don't have the same energy at home.

  • @BrightestStar-z1k
    @BrightestStar-z1k 3 дні тому +10

    I saw this in church when I was a kid and it was like living in the twilight zone. Sad I still ended up with a king-baby loser who needed people to believe he was smarter than everyone, but never understood what I was saying. I tried to explain the frustration of my relationship to my egg done who also pretended she didn't understand. Once I realized I only knew brainwashed people I left everyone completely.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому

      The sad thing is that all the awakened women don't come together either. The patriarchy is deep.

  • @doulalina
    @doulalina 3 дні тому +28

    Stay single ladies. Accepting a man in your life is like letting a giant leech latch onto your body.

  • @NinaGothMambaNegra
    @NinaGothMambaNegra 3 дні тому +13

    Dudes being subs kind reframed all BDSM for me and now it makes more sense with findom is on the rise. They dream to be the cult leader but are only followers. Thank you!

  • @gal1885
    @gal1885 3 дні тому +11

    All facts! You are amazing at explaining these issues. Please keep doing videos like this. It’s helping me feel not so abnormal for being done with men. Congratulations on marrying the ONE decent guy to ever exist.

  • @AmandySue
    @AmandySue 3 дні тому +18

    I asked my ex before how he's able to communicate and collaborate with his team at Meta, but in a relationship he seems crippled in this department.

  • @enchanted222
    @enchanted222 3 дні тому +17

    Reading the comments here is healing my soul tonight.

  • @meli7315
    @meli7315 3 дні тому +10

    I speak with man always clear and most of them
    Can’t handle it and try to insult threat or manipulate me and my reaction is always the same „ignoring“
    When you have reached a high spiritual awakening you don’t even bother anymore
    I feel empowered and enlightened and thanks to you and other women on social media we feel alive ❤🎉 as women and step into our power
    The only issue is I work in corporate and all the time I receive sexual comments and this always hurts me being objectified 24/7 and I want to protect my body

  • @stepfaniehawkins205
    @stepfaniehawkins205 21 годину тому +7

    I simply talk to men like they are 7 year olds getting dressed down by their mother for having pissed in their brothers Cheerios.
    I literally have to dumb it down to about a third grade level and sound furious before a man actually understands shit.

  • @SabrinaSilverstein
    @SabrinaSilverstein 3 дні тому +9

    Our intelligent professor dropping facts again.

  • @DudleyOP
    @DudleyOP 3 дні тому +27

    Very eye opening, however im not sure men enjoy being submissive to their boss at all, i believe deep down there is huge anger and resentment, unprocessed that they are too scared to confront because of repercussions, they can then play out a revenge fantasy on the woman in their lives as this is seen as a place where the punishment is less severe or non existent, where they have the power and are the "boss"

    • @prussiansocietyofamerica
      @prussiansocietyofamerica 3 дні тому

      As if you don't have resentment and anger towards Blokes, right!? Sure...

    • @Egg_Apron
      @Egg_Apron 3 дні тому +2

      Bingo

    • @DudleyOP
      @DudleyOP 3 дні тому +4

      ​​@@prussiansocietyofamerica
      Wait are you assuming I'm a woman?
      Surprise I'm actually a man🤯aren't I glad I was too afraid to preface this with my gender so I could get this response 😊
      Coming across this channel has had me feeling all sorts of things, especially anger and denial, how dare I be called a child I say, as I literally throw an internal tantrum, how dare I be blamed I say, as I cause problems or refuse to be a part of the solution because of "reasons".
      These responses are because truthfully I am incredibly insecure and sensitive and I very much take it out on everyone around me, even if not overtly through violence more subtle and insideous means that I will justify by claiming that's not what I intended or shutting down completely.
      I'm slowly working with the shame and internal hatred I have of myself and I see it a little clearer now, these posts are right, at least for me.
      I was raised to be emotionally unintelligent and repressed and this is the result, taking anger out on yourself internally and others externally, and extreme defensiveness when called out.
      I am also terrified of men and masculinity, that if I was to say this people will claim I'm a traitor or will single me out and exclude me, while simultaneously "feeling" as if women also hate me no matter how valid the points are.
      I'm left with nothing but isolation, this is the crux of the problem, patriarchy makes fools of us all, men suffer and they don't want to admit it, because admitting your hurt is weakness and men aren't weak right?
      It is in fact so interesting that men are actually the slaves to their internal world and feelings and submissive unable to confront while society is so desperate to say the opposite.
      Aggression, non compliance etc is submission mascarading as assertiveness, strength and power.
      I have been discovering time and time again that whatever beliefs I had on something should actually be 180 before I get to the "truth"
      Men are conditioned to be cowards, running from emotions because "boys don't cry" which locks away understanding and empathy.
      We live in a completely delusional state which has been claimed as the norm, and patriarchy is one grand projection and power fantasy of men and their unmet needs, we have inverted the world to accommodate for our lack

