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  • Опубліковано 15 лют 2023
  • Hey friends!! Its been a minute and I wanted to share what happened to me in 2022 and how I grew and continue to from from it. Thank you so much for hanging in there with me and giving me the time I needed to take care of my self 🫶🏿
    Lots of love,
    Nyma
    #proudofme

КОМЕНТАРІ • 432

  • @Tracy819
    @Tracy819 Рік тому +716

    I’ve been saying for awhile now that Covid made people truly examine their lives and relationships. There was no place to run and hide, you had to face the reality. A lot of relationships didn’t weather this storm and that’s ok. All that matters is you coming out stronger/happier than before.

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +150

      We all had nothing better to do than look inward really.

    • @SmyleePunkRoc
      @SmyleePunkRoc Рік тому +2

      Yes Ma'am

    • @sheryllbell8974
      @sheryllbell8974 Рік тому +35

      I totally agree. I was married for 20 years and separated during the 20th year. I was totally devastated, homeless, physically sick, living in hotels with my 2 daughters and grandchild. My faith in God helped to guide me and a year later we were working on repairing our relationship. Just when we thought we were OK our oldest daughter passed away December of 2022 due to complications of COVID. Now we're raising our grandchild. I consider it a blessing to be able to do it. I'm in awe of the journey that our lives have taken.

    • @Elizabeth-mf3dn
      @Elizabeth-mf3dn Рік тому +5

      Agreed! Very isolating and lonely times. Personally it was extremely hard but I would journal and pray, then I made a plan and list of goals and they all came true! You find out what you’re made of.

    • @NBrown-kh8lp
      @NBrown-kh8lp Рік тому +4

      BIG FACTS! Ended my relationship November of 2020, but I knew it was over around that summer! Hard, but best thing I did for me❤ got closer to God, and boy was that the best feeling in the world 😩❤️ God really loves us y’all

  • @adobeaadow
    @adobeaadow Рік тому +410

    You were engaged, you had a home together, it was a marriage in many ways, so it’s in some ways a divorce. But you did a great job working through it! ❤

    • @catcoffee7958
      @catcoffee7958 Рік тому +2

      She was married to him,,, but not him

  • @gracee2394
    @gracee2394 Рік тому +375

    “The people who recognized I was struggling and didn’t let me struggle alone” 🥺🥺 that absolutely broke me

    • @QueenLadyQ
      @QueenLadyQ Рік тому +3

      We love you and missed. Yes you are going to be fine 🙏🏽

    • @brooketaylor799
      @brooketaylor799 Рік тому +1

      Me too because sometimes it’s obvious but even close family will almost kick you when you’re down. I thank God for resilience and him covering me bc I may have been physically alone but I wouldn’t have made it unless a higher power was with me always.

  • @PraiseDaLord_
    @PraiseDaLord_ Рік тому +554

    I married my best friend of 10 years in 2021 and we got divorced last August 2022. Hardest thing I have ever done but I’m so much happier now. I hope you’re able to find some joy and peace!

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +174

      Omg!! Honestly that could have been me I was actually planning the wedding.. im so glad you’re feeling better now 🫶🏿

    • @PraiseDaLord_
      @PraiseDaLord_ Рік тому +36

      @@NymaTang everything happens for a reason my friend! Love ya

    • @karenlewis1664
      @karenlewis1664 Рік тому +4

      You can get thru this!! ❤❤

    • @karenlewis1664
      @karenlewis1664 Рік тому +2

      Could you please list what you are using?

    • @seriousstrawberry3064
      @seriousstrawberry3064 Рік тому +3

      Please don't feel alone. Many of us are rescuers but we don't let people be there for us. I am leaening to live in my emtions and truly gain insight and grow. That is a painful process because self awareness is not intuitive for me. I get up and move on.

  • @kaamya921
    @kaamya921 Рік тому +253

    Today is exactly a year ago that my husband of 33 years died. I don't talk about it because it's such a downer for everyone who hears it. So my world is different and not in a way I'd have chosen. But this is my life now. So I thank you Nyma for being transparent with us. I'm in a better place than I was and I expect to get to an even better place than this. I don't even know what else to say. Just thank you 💜

    • @nylamay
      @nylamay Рік тому +17

      Oh that's terrible. So very sorry for your loss. I wish you continuing & growing peace

    • @moniqueb3917
      @moniqueb3917 Рік тому +6

      Sending you much love

    • @yummykitchendirect4528
      @yummykitchendirect4528 Рік тому +5

      @ Tmac1963 am really sorry, l know lts not easy, wishing you more healing time and God's comfort.

