Letting a Dream Die
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2017
- Thank you to all who have supported me and continued to reach out to me over the past months. Though I wasn't active online I often read your messages and comments and they truly helped me during some really dark days. I am excited to be back and plan to upload regularly. I can't wait to create here again!
having a husband that respects you and shows you the love that you deserve isn’t an unrealistic dream.
kaseyshen THIS! She's letting a dream of having respect from her spouse die? She's an idiot
I'm not surprised. This is what her church, and our broader society, teaches women. Do you think ANY fucking man would stand for what Shay did if it was in reverse?! Fucking never.
And she has it. Shay has been an awesome husband. The part where she was unrealistic was where she assumed nothing should ever go wrong and he's a prince charming and it would be this perfect flawless love story. Then life hit her and Shay's struggle with alcohilism comes and makes that unrealistic dream die. That's a good thing for her. She is maturing.
@frosty Shay has been an awesome husband?? He sexted with a porn star. I don't call that awesome.
he admitted to it lul
Why would anyone cheat on her she is beautiful and kind
He didn't cheat...
iEnvyHD ikr
@@TheSoloAsylum Sending nudes and talking dirty to someone who isn't your significant other is cheating. What are you talking about?
@@TheSoloAsylum Nope; he just TRIED to which makes it not only wrong but PATHETIC. But you keep defending that goofy brute if it makes you happy!
Shane was going through something, Something else was happening. And I know you all want to but in but I think Collette is strong enough to fight for it herself
who else watched the shaytards when they were younger and were obsessed w them and when she said hi and u heard it for the first time in a couple years almost cried
SMWD 123 DUDE THIS WAS LITERALLY ME
For sure
SMWD 123 yeah dawg i grew up watching them and they made me believe in real love n shit n like watching them crumble really like shows me how shit everyone is
ME TOOOOO
Me I loved them
She gets better looking as years go on wtf
She had a lot of stress that works down a person but I still think she is a beautiful person in and out.
She is smoking
She's wearing heaps of makeup nigga
@@dommywommy4837 ikr lmao
@@dommywommy4837 pretty much
I will never see Shay Carl the same anymore .. Colette is such a beautiful soul and you don't deserve her...
Hello Colette. My name is Sophia and I am fourteen years old. Recently my parents had split up. My father, who I love dearly, unfortunately was not the best husband towards my mother. He was manipulative and a cheater. Even though he did all these things, I still find ways to find the good and I struggle with how I could not resent him. However, though I still tend to find love towards him, I look at my mom and see strength. My mother left him. No matter how hard she wanted things to work out, no matter how much therapy sessions and books she read about fixing her marriage, it just couldn't happen. She stayed with my father for years, for her children, till eventually she realized something. She realized that she loved her kids more than anything, and that staying with a man who disrespected her wasn't setting a good example. She wanted to be strong for us, and show us what an unhealthy relationship was, and how to leave it. She wanted to show me, she could make it on her own. So thats what she did. I am so thankful for my mom and what she did. It hurts me to see you like this, because my family has been through it. I hope you can realize what example you are setting for your children and change for them. Show them that you're strong too, and through this video I can see that you are. Best of luck.
My dad is kinda like that too. They got divorced about 4 months ago and I just turned 13
That is a great amount of insight you've got there, I'm glad you shared it and I hope Colette reads it! We will never know 100% how things are in her life but hearing her talk about letting her dream of a perfect marriage die was pretty sad. Not that most marriages are perfect but she deserves someone who is faithful to her.
Sophia Forte there is so much I can relate to you hang in there boo❤️❤️
who is here, rewatching this in 2020 because everything has gone to shit and Colette is literally the queen of keeping it together and turning shit into confetti... I miss her :(
She has the most beautiful soul
She's a strong women
I respect Collette SO much! She's truly amazing ❤️
I have wondered at random wagers this family went..... this is my first time watching a vlog about their family I just watched the skip school snow day with the dad and two boys around Christmas time.... I could never imagine this kind of life being out there for everyone to pick on and the world coming at them and then the world getting into their family. I have plenty to catch up on.
