S4 Episode 3: Emotionally Immature Parents with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, PSY.D.

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  • Опубліковано 22 гру 2024

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  • @nelhanratty2939
    @nelhanratty2939 9 місяців тому +17

    This is a wonderful discussion with Dr Gibson. You asked great questions and elicited great answers from Dr Gibson, some of which I hadn’t heard her articulate elsewhere. She is a special person. Just listening to her voice calms and reassures me. And like you said, her work has been life-changing for me. As many have said, it’s finally made sense of what happened in my life and family. Thank you to both of you ❤

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  9 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings about this episode! Her book and work are indeed one of a kind! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @marialorda8921
    @marialorda8921 9 місяців тому +8

    I love the question about siblings. We are 6 adult children of immature parents.

    • @jasonuren3479
      @jasonuren3479 7 місяців тому

      That caught my attention too

  • @jasonuren3479
    @jasonuren3479 7 місяців тому +4

    One of the best interviews I've seen so far with Dr Gibson in the relatively short time I've been investigating this issue 👍

  • @lottasiden440
    @lottasiden440 8 місяців тому +6

    Thank you so much for this interview! Your questions were great. I think I have heard almost all the interviews with Dr Lindsay so far and this was absolutely one of the very best. Your questions and your ability to actually listen and leave space for what she wanted to say made this such a deep experience for me.

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому +1

      I appreciate your feedback so so much! Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts and feelings!

  • @marialorda8921
    @marialorda8921 9 місяців тому +4

    Thank-you very much. I like the questions and of course, the answers are very helpful. ❤❤❤

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for listening and sharing your thoughts and feelings! Glad you found it helpful!

  • @bygrace2me
    @bygrace2me 8 місяців тому +4

    Dr Gibson has so much wisdom to share. It's incredible to me how nuanced her understanding is of emotionally immature people and the systems they propagate.

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому

      Couldn't agree more! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!

  • @tresbirch6230
    @tresbirch6230 8 місяців тому +3

    When asked on a therapist's intake form to "describe your family of origin", I actually answered "Raised by wolves." because there wasn't nearly enough room to explain anything. Somehow, I thought this would be self-explanatory. It definitely wasn't.
    Dr Gibson's books have been absolutely life-changing & a frequent companion and frame of reference for both me and my therapist. Her interviews are always so rich too. Much gratitude!

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому

      I agree, her books have been and are life-changing! Thank you so much for sharing!

  • @stadinm1
    @stadinm1 7 місяців тому +2

    Wow 🎯 ❤ thank you

  • @marialorda8921
    @marialorda8921 8 місяців тому +4

    My father was 1rst type and my mother was 4rth type. But 40 years later my father is a nice and quiet person and my mother is a covert narcisist. I'm fine since I don't talk to her. I just say good afternoon, do you need anything else? (drive her somewhere or buy something) and I do'nt stay long or have a tea or eat anything. Ok than, good by, see you next time. Now, in my 50s I'm a healthy and happy person. I always give thanks to God, to my EMDR therapist and to many like you, dear Lindsey, who opened my eyes some years ago. ❤❤

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for sharing!! ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹

    • @LvndrBeez
      @LvndrBeez 7 місяців тому

      I’m here now. I’m 38 and seeing those same patterns… what are you score you share besides EMDR that helped you?

    • @marialorda8921
      @marialorda8921 7 місяців тому

      @@LvndrBeez Hello! I don't write or speak good English, I hope I can help you a little. I've been listening or reading many psicologists, some of them in Spanish, Iñaki Piñuel is in my opinion the best, Cristina Jung is very very helpful, a UA-cam page named Cristianos contra el abuso narcisista is fantastic... and some others in English: Joe Reid and others, a coach named Ana Pazo...
      But I must add some new things: I'm helping my parents painting their house and my mother has changed since I was able to say that I'll not talk about my siblings one year ago. Now she talks about cooking, nice weather, nature, history, books...
      Listen to many experts in narcisism, they help a lot and have tips. We came to this life to love ourselves first, in second place the other people. Many spiritual videos have helped me, thanks always to God and Christ Jesus.
      To go deep inside you, knowing and loving you sincerely, your good parts and your bad parts, is basic. Write every day all you think, make a daily exam of your feelings and emotions, anger, sadnes, fear, happyness, etc. Don't drink alcohol at all. Don't take drugs. Accept who you are and be realistic about who your parents are. But now we are adults, we do'nt need their opinions or aprovals. Mum, I don't want your opinion about me never, not today, not again. If you need something from me, just tell me. I don't need you anymore. I'm an independent woman.

  • @ThandiaBlack
    @ThandiaBlack 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you Jalon. That was a beautiful interview - your appreciation was so heartfelt and real that I was touched. She is a gem.

  • @josianel84
    @josianel84 7 місяців тому +2

    Love your voice (interviewer) such a calming, open presence. Keep up the work and the channel will pay back great dividends.

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  7 місяців тому +1

      I really appreciate your feedback! Thank you so so much! 🙏🏽

  • @michaelasharne9107
    @michaelasharne9107 3 місяці тому

    Thank you both of you for voicing this, and articulating so well what we are all going through as society. I feel so much less alone when I hear you speak to my experience. Bless you both!

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  3 місяці тому

      Thank you for sharing and I'm so glad that this was able to make you feel less alone!

  • @hudsamy7785
    @hudsamy7785 8 місяців тому +3

    I always learn from Pr Gibson and new things each time. You are a good interviewer and good listener. Thanks both.

  • @creativeideator
    @creativeideator 7 місяців тому +1

    Regarding the part about how emotionally mature people make you feel comfortable (1:13), let's just not make this argument as a potential green flag to identify mature ppl. In my experience, manipulative (immature ppl) will be the best at making you feel like you can share everything, making you feel like you're the most interesting, etc.

  • @juliel8124
    @juliel8124 8 місяців тому +1

    Amazing interview ❤

  • @nataliemesbah1639
    @nataliemesbah1639 8 місяців тому +4

    Raised By Wolves 😂😂😂😂

  • @Discovery_and_Change
    @Discovery_and_Change 9 місяців тому +3

    4:18 (irony)
    7:03 i want to be famous

  • @venussmith7709
    @venussmith7709 8 місяців тому +1

    What is the name of the program that schools offer to help children with emotions, self awareness and self-management?

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому

      I just sent Dr. Gibson an email, standby 🙂

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому

      They are called SEL programs, Social-Emotional Learning

    • @venussmith7709
      @venussmith7709 8 місяців тому

      Thank you for the information, I will be sure to share it❤

  • @Hemsley85
    @Hemsley85 8 місяців тому +2

    Rewatching this episode!! 16:04 Affective Realism! Whoa….
    “Interpreting reality through their emotions”! 🎯 oh the battle of acquiring the realization of Self Reflection while growing up without it and more. That unpacked so much. 🔥 Part unlocked 🧩 #change

    • @notyourordinaryparts
      @notyourordinaryparts  8 місяців тому +1

      Yes! Affective realism was super eye opening! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings!