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  • Narcissists will blame you for catching them cheating or lying to you
    Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.
    The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.
    Website - www.mentalhealness.net
    1 on 1's and all my links - beacons.page/m...
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    Thank you so much

КОМЕНТАРІ • 114

  • @lizdiaz69
    @lizdiaz69 Рік тому +32

    My ex-cn used to say, your jealousy & insecurities is ruining our relationship and is killing the trust. Therefore he can’t trust me!

  • @Mayfloweralways
    @Mayfloweralways Рік тому +39

    It’s a horrible thing. And they have no remorse. My ex’s first words were, “why did you have to show up? Since you know now, I did it other times. You just didn’t know.” 6 months later he texted me that he had not seen me in a while, and could I send him a picture. Sick.

    • @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc
      @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc 8 місяців тому

      Same here. My heart is just destroyed too. But guess what, I got a nice dick pic series out of the blue sent to me phone, after he had discarded me, taken our dog, made me believe he was the sweetest guy for a year -- now I am trash and only worthy of a nasty ass dick pic of his

  • @evanewton1974
    @evanewton1974 Рік тому +29

    My Narcissistic ex husband would day things like "We can be very happy if you would just let us!" And he would say "We have been through a lot together! But he was the one causing it all!!

  • @chandelle_glee
    @chandelle_glee Рік тому +35

    I love this 💯🤪 so true. They say things like your never gonna trust me so this will never work. oh I mise well be cheating if your gonna accuse me of it. I’m not responding or dignifying that question.
    They just talk talk talk trash trash trash. It’s turned around on you. I’ve never been so mentally exhausted in my life. Your so right. We wait for a confession to leave. When the way they treat us is all the motive we truly need to leave.

    • @floramiscal2450
      @floramiscal2450 Рік тому +2

      Mine said exactly the same things. “Since you’re never gonna trust me”. “Since I don’t ever know if you’re gonna leave again” …….

    • @massielmartinez1579
      @massielmartinez1579 Рік тому

      Facts.

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 Рік тому

      ​@@2020dmsJust got told that no more than a couple of hours ago.
      (For the 90 millionth time)
      My brains feel scrambled.

  • @louisegarner8888
    @louisegarner8888 Рік тому +27

    When it doesn't add up ... a liar's worst enemy is someone with a good memory who trusts their gut and loves journalling facts ... "Lying is a disease and truth is the cure." ~ Arabic Proverb 😎🙏🙌

  • @emmawooten1799
    @emmawooten1799 Рік тому +10

    It's gotten to a point where he'll literally justify things like cheating, lying, and calling me names by saying that he's in charge and can do whatever he wants because he's bigger and stronger and will beat me up if I call him out.
    I feel like I'm talking to my middle school bully sometimes

  • @beetleything1864
    @beetleything1864 Рік тому +10

    Absolutely- found out she was interested in another guy from her past via emails to a girl pal. When confronted she said if things where better between us she wouldn’t have done it, blaming me and yes mad that i saw her emails. Huge fuss.

  • @BratCats2u
    @BratCats2u Рік тому +9

    It was so infuriating to deal with!

  • @seizuregirlllll
    @seizuregirlllll 9 місяців тому +5

    It’s the WEIRDEST thing! They cheated and somehow is my fault or some excuse went into it 😂 crazy crazy crazyyyyyy

  • @Rollergirl1980
    @Rollergirl1980 Рік тому +12

    So true. My ex admitted to cheating but says it’s ok because we were living apart and still getting along at the time (mind you I had no idea).

  • @janicechristner2924
    @janicechristner2924 Рік тому +3

    You know what I like the most about this guy is he flat out let’s us know how ridiculous we really are when dealing with the narcissists lies blaming gas lighting cheating without being nasty about it. His ability to show us what we look like and sound like helps me more than anything else awesome videos

  • @karasloan182
    @karasloan182 Рік тому +2

    "Don't ask questions that you don't really want to know."

