so i have a religious, homophobic, racist, russian family, and i literally had a pride flag in my room and i had rainbow beads on my doc martens. how do they not know- well actually even i dont know,
Oof good luck on that. I hope they will realize (if you choose to come out) that they are still your family and they should love regardless, if not more❤
I just wanted to say that i highly respect anyone who’s coming out or thinking of coming out right now. i know how overwhelming it might be, as a closeted girl in a homophobic home myself, and everyone in this situation needs to know that you have my ETERNAL LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU’RE AMAZING AND VALID💕💕
My coming out story is: I was in 5th grade I wrote in an essay about my best friend and her reaction to me coming out. My teacher read it and emailed my counselor. (Me being dumb didn’t realize the teacher would read it) A weekish later I wrote I was bisexual on my arm. (everyone who was lgbtq in my grade was doing it) My teacher saw it and emailed my counselor again. My counselor emailed my parents about me writing on my arm. My dad then asked me why I wrote on my arm. I then came out as bisexual my dad was supportive (I knew he would be but I just wasn’t ready to come out yet) I was then pissed at my counselor because I felt like she outed me. I still hate this counselor 2 years later.
I feel you, when I was in around 4th grade, my counselor would always be so.. pushy? I don't know if that's the right word but she would just be so nosey and try to persuade me into telling her literally everything. She was basically a stranger to me lol
Isn't there some patient confidentiality thing even school counselors agree to? It's like unless the patient's actions will cause harm to themselves or others you need expressed consent to tell anyone any thing about them. Then again they are a *school* counselor sooo... not the most qualified usually
I'm in the same grade as u (if I'm doing the math correct) now and tho I was never outed by the counselor, the elementary counselors were always so nosy. Like I'm sure school is hard for everyone, but the counselers barely try in middle school and high school, and it's always harder every year it goes on. Off covid but still.
Damn that really sucks, school counselors are just so nosy sometimes. When I used to be in middle school the councilor just was so pushy and annoying lol
I came out to my parents as nonbinary almost a year ago. This video, it really brought me back to it. My parents were supportive, but it took a long time for them to finally adjust to my new name. And my pronouns, they/them, can be challenging for my family as well but they're trying. I'm now out at school, and I reviewed multiple messages from kids telling me they supported me. I expected it to go horribly, but people accepted me in the end and for thst I'm so so grateful. A year ago, I cried myself to sleep becuase the weight of being seen as female pressed up against me, suffocating me until I couldn't stand it. A year ago, I cried myself to sleep wondering if I would ever be able to be myself. But now. A year later, I'm living life as my true self and i want to tell little 8th grade me that "in a year, everything's going to be okay. So dear reader, if you're struggling or in a place that ansalottleye sucks, I promise you it gets better. It took a year but it gets so much better. I hung a pride flag in my room and I look at it eve ryday and feel proud of myself, rather than ashamed. Things will get better. I promise. My name is kai. I use they/them pronouns, and I'm nonbinary. 💕💕💕 💛🤍💜🖤
@@moonlitmoss_ wow that made me cry. Thank you so much. You have such a beautiful heart and don't let anyone ever take that from you or say it's wrong❤
I came out to my whole English class last year after saying I didn't want to go back in the closet because our teacher told us that if we had a lockdown we would have to go in the closet. It was more so meant for my friends who were already aware but it was a bit louder than I meant it to be
My first day at a new school, right after the bell rings, a girl comes up to me and goes 'so are you like transgender' o///o. I didn't think I was at the time (I am) so i gave a convoluted answer. She said she thought I was because of me wearing a button-up shirt.
the best part about me not coming out to my parents yet is that they can’t say it’s just a phase- by the time i come out to them it will have been like a year or 2 years at least since i realized 💀
My coming out story: Me: mom i want a pride flag in my room Mom: okay Me: you not gonna ask why or anything like that Mom: okay why do you want a pride flag Me: cuz im bi Mom: okay
@@bonkkus well i didnt want the whole family to like sit down and have a talk cause that i cant do, so i said it to my mom before she dropped me off to school
I made the mistake of coming out as trans to my mom in the car on the way to driver’s ed. She didn’t take it well and when my dad came to pick me up he was super angry, almost livid. I was so scared he was going to hit me. Since then I tried to further my coming out and I got essentially the same reaction each time. I haven’t talked to my parents about my identity for a while, but my therapist is going to help me ask them for their support when I take my transition into my own hands soon. I’ll be eighteen in less than a month, so whether my mom and dad are accepting or not I’m going to hear my true name called at graduation. To anyone reading this in a similar situation: you’re loved and deserve to be happy. ♥️🏳️🌈
As a non native speaker I went through all five stages of grief when I realised that "shit eating grin" and "taking a piss" are just in British English. Thanks for throwing me into an existential crisis, Fork & Cutlery.
I’d say “shit eating grin” is kinda in American English too to an extent. “Taking the piss” however is not as known, though most younger people who have social media know it.
