Ugh. YT doesn't show the key moments because "the content is inappropriate to some viewers" so I'm posting here. 00:41 Smoother talker (Proverbs 7:21) (Proverbs 4:3) 02:00 Has close male friend 03:25 Too many girl friends (Proverbs13:20) 06:11 Post a lot of selfies (negotiable) 07:50 "Pick-me" girl 10:20 She doesn't cook (negotiable) 12:54 Dishonor parents- terrible family background 15:49 Pet-mania 16:34 Unhealthy lifestyle 19:33 Lust 21:38 You met in the wrong place 23:58 Negative B 27:32 Career over family (negotiable?) 28:34 Fake passions (negotiable?) 30:03 Dumb B (Proverbs 14:1) 32:01 Lazy (Proverbs 10:4) 32:44 Low frequency 34:09 Wedding over marriage 34:45 No wisdom for children 37:22 Unkind & defensive 39:04 She won't follow you 41:19 No sense of money
You forget one type of woman. The woman who goes to church and claims to be a Christian. But she is very judgemental of her husband, and she refuses to submit to him because she thinks she is more spiritual than the husband.
@@shuihongwong Stop paying her bills. Stop helping her out or doing things for her. Only reward good behavior from her. Treat her like a child. If she speaks to you in a disrespectful way, then ignore her. Only listen to what she says if she shows you respect
I married a woman from a broken home. Parents abandoned her, abused her, never said I love you, and even worse the step dad was a child molestor. I tried to fix her, she abused me daily for my mistakes, constantly yell get mad at me, she loved me but it was abuse, I left her after 2 years of trying, she improved maybe 10-20%. Couldn't fix her.
I’ve done this and tried to “fix” her out of love.. you cannot love someone who is not ready to be loved or who does not love themselves or is not willing to accept the type of love you’re wholeheartedly pouring out because of insecurities & unresolved issues You Can NOT fix that dynamic ever. The Signs are there long before you prepare to walk the isle
@@alicebythepalm_he you are absolutely right With God and the Example of Jesus and the TRUE Adoption of the Holy Spirit, Anything truly is possible If people are not ready to change we can’t change them, but we can still give grace and mercy and when they are ready on their “journey” they can submit to God The Danger is losing who we are in Christ in pursuit of human beings unrepentant, and pridefully living in sin All in the name of love. It’s a very dangerous line to thread
Sorry you failed in your attempt to help a loved one. Don't let it discourage you from wanting to help people. Success rates in helping people become enlightened are in the single digits, so you actually did pretty well that you moved things 10 or 20 percent for her, another year or two it might have reached critical mass and the snowball affect may have kicked in - just mentioning for next time as maybe more patience will be required.
I took notes while listening, but they do not match the numbers in the video. These are my personal notes for my own use: Red flags: 1. She uses flattery and flirting dishonestly 2. She has a very close male friend, lacks boundaries 3. She has too many "close" girl friends, especially if you dont like them 4. Overly posts on social media 5. Is a pick me (points out how she isnt like the other girls) 6. She is overly opinionated about other women when it has nothing to do with her 7. She can't cook and has little interest in learning to cook 8. She dishonors/disrespects her parents 9. She comes from a broken home (extremely rare for her to comeback) 10. Extreme animal/pet protection, or has too many pets 11. Unhealthy lifestyle - messy home, bad diet, no exercise, fat, no routine, substance abuse 12. She talks bad about exes, unprompted 13. She's vulnerable to flattery, abusable boundaries 14. Porn habit 15. You met her in a bad environment (your fault) 16. She's negative or contentious, finds things to complain or argue about 17. She considers career life before family life 18. She has no real hobbies/passions (or she uses them as bait) 19. She's poorly educated 20. She's lazy - happier doing trivial things (TV, social media) over something productive 21. She's more excited for the wedding than married life 22. She's a helicopter mom - wants to solve her children's issues rather than teach problem solving 23. She prioritizes the children above you 24. She's defensive, lacks a sense of humor 25. She's impolite and lacks manners 26. She's unwilling to leave her comfort (home, city, etc) for you 27. She's not submissive 28. She has no financial sense 29. She squanders money and lacks charity
Usually "advice" from women isn't great if not outright deceptive, but it's a good list. Too bad modern gals nowadays have at least a couple on the list. While becomes all the more obvious to avoid if they have so many more on the list
Thank you brother! i just want to clarify that "having no real passions" is not an absolute NO. But if that's the reason you're attracted to her, discern if that "passion" is just a bait.
My ex-wife cannot cook and has no interest in learning. She struggles with significant insecurity issues and often behaves immaturely. Additionally, she does not show respect for her parents or her husband. She has also been diagnosed with multiple personality disorder. It was a hell marriage. The divorce was heartbreaking but I’m glad I got out.