  • @shaspearman8647
    @shaspearman8647 Рік тому +11

    He told me I make him feel like he can’t be himself when I hold him accountable or I let him know he lied to me. And sad he doesn’t even see it’s a problem 😂 These people something else

    • @ellediggs7133
      @ellediggs7133 Рік тому

      Always spinning the blame !!! Blame shifting at it’s finest!!!!
      They all use THE SAME DUSTY OLD PLAY BOOK! Morons! Eventually, we are going to group together and talk about y’all, like you have always “smeared about us “ then they act “BUTT HURT” and surprised that we too CAN PLAY THE NARCISSIST GAME , we’ve been playing it with them for years … 34 years in my case!!! Trifling, JUST TRIFLING!!!

    • @heyonope7682
      @heyonope7682 Рік тому

      Yep I make him walk on egg shells

  • @Slumvillagept7rv
    @Slumvillagept7rv 7 місяців тому +3

    My ex is just like this… lies even when the proof is right there smh

  • @yuktiarora7105
    @yuktiarora7105 Рік тому +2

    I just feel, when with narc become like narc, dont tell them you know, just become silent, that will crib them itself

  • @stellashelton621
    @stellashelton621 10 місяців тому +3

    My favorite is if you look you’re going to find something.

    • @danieljohn3438
      @danieljohn3438 Місяць тому

      Sometimes that saying is true though. It's called confirmation bias.

  • @carlineprime7344
    @carlineprime7344 7 місяців тому +3

    A woman sent me a screenshot of a messages from facebook messenger that she had with my bf. The message shows my bf starting the conversation with her and asking her out. She told him dont u have a gf and that’s disrespectful. I brought it to his attention. He tells me… “ I didn’t send her these messages “ “oh so u r going to believe outsiders?” “These ppl don’t want us to win” “she is jealous, that’s y she sent these to u”. OMFG!!!! Never holding himself accountable and won’t admit anything

  • @melscorner4598
    @melscorner4598 Рік тому +3

    I recently experienced this and what you said he did the exact same things. I told him he was gas lighting me and I wasn't looking for a confession. When l saw all the text messages between him and multiple women. I did not get mad..l got done with this behind. He told me it was over because I went through his phone. I said ok (grey rock him) then he tried to say he set me up and had fake conversation. I laughed at him. Then l ended the conversation because he interrupted my peace and sleep. I completely ghosted him..and it felt good

  • @cc5684
    @cc5684 Рік тому +4

    Sad but Absolutely true !

  • @mistyblue2917
    @mistyblue2917 Рік тому +2

    Conviction vs confession.. that helps us take our power back, thanks. Yes yes yes im nodding along w everything you said at the end, relatable..

  • @CoachG7K
    @CoachG7K Рік тому +4

    Bro you are exactly right

  • @mistyblue2917
    @mistyblue2917 Рік тому +1

    Lol love the random cloth to differentiate the characters 😂, the acting n info was on point as well, thanks Lee!!

  • @Chosenoneforever
    @Chosenoneforever Рік тому +6

    And he has crazy ass eyes! I was told a man that has those type of eyes are crazy! Lee whats up?

  • @phoenixrising4768
    @phoenixrising4768 Рік тому +1

    This conversation is so spot on. Lol. Your trust issues are going to destroy us. Oh damn!

  • @Chosenoneforever
    @Chosenoneforever Рік тому +7

    I am screaming🤣🤣he did that to me. Lol. Jeaus this dude is sick for real. I sure did go through his phone. That's how i found out he was cheating on me with multiple people. Damn! Got me wondering how many chicks how many dudes! These type of people would get you killed. Run for your life

  • @katiestevens2704
    @katiestevens2704 Рік тому +5

    My abusive narc ex would always flip it or he would always root his cellphone. So there was absolutely no proof anywhere. He also had numerous phones.. had my. Phone completely hacked.. but yet i was the Cheater ...until one day a random chick messaged me and she wondered if him and i were together..we exchanged screenshots of texts... his excuse was "i was trying to get one of my phones from her". Any time i would bring up the female that messaged me, apparently i had a fascination for tge female he was cheating on me with..narcs are good at twisting everything. Im glad i was able to leave and now im a survivor! :)

    • @katiestevens2704
      @katiestevens2704 Рік тому

      @Rodleen McDuffie thanks! You too :)

    • @Lawrenceshow_me
      @Lawrenceshow_me Рік тому

      👆👆he can help 👆👆
      Living with a Narcissist is a worst type of living! The gaslight and lies! Get a basic analysis of what your partner does in secret! This professional can get you TEXT MESSAGES! CALL LOGS! EMAILS AND SOCIAL MEDIA all clouds (DELETEL AND NON DELETED MESSAGES)

    • @ebee24
      @ebee24 4 місяці тому

      What does rooting do to the phone? My ex would ALWAYS do that to his phones but would make up a million excuses to show me how to do it on my phone. Now I'm genuinely curious.