    • @christopherbrown5409
      @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому

      ​@@DudleyOP congrats!
      Or, sorry that happened to you.

    • @DudleyOP
      @DudleyOP 3 дні тому +3

      ​​@@christopherbrown5409
      Kinda ironic that people who don't support something will support it by boosting the algorithm with comments, your dedicated too, but it would genuinely be more effective if you said nothing and didn't watch or do you both not understand this video or how UA-cam works?
      100+comments 🤯 and your acting like you didn't have the patience to read that. Bravo, this is full on obsession at this point

  • @NinaGothMambaNegra
    @NinaGothMambaNegra 3 дні тому +13

    Honestly you are the best at explaining social dynamics. The mastery on live tv shows, so much usefull info. :)

  • @CoderCoder-px4bd
    @CoderCoder-px4bd 3 дні тому +15

    OMG So true.. 35 years ago, when I called the Domestic Violence Hotline in my state, and asked a question about my then ex, and the person on the other end, basically said this. "its because he does not care. Thats it. "
    And yes, its really that simple. But I would go further. True he doesnt care.. But also, he just functions at a lower less capable place, IN GENERAL, like you said about things being transactional , "nice guy does nice things, and then sex comes out". This is very primitive, low brow and simpleton thinking.
    You have to get a guy that has evolved passed that. Sometimes, people are really objectifying because that is only as far as their brain goes. I was shocked to learn there are grown adults that are like this. And these are the types that are really angry and do not understand, "how did a women get to that level? How did a black person get to that level?" They do not understand because they have low cognition.

    • @Sahalielove
      @Sahalielove 3 дні тому +3

      Ah, I wish the DV hotline were so helpful when I called! But I soon read the book Why Does He Do That? which told me everything I needed to know.

    • @CoderCoder-px4bd
      @CoderCoder-px4bd 3 дні тому +2

      @@Sahalielove so sorry for what you had to go thru. I am happy that now you know!! Another helpful book for me, "truth about autism" changed my whole world! Talks about women and mens brains.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому

      The psychology of the masses. The average human is a follower. Only little groups did and do changes. You just need the better arguments. For the last centuries it was violence.

  • @thehapagirl92
    @thehapagirl92 3 дні тому +35

    Why don’t women leave at the first sign of disinterest? It’s not hard to notice when he’s not interested and then leave. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t give him a second chance. He’s not interested.

    • @PrincessC03
      @PrincessC03 3 дні тому +16

      Women are still learning to deprogram from the fantasy. Give them time.

    • @terenarosa4790
      @terenarosa4790 3 дні тому +1

      I had to learn the hard way. I let him draw me back with the, "I was just busy" excuse. It was easy for him to do because I just wanted to be friends with him, but he wasn't treating me like a friend. He kept being weird and trying to play games. I should have left immediately rather the goal was friendship or something more because in the end he just tried to sleep with me. I don't understand why men hide their intentions on something so important as if they can trick women into sleeping with them. Just say what you want!

    • @Frederiekje221
      @Frederiekje221 2 дні тому +4

      I thought I was "too much", and that he was kind enough to listen to me ramble, some of the time.

