In a previous video, we covered the 7 Ways Alcoholic parents can have on their children, and many of you guys requested videos on the other types of parents. Such as those who gambles, have an addiction etc. We thought we cover it all under the umbrella: Toxic Families. Give it a watch and see if you could relate. Here's a link to our family playlist: ua-cam.com/video/vaElG9sHiKw/v-deo.html
Psych2Go Thanks for realizing my suggestion in an even better way than I had expected 👍 I had been the first type of child at the beginning but when I realized that I will never be able to fix my broken family/ my dad's gambling addiction and his related psychological issues such as schezophrenia, I became the "lost child/dreamer" that just sort of waits for.. something.. in a lazy way, without any goals. Not for suicide because I could never hurt my mother who has been through so much.. My brother's kinda like me, just not as "open" (even though I'm socially beyond awkward) and unlike me, he has known what he wants to do for a living since he was a little kid. I would go to a psychotherapist if I had enough confidence and the belief of being able to actually live again.
Peachy 12 That's me. :) As a child, I was the class clown (#4) with good achievements (#1). I used to be the teacher's favorite and blessed with high IQ. I enter the best university in my country...and start noticing that the world is bigger than my family. Now as an adult I am more of a dreamer... I'm so tired all the time. Whatever I do, my mom would always point out where I was wrong and give me a neverending criticisms. No matter how much I tried, I would never good enough for her. In her eyes, I was the fat, poor, ugly, weirdo, stupid, sinner that would never be able to step on her perfect shoes, and I would burn in hell forever. I am the only child from a narcissist/abusive/super religious mom and an uninvolved/nonchalant dad. I feel so lonely and tried to kill myself 3 times at uni. Now I'm better, because I don't give a fuck anymore. I left people before they left me. I am happy and beautiful in my imagination world...and I am grateful for living in the internet era. Btw Psych2Go, thank you for your interesting videos. I love them, they're on point!
Would love to see a video on how to spot well-adjusted people who came from good homes. That would be a big help for singles trying to avoid toxic partners.
My parents, if they caught me watching this video, would be like, “we are not like this! You have a great life!” And I’m like “Who are you to say how great my life is? Only I can determine that.”
Don’t mind me. I’m just afraid of everything. literally!! and my mom is like my life was much tougher than yours, you won't be able to live if you had my life....
Awwwww poor thing. If my kid had said that to me, I'd have handed them their clothes and told them to get a job and support themselves. There's never been a kid who thinks that their life is good. Why? They didn't get the toy they wanted or they didn't get that item that one of their friends had. Did you have clothes to wear? A place to live? Food to eat? Compared to other countries, you had it made.
@@stevenbass732 First of all, you don't even know which country they live in. And yes i'm sure that there has been children who think their life is good, I think my life is great and I am a child. You can stick with your opinion of course i'm not trying to change you in a bad way, but I am just stating my opinion. Have a nice day/night! :)
@@siennacampbell780 same here. My mom tells I shouldn't be soo emotional... Why can't at least my mom understand me.... I m at verge of being a depressed child due to all these circumstances
I have a friend who is bad at school and gets into slot of fights. So one day I asked my mom “if someone hits me do I hit them back” and she said “oh you wanna be like (....)”
Yes, I come from one environment and it is not a fun place. It's really hurting me, that feeling of not being loved by my father. And my poor mom does not know what to do, she is too scared of him to say anything. I am broken.
Charlotte Eilert hi Charolette. I wish their were words to take your pain and fear away. I was 21 when I finally told my family we were not living with my father anymore. He threatened, attacked, harassed and hurt my mom, sisters and I for years. The worst part is... We will likely not get the apology we want or resolution. It's day by day. And somedays are harder. Just try and build a routine that is built on what you need and enjoy and expand slowly. That is what keeps us living- being happy
Same with me, my family always embarrasses me in front of my friends like 90% of time, thats where my self esteem dropped down do 0, im 20 years old but they treat me like an 8 yearold its so frustrating to live when you got so much stuff bothering you
I am Gen Z, and I have a phrase that I say when they ask me if I am going to have children. "I want to have children to give them all the affection and emotional stability that my parents did not give me" I also want to study psychology and psychiatry ( which is almost the same) To be a better mother and a better person in the career of my choice.
I relate to this so much. And if you answer back they have another answer ready which wont even make sense but they won't ever loose the arguement. Finally you'll just get tired and think its helpless to say anything and they get their victory and according to them you are proven wrong.
Karicat Watts that’s great! I’m glad you were able to do what was best for you! I understand it’s hard to do that. I was always told “it doesn’t matter, they are still your family.” But just Because you are family doesn’t mean you aren’t toxic. It doesn’t matter who you are, Toxic is Toxic and I won’t have it in my life.
I’m the one who doesn’t give a shit about my family. I’ve tried changing it, but I simply just don’t really care about them. The emotional abuse that I had to go through leaves me with no room for sympathy for them.
Mom: "oh you're depressed? Well i have to work two jobs,and i have arthritis,this is all your dad's fault don't come complaing to me your dad left you" Me: "....k"
definitely the lost child. had a very chaotic childhood so I was always forced to be an observer, was never in control of my life/actions. My entire life I've tried to escape through media. All the teacher's and adults and even relatives all saw me as the good kid with a good home life who was just a little shy and eccentric. All the other students saw me as the weird creepy kid at the back of the class that never talked. I made very few friends through-out my life, and I lost most of them. "Lost Child" is a very fitting title for me too lol. but I know one day I can find myself, and to any other lost children seeing this, If I can do it, I know you can too
Thank you so much that's exactly how it is with me.I have to go through my parents fighting with each other all the time.I'm that quiet,weird kid sitting at the back of the class and goes unnoticed most of the time.People perceive me as a shy, good kind of a person not even knowing what it is like to be me lol.
Observer is the right word, that describes my childhood so well... You’ll eventually get raid of all the burden. Seek professional help, if you have any insistent toxic behavior that you cannot control consider and research the possibility of having a personality disorder, then you know you are not alone, it’s not your fault and how you can work on that. Life can change so fast and you can do more progress in a few months than in your whole life, you just need to spot the mechanism that suits you.
This video def goes hand in hand with the previous. If you are a child, and you found yourself watching these videos know these things: You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. You deserve a safe home. You can make it through this, and you WILL. You deserve better. YOU MATTER. Don’t ever give up.
Leafa 0910 please don’t feel that way. If you need someone to vent to, you can always contact me. I know how you feel :( you CAN come out better in the end.
Leafa 0910 don’t you ever say things like that. You are most def worth another persons time. I felt that way for a long time too. Bc everyone who was supposed to love and care for me abandoned me. My own parents. There are people who will give you the love you deserve.
@@yuki1ka me now I got a problem my depression getting worse I tell to my.parents what my problems my.parents angry at me like why why why why why why why why and they said if u have a job u can get out of this house I love my parents but my parents doesn't care about me anymore yeah and I say my problems to my family and they angry why why why uhhhh im 14 I'm just a kid i can't fight my depression Im to young and weak I needed love from my family but my own family hate me!
@@hardkore918 me, too. When I shut up for too long. I'm usually out of my own control. I'm gonna start to use rude words to fight back or yell. Maybe throwing things sometimes. When I was a child I banged my head against the wall.
when i’m in my house i like to separate myself from them to me they just bring my mood down ,zone me out or irritate me so i stay in my room and at school i laugh a lot and i’m funny
If you come from any of the above listed do these things: 1. Acknowledge your parents failed you. 2. Acknowledge your parents didn't fail you completely. 3. List the opportunities (blessings) you do have being completely objective. 4. Count your days to independence and don't laze about. You'll feel so much more free when out of that hell. 5. Remind yourself you deserve better even when you feel you don't. Future you, friends and lovers will be thankful. 6. Never accept toxic behavior. Just because you handled it before doesn't mean you should accept it now. Let it die out with our ever growing social pressure.
Thank you. I'm still trying to come to terms with a possibly toxic family - but I just keep finding ways of denying it. I identify most #5. I blame myself for all of my failings and have the self-confidence of a leaf. So thank you for making me feel validated - even just a little. Thank you.
Chris Hansen you are right, you have to set a goal that is associated with leaving the toxic environment (to travel, to study or both), the main thing that people like us who come from such families (my father is kind of enabler) most likely carry mental health issues, which need professional help dealing with.
Until now, after watching this video, I didn't understand that I've been living in an abusive household. Now I understand why Social Services took me away and try to get my siblings away as well, and now I'm living alone. I didn't know until recently that I deserved respect and the right to go outside my home, and that my siblings education and general well being wasn't my responsibility. I didn't know that you could ask for a hug without being looked at as a nuisance. I didn't know love didn't have a price tag of an A+. Anyone that lives in an abusive household, I want to tell you that you are an admiration. You're reading this, still alive, and fighting off evil. You might not believe me, because I don't know you. But I know what pain feels like, both physical and mental, so I give you a virtual hug, and wish you to get your freedom soon. *Because you are worth it, champion!*
I know the feeling too well. When I talked to one of my close friends he said he experienced the same thing and he said something very important to me (shortened version), "Your parents will put you in a hole, but there comes a point where it's your own duty to climb out of the hole and run because it's no longer their fault." This hits me because I'm still suffering the aftermath of emotional abuse one year later. I hope I can climb out of my hole soon.
This is something my psychology professor said this past semester. Once you become an adult, it's your responsibility to heal your inner child. I nearly cried in class
I am kinda lost child/daydreamer.i am living with toxic parents and siblings .they dominate me.i tried to find work to cut off from them but I could not mange anything so suffering here. my parents never support me when I need and all my life only taunt me for basic needs. I was the needy types classmate when I was school college university. From any sides no light come so feeling like I am in cage and finished here .I have no friends . I loved many times everyone use me just as thing.now I do not know how to escape how to get a life .
when you don't know anyone who can understand you so you just search a UA-cam video that you think you can relate to or somehow will explain what you're going through so that's why you end up being where you are right now
We're all exposed. Most families seem to be dysfunctional - worldwide. What other reason is there for makeup, fine clothes and parties? We have to mask.
When I was a teenager and up until I was 20 I was seriously angry with the whole world because of what my parents have put me through. 3,5 years in therapy and I'm much much happier but also I have become the type 1 child. I try to save everyone in my family and have always felt the need of helping them, showing them the better way and trying to fix all the family. What I have realised is that people who don't want to change or receive help are 100% not your responsibility and you should 1000% be selfish and help yourself by all means!
yeah im so depress and i tell that to my parents and my parents say stop being dramantic its so hurt for me i just want to tell my problem i dont want to be happy anymore...
@@oizys1184 oh sweetheart I completely understand. For me what helped a lot was doing therapy. I was consistent and even tho I was in a terrible situation, by the time everything where better. I'm still seeing him 5 years after and it was the best decision ever. Please talk to you parents and ask them to help you by taking you to see a therapist
Same.....................but I'm mainly hero and mascot.......................i was lost child till age of 9...........now I'm 16 and I'm hero and mascot mixture.................
Kid : *trying to explain the truth* Parents : How disrespectful .. did you try to against my words?? I see you are brave enough to fight your parents huh!?!
5 Types of Children from Toxic Families 0:51 Hero/Responsible Child 1:21 Scapegoat/Troublemaker 2:00 Lost Child/Dreamer 2:33 Mascot/Class Clown 3:15 Enabler/Caretaker
A number 3 here. 22 years, moved out and studying in another country. For everyone struggeling through some shit with their parents, i wish you the best of luck and a lot of patience.
hi, i’m moving to another country in a month, mainly because of my abusive family. if it’s not too invasive, can you tell me if moving out helped? i’m worried it’s not gonna help me and will actually only make it harder
I also have the lost child-tendencies and my parents are divorced. I think its bc I had to sit on the sidelines while the adult chaos happened and eventually I couldn't bear to look at it anymore so I lost myself in books and daydreams
@@Rhamburgers_420 I understand what you feel. When I found out that my parents divorced I was only 3 and I asked my mom what is a divorce. She told me that she and daddy are not going to live togheter anymore. When I got my first phone the first thing that I searched was:" What is a divorce". When I was 9 I asked my mom why she and dad divorced. She told me it was because they were always fighing and they didn't want me to know. The night before my third birthday they were fighing while I was sleeping. Dad said that he didn't want me anymore because I'm a little brat and I'm the worst thing that happened to this family. He didn't want to pretend he loves me because it is not true. My mom said the wars 4 words in my life:" I want to divorce!" And that's when dad started to hit her so bad that, even now, she has some bad bruises. Since then my dad is always working and he has no time to apologies for what he did and my mom doesn't care about me anymore. I feel so lonely. I have no one to tell how I feel. I have no friends at school because everyone thinks that I'm a freak because my parents divorced. And that why I lost myself in books and daydreams like you.
@@just_a_normal_girl_2576 that's really rough. Im so sorry you had to experience that. idk how old you are now, but what I've realized as an adult is that you can start building a separate life away from all that. get therapy, start fresh, make friends, find support through a church (if that"s your thing! if not that's ok too.) etc. you can build your own life without it having to go wrong like it did before because you and your happiness are not dependent on the adults around you. you have more control over your experiences . i can't say the future will be easy, but i can say things always get better, i know from experience. i wish you the best :)
I'm finally gonna be detatching from my toxic family/household in 2 days. I'm so glad that I get to escape from that stressful and hopeless place I was once from. I can see a much brighter and better future now that I'm leaving them.
I am the lost child. I've never really made that many friends at school partly because of that, and because if my mom didn't approve of my friends then I couldn't hang out with them. If any of you are going through this right now, don't be afraid to ask for help. 99% of the time people are happy to listen and try to help.
A kid I know at school is most like the trouble maker. I found his diary in my desk (he sits next to me so he probably put it there by accident) and it read something like, "I do not like my family. My parents don't like me." Honestly this kid is terribly mean, and vicious. I've come to understand him even though he hates me
One girl in my class is like this i only became "friends" with her because on of my best friends was friends with her but she is very abusive and over all a bitch i don't want to be friends with her because she hits and sometimes makes fun of me but she is always around me and I don't know what too do.
Star boi Well, have you tried beating her up? I know it doesn't sound like a rational thing to do, but if this person practically makes your day terrible everyday and they won't stop, then you make them stop, and violence isn't always the answer, but believe me, if no one helps you with the situation you're dealing with, then you have to do something about it. I learned this by manning up. I'm 14, but I learned to act older, because i've been through this shit since I was 4, and i've been close to suicide so many times because of bullys.
Star boi trying avoiding her, if you're never around she'll probably lose intrest and if you have to be around her, ignore her comments and fight back if tries to hit you. It's not fun to tease someone who doesn't respond, so hopefully she'll move on if you ignore her.
Star boi I know I’m about to act way older than I am, but I really feel for people in your situation because I have been there several times. Please please please tell an authority figure what is going on. Especially if things are getting physical. Avoid her where you can, and ignore her if you can’t. If you’re afraid that it will get back around to the girl if you report her, I guarantee there’s at least one authority figure you can trust to help you. A lot of young boys and girls are afraid to ask for outside help, but in places like schools, there’s so many adults who want to prevent this kind of behavior in the most discreet and effective way. Speak up for yourself as well. If she thinks the hitting is playful in anyway, explain to her that it hurts and you would like her to stop. Some people think rough-housing is okay with everyone when it really is not. If she tries to fight you, by all means defend yourself, but don’t go picking fights. That just validates her reasons to act hatefully towards you, and will almost certainly land you into trouble. Tl;dr stay firm and stand your ground. Find a trusted authority figure who can help you.
As a former troublemaker-Though my problem was not my family, it was my school itself- I can say that this kid likely doesn't trust anyone not to get fed up and reject him. I know I didn't. I was constantly on the defensive, and snapped at anyone who got into my space. I subconsciously wanted to test my friends, to see if they really cared about me, so I pushed their limits. Let him know when he's overstepped your boundaries, but make sure he knows that you're not rejecting him, and you might when him over.
I'm definitely the Lost Child/Dreamer. I grew up with alcoholic parents. I watched movies at home to distract myself from trouble at home and the fact that I didn't really have any friends. I felt very lonely at school but I was a good student.
I understand that both my parents are awful it makes me scared to get into a relationship and trust someone if I kill myself tomorrow they wouldn't care
I have been diagnosed with a dissociative disorder years ago and it has been going worse these days so I told my parents that I wanna go see a psychiatrist (it's %100 free you dont need to pay) but my dad said *depression isnt a real thing, so is psychology I have never witnessed something like "psychology" and I dont believe that it exists, youre just making this up because you dont wanna do housework* me who didn't even mention depression-and clearly doesn't have it: *-_-*
I am the lost child. Step father would verbally abuse, threaten, yell, break things, and control everything in my life since I was a year old up until about 3 years ago when he was unable to work due to back problems and became depressed. He has no energy to yell anymore. My siblings also fight non stop. Both have major anger issues and is only a matter of time before someone gets hurts. As for my mother she used to be a stay at home mom up until about 5 years ago. I love her and we have similar mental problems but we struggle to understand one another. Since she started working I only have about 3-4 hours with her a day. The past 2 years I have been struggling with school and college work despite trying to do my best. I have seen a counselor to try and help me but being stuck in the same environment made healing and coping nearly impossible.
i feel like im invisible when my siblings are around my parents love them so much that they forget about me, i know im the oldest but i also need affection and love from them, they left cause im the oldest and they think im mature enough to be in this world all alone
ive been there, and im always gonna be there to help as many people as possible, if you have any social media and need to talk i'll give it out to you ok?
its ok thats ok atleast they didn't always mad at you and didn't hit you because me? im only noticed if i do wrong thats why i cant feel my parents love
I’m the same. When I was 14 and turned to my mum emotionally about what was going on, she just said “but you’re so independent, you don’t need me,” and that hurt so much. I honestly crave being hugged & kissed like my siblings and being told that it’s okay to not have everything figured out all the time.
I think you missed one type. The sociopath / sadist. It normally happens to children that receives mental or physical abuse from their families. Instead of becoming sad and lonely, they tend to develop serious anger issues. Leading to them fantasizing about a better family and sometimes even go as far to planning to 'kill and run' the people who abused them, or even innocent people. This is the problem with most serial killers, 50% of them originate from abusive families and grow up with an extremely twisted mindset. Mostly because they feel inferior in the family and usually 'vents' their anger to other people whom do not have any relations to them. For example..Ed Gein? Remind me if I'm wrong but I heard the notorious serial killer Ed Gein originated from an abusive family.
The little red haired girl from across the street In my opinion, troublemakers are usually exposed to more social stuff while on the other hand, the psychotic children tend to hide the fact and act as 'normal' children. Its a usual tendency in all psychopaths. This is why psychopaths can blend in with the crowd and not get found out.
I associate with number 3. I have such a difficult time when it comes to socializing with others (even my friends) and struggle to improve that skill. As a result, I don't think highly about myself. Even when I try and look at my qualities from a realistic point of view, I end up selling myself short or putting myself down. I would love to go out more to try and be more social, but I always expect the same things to happen. I meet someone, then everything goes downhill from there.
Same here. I've always been in the same situation. It has always been really hard for me to socialize with people, even with my cousins that I've known since I remember, it got worst when I graduated from high school 2.5 years ago. I haven't made any new friends since then, last year I started developing a new level of anxiety that got me into a panic attack in front of my classmates, thankfully I haven't had a new one since, but my social skills haven't got better. I hope some day I'll be able to surpass this, I wanna make new friends and be more confident and take more opportunities. EDIT: Sorry if I got something wrong there, I'm still learning english.
“She’s just a loner” “Haha why you ask her like she’s gonna actually join in” “Why are you so quiet, you aren’t sick are you?” If only they knew.......
My message to any child who comes from Toxic families is that: Your Life will take a different turn when you will be separated from them and live in a different healthy environment. Till then endure it, cope with it and Be Sane. Yes there will be times when you will feel like you can't go any further with this but please know that the enD of your Prison is Near and you will be out from being suffocated and trapped. Just be Safe and Sane. You are Loved❤⚘ Sorry for bad English and for long message🙏
I relate to all of these. My family was made up of all 5 of these issues. The only thing I can say is to move out, and take care of yourself. I’ve been on my own since I was 16 and am now 21. Put yourself first because nobody else will, not even your own family. Once you start to give yourself the love you grew up without, you will feel better. You will eventually make friends, and then more friends, and more and more. People will respect your strength, resiliance, and honesty. Just remember that you are worth it. You will eventually go far. It’s tough at first, but I promise you that you will grow strong.
Rebecca Whiteway , How can u just move out, teenagers and children are so vulnerable they can't make money like adults and focus on creating a better life they dream for themselves at the same time. How did u do it ? I'm so tired of my egocentric father who uses the advantage of making money to treat my family like a slave to validate his inner insecure real self.
I'm type 4, married to a type 5. Both of us come from dysfunctional families but luckily have a good relationship between us and with our child. We use our parents as examples of what NOT to do.
Definitely the hero/responsible type. I've heard that "You're so mature for your age!" one too many times. :( My dad is definitely toxic, emotionally abuses my mom and I've had to "grow up" i guess, to figure out how to save myself and my sister from his exploding anger. And now, to become a listening ear for my dad's depressions and my mom's sufferings courtesy of my dad.
You should tell someone about it, definitely. If they abuse you physically and mentally, report that shit. My mom is abusive but I'm working with some peeps to find options for me to live somewhere else.
i was sexually abused when i was 13, and grew up with 2 loving, but alcoholic parents. when either one or both of my parents were intoxicated, they would say some truly hurtful things, and i began to stop trusting them, therefore, i never disclosed to them that i was even abused, by someone who i thought was a great relative. i had always been the mascot/class clown type character, but i had never realized my home life was the reason i wanted to be confident, and friendly... things i knew i weren’t. they were all a facade, a charade i put on in order to hide my pains, and mask my struggles, while also trying to alleviate the moods of those around me... thank you for such an informative video!
Same here but not the abuse part i have 2 acohollic parents but they are divorsed and it is really sad I want them to stop drinking so much but I try but they wont listen
I'm currently trying to study more about psychology and i just wanted to add this from experience: The liar/ try hard: They tell everyone the opposite of what's happening to their houshold. Like for me. When i was in 5th grade up until now, i would tell my freinds and classmates i can't go to their events or hang out because i'm busy that day, when in reality, my parents never let me go outiside and makes me feel guilty if i ever dissapoint them or their expectations. They brag about things they have or things that had happened to them, even though it's a complete lie. They like to lie and brag about the things they wished that had happened to them. Because of those traits they get bullied easily and laughed at, even starts gossips and rumors. As the child grows into this trait they'll feel more empty, leading to depression or anxiety (even both) I apologies if it's long, i just wanted to add something from experience
Andrew Rannells I would if I could but I never see her and I don’t have her contact.Our secondary schools are relatively close to each other so maybe one day I’ll see her and be able to apologize
I just realized that all of this personalities are exactly like the main characters of IT by Stephen King, no wonder why do I relate so much to the characters of the book
I also grew up in a toxic family where there ain't a day without arguments. As a kid, it's very hard because I'm not the type of person who is very expressive. I suffer silently to the point I can no longer enjoy my childhood. As an adult I don't want to give a miserable family to my children in the future because family is a foundation to mold a happy and successful individual.
I'm a lot like 1 and 3, but not from abusive or narcissistic parents....my father died when I was little so my mom ended up working a lot. My older brother however has had anger issues since we were young and has an overinflated ego. One time his anger caused him to swing a golf club at my mom. Freaked me out.
I’ve just stopped caring about everything and everyone. I can’t seem to find it in me to give a shit when people are sad, hurt, or lonely. I don’t even care when I’m the reason they are. Sure, I can feel empathy, but I feel as though I can turn off my emotions... it’s hard to explain, but for example, I might be upset that my parents are yelling at me/my sister, then I think to myself ‘wait, why exactly do I care?’ And all of a sudden I just don’t feel bothered at it. If anything at all, I’m just slightly annoyed.
I do the same thing sometimes. it's most likely a coping mechanism because I am very sensitive, feeling things all the time becomes very overwhelming so my brain just kind of shuts it all out without my permission. maybe you and i are similar?
@Cailyn Aube yeah, it’s a coping/defense mechanism of suppressing emotions. I have the same one, mine is so developed that in such situations even my posture and gestures change, as if I become another person and my feelings ain’t mine anymore 🤔
Me: *Expressing my emotions by crying and trying to explain why I did something* My mother be like: Since when did you learn how to be disrespectful? Is that how you treat the woman who carried you for 9 months, who bathed you, who washed your butt, who got no enough sleep because of you? That's why I don't understand why some parents demand respect from their children even if they've never shown respect to their children. Is it even my fault I was born? She always makes me feel like living in this world is a mistake.
as bobby singer once said, "family don't end in blood". And yeah, my mother does the same thing demanding insane levels of respect and praise even though she's a jerk to the rest of the family.
Her love is conditional. Holding the fact you were born over your head is cruel. She chose it. It was her decision. It has nothing to do with expressing yourself. She knows she's in the wrong so she brings it up to destroy you psychologically. I should know... it happened to me. Please find a counselor to talk you. You deserve to be heard in a respectful environment. She doesn't own you. Don't let her weeds corrupt the garden that is your mind 🌻🌻🌻
@@sydneysummers5290 I agree. These parents did not get the ( unconditinal) love and respect in their childhood. S o they were traumatised AND PASS THEIR TRAUMA and make their Kids suffer. Therapy is very important. There are good and not very good and bad therapists.
i know.. and you arent a mistake, if you ever need to talk to someone im always here i know we're complete strangers and youll probably forget about me but ive been there, and am willing to help you with whatever your going through ok?
I come from a pretty dysfunctional family, I've always been the daydreamer and the trouble maker, and now that I've grown and moved out, I still struggle with adjusting myself to be a proper adult, but it's hard. The only advice I can give is get out as soon as you can, and stay with a good friend or family member who has a less harsh and chaotic living situation. Let them help you become better until you're ready to be on your own
The hero hits home so hard it’s the perfect description of what I’ve been struggling with. The mascot as well, I want to help automatically and haven’t even noticed that sometimes I want to do it too much and actually annoy people.
Same here!! But at the same time, children that are/were physically abused have it worse. I know it because I'm also one, it's a privilege to have parents that don't use their physical power to put you down and feel that they are greater than you
I am the very first one. I started tearing up when it was being described. I'm like "hero" type because whenever my parents argue, I'm the one to take care of my siblings, and I'm trying not to be like my parents because they are rather childish. I tend to always wanna have things perfect, (my art for example) and get stressed out whenever I feel like it's not perfect
I'm %100 the lost child. I've had social anxiety since I was, like, 4, due to the environment i was in. Growing up with constant shouting, arguing and violence can have its toll on you. All of my siblings have anxiety, but I have both. I struggle trying to communicate with ppl, and I begin to panic inside when someone starts talking to me. I try my best to make conversation but I'm also very akward in the process. I'm also constantly pissed off bc of how much my life has been fucked up bc of certain ppl. I genuinely cannot wrap my head around how much confidence ppl have to just speak out in class. I dont even put my hand up. My mum divorced my dad was i was around 6-8. Then when I was 10, my mum had a baby with her new bf, he moved in straight away. He is literally EXACTLY like my dad. Violent, narcisstic, controlling, fake, creepy, sexist. He doesn't like having friends that are "out of his comfort zone". He doesn't like having friends of colour is what I mean. Hes extremely sexist and disagrees with my mum having a job. Hes told her to go bk into the kitchen n shit. Hes just constantly making these shitty little comments about girls n stuff. It's pathetic, bc then when my brothers aren't around, he goes insane at my mum or me. My mum doesn't even go out with her friends anymore, cause when she used to, he used to go insane, shouting at her, smashing stuff up, accusing her of things. Even when one of her friends come over like, once every couple months, she comes to the house, they dont even go out. My mum fell out with ones her mates, and its sad, bc she knew him way before she met her bf. I say "fell out" but she basically just stopped talking to him. For some reason. :| He had a daughter aswell close to my lil brothers age and he loved it when she came round cause they'd play together. He cheated on his last gf. Hes been arrested for smthn... not very nice. My mum n him, they argue every couple days. He'll start an argument abt smthn, they'll have random screaming matches all day, then it only gets sorted out tmrw, after he gives some half-assed apology, then everyone acts all normal for a day or two, then it happens again. Its genuinely getting exhausting. There's nothing left to say to her, we cant comfort her anymore bc there's no point, shes let this shit slide 100 times, shes too far in now. I've been really tired the past 2 days bc of their shit. But no ones thinking abt the kids. They're not even thinking abt their baby-how all this shouting can seriously effect him as he grows up. Cause he's gonna be 3 this year, and he's starting to pick things up now. Him and my mum were shouting over him, while he was just laying on the floor in silence, moving this little car around. It kinda hurt to see him tryna block that stuff out, cause that's what I used to do. I used to put earmuffs or headphones on, and I used to be really addicted to this game called animal jam. I think it helped me disconnect from reality.. I dont want my brother growing up like how we did, and now its even worse, bc my mums pregnant again, and they've started fighting more now. It can be fkcin scary sometimes. Yknow when someone's completely switches, and they dont even look like the same person anymore? That's what my mums bf is like. And you don't even know what to expect when that happens. Hes hurt me multiple times now, I can name 3/ 4 occasions, he laid his hands on my mum once or twice. Never ever touched my brothers tho. When he gets angry, he starts breaking stuff and shouting all sorts of bullshit. He kicks my baby brothers things around. Hes threatened to take their baby away numerous times. Not on holiday or anythn. It was a threat. And also, not to protect their baby or anythn, because he was the problem. He was saying it to hurt my mum. She would be so stressed out at work, constantly messaging us "has he taken a bag with him? How long have they been gone for? Have they gone out?" Just all sorts of questions. She thought he was gonna take their baby back to the country hes from to live with his family. Him and his family are disgusting people. Once their baby is old enough, the dad is gonna start teaching him to be like him. He already chats shit to him abt my mum in his own language. He uses their kid as a way to get to my mum. Ljke, if my mum tells him not to give the baby certain food or drinks, or not to toss him up in the air when he's a couple months old, he'll still do it, cause he doesn't like listening either. Hes tried to ruin Christmas and multiple birthdays. He did succeed basically. He completely ruined my sisters 16th. He starts an argument the day before, with my mum, then theyll be arguing on the day of the birthday, and everyone will be in a bad mood. He plans it. Its really fucked up. He also distances himself and acts rlly antisocial for attention, then at other times he's completely in other peoples business and sucking up to guests. Thats what my dad used to do. He used to act rlly fake around others outside the house, give it the whole good dad act and perfect husband, but at home he was a nasty prick. I literally cannot express how similar they r. At the beginning, my mums bf was barely there. He used to work 5 days a week, long shifts, then he'd stay after work for drinks. He wouldn't even see his kid. And he didn't even care. Eventually, he quit that job and had to get another, but in-between, it took a long time to find a job, I'm guessing bc of his background, cause he was arrested for smthn not very nice last year.... he kinda had to be around his kid. But they act like hes some sort of burden. Look, I completely get that babies can be a stressful handful, but its just a bit nasty. Hes now threatening go get another job, 12 hour shifts, 5 days a week, and my mums throwing up all day, she'll be at home alone, she cant look after her kid properly cause she's really weak , and he's just being a selfish prick. That's what there most recent argument was abt. When I was 11, police came to our house and he was arrested for being a nonce, basically. He also liked to sexualize babies. :/ In a few years time when I'm 16, I'm gonna get a job at McDonald's or whatever, make enough money to move out and cut that arsehole out of my life forever. Even if it means never seeing me mum again, so be it. I can just message her. I'm so fucking done with them. All through my childhood, for over 7 fucking years. We were finally free of that for a couple years, and now another 3 years of constant bullshit. I'm not even gonna lie, he destroyed what was left of our family. My mum has changed so much. She turned against me, I stopped going to school when I was 11 cause it made me fucking suicidal and I was miserable. My mums bf would try to drag me out of bed every morning, shouting at me, taking my covers and my pillow ,my writing books (I love writing with pencil) And it wasnt cause he cared, its cause he enjoyed tormenting me. Then he took my phone for 7 months. Again, cause he liked power. If I didnt have my books i probs would've killed myself or ran away. I almost did. Both. cause within those 7 months, I was shouted at and picked on everyday. I fought bk but I felt so worthless, "my mum hates me. Great. She hates me cause I'm fat. She's tryna send me to my dads bc she hates me. I My sister physically, mentally, verbally, emotionally, whatever, attacked me every single day for months. I hated it. Got eating disorders everything. Tbh, even after my dad left, my brother was really violent, and he used to hurt us. So it was my dad, then my brother, my mums bf and my sister. I just wanna leave, I wanna move far away. I ruined her life. She doesn't want me anymore." I dont think she didnt want me tbf, she didnt even seemed bothered when she was tryna send me to live with my dad. Her bf was more eager to send me away tho. Ofc. The fckin irony. Tryna kick an 11 year old outta her home. He is a literal man child. He started arguments EVERY DAY. And I mean every day. I always got the blame tho, which was nice. I even tried to make it work for a bit but then I just couldn't. He dragged me down the stairs in Febn, and I've been ignoring him basically ever since. He has tried to start a few arguments, but hes just pathetic so ill laugh kn his face and walk away. Msybe call him a nonce. My mum said she was never gonna let another man treat her like shit, And she was never having anymore kids:
I’m the lost child, especially this year because a lot of things have happened and my family is the most toxic they’ve ever been. UA-cam is my safe/happy place where I know I can’t get hurt, and to escape my responsibilities. I have a lot more mental things going on, and I keep telling my mom I need help but she doesn’t listen
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such a rough patch : ( Keep dreaming though!! Daydreaming and creativity from hard times now can be important in the future Ik that sounds cheesy but I was the lost child a while ago before my dad and stepmom divorced, making a lot of the toxicity die down. The ideas and creative exposure I got during that time though really saved my life
I remember watching those animes where the protagonist is someone lonely or struggling at the first episode and a few episodes later, they meet other people and they welcome the protagonist to a home that they deserve. Watching the filler episodes where they interact as a family makes me imagine that I'm also in that scenario. Having a toxic family really does make me do these things.
