S4 Episode 3: Emotionally Immature Parents with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, PSY.D.
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- Опубліковано 11 бер 2024
- Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson is an author, a clinical psychologist, and a psychotherapist who has worked in both public service and private practice for over thirty years. Dr. Gibson’s books have sold over a million copies and have been translated into 35 languages, including the Amazon #1 bestseller, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. In the past, Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral Clinical Psychology students clinical theory and psychotherapy techniques. Dr. Gibson specializes in therapy and coaching with adults to attain new levels of personal growth, emotional intimacy with others, and confidence in dealing with emotionally immature family members. It is Dr. Gibson’s goal to help her clients learn how to create positive new relationships that will allow them to build a better life!
Connect with Dr. Gibson:
Instagram - @academyofselfhelp
Website - www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com
Books - www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com/books
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This is a wonderful discussion with Dr Gibson. You asked great questions and elicited great answers from Dr Gibson, some of which I hadn’t heard her articulate elsewhere. She is a special person. Just listening to her voice calms and reassures me. And like you said, her work has been life-changing for me. As many have said, it’s finally made sense of what happened in my life and family. Thank you to both of you ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings about this episode! Her book and work are indeed one of a kind! Glad you enjoyed it!
I love the question about siblings. We are 6 adult children of immature parents.
That caught my attention too
Thank you Jalon. That was a beautiful interview - your appreciation was so heartfelt and real that I was touched. She is a gem.
Thank you for sharing!
My father was 1rst type and my mother was 4rth type. But 40 years later my father is a nice and quiet person and my mother is a covert narcisist. I'm fine since I don't talk to her. I just say good afternoon, do you need anything else? (drive her somewhere or buy something) and I do'nt stay long or have a tea or eat anything. Ok than, good by, see you next time. Now, in my 50s I'm a healthy and happy person. I always give thanks to God, to my EMDR therapist and to many like you, dear Lindsey, who opened my eyes some years ago. ❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing!! ❤🩹❤🩹
I’m here now. I’m 38 and seeing those same patterns… what are you score you share besides EMDR that helped you?
@@DelSunflower33 Hello! I don't write or speak good English, I hope I can help you a little. I've been listening or reading many psicologists, some of them in Spanish, Iñaki Piñuel is in my opinion the best, Cristina Jung is very very helpful, a UA-cam page named Cristianos contra el abuso narcisista is fantastic... and some others in English: Joe Reid and others, a coach named Ana Pazo...
But I must add some new things: I'm helping my parents painting their house and my mother has changed since I was able to say that I'll not talk about my siblings one year ago. Now she talks about cooking, nice weather, nature, history, books...
Listen to many experts in narcisism, they help a lot and have tips. We came to this life to love ourselves first, in second place the other people. Many spiritual videos have helped me, thanks always to God and Christ Jesus.
To go deep inside you, knowing and loving you sincerely, your good parts and your bad parts, is basic. Write every day all you think, make a daily exam of your feelings and emotions, anger, sadnes, fear, happyness, etc. Don't drink alcohol at all. Don't take drugs. Accept who you are and be realistic about who your parents are. But now we are adults, we do'nt need their opinions or aprovals. Mum, I don't want your opinion about me never, not today, not again. If you need something from me, just tell me. I don't need you anymore. I'm an independent woman.
When asked on a therapist's intake form to "describe your family of origin", I actually answered "Raised by wolves." because there wasn't nearly enough room to explain anything. Somehow, I thought this would be self-explanatory. It definitely wasn't.
Dr Gibson's books have been absolutely life-changing & a frequent companion and frame of reference for both me and my therapist. Her interviews are always so rich too. Much gratitude!
I agree, her books have been and are life-changing! Thank you so much for sharing!
Dr Gibson has so much wisdom to share. It's incredible to me how nuanced her understanding is of emotionally immature people and the systems they propagate.
Couldn't agree more! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!
One of the best interviews I've seen so far with Dr Gibson in the relatively short time I've been investigating this issue 👍
Thank you so much for sharing! Really appreciate it!
Thank you so much for this interview! Your questions were great. I think I have heard almost all the interviews with Dr Lindsay so far and this was absolutely one of the very best. Your questions and your ability to actually listen and leave space for what she wanted to say made this such a deep experience for me.
I appreciate your feedback so so much! Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts and feelings!
Love your voice (interviewer) such a calming, open presence. Keep up the work and the channel will pay back great dividends.
I really appreciate your feedback! Thank you so so much! 🙏🏽
Thank-you very much. I like the questions and of course, the answers are very helpful. ❤❤❤
Thank you for listening and sharing your thoughts and feelings! Glad you found it helpful!
I always learn from Pr Gibson and new things each time. You are a good interviewer and good listener. Thanks both.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings!
Raised By Wolves 😂😂😂😂
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Wow 🎯 ❤ thank you
You are so welcome
4:18 (irony)
7:03 i want to be famous
Regarding the part about how emotionally mature people make you feel comfortable (1:13), let's just not make this argument as a potential green flag to identify mature ppl. In my experience, manipulative (immature ppl) will be the best at making you feel like you can share everything, making you feel like you're the most interesting, etc.
That's a very good point, thanks for sharing.
Amazing interview ❤
Thank you so much for sharing!
What is the name of the program that schools offer to help children with emotions, self awareness and self-management?
I just sent Dr. Gibson an email, standby 🙂
They are called SEL programs, Social-Emotional Learning
Thank you for the information, I will be sure to share it❤
Rewatching this episode!! 16:04 Affective Realism! Whoa….
“Interpreting reality through their emotions”! 🎯 oh the battle of acquiring the realization of Self Reflection while growing up without it and more. That unpacked so much. 🔥 Part unlocked 🧩 #change
Yes! Affective realism was super eye opening! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings!