The science of falling in love - Shannon Odell

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  • @anonymousnation5235
    @anonymousnation5235 2 роки тому +3922

    So getting over a breakup is just the brain's struggle in forgetting the old source of dopamine and finding new source of dopamine. Fascinating.

    • @BLET_55artem55
      @BLET_55artem55 Рік тому +112

      It's like jumping from coke to weeb

    • @plsss476
      @plsss476 Рік тому +168

      It's the brain's transition from loving someone else to loving yourself

    • @VANAMALASUDHAKAR-i5t
      @VANAMALASUDHAKAR-i5t 10 місяців тому +10

      Sounds good 😅

    • @Megaman.ExE7
      @Megaman.ExE7 7 місяців тому +27

      This comment gave me more insight than the video

    • @Joseph-j2v2q
      @Joseph-j2v2q 7 місяців тому +1

      Or Dr Pepper to mr PIBb

  • @secretsri
    @secretsri 2 роки тому +8316

    This was an award-winning animated short on its own. TedEd, you always raise your own bar.

  • @Okari_Plays
    @Okari_Plays 2 роки тому +13778

    Ted-Ed really made us emotionally invested in this man’s life. 😩😩😩 Netflix series when? 😳

    • @sharonmoore3966
      @sharonmoore3966 2 роки тому +277

      I was over here hurt😢! Then happy and now feeling like how do we move on from here, geesh, I need chocolate now

    • @patrickjarvis631
      @patrickjarvis631 2 роки тому +237

      Pixar-level emotional rollercoaster. He even looks like me lmao

    • @tsukuyomirai5264
      @tsukuyomirai5264 2 роки тому +35

      @@patrickjarvis631 yes, I had to check it😂

    • @Aman-qr6wi
      @Aman-qr6wi 2 роки тому +10

      @@patrickjarvis631 exactly, 😂

    • @goldengold8513
      @goldengold8513 2 роки тому +8

      Why those emojis tho-

  • @remiidr3660
    @remiidr3660 2 роки тому +1839

    I love how you guys are not only focusing on the scientific side of everything, but now also exploring the complexity of human emotions, nature, and how we navigate through life. It is important to gain knowledge about the physical world. At the same time, shining some light onto human behaviors, what make us who we are and our ways of thinking is, from my point of view, at equal significance. Really hope to see more videos like this. Keep up the good work guys. Regards.

    • @VOXHUNTING
      @VOXHUNTING Рік тому

      I'm doing this because I'm confused why I feel this way I can't stop smiling and at random points I cry happy tears

    • @icysnow57cold64
      @icysnow57cold64 Рік тому +6

      I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
      I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.

  • @sumanrodrigues9807
    @sumanrodrigues9807 2 роки тому +937

    “But what is grief, if not love persevering?”
    -Vision
    Beautiful video Ted -ed! ❤️

    • @futuristic.handgun
      @futuristic.handgun 2 роки тому +9

      Love that quote, thank you for sharing! 💓

    • @sanatanipandit1166
      @sanatanipandit1166 Рік тому +3

      Meaning ?

    • @abubakr8824
      @abubakr8824 10 місяців тому +5

      @@sanatanipandit1166 The loss of the lover doesn't mean the loss of love

  • @breadman2983
    @breadman2983 2 роки тому +4169

    I hope having an understanding of how my brain functions can help me be more logical in future, and avoid toxic relationships.

    • @DanA-pm2hl
      @DanA-pm2hl 2 роки тому +9

      pray to dream Bread Man.... pray to dream

    • @syedbasiljaved6201
      @syedbasiljaved6201 2 роки тому +68

      Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t. We often make the same mistakes, and also, learning about something only makes us a fractionally more logical. But maybe in a very very small way, you’ll have that clarity.

    • @DanA-pm2hl
      @DanA-pm2hl 2 роки тому +16

      @@syedbasiljaved6201 All true. But now, thanks to this video, you'll know the life you have, is the one you have chosen for yourself...

    • @kobeleonard148
      @kobeleonard148 2 роки тому +3

      Well played agenda in animations lol love of two bulls and you just have to accept and admit the distorted morals 😂😂😂

    • @e-ben616
      @e-ben616 2 роки тому +28

      I have a friend (who is the most logical person I know) in a toxic relationship. It's not that he doesn't know he's being illogical. He knows but it's still a struggle to let go.
      I understand him because I've been in his shoes as well. It's one thing to know but at the end of the day humans are emotional beings and so Knowing and feeling are two different things.