Can we just appreciate the fact that this beautiful man has the ability to pull off the Tanaka buzz cut/bald look, AND! this gorgeous grown out hair my gOd-
NO WAIT THIS IS RANDOM BUT ONE TIME I WAS ARGUING W SOMEONE AND I SAID “i couldn’t care less” AND SHE GOES “it’s i COULD care less” LIKE ??? THAT MAKES NO SENSE
i always get corrected on that , but it just MAKES NO SENSE TO SAY THAT YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT SOMETHING WHEN YOU'RE ALREADY AT THAT POINT OF APATHY
@@tj_6224 it kind of makes sense ? because if you cant care less then like you can only care more (?) if that makes sense, i could care less is much more emotionless being like i dont even care that much but if you get more boring i can care less to make you stop talking essentially idk im just playing devils advocate or whatever
@@yutazenrenchin9701 this!! People don’t understand that they are two different sayings. One means you completely don’t give a shit “couldn’t care less” The other means you care a little bit but not a lot “could care less”
Yeah they're scary, I'm bi and would be horrified if everyone I knew just randomly found out, but there are people at school who are literally like "my parents hate me bc I'm trans" but they're like 15 bro how'd you even come out that young. I'm scared of them because of their guts, yet I admire their bravery
Oop, when I told my mom i was bi she didn’t know what bi was, and she flipped out bc Jesus doesn’t believe that. And just yelled at me while I was sobbing. It took me years to convince them I’m not then I came out again bc I couldn’t hold it and they reacted well. Then I tried to come out as trans bc I flipping hate my boobs. And they are transphobic and flipped out.... and my friend called me by my new name, Zach in the car with my parents and got suspicious and my therapist put that name in the email after I asked him not to and my mom asked me about and flipped a little bit
Instead of coming out to my parents I became very passionate at supporting lgbt openly to see their reaction. Let’s just say this closet is very cosy now XD
About this time last year, I came out to my parents during a fight. They had comforted me about it and made sure I was okay. I thought I was good! But then my mom would make comments about how I’m gonna marry the right man and have children. I’m not allowed to talk about relationships or have anything that resembles pride. I’ve kept secrets about myself and my friends because I’m scared of being taken away from friends I’ve met online that have kept me sane. I’m here now, a year later. I now identify as They/Them and I’m terrified about coming out for a second time. I’ve tried to come out, by saying I don’t care what people call me, they/them, she/they, she/her. But I’ve been told that I need to go by She/her. I’m not comfortable with it. I’m hoping I can come out to them.
You only have to live with your parents until you're 18. I know it may seem like forever but one day you can move out and express who you really are. Find small ways to be proud. Wear an non-binary colour inspired outfit, find a small pride accessory. If you want to look more androgynous and are afab, find female celebrities with short hair, androgynous style, etc. to convince your parents to let you buy specific clothes, etc. Remember that knowing who you are is important. It doesn't matter what others say you are, or what you should be. Stay strong
Gee I’ve been helping my sister test the waters with my mom and so far it looks like she would be upset but she will try to support her, I wish you the best!
I came out to one of my best friends as gay and then the moron told literally the entire grade. I had specifically told him to not tell anyone. I figured out that he told everyone because 4 different people came up to me a day later asking if I was gay. That ended my friendship with my friend forever. He still occasionally tries to say it was an accident but how do you tell people a secret on accident??
I was once that moron in 7th grade because I was super dumb and a lil bit homophobic ngl like I thought she was joking, and at the end all the 7-9th graders knew my best friend was gay,, big yikes moment I still can't believe little me did that.. but fast forward to the present day, we're cool about it bc she said i didnt rlly understand but she's also kinda glad I did it bc it helped her out in a couple of ways
My story (tw: mild aphobia) (happy ending) Mom asks me if I'm getting interested in boys. I'm a little confused, and she clarifies that she didn't mean liking boys vs liking girls. I comment under my breath that there's such a thing as liking neither. Mom asks what I said. I try to deny I said anything, but I have to explain. I explain about asexuality and aromanticism, and I tell her I'm asexual. She gives me the standard "you're still young, you'll find the right person." She asks me if she can Google it, and I let her. Now, here's the twist. Mom goes on to say she didn't feel sexual attraction until she met my dad in college. I think, "So you're demisexual," but don't say it because I know this is a risky situation. As Mom keeps going through the Google results, she finds out on her own that she's demi. She's confused that this isn't the norm, and we share a laugh over how horny some people can get.
I was forced to come out as pan because two girls where literally fighting for me. It was affecting my mental health pretty bad, and one of the girls was a very close friend of mine, so my parents wanted to know why i stopped talking about her. I avoided talking about it until eventually the fight over me got serious, and they where starting to become aggressive. I had to tell my parents what was happening, and they responded with "why does this matter? Why are they fighting for you, you're a girl." I had to come out as pan, and explain that they knew i also liked girls and that they knew they had the chance to date me. They said it was a phase and all 3 of us would get over it. that was several years ago and we've ignored this conversation. I think I've snuck back into the closet.
I wish I could but these girls in my class are like “iSnT iT a SiN? liKe Do WhAt YoU wAnT bUt ItS sTiLL wRoNg” like pls yall change boyfriends each 2 weeks-💀💀😭 (also, i don’t think it’s a sin but these basic rats think so.)
SISTERR it’s not a sin! If you want to come out and are afraid they’ll say it’s a sin, say that those verses actually talk about ped0ph3lia. Arsenkotai, and other Greek words directly translate to relations between a man and a boy, and not homosexuality! Come out when you’re ready and if you’re certain that you’re safe! 💚💚
@@shototodorokisbiggestsimp2316 idk if you believe in God (I don't care if you do or don't, it's not my choice) but if you do, he made you like this. It's not a sin to be like God made you.
