It Takes THIS LONG For Men To Know She's THE ONE
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i asked my wife to marry me on the 1st date/ she said yes. we married a week later. we were together 39 years until cancer got her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful love story. 💕
That’s beautiful. 🌺
YESSSSS
Sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss but I’d love if a man did this to me ❤
If a Man is dating a woman for years ..knowing very well she is not the one .."He is holding somebodies Wife Hostage" Let her Go 😂😂😂😂..but I say this in a loving manner 😇
😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 I approve of this message. Wasting that lady's time lol.
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@@marleyisms 💯 Queen 💕
I pray the woman recognizes what is going on before it's too late.
Man here
This is why I'm not a fan of getting into a relationship too early - to me it only makes sense to be in a relationship if I know it could go somewhere.
The relationships I have been in, the woman seems to get comfortable and doesn't really think much about the future, even when I bring it up. They just enjoy having a man/boyfriend.
Mind you, I have some things to learn about leading a woman in a relationship, apparently it's less of a team effort than I thought it should be (meaning women are waiting for me to tell them where it's going instead of deciding together, which is what I naturally want to do).
Anyway, I see a lot of people get into relationships for a year or more and they have no goals, no plan, no future and then it ends when they stop liking each other and I wonder what the point of it is.
For me, committing to a relationships feels like proposing lol. Not quite, bit it's like saying "maybe" to a future together, while getting married would be like saying "definitely" to a future together. I can't understand why women (or men) are in such a rush to get into a relationship with someone they barely know, and then change their mind when things aren't working. It doesn't look real commitment to me, and that's why I take my time getting into a relationship.
But 3-6 months should be enough to know if you want to try to build a future with this person, as long as you are intentional and talking about it
Women aren't against men these days.
Look at the comments: Women are exhausted.
Well said. So tired. Globally. I’m from Malaysia.
Facts.
SO damn exhausted XD
😂😂😂😂sick of it!
We are
My husband knew early. We met while he was only passing through town in the process of moving across the country. He tried to pick me up for a one night stand and I told him, no way in hell, I’m not like that. We had one coffee date before he left town and he immediately started pulling strings to change jobs and move 1500 miles just to have the chance to date me. In two months he moved to the town I was living in and called me up to see if I’d like to go on another date. 4 months later, he proposed. After I said yes, he told me he knew right away I was the one but had to wait until it wasn’t creepy to ask me to marry him. 10 years and 2 kids later, still going strong.
Dudes are doing this and having a chain of females.. these pools of dating have changed dramatically…
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Beautiful!!! 💕
Perfect. You set limits and boundaries
That’s beautiful
I can't understand sharing my body with a guy who is sleeping with 5 other women. I don't even understand "the one" putting up with this. Single is better than being disrespected like that.
Amen keep in mind this is the words of a worldly man not a Godly man
Exactly. Even if I am single another 8 years 😂 At least I am safe and healthy.
Unfortunately some women would rather share a Chad than settle for a guy that will give them their undivided love and affection as well as provide for them.
Exactly. The man with 6 other women doesn’t DESERVE the 7th
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They be knowing early, they just be skurrred...especially if they've been burned before. It feels like punishment when they know but they wanna drag it out. I oblige them, but they know very early. I'm in a relationship with a man who continues to tell me I check all the boxes, but he needs more time to make sure there isn't something he's missing. It's cool. I let him know I'm not going to wait forever on him. In the meantime, I'm dating other people and keeping my options open. You're single until he unsingles you ladies.
Absolutely
I'mnot dating others and I'mnot closing the door either 😂😂😂😂😂
Facts!!!
@@user-qn9it7vp7n Respectfully dating others was disclosed and he agreed fyi , but I feel ya 😂
Why date? If the purpose is to be with one man?
I'm so old school, if I was dating a guy and he's also dating another woman, I would just back out.
I knew after a couple hours into our first date
Aww. I felt this last night
So did my now fiance, we've only been dating 3 months thus far before our first kiss he said I'm the 1
@@kandyedwards1376congratulations and wishing you guys an eternity🥂❤️
Thats fast
@@kandyedwards1376how are things going now
Men will be dealing.with 7 women but expect you as a woman to be an angel in.order to be placed on a pedestal.
@yogaofhealth1800 🤦🏽♀️.. 😀 I feel as women we should have standards too. Men don't get a pass for being un disciplined and lacking self control because they are boys. Men have standards and self respect not sleeping with 6 woman at.the same time really
I say, he is on the same level as the women he's dealing with and the 7th woman deserves BETTER. Really
Hello how are you doing
@@dsanders799 good and yourself dear?