  • @gabriellebyczek5192
    @gabriellebyczek5192 Рік тому +3

    Or even so “I’m not cheating on you”, catch them on five different dating apps five years into the relationship, he even cheated me with a neighbor three years in I left him then. They never stop cheating

  • @shondachesshir8091
    @shondachesshir8091 Рік тому +1

    Literally just had this exact conversation, mind blowing!

  • @lyrr2582
    @lyrr2582 Рік тому +4

    hell yeah! he cheat on me couple of times, and whenever I caught him he put the blame on me telling twas my fault because I am not a good woman🙄 telling me his new supply is a good one. but after few weeks he keep calling me and I talked to him once he said he miss me and wanna hit up and clap cheeks.🙄🙄

  • @antoniok7224
    @antoniok7224 2 місяці тому

    My ex Narc only said WOW when I caught her in a lie & I left it alone & change the subject & she went silent mode lol!

  • @kianaortega6100
    @kianaortega6100 Рік тому +2

    Perfectly explain. Thanks 🙏

  • @allsouls5997
    @allsouls5997 Рік тому +1

    Lying was her profession

  • @kristasparks33
    @kristasparks33 Рік тому +1

    You are actually a hope that narcissistic people can change by admitting your a narcissist and helping people

  • @soyicasweet99
    @soyicasweet99 9 місяців тому

    This video is so true. I caught conversations in my Narcs phone last might and he screamed got violent and said i ruined a good night. Even hit me. The girl was telling him she loved him and complaining he is not making time for her.

  • @PatriciaWilliams-pg2wp
    @PatriciaWilliams-pg2wp Рік тому +2

    My ex narcissistic doordasher called me insecure and bipolar I'm done with him I said goodbye to him enough said.

  • @sgtmuffinbadger6147
    @sgtmuffinbadger6147 Рік тому +3

    This is accurate

  • @phoenixrising4768
    @phoenixrising4768 Рік тому +1

    He somehow turned it around me. He wouldn't have done it if I wouldn't have pushed him.

  • @almor2445
    @almor2445 Місяць тому

    I just found out my GF has been cheating on me for at least a year. Best case scenario, she's been lying straight to my face even when I knew deep down, promising on her daughter's life she hasn't done anything. Now I'm wondering about the past. Someone close to her told me she's been cheating with multiple men for at least 4 years! I have every reason to believe the person telling me this and when confronted (even after I caught her with the new guy) she's still blaming me for asking questions about the past. I've just blocked her. Only ever onwards. No sense looking back, you're not going that way. She's insane! And that I let myself be misled for 6 years doesn't make me a bad person. She's a car-crash of a human being though. She will never feel love or loved and that's tragic.

  • @patriciamcnamara9842
    @patriciamcnamara9842 6 місяців тому +1

    I have never did anything he's is a Narasstic, I told him never going to convince me as I have strong mind!!

  • @mandytreadway8112
    @mandytreadway8112 6 місяців тому

    Caught my narcissist in a lie. Confronted him about it. He got mad, started mocking me, started cussing and yelling. Then when I didn't give him a reaction and instead calmly broke up with him and told him to leave. He started accusing me of things I never did, bringing up past issues, just anything to turn the conversation from him to me. He tried desperately to play victim as usual. I still wouldn't give him a reaction. He took his things and left and I haven't heart from him in 2 days now. Think I got lucky this time cause usually he's tried to call or text by now

  • @labaebae441
    @labaebae441 Рік тому +2

    Lee I was just asking myself why you had that thing on on your head? and my answer was oh that his hat😅😅😅

  • @badbeachindustry1615
    @badbeachindustry1615 Рік тому +1

    My mother raised me to have strong boundaries, and to be private. (My mother never went through my journals, never went through my room and never invaded my phone. Because she enjoys minding her own business) I was RAISED that if something serious was happening, I'd tell you her myself and she would help me anyway she could. . my ex partner claims to be a anxiety ridden mess of a person and made me feel violated by giving me TMI and him and his mother SHAMED me / literally called me a "THE SNAKE" because of my boundaries. Who's the toxic person here??? I dont even think my ex or his mother are narcissists. Theyre just emotionally immature and seriously manipulative. (I was physically and emotionally assaulted over this. Hence why he Is a ex) am I toxic?? I dont think someone who is inclined to blowing things out of proportion should be entitled access to my personal shit....am I still the toxic person here??