  • @paramgalib040
    @paramgalib040 2 роки тому +2977

    Not a single ted-ed video is lesser than the other. They keep improving and teaching something new every time. ❤️

    • @incalculable_
      @incalculable_ 2 роки тому +4

      777 likes!! i don't wanna ruin it😩 but you’re definitely right!!❤

    • @cryodawn
      @cryodawn Рік тому +7

      But if they kept improving, wouldn't the old one be lesser than the new one? 😜

  • @meaning1780
    @meaning1780 2 роки тому +5060

    as a 19 year old who just entered stage 1 for the first time, I just hatefully love this video for its honesty
    PS: hoping that it lasts though
    EDIT: Its been 3 months and while our love was on an exponential growth a few days ago the first tremors creeped into the relationship, something I was theoretically but not emotionally prepared for. I wonder what the future holds...
    EDIT2: its been a year together and we had a sweet little anniversary celebration. I don't think I've ever matured as much as I've matured in this year ever before in my life.
    Everytime, I feel I've reached the pinnacle of my love for her and boy does is just keep surging ahead faster. She's no longer a date, she's family

    • @Zuko-kn4ez
      @Zuko-kn4ez 2 роки тому +127

      Good luck on your journey mate

    • @kishwar541
      @kishwar541 2 роки тому +29

      I hope so too 💗

    • @sharmeenkhan5911
      @sharmeenkhan5911 2 роки тому +46

      Just don't let the trust go between you both good luck for ur journey 🫶🏻

    • @novemberninth4392
      @novemberninth4392 2 роки тому +11

      I wish you luck!

    • @lordlistowell8054
      @lordlistowell8054 2 роки тому +24

      It won’t last. Reply when it ends.

  • @nathanlee6654
    @nathanlee6654 2 роки тому +575

    Did I seriously have to find this video after going through infatuation, compassionate love, and heartbreak? This would have been really helpful back in February when we first confessed feelings for each other.
    But even though the heartbreak hurt so much, I would do it all over again.

    • @dayanamartinez1846
      @dayanamartinez1846 2 роки тому +8

      i would too

    • @carterstubel1902
      @carterstubel1902 2 роки тому +14

      Likewise. Always good to keep ur chin up and view every love as a learning experience (which seems like what you've done) and have fun along the way. It's heartbreaking 4 sure but as my mom always said "sometimes nothing heals but time always will."

    • @syedsidra3706
      @syedsidra3706 2 роки тому +3

      How would you have avoided it? Just asking

    • @bluaurax
      @bluaurax Рік тому +1

      I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.

    • @AnoraArzieva
      @AnoraArzieva 14 днів тому

      fr

  • @austins9742
    @austins9742 2 роки тому +348

    Imagine being a research participant for this and the doc just says "Alright, so now we're going to look at some pictures of your ex."

    • @bianca4829
      @bianca4829 3 місяці тому +1

      😂 this comment has me rolling

  • @nabnuon
    @nabnuon 2 роки тому +988

    I feel really terrible after my first heartbreak during adolescence, but I find it rewarding to learn all the faults I made...
    Still hurtful to think back about the memories, but they're all in the past. I should let them forever be the past...

    • @BowChickaWow
      @BowChickaWow 2 роки тому +4

      Well said my friend

    • @msnoodletv8607
      @msnoodletv8607 2 роки тому +14

      Learn from your faults and theirs we are humans don’t become a monster

    • @tranvu5655
      @tranvu5655 2 роки тому +4

      You are vietnamese, right :>>?

    • @Ourelleetsy
      @Ourelleetsy Рік тому +8

      It hurts, still does
      Especially when you have to ask "am i just that, that much in the end?"

    • @Kitiwake
      @Kitiwake Рік тому

      Why don't you, then?

  • @joelkirkpatrick5688
    @joelkirkpatrick5688 2 роки тому +1263

    Love is like a rose; It's both happy and painful at the same time.

    • @Rowosehip
      @Rowosehip 2 роки тому +133

      There's a Turkish saying: The one who loves a rose must also endure its thorns.

    • @white4346
      @white4346 2 роки тому +15

      @@Rowosehip wow!

