Narcissists will lie even when you present proof or evidence because the truth isnt their goal

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  • @joeycooper6223
    @joeycooper6223 2 роки тому +36

    When you show the truth that's when aggressive and rage begins.

  • @serenamoon248
    @serenamoon248 2 роки тому +26

    This is so true, MANY MANY TIMES I HAVE TOOK PICTURES/ VIDEOS, EVIDENCE of my ex doing something and he denied it to my face... and I believed him... I was so abused by him, if he told me my cats were dogs, I would have believed him... but very early in the beginning of our relationship, I walked in on him while he had a cigarette in his mouth and inhaled it ( he wasn't supposed to be smoking ) and I looked him DEAD IN THE EYES, and he looked at me and froze, and we fought, he said " I wasn't smoking a cigarette" and I said " dude, I saw you INHAIL IT, AND EVERYTHING !!" and he said no I didn't. ( he was drunk this time so I thought he was too drunk to know what he was doing ...) ( this was the first of many..) another time I found a pill bottle in his car, ( he was selling and he told me he doesn't get prescribed those pills anymore/) but it has his name on it, the DATE it was picked up and prescribed, he denied it. Said it was an old bottle, and again, he gaslit me into thinking all the evidence I had, was somehow a weird coincidence ... another time, this is about 7 years later... I was getting strong, I started to record , and so I went into his car, and I found a baggie , and I took a video, took a picture, sent it to him, saying WHY IS THIS IN YOUR CAR !?!?! HE said " that's not mine. You probably put it in their " ( I do not smoke, or do drugs I stay as far away as possible ) and by this time, I was fed up. In court he said " idk how that got in my car, she probably put it in their to set me up. Knowing IT WAS HIS !!!! ohhh, wow, just endless abuse. I was so messed up emotionally, but then I got strong at the end before it got real abusive, and somehow I NEEDED him to ADMIT to me, I NEEDED him to admit what he did, so I could feel no remorse for being mad or breaking up with him, and he never admitted to anything so I thought I was the horrible gf....

  • @Kimillions
    @Kimillions 2 роки тому +25

    It's amazing because you go from being sad and confused-but once educated- it's all actually quite funny. 🤣 It's funny for me because they are all sooooo predictable. lol It's almost unbelievable lol

    • @TheDivinePriestess
      @TheDivinePriestess 2 роки тому +1

      Extremely funny and "ironic" because they think them constantly playing mind fuckery games will throw their victims off balance by confusing them not knowing that the more they play mind games, the more easier it is for them to be so predictable 😂🙄

    • @Played4days
      @Played4days Місяць тому

      It’s actually really funny

  • @SkacyMaeTarot
    @SkacyMaeTarot Місяць тому +1

    Eventually, I realized that the truth or an apology wont ever come. Therefore, I've learned the art of disassociating with narc abusers. It's much easier to just block them and keep moving forward, than to fight for the truth. Loneliness beats abuse, anyday.

  • @r.h.5420
    @r.h.5420 2 роки тому +20

    Hearing it straight from your mouth what is going on in the Narcs head is worth more than buying All the books or taking any classes on the subject. Thank You so much Lee for keeping it real with us! That takes So Much Bravery , Confidence, and Self Growth!! This is the Exact Reason Why you keep being told You are So Helpful. The confession from a Narcissist is So Important to some because we honestly would confess out of Respect for the other individual, no matter what the outcome, We were Just hoping for the same in return. It turns into so much more than it has to when ever there is Any amount of "having" to lie.

  • @Played4days
    @Played4days Місяць тому +1

    Not me thinking I would be a good private investigator earlier 😭😭 lmfao humbled me real quick

  • @sunnyshine1015
    @sunnyshine1015 2 роки тому +12

    This is why you need to just walk away or run fast. Thanks Lee ❤

  • @harperhope2167
    @harperhope2167 2 роки тому +8

    Caught mid-clap. 🤣 God will show you all the proof you need if you just trust your initial intuition. That's when the truth comes pouring in but once you see it, you can't unsee it and it's ugly and actually illegal in a lot of cases. Narcs love forgiveness while they never forgive even when you didn't actually do anything or you simply responded to what they did to you. When hypocrisy abounds, don't stick around. You are the prize and the one worth fighting for. ❤

  • @summerpax
    @summerpax 2 роки тому +5

    After years of lies, gaslighting, and me having doubts, but no evidence, the truth saved my life and maybe others who were about to be sucked in. It was important to me to finally know for real. So I paid for an investigation. I was warned not to expect much from revealing what I knew. I already had decided to get out for good. The lack of an apology or remorse hurt . But, I soon got over that by watching him try to spin doctor a new reality for himself. It was hilarious and actually cheered me up! The potential hoovers were really sweet people and grateful. Doing that little bit of good was enough for me to move forward.