That means he’s going to suck in a relationship anyway
The audacity…
To all the beautiful single women out there, my comment is for you: Research has been done on this topic. I heard about it from Steve Harvey first BUT I went on Google to see if Steve was right. Why? Because for Stephan to say it doesn't take long, - that's a vague statement! According to the data, it take 172 days for a person to decide if the person they are dating is marriage material. -That's 6 months. (time for a brief meditation, ladies)
One of the authors of the study said, "Our findings suggest that people misunderstand how quickly they make judgments." Furthermore, the "honeymoon" phase in dating ends after 3 months. Hmmm!
Need more proof? Someone I know - knew his wife was the one after 6 months. They were married for over 40 years. Another man I knew proposed after 3 months. Married for 19 years. 1 guy I know - he said it was love at first sight. He proposed after 1 month. They were married 53 years before she died. So, when you are dating someone ladies, make sure you know what you want, they know what they want and don't waste time with someone with whom you're not compatible. Life is too short. Hope this helps.
Have you heard how Steve Harvey instantly saw his 3rd wife and told her in front of an entire audience that he wanted to marry her?
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Thank you for the timeline information.
Thank you, well balanced advice. At the end love but love yourself more so you can look after your needs and wants too.
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My man asked us to be official on our first date he told me as soon as he saw me he knew I was gunna be his wife truss me ladies don’t let these men play you he knew straight away fast fast 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️😂😂
But that’s the thing. Men will base that of looks. It should not be based off Looking good and having a good body. Thats the only way he would know from the moment he met you. Please don’t take it personal but I don’t understand how he can make trust decision on the first encounter. Takes more than a first date. People change too. That’s how people are in wrong relationships
@@Wynter84yeah agree that’s superficial but maybe by the end of the date he also knew based on her personality
I believe it’s possible to “know” that early. But weren’t you afraid and feel pushed ? Like such immediate proposal almost is a bit scary and to me I would be curious if this is a red flag ? I don’t mean I would run away but I would be concius - I don’t judge I am just curious what you felt and if you are together? Did you say yes and got married the next day 😮?😊
From what I observed, men seems to know early on. The marrying kind don't waste anyone's time. They seem to do their best to make it happen once they meet the One. Their wives say the road to marriage felt seemless because their men put much effort into making their relationship successful and pleasant.
Why settle for someone who constantly change his mind about you or thinks you are not good enough for lifetime of love with him?
His actions or inaction speak rather loud. Rose is a rose is a rose, excuses is an excuse is an excuse.
This is the comment right here. I need not read any others🙏🏾
This comment should be pin 📌
I agree with you. To put it in context, I'm a single mom. And I was given the blessing of witnessing how my daughter was courted by my son-in-law. When I asked him when he knew that she was the one, he said it was the moment he saw her. He didn't waste time and immediately became her friend and study-buddy (they're college sweethearts). He proposed one year later. They've been married for nine years.
He was not into games. He knew what he wanted. He always has respected and protected her. He fought for her. He didn't go for sex because he had no hurry (since she was the one). And I've witnessed so many moments of deep devotion among them in these nine years that it's hard to convey what these two have.
My story is the complete opposite. And I've seen other women go through an emotional roller coaster because their guys are undecisive, aloof, and not committed to them.
Ladies, don't play his games. And if you're already emotionally invested in these men, my advise is simply to let them go. It hurts terribly. But think: you're more likely to find someone if you let him go, instead of wasting your youth on someone who's not worth it. And your time and precious feelings are goods that you shouldn't waste on a fool ❤
Agreed. And not everyone IS the marrying type or ever will be..
If his idea of "she's the one" changes in a matter of days with some information he found out about her, then he doesn't know what he wants.
This the one that's why told him good bye
Right..... I'm crushin hard on someone who I can see very well w my own eyes is flawed... but, that's where I think we have compatibility, because of course I have jst as many flaws too.. don't let a real love go cuz u r too scared to even try w them .. u don't have to accept disrespect, but a past is something no one can get away from....
Agree. Just sounds like his ego got blown and now he doesnt want her. In which case his ego was more important than the love for her.
This right here, because everyone has a past, and she didn’t care about his, but his ego got in the way when he heard about hers. And some guys operate out of jealousy.
