Your growth over these last few months has been so beautiful and phenomenal to watch. Self preservation is definitely a hard lesson to learn but a necessary one. You find true happiness and peace because your energy isn’t drained by those who can’t replenish it. It also let’s you focus that energy on the people that can. Also what you said about making your relationship with God your focus it reminded me of a quote. “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek him just to find her.” - Max Lucado
I’ve realized this too. And at the moment I have no friends. And guess what? I feel really really happy..I kept letting my “friend” be toxic for years and then I realized I was much happier without them. It’s a nice realization. And I’m just focusing on myself and making myself better so I can hopefully meet friends that are good for me. Love your videos! ❤️
I LOVE this comment!! I've come to this same place in life and to realize that my happiness should not depend on others. Never have I been this happy.. the people who are meant to be in our lives and DESERVE to be will come along in due time..
I totally relate to this video. I’m so loyal that it’s almost a fault of mine. I stick by people, defend them. Look past shitty things they have done and I have always ended up hurt. I think where I’m at now in life is where I’m meant to be. And I’m holding on to faith that one day I will be surrounded by the right people. Even if it’s just one person, it’s better to have one loyal friend over 5 friends who make me feel like crap. I’m a single momma and my son is first priority, I need people that understand that. It’s scary doing this all alone but I’m doing it. I don’t have a single regret in the world. This video was so relatable and Britt always seems to post videos like these right when I need them. Or need to be reminded why I’m doing what I’m doing! I wish the best for her and everyone who replied to my comment. ❤️
"Seeing people for what you want them to be versus what they are"- Britt, This statement here is the very reason I have finally learned to walk away from the things that don't help fill my ocean of happiness. It is difficult to realize that the fault is within yourself and not with the people you associate with. I am to, an accomplice in raising people to a level that they don't belong on. Thank you for sharing.
I have been that way also most of my life, good you learned it now, I learned it late in life, I am 67, I have found that it is rare to meet people that are as loyal as I am, not bragging it's just a fact, happy for you that you are getting this now in life, you are getting wise. and you are so right on about having a relationship with God. And yes don't get hard and cold, but be cautious. I felt like it was selfish also, but you have to love yourself.
First off, you look absolutely gorgeous in this video! Thank you so much for sharing your own experience. I am in my 20s and I have been struggling with this, specifically feeling bad for walking away from draining relationships + realizing that I put certain empty friendships on a pedestal. I'm definitely in a season of trusting God to bring the right people in my life. This video was very helpful! Thank you for being honest.
This directly spoke to me! This is my heart completely and you’re right we should never stop showing grace but it is good to be aware of those draining relationships. And when you showed your tattoo I almost cried that’s the exact I’ve been wanting to get to because I feel like I needed a visual way to remind myself to be still and trust God and let him guide me in my relationships. You’re doing an amazing job on your channel by the way! Keep going love I enjoy your videos.
You are a wise and well- spoken young woman Brittany. So many people need to hear that. Keep on this journey..and thank you for sharing. I makes a difference. It really does. We hear you out here. Take care.
Thank you for this! ❤️❤️❤️ there’s no greater feeling than the love of God. Even if your world is LITERALLY crumbling, he surrounds you warms you and comforts you! I’m so grateful for my relationship with him ❤️
To already say you don't regret your marriage is HUGE! Look what God has done. That's pretty incredible grace and supernatural peace. Thank you for sharing. xoxo And the haircut is PERFECT on you!
I'm loyal too to a fault, but there does come a time when it becomes ridiculous to continue to give to a high level to a person who is not giving to the same level back to you. Yes it was Maya who said that and it's true. One mistake does not make you a certain way. Yes it's the repeated behavior that does. Oh Brit I became aware of this a few years ago. I stopped looking for people to do what only God can. They are not my everything and people will always fail you. So glad you also know this too. ❤️❤️
This video is just what I needed to hear! It’s SO encouraging to hear that I’m not alone in not turning to God enough. Brit thank you for sharing what God is opening your eyes to through your trials!! Please upload more videos of your spiritual journey, they are so helpful. Your an amazing and strong woman and in a society that is filled with non Christ like examples it’s so necessary to have sting Christian woman like you as a role model!
Your channel is one of the very best on youtube. You take such a thoughtful and pleasant approach to your videos and the fact that you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable, open, and REAL about things is refreshing. I appreciate you Britt and pray that God will continue to bless you and lift you up! Your healing journey is beautiful and you are RIGHT to place God first in all things. I'm so with you on pulling back from those who drain.