Greta Goodworth shay posted a new vid recently
It’s crazy how perfect she is, literally the wife everyone wants lol
literally
@@TeoZMuff313 and ur just being a bitch
Robitussin Ethanol literally no depth I think that’s why she’s staying tho, she thinks she wouldn’t be anything without him 😂
Robitussin Ethanol how do you know she’s dumb? From what I’ve seen she seems like a wise soul, being “ditsy” doesn’t make you dumb, and personally I think that being ditsy is endearing, however if it’s not your thing, then don’t comment on it just to be nasty.
I definitely want to be like her
I've accepted that my husband was a liar and a cheater and backed a few bags for the kids and I and LEFT!!! It was the hardest and best decision I ever made.
I just feel bad for the kids
Kurt31 same
Kurt31 Me Too.
Same
Kurt31 sooo you don’t feel bad for her... her kids aren’t the only ones sad
Queen Mia_ T yes but she is an adult and is able to cope with this. the kids are still growing, and their home environment that is supposed to protect them got ripped apart. it’s infinitely more damaging to them
I swear I haven’t seen her since I was 13 (22 now) and she STILL LOOKS THE SAME!! Honey you look amazing!!!
Christian Maynard almost the same lol I think the last time I watched was when I was 13 or 14 now I’m 19 almost 20
You won’t look vastly different in 9 years either, at 31
It just seemed like a long time because it’s half your life
Chiyori Nakanishi I know but almost 10 years, this girl has no wrinkles. A lot of things can happen, aging wise, in 10 years. Let the girl have the compliment
Me too
@@christianaube3810 *You sound like a stupid kid. People in their early 30s SHOULDN'T have wrinkles. That's meth head shit.*
I just feel for their children... Like Shay put all of them out there to the world through their whole lives. Now they have to hear about it constantly at school, from friends, bully, online etc...
Never support family vloggers!
His fault. I wouldnt never talk to my dada if he did that
I hope they’d come out & talk once they got older but I’m starting to doubt it.
Having a husband who's faithful to you isn't a unrealistic dream , it should be an expectation , if you're letting go of that expectation you're just giving him another chance to do this again
Zunara96 Seeing as how she just accepted his infidelity he will do it again because he wasn't punished for it
Agreed
Zunara96 Very well said. You shouldn’t change your dreams or lower your standards or decide crappy treatment is ok just to please your partner/anyone else.
I don't think that's what she means by letting her dream go. Everyone has the dream of a perfect life, including her. When life doesn't go perfectly, you don't give up.
That being said, I don't know why any spouse would ever cheat on the person they committed themselves to in marriage that they love. How can anyone be so cruel? If you want to be with someone else, get a divorce, and end it. Don't sneak around behind someones back - it will tear people apart when they find out.
Here's my take. I've been in a relationship with a man who cheated. I was early 20s, I forgave him and stayed in a relationship with him. It. Was. Torture. I was constantly paranoid that he was cheating all the time. It took time away from things that I wanted to do, because I was afraid to leave him alone. I didn't feel free until I finally put my foot down and LEFT. GUESS WHAT? he got another girlfriend, AND HE CHEATED ON HER TOO. SURPRISE! I know that Shay was exposed, I saw what he said, and I wonder...how many times did he do this before, before he was exposed? Caught? If she chooses to stay with him, she has to let go of ALL PREVIOUS EXPLOITS. I couldn't. I had to leave. I pray for her to have clarity.
Can we all just take a minute to appreciate how amazing Colette is and how much she has been missed these past 7 months ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Sometimes I come back to this video to remind myself what resiliency looks like.
“if my dream came true, i wouldn’t be who i am today” wow. so powerful. i love her.
she deserves for it to have come true.
When she said she was reading a book about co-dependency, and letting go of that bad habit, I was so relieved. I was always concerned about the dynamic of their relationship, and it's such a weight off to know that she's trying to exist as her own person, without the influence of her marriage so much. She always came across as Colette, the mum; Colette, the wife; Colette, the daughter. In this video, I saw Colette, the person. I hope this journey she's on keeps giving her strength and independence and motivation and self-love. So proud of you, Colette. Keep being brave, 'cause you seem to be really good at it
Sian Hancock I hope your comment gets more likes because she needs to see this. I too felt glad she picked up a book like that - she is working on herself for sure
The best comment here!
Hey, great comment! I'm seeing too much hate in this comment section and seeing yours was a relief. I agree.