    • @Hettie1993
      @Hettie1993 Рік тому +3

      So sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs and kisses.

    • @shalenah
      @shalenah Рік тому +3

      sending you so much love 💜

  • @IamSnowbird
    @IamSnowbird Рік тому +63

    My daughter-in-law is going to be 39 and she is pregnant with her first baby. You have time.❤

  • @Ginmabes
    @Ginmabes Рік тому +115

    My 7-year relationship ended 18 months ago and I'm still grieving and sorting through it. It's hard! I cut off contact 3 months ago because I realised he wasn't a good friend to me at all and I was just clinging on.

    • @NymaTang........
      @NymaTang........ Рік тому

      ☝🎁☝Thank you for always watching and commenting. You have been selected in my draw 🎊✨ Winners should text on nicegram to claim their prize. (Just Winners)

    • @sandirichard5461
      @sandirichard5461 Рік тому +14

      I ended my 11 year relationship 15 months ago. I grieved towards end of my relationship and the beginning of my single hood. I've been having a blast through the ups and downs. I recently cut off contact as well. We are two different people. I will always have love for him but, I love and am in love with myself more. Good luck girl, you got this.

  • @jaithomas9409
    @jaithomas9409 Рік тому +371

    More people need to know what these biological clock conversations do to people emotionally and mentally... If you're on the timetable you're already well aware, if you could matetialize the right partner out of thin air it would be done. Either you're asking me to settle or are completely blind to my feelings as an individual-I am more than my reproductive system. Our loved ones mean well, but we need to start giving people truth bombs, having kids for the sake of having them or time 'running out' is not what's up when the situation isn't right. Glad you're finding your way through it all.

    • @nancykerrigan
      @nancykerrigan Рік тому +19

      💯

    • @Carpathianpixie
      @Carpathianpixie Рік тому +17

      Seriously!

    • @jemimagrey975
      @jemimagrey975 Рік тому +24

      This is the absolute Bible truth!!! I feel seen and heard. Thank you for this comment ❤

    • @AMMA83
      @AMMA83 Рік тому +5

      love this comment.

    • @catcoffee7958
      @catcoffee7958 Рік тому +20

      True,, I lost me 20s and till mid thirties due to being immigrant,, I was trying to survive,, in different country, different weather, different culture,, I wasn't allowed to date or have sex it would bring shame, mid 30s I dated a horrible man who used to and dumped me I was inexperienced at 38 I was engaged to a childish man,, I thought I can make it work,, but never did,, at 40 now people talk about biological clock, it hurts nothing I can do I was unlucky.. They good at pointing it out but never help when you drawning.

  • @kwood0721
    @kwood0721 Рік тому +39

    My relationship of 4 years that took up all of my late 20s ended 3 months before COVID. So I entered COVID alone, 8 hours from my family and friends, in the apartment we got to together. It's been over 3 years and I'm just feeling comfortable saying I'm ready to let someone else in. But it was three years of learning my emotions and myself and my boundaries. Keep your head up doll! Life is definitely a marathon.

    • @VinayShah-yt5bt
      @VinayShah-yt5bt 11 місяців тому

      Has anyone asked Nyma Tang a question on that creator connection website ThoughtSpace AI where you get instant answers to questions and can watch where he discusses it? Ok, was just wondering.

  • @mimivb87
    @mimivb87 Рік тому +44

    A 10 year relationship. That’s rough! Having to find yourself all over again? Who you are as a single woman. Dating again after that. Finding someone who knows you through and through again. It’s a lot! I can’t even imagine ❤ but you are here. You got this ❤ you are so worthy and beautiful and loved. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤

    • @shalenah
      @shalenah Рік тому +3

      this is such a sweet message :)

    • @iwilson3950
      @iwilson3950 Рік тому

      @@shalenah It was! Very thoughtful!!

  • @zaink.7243
    @zaink.7243 Рік тому +223

    it's hard to choose yourself, especially for us girls, but i'm glad you did. i can't imagine how hard it was but it's always worth it.
    you're brave for crying & also learning to let ppl in/be cared for; advice we all need to hear. thank you for sharing❤

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +37

      This right here… and you ended feeling so much doubt in the beginning too.

  • @lorickwash2099
    @lorickwash2099 Рік тому +96

    Thank you for sharing with us. Being ok with vulnerability is so hard when you always have to keep it together.

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +23

      Yes, I didn’t think I was allowed to be a mess 😩 but now it is what it is.

    • @lorickwash2099
      @lorickwash2099 Рік тому +5

      Yes, embrace not always being ok. Something I had to examine and work thru, it wasn't easy at the beginning, but now it is such a relief!