  • @DaughterofDiogenes
    @DaughterofDiogenes День тому +7

    Absolutely!!!!! It’s not because it’s hard for him to it’s because he doesn’t want to do it and he just doesn’t care. That is true facts right there. If you’ve said it and said it, you don’t need to say it again because he’s shown you he’s not doing it.
    The saddest thing to ever read is all the women begging for tips on how to “make” their man do something. They lose their shit when you point out that you can’t make anyone do anything.
    We have really been socialized to accept the most atrocious behavior.
    I really think all the “men are clueless” talk is just smokescreen for them to do the bare minimum in a relationship. Not all men, but far far too many.

  • @KathleenFulton-u1x
    @KathleenFulton-u1x 3 дні тому +13

    My ex-husband would pretend to listen, but nothing ever changed.

    • @Frederiekje221
      @Frederiekje221 2 дні тому +4

      Yes. Being silent while you talk is not the same as listening.

  • @CoderCoder-px4bd
    @CoderCoder-px4bd 3 дні тому +13

    Rarely are women submissive. If a guy thinks this, then his partner is just humoring him, (which is also dangerous)

    • @MayDay-yn3bw
      @MayDay-yn3bw 3 дні тому +3

      There's often a pecking order among women too
      I think it's due to the influence of patriarchy, tho

    • @AShreads55
      @AShreads55 3 дні тому +1

      @@MayDay-yn3bw yes, I think it's mostly out of necessity rather than genuine preference

  • @levelupii4663
    @levelupii4663 3 дні тому +16

    You are a goddess. Your analyses are on point.

  • @vcb6220
    @vcb6220 3 дні тому +23

    Tow the line and submissively follow rules at work but wanna be a mini alpha-male, dictator, boss, and lord at his home/castle 🙄
    Just be normal, dude.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому +4

      That is why the elites (kings and religionors) invented the nuclear family/patriarchy. Displace the competition onto women and children so that they are not bothered in their business. When a man gets his wants met smex and a warm meal he isn't a competition anymore and he can unload some frustrations on those who are held hostage by them.

    • @AShreads55
      @AShreads55 3 дні тому +3

      @@oOIIIMIIIOo nem get their own mini "kingdoms" to torment instead of using their energy to overthrow oppressive systems or build new collaborative communities

  • @kyrabarr2846
    @kyrabarr2846 3 дні тому +10

    I needed to hear this today. Thank you for being clear and very direct. I can only speak from my perspective as a woman, sometimes we just don't want to accept or see the inevitable. We keep hoping that" he will change", but the person that needs to change is me, and know that I deserve, and I am worthy of so much more. Thank you so much. 💐

  • @paperorpaper
    @paperorpaper 2 дні тому +4

    Wow I shed a tear at the end. This talk was spot on! I used to fall for that “communication issues” bs. Thank goodness I know better now. ❤

  • @AlterEgoPerspectivewBronxGirl
    @AlterEgoPerspectivewBronxGirl 3 дні тому +8

    Girl … I can sleep well at night with you telling me a bedtime story. All the things you say I think it. It doesn’t come out right with words. Because I find myself sounding self centered and self conscious
    But you are a great teacher

  • @elizabethstea
    @elizabethstea 3 дні тому +8

    You just get better and better! x

  • @DouradaBambina
    @DouradaBambina 3 дні тому +7

    So good ! Every time a new gem 💎 dropped!

  • @Loaf0fBread
    @Loaf0fBread 3 дні тому +18

    I always thought that I had a truly obstinate and feral personality. It is impossible to imagine myself submitting to anyone, I prefer to treat everyone like equals until they prove otherwise. Turns out I’m just your run of the mill woman! I’m not being sarcastic, I’m neurodivergent so I don’t know if my post will read that way. I have an inkling it might though.

    • @missminti
      @missminti 3 дні тому +4

      I was told my whole life i was combative. Turns out I am just the same as any other woman, but haven't had my spine removed for the sake of the patriarchy. Standing up for yourself will have you ostracized by women and men.