Collette is the victim. Don't bash her. It's her choice to stay and work on her marriage. Don't have to agree with her decison, but don't be so rude. She's clearly hurting. Shay was selfish. Just remember everything you see on the internet is most likely not as happy and perfect as it seems.
so well said, thank you Kittycatmeow
Kittycatmeow Iiqaqq
It's her choice even though it's the opposite of a good one I hope he cheats again until she realizes she deserves better smh
Kittycatmeow Big difference, she's continuing to be a victim.
Lauren Peralta she giving him another chance probably, but I'm sure that if there's a next time she will leave and know it's ok to leave xxx
Just the title "Letting a dream die" is so tragic.
Alexis Weathersby when reality hits
Shay had everything at one point loving family,loving wife,loving kids and getting to do an amazing job but then throwing it all away in one act
except she stayed which is sad for her.
@@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo They are doing great
You can see the pain she feels in her eyes
You are an angel. God bless you. ❤
GamingMermaid
Omg I love your channel!!!😭😁❤️
I love you videos so much and she is a 😇 😇 😇 😇 😇
McDnish Really on this video!
GamingMermaid love you
I love that both my fav UA-camrs are friends!!😘
Shay ruined everything
What did he do?
Mimi Simon idk if you already figured it out but he cheating on his wife and yyeeaahhhh there’s a bunch of videos ab it/:
@@christalordonez2470 really? Did they get a divorce?
@@ByMariaSimon they're back together now :)
jaylen gordon I wouldn’t say that’s good..their morman so I’m pretty sure it’s only for religious purposes
I still occasionally come on here to listen to this once or twice and I just sob.. thank you for posting this. Thank you 100x
man has it truly helped me
Can't believe I watched you guys since 2008
JoshPalerLin your content is fucking shit
Wing true...
JoshPalerLin I can't believe you slept through all that shit
JoshPalerLin me to 😭😭😭
JoshPalerLin i havent watched then since 2015 and now I can't belive there back
I have no comment towards Shay, my feelings for him now aren’t what they use to be. But I can see the hurt in her eyes. This woman and her kids deserve 100% happiness. She’s the most selfless mom I’ve seen on youtube, constantly putting EVERYONE first. She needs to be first for once.
That's what she's doing now. Putting herself first. It's awesome.
Are you still doing the shaytards channel
Agree 100%. ❤️
Agree 100%. ❤️
I’m crying so much, I miss my childhood and this makes me so sad. Yes I’m watching this during quarantine.
same im literally reviewing all my childhood memories and i just want to go back
literally years ago somehow she became a second mom to me in a way because of how wonderful she genuinely is and that’s what i wanted in a mom .. that has not changed
Awww, big hugs!! 💛 Love you girl! 💛 Welcome back!
KittiesMama omg I love you guys! ❤
Ommgg I love u smm
K
Hi kittiemama
"I would not be who I am today if my dream came true" I can 100% relate!
You made my day by uploading thank you so much I have happy tiers
she's so badass
Having a husband that doesnt cheat on you isnt an inrealistic dream
He didn’t really even cheat for one... and second addiction is real and marriage is meant to be for better and for worse highs and lows...
@@aiden395 yes he definitly did cheat have you seen the dms
@@oliviagrace1930 yep I did, it is porn, and he was talking to a pornstar, while he was drunk. I wouldn’t necessarily call that cheating. He is an alcoholic and he is better now and they are United agian
@@aiden395 lol ew. I feel bad for whoever marries you.
@@Thehannahweknow I don’t cause the person I am going to marry is gonna be equally yoked and In the same mindset lol.... keep being an insecure pussy though
I'm crying. I missed Colette so much.
Selina Ram Me too! I even kissed the phone screen!!
It's so crazy you love someone so much who doesn't even know you!
I lovw them all...
They were my family for years.. They helped me get through the day..
Selina Ram me too ❤️
Sameeeeeeeeee Love youColette just seeing you has helped me a lot xxx
Selina Ram I am crying too!! 😭😍
we will support you guys no matter what 😭😭💜
Haven’t even watched yet but I have to say WELCOME BACK!! Missed you so so much!!! Okay...off to watch now. 💕💕💕💕 - Candi Okay, I watched and now have to comment---> Amazing comeback. You know you are a strong woman and have so many people that admire you and feel like you're one of their friends (like me!) even though we've never met. The struggles you have gone through the past year just make you that much more relatable to people. We all have struggles and have gone through hard times and it's how we react to them that matters most. You've picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and are ready to be vulnerable to the world again. It's harsh here in UA-cam land, you know that. But you will always have your true supporters who love you and have missed you so much!! Can't wait for The Mom's View next week!
