I met a man like this. He Is all talk and no-show only want money from my women. Don’t really love them. Try again this week and he call me a B sending money from my PayPal on a woman’s PayPal and I told him no because he use my money to go out with her or women so I blocked him again
God guides you in the right direction : they are an “Ex” for a reason pray for them and that hopefully the next relationship they’re in they remember what ended their last relationship Medea Too
For me, who I dealt with in my past lost all privilege to be part of my life… BLOCKED for good. I let it all go! I moved on! I’m at peace! I’m at a healthier state of mind! I know my worth! Great video! 👏🏼💯❤️❤️
There comes a point where you had the energy to work on the relationship and they didn’t. I don’t wish heartbreak on anyone because it’s another form of grief to overcome. Grief of losing someone is hard because grief is love that has nowhere else to go. The hardest part is this: Walk away and work on yourself and your peace. When/if they do come back..and if you do your healing, your self worth comes first. Know and be confident in what you can bring to the table and not settle for anything less than what YOU deserve which is a deep connection and effort towards love and navigating the ups and downs together as a team. Building and FINDING the deep human connection that aligns with what you deserve is so beautiful and something money can’t buy.
An ex is an ex for a reason. This person is only coming back to get the benefits from you for their selfish reasons. Never are they looking to resolve what they broke. So never take them back but thank them for letting someone better to come into your life.
These men have a lot of work to do on themselves. None of this is a compliment to women. Do the work, communicate, practice integrity and don’t do the next woman in your life like you’ve done all the others.
I am a woman who has been married for 20 years this year! Lots to weigh in and tell.. but... only willing to answer questions. No unsolicited advice here. My hubby and I have worked on us.... I read soo much and just SMH... 20 years married in.. we may know "a little something" to share. 😊
There can be some Exes that no matter how good you see them look, you already know the relationship in any capacity, is irreparable. You don't hate them You're no no longer in love with them and you've grown beyond wanting to ever be with them again.
Couldn`t agree more. Tried with someone 3 times, they kept doing same thing over and over again until I finally got it - this is not for me. He still talks about what we built and him keeping open window for the future - I am literally done. I don`t want him, I don`t respect him and therefore my feelings and attraction also went to minimum. The qualities I want for my partner to have - he doesn`t have those. Something broke inside me and I let it go overnight while before I was not able to move on for 3 years. When you have enough - you don`t need to hate them, block them, etc. You simply just don`t care anymore and get disgusted by what you tolerated so far knowing you deserve way better. The partner meant for you will never put themselves in the position to lose you. Everyone else - wish you well, bye bye ha ha
@EgleA-u8e True words! When I was younger....same thing. This guy i dated was never really serious (even though I was serious and more mature) and things went back and forth for 3 years. Until I told him I was moving out of state. Then he put down my new state...the city I was moving to. It hurt my feelings so badly. He never reached out, and that is when my friend told me he was jealous of my ambition.....and it made perfect sense. I had to forgive myself for not seeing the signs- but I sure saw that behavior in some other men... And ran far away. Smart women don't put up with bad behavior from men.
Something my brother once said when I said that always come back. He said yes they do but what you need to think about is why? Is it because they realize they messed up by leaving or because they can?" And usually it's because they can because nothing you did changed in the short time yall were apart..so it's usually not worth the effort because they only gonna leave again...😮and everyone I know that took someone back that left, left again so the question to ask is why are they coming back...Best advice he gave me.
I thought this was gonna for a deep reason. Sure it’s nice to be seen as a dime piece but they should come back because you are confident, empathetic, kind, respectful, edifying, uplifting, generous and positive.
I agree with the statement made that an ex is an ex for a reason. After many years, my son tried to get his dad and me to communicate. We did and I was cordial. I told him he had not changed and was still “ Bossy”, so I told him to go out and be the Boss/ Supervisor to the guys who were working on the roof of his girlfriends house. ( To my knowledge, he has never seen a recent picture of me . ) The second ex attempted a comeback and had never seen a recent picture of me either, that I was or am aware of ... and I had my son send him packing and back to Kentucky via Travelers Aide. I was Never treated right by either of them and I definitely did not want either of them back. 👍👍🙏🔥💜🦁✨🌈✝️ 4:09
Trust an ex is an ex for a reason. The majority of people, maybe 98% don't change so the same issues that caused the breakup in the first place will still be there and if you give them a chance again you will regret it and soon realize that they didn't change. It is tremendously difficult for someone to change who they are fundamentally, especially when they are an adult. This is why they say train up a child because children are still malleable but when you get to a certain age then that's it. Your behaviour, disposition and personality are usually set. Though I say 98% don't change because there are always that few who may change by some extraordinary feat or divine intervention but still they are the exception and not the rule and even then it's rare to the point of being unbelievable.