SO MANY THUMBS UP FROM ME, BRITT!!! I’ve had the same epiphanies in my life as well! Facing the end of a marriage after 25 years, making many accommodations and sacrifices for someone who wasn’t what I thought they were. I allowed those sacrifices to get in the way of my relationship with the Lord. It is God’s grace through His Son that has given me inner peace and healing!!! THANK YOU for sharing this, Britt!! 🙌🏽❤️☝🏽
Beautifully said Britt. I appreciate you sharing your self reflection on how even good intentions can be flawed. As young women we do tend to be loyal to a flaw and overlook so many red flags about people. It can be completely detrimental to us and we will still stick with it until God puts the brakes on it. Plus God said for us to guard our hearts because people who don’t know the value of it will trample all over it. Mistakes help to refine Gods diamonds(us). The gems of knowledge and wisdom you blessed us with in this video are worth so much more than you realize. Thank you
Thanks for sharing your heart and opening up:)) Going through part of this myself while I am recovering from a major injury. Thanks for this, needed this reminder!
GIRL THE LORD HAS PUT THIS VIDEO IN MY LIFE AT THE RIGHT TIME WOW I’m just so thankful for your videos and your real, vulnerable way of talking about your faith. There is nobody like you on UA-cam and I just love you
Reason...Season...Lifetime, I believe all things including relationships fall into one of these categories. The trick is figuring out what category is the right one, and letting go when that time is at an end. Great thought provoking Britt chat per usual.
Wow! I’ve recently realized this as well! I was honestly second guessing my decision to pull back from this “friendship” but hearing you just reminds me that I’m doing what’s best for me and my mental health and my spiritual health even. I never posted on any of your videos but as a Christian who strayed away until recently, I have to say your an inspiration, I know no one is perfect but you are someone I look up to(:
Thank you for this vlog Britt..it has definitely helped me in many ways..and sure it has helped others as well. You are a light to many people that are in darkness. I want nothing but happiness and success for you and your family. Be Blessed. Have a wonderful weekend. Much Love to you Britt😘💕
Thanks so much for this Britt! This spoke so much to me as I can relate 110%. I have always been that way and because of that have been taken advantage of many times. It's hard to get better instead of bitter but it all has definitely been a learning process.
Thisss!!! #Truth this has been my problem for the longest, i took my rose colored glasses off too and have spent the past year going through that change and trusting God comeplete instead of trying to do it on my own. Just drains you and you wont have enough for yourself, when God can fill and fill and fill you. I just had this conversation with my friend yesterday. I am so happy for you Brittany. I am so thankful for this channel and space you have created.
I love this! Very inspiring and just so raw. Haven't been active and watching your channel due to school but gosh I've missed you. You are so strong and beautiful!
Your heart is so beautiful and genuine. I pray that the Lord will continue to lift you up and empower you in the midst of it all!! God bless you Brittany🌷
Britt, I completely relate to this. I’ve done a lot of reflection as well, and I’ve realized that it’s not worth it to put in so much to people who don’t seem to value you and your relationship with them as much as you do. There have been situations where I have given people second chances and third chances. I did realize and reflect upon situations that happened in the last few years, and that it’s okay to let go, and to move on from those situations that cause complications and emotionally draining and frustrating. I’ve been so much happier and more positive rather than working so hard to make a friendship or relationship to work. If it’s not meant to work, it’s not meant to, and that’s okay.
I'm very impressed with how honest your heart is and really appreciate how you are allowing God to work in you! I completely agree with what you said about how things go wrong when you put people in place of God. So very true! Such a healthy reminder for all relationships. Keep it up girl! Your strength God is giving you is very admirable.
I’m loving the haircut! You look gorgeous! Your top is super cute! You should look up “Codependency” on Pinterest. Usually codependents (me) naturally end up being with Narcissistic people until we fully heal why we are that way. ❤️❤️
quietandmildone yeah exactly! It was a hard truth I had to admit to myself! It’s just Essentially learning to truly love ourselves. That we have worth and needs and should be treated as so. ❤️❤️❤️
Yep! I attracted one...it was a nightmare...but I totally understand the reason of how and why I attracted him. Been on this self healing journey for over a year now.
Thank you for your vulnerability. I struggle with this too. I always see the potential in people even when they are toxic and that has brought much pain and harm to my life but the past few years I've been learning to have boundaries. I read the book too and it was really good. I ready every version of it and really focused on applying it to my life. I still feel really bad when I put up boundaries with people (almost like I'm doing something wrong) but I'm able to do it and I see the result afterwards. We are all a work in progress.
Thank you so much, your talk put a great deal into perspective for me, and the mistakes that I have made in my marriage. Needless to say that I have now been divorced for 5 years now, and God is back in my life. So happier now, and looking forward to remarrying.