I wasted 2 years on a man who claimed I was the one. Not even a proposal, not even a parents' meeting occurred. He didn't even introduce me to his friends. I should have known better. He was a walking red flag (narcissist) and it took emotional cheating to find out what love was sort of supposed to look like. A reasonable man and a woman should know within 6 months of dating if someone is their future spouse. Don't fall for the "Oh I need more time" excuse. There is no time! We only have so much time left on this earth. God does not like us wasting time, so why should you?
I wasted 4 good years what wasted years 😢
I wasted 7 years!
@@passionwilliamson1182 Yes 6-7 for me.
I agree with your time analysis. My husband knew in one month that he wanted to be exclusive. He knew before he met me he didn't want to be single and date a bunch of women. Some men love the dating scene and refuse to be honest about the variety of sex partners they have access to as well as the freedom by skirting true commitment leading to marriage. Some men know they are ready and will date with intention. The rest waste your time. Time is precious. You can't get it back. You can't buy what you waste. I don't waste my time on men who have poor/no intentions. When the character and personality don't match, I move on. Ya got 1 week to 90 days to show me then I'm done. Can't play with these grown boys anymore.
Don't let a boyfriend keep you from finding your husband.
Men are becoming more & more difficult. This process is not good for the nervous system! I’m exhausted. I’ve been single for 5 years & the it is mentally draining
Same, I have stopped caring about relationships now.
So draining and exhausting!
Nervous system 😅so true
It's so true. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted.
@KamaleeCR sorry to know this just take some time to yourself. I did for 6 yrs and I feel so much healthier. The wrong ones can ZAP all the energy. I wish you the best
I thought my ex was the one, and I thought he felt the same, but then his ex came back and he emotionally cheated with her and pulked back from me. I ended up leaving, and he was hurt and said he didn't want to close the door on us and then he ghosted me. I don't know if he ghosted because he has feelings, got hurt, and/or wasn't ready for our connection (which is a possibility, the timing was bad)... or if he just wasn't that into me 🤷♀️
Either way I moved on to a man that was a bit of a player before I met him but fell hard for me and asked me to be his girlfriend a month after we met, and has consistently included me in his future plans since 😂 Sometimes there's confusion, but it's so much better when it's very clear. Keep your standards high ladies, don't settle for someone who isn't obviously sure about you!
My now boyfriend of 1 month, we been planning a wedding since our 1st date. He said he knew it was me the 1st time he met me
I hear that too! Then they fall off. Love bombs.
Are you still together? Sounds like lovebombing
@@naukumaija7056 exactly
I always remember my da telling me he knew my ma was his future wife in like a week 😂 so yes, I feel men know before us (women) if you are the one or not
Right my parents knew after 3 weeks if dating. Then 3-4 months later they were married.
My husband told me that he wanted to marry me after our first date, of course, he didn't let me know until later so he wouldn't scare me off.
By the time he comes around I’ve moved on
Yup
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😂😂😂😂 this 🎯💯🤣
🤣 Ik right 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣 dnt blame ya
My husband and I were married within 11 months of knowing each other. We discussed your topic on our honeymoon. Everything you said we agree with. ❤
“the one” is a fantasy idea , if you read Edgar Cayce’s quotes on soulmates. You actually get several options for soul mates in each life. You also get to choose , and learn different lessons with different people. Not everyone wants to be a swami but they are happy being a yogi. People need to stop selling this 1950s romance. The question is about commitment and how well you know and accept your own situation. It’s not about finding anybody. It’s about finding yourself.
Amen 🙏
Actually I think it makes sense what you're saying. Thanks for that approach.
Even if you get several options, you're still essentially picking *ONE*, so that person becomes THE ONE. The best one for you at that given moment in time; the best fit based on whatever criteria you perceive ideal according to your life experiences. So it's really not a fantasy idea. You're actually saying the same thing but with extra layers. Moreso, many soulmate connections aren't necessarily romantic. People will show up in your life for different reasons and it's up to you to discern what for. Some connections will last a lifetime, some just a moment.
And that, I think, is the actual problem. Too much emphasis on developing romantic relationships with everyone you connect with while forgetting that some connections are not even mean't to be made. We all just need to be spiritually prepared to help make the right choices.
Some are frightened of having that loving feeling. Some may begin to sabotage the evolution of the relationship because he is all in his head.
I always break up with guys at the 1 year mark if I’m not 100% sure about them. Not proposing around that year mark is also a red flag to me because if I know if I see a future with them or not by that point, then they surely should know too.
Don’t care how many women get married after 2, 3, 5+ years. That’s not the kind of love I want, so no point wasting time.