The "right" woman? You may be waiting forever. That's ok though, it could be your path to do it that way. After all, a person is not their desires. Desires are only temporary aspects of our being in this world. Believe me, if it's already been 11 years, then just wow! Because I would have never been able to hold out that long when I was in my twenties or thirties. For me, I would have moved on to the more permanent aspects of a human soul after just a few months (which I still multi-tasked into my life anyway).
@Tom-and-Jerry-again I been through a lot and have had to work on myself and my sanctification process with God and it was through my suffering caused by my own misery I found Jesus and I wouldn't have it any other way. I have faith that he will guide me to the correct one soon! Shalom ❤️
Remember that it is a process. Do not be discouraged if you do not see progress. You will look back one day and see how far you have come, and be amazed. Look to God and pray for guidance if you have not already. It will not always be easy, but He makes the path straight.
33 here and leaving it all up to Christ. I dont wanna be yolk to someone who has a prideful heart. Seeks to control you, can never admit mistake. Basically my mom and sister or most women in general.
Even for a man who like to cook (like me), if a girl can't cook and are note interested in eating good quality food it's a red flag for me. Because if I can't cook every day, she will have to do it sometimes, for me and my children, and I don't want that my children eat garbage food
Well said! I’m not married, and I’m learning to cook, but if I ever have a wife, I would like her to know how to cook. She doesn’t have to cook all day, just know how to do it
Always waiting for your next update!! This is soooo important, because so many good guys are falling into traps. I've been manipulated before till the point of Isolation. It was painful, and long recovery.
Thank you for sharing these key points and your insights Alice! These will be helpful for any man who seeks the Proverbs 31 women. ‘May YEHOVAH bless you and keep you. May YEHOVAH make His face shine on you and show you His favor. May YEHOVAH lift up His face toward you and give you peace.’ - Numbers 6:24-26
Thank you Alice for the your valuable message. I want to tell you that please don't be discouraged by negative people. There are some bad people who tries to discourage you in various ways(Even some jealous and misdirected Christians) Please don't be discouraged by them. We loves you a lot and supports you a lot. Brothers like me are always with you. So please keep doing your valuable service to our father. Love you sis. And you look so beautiful and cute as always my lovely sister. May God Bless you love🤗❤✝️
Watching this, taking mental notes, while I am perfectly aware that I am not even close to the man our lord wants me to be, feels wrong. I have to do a lot better to deserve a woman that doesn't suffer from any/most of these red flags.
Just six minutes in, and you've totally nailed it. Thank you for sharing this I'm genuinely grateful. I'm amazed to find someone who thinks the same way, and honestly, I didn't expect to hear this perspective from a woman. I really wish I could meet someone with a mindset like yours here in Singapore. Thank you!
Im 5 min in and she didn't mention Jesus or God etc at all. So is she a blessing at all? It's just talk about hoes. If you want to know if you marry right woman just ask her to clean the dishes after she cook a meal for both of you.
Sister, you are the cutest thing ever. Not in a creepy way, but your heart and your intentions feel so pure. Now that being said. You have a great handle on the word. I’m currently in a marriage that has all the horrible attributes of covert fella Christian narcissist narcissistic traits, please keep posting 🙏🏾you are needed.
I've experienced some of these signs, but God has been giving me discernment and a lot of it. Im not so easily fooled anymore. Thanks, Alice, for this video
As a married man of 12 years, these are spot on. The list I’ve been through with my 3 sons, are literally, all these. Which are all, what their mother is NOT. So I have no doubt their future spouses, young ladies we’ve been praying for, since not only our sons infancy, but theirs too, will be exactly like their example of women, their mother, who models herself after the blessed Virgin Mary, as I do, St. Joseph.
I thought I was in love, but God had other plans. And now, about a month of seeking God later, the quote that the title is taken from has been in my head all day. Now, thanks to you, I can see why. God really does work in ways we cannot perceive. Thank God and thank you as well.
I appreciate this video and your tips and words of advice. Everything you said was clear, makes sense and is very understandable. I have the habit of liking women who are the opposite of what the Bible teaches, this helps clarify things so much! Thank you.
On the point of negative nancy's "Why don't you knock it off with them negative waves!? Why cant you say something righteous and hopeful for a change? Why dont dig how beautiful it is out here?" -Oddball
Reminds me of Sujātā and the Seven wives. In the Buddha’s words to Sujātā, he outlines seven types of wives, each representing different qualities in a partner-from harmful traits like the “killer” (hostile and unfaithful) or “thief” (greedy and selfish), to positive ones like the “mother” (nurturing and protective), the “friend” (loyal and supportive), and the “bondservant” (devoted and respectful). It’s a timeless perspective on the qualities that make for a harmonious partnership: a wife who embodies care, respect, and loyalty sets the foundation for a peaceful relationship.
Unfortunately, Buddha is in Hell. Reincarnation doesn't exist. You are given one chance on earth to learn righteousness from God, the Father of all life. And then the Judgement.
