I love your podcast! What strikes me is how the intensity of romantic relationships in liminal spaces has a permanent character to it, those moments stay with you forever but their intensity relies on them being finite. I used to associate certain "good" ideas (good in the Platonic sense as in what one looks for in life) with this feeling. From it's intensity I deduced it must be true (as in, true love) and in its permanence (as a feeling that can stay with you for years) granted it a degree of universality. All ideas associated with positive concepts: truth and universality, and implicitly, permanence. This made me conclude it was something I aspired to and wanted in my life, and gave a lot of priority to. Experience has taught me that I could not have been more off the mark. Love (as in flesh and blood love) is nothing of the sort.
I don't agree with the performative aspect of the goodbye in a romantic relationship that occurs in a liminal space. It can be devastating and your head can stay attached to that place and moment wishing it would have lasted forever.
I'm sorry but how can you describe the settings of CMBYN as "liminal spaces"? It may be a place of transit for Oliver, but even then the 6 weeks he spent working and lounging in the gorgeous villa, Crema and all the other beautiful and bucolic scenery are far too long to consider it a "liminal space". Not to mention that a liminal space would need to be unsettling in some way to be considered as such and Elio's parents' house is a warm, welcoming nest for their family, friends and students.
I love your podcast! What strikes me is how the intensity of romantic relationships in liminal spaces has a permanent character to it, those moments stay with you forever but their intensity relies on them being finite. I used to associate certain "good" ideas (good in the Platonic sense as in what one looks for in life) with this feeling. From it's intensity I deduced it must be true (as in, true love) and in its permanence (as a feeling that can stay with you for years) granted it a degree of universality. All ideas associated with positive concepts: truth and universality, and implicitly, permanence. This made me conclude it was something I aspired to and wanted in my life, and gave a lot of priority to. Experience has taught me that I could not have been more off the mark. Love (as in flesh and blood love) is nothing of the sort.
here's to the tears you knew you'd cry lol
Adore this trilogy, and the concept of love in a liminal space!
I don't agree with the performative aspect of the goodbye in a romantic relationship that occurs in a liminal space. It can be devastating and your head can stay attached to that place and moment wishing it would have lasted forever.
I'm sorry but how can you describe the settings of CMBYN as "liminal spaces"? It may be a place of transit for Oliver, but even then the 6 weeks he spent working and lounging in the gorgeous villa, Crema and all the other beautiful and bucolic scenery are far too long to consider it a "liminal space". Not to mention that a liminal space would need to be unsettling in some way to be considered as such and Elio's parents' house is a warm, welcoming nest for their family, friends and students.