16-24 years is the most dangerous age. The naive ness, eagerness towards love. The games men play is unknown. I feel so sad that this happens to the most innocent girls
People tell girls to protect their bodies. They never tell them to protect their minds and their hearts. Making plans with someone, merging your future, your goals, your dreams with someone is so powerful.
You are so brave. I'm so emotional too listening to you. I was raped by a total stranger in a bush. Almost died that night. I was so scared taking the HIV test and the clinic. The following HIV tests were just as scary. But thank God I tested negative. Iv never told anyone that. Your story gave me strength to write this.
You telling your story is saving other hundreds or even thousands of young women from doing the same mistakes. Good on you for forgiving yourself, I hope you find peace. you are a strong women.
It's actually saving me right now.♥♥♥19 years and learning a lot....l almost gave in knowing very well am not ready..this channel has made me stronger...................
I am on my knees right now thanking God for the day i came across your channel, sis, everything you have went through I've went through, it's like you are just reading me my own story. And I've just realized that I've been blocking everything and every emotion for 10 years now. All I want to say is thank God for you, you are changing so many lives, you are freeing a lot of us from our own prisons. Enkosi sisi, I love you so much, and God bless you always.
I firmly believe the lack of communication between mothers and their daughters leads to us making these types of decisions. Especially when religion dictates these unrealistic ideals that don't actually teach girls how to choose partners. You are very brave and strong for owning your truth. I know how hard it is to forgive yourself. I wish you the very best 😍
Because God is here to help us choose the right person but for that you have to trust him … we know it’s not easy but those rules are for us not to be with these kind of person
God chooses the right person but the Devil lays traps for sure. Coming in a package that is almost right but not quite. She put to much faith in what is presented is meant to be without having them show it. The correct way
The thing is that she knew better although she was naive to think this guy was going to be her love. She compromise her values. Never do this. She put this relationship before God. We have commandments to follow for a reason. The Bible does give principles on how to choose a mate. Do not be unequally yoke. Put God first in everything. Seek out wisdom. We must always ask for the wisdom of God when considering someone for a significant other. God has warned me of several in the past, and it saved me from heartache and pain. She also was heavily influence by love novels and movies which have an influence on how women and men see relationships. My church discourages us from looking at movies and reading such novels. Research even talks about how movies and novels have an influence on young people in making them compromise their values. They are not based on reality. Satan tries to manipulate us through those movies and novels. It's clear she just wanted to be in love and have love, but she should have relied on God's guidance. I have made stupid mistakes too thinking I knew better than God. I make these points not to blame her because she already takes responsibility, but other young women and even men need to learn from this testimony to make sure they don't follow down the same path. God forgives us and that is why we serve an awesome God.
Seeing how there's a lot of stigma in South Africa about HIV and abortion, it's brave of you to speak so openly about all these things. Your channel is so refreshing and sobering. Thank you for sharing your story 👏
Imagine being more afraid of being pregnant than HIV positive... wow. One lesson I have learned, parents who are too strict stop nothing from happening but, parents who talk and have open communication with their children, allow them to make better choices. My mom was very strict. I had both parents in my life, my dad wasn’t as strict. I still ended up pregnant at 15 years old. I had my baby. He’s a 22 year old man now and doing very well for himself. You’re so real, I really love that. God bless you and I pray you continue to have a long healthy life. ❤️
To the wait for marriage finger wagging crew It puzzles me why are we acting like the same thing couldn't happen in matrimony. Marriage is not a condom, HIV couples testing, a contraceptive or something that prevents/screens for STDs lets not be naïve .Some women have done "everything right" but find themselves in the same situation as Nozi . This is a great life lesson thanks for sharing candidly. This could have easily been my story and many girls too.
I am thinking the same thing. I have a 6 year old daughter and I am already saving this for when she gets older. The world is such a scary place with great but dishonest ones too.....omgoodness!!!
This story is so touching. I am the only girl out of 4 and I am also the youngest. I am also a virgin at 20 and this is an eye opener because I have never really taken testing for HIV with my partner seriously. Thank you for sharing your story this will help me in my decision making. #You have saved a life.
I'm happy for you that you still aVirgin nd plz be careful gal nd get Tested both of you nd at the same time nd be with him in the room coz he can lie to you abt his status before you laydown with him.
Thank God for you. More than testing dear, please consider God's word- sex before and outside marriage is a sin. Sex is what you can wait for, ONLY by God's grace and empowerment. Jesus Christ loves you, please give your life to Christ- Romans 8:9,10; John 3:16; Romans 3:23. God bless!