    • @tribecalledmaya
      @tribecalledmaya 3 дні тому

      just commenting to grab my proverbial seat at this table (also super neurodivergent). this is my current issue I feel like such a double agent not in the sense of me succumbing to submission but- knowing how wild of a woman I am but being engaged RN- in this lackluster “rough patch”… because all these videos she uploads about communication and weaponized incompetence apply to him. he drains my personal power like a vampire and does not amplify it, i’m my best self when I am not around a man bringing me down. & his family I completely avoid them. I may just pull a jlo and collect engagement rings like thanos and infinity stones. I am already a mother but does that mean I must succumb to that final nail in the coffin, marriage to an underwhelming immature man?

    • @tribecalledmaya
      @tribecalledmaya 3 дні тому

      ** I am NOT my best self when around him.

  • @MagnoliaPantherWoman
    @MagnoliaPantherWoman 3 дні тому +8

    This explains a lot.

  • @madeleineburch8125
    @madeleineburch8125 3 дні тому +10

    This is such good advice. 💕

  • @daniellecowley7922
    @daniellecowley7922 День тому +4

    Bravo well said

  • @Sahalielove
    @Sahalielove 3 дні тому +5

    I didn’t get a notification for this even though I have the bell turned on? Good thing I saw it in my feed. Seems like I can’t trust my list of notifications. I hope this isn’t shadow ban stuff.

  • @DesiraeJ
    @DesiraeJ 3 дні тому +7

    Gosh girl you are Inspiring to us WOMAN❤
    Time for us GODDESSES to RISE UP🎉

  • @jsChelimo
    @jsChelimo 3 дні тому +10

    Thank you. You cut through the bs

  • @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066
    @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 3 дні тому +10

    1:42 introspective to a fault!!
    considering others above yourself!
    that's exactly how I was raised in my large family, individual needs didn't really matter much, 3:12 everyone else's feelings mattered more than my own and I always had to consider everyone else before myself...

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 3 дні тому +7

      This only works when everyone is raised to consider everyone's feelings before theirs including boys'. But sadly it only applies to girls , that's how ab*se awaits at the corner because someone was raised to care about no one but themself

    • @SA-ey6nt
      @SA-ey6nt 3 дні тому +1

      ​@@dearbrave4183It just doesn't work either way..

    • @MayDay-yn3bw
      @MayDay-yn3bw 3 дні тому

      ​@@SA-ey6nt
      Exactly, you get Alphonse and Gaston...

  • @sara.e.1111
    @sara.e.1111 Годину тому +1

    Preach 🙌

  • @Lysistrata2025
    @Lysistrata2025 3 дні тому +5

    So true!

  • @CristinaC-iu8zn
    @CristinaC-iu8zn 3 дні тому +3

    oh girl I love your videos. GBY 💯

  • @AseRa444
    @AseRa444 3 дні тому +5

    You explain that so very well 💯🙏🏽😁💚

  • @unicorn73212
    @unicorn73212 3 дні тому +9

    Agreed it's laughable sometimes how they communicate with each other it's like there in high school again. Just the other day this guy uploaded another Tate video and this time I was so annoyed I didn't even watch it all the way through because I realized how unpopular he was becoming only gamer nerds were talking to him and he was gossiping about how women still flock to him even though he hates them and he pimps them out and creates close romantic bonds with his friends. In order to make him less popular you have to stop cheerleading for guys like this who think the bare minimum is enough to keep you around. Nobody shows up to the prom for the king only the Queen. Women make them more important they just don't want to accept it even though it's true if he really was that important every woman would like him not just a few pick mes.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 3 дні тому

      I have and will never understand why women are so desperate for men.

    • @christopherbrown5409
      @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому

      1. Adults don't deal with proms, sweetie.
      2. A lot of teenagers don't deal with proms either.
      3. Aren't Prom Kings usually foregone conclusions anyway?
      4. Proms are school dances that no one will GAF about within 5 years; why would guys be pressed about one night with a plastic crown when they could have status FOR YEARS? You sound like a titbrain who's worried more about attention than things that matter

  • @shalaharris1085
    @shalaharris1085 2 дні тому +8

    I’m convinced that they know that women are supposed to use them and keep it moving, but they don’t want to admit it.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 2 дні тому

      Who made you believe that men want to compete with you?