    • @RosheenQuynh
      @RosheenQuynh 2 роки тому +30

      Yup. There's a reason it represents romance

    • @alexng4
      @alexng4 2 роки тому +1

      every rose has a thorn

    • @mr_man_in_the_white_van
      @mr_man_in_the_white_van 2 роки тому

      @@Rowosehip cool, but did i ask?
      jk im not toxic or bad or anything

  • @stereophonic_
    @stereophonic_ 2 роки тому +1737

    Absolutely adore the changes in animation style through the video and color palette, along with the story used to educate ^ ^
    Very informational and beautifully made

    • @catdogmousecheese
      @catdogmousecheese 2 роки тому +11

      What I want to know is how does this animation look 2-D and 3-D at the same time?! Doesn't that defy physics?! Are these animators gods?!

    • @brandonnguyen6718
      @brandonnguyen6718 2 роки тому +5

      @@catdogmousecheese I'm pretty sure that during the "planner moments", the people are 3D which some 2D effects over top, and the setting around them is 2D.

  • @ankit_s
    @ankit_s 2 роки тому +365

    Being a 20 year old and feeling the emotional pain of heartbreak is agonizing. It's the hardest truth of life "you may love a person but the other person doesn't share the same emotion" accept it and find the one who loves you and accept you the way you are .

    • @shubhmishra66
      @shubhmishra66 2 роки тому +6

      Love with family is true... Love with opposite gender is false... It's only lust... Only this you must know, and you are set free!

    • @fat9457
      @fat9457 2 роки тому +2

      This is true i feel you i've been there

    • @fetusman2248
      @fetusman2248 2 роки тому +2

      @@happyandhappyonly yeah bro great idea lol

    • @franciscochiappero2164
      @franciscochiappero2164 Рік тому +3

      ​@@shubhmishra66 wtf

    • @Recoome_Kick
      @Recoome_Kick Рік тому +9

      @@shubhmishra66love for family isn’t true either it’s obligation to them because they are consider blood. There is no true love imo.

  • @uffu2490
    @uffu2490 2 роки тому +86

    Oh my god, the feeling of falling in love is wow - it’s one of the best feelings. Never give up.

    • @etherealmoonlight67
      @etherealmoonlight67 Рік тому +12

      It is the best feeling in the world..love is everything

    • @Amazonbattery
      @Amazonbattery 27 днів тому +2

      What does love feel like? Im curious

    • @natbb9
      @natbb9 6 днів тому

      ​@Amazonbattery Bliss, like everything is right in the world. You'll feel "drunk" with happiness, and you'll feel energized, excited, and there will be this warm feeling in your body that is unmistakable.
      Make sure that the other person is respectful of you, never hurts you or treats you like you're less than. If that happens, reevaluate and move on.
      Good luck.
      Alfred Lord Tennyson, the great poet, wrote, _Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all._
      Keep your heart open.

    • @Amazonbattery
      @Amazonbattery 5 днів тому

      @@natbb9 ty

  • @kurtjohnpalomaria342
    @kurtjohnpalomaria342 2 роки тому +270

    I had a whirlwind relationship with a girl. It was as passionate as humanly possible. We shunned the rest of the world as we loved and quarreled. Family included.
    We broke up after 2 years. it was excruciating to be without her, but a blanket of toxic selfishness coated our once loving relationship.
    5 years later. I met her on a chance encounter and it was an absolute whirlwind like before.Because of the sins of the past, It was more challenging this time around, but we managed to pull through.
    Our time apart made me realize that I have always loved her. Even when we were apart, i still loved her. Selfishness just got in the way.
    I just Hope that everyone gets the same chance as we did.

  • @abdelabdu3721
    @abdelabdu3721 2 роки тому +952

    WHY IS THIS SO CUTE? this love story NEEDS to become a book series or something

  • @hendrasutika
    @hendrasutika 2 роки тому +128

    stages of falling in love:
    1. infatuation/passionate love (excessively daydreaming about someone and wanting to spend more time with them - and last for a few months)
    2. attachment/ compassionate love (start to observe and know the downfalls of our partner and cope with them or against them)

  • @kd_ss
    @kd_ss 10 місяців тому +12

    Almost shed a tear for when the guy was longing for his man after the breakup 😢♥️

  • @marvsgonz55055
    @marvsgonz55055 10 місяців тому +10

    For someone who's never fallen in love, I totally love this video ❤

  • @gggg3690
    @gggg3690 2 роки тому +117

    I understand the video wanted to explain the brain activity of a heartbroken person but their break up made me so sad 😭😭😭

    • @almaraimilk7805
      @almaraimilk7805 2 роки тому

      Noone cares noone loved u

    • @schokoloko2092
      @schokoloko2092 2 роки тому +2

      @@almaraimilk7805 aww, we still love you, sweetie! even if you rather be mad and hateful.