Its crazy how back when i really needed it i would have never listened to any of this but after you experience it, it seems pretty obvious and you feel stupid as hell but im also confident thats how ill remember for the rest of my life... Btw you're a gem 😇
Dear Miss Alice, God has inspired you with this wise message for young men seeking a wife. The Holy Spirit has given you Rhema. God has blessed you with wisdom, boldness, courage, discernment, and favor. May God continue to bless you, your family, your ministry, and your life. I pray that the anointing of the Holy Spirit is with you always. Dr. Antonino
Best marriages are two people striving to be like Christ. The best thing to do in any relationship is just work on yourself. Become more intelligent, wise, self control of emotions, spiritually lead, and physically fit. At the vary least you can move on from a relationship better self than you went into it. Marriage ought to be helping each other improve like iron sharpening iron.
Very hard to say no to beauty even when the beauty is being constantly abusive. In the end you do because you have to, the trick is not to look back which is difficult also. Great video. God bless you.
Living in western Europe, I enjoy cooking for some weird reason. I don't know any girl that knows how to cook, and they joke about it like it's something to be proud of. Same with other house chores like washing/ironing clothes. Sufficed to say all of these girls are currently single and/or divorced. Godly women are really, really hard to find in western Europe these days.
I am native German. I extensively travelled around the east - Asia, Eurasia. In the end I ended up in Russia, where I am since more then 15 years. And you know what, although many women here use to cook and do some housework they are in many ways even worse then our western women. Chinese and Russian women in general are way more addicted to material wealth, conveniences, more dishonest, more manipulative, have a completely matriarchical mindset, put the man always after themselves, their child, the house and the dog. 1 % of eastern women are probably suitable wife "material" from a biblical standpoint whereas in the west we still might have 5% left so the chances to find a good wife in the place you are rn is still 5 times higher then elsewhere.
As a western man living and working in China, with full command of Chinese mandarin... it's insane to see how many of these stereotypes go around in this country. I've stayed single for the last three years. But of course God knows best for me. Someone is coming along, if not.. "Next to You I'll find another sea". God Bless you Alice. 你的英文真的很好~ 祝你一切顺利
Dishonor parents is the same as forgive others. It doesn't mean allow them to harm you any further, but you must stand your ground in loving yourself. My father has been mentally abusive his entire life towards me. I don't dishonor him, but he needs to come to terms with the fact I will not allow him around the people I care for unless he changes his ways.
The command 2 honour parents as in submission to authorities r general disciplines by which a believer must cultivate.How can one honour n fear the Lord (whom 1 cant c)if 1 had not 1st learned with those they interact with n under.Do not b confused, these commands do not apply across the board 2 cover extremely toxic parents like child abusers wife beaters n the like.Just as 1 would not submit n recant one's faith by threats thru the tyrannical system.
Thank you for the wonderful insight, saved me from a lot of headache. I have a long way to go until I can have a woman that doesn't have any of these red flags.
I did marry a woman who was always saying no. I'm a very positive person and I purposely put the blinders on after the marriage, still it became very hard as the years went on. The divorce was caused by a second and third character flaw.
i would say, this is good teaching. very practical way to notice and bolderline strengthen all the types of women. i naturally avoid all these women, and knowing these from you yourself as woman, I would say, yeah, im safe now, im not wrong. phew, thank you for assuring me.
I’m tryna get like you big dawg. But I’m in college and I figure I ought to wait feel like my mind and these girls are to young mindset wise. You’re a lucky guy.
DAAAAM…, when god made you…, heaven couldn’t even compete. Cuz you are the most fair church girl that god blessed me to come across. Peace, I’m out little dove.
Sometimes, it feels like God sends messages through the UA-cam algorithm, and this was a much-needed information in today's world filled with toxic red-pill content. As a guy, I recognize some toxic traits in myself that I need to work on, and this content is an eye-opener. Please keep sharing this kind of guidance that encourages people to make better choices. As someone who seeks truth, both in this world and beyond, I’m curious about your perspective on why, at times, women seem to resist straightforward or uncomfortable truths. Whether it’s in personal matters, politics, finances, or spirituality, it often feels like there’s discomfort around truth-seeking. Its as though they prefer to live comfortably in a false reality than break illusions to seek truth beyond. Why might that be?
You're really setting the bar quite high. Not that that, in and of itself, is a problem. We all need standards to live by, but it seems like with such an exhaustive list of red flags, the pool of marriage worthy women is very small, especially in this day and age. I'd like to hear your thoughts on any exceptions you think we could make and in what types of scenarios we can "settle" for certain flaws. Given that we are all imperfect, it would seem to me that there must be some time and some place for grace, encouragement, and forgiveness. All that being said, I thoroughly enjoyed this video and found it to be very informative.
if only there was a video like this 6 years ago, it would have saved me alot of emotional damage. I married someone who came from a broken family and she was more excited for the wedding than the marriage... and the marriage did not last more than 7 months. I am someone who came from a close family and not broken at all.. I believed in marriage being forever, but she ruined my life
This channel has learned that casting stones will gather a crowd. They are also good with the carrot/stick approach. I'm still waiting for the this is how you go to heaven and this is how you go to hell videos. I figure they're holding those back still.