    • @NoAds-12345
      @NoAds-12345 2 дні тому

      Im convinced you have a chip on your shoulder

    • @SunnyHeartKay
      @SunnyHeartKay День тому +1

      This is why they sl^t shame so much as well.

  • @Osa.OsulaTV
    @Osa.OsulaTV 2 дні тому +3

    Great video. New subbie!

  • @xoeyeam
    @xoeyeam 3 дні тому +2

    once again, all facts❤ . i love this girl!

  • @Frederiekje221
    @Frederiekje221 2 дні тому +3

    I've had four long relationships in my life. Only one of thode men rrally listened, the others didnt.

  • @moniquem1873
    @moniquem1873 3 дні тому +3

    Facts ❤❤❤

  • @ВалерияМ-р1р
    @ВалерияМ-р1р 3 дні тому +3

    Period!

  • @kyrabarr2846
    @kyrabarr2846 3 дні тому +16

    I've noticed several gentlemen in the comments section very frustrated about her referring to "all men". This is why it's so important not to not make generalizations of both men and women. There will always be the exceptions to the rule. It is my sincere hope that those men who are communicating, who are willing to learn and grow share that with the other men who are in their circles of influence. If something is important to you you will take your time and your initiative to learn and do what is necessary. It must be those men who are already self aware to help educate and teach other men so that men in general can grow. Men have a choice, they can learn how to be more communicative with the women in their lives whether it be professional, personal or platonic.

    • @ianimal36
      @ianimal36 3 дні тому +26

      Not one man who is actively trying with women knows d@mn well we are not talking about them, those who are triggered, are for good reason, it's THEM. The men who say Not All Men are the problem

    • @JajaApples
      @JajaApples 3 дні тому +25

      And if it doesn’t apply let it fly. The problem is it applies and you’re just trying to make yourself feel better by saying not all men.

    • @Morozova48
      @Morozova48 3 дні тому +9

      @@ianimal36 on point

    • @PrincessC03
      @PrincessC03 3 дні тому +4

      The minority of great ones are the unicorns. Has anyone seen one lately?

    • @radicalreactions1633
      @radicalreactions1633 3 дні тому +1

      It's all men until it's no men, quit the pick-me behavior.

  • @ndl-j4f
    @ndl-j4f 2 дні тому +1

    My brain exploded

  • @natcl9974
    @natcl9974 3 дні тому +5

    I had one issue with one person where it seemed all of my thoughts and opinions would go in one ear and out the other. Later on would tell me i make some interesting points…. Usually would admit that after a week or so. I realized that i processed info in a very diverse way compared to him and he was missing something that would make communication difficult, my number one point was always to communicate. I also realized that they had an absolute idea of what the topic was when there really isn’t any absolutes to anything except maybe the end of life

  • @triloization
    @triloization 3 дні тому +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @valeta84
    @valeta84 2 дні тому

    Yup.

  • @tlingitgirl07
    @tlingitgirl07 3 дні тому +1

    💜🩵💜🩵💜

  • @navideology
    @navideology 2 дні тому +1

    🎯🎯🎯

  • @Ratu_Adil.
    @Ratu_Adil. 3 дні тому

    Yeah..😲👍

  • @jdmmg4904
    @jdmmg4904 3 дні тому +2

    👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

  • @blazingstar9638
    @blazingstar9638 3 дні тому +4

    1:17 he doesn’t like you

  • @sentientcardboarddumpster7900
    @sentientcardboarddumpster7900 3 дні тому +2

    Is this girl boss content 😂

    • @Thetruthwillsetyoufree90
      @Thetruthwillsetyoufree90 3 дні тому +2

      Well if this isn’t the typical XY response and emoji 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 those laugh emojis just prove the only thing that exists in that XY brain doesn’t it..