  • @ladybugforest3687
    @ladybugforest3687 Рік тому

    I went thru that exact scenario. The next day he tried to call. I was extremely clear no contact or I file a restraining order. Then weeks late he called me blaming me for everything that went wrong. However I was intoxicated so I basically said what I needed. I blocked him and then the next day he called I said no, he tried to say something else I said no, no, no. Hung up. Made sure to block all numbers he use. No contact no talk now I have peace

  • @kissmegoodbyenow
    @kissmegoodbyenow Рік тому

    Yes, yes and yes. Times TEN THOUSAND. 😂

  • @almariesimpson7422
    @almariesimpson7422 Рік тому

    Omg! This had happened to me so much time.

    • @Lawrenceshow_me
      @Lawrenceshow_me Рік тому

      👆👆he can help 👆👆
      Living with a Narcissist is a worst type of living! The gaslight and lies! Get a basic analysis of what your partner does in secret! This professional can get you TEXT MESSAGES! CALL LOGS! EMAILS AND SOCIAL MEDIA all clouds (DELETEL AND NON DELETED MESSAGES)

  • @sanjanagrover7436
    @sanjanagrover7436 8 місяців тому +1

    my ex bf told me that u did not give me time so I was compelled to cheat on u! How can he blame me??

  • @brittanymcneil50
    @brittanymcneil50 5 місяців тому

    And they can even beat you up

  • @PulseMaktuf
    @PulseMaktuf 27 днів тому

    I caught a guy I was dating cheating and he blamed me saying I wasn't available when he wanted me to be so I ended it immediately

  • @elipatches8577
    @elipatches8577 Рік тому

    My just did this I caught him looking At another woman online and he said you’re the one looking for something to fight about

  • @tcordery6104
    @tcordery6104 Рік тому +1

    ya Im in a sling right now for just that

  • @fiercesalonhairlash4482
    @fiercesalonhairlash4482 Рік тому +2

    Exactly

  • @VitasDream
    @VitasDream Рік тому

    This is my estranged husband who is now living off his mistress

  • @destinywright5627
    @destinywright5627 Рік тому

    I’m in the process of divorce .. My soon to be ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and I left him. I recently spoke to him so we can be better coparent. So we can have closure for the situation he told me “I didn’t cheat. I had a mess up “ “I never cheated. Stop saying I cheated. You’re lying. “ one minute he says sorry. The next he takes it back and changes the story. I’ve never felt so hurt in my life. How can you cheat on someone get caught and continue to lie in my face and blame me for everything ? It’s sad.

  • @22PathsTarot
    @22PathsTarot Рік тому

    This was to a key

  • @Onibocho11
    @Onibocho11 Рік тому

    I was told just by finding out the cheating, makes them mad. Even if by accident. Why?

  • @tinaralls3936
    @tinaralls3936 Рік тому

    Bingo!

  • @joehernandez3822
    @joehernandez3822 Рік тому

    She never getting that good good again lol

  • @MacyLuv
    @MacyLuv 5 місяців тому +3

    A narcissist I knew lies so much I stopped telling his current gf. I started being grateful that someone else took him. It's honestly kind of sad. 😔 I hope his soul finds the help he so desperately needs.

  • @stanleywilliams1765
    @stanleywilliams1765 Рік тому

    When dealing with women this is a catch 22

  • @Evermore2017
    @Evermore2017 9 місяців тому

    The mind f***.

  • @wholelottaajuannn9850
    @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

    Aye bro I got a narcissist person well (people) who been gang stalking me nd Shii and hasn’t left me alone what do I do I’m getting tired of it and to top it all of I had no partake in this and somehow it turned into me even tho Ian do shit they are invading my privacy and it’s getting really annoying what you recommend that I should do?