If you look at her twitter, she actually hates her subs.
Our Family Nest ❤️❤️
I totally agree our family nest
Our Family Nest Ikr btw I have been watching ur guys" channel since 50k subs and LOVE YOU KARLI ANDREW CHASE, BLAKE AND KEN LOVE YALL!!!!!!
Rama Naem sme love all of them
She's such a whole person. Like she's so smart, not many people can be self reflective and be able to bring themselves to self heal in a healthy way that works for them. She's such a warm and solid person, She deserves so much better.
xsenii tk wholesome*
@@NicosW0rld No...pretty sure they meant "whole". As in she's a complete person. She knows who she is. She is whole on her own.
These “dreams” are brought on by society. Relationships are hard and never perfect. Do what works for YOU. These hard times make you who you are.
This video meant so much to me. So much of what you said resonates with my heart as well. I know how hard it must be to put yourself back out there, but by doing it, you're helping others heal right along with you guys. Take care Colette.
So true and my heart gose out to all hurt by these types of situatons❤
I hope you're doing okay josh and hope that you have found happiness within yourself, there's someone that will always care, whether its one or hundreds x
Josh! It made me so happy to see you comment on this video! I hope you're doing well.
Josh
Daniela she didnt cheat
Her dream didn't just die. Her dream was murdered, as harsh as that sounds. She has to accept her dream was murdered because her husband made mistakes? I don't know how you really forgive someone for doing that to you. I don't know how realistic that level of forgiveness is.
FireFliesNeverDie maybe not forgive but like she said accept..aspecialy sinds it was so public ...you know if you find out yoir husband cheats on you it hurts so much but to read what he saying an doing to the other girl must have been devastating..i still can't understand what happened..yet I think it's very strongthat she staying with him
She is so amazing like she has been through so much and yet forgives but never forgets so thank you for being this inspirational figure for us to look up at
“You are not any less if you’re dream does not come true” Thank you
You could see the pain in her eyes
Anyone else just love Colette's laugh and realizing how much you've missed that and the familiarity of it?
midge0214 yes that's Collette :) 💟
yes omg during this video I thought like: woah it feels so comforting to see her again and I didn't realise how much I needed to see her laugh
yea... when i heard her laugh i just started crying because of how much i knew it... and it being gone for so long... and hearing it again.
midge0214 nyes
midge0214 Yesss. I've been watching this family for so long and I grew so accustomed to the daily uploads and seeing their beautiful faces.. especially Colette's. She has that kind of personality that can just brighten anyone's day, no matter how bad it is. It made my heart so happy to finally see her face again 💜
She is such an innocent beautiful wife and mother and doesn't deserve any of this. I truly feel bad for every single person in their family and sending my prayers towards them and their family.
None of Shay’s victims deserve this ua-cam.com/video/GtwkZdTlwUY/v-deo.html
Her inner beauty radiates. What a messy situation.
You can see how much she has hurt and struggled in the past few months. Even the makeup can not hide the way the under part of her eyes are. Not really bags it's something else and I've had them before. When she truly heals from her pain that sunken in look will go away. She is still beautiful
Racheal Lewis I totally agree!! It looks like she’s suddenly gotten so much older.. Stress and pain will do that to you sometimes
I was thinking the same thing. She still looks absolutely beautiful, but you can see the pain.
What I got from this 💔
1. She is still healing
2. Maybe Shay is working on getting better
3. Long road ahead for all of them
The 7 Henry's haven’t watched shaytard shit in years, what went down?
that is amazing
Long story short, shay cheated on his wife and she's apparently just "accepting" it... I feel so bad for her and their kids. I hope she doesn't blame herself because it kind of sounds like she thinks it's partially her fault :(
She still had her wedding band on so i would assume they are working things out.
I still don't quite understand what's going on with the shaytards xx I mean I used to watch them everyday but then they stopped xx what happened?!
Oh my goodness, bless you for this. I can’t even imagine how hard all of this has been for you. But I find it so inspiring that you have allowed yourself to grow and become more, and your faith to strengthen. You glow.