    • @A.D.I.I.D.A
      @A.D.I.I.D.A 2 дні тому +1

      So what if it is?

  • @gee_emm
    @gee_emm 3 дні тому +4

    I take issue with the thumb nail on this video. Given what we know about DV and emotional abuse, the reverse would be more realistic. Why feed into the false narrative that women somehow dominate men, verbally or otherwise? This really rubbed me the wrong way, and isn't something I'd expect too see in a woman centred space. Sorry, rant done.

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 3 дні тому +6

      What was the issue? The picture on the thumbnail or the tittle?
      Statistics says that women are better communicators… how does that relate to DV and emotional abu se?

    • @gee_emm
      @gee_emm 3 дні тому +1

      @ The image in the thumbnail is of a woman seeming to distress her male partner with a stream of words. It feeds into the trope of the 'nagging wife' and suggests the woman is the one in the relationship that dominates or has the most power. However, data shows us that women are far more likely to be the ones who are distressed, dominated and abused by men. The image is at odds with the very ethos of this channel!

    • @martibee8984
      @martibee8984 3 дні тому +2

      ​@@gee_emmShe specifically mentions talking to your man, and him basically ignoring it until another man tells him the same thing. The picture might not be the best representation (it'd be better if the man was acting like he couldn't hear her), but it's not far off target.
      The image of being bombarded with words doesn't need to be taken as violence though. It's an easy leap to make especially if you've experienced it, but you can be bombarded with excited talk too. This image reminds me of how I felt whenever my children would start rambling to me as soon as I woke up, or when I'd get to work in the morning, and the mornings are sunshine people would greet me. No violence involved (even though I might have been tempted 😂), but a similar response.

  • @OnMyGrindNowForever
    @OnMyGrindNowForever 3 дні тому +2

    I don't want to talk down to man or husband. Not healthy.

    • @phoenix315
      @phoenix315 2 дні тому +1

      Lmao 🤣 🤣 🤣 and the name you made to go with it ahahahahaha what a joke

    • @Elennar29
      @Elennar29 2 дні тому

      Male larping as a woman. Xys lying as usual

  • @bencebenedek2610
    @bencebenedek2610 День тому +2

    I would add that men with trauma and with neuro-divergent brains are exceptions, especially ADHD.
    They do have problems with project management and planning for any situation. I would also add that "planning out" for many men is basically just sy sais a place and a time and the others agree to it and that's that, in my experience it's that the person who is the bussiest of the group ask the others 2-3 hours before the time and whoever can get there gets there. The most irritating part is when you ask the whole group every day for 2 weeks if Sunday afternoon would be good and nobody even asnwers.
    They can't communicate better at work and most of the time they have to mask which is very exhaustive in itself and then they have to rephrase an emal at least 3 times because they don't want the other person to get offended and to them to get into trouble. After 8 hours of lifesucking experience they sure as hell won't be communicative at home when they barely even exist.

    • @thefox8915
      @thefox8915 21 годину тому +2

      Omg stop making excuses for them

    • @Fizzypopization
      @Fizzypopization 2 години тому

      Nope, they're not any exceptions to this rule.

  • @sgfluellen960
    @sgfluellen960 2 дні тому +2

    Could you explore the possibility of a gender neutral God?.Thanks.

    • @diotimamyrina
      @diotimamyrina 2 дні тому +1

      Yeah god is light and consciousness and it's gender neutral, you don't have a soul you are the soul and in this incarnation you have a body and a mind. The soul is gender neutral and it is the God you should be addressing for anything. Women naturally have a more direct connection with the soul God because they have a milder ego/mind/personality (all same thing) so they are inherently above men not just for being born with a kitty but for their better judgement. Men have access to their soul God through their subconscious female part of the human psyche and its feminine energy which is why a lot of monks are more neutral or even feminized. The ego mind is for survival and it's what creates structures, hierarchies, duality and division. The soul and the collective consciousness god is for thriving and it's non duality and true unconditional love. Feminine energy is true unconditional love, we just don't know how to manage it and we hand it out. Men think they're smarter but they're not they just have a more stubborn ego mind and they're just more calculated, matter based and know how to play with women's mind and guilt them until the woman let's go of her ego mind and addresses the soul and stops engaging people's egos and then she gains back her power, her humanity and her natural place in society stolen from her by patriarchy. This is traditional spiritualism, degraded by patriarchy and patriarchal religions, the gender stuff is my conclusions.