You want to be married that bad that you would switch partners so frequently? You may have been the one for someone but you let him go.
@@quatriciajohnson858 Where did I say I switch partners so frequently? I’ve only had 2 serious relationships that I had to end.
I don’t want to get married that badly, my thing is I don’t like wasting my time on the wrong people. I would rather make memories in life with my friends than with meaningless boyfriends.
And I know for a fact I haven’t let go of anyone good. I don’t make my decisions lightly, I think about it for about 3 months & I never go back to exes. When I make a decision I stick with it.
Absolutely
3 months is a realistic frame.
If both aren't in agreement for a committed relationship, including marriage, LEAVE.
@@mikyl-fo8rh You’re absolutely right! I don’t want to be the one to say it because other people love to chime in about waiting 2-3 years, absolute nonsense.
Everyone knows straight away!! A man knows if he wants to marry you on the first date even.
I went from neglected and ignored to much more once he saw me out with another man.
Facts
😂😂. I’d stay with the new guy!!! No time for games!
sounds like first guy just wants to play some games but wants to make sure that hes your priority but u not his until u definitely with someone else
then rinse repeat
"i got her- not interested"
"shes with someone else? nah i need her focused on me"
"i got her on me, im not interested in her like i thought"
If you want a serious relationship &/or marriage, get commitment before intimacy and have definite timeline for your dealings with said person. 3-6 months max excluding circumstances that are out of your control….anything longer you are wasting your time!!! Time you can’t get back and could have been used &/or appreciated elsewhere. Stay safe ❤😊
preach!!!
I've been with my man 3 yrs now. He told me that he knew for a long time before we had even met that I was the one for him (I had him on social media). Personality & character is EVERYTHING! And your heart above all. They feel that. But you need to be smart and have discernment ladies. Don't be played for fools. Everyone shows you who they are, QUICK!
Regardless of if a man is burnt or not I honestly feels he still knows in a short time if she is someone he would want.I think people waste lots of time after they realize she is not the one
This man I was dating kept beating the bush about wanting to discuss STDs and this man had HSV2. So happy I didn’t sleep with him.
My husband asked me to marry him within 4 weeks of seriously dating (as adults). He says he knew the first time he saw me , but couldn’t identify what the emotion he was feeling (He was 15 & I was 14)
I can’t believe women still care about this stuff with men. To many games, deception after awhile you stop caring what a man thinks and feels about you . Whether he wants to marry you. All of that becomes exhausting. I’ll prefer to focus on my happiness goals and dreams. Later for men and their foolishness
YES! I AM DONE WITH MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS. DONE.
Amen. They really are exhausting.
This!💯 I'm tied! 😮💨
@@mscotchery9861 So, so tired
Why you all here then?
I never thought I'd ever find myself saying this, but here goes: Stephan is right on with this one FOR SURE.
I've dealt with men over 30 years who had strung me along, made all kinds of excuses as to why he couldn't commit, was confused, needed space to figure things out. This took them years to tell me.
There was only one guy from my history who knew that I was the one for him. He made it clear to me within one month we knew each other. He didn't leave me confused about his feelings. I knew where I stood. I didn't have to ask him, nudge him, nag him or utilizing the internet to ask questions about him. He already told me and made sure I didn't have a doubt in my mind about how he felt.
Same. In my 30 years I've had two men just like this - direct, to the point, let me knew they saw me as a marriage candidate tight away. It didn't work because of basic incompatibilities along the way. But these men sure gave me the frame work to know what to look for when a man is being serious or just bullshitting me! And they came only 2 years apart from each other too in my last two years of my twenties
@@Crgb777 But are ALL men going to be that direct?
@@hotpink3459then you have to take that maybe with a gram of salt!
@@hotpink3459 Mature men lead relationship, grow boy make excuse
I won't date a man that I'm not attracted to. Wouldn't want to lead him on.I will give a relationship some time to work out if not, I'll nicely move on . No turning back. It's his loss, I know my worth. Saying no to games & manipulation. I love PEACE ❤️
At this point, I'm giving up.
Nobody is worth the heartache and having to walk on eggshells just to make sure that I still am loved.
I want to just be loved for who I am, like I love others for who they are.
I'm 34 and I'm done with the heartache and hope.
Hope has been killing me.
I have decided no more. I have now decided to kill hope. It's dead. I'm done.
I'll just be happy for everyone who IS loved and DO matter to someone.
Thanks for all your advice though.