I don’t know you, have never heard about you and you just appeared on my feed when I searched about pregnancy, I have listened to your story, first , you’re such an orator! Marketing suits you. Two, you were meant to just share your story , because no one else can tell it better than you. You’re amazing, I love you so much, I wish I knew you in person , you’re divinely loved , purposed and destined. Your SOUL is healthy , pure and full of light, and your soul can never be infected with a virus nor pain, so keep evolving that soul because it’s taking you HOME, where you were always meant to be. To encourage others, to be a light 💡 bearer and an inspiration. I love you, God loves you more . Love from Nairobi 💖
It's not everyday that you meet someone who can speak so boldly and honestly about their stories.......our stories might not be exactly the same but believe me almost everyone out there is struggling with a story they can't share even with their closest people because they are scared of being judge........this was the bravest thing ever done.....I am sorry that happened to you but I am sure you are a strong woman and you are fighting it all....I love you
Wow! I've never heard anyone be so honest, even in real life. God bless your pure and beautiful soul. This is also great information even for us who are negative because when you are not infected, you are affected,we are all in this together.. Am definitely subscribing to this powerful channel ❤❤
You have spoken about a story which I never had courage to speak to nobody about, you told my story and for the first time ever I got emotional about it. 💕💕
It's interesting how most of us often have those conversations with God then go ahead and do our will not his.... It never turns out right.... Thank you for sharing sis
We need honest, open , inspiring and positive women like you. Every woman has a story to tell but we don’t because we are afraid of being judged . What you did was amazing and i admire that . I’m going to show my 17 year old niece this video . Proud of you hle wena .
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m from America and I don’t know if in South Africa y’all can do this but knowingly infecting someone with HIV is attempted murder so he can go to prison for a long time
Thank you so much. It’s the same in South Africa. I covered that topic a few weeks ago. However, there are a few things you need to prove. My case would have been thrown out of court since I consented to have unprotected sex
Even if you consent to unprotected sex, the party that is HIV positive still has to disclose his status, it's actually encouraged that party's that are HIV positive do disclose their status to their sexual partners as to avoid situations such as these.
I am not sure why I saw this in my feed but I watched because I listen to a wide range of content. However, I must applaud your bravery. I see so many comments about how you are telling their story. Sometimes God allows bad things to happen so he can use you to inspire and heal others. From the looks of it...you certainly are. I pray that you will be blessed and even more so you will bless many other silent and suffering young & even older women with your transparency and accountability. Blessings and Love❤️❤️
When I see you I will give you the biggest hug. I love your honesty and authenticity. We don’t have that enough especially in JHB where it feels like everyone is living their best and nothing else. This topic is taboo in our community, thank you for shedding light on it and putting yourself out there.
New subbie here ❤️ I am blown away by your transparency and how boldly you speak of what pains you the most. It shows how strong you are and how much you are recovering every single day 🥺🤗 Love and light sis.
I agree, I don’t think I could ever be that honest. And the way she takes accountability for her decisions shows so much maturity and growth. Man, I hope I get there some day
Your story is touching and I do not want to judge you. Sonke siyawenza amaphutha and will not dare throw any stone at you. There are so many naive girls out there who can learn from you. I am inspired by the courage you have to speak out about your HIV status and how it came about. I feel its so liberating to listen to your story. God forgives and uses your predicament to liberate many. Be blessed Nozi!!
You crying as you speak about the questions you asked yourself about how your baby would've been🥺💔 I feel your pain honestly. Thank you for sharing this and being so genuine. To think it's not my first time watching this video 😅 every year since 2020 I just keep coming back to it
I am stumbling on this video in August 2021! I just want to say thank you for sharing and having an open heart! You are a brave soul and you are very strong for living through all of the hard times and taking life in stride. I am encouraged by you my sister and may you continue to be encouraged and radiate a positive outlook and attitude towards life!
You are so real! Thank you for being so open about your story, removing the shame and stigma from the things that so many people (secretly) struggle with. You had me in tears towards the end there, but it’s all about forgiving yourself because God has forgiven you. This generation needs your story, thank you for your transparency. Bless you❤️
I appreciate the realness of your channel. Thank you for sharing your truth with us and trusting us. I had the same perspective on relationships at 21. Life revealed its true colours with time. We had a conversation around HIV with my colleagues two weeks ago. Despite us being Social workers, there's still stigma and fear around living with the virus. It's easier to counsel clients, but the anxiety of living with the virus is real. I referred them to your channel. You bring so much hope. I think I'm so ready that if I were to ever be diagnosed as HIV positive, I'd have sufficient coping mechanisms. Once again, thank you.
Your story is similar to mine. Parents have a tendency to unawaredly place such high expectations and pressures on their children which can lead to children doing things to keep pleasing their parents. I'm glad I stumbled on this channel. 🥺🥺
As a 20 year old your story has been so touching to me and has made me more cautious then I've ever been. I'll be testing regularly with my partner even if protection was used
Your narration skills are tops! You had me listening from the start till end and I wanted more. And your emotions come through every time. Thank you for your bravery. You're educating a lot of people by sharing your struggles, know that you are blessed. Thank you.