Haven't come out to my family yet, but my coming out story to my friends is: My friend sent me a drawing challenge (one of those design a character based on you things), and one of the prompts was "add a bow if you're LGBTQ+". I, of course, added a bow, and my friend basically immediately saw it and asked "so what sexuality are you?" I told her I was lesbian, and she and another friend both came out as abro. A few years later, and we have a whole friend squad of LGBTQ+ people, and it's great! Quick edit since this is kinda outdated - I've decided that I'm now nonbinary/pan/ace, not lesbian (yes, my friends still support me thankfully) :)
When I was in 5th grade, I came out as bi to basically all of my friends because I wasn’t scared of a damn thing. I immediately found a bunch of friends who are part of the community to, and me coming out to them helped them come out to me! We are going to go into 7th grade now, and we have a whole squad!
I was planning on staying in the closet until I was an adult lol but then had an emotional breakdown bcus a stranger at a party said, "where does he go to school?" to my mom, in reference to me. and mom goes "oh, *deadname*? *deadname* is my daughter hahaha. She goes to *insert school*." I tried to be positive about it because holy frick that person just called me he without any prompt from me and I still mostly see it as a positive experience, but I also decided I didn't want it to happen again and I came out to my mom when she went to the gas station for some drinks.
I came out to my dad one day during dinner, my brother was in on it and it was kinda awkward cause I wasn’t sure my dad was getting the hint and I didn’t outright say I was bi. Once I finally said it, he just looked at me shrugged and said “the only difference from now and an hour ago was that you finally said it” Thanks dad
My coming out story is: I was with my dad an apartment and he was kind of sensing that I was really anxious and that I’ve been having a lot of anxiety so he sat me down to talk but I really didn’t want to tell him because I was really afraid of his reaction and I also have this speaking problem that every time I want to talk about a serious matter my throat just doesn’t let me speak so I grabbed my phone ( which he took as really offensive) and told him in a message then he just came in my room and gave me a hug and proceeded to tell me that why would I think that he would be mad at me, then told me that I have to tell my mom because not telling her was hurting her which wasn’t an easy task because my mom is much more in the religious side and then told me to promise him that I’ll tell her tomorrow, I did but a part from being extremely hard she still hasn’t accepted the fact that I like girls and pretend like the conversation ever even happened
So, a funny Story My mom basically outed me as bisexual.... Let me explain. After a horrible breakup I wasnt dating someone for a long time because the relationship seriously hurt my mental health. I met a girl and we kinda started dating and I told my mom about her. She was working in our garden and just said ,, Huh? I thought you liked guys´´ and laughed. I got stumped, didnt say anything and just went back inside .We talked about it later on about how I like guys as well. She is very supportive. So yeah, a reverse coming out.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to come out to my stepmom or not so I started with, "I got a date to the winter formal." She said, "Oh yeah? What's his name? ...Or her name." (this makes me believe she already suspected it) and i said "oh her name is --." and she asked who asked who out and such. Anyway the girl ghosted me after I went out and bought a nice pantsuit and jewelry and shoes and all that. I looked good as hell without her anyway. I'm pretty sure she didn't come because her mom is homophobic (she told me that was a possibility when i asked her out) but also she could have told me she wasn't coming.
I think it would be cool to hear how people knew that they were gay. I've dealt with a lot of confusion with gender and sexuality in the past. I think that would be helpful to both myself and others.
I have a little story for you! I think mine is particularly interesting. So I've always known in some part of me that I was attracted to women, but I denied it for various excuses over the years, due to mostly religious reasons (example: im bisexual because I could marry a man even though I'm not attracted to them but I just won't ever have a relationship with a girl so that I won't be sinning). Then I talked to one of my friends and I told her how I was feeling and that I thought I was a panromantic lesbian. Then October came and I was bored and wanted to bake something and I had just come out to my friend and I go "I know I should bake a lesbian cake and come out to my dad and stepmom." So I did that. It was fun and the cake didn't taste great but I did come out. Then that night, I was thinking about it, and realized I had been doing the same thing for my gender as I had my sexuality. I had identified as genderfluid for the last year and realized it was just like when I identifed as bisexual so I could pretend to be straigt. I identified as genderfluid to pretend to be a girl. So I could go to church and still be a girl. And i realized then that I was transmasculine.
i have a story as well. i was watching a tiktok one day, dont even remember the specifics but it was something like they asked their lesbian grandmother how she knew she was lesbian and she said 'i realized i was checking out girls instead of guys'. i just kinda sat there for a bit and was like... thats not normal? a few days after that me and my friends were talking and they were saying how gross it is to even think about kissing a girl and i was just sitting there like 'its not *that* weird. right?' i now realize I'm bisexual so yeah
@@eli8746 they're plastic beads that you put on a board with pegs in a design kinda like pixel art, then you iron them and the beads melt together and boom you've got a cool little plastic thing.
I recently had to have oral surgery and I was so scared of accidentally coming out while I was still kind of out of it and not fully conscious. There are tons of clips on yt of people saying embarrassing stuff after surgeries and it just made me really anxious. Thankfully I didn't accidentally out myself and was fully aware and conscious the first time I woke up.
My 8 year old brother terrifies me because he’s done stuff like asking me “are you LGBTQ?” at the table *in front of my parents* as well as another time asking me what my gender is, me shrugging, and him saying “ooh im gonna go tell mom you don’t know your genderr”. He has his own damn iPad and is learning about this stuff early which is great but he keeps nearly outing me. The worst part is I know he’s not doing it maliciously he’s just too naive to understand how severe the situation is.
