My husband died very recently and very suddenly. A friend recommended this book, and along with Jo McR’s UA-cam videos, I’m still standing. This new reality is hard and forever…
Sunday. I cannot cope. Woke with an incredible emptiness and pain. Mornings are hell. I am so alone now and have lost everything. Can’t make the pain go away. I am a shell. There is nothing. I am 81 now, Mary is gone, and I think I should be as well. All there is is pain.
I feel that I'm at the edge of the storm In dealing with my grief of my Wonderful husband. I am looking forward to using this book to help me navigate The days ahead
I have been using this book by Martha Hickman for about 9 months now. I found out about it through a grief support group that I joined in Feb 2022. By far, it has been THE most helpful book I have on grief, and I have a few! It has been a great support for me as I work through my heartbreaking reality since the sudden death of my husband in July 2021. From the moment I opened this book, I felt someone really understood what I was going through. I still read it regularly, sometimes just a single day's reflections, and sometimes I will binge-read multiple days of her entries. I am slowly moving along my path of grief, doing better over time, still a "one day at a time" experience. The three most helpful things for me has been my Zoom grief support group (for those who have lost a spouse or partner), this book (Healing After Loss), and the UA-cam grief community. Thank You everyone!!
I've purchased this book (used, because I try to steward my finances carefully), and I can agree it's a blessing as I try to wade my way through what I can only identify as post trauma after my husband's unexpected rapid decline and death July 12th. I am going through the motions but feel detached and disinterested. This book is helping me find my inner voice. It's a start.
I remember this book. A friend sent it to me shortly after my husband died. I read it daily and put bookmarks in special places until eventually the book had a marker on almost every date. I carried it with me in the car and when I went walking. I don’t have it anymore, but today I thought I might get a new copy and see how I’m doing. Thank you Jo.
Just ordered the book. I think I am dealing with my grief very well now, but a particular hard episode last night, reminded me that it is a long process. Thank you.❤
Hello folks in grief valley…the book Jo recommends is very comforting, however be mindful the cover has changed…I ordered mine from Amazon after searching around with my widow fog to confirm author & original publish date & the new cover is the same book…blessings as we all journey on…✨🦋✨
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you! Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
Thank you for the info, I sincerely appreciate the info, BUT the background music SUCKS big time. No offense nor disrespect intended, just respectful feedback.
I couldn't agree more! Beginner's Mistake. I wasn't confident enough in the early days of making videos....Thought I needed all the "stuff" to make a good video. You will find that the music is no longer part of my videos. Respectful feedback is always welcomed!! 🙏🏻
Joe everytime I try to write a comment that change the words, I tried to edit they move the words up and down and such Angel sentences and I've got you stuck in a little rectangular box so you can only see what you're written in the box you can't see what's going on outside of the box to be able to keep things in context. It now frustrates me so bad that I don't want to make any more comments due to the way UA-cam is handling how you make comments. In a tiny little rectangle that you can only see so many sentences in I'm even afraid now to send this to you because I know they're going to change the words and if I go to try and at it it's not going to do
My husband died very recently and very suddenly. A friend recommended this book, and along with Jo McR’s UA-cam videos, I’m still standing. This new reality is hard and forever…
Sunday. I cannot cope. Woke with an incredible emptiness and pain. Mornings are hell. I am so alone now and have lost everything. Can’t make the pain go away. I am a shell. There is nothing. I am 81 now, Mary is gone, and I think I should be as well. All there is is pain.
My brother passed almost 2 months ago but feels like last week. Watching your videos have given me comfort. Thank you.
I feel that I'm at the edge of the storm In dealing with my grief of my Wonderful husband. I am looking forward to using this book to help me navigate The days ahead
I have been using this book by Martha Hickman for about 9 months now. I found out about it through a grief support group that I joined in Feb 2022. By far, it has been THE most helpful book I have on grief, and I have a few! It has been a great support for me as I work through my heartbreaking reality since the sudden death of my husband in July 2021. From the moment I opened this book, I felt someone really understood what I was going through. I still read it regularly, sometimes just a single day's reflections, and sometimes I will binge-read multiple days of her entries.
I am slowly moving along my path of grief, doing better over time, still a "one day at a time" experience. The three most helpful things for me has been my Zoom grief support group (for those who have lost a spouse or partner), this book (Healing After Loss), and the UA-cam grief community. Thank You everyone!!
I've purchased this book (used, because I try to steward my finances carefully), and I can agree it's a blessing as I try to wade my way through what I can only identify as post trauma after my husband's unexpected rapid decline and death July 12th. I am going through the motions but feel detached and disinterested. This book is helping me find my inner voice. It's a start.
How interesting that you mentioned “PTSD” because I also think I have ptsd after the passing of my wife.
I just ordered the book, thank you
I remember this book. A friend sent it to me shortly after my husband died. I read it daily and put bookmarks in special places until eventually the book had a marker on almost every date. I carried it with me in the car and when I went walking. I don’t have it anymore, but today I thought I might get a new copy and see how I’m doing. Thank you Jo.
Just ordered the book. I think I am dealing with my grief very well now, but a particular hard episode last night, reminded me that it is a long process. Thank you.❤
Hello folks in grief valley…the book Jo recommends is very comforting, however be mindful the cover has changed…I ordered mine from Amazon after searching around with my widow fog to confirm author & original publish date & the new cover is the same book…blessings as we all journey on…✨🦋✨
Thank you Marcea for this update!! My copy is well worn and much treasured. I didn't realize the cover had changed! 💙
I told my granddaughter to order this book now
A friend gave me this & I've found it very helpful.
Maybe I should try this book … about to start Month 4 without my beloved husband … and this is a traumatic journey I wish I could have avoided 😢😢😢😢
Buying my copy now, Thank you
Love this book!!
Thank you
Hi what is the name of this book please and who wrote it you never gave the title
July 26th...my birthday 💫
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
Thank you for the info, I sincerely appreciate the info, BUT the background music SUCKS big time. No offense nor disrespect intended, just respectful feedback.
I couldn't agree more! Beginner's Mistake. I wasn't confident enough in the early days of making videos....Thought I needed all the "stuff" to make a good video. You will find that the music is no longer part of my videos. Respectful feedback is always welcomed!! 🙏🏻
Joe everytime I try to write a comment that change the words, I tried to edit they move the words up and down and such Angel sentences and I've got you stuck in a little rectangular box so you can only see what you're written in the box you can't see what's going on outside of the box to be able to keep things in context. It now frustrates me so bad that I don't want to make any more comments due to the way UA-cam is handling how you make comments. In a tiny little rectangle that you can only see so many sentences in I'm even afraid now to send this to you because I know they're going to change the words and if I go to try and at it it's not going to do