    • @gurnoor3326
      @gurnoor3326 8 місяців тому +1

      EXACTLY i was rooting for them : (((

  • @khangphan1245
    @khangphan1245 2 роки тому +32

    When I watched this video, I saw hope and the brighter future for anybody who belongs to my community

  • @amisharai8699
    @amisharai8699 2 роки тому +394

    The animation and story board were so cool! I loved his journal entries tho it made me sad when they broke up :'(

  • @yolojb7812
    @yolojb7812 Рік тому +17

    This is not enough I need a whole series with these two OCs!!

  • @munyee618
    @munyee618 Рік тому +23

    i love this animation so much. And i love that at the end of rollercoaster ride, which represents his experience and journey of love, his partner wasn’t there anymore on the ride, instead of looking very depressed, he looks back and smile. As if he has learned and move on. Knowing he’ll be okay

  • @emilyharkness9685
    @emilyharkness9685 2 роки тому +204

    I can’t thank you guys enough for this beautiful animation. It’s helping me figure myself out and how I love the people around me by explaining things in a rational way. It’s a thousand times better than someone saying, “oh, you’ll know when you’re in love”, because I don’t know if it’s that or not.

  • @uyenhuynhlephuong5612
    @uyenhuynhlephuong5612 2 роки тому +291

    Omg, I love the way you build up this video's characters. The animation is so cute!

  • @rehanpoonawalla7406
    @rehanpoonawalla7406 2 роки тому +96

    Why was I actually invested in their story

  • @sysohil6132
    @sysohil6132 2 роки тому +33

    There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice
    ~ F.Scott Fitzgerald

  • @nhi_nirvana
    @nhi_nirvana 9 днів тому +1

    I almost cried at the end. He started the roller coaster with the guy but he was alone in the finish line.😢😢😢

  • @spookyplaguedoctor5714
    @spookyplaguedoctor5714 2 роки тому +27

    I remember when my girlfriend and I first broke up, it was especially painful because it wasn't out of an argument but rather because she was afraid her parents would disapprove of it. At least now I'm glad it happened, like developing immunity to an illness.

    • @zarifmoonwar6949
      @zarifmoonwar6949 Рік тому +7

      Mine was also not out of an argument , We broke up happily , but afterwards it had hurt me so much

  • @debbyvergoossen7610
    @debbyvergoossen7610 11 місяців тому +7

    In the infactuation stage now.. I always HATE the fact that this ends. It just feels soooo good!!!!

  • @sristibarai5916
    @sristibarai5916 Рік тому +9

    Dude! While everyone is on about the content of the video, I'm like, THE FRIGGING ANIMATION!!!!!!! Another level man!

  • @victoriacastillo6610
    @victoriacastillo6610 9 місяців тому +3

    thank you for this, going thru a breakup ain’t easy at all 🥺😭

  • @humptydumpty-m8u
    @humptydumpty-m8u 10 місяців тому +5

    Romantic love is two persons who are willing to be together and love each other no matter what kind of hardship is ahead.❤

  • @saraluisa3261
    @saraluisa3261 Рік тому +11

    Last year I went not through my first, but my worst heartbreak so far. Now this video was recommended as I am falling for someone new again. I hope that I have learned from my past experiences and that this time it won't devastate me as much, but whatever comes, I will be enjoying my infatuation for as long as it lasts.

  • @Kimm134Saya
    @Kimm134Saya Рік тому +23

    I realized a month ago that the reason why I couldn't establish any romantic relationship since I broke up with my first and last relationship in 2015 was because I have already fallen for a good friend back in 2014. However, due to a lot of personal reasons, I could not confess my feelings. Fast forward to 2023, after an unexpected incident, I finally realized and accepted that the reason I could not seem to find the one for me is because I have already found her, but the realization came too late. She has been in a healthy relationship for almost 4 years.
    I'm experiencing all 3 stages, but mainly the 1st and 3rd, at the same time. It's heartbreaking to live through regret.