    • @wholelottaajuannn9850
      @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

      This been going on for over a year know nd the person don’t seem to understand that I don’t want them in my life nd I guess tht makes them mad and do all this Shii but I just want it to stop why do I have to pay for something tht I didn’t even do?

    • @wholelottaajuannn9850
      @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

      Nd then the narcissist got ppl tht I knew to spy on me nd Shii but I just be questioning myself like “wtf I do to get all this is it was yo fault why I have to get the blame for Shii that 1.Ian even start 2.they won’t leave me alone clearly after I left them 3.they keep on causing drama Shii ion even wanna partake i want nun to do with them at all they think we at war but I’m just chillin nd they mad

    • @wholelottaajuannn9850
      @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

      She wanna make me jealous or sum everytime nd I just like mentally blocked her like girl ain’t nobody gone fight fa ya ass nd tbh I just wanna be left alone by all these goons like why y’all still involve with me where I don’t want to be involve they alway like starting some type of drama nd idk if they can’t tell but I could give 2 fuck

  • @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc
    @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc 8 місяців тому

    So disturbing and heartbreaking. What does that make me to feel like I am his twin soul. I miss him so much. But he is the opposite of who he was and he forgot my birthday and didn’t care and then I get a random series of dic pics.

    • @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc
      @PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc 8 місяців тому

      Knowing he has slept with whomever he can the whole time and just …….. I am so angry at myself for thinking he was for real

  • @wldncrzy1971
    @wldncrzy1971 Рік тому

    Yuuuup…dummy was doin it with one of my coworkers lol 38 with 2 kids runnin after a 20 yr old 🤦🏼‍♀️ I hadn’t seen or talked to him for 3 days. He texted me on the 4th day to tell ME to ‘stop intruding on his personal privacy’….ummm sure lol bye, fool lol

  • @wholelottaajuannn9850
    @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому +1

    Run forest run

  • @annettedevries7559
    @annettedevries7559 Рік тому +3

    They say the same things... blll. 🤮

  • @wholelottaajuannn9850
    @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

    Lmk tho frfr in need of help Ion want nothing to do with the person at all like nobody want ya ahhh like move on from me fr Ian the only person in the Sea like she fr just came on and started shitting on my life like Don’t bother me bother someone’s else we done

    • @wholelottaajuannn9850
      @wholelottaajuannn9850 Рік тому

      Like you need some hoes or what go get game and leave me alone

    • @Lawrenceshow_me
      @Lawrenceshow_me Рік тому

      👆👆he can help 👆👆
      Living with a Narcissist is a worst type of living! The gaslight and lies! Get a basic analysis of what your partner does in secret! This professional can get you TEXT MESSAGES! CALL LOGS! EMAILS AND SOCIAL MEDIA all clouds (DELETEL AND NON DELETED MESSAGES)

  • @marycan5344
    @marycan5344 10 місяців тому

    😂😂😂😂

  • @valenciahenderson3489
    @valenciahenderson3489 9 місяців тому

    lmao.....sooo true ...Lee I love you ...waiting for that comedy show

  • @carlineprime7344
    @carlineprime7344 7 місяців тому

    Yoooo straight confused. He always confuses me. 🫤

  • @JonathanHarris-by2ik
    @JonathanHarris-by2ik Рік тому +3

    I'm honored to have this team around in this hard time Thank you for always supporting and helping me with your private investigator plans to the fullest! Thanks *Astratrusthq! on the internet* The world has been pretty bad lately. Almost everyone have been crying practically, but it kept happening. That's what you get when you feel you can navigate the process on your own. Big thanks to you. I'm not bothered with how bad the world is because my narcissistic has been caught cheating because are insured due to your advice and I still got my divorce .,;

  • @JonathanHarris-by2ik
    @JonathanHarris-by2ik Рік тому +2

    I'm honored to have this team around in this hard time Thank you for always supporting and helping me with your private investigator plans to the fullest! Thanks *Astratrusthq! on the internet* The world has been pretty bad lately. Almost everyone have been crying practically, but it kept happening. That's what you get when you feel you can navigate the process on your own. Big thanks to you. I'm not bothered with how bad the world is because my narcissistic has been caught cheating because are insured due to your advice and I still got my divorce .,;