There is one thing I would add. Your point on kindness is crucial. In addition to watching if she is kind to humans, watch if she is kind to animals because animals are helpless in the hands of humans. She doesn't have to be the crazy cat lady of the neighborhood, but definitely she should not be cruel to them. If she is cruel to animals, just imagine how she would treat her children.
I'm a fan of Pearl and you could be the next pearl. However the point on 'poorly educated' and 'career obsessed' could be contradicting cause statistics has shown women with a basic degree or diploma(average education) have focused and climbed the corporate world pass their biological prime and lost sight of family traditional values. So it's either one or the other and not possible to discount both. The solution is to pick a woman who is coachable and the probability of training and coaching an under educated woman is achievable. However the possibility of training and coaching an educated career driven woman is extremely low. An example would be Renaldo dating a sales assistant. Women date UP but men have no problems dating DOWN. Overall you pretty much nailed it and 2 thumbs up for quoting Proverbs!
I'm not going to wait much longer because the pain is too great. I've been completely alone my whole life and could never find anyone and it's been more than a decade since high school.
I love cooking and am very good at it, but I still would like to find a woman who can cook or is willing to learn. I’d prefer if she can stay home with the kids-if she cooks and cleans while I’m at work, won’t there be so much more time and peace at home to enjoy our life together as a family? Not that I would stop cooking altogether or anything, nor expect her to permanently abandon her career if she likes it. Intelligent women don’t seem to want to stay home, though. It seems exceedingly hard to find a smart woman who wants to be a homemaker.
Very good advice in general! I am not sure about women that are educated being better though. Stats show that the more educated she is (PhD, Master's bachelor's), the more she will be likely to file for a divorce. At least in America that is true. “A 2015 study by the American Sociological Association revealed that women initiate 69 percent of all divorces in the U.S. Further, the same study found that college-educated women initiate divorce at an even higher rate of 90 percent.”
Ugh. YT doesn't show the key moments because "the content is inappropriate to some viewers" so I'm posting here.
00:41 Smoother talker (Proverbs 7:21) (Proverbs 4:3)
02:00 Has close male friend
03:25 Too many girl friends (Proverbs13:20)
06:11 Post a lot of selfies (negotiable)
07:50 "Pick-me" girl
10:20 She doesn't cook (negotiable)
12:54 Dishonor parents- terrible family background
15:49 Pet-mania
16:34 Unhealthy lifestyle
19:33 Lust
21:38 You met in the wrong place
23:58 Negative B
27:32 Career over family (negotiable?)
28:34 Fake passions (negotiable?)
30:03 Dumb B (Proverbs 14:1)
32:01 Lazy (Proverbs 10:4)
32:44 Low frequency
34:09 Wedding over marriage
34:45 No wisdom for children
37:22 Unkind & defensive
39:04 She won't follow you
41:19 No sense of money
You forget one type of woman. The woman who goes to church and claims to be a Christian. But she is very judgemental of her husband, and she refuses to submit to him because she thinks she is more spiritual than the husband.
Alice, the world is totally upside down, at least here in the west, keep doing what you’re inspired to do.
@Alice what can I do if I already married one like this and I cannot divorce because I have little child?
@@shuihongwong Stop paying her bills. Stop helping her out or doing things for her. Only reward good behavior from her. Treat her like a child. If she speaks to you in a disrespectful way, then ignore her. Only listen to what she says if she shows you respect
and you are one of them
I married a woman from a broken home. Parents abandoned her, abused her, never said I love you, and even worse the step dad was a child molestor. I tried to fix her, she abused me daily for my mistakes, constantly yell get mad at me, she loved me but it was abuse, I left her after 2 years of trying, she improved maybe 10-20%. Couldn't fix her.
I’ve done this and tried to “fix” her out of love.. you cannot love someone who is not ready to be loved or who does not love themselves or is not willing to accept the type of love you’re wholeheartedly pouring out because of insecurities & unresolved issues
You Can NOT fix that dynamic ever.
The Signs are there long before you prepare to walk the isle
Walk away when she isn't ready to take your love. Let them be free, but leave the door open, like God does.
Yes, only Jesus can transform a person. But before that happens, don't try to be a savior. That's humility and wisdom.
@@alicebythepalm_he you are absolutely right
With God and the Example of Jesus and the TRUE Adoption of the Holy Spirit, Anything truly is possible
If people are not ready to change we can’t change them, but we can still give grace and mercy and when they are ready on their “journey” they can submit to God
The Danger is losing who we are in Christ in pursuit of human beings unrepentant, and pridefully living in sin
All in the name of love. It’s a very dangerous line to thread
Sorry you failed in your attempt to help a loved one. Don't let it discourage you from wanting to help people. Success rates in helping people become enlightened are in the single digits, so you actually did pretty well that you moved things 10 or 20 percent for her, another year or two it might have reached critical mass and the snowball affect may have kicked in - just mentioning for next time as maybe more patience will be required.