However well you explain yourself, in these types of families, it's pretty useless. Whatever you say they'll just get what they want to hear out of it and use that against you.
I'm a mix of 1, 2 and 4 Procratinating perfectionist who rather dreams away then dealing with the world prone to overworking and not showing any feelings to anyone. As an orphan I'm not used to getting outside help or love but I try to give it to others because they don''t deserve to feel the way I do. Doesn't always stop me from being jealous of people with loving parents though.
I am the lost child/dreamer... my parents divorced when I was a 16 but they were always fighting since I was in kinder. I love my parents but they put me through hell. I read books, watched tv and day dreamed a lot. The first time my parents broke up, I was 11 and they got back together then broke up again when I was 12 or 13. That time, it sucked.. my mom would pick us up from school and park us in front of the hotel my dad was staying at. She would yell and tell us we need to tell our dad how we felt, I cry when I try to explain my feelings and my mom made it worse when she yelled and told me what to say. She did that maybe 3 or 4 times. One time she yelled at me and my brother driving home and she said "no one loves you, do you think your dads side would ever take you in? I can kick you out, and they wouldnt even take you. No one can handle you, I am the only one that can handle you" She started yelling at my brother so I said "stop yelling at him, hes a kid just yell at me.." so she did. I was 13.. we still argue about this til this day, she says it wasnt for her, it was for us and she said it wasnt a bad thing and says no one loves me still. I cant get over it.. I have problems with relationships and boundaries.. being a pleaser.. As I got older, I realized that doing the dishes made her happy, the one time I didnt do the dishes she said "I work all day the least you can do is wash the dishes" from then on I did them all the time but I was still a bad child. Through my years growing up, I cleaned, took care of my sisters kids, my brothers. Tried to cook. I kept to myself a lot of things I said she turned on me. That's just my mom and some of the stuff shes done... my dad.. Well.. apparently he beat me when I was 4.. I barely remember but I remember him spanking me and then being at my moms work, her asking me if I was okay and coloring and saying yes. He beat me again in 4th grade for accidentally hitting my brother with door. He chased me into my room and hit me. Later he asked me not to tell my mother.. I didnt.. he called me fat etc... he didn't want a girl. Everyone said he cried when they found out I was a girl. My mom uses stuff my dad did against me. I guess he left after I was born and she asked why and he said he was tired and she said so was I and I dont remember what I did to make her tell me that but I dont think that is okay to use on your child at 15 or 16. This is a lot so this is just some things they've done.. I need therapy for sure. I have a lot to tell.. if you made it this far, thanks for reading. Maybe I'm wrong?. Am I wrong or is this a bit normal?
I’m the mascot/class clown at school but once I get home I become the lost dreamer and just watch videos/movies or work/draw all day so I won’t have to interact with my family. It’s weird I guess but I prefer to ignore my family as much as possible.
Some Girl same by ignoring my family I don’t have to deal with the yelling and being the mascot at school is so no one can realize what’s behind my mask and no one can pity me
I relate with the class clown, in school when everyone feels down i try to lighten up their mood, i play with them and be active as always, but in my true colors, i just have problems with my family and my friends, i found out that my friends talked behind my back, i forgive them but they never knew i found out, as for my family, i always intend to be quiet, but that doesnt help much, my parents would ask dozens of questions saying why im not good enough, ive been planning to die (deppression) Sure i have nothing important to lose but i still forgive them all, but in the true colors of a class clown, Their Life is Indeed.. Broken.
My parents are divorced. I used to spend one week at a time at my mom’s house and then at my dad’s. My mom treated me very well, but I was mentally abused by my dad, and I really turned into the dreamer. I’m better now. I live at my mom’s house full time and planning to move out in the near future ❤️
Emilia Xi wow. You're almost exactly like me. I would spend a week with my mother, then at my father's. But, it was my MOTHER who was the abuser, mentally and physically, and she was very neglectful. But, now I spend full time with my dah.
ItzUrGurlJaz I hope you’re better now. I believe that people who have been abused are stronger mentally because we have been through a lot. Lots of love ❤️
Sinx the Duskie I don’t believe you’re making excuses. When you are abused you don’t know what to do with yourself. Especially kids and teenagers. Humans were not made to be abused, so I don’t blame you. Bless you ❤️
Lost child and mascot for sure. Everything I did was to help others yet nothing I did was really for others. I never cared about them, i only cared about my own self satisfaction and whatever gratitude I was rewarded with in the end. To elaborate further, i had a fantasy of dying to save someone else. Not because I wanted to save that persons life, it didn’t even matter if I didn’t know that person, i just wanted to die. It was like suicide without the suicide and I could be seen as a hero or a good person after death. I spent lots of time reading books or watching anime or Netflix or whatever because if i wasn’t doing something all the time then i actually had to think about my horrible life and how sad i was. I was good at hiding my and my family’s problems. I didn’t want anyone to know. That habit started in my early childhood, where showing my sad emotions about my parents divorce could literally be twisted enough by my mother to take me and my brother away from my father forever (or hardly ever seeing him). I acted over exaggeratedly happy because it’s hard to believe someone like that is so severely depressed. I needed to be loved, i didn’t receive nearly enough from my family. And I received even less from myself (I hated myself more than anything). So I felt that I had to be liked by everyone, and I made it work. I’ve always been great at lying, I’ve probably stained my lips with more lies than not. So I lied about who i was and what i was like, changing my entire personality for others. I had thousands of personalities, each custom tuned to fit the specific person I was associating with at that moment. I became someone everybody could like by conforming to their preferences. Though it also meant that I’d never made a sincere friend. I was too fake, the person they knew wasn’t me. I couldn’t talk about my problems because that’d be way too out of character. So I really had no one at all. No one knew about my true self or my severe depression. Even my parents didn’t know I was depressed until I made it loud and clear by attempting suicide-twice in the same month. I sort of had an epiphany at the mental hospital after my second suicide attempt. Not because of the mental hospital (at all that place sucks) but actually because of a girl I met there. I actually met her there my first visit to the mental hospital, and then miraculously we both came back at the same time on the second. She had really bad panic attacks, and sometimes would get violent if the panic got bad enough. Like flipping chairs and punching mattresses (and another girl once but she had it coming she planted a lighter in our room under my bed because she didn’t want to get in trouble for sneaking it in). But anyway, after a bad panic attack I told her something along the lines of “that’s sucks, they might make you stay longer.” And she replied “that’s alright, as long as I get the help I need.” I was so stunned by that response. Though it should be self-intuitive, I’d never realized you could like, actually want to get better. And that you could actually want to actively participate in therapy and stuff. So I gave getting better a shot instead of just trying to solve all my problems with suicide and it actually worked. I worked really hard at therapy and coping skills and eventually I stopped being a ‘mascot/class clown’ and started being who I really am. I stopped taking crap from my parents and started telling my therapists everything that happened and everything they made me feel. I mean, I can’t change who they are so it’s not like they miraculously got better and we all lived happily ever after. Actually, I just moved to my grandparents house to get away from them since I couldn’t handle that toxic environment anymore and I sure as hell wasn’t going to ruin all of my progress and hard work in therapy just to be around them. It was actually my grandma who offered for me to move to her house, she noticed the way I was being treated and really didn’t like it (she grew up in an abusive household as well so she recognized the signs). I also dropped out of regular school and switched to online school. Which holy hell was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made dear god. My anxiety was horrible being at regular school. I have a bunch of medical problems so I’m absent a lot for doctors appointments and sick days. So I racked up tons of absences and tons of makeup work that I just couldn’t handle. Plus, like I said, I had no friends. No real ones. And he’ll what am i supposed to do tell all the ‘friends’ I’ve made “Uh yeah so I never actually liked any of you, you were just a means of me acquiring the love and affection I couldn’t give myself. And i don’t actually have much in common with you anyway. Oh also I’m not happy, fun, and nice-I’m actually pretty bitter and depressed. And I’m not really all that stupid either I’m fairly intelligent actually. So yeah I’ve been lying to you this whole time and we’ve never actually been friends.”??? Lol no way am I dealing with that drama. So yeah if I had to give any advice it’d have to be to actually give therapy a shot and try to help yourself get better. And if your situation is bad, change it yourself instead of waiting for the world to change it for you. And don’t just use the excuse “this will all go away once I die.” For all the worlds faults there is some truly beautiful things out there. It’s really important to not see this world in just pure black and stark white. You have to learn to distinguish ‘life’ from mere ‘existence’. If you’re only going through the motions of living, constantly dissociating and totally numb to the things around you, never growing as a person and just staying in the same place day after day-you’re not living any more than the dirt under your feet. That’s just ‘existing.’ So instead of trying to solve your problems by dying, why not try to actually start living? In my opinion, death really is better than the pain of existing-but if living is even better than those combined then dammit i want to at least try it! It won’t be easy to get there and I’m not even there yet, but I’m gonna hold onto the hope that I can take the life I want and not let anyone or anything stop me. Jeez that was a lot of writing lol. I didn’t mean for it to get this long. No one is probably gonna read this but thank you to anyone who did. Everyone always tells us depressed people ‘things will get better,’ but no one ever tells us ‘make things better yourself!!’ I hope you guys can help yourselves get better :D. Understanding yourself is super important so learning psychology is a great place to start. I like this channel especially since they’re so informative but make it concise and easy to watch with cute animations and visuals.
We seem to be really similar. I'm actually staying with my grandma right now in order to escape an abusive situation, although she knows bc I jumped out of a window when running from my mom and aunt and wound up at the hospital.. I used to do the exact same thing, creating different versions of myself to be friends with everybody for years, until I couldn't take it anymore. Now I'm just really dark and sarcastic and mad and I certainly have a lot less friends, but it's a lot easier to be angry than to be happy, at least for me. I won't be going to school for the rest of the year bc of my injuries and the distance between my grandma's place and my school, but I'll be getting the assignments online. I'm starting therapy on Saturday, and I'm trying to be 100% honest about how I feel for the first time in my life. It's a struggle, but I'm really hoping it's worth it.
Zofi Goats, thank you for writing this because it has left an impact. It is incredibly enpowering to see other people who have had these expirences and still focus on optimism. I think that being your own hero is the most important facet of healing, but can be the most difficult step to realize, especially when self advocacy is discouraged from a young age. The people who are abused, the people who are changed because of it but still devote themselves to living, we are are stronger than any abuser. We have to teach ourselves to heal, to be authentic, to respect ourselves, and in the process, we are learning how to spread these lessons to others after we figure it out. Anyway, good vibes be with you, dude. You totally got this
Zofi Goats This is beautiful, I can relate in many ways as in being the class clown/mascot and trying my best to socialize with as many people as I can, I do have a pretty rough life at home that no one knows about except my family, specifically my brother & mother since it my dad who is messing things up, but sometimes you have to remember to not be "bias" or just see your side of the story, those who make you suffer can be suffering themselves and it's either they don't notice or they do. It hurts a lot, and if you have trouble bottling up your emotions, than cry it out. Crying was always seen from the public as weak and being sensitive and they are not completely wrong but you have to let all that pressure and stress off someway or another and one of the best is to let it out, or that is how it worked for me and how I am slowly growing and moving on. I never really had close friends as they think. I remember some girl talking about friends and who were my best friends and one of my "close friends" who thought I was close to them stared me down when I said that I don't *really* have any. I have only really been close to one person but apart from my family because we both had a similar interest but she kinda stopped liking it so it was a bit awkward. It's hard to open up your true self to people because you feel judged or that they will stop being your friend and that must hurt a lot. There is still something holding me up, and that is hope and surprisingly religion. I don't want to go to deep into that but if you are tired of crying and still have bottled up emotions, write it down, getting it off of your chest feels great when all of it is one the paper, I write quite a lot about my struggling when I write and it helps clear out the situation in your head better. It's hard but you always have a driving force in you, deep down, and that driving force is love. Not any love that someone else gives you, but the love for yourself, loving yourself is one of the hardest things to do in life. It takes a lot of time to love yourself then anything else. The thing is that I enjoy being the class clown/ mascot and don't really refer it as a burden or anything bad because I feel that is could be like a cover up or mask AND it could actually be a part of me since my father was always the comedic one apart from my more serious/blunt mom, and he always showed me a lot of love and attention so I usually followed his ways more. Things changed as I got older and he changed, saying that I don't love him or show much love and attention as I use too just cause I'm older. I feel pain with the rest of my family but I feel worse feeling that it was my fault that he changed so drastically, I feel like he thinks that he isn't worthy or loved enough so he is basically cheating on my mom to find love. It hurts but you have to confront your problems to solve them cause the world is waiting for you to make the move, right or wrong, it's waiting and you can't let others do it for you cause it doesn't work that way. This is too long and I was rambling a bit but I hope yall understand not to give up and to try your best to fix a problem you think you can fix, but make a move even if it is risky, it can save so much time and you from still having to endure the pain
Shannon S therapy is totally worth it. it honestly helps so much. i went to therapy when i was in second and third grade for my anger issues and emotional breakdowns. just remember to be real and honest. thats the hard part because your whole life, youve trained yourself to say that youre fine. but tell yourself that its whats going to help. im not from an abusive family and i could never imagine what others have gone through. no one deserves to go through that. be brave, be strong, be real, and remember, you are beloved.
