I felt this one so much from the manager/boss side of things. We've ran into this issue at our place of work as well, once it was a bridezilla worrying over a 16y old girl whilst the couple was nearing their 30s if not already there... J i k e s.
I will never understand literal adult men siding with their passive aggressive abusive moms over their partners. if my mom was like that, I would be mad too
It’s because they were raised under it and their mothers/fathers brainwashed them to believe they were being “overly sensitive” to their harsh words that were under the guise of “I’m just looking out for your well-being dear.” So naturally those men don’t side with their women who get upset because they remind them of themselves when he felt wounded by those words, but their mothers/fathers convinced them to hate that “weak” little boy.
It's cuz he had to live with that abuse for at least a good 18 years. He's basically conditioned to comply with her and try to please her. It's honestly sad.
@@gothbimbo9470 that’s honestly no excuse im sorry, I was gaslighted by my mom all my life and I’ve never gone around gas lighting others cus I know it’s wrong
The wife who's always saying "you were so close". I feel like if she never meant it in a bad way, then she wouldn't have taken it as an insult when her husband said it back to her.
but the thing is the man obviously used it as payback, i genuinely think he meant for it to be insulting just because he got annoyed by his wife saying it. the wife was probably only saying it cuz its her way of helping him be better, maybe he's just that incompetent. thats why the wife was broken when he did it because it was out of pure pettiness and it was something serious too. so many comments here are about how the husband was full of pent up rage that built up causing him to say that.. pent up rage over your wife helping you not make the same mistakes on small things? it just sounds like a mothery wife and a childish husband
@@zserlpq8512 The wife could've been less mean with correcting the husband. How does she immediately think that he's insulting her by saying "you were so close" after telling him herself that she meant it as a compliment when she says it to him? And the husband makes it seem like he hasn't said it before, meaning she herself has been using "You were so close" as a subtle insult this whole time against her husband
@@torquoise9456 I definitely feel like both are at fault but I still feel like he is more of an asshole because that situation was so much more serious. Like yea, the “so close” shit probably gets grating, but that is not the way to address that. I agree with Dylan on this one basically lol.
@@zserlpq8512 Who cares if he used it as payback, I’ll back him up, maybe that way she learned to stop telling him that when he obviously voiced it to her.
the woman who says she pulled over to sleep, she actually wasn't cheating! Nope, turns out she just had a huge gambling problem. Dropped the kid off then went to go gamble the night away. Saw it on the redditorupdates subreddit.
@@Jonas-yv6lo omg imagine it's just an endless rabbit hole lmao the gambling story is a cover for cooking meth. The meth story is a cover for hosting illegal cock fights at the marina
Can't believe they are pissed at the pregnant women for leaving, like if the mum didn't call her a walrus and she wouldn't have left. The audacity of old women. It's not hard to keep your thoughts to yourself.
The moment my husband said his mother “meant well” for telling me that he won’t be happy with my fat self if I keep eating I’d be OUT! That just screamed “I agree with what my mom said” and I wouldn’t be having that shit.
Hey! Update for the last one (police called on fiancé): turns out the wife had stolen OP’s emergency credit card and had been using it for over a month. She had paid back some but still had $1500 debt on the card that she hadn’t paid back. She denied and got mad at him calling her a “thief”. OP checked the card history and saw transactions for cash withdrawals at the ATM and casinos. Turns out she was gambling with OP’s money and he is now breaking up with her and reclaiming his things (new phone and phone line, car insurance, and the car which she trashed). So it wasn’t cheating but a gambling addiction with OP’s money soooo
For the server, it’s clearly a jealousy issue. She made a scenario in her head that all the attention is going to this server, when in reality nobody gives a damn. She obviously is one of those “the attention has to be on me” type girls.
I didn't realize brides were that concerned about people looking a certain way at their weddings. I feel like it is selfish and uncalled for, especially for a server trying to do their job. Her "she was pretty" comment at the end too, definitely jealous!
also just sounds like a major Karen. Gave me flashbacks to the preppy vs goth/punk era of adolescence. Hating someone for raccoon eyes and piercings because its "weird".
Bride for sure has MAJOR insecurities. Your wedding should be about celebrating your relationship; not about how others look. The only rule of wedding dress code should be to not match the bride/groom/party’s outfits.
If I saw my wife running out of a party with two bottles of wine under her arms closely followed by an angry bride I wouldn't even ask questions I'd just shift into getaway driver mode instantly because that's what love is
@@katherine7938 Exactly, if she was really using it as a compliment she definitely wouldn't have gotten so upset at him using it toward her. Her mind would have gone to, "aw, thanks honey for telling me I was trying" instead of thinking it was a back-handed insult. Caught red handed lol
Or, the guy's tone was sarcastic. Some people react negatively to words, others to tone. If someone said, "you were so close, honey, I'm sure you will be successful next time," no one would go "wdym by that" unless they are super sensitive. Butttt, if someone went "you were sooo close, honey, lmao" then yeah, could be not so good since the tone would be petty. Honestly I don't know whether the girl is being mean or not but from the guy's description, he said she is kinda perfectionist and keeps correcting him. She might have meant well and the correction weren't meant to offend him. Or she could have been a control freak, dunno. But, what we do know is that the guy was fed up with the correcting and then when she was crying, that's when he had his revenge. If something slips up and someone asks "wdym", you can still save yourself and explain that you are not being petty if it wasn't your intention. But the guy doubled-down on what he said. And the way he contrasts himself as being the go-getter and educated one while she is not also paints him in a positive light and her in a negative one. Sounds like he didn't draw the boundary properly, make the girl not to say "sooo close" and then he got more upset over time, letting the resentment build until he saw an occasion to get back at her. They are both assholes. He for being petty and she for not respecting his wishes and boundaries. They should talk it out properly.
@@illusionofquality979 YES, the guy clearly said it out of spite, he doesn't say that sentence because he thinks it's an insult so when he uses it it's clear to her why he's using, and it sounds like he was resentful and it probably showed through the way he said it even more
I feel so bad for the woman in the first story. That’s just straight up mean to say to a pregnant woman. The party is supposed to be about her and why not let her eat cake. It’s insane the husband didn’t side with her
it's so unbelievable that it almost seems like karma farming. i wouldn't usually say that except i keep seeing all these very similar stories lately about husbands siding with their insane family members insulting OP's weight on this subreddit. smells fishy to me. at the very least i hope it's not true for op's sake
I agree. I think the woman should have told the MIL to F-off and she should have enjoyed her serving of cake. I think she should have outed the MIL to the rest of the party and make the request for her to leave because the MIL's actions were completely unacceptable. And then carry-on the party without her.
"You ruined my trust!" You basically stole your sisters identity to make an OF so that if someone else found it, your sister would be forced to take the fall instead of you. Thats some entitlement.
Also another thing, She is making money by using her sisters identity without her permission and taking all that money for herself. Even if it was something else and not onlyfans, I don't think it would be ethical
@blesskurunai9213 it's a tough situation because the twin *did* still perform and film those acts, so some of the earnings should still go to her. But yeah, the moment she attempted to frame her sister for it is where shit is messed up. Be an OF Creator all you want, but own that shit ffs
People do the same with weddings too. Like have your own, don’t hijack someone else’s. Live a better life, you can make these things called choices to make it better lol
Totally. If they were really throwing the party for the mother and concerned about the mother's weight (which is such BS), why didn't they serve a veggie tray or sandwiches or something? I've gone to a lot of baby showers and there are always a variety of foods and can easily have a full meal while there.
This! Dylan doesn't read it, but OP mentions that her husband refused her sister's request to throw a baby shower. He then accepts *his* sister's request and invites his entire side of the family. He also did absolutely nothing to defend her. He's trash and so are his mother and sister.
@@MonaLyssa33 I thought the same thing! I would feel hella bad being at a party & seeing everyone else get cake, but the pregnant woman who’s party it is is refused some like wtf
For the third story, I will agree that was not the time nor the place to give her a (admittedly deserved) dose of her own medicine. HOWEVER, the wife claims it is a compliment, and if so, why get so upset over him saying it? She clearly knows it’s insulting and condescending.
She either knows it's condescending(especially the way it says she exaggerates the so close part) or it's the fact that he's told her that he feels it's condescending that when he uses it she immediately thinks it is. Either way she still would have known he doesn't like it and continue to do it or is condescending him. Not great on his part to say it and not apologize afterwards (wasn't stated so don't know if he did) if he realized almost immediately after it was said, and his spouse leaving completely says she sees it as offensive. Hopefully they just agree to not use the phrase anymore
For the first one where the mil called woman a walrus the other part I was focused on she called her mom to come get her. So the sister didn't even invite the pregnant woman's own mother.
Threatening to call the POLICE on a SERVER at your WEDDING for the crime of *checks notes* wearing "way too much" eyeliner and having tight pants is... something
I think the boss complied because they didn't want to deal.. like the OP doesn't own the venue, the waitress works there, what would she even tell the cops, what would they even do. She's a Karen that's what she is
As a recently former pregnant woman… I can in fact confirm that all real pregnancy cravings can feel like life or death situations. I’m not a cryer… never have been… I wasent even a fussy baby 33 years ago… I legit cried in a 7/11 because they were out of nacho cheese… genuine tears of sadness…
For real I saw my sister cry on the floor of the kitchen at 2 am because she drank the rest of the pickle juice earlier that day and forgot so when she went to get some it wasn’t there and she thought someone hid it from her and we spent almost an hour explaining to her that she finished it and no one took it. She was so embarrassed the next day that she cried again and apologized pregnancy brain be wild.
Ok so there’s this content creator that I follow named Amber Wallin. She has this video on her IG where she’s crying because she had a sudden craving for a boullion cube because “they look like little candies”. She was crying because when she ate it, it was super salty and she was embarrassed. Then she started crying some more because they still looked good and she wanted to eat another one 😂😂
for the "you were so close" one, the fact that she got so offended when he said that to her means that it IS supposed to be condescending all the time she said it to him. if those words were innocent or a compliment in her mind, then she wouldn't get angry when she hears it directed at her. it seems like he didn't mean to say it back but i'm petty so if i were him, i would've said it on purpose like "you were so close, next time maybe if you did *this* then you'd get the job" 🤷🏻♀️
the second story makes me so annoyed, as a waitress I know it's 100% internalised misogyny towards that poor girl. It's made worse by the fact that they were short-staffed which is incredibly stressful so she was probably working really hard just to be told that she was a distraction despite complying with the uniform. It was a wedding not the army, that lady has some serious insecurities she needs to work out- ideally before entering into a marriage lol.
@@androidsentbycyberl1fe I see what you mean but the whole wedding scenario plus the comments on her body (“tight” fit or whatever) screams insecurity to me.
Honestly I get that work is important but shame on her boss to just go with it the last time she demanded the poor girl be removed. Bridezilla said she'd call the cops? And what would they do exactly ?? Probably wouldn't even show up unless she'd lie and that would get her in trouble
"So Close" guy, I think he was CONDITIONED. His brain literally just recognized the moment/situation as a match. The fact she immediately asked What do you mean by that? is very telling that she herself does in fact, mean something by that. 🤷😏
For the cops being called on the cousins stealing OP's dead parents' stuff: I'm not usually a "call the cops" person but there is something ghoulish about family trying to get into a dead person's house to take stuff, especially when their children alerted everyone to NOT do this. If the parents had given permission for those cousins to have those items, then it would have been no issue for them to wait for the will to be read and entrance into the house permitted. They didn't wait, so their story is suspicious. They deserve the felonies IMO.
Exactly if it’s actually written in the will and testament that they can have those items then it means that the executor of the estate will just give them those items when they read the will
Exactly what I was thinking. Why do the need to break into the house immediately for the stuff? Why couldn’t they wait to get the stuff like everyone else?
My thoughts exactly. Either they swiped more than belonged to them or they were in some serious money troubles and wanted to sell the stuff right away to make bank. Either way, absolutely tasteless after the dad died so suddenly (and recently).
In the story about the guy with the expensive apartment who tried to power play his girlfriend, moral of the story is don't listen to your 'buddies' when they don't know shit about your relationship, your dynamic with each other and how you two communicate
Yeah, friends put stupid thoughts in his head and he was a moron for listening to them. How is she a gold digger when he was the one that asked her to stay and she immediately said she couldn't afford it? She dodged a bullet cause the guy either was an idiot or wanted to control her.
well yeah the thought clearly hadn’t crossed the boyfriend’s mind until his friends brought it up, so the girl is better off without him. I wouldn’t want my boyfriend’s friends controlling our relationship
I had an ex when I was like 17 who used to listen to everything his friends whisper in his ear. I could tell they were just jealous of the relationship and he let them come between us. He used to literally repeat what they say word by word whenever we texted. Any woman or man who let other people badmouth their partners and meddle in their affairs are a red flag.
@@overtheatlas uhm maybe in Manhattan it's that expensive. My brother lives in a luxury apartment with amazing amenities (movie theater, hot tubs, pool, gym, game room, rec room, conference room, yoga room, kids' room, etc.) and the rent goes from $3,000-$5,000 from studios- 2-bedroom apartments in Brookyln. I lived in NYC all my life, so I know there are cheaper apartments. I know a few places for $2,500-3,000 in queens that are really good places and also have amenities. But hey, some people think NYC is only in Manhattan and don't branch out to the other boroughs. But this is also an assumption with me thinking your building is in Manhattan. I don't know if that's true or not.
For the cosplay one I completely agree with you. Was the girlfriend ACTUALLY uncomfortable with the pirate cosplayer's question or did the op's lack of knowledge in anime/gaming make him feel insecure when someone who knew about it was interacting with his gf? The way his gf reacted to him later makes me feel like it was the latter.
Not necessarily, I mean even if he was bothering her, that's a pretty AH way to go about it. On the other hand, if she frequently goes to those events it's not the first time it's happened to her, I'm sure if it got too much for her she was perfectly capable of handling it herself.
@@jakeand9020 She also wouldn't have demanded her partner to apologise if the guy had made her feel uncomfortable. She would have been happy to be rid of the guy, not upset with her partner. THAT explains it all tbh.
@@TheHestya Exactly, no girl is going to make her boyfriend apologize to a genuine creep, even if he was taking it a bit too far in his response. She would've just told him that later like: 'Hey thanks for sticking up for me but you took it a bit too far' she wouldn't have done it in front of the creep, in that moment more than anything she'd just be happy to be rid of him.