  • @christopherbrown5409
    @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому +2

    7:50-8:02 Those are the same kind of men who get called manbabies and manchildren; not every man is some aspiring sub, "Svetlana"

  • @themooniscoming
    @themooniscoming День тому +2

    Look, I love your videos, but I swear I can't see how women are socialized to be good comunicators and more introspective.
    I mean, that's a problem about how you are raised, not men/women.
    It's a very enlightening video, nonetheless! Social structures are weird...

    • @Fizzypopization
      @Fizzypopization 2 години тому

      This is just an objective fact. I've never had communication problems with a woman. I've always had communication problems with men.

  • @Freeman-eo2lx
    @Freeman-eo2lx 2 дні тому

    This shows your doing this not all the men

    • @SunnyHeartKay
      @SunnyHeartKay День тому +2

      It’s most of men. No more gaslighting.

  • @Jamhael1
    @Jamhael1 2 дні тому

    Problem:
    Knowing that men do not communicate like women, why you expect for men to do diferently?

    • @arcanineryu
      @arcanineryu 2 дні тому +5

      Looks like someone didn't watch the video

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 2 дні тому

      @arcanineryu I did, and all I saw was just another excuse to put all responsability on men while showing women as blameless, without any kind of evidence proving her argument.
      Also, why would you expect for men and women to act exactly the same, but ignore the heavy influence of hormones in the development of Human Psychology and Neurology?

    • @arcanineryu
      @arcanineryu 2 дні тому +5

      @@Jamhael1 looks like someone didn't watch the video but instead sat there ignoring what was being said and mentally substituted with what they wish was being said. Because actually grappling with the substance of the arguments challenges your simplistic and self serving world view. And the thought of having to pop that bubble isolating you from the consequences of your willful ignorance and develop empathy and humility for people you don't want to admit you hold bigotry against is just too scary.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 2 дні тому

      @arcanineryu or it is the fact that there is a boom in "coaches" that, to milk the market as long as they can, they will use whatever way possible to prolong the problem they proposed to solve under the guise of "education" just so they can wring every single iota of profit, and if whatever the client of the so called "coach" complains that its attempts of using the "knowledge" ended in failure, the "coach" can easily justify under the excuse of "you didn't used it right - but don't worry, I can help you for more"?
      Yep - Marxist Economical Analysis are a cruel angle to perceive the modern world, doesn't it?

    • @Fizzypopization
      @Fizzypopization 2 години тому

      ​@@Jamhael1It's because it is your fault. How is it that your own communication problems aren't your own fault?

  • @bar9849
    @bar9849 3 дні тому +6

    people who give advice to others should be more careful not to give it from their own trauma and resentfulness.. first: not all guys are the same, you are talking about toxic masculinity and these kind of men should be avoided..
    Second: you are preparing women to be defensive, resentful to guys they haven't even met... most of guys are not the "boogy man", and they have their own traumas that society never taught them how to delt with them.. I think you have to be open to get to know someone, and learn how to be vulnerable without being destroyed by others reactions..
    You are teaching women to be alone, not to learn how to navigate in a relationship and taking it to a good port. I find this kind of content (for women and for men) very toxic.

    • @you6382tube
      @you6382tube 3 дні тому +5

      There are many other voices on UA-cam. Andrew Tate and Alex Jones, for instance.