I grew up in a very violent home. I grew up with a kill or be killed mindset, I was constantly on guard. Narcissism ran rampant all through my life. Started out as physical abuse until my mom had cps called on her then she switched to mental. She pitted me and my sister against each other constantly, watching the chaos unfold and smiling in perverse pleasure (if that's how you want to call it.) I was told I love you I few times, and only in public to make my mom look good. I learned to thrive in the chaos, so much that I got it tattooed on me (ICIT on my left hand between my thumb and index finger, meaning "in chaos I thrive.") I guess what this leads up to, is what kind of role I took as a child. I took up the funny guy/ invisible child. I always try to make everyone laugh and smile because I know what it's like to feel worthless and I can't stand to see my friends like that
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Definitely 1 & 3 for me. I've always been told I'm very wise and mature but honestly I think it's because growing up I typically looked after my older sister. My parents were divorced so us being in pre-k and kindergarten we typically would be left alone. I'm also the youngest but most responsible out of us, just for the fact we taught ourselves how to cook on the stove around that age too. Third one, I'm heavily introverted and often found myself going into my own world to cope with my childhood growing up. Instead of books it was toys and tv shows for me. Emotional and mental trauma at such an age really did take a toll on me, now I have severe depression. Doesn't help when my parents actively showcased favoritism towards my older sister, often ignoring/pushing me away. I'm an adult now but it still hurts.
I think because of the toxic environment I grew up in, I was a few of these "types" at varying stages/times. My advice to anyone else suffering in a similar context to that in the video would be to never blame yourself, and always realise that you aren't your parents - you have control over who you turn out to be!! Develop coping skills that are helpful and non-detrimental to yourself and others. You'll grow to be someone wonderful in the future.
I am an enabler. Or I was. My family is obsessed with how they are seen by others. They go through great lenghts to appear and look a certain way. Since I didn't want to be pitied or put my family down, I masked the abuse and everything that was going behind the scenes. I used to act confident and brag, but in reality I would spend all day out just so that I could avoid my family. I am also always lost in my head. When I am not, I try to get stuck in a fictional world. I never wanted to cause trouble or put the spotlight on myself, so I was withdrawn. I am still invisible, just blending in with the wall. My siblings don't even notice when I am home or out. Even when I am in the same room as them I am not seen. Which suits me fine, since attention = bad.
Lost child. I wasn't forgotten, but I wanted to disappear. I often still feel like I want to just disappear. I lived with my grandparents and my mom, but my mom was the one i always wanted to get away from, while simultaneously wanted to get some kind of approval from. Isn't that weird? She would shame me for being overweight, shame me for being shy.... she would make fun of me when I showed that I liked boys early on to the point my grandpa got worried and asked me, when I was hitting puberty, if I liked boys at all. (I would try very hard not to show that I had a crush on a boy or a male character because i didn't want to be teased again.) I got bullied at school for being a little weird, taller than everyone, and overweight; it never really ended, but the boys and girls that picked on me stopped voicing it to my face since they had every chance in the world I might actually hurt them something awful if they did. I didn't accept that behavior toward my friends in particular; I just got used to hearing it about me all the time.
fatalrob0t I know exactly what you mean.. my mom can make me contemplate suicide but at the same time I want so badly for her to think I'm normal. I want her to accept me as I am and not be ashamed of me.
You know what you should do stop caring as much about other people’s opinions and only care about your own think about yourself before other people cause you are the most important person when it comes to you
fatalrob0t I can relate. I was too ashamed to ask questions at school because I felt stupid if I didn't know how to do something. I would be bullied by classmates for being shy and also by my parents who told me I was a mouse and would snap at me and tease me that I didn't have any friends. My brother's found it hilarious to call me a fat lesbian. To cope I just ate. Hid away. Talked less. Too ashamed of being a fat quiet mouse with no friends. I was awkward. Would trip over things at school and just feel more shame. Today I try not to worry so much about being quiet but it still affects me. Alot of times I talk through my boyfriend because I'm afraid of not being heard. Now I am pregnant and am trying everything I can to be a better person. One of my favourite things to do is yoga because I don't even have to think about not being good enough and I know my baby can hear me breathing and perhaps feel the goodness that I feel inside. All I care about now is them. My future will not be clouded by my past.
I know how you feel fatalrobOt. My siblings and I....we all do our best to be unnoticed. My parents seem to consider shaming me almost like a game. Like you they would shame me for not being athletic and maybe having a few more pounds than I could, they would shame me for being shy. They also would, in the same breath as they call me 'very intelligent' also call me a dumb-ass. They ignore anything I have to say, and often get angry if i try to say it. Hell...one time my dad and I ended up with LITERAL SWORDS to each other's throats. I was bullied at school as well... a bit weird, really tiny (seriously till junior year i was right on the line of dwarfism...people thought i was in 5th grade, or that i'd skipped years), really quiet. And like you...it never really stopped...i could count my 'friends' on my fingers i had so few. I had numerous nicknames, most of them unflattering (save 'Neo' cause i could basically bullet time when we played dodgeball, they would collect all the balls and the jocks would focus fire on me...and more often than not i could dodge or catch the whole battery of balls). The harassment never stopped...but once the rumor started that I was keeping a 'hitlist' of all the people who picked on me (which i certainly did nothing to dispute it), a lot of them wouldn't do it directly as much. It feels like no matter what you do, its always wrong...at home...at school...out in the world.
My fiancé is definitely the lost kid. His mother is a real piece of work. I’ve basically had to help raise him along with his dad, his stepmom, and my parents bc his mom just ignored him unless she could milk his autism for attention. He just dissociates when he’s stressed. He goes off into his own little world while reality crumbles around him. That trait has proved to be a challenge for us as a couple but I will stick by him to the end. He is a great guy and he never deserved what his mom put him through.
Actually I was just watching this and saw the 'Lost Child' part. It's safe to say this describes me almost perfectly. I'm an introvert with low self-esteem. I'm shy. I read books all the time and frequently daydream to escape my 'depression' (never actually been diagnosed, tho). I don't get in trouble either. I also relate to the Mascot, I'm the one with all the jokes, and when I'm around friends I'm probably 'overly nice.' Thanks for makin this video.
Man, I feel your pain. But if you have strong depressive symptoms, I suggest finding a psychologist/therapist or talk to your doctor about it. Therapy can help sooo much, trust me.
Your parent doesn’t have to be the addiction for you to end up being the enabler. I had to care for my siblings while my parent went to work, and they never held the other parent accountable for anything; they laid around. But I had to be the adult replacement.
#5 spot on. I grew up an only child with two deaf parents. My dad was an alcoholic. He used to threaten to leave my mom every night for years. My parents refused to talk , so id be the go between never knowing it was SO wrong , especially from age 5 and on. Its caused serious abandoment issues. I was also their interpreter and was expected to paint them in the best light possible. Fast forward 25 years.... it was all a sham , they depend on me and i feel as though they benefit still from the biggest mistake (me) they ever made. Sick. On a positve note ,I really like the new video.
Molly Weasley i kept getting in trouble bc if my step brothers got in trouble, we all did. Even though i spent so much time alone, i would be forgotten for meals amd family outings but i was never forgotten for punishment
i'm crying.. not only because its describe me but because i saw this in my schools for 12 years and i had no idea that they were suffering i wish i was mature more and aware more about these things maybe i could help them.. i hope they have a good healthy happy life now.
In a previous video, we covered the 7 Ways Alcoholic parents can have on their children, and many of you guys requested videos on the other types of parents. Such as those who gambles, have an addiction etc. We thought we cover it all under the umbrella: Toxic Families. Give it a watch and see if you could relate. Here's a link to our family playlist: ua-cam.com/video/vaElG9sHiKw/v-deo.html
Psych2Go I am the 3rd and the 4th one
Psych2Go thanks for the video, Keep it up. I'm the 3rd type sadly, but I'm doing fine
Psych2Go Thanks for realizing my suggestion in an even better way than I had expected 👍
I had been the first type of child at the beginning but when I realized that I will never be able to fix my broken family/ my dad's gambling addiction and his related psychological issues such as schezophrenia, I became the "lost child/dreamer" that just sort of waits for.. something.. in a lazy way, without any goals. Not for suicide because I could never hurt my mother who has been through so much..
My brother's kinda like me, just not as "open" (even though I'm socially beyond awkward) and unlike me, he has known what he wants to do for a living since he was a little kid.
I would go to a psychotherapist if I had enough confidence and the belief of being able to actually live again.
Peachy 12
That's me. :)
As a child, I was the class clown (#4) with good achievements (#1). I used to be the teacher's favorite and blessed with high IQ. I enter the best university in my country...and start noticing that the world is bigger than my family.
Now as an adult I am more of a dreamer... I'm so tired all the time. Whatever I do, my mom would always point out where I was wrong and give me a neverending criticisms. No matter how much I tried, I would never good enough for her. In her eyes, I was the fat, poor, ugly, weirdo, stupid, sinner that would never be able to step on her perfect shoes, and I would burn in hell forever.
I am the only child from a narcissist/abusive/super religious mom and an uninvolved/nonchalant dad. I feel so lonely and tried to kill myself 3 times at uni. Now I'm better, because I don't give a fuck anymore. I left people before they left me. I am happy and beautiful in my imagination world...and I am grateful for living in the internet era.
Btw Psych2Go, thank you for your interesting videos. I love them, they're on point!
Would love to see a video on how to spot well-adjusted people who came from good homes. That would be a big help for singles trying to avoid toxic partners.
My parents, if they caught me watching this video, would be like, “we are not like this! You have a great life!” And I’m like “Who are you to say how great my life is? Only I can determine that.”
Sister or brother preach
Exactly
Don’t mind me. I’m just afraid of everything. literally!!
and my mom is like my life was much tougher than yours, you won't be able to live if you had my life....
Awwwww poor thing. If my kid had said that to me, I'd have handed them their clothes and told them to get a job and support themselves. There's never been a kid who thinks that their life is good. Why? They didn't get the toy they wanted or they didn't get that item that one of their friends had. Did you have clothes to wear? A place to live? Food to eat? Compared to other countries, you had it made.
@@stevenbass732 First of all, you don't even know which country they live in. And yes i'm sure that there has been children who think their life is good, I think my life is great and I am a child. You can stick with your opinion of course i'm not trying to change you in a bad way, but I am just stating my opinion. Have a nice day/night! :)
kid: *beings sad 24/7*
parents: *oh come on you’re not depressed you’re just ungrateful*
Yep
Let's be better parents.
ikr
True true
@@billclark5055 ye.. I will never going to treat my child like my parents
since kindergarten i started becoming so jealous of other kids' families i'd daydream about being them and living their lives
Same
Fucking same
Yes :)
me too they don’t know how lucky they r
same-
"we all get sad at times, stop being dramatic"
"you just want attention"
"your just trying to copy so and so"
This is so true I will ask for love or a hug but she doesn’t understand and she would just leave me
@@siennacampbell780 same here. My mom tells I shouldn't be soo emotional...
Why can't at least my mom understand me.... I m at verge of being a depressed child due to all these circumstances
lol i'm already broke.
I really relate to the third one😢
I have a friend who is bad at school and gets into slot of fights.
So one day I asked my mom “if someone hits me do I hit them back” and she said “oh you wanna be like (....)”
You forgot another type of toxicity: distant/neglectful family
Yes, I come from one environment and it is not a fun place. It's really hurting me, that feeling of not being loved by my father. And my poor mom does not know what to do, she is too scared of him to say anything. I am broken.
Charlotte Eilert hi Charolette.
I wish their were words to take your pain and fear away.
I was 21 when I finally told my family we were not living with my father anymore. He threatened, attacked, harassed and hurt my mom, sisters and I for years.
The worst part is... We will likely not get the apology we want or resolution. It's day by day. And somedays are harder. Just try and build a routine that is built on what you need and enjoy and expand slowly. That is what keeps us living- being happy
Alice Darhk Thank you for your answer, it is thoughtful of you to help me. I really hope you feel better now and that your life is easier
That's type 2 or 3, neglect is emtional/psychological abuse
The exact type of toxic upbringing I was brought up in, good to know I’m not alone in feeling this is toxic
The “Lost Child/Dreamer” describes me perfectly. Honestly most of these described me. My family broke me.
Broken crayons still draw
@@jaime10192 ❤❤❤
Same with me, my family always embarrasses me in front of my friends like 90% of time, thats where my self esteem dropped down do 0, im 20 years old but they treat me like an 8 yearold its so frustrating to live when you got so much stuff bothering you
I know you can get through it
FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHT!
I hope Gen Z Will be a good parent after this
But for now we just have to laugh it off and pretend to be happy
It worked for me
Sarcasticaly laughing at your own pain is a coping mechanism?
@Jing Tseng idk probably
*I hope not*
@@yuli81142 Most people's coping mechanism, in fact.
Robin Williams wasn't born a comedian.
@@haphuongnguyen3358 Unfortunately :(
I am Gen Z, and I have a phrase that I say when they ask me if I am going to have children.
"I want to have children to give them all the affection and emotional stability that my parents did not give me" I also want to study psychology and psychiatry ( which is almost the same) To be a better mother and a better person in the career of my choice.
Mom: *yell at me and throw false accusations*
Me: *argues back*
Mom: So you've chosen.. Death?
I relate to this so much. And if you answer back they have another answer ready which wont even make sense but they won't ever loose the arguement. Finally you'll just get tired and think its helpless to say anything and they get their victory and according to them you are proven wrong.
lmao
It's kinda like this with my dad?
Aryaa Rai i cant even argue with my parents or they will take my phone away:)
@@aryaarai6696 Relatable...
Having a toxic family can really mess you up....You gotta learn how to love from a distance.
Karicat Watts that’s great! I’m glad you were able to do what was best for you!
I understand it’s hard to do that. I was always told “it doesn’t matter, they are still your family.” But just Because you are family doesn’t mean you aren’t toxic.
It doesn’t matter who you are, Toxic is Toxic and I won’t have it in my life.
Wade W. True
@Karicat Watts"thanks God".
sky wizzard? dog*
Loving from a distance is the only way I know how to love!
I’m the one who doesn’t give a shit about my family. I’ve tried changing it, but I simply just don’t really care about them. The emotional abuse that I had to go through leaves me with no room for sympathy for them.
same
Me too
same here
Sometimes i feel horrible, for feeling so mercyless to my father
Removed myself 5 years now from my whole family its just me and the wife and she is awesome
Mom: "oh you're depressed? Well i have to work two jobs,and i have arthritis,this is all your dad's fault don't come complaing to me your dad left you"
Me: "....k"
Yeah my parents be like it's your mother's fault and father be like your mother is crazy and evil.
..... k
You may not be physically hurt but you may be emotionally :’)
Kartik Vatsal me too
kaeru cat my mom says that but instead of everything else she says “Your not depressed I know what it is cause I have it”
"relying on good performance to seek love" just summarized my life
Same
definitely the lost child. had a very chaotic childhood so I was always forced to be an observer, was never in control of my life/actions. My entire life I've tried to escape through media. All the teacher's and adults and even relatives all saw me as the good kid with a good home life who was just a little shy and eccentric. All the other students saw me as the weird creepy kid at the back of the class that never talked. I made very few friends through-out my life, and I lost most of them. "Lost Child" is a very fitting title for me too lol. but I know one day I can find myself, and to any other lost children seeing this, If I can do it, I know you can too
You're talking about my life here
Thank you so much that's exactly how it is with me.I have to go through my parents fighting with each other all the time.I'm that quiet,weird kid sitting at the back of the class and goes unnoticed most of the time.People perceive me as a shy, good kind of a person not even knowing what it is like to be me lol.