And that quote struck me too. This past year, I’ve had to face some of my deepest fears and go through things where I could not see a way out; the light at the end of the tunnel was nonexistent. And just barely I’m finally seeing that light in the distance, and trying not to wear myself out by running towards it as fast as I possibly can. The dark times have been hell on earth. But oh, how I appreciate the sunlight now. I hope that even with some of my dreams dying, I too can find new growth.
I’m going through a breakup and this made me cry I need to let my dream die. Thank you Colette you’re so strong
Watching this is so... different. Watching this, I find myself thinking that this is not the Colette I remember. The Colette I am seeing now is stronger, wiser, and confident in her words. I can’t wait to hear how the kids are, and learn from you and your life experience throughout these videos. I am so glad you are back. Continue to be true to yourself. You are such a bright light. ❤️
Katie Allen I thought the same thing! There's something different about her but in a good wau
Katie Allen - I totally agree with you. I was afraid she would be a lot more insecure but seeing how extremely strong she is makes me so happy 😁
strong....but she stays with a cheater ?
Katie Allen so true
I never comment on videos, but this really affected me. I've been following this family since I was 16 (I'm now 24) and Collette's strength and courage really touched and inspired me. You can tell that she is still hurting but it takes a lot of guts to stand up to your issues and not let them define you. I feel like I would have handled her situation in a very different manner which only inspires me more! I cannot condone Shay's actions and to be honest, I'm not sure I can be as accepting as some and welcome him back into my life (as weird as that sounds, I feel like I grew up with him) but I am so happy to have Collette back as a positive role model - she's the best XXX
I love you, Colette. 4 years ago I was 19 and I named my first daughter Avia, because your family love was so beautiful to me. But no one and nothing is perfect. I can still find strength and inspiration through your very real, very human journey. Thank you for sharing even through these hard bits. It makes me feel like if even you have to go through such things snd can pull through, we can too. Keep shining bright. A part of me is scared Shay felt like he could get away with it cuz you wouldn't leave him over it. But it's not fair for me to judge, and always I will be praying for you and your family, and all your loves, even the dumb-butt.. I believe in you Colette. Stay strong. Also the whole ordeal turned you into a hippie it kind of gave me a chuckle but I'm glad if it helps bring you understanding and calm.
You see the pain in her eyes❤
Accepting and forgiving are powerful tools. But remember to not use acceptance as a mask for what you actually want or value. It's okay to accept, forgive and move on or let go.
Hanna very well said .
Hanna exactly my thoughts...she could totally forgive and move on..and I don't see her doing it..she is very dependant on Shay and stability with 5 kids is a major factor. 😕😕 prayers for her and her beautiful kids.
Turquoise Cheetah Never heard or read about that limit... as far as I can see that limit is up to the individual.
Does anyone else keep checking back on her channel for more updates? 😅
Shay Alison Yup...…………….……
Nope. Lol
Yup.....I miss the shaytards they are a strong and kind family no one will never stop that power
More power to them for working through it! It’s her decision
yes
shes broken...:(
she’s a human not a robot
Molly Given she strong though
She didn't deserve this
Sbeve
Sbren
I still continue to come back to this video so many times over the years. I think for the same reason Collette says, that we're all going through the same and this video resonates so much i've probably watched it a hundred times. This video is so powerful as she speaks with such strength and grace she is amazing.
Marriage is fucking hard, and I 100% support her decision to save her marriage. Just because this happened and she chose to stay with him DOES NOT make her weak. So many people can say "wow she really deserves better" and "you can do so much better, you don't need him" and as much as she might want to listen to those people if DEEP IN HER SOUL shay and their marriage is her happiness, if she leaves she might not even be truly full filled and that does not in any way make her weak. Addiction is hard, and they/she has recognized the mistakes, and it is so unfair of the world to judge her for staying. 99% of people have nothing to say but "you deserve better" and she knows it. She knows she deserves better because she's a fucking catch if I've ever seen one, but shay can do that. He can be the better and it doesn't make her weak minded for thinking that. Good luck to you and your marriage. I respect it so so so much.
People these days quit the first time a marriage goes sour, and it's just disappointing. There's a line between recognizing when it's a failed marriage and recognizing when it needs help and a S/O has a problem that requires both parties attention
Yes I LOVE this! Really portrayed just what I was thinking!