It really annoys me that the rich nyc bf probably sits around with his friends now talking about how they exposed her as a gold digger and how she left when she realized he wasnt gonna pay for everything. Sounds like the kind of thing he’d believe
I know this is an old comment but I agree, I'm convinced they would act that way. I mean they called HER a golddigger for something HE suggested. 😂 Also as a side note: I can't stand people who's friends/family maliciously mock their partner (bf/gf husband/wife etc) who's done nothing wrong, and then side with their friends/family instead of their partner?! I've seen this happen irl to a friend of mine with a partner she had been with for over a decade at that point, and fortunately she's moved on from it now, but it really messed her up for quite a while.
For #ChocolateGate, she's definitely not the asshole, because she apologized once he got home. You're going to lose your cool sometimes, especially when pregnant. She realized she was in the wrong and apologized. That's fine
Fun fact: even identical twins have slightly different fingerprints because the patterns are not just affected by genetics but also by environmental factors of the womb
@@ItsMeBarnaby yeah a similar thing happened with a german jewellery heist in 2009 where three guys stole $6 million worth of jewellery and when they found a latex glove at the crime scene and examined the DNA of the sweat inside it, it also belonged to an identical set of twins. Neither could be prosecuted because they couldn‘t figure out which one it belonged to. We actually still don‘t have the means to examine DNA on a level required to determine the tiny differences in identical twins DNA. (There are some, but they are minimal because they‘re also caused by environmental factors so it‘ll take a couple more years of genetic research to be able to determine them)
"People just... are THAT mean?" YES. As a plus size girl... thousand time YES. You age judged not only for eating but for existing in general. People are so much meaner if you're overweight.
When a narcissist says “you were so close “they do it to make a person feel insecure, and let them know that they will never be good enough. So, when poster sent it to her, she knew exactly what he meant because it was exactly what she meant.
Yes, I can't believe some people are defending her. To me it was clear all along it was meant as a way to chip away at her husbands self-esteem. And even if it wasn't he asked her to stop and she never did.
Yes, her reacton explains it all. If she really thoguht it wasn't condescending, she wouldn't have even considere for one second he meant it in a condescending way. She immediately wanted to know what he meant. Which means she is VERY aware exactly how it sounds. Therefore she knows it when she says it too.
Hey, you probably didn't intend to, but your comment actually spreads a harmful image of those who are narcissists. I have narcissist personality disorder, and I'm sure I speak for many of us when I say we don't maliciously try to hurt the people we care about. It is a disorder, and it can make navigating relationships really tough, but we're not all heartless assholes haha
The fact that the “so close” guy had told his wife he doesn’t appreciate her telling him he’s so close and she ignored him means he’s not the asshole in my book.
@@alnklar I thought he was actually trying to see things her way. She said it was a compliment, he didn’t like it but he tried to see it her way, he used her phrase as a compliment to her, and she showed her true colors
And also why are we acting like people are perfect? Unless he's been thru years of therapy, why wouldn't he be a bit of an asshole?? That situation sounds so crushing.
For the missing fiance...she said she pulled over on the side of the road to sleep, but the police were sending someone to check her route to look for her car. She at the very least wasn't where she said she was going.
For the cousin taking deceased family members things, they should have just asked before doing it or given a heads up. There would be no issue if they did that. Seems like they were trying to be sneaky, which is exactly what happened with my father and his sister (she grabbed all the valuable items from their mothers home before he arrived) and it’s frustrating. Especially during a time of grieving you don’t want to have to argue over their material possessions.
Funny, I think he needed to wait a million years for her to be crying to finally say it cause in normal circumstances she actually wouldn't be offended at all compared to him.
@@Rose-cq3bf honestly if your SO says a phrase constantly I get someone starting to say it too. I mean it happens all the time when people start binge watching TV shows, I don’t think it’s vindictive that he said the same thing she always says to him.
For the boyfriend that tried to make her girlfriend pay half of the rent, when she said she only had two days where she is does not have other obligations, that pretty much means she doesn't have the time to get a job. Sure, she could tire herself out by working the entire week, but she should also worry about her mental health. Plus it's a financial decision that seems to have worked for her so far.
yeah why would she pay for a apartment's rent when she can get by on her own or get a romemate? Her boyfriend already showed his true colors in times of need, why tf would she stay there. Like if she was NEVER willing to pay rent I'd see an issue but they had discussed it all then why
That and I don't know where they might live but I doubt working 2 days a week would be enough to pay 2.5k in rent a month. He was not only going back on his word but being a huge dick by asking for so much money, knowing her situation. Even with a job I doubt she could afford that much, and she even made a joke that he'd have to downgrade if they lived together in an apartment and she helped pay rent. He refused and said no, he'd pay the rent in full at his flashy condo. Then got pissed when she called him out on his shit.
Tbf she did have the time then , there are people that have no choice and that have to work while studying,I’m not saying that you shouldn’t priorities your mental health but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have time to work ,u just choose not to work on weekends.
@@Omar-kl3xp yeah but I'm saying for her situation she doesn't have time. Not in the literal sense but what's reasonable for her situation. There are people with your situation, but she has no reason to give up that time when she was fine without a job
@@Omar-kl3xp I am in grad school and uh it’s totally a full-time job. I cannot picture myself doing anything outside of it because it would drive me crazy. She has every right to take those two days to keep herself mentally, physically, and emotionally healthy. Shit, even on weekends I have to work on PhD related shit or catch up on other stuff or just take a damn break from the stress. so I truly respect her for what she did. She really looked out for herself. In grad school we live paycheck to paycheck, if you’re lucky enough to get funded, that is. She rightfully evaluated the situation and made the correct move.
“so close” gf is the asshole here - she keeps insisting that she’s not insulting him by saying it but the second he says it to her she’s livid. even if her situation is more serious, she’s been belittling him this whole time on the grounds of “it’s a compliment!” and confirms that it’s not a compliment the second it’s turned on her
I agree ! And also, I don't know if it's because I'm french, and english is not my native langage. But... I don't see how 'so close' would be a compliment. I Mean... If someone tells me : "you were so close, next time do it this way..." EVEN if the person tries to help and doesn't mean it as an insult, it's NOT a compliment. You're criticizing their work even if it's constructive criticism, it's still not a compliment. So she was at least criticizing him over and over again, even when he told her it was hurtful. All she had to do, was change the wording...
right?? also if you care about your partner then you wouldn't want to hurt their feelings, no? if they tell you that something you say is hurtful, wouldn't you want to consider their point of view? do people just forget how to be empathetic to their loved ones??? something tells me there wasn't much empathy there to begin with. smh
Context clues matter. She knows that he finds the phrase that she thinks as a complement is an insult. She knows that he finds it to be an insult. Because he told her. If he has said this to her when she was like sweeping up or making breakfast and she responded with being upset with him I can see you being correct. Because he would just be matching her energy. However he has never said the phrase to her because he thinks it’s a insult. So I want you to logically think in your head if you know your partner find a certain phrase to be an insult and they never say it you might say it but you they never say it. Then in a moment when you’re very upset and need consoling they say that exact phrase ….that you know they find it to be an insult ….to you. Are you really trying to say that she can’t be upset? ……., That’s basically him saying F you and try to hurt her feelings to prove a point lol Yes she’s probably stop saying the phrase of it hurts his feelings but he also doesn’t get the pass to say that phrase to her with malicious intent. Lol that’s toxic
@@toocutenoirb.4278 by that logic she was toxic too. A lot more too ! Because he told her that the phrase hurted his feelings and she kept saying it knowing what effect it had on him. He did it one time because she knowingly hurted him severall times... Tell me how was he supposed to make her stop, if telling her numerous times that it hurts him when she says that doesn't stop her ? He was hurtful once she was a lot of times... and she did it with his job too ! That was petty and probably drived by ressentment but... he wouldn't have those feeling if she cared that she hurted him in the first place ...
@@Sytrylt You are correct. "Tell me how was he supposed to make her stop?" He had no choice. She would not stop and most likely never will until she receives some consequences for her actions. Just like a bratty teenager who gets told "no"by mommy and daddy. He seems to be to nice and accommodating to her and is seen as week in her eyes and lost respect for him .If I was him I" d be very careful and be prepared to jump ship if he has to.
“You were so close” no I agree with the husband. I know how it feels to have your self esteem corroded little by little every day, trying your hardest getting criticized even for the smallest tasks. It’s awful. Honestly I think him saying “you were so close” in the context he did was much more acceptable. It was only one time and it actually fit the situation. Being told “you were so close” every single day about everything you do without ever getting true praise is soulbreaking. If she can’t hear it even once without melting down, it shows that her true intentions with that phrase have always been negative.
^^ yep i agree ! getting told you're so close when doing every day tasks , that you didn't even do wrong , simply them not being to her standard is so demeaning & at a certain point can take a huge toll on the way you view yourself as never being good enough . the wife actually did get very close to the job - it actually fit the situation even if she didn't want to hear it at the time .
Yup, and I believe him when he said he blurted it out because he hears it soo much and it fits the situation so well. Now where he became the A-hole was when he doubled down. And hes aware of that so 🤷🏽♀️. I think there no longer more love than annoyance. People you love do shit that annoys you, but he had the option to back off apologise and say it just came to mind, focus on the love and comfort the person, then discuss the matter later. He chose the annoyance instead and doubled down in anger. Because its clear she's being rude now since what he said sent her to her friends house instead their room for a couple of hours 😏🤣
i also think that the woman getting offended when he said that to her shows that every time she said it to him in the past it was meant to push his buttons. otherwise why would she get hurt by him saying it. idk if that makes sense lol😭
For the cosplay one as someone who cosplays: it’s super common for cosplayers to be approached and even cornered by creeps at conventions, to the point that before large conventions people will post on Instagram that they’re available to pretend to be a cosplayer’s friend to get them out of uncomfortable situations. But if the girlfriend got upset it probably wasn’t that much of a creepy situation, or she found the insult to be disproportionate
i think it could have been handled in a calmer, more mature way. maybe just by saying something about it being their business because thats their gf. would have been a reasonable defense and totally sent further back off vibes to the guy.
And I agree with Dylan - if cosplay girl felt uncomfortable, she wouldve been happy that her bf stood up for her. But she didn't feel weird and even wanted him to apologize, so *gavel gavel* Ahole!
I don't know. Some women are just worried about making a scene or being rude even when someone is making them uncomfortable. It's hard to know what was actually going on.
@@charlsreyn But if that’s the case, would she not have then privately told him “thanks for standing up for me” after they left? I feel like the fact she doubled down and told him privately after the fact that his behavior embarrassed her screams “it wasn’t actually a big deal and didn’t bother my gf but I tried to white knight for her and got rightfully called out for being rude.”
I don't know about that. If it were me, I could be really uncomfortable but not want someone to make a big scene about it, especially if they're going to do it in a rude way.
That's exactly what I thought. The fact she was embarrassed and forced him to apologize and the way he belittled anime fans, makes me think the gf was not actually uncomfortable and the boyfriend was being a jerk.
For the one with the wife saying “so close” NTA - if we’re gonna give her the benefit of the doubt thinking she doesn’t mean to be condescending, he probably didn’t mean to be condescending either? But if he said it back and she immediately thought it was condescending when it wasn’t meant to be, it makes me wonder why she would jump to the conclusion that he was being rude.
He admitted he finds it condescending. Not her. He said, to her and to the internet, that "so close" is condescending to him. How do you walk that back? It's not that she thinks the sentence is rude, it's that he was trying to hurt her. It could have been the most blatantly complimentary phrase in the world. If you're husband tells you "I hate it when you say I'm the most beautiful, kind-hearted person on the planet, it's so disrespectful" and when you are upset, turns to you and says "You are the most beautiful, kind-hearted person on the planet" you know he is disrespecting you. It doesn't matter if you find that sentence a compliment or an insult - he *told you* it's disrespectful to him and he's saying to you. His intentions are clear.
exactly this. she knew he found it rude, so therefore any continuation diminishes the ability to use it in a non-condescending way. kind of like, “sorry means you wont do it again.” if the intention is to compliment, and its not working, then maybe change the wording. as for him, i could see it being a subconscious dig but i seriously don’t blame him. sometimes the best way to get through to people is by giving them a taste of their own medicine. i mean he already expressed disdain, was he supposed to deal with it all his life ?? hell nah
@@BeaSDT same thing can be said about the wife continuing use AFTER being told its condescending. which, she did. what you’re saying is he should be responsible for how words makes her feel, but she shouldn’t have to do the same. which is completely unfair.
Probably because he told her that when she said "so close", it was condescending TO HIM and he did not like when she did it. She couldn't see what the issue was because she saw her comments as constructive, not critical. Now that she's crying and upset, he's using the same phrase that he repeatedly told her he hates hearing. Her train of thought could be, "If you hate this phrase so much, why then would you say it now when I'm clearly upset and vulnerable? You must be trying to get back at me!" and so she left.
That thing about how much responsibility is on you if you don’t communicate thing is really true. My roommate and I recently worked out a system about that. My roommate has a penchant for blaming herself for other people’s negative emotions. I’m autistic, so I usually need someone to tell me if I’m doing or saying something they dislike; I don’t pick up the social cues. She would tell me I said something she didn’t like, I would get upset _at myself,_ and she would think I was upset _at her._ She didn’t tell me this until just recently, but now we’ve worked out a system where I clarify that my negative emotions aren’t directed towards her. Communication, people. It really helps.
Dylan's theory about the bride being attracted to the server and being hostile towards her because of it actually makes a lot of sense from a psychological point of view.
I thought this made sense, except that the bride told all the guests not to wear make-up. That sounds like insecurity about everyone, rather than she was just focused on this one girl.
Your username makes it seem like you're a fan of a certain pirate but i can't tell which one because I don't keep up with pop culture or watch a whole lot of movies.
"You betrayed my trust" says the twin sister that probably commited a crime/an offense (unless impersonating someone or pretending to be someone else is legal now).
Is it illegal if she used a nick name? I mean her intention was to make people who know them think it's her sister but since she didn't use the sister's legal name can she be charged for what she did?
@@sienna9620 I don't know much (if anything) about US laws, but I'd say if she can prove everyone knows her by that nickname, she could still sue, right?