Damn, you and I have a very similar childhood .. 😔
Observer is the right word, that describes my childhood so well... You’ll eventually get raid of all the burden. Seek professional help, if you have any insistent toxic behavior that you cannot control consider and research the possibility of having a personality disorder, then you know you are not alone, it’s not your fault and how you can work on that. Life can change so fast and you can do more progress in a few months than in your whole life, you just need to spot the mechanism that suits you.
Thanks, you make me feel less lonely as a "lost child" too.
I cant wait to grow up and start taking care of my self rather than relying on someone who complains about doing things for me if any and being lazy
Same❤
@TheJediSoldier 1995 Thanks for the advice Jedi
Same bro
It will all work out for you. Keep moving forward.
@@mary80brown
This video def goes hand in hand with the previous. If you are a child, and you found yourself watching these videos know these things: You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. You deserve a safe home. You can make it through this, and you WILL. You deserve better. YOU MATTER. Don’t ever give up.
Leafa 0910 please don’t feel that way. If you need someone to vent to, you can always contact me. I know how you feel :( you CAN come out better in the end.
Thank you
So this is true only for children?
Wendy Whoisit absolutely not, its for everyone. No one should have to go through these things.
Leafa 0910 don’t you ever say things like that. You are most def worth another persons time. I felt that way for a long time too. Bc everyone who was supposed to love and care for me abandoned me. My own parents. There are people who will give you the love you deserve.
“Stop overreacting there is nothing wrong with you” or “stop doing stupid things you won’t get anything in life”
This is why I don't tell my parents anything
@@yuki1ka me now I got a problem my depression getting worse I tell to my.parents what my problems my.parents angry at me like why why why why why why why why and they said if u have a job u can get out of this house I love my parents but my parents doesn't care about me anymore yeah and I say my problems to my family and they angry why why why uhhhh im 14 I'm just a kid i can't fight my depression Im to young and weak I needed love from my family but my own family hate me!
@@yuki1ka same. they just don’t understand and they should they are my parents at the end of the day
I'm the Lost Child. It's scary how the Hero, Scapegoat and Lost Child accurately describe my sister, brother, and me.
@@Tizzy-sh5ql bro wtf
Bridget Walker on the gang nigga i will send the addy bitch ah nigga
It's scary how your comment accurately describes my brother, sister and me
I'm not responding to the ignorance and hatred of Lil Tizzy. It's too bad that we can't have a mature conversation without trolls.
@@hardkore918 me, too. When I shut up for too long. I'm usually out of my own control. I'm gonna start to use rude words to fight back or yell. Maybe throwing things sometimes. When I was a child I banged my head against the wall.
when i’m in my house i like to separate myself from them to me they just bring my mood down ,zone me out or irritate me so i stay in my room and at school i laugh a lot and i’m funny
That’s literally me too
Relatable
Ok that’s me
This is me
Meee
If you come from any of the above listed do these things:
1. Acknowledge your parents failed you.
2. Acknowledge your parents didn't fail you completely.
3. List the opportunities (blessings) you do have being completely objective.
4. Count your days to independence and don't laze about. You'll feel so much more free when out of that hell.
5. Remind yourself you deserve better even when you feel you don't. Future you, friends and lovers will be thankful.
6. Never accept toxic behavior. Just because you handled it before doesn't mean you should accept it now. Let it die out with our ever growing social pressure.
I know this is weird but, thank you so much :(
Thank you. I'm still trying to come to terms with a possibly toxic family - but I just keep finding ways of denying it. I identify most #5. I blame myself for all of my failings and have the self-confidence of a leaf. So thank you for making me feel validated - even just a little. Thank you.
Chris Hansen you are right, you have to set a goal that is associated with leaving the toxic environment (to travel, to study or both), the main thing that people like us who come from such families (my father is kind of enabler) most likely carry mental health issues, which need professional help dealing with.
Which in turn can cause physical health.
Chris Hansen Wonderful advice.
The lost child/ the dreamer is exactly me I couldn’t believe how this described me perfectly
I ask my parents to buy me books but I only got the school book. So I watch on Ytube and daydream before bed.
@@Meow-dr3pr you can download the books in pdf from google, I do this :)
@@Meow-dr3pr If you have a library card you can often read their stock in eBook format and as audiobooks!
Me as well
Yea same.
I fell like the lost child/dreamer because I am very shy though of as the “good child” and I am constantly hiding away with music,youtube, and books.
Me too
Me too
Same
Me too, but I also mostly share traits from # 4 also
Same
Until now, after watching this video, I didn't understand that I've been living in an abusive household. Now I understand why Social Services took me away and try to get my siblings away as well, and now I'm living alone.
I didn't know until recently that I deserved respect and the right to go outside my home, and that my siblings education and general well being wasn't my responsibility. I didn't know that you could ask for a hug without being looked at as a nuisance. I didn't know love didn't have a price tag of an A+.
Anyone that lives in an abusive household, I want to tell you that you are an admiration. You're reading this, still alive, and fighting off evil. You might not believe me, because I don't know you. But I know what pain feels like, both physical and mental, so I give you a virtual hug, and wish you to get your freedom soon.
*Because you are worth it, champion!*
i used to shrug it off as normal and just how things are as a kid too.
I know the feeling too well. When I talked to one of my close friends he said he experienced the same thing and he said something very important to me (shortened version), "Your parents will put you in a hole, but there comes a point where it's your own duty to climb out of the hole and run because it's no longer their fault." This hits me because I'm still suffering the aftermath of emotional abuse one year later. I hope I can climb out of my hole soon.
This is something my psychology professor said this past semester. Once you become an adult, it's your responsibility to heal your inner child. I nearly cried in class
@@Aristaeuss i know how tough it can be. it does really hurt. indescribable by words. stay strong. we can do it.
@@andrewwoan it may be hard but it's not unachievable. We can do this together 💚
@@onlyhuman5669 amen
I am kinda lost child/daydreamer.i am living with toxic parents and siblings .they dominate me.i tried to find work to cut off from them but I could not mange anything so suffering here. my parents never support me when I need and all my life only taunt me for basic needs. I was the needy types classmate when I was school college university. From any sides no light come so feeling like I am in cage and finished here .I have no friends . I loved many times everyone use me just as thing.now I do not know how to escape how to get a life .
when you don't know anyone who can understand you so you just search a UA-cam video that you think you can relate to or somehow will explain what you're going through so that's why you end up being where you are right now
Omg the accuracy
Exactly....
Yep 😕
Same 😭
I find myself alone in my room either falling asleep or on my phone..
Same, i cant talk to my family normally, i always end up getting yelled at
same i watch movies and shows trying to get out of my reality i sleep just to get out of my shittty world
sadly dead same
abc 123 same
khlood al-sanad same
Im the lost child/dreamer. My middle school best friend is the class clown. We helped each other.
Both graduated
Blake_TheNBHD Same scenario here
That's wonderful
awwww
Blake_TheNBHD me to
Why you gotta expose me like that
Allan Diosana me
We're all exposed. Most families seem to be dysfunctional - worldwide. What other reason is there for makeup, fine clothes and parties? We have to mask.
Ikr. I felt something heavy in my chest while watching this.
Mood
When I was a teenager and up until I was 20 I was seriously angry with the whole world because of what my parents have put me through. 3,5 years in therapy and I'm much much happier but also I have become the type 1 child. I try to save everyone in my family and have always felt the need of helping them, showing them the better way and trying to fix all the family. What I have realised is that people who don't want to change or receive help are 100% not your responsibility and you should 1000% be selfish and help yourself by all means!
You learn a new lesson after every bad time.
yeah im so depress and i tell that to my parents and my parents say stop being dramantic its so hurt for me i just want to tell my problem i dont want to be happy anymore...
@@oizys1184 oh sweetheart I completely understand. For me what helped a lot was doing therapy. I was consistent and even tho I was in a terrible situation, by the time everything where better. I'm still seeing him 5 years after and it was the best decision ever. Please talk to you parents and ask them to help you by taking you to see a therapist
@@TheCristibsb oh thanks for advice Your kind words warmed my heart.
@@TheCristibsb omg same
I am a combination of the "hero", "mascot" and "lost child". I've been all of these at some point in my life.
same
Same.....................but I'm mainly hero and mascot.......................i was lost child till age of 9...........now I'm 16 and I'm hero and mascot mixture.................
Same!
Same but mainly hero/responsible child and mascot, although i probably do identify a lot with the dreamer as well.
Same....
Me: haha this won’t hurt me at all
Number one: hero/responsible child
Me: *uh oh*
Number three: dreamer/lost child
Me: **UH OH**
Same... oh and class clown too kind of (it depends on which "me" i am (: )
@@anahitamirzarazi4424 I try to be like that at class, its my personal motivation. Making other people happy because of me not being able to be so.
#4 Funny
Same 😅😅
Me too
Kid : *trying to explain the truth*
Parents : How disrespectful .. did you try to against my words?? I see you are brave enough to fight your parents huh!?!
You cannot win an argument against narcissist even with a fully valid point.
No sir all you need is a nuclear weapon it's not that hard to get if you compare it to beating those idiots
You can't win because they have the authority to either agree or disagree.
@@Combine1331 so what solution?
@@pussinboots9983 you have solution?
5 Types of Children from Toxic Families
0:51 Hero/Responsible Child
1:21 Scapegoat/Troublemaker
2:00 Lost Child/Dreamer
2:33 Mascot/Class Clown
3:15 Enabler/Caretaker
Wow no.3 made me cry, because I can relate to every single word you said about it. It's like you are describing my life..
Same with me!
Me too :(
IKR
same
I am a combo of 2 & 3. My whole family is like the movie American Beauty with constant bickering every single day and abuse.
A number 3 here. 22 years, moved out and studying in another country. For everyone struggeling through some shit with their parents, i wish you the best of luck and a lot of patience.
Dantillosos
thank you, i hope i'll be able to go away from my home too, wish you the best.
Perry Abruz same here, hope i can move out too
Im currently 12 i really want to move out and hope tp live a better life
hi, i’m moving to another country in a month, mainly because of my abusive family. if it’s not too invasive, can you tell me if moving out helped? i’m worried it’s not gonna help me and will actually only make it harder
I wish i can do the same bt living with a narcissist father tht always makes me feel stupid i cant even move out
"The Lost Child/Dreamer" describe me perfectly, but my parents divorced., Bruh... ☹️
I also have the lost child-tendencies and my parents are divorced. I think its bc I had to sit on the sidelines while the adult chaos happened and eventually I couldn't bear to look at it anymore so I lost myself in books and daydreams
@@Rhamburgers_420 I understand what you feel. When I found out that my parents divorced I was only 3 and I asked my mom what is a divorce. She told me that she and daddy are not going to live togheter anymore. When I got my first phone the first thing that I searched was:" What is a divorce". When I was 9 I asked my mom why she and dad divorced. She told me it was because they were always fighing and they didn't want me to know. The night before my third birthday they were fighing while I was sleeping. Dad said that he didn't want me anymore because I'm a little brat and I'm the worst thing that happened to this family. He didn't want to pretend he loves me because it is not true. My mom said the wars 4 words in my life:" I want to divorce!" And that's when dad started to hit her so bad that, even now, she has some bad bruises. Since then my dad is always working and he has no time to apologies for what he did and my mom doesn't care about me anymore. I feel so lonely. I have no one to tell how I feel. I have no friends at school because everyone thinks that I'm a freak because my parents divorced. And that why I lost myself in books and daydreams like you.
@@just_a_normal_girl_2576 that's really rough. Im so sorry you had to experience that. idk how old you are now, but what I've realized as an adult is that you can start building a separate life away from all that. get therapy, start fresh, make friends, find support through a church (if that"s your thing! if not that's ok too.) etc. you can build your own life without it having to go wrong like it did before because you and your happiness are not dependent on the adults around you. you have more control over your experiences . i can't say the future will be easy, but i can say things always get better, i know from experience. i wish you the best :)
@@Rhamburgers_420 I am 12 years old now.
@@Rhamburgers_420 What is your favorite book?
"It's all in your head."
"It's because you don't pray enough."
"You just lack faith in God."
:)
Exactly!! I hate it when people say things like that... They just don't understand!
Fuck dude that hit hard.
Oh my god I can imagine someone saying that to me. Praying doesn’t do shit. I could pray for the next year straight and all I’d get is a headache.
My mother says that
@@jazzalterio692 lol tell your mom to pray for her to stop aging and never die and see what happens 😂😂
What about the “robot” the one that detaches themselves from emotions and often comes off cold and cynical
I think it falls under the "lost child" category
You dont understand that this video is superficial
It's falls under lost child imo.
Literally me
Oh
Oh yeah that’s me
Literally me
I'm finally gonna be detatching from my toxic family/household in 2 days. I'm so glad that I get to escape from that stressful and hopeless place I was once from. I can see a much brighter and better future now that I'm leaving them.
You good now? :)
I cant wait to be where you are
@@scrampledegg-nj1bj don't worry man, you'll get there soon
sick as ._fudge Thank you for sharing this, I use people like you to console me that it can get better.
@@hi-ls6lt you can use me for as much emotional support you need 👍
I am the lost child. I've never really made that many friends at school partly because of that, and because if my mom didn't approve of my friends then I couldn't hang out with them. If any of you are going through this right now, don't be afraid to ask for help. 99% of the time people are happy to listen and try to help.
Psych2Go: Which children do you relate to the most?
Me: *Y e s*
akdhaudjad
bruh fr ):
*Y E S*
Same
That's not good
A kid I know at school is most like the trouble maker. I found his diary in my desk (he sits next to me so he probably put it there by accident) and it read something like, "I do not like my family. My parents don't like me."
Honestly this kid is terribly mean, and vicious. I've come to understand him even though he hates me
One girl in my class is like this i only became "friends" with her because on of my best friends was friends with her but she is very abusive and over all a bitch i don't want to be friends with her because she hits and sometimes makes fun of me but she is always around me and I don't know what too do.
Star boi Well, have you tried beating her up? I know it doesn't sound like a rational thing to do, but if this person practically makes your day terrible everyday and they won't stop, then you make them stop, and violence isn't always the answer, but believe me, if no one helps you with the situation you're dealing with, then you have to do something about it. I learned this by manning up. I'm 14, but I learned to act older, because i've been through this shit since I was 4, and i've been close to suicide so many times because of bullys.
Star boi trying avoiding her, if you're never around she'll probably lose intrest and if you have to be around her, ignore her comments and fight back if tries to hit you. It's not fun to tease someone who doesn't respond, so hopefully she'll move on if you ignore her.
Star boi I know I’m about to act way older than I am, but I really feel for people in your situation because I have been there several times. Please please please tell an authority figure what is going on. Especially if things are getting physical. Avoid her where you can, and ignore her if you can’t. If you’re afraid that it will get back around to the girl if you report her, I guarantee there’s at least one authority figure you can trust to help you. A lot of young boys and girls are afraid to ask for outside help, but in places like schools, there’s so many adults who want to prevent this kind of behavior in the most discreet and effective way. Speak up for yourself as well. If she thinks the hitting is playful in anyway, explain to her that it hurts and you would like her to stop. Some people think rough-housing is okay with everyone when it really is not. If she tries to fight you, by all means defend yourself, but don’t go picking fights. That just validates her reasons to act hatefully towards you, and will almost certainly land you into trouble. Tl;dr stay firm and stand your ground. Find a trusted authority figure who can help you.