Loved this video!!! I can definitely be too loyal to all the wrong ones. I've been working on leaning on God more lately and it's helped me put things and people into perspective as well. Amen!
Story of my life girl!! I swear I'm a relationship dummy!! 😣 Presently single and not even looking but I'm ok with that cause I'm good with me and myself!!!😊😊😊😊😊 I too believe that God knows who deserves to be in your life so in the meantime, we should just work on ourselves and don't worry about it!!😊😊✌🙏
People can be good but you can't let them use you. Reality vs Fantasy are definitely two different things. The one constant in this world is "God". He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. I learned that people are in your life for a reason and a season. This was very insightful, Britt. Tfs
I needed this... I also tend to hold people to standards they never agreed to meet & then get upset when they don’t meet them! I’ve lightened up lately, but this has always been an issue for me
Woooo! I got a word today Pastor Britt! Lol But seriously, I see what you’re saying about seeing the potential of people versus who they are. I have the same struggle.🙏🏾✨💕
Thank you for this vlog today. Wow it was so good listening to this. We have to realize that some people are not on our level. Yes ,God will rescue you from things that you don’t need to be in. I live by this. Again thank you for being authentic about things that has happened to you. God bless. Happy Days come when we start living our best lives ! Bless you!
Wow, I had this same realization about myself this year. It's tough facing that truth about yourself but it's a step forward in developing healthy relationships with people.
I agree with everything you have said. You have to be careful with where you really invest your time and energy. I believe that you can’t change a person a person can only change themselves. If someone makes a mistake, we can love them through it, but it is their responsibility to pick themselves up and do the work to change. If they don’t, then we ultimately have to part ways.
Girl.....you are speaking your truth and mine. We give alot expecting the same in return and get disappointed. This is real talk and i love it. This new journey you are on is going to be blessing for you. Love you britt!
This is just the message I needed to hear right now. I’ve been following you for years and feel like in a lot of ways though our lives are very different, we’ve come to the same realizations and grown in similar ways. Thank you Britt! 🙏🏻💙
This video has really spoken to me. I have been going through a lot lately but this video has really helped me. God allows us to go through certain things to teach us a lesson. You have a beautiful spirit. Keep being you and stay strong ❤️
This is why I love Ur channel, Like me you love All people!! I focus on people’s good qualities and then talk about to that person it really helps others self esteem. 🌷
This is so awesome, I just had this talk with my daughter last night. I was saying when I put people in the place where the Lord should be or put them higher than I should that’s when I got hurt the most. I was like you Britt. Not realizing that I need to give some people a level of trust and some do deserve 2nd chances. That if I step out I can’t take my eyes off God or I’ll sink ya know. Any this was great. I sent it to my daughter.
I, too, am loyal and kind to those whom I consider my friends. Sometimes people take sweetness as a weakness, which is a big mistake in my book. God is so good. He loves His children and has a way of teaching us, leading and guiding us by allowing us to go through certain situations in life, aka "Life Lessons." In my own life, I have seen how God would allow me to go through an experience, but within the experience was a lesson to be learned that He was trying to teach me. Whenever the same kind of situations keep occurring in my life, I know that I am missing what God is trying to teach me, and I have to adjust myself accordingly. It is the same for all of us. We will keep being presented with the same test until we finally pass it. God bless you.
Girl, Yasss! I have been through that for sure on both sides of the spectrum. I'm proud of you for learning because we all have to. After you learn that you will understand that you have better quality friendships and relationships. My second marriage is totally different from my first marriage because I understand that.
Omg Britt I am exactly the same. I am finally at a place where I see the value of being loyal but also how dangerous it can be when you're being loyal to someone who doesn't give a da*n that you're gifting them that. I also struggle with imagining that friendship are deeper then they are. I think, for me personally, I want so badly to be loved on a deeper level and I was ready to go deeper so I assumed they were too. It's been freeing, if not a little lonely to live more authentically and let people be who they are ❤❤
I'm like how you are Britt. I would look for things in people that weren't really there or there for me. AND i'm soooooo NICE!! Last year I've learned that lesson. It broke me, but I leaned on God and now I know what I want and I'm happy!!
I support you Brit! I know things were really tough and still may be but it's so good you're doing self-analysis and growing from it all. I once was so love in a relationship with a guy 4 yrs younger than me. I made more money than him so I bought a lot of things for him and always looked at him through rose-colored glasses. He abruptly ended things a d I vowed after that to see guys for who they are, not who I want them to be. When I started dating again, I guarded my heart more and really got to know guys for who they were and it helped so much. Now I'm in a loving, committed relationship and I think you'll find a great guy too. Sometimes the one that we think is right for us isn't but instead prepares us for the right person.
Love you, Brit! I grew up with a single mom, but she made sure to surround me with people who CHOSE to love and value me. I never even knew there was a "void", and it taught me self-worth. Granted, I never knew my father so that probably helped. Either way- keep loving your babies and surrounding yourself and them with people who truly want to be there. Show them what quality relationships look like. I will specifically pray for Kai to have strong male role models in every stage of his life. Praying for you and your babies. If you've got God, you've got more than you need.
Someone I considered my sister is no longer in my life. I realized we were never really what I assumed we were and when I looked back on the previous years, I can clearly see that. It was a very one sided friendship. We had so much in common, but in reality, we really didn’t. True friendship meant something completely different to each of us. Such a great video!
YES ! Truly great relationship advice. Whether it's marriage or friendship we need to watch for patterns of negative behavior. I've learned to set more boundaries in relationships , instead of assuming that my definition for a relationship is the same as theirs.
you got it, chica. that is a good realization about relationships with people vs. relationship with God and one we all have to learn really. God bless you and your family! :-) you're going to be great! so happy to hear where you're at :-)
Thanks for sharing! Your epiphany describes what has caused some of my deepest heartaches. Trusting God is definitely what some of us know is the only way, but we struggle in the act of applying that in our lives. God bless you 💕
Definitely me. I always see the good in people. I was in a 6yr relationship and it was so draining for me and I was in denial about it. I gave him 100% but barely got 50% in return. Now I'm just trying to chill out and love me again. Thanks for being so real. ❤
I agree ...sometimes you have to pull back from ...all the way back from those people who do not place value in you. Sometimes when you are too available and too loyal , people will walk on you.
Girl, well said! I can relate; but mine is with family (they can hurt the worst to cut off💔). Love ya and have an AWESOME and blessed weekend with those little cuties🍊.
I think the mistake we make is confusing being nice with being civil. Being civil is wishing the person the best and letting your expectations about them go. Part of that is recognizing you deserve someone or friends who are going to value you flaws and all. But don't fault yourself for being a loving caring forthcoming person. Love is a beautiful thing. We expect to receive the love we give. So give your love to people who are deserving.
Yes, this is me right now. And yes it took me a long time to finally release the toxicity of my life but once I did I felt so much relief. It's hard to let go sometimes.
"When people show you who they are, believe them" has been my mantra for years! Thank you Maya Angelou for your wisdom!
Your growth over these last few months has been so beautiful and phenomenal to watch. Self preservation is definitely a hard lesson to learn but a necessary one. You find true happiness and peace because your energy isn’t drained by those who can’t replenish it. It also let’s you focus that energy on the people that can. Also what you said about making your relationship with God your focus it reminded me of a quote. “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek him just to find her.” - Max Lucado
I’ve realized this too. And at the moment I have no friends. And guess what? I feel really really happy..I kept letting my “friend” be toxic for years and then I realized I was much happier without them. It’s a nice realization. And I’m just focusing on myself and making myself better so I can hopefully meet friends that are good for me. Love your videos! ❤️
I LOVE this comment!! I've come to this same place in life and to realize that my happiness should not depend on others. Never have I been this happy.. the people who are meant to be in our lives and DESERVE to be will come along in due time..
Same! and now feel liberated!
I totally relate to this video. I’m so loyal that it’s almost a fault of mine. I stick by people, defend them. Look past shitty things they have done and I have always ended up hurt. I think where I’m at now in life is where I’m meant to be. And I’m holding on to faith that one day I will be surrounded by the right people. Even if it’s just one person, it’s better to have one loyal friend over 5 friends who make me feel like crap. I’m a single momma and my son is first priority, I need people that understand that. It’s scary doing this all alone but I’m doing it. I don’t have a single regret in the world. This video was so relatable and Britt always seems to post videos like these right when I need them. Or need to be reminded why I’m doing what I’m doing! I wish the best for her and everyone who replied to my comment. ❤️
"Seeing people for what you want them to be versus what they are"- Britt, This statement here is the very reason I have finally learned to walk away from the things that don't help fill my ocean of happiness. It is difficult to realize that the fault is within yourself and not with the people you associate with. I am to, an accomplice in raising people to a level that they don't belong on. Thank you for sharing.
I have been that way also most of my life, good you learned it now, I learned it late in life, I am 67, I have found that it is rare to meet people that are as loyal as I am, not bragging it's just a fact, happy for you that you are getting this now in life, you are getting wise. and you are so right on about having a relationship with God. And yes don't get hard and cold, but be cautious. I felt like it was selfish also, but you have to love yourself.