@@sienna9620 a nickname isn’t too different from a stage name. I don’t think it matters if they use your actual name or not, if they are making it pretty clear who they are pretending to be I think it still counts as using their identity.
@@taylorannepaisley1342 I mean it's clear to the general public that her intention was to impersonate her sister but to prove it in court the sister might more than the nick name and the face thing. She would probably have to show multiple instances where people actually thought it was her because of the nickname, and would need other evidences of the sister using her personal informations to impersonate her. Like for example a specific behavioral feature she has, or something.
Imagine throwing somebody a party and then denying them the food at said party. Like why even throw them the party if they not allowed to eat the food? At that point just throw a party for yourself
When I was pregnant, I cried my eyes out because my ex didn't turn the exhaust fan on in the bathroom when he had a shower, shit just all feels so much bigger and more serious when you're big, sore and uncomfortable and your brain has been replaced with hormone soup.Also... the chocolates were *hers*. Clearly she's okay with sharing but also he definitely knew they were her faves.
I recently gave birth, but i have to disagree with you. YES those cravings are huge, yes they were her faves, but it could have waited til morning. She would have been fine eating the other flavours he gave her, but then once she noticed she freaked out.
@@foreshadowing_panda3928 she didn’t make him do anything. She just got understandably upset that he bought chocolates FOR HER then ate what he clearly knew was her favourite flavour out of them.
This. The pettiness, the lack of communication, having little in common, the contempt and resentment. It's honestly really sad. Either get couples counseling or let one another go already.
Actually lost my mind at the server with “too much” makeup cause I work in “fine dining” for my city and I go crazy with my makeup cause I have to wear all black and it adds character without being tacky. I’m always kind of cautious and aware that some of the clientele may be uncomfortable with it but typically people LOVE it. Treating servers/bartenders like they can’t be just people is INSANE to me. We’re just trying to look nice and add some personality to that
I’m someone who is completely monogamous when it comes to relationships, but I think you can still cheat in an open relationship. I personally believe that if you set boundaries with a person, such as needing to discuss potential new partners with them before involvement, and they go out of their way to cross those boundaries, then it’s cheating.
It's also gross to involve other people in your relationship when they're clearly uncomfortable. My mom is a "unicorn" so she's the third. She brings her s*x partners home when we pay half the rent and says it's "her house" and we have no say in it. We have a 3 year old who she is exposing to these people that she picks up at bars. I don't even feel safe with all these strangers coming in and out of our home but we live in California and literally can't afford anything else.
@@fiestyfox2207 haha i agree with u abt the last one tho. if a child expresses that they're uncomfortable, it should be common sense for a parent to consider their needs over those of literal strangers
the fact the woman got upset from the "so close" literally proves that she meant it as an insult. she see's it as a backhanded condecending insult. if she truly saw it as a compliment, she wouldn't get upset
I stand by the “so close” guy. She deserved it. If he’s mentioned how that phrase has made him feel and the wife has continued to say it basically ignoring how he felt, she deserves to hear it back. Now she knows how he’s felt all this time and her taking offense means she’s known this whole time that saying the phrase was not a compliment.
Like, the reasonable part of me wants to say, "Relationships are about compromise and chosing to be the better person blah blah blah" but the nengeful part of me basically had an prgasm when the guy responded with the, "So close."
Also, if it's a phrase that he's hearing all the time, then it makes sense that he would immediately think of it, *especially* in a situation where that phrase would actually make sense to use.
I would say the only potential AH bit would be doubling down on it by saying it a second time because that was slightly mean spirited. But the situation was definitely not his fault, she shouldn’t have been talking to him like that.
The twin thing you mentioned has actually happened! There were a pair of twins in I believe Malaysia(?) where one twin was caught drug trafficking red-handed, and the second twin showed up shortly after, and in their country, drug trafficking had a REQUIRED minimum penalty of death. They mixed up the twins during the arrest and since they only had the evidence against one twin and not the other, they needed to know which one had been caught before they could prosecute. When they couldn't confirm it 100%, the judge refused to prosecute because she couldn't condone possibly sending an innocent man to his death. LegalEagle did a video on it :]
I love how you’re pointing out how trigger happy redditors are about cutting people out of one’s life. I mean, sometimes, it’s warranted. But, every single time someone makes a mistake, it’s like “they have chosen exile”.
the anger that would run through me if my partner kept telling me I was 'so close' to doing something right, and then get angry when I said the same thing, idc if it was a job, she a hypocrite. and she needs to stay in her lane.
The thing is she really was close to get that job and i think saying "you were so close, maybe next time" is an appropriate think to say in this situation but she knew SHE USED THESE WORDS IN A CONDESCENDING MANNER TO HER PARTNER everyday that's why she was triggered at the first go. She's the asshole
I love how it’s obvious Dylan reads the comments and adapts his content to it…like he could’ve ignored the drama in the comments from last video but he didn’t! he incorporated it instead…very community feeling
It's so crazy how the majority (at least feels that way) of UA-camrs just ignore the comment section and rarely interact with their subscribers nevermind incorporate what they said into a future video.
The MIL was in charge of the food and giving that she was fat-shaming OP in the past, I wouldn’t be surprised if she did it on purpose. If she really meant well she would’ve made sure there was healthy food available, not only cakes!
I actually felt gross at the server story. I wear bold eyeliner I’m assuming that’s what she was wearing, the server was also simply doing her job. It actually makes me uncomfortable as a server myself that people are judging me this hard and it could ruin their day so bad
the one about the teen paying part of the rent and learning abt the open relationship really got to me. It made me so mad; I didn't like all the name-calling mentioned but when the parents supposedly called later, while the teen wasn't home, for rent, I was like HELL NAHH
people also need to realize you must be extremely careful who you invite into your home if you have family in it. Kids or Grandkids or even elderly family who need assistance. Once you take these people into your home it is no longer JUST your home, its also the home of those dependent on you. Kids especially need a stable environment. It's completely irresponsible to invite men over who over members of the house are not comfortable around, especially if it becomes frequent
I fully agree with the people saying to cut off the cousins who took stuff from their parent's house after their dad passed away. It wasn't even their parents!! I can't imagine going to my uncle or aunt's house and taking stuff after they die even if they told me I could have it. If it's in the will, then the appointed executor is legally obligated to give it to you. And if it's not in the will, then who knows if they actually said you could have it!
If the parents had promised it, mention that to the executor. Especially after they mentioned that's how they wanted to do things. Going over there and taking things while the body is still warm is just looting
the problem here isn't that there are consequences the problem si which ones. this should have been a civil case in most situations. you get the stuff back or a payout they also have to cover the cost of the case. but it went to be a criminal case instead. thats a hole diffrent lvl. Like the cousins and the Uncle are defnitly in the wrong here. but sending cops is very extrem.
@@grahamking9885 I'm definitely not defending the cousins, but how would they prove the parents promised them? If they were that desperate to get it, it probably wasn't in the will.
The “you were so close” thing fits way better in a job interview you barely lost on when compared to menial tasks that literally require very little intelligence or skill. Getting a job is tough sometimes, cleaning the dishes should never be tough lol unless stuff is like caked on I dunno 😂 choosing to say that for those simple tasks is beyond degrading, that guys wife was basically saying “it’s okay buddy, maybe next time you’ll be able to put the square blocks where they belong and the circular ones where they belong”
Fully agree on the cosplaying one, sounds like the boyfriend just decided the guy was creepy just because he didn't like him talking to his girlfriend. With the wedding one with the server I think I would have full regretted marrying her by my own wedding reception, I'd be filing for a divorce pretty quick 🤣
I agree on the captain red beard one. I think it's reasonable to assume that the gf would tell her guy if she was feeling uncomfortable and he doesn't give any examples of creepy behavior other than talking to his gf about what they are currently meeting up to talk about
Yeah the story hinges on whether the GF is actually uncomfortable (but I don't think she would have told her BF she's uncomfortable if the red beard guy is actually following her the whole time, she wouldn't have the opportunity). If the guy is actually making her uncomfortable, I sympathise with the BF. If he doesn't intervene, his GF might get mad he didn't doing anything. If intervenes in a benign way (which it seems like he did at first) and it ends in confrontation, his GF gets mad anyway.
The baby shower story pissed me off. I’m having mine in a few days and can assure you my mil, mom, and sister have spent more money on mine then the one in the story. I mean, cake and juices?? Not even a main meal? They didn’t spend much money, I can tell you that. Also, she is growing a HUMAN inside of her! She needs to get as much food in her as she can, the baby takes a lot from the mom, I ate all day yesterday without getting full because of how much my baby was taking. I had to limit myself yesterday because I noticed just how much I was eating, no one else told me anything because they knew why I was eating a lot. Fuck that whole family, pissed me off so much.
The husband is insane. His mom "meant well" when she called his wife carrying his child a walrus. No one means well when calling someone a walrus. They're treating her like an incubator.
@@katrinascarlet5637 I disagree, do you think his mother told him she called his wife a walrus? No. She sugar-coated it. I feel as if the blame falls mostly on the mother
I honestly think the way he said “so close” was used better than ANY of the times she used it. She WAS close to getting the job, it was between her & 1 other person. He was just stating a fact, & she got mad because she knows when she says it it’s not a compliment like she claims
Agreed. As petty and it may have saounded/bad, she just mad he beat her at her own game. She was passive aggressive and figurative and he was literal lol
When it comes to the anime nerd, I think the boyfriend was insecure because he felt like he didn't fit in, but his girlfriend did and was starting to make a friend, so he decided to try to make the "anime nerd" leave by judging his appearance.
yea, and the "nerd" pointing out that OPs BF didn't know the cosplay, that probably made the BF feel more isolated and exacerbated that feeling so that's why he reacted out even more by making the virgin comment
i’m surprised no one is talking abt the twin story. if someone was using MY name and MY face for something i didn’t consent to or was even informed of in the first place, i would press charges. not to mention the fact her sister charged her for a felony and she just let that slide? either the girls twin has always been resentful towards her for no reason or the girl herself has done something to upset her twin insane amount. either way, a horrible thing to do to a person.
For the cosplay case, it's probably the jealousy talking. If even his gf told him to apologize then he definitely took it too far and is claiming the guy is a creep just to justify it.
Exactly! If the girlfriend was truly creeped out, she would be relieved that someone stepped in, not defending the supposed ‘creep.’ Mentioning the acne and stereotypes was so unnecessary too and says nothing about the person’s moral character.
The things with the third story, the man actually TOLD his wife that he doesn't like it. But she kept doing it anyway. That's the point. If you tell your partner that you don't like a certain action yet they still do it anyway, that is a clear indication of indifference to what you feel.
Or at the very least she should be trying to avoid it. Like I can maybe understand if it slipped out once in a while after he said something if she then apologized because it's a habit for her but it sounded like she didn't give a damn about him.
Or maybe it's a habit. But I agree that sge didn't seem like she cared. she didn't try to correct herself by telling him to call her out whenever she says it out of habit and She'll apologize and try not to say it again and repeat this until her habit is gone.
Exactly. Doesn’t matter your intention, if your SO tells you that something you say/do is hurtful and you respect them you’d stop. Refusing to is a sign of major disrespect
Just in case anyone is interested about the identical twin thing and crimes: It has happened in the past that identical twins got away with crimes by trying to pin it on the other, as then it couldn’t be proved beyond reasonable doubt that one did it over the other. However, very recently in the Netherlands an identical twin was rightly convicted of rape as they did full DNA profiles for both, which took about two years as identical twins tend to have only about 5-10 differences in their 3 billion DNA letters. Hope this was interesting! And thank you Dylan for very interesting videos ❤
My dad works in a jail, and there used to be a set of twins that were in and out regularly that he'd talk about. Apparently there were a handful of charges against them that had to be dismissed because the evidence given made it impossible to determine which twin was responsible, basically automatic reasonable doubt. So it can in fact cause legal conundrums
When it comes to pregnancy cravings it's just something you can't mess with 😂 I dropped a single pringle on the floor when I was pregnant and I started crying. It really is insane.
I feel ya, Beth! Except mine was a period, and I went through all 5 of the stages of grief in escalating dramatics at not having chocolate in the house. Cried because the Nutella wasn’t close enough, dammit 😂
I wanted to say that In the pregnancy one she was the AH but then I remember the blind rage I went into when my brother ate the ice cream I’d saved for myself for my period. I legit threw a plate. I still cannot believe I had that kinda anger in me. Hormones will mess u up
shit i already get pissed at my family when they buy pizza or donuts or ice cream or whatever and then let my sister eat it all without saving any to the side for me, even if i like, specifically walked all across town with them for it. i dont throw plates but i do *feel* like throwing plates. especially since i dont eat as much as them and we dont eat meals together so i usually have to like, scrounge up food on my own schedule. extremely inconvenient when im looking for something i expect to be there when im really hungry and then theres nothing. EDIT; I TOTALLY FUCKING FORGOT THEY DO THIS WITH MY BIRTHDAY CAKE TOO LMAO- we had to get 2 when i turned 18 because the last few birthdays, my sister (who is 26 now) would take slices in the middle of the night whenever she wanted, when i try to save rare treats like that as much as possible (and would end up getting none)
When someone just isn't listening to your communication about boundaries (referring to the gf with the food and also the husband being "so close"), the best thing to do is to calmly ask them questions on *why* they keep doing it. Make them think through their behavior. From that point you can express how their continued behavior makes you feel. If they just flat out don't care after all this, big red flag.
On the one hand, this is a calm, rational approach. But on the other hand, I don't think people should have to use social emotional learning tactics to get their partner to be considerate or just an overall decent human being. So idk, I think maybe it's reasonable for those one-off small things but if I found myself needing to do something like this frequently, it would be a pretty big red flag to me.
For the “you were so close” AITA story I say NTA. If the wife truly never meant for it to be an insult whenever she said it, then why would she take it as an insult when he said it to her? To me that just shows she actually did mean to degrade him with every comment, like he’s not good enough and can’t do anything right. The wife is TA here.
He told her to stop so if she was actually nice , she would have changed her wording or something. Continuing something knowing that it bothers this person it doesn't matter even if you meant well or not ,you gotta stop.( I don't belive she meant well though)
@@n.a.02.02 I totally agree, that’s something that stood out to me too. She has no respect for her husband, if she did she would consider his feelings, apologize for making him feel less than and stop saying those words.