@@britishmgtow7251 and you can't see it stupid, some go over 2 years without symptoms, until they infect you, you will understand that it shouldnt be stigmatised
The butterflies in your stomach was your intuition warning you of danger ahead. I hope all women are aware of this, thank you Nozi for opening up to us. I have so much love for you ❤️
@@Okont actually it can be, because having butterflies in your stomach signifies nervousness and anxiety. People that you love and people that love you should not make you feel nervous and anxious, they should make you feel calm and comfortable. It’s a huge sign that she got butterflies every time he said I love you to her, it was her intuition telling her something was wrong
@@gabbyy8691 Exactly Gabbyy, I agree with you 100%. In any other context "butterflies in your stomach" is associated with negative emotions like nervousness, anxiety even intuition " gut feeling" but when in the context of love, it now all of a sudden changes? And is now a positive thing? Like how?
This is so honest and raw. I have the highest level of respect for you cause I can hardly be honest with myself and take responsibility. I am inspired to start trying to deal with my own past.
Ao bathong I love this gal! I eloped with a guy only to find out that I was 5 months pregnant. We decided to test and he was positive and I was negative. I wanted to be his saviour, again imagine being pregnant and having ran from home! He started with the gals.. woman, your story is mine... Im not brave enough to write a book though. I love your strength! love from Canada
Yaz at first when I saw your caption I was very judgemental and then I decided to listen to your story and and couldn't be more ashamed of myself,you are a brave woman and I respect you. Thank you.❤🥺
I just came across this video & I'm amazed by your strength, maturity & courage especially how you handle the shocks. God keep blessing you sister. You are an inspiration ✨
Aww girl... Hugs to you. You are a beautiful and brave young woman who went through what we all go through, and that is to fall in love with a wrong man. There's a reason why the events in your life occurred. Thank you for sharing your story and using your pain to heal others. Someone out there may be going through the exact same thing and watching you speak and live so unapologetically may help save their life.
You are a very very beautiful woman. You look exactly like my 15 years old daughter. Very sad that that Monster infected you,I am letting my daughter watch this video to learn how to protect herself when she get older and never trust any man story. You are a learning experience for every young/older Christian women to be very careful.
If we all had this rawness so many lives would be saved, nothing about that is ridiculous your scars,flaws & all make the strong person you are,totally respect you for all the responsibility you own up to.
Wow, I just randomly came across you and this story... You're so strong! You tell your story so well, I was so engaged the whole time with what you were saying. It's awful how you were treated by that poor excuse, but now you're telling your story to help people, as well as help yourself to heal. Sending love & prayers and good vibes your way!!
So proud of you Nozi! You've always been the bravest despite adversity, even when we were young, innocent and bright eyed. You are serving a purpose and possibly saving another young woman's life. Thank you & hope our paths cross again.
I'm new to this channel and I think I'm going to stick around. Thank you for your bravery and breaking the stigma around HIV. We need to educate our young girls on love and relationships and everything that comes with it. God bless. 🌻🌻🌻
First loves can sometimes be dangerously blinding. Our heart outsmarts every form of thinking and rationalization. We've all been lovestruck and stuck before. Some of us are spared to survive and walk away from the relationship with mental, physical, emotional scars so deeply damaging and devastating. Then we start to heal, learn, love ourselves, live, then flourish💜 Love dies without trust. Then again there are people who STAY- pain and suffering becomes the norm. Thanks for sharing and educating Nozi! You are a very smart woman with a beautiful heart and the spirit of a warrior! I hope and pray for all those affected/ infected to be completely loved, cherished and protected 🙏🏾
Do not be apologetic at all about your feelings, decisions etc, nothing you say is silly, you don't have to excuse what you feel all your feelings are valid and this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Girl that man is evil, I think he intentionally gave you HIV. He'll have his karma. Thanks for sharing your story and reminding sisters to cautious. Your strength is admirable.
You have the balls of a man to share this. I am a virgin and I am 24. I also have strict parents and raised in a christian home, and I have as my principle to wait till marriage and you have just opened my eyes to what to never fall for. Thank you for sharing your experience I am learning from it. You are a weapon of change, to be opening up and creating a platform to talk about the most stigmatized topics in our society. You are such a bubbly spirit and an open person. May you learn to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself, what would life be without mistakes, how would we learn.
Just watched your first video and I love you . Heal baby girl , God will heal your soul and everything was meant to happen . You’re brave , amazing , smart and I feel like you have a beautiful soul .
I watched one of your videos before this one where you were with your husband. I think he gave us a good description of you. You are very mature for your age. You are not easily influenced you love yourself and prioritize yourself. Which many women out there are lacking
Omg my heart broke for you. Women go throw a lot when dealing with men especially when you’re young and naive. I’m glad you were able to move on from this. Stay strong beautiful !
Thank you for being strong enough and confident enough to inform others about decisions and how you went through so much yet still standing proudly and well knowledged
Sis Nozzie, I stumbled upon your vlogs today and honestly it's because the universe needed me to see this I guess. I really needed to hear your story inoder to accept my own thank you for being the special soul that you are and I can't stop crying but now these are tears of hope and to see you beautiful as you are shows me that I'm going to be just fine.
Great story telling. You are so brave. I got married a virgin. Even after our native ceremony we waited till our white wedding. Just felt like I had waited that long so a few more days would not kill us. Your story is very meaningful, thanks for sharing. I find that these stories help those waiting to meet the right one. Many people don't talk about how abortions affect them, you are a blessing.