I took notes while listening, but they do not match the numbers in the video. These are my personal notes for my own use:
Red flags:
1. She uses flattery and flirting dishonestly
2. She has a very close male friend, lacks boundaries
3. She has too many "close" girl friends, especially if you dont like them
4. Overly posts on social media
5. Is a pick me (points out how she isnt like the other girls)
6. She is overly opinionated about other women when it has nothing to do with her
7. She can't cook and has little interest in learning to cook
8. She dishonors/disrespects her parents
9. She comes from a broken home (extremely rare for her to comeback)
10. Extreme animal/pet protection, or has too many pets
11. Unhealthy lifestyle - messy home, bad diet, no exercise, fat, no routine, substance abuse
12. She talks bad about exes, unprompted
13. She's vulnerable to flattery, abusable boundaries
14. Porn habit
15. You met her in a bad environment (your fault)
16. She's negative or contentious, finds things to complain or argue about
17. She considers career life before family life
18. She has no real hobbies/passions (or she uses them as bait)
19. She's poorly educated
20. She's lazy - happier doing trivial things (TV, social media) over something productive
21. She's more excited for the wedding than married life
22. She's a helicopter mom - wants to solve her children's issues rather than teach problem solving
23. She prioritizes the children above you
24. She's defensive, lacks a sense of humor
25. She's impolite and lacks manners
26. She's unwilling to leave her comfort (home, city, etc) for you
27. She's not submissive
28. She has no financial sense
29. She squanders money and lacks charity
what a G
Thanks!
Wow.... Bro. God works in mysterious ways, but His ways are always for His good. He used you and Alice to bless us all!
Your numbers don't match hers. She only has 22 signs ☺🙏
Usually "advice" from women isn't great if not outright deceptive, but it's a good list. Too bad modern gals nowadays have at least a couple on the list. While becomes all the more obvious to avoid if they have so many more on the list
Thank you brother! i just want to clarify that "having no real passions" is not an absolute NO. But if that's the reason you're attracted to her, discern if that "passion" is just a bait.
My ex-wife cannot cook and has no interest in learning. She struggles with significant insecurity issues and often behaves immaturely. Additionally, she does not show respect for her parents or her husband. She has also been diagnosed with multiple personality disorder. It was a hell marriage. The divorce was heartbreaking but I’m glad I got out.
Glad for you buddy.
Speaking as a married man, I can say that every single one of these signs is true.
Been single for over 11 years and i can wait 11 years more because i trust God to guide me to the right woman.
Are you 11
Amen brother 💪 with god there is no scarcity mentality
The "right" woman? You may be waiting forever. That's ok though, it could be your path to do it that way. After all, a person is not their desires. Desires are only temporary aspects of our being in this world. Believe me, if it's already been 11 years, then just wow! Because I would have never been able to hold out that long when I was in my twenties or thirties. For me, I would have moved on to the more permanent aspects of a human soul after just a few months (which I still multi-tasked into my life anyway).
@Tom-and-Jerry-again I been through a lot and have had to work on myself and my sanctification process with God and it was through my suffering caused by my own misery I found Jesus and I wouldn't have it any other way. I have faith that he will guide me to the correct one soon! Shalom ❤️
@ If you on your path of improvement (of god) the it won’t take that long. It won’t be easy or super quick of course but it will come trust 🙏
Haha, it was good for reflection of myself, and warnings.
I totally have work to do on myself.
Remember that it is a process. Do not be discouraged if you do not see progress. You will look back one day and see how far you have come, and be amazed. Look to God and pray for guidance if you have not already. It will not always be easy, but He makes the path straight.
33 here and leaving it all up to Christ.
I dont wanna be yolk to someone who has a prideful heart.
Seeks to control you, can never admit mistake.
Basically my mom and sister or most women in general.
Strongly agree.
Even for a man who like to cook (like me), if a girl can't cook and are note interested in eating good quality food it's a red flag for me. Because if I can't cook every day, she will have to do it sometimes, for me and my children, and I don't want that my children eat garbage food
They'll resort to feeding them low quality food as well, not at all good for a child's cognitive and physical development. So I agree ✊🏾
Well said! I’m not married, and I’m learning to cook, but if I ever have a wife, I would like her to know how to cook. She doesn’t have to cook all day, just know how to do it
Always waiting for your next update!! This is soooo important, because so many good guys are falling into traps. I've been manipulated before till the point of Isolation. It was painful, and long recovery.