The "you were so close" one is difficult because when she does it, it's about minor things, except imagine hearing that every day when you do those things. It sounds to me like she's trying to micromanage him and he clearly hates it, which is valid. That being said, if your partner has just experienced a big letdown, is crying next to you, clearly hurt and vulnerable, and you use this moment as payback... that's just vicious. Even if it really was the first thing to pop in his head, he kept going so at that point it wasn't just his subconscious, he meant to make her feel worse. I understand that sometimes you can have pent-up issues with your partner but kicking them while their down isn't an appropriate or effective way to solve them.
I mean, he already expressed to her that he didn't like it and she kept doing it. So SHE is already aware of his feelings, and thus no longer has the excuse of ignorance. Also as other people have pointed out, if she didn't mean it to belittle him why does she react like that when he says it...
@@dustrose8101 But I didn't say she was unaware of his feelings, I said that a moment like that, when she had just found out that her dream job rejected her, was an inappropriate time to bring this "you were so close" thing up (and the way he "brought it up", by saying it out of spite, was inappropriate regardless). He saw an opportunity to make her suffer more and took it. I think it's a low blow and not how you handle boundaries in a relationship you care about. Also as other people have pointed out, the tone you use while saying something adds a lot of meaning. You can say "oh, honey, I know, you were so close!" in a supportive way (and noone would ask "what do you mean?") but you can also say it sarcastically, in a mean way. There's ofc no way to judge unless someone was there but it's good to keep in mind
I agree with you. The fact that he couldn't console her when she was in her lowest without these kind of thoughts popping suggests to me that the constant "you are so close" from her side damaged the relationship more than they both realized. This requires both to take account of what has being on and how those little remarks are not so little if repeated over time. The fact that she can instantly recognize that saying "you were sooo close" is not the right answer can help her see that behavior for what it is and stop doing it at once. On the other hand, as you said, he should also recognize that this was not the moment to make that point. The fact that he wants to make it sound as if though it was an accident that this was "blurted out", is telling me that he doesn't want to confront the fact that he went for a "taste your medicine" type of revenge moment.
The second story reminds me of when I worked as a host. I worked at a nicer restaurant. The amount of people that felt the need to comment on my uniform was ridiculous. I have in the words of my grandma “a busty chest” so the shirt I had to wear BECAUSE IT WAS THE UNIFORM GIVEN TO ME BY THE RESTAURANT I WOKRED AT, was a kinda tight. I was constantly having to smile and bare it while customers made snide and snarky comments to me. My favourite was said by a creepy old man, “she probably wears her top like that so she can make better tips”. Anyway needless to say I ended up quitting that job and never looking back. Moral of the story most of the time staff has a uniform and dress code. So if someone is working a shift they probably passed the dress code check.
I would be fired SO fast from a job like this because, maybe my mouth wouldn't slip the first time, but my filter is bad so I'd end up responding at some point. You must have had so much restraint
Istg, the amount of sexual harrasment servers go through, especially the female ones is insane. I experienced stuff like that as well, and it was my first job at 15.
For the cosplay one: even if the guy was being creepy, the girlfriend clearly wanted to handle it her way. Unless your girlfriend asks you to step in, let women handle our shit ourselves.
@@essendossev362 To me it just comes off as so infantilizing. I get the intention may be from a good place of wanting to support your partner, but the impact is not that. It's a stripping of agency that is so frustrating.
Honestly, the bf should know whether the gf prefers him to step in or if she likes to deal with it on her own. It has to be something they discuss together.
@@essendossev362 it's not really GROSS like wanting to help is not that ugly . If you put the genders on it then you are thinking it as a sexist action. If you don't, then it's just an act of consideration
The murder thing with the twins, we recently had this situation in NL and they discovered there are some slight differences in the DNA. It’s really hard to trace up apparently it can be done.
man if her sister didnt pay for those bottles of wine and the people who did said she could have them then i don't see how anyone could be on her sisters side.
I think there that the sister was stressed out bc of the wedding and she saw something she didn’t like and reacted in a explosive way (actually neither of them were bad people just had their things
@@justb4sleep834 I would agree with you, but the fact that the brothers and mother are tired of her s*** makes me completely not want to take her side. It makes me think she is bordering being, or is, insufferable
@@alonvx2 I am not saying that what she did wasn’t wrong but that maybe she reacted in that way bc of stress, (obviously if her family isn’t an AH then they will say something about it)
The open relationship one hit hard for me my parents forced me to get a job when I was 15 and pay bills and my dad would still try and pull the my house my rules crap even though he wasn’t even working. He literally stayed home and smoked weed all day and did nothing finally some time after I turned 16 I just stopped listening to him and if he tried to say he would kick me out or to get out of his house I would just leave and not pay bills that month/give them money for food. My younger sister was still there so I would make sure to feed her if they were running low but after a few times of this happening he eventually stopped threatening me and I was pretty much just a roommate to them after that. I had a job advanced classes and several extracurriculars that took up most of my time so it’s not like I was going out partying and acting crazy but anytime I refused them money or didn’t bow down to them they would start their shit so when I got tired of it I did what I needed to to become as autonomous as I could while still having a place to live. Parents like mine need your support more then they need you so if you can manage it use it against them and get out ASAP. Personally after I graduated I waited for them to leave the house packed up all my shit and ran in under an hour but not everyone can do that.
For the job thing, if the woman was so shocked that he said "you were so close", then it has a negative connotation. Yet she claims that when she says it to her husband it's a compliment so I'm confused. It was still petty of him to say that to her when she was crying tho.
With the "You were so close" scenario, I was gonna say the guy was the a**hole for being petty but the girl is the biggest a**hole in the end. The only reason she got mad was because she knows he doesn't like it when she says it and she knows that she's being condescending and that's why she took it as such.
@UCALs3FU90PMzpBuh1ixqT4Q I think the occasion where he used the phrase was most fitting. The significance of the examples doesn’t matter because it’s true that she was really close to getting the job. Also, OP’s wife was the one who claimed that the phrase was a compliment, not OP. He asked her on several occasions to stop because it made him feel bad, and she should’ve stopped when he asked the first couple of times, so he’s not exactly overreacting. If the wife took offense, then she clearly knows what she was doing. I wouldn’t even consider what he said a jab because he mentioned that he said it unintentionally. That seems fair to me because it’s normal for anyone to pick up new mannerisms and language from people they spend lots of time with.
@@violetsanddragons It wasn't just doing the dishes though, according to his own words. It was multiple instances even after he told her he didn't like it, which is effectively the death by a thousand paper cuts.
Regarding identical twins, I actually went down the rabbit hole of info regarding that today. What a coincidence. Basically you can't tell the DNA apart. Fingerprints, yes, DNA, no. I just read an article about a man, Kevin Dugar, that spent nearly two decades behind bars for a crime that his identical twin committed. He was only released this year because his twin finally confessed in a letter sent to his jail cell. So messed up cause the twin stood beside Kevin the entire time and promised it wasn't him.
For the getting their cousins arrested one, I’d say NTA. For the cousins to go through the house and take stuff when no one else was there is super shady and something a lot of family members try to do. Her father had a will, so odds are, if he actually promised the cousins that stuff, it would be in the will. Send ‘em to jail
Plus they were clearly WARNED. By family members who are lawyers and therefore likely aren't fucking around. Sorry but I don't have much sympathy for the cousins when they refused to listen to the warnings they were given.
Been going to cosplay meetups for years and honestly some people there just don’t socialize a ton and can come off as awkward or even creepy but it’s usually clear they don’t mean any harm but just don’t know how to talk to people. Sounded to me like the girlfriend got that the guy was just trying to make conversation and was a bit awkward and her boyfriend decided it was his place to step in and be a jerk.
As a twin that onlyfans one is so messed up. I've had similar experiences of people confusing one for the other (thankfully not to this degree). It's a horrible feeling, so I can't imagine this oml. This video was so fun! The edits were hilarious, props to the editor! 👍Can't wait for the next one
If a server is making you feel insecure at your own damn wedding you need cultivate a self-love routine. That's ridiculous
I felt this one so much from the manager/boss side of things. We've ran into this issue at our place of work as well, once it was a bridezilla worrying over a 16y old girl whilst the couple was nearing their 30s if not already there... J i k e s.
bet she was the only one even noticing the waitress
It's so funny she was pissed the server was doing her job by serving food, drinks and talking to the guests 😂😂😂😂😂
You mean grow a Godamn spine?
@@maomi1852 how dare she do her job and look better than the bride? The audacity!
I will never understand literal adult men siding with their passive aggressive abusive moms over their partners. if my mom was like that, I would be mad too
It’s because they were raised under it and their mothers/fathers brainwashed them to believe they were being “overly sensitive” to their harsh words that were under the guise of “I’m just looking out for your well-being dear.” So naturally those men don’t side with their women who get upset because they remind them of themselves when he felt wounded by those words, but their mothers/fathers convinced them to hate that “weak” little boy.
It's cuz he had to live with that abuse for at least a good 18 years. He's basically conditioned to comply with her and try to please her. It's honestly sad.
@@gothbimbo9470 that’s honestly no excuse im sorry, I was gaslighted by my mom all my life and I’ve never gone around gas lighting others cus I know it’s wrong
@@FrogWitch666 yeah it's something he's gonna have to work on. I didn't say it was an excuse it's just an explanation for his behavior.
What makes me said is all these woman marrying these man and then having their child. What were you thinking?
The wife who's always saying "you were so close". I feel like if she never meant it in a bad way, then she wouldn't have taken it as an insult when her husband said it back to her.
but the thing is the man obviously used it as payback, i genuinely think he meant for it to be insulting just because he got annoyed by his wife saying it. the wife was probably only saying it cuz its her way of helping him be better, maybe he's just that incompetent. thats why the wife was broken when he did it because it was out of pure pettiness and it was something serious too. so many comments here are about how the husband was full of pent up rage that built up causing him to say that.. pent up rage over your wife helping you not make the same mistakes on small things? it just sounds like a mothery wife and a childish husband
@@zserlpq8512 The wife could've been less mean with correcting the husband. How does she immediately think that he's insulting her by saying "you were so close" after telling him herself that she meant it as a compliment when she says it to him? And the husband makes it seem like he hasn't said it before, meaning she herself has been using "You were so close" as a subtle insult this whole time against her husband
@@torquoise9456 I definitely feel like both are at fault but I still feel like he is more of an asshole because that situation was so much more serious. Like yea, the “so close” shit probably gets grating, but that is not the way to address that. I agree with Dylan on this one basically lol.
@@zserlpq8512 Who cares if he used it as payback, I’ll back him up, maybe that way she learned to stop telling him that when he obviously voiced it to her.
@@ferninthewild8584 yup
im a wedding waitress and i would actually lose my shit if a bride sent me home for being too hot. that is so flattering LMAO.
I KNOW RIGHT??
The only thing would be if I was losing out on pay
😂😂
YOUR NAMEEE EBONY DARK'NESS DEMENTIA RAVENWAY
I would think of it and smile at least weekly
the woman who says she pulled over to sleep, she actually wasn't cheating! Nope, turns out she just had a huge gambling problem. Dropped the kid off then went to go gamble the night away. Saw it on the redditorupdates subreddit.
I'm sorry WHAT?!?!
The plot twist 😂
Plot twist! I was thinking secret hobby like drinking or drugs...gambling falls into that addiction category so it makes sense. Hope she got help!!
LOL I think this might be another cover up, she's most likely cooking meth!
@@Jonas-yv6lo omg imagine it's just an endless rabbit hole lmao the gambling story is a cover for cooking meth. The meth story is a cover for hosting illegal cock fights at the marina
Can't believe they are pissed at the pregnant women for leaving, like if the mum didn't call her a walrus and she wouldn't have left. The audacity of old women. It's not hard to keep your thoughts to yourself.
Also, what kind of baby shower are they throwing her, without inviting HER OWN MOTHER??? Like, why would you not invite the grandma to a baby shower?
The moment my husband said his mother “meant well” for telling me that he won’t be happy with my fat self if I keep eating I’d be OUT! That just screamed “I agree with what my mom said” and I wouldn’t be having that shit.
@@shelby_button THATS WHAT IM SAYIN- IMMEEEDIIIAAATTTTTEEEEEE DIVORCE!!
She should have told the mom all sorts of explicit sex things he loves that she does and be like, don’t worry, he’ll still love those at any weight😂😂
@@Janjones7735but He doesnt
Hey! Update for the last one (police called on fiancé): turns out the wife had stolen OP’s emergency credit card and had been using it for over a month. She had paid back some but still had $1500 debt on the card that she hadn’t paid back. She denied and got mad at him calling her a “thief”. OP checked the card history and saw transactions for cash withdrawals at the ATM and casinos. Turns out she was gambling with OP’s money and he is now breaking up with her and reclaiming his things (new phone and phone line, car insurance, and the car which she trashed). So it wasn’t cheating but a gambling addiction with OP’s money soooo
Daammnnnn, I did not see that coming! Thank you for the ending tho. It's easy to get way too invested in these strangers' lives 😂😂
Thanks cause I for sure thought she was sleeping with the 17 yr old sons friend.
I dont care if this is true or not. This is now canon in my mind.
Oh wow... not everything is about sex apparently xD Thanks for the update!
someone write a movie with this plot! The romance, drama, thriller and mystery is surely a blockbuster.
For the server, it’s clearly a jealousy issue. She made a scenario in her head that all the attention is going to this server, when in reality nobody gives a damn. She obviously is one of those “the attention has to be on me” type girls.
I didn't realize brides were that concerned about people looking a certain way at their weddings. I feel like it is selfish and uncalled for, especially for a server trying to do their job. Her "she was pretty" comment at the end too, definitely jealous!
@@joannamarie_ she said pretty young not just pretty
@@isamadanthumathuigeanntueseo haha, see that now🤣
also just sounds like a major Karen. Gave me flashbacks to the preppy vs goth/punk era of adolescence. Hating someone for raccoon eyes and piercings because its "weird".
Bride for sure has MAJOR insecurities. Your wedding should be about celebrating your relationship; not about how others look. The only rule of wedding dress code should be to not match the bride/groom/party’s outfits.