I have just realised that I am actually very naive 😓😢I pray that every naive person is protected by the mercy of God
same.
Please don't allow men to ruin your life.. those specie's are unpredictable 😭
So true
Amen 🙏🏾
I’m naive too.
16-24 years is the most dangerous age. The naive ness, eagerness towards love. The games men play is unknown. I feel so sad that this happens to the most innocent girls
Absolutely
This is so true... we as women go through the most during this period (16-24 as you said) , in some way or the other.
Sooo true
This is so true! 😭😭😭😭
So true hey
People tell girls to protect their bodies. They never tell them to protect their minds and their hearts. Making plans with someone, merging your future, your goals, your dreams with someone is so powerful.
he groomed her, and the books and movies helped. the culture we are in pressures many.
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
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agreed very important you said it
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The brain amd heart ARE part of the body you know 🙄😳
You are so brave. I'm so emotional too listening to you. I was raped by a total stranger in a bush. Almost died that night. I was so scared taking the HIV test and the clinic. The following HIV tests were just as scary. But thank God I tested negative. Iv never told anyone that. Your story gave me strength to write this.
I was also raped in the bush,😡
You are so brave, thank you for sharing your story.
Strength to you sis❤❤❤
OMG!!! So sad God bless
I love when people share these type of personal stories it literally scares you straight
Facts
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Yes 🤣🤣
Hiv scares you?😂😂😂 akere people day its no big deal to he hiv positive 😅
You telling your story is saving other hundreds or even thousands of young women from doing the same mistakes. Good on you for forgiving yourself, I hope you find peace. you are a strong women.
It's actually saving me right now.♥♥♥19 years and learning a lot....l almost gave in knowing very well am not ready..this channel has made me stronger...................
You're an inspiration too. I love you. God is turning lives around thro ugh you.
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Unfortunately we come here the thing has already happened 😢
I am on my knees right now thanking God for the day i came across your channel, sis, everything you have went through I've went through, it's like you are just reading me my own story. And I've just realized that I've been blocking everything and every emotion for 10 years now. All I want to say is thank God for you, you are changing so many lives, you are freeing a lot of us from our own prisons. Enkosi sisi, I love you so much, and God bless you always.
Askies gal all shall be well with u
Proud of you girl for keeping on. You aren't alone.love you
Hugs to you sisi💕
sending prayers and hugs your way.
You rock babygirl 💞 sending love
I don't know how I got here. But this is a way opener for me to learn to forgive myself and live again😭😭😭
Take it a day at a time, be gentle on yourself. You'll surely get there. I wish you all the best and strength ❤️
It scars me how things can switch within a second
In all you went through you're so positive ❤
Not gonna lie, I would’ve literally died. Your strength is admirable ♥️
Thank God for his grace and mercy!!! Look at her now though!!! God is so Good!!!🙏🏽
"It's about forgiving yourself every single day." That line hey, I love you Sisi Nozi ❤❤.
Every single day baby! I love you more!
Forgiving yourself is the hardest
What a genuine story. It's packed with lessons for everyone, even myself as a man. You're very courageous.
Amen
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
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This has to be the most open, honest and raw conversion I've heard. I applaud you. I Stan. Thank you. You have given me so much strength.
Indeed Sharon
It takes no strength to kill a baby, only to defend her/him
Wow 😳 what a story 😳 you are so strong and beautiful ❤️❤️ you're are so brave god will see you through
I admire this young woman. Never underestimate your power as a woman. 🙏
I firmly believe the lack of communication between mothers and their daughters leads to us making these types of decisions. Especially when religion dictates these unrealistic ideals that don't actually teach girls how to choose partners. You are very brave and strong for owning your truth. I know how hard it is to forgive yourself. I wish you the very best 😍
Because God is here to help us choose the right person but for that you have to trust him … we know it’s not easy but those rules are for us not to be with these kind of person
God chooses the right person but the Devil lays traps for sure. Coming in a package that is almost right but not quite. She put to much faith in what is presented is meant to be without having them show it. The correct way
@@VontiNYC Right
Yassss this comment is spot on . Thank you 🙏🏾
The thing is that she knew better although she was naive to think this guy was going to be her love. She compromise her values. Never do this. She put this relationship before God. We have commandments to follow for a reason. The Bible does give principles on how to choose a mate. Do not be unequally yoke. Put God first in everything. Seek out wisdom. We must always ask for the wisdom of God when considering someone for a significant other. God has warned me of several in the past, and it saved me from heartache and pain.
She also was heavily influence by love novels and movies which have an influence on how women and men see relationships. My church discourages us from looking at movies and reading such novels. Research even talks about how movies and novels have an influence on young people in making them compromise their values. They are not based on reality. Satan tries to manipulate us through those movies and novels. It's clear she just wanted to be in love and have love, but she should have relied on God's guidance. I have made stupid mistakes too thinking I knew better than God.