Going back only stirs up the cheating and hurt and betrayal that may have ended the relationship in the first place. So that's a hard no on returning into the same relationship.
Yes my X is going crazy bc he all on my social media and I eye 👁️ am going hundreds of DMs from men and he realized that he messed up so now he wants a second chance but he is not getting it. I wish he would get off my social media too
I completely comprehend this point & I can honestly agree ….BUT… I think the more common reason comes down to “compatibility”. A lot of times our “next” brings their own version of B.S. that we are not comfortable with. The reality is that we alllllll have our own B.S. that we bring. It’s either a deal breaker or it’s not! Our ex usually has all the B.S. that we would rather deal with than the new B.S. ….& I say all that, not to even mention that Men don’t like to see someone else with someone we still see as ours. #ijs
I gave my ex many chances, but there is a but he came back with the same bs. So I had to nip it in the bud and finally say u do not get another chance. It is over for good. No matter how hard he tries I ignore him now. Too much emotional turmoil.
Well, i say, there's a reason why he became an ex in the first place and even if you would consider rolling with him again, ensure that reason is no longer there. But as for me particularly, I keep it moving. No need for reconsideration of some sort. We just don't do that. Mhm mhm
I don't pose for pictures to people .. if want to look real super . I do for myself and my Man . I no phony I a natural person 😌 ☺️ Thank you. If a man comes back . Not with me . Your gone ,gone ,gone . I will not put with nonsense ... 😊😊Thank you for sharing the video. But , my man is direct and clear and honest . ! I am the same ..😊😊Thanks my friend ❤❤😊😊
Stephan please how do i get you personally and be part of your groups if any...please i really need someone to talk to...i am on the verge of giving up in life...
Hi I'm deeply saddened to hear that you're feeling like giving up on life. Stephan’s coaching is focused on relationships, it might be beneficial to seek professional therapy solutions through platforms like BetterHelp. If your struggles are tied to another person, please remember not to let anyone have that much control over your life. Making a permanent decision to address a temporary problem isn't the answer, and I believe you've overcome tougher challenges before. Remember that Jesus loves you, and I truly hope you find the support and help you need.
According to this one man! Personally, I find this reductive, shallow and misogynistic. The person I share my life with - is utterly brilliant, and her values align with mine. Dunno how this even came up on my feed 🤷♂️
Never go back, most cases people really don’t change. When someone shows you who they are believe them
Word, people dont change. Dont go back and hurt yourself , you deserve so much better
I met a man like this. He Is all talk and no-show only want money from my women. Don’t really love them. Try again this week and he call me a B sending money from my PayPal on a woman’s PayPal and I told him no because he use my money to go out with her or women so I blocked him again
@ u deserve so much better , u deserve love, thats not love this man is showing
So true
God guides you in the right direction : they are an “Ex” for a reason
pray for them and that hopefully the next relationship they’re in they remember what ended their last relationship
Medea Too
For me, who I dealt with in my past lost all privilege to be part of my life…
BLOCKED for good.
I let it all go! I moved on! I’m at peace! I’m at a healthier state of mind! I know my worth!
Great video! 👏🏼💯❤️❤️
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Amen, me too. 🙏🏾
Nice
Sane
There comes a point where you had the energy to work on the relationship and they didn’t. I don’t wish heartbreak on anyone because it’s another form of grief to overcome. Grief of losing someone is hard because grief is love that has nowhere else to go. The hardest part is this: Walk away and work on yourself and your peace. When/if they do come back..and if you do your healing, your self worth comes first. Know and be confident in what you can bring to the table and not settle for anything less than what YOU deserve which is a deep connection and effort towards love and navigating the ups and downs together as a team. Building and FINDING the deep human connection that aligns with what you deserve is so beautiful and something money can’t buy.
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THIS!!! 💯❤
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Thank you, I really needed to hear this, and I need to follow this advice 🙏
I approve this message.💯👏🏾
An ex is an ex for a reason. This person is only coming back to get the benefits from you for their selfish reasons. Never are they looking to resolve what they broke. So never take them back but thank them for letting someone better to come into your life.