It's so sad how people are so accepting of wanting to run at the first sign of trouble. That really shouldn't be how we work through and maintain relationship today!
I 100% agree with you. Those who run away at the first sign of trouble can be seriously missing out on the beautiful kind of marriage that *overcoming* can create. It's our struggles in life that shape us, and marriage works the same way if it's allowed to. Every situation and person is different, but if you're an overcomer at heart, then by all means stand up and fight 😊
marriage should be easy
Hey, I wonder what shay did?
Dear Young Women,
Life is messy but it doesn't mean that you have to accept it.
Know your worth.
Know what you deserve.
If your partner continuously disrespects you. Leave.
IF you have children, set an example. Let them know that they should keep company with people who treat them with respect.
Do not accept mess.
Please.
Amen.
AMEN!!!
A little louder please!!
One more time for the people in the back!
AMEN
my parents got divorced when i was 8. i feel the pain you were going through. my dad also cheated on my mom. they tried, but my dad was too stubborn to work it out. all i gotta say is men ain’t shit and you’re so worth it, colette. lots of love from a long time fan! ❤️❤️❤️
Bro she looks younger and younger every year tho😂
Oh, Colette 😞 I've been in your shoes. I had a cheating husband, I was trying to work it out so badly. As unhappy as I was I tried and tried. I read the self help books. I read the forums.
But at the end of the day... or the months it took me to come to the conclusion, I decided my dream wasn't dead, it was just dead with him. I am so much happier now. And I have someone now who is my dream. I've been codependent, I've been terrified, I didn't even have my own car, and I walked away. I pray in my heart that staying with him will turn out okay for you. But I also pray that if you choose staying is not your destiny that you find so much happiness. I know you would.
Veronica many people are different actually some do work out, but majority it is best to leave when it just seems more draining and unhappiness. Glad you're happy now :)
J San Oh yes I know! And I hope it didn't seem as though I was bashing those who do choose to reconcile!
well said
It's okay to accept the reality you live in, but never to give up on a dream. The person you've become has helped you grow Colette. That should only encourage you to pursue bigger and greater things that includes your relationship.
I lost my mom 2 weeks ago and you are one of the humans that can make me smile a little 😍 thank you for that
Sorry for your loss ❤️ I hope things get easier for you!
I’m so sorry for your loss❤️ sending love ❤️❤️
She so pretty! Still praying for your relationship! I've been watching you since 2011 ily so so much.
The amount of personal growth Collette has experienced over the last seven months is substantial. Although she didn't leave Shay it's evident that she is an independent woman who is in no way dependant on Shay. She is redefining herself, the Collette we knew in the Shaytards vlogs never displayed this level of strength or resilience.
She is still with Shay because she didn't let this break her or the relationship she wants. She isn't overlooking his indiscretion, she is processing it and picking herself up again to work toward her goals. If one of her goals is to achieve a healthy marriage with Shay then all the power to her. She isn't naive or forgiving a cheater, she is working through her relationship problems and shamelessly acknowledging them to the public. That takes guts. Kudos to Collette.
Generic Name This comment sums it all up. Yes!!
Generic Name very well said
Generic Name well said
Generic Name This! Exactly this! You said it perfectly.
Generic Name Amen. More people need to have your thinking! :)
can anyone else just appreciate her hair???
Simply Celina yessss! I need to know what she does!
FOR REAL
Coming back to this.. and I got to say, you are the strongest woman I’ve ever listened to. Your family is so strong. Sometimes rock bottom is the best place to build a new foundation. Thank you for keeping this video up, you and your family have come so far and it’s beautiful and real.
I hope his other victims can recover from this as well #IStandWithDanna ua-cam.com/video/GtwkZdTlwUY/v-deo.html
I just wanna say that I came back here again to tell you that you've been strong. You're a beautiful soul.