    • @ChickFenwick
      @ChickFenwick 3 дні тому +12

      Concern troll is concerned 🤡

    • @ChickFenwick
      @ChickFenwick 3 дні тому

      @@you6382tubeI voted for him to be my President, not my husband. People need to stop making politics so personal

    • @ChickFenwick
      @ChickFenwick 3 дні тому

      @@you6382tube I don’t know about Alex Jones, but I do listen to right-wing journalists. I listen to Crossroads with Joshua Philipp every morning, for example. I hope it’s not the case that all women who are dealing with men have to be of the same political persuasion

    • @nahdawg299
      @nahdawg299 3 дні тому +2

      Pfffft that was just a long verbal fart

  • @blazingstar9638
    @blazingstar9638 3 дні тому

    0:21 that’s pretty ignorant

  • @christopherbrown5409
    @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому +1

    5:53-6:13 Given the prevalence of female privilege in Western societies (quotas, legal slack, freedom from conscription, collective victim narratives), I'd LOVE to know WTF kind of "hurdles" females go through that men don't.

    • @nahdawg299
      @nahdawg299 3 дні тому +21

      You even saying this LOL!! Like freedom is cookies men hand out, ooooh you get SPRINKLES, western ladies, what are you complaining about? 🤪

    • @nahdawg299
      @nahdawg299 3 дні тому +16

      And MEN invented and uphold these systems, stop pointing the finger down and LOOK UP

    • @christopherbrown5409
      @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому +1

      @@nahdawg299 once again, hurdles WHERE?

    • @christopherbrown5409
      @christopherbrown5409 3 дні тому

      @nahdawg299 well, women DO get "sprinkles" and frosting and crumbles and gluten-free, fat-free, and whatever else they want for existing, while men have to pay for plain Jane sugar cookies, and then we get treated like we don't even deserve those.

    • @BrujaTheYogi
      @BrujaTheYogi 3 дні тому +7

      Just from common sense alone, if men are higher on the social hierarchy than women... in your mind, don't you think there are things men can get away with that women can't???
      Better example, could a white man compare with the life of a black women in Africa? No, for obvious reason. It's sad that these things even need to ve spelled out to be honest

  • @NoAds-12345
    @NoAds-12345 2 дні тому

    😢 so many radical single whimen.... sad feminism divided us all.

    • @Ravioli_star
      @Ravioli_star 12 годин тому

      Lol go back to your menosphere hun

    • @Chambermenz
      @Chambermenz 7 годин тому +2

      This content creator is married. Males keep speaking instead of listening and it's their entitlement, abuse, and laziness that is what's dividing us.

    • @Amgirl03
      @Amgirl03 6 годин тому

      Your right on I just said I am a scapegoat and then I watch you lol 😆😆 beautiful and smart lady 😊❤

  • @themooniscoming
    @themooniscoming День тому

    I don't think that's a "men issue". That's just how people in general are.

    • @SunnyHeartKay
      @SunnyHeartKay День тому +7

      Nope it’s men. You’re exposed.

    • @RolaiEckolo
      @RolaiEckolo 17 годин тому

      ​​@@SunnyHeartKay Checkmate, *men*

  • @ufos-cos
    @ufos-cos День тому

    I believe you’re lying about being married. You’re not wearing a ring, and if you are married, you’re unhappy because you took your ring off. Happily married women wear their rings. You are def lying about something. You think people wouldn’t notice. Clock that tea, no ring, no happy marriage. Quit lying.

    • @shaniceokubena4975
      @shaniceokubena4975 День тому +5

      She's shown her husband on tiktok

    • @ufos-cos
      @ufos-cos День тому

      @ i’m not on tiktok. Means nothing to me anyway 🤷‍♀️

    • @Ravioli_star
      @Ravioli_star 12 годин тому +5

      ​@@ufos-cosjust because you can't see doesn't mean it is not there🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @ufos-cos
      @ufos-cos 12 годин тому

      @@Ravioli_star seems SUSPISH.

    • @ufos-cos
      @ufos-cos 9 годин тому

      @ she could be living with her gay bff like Will&Grace. My comment stands.

  • @MystrisKaali
    @MystrisKaali 3 дні тому +4

    Wow, so beautifully explained - thank you !!