Thank You. I learned late also. But I learned and I am so happy.
First off, you look absolutely gorgeous in this video! Thank you so much for sharing your own experience. I am in my 20s and I have been struggling with this, specifically feeling bad for walking away from draining relationships + realizing that I put certain empty friendships on a pedestal. I'm definitely in a season of trusting God to bring the right people in my life. This video was very helpful! Thank you for being honest.
Britt I needed this video. I'm way to loyal and been hurt with loved ones . You helped me open my eyes. I will stay on my positive path.
So glad you found it helpful!!!
This video is a prime example of how if we share our truths it ends up helping soooo many other people. Good for you Britt!
This directly spoke to me! This is my heart completely and you’re right we should never stop showing grace but it is good to be aware of those draining relationships. And when you showed your tattoo I almost cried that’s the exact I’ve been wanting to get to because I feel like I needed a visual way to remind myself to be still and trust God and let him guide me in my relationships. You’re doing an amazing job on your channel by the way! Keep going love I enjoy your videos.
You are a wise and well- spoken young woman Brittany. So many people need to hear that. Keep on this journey..and thank you for sharing. I makes a difference. It really does. We hear you out here. Take care.
Thank you for this! ❤️❤️❤️ there’s no greater feeling than the love of God. Even if your world is LITERALLY crumbling, he surrounds you warms you and comforts you! I’m so grateful for my relationship with him ❤️
To already say you don't regret your marriage is HUGE! Look what God has done. That's pretty incredible grace and supernatural peace. Thank you for sharing. xoxo And the haircut is PERFECT on you!
I'm loyal too to a fault, but there does come a time when it becomes ridiculous to continue to give to a high level to a person who is not giving to the same level back to you. Yes it was Maya who said that and it's true. One mistake does not make you a certain way. Yes it's the repeated behavior that does. Oh Brit I became aware of this a few years ago. I stopped looking for people to do what only God can. They are not my everything and people will always fail you. So glad you also know this too. ❤️❤️
This video is just what I needed to hear! It’s SO encouraging to hear that I’m not alone in not turning to God enough. Brit thank you for sharing what God is opening your eyes to through your trials!!
Please upload more videos of your spiritual journey, they are so helpful.
Your an amazing and strong woman and in a society that is filled with non Christ like examples it’s so necessary to have sting Christian woman like you as a role model!
Thank you for the sweet encouragement 🤗❤️
Your channel is one of the very best on youtube. You take such a thoughtful and pleasant approach to your videos and the fact that you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable, open, and REAL about things is refreshing. I appreciate you Britt and pray that God will continue to bless you and lift you up! Your healing journey is beautiful and you are RIGHT to place God first in all things. I'm so with you on pulling back from those who drain.
Thank you soooo much for the amazing encouragement! I appreciate you 🤗❤️
SO MANY THUMBS UP FROM ME, BRITT!!! I’ve had the same epiphanies in my life as well! Facing the end of a marriage after 25 years, making many accommodations and sacrifices for someone who wasn’t what I thought they were. I allowed those sacrifices to get in the way of my relationship with the Lord. It is God’s grace through His Son that has given me inner peace and healing!!! THANK YOU for sharing this, Britt!! 🙌🏽❤️☝🏽
When God pulls back the veil it is ground breaking!!!
Amen to that!
Beautifully said Britt. I appreciate you sharing your self reflection on how even good intentions can be flawed. As young women we do tend to be loyal to a flaw and overlook so many red flags about people. It can be completely detrimental to us and we will still stick with it until God puts the brakes on it. Plus God said for us to guard our hearts because people who don’t know the value of it will trample all over it. Mistakes help to refine Gods diamonds(us). The gems of knowledge and wisdom you blessed us with in this video are worth so much more than you realize. Thank you
Britt, wisdom is what you have. Everything you said is sooooo True. Thanks for being a motivational speaker.👍💕
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 literally living it! Praise God! He's maturing us. God Bless you! ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼
Thanks for sharing your heart and opening up:)) Going through part of this myself while I am recovering from a major injury. Thanks for this, needed this reminder!
GIRL THE LORD HAS PUT THIS VIDEO IN MY LIFE AT THE RIGHT TIME WOW I’m just so thankful for your videos and your real, vulnerable way of talking about your faith. There is nobody like you on UA-cam and I just love you
Awwww thank you so much!!! I’m glad you found it helpful!!! 🤗❤️
WOW! Definitely realizing this WAS me - still growing and learning! Beautiful message and thanks for sharing! 💜
Reason...Season...Lifetime, I believe all things including relationships fall into one of these categories. The trick is figuring out what category is the right one, and letting go when that time is at an end. Great thought provoking Britt chat per usual.