Hey Fredric I know literally no one asked but just a few hours ago, my girlfriend dumped me.. I know it’s bad to put it out here but I wanted to say thank you, you always make me smile. I have been crying for a bit now but your videos always make me happy. 🙂
Frederic, I started a gsa at my southern conservative high school without telling my semi homophobic parents... I can confidently say that the kids are gutsy
With my friends was easier, we were just talking an who has a crush on who and I just wrote it on a little paper, folded it and gave it to them, they just looked so surprised it was kind of funny, we were in the middle of class as well so that was great and I told them exactly a day later because we didn’t have school that day when I found out I liked girls
also with the "could care less" thing he was kinda wrong because the brother really COULD have cared less enough to be supportive of them. It all depends on context so op was right either way.
my coming out story: (some background info is that i had my first crush in 2nd grade but i didn’t really know what it was and in 3rd grade that’s when i realized i was lesbian at the time but by the end of 4th i found out i was ftm transgender lol) so the 4th grade was doing this thing in like the school called “bling” for math aka they gave you a medal for doing division or like multiplication i was informed the day before that i was going to receive one and to come “well dressed” at the time i just wore a whole bunch of hoodies and sweatpants so i was like “okay okay i got my outfit planned out” so technically my outfit was just ripped jeans a opened flannel with a white shirt under and just some vans and i had sorta slicked my hair back (it was short length ) so after the ceremony or whatever my dad had been there and before i went to my art class he had pulled me out for a minute or two and was like “you better button up that shirt rn you look like a boy” and so i just did what he asked and i moved on long story short when my mom got home i was sorta forced to come out as lesbian cause she just straight up asked me. its been like an year since that but in between that year i had mentioned to a lot of people that i was now transgender and my sister and stuff knew but for some reason my mom didn’t fully know so like a month or two ago like my older sister told her and my mom was like i didn’t know that and now they’re very supportive over that and stuff and i told one of my uncles and so is he but the only thing is that idk how my dad feels about it since he says he’ll love me no matter what but he gets bothered whenever the subject is covered and he thinks i’m just a lesbian and hates when we mention the name alan and masculine pronouns but i guess he hasn’t been getting as mad as before since my friends come over a lot and they use those pronouns and the name but i don’t think he’ll ever treat me as his son. 😵💫😮💨
I came out to my mom when we were on vacation and she was very accepting but sense I’m biracial and I came out to her bisexual she said “You’re bisexual and biracial you’re hitting all the bi’s!” we both laughed awkwardly
I literally came out yesterday to my brother, my best friend, and my closest cousin and today it was two of my closest friends at school. Every single one of them said, I already knew- 😭 bro
Y’all are so brave! I’m happy for those of you who can come out, that’s epic. Accidentally coming out to my parents is something that has been haunting my nightmares for the last few years.
8:29 - 8:33 This!! I hate this, because it happened to _me!_ I came out to my mom 3 years ago and she's refused to talk about it since. In recent years she's been more open-minded, and she even threw me a supportive comment about having a girlfriend but there's been no acknowledgment over me being genderfluid and it's seriously stresses me out because I'm graduating next year and I don't want my deadname on my ID or my diploma. The fact that I have to come out twice is seriously so annoying, I didn't tell you to forget about it. And I've never told my dad, so next year is gonna be fun.
Um well... I kind of accidentally, partially came out to my friend. We were talking about celebrity crushes and how I don't have any. I told her I didn't develop feelings for anyone unless I already knew them well and she said "so you're demisexual." This caught me off guard, so I didn't confirm nor deny it, I was just like "oh... i dunno." But she was okay with it. I've yet to tell her I like women and identify as nonbinary.
My coming out story! I came out on my B-day (October 11th) which is also National coming out day! All my family, cousins, & friends supported me. I felt super loved and accepted as a Pansexual! I came out a second time on Christmas as Demigirl & changes my pronouns (she/they) and was also supported!🏳️🌈
Not my story but a friend of mine literally went to the store, bought a pride flag, hanged it in her room and forgot about it. Then a week later her mom asked her if she was gay and she was like "wasn't it obvious?". And yeah know we are the school lesbians, life is fun.