  • @mayflower2904
    @mayflower2904 Рік тому +54

    I’m Oldest of 5 and also Sudanese. This resonated too much. Thank you for your honesty. I’m proud of you 💕

    • @VinayShah-yt5bt
      @VinayShah-yt5bt 11 місяців тому

      Has anyone asked Nyma Tang a question on that creator connection website ThoughtSpace AI where you get instant answers to questions and can watch where he discusses it? Ok, was just wondering.

  • @WilliamsPinch
    @WilliamsPinch Рік тому +102

    I think those of us who watched knew what was happening. I did the same thing and 2021 was devastating. But something about all the heartache in the world kind of magnified it.

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +26

      Wow I never really thought about it amplifying everything.. I hope you doing better these days though 🫶🏿

  • @mrsrellda1
    @mrsrellda1 Рік тому +94

    Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. I wish you joy and happiness!

  • @peachxtaehyung
    @peachxtaehyung Рік тому +60

    Side note but that (I think) concealer is a PERFECT match for you nyma!!! Wow I've never seen such a perfect match before esp on a dark skinned person

  • @pcla.94
    @pcla.94 Рік тому +51

    Been watching you for years and I’ve always thought we were very alike. There’s just something about your aura that gives off nurturing and loving but strong willed. I am also the oldest and like the mom figure and I have found myself struggling with the same issue of bottling everything up and downplaying my own feelings. I just wanted to say I’m sorry you went through that, I really am, but I’m also proud of you for doing what was best for yourself. Thank you for sharing ❤ I hope you keep healing and doing amazing at life.

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +22

      🥹 oldest siblings deserve more… I know you understand

    • @pcla.94
      @pcla.94 Рік тому +5

      @@NymaTang I agree, we do! Luckily we have the blessing of being looked up to by the people we love the most!

  • @samuraisimpson
    @samuraisimpson Рік тому +34

    I hope your healing continues and you stay surrounded by support and love

  • @Peculiarities
    @Peculiarities Рік тому +17

    That outro was gold. I also count it a win when I’m able to cry. I recall how cold my heart was when I didn’t think there was room in the world for my feelings. A friend asked me “do you think you’re insignificant?” And the crying levies broke. Big love to you, Nyma - it’s impossible to see the other side of pain when you’re in it, but here you are and the work continues.

  • @dogleghobag
    @dogleghobag Рік тому +17

    I'm glad you're starting to heal. Some things take a long long time. I basically burned my whole life to the ground, gave up on all my old hobbies and completely changed my life after i broke up with a relationship of 7 years over 4 years ago and I still sometimes have dreams where we are still together and having a good time. I'm glad you were able to stay friends and that the worst of the pain has passed for you

  • @levi0596
    @levi0596 Рік тому +11

    Hi Nyma. I have been here for a while, but when I saw the Loreal foundation commercial with HER and Kate Winslet for the first time on Thursday, I said to myself that's Nyma. Congratulations! You've worked so hard.
    I'm so sorry about your break up. Good things will continue for you. 🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️❤

  • @SincerelyNita
    @SincerelyNita Рік тому +26

    You’re amazing Nyma…. Thanks for sharing… so much. I got out a 6 year relationship and I felt like it was a freaking divorce tooo!! Now I’m so much in love with myself sooo much. ☺️ And the universe sent me someone so amazing, sweet, and honest out of nowhere when I was able to recover with the help of my friends. You are so strong for opening up and sharing your pain. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! The relatable story I felt so deeply.

  • @leevihemmings707
    @leevihemmings707 Рік тому +18

    That's growth, and it makes you realise that people who truly care for you will never sit in judgement. More power to you!

  • @theonlycma
    @theonlycma Рік тому +15

    I came on here expecting to send love and support to you and here you are giving loving words to me!! I struggle so much letting my friends in and telling them when I’m struggling. I’m going to come back to this video when I need to be reminded why it’s important.