I make these points not to blame her because she already takes responsibility, but other young women and even men need to learn from this testimony to make sure they don't follow down the same path. God forgives us and that is why we serve an awesome God.
The guy is so heartless for not protecting you, and certainly he goes about infecting many girls, a big lesson to everyone, both men and women.
It also seems as if he never apologized to her for giving her hiv
Before anyone protects u,,,,u are the best protector for your self
She too needed to protect herself. Actually she should have protected herself note them him, it's her body not his!!
She stayed with him after the fact. She's horrible
Seeing how there's a lot of stigma in South Africa about HIV and abortion, it's brave of you to speak so openly about all these things. Your channel is so refreshing and sobering. Thank you for sharing your story 👏
The stigma is in other parts of Africa.
Abortion is shameful
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
m.ua-cam.com/video/SRueeln3WDA/v-deo.html
Imagine being more afraid of being pregnant than HIV positive... wow. One lesson I have learned, parents who are too strict stop nothing from happening but, parents who talk and have open communication with their children, allow them to make better choices. My mom was very strict. I had both parents in my life, my dad wasn’t as strict. I still ended up pregnant at 15 years old. I had my baby. He’s a 22 year old man now and doing very well for himself. You’re so real, I really love that. God bless you and I pray you continue to have a long healthy life. ❤️
Lord help me be a good parent!
Beautiful! All things came out beautifully in the end. Take care lovey
@@Lilas_lilas thank you and you will be a good parent ❤️
Right. Id rather have 5 kids than HIV or any deadly disease.
You just gained a new subscriber ❤️ We live and we learn 🕯
To the wait for marriage finger wagging crew It puzzles me why are we acting like the same thing couldn't happen in matrimony. Marriage is not a condom, HIV couples testing, a contraceptive or something that prevents/screens for STDs lets not be naïve .Some women have done "everything right" but find themselves in the same situation as Nozi . This is a great life lesson thanks for sharing candidly. This could have easily been my story and many girls too.
He was very selfish not to tell you his status I'm glad that didn't break you thank you for sharing you saving alot of people with your story🌹🌹🌹🌹
Selfish is an understatement
Definitely going to let my daughters watch your channel ; there are life lessons in your story that are really important! Thank you for your openness.
I am thinking the same thing. I have a 6 year old daughter and I am already saving this for when she gets older. The world is such a scary place with great but dishonest ones too.....omgoodness!!!
I am sending this now to my two teenage girls.
The way I keep nodding when you say ‘aneh’ or ‘ you know’ 😅😅
You’re beautiful and strong 😍
This story is so touching. I am the only girl out of 4 and I am also the youngest. I am also a virgin at 20 and this is an eye opener because I have never really taken testing for HIV with my partner seriously. Thank you for sharing your story this will help me in my decision making. #You have saved a life.
I'm happy for you that you still aVirgin nd plz be careful gal nd get Tested both of you nd at the same time nd be with him in the room coz he can lie to you abt his status before you laydown with him.
Thank God for you.
More than testing dear, please consider God's word- sex before and outside marriage is a sin. Sex is what you can wait for, ONLY by God's grace and empowerment.
Jesus Christ loves you, please give your life to Christ- Romans 8:9,10; John 3:16; Romans 3:23.
God bless!
@@F.J.O thank you I'll defs keep that in mind. Thank you
@@zinhlexaba5149 Thank you I'll be as vigilant as i can possibly be
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I don’t know you, have never heard about you and you just appeared on my feed when I searched about pregnancy, I have listened to your story, first , you’re such an orator! Marketing suits you. Two, you were meant to just share your story , because no one else can tell it better than you. You’re amazing, I love you so much, I wish I knew you in person , you’re divinely loved , purposed and destined. Your SOUL is healthy , pure and full of light, and your soul can never be infected with a virus nor pain, so keep evolving that soul because it’s taking you HOME, where you were always meant to be. To encourage others, to be a light 💡 bearer and an inspiration. I love you, God loves you more . Love from Nairobi 💖
Imagine going through so much from being a virgin 😢😢😭😭😭
Yoo yazini iyanyanyisa lendoda....bastard
It's not everyday that you meet someone who can speak so boldly and honestly about their stories.......our stories might not be exactly the same but believe me almost everyone out there is struggling with a story they can't share even with their closest people because they are scared of being judge........this was the bravest thing ever done.....I am sorry that happened to you but I am sure you are a strong woman and you are fighting it all....I love you
God bless you
She is amazing.
God bless your heart ❤️
I wish you were wiser at 21.
I'm 21 and man!!!.... I hear your regrets in between the lines. I'm learning a lot here... I must say ❤
Thank you!
You such a good narrator I could listen to you all day
True, I enjoy listening to Nozi Always..... Love her to the moon and back ❤️
This hit home for me. My abortion was when I was 15. Very painful to think about😩😩💔😥😥😥 My heart and prayers go out go you love.