Colette. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t thought of you. My heart continues to go out to you. Your strength is inspiring. It is so good to see you. ❤️
You've always been far superior to your husband in every way. You're too good for him, but I respect your choice whatever you do. Just remember you could easily meet another man - you're beautiful, a great mother and truly kind. Been watching since 2008 so I feel like I know you. All the best ❤️
I watched this video the day it came out, not knowing that exactly 5 months later I’d go through it too and my dream would die. I’m watching this video again for the first time since then today and it is so true that that is how it feels, that’s what it is. Yes, it’s the pain of the betrayal and the lies and embarrassment and selfishness. But it’s also the personal pain or the life as you know it being destroyed and no way it can come back and being broken and no way to be the same you again and having to learn to grieve all that, then accept that and rebuild yourself. Looking back on this video now that I am healed I can say this is truly helpful to watch if you’re going through it. I’m so proud of her for making this video and I’m sure she’s helped so many, a truly amazing woman (who by the way, inspired by dream that I had to let day... yes my dream was to be like her little 12 year old me) who I only wish the absolute best. Great video.
She was and still is like a second mom to me, she’s just amazing and i love her to pieces. So strong so inspiring and full of so much love and joy.
Why do the best people go though the worst things?
jesskateboyd because god only picks the good flowers
Growth/process= happiness. People go through tough trials because they are capable of overcoming it and to get stronger. Trials are meant for an individual. It's like what Les Brown said when people complain about their problems and say why me? "Why not you? Have any suggestions for somebody else?"
"god only picks the good flowers" don't you say that when someone dies and goes to heaven?
jesskateboyd there are MUCH MUCH worse things than what she's going through. TRUST me.
frosty yep there sure is. That still doesn't mean what she's going through isn't terrible.
Okay, I know Katilette is already mature but the vibe in this video is a whole new different mature and I LOVE IT. Welcome back Katilette ❤
Mhysa to me shes putting on a brave face. This is numb not caring anymore giving in and giving up. I've been there I know how this feels.
Mhysa you know her name is Colette right?
Lily Hare yea I do. But Katilette is a combination of her first and middle name right? And she uses it in this channel so I don't think it really matters :)
Underwoodish I get it and I understand how you feel. I think no one should be numb of what they're supposed to feel. I think just what makes it different for her in this vid is that she ACKNOWLEDGE the pain. She's not trying to hide it. I was quite surprised she mentioned it in public anyway. I feel that if she's trying to numb her feelings, she's gonna pretend it did not happen. She's gonna say "oh let's forget about it" But she know it did happen and they're working on it as a FAMILY. Sorry for the long post. All love 💕
Mhysa
i love her so much. she’s genuinely been such an influential person in my life. i have been watching the shaytards since i was very young. i didn’t have the best upbringing, and i will just always be grateful for her presence in my life. thank you for being honest and teaching us to accept what is. thank you.
I’ve always wanted her as my mom. 🥺❤️
But u should still love ur mom
Beginning of every single more serious video: **pause** **sigh**
KanadonMuhedad lol true
KanadonMuhedad yes! Even though I love Colette! It drives me nuts when every UA-camr does it! Just get to the point!
On a less serious note, you look stunning.
Dude I’m literally sobbing, you guys were my whole childhood and now he cheated...I’m sorry for what happened I love you guys 💞
I just randomly got reminded of these people from like 10 years ago and decided to see if they're still doing vlogs. This is about exactly what I expected.
Colette, despite what you say, we still see the true sadness in your eyes.
That being said, I hope you eventually find ultimate happiness and peace.
You mean so much to us! Welcome back! Don't doubt yourself, ever! 💕
VirtualSunshine amen
This is the second time I've watched this video. I get it. My dream was basically the same. To meet my prince charming, to have lots of kids, to be that family who laughs together and shares their hearts. It didn't turn out that way. We've had children with disabilities and mental illness. The dynamics of our family life is forever changed and shifted. I never thought that I was strong enough to deal with the things that I've dealt with. But at the end of the day I have become a different person. Someone who I can say I'm proud to know.. Thanks for sharing Colette.