I couldn't have said this better myself! I agree 💯!!
Yes, 100% agree and beautifully said.
Well said my friend!! ❤❤❤
What's annoying ,it's the reason they want to return,if am looking GOOD
most definitely it's not for him
It hurts me while my ex came back and also keep options open, i deserve a man is sure about me, so i cut him off after, im glad i did that.
These men have a lot of work to do on themselves. None of this is a compliment to women. Do the work, communicate, practice integrity and don’t do the next woman in your life like you’ve done all the others.
True!!
I am a woman who has been married for 20 years this year! Lots to weigh in and tell.. but... only willing to answer questions. No unsolicited advice here. My hubby and I have worked on us.... I read soo much and just SMH... 20 years married in.. we may know "a little something" to share. 😊
When the thrill is gone, the feel is gone all the way. ✌🏽
No dude! Once the thrill is gone you're just getting real with one another and really getting to know one another (and yourselves).
There can be some Exes that no matter how good you see them look, you already know the relationship in any capacity, is irreparable. You don't hate them You're no no longer in love with them and you've grown beyond wanting to ever be with them again.
Couldn`t agree more. Tried with someone 3 times, they kept doing same thing over and over again until I finally got it - this is not for me. He still talks about what we built and him keeping open window for the future - I am literally done. I don`t want him, I don`t respect him and therefore my feelings and attraction also went to minimum. The qualities I want for my partner to have - he doesn`t have those. Something broke inside me and I let it go overnight while before I was not able to move on for 3 years. When you have enough - you don`t need to hate them, block them, etc. You simply just don`t care anymore and get disgusted by what you tolerated so far knowing you deserve way better. The partner meant for you will never put themselves in the position to lose you. Everyone else - wish you well, bye bye ha ha
@EgleA-u8e True words! When I was younger....same thing. This guy i dated was never really serious (even though I was serious and more mature) and things went back and forth for 3 years. Until I told him I was moving out of state. Then he put down my new state...the city I was moving to. It hurt my feelings so badly. He never reached out, and that is when my friend told me he was jealous of my ambition.....and it made perfect sense. I had to forgive myself for not seeing the signs- but I sure saw that behavior in some other men...
And ran far away. Smart women don't put up with bad behavior from men.
Well
Exactly
Not on social media. He realized no woman out here can fill my shoes. He is back better than ever!!
Something my brother once said when I said that always come back. He said yes they do but what you need to think about is why? Is it because they realize they messed up by leaving or because they can?" And usually it's because they can because nothing you did changed in the short time yall were apart..so it's usually not worth the effort because they only gonna leave again...😮and everyone I know that took someone back that left, left again so the question to ask is why are they coming back...Best advice he gave me.
Don't make the mistake of being intimate with an ex like I did. Things usually won't be better for you the second time around.
That’s why I blocked him on everything! Leave me alone!!‼️
Absolutely
It’s for segs only … REMEMBER that!
I thought this was gonna for a deep reason. Sure it’s nice to be seen as a dime piece but they should come back because you are confident, empathetic, kind, respectful, edifying, uplifting, generous and positive.
Happy New Years Stephan, wishing you more peace and blessings in 2025.
My ex’s stay coming back and watching my social media. It’s their loss. 💕
So it’s mainly superficial :) happy 2025
That’s why he’s saying to know the meaning.
I agree with the statement made that an ex is an ex for a reason. After many years, my son tried to get his dad and me to communicate. We did and I was cordial. I told him he had not changed and was still “ Bossy”, so I told him to go out and be the Boss/ Supervisor to the guys who were working on the roof of his girlfriends house. ( To my knowledge, he has never seen a recent picture of me . ) The second ex attempted a comeback and had never seen a recent picture of me either, that I was or am aware of ... and I had my son send him packing and back to Kentucky via Travelers Aide.
I was Never treated right by either of them and I definitely did not want either of them back.
👍👍🙏🔥💜🦁✨🌈✝️
4:09
Trust an ex is an ex for a reason. The majority of people, maybe 98% don't change so the same issues that caused the breakup in the first place will still be there and if you give them a chance again you will regret it and soon realize that they didn't change. It is tremendously difficult for someone to change who they are fundamentally, especially when they are an adult. This is why they say train up a child because children are still malleable but when you get to a certain age then that's it. Your behaviour, disposition and personality are usually set. Though I say 98% don't change because there are always that few who may change by some extraordinary feat or divine intervention but still they are the exception and not the rule and even then it's rare to the point of being unbelievable.