    • @sharminjahan5289
      @sharminjahan5289 6 днів тому

      she was not meant to be your.
      you will find the person who is meant to be yours In sha Allah

  • @bluaurax
    @bluaurax Рік тому +5

    I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.

  • @kumyrmoloditasportu
    @kumyrmoloditasportu 10 місяців тому +7

    I am so thankful to you for the usage of that beautiful homoromantic animated clip. It reminds me I’m valid, everything mentioned applies to me just as well, and it’ll be fine eventually.

  • @JansenGlasc
    @JansenGlasc Рік тому +7

    This animation style FUCKS. Like for real, I fell in love. Simply incredible

  • @MohitSaini-jy9hd
    @MohitSaini-jy9hd 2 роки тому +13

    I improve my English everyday because Ted-ed makes beautiful and animation videos and it doesn't see bore. It helps me to increase best vocabulary.

  • @strange_and_magnificent
    @strange_and_magnificent 2 роки тому +55

    I really love how Ted Ed used a timeline in the video. Makes it more investing.

  • @FM-oc7ol
    @FM-oc7ol Рік тому +10

    I love how beautifully this is put, social and visual media really makes love a confusing thing where ur not sure whether what u have is love or not, in the end i feel, its the intensity of the heartbreak that tells.

  • @rabukaxen9595
    @rabukaxen9595 2 роки тому +864

    Is no one going to appreciate the fact ted-ed decided to use an LGBTQ+ example? Props to representation
    Edit: Y’all are fighting it out in the replies…thanks for the 800 likes ♥

    • @rudrakshi2256
      @rudrakshi2256 Рік тому +20

      Noticed that. That's a beautiful way of explainin ❤

    • @kh41245
      @kh41245 Рік тому +93

      APPRECIATE? Y'ALL NEED HELP LOL

    • @priyanktiwari5152
      @priyanktiwari5152 Рік тому +2

      I hv shared it with u all of my community frnds

    • @nept6nes
      @nept6nes Рік тому +10

      @@kh41245 Cry us a river 🤣 mad cause we’re on top

    • @rearedrain9722
      @rearedrain9722 Рік тому +14

      No one should care ot appreciate it. If people do care about that stuff, the hate and missunderstanding will continue

  • @moroccanblossom9612
    @moroccanblossom9612 2 роки тому +9

    I watched this video when everything just started and now I'm watching it again with tears in my eyes

  • @dev_esh01
    @dev_esh01 2 роки тому +65

    I want to fall in love. I'm tired of spending all my time being sad and alone, being desperate and lonely. Things are hard right now but yeah let's hope for the best. Everyone deserves the love that they give back don't they?

    • @timeme5460
      @timeme5460 2 роки тому +42

      well I think its important to make a distinction between deserving love and deserving the love you give back
      everyone deserves to be loved, but you shouldn't love with the expectation to receive something in return

    • @Cthaegon
      @Cthaegon 2 роки тому +1

      @@timeme5460 Absolutely.

    • @bellezavudd
      @bellezavudd 2 роки тому +17

      Falling in love is no guarantee that a person wont be sad and alone.

    • @rosecoloredbby
      @rosecoloredbby 2 роки тому +3

      @@bellezavudd that's definitely true, but I think OP means they want that kind of companionship in which they WONT feel sad and alone. As in, specifically.

    • @emmaogunjimi1579
      @emmaogunjimi1579 2 роки тому +1

      Jesus ❤

  • @anotheran0n
    @anotheran0n 2 роки тому +45

    Worthy to mention, though, that falling in love is all that chemical activity right before the attachment level of a relationship, and that the attachment level, if successfully passed, is the indication of true love (not just falling in love). This has a lot to do with how the definition of love has been getting ambiguated, specially through the western culture.

    • @ohbruhwhat
      @ohbruhwhat 2 роки тому +12

      i honestly agree. the infatuation stage is really just your brain in need of that dopamine(not saying that it is 100% of the time) However, once you get into that stage and you learn about their strengths, weaknesses, and what they truly are and STILL accepting them, you truly are in love.

    • @auun2101
      @auun2101 Рік тому

      What's anon mean ?

    • @anotheran0n
      @anotheran0n Рік тому

      @@auun2101 anonymous :)

    • @ldxstormeaglex2194
      @ldxstormeaglex2194 8 місяців тому

      I really agree with this. It's frustrating that culturally we aren't more specific about distinguishing falling in love VS true love/compassionate love. Especially for young kids who are just starting to experience these emotions, we aren't giving them a good framework to interpret how they are feeling. To them a swashbuckling romance is true love despite the fact it could be (and often is) toxic.