If I saw my wife running out of a party with two bottles of wine under her arms closely followed by an angry bride I wouldn't even ask questions I'd just shift into getaway driver mode instantly because that's what love is
Real one
you’re so real for this
If she had to ask “what do you mean by that?” Then that means she’s been being purposely condescending this entire time.
yeah, i was like that guy is an asshole until I remembered that she claimed it was a a compliment, so he was basically just complimenting her
@@katherine7938 Exactly, if she was really using it as a compliment she definitely wouldn't have gotten so upset at him using it toward her. Her mind would have gone to, "aw, thanks honey for telling me I was trying" instead of thinking it was a back-handed insult. Caught red handed lol
Or, the guy's tone was sarcastic.
Some people react negatively to words, others to tone.
If someone said, "you were so close, honey, I'm sure you will be successful next time," no one would go "wdym by that" unless they are super sensitive.
Butttt, if someone went "you were sooo close, honey, lmao" then yeah, could be not so good since the tone would be petty.
Honestly I don't know whether the girl is being mean or not but from the guy's description, he said she is kinda perfectionist and keeps correcting him. She might have meant well and the correction weren't meant to offend him. Or she could have been a control freak, dunno.
But, what we do know is that the guy was fed up with the correcting and then when she was crying, that's when he had his revenge.
If something slips up and someone asks "wdym", you can still save yourself and explain that you are not being petty if it wasn't your intention. But the guy doubled-down on what he said. And the way he contrasts himself as being the go-getter and educated one while she is not also paints him in a positive light and her in a negative one.
Sounds like he didn't draw the boundary properly, make the girl not to say "sooo close" and then he got more upset over time, letting the resentment build until he saw an occasion to get back at her.
They are both assholes. He for being petty and she for not respecting his wishes and boundaries. They should talk it out properly.
@@illusionofquality979 YES, the guy clearly said it out of spite, he doesn't say that sentence because he thinks it's an insult so when he uses it it's clear to her why he's using, and it sounds like he was resentful and it probably showed through the way he said it even more
they're both assholes, her for not listening to him and he is an asshole for lashing out at the wrong time||way
I feel so bad for the woman in the first story. That’s just straight up mean to say to a pregnant woman. The party is supposed to be about her and why not let her eat cake. It’s insane the husband didn’t side with her
it's so unbelievable that it almost seems like karma farming. i wouldn't usually say that except i keep seeing all these very similar stories lately about husbands siding with their insane family members insulting OP's weight on this subreddit. smells fishy to me. at the very least i hope it's not true for op's sake
I agree. I think the woman should have told the MIL to F-off and she should have enjoyed her serving of cake. I think she should have outed the MIL to the rest of the party and make the request for her to leave because the MIL's actions were completely unacceptable. And then carry-on the party without her.
@@guacamojo yeah this one sounds particularly familiar like ive heard it before on AITA thread, it's probably true for someone somewhere alas
@@guacamojo the same story keeps popping up because fat women get shamed an extreme amount by their relatives 🤷♂️
I found it weird that she called her mother to pick her up from the party. Why wasn't her mother invited to the party????
"You ruined my trust!" You basically stole your sisters identity to make an OF so that if someone else found it, your sister would be forced to take the fall instead of you. Thats some entitlement.
Also another thing, She is making money by using her sisters identity without her permission and taking all that money for herself. Even if it was something else and not onlyfans, I don't think it would be ethical
I’d take her ass to court
@blesskurunai9213 it's a tough situation because the twin *did* still perform and film those acts, so some of the earnings should still go to her. But yeah, the moment she attempted to frame her sister for it is where shit is messed up. Be an OF Creator all you want, but own that shit ffs
They didn't have that baby shower for her, they had that baby shower for themselves.
People do the same with weddings too. Like have your own, don’t hijack someone else’s. Live a better life, you can make these things called choices to make it better lol
Totally. If they were really throwing the party for the mother and concerned about the mother's weight (which is such BS), why didn't they serve a veggie tray or sandwiches or something? I've gone to a lot of baby showers and there are always a variety of foods and can easily have a full meal while there.
If they didn’t want her to have cake, they shouldn’t have had cake at her party!
This! Dylan doesn't read it, but OP mentions that her husband refused her sister's request to throw a baby shower. He then accepts *his* sister's request and invites his entire side of the family. He also did absolutely nothing to defend her. He's trash and so are his mother and sister.
@@MonaLyssa33 I thought the same thing! I would feel hella bad being at a party & seeing everyone else get cake, but the pregnant woman who’s party it is is refused some like wtf
For the third story, I will agree that was not the time nor the place to give her a (admittedly deserved) dose of her own medicine. HOWEVER, the wife claims it is a compliment, and if so, why get so upset over him saying it? She clearly knows it’s insulting and condescending.
but the guy saying he didn't want to give her a taste of her own medicine? come on now.. they need to work out their issues. Both of them are lying
EXACTLY. Everyone sucked. I was curious why her reaction was so defensive if she never thought it was rude to say
She either knows it's condescending(especially the way it says she exaggerates the so close part) or it's the fact that he's told her that he feels it's condescending that when he uses it she immediately thinks it is. Either way she still would have known he doesn't like it and continue to do it or is condescending him. Not great on his part to say it and not apologize afterwards (wasn't stated so don't know if he did) if he realized almost immediately after it was said, and his spouse leaving completely says she sees it as offensive. Hopefully they just agree to not use the phrase anymore
THATS WHAT IM SAYING DUDE
Exactly my point!!!
For the first one where the mil called woman a walrus the other part I was focused on she called her mom to come get her. So the sister didn't even invite the pregnant woman's own mother.
I didnt even notice that part omg. Big “my husbands family thinks the baby is theirs” vibes
Woahhh…. I didn’t even think of that 😮
Right? I picked up on that as well. Like WTH?
I think at the top of the post it mentions OP's mom decided not to go because of some other drama
Damn yeah I didn't catch that either
Threatening to call the POLICE on a SERVER at your WEDDING for the crime of *checks notes* wearing "way too much" eyeliner and having tight pants is... something
Truly one of those monster brides they make those shows about hahaha I forgot what its called
Insecurity
@@emmabuchanan5324 Bridezilla😂
I think the boss complied because they didn't want to deal.. like the OP doesn't own the venue, the waitress works there, what would she even tell the cops, what would they even do. She's a Karen that's what she is
I would've liked to see her try and call the police, what a joke
Wait, the husband stood by his mom after she called his wife a walrus?! wtf.
Doesn’t surprise me. My ex would completely change around his mother when I was around
Yep...adulthood doesn't cure being a fucking brat...
@@tavern2468 hmm wonder why they're an ex
@@SuperNuclearUnicorn 😂
Fr wtf
As a recently former pregnant woman… I can in fact confirm that all real pregnancy cravings can feel like life or death situations. I’m not a cryer… never have been… I wasent even a fussy baby 33 years ago… I legit cried in a 7/11 because they were out of nacho cheese… genuine tears of sadness…
For real I saw my sister cry on the floor of the kitchen at 2 am because she drank the rest of the pickle juice earlier that day and forgot so when she went to get some it wasn’t there and she thought someone hid it from her and we spent almost an hour explaining to her that she finished it and no one took it. She was so embarrassed the next day that she cried again and apologized pregnancy brain be wild.
Awwww, pickle juice 😂😂😂 man, pregnancy is a wild ride! Bless y‘all!
Ok so there’s this content creator that I follow named Amber Wallin. She has this video on her IG where she’s crying because she had a sudden craving for a boullion cube because “they look like little candies”. She was crying because when she ate it, it was super salty and she was embarrassed. Then she started crying some more because they still looked good and she wanted to eat another one 😂😂
for the "you were so close" one, the fact that she got so offended when he said that to her means that it IS supposed to be condescending all the time she said it to him.
if those words were innocent or a compliment in her mind, then she wouldn't get angry when she hears it directed at her.
it seems like he didn't mean to say it back but i'm petty so if i were him, i would've said it on purpose like "you were so close, next time maybe if you did *this* then you'd get the job" 🤷🏻♀️
Yeah ... I get the vibe that she knew what she was saying with those words.
Exactly !!
Yeah, that was my immediate thought too. If she genuinely meant it in a kind way, her mind wouldn't have immediately gone that way.
literally exactly what i was thinking
my exact thought!!
the second story makes me so annoyed, as a waitress I know it's 100% internalised misogyny towards that poor girl. It's made worse by the fact that they were short-staffed which is incredibly stressful so she was probably working really hard just to be told that she was a distraction despite complying with the uniform. It was a wedding not the army, that lady has some serious insecurities she needs to work out- ideally before entering into a marriage lol.
I remember that thread, & a LOT of people could sense that OP was jealous & felt upstaged by a SERVER. That’s 100% on her own insecurities
It’s also the thing of….she was body-shaming that poor girl to her boss….and in front of other guests. It’s so gross
She seemed to me like one of those annoying old people who thinks anything about your appearance that deviates from the norm is wrong and weird
@@androidsentbycyberl1fe I see what you mean but the whole wedding scenario plus the comments on her body (“tight” fit or whatever) screams insecurity to me.
Honestly I get that work is important but shame on her boss to just go with it the last time she demanded the poor girl be removed. Bridezilla said she'd call the cops? And what would they do exactly ?? Probably wouldn't even show up unless she'd lie and that would get her in trouble
"So Close" guy, I think he was CONDITIONED. His brain literally just recognized the moment/situation as a match. The fact she immediately asked What do you mean by that? is very telling that she herself does in fact, mean something by that. 🤷😏
For the cops being called on the cousins stealing OP's dead parents' stuff: I'm not usually a "call the cops" person but there is something ghoulish about family trying to get into a dead person's house to take stuff, especially when their children alerted everyone to NOT do this. If the parents had given permission for those cousins to have those items, then it would have been no issue for them to wait for the will to be read and entrance into the house permitted. They didn't wait, so their story is suspicious. They deserve the felonies IMO.
Exactly if it’s actually written in the will and testament that they can have those items then it means that the executor of the estate will just give them those items when they read the will
Exactly what I was thinking. Why do the need to break into the house immediately for the stuff? Why couldn’t they wait to get the stuff like everyone else?
Especially considering the death was a sudden and only like a week ago. Who does that??
My thoughts exactly. Either they swiped more than belonged to them or they were in some serious money troubles and wanted to sell the stuff right away to make bank.
Either way, absolutely tasteless after the dad died so suddenly (and recently).
If someone breaks into a house, of course you call the police?!?
In the story about the guy with the expensive apartment who tried to power play his girlfriend, moral of the story is don't listen to your 'buddies' when they don't know shit about your relationship, your dynamic with each other and how you two communicate
Yeah, friends put stupid thoughts in his head and he was a moron for listening to them. How is she a gold digger when he was the one that asked her to stay and she immediately said she couldn't afford it? She dodged a bullet cause the guy either was an idiot or wanted to control her.
well yeah the thought clearly hadn’t crossed the boyfriend’s mind until his friends brought it up, so the girl is better off without him. I wouldn’t want my boyfriend’s friends controlling our relationship
I had an ex when I was like 17 who used to listen to everything his friends whisper in his ear. I could tell they were just jealous of the relationship and he let them come between us. He used to literally repeat what they say word by word whenever we texted.
Any woman or man who let other people badmouth their partners and meddle in their affairs are a red flag.
5000 for a NYC apartment is cheap as fuck, my building goes for 8 bands for 500 - 700 sqf
@@overtheatlas uhm maybe in Manhattan it's that expensive. My brother lives in a luxury apartment with amazing amenities (movie theater, hot tubs, pool, gym, game room, rec room, conference room, yoga room, kids' room, etc.) and the rent goes from $3,000-$5,000 from studios- 2-bedroom apartments in Brookyln. I lived in NYC all my life, so I know there are cheaper apartments. I know a few places for $2,500-3,000 in queens that are really good places and also have amenities. But hey, some people think NYC is only in Manhattan and don't branch out to the other boroughs. But this is also an assumption with me thinking your building is in Manhattan. I don't know if that's true or not.
For the cosplay one I completely agree with you. Was the girlfriend ACTUALLY uncomfortable with the pirate cosplayer's question or did the op's lack of knowledge in anime/gaming make him feel insecure when someone who knew about it was interacting with his gf? The way his gf reacted to him later makes me feel like it was the latter.
Not necessarily, I mean even if he was bothering her, that's a pretty AH way to go about it.
On the other hand, if she frequently goes to those events it's not the first time it's happened to her, I'm sure if it got too much for her she was perfectly capable of handling it herself.
@@jakeand9020 She also wouldn't have demanded her partner to apologise if the guy had made her feel uncomfortable. She would have been happy to be rid of the guy, not upset with her partner. THAT explains it all tbh.
@@TheHestya Exactly, no girl is going to make her boyfriend apologize to a genuine creep, even if he was taking it a bit too far in his response.
She would've just told him that later like: 'Hey thanks for sticking up for me but you took it a bit too far' she wouldn't have done it in front of the creep, in that moment more than anything she'd just be happy to be rid of him.
It really annoys me that the rich nyc bf probably sits around with his friends now talking about how they exposed her as a gold digger and how she left when she realized he wasnt gonna pay for everything. Sounds like the kind of thing he’d believe
I know this is an old comment but I agree, I'm convinced they would act that way.
I mean they called HER a golddigger for something HE suggested. 😂
Also as a side note: I can't stand people who's friends/family maliciously mock their partner (bf/gf husband/wife etc) who's done nothing wrong, and then side with their friends/family instead of their partner?!
I've seen this happen irl to a friend of mine with a partner she had been with for over a decade at that point, and fortunately she's moved on from it now, but it really messed her up for quite a while.
I always get chills when I see that a Dylan video is more than 20 minutes long. That’s when you know you’re gonna get juicy content.
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It's 37 min long today. I'm celebrating:)
Booga ooga not dylan😤
For #ChocolateGate, she's definitely not the asshole, because she apologized once he got home. You're going to lose your cool sometimes, especially when pregnant. She realized she was in the wrong and apologized. That's fine
And what a sweet, caring husband ❤️ I hope in the future they both have all the chocolate they could ever want ☺️
And PS, this doesnt even have to be a pregnancy thing. He was just a good guy.