“Wait are 12 year olds watching this-“ Me : I’m 13 and have been wAtching you on and off for two years and already know I’m bi so yeah gen z’s know a lot about being gay And I learned it at a young age 🌈
my coming out story: I'm not fully out just only out to my friends so with one of them it went like ( this gon be LONG) me:yo dude ask me a question I'm bored him:uhhh ok, are you gay? ( in his fucked up logic he was asking if I was straight ) me:no. . . oh wait I forgot the way your logic works but you aint wrong him: oh ok, wait. . . if you're mean to the people you like then me: well that not always the case him: YOU LIKE MY SISTER???? me: ??? NO lol NOOO, Im mean to a shit ton of ppl him:how many people do you like 50?? me: no Im actually nice to the person I like him: oh ok , so who is it? me: Ima let you geuss him: HMMM *names male friend* me;LMAO XD NO. . . the person I like is a girl him: ohh *names only female friend I have * me: you spelled her name wrong, but yes ( we were texting on discord ) him: oh ok * goes on to have a different conversation and is really chill about it * this made me laugh just by how chill and underwhelming he took it, ok now the next friend her: hey whatcha doing the project on? me: first pride parade in history her: oh cool, btw are you LGBTQ+ or still questioning? me: Im bi her: ok after that we had a conversation about how coming out to family shouldnt be so hard, we're both bi so she didnt really give a shit but was happy that I figured it out. DAMN THAT was long if you made it this far thank you just thanks you. edit: I still think he doesnt know Im bi but honestly I'll just get a laugh out of him knowing Im bi and having to explain what being bi is lol
My classmate was talking to my teacher about something in the lgbtq+ community and then I came into the conversation and after I just said one sentence my classmate said "Yeah, you're like always so proud that you like girls" my heart stopped and I just walked really quickly away from them. My teacher supported though
Wow. Been wanting to share my "coming out" story for quite a while. (even though I'm months late to this video and I would barely call this coming out) So, during Covid-19, I've been hardcore questioning my sexuality. I'm was sure that I felt something towards women but, couldn't feel the same for men and when I would picture my future lover, I could only imagine a women. I still wasn't sure though so, I identified as unlabeled or questioning. I kept this from my parents because I wanted to be 100% sure about my sexuality before telling them. I did tell my younger sister and one of my older brothers because I wanted advice. So, this takes place at about the end of November. I was chilling, playing Minecraft while jamming to my spotify playlist (a mix of genres). Then, my younger sister barged in (which scared the life out of me) and basically dragged me out of my room. She took me into the living room where my dad was. Apparently, my sister and my dad were debating on whether she should be allowed to wear crop tops out in public areas like the mall. They decided to settle it by asking me and my brothers questions. First was me. They both asked me a bunch of questions but, I don't remember what they asked. The questions they asked lead to my sister talking about mine and her future S.O and that's when it kind of happened. She was talking about mine when she then implied that my S.O was going to be a man (which bothered me a bit, but I didn't want to correct her). She then corrected herself by saying, "..or a women.." It took me a bit to process what she had said but, when it registered, I started to freak the hell out (in my head). I realized that she implied that I'm questioning in front of my dad who I had never talked to about this yet. Nothing particularly interesting happened for the rest of the debate and I was eventually allowed to go back to my room. Now, fast forward about a week. I basically put that whole situation at the back of my mind. I decided to go to the store with my dad because I wanted to get a gift card (from what I remember). As we were going though our neighborhood, my dad decided to turned left into another part of our neighborhood (when we had to head straight in order to get to our house) and said, "Alright, let's have a talk". Whenever he would do that, I knew that this was serious so, I shut it and listened. We had a 30 minute long conversation about my sisters comment, me having to confirm that I was questioning but not wanting to have a label yet, him telling me that he doesn't care who I end up with (as long as they treat me well), him telling me that he loves me, and him asking if he could tell this to my grandparents, aunt, and mom so that they are informed. I told him that I would tell my mom but, I didn't care whether he told my grandparents and aunt or not. I think I told my mom around February while we were discussing my mental issues and she fully supports me. Currently, I'm thinking about labeling myself as a Lesbian because I now believe that what I'm feel around women is attraction (there are other reasons but, I'm way to tired to list them and this is already a long comment). I hope you guys liked my really weird "coming out" story. To those who want to or are going to come out, I wish you the best of luck and to please take your time. Make sure you're in a safe place to come out. Stay hydrated, touch some grass, and eat well. I love you all.
I’m in high school and I just realized through all the years of health class, we were never taught what a trans man or woman was. It’s not like I live in a ultra conservative Wyoming I live in Washington but I guess that it’s not part of the curriculum.
I remember I came out as lesbian to my friends after we watched Love Simon. Not even a month ago I came out as trans to them over text. It's nice to have the few people that are supportive
i was flirting with my friend which is now boyfriend for 2 months until i finally decided to tell him that i have very strong feelings for him and he told me that he feels the same.. so anyway, we're gonna marry next spring lmao
My best friend and I were ‘beards’ for each other, we dated fo a while and after we broke up he came out as gay, and I came out as bi. A few years later I came out as trans non binary and said that I no longer ✨vibe✨ with the term bisexual, so now I just say I’m gay. But yea. It was actually perfect and we’re still really good friends.
We were watching a netflix show and she was ranting about the "overuse" of gay characters in netflix shows. Then she turns to me an goes "are you a netflix?" in a joking matter an then I said in a serious tone "yes." so thats how i, as an 11 yr old, came out to my mum and she hasn't said anything about just a phase yet so i think im in the clear
I came out to my parents multiple times, but somehow they forget which gives me many opportunities to "come out" (aka remind them) in funny ways. the most recent was my mum and I calling each other random objects because of our personalities and she said "ruler" because I have a bunch of rules and somehow that became ruler like a straight piece of plastic, and I said "but mom, I'm not a ruler, rulers are straight" and I laughed so hard internally. she didn't say anything.
hey, i just wanna say very lovely video.Also about the immigrant parents being oblivious, in the Philippines its normal(compared to other places) to be gay/suspect that your children is gay. Being gay is in a lot of filipino jokes( like if a person is asking if u have a girlfriend and you say no, they would then ask if you have a boyfriend). my cousin is most likely gay(he is in grade school) and his mom talks to my mom/family about it and said she already accepted it :)
I came out by muttering at around midnight to my mom because I felt I needed to. I knew she would support but I was scared to tell anyone. But what happened was my mom was awesome and has been supporting me ever since :D Also everyone in my family supports me so thats good. Oh yeah I'm also 11
Hello everyone!! I am straight and I just wanted to know how often queer people get told they are just a phase My friend recently came out to her parents and was told they were just a phase I’ve been telling them they are valid and giving them a safe place in my gay household (my moms and sister are gay) TLDR: How commen is it to get told your just a phase as a queer person and how can I help people (I’m straight) Also please correct thing I misunderstood I’m still learning!