  • @erinmorrow5001
    @erinmorrow5001 2 роки тому +7

    This advice saved my life.....literally.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 роки тому +1

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🥺♥️♥️

    • @livonce81
      @livonce81 8 місяців тому +2

      I don’t think he understands how much. God uses whatever whoever to do His job❤

  • @nme0830
    @nme0830 5 днів тому

    This short video has changed my perspective massively. Thankyou for your work and for sharing it.

  • @someoneyoudontknow7705
    @someoneyoudontknow7705 2 роки тому +16

    Yup! My mom was INTENT on telling me we did something last time she was here visiting. I knew 100% that didn’t happen. She finally gave in and said it didn’t but then tried to switch it to something else that also didn’t happen 🤦‍♀️. She was just trying to f*ck with my mind cuz she knows I have a bad memory because I have a seizure disorder and my seizures have increased dramatically these last couple years and have affected my memory. However, I know what I know and I know what I don’t know, if that makes sense. But she just wanted to confuse me and rely on her and believe her and question myself. Didn’t work and I finally cut her off for the last time. I let her back in after my brother died and she did treat me better for awhile. But she went back to herself and needs the drama. I don’t need it or want it. She tried contacting me through my grandma. I text her that me not talking to her doesn’t mean I’m talking to her via a 3rd party; it means she’s not in my life AT ALL. I told her to get her entertainment elsewhere.

  • @jessalfan24
    @jessalfan24 2 роки тому +4

    Yes! Lost so many good friends & for what? Fr.. lesson learned!

  • @christinaherren
    @christinaherren Рік тому +1

    I'm dealing with a narc colleague. I'm been working overtime to prove that he is a liar. My boss thinks it just honest mistake. Sure over and over again. I'm exhausted. You're right I know the truth, he knows it too.

  • @christinavolpe879
    @christinavolpe879 Рік тому +1

    Mine was exactly that in every way. I presented, he laughed, he lied, I left.

  • @VanityGold
    @VanityGold 2 роки тому +11

    I had a narc apologize on a Monday by Weds he was back to the same bullshi* I just laughed. When I said I have the call recorded, they said it wasn't me.. SHAGGY 🤣🤣🤣I said stay off my phone. 🙄... you've got to find comedy in there perverse reality. me and a gf get a giggle at least once a week..

    • @summerpax
      @summerpax 2 роки тому +2

      Praise the gift of laughter! It gets you through dealing with them.

    • @VanityGold
      @VanityGold 2 роки тому

      @@summerpax Yes it does! I just meet people where they are. Im not trying to change anyone but I will adapt accordingly to the person and situation. But refuse to argue, sometimes laughing is the best thing to do and keep on moving. They see you laugh they know you don't take them seriously and it pisses them off... Hence gets that addicted,obsessed and then they can't figure you out so they keep up the shananagians...if you like games on Fridays this is the best person to play with... After all they can be tons of fun 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Cookie-JA2012
    @Cookie-JA2012 День тому

    This is the part that i'm trying to bury but comes at me when someone else lies to me (with a smile...) for sadistic reasons. Maybe once I'm done with my agent I'll be less reminded daily of the usage and lies. We're going with that. I definitely feel like I'm heading towards a no-bs atmosphere.

  • @zelloresharrison7035
    @zelloresharrison7035 2 роки тому +6

    You are not lying I love you and videos it keeps me laughing and stops me from crying because everything you saying is the truth 💯

  • @gloriouscontent3538
    @gloriouscontent3538 2 роки тому +7

    The truth is negotiable, because its not that important.

  • @CECE1839
    @CECE1839 Рік тому +2

    True That, Yes, they will Lie, lie, Lie, yes, Lie, Lie, to flip it on the Other, Because the true does Not matter. And, folks Don’t argue the True, and then, Stay in an unHealthy space 😢😢

  • @katface28
    @katface28 11 місяців тому +1

    I feel so targeted by that Slitherin comment 🤣🤣

  • @nikkioh7584
    @nikkioh7584 2 роки тому +3

    Lord EVERYTHING U saying is true 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @TheBonemother
    @TheBonemother 2 роки тому +3

    Thanks for clarifying so many things.

  • @NarrowPath_7
    @NarrowPath_7 2 місяці тому +1

    Yes. I have video proof of a narcissist posing an attack towards me, and the person is lying that they did no such thing. Also, narcs love to blame shift and try to say oh well you made me do this. As if they don't have any accountability. That's a demonic spirit behind those people.