Hie sorry did you need a Guardian did you do it at the clinic and is it free
Ew I'm 14
How did you get pregnant at one year older than me 😨
I had one at 15 years old too. Years ago ❤
Wow! I've never heard anyone be so honest, even in real life. God bless your pure and beautiful soul. This is also great information even for us who are negative because when you are not infected, you are affected,we are all in this together.. Am definitely subscribing to this powerful channel ❤❤
Right! Her honesty and transparency is so refreshing. I went celibate three years ago, best decision I’ve made
I was so hurt when you cried. Please forgive yourself sis❤
Found myself crying too
She is mourning. You never really stop mourning a loved one
The things we go through as women uhmmm
Omg thanks for sharing your story on abortion, I feel like this will help a lot of people who were made to feel horrible about doing the procedure
WOW!..Please get that man arrested.Do it for other women he is continuing to infect.Please.What a monster.
You have spoken about a story which I never had courage to speak to nobody about, you told my story and for the first time ever I got emotional about it. 💕💕
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It's interesting how most of us often have those conversations with God then go ahead and do our will not his.... It never turns out right.... Thank you for sharing sis
We need honest, open , inspiring and positive women like you. Every woman has a story to tell but we don’t because we are afraid of being judged . What you did was amazing and i admire that . I’m going to show my 17 year old niece this video . Proud of you hle wena .
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m from America and I don’t know if in South Africa y’all can do this but knowingly infecting someone with HIV is attempted murder so he can go to prison for a long time
Thank you so much. It’s the same in South Africa. I covered that topic a few weeks ago. However, there are a few things you need to prove. My case would have been thrown out of court since I consented to have unprotected sex
He should i hate the guy ey..
Even if you consent to unprotected sex, the party that is HIV positive still has to disclose his status, it's actually encouraged that party's that are HIV positive do disclose their status to their sexual partners as to avoid situations such as these.
He should have disclosed his status. He did it deliberately.
U inspire a lot of girls woman n including men your husband is one in a million stay loving each other n be safe u r perfect couple 😍❣️💐🌹🙏
Im sorry you went through a lot....that man was so evil😢
I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is such an eye opener for me and for us all to better educate our daughters too.
I am not sure why I saw this in my feed but I watched because I listen to a wide range of content. However, I must applaud your bravery. I see so many comments about how you are telling their story. Sometimes God allows bad things to happen so he can use you to inspire and heal others. From the looks of it...you certainly are. I pray that you will be blessed and even more so you will bless many other silent and suffering young & even older women with your transparency and accountability. Blessings and Love❤️❤️
That's EXACTLY why I'm here. Not sure why it ended up in my feed, but headline caught my attention and I'm open to watching diverse content.
"That's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt." by John Green...stay strong girl, God has an amazing purpose for you, receive love from Kenya
Yoh😩❤indeed❤
Gosh what a woman 🙇🏻♀️...
may you heal while trying to heal others, may your story be told by Generations to come. Love and light to my sweetheart 🕯
When I see you I will give you the biggest hug. I love your honesty and authenticity. We don’t have that enough especially in JHB where it feels like everyone is living their best and nothing else. This topic is taboo in our community, thank you for shedding light on it and putting yourself out there.
Your honest, transparency and maturity is so so admirable ❤️❤️ so glad I found your channel and thank you for sharing your story
New subbie here ❤️ I am blown away by your transparency and how boldly you speak of what pains you the most. It shows how strong you are and how much you are recovering every single day 🥺🤗 Love and light sis.
I agree, I don’t think I could ever be that honest. And the way she takes accountability for her decisions shows so much maturity and growth. Man, I hope I get there some day
Your story is touching and I do not want to judge you. Sonke siyawenza amaphutha and will not dare throw any stone at you. There are so many naive girls out there who can learn from you. I am inspired by the courage you have to speak out about your HIV status and how it came about. I feel its so liberating to listen to your story. God forgives and uses your predicament to liberate many. Be blessed Nozi!!
Beautiful comment ❤❤
You are such a courageous woman talking of abortion something no one ever wants to talk about. Power to you woman
Dont be so hard on yourself moghel. You did your best under a very difficult circumstances. Sending you love and strength
You crying as you speak about the questions you asked yourself about how your baby would've been🥺💔 I feel your pain honestly. Thank you for sharing this and being so genuine.
To think it's not my first time watching this video 😅 every year since 2020 I just keep coming back to it
I am stumbling on this video in August 2021!
I just want to say thank you for sharing and having an open heart! You are a brave soul and you are very strong for living through all of the hard times and taking life in stride. I am encouraged by you my sister and may you continue to be encouraged and radiate a positive outlook and attitude towards life!
Me too... just seen it
Same here
October 2021
You are so real! Thank you for being so open about your story, removing the shame and stigma from the things that so many people (secretly) struggle with. You had me in tears towards the end there, but it’s all about forgiving yourself because God has forgiven you. This generation needs your story, thank you for your transparency. Bless you❤️
I appreciate the realness of your channel. Thank you for sharing your truth with us and trusting us. I had the same perspective on relationships at 21. Life revealed its true colours with time.