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I'm 38 and making efforts I've never made before. Sometimes your romantic side deactivates to avoid the early year mistakes. Don't be surprised if someone comes along and your brain wakes up.
@@jeffisaliar I hadn't thought of that.
I appreciate you, thank you.
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It might help you to learn about the different attachment types too, see which you are, heal that and see how you get on? 😊
Switch gears…go out of your comfort zone. Are you against dating a non-American?
I'm the happiest I've ever been, and he was pursuing me for months I'm 16 years older. That's why I was staying away, but he's so dope and fun
Listen to Stephan! He knows his ishhh!! I met my guy on a dating app, even after our first date he was smitten by me! By the 4th or 5th date he was swooned and by the 7th/8th date he was already telling me he was falling for me. It just feels right and when you know you just know! Now 10th date in saying those 3 letter words 🙈 this man has been patient, committed, and intentional EVERY SINGLE STEP OF THE WAY. Ladies don't let these men fool you into these situationships they know early on what they want from you and the dynamic. It's up to you to set the boundry and say NEXT when he's not showing up the way you deserve. They are still out there, be patient and steadfast and he will come ❤
My man told me I was his 1 within the first week after we met. It took me a little longer but here we are 9 months later. 😊 He knew right away!
My cousin went to a party one night; he wasn't feeling that well and didn't really want to go. He met the love of his life at that party!! He told us he knew THAT VERY NIGHT that she was "the one." They've been very happily married for about 10 years now!!
Its hard to believe that I'll be the woman someone wants to pick. I have a lot going for me, but the more I learn about men's behavior, the more tired and overwhelmed I become. It's never going to happen.
Sis, don’t get discouraged. Take a break and be kind to yourself, trust that God is a protector in asking you to live a high value life.
@@01ayaana Thank you for that. I've been needing to hear this. I need to remember this everyday.
Sis, the point as a woman is we are the ones to pick the men, NOT the other way around!
When you shift this mindset around, the men will come chasing, don't you worry. Don't be the "pick me girl".
All you need to do is focus on loving yourself and building up your own self- confidence.
So finicky and weak--I'm not walking on glass for men anymore, especially when they literally offer nothing in return.
I don't think my one was created
Same
Faith moves mountains ❤
I knew the answer because I was working at this Assisted Living facility and this guy (a coworker) met this woman and met her parents and engaged her all with in my nine months of pregnancy! Right before I went on leave he had engaged her. I said dang that was QUICK!
He said, and I quote, “ It’s don’t take a long time if you know what you want.”
Ladies stop trying and dropping hints. If you the one, he’ll know in under a year! He might not marry you or engage you in that time, but he’ll already know by the time you start feeling antsy or having questions.
In 2021 I met this man online...So gorgeous! Really sweet & was excited to meet him. My entire life fell apart, I had a medical emergency had to move etc; he's been in my head for 3 years! But, I won't be available for anyone until I'm back on my feet.... I pray for him every day.
I had a 2 year limit. I dated for a true relationship not recreation.
When we met, we knew almost from jump but definitely within 6 months we were going the distance.
Yeah it happened to me. I’m grateful and blessed with this man coz’ we’re in the same page,vibration and beliefs ❤
Me too❤
He knew first but we both just knew. Its ❤a beautiful feeling.
I knew on the first date with my now wife
How were you able to tell? I really am curious
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Did you know that based off her character or her beauty by any chance?
I’m curious too 🤔
The funny thing is, if she finds out the man thinks this way, it's a game changer for her as well. It goes both ways. Sometimes men think they can have the women they want, put her on a pedestal, then he changes his mind, whether it's because of what he heard, or he doesn't want to put forth the effort, whatever the reason, but he doesn't realize, she's had enough experience to know exactly what she wants, and exactly what she won't put up with, leaving him behind, because he can't make up his mind, he lowers his standards, or he thinks he has all the time in the world. In the meanwhile, she finds somebody else, that sees her worth, and treats her like a queen.
Then is too late for that man, who allowed others to persuade his thoughts, instead of coming to his own conclusion of what would be best for him. There are not very many people that come along who are a perfect fit, and then when that perfect fit does come along, the person can screw it up majorly, because they fail to see what has been in front of them the whole time.
Thanks for the video, I cannot stop wondering if a man knows that he found the one early on, that means he can choose someone without knowing her! What made him choose her? It has to do with what he felt around her, men are way more emotional than we think, women are way more rational than we think too, that's why women can deal with certain situations that men cannot.