As a former troublemaker-Though my problem was not my family, it was my school itself- I can say that this kid likely doesn't trust anyone not to get fed up and reject him. I know I didn't. I was constantly on the defensive, and snapped at anyone who got into my space. I subconsciously wanted to test my friends, to see if they really cared about me, so I pushed their limits. Let him know when he's overstepped your boundaries, but make sure he knows that you're not rejecting him, and you might when him over.
I'm definitely the Lost Child/Dreamer. I grew up with alcoholic parents. I watched movies at home to distract myself from trouble at home and the fact that I didn't really have any friends. I felt very lonely at school but I was a good student.
I used to be the dreamer but now I'm mostly the Mascot
im also from alcoholic family
Somehow I know exactly how you feel!
+Aisha Desaulnier 😢😢😢
I think im a dreamer
As I grew older, I turned from "Lost Child" to the "Scapegoat".
Currently, I'm striving to be the "Responsible Child"
My mother's such a bad person. She judges me for having an anxiety attack.
Bruh 🗿 that’s dumb af
Mine prefers my shite sister in law.. screw her.
I understand that both my parents are awful it makes me scared to get into a relationship and trust someone if I kill myself tomorrow they wouldn't care
I have been diagnosed with a dissociative disorder years ago and it has been going worse these days so I told my parents that I wanna go see a psychiatrist (it's %100 free you dont need to pay) but my dad said
*depression isnt a real thing, so is psychology I have never witnessed something like "psychology" and I dont believe that it exists, youre just making this up because you dont wanna do housework*
me who didn't even mention depression-and clearly doesn't have it:
*-_-*
Same i got in trouble because i had an anxiety attack in public
When my parents say "I'm ashamed" I say "my friends aren't"
that's genius bro 😂👏
here is a clap 👏👏👏👏
Nice
Wow👏👏👏
That’s genius😂😂
Lost child/daydreams for me, that's one of the reasons I'm watching this.
Ay tWinNInG
@@ihavetractor4741 nice 😎
@Juicy Puff mascot here
I am the lost child. Step father would verbally abuse, threaten, yell, break things, and control everything in my life since I was a year old up until about 3 years ago when he was unable to work due to back problems and became depressed. He has no energy to yell anymore. My siblings also fight non stop. Both have major anger issues and is only a matter of time before someone gets hurts. As for my mother she used to be a stay at home mom up until about 5 years ago. I love her and we have similar mental problems but we struggle to understand one another. Since she started working I only have about 3-4 hours with her a day. The past 2 years I have been struggling with school and college work despite trying to do my best. I have seen a counselor to try and help me but being stuck in the same environment made healing and coping nearly impossible.
Hey🤧
i feel like im invisible when my siblings are around my parents love them so much that they forget about me, i know im the oldest but i also need affection and love from them, they left cause im the oldest and they think im mature enough to be in this world all alone
i feel ya
ive been there, and im always gonna be there to help as many people as possible, if you have any social media and need to talk i'll give it out to you ok?
its ok thats ok atleast they didn't always mad at you and didn't hit you because me? im only noticed if i do wrong thats why i cant feel my parents love
I’m the same. When I was 14 and turned to my mum emotionally about what was going on, she just said “but you’re so independent, you don’t need me,” and that hurt so much. I honestly crave being hugged & kissed like my siblings and being told that it’s okay to not have everything figured out all the time.
I think you missed one type. The sociopath / sadist. It normally happens to children that receives mental or physical abuse from their families. Instead of becoming sad and lonely, they tend to develop serious anger issues.
Leading to them fantasizing about a better family and sometimes even go as far to planning to 'kill and run' the people who abused them, or even innocent people. This is the problem with most serial killers, 50% of them originate from abusive families and grow up with an extremely twisted mindset.
Mostly because they feel inferior in the family and usually 'vents' their anger to other people whom do not have any relations to them. For example..Ed Gein? Remind me if I'm wrong but I heard the notorious serial killer Ed Gein originated from an abusive family.
grid racer so did HH Holmes and Jeffrey Dahmer
grid racer I think they'd probably still count as troublemaker, just a more extreme version
The little red haired girl from across the street In my opinion, troublemakers are usually exposed to more social stuff while on the other hand, the psychotic children tend to hide the fact and act as 'normal' children. Its a usual tendency in all psychopaths. This is why psychopaths can blend in with the crowd and not get found out.
grid racer that sounds like a whole other issue.
Ed gein's mom is super religious and bible fanatic.
I associate with number 3. I have such a difficult time when it comes to socializing with others (even my friends) and struggle to improve that skill. As a result, I don't think highly about myself. Even when I try and look at my qualities from a realistic point of view, I end up selling myself short or putting myself down. I would love to go out more to try and be more social, but I always expect the same things to happen. I meet someone, then everything goes downhill from there.
Same here. I've always been in the same situation. It has always been really hard for me to socialize with people, even with my cousins that I've known since I remember, it got worst when I graduated from high school 2.5 years ago. I haven't made any new friends since then, last year I started developing a new level of anxiety that got me into a panic attack in front of my classmates, thankfully I haven't had a new one since, but my social skills haven't got better. I hope some day I'll be able to surpass this, I wanna make new friends and be more confident and take more opportunities.
EDIT: Sorry if I got something wrong there, I'm still learning english.
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I felt this on a spiritual level.
I know how you feel.
“You’re not depressed, shut up.”
My parents only give me negative comments every single day, plus i dont really have friends in school, thats why i have low self-esteem and depression
my brother once said that to me..
@@aedarasidi3107 I - once- always say that to myself
I hate when parents say that
THAT'S MY MOOOOOOOM
“She’s just a loner”
“Haha why you ask her like she’s gonna actually join in”
“Why are you so quiet, you aren’t sick are you?”
If only they knew.......
If only they knew they're karens 😔
My message to any child who comes from Toxic families is that:
Your Life will take a different turn when you will be separated from them and live in a different healthy environment. Till then endure it, cope with it and Be Sane. Yes there will be times when you will feel like you can't go any further with this but please know that the enD of your Prison is Near and you will be out from being suffocated and trapped. Just be Safe and Sane. You are Loved❤⚘
Sorry for bad English and for long message🙏
Wings And TEARS you didn't have to write a big gay paragraph
PollyWantsACracker Just shut the fuck up man. He's just helping people while your trying to be funny wich is just toxic
Please don't apologize. This is important and it is fantastic that you said it! Thank you.
3 comments:
One is edgy, one is being a social justice warrior, and one is being overly kind(most likely a girl)
Sounds like UA-cam to me
The exact word: prison. That is exact definition!
I relate to all of these. My family was made up of all 5 of these issues. The only thing I can say is to move out, and take care of yourself. I’ve been on my own since I was 16 and am now 21. Put yourself first because nobody else will, not even your own family. Once you start to give yourself the love you grew up without, you will feel better. You will eventually make friends, and then more friends, and more and more. People will respect your strength, resiliance, and honesty. Just remember that you are worth it. You will eventually go far. It’s tough at first, but I promise you that you will grow strong.
Rebecca Whiteway thank you for this. I Needed to hear it. I wish you the very best x
Rebecca Whiteway 👏👏👏👏
Rebecca Whiteway , How can u just move out, teenagers and children are so vulnerable they can't make money like adults and focus on creating a better life they dream for themselves at the same time. How did u do it ? I'm so tired of my egocentric father who uses the advantage of making money to treat my family like a slave to validate his inner insecure real self.
Rebecca Whiteway how did you move out??
Aww, god bless u!
I'm type 4, married to a type 5. Both of us come from dysfunctional families but luckily have a good relationship between us and with our child. We use our parents as examples of what NOT to do.
Same i think
But i got vasectomy
No children for me
Paul Drake, You Fucked Up
Paul Drake God bless you guys
I wish you two all the best.
Are you an addict
Definitely the hero/responsible type. I've heard that "You're so mature for your age!" one too many times. :( My dad is definitely toxic, emotionally abuses my mom and I've had to "grow up" i guess, to figure out how to save myself and my sister from his exploding anger. And now, to become a listening ear for my dad's depressions and my mom's sufferings courtesy of my dad.
I wanna leave my family I can’t take this toxicity anymore I’m a good person I know it I need to protect my self from hate
You should tell someone about it, definitely. If they abuse you physically and mentally, report that shit. My mom is abusive but I'm working with some peeps to find options for me to live somewhere else.
Same
XMUS JAXON FLAXON-WAXON fuck off
@@koboz9321 you alright.?
XMUS JAXON FLAXON-WAXON listen to xxxtentacion he helps and I’m serious
i was sexually abused when i was 13, and grew up with 2 loving, but alcoholic parents. when either one or both of my parents were intoxicated, they would say some truly hurtful things, and i began to stop trusting them, therefore, i never disclosed to them that i was even abused, by someone who i thought was a great relative. i had always been the mascot/class clown type character, but i had never realized my home life was the reason i wanted to be confident, and friendly... things i knew i weren’t. they were all a facade, a charade i put on in order to hide my pains, and mask my struggles, while also trying to alleviate the moods of those around me... thank you for such an informative video!
raye oh :( I’m a showman/clown too :( Sad to hear your story :(
You seem like a strong guy
Are you okay now tho??
Holy shit, I am so sorry.
Same here but not the abuse part i have 2 acohollic parents but they are divorsed and it is really sad I want them to stop drinking so much but I try but they wont listen
I'm currently trying to study more about psychology and i just wanted to add this from experience:
The liar/ try hard:
They tell everyone the opposite of what's happening to their houshold. Like for me. When i was in 5th grade up until now, i would tell my freinds and classmates i can't go to their events or hang out because i'm busy that day, when in reality, my parents never let me go outiside and makes me feel guilty if i ever dissapoint them or their expectations.
They brag about things they have or things that had happened to them, even though it's a complete lie. They like to lie and brag about the things they wished that had happened to them. Because of those traits they get bullied easily and laughed at, even starts gossips and rumors. As the child grows into this trait they'll feel more empty, leading to depression or anxiety (even both)
I apologies if it's long, i just wanted to add something from experience
that is what happened to me too
Oh shoot there was a girl at my old school who did this,we all left school a while but like...she was really hated for her behavior
Apologize*
Andrew Rannells I would if I could but I never see her and I don’t have her contact.Our secondary schools are relatively close to each other so maybe one day I’ll see her and be able to apologize
You're really just a combination of lost child and mascot.
I just realized that all of this personalities are exactly like the main characters of IT by Stephen King, no wonder why do I relate so much to the characters of the book
I also grew up in a toxic family where there ain't a day without arguments. As a kid, it's very hard because I'm not the type of person who is very expressive. I suffer silently to the point I can no longer enjoy my childhood. As an adult I don't want to give a miserable family to my children in the future because family is a foundation to mold a happy and successful individual.
Yeah I'm the invisible kid my sibling is sort of the troublemaker but they're quite sensitive underneath.
I'm a lot like 1 and 3, but not from abusive or narcissistic parents....my father died when I was little so my mom ended up working a lot. My older brother however has had anger issues since we were young and has an overinflated ego. One time his anger caused him to swing a golf club at my mom. Freaked me out.
I hope your mom's okay.
I know i feel like I cycled through all 5 of these at some point.
Hey you stole my look! >:(
Human Qrystal *HISSSSS!*
(laughing at self)
I hope your brother changed
I’ve just stopped caring about everything and everyone. I can’t seem to find it in me to give a shit when people are sad, hurt, or lonely. I don’t even care when I’m the reason they are. Sure, I can feel empathy, but I feel as though I can turn off my emotions... it’s hard to explain, but for example, I might be upset that my parents are yelling at me/my sister, then I think to myself ‘wait, why exactly do I care?’ And all of a sudden I just don’t feel bothered at it. If anything at all, I’m just slightly annoyed.
I do the same thing sometimes. it's most likely a coping mechanism because I am very sensitive, feeling things all the time becomes very overwhelming so my brain just kind of shuts it all out without my permission. maybe you and i are similar?
@Cailyn Aube yeah, it’s a coping/defense mechanism of suppressing emotions. I have the same one, mine is so developed that in such situations even my posture and gestures change, as if I become another person and my feelings ain’t mine anymore 🤔
I do the same thing :/ with parents and other people.
hello, twin
I cant listen to feelings anymore at this point.
It's a gruelling reality where children have grow up and fix what their parents broke.
Me: *Expressing my emotions by crying and trying to explain why I did something*
My mother be like: Since when did you learn how to be disrespectful? Is that how you treat the woman who carried you for 9 months, who bathed you, who washed your butt, who got no enough sleep because of you? That's why I don't understand why some parents demand respect from their children even if they've never shown respect to their children. Is it even my fault I was born? She always makes me feel like living in this world is a mistake.
as bobby singer once said, "family don't end in blood". And yeah, my mother does the same thing demanding insane levels of respect and praise even though she's a jerk to the rest of the family.
Her love is conditional. Holding the fact you were born over your head is cruel. She chose it. It was her decision. It has nothing to do with expressing yourself. She knows she's in the wrong so she brings it up to destroy you psychologically. I should know... it happened to me. Please find a counselor to talk you. You deserve to be heard in a respectful environment. She doesn't own you. Don't let her weeds corrupt the garden that is your mind 🌻🌻🌻
@@sydneysummers5290
I agree.
These parents did not get the ( unconditinal) love and respect in their childhood. S o they were traumatised AND PASS THEIR TRAUMA and make their Kids suffer.
Therapy is very important. There are good and not very good and bad therapists.
i know.. and you arent a mistake, if you ever need to talk to someone im always here i know we're complete strangers and youll probably forget about me but ive been there, and am willing to help you with whatever your going through ok?
Suffering from the same thing everyday
I come from a pretty dysfunctional family, I've always been the daydreamer and the trouble maker, and now that I've grown and moved out, I still struggle with adjusting myself to be a proper adult, but it's hard. The only advice I can give is get out as soon as you can, and stay with a good friend or family member who has a less harsh and chaotic living situation. Let them help you become better until you're ready to be on your own
Kristal Cadenza self parent yourself, it’s actually a thing and it’s soothing me
Thank you for making this video and talking about these things. I love this channel.
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Thank you for watching! We love you all
stellvia hoenheim, But they distract me from my pain......... 😶🔫
same love this channel
I seen you before
The hero hits home so hard it’s the perfect description of what I’ve been struggling with. The mascot as well, I want to help automatically and haven’t even noticed that sometimes I want to do it too much and actually annoy people.
When your family is so toxic you become multiples of this child. Personally I was 1,3 and 5
Same here!! But at the same time, children that are/were physically abused have it worse. I know it because I'm also one, it's a privilege to have parents that don't use their physical power to put you down and feel that they are greater than you
“I love your personality your so mature for your age!”
“Thanks, it was the emotional trauma~” 😎
Same!!!
Lmao same
『 oblivion 』 lmgfaO
Same. emotional trauma is best if u want to be mature : D
Literally get this all the time
I am the very first one. I started tearing up when it was being described. I'm like "hero" type because whenever my parents argue, I'm the one to take care of my siblings, and I'm trying not to be like my parents because they are rather childish. I tend to always wanna have things perfect, (my art for example) and get stressed out whenever I feel like it's not perfect
I'm %100 the lost child. I've had social anxiety since I was, like, 4, due to the environment i was in. Growing up with constant shouting, arguing and violence can have its toll on you. All of my siblings have anxiety, but I have both. I struggle trying to communicate with ppl, and I begin to panic inside when someone starts talking to me. I try my best to make conversation but I'm also very akward in the process.
I'm also constantly pissed off bc of how much my life has been fucked up bc of certain ppl.
I genuinely cannot wrap my head around how much confidence ppl have to just speak out in class. I dont even put my hand up.