You are Spot on with ALLLL of these
I’ve experienced this in the past firsthand
There are always signs, glaring red flags 🚩
I honestly did not expect this level of depth, nor the biblical references. Very good job
Thank you for sharing these key points and your insights Alice! These will be helpful for any man who seeks the Proverbs 31 women.
‘May YEHOVAH bless you and keep you.
May YEHOVAH make His face shine on you and show you His favor.
May YEHOVAH lift up His face toward you and give you peace.’ - Numbers 6:24-26
wow this one's an A-tier content at the least
Thank you Alice for the your valuable message. I want to tell you that please don't be discouraged by negative people. There are some bad people who tries to discourage you in various ways(Even some jealous and misdirected Christians) Please don't be discouraged by them. We loves you a lot and supports you a lot. Brothers like me are always with you. So please keep doing your valuable service to our father. Love you sis. And you look so beautiful and cute as always my lovely sister. May God Bless you love🤗❤✝️
So true
Watching this, taking mental notes, while I am perfectly aware that I am not even close to the man our lord wants me to be, feels wrong.
I have to do a lot better to deserve a woman that doesn't suffer from any/most of these red flags.
Self-awareness is the first step. You made it.
Number 15 blew my socks clean off. May you lead many men to salvation with your motherly love.❤️
Just six minutes in, and you've totally nailed it. Thank you for sharing this
I'm genuinely grateful. I'm amazed to find someone who thinks the same way, and honestly, I didn't expect to hear this perspective from a woman. I really wish I could meet someone with a mindset like yours here in Singapore. Thank you!
Lady, you are blessed and are a blessing to the world. Keep going, because you are glorifying God our Lord Jesus Christ. Looking for a woman like you
Im 5 min in and she didn't mention Jesus or God etc at all. So is she a blessing at all? It's just talk about hoes. If you want to know if you marry right woman just ask her to clean the dishes after she cook a meal for both of you.
U r 1 of a kind simp,I'll tell ya.
You deserve high praise for this comprehensive review. You are a proverbs 31 woman. Thank you
Great video Alice,You should also do another video for women too.They should also need the advice to know about men.😊
Sister, you are the cutest thing ever. Not in a creepy way, but your heart and your intentions feel so pure. Now that being said. You have a great handle on the word. I’m currently in a marriage that has all the horrible attributes of covert fella Christian narcissist narcissistic traits, please keep posting 🙏🏾you are needed.
I've experienced some of these signs, but God has been giving me discernment and a lot of it. Im not so easily fooled anymore. Thanks, Alice, for this video
As a married man of 12 years, these are spot on. The list I’ve been through with my 3 sons, are literally, all these. Which are all, what their mother is NOT. So I have no doubt their future spouses, young ladies we’ve been praying for, since not only our sons infancy, but theirs too, will be exactly like their example of women, their mother, who models herself after the blessed Virgin Mary, as I do, St. Joseph.
Beautiful Miss Alice with truth bombs!
I thought I was in love, but God had other plans. And now, about a month of seeking God later, the quote that the title is taken from has been in my head all day. Now, thanks to you, I can see why. God really does work in ways we cannot perceive. Thank God and thank you as well.
Thank you !! Keep it up !!
I appreciate this video and your tips and words of advice. Everything you said was clear, makes sense and is very understandable. I have the habit of liking women who are the opposite of what the Bible teaches, this helps clarify things so much! Thank you.
On the point of negative nancy's
"Why don't you knock it off with them negative waves!? Why cant you say something righteous and hopeful for a change? Why dont dig how beautiful it is out here?" -Oddball
She's a woman?
GREAT ADVICE ALICE ALL TRUE !
Reminds me of Sujātā and the Seven wives. In the Buddha’s words to Sujātā, he outlines seven types of wives, each representing different qualities in a partner-from harmful traits like the “killer” (hostile and unfaithful) or “thief” (greedy and selfish), to positive ones like the “mother” (nurturing and protective), the “friend” (loyal and supportive), and the “bondservant” (devoted and respectful). It’s a timeless perspective on the qualities that make for a harmonious partnership: a wife who embodies care, respect, and loyalty sets the foundation for a peaceful relationship.
Unfortunately, Buddha is in Hell. Reincarnation doesn't exist. You are given one chance on earth to learn righteousness from God, the Father of all life. And then the Judgement.
@@ivanshiek Or neither is true. I made no statements regarding the theological aspect of Buddhism, but the wisdom it carries.
Its crazy how back when i really needed it i would have never listened to any of this but after you experience it, it seems pretty obvious and you feel stupid as hell but im also confident thats how ill remember for the rest of my life... Btw you're a gem 😇
Dear Miss Alice,
God has inspired you with this wise message for young men seeking a wife. The Holy Spirit has given you Rhema.
God has blessed you with wisdom, boldness, courage, discernment, and favor.
May God continue to bless you, your family, your ministry, and your life. I pray that the anointing of the Holy Spirit is with you always.