We had a conversation around HIV with my colleagues two weeks ago. Despite us being Social workers, there's still stigma and fear around living with the virus. It's easier to counsel clients, but the anxiety of living with the virus is real. I referred them to your channel. You bring so much hope. I think I'm so ready that if I were to ever be diagnosed as HIV positive, I'd have sufficient coping mechanisms. Once again, thank you.
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Your story is similar to mine. Parents have a tendency to unawaredly place such high expectations and pressures on their children which can lead to children doing things to keep pleasing their parents. I'm glad I stumbled on this channel. 🥺🥺
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
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Right 😩
The vulnerability you expressed in this video got me to tears. You are in so strong. Sending you a big hug.
As a 20 year old your story has been so touching to me and has made me more cautious then I've ever been. I'll be testing regularly with my partner even if protection was used
Girl,the power within your story telling is amazeballs 😍 and your ability to share with us,gossshhh. U are *WOMANDLA* 👑
Your narration skills are tops! You had me listening from the start till end and I wanted more. And your emotions come through every time. Thank you for your bravery. You're educating a lot of people by sharing your struggles, know that you are blessed. Thank you.
HIV stigma still the biggest reason we still get new infection even in 2020.
HIV should be stigmatized
HIV is bad
@@britishmgtow7251 and you can't see it stupid, some go over 2 years without symptoms, until they infect you, you will understand that it shouldnt be stigmatised
@@mkdempisi
It should be stigmatized
Your comment only strengthens my belief
I just subscribed to your channel Zee❤️🤗
@@britishmgtow7251 tell the reason why. Am interested in this
The butterflies in your stomach was your intuition warning you of danger ahead. I hope all women are aware of this, thank you Nozi for opening up to us. I have so much love for you ❤️
People have the butterflies in their stomach when they're in love, it's not a negative feeling.
There’s a difference.
@@Okont actually it can be, because having butterflies in your stomach signifies nervousness and anxiety. People that you love and people that love you should not make you feel nervous and anxious, they should make you feel calm and comfortable. It’s a huge sign that she got butterflies every time he said I love you to her, it was her intuition telling her something was wrong
@@gabbyy8691 Exactly Gabbyy, I agree with you 100%. In any other context "butterflies in your stomach" is associated with negative emotions like nervousness, anxiety even intuition " gut feeling" but when in the context of love, it now all of a sudden changes? And is now a positive thing? Like how?
@@gabbyy8691 she was talking about when things were good when they first met.
I made my teenage daughters watch this today and we will be having discussions about it
First time on your Channel and I'm already loving your energy and openness.
This reminds me of the "myth" about sleeping with a virgin to get rid of HIV virus. So sorry you went through this.
Is that really a belief wow.
@@PC-ou3gk yes some south african men are crazy
Wilma Swanepoel it happens overseas as well, actually.
Former Prime Minister Jacub Zuma did the same
Yoh that's evil.
This is so honest and raw. I have the highest level of respect for you cause I can hardly be honest with myself and take responsibility. I am inspired to start trying to deal with my own past.
You honestly didn’t deserve this , you’re an amazing human ❤️
The biggest red flag was not him not openly willing to do the HIV test to give you. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Spent the whole day binging on these videos- life changing stories, wisdom and inspiration.
Same here...😂❤🙌
Yes! It’s a constant reminder to stay celibate!
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
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You're so strong i wouldn't have survived this... Kudos i respect you
pulie karmad you don’t know what you can survive till you are facing it in the face and your spirit is in fight mode
😢😢 forgiving yourself everyday and accepting. Beautiful story. Love it. So sorry you had to go through. Such brave young girl.
I just want you to know that even if your HIV POSITIVE, you can still have a HIV NEGATIVE child! Be strong you're a beautiful person!
'I became the Dr Phil of the relationship ' 😂 that part!!!! Both funny and sad...
I admire your strength and openness❤
You're beautiful, You're Brave and I'm sure you've helped alot of girls out there by sharing this❤️
Ao bathong I love this gal! I eloped with a guy only to find out that I was 5 months pregnant. We decided to test and he was positive and I was negative. I wanted to be his saviour, again imagine being pregnant and having ran from home! He started with the gals.. woman, your story is mine... Im not brave enough to write a book though. I love your strength! love from Canada
Omg thank God you are ok!
How i wish you can share more also
Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids
m.ua-cam.com/video/SRueeln3WDA/v-deo.html
How? You were having unprotected sex right?? How come you were negative?
You are so strong 😭❤
Yaz at first when I saw your caption I was very judgemental and then I decided to listen to your story and and couldn't be more ashamed of myself,you are a brave woman and I respect you. Thank you.❤🥺
I just came across this video & I'm amazed by your strength, maturity & courage especially how you handle the shocks. God keep blessing you sister. You are an inspiration ✨
Aww girl... Hugs to you. You are a beautiful and brave young woman who went through what we all go through, and that is to fall in love with a wrong man. There's a reason why the events in your life occurred. Thank you for sharing your story and using your pain to heal others. Someone out there may be going through the exact same thing and watching you speak and live so unapologetically may help save their life.