  • @daniellemoxey9940
    @daniellemoxey9940 Рік тому +8

    Awww Nyma thank you so much for you vulnerability!!❤️ It's a true reflection of your resilience in the midst of what you're still grieving, and that you realize if you're going through something it's likely that other's are too and may have similar difficulties in managing their mourning process! Love the self-work and self-love❤️

  • @TheGiftOfGab1
    @TheGiftOfGab1 Рік тому +45

    Yes I went through a break up of a 10 year friendship/relationship in 2020 as well and still cry about it here and there. It's tough while going through it but I'm glad that we all saw it through and are here to speak about it. 🙂

  • @prettynsleepy1073
    @prettynsleepy1073 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for coming here to open up about your pain and struggles. Your so strong. Thank you. Your loved so much. ❤❤❤

  • @elarianasky
    @elarianasky Рік тому +6

    I was wondering why I never saw you at all last year! I don't think I've ever commented on your videos, but I came across this and what you said resonated with me, despite not being in the same circumstances. The pandemic opened my eyes to my relationship with my parents and had me learn more things about myself and them during that time and man. It was not fun. Not fun at all. But you're absolutely right that it's okay to accept your feelings but also tell that to whoever is listening. If something isn't cool with you, then it isn't cool with you and you're absolutely allowed to say so (obviously in a way that's nice and not condescending lol). Crying is so stigmatised in society today, it's always seen as being weak and things like that and sure, maybe in the moment it is weakening, but more often than not, after a good cry (and a good nap), people can feel rejuvenated and more alive after it. Being in that depressive funk totally sucks but it allows for reflection and growth and I think that's just really important. It's okay to cry. It's okay to feel a certain way about a certain situation. Just know, your feelings always will be valid, no matter what. Even if someone else disagrees, your feelings still matter. Never let anyone make you feel inferior for what you're feeling and certainly not without your consent.

  • @TheInsiderBeauty
    @TheInsiderBeauty Рік тому +2

    Girl this is so relatable because I’ve experienced the same thing and therapy has helped me so much because the anxiety that followed me laid me flat on my ass for months. Whew thank God that tears don’t last forever 🙌🏾

  • @kapostrophelay
    @kapostrophelay Рік тому +27

    You got this!❤️

  • @annihilxte
    @annihilxte Рік тому +8

    You are a strong, resilient, and beautiful woman, Nyma! Thank you for sharing with us. We love you and stand with you ❤❤ ps that concealer blended out so pretty I couldn’t stop looking at it! Your skin is always so flawless.
    You got this, babe! 😊 I also downplay my feelings a lot. And I’ll even be laughing the whole time as if the bs I’m going through is funny but it’s not, it’s just a coping mechanism. Never worry about sharing your feelings! Most of us can relate on some level and we are here for you always ❤

  • @ms.diva0079
    @ms.diva0079 Рік тому +4

    Bless your heart! God is good he always wants what is best for us. I pray that you continue to heal and move into your purpose and destiny!💜

  • @janiceanderson2246
    @janiceanderson2246 Рік тому +7

    It’s going to take time, however you’re going to be ok! It’s never easy to end a relationship that isn’t working any longer… it’s great that you can still be friends 🙏🏾

  • @Tippy150
    @Tippy150 Рік тому +1

    OMG ❣️ I HAVE JUST SEEN YOU ON A L'OREAL COMMERCIAL ❣️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN'T CONQUER. YOU ARE BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED 💫

  • @abhimac27
    @abhimac27 Рік тому +8

    💞 You're doing great, sweetheart!

  • @kayataylor7226
    @kayataylor7226 Рік тому +4

    I know the feeling. 😢 I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years in late 2020 and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I’m still working through it. Stay strong my Love, you made the right decision. ❤

  • @LindaTinahTV
    @LindaTinahTV Рік тому +2

    I love that you are learning to let people in. It really does help A LOT. Hugs.

    • @LindaTinahTV
      @LindaTinahTV Рік тому +1

      @NymaTang.. you too. Congratulations

  • @Beyonslay4
    @Beyonslay4 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for your vulnerability and your transparency. So many of us are forced to deal with these very normal bumps in life on our own and in silence, so to have folks speak openly about their emotions (especially as a Black woman) is so important. I am so glad you had people around you who held you in care and who gave you space to grieve, to cry, to laugh and to feel everything you feel. That is what community is.. that is what love is. That is what uplifting means. I am so happy you are finding yourself again and coming home to yourself. Sending you so much love and here’s to you and your next chapter and journey ! 🫶🏾

  • @brokewithexpensivetaste
    @brokewithexpensivetaste Рік тому +5

    I REALLY felt this video because I'm going through the same thing with my relationship of almost 8 years. It really does feel like a divorce and I go from feeling really angry to wanting to cry and this video made me do that because I can really identify with what you're saying. I know it takes time but I definitely know this too will pass.