So because for men choosing the one is highly feeling-driven, women we don't have to fight for being chosen or for man's love, either it is there or not
This is the most epic video EVER. Saving broken hearts from now until forever. ❤
Healthy men*
Trauma and unhealthy attachment do not apply to these situations.
#7 needs to run for the hills
Yup!!
Anybody else reach that limit of I'm not even wasting a month unless you know? I can't deal with no more foolishness 🤦🏾♀️
Women who are intentionally doing their part in becoming a loving wife and you over her chilling and playing video games, let them be, respectfully 🙏🏾
I only give them a month too! But I’m not dating anymore for awhile. God is in control now. I’m EXHAUSTED. And I was dealing with men in their 60s. DONE.
I wasted so much time. the man I eventually married I was dating for 7 years before he proposed then another 3 years of being engaged, married for 13 years. Second dude dated for 11 years then he moved on and got engaged to another women within 3 months of meeting her. Third dude after 2 years he starts cheating on me. So much wasted time. I've wasted so much of my life waiting for a man to figure out what the heck he wants. I'm done.
When I would not sell my home my boyfriend broke it off in a text...
Glad he did that, I obviously did not really matter.
I'm SO happy you didn't sell your home for him. Real estate is generational wealth. Remember that.
So the point is he has evolved and been matured enough.
So every women is just evolved and matured?!
@@facelessman5362 What made it relevant with my understanding from his video? Please elaborate what made you think that way.
My now fiance proposed last month after 9 months of us dating. We were connected through a mutual friend who thought we'd be a great fit. He is the man of my dreams and I am everything he could have ever wanted. He never thought he would get married because he never found someone he wanted to marry. ❤
We know! We’re just in the vetting stage of waiting for her to step up! If we find one who’s aligned it wouldn’t be long. I found one who’s aligned to the point of what we eat, likes and even down to our favorite teams. Ultimate feminine!
Step up in what way??
@@ShyBabyxoxoI think he means she's just shows up in his sights 😂
It's definitely not step up in the take action masculine way.
My man knew within 2 months. He's now planning our proposal... I'm trying to mind my business and just love and support him.
Within weeks he was like "You're it, the one...." Months later, "umm, I think we should back off a bit" a year and a half later "Uh, yeah, bye" They might feel something pretty soon, but if he doesn't clinch the deal, waits a while, he's gone. 🤨🤔😮🤷
This happened to me. A guy approached me quick and after months of talking he backed away.
I agree awareness is the key,II agree he might know soon however I think a woman needs more time too determine if he is the right one.she needs for a time observe how he reacts too dissatisfaction or disappointment. Our safety is important it takes time to observe a man behavior, his skills,intelligence, spiritual. As a woman, that is important. I would need a good year.as a woman
We’ve been dating for about 3-4months now always with each other as if we’re in a relationship call each other babe/boo, FaceTimes me when we don’t see each other and says he’s exclusively only seeing me but he doesn’t expect that from me. “Want to take it slow” he’s a good man your channel really is helping me learn what a good man is and how to treat one. At first I didn’t want to be vulnerable.. but now I hope it turns into a relationship 🔥💕
Bless this union🙏🏾
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I has a guy fall of after 3 months and I just cut him off. I don’t have time. No need to drag things out. I lose interest too at times.
If someone wants you compete walk away - they see your value or they don’t! Most are more interested in the entertainment watching people tear each other apart.
This is a slightly edited clip from my autobiography, describing the first meeting with my partner. " ... after a brief introduction and lots of smiles all around, she got into the car, and we headed down the road to a cafe that she recommended. I have to admit that I was smitten! I didn’t want to seem weird or anything, but we had barely got down the road when I turned to her and asked if she would be OK if I stopped the car to look at her. I thought she looked absolutely lovely! After a minute or so, we continued on." We have just celebrated our 23rd anniversary of that day.
I suspected something was off with my bf. He asked me to be his gf after 6 months on Mother's day, then said he loved me on Father's day, and then told me a month after that he doesn't want to be responsible for other people. Wtf does that even mean. Either way I broke up with him because he wasn't making sense, and wouldn't stick to his word.
My ex felt that way about me until we had a miscommunication that led to a breakup and now I’m not longer considered “the one”. Seems to me the relationship was a lot more brittle than what I thought
I started dating a coworker when he was 2 years separated. It took 5 months for him to determine I was "the one," so he filed for divorce. He finally ended up getting his divorce, proposed on Valentine's Day and we are eloping in 2 1/2 months. I knew he was "the one" a month and a half in, but couldn't do anything about it because of the separation. I would never recommend dating a separated man.
And about the man who claimed he found The One and after years, marriage and kids he doesn’t feel like this anymore?
Would like to know this as well. ^
The man who don’t care act like they don’t care but need to lie about it. They need the comfort of believing she’s clueless. They don’t know their respectability is gone by the time she finds out…
Act like you’re a fool until you’re ready to walk away. Make no fuss. Just let him know calmly everything you noticed, and how you lost respect for him, if you care to do so on your way out.
Awww..I cant wait to be the one to a Great Man.😊
Me too
This man rotating 6 women is not a catch, is not a great man. Not to far from an animal.
Knowing and doing are two different things.
Best to be independent and maintain your leaving power - how a mind fr the other person can be changed and fleeing so quickly is v unreliable.
Nothing is guaranteed.
So true we know when aswell when the man is the one when we're mature👌💯
He told me the 1st day....i dont regret it
My boyfriend knew from our first date
Took me a little longer 😂
Can someone answer this comment to me: “I want you (meaning me the woman) to be my owner”. This is a man who tells me everything without me asking. I never pried about his finances, love life or family. But he’s told me how much he makes, that he’s not interested in anyone but me and he’s not even interested in women who approach him, I know all about his family and have been with him through some very sad times as well as good. He keeps me informed of all his business trips as well as family trips.l and even trips to the grocery store. The kicker is I’m in a rehab facility learning to walk again and was when we met and I’ve told him to move on twice but his response was no way. I knew what your condition was when I met you and I’m not going anywhere.
Yes if it really is meant to be, I believe you will know instantly and it is consistent, in my experience. Both will know in a balanced way. And yes he is right, if it is way too quick, and way too much, it will die just as fast. It won't be everlasting.
Too bad for the player, because when "the one" gets wind of his player style, she will dump him for a man who values loyalty. Just sayin...
I am really grateful for your honesty, not all men would be so.
If he can't make up his mind whether she's the one or not, then someone else will get there before they do. Their loss for not seeing the treasure that was right in front of them all along and taking some sort of action, even how little, to make sure it didn't get away.
The last time I dated was in 2021 and I'm really happy I stopped. I poured that love back into my cup and my life has drastically improved!
I know I'll meet someone great. In the meantime, I'll stay happy and practice more patience with life.
I VERY MUCH UNDERSTAND, WHAT YOU COMMING FROM, I MET GUYS ALL TIME BUT ,OVER THE LAST YEAR I MET ONE THAT HAS MY ATTENTION , BUT I DON'T THINK HE IS SERIOUS.
We know were meant to be and as months comes, I’m getting more and more confirmations that’s he’s my person. I knew he was the one within the first week and him the first date😅
He can stay with her because he didn't have to let her around. He gone wish i was there before long. I can't let people take me for granted.
The key is being in a relationship with God because that makes it much easier! Also, I’m not sure if I believe in the one or soulmate anymore. Suppose your so called the one or soulmate transition, does that mean, there’s nobody else on this earth for you? You just have to meet someone that shares your values and beliefs! A real relationship with God is so important to me!
Dude.. Thank you for this video!!! You have just answered why my ex was hiding me from his "female" friends.... This was so healing! You're awesome.
It's soooo sad that men judge women by how many people they've slept with when they give themselves freedom to do whatever they want
THAT IS TRUE BUT, IFHE DOESN'T TAKE TIME TO CLEANSING OF HIS BODY , WHEN HE GET MARRIED HE STILL WILL STILL SLEPT AROUND.
ive been talking to my guy since march and he has expressed his desire to marry me already and i feel the same. it dont take a man long when he knows in his spirit. a man who finds a wife finds a good thing
The guy I’m dealing with says that he wants to marry me, however he won’t delete his ex-girlfriend from a few years ago from his Facebook friends, and it really bothers me because he was came to me accusing me of checking her page which I didn’t but ever since then it’s giving me an uncomfortable feeling. He says he doesn’t have any contact with her and that she’s in a relationship too and said he would delete her when he was ready. Is that a red flag?
Using you as a rebound and waiting for her. That simple. Tell him firmly "Either you block her or I leave."
Have very strong boundaries.
Yes!!!
IMO Facebook doesn’t weigh much honestly.
Access the Man U are dating and judge the relationship based on his character, from that one day you will decide if his Facebook friendships affect the relationship.