This is my story. Rose colored glasses are now off!!
Yes !!!! I love that you’re growing as a person and you are continuing to help others grow as well !! Thank you !
Wow! I’ve recently realized this as well! I was honestly second guessing my decision to pull back from this “friendship” but hearing you just reminds me that I’m doing what’s best for me and my mental health and my spiritual health even.
I never posted on any of your videos but as a Christian who strayed away until recently, I have to say your an inspiration, I know no one is perfect but you are someone I look up to(:
Thank you for this vlog Britt..it has definitely helped me in many ways..and sure it has helped others as well. You are a light to many people that are in darkness. I want nothing but happiness and success for you and your family. Be Blessed. Have a wonderful weekend. Much Love to you Britt😘💕
Thank you sooooo much!
Thanks so much for this Britt! This spoke so much to me as I can relate 110%. I have always been that way and because of that have been taken advantage of many times. It's hard to get better instead of bitter but it all has definitely been a learning process.
Whoo! You were preaching directly to me! I had this epiphany just two days ago about myself. And now you reconfirmed it! Thank you!
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! Thank you Brittany! You're so amazing :)
This is such an important message. And so wonderful to hear you say you're happy. Thanks for keepin' it real.
So true! What don't kill you makes you stronger Britt. Great video!
Thisss!!! #Truth this has been my problem for the longest, i took my rose colored glasses off too and have spent the past year going through that change and trusting God comeplete instead of trying to do it on my own. Just drains you and you wont have enough for yourself, when God can fill and fill and fill you. I just had this conversation with my friend yesterday. I am so happy for you Brittany. I am so thankful for this channel and space you have created.
I love this! Very inspiring and just so raw. Haven't been active and watching your channel due to school but gosh I've missed you. You are so strong and beautiful!
Your heart is so beautiful and genuine. I pray that the Lord will continue to lift you up and empower you in the midst of it all!! God bless you Brittany🌷
In my heart and head you're my rational sister that gives me good advice and helps me think clearly,Love you💜
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Britt, I completely relate to this. I’ve done a lot of reflection as well, and I’ve realized that it’s not worth it to put in so much to people who don’t seem to value you and your relationship with them as much as you do. There have been situations where I have given people second chances and third chances. I did realize and reflect upon situations that happened in the last few years, and that it’s okay to let go, and to move on from those situations that cause complications and emotionally draining and frustrating. I’ve been so much happier and more positive rather than working so hard to make a friendship or relationship to work. If it’s not meant to work, it’s not meant to, and that’s okay.
I'm very impressed with how honest your heart is and really appreciate how you are allowing God to work in you! I completely agree with what you said about how things go wrong when you put people in place of God. So very true! Such a healthy reminder for all relationships. Keep it up girl! Your strength God is giving you is very admirable.
I’m loving the haircut! You look gorgeous! Your top is super cute! You should look up “Codependency” on Pinterest. Usually codependents (me) naturally end up being with Narcissistic people until we fully heal why we are that way. ❤️❤️
Aubrey Danielle I was thinking the same thing...what’s often thought of “loyalty” is most often codependency.
quietandmildone yeah exactly! It was a hard truth I had to admit to myself! It’s just Essentially learning to truly love ourselves. That we have worth and needs and should be treated as so. ❤️❤️❤️
Yep! I attracted one...it was a nightmare...but I totally understand the reason of how and why I attracted him. Been on this self healing journey for over a year now.
Thank you for your vulnerability. I struggle with this too. I always see the potential in people even when they are toxic and that has brought much pain and harm to my life but the past few years I've been learning to have boundaries. I read the book too and it was really good. I ready every version of it and really focused on applying it to my life. I still feel really bad when I put up boundaries with people (almost like I'm doing something wrong) but I'm able to do it and I see the result afterwards. We are all a work in progress.
Thanks for being so honest. I've been there and was at peace with myself when I came to the same epiphany
Omg!! You were preaching a word! Sounds just like me. Thanks for message. I needed that encouragement. Continue enjoying the journey!
I have been the same way all of my life. Thank you for being so open and honest!
Thank you so much, your talk put a great deal into perspective for me, and the mistakes that I have made in my marriage. Needless to say that I have now been divorced for 5 years now, and God is back in my life. So happier now, and looking forward to remarrying.
Loved this video!!! I can definitely be too loyal to all the wrong ones. I've been working on leaning on God more lately and it's helped me put things and people into perspective as well. Amen!