Susan- I can't believe how similar our dreams and our real lives are! I had the same exact dream as you- and instead of a million kids lol- I was very very blessed to be given three living children- one who was born with no immune system and basically we jokingly call him bubble boy- and his life so far of 17 years has been filled with illness and diseases that have almost killed him multiple times. My next child my beautiful daughter who is now 16, was born with autism and at age 8 we finally found why she would randomly throw up- she had massive kidney stones blocking her little kidneys and she couldn't tell us that her tummy hurt! That started a life full of pain surgeries hospital admissions frequently and passing kidney stones every single day- with no cure. Around age 12 ..she blossomed as far as the autism- goes and most people would never know she has it. She is incredible, full of grace and faith, never complains about pain or her situation and is generally an incredible example to our family. Then theirs my youngest daughter- she used to be a littlr fireball- of joyful fun energy- but a couple of years ago she was in a minor car accident that caused severe PTSD and a massive anxiety disorder. Life is pretty wild- definitely not what i dreamed of! But im so thankful that its my life ands right now the reason I came Back ti this video- was because i'm in the midst of trying to change many things about myself so that I can be proud of who I am. Your comment gives me so much hope that you have had the same hopes and dreams and you've been given the same type of difficult exhausting sometimes scary life that I've been given- but we are blessed and you have become a woman that you are proud of and I have hope that i can become that too. ❤
@@jaelleericaAutism isnt a disease, and it is something you WANT to be able to "show", since it can be so invisible. I have autism and I hate when people think I'm "cured" one day when I'm communicating better or not stimming as much ect.
That is not healthy for me or anyone to try to hide it.
But as far as the other struggles in your comment goes, I can definitely understand that all that must have been very scary and hard to go through,
you sound like a strong mommy and you can be proud of yourself❤
A true example of power and strength. Thank you for sharing your heart with us Colette!
You are such a wonderful woman, a fighter, a lover, a seeker! I admire you! Many people would walk out of situations like yours but is this the solution? Thank you for coming back, tears stream down my face, I have so many warm feeling toward your whole family! I love you
Turquoise Cheetah You don't know her, you can't say that she isn't happy. Breaking up a family isn't "the sane thing to do". Please don't speak to what someone should or shouldn't do in their own life and relationships. Everyone is different, every situation is different.
You think if Colette left would be breaking up the family? I don't think you realize what Shay did. Shay broke up the family. Yes, maybe she is happy and maybe she isn't, we'll never know. But don't make a woman feel bad if she wanted to leave her husband because of the shitty decisions he made and then call it "breaking up the family". He fucked it up. That family will NEVER be the same ever again and that's all his fault.
Magi San she's incredible :')
Know your worth honey because you deserve better you stuck by that man when he had nothing and he still hurt you.
I feel so so bad for her. She’s such a good person and she deserves so much better
I cried the whole time. This is such a strong, positive & honest beautiful soul. Just adore her.💖
Please don’t think you have to stay in your marriage for your kids. Pretending that everything is fine will destroy them more than you realize.
Kathryn Franklin I know it destroyed my brother and I. I wished my parents were honest
preach
tbh I agree with this
I wish my parents had stayed together! If the couple both are in it for the kids and are unselfish for the SAKE OF THE kids, then it could work. Divorce is extremely selfish.
Nope. Divorce is selfish, period. My parents' divorce was the single most influential event in my life. It was not a positive.
Guys, she's waited and looked forward to talking to us and sharing with us for months, imagine/think about that! So don't act entitled, like you're her mother. She can make her own decisions, and she's making and has made them. Just show your support & be kind always. I can tell she gets energy/happiness from interacting with us so let's make that a good thing for her. Collette, we've missed you and we're so glad you're back!!!
Christy Watung yes I agree 😍
Christy Watung - I agree 100%
Sometimes our dreams don't have to die, they might need a pause, an interlude, a refreshment, a time to reflect, and restock, they get amended sometimes, then they return even stronger and with more clarity than before.
Sometimes when I'm depressed I come back to this video
TBH I never really watched the shaytards for shay but for Colette and the kids
The thing you call a "dream" is just regular everyday life for most people. A faithful spouse is not a dream. It's the default. Stop settling for less than that.
her childhood dream was a fantasy that doesn't exist...
It might be for many but not for all people. And the ones without that issue can have different ones in their relationship. You Sound really immature and insensitive.
It’s been forever since I’ve heard you’re voice. I’ve kept up with your talks. And hearing your voice again brought up everything you’d helped me overcome. I could not be prouder of myself. And I can’t be more thankful for you
you. you are the definition of incredible. this is amazing. and i’m glad you’re realizing your strength and i hope everything is well now
My heart dropped when I saw that you had uploaded!! Love you!
MiBay ME TO
MiBay ikr
SAME
MiBay same here
What happened to them?!?
I didn’t realize how much I missed your laugh!!!
I was seriously thinking about you for a few days. Keep on staying STRONG.
HUGS FROM TEXAS