They're going to taunt their kid with this story for years 😂
Everyone was just kinda needing some more chocolate anyways :p no assholes there
Fun fact: even identical twins have slightly different fingerprints because the patterns are not just affected by genetics but also by environmental factors of the womb
Thanks ike was jus bout to Google that as I was wondering if it was the case :)
@@ItsMeBarnaby oh god
@@ItsMeBarnaby oh no
give dylan a break, he’s an impressionable 20 year old
@@ItsMeBarnaby yeah a similar thing happened with a german jewellery heist in 2009 where three guys stole $6 million worth of jewellery and when they found a latex glove at the crime scene and examined the DNA of the sweat inside it, it also belonged to an identical set of twins. Neither could be prosecuted because they couldn‘t figure out which one it belonged to. We actually still don‘t have the means to examine DNA on a level required to determine the tiny differences in identical twins DNA. (There are some, but they are minimal because they‘re also caused by environmental factors so it‘ll take a couple more years of genetic research to be able to determine them)
"People just... are THAT mean?" YES. As a plus size girl... thousand time YES. You age judged not only for eating but for existing in general. People are so much meaner if you're overweight.
The worst was the husband honestly. Partners are supposed to support each other but all the partners in AITA are the literal A.
@@realglutenfree And a lot of partners in AITA are the A because they justify when their mom gets involved in the relationship
Yes! I used to not eat when I was in high school, or I'd eat if I had a gap hour and no one was around, but otherwise I would eat when I got home
@@BlueHat1 omg that is horrible!!! And to do that in front of everyone! I'm so sorry that happened to you
@@missathepandabear thhat breaks my heart. I wish i was there to smack the haters for you!!
When a narcissist says “you were so close “they do it to make a person feel insecure, and let them know that they will never be good enough. So, when poster sent it to her, she knew exactly what he meant because it was exactly what she meant.
Yes, I can't believe some people are defending her. To me it was clear all along it was meant as a way to chip away at her husbands self-esteem. And even if it wasn't he asked her to stop and she never did.
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Yes, her reacton explains it all. If she really thoguht it wasn't condescending, she wouldn't have even considere for one second he meant it in a condescending way. She immediately wanted to know what he meant. Which means she is VERY aware exactly how it sounds. Therefore she knows it when she says it too.
Hey, you probably didn't intend to, but your comment actually spreads a harmful image of those who are narcissists. I have narcissist personality disorder, and I'm sure I speak for many of us when I say we don't maliciously try to hurt the people we care about. It is a disorder, and it can make navigating relationships really tough, but we're not all heartless assholes haha
@@robinbloxomuh, this is a joke right? Lol
The fact that the “so close” guy had told his wife he doesn’t appreciate her telling him he’s so close and she ignored him means he’s not the asshole in my book.
I would say his attitude in that moment was a bit ah`ly, but she was the true ah
@@alnklar I thought he was actually trying to see things her way. She said it was a compliment, he didn’t like it but he tried to see it her way, he used her phrase as a compliment to her, and she showed her true colors
Yeah, especially because she's trying to pass it off as a compliment. In what world is that a compliment?
It was the pettiest shit though. Like blown way out of proportion by him.
And also why are we acting like people are perfect? Unless he's been thru years of therapy, why wouldn't he be a bit of an asshole?? That situation sounds so crushing.
For the missing fiance...she said she pulled over on the side of the road to sleep, but the police were sending someone to check her route to look for her car. She at the very least wasn't where she said she was going.
One word: Cheating
@@mrpeach2023 Probably with a 17 y/o considering they're in an open relationship
there was an update and turns out she was out gambling… with his money. he left her.
@@cosettelias4888 This needs to be pinned. Really funny and important update lol
For the cousin taking deceased family members things, they should have just asked before doing it or given a heads up. There would be no issue if they did that. Seems like they were trying to be sneaky, which is exactly what happened with my father and his sister (she grabbed all the valuable items from their mothers home before he arrived) and it’s frustrating. Especially during a time of grieving you don’t want to have to argue over their material possessions.
i cant with this man, he has the most unpredictable timing
What do you mean????? He always posts at the same time all the time, perfect schedule
@@luiza.limaneves agreed, fav part of my Mondays
Honestly 😭
The not knowing is the best part lol
At least it’s Monday somewhere in the world rn 🤣🤣🤣
For the third story, if she was offended by the SO saying “so close” then she knew what she was doing the whole time.
I also think she was just a walking, talking red flag walking all over boundaries like that, it’s disturbing.
Funny, I think he needed to wait a million years for her to be crying to finally say it cause in normal circumstances she actually wouldn't be offended at all compared to him.
@@artorhen that’s what I was thinking he’s clearly developing hatred towards his wife he should’ve just ended the marriage or went to couple therapy
@@Rose-cq3bf yeah, exactly, like it seems rather vindictive of him
@@Rose-cq3bf honestly if your SO says a phrase constantly I get someone starting to say it too. I mean it happens all the time when people start binge watching TV shows, I don’t think it’s vindictive that he said the same thing she always says to him.
For the boyfriend that tried to make her girlfriend pay half of the rent, when she said she only had two days where she is does not have other obligations, that pretty much means she doesn't have the time to get a job. Sure, she could tire herself out by working the entire week, but she should also worry about her mental health. Plus it's a financial decision that seems to have worked for her so far.
yeah why would she pay for a apartment's rent when she can get by on her own or get a romemate? Her boyfriend already showed his true colors in times of need, why tf would she stay there. Like if she was NEVER willing to pay rent I'd see an issue but they had discussed it all then why
That and I don't know where they might live but I doubt working 2 days a week would be enough to pay 2.5k in rent a month. He was not only going back on his word but being a huge dick by asking for so much money, knowing her situation. Even with a job I doubt she could afford that much, and she even made a joke that he'd have to downgrade if they lived together in an apartment and she helped pay rent. He refused and said no, he'd pay the rent in full at his flashy condo. Then got pissed when she called him out on his shit.
Tbf she did have the time then , there are people that have no choice and that have to work while studying,I’m not saying that you shouldn’t priorities your mental health but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have time to work ,u just choose not to work on weekends.
@@Omar-kl3xp yeah but I'm saying for her situation she doesn't have time. Not in the literal sense but what's reasonable for her situation. There are people with your situation, but she has no reason to give up that time when she was fine without a job
@@Omar-kl3xp I am in grad school and uh it’s totally a full-time job. I cannot picture myself doing anything outside of it because it would drive me crazy. She has every right to take those two days to keep herself mentally, physically, and emotionally healthy. Shit, even on weekends I have to work on PhD related shit or catch up on other stuff or just take a damn break from the stress. so I truly respect her for what she did. She really looked out for herself. In grad school we live paycheck to paycheck, if you’re lucky enough to get funded, that is. She rightfully evaluated the situation and made the correct move.
“so close” gf is the asshole here - she keeps insisting that she’s not insulting him by saying it but the second he says it to her she’s livid. even if her situation is more serious, she’s been belittling him this whole time on the grounds of “it’s a compliment!” and confirms that it’s not a compliment the second it’s turned on her
I agree ! And also, I don't know if it's because I'm french, and english is not my native langage. But... I don't see how 'so close' would be a compliment. I Mean... If someone tells me : "you were so close, next time do it this way..." EVEN if the person tries to help and doesn't mean it as an insult, it's NOT a compliment. You're criticizing their work even if it's constructive criticism, it's still not a compliment. So she was at least criticizing him over and over again, even when he told her it was hurtful. All she had to do, was change the wording...
right?? also if you care about your partner then you wouldn't want to hurt their feelings, no? if they tell you that something you say is hurtful, wouldn't you want to consider their point of view? do people just forget how to be empathetic to their loved ones??? something tells me there wasn't much empathy there to begin with. smh
Context clues matter. She knows that he finds the phrase that she thinks as a complement is an insult. She knows that he finds it to be an insult. Because he told her. If he has said this to her when she was like sweeping up or making breakfast and she responded with being upset with him I can see you being correct. Because he would just be matching her energy. However he has never said the phrase to her because he thinks it’s a insult. So I want you to logically think in your head if you know your partner find a certain phrase to be an insult and they never say it you might say it but you they never say it. Then in a moment when you’re very upset and need consoling they say that exact phrase ….that you know they find it to be an insult ….to you. Are you really trying to say that she can’t be upset? ……., That’s basically him saying F you and try to hurt her feelings to prove a point lol
Yes she’s probably stop saying the phrase of it hurts his feelings but he also doesn’t get the pass to say that phrase to her with malicious intent. Lol that’s toxic
@@toocutenoirb.4278 by that logic she was toxic too. A lot more too ! Because he told her that the phrase hurted his feelings and she kept saying it knowing what effect it had on him. He did it one time because she knowingly hurted him severall times...
Tell me how was he supposed to make her stop, if telling her numerous times that it hurts him when she says that doesn't stop her ? He was hurtful once she was a lot of times... and she did it with his job too ! That was petty and probably drived by ressentment but... he wouldn't have those feeling if she cared that she hurted him in the first place
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@@Sytrylt You are correct. "Tell me how was he supposed to make her stop?" He had no choice. She would not stop and most likely never will until she receives some consequences for her actions. Just like a bratty teenager who gets told "no"by mommy and daddy. He seems to be to nice and accommodating to her and is seen as week in her eyes and lost respect for him .If I was him I" d be very careful and be prepared to jump ship if he has to.
“You were so close” no I agree with the husband. I know how it feels to have your self esteem corroded little by little every day, trying your hardest getting criticized even for the smallest tasks. It’s awful. Honestly I think him saying “you were so close” in the context he did was much more acceptable. It was only one time and it actually fit the situation. Being told “you were so close” every single day about everything you do without ever getting true praise is soulbreaking. If she can’t hear it even once without melting down, it shows that her true intentions with that phrase have always been negative.
EXACTLY this
YES my same thoughts
^^ yep i agree ! getting told you're so close when doing every day tasks , that you didn't even do wrong , simply them not being to her standard is so demeaning & at a certain point can take a huge toll on the way you view yourself as never being good enough . the wife actually did get very close to the job - it actually fit the situation even if she didn't want to hear it at the time .
Yup, and I believe him when he said he blurted it out because he hears it soo much and it fits the situation so well. Now where he became the A-hole was when he doubled down. And hes aware of that so 🤷🏽♀️. I think there no longer more love than annoyance. People you love do shit that annoys you, but he had the option to back off apologise and say it just came to mind, focus on the love and comfort the person, then discuss the matter later. He chose the annoyance instead and doubled down in anger. Because its clear she's being rude now since what he said sent her to her friends house instead their room for a couple of hours 😏🤣
i also think that the woman getting offended when he said that to her shows that every time she said it to him in the past it was meant to push his buttons. otherwise why would she get hurt by him saying it. idk if that makes sense lol😭
For the cosplay one as someone who cosplays: it’s super common for cosplayers to be approached and even cornered by creeps at conventions, to the point that before large conventions people will post on Instagram that they’re available to pretend to be a cosplayer’s friend to get them out of uncomfortable situations. But if the girlfriend got upset it probably wasn’t that much of a creepy situation, or she found the insult to be disproportionate
i think it could have been handled in a calmer, more mature way. maybe just by saying something about it being their business because thats their gf.
would have been a reasonable defense and totally sent further back off vibes to the guy.
And I agree with Dylan - if cosplay girl felt uncomfortable, she wouldve been happy that her bf stood up for her. But she didn't feel weird and even wanted him to apologize, so *gavel gavel* Ahole!
The way the guy reacted was pretty immature, so I'd say the boyfriend is the asshole the other guy is just a weirdo.
I don't know. Some women are just worried about making a scene or being rude even when someone is making them uncomfortable. It's hard to know what was actually going on.
@@charlsreyn But if that’s the case, would she not have then privately told him “thanks for standing up for me” after they left? I feel like the fact she doubled down and told him privately after the fact that his behavior embarrassed her screams “it wasn’t actually a big deal and didn’t bother my gf but I tried to white knight for her and got rightfully called out for being rude.”
I don't know about that. If it were me, I could be really uncomfortable but not want someone to make a big scene about it, especially if they're going to do it in a rude way.
That's exactly what I thought. The fact she was embarrassed and forced him to apologize and the way he belittled anime fans, makes me think the gf was not actually uncomfortable and the boyfriend was being a jerk.
For the one with the wife saying “so close” NTA - if we’re gonna give her the benefit of the doubt thinking she doesn’t mean to be condescending, he probably didn’t mean to be condescending either? But if he said it back and she immediately thought it was condescending when it wasn’t meant to be, it makes me wonder why she would jump to the conclusion that he was being rude.
He admitted he finds it condescending. Not her. He said, to her and to the internet, that "so close" is condescending to him. How do you walk that back? It's not that she thinks the sentence is rude, it's that he was trying to hurt her. It could have been the most blatantly complimentary phrase in the world. If you're husband tells you "I hate it when you say I'm the most beautiful, kind-hearted person on the planet, it's so disrespectful" and when you are upset, turns to you and says "You are the most beautiful, kind-hearted person on the planet" you know he is disrespecting you. It doesn't matter if you find that sentence a compliment or an insult - he *told you* it's disrespectful to him and he's saying to you. His intentions are clear.
exactly this. she knew he found it rude, so therefore any continuation diminishes the ability to use it in a non-condescending way. kind of like, “sorry means you wont do it again.” if the intention is to compliment, and its not working, then maybe change the wording.
as for him, i could see it being a subconscious dig but i seriously don’t blame him. sometimes the best way to get through to people is by giving them a taste of their own medicine. i mean he already expressed disdain, was he supposed to deal with it all his life ?? hell nah
@@BeaSDT same thing can be said about the wife continuing use AFTER being told its condescending. which, she did. what you’re saying is he should be responsible for how words makes her feel, but she shouldn’t have to do the same. which is completely unfair.
Probably because he told her that when she said "so close", it was condescending TO HIM and he did not like when she did it. She couldn't see what the issue was because she saw her comments as constructive, not critical. Now that she's crying and upset, he's using the same phrase that he repeatedly told her he hates hearing. Her train of thought could be, "If you hate this phrase so much, why then would you say it now when I'm clearly upset and vulnerable? You must be trying to get back at me!" and so she left.
Exactly, she knew it was condescending the whole time.
That thing about how much responsibility is on you if you don’t communicate thing is really true. My roommate and I recently worked out a system about that.
My roommate has a penchant for blaming herself for other people’s negative emotions. I’m autistic, so I usually need someone to tell me if I’m doing or saying something they dislike; I don’t pick up the social cues. She would tell me I said something she didn’t like, I would get upset _at myself,_ and she would think I was upset _at her._ She didn’t tell me this until just recently, but now we’ve worked out a system where I clarify that my negative emotions aren’t directed towards her. Communication, people. It really helps.