Well, I came out to each of my parents separately. I had come out to my mom by mentioning it in passing when I was about 17, because I was really concerned that something was wrong with me since I was attracted to other girls. She validated that I could be feeling this way but also said it was just a phase. She still hasn't really come around. She thinks everyone gay is really bi and sexuality is a choice. I don't know. Anyway, I thought she had told my dad. Like, they talk (most of the time lol) and I thought it was just info that she passed on. So a few months later when my father made some kind of a comment about my future husband, I was like, "Well since I'm attracted to girls-" and then paused because of the utter look of shock on his face. He was like, "what?" I turned to my mom and in surprise said to her, "You didn't tell him?" She just shrugged. Not knowing what to say, I simply said, "Tatty (that's what I call my dad), I'm attracted to girls." He just looks at me with this big smile and says, "Well, I am too!" I burst out laughing. It was the best thing he could have said, I swear. He is so great about this stuff. I just wish my mom was more accepting and talked about me dating guys less. But whichever way, my father's reaction was PRICELESS!
i’m out to literally all my close friends( co-incidentally, neither of my best friends are straight) but my favourite coming out story will definitely be when i came out to my sister. i had actually been planning to come out to her at this fancy asf restaurant/ cafe place, eating fancy food and out of nowhere my sister ( she’s 5 years older than me) goes, ‘’ what do you think the parents would say when they realised both their kids are gay?’ i was like hOw 👁👄👁 and then she was like i * live* with you so there’s that haha. my sis identifies as bi and goes by she/ they prns and back then ( this happened in october 2018) i identified as biro ace. right now, it’s like unlabelled i guess. all i know is im a girl that’s 100% not straight but i’m not really picky about gender so pansexual maybe? idk labels are confusing. fuck labels if you don’t feel comf w any
im not out to my family but my favorites to my friends are my most recent coming out, and my first, the first was just my friend asking "are u lgbtq?" i said "no" then i said "wait.." "yeah" now were dating and my most recent was to a friend ive had for a while and i said "you know what the lgbtq community is?" she said yes and i asked if she supports and again yes then i said well im part of it and she wouldn't stop on how she was so proud and supported and i cried for an hour
yeah, I did the "what about a gf" to my mom, she accepted it right away. I never told anyone else in my family except my cousin. Told people if you want to.
I love watching videos like these because as an Agender Pansexual who hasn’t come out yet, it helps me feel better about coming out and further motivates me and inspires me to come out. Since I like to make music, I plan to sing one of my favorite songs (girls by girl in red in question) to my family during vacation this year ❤️
i was in a room w two of my best friends playing mario kart and then one of them came out to us randomly and then i said "guess what guys this means there's only one straight person in this room" and that's the story of how i came out as ace/bi
my coming out story me, my sister(who knew already ) and my grandma was going thru a mcdonald’s drive through.. me:hey mama(my grandma) what do u think of gay people? grandma: thats their business- are you gay??? me:no not exactly...im pansexual grandma: what is that me: *i explained it to her* grandma: so u would date a girl?? me: yes i would. grandma:madison what is wrong with you?? me: nothing but i just like everyone.. the thing is she could accept my 14 year d sister dating a boy but not me liking girls. that there made me sad
Once my mum straight up asked me “are you dating Marlo” (Marlo is Non binary but this was this was when my mum didn’t know and thought they were still female) and then I was like “ uh no? why do you ask?” Mum-“oh someone mentioned that ‘she’ was dating someone or something and I thought it might be you.” . Like the frick how do you ask that so calmly one Mum doesn’t know my sexuality I don’t think cause I haven’t told her and two why meeee, although it’s true I wasn’t dating Marlo. Ps I’m Australian so that’s why I say Mum
My coming out story (to my parents) was so weird. For some reason my brother was having some existential crisis and was explaining how he just like wasn’t attracted to men??? And I was like pfft me neither and then my parents were like oh chill
The sweater brings back nostalgia
I read " the sweating black ninja"
My eyes.... don't work...
@@rrnghwn444 e y e s
Right
You is a real one🤩
@@rrnghwn444 THIS MADE ME LAUGH OUT LOUD, THANK YOU
so i have a religious, homophobic, racist, russian family, and i literally had a pride flag in my room and i had rainbow beads on my doc martens. how do they not know- well actually even i dont know,
Oof good luck on that. I hope they will realize (if you choose to come out) that they are still your family and they should love regardless, if not more❤
Oh dear please stay safe!
Same its rough when all they know is homophobia especially because of religion and the sitch in Russia in general but Я поддерживаю тебя
goodluck! i really hope they will still love you. if not, there are tons of people including me who do!! все будет ок 💕💕
ooh homophobia is rlly bad there stay safe 🏳️🌈❤️
i'm determined to not tell my parents and then they just meet my girfriend at our wedding 🤠
Congrats🎉 lots of love❣❣
You mean wife, 'cause if there's a wedding she isn't your gf anymore
@@jordanharper3333 TRUE😅👌
this is what im planning, if i even invite them
@@jordanharper3333 but they aren't married yet so the term used is fiancé
I just wanted to say that i highly respect anyone who’s coming out or thinking of coming out right now. i know how overwhelming it might be, as a closeted girl in a homophobic home myself, and everyone in this situation needs to know that you have my ETERNAL LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU’RE AMAZING AND VALID💕💕
Thank u I really needed that :]
Honestly ty 🐸✨
Thx✨
awww ily so much just for that short paragraph.