    • @Alex-fc8xn
      @Alex-fc8xn Рік тому +1

      You're definitely not alone ❤️ I don't know if you have a hard time letting yourself process emotions, but I definitely do because I tend to shut down instead. Something that helped me immeasurably with processing the end of a long term relationship was listening to music that expressed similar emotions to what I felt. It made me feel less alone, kept me from thinking too much because I could focus on the lyrics, and gave me a safe space to process my emotions without overthinking about the things that caused them and feeling worse.
      Alternatively, some people find that upbeat music helps them and sad stuff makes them feel worse. Just do what you can to take care of yourself, accept help from others, and be kind to yourself about what you're going through. It isn't a linear process, there will be good days and bad days, but eventually the good days will far outnumber the bad ones and you'll find yourself looking back on everything and thankful for the ways it allowed you to grow and change. I believe you'll get through it, because I didn't think I could and here I am 4 years later in a relationship healthier than any other I've been in because I was able to learn from my mistakes and to communicate what I'm going through so we can get through it together

  • @RudeRiot
    @RudeRiot Рік тому +7

    The last 2 weeks I’ve done nothing but cry because I ended a 4 year relationship. This is hard and I’m glad you spoke on this cause same. I needed to hear that it’ll be okay. I wish it was amicable but it was terrible the way it ended 😞

    • @Alex-fc8xn
      @Alex-fc8xn Рік тому

      I've been there. Be kind to yourself and try to take comfort in the little things like a good cup of tea or the beautiful flowers that will start growing in spring as the seasons change along with you.
      In the end, you'll find that the pain you experience now with the relationship ending will help you grow and learn and move on to better things.
      I hope you have people to help you get through the painful recovery process.
      If you have a hard time opening up, you might be able to find comfort in music that expresses similar things to what you're going through and reminds you that you aren't alone while giving you a safe space to process some of the overwhelming emotions. The album Dance and Cry by Mother Mother really got me through my breakup a few years ago, especially putting it on when I went to shower so I didn't ruminate on painful memories and could focus on the music and taking care of my body's needs

  • @vegasa2067
    @vegasa2067 Рік тому +7

    Last year my 5 year relationship ended and I thought it was gonna be forever. And my ex lived with me for months afterward and it made it so much harder!!!! And yeah it did feel like a divorce. I struggled so much because it’s hard when you had someone there all the time and then they’re gone. But here’s to a new journey ❤

  • @enaruvie
    @enaruvie Рік тому +2

    We are proud of you too. It takes courage to leave safe and familiar even when it no longer fits. I wish you luck on your new journey.

  • @Lqtech00
    @Lqtech00 Рік тому +2

    So proud of you. I'm going through my own journey of letting people in when I'm going through it and it's weird to be the person who needs help rather than the person who provides help.

  • @pettybee3860
    @pettybee3860 Рік тому +24

    This was a very much needed therapy session. I've been there, unfortunately with an asshole of a person. Thank you for this. I hope you're better than ever

  • @shiru400
    @shiru400 Рік тому +3

    what your friend did, gently pushing you to let her in and open up is love love love

  • @TheHarmonicSpirit
    @TheHarmonicSpirit Рік тому +2

    ❤ thank you for sharing yourself with us! I ended a long term relationship in 2020 with someone I was fully planning to marry. I also just realized that we were not a good fit for each other, no matter how badly I wanted to make things work. It was so hard and even this year I am still recovering because for two years after the break up neither of us had fully let go. I appreciate your vulnerability and send you all the love on your healing journey!❤️

  • @isabelalandim
    @isabelalandim 6 місяців тому

    Nyma, você é uma inspiração ❤ uma mulher incrível! Amo você ❤

  • @parkedawn
    @parkedawn Рік тому +1

    Sending you love, continued healing and joy. I'm the oldest in my family too, always put others needs and emotions first. While I'm sad you went through the pain, I'm thankful you found support, safety in expressing your emotions and growth. ❤

  • @beautyisforfun5479
    @beautyisforfun5479 Рік тому +2

    This message is so applicable to so many aspects… let trusted people help comfort you!

  • @Sandra.-.
    @Sandra.-. Рік тому +1

    I find that if im still crying when I talk about something, there's still healing that needs to be done. Take your time and heal. All will be well

  • @sykeskat
    @sykeskat Рік тому +9

    One human to another, I am proud of you. There is grieving that takes place when we lose a connection that meant a lot to us. Instead of running away, you faced it head on! You also are trying to heal that aspect of you that avoids being vulnerable and allowing others to be there for you like you are for them. Absolutely amazing and definitely not easy. Thank you for being courageous and sharing your story! I struggle with very similar opportunities as well so thank you for making me feel less alone ❤

  • @AmandazzWorldd
    @AmandazzWorldd Рік тому +1

    We love you and are so proud of you❤ praying for you as you embark this phase Ian your life

  • @calsatt18
    @calsatt18 Рік тому +1

    MY DEAR, NYMA. I JUST HAPPEN TO SEE YOU THE "L'Oreal cosmetics" COMMERCIAL LOOK VERY NICE. AND YOUR BEAUTY WAS BEYOND COMPARE... NICE JOB....!👏

  • @vivianagbegha2712
    @vivianagbegha2712 Рік тому +3

    OMG. I am so sorry. I am glad that you are feeling better!