  • @zelloresharrison7035
    @zelloresharrison7035 2 роки тому +5

    Yes a friend asked me last month.. so why do you stay...I said trauma bonded 🤦🏿‍♀️💯

  • @OshKoshWorldwide
    @OshKoshWorldwide 2 роки тому +4

    Wow!! Very interesting. Cant wait to hear this. 👏🏾 🔥 👏🏾 🔥

  • @DeeEm14
    @DeeEm14 Місяць тому +1

    Educate yourself on the mannerisms and patterns that narcissists helplessly show. If you wanna record them or gather evidence of their nonsense then just know it won’t make a difference AT ALL. Keep your feelings to yourself and NEVER let your guard down for any reason. If you decide to stay then stay just you will never be appreciated or respected. EVER!

  • @VibinWithRunnTheSnowman
    @VibinWithRunnTheSnowman Місяць тому +1

    3:04 so basically the mind of a narcissist is they are willing to destroy any relationship no matter how long it was because you still stay with them. So basically they push every relationship to the complete edge of destruction everytime compared to constantly improve to not risk losing the relationship. I suppose narcissistic cant comprehend this mindset lets to constant relationship failures. They just keep trying to get new relationships for supply

  • @Mothermochi
    @Mothermochi 2 роки тому

    This has been the hardest aspect of this. I have always cared about the “rules” my ex would make fun of me for it when we were on good terms.
    But this is one aspect of my personality he has been able to exploit the most. He is a accuses me of things using half truths or outright lies. He watches me spin my wheels with facts, context, history. The urge to correct the record has been my undoing in this mess. It’s so heartbreaking on so many different levels

  • @amberchrist6469
    @amberchrist6469 2 роки тому +4

    My Narcissistist is used to Jail, because he is a Career Con, Lollll

  • @deec1601
    @deec1601 2 роки тому +3

    Your videos are a welcome addition to the healing journey .. it feels good to actually laugh again - thank you!

  • @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat
    @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat 2 роки тому +3

    Lie lie lie 👖 on 🔥 Your videos have truth🧨, analogies, logic, life lessons with humor 😆 It does shine a our insanity or fog

  • @IsraelWillBeFree
    @IsraelWillBeFree 2 роки тому +1

    I remember telling mine, "why don't you just get honest? I know the truth and I still stay so why not just be honest?!" Well, I'm gone now. Tomorrow will be seven days divorced. His lies got him what he wanted but he plays the victim so as to not have to take responsibility for being a failure and behind everyone's backs schemes and does his own crazy crap that he pretends he doesn't do and then illicit a reaction according to what he did and claims that's the original point of attack.. out of the blue.. out of nowhere.. no... he attacks... I react. My mentality is if he thinks he is allowed to lie then I should be allowed to tell the truth. I don't know why people have an issue with that. People will be relieved to know they're not just suspicious. Maybe he will learn to behave and it will all force him to get help because he's exposed. Or he will just move

  • @rbjerineck
    @rbjerineck 2 роки тому +2

    It also helps not admitting anything so you can accuse the other one of *over reacting* and *talking shiiiiiit* because he/she doesn't have proof/admission and so are not credible. And even if you have evidence, they will minimize it, like it was a joke by text.

  • @zelloresharrison7035
    @zelloresharrison7035 2 роки тому +4

    So funny but on point...so true

  • @finetrue
    @finetrue 2 роки тому +2

    Before knowing about NPD, we argue based on normal logic since we can not imagine or believe such evil exists, especially when it is someone we love. We desire a confession or apology to be able to understand the situation and resolve the issue. Either leave or stay, we want to find a closure. Knowing about this does help a lot. Dealing with Narc requires us going against all the natural instincts of trying to solve problems peacefully, constructively, or collaboratively 😅

  • @ogjuldish9019
    @ogjuldish9019 2 роки тому +3

    I did get a confession, it was waaaaaay toooo late, he's right it was useless. It was awnry and done although truthful, meant to hoover. Disgusting, ugly and haunted me instead of relieved like we think we want okay?

  • @Secret_Life_Saver
    @Secret_Life_Saver 9 місяців тому

    ❤ dude I love the invite thanks

  • @sgtmuffinbadger6147
    @sgtmuffinbadger6147 2 роки тому +3

    I swear mine made a hobby out of this

  • @KittyRoyalty777
    @KittyRoyalty777 Рік тому

    This happened recently as I had a confrontation with a tenet bin my building I thought I was on good terms with. After the confrontation I was worried for my safety and reported him to my building manager. She called me telling me I had barged into his unit and that's why he had come back angry enough to try and force his way into my unit. I was shocked and asked her to check the camera's. She did and saw he was lying. He was moved from that unit not long after. Months later I bump into him and he offers me a cig. I was hesitant at first but thought he was going to apologize. He wasn't and refused his lie even with the camera evidence. Honestly felt supper gaslit. At some point I just walked off because I was so confused by what he was saying I couldn't continue. I was also worried he might do something because the convo became heated.