Story of my life girl!! I swear I'm a relationship dummy!! 😣 Presently single and not even looking but I'm ok with that cause I'm good with me and myself!!!😊😊😊😊😊 I too believe that God knows who deserves to be in your life so in the meantime, we should just work on ourselves and don't worry about it!!😊😊✌🙏
People can be good but you can't let them use you. Reality vs Fantasy are definitely two different things. The one constant in this world is "God". He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. I learned that people are in your life for a reason and a season. This was very insightful, Britt. Tfs
Thank you, I needed to hear this from SOMEONE!
I needed this... I also tend to hold people to standards they never agreed to meet & then get upset when they don’t meet them! I’ve lightened up lately, but this has always been an issue for me
Thanks Britt. You do not know how much you have helped me and others. Please continue to have these inspirational talks. Again, thank you.
Great message Britt. Knowing this truth will help you make even wiser decisions moving forward💜
Woooo! I got a word today Pastor Britt! Lol But seriously, I see what you’re saying about seeing the potential of people versus who they are. I have the same struggle.🙏🏾✨💕
Thank you for this vlog today. Wow it was so good listening to this.
We have to realize that some people are not on our level.
Yes ,God will rescue you from things that you don’t need to be in. I live by this. Again thank you for being authentic about things that has happened to you.
God bless.
Happy Days come when we start living our best lives ! Bless you!
Wow, I had this same realization about myself this year. It's tough facing that truth about yourself but it's a step forward in developing healthy relationships with people.
I agree with everything you have said. You have to be careful with where you really invest your time and energy. I believe that you can’t change a person a person can only change themselves. If someone makes a mistake, we can love them through it, but it is their responsibility to pick themselves up and do the work to change. If they don’t, then we ultimately have to part ways.
Girl.....you are speaking your truth and mine. We give alot expecting the same in return and get disappointed. This is real talk and i love it. This new journey you are on is going to be blessing for you. Love you britt!
This is just the message I needed to hear right now. I’ve been following you for years and feel like in a lot of ways though our lives are very different, we’ve come to the same realizations and grown in similar ways. Thank you Britt! 🙏🏻💙
This video has really spoken to me. I have been going through a lot lately but this video has really helped me. God allows us to go through certain things to teach us a lesson. You have a beautiful spirit. Keep being you and stay strong ❤️
Well said Britt! ❤ Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and a free gift. 😊 Experiences like these are true life lessons. Thank you for sharing. ❤
This is why I love Ur channel, Like me you love All people!! I focus on people’s good qualities and then talk about to that person it really helps others self esteem. 🌷
Girl me and my aunt was just saying this about you... I’m glad you realize it.. you’re growing so much! Love this
Thanks for this video I recently have been going through a divorce and it's been hard and your videos help keep me going.
I love that you touched on Maya Angelou’s quote. ❤️ You have such a healthy outlook! 💞
This is so awesome, I just had this talk with my daughter last night. I was saying when I put people in the place where the Lord should be or put them higher than I should that’s when I got hurt the most. I was like you Britt. Not realizing that I need to give some people a level of trust and some do deserve 2nd chances. That if I step out I can’t take my eyes off God or I’ll sink ya know. Any this was great. I sent it to my daughter.
Britt it is amazing how your inner beauty is growing and it is causing your outer beauty to be magnified.
I, too, am loyal and kind to those whom I consider my friends. Sometimes people take sweetness as a weakness, which is a big mistake in my book. God is so good. He loves His children and has a way of teaching us, leading and guiding us by allowing us to go through certain situations in life, aka "Life Lessons." In my own life, I have seen how God would allow me to go through an experience, but within the experience was a lesson to be learned that He was trying to teach me. Whenever the same kind of situations keep occurring in my life, I know that I am missing what God is trying to teach me, and I have to adjust myself accordingly. It is the same for all of us. We will keep being presented with the same test until we finally pass it.
God bless you.
Girl, Yasss! I have been through that for sure on both sides of the spectrum. I'm proud of you for learning because we all have to. After you learn that you will understand that you have better quality friendships and relationships. My second marriage is totally different from my first marriage because I understand that.
Keep shining and glowing hun!! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for being so raw and real!! Stay blessed and happy
I feel you, Brittany. I'm going through these realizations, too. I have to let go & let God more. I appreciate your heart-sharing. That's encouraging!
You go my girl. Keep a journal and you will have great message and insightful concept for a book which you will complete and publish.