Great video! Always gotta evaluate the motivation.
DAM !!!! like really ? now i can be excused when i say that SOME men are
HEARTLESS, they are as seasonal as the time square ball drop
😂😂😂😂 no I have leveled up ❤
Going back only stirs up the cheating and hurt and betrayal that may have ended the relationship in the first place. So that's a hard no on returning into the same relationship.
Isn't that terrible...shame on him. 🤭
Yes my X is going crazy bc he all on my social media and I eye 👁️ am going hundreds of DMs from men and he realized that he messed up so now he wants a second chance but he is not getting it. I wish he would get off my social media too
There's a reason why it didn't work out. And you don't dig in the trash to find a treasure, so why should you go back to your ex?
Opportunity lost can never be regained. Father time ⌚ says there's no turning 🔙.
I completely comprehend this point & I can honestly agree ….BUT… I think the more common reason comes down to “compatibility”. A lot of times our “next” brings their own version of B.S. that we are not comfortable with. The reality is that we alllllll have our own B.S. that we bring. It’s either a deal breaker or it’s not! Our ex usually has all the B.S. that we would rather deal with than the new B.S. ….& I say all that, not to even mention that Men don’t like to see someone else with someone we still see as ours. #ijs
It's hard but life goes on 😂😂😂😂 keep it moving no love lost I just pray 🙏🙏🙏 for them
80 versus 20 huh lmao that 20 didn't work out huh ole timer said WHEN A PERSON SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE 👉🏽 stop checking back!!
I gave my ex many chances, but there is a but he came back with the same bs. So I had to nip it in the bud and finally say u do not get another chance. It is over for good. No matter how hard he tries I ignore him now. Too much emotional turmoil.
There is no reason for me to backtrack!!!!
Well, i say, there's a reason why he became an ex in the first place and even if you would consider rolling with him again, ensure that reason is no longer there. But as for me particularly, I keep it moving. No need for reconsideration of some sort. We just don't do that. Mhm mhm
Most don’t know what real love is
Hot Damb🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, I’d certainly believe you. I was always told you know men are very superficial in many ways.. where as women we look for other qualities❤
Hi Stephan. What should you do if he comes back genuinely ?
Can a come back ever work?
I don't pose for pictures to people .. if want to look real super . I do for myself and my Man . I no phony I a natural person 😌 ☺️ Thank you. If a man comes back . Not with me . Your gone ,gone ,gone . I will not put with nonsense ... 😊😊Thank you for sharing the video. But , my man is direct and clear and honest . ! I am the same ..😊😊Thanks my friend ❤❤😊😊
For me, it helps not being on social media, so exes can't "see" how I'm looking and doing. So the access isn't so easy.😂
When a man does that to me, it's instant rejection. He should have known what he had.
The glow up is real.
With him who knows if he does or not
I knew he was going to say this
Stephan please how do i get you personally and be part of your groups if any...please i really need someone to talk to...i am on the verge of giving up in life...
Hi I'm deeply saddened to hear that you're feeling like giving up on life. Stephan’s coaching is focused on relationships, it might be beneficial to seek professional therapy solutions through platforms like BetterHelp. If your struggles are tied to another person, please remember not to let anyone have that much control over your life. Making a permanent decision to address a temporary problem isn't the answer, and I believe you've overcome tougher challenges before. Remember that Jesus loves you, and I truly hope you find the support and help you need.
Only this reason?
Check out the full video on his page, this is just a clip of one of the reasons he gave
According to this one man! Personally, I find this reductive, shallow and misogynistic.
The person I share my life with - is utterly brilliant, and her values align with mine.
Dunno how this even came up on my feed 🤷♂️
THAT is not going to HAPPEN!? SORRY NO TRICKS, HE SHOULD of Appreciate the first original go round. It doesn't work that way!!!
SORRY NOT SORRY!!!
❤❤❤❤🎉🎉😊
I wish he would come back so bad
....happened more than twice..not with a picture but hitting them across, with a very new look of mine...!
Yeah, I’d certainly believe you. I was always told you know men are very superficial in many ways.. where as women we look for other qualities❤