  • @maxmcdowell971
    @maxmcdowell971 Рік тому +8

    IM CRYING THIS IS SO CUTE

  • @CatherineChu7994
    @CatherineChu7994 Рік тому +2

    Love is something that tored up my heart into pieces 2 years ago
    . But I gradually accepted it as a heart-wreching is inenvitable when you had a connection with a careless man.

  • @katie18976
    @katie18976 18 днів тому +2

    I liked this animation, thanks for the informative video 😊❤

  • @sugaudacity
    @sugaudacity 2 роки тому +5

    the guy ending the rollercoaster on his own 🥲

  • @heartsbreaktwice872
    @heartsbreaktwice872 2 роки тому +23

    I dated a girl and obviously didn't go well. Soon after, she found a new boy, my friend, who was infinitely better than me
    I basically just listened to a band I liked (Keane) because most of their songs are breakup songs. Then one day, I woke up, heard a song titled 'Watch How You Go', and it made me open my eyes that at least I wish her well in her life with her new boyfriend, and I don't care anymore, I moved on.
    I sent the song to her, and said thank you. I don't think she understands what I meant though.

  • @vojislavS8652
    @vojislavS8652 2 роки тому +85

    This is an amazing video that gives a rational explanation to irrational process of falling in or out of love that most people don't get. It's natural and it needs to happen, i love how your channel is able to explain many things in under 10 min. Nice job and keep being awsome

  • @salaisyabalqis3776
    @salaisyabalqis3776 11 місяців тому +1

    Last two years was my first heartbreak of my first wlw relationship. And all the stages this video showed was literally what exactly I've been through as long as I'm healed. See this, I just open my mind that yeah, not only me feel this kind of way, and trust myself that I will find another one someday.

  • @sibrahim3463
    @sibrahim3463 Рік тому +13

    I feel like the main reason why people can only have relationships that last only a few months is that they crave that addictive feeling of being in love and when that feeling fades, they feel like they lost interest in their partner. This causes people to have problems maintaining long-term relationships because they need to feel "high off of love"

  • @megapp114
    @megapp114 2 роки тому +19

    Lucky are those who experienced love ❤️

    • @maryaby525
      @maryaby525 2 роки тому +1

      Love will be unexpectedly waiting for you during Your Path of life

    • @catdogmousecheese
      @catdogmousecheese 2 роки тому +1

      Love, unlike matter or energy, is of an infinite supply in the universe.

  • @futuristic.handgun
    @futuristic.handgun 2 роки тому +11

    My last heartbreak broke me from ever wanting to fall in love again. There really isn't true moving on for me. I'm on good terms with my ex and he's still a friend, so it's not because I didn't get closure. But because I don't ever want to go through that pain again. I'd rather be dead.

    • @alokkumar5123
      @alokkumar5123 2 місяці тому +2

      what is your opinion now?

    • @futuristic.handgun
      @futuristic.handgun 2 місяці тому

      @@alokkumar5123 Same thing. My ex and I don't speak anymore, but yeah, I still am good on all that

  • @Ebola-Jones
    @Ebola-Jones 2 роки тому +13

    Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

  • @imandac.3737
    @imandac.3737 2 місяці тому +2

    this is so beautiful, thank you TED!

  • @thePapermino
    @thePapermino 2 роки тому +78

    The animation was absolutely calming.
    Loved everything about the video

  • @ihappydawnz
    @ihappydawnz 2 роки тому +19

    the animation is so awesome!! they killed it fr

    • @ihappydawnz
      @ihappydawnz 2 роки тому +2

      i also love how the colors in the guy’s bedroom is rainbow :)

  • @alienum77
    @alienum77 2 роки тому +28

    Thank you, this is just the video I needed. It's been 3 weeks since the most amazing love I've ever known came to an end because my partner wanted to break up. I don't think she doesn't love me anymore, I think adulthood is hard and past trauma is difficult to overcome. But understanding it doesn't make it painless. I think about her often, and passionately.
    I wish everyone in the same situation a lot of strength. I know you need it, friend.

  • @gloriousgearhead5367
    @gloriousgearhead5367 2 роки тому +11

    The journey from first spark to last tear… damn that was deep!