  • @yeamaneal5652
    @yeamaneal5652 Рік тому +2

    So proud of you!!

  • @christinasmith8385
    @christinasmith8385 Рік тому +2

    I'm sorry that happened. I know how it feels. I'm glad you are back and better than ever!

  • @macandfire5477
    @macandfire5477 Рік тому +2

    Your skin is just mesmerizing to look at 😊 absolutely gorgeous ❤

  • @teejack8108
    @teejack8108 Рік тому +2

    When you know, you know. Change is scary, but being unhappy is scarier.🙏🏾

  • @yolandedick1587
    @yolandedick1587 Рік тому +1

    First of all you are absolutely beautiful, thanks so much for this video, I am queen of bottling emotions because I think no one will understand what I'm feeling, I'm slowly opening up to a few people but it's still a work in progress. Glad you are at peace.

  • @LibraInSeattle
    @LibraInSeattle Рік тому +1

    I relate to much of what you are saying here. 💜 It’s hard to share with people when you are the one who is the caretaker. I tend to isolate myself from others. Throw in the fact that I work from home and it makes for a lonely existence. I’ve gotten much better lately about getting out and going for walks. I try to meet up with my sister once a month for dinner and I started volunteering on Saturday mornings to get out of my own problems and focus my energy on helping others. My therapist recommended that.

    • @venessatalbert9232
      @venessatalbert9232 Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing tips on how you made it through. My husband Gerald passed away 7 months ago and emotionally I'm still sitting on the front pew of the funeral. I'm lost, disconnected,and numb. Nobody in my family understands how I feel not even our seven children. Lord help me!😞

  • @OnyinyeNwokorie
    @OnyinyeNwokorie Рік тому +2

    went through the exact same thing in the same time frame....still trying to process it but like you- I've learned so much about myself and i've grown quite a bit So proud of you

  • @klingonartdealer
    @klingonartdealer Рік тому +1

    Wow, I'm so sorry you were struggling so much. I hope your year and life gets better. You deserve it.

  • @wanderwithbree
    @wanderwithbree Рік тому +1

    Aw girl. Good for you for doing what you need. ❤❤❤ thank you for sharing with us and sending you so much love

  • @ToyaF82
    @ToyaF82 Рік тому +3

    Glad you are back and feeling like yourself again 🥰

  • @JB-hq8ym
    @JB-hq8ym Рік тому

    As the oldest girl of an immigrant family and having to deal with both parents and siblings at the same time while in the process of raising yourself, you didn't have time to feel emotions because things still had to move forward and tears won't help solve the issue. solving the issue is the issue and once done with one crisis we either move to the next one or try to breath in between them. And your the responsible on as well. One has probably gone through enough trauma of their own but don't want to burden anyone with it b/c you're suppose to have it all together. Then we become amazing adults who don't know how to process our own trauma and feelings b/c things still have to keep moving until our body states otherwise. With those new emotions one will either sink, swim or learn how to deal with more emotions than just happy, angry, and melancholy b/c one couldn't be sad or feel sadness. oh hunty I most certainly get it.
    Covid really kick my butt too and it forced me to deal with things that I thought I did but just intellectize them and almost dying (not from coivd) 2 different time in 2020, once in 2021 and dealing with lots of drama from a parent being sick in 2022 hunty these last 3 years have been a rollercoaster ride.
    WE will make it through and stronger for it. thank you for sharing.

  • @lore1612
    @lore1612 Рік тому +1

    i'm really happy for you for healing & learning & growing. may it only continue in 2023

  • @LetsPraySis_
    @LetsPraySis_ Рік тому +1

    So sorry and I hope you’re feeling much better now. I’m reminded to not let a man “string me along” and it’s okay to leave any situation that’s no longer working. Thank you for your transparency. ❤

  • @SpiciestBee
    @SpiciestBee Рік тому +1

    This is Divine Femininity in action. Cry, experience the love and the chaos. You’re transforming and creating your life, that’s the woman’s power!!

  • @SarahSunshine9
    @SarahSunshine9 Рік тому +1

    I know how you feel. This was me in 2018/19. You will just keep growing and evolving. You know deep down what’s best for you and when you begin to trust yourself, it feels so freeing.