  • @Played4days
    @Played4days Місяць тому

    lol im so glad u made this

  • @amberchrist6469
    @amberchrist6469 2 роки тому +1

    My Narcissistic son father has lied to the courts, and falsified paperwork. I don't need the Confession, because the proof is in the pudding. Thank God he is married, so I ain't worring about him coming back, Lollll

  • @TheAlixir
    @TheAlixir 4 місяці тому

    I just found out my boyfriend has been lying to me for a year and half about playing in a pool league every Wednesday. He doesn’t know I know yet. Going to confront him tonight. I’m done. I just seriously want to know what he’s been doing on Wednesdays at home alone. It’s a mystery to be solved. I’ll wonder forever!

  • @mekaelaknodt1123
    @mekaelaknodt1123 2 роки тому +1

    I love this video. Learned some new very helpful information. Made in a humorous way too 😁🙃

  • @missylou82
    @missylou82 3 місяці тому

    So true.

  • @reneemartinez7170
    @reneemartinez7170 2 роки тому +1

    yepp he had a women on my phone saying horrible things he said it was me and my people that made that up and texted my own phone smh

  • @lori8885
    @lori8885 2 роки тому +1

    Factssssssssss 👏👏👏 wow they make you feel crazy lol

  • @cindylong624
    @cindylong624 2 роки тому +2

    YES!

  • @babydii3487
    @babydii3487 Місяць тому

    I started calling him my narc bae

  • @2.A963
    @2.A963 Рік тому

    I guess they will feel powerful if you say you have trauma bond with them

  • @NicoBercier2024
    @NicoBercier2024 8 місяців тому

    ❤ bro u awesome .. appreciate you..thanks**

  • @tranquility9325
    @tranquility9325 2 роки тому +1

    He said mid clap🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

  • @Played4days
    @Played4days Місяць тому

    Facts..

  • @Soundsfishy20
    @Soundsfishy20 2 місяці тому

    True

  • @suzannemaroney4579
    @suzannemaroney4579 9 місяців тому

    Can you do a video on when a liar agrees he’s a liar….

  • @kristinak2211
    @kristinak2211 Рік тому

    Yep

  • @Mina-tt9kd
    @Mina-tt9kd 2 роки тому +1

    It's a good advice 👌. I did that because recently my ex tried to hoover me.i have several times blocked him, but he alwaya gets a new number to reach out.He first tried to lovebomb me, but that didn't work he sent me pictures of the two of us hugging and kissing, I didn't react to it so tried to guilt trip me by saying how bad he felt and still feels about me breaking up with him. That he missed me and cant forget the joy I brought into his life. Then I told him that I can't forget the pain he brought into my life and presented him proof and reasons why I broke up with him. He denied everything he did ans said to me " I never did that " " I never said or would say something like this, " and some things he didi to me i called them " evil" and his reaction was " well, if you want to call it like this , you have all the right to call it whatever you like " so basically tried to gaslight me., but the lack of interest and empathy to his wrongdoings were so painful. He said error is human and i know you love me so much that you will forget about my little stupidity , we are all mindlessonce in a while( made up a fake story to get a good amount of money from me )Such a big mistake to think I could confront him and that something good could come out of it. It's not going to happen, you will only get hurt even more. Once you have figured out what kind of person he is, just accept it and move on with your life. You will never get a confession or sincere apology.

  •  2 роки тому +1

    I can't make the video work so I can hear it

  • @lori8885
    @lori8885 2 роки тому

    I mean do narcissists feel better doing this????????even if they don't apologzie

  • @jaynestewart720
    @jaynestewart720 2 роки тому +1

    Why?

  • @elizabethbaig5382
    @elizabethbaig5382 2 роки тому

    I just want an explanation from my narc sister in front of my other sisters to tell me why she says bull about me and my kids
    I won’t get an apology just want her to say the crap she says about me in front of them Int’l cause she didn’t say that in front of them so they don’t know it was said

  • @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat
    @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat 2 роки тому +2

    )( Mid )( 👏 cheek clap

  • @macnchessplz
    @macnchessplz 2 роки тому +2

    👆🏼👍

  • @hershekissed
    @hershekissed 2 роки тому +4

    Well damn.🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat
    @BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat 2 роки тому

    Mine "bumped" into me when charged me/bolted from sofa & said "Your not hurt -I didn't hurt you!" 🚫 Not "are you okay?" Later He said 👉 "DIDN'T WANT SAY SORRY because it my be like ADMITTING FAULT" 🤯 I guess I am a darn car accident ⚠️ He texted "I am sorry for everything!" LIKE EVERYTHING EVER - BLANKET APPOLOGY Keep saving lives Lee@MentalHealness 🛶🛳 All this when I touched his extension chord plugged into to nothing.