@@parkerra3 yesssss
My coming out story is: I was in 5th grade I wrote in an essay about my best friend and her reaction to me coming out. My teacher read it and emailed my counselor. (Me being dumb didn’t realize the teacher would read it) A weekish later I wrote I was bisexual on my arm. (everyone who was lgbtq in my grade was doing it) My teacher saw it and emailed my counselor again. My counselor emailed my parents about me writing on my arm. My dad then asked me why I wrote on my arm. I then came out as bisexual my dad was supportive (I knew he would be but I just wasn’t ready to come out yet) I was then pissed at my counselor because I felt like she outed me. I still hate this counselor 2 years later.
I feel you, when I was in around 4th grade, my counselor would always be so.. pushy? I don't know if that's the right word but she would just be so nosey and try to persuade me into telling her literally everything. She was basically a stranger to me lol
Isn't there some patient confidentiality thing even school counselors agree to? It's like unless the patient's actions will cause harm to themselves or others you need expressed consent to tell anyone any thing about them. Then again they are a *school* counselor sooo... not the most qualified usually
I'm in the same grade as u (if I'm doing the math correct) now and tho I was never outed by the counselor, the elementary counselors were always so nosy. Like I'm sure school is hard for everyone, but the counselers barely try in middle school and high school, and it's always harder every year it goes on. Off covid but still.
wait r u in like 7th grade then?
Damn that really sucks, school counselors are just so nosy sometimes. When I used to be in middle school the councilor just was so pushy and annoying lol
I came out to my parents as nonbinary almost a year ago. This video, it really brought me back to it. My parents were supportive, but it took a long time for them to finally adjust to my new name. And my pronouns, they/them, can be challenging for my family as well but they're trying.
I'm now out at school, and I reviewed multiple messages from kids telling me they supported me. I expected it to go horribly, but people accepted me in the end and for thst I'm so so grateful.
A year ago, I cried myself to sleep becuase the weight of being seen as female pressed up against me, suffocating me until I couldn't stand it.
A year ago, I cried myself to sleep wondering if I would ever be able to be myself.
But now. A year later, I'm living life as my true self and i want to tell little 8th grade me that "in a year, everything's going to be okay.
So dear reader, if you're struggling or in a place that ansalottleye sucks, I promise you it gets better. It took a year but it gets so much better. I hung a pride flag in my room and I look at it eve ryday and feel proud of myself, rather than ashamed. Things will get better. I promise.
My name is kai. I use they/them pronouns, and I'm nonbinary.
💕💕💕
💛🤍💜🖤
That's so freaking wholesome, thank you for that.
thank you so much I needed this
Love your story. Also- love your profile pic✨
@@scp_usta2809 thank you so much!!
@@moonlitmoss_ wow that made me cry. Thank you so much. You have such a beautiful heart and don't let anyone ever take that from you or say it's wrong❤
My story was simply :
Me: Dad and pa, I’m lesbian.
Dad: nice.
Pa: no girlfriends for you.
Thank you pa thank you dad 🌚
Thanks for your story Peppa Pig
@@OrangeEJuiceE125 no problem ✨🌚✨
okay i need to know something lol. do you have 2 gay dads or was it your dad and grandpa? asking since certain people in the US call their dad pa
@@eliotb.1219 lol I'm confused too 😭
@@eliotb.1219 Yez Yez I have 2 dad’s and I call one dad and one pa
Not me being like "I'm gay" during home economics class to my friend 2 minutes after I met her and she was like "Yeah I figured"
I came out to my whole English class last year after saying I didn't want to go back in the closet because our teacher told us that if we had a lockdown we would have to go in the closet. It was more so meant for my friends who were already aware but it was a bit louder than I meant it to be
My first day at a new school, right after the bell rings, a girl comes up to me and goes 'so are you like transgender' o///o. I didn't think I was at the time (I am) so i gave a convoluted answer. She said she thought I was because of me wearing a button-up shirt.
@Street Rat lol. People are like that sometimes.
the best part about me not coming out to my parents yet is that they can’t say it’s just a phase- by the time i come out to them it will have been like a year or 2 years at least since i realized 💀
I haven't come out to my parent but my ____ has and they just said it was a fase it's not
@@chelss8560 i’m sorry :( at least you and your sister have each other!
Yes! I cannot wait to see my mom's face when I come out because of this reason
OMG ITS ANOTHER DERECTIONER, AND YOUR COMMENTS IS SO TRUE, by the way I love you 😎
I’m 14 and I’ve know I was 💅 since I was 9
Sweater weather is more of a secret code rather than a stereotype, similar to girl in red except for bisexuals.
Like lemon demon, or fallen down
@@Kibella *cough* Ranboo? *cough*
@@sky_neverending6708 *Cough* Yes! *Cough*
@@sky_neverending6708 *cough I’m a fan but pls don’t forgot about undertale 😭*
@@Kibella wait what do those ones mean?
that pen on the wall is sturdier than my whole existance
Did you draw your pfp?? It's so pretty 😌
mood
LMAOO now all I can focus on is the pen
@@olivia6432 ah yes I did draw it! Thank you!!
oH? wEll i HaVe ThE seLf pResErvaTiOn Of A RaMeN nOoDlE, sO HA!
hahaha... I'm ok (:
My coming out story:
Me: mom i want a pride flag in my room
Mom: okay
Me: you not gonna ask why or anything like that
Mom: okay why do you want a pride flag
Me: cuz im bi
Mom: okay
@@bonkkus well i didnt want the whole family to like sit down and have a talk cause that i cant do, so i said it to my mom before she dropped me off to school
i literally have the oeace pride flag thing and they dont question it
I like how your mother said "okay" in every sentence gdjsbco
She already knew lol
I made the mistake of coming out as trans to my mom in the car on the way to driver’s ed. She didn’t take it well and when my dad came to pick me up he was super angry, almost livid. I was so scared he was going to hit me. Since then I tried to further my coming out and I got essentially the same reaction each time. I haven’t talked to my parents about my identity for a while, but my therapist is going to help me ask them for their support when I take my transition into my own hands soon. I’ll be eighteen in less than a month, so whether my mom and dad are accepting or not I’m going to hear my true name called at graduation.