  • @tanyabiscardi5690
    @tanyabiscardi5690 Рік тому

    Crying is healing. We are stronger then we think we are. Not easy letting people in. But you do it’s the best. Thanks for sharing. Many blessings beautiful 🤎🤎

  • @leowright2744
    @leowright2744 Рік тому

    Your so beautiful. Life has its seasons, and now that the winter is over heal in your spring. Because summer is just round the corner. Love on you!

  • @whitneyT86
    @whitneyT86 Рік тому +6

    This is me right now. In a dark place. Thank you Nyma

  • @peachxtaehyung
    @peachxtaehyung Рік тому +3

    I'm so sorry for everything you've went through nyma. We love you 💖

  • @ChrisCupcake3
    @ChrisCupcake3 Рік тому +1

    Love that y'all are still able to remain friends and that you aren't trashing him. Blessings & good vibes to both of y'all 🙏🏽🌈

  • @MT77749
    @MT77749 Рік тому

    " Not the candace dillard fold❤" 😅i love a bit of humour during talking about your pain. You so strong. Hope u well and your healing. Really love your channel.

  • @ds37215
    @ds37215 Рік тому

    When I see tears roll down your cheeks, my eyes well up with tears, too, for whatever reason. I wish you the best in your growth journey. You did what was right for you, and you will meet someone compatible.
    I have been there, with hiding my emotions and withdrawing during struggles. But it is because I AM vulnerable, and people have attacked my weaknesses in the past or abandoned me when most needed. I have learned to trust and be vulnerable with the RIGHT person.❤

  • @EyeGlassTrainofMind
    @EyeGlassTrainofMind Рік тому

    Nyma, the ending words you put down really struck home--"If this video isn't a testament to growth and learning about yourself, I don't know what is. I'm really proud of myself." It's tough for a lot of us to let relationships (even good ones) go where they need to go and the healthy boundaries and the work you put in to yourself proves that it's worth it. I've been having a hard time communicating to a friend that I want to be there for them in a similar way to your friend with you and it's encouraging to see how friendship helped you in this time. Wishing you the absolute best!

  • @lauricehubbard4437
    @lauricehubbard4437 Рік тому

    Hi Nyma , I just saw the commercial that you are in and I hollered with happiness. They industry finally heard you , I'm very proud and happy for you. The shade of make you advertised for made you look flawless. You don't need any help though your skin is already beautiful. Continue to surprise me.

  • @Firstandfinest08
    @Firstandfinest08 Рік тому

    “Not the Candiace fold” took me out 😂😂😂🤣 IYKYK ! Kudos to you for being so vulnerable someone needed to hear this !! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @shanteciabuchanan3390
    @shanteciabuchanan3390 Рік тому

    I understand how you feel about not allowing yourself to cry or allowing yourself to be comforted by others. I was like that before but I realized that the burden was just to much to bear and for my mental I had to talk about it to others and allow myself to be comforted. Speak your truth and don’t bottle what’s bothering you. Let it out and give yourself permission to grieve it’s ok. Hugs and kisses. I wish you the best.

  • @Shaycey78
    @Shaycey78 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing sweetheart ♥ We all having a hard time at some point. It takes a lot of courage to open up and trust again. I'm going through the same journey. Wish you nothing but the best for this year.

  • @Truqueen01
    @Truqueen01 Рік тому

    I felt this on so many levels!! I applaud your transparency & strength, Queen. 💛

  • @Reem-vj2hi
    @Reem-vj2hi Рік тому

    Thank you sharing and being so vulnerable especially as a black woman. It can be so hard to put ourselves first and ask for help and I am so glad you are taking time for yourself and letting people in.

  • @kojwolfe
    @kojwolfe Рік тому +2

    So glad you grew through this Nyma ❤

  • @lisajordan8659
    @lisajordan8659 Рік тому

    Nyma you truly are a Queen!!! I've been a subscriber of yours for a few years and have watched you blossom into the beautiful woman that you are. Stay strong lady and continue to let your inner beauty radiate with your outer beauty! P.S. You looked awesome in the Loreal makeup commercial!!! Stay blessed and prayed up!!!