With time he will delete her (also asking in a nice way helps ) people generally hate being told what to do .
Until you have solid proof of what their communication looks like … I wouldn’t let that deter u from accessing the relationship over all .
I’ve been with people who were so close to their ex’s but me focusing on the relationship and genuinely showing up made them cut off their ex’s .
Yes it is he shouldnt need any women friends if he has you
Hard truth, if you're questioning it like this, it's bc you're not listening to your intuition about him or the situation. Cut your losses sooner than later. You got this ✨️
We were casually (and privately) seeing each other, and he knew a few other guys at the social club were wanting to hook up with me or whatever. I'm sure they all did the locker room talk about me too, but he kept quiet about us. I could have gone out with any of the others, (tho I didn't want to) and if one them to bragged that we went out, even if it was platonic and meaningless to me, he'd be done with me. The prize wasn't the woman that the other guys had gotten with. And that worked both ways.
Projecting a negative outcome contributes to creating a negative outcome. This is literally self sabotage. 💯
My boyfriend told me that after he knew me for a week me knew I was the one and now we are already planning how it would be our life together.
That suck, because sometimes dudes can lie and doctor up some false proof too
It's happened to me, and I've openly talked about the people I have actually been with before. Names and everything, and I still got lied on
As embarrassing as it was, I wanted to keep this individual informed before anyone ever had a chance to lie on me and they still believed a lie about me. Not even to double confirm or to even just question me. The truth does mind being questioned and a lie hates being challenged
If I like you imma inform you, and if I love you imma be shamefully honest 🙏🏾
👊New subscriber! Tks f/the truth. You do know when you know. The night before I met him, I dreamt he was standing naked before me. And when we met later that day, for *both* of us, it was if an internal voice spoke: "🥰🔥 Ahhh❤ so at last!, there you are..."
We're now 4 months in, and despite a *language barrier* between us ( 🇨🇦 🇺🇦) we are happily discussing spending the rest of our lives together.
(We're kinda like Aurelia and Jamie in 🎬 Love Actually... our first conversations are a memory treasure box to me, and still make me giggle with glee and satisfaction.😉)
My man knew 10 years ago after our first date. I ran away immediately. And now he's back telling me again. Im going slow instead of kicking dust. Im terrified
That is what I believe as well, you just know it has no explanation.
I want to say this very important thing, from my experience. He and her has to know what they want before they meet. Like, if they both are interested in finding the right spouse for them and they have seen what is out there and they are no longer interested in that whole dating scene -dont want to go on this date that date etc., but has that longing in their heart for something so deep, passionate, everlasting, what their soul deeply longs for, the right person, someone they can see themselves with all their life, they just are looking for that rare gem/special someone that nothing can compare to, it will happen most likely if both k ow this is what they want before they meet anyone and they will know very quickly, yes or no.
I feel like everything said is true atleast from what I experienced. I had a guy in high school wait 8 months to have sex with me. He always said it was because I was special and he didn't want to mess things up.we were even going to get married, and I didn't take it seriously. I'm not sure why. So it ended with me leaving for someone else. As I got older, I realized he really did care about me, and I must of hurt him very much. Even if we're not together, I will still remember the sweet gestures, and i will always hold a place in my heart for him.
Can someone help me with this question: a man preferably. So if a man doesn’t believe in marriage does this also mean he doesn’t believe in true love
Sis he doesn't until he meets the right one.thats why they date u for 5years , leave u and marry another in 6 months do what's right for u.
TL;DR
Speaking as one such man: no, that's not what it means.
LONG VERSION:
Did you ask HIM? Whatever guy you're talking about... Did you ask HIM if HE believed in true love?
Plenty of men are anti marriage because there's little to gain from it if you aren't devoutly religious but they DO believe in so-called "soul mates". Marriage lost its value when no-fault divorce became a thing. Love will always have value.
@@rhysenfyneix7864 yes I did ask him and his response was “we’re already living together and have a child as if we are married so what’s the point. Then he asked me I was willing to sign a prenup. I said no. His mom raised to believe that people who are legally married live worst than those who aren’t married. He saw a bad marriage growing up with his mom and dad. I think this influenced him a lot which is why I left 10 months ago. I was giving more than what I was receiving and he wasn’t willing to change
My husband knew since we first had a conversation. We got married 2 months later.
This is very harsh for me. I started to date with a sweet man and we had great time together. We have dated for 3 months and Now it’s long distance relationship. I don’t know how our relationship will be.. this video made me sad.