Dr. Antonino
Best marriages are two people striving to be like Christ. The best thing to do in any relationship is just work on yourself. Become more intelligent, wise, self control of emotions, spiritually lead, and physically fit. At the vary least you can move on from a relationship better self than you went into it. Marriage ought to be helping each other improve like iron sharpening iron.
Good advice, Alice, and timely, with good psychological basis. Past traumas foretell future problems.
Very hard to say no to beauty even when the beauty is being constantly abusive. In the end you do because you have to, the trick is not to look back which is difficult also. Great video. God bless you.
wise words
You seem smooth at talking.
Ha ha😊
Not all that glitters and smoothly talks is gold
Love the content. Thanks for providing good tips and explanations behind each of your tips
The message does speak to me. But you just eliminated 95% of women out there.
Living in western Europe, I enjoy cooking for some weird reason. I don't know any girl that knows how to cook, and they joke about it like it's something to be proud of. Same with other house chores like washing/ironing clothes. Sufficed to say all of these girls are currently single and/or divorced. Godly women are really, really hard to find in western Europe these days.
I am native German. I extensively travelled around the east - Asia, Eurasia. In the end I ended up in Russia, where I am since more then 15 years. And you know what, although many women here use to cook and do some housework they are in many ways even worse then our western women. Chinese and Russian women in general are way more addicted to material wealth, conveniences, more dishonest, more manipulative, have a completely matriarchical mindset, put the man always after themselves, their child, the house and the dog. 1 % of eastern women are probably suitable wife "material" from a biblical standpoint whereas in the west we still might have 5% left so the chances to find a good wife in the place you are rn is still 5 times higher then elsewhere.
As a western man living and working in China, with full command of Chinese mandarin... it's insane to see how many of these stereotypes go around in this country. I've stayed single for the last three years. But of course God knows best for me. Someone is coming along, if not.. "Next to You I'll find another sea". God Bless you Alice. 你的英文真的很好~ 祝你一切顺利
Dishonor parents is the same as forgive others. It doesn't mean allow them to harm you any further, but you must stand your ground in loving yourself. My father has been mentally abusive his entire life towards me. I don't dishonor him, but he needs to come to terms with the fact I will not allow him around the people I care for unless he changes his ways.
The command 2 honour parents as in submission to authorities r general disciplines by which a believer must cultivate.How can one honour n fear the Lord (whom 1 cant c)if 1 had not 1st learned with those they interact with n under.Do not b confused, these commands do not apply across the board 2 cover extremely toxic parents like child abusers wife beaters n the like.Just as 1 would not submit n recant one's faith by threats thru the tyrannical system.
Thank you for the wonderful insight, saved me from a lot of headache. I have a long way to go until I can have a woman that doesn't have any of these red flags.
Sage advice, thank you. God bless you, sister.
Thank you for the video. I watched the ads in hopes it helps you with making more content
I did marry a woman who was always saying no. I'm a very positive person and I purposely put the blinders on after the marriage, still it became very hard as the years went on. The divorce was caused by a second and third character flaw.
Only marry who God tells you to marry, you should feel love in your heart when it happens. And just take it one step at a time.
Hey Alice!
I have been freed from sexual sins for almost 14 years. All I can say, these are true and I can't wait till I found my Godly spouse
I like her channel. I can agree with all of these
I’ve made this mistake and I’m now paying for it. Going through a divorce with a narcissist.
Same
Amen to that. God bless you.
Great job. Biblically sound message.
i would say, this is good teaching. very practical way to notice and bolderline strengthen all the types of women. i naturally avoid all these women, and knowing these from you yourself as woman, I would say, yeah, im safe now, im not wrong. phew, thank you for assuring me.
Thank you mama
Love the concept i just wish you whispered more like before in other videos. It makes the videos more relaxing
Brilliant analysis, thanks.
Thanks for the advices.
I hope you'll do a same video about redflags about men, this way I'll can improve myself.
Men r all red flags unless they can't get tht thing up n about.
I married a proverbs 31 woman. Been married to her for 31 years.
I’m tryna get like you big dawg. But I’m in college and I figure I ought to wait feel like my mind and these girls are to young mindset wise. You’re a lucky guy.
I am watching and listening to an Angel. ❤❤
Wow great video, you’ve gained a new sub 🗿👍🏾
Thank you
Thanks Alice
DAAAAM…, when god made you…, heaven couldn’t even compete. Cuz you are the most fair church girl that god blessed me to come across. Peace, I’m out little dove.
Thank you 👍
Sometimes, it feels like God sends messages through the UA-cam algorithm, and this was a much-needed information in today's world filled with toxic red-pill content. As a guy, I recognize some toxic traits in myself that I need to work on, and this content is an eye-opener. Please keep sharing this kind of guidance that encourages people to make better choices.