This is genuinely a very mature thing to do, good for you
Dylan showing proof that he's actually working on the Friends video is the most shocking part of this video
The last story, there was an update: It wasn't cheating, she was gambling with his credit card (that she stole)
Damn, so juicy. I hope Dylan mentions it next time around.
So many layers! Wild.
wow. thanks for the update. and now everything makes more sense because she was totally lying!!!
I lost it at “cake is an essential food” and your genuine confusion😂😂😂😂😂
Dylan's theory about the bride being attracted to the server and being hostile towards her because of it actually makes a lot of sense from a psychological point of view.
I thought this made sense, except that the bride told all the guests not to wear make-up. That sounds like insecurity about everyone, rather than she was just focused on this one girl.
Sounds like she is paranoid her husband will find the waitress attractive
Seems like the bride was insecure and didn’t want anyone to upstage her by wearing makeup or a nice outfit
reminds me of the movie imagine me and you, lol
Your username makes it seem like you're a fan of a certain pirate but i can't tell which one because I don't keep up with pop culture or watch a whole lot of movies.
"You betrayed my trust" says the twin sister that probably commited a crime/an offense (unless impersonating someone or pretending to be someone else is legal now).
Is it illegal if she used a nick name? I mean her intention was to make people who know them think it's her sister but since she didn't use the sister's legal name can she be charged for what she did?
@@sienna9620 I don't know much (if anything) about US laws, but I'd say if she can prove everyone knows her by that nickname, she could still sue, right?
@@sienna9620 a nickname isn’t too different from a stage name. I don’t think it matters if they use your actual name or not, if they are making it pretty clear who they are pretending to be I think it still counts as using their identity.
I think generally no, but the fact that they have an identical face? That would be hard to prove her intention wasn’t to impersonate
@@taylorannepaisley1342 I mean it's clear to the general public that her intention was to impersonate her sister but to prove it in court the sister might more than the nick name and the face thing. She would probably have to show multiple instances where people actually thought it was her because of the nickname, and would need other evidences of the sister using her personal informations to impersonate her. Like for example a specific behavioral feature she has, or something.
Imagine throwing somebody a party and then denying them the food at said party. Like why even throw them the party if they not allowed to eat the food? At that point just throw a party for yourself
When I was pregnant, I cried my eyes out because my ex didn't turn the exhaust fan on in the bathroom when he had a shower, shit just all feels so much bigger and more serious when you're big, sore and uncomfortable and your brain has been replaced with hormone soup.Also... the chocolates were *hers*. Clearly she's okay with sharing but also he definitely knew they were her faves.
I’ve been looking for this comment.
That's not a excuse to be bitchy tho. U can't make ur husband go out in the middle of the night just to buy chocolate 🤦
@@TheStepmonkey but she didnt make him tho. The husband offered to go out and buy them.
I recently gave birth, but i have to disagree with you.
YES those cravings are huge, yes they were her faves, but it could have waited til morning. She would have been fine eating the other flavours he gave her, but then once she noticed she freaked out.
@@foreshadowing_panda3928 she didn’t make him do anything. She just got understandably upset that he bought chocolates FOR HER then ate what he clearly knew was her favourite flavour out of them.
So many of these relationship r/AITA are indicative of people choosing partners to not be alone, not because they actually have a good connection
fr, I can't imagine being so nasty to someone I care for enough to be in a partner relationship with
For real these people should not be in relationships
This. The pettiness, the lack of communication, having little in common, the contempt and resentment. It's honestly really sad. Either get couples counseling or let one another go already.
Actually lost my mind at the server with “too much” makeup cause I work in “fine dining” for my city and I go crazy with my makeup cause I have to wear all black and it adds character without being tacky. I’m always kind of cautious and aware that some of the clientele may be uncomfortable with it but typically people LOVE it. Treating servers/bartenders like they can’t be just people is INSANE to me. We’re just trying to look nice and add some personality to that
Maybe it sounds weird but if given choice I’d prefer to have a pretty crew at my wedding. I want everyone to be hot 😅
Absolutely, it’d be one thing if it was sloppy, otherwise it sounds extremely insecure to care that much
I’m someone who is completely monogamous when it comes to relationships, but I think you can still cheat in an open relationship. I personally believe that if you set boundaries with a person, such as needing to discuss potential new partners with them before involvement, and they go out of their way to cross those boundaries, then it’s cheating.
This
It's also gross to involve other people in your relationship when they're clearly uncomfortable. My mom is a "unicorn" so she's the third. She brings her s*x partners home when we pay half the rent and says it's "her house" and we have no say in it. We have a 3 year old who she is exposing to these people that she picks up at bars. I don't even feel safe with all these strangers coming in and out of our home but we live in California and literally can't afford anything else.
I just realized you were talking about the last story not the one with the son lmao
@@fiestyfox2207 haha i agree with u abt the last one tho. if a child expresses that they're uncomfortable, it should be common sense for a parent to consider their needs over those of literal strangers
the fact the woman got upset from the "so close" literally proves that she meant it as an insult. she see's it as a backhanded condecending insult. if she truly saw it as a compliment, she wouldn't get upset
If she was offended enough to go to her friends house then she knows it's an insult
I stand by the “so close” guy. She deserved it. If he’s mentioned how that phrase has made him feel and the wife has continued to say it basically ignoring how he felt, she deserves to hear it back. Now she knows how he’s felt all this time and her taking offense means she’s known this whole time that saying the phrase was not a compliment.
Like, the reasonable part of me wants to say, "Relationships are about compromise and chosing to be the better person blah blah blah" but the nengeful part of me basically had an prgasm when the guy responded with the, "So close."
Also, if it's a phrase that he's hearing all the time, then it makes sense that he would immediately think of it, *especially* in a situation where that phrase would actually make sense to use.
I would say the only potential AH bit would be doubling down on it by saying it a second time because that was slightly mean spirited. But the situation was definitely not his fault, she shouldn’t have been talking to him like that.
Also i feel like most people would have said that she was so close to getting the job. It was between her and someone else that is so close 😆
@@potatomcgee6576 exactly, by itself it’s literally true-she was so close to getting the job. why would she immediately take offense to that?
The twin thing you mentioned has actually happened! There were a pair of twins in I believe Malaysia(?) where one twin was caught drug trafficking red-handed, and the second twin showed up shortly after, and in their country, drug trafficking had a REQUIRED minimum penalty of death. They mixed up the twins during the arrest and since they only had the evidence against one twin and not the other, they needed to know which one had been caught before they could prosecute. When they couldn't confirm it 100%, the judge refused to prosecute because she couldn't condone possibly sending an innocent man to his death. LegalEagle did a video on it :]
What’s the video called?
Damn, I’m scared to ask what the maximum penalty would be!
@@JNDReacts Frankenstein you back together and ending you again?
@@DogsandPennies at about 10mins on this video! ua-cam.com/video/HPfG7jaGn08/v-deo.html
@@poemisdead6255 thank you!
I love how you’re pointing out how trigger happy redditors are about cutting people out of one’s life.
I mean, sometimes, it’s warranted. But, every single time someone makes a mistake, it’s like “they have chosen exile”.
the anger that would run through me if my partner kept telling me I was 'so close' to doing something right, and then get angry when I said the same thing, idc if it was a job, she a hypocrite. and she needs to stay in her lane.
The thing is she really was close to get that job and i think saying "you were so close, maybe next time" is an appropriate think to say in this situation but she knew SHE USED THESE WORDS IN A CONDESCENDING MANNER TO HER PARTNER everyday that's why she was triggered at the first go. She's the asshole
@@sista363 frr she's literally recognising that she used it in a patronising way
I love how it’s obvious Dylan reads the comments and adapts his content to it…like he could’ve ignored the drama in the comments from last video but he didn’t! he incorporated it instead…very community feeling
It's so crazy how the majority (at least feels that way) of UA-camrs just ignore the comment section and rarely interact with their subscribers nevermind incorporate what they said into a future video.
The MIL was in charge of the food and giving that she was fat-shaming OP in the past, I wouldn’t be surprised if she did it on purpose. If she really meant well she would’ve made sure there was healthy food available, not only cakes!
I will never shut up about this: Dylan’s videos are top tier. THE EDITING THOUGH - impeccable
Yep although he definitely hired an editor already
@@pia1945 Yeah his name is Joe he said
@@Popcornstar18 he said “Joe, you will have to work on this for probably three weeks” and I was like: poor Joe 😭
@@Popcornstar18 and British
@@aloka_karunathilaka7159 omg Taylor Swift's boyfriend is working for dylan
I actually felt gross at the server story. I wear bold eyeliner I’m assuming that’s what she was wearing, the server was also simply doing her job. It actually makes me uncomfortable as a server myself that people are judging me this hard and it could ruin their day so bad
O R she is in love with her...... ok, i'll stop.
24:58 she didn’t even say “mom and dad bought it, and they said i could take it.” she just wrestled her sister at a wedding shower
the one about the teen paying part of the rent and learning abt the open relationship really got to me. It made me so mad; I didn't like all the name-calling mentioned but when the parents supposedly called later, while the teen wasn't home, for rent, I was like HELL NAHH
for sure. nta for no longer paying rent, but yta for the name calling.
I would have reacted the same way. That one hit way too close to home
people also need to realize you must be extremely careful who you invite into your home if you have family in it. Kids or Grandkids or even elderly family who need assistance. Once you take these people into your home it is no longer JUST your home, its also the home of those dependent on you. Kids especially need a stable environment. It's completely irresponsible to invite men over who over members of the house are not comfortable around, especially if it becomes frequent
I fully agree with the people saying to cut off the cousins who took stuff from their parent's house after their dad passed away. It wasn't even their parents!! I can't imagine going to my uncle or aunt's house and taking stuff after they die even if they told me I could have it. If it's in the will, then the appointed executor is legally obligated to give it to you. And if it's not in the will, then who knows if they actually said you could have it!
yeah, imo there is more info needed to get a full picture of what went on, but its certainly not looking good for the cousins.
Plus, they obviously warned the family what would happen if they did this.
If the parents had promised it, mention that to the executor. Especially after they mentioned that's how they wanted to do things.
Going over there and taking things while the body is still warm is just looting
the problem here isn't that there are consequences the problem si which ones. this should have been a civil case in most situations. you get the stuff back or a payout they also have to cover the cost of the case. but it went to be a criminal case instead. thats a hole diffrent lvl. Like the cousins and the Uncle are defnitly in the wrong here. but sending cops is very extrem.
@@grahamking9885 I'm definitely not defending the cousins, but how would they prove the parents promised them? If they were that desperate to get it, it probably wasn't in the will.
The “you were so close” thing fits way better in a job interview you barely lost on when compared to menial tasks that literally require very little intelligence or skill. Getting a job is tough sometimes, cleaning the dishes should never be tough lol unless stuff is like caked on I dunno 😂 choosing to say that for those simple tasks is beyond degrading, that guys wife was basically saying “it’s okay buddy, maybe next time you’ll be able to put the square blocks where they belong and the circular ones where they belong”
Fully agree on the cosplaying one, sounds like the boyfriend just decided the guy was creepy just because he didn't like him talking to his girlfriend.
With the wedding one with the server I think I would have full regretted marrying her by my own wedding reception, I'd be filing for a divorce pretty quick 🤣
I agree on the captain red beard one. I think it's reasonable to assume that the gf would tell her guy if she was feeling uncomfortable and he doesn't give any examples of creepy behavior other than talking to his gf about what they are currently meeting up to talk about
Yeah the story hinges on whether the GF is actually uncomfortable (but I don't think she would have told her BF she's uncomfortable if the red beard guy is actually following her the whole time, she wouldn't have the opportunity).
If the guy is actually making her uncomfortable, I sympathise with the BF. If he doesn't intervene, his GF might get mad he didn't doing anything. If intervenes in a benign way (which it seems like he did at first) and it ends in confrontation, his GF gets mad anyway.
The baby shower story pissed me off. I’m having mine in a few days and can assure you my mil, mom, and sister have spent more money on mine then the one in the story. I mean, cake and juices?? Not even a main meal? They didn’t spend much money, I can tell you that. Also, she is growing a HUMAN inside of her! She needs to get as much food in her as she can, the baby takes a lot from the mom, I ate all day yesterday without getting full because of how much my baby was taking. I had to limit myself yesterday because I noticed just how much I was eating, no one else told me anything because they knew why I was eating a lot. Fuck that whole family, pissed me off so much.
Congratulations on your baby. and I feel the same way mil was the, ahole and the husband for getting upset with his wife and not sticking up for her
The husband is insane. His mom "meant well" when she called his wife carrying his child a walrus. No one means well when calling someone a walrus. They're treating her like an incubator.
Oh my goodness! The cravings can come and go so strongly too! In the beginning I ate regular but those last 4 weeks I get like I was hungry every hour
@@katrinascarlet5637 I disagree, do you think his mother told him she called his wife a walrus? No. She sugar-coated it. I feel as if the blame falls mostly on the mother
@@overtheatlas Are you the husband?
I honestly think the way he said “so close” was used better than ANY of the times she used it. She WAS close to getting the job, it was between her & 1 other person. He was just stating a fact, & she got mad because she knows when she says it it’s not a compliment like she claims
Agreed. As petty and it may have saounded/bad, she just mad he beat her at her own game. She was passive aggressive and figurative and he was literal lol
Yeah, if I were consoling someone I might be like "Aw man, and you were SO close, too D:"
That’s what I was thinking! That phrase was actually applicable to that situation, regardless of whether he was being petty or not 😂
When it comes to the anime nerd, I think the boyfriend was insecure because he felt like he didn't fit in, but his girlfriend did and was starting to make a friend, so he decided to try to make the "anime nerd" leave by judging his appearance.
yea, and the "nerd" pointing out that OPs BF didn't know the cosplay, that probably made the BF feel more isolated and exacerbated that feeling so that's why he reacted out even more by making the virgin comment
i’m surprised no one is talking abt the twin story. if someone was using MY name and MY face for something i didn’t consent to or was even informed of in the first place, i would press charges. not to mention the fact her sister charged her for a felony and she just let that slide? either the girls twin has always been resentful towards her for no reason or the girl herself has done something to upset her twin insane amount. either way, a horrible thing to do to a person.
Girl needs to leave that twin behind, change her legal name and never share any personal information with her sister.