My mum divorced my dad was i was around 6-8.
Then when I was 10, my mum had a baby with her new bf, he moved in straight away. He is literally EXACTLY like my dad. Violent, narcisstic, controlling, fake, creepy, sexist.
He doesn't like having friends that are "out of his comfort zone".
He doesn't like having friends of colour is what I mean. Hes extremely sexist and disagrees with my mum having a job. Hes told her to go bk into the kitchen n shit. Hes just constantly making these shitty little comments about girls n stuff. It's pathetic, bc then when my brothers aren't around, he goes insane at my mum or me. My mum doesn't even go out with her friends anymore, cause when she used to, he used to go insane, shouting at her, smashing stuff up, accusing her of things. Even when one of her friends come over like, once every couple months, she comes to the house, they dont even go out. My mum fell out with ones her mates, and its sad, bc she knew him way before she met her bf.
I say "fell out" but she basically just stopped talking to him. For some reason. :|
He had a daughter aswell close to my lil brothers age and he loved it when she came round cause they'd play together.
He cheated on his last gf. Hes been arrested for smthn... not very nice.
My mum n him, they argue every couple days.
He'll start an argument abt smthn, they'll have random screaming matches all day, then it only gets sorted out tmrw, after he gives some half-assed apology, then everyone acts all normal for a day or two, then it happens again. Its genuinely getting exhausting. There's nothing left to say to her, we cant comfort her anymore bc there's no point, shes let this shit slide 100 times, shes too far in now. I've been really tired the past 2 days bc of their shit. But no ones thinking abt the kids. They're not even thinking abt their baby-how all this shouting can seriously effect him as he grows up. Cause he's gonna be 3 this year, and he's starting to pick things up now.
Him and my mum were shouting over him, while he was just laying on the floor in silence, moving this little car around. It kinda hurt to see him tryna block that stuff out, cause that's what I used to do. I used to put earmuffs or headphones on, and I used to be really addicted to this game called animal jam. I think it helped me disconnect from reality..
I dont want my brother growing up like how we did, and now its even worse, bc my mums pregnant again, and they've started fighting more now. It can be fkcin scary sometimes. Yknow when someone's completely switches, and they dont even look like the same person anymore? That's what my mums bf is like. And you don't even know what to expect when that happens. Hes hurt me multiple times now, I can name 3/ 4 occasions, he laid his hands on my mum once or twice. Never ever touched my brothers tho.
When he gets angry, he starts breaking stuff and shouting all sorts of bullshit. He kicks my baby brothers things around.
Hes threatened to take their baby away numerous times. Not on holiday or anythn. It was a threat. And also, not to protect their baby or anythn, because he was the problem. He was saying it to hurt my mum. She would be so stressed out at work, constantly messaging us "has he taken a bag with him? How long have they been gone for? Have they gone out?" Just all sorts of questions.
She thought he was gonna take their baby back to the country hes from to live with his family. Him and his family are disgusting people.
Once their baby is old enough, the dad is gonna start teaching him to be like him.
He already chats shit to him abt my mum in his own language.
He uses their kid as a way to get to my mum. Ljke, if my mum tells him not to give the baby certain food or drinks, or not to toss him up in the air when he's a couple months old, he'll still do it, cause he doesn't like listening either.
Hes tried to ruin Christmas and multiple birthdays. He did succeed basically. He completely ruined my sisters 16th. He starts an argument the day before, with my mum, then theyll be arguing on the day of the birthday, and everyone will be in a bad mood. He plans it. Its really fucked up.
He also distances himself and acts rlly antisocial for attention, then at other times he's completely in other peoples business and sucking up to guests.
Thats what my dad used to do. He used to act rlly fake around others outside the house, give it the whole good dad act and perfect husband, but at home he was a nasty prick.
I literally cannot express how similar they r.
At the beginning, my mums bf was barely there. He used to work 5 days a week, long shifts, then he'd stay after work for drinks. He wouldn't even see his kid. And he didn't even care. Eventually, he quit that job and had to get another, but in-between, it took a long time to find a job, I'm guessing bc of his background, cause he was arrested for smthn not very nice last year.... he kinda had to be around his kid.
But they act like hes some sort of burden. Look, I completely get that babies can be a stressful handful, but its just a bit nasty. Hes now threatening go get another job, 12 hour shifts, 5 days a week, and my mums throwing up all day, she'll be at home alone, she cant look after her kid properly cause she's really weak , and he's just being a selfish prick. That's what there most recent argument was abt.
When I was 11, police came to our house and he was arrested for being a nonce, basically.
He also liked to sexualize babies. :/
In a few years time when I'm 16, I'm gonna get a job at McDonald's or whatever, make enough money to move out and cut that arsehole out of my life forever. Even if it means never seeing me mum again, so be it. I can just message her. I'm so fucking done with them. All through my childhood, for over 7 fucking years. We were finally free of that for a couple years, and now another 3 years of constant bullshit.
I'm not even gonna lie, he destroyed what was left of our family. My mum has changed so much. She turned against me, I stopped going to school when I was 11 cause it made me fucking suicidal and I was miserable. My mums bf would try to drag me out of bed every morning, shouting at me, taking my covers and my pillow ,my writing books (I love writing with pencil)
And it wasnt cause he cared, its cause he enjoyed tormenting me.
Then he took my phone for 7 months. Again, cause he liked power. If I didnt have my books i probs would've killed myself or ran away. I almost did. Both. cause within those 7 months, I was shouted at and picked on everyday. I fought bk but I felt so worthless, "my mum hates me. Great. She hates me cause I'm fat. She's tryna send me to my dads bc she hates me. I
My sister physically, mentally, verbally, emotionally, whatever, attacked me every single day for months. I hated it. Got eating disorders everything. Tbh, even after my dad left, my brother was really violent, and he used to hurt us.
So it was my dad, then my brother, my mums bf and my sister.
I just wanna leave, I wanna move far away. I ruined her life. She doesn't want me anymore."
I dont think she didnt want me tbf, she didnt even seemed bothered when she was tryna send me to live with my dad. Her bf was more eager to send me away tho. Ofc. The fckin irony. Tryna kick an 11 year old outta her home. He is a literal man child. He started arguments EVERY DAY. And I mean every day. I always got the blame tho, which was nice. I even tried to make it work for a bit but then I just couldn't. He dragged me down the stairs in Febn, and I've been ignoring him basically ever since. He has tried to start a few arguments, but hes just pathetic so ill laugh kn his face and walk away. Msybe call him a nonce.
My mum said she was never gonna let another man treat her like shit,
And she was never having anymore kids:
It's scary how much #3 describes me
Me too.
Same
Same
Same with me but with 2🙁
That's me
I’m the lost child, especially this year because a lot of things have happened and my family is the most toxic they’ve ever been. UA-cam is my safe/happy place where I know I can’t get hurt, and to escape my responsibilities. I have a lot more mental things going on, and I keep telling my mom I need help but she doesn’t listen
My mom as well.. please, could we talk? By e-mail? I really need someone. Please!
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such a rough patch : (
Keep dreaming though!! Daydreaming and creativity from hard times now can be important in the future
Ik that sounds cheesy but I was the lost child a while ago before my dad and stepmom divorced, making a lot of the toxicity die down. The ideas and creative exposure I got during that time though really saved my life
esme weeks thank you so much for saying that! I’m sure it will die down at some point, but until then, I’ll follow your kind words.
mcH town Hi mcH
kat dreemurr I feel the same way with Dan and Phil. I think I should see a therapist too, but I’m scared to tell anyone about it
Holy shit i have never seen anything so similar to me until the "lost child" one that described my entire existance
Me too :)
Ugh, it was the worst years of my life experiencing this type
It feels like you have no voice, nobody sees you, you don't even know if you are exist.
Lost clown here.
Same bro
I'm between the Hero/Responsible and the Lost Child
I remember watching those animes where the protagonist is someone lonely or struggling at the first episode and a few episodes later, they meet other people and they welcome the protagonist to a home that they deserve. Watching the filler episodes where they interact as a family makes me imagine that I'm also in that scenario. Having a toxic family really does make me do these things.
Me: **trying to explain myself while crying and stuttering**
**2 minutes pass**
My mom: WELL?!
However well you explain yourself, in these types of families, it's pretty useless. Whatever you say they'll just get what they want to hear out of it and use that against you.
Anora Norwell I remember this one time when my mom used my own words against me so many times in one week
@@maishabroski6066 It's extremely frustrating and demeaning
@@maishabroski6066 I'm really sorry you had to go through that
Every parents is the same they never change and never will.....
I have an emotionally abusive family, I keep forgiving them and getting hurt...
exactly me
Yes I agree I'm still going through this shit.
Same
Same. I grew up, got out and had to distance myself, unfortunately.
@@haleighgdennis188 Lucky you
I'm a mix of 1, 2 and 4 Procratinating perfectionist who rather dreams away then dealing with the world prone to overworking and not showing any feelings to anyone. As an orphan I'm not used to getting outside help or love but I try to give it to others because they don''t deserve to feel the way I do. Doesn't always stop me from being jealous of people with loving parents though.
thinthle I can relate to you..
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thinthle SAME
Same
You explained myself in ways I couldn't
I am the lost child/dreamer... my parents divorced when I was a 16 but they were always fighting since I was in kinder.
I love my parents but they put me through hell. I read books, watched tv and day dreamed a lot. The first time my parents broke up, I was 11 and they got back together then broke up again when I was 12 or 13.
That time, it sucked.. my mom would pick us up from school and park us in front of the hotel my dad was staying at.
She would yell and tell us we need to tell our dad how we felt, I cry when I try to explain my feelings and my mom made it worse when she yelled and told me what to say.
She did that maybe 3 or 4 times. One time she yelled at me and my brother driving home and she said "no one loves you, do you think your dads side would ever take you in? I can kick you out, and they wouldnt even take you. No one can handle you, I am the only one that can handle you"
She started yelling at my brother so I said "stop yelling at him, hes a kid just yell at me.." so she did. I was 13.. we still argue about this til this day, she says it wasnt for her, it was for us and she said it wasnt a bad thing and says no one loves me still.
I cant get over it.. I have problems with relationships and boundaries.. being a pleaser..
As I got older, I realized that doing the dishes made her happy, the one time I didnt do the dishes she said "I work all day the least you can do is wash the dishes" from then on I did them all the time but I was still a bad child.
Through my years growing up, I cleaned, took care of my sisters kids, my brothers. Tried to cook.
I kept to myself a lot of things I said she turned on me.
That's just my mom and some of the stuff shes done... my dad..
Well.. apparently he beat me when I was 4.. I barely remember but I remember him spanking me and then being at my moms work, her asking me if I was okay and coloring and saying yes.
He beat me again in 4th grade for accidentally hitting my brother with door. He chased me into my room and hit me.
Later he asked me not to tell my mother.. I didnt.. he called me fat etc... he didn't want a girl. Everyone said he cried when they found out I was a girl.
My mom uses stuff my dad did against me. I guess he left after I was born and she asked why and he said he was tired and she said so was I and I dont remember what I did to make her tell me that but I dont think that is okay to use on your child at 15 or 16.
This is a lot so this is just some things they've done.. I need therapy for sure. I have a lot to tell.. if you made it this far, thanks for reading. Maybe I'm wrong?. Am I wrong or is this a bit normal?
I can’t watch this. It’s gonna hit too close to home. I’m just gonna scroll through the comments instead.
I am more of a #4.I have to fake my feelings to fit in. I'm happy and energized at school, but my home life is a hell. I hate it.
Same
Same
My home life is also hell. Just a few more years I keep telling myself.
Same.
Same..
I’m the mascot/class clown at school but once I get home I become the lost dreamer and just watch videos/movies or work/draw all day so I won’t have to interact with my family. It’s weird I guess but I prefer to ignore my family as much as possible.
Some Girl i’m exactly the same
same lol
Some Girl I act the same way l feel sometimes like I have two personalities but I'm changing to be strong
Some Girl same by ignoring my family I don’t have to deal with the yelling and being the mascot at school is so no one can realize what’s behind my mask and no one can pity me
Some Girl same here
I relate with the class clown, in school when everyone feels down i try to lighten up their mood, i play with them and be active as always, but in my true colors, i just have problems with my family and my friends, i found out that my friends talked behind my back, i forgive them but they never knew i found out, as for my family, i always intend to be quiet, but that doesnt help much, my parents would ask dozens of questions saying why im not good enough, ive been planning to die (deppression)
Sure i have nothing important to lose but i still forgive them all, but in the true colors of a class clown, Their Life is Indeed.. Broken.
My parents are divorced. I used to spend one week at a time at my mom’s house and then at my dad’s. My mom treated me very well, but I was mentally abused by my dad, and I really turned into the dreamer.
I’m better now. I live at my mom’s house full time and planning to move out in the near future ❤️
Emilia Xi wow. You're almost exactly like me. I would spend a week with my mother, then at my father's. But, it was my MOTHER who was the abuser, mentally and physically, and she was very neglectful. But, now I spend full time with my dah.
ItzUrGurlJaz I hope you’re better now. I believe that people who have been abused are stronger mentally because we have been through a lot. Lots of love ❤️
Emilia Xi aww thank you. I am better now. Even though I have to deal with my mom sometimes still lol.
Sinx the Duskie I don’t believe you’re making excuses. When you are abused you don’t know what to do with yourself. Especially kids and teenagers. Humans were not made to be abused, so I don’t blame you. Bless you ❤️
Sinx the Duskie No, don’t worry about it ❤️
Lost child and mascot for sure. Everything I did was to help others yet nothing I did was really for others. I never cared about them, i only cared about my own self satisfaction and whatever gratitude I was rewarded with in the end. To elaborate further, i had a fantasy of dying to save someone else. Not because I wanted to save that persons life, it didn’t even matter if I didn’t know that person, i just wanted to die. It was like suicide without the suicide and I could be seen as a hero or a good person after death.
I spent lots of time reading books or watching anime or Netflix or whatever because if i wasn’t doing something all the time then i actually had to think about my horrible life and how sad i was.
I was good at hiding my and my family’s problems. I didn’t want anyone to know. That habit started in my early childhood, where showing my sad emotions about my parents divorce could literally be twisted enough by my mother to take me and my brother away from my father forever (or hardly ever seeing him). I acted over exaggeratedly happy because it’s hard to believe someone like that is so severely depressed.
I needed to be loved, i didn’t receive nearly enough from my family. And I received even less from myself (I hated myself more than anything). So I felt that I had to be liked by everyone, and I made it work. I’ve always been great at lying, I’ve probably stained my lips with more lies than not. So I lied about who i was and what i was like, changing my entire personality for others. I had thousands of personalities, each custom tuned to fit the specific person I was associating with at that moment. I became someone everybody could like by conforming to their preferences.
Though it also meant that I’d never made a sincere friend. I was too fake, the person they knew wasn’t me. I couldn’t talk about my problems because that’d be way too out of character. So I really had no one at all.
No one knew about my true self or my severe depression. Even my parents didn’t know I was depressed until I made it loud and clear by attempting suicide-twice in the same month.
I sort of had an epiphany at the mental hospital after my second suicide attempt. Not because of the mental hospital (at all that place sucks) but actually because of a girl I met there. I actually met her there my first visit to the mental hospital, and then miraculously we both came back at the same time on the second. She had really bad panic attacks, and sometimes would get violent if the panic got bad enough. Like flipping chairs and punching mattresses (and another girl once but she had it coming she planted a lighter in our room under my bed because she didn’t want to get in trouble for sneaking it in). But anyway, after a bad panic attack I told her something along the lines of “that’s sucks, they might make you stay longer.” And she replied “that’s alright, as long as I get the help I need.” I was so stunned by that response. Though it should be self-intuitive, I’d never realized you could like, actually want to get better. And that you could actually want to actively participate in therapy and stuff.