  • @go0d_soup
    @go0d_soup 2 роки тому +6

    okay ted-ed definitely left us hanging, crying for ep 2

  • @priyanshutogame
    @priyanshutogame 7 місяців тому +4

    i really felt that after love heartbreaks and healing, i got matured and grow more.

  • @strawberrykun6136
    @strawberrykun6136 Рік тому +9

    I was really down these couple of days and this video made me cheer up. That quote by Maya Angelou at the start is gold 💕

  • @sreevidhyasuresh3069
    @sreevidhyasuresh3069 2 роки тому +16

    i dont know which phase i m in but am still having the same strong feelings for him during our first weeks even now although its been 10 months together❤ it feels like the very first day

  • @mthuhaha5064
    @mthuhaha5064 Рік тому +8

    i love how teded just illustrates fallin in love by bringing 2 men. thats so sweet

  • @yashmahadik8285
    @yashmahadik8285 10 місяців тому +1

    WOW!!!! its so mesmerizing how it portrayed and explained...great work. TED Ed

  • @Aspen_K.A._Swan
    @Aspen_K.A._Swan 2 місяці тому +1

    I was eleven. I knew the heartbreak phase would happen before anything even began.
    I didn't go through infatuation long. I saw her faults, and loved her for them.
    I always saved her favorite chair for her in the library even though it would put her farther away from me. I watched her from afar and quietly appreciated the moments when she went up and talked to me, or held my hand, or pressed her face to mine.
    And then, one day, I looked at her and realized that it felt like home. A place where I belonged. Where I fit.
    This is doomed, but I can still hope. I can still enjoy the feeling of being in love. Because if there's one mistake I won't make, it's being so desperate to get out of love, so afraid of heartbreak, that I don't let myself feel.
    I'm running headfirst into pain with no regrets.

  • @dimitristypaldos
    @dimitristypaldos Рік тому +4

    I have so many questions about life, so TED-Ed is here for all of us, Thank you TED-Ed!

  • @puunkim8465
    @puunkim8465 Рік тому +3

    omgg, this animation warms my heart🥰🥰

  • @vaggelis_best
    @vaggelis_best Місяць тому +23

    Pretty sure they are deleting comments

    • @michaelcurley7002
      @michaelcurley7002 24 дні тому +1

      Why

    • @stayysilver
      @stayysilver 14 днів тому +2

      @@michaelcurley7002 Ted-ed tends to put a lot of political messaging in their animations and delete the comments that criticize or conflict with their beliefs.

    • @michaelcurley7002
      @michaelcurley7002 13 днів тому

      @@stayysilver so they do just about what anyone does, got it.

    • @snoby1970
      @snoby1970 3 дні тому

      What do you mean with political beliefs?​@@stayysilver

  • @ddesai2249
    @ddesai2249 2 роки тому +10

    I ❤️how every ted-ed video is soo different in terms of animation style and colour pallets ..it's like channel is collection of animation types..

  • @Dragonfire-76
    @Dragonfire-76 3 місяці тому +1

    This video was an absolute work of art! Ted Ed you have done it again

  • @Sch0lar4h1re
    @Sch0lar4h1re 2 роки тому +50

    The research is beautifully animated and expertly summarized. Also, Good Luck to anyone looking for love nearing the end of 2022 and into 2023.

  • @Mobashsherah_
    @Mobashsherah_ 2 роки тому +16

    Can we also appreciate how good the animation is !!!

  • @HunterHogan
    @HunterHogan 2 роки тому +35

    A story telling masterpiece.

  • @ahmedraiyan700
    @ahmedraiyan700 8 місяців тому +3

    I needed this! Thank you Ted and UA-cam algorithm

  • @Rachel-fi4sc
    @Rachel-fi4sc Рік тому +6

    What happens with the brain chemistry when the relationship lasts? What are the later stages? How do big life changes - moving in together, getting a pet, having a child, growing old together - affect your brain and your perception of the relationship? How is the grief different when a partner dies of old age, or in childbirth, or if there's cheating after years of commitment? What causes the "7-Year Itch"? I have so many more questions!

  • @sagarikarajbanshi5907
    @sagarikarajbanshi5907 2 роки тому +23

    Now, i can successfully call those things I love - You're my Dopamine. Also thanks Ted-Ed for voicing and bringing out the issue. Lots of people die because of rejection and unable to accept the situation. It may help them to reconsider it and giving life another chance, accepting life as it is.