FR if someone did that to me i would be so mad and upset this is serious stuff, a whole ass felony charge fell on her shoulders because of it
@@nikfiendluvr666omg u are right my bad !! i was so distracted while watching i misheard it. still a horrible thing regardless
For the cosplay case, it's probably the jealousy talking. If even his gf told him to apologize then he definitely took it too far and is claiming the guy is a creep just to justify it.
Exactly! If the girlfriend was truly creeped out, she would be relieved that someone stepped in, not defending the supposed ‘creep.’ Mentioning the acne and stereotypes was so unnecessary too and says nothing about the person’s moral character.
The wedding shower sisters fighting for wine is just... classic sisterly love😹😹
The things with the third story, the man actually TOLD his wife that he doesn't like it. But she kept doing it anyway. That's the point. If you tell your partner that you don't like a certain action yet they still do it anyway, that is a clear indication of indifference to what you feel.
Or at the very least she should be trying to avoid it. Like I can maybe understand if it slipped out once in a while after he said something if she then apologized because it's a habit for her but it sounded like she didn't give a damn about him.
Or maybe it's a habit.
But I agree that sge didn't seem like she cared. she didn't try to correct herself by telling him to call her out whenever she says it out of habit and She'll apologize and try not to say it again and repeat this until her habit is gone.
Exactly. Doesn’t matter your intention, if your SO tells you that something you say/do is hurtful and you respect them you’d stop. Refusing to is a sign of major disrespect
Just in case anyone is interested about the identical twin thing and crimes:
It has happened in the past that identical twins got away with crimes by trying to pin it on the other, as then it couldn’t be proved beyond reasonable doubt that one did it over the other.
However, very recently in the Netherlands an identical twin was rightly convicted of rape as they did full DNA profiles for both, which took about two years as identical twins tend to have only about 5-10 differences in their 3 billion DNA letters.
Hope this was interesting!
And thank you Dylan for very interesting videos ❤
My dad works in a jail, and there used to be a set of twins that were in and out regularly that he'd talk about. Apparently there were a handful of charges against them that had to be dismissed because the evidence given made it impossible to determine which twin was responsible, basically automatic reasonable doubt. So it can in fact cause legal conundrums
When it comes to pregnancy cravings it's just something you can't mess with 😂 I dropped a single pringle on the floor when I was pregnant and I started crying. It really is insane.
I feel ya, Beth! Except mine was a period, and I went through all 5 of the stages of grief in escalating dramatics at not having chocolate in the house. Cried because the Nutella wasn’t close enough, dammit 😂
even when i’m on my period i sob for certain foods lol
PUTTING THIS OUT THERE: DYLAN NEEDS A PODCAST
I second this!!!
100%
Visual thoooo!! I need his expressions🤣
He doesss. We should make a petition or some shit until he sees it lmao.
YOURE SO RIGHT
I wanted to say that In the pregnancy one she was the AH but then I remember the blind rage I went into when my brother ate the ice cream I’d saved for myself for my period. I legit threw a plate. I still cannot believe I had that kinda anger in me. Hormones will mess u up
shit i already get pissed at my family when they buy pizza or donuts or ice cream or whatever and then let my sister eat it all without saving any to the side for me, even if i like, specifically walked all across town with them for it.
i dont throw plates but i do *feel* like throwing plates. especially since i dont eat as much as them and we dont eat meals together so i usually have to like, scrounge up food on my own schedule. extremely inconvenient when im looking for something i expect to be there when im really hungry and then theres nothing.
EDIT; I TOTALLY FUCKING FORGOT THEY DO THIS WITH MY BIRTHDAY CAKE TOO LMAO- we had to get 2 when i turned 18 because the last few birthdays, my sister (who is 26 now) would take slices in the middle of the night whenever she wanted, when i try to save rare treats like that as much as possible (and would end up getting none)
The fact that Dylan made God father/mob jokes in this video after criticizing Zootopia that no one will get their God father joke is sending me 😂😂
yees, thank you! 😆
When someone just isn't listening to your communication about boundaries (referring to the gf with the food and also the husband being "so close"), the best thing to do is to calmly ask them questions on *why* they keep doing it. Make them think through their behavior. From that point you can express how their continued behavior makes you feel. If they just flat out don't care after all this, big red flag.
On the one hand, this is a calm, rational approach. But on the other hand, I don't think people should have to use social emotional learning tactics to get their partner to be considerate or just an overall decent human being. So idk, I think maybe it's reasonable for those one-off small things but if I found myself needing to do something like this frequently, it would be a pretty big red flag to me.
@@shelbyb9965 I meant the comment to be just that, a one or maybe even two time conversation
Making an onlyfans is very invasive. They need your id and credit card🤦🏻♀️ if the twin stolen her identity it’s literally a felony????!
For the “you were so close” AITA story I say NTA. If the wife truly never meant for it to be an insult whenever she said it, then why would she take it as an insult when he said it to her? To me that just shows she actually did mean to degrade him with every comment, like he’s not good enough and can’t do anything right. The wife is TA here.
He told her to stop so if she was actually nice , she would have changed her wording or something. Continuing something knowing that it bothers this person it doesn't matter even if you meant well or not ,you gotta stop.( I don't belive she meant well though)
@@n.a.02.02 I totally agree, that’s something that stood out to me too. She has no respect for her husband, if she did she would consider his feelings, apologize for making him feel less than and stop saying those words.
I agree!
I love that Dylan completely roasted the Godfather reference in Zootopia and now he does it a couple of times
😂 oh man! I can’t believe this comment doesn’t have more likes, that was just 👌 perfect!
The "you were so close" one is difficult because when she does it, it's about minor things, except imagine hearing that every day when you do those things. It sounds to me like she's trying to micromanage him and he clearly hates it, which is valid. That being said, if your partner has just experienced a big letdown, is crying next to you, clearly hurt and vulnerable, and you use this moment as payback... that's just vicious. Even if it really was the first thing to pop in his head, he kept going so at that point it wasn't just his subconscious, he meant to make her feel worse. I understand that sometimes you can have pent-up issues with your partner but kicking them while their down isn't an appropriate or effective way to solve them.
I mean, he already expressed to her that he didn't like it and she kept doing it. So SHE is already aware of his feelings, and thus no longer has the excuse of ignorance. Also as other people have pointed out, if she didn't mean it to belittle him why does she react like that when he says it...
@@dustrose8101 But I didn't say she was unaware of his feelings, I said that a moment like that, when she had just found out that her dream job rejected her, was an inappropriate time to bring this "you were so close" thing up (and the way he "brought it up", by saying it out of spite, was inappropriate regardless). He saw an opportunity to make her suffer more and took it. I think it's a low blow and not how you handle boundaries in a relationship you care about. Also as other people have pointed out, the tone you use while saying something adds a lot of meaning. You can say "oh, honey, I know, you were so close!" in a supportive way (and noone would ask "what do you mean?") but you can also say it sarcastically, in a mean way. There's ofc no way to judge unless someone was there but it's good to keep in mind
I don't think criticizing his work for his job is a "little" thing. Plus, every "little" thing adds up to be a "big" thing.
My thoughts exactly
I agree with you. The fact that he couldn't console her when she was in her lowest without these kind of thoughts popping suggests to me that the constant "you are so close" from her side damaged the relationship more than they both realized. This requires both to take account of what has being on and how those little remarks are not so little if repeated over time. The fact that she can instantly recognize that saying "you were sooo close" is not the right answer can help her see that behavior for what it is and stop doing it at once.
On the other hand, as you said, he should also recognize that this was not the moment to make that point. The fact that he wants to make it sound as if though it was an accident that this was "blurted out", is telling me that he doesn't want to confront the fact that he went for a "taste your medicine" type of revenge moment.
The second story reminds me of when I worked as a host. I worked at a nicer restaurant. The amount of people that felt the need to comment on my uniform was ridiculous. I have in the words of my grandma “a busty chest” so the shirt I had to wear BECAUSE IT WAS THE UNIFORM GIVEN TO ME BY THE RESTAURANT I WOKRED AT, was a kinda tight. I was constantly having to smile and bare it while customers made snide and snarky comments to me. My favourite was said by a creepy old man, “she probably wears her top like that so she can make better tips”. Anyway needless to say I ended up quitting that job and never looking back. Moral of the story most of the time staff has a uniform and dress code. So if someone is working a shift they probably passed the dress code check.
I would be fired SO fast from a job like this because, maybe my mouth wouldn't slip the first time, but my filter is bad so I'd end up responding at some point. You must have had so much restraint
@@secretlybees it was my first job I didn’t want to cause a scene. I was so timid lol.
@@Angryoyster Your FIRST JOB?!!? That must have been so hard coming from no experience right into that! Glad you're out!!!
@@secretlybees oh yah retail is much better. 🫶
Istg, the amount of sexual harrasment servers go through, especially the female ones is insane. I experienced stuff like that as well, and it was my first job at 15.
For the cosplay one: even if the guy was being creepy, the girlfriend clearly wanted to handle it her way. Unless your girlfriend asks you to step in, let women handle our shit ourselves.
THANK YOU
YES. THIS. It's gross how men wanna jump in and be a protector when it may not have even been needed or wanted.
@@essendossev362 To me it just comes off as so infantilizing. I get the intention may be from a good place of wanting to support your partner, but the impact is not that. It's a stripping of agency that is so frustrating.
Honestly, the bf should know whether the gf prefers him to step in or if she likes to deal with it on her own. It has to be something they discuss together.
@@essendossev362 it's not really GROSS like wanting to help is not that ugly . If you put the genders on it then you are thinking it as a sexist action. If you don't, then it's just an act of consideration
The murder thing with the twins, we recently had this situation in NL and they discovered there are some slight differences in the DNA. It’s really hard to trace up apparently it can be done.
The stories get crazier every time and I’m here for it😂
man if her sister didnt pay for those bottles of wine and the people who did said she could have them then i don't see how anyone could be on her sisters side.
I think there that the sister was stressed out bc of the wedding and she saw something she didn’t like and reacted in a explosive way (actually neither of them were bad people just had their things
@@justb4sleep834 I would agree with you, but the fact that the brothers and mother are tired of her s*** makes me completely not want to take her side. It makes me think she is bordering being, or is, insufferable
@@alonvx2 I am not saying that what she did wasn’t wrong but that maybe she reacted in that way bc of stress, (obviously if her family isn’t an AH then they will say something about it)
The open relationship one hit hard for me my parents forced me to get a job when I was 15 and pay bills and my dad would still try and pull the my house my rules crap even though he wasn’t even working. He literally stayed home and smoked weed all day and did nothing finally some time after I turned 16 I just stopped listening to him and if he tried to say he would kick me out or to get out of his house I would just leave and not pay bills that month/give them money for food. My younger sister was still there so I would make sure to feed her if they were running low but after a few times of this happening he eventually stopped threatening me and I was pretty much just a roommate to them after that. I had a job advanced classes and several extracurriculars that took up most of my time so it’s not like I was going out partying and acting crazy but anytime I refused them money or didn’t bow down to them they would start their shit so when I got tired of it I did what I needed to to become as autonomous as I could while still having a place to live. Parents like mine need your support more then they need you so if you can manage it use it against them and get out ASAP. Personally after I graduated I waited for them to leave the house packed up all my shit and ran in under an hour but not everyone can do that.
What happened to your sister?
For the job thing, if the woman was so shocked that he said "you were so close", then it has a negative connotation. Yet she claims that when she says it to her husband it's a compliment so I'm confused. It was still petty of him to say that to her when she was crying tho.
With the "You were so close" scenario, I was gonna say the guy was the a**hole for being petty but the girl is the biggest a**hole in the end. The only reason she got mad was because she knows he doesn't like it when she says it and she knows that she's being condescending and that's why she took it as such.
@UCALs3FU90PMzpBuh1ixqT4Q I think the occasion where he used the phrase was most fitting. The significance of the examples doesn’t matter because it’s true that she was really close to getting the job. Also, OP’s wife was the one who claimed that the phrase was a compliment, not OP. He asked her on several occasions to stop because it made him feel bad, and she should’ve stopped when he asked the first couple of times, so he’s not exactly overreacting. If the wife took offense, then she clearly knows what she was doing. I wouldn’t even consider what he said a jab because he mentioned that he said it unintentionally. That seems fair to me because it’s normal for anyone to pick up new mannerisms and language from people they spend lots of time with.
I think he is still the AH because doing the dishes and losing your dream job are two very different things.
@@violetsanddragons It wasn't just doing the dishes though, according to his own words. It was multiple instances even after he told her he didn't like it, which is effectively the death by a thousand paper cuts.
This guy is convinced that pregnancy lasts 12 months and it’s sending me 💀😂
Omg I just realised cause I read your comment..😭🤣
Regarding identical twins, I actually went down the rabbit hole of info regarding that today. What a coincidence. Basically you can't tell the DNA apart. Fingerprints, yes, DNA, no. I just read an article about a man, Kevin Dugar, that spent nearly two decades behind bars for a crime that his identical twin committed. He was only released this year because his twin finally confessed in a letter sent to his jail cell. So messed up cause the twin stood beside Kevin the entire time and promised it wasn't him.
For the getting their cousins arrested one, I’d say NTA. For the cousins to go through the house and take stuff when no one else was there is super shady and something a lot of family members try to do. Her father had a will, so odds are, if he actually promised the cousins that stuff, it would be in the will. Send ‘em to jail
right like why are you so quick to go pick those items up they just died?!?!?!
Plus they were clearly WARNED. By family members who are lawyers and therefore likely aren't fucking around. Sorry but I don't have much sympathy for the cousins when they refused to listen to the warnings they were given.
Been going to cosplay meetups for years and honestly some people there just don’t socialize a ton and can come off as awkward or even creepy but it’s usually clear they don’t mean any harm but just don’t know how to talk to people. Sounded to me like the girlfriend got that the guy was just trying to make conversation and was a bit awkward and her boyfriend decided it was his place to step in and be a jerk.
As a twin that onlyfans one is so messed up. I've had similar experiences of people confusing one for the other (thankfully not to this degree). It's a horrible feeling, so I can't imagine this oml.
This video was so fun! The edits were hilarious, props to the editor! 👍Can't wait for the next one
I totally agree on the last one. The lady 100% is cheating or has some illegal side hustle.
She had a gambling addiction
The boy she was driving home was jesse pinkman
Gambling apparently