As someone who seeks truth, both in this world and beyond, I’m curious about your perspective on why, at times, women seem to resist straightforward or uncomfortable truths. Whether it’s in personal matters, politics, finances, or spirituality, it often feels like there’s discomfort around truth-seeking. Its as though they prefer to live comfortably in a false reality than break illusions to seek truth beyond. Why might that be?
You're really setting the bar quite high. Not that that, in and of itself, is a problem. We all need standards to live by, but it seems like with such an exhaustive list of red flags, the pool of marriage worthy women is very small, especially in this day and age. I'd like to hear your thoughts on any exceptions you think we could make and in what types of scenarios we can "settle" for certain flaws. Given that we are all imperfect, it would seem to me that there must be some time and some place for grace, encouragement, and forgiveness. All that being said, I thoroughly enjoyed this video and found it to be very informative.
She is setting the bar sooo high,she needs the bible 2 stand on.
Way ahead of you sister.
YOUR ARE GOOD!
if only there was a video like this 6 years ago, it would have saved me alot of emotional damage. I married someone who came from a broken family and she was more excited for the wedding than the marriage... and the marriage did not last more than 7 months. I am someone who came from a close family and not broken at all.. I believed in marriage being forever, but she ruined my life
God bless bro that hurt reading
Also "woman" can be "thoughts"...or "ideas"...your "subconscious" also. It is multi-faceted. Guard your mind and your heart.
Thank you sister
This channel has learned that casting stones will gather a crowd. They are also good with the carrot/stick approach. I'm still waiting for the this is how you go to heaven and this is how you go to hell videos. I figure they're holding those back still.
It’s sad but now the majority of the girl corresponds to this list and at the same time consider themselves good, but in reality this is not so.
Crap. I feel you described my own mother completely
it's better to be single than to marry
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100% especially in U.S. and UK
There is one thing I would add. Your point on kindness is crucial. In addition to watching if she is kind to humans, watch if she is kind to animals because animals are helpless in the hands of humans. She doesn't have to be the crazy cat lady of the neighborhood, but definitely she should not be cruel to them. If she is cruel to animals, just imagine how she would treat her children.
I'm a fan of Pearl and you could be the next pearl. However the point on 'poorly educated' and 'career obsessed' could be contradicting cause statistics has shown women with a basic degree or diploma(average education) have focused and climbed the corporate world pass their biological prime and lost sight of family traditional values. So it's either one or the other and not possible to discount both. The solution is to pick a woman who is coachable and the probability of training and coaching an under educated woman is achievable. However the possibility of training and coaching an educated career driven woman is extremely low. An example would be Renaldo dating a sales assistant. Women date UP but men have no problems dating DOWN. Overall you pretty much nailed it and 2 thumbs up for quoting Proverbs!
Thank you for the video. It is a great learning. Can you do another video for guys that you can’t marry?
Bible aside, these are all very on point, and should be every man's baseline requirement for a woman.
great advice
Good job
I'm not going to wait much longer because the pain is too great. I've been completely alone my whole life and could never find anyone and it's been more than a decade since high school.
Q: r the female specie attracted 2 u? If so stick with girlfrens,ur still young.
Waiting for you
That is what my great grandfather always told me find you a wife who can cook now It all make sense.
I am fortunate to be blessed with a good woman. I’m teaching my son to marry a good woman as well. One wrong woman can ruin you and your kids.
YAHUAH BLESS! From Ophir.
Your eyes and face are glowing. ❤
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If one’s bride cannot cook, he should be a man who likes peanut butter and jelly sandwiches very much.
Amen.
True. Her friends were feeding her mind garbage and knew and encouraged her bad behavior behind my back.
I love cooking and am very good at it, but I still would like to find a woman who can cook or is willing to learn. I’d prefer if she can stay home with the kids-if she cooks and cleans while I’m at work, won’t there be so much more time and peace at home to enjoy our life together as a family? Not that I would stop cooking altogether or anything, nor expect her to permanently abandon her career if she likes it.
Intelligent women don’t seem to want to stay home, though. It seems exceedingly hard to find a smart woman who wants to be a homemaker.
Words of wisdom
Idk why but I can fast all day and only eat some when I’m hungry and I feel good and I also watch my shape
If you could find a wife these days with 1/8 of these qualities, you're in the top 10 of the luckiest men in the world.
If I find an Angel like Alice , I'll get married. Otherwise loneliness is a small price to pay for peace.
Battle of the unspoken secret war,keep fighting soldier 😊❤
It is written: Be not familiar with any woman but recommend all good women to God
Very good advice in general! I am not sure about women that are educated being better though. Stats show that the more educated she is (PhD, Master's bachelor's), the more she will be likely to file for a divorce. At least in America that is true. “A 2015 study by the American Sociological Association revealed that women initiate 69 percent of all divorces in the U.S. Further, the same study found that college-educated women initiate divorce at an even higher rate of 90 percent.”
You're right. It's not about degree. It's about class.
Why do Some women lie so much when it concerns relationships? Why can't they deal honestly?