  • @quarantinecommunity384
    @quarantinecommunity384 2 роки тому +4

    The animations are mind blowing, so smooth

  • @sachinsuresh4389
    @sachinsuresh4389 2 роки тому +12

    This channel is a Gem 💎

  • @NicoleFrancesSazon
    @NicoleFrancesSazon Рік тому +2

    this will never not break my heart every time i watch it

  • @harlow743
    @harlow743 Рік тому +2

    it changes it from sane to insane

  • @DJ-cc7dq
    @DJ-cc7dq 2 роки тому +16

    This video is truly beautiful... The animation is on a level of its own for sure✨

  • @KeenCIA
    @KeenCIA 2 роки тому +4

    The animation and the story board are top notch! I feel like watching my ownself in that video lol 😂❤

  • @sarvkamika123
    @sarvkamika123 2 роки тому +13

    What a beautiful description

  • @ruchaabhyankar
    @ruchaabhyankar 9 місяців тому

    "Given time and the support, most can heal and learn from even the most devastating heartbreak." 👏

  • @milires
    @milires Рік тому +5

    I can now say confidently that I’ve been stuck in the “infatuation” stage for several months now

  • @ArsiekDHOL
    @ArsiekDHOL 2 роки тому +14

    LOVE this video TED talk !!!! wonderful explanation and love the animation! sometime I have the feeling that I daydream waaaaaaaaaaaaaay to much 😂

  • @santonen359
    @santonen359 2 роки тому +155

    I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS. Almost the same story in this video. He is a soccer player and yes I supported him on those times. We usually had chat before on a daily basis sending goodnight messages

    • @RickrollFoot
      @RickrollFoot 2 роки тому +21

      ted ed is stalking you

    • @NRDM02
      @NRDM02 2 роки тому +2

      @@RickrollFoot 😂

  • @artemisphobos3814
    @artemisphobos3814 2 роки тому +6

    Nooo I was so invested I forgot it's a Ted Ed video 😭
    I thought their relationship will keep getting wholesome..I feel sad

  • @andiearson2222
    @andiearson2222 Рік тому +5

    I love the way ted just make this video animation to be a love between to man. That makes it more special to me

    • @Doit357
      @Doit357 10 місяців тому +1

      Nope it makes it worse

    • @amarillo1525
      @amarillo1525 8 місяців тому

      You suck​@@Doit357

  • @bachvutuyetvoi3789
    @bachvutuyetvoi3789 2 роки тому +37

    Fantastic video. I watch when I was a bit drunk, just made my girl sad and felt really terrible, but I still can feel it. Thanks for making it.
    And if my girl can read this cmt, I just wanna say I just think for her, all the time. I love her so much.

    • @MartinKuras
      @MartinKuras 2 роки тому +14

      Don't tell us - tell her!

    • @AkaneTendo
      @AkaneTendo 2 роки тому +7

      You should tell her. Please don't build some hopes up that your girl will read this comment. Say it to her instead. She will appreciate that more than reading this comment on UA-cam.

    • @bachvutuyetvoi3789
      @bachvutuyetvoi3789 2 роки тому +3

      @@AkaneTendo yah I did tell her. Fortunately, we just misunderstood each other a little bit. We're okay now. Thanks guys for caring about me - really don't think sbd will reply to my cmt

  • @jrhooman
    @jrhooman 2 роки тому +5

    The rotoscoping is beautifully done

  • @francine4417
    @francine4417 2 роки тому +32

    i love the animation, it's so cute!! 🤧💖

  • @alainaz7713
    @alainaz7713 2 роки тому +1

    Not him finishing the roller coaster ride alone 😢 Ted Ed really wants us all to cry 😞

  • @gigi7153
    @gigi7153 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you. I really, really needed this.

  • @namelesscare7982
    @namelesscare7982 2 роки тому +47

    They called "love at first sight" in literature :)
    I also think that eye contact for the first time is vastly effective to falling in love with somebody :)

    • @_paula_860
      @_paula_860 Рік тому +7

      I agree, eye contact can be so powerful.
      I saw a guy at work a few months ago and thought he was cute but didn’t think much else of him. It wasn’t until we made eye contact for the first time that I fell in love, and to this day every time we make eye contact I feel the same, but I’m too nervous to ask him out 😅