So I gave getting better a shot instead of just trying to solve all my problems with suicide and it actually worked. I worked really hard at therapy and coping skills and eventually I stopped being a ‘mascot/class clown’ and started being who I really am. I stopped taking crap from my parents and started telling my therapists everything that happened and everything they made me feel. I mean, I can’t change who they are so it’s not like they miraculously got better and we all lived happily ever after. Actually, I just moved to my grandparents house to get away from them since I couldn’t handle that toxic environment anymore and I sure as hell wasn’t going to ruin all of my progress and hard work in therapy just to be around them. It was actually my grandma who offered for me to move to her house, she noticed the way I was being treated and really didn’t like it (she grew up in an abusive household as well so she recognized the signs).
I also dropped out of regular school and switched to online school. Which holy hell was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made dear god. My anxiety was horrible being at regular school. I have a bunch of medical problems so I’m absent a lot for doctors appointments and sick days. So I racked up tons of absences and tons of makeup work that I just couldn’t handle. Plus, like I said, I had no friends. No real ones. And he’ll what am i supposed to do tell all the ‘friends’ I’ve made “Uh yeah so I never actually liked any of you, you were just a means of me acquiring the love and affection I couldn’t give myself. And i don’t actually have much in common with you anyway. Oh also I’m not happy, fun, and nice-I’m actually pretty bitter and depressed. And I’m not really all that stupid either I’m fairly intelligent actually. So yeah I’ve been lying to you this whole time and we’ve never actually been friends.”??? Lol no way am I dealing with that drama.
So yeah if I had to give any advice it’d have to be to actually give therapy a shot and try to help yourself get better. And if your situation is bad, change it yourself instead of waiting for the world to change it for you. And don’t just use the excuse “this will all go away once I die.” For all the worlds faults there is some truly beautiful things out there. It’s really important to not see this world in just pure black and stark white. You have to learn to distinguish ‘life’ from mere ‘existence’. If you’re only going through the motions of living, constantly dissociating and totally numb to the things around you, never growing as a person and just staying in the same place day after day-you’re not living any more than the dirt under your feet. That’s just ‘existing.’ So instead of trying to solve your problems by dying, why not try to actually start living? In my opinion, death really is better than the pain of existing-but if living is even better than those combined then dammit i want to at least try it! It won’t be easy to get there and I’m not even there yet, but I’m gonna hold onto the hope that I can take the life I want and not let anyone or anything stop me.
Jeez that was a lot of writing lol. I didn’t mean for it to get this long. No one is probably gonna read this but thank you to anyone who did. Everyone always tells us depressed people ‘things will get better,’ but no one ever tells us ‘make things better yourself!!’ I hope you guys can help yourselves get better :D. Understanding yourself is super important so learning psychology is a great place to start. I like this channel especially since they’re so informative but make it concise and easy to watch with cute animations and visuals.
can kind of relate in some parts.
We seem to be really similar. I'm actually staying with my grandma right now in order to escape an abusive situation, although she knows bc I jumped out of a window when running from my mom and aunt and wound up at the hospital.. I used to do the exact same thing, creating different versions of myself to be friends with everybody for years, until I couldn't take it anymore. Now I'm just really dark and sarcastic and mad and I certainly have a lot less friends, but it's a lot easier to be angry than to be happy, at least for me. I won't be going to school for the rest of the year bc of my injuries and the distance between my grandma's place and my school, but I'll be getting the assignments online. I'm starting therapy on Saturday, and I'm trying to be 100% honest about how I feel for the first time in my life. It's a struggle, but I'm really hoping it's worth it.
Zofi Goats, thank you for writing this because it has left an impact. It is incredibly enpowering to see other people who have had these expirences and still focus on optimism. I think that being your own hero is the most important facet of healing, but can be the most difficult step to realize, especially when self advocacy is discouraged from a young age.
The people who are abused, the people who are changed because of it but still devote themselves to living, we are are stronger than any abuser. We have to teach ourselves to heal, to be authentic, to respect ourselves, and in the process, we are learning how to spread these lessons to others after we figure it out.
Anyway, good vibes be with you, dude. You totally got this
Zofi Goats This is beautiful, I can relate in many ways as in being the class clown/mascot and trying my best to socialize with as many people as I can, I do have a pretty rough life at home that no one knows about except my family, specifically my brother & mother since it my dad who is messing things up, but sometimes you have to remember to not be "bias" or just see your side of the story, those who make you suffer can be suffering themselves and it's either they don't notice or they do. It hurts a lot, and if you have trouble bottling up your emotions, than cry it out.
Crying was always seen from the public as weak and being sensitive and they are not completely wrong but you have to let all that pressure and stress off someway or another and one of the best is to let it out, or that is how it worked for me and how I am slowly growing and moving on. I never really had close friends as they think. I remember some girl talking about friends and who were my best friends and one of my "close friends" who thought I was close to them stared me down when I said that I don't *really* have any. I have only really been close to one person but apart from my family because we both had a similar interest but she kinda stopped liking it so it was a bit awkward. It's hard to open up your true self to people because you feel judged or that they will stop being your friend and that must hurt a lot. There is still something holding me up, and that is hope and surprisingly religion. I don't want to go to deep into that but if you are tired of crying and still have bottled up emotions, write it down, getting it off of your chest feels great when all of it is one the paper, I write quite a lot about my struggling when I write and it helps clear out the situation in your head better. It's hard but you always have a driving force in you, deep down, and that driving force is love. Not any love that someone else gives you, but the love for yourself, loving yourself is one of the hardest things to do in life. It takes a lot of time to love yourself then anything else.
The thing is that I enjoy being the class clown/ mascot and don't really refer it as a burden or anything bad because I feel that is could be like a cover up or mask AND it could actually be a part of me since my father was always the comedic one apart from my more serious/blunt mom, and he always showed me a lot of love and attention so I usually followed his ways more.
Things changed as I got older and he changed, saying that I don't love him or show much love and attention as I use too just cause I'm older. I feel pain with the rest of my family but I feel worse feeling that it was my fault that he changed so drastically, I feel like he thinks that he isn't worthy or loved enough so he is basically cheating on my mom to find love. It hurts but you have to confront your problems to solve them cause the world is waiting for you to make the move, right or wrong, it's waiting and you can't let others do it for you cause it doesn't work that way.
This is too long and I was rambling a bit but I hope yall understand not to give up and to try your best to fix a problem you think you can fix, but make a move even if it is risky, it can save so much time and you from still having to endure the pain
Shannon S therapy is totally worth it. it honestly helps so much. i went to therapy when i was in second and third grade for my anger issues and emotional breakdowns. just remember to be real and honest. thats the hard part because your whole life, youve trained yourself to say that youre fine. but tell yourself that its whats going to help. im not from an abusive family and i could never imagine what others have gone through. no one deserves to go through that. be brave, be strong, be real, and remember, you are beloved.
I cried throughout the whole video. I can identify with almost everything she said
I can relate I feel hurt when you said that, would you like to talk to me? if you need someone?
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I grew up in a very violent home. I grew up with a kill or be killed mindset, I was constantly on guard. Narcissism ran rampant all through my life. Started out as physical abuse until my mom had cps called on her then she switched to mental. She pitted me and my sister against each other constantly, watching the chaos unfold and smiling in perverse pleasure (if that's how you want to call it.) I was told I love you I few times, and only in public to make my mom look good. I learned to thrive in the chaos, so much that I got it tattooed on me (ICIT on my left hand between my thumb and index finger, meaning "in chaos I thrive.")
I guess what this leads up to, is what kind of role I took as a child. I took up the funny guy/ invisible child. I always try to make everyone laugh and smile because I know what it's like to feel worthless and I can't stand to see my friends like that
@Node Microsystems hey man, if it means anything from a complete stranger, I love ya man. I'm on Facebook if you want to holler at me. it's the name I use on here. Much love my friend.
Definitely 1 & 3 for me. I've always been told I'm very wise and mature but honestly I think it's because growing up I typically looked after my older sister. My parents were divorced so us being in pre-k and kindergarten we typically would be left alone. I'm also the youngest but most responsible out of us, just for the fact we taught ourselves how to cook on the stove around that age too. Third one, I'm heavily introverted and often found myself going into my own world to cope with my childhood growing up. Instead of books it was toys and tv shows for me. Emotional and mental trauma at such an age really did take a toll on me, now I have severe depression. Doesn't help when my parents actively showcased favoritism towards my older sister, often ignoring/pushing me away. I'm an adult now but it still hurts.
I think because of the toxic environment I grew up in, I was a few of these "types" at varying stages/times. My advice to anyone else suffering in a similar context to that in the video would be to never blame yourself, and always realise that you aren't your parents - you have control over who you turn out to be!! Develop coping skills that are helpful and non-detrimental to yourself and others. You'll grow to be someone wonderful in the future.
I am an enabler. Or I was. My family is obsessed with how they are seen by others. They go through great lenghts to appear and look a certain way. Since I didn't want to be pitied or put my family down, I masked the abuse and everything that was going behind the scenes.
I used to act confident and brag, but in reality I would spend all day out just so that I could avoid my family.
I am also always lost in my head. When I am not, I try to get stuck in a fictional world.
I never wanted to cause trouble or put the spotlight on myself, so I was withdrawn. I am still invisible, just blending in with the wall. My siblings don't even notice when I am home or out. Even when I am in the same room as them I am not seen. Which suits me fine, since attention = bad.
Andruşca A-N-K i really get that
Lost child. I wasn't forgotten, but I wanted to disappear. I often still feel like I want to just disappear. I lived with my grandparents and my mom, but my mom was the one i always wanted to get away from, while simultaneously wanted to get some kind of approval from. Isn't that weird? She would shame me for being overweight, shame me for being shy.... she would make fun of me when I showed that I liked boys early on to the point my grandpa got worried and asked me, when I was hitting puberty, if I liked boys at all. (I would try very hard not to show that I had a crush on a boy or a male character because i didn't want to be teased again.) I got bullied at school for being a little weird, taller than everyone, and overweight; it never really ended, but the boys and girls that picked on me stopped voicing it to my face since they had every chance in the world I might actually hurt them something awful if they did. I didn't accept that behavior toward my friends in particular; I just got used to hearing it about me all the time.
fatalrob0t I know exactly what you mean.. my mom can make me contemplate suicide but at the same time I want so badly for her to think I'm normal. I want her to accept me as I am and not be ashamed of me.
You know what you should do stop caring as much about other people’s opinions and only care about your own think about yourself before other people cause you are the most important person when it comes to you
fatalrob0t I can relate. I was too ashamed to ask questions at school because I felt stupid if I didn't know how to do something. I would be bullied by classmates for being shy and also by my parents who told me I was a mouse and would snap at me and tease me that I didn't have any friends. My brother's found it hilarious to call me a fat lesbian. To cope I just ate. Hid away. Talked less. Too ashamed of being a fat quiet mouse with no friends. I was awkward. Would trip over things at school and just feel more shame. Today I try not to worry so much about being quiet but it still affects me. Alot of times I talk through my boyfriend because I'm afraid of not being heard. Now I am pregnant and am trying everything I can to be a better person. One of my favourite things to do is yoga because I don't even have to think about not being good enough and I know my baby can hear me breathing and perhaps feel the goodness that I feel inside. All I care about now is them. My future will not be clouded by my past.
I know how you feel fatalrobOt. My siblings and I....we all do our best to be unnoticed. My parents seem to consider shaming me almost like a game. Like you they would shame me for not being athletic and maybe having a few more pounds than I could, they would shame me for being shy. They also would, in the same breath as they call me 'very intelligent' also call me a dumb-ass. They ignore anything I have to say, and often get angry if i try to say it. Hell...one time my dad and I ended up with LITERAL SWORDS to each other's throats.
I was bullied at school as well... a bit weird, really tiny (seriously till junior year i was right on the line of dwarfism...people thought i was in 5th grade, or that i'd skipped years), really quiet. And like you...it never really stopped...i could count my 'friends' on my fingers i had so few. I had numerous nicknames, most of them unflattering (save 'Neo' cause i could basically bullet time when we played dodgeball, they would collect all the balls and the jocks would focus fire on me...and more often than not i could dodge or catch the whole battery of balls). The harassment never stopped...but once the rumor started that I was keeping a 'hitlist' of all the people who picked on me (which i certainly did nothing to dispute it), a lot of them wouldn't do it directly as much.
It feels like no matter what you do, its always wrong...at home...at school...out in the world.
Not everyone can be a narcissist like you Raderpaderp. Some of us actually care about other people, sometimes more than ourselves.
My fiancé is definitely the lost kid. His mother is a real piece of work. I’ve basically had to help raise him along with his dad, his stepmom, and my parents bc his mom just ignored him unless she could milk his autism for attention. He just dissociates when he’s stressed. He goes off into his own little world while reality crumbles around him. That trait has proved to be a challenge for us as a couple but I will stick by him to the end. He is a great guy and he never deserved what his mom put him through.
Actually I was just watching this and saw the 'Lost Child' part. It's safe to say this describes me almost perfectly. I'm an introvert with low self-esteem. I'm shy. I read books all the time and frequently daydream to escape my 'depression' (never actually been diagnosed, tho). I don't get in trouble either. I also relate to the Mascot, I'm the one with all the jokes, and when I'm around friends I'm probably 'overly nice.' Thanks for makin this video.
WELL UR BEAUTIFUL SO NO LOW SELF-ESTEEM FOR YOU BECAUSE ONE DAY UR GANNA BE A MODEL MAYBE NOT THE MODEL UR THINKING OF BUT YOU WILL BE 😄😄😄😄😄😄
Man, I feel your pain. But if you have strong depressive symptoms, I suggest finding a psychologist/therapist or talk to your doctor about it. Therapy can help sooo much, trust me.
You are a lot like me, keep on fighting (oh that sounds like you have cancer)
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Same
Damn, I am a 100% the Lost Child/Dreamer, its almost scary how accurate it describes me.
Does anybody else have similar experiences or thoughts?
Yes me definitely
I’m both number 2 and number 3
Same here just worst...
I try to distract myself at home I'm most likely the class clown though.
Even I'm the lost child. A really apt description.
I have a strong urge to run away from this video
Your parent doesn’t have to be the addiction for you to end up being the enabler. I had to care for my siblings while my parent went to work, and they never held the other parent accountable for anything; they laid around. But I had to be the adult replacement.
#5 spot on.
I grew up an only child with two deaf parents. My dad was an alcoholic. He used to threaten to leave my mom every night for years. My parents refused to talk , so id be the go between never knowing it was SO wrong , especially from age 5 and on. Its caused serious abandoment issues. I was also their interpreter and was expected to paint them in the best light possible. Fast forward 25 years.... it was all a sham , they depend on me and i feel as though they benefit still from the biggest mistake (me) they ever made.
Sick.
On a positve note ,I really like the new video.
I feel extremely sorry for you, hope things are going better now. I wish you the best of luck for your future!
Youre not a mistake, youve accomplished something great by pulling through with them
“The Hero/Overachiever” Never described me so well. I can’t even mow the lawn without asking for more and more work to do.
*stepping out of character* The Lost Child always gets in trouble at home because they are always on their phone...
Molly Weasley i kept getting in trouble bc if my step brothers got in trouble, we all did. Even though i spent so much time alone, i would be forgotten for meals amd family outings but i was never forgotten for punishment
TRUTH!!!
You just described my life._.
Same
thanks molly, you right
i'm crying.. not only because its describe me but because i saw this in my schools for 12 years and i had no idea that they were suffering i wish i was mature more and aware more about these things maybe i could help them.. i hope they have a good healthy happy life now.