Char Jhean
Omg Britt I am exactly the same. I am finally at a place where I see the value of being loyal but also how dangerous it can be when you're being loyal to someone who doesn't give a da*n that you're gifting them that. I also struggle with imagining that friendship are deeper then they are. I think, for me personally, I want so badly to be loved on a deeper level and I was ready to go deeper so I assumed they were too. It's been freeing, if not a little lonely to live more authentically and let people be who they are ❤❤
I'm like how you are Britt. I would look for things in people that weren't really there or there for me. AND i'm soooooo NICE!! Last year I've learned that lesson. It broke me, but I leaned on God and now I know what I want and I'm happy!!
Yup!! I took my cousin out of my life. Toxic and jealousy smh
Thank you for sharing! This opened my eyes in a lot of ways to my own relationships.
Wow.....me and you are twins. This could have been me talking about myself.💕 you are a beautiful woman, inside and out.
I support you Brit! I know things were really tough and still may be but it's so good you're doing self-analysis and growing from it all. I once was so love in a relationship with a guy 4 yrs younger than me. I made more money than him so I bought a lot of things for him and always looked at him through rose-colored glasses. He abruptly ended things a d I vowed after that to see guys for who they are, not who I want them to be. When I started dating again, I guarded my heart more and really got to know guys for who they were and it helped so much. Now I'm in a loving, committed relationship and I think you'll find a great guy too. Sometimes the one that we think is right for us isn't but instead prepares us for the right person.
Thank you so much for this word, Just what i needed to hear. May God continue to bless you.
Love you, Brit! I grew up with a single mom, but she made sure to surround me with people who CHOSE to love and value me. I never even knew there was a "void", and it taught me self-worth. Granted, I never knew my father so that probably helped. Either way- keep loving your babies and surrounding yourself and them with people who truly want to be there. Show them what quality relationships look like. I will specifically pray for Kai to have strong male role models in every stage of his life. Praying for you and your babies. If you've got God, you've got more than you need.
Someone I considered my sister is no longer in my life. I realized we were never really what I assumed we were and when I looked back on the previous years, I can clearly see that. It was a very one sided friendship. We had so much in common, but in reality, we really didn’t. True friendship meant something completely different to each of us. Such a great video!
Britt, you're such an inspiration! You are the definition of grace, seriously.
That’s so kind. Thank you!
Whhhhhah? Well thank you
This video spoke to me on so many levels!! God Bless you always, Brittany!!
So glad you found it helpful! Thanks so much!
Thank you for this chat. I really needed to hear this.
This was me in my last relationship. I’m so thankful that God let me learn this same lesson ❤️ I LOVE your Britt chats! Blessings ✊🏽
YES ! Truly great relationship advice. Whether it's marriage or friendship we need to watch for patterns of negative behavior. I've learned to set more boundaries in relationships , instead of assuming that my definition for a relationship is the same as theirs.
you got it, chica. that is a good realization about relationships with people vs. relationship with God and one we all have to learn really. God bless you and your family! :-) you're going to be great! so happy to hear where you're at :-)
Story of my life! Thanks a lot Britt for this message.
Thanks for sharing! Your epiphany describes what has caused some of my deepest heartaches. Trusting God is definitely what some of us know is the only way, but we struggle in the act of applying that in our lives. God bless you 💕
Definitely me. I always see the good in people. I was in a 6yr relationship and it was so draining for me and I was in denial about it. I gave him 100% but barely got 50% in return. Now I'm just trying to chill out and love me again. Thanks for being so real. ❤
I am so glad that you are in a good place. There is NOTHING better than being in a good place in your head, in your space.
I agree ...sometimes you have to pull back from ...all the way back from those people who do not place value in you. Sometimes when you are too available and too loyal , people will walk on you.
So true Brittany. So many of us want to see people a certain way instead of actually seeing them and accepting them for who they are.
Girl, well said! I can relate; but mine is with family (they can hurt the worst to cut off💔). Love ya and have an AWESOME and blessed weekend with those little cuties🍊.
I will stick with you Britt!!
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I think the mistake we make is confusing being nice with being civil. Being civil is wishing the person the best and letting your expectations about them go. Part of that is recognizing you deserve someone or friends who are going to value you flaws and all. But don't fault yourself for being a loving caring forthcoming person. Love is a beautiful thing. We expect to receive the love we give. So give your love to people who are deserving.
It’s so scary that every word you say describes me and the sad part that I always end up hurt but hey everything happens for a reason 🙏🏽
Love you ♥️
Britt you are not a mess...you are just the way The Lord made you! You are LOVED!!
Thank you for sharing. This is how I have felt for a long time in relationships. I need to take my rose colored glasses.
Yes, this is me right now. And yes it took me a long time to finally release the toxicity of my life but once I did I felt so much relief. It's hard to let go sometimes.
This was really good, my daughter needs this confirmation. Thank You!