  • @reisschancellor9753
    @reisschancellor9753 Рік тому

    I only discovered ur channel yesterday. I've been watching a few years of mainland Chinese TV where everyone's skin is pale white. It has nothing to do with being Caucasian. It is so beautiful and fun to suddenly see your beautiful dark, dark, dark skin and how you use bright colours to make your features pop without looking OTT. I'm learning interesting tricks and I hope to be brave and try bold colours like you. I like how u dab a little here and there like magic. I love how gold or red colours just glow on your skin, so pretty 😍. I'm sorry to hear of your hardships. I like your wisdom on getting through it. Stay positive and good things and good people are drawn to good people! 👍

  • @TheGingerJoye
    @TheGingerJoye Рік тому +1

    you needed that break baby. We have to heal. So many of us don't take that alone time. Its sooo imperative. I'm glad you did that. Our African parents do their best lol

  • @ericaak26
    @ericaak26 Рік тому

    On a happier note, I just saw you in your L’Oreal commercial absolutely stunning, waiting for you to do a solo commercial!!!!!

  • @jacquelinekerrbush9737
    @jacquelinekerrbush9737 Рік тому

    You are a very special lady, I love your voice, your presence, your vulnerability, your honesty, the way you wear make up (because I also have a dark complexion), you do all so beautifully. You are blessed.

  • @TheRacqgrl769
    @TheRacqgrl769 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing this. I had a tough break-up last year and I remain glad that I decided to walk away. We are not friends and I'm ok with that, too. I have learned that my life is better flying solo. I, too, retreat into myself when I'm having a tough time with life. I act like the total Cancer I am by staying in my shell and only coming out when I absolutely must. I will probably return to therapy at some point this year. I have never had a lot of friends, though I do have someone in whom I can confide without fear of judgment. I feel glad that you have such a friend in your life. You're young and learning how to show up for yourself. Never stop doing this work, it will serve you in ways you cannot comprehend.

  • @missessirname4633
    @missessirname4633 Рік тому

    Oh Nyma🥹🥹 So sorry you were in such pain. Glad you are better. Sending love and hugs❤️🤗

  • @msleeclarke
    @msleeclarke Рік тому +3

    My 8 years relationship ended in 2017 and my ex wanted me back in 2023 hell no !! Am moving on and that was the best decision I made ever!!❤❤

  • @annvic3996
    @annvic3996 Рік тому

    I totally understand where u are coming from. We also broke up at the end of 2020. For 2years I mourned my relationship. 2021-2022 were the toughest years of my whole life. I became friends with crying and I was very much like you, never allowed myself feel my emotion until the breakup happened. The guy is genuinely a very good person but yeah I have improved so much since then. I also never told my family about my breakup until like few months in. We have the exact same story, except that I was 22years. Felt like I was going through a divorce too, I don't wish anyone that pain. It was so hard, some days were better and others crying all day. Couldn't wait to get home to cry whenever I was in public. I left all social media, till now, 2.5 years later. I pray you are doing so much better like I am. Take it easy and not go hard on yourself. It's different story when the person is a horrible person but them being good person makes it even harder to move on. My heart goes out to you Hun!

  • @mrslisajckson
    @mrslisajckson 6 місяців тому

    Sharing with my daughter who is struggling with now. Thank you.

  • @Arabba22
    @Arabba22 Рік тому

    Thank for sharing...and being resilient....

  • @melodyknight8084
    @melodyknight8084 Рік тому

    You are beautiful! Hey just know that we all have struggled. Sissy better you find out now, then in another 5 or 10 years. Everyone loves you ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing

  • @aprilshorty4094
    @aprilshorty4094 Рік тому +7

    Hey Nyma you're so right because time heals all wounds and talking about things helps so much 😊🥰

    • @NymaTang
      @NymaTang  Рік тому +2

      It’s really does ❤️

    • @cottoncandydaiysi
      @cottoncandydaiysi Рік тому +1

      @Nyma Tang it definitely does, we are stronger than we think. Many happy times to come.

    • @aprilshorty4094
      @aprilshorty4094 Рік тому +1

      @@cottoncandydaiysi 💯💯💯

  • @daniellerenee1505
    @daniellerenee1505 Рік тому +2

    In 2021 my 6 year relationship ended and I got put on Lexapro because I couldn’t deal. I couldn’t function. I never expected that to happen but the breakup rocked my world hardcore. We are back together now and things are going very well. I know that’s not how things are for everyone but I relate to everything you described about yourself and feelings. Glad you’re getting through it!

    • @NymaTang........
      @NymaTang........ Рік тому

      ☝🎁☝Thank you for always watching and commenting. You have been selected in my draw 🎊✨ Winners should text on nicegram to claim their prize. (Just Winners)

  • @yelzified
    @yelzified Рік тому

    From the first video of you I've seen up to (most especially) now, I continue to admire you as a person.

  • @khwezik3894
    @khwezik3894 Рік тому +3

    Well done you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💖💖