You are a very very beautiful woman. You look exactly like my 15 years old daughter. Very sad that that Monster infected you,I am letting my daughter watch this video to learn how to protect herself when she get older and never trust any man story. You are a learning experience for every young/older Christian women to be very careful.
If we all had this rawness so many lives would be saved, nothing about that is ridiculous your scars,flaws & all make the strong person you are,totally respect you for all the responsibility you own up to.
Wow, I just randomly came across you and this story... You're so strong! You tell your story so well, I was so engaged the whole time with what you were saying. It's awful how you were treated by that poor excuse, but now you're telling your story to help people, as well as help yourself to heal. Sending love & prayers and good vibes your way!!
She’s so brave
Her voice break at the end has me crying 😭😭
So proud of you Nozi! You've always been the bravest despite adversity, even when we were young, innocent and bright eyed. You are serving a purpose and possibly saving another young woman's life. Thank you & hope our paths cross again.
Bumped into this, thought I would cry but I watched with so much pride. We are so proud of you Strong Queen👑.
I'm new to this channel and I think I'm going to stick around. Thank you for your bravery and breaking the stigma around HIV. We need to educate our young girls on love and relationships and everything that comes with it. God bless. 🌻🌻🌻
First loves can sometimes be dangerously blinding.
Our heart outsmarts every form of thinking and rationalization.
We've all been lovestruck and stuck before.
Some of us are spared to survive and walk away from the relationship with mental, physical, emotional scars so deeply damaging and devastating. Then we start to heal, learn, love ourselves, live, then flourish💜
Love dies without trust.
Then again there are people who STAY- pain and suffering becomes the norm.
Thanks for sharing and educating Nozi! You are a very smart woman with a beautiful heart and the spirit of a warrior!
I hope and pray for all those affected/ infected to be completely loved, cherished and protected 🙏🏾
You’re so brave. I’m so sorry you went through everything you went through.
Your strength is admirable. ❤️Thank you for your story and honesty.
Do not be apologetic at all about your feelings, decisions etc, nothing you say is silly, you don't have to excuse what you feel all your feelings are valid and this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Nobuhle Zulu Amen❤️
Girl that man is evil, I think he intentionally gave you HIV. He'll have his karma. Thanks for sharing your story and reminding sisters to cautious. Your strength is admirable.
Especially when he was dancing around the fact that he needs to get tested- major red flag!!
I am sorry you went through all of that. I feel like he knew he was positive and decided to give you HIV. You are a strong person for sure.
He definitely knew
They almost always know… always used condoms.
This is why I'm sexually abstinent (20 year old male). I don't wanna catch HIV or something. Men like that are just embarrassing
You have the balls of a man to share this. I am a virgin and I am 24. I also have strict parents and raised in a christian home, and I have as my principle to wait till marriage and you have just opened my eyes to what to never fall for. Thank you for sharing your experience I am learning from it. You are a weapon of change, to be opening up and creating a platform to talk about the most stigmatized topics in our society. You are such a bubbly spirit and an open person. May you learn to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself, what would life be without mistakes, how would we learn.
"You are a Weapon of Change" is THE most powerful statement I have heard 2022... 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Husband give wives HIV to
Don't be too hard on yourself. Sending my love 💖
Just watched your first video and I love you . Heal baby girl , God will heal your soul and everything was meant to happen . You’re brave , amazing , smart and I feel like you have a beautiful soul .
Her energy is everything 🤣❤ sbwling to be in that same room with a glass of wine and just listen to your stories 🤣🤣
Neo Aya Me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Listen!!! 🤣🤣🤣
I watched one of your videos before this one where you were with your husband. I think he gave us a good description of you. You are very mature for your age. You are not easily influenced you love yourself and prioritize yourself. Which many women out there are lacking
😂😂🤣 Dude, I feel like I know her as she narrates
Me too😂😂😂
Your so Strong. May God see you through, you will live long
Omg my heart broke for you. Women go throw a lot when dealing with men especially when you’re young and naive. I’m glad you were able to move on from this. Stay strong beautiful !
Thank you for being strong enough and confident enough to inform others about decisions and how you went through so much yet still standing proudly and well knowledged
Sis Nozzie, I stumbled upon your vlogs today and honestly it's because the universe needed me to see this I guess. I really needed to hear your story inoder to accept my own thank you for being the special soul that you are and I can't stop crying but now these are tears of hope and to see you beautiful as you are shows me that I'm going to be just fine.
The universe needed me to see this too. 09/10/2021
I met some really amazing ladies in the comment section 🥺
This is the kind of stuff that must go viral.
This is one the things one can never forget but learn to accept.🥺Thank you for your story sis....I pray we heal
Great story telling. You are so brave. I got married a virgin. Even after our native ceremony we waited till our white wedding. Just felt like I had waited that long so a few more days would not kill us. Your story is very meaningful, thanks for sharing. I find that these stories help those waiting to meet the right one. Many people don't talk about how abortions affect them, you are a blessing.