To anyone reading this in a similar situation: you’re loved and deserve to be happy. ♥️🏳️🌈
Since it’s been 3 months, how did things go? Did they call your new name at graduation? Did your therapist help you ask for support?
Are ya alive?
Are ya good?
Are you okay?
Update?
Have you transisonened yet?
As a non native speaker I went through all five stages of grief when I realised that "shit eating grin" and "taking a piss" are just in British English. Thanks for throwing me into an existential crisis, Fork & Cutlery.
tHIS-
I’d say “shit eating grin” is kinda in American English too to an extent. “Taking the piss” however is not as known, though most younger people who have social media know it.
@@CheshieD yeah, i think in american english its used less conversationaly and more in writing stories and such.
@@nyandoesthings yeah
Shit eating grin is used in Canada as well, taking the piss, less so.
Can we just appreciate the fact that this beautiful man has the ability to pull off the Tanaka buzz cut/bald look, AND! this gorgeous grown out hair my gOd-
I know I’m talented
OYA OYA OYA JKDSFKJDSJKLFD
NO WAIT THIS IS RANDOM BUT ONE TIME I WAS ARGUING W SOMEONE AND I SAID “i couldn’t care less” AND SHE GOES “it’s i COULD care less” LIKE ??? THAT MAKES NO SENSE
i always get corrected on that , but it just MAKES NO SENSE TO SAY THAT YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT SOMETHING WHEN YOU'RE ALREADY AT THAT POINT OF APATHY
@@tj_6224 it kind of makes sense ? because if you cant care less then like you can only care more (?) if that makes sense, i could care less is much more emotionless being like i dont even care that much but if you get more boring i can care less to make you stop talking essentially idk im just playing devils advocate or whatever
I couldn’t care less = you cant lower how much you care
I could care less = you can lower how much you care
Ha ha 69 likes nice 👍
@@yutazenrenchin9701 this!! People don’t understand that they are two different sayings.
One means you completely don’t give a shit “couldn’t care less”
The other means you care a little bit but not a lot “could care less”
The fact that you're shocked by how confident people are now is hilarious. That's just kinda how it is with teens now
Not so with me😞
MEEE :>
not with everyone but yeah sjdjs
im confident af and i still cant come out to my parents 💅
Yeah they're scary, I'm bi and would be horrified if everyone I knew just randomly found out, but there are people at school who are literally like "my parents hate me bc I'm trans" but they're like 15 bro how'd you even come out that young. I'm scared of them because of their guts, yet I admire their bravery
Oop, when I told my mom i was bi she didn’t know what bi was, and she flipped out bc Jesus doesn’t believe that. And just yelled at me while I was sobbing. It took me years to convince them I’m not then I came out again bc I couldn’t hold it and they reacted well. Then I tried to come out as trans bc I flipping hate my boobs. And they are transphobic and flipped out.... and my friend called me by my new name, Zach in the car with my parents and got suspicious and my therapist put that name in the email after I asked him not to and my mom asked me about and flipped a little bit
I hope things get better for you 💙💙
Hope you’re okie dokie dude or dudette
tbh jesus doent have a gender. girls and boys can be called god
so im not the only one who cant stop looking at his eye makeup right
No ur not😳
omg saaaame
Yes katara fan!
His eye makeup always has my attention! And I don't even care all that much for makeup XD
Instead of coming out to my parents I became very passionate at supporting lgbt openly to see their reaction.
Let’s just say this closet is very cosy now XD
About this time last year, I came out to my parents during a fight. They had comforted me about it and made sure I was okay. I thought I was good! But then my mom would make comments about how I’m gonna marry the right man and have children. I’m not allowed to talk about relationships or have anything that resembles pride. I’ve kept secrets about myself and my friends because I’m scared of being taken away from friends I’ve met online that have kept me sane.
I’m here now, a year later. I now identify as They/Them and I’m terrified about coming out for a second time. I’ve tried to come out, by saying I don’t care what people call me, they/them, she/they, she/her. But I’ve been told that I need to go by She/her. I’m not comfortable with it. I’m hoping I can come out to them.
If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here- I mean Ik you don't know me but I'm here for you!
You only have to live with your parents until you're 18. I know it may seem like forever but one day you can move out and express who you really are. Find small ways to be proud. Wear an non-binary colour inspired outfit, find a small pride accessory.
If you want to look more androgynous and are afab, find female celebrities with short hair, androgynous style, etc. to convince your parents to let you buy specific clothes, etc.
Remember that knowing who you are is important. It doesn't matter what others say you are, or what you should be. Stay strong
Gee I’ve been helping my sister test the waters with my mom and so far it looks like she would be upset but she will try to support her, I wish you the best!
I hope you know that it matters that you are gay and they/them because those are a big part of you and they need to accept it as such
I came out to one of my best friends as gay and then the moron told literally the entire grade. I had specifically told him to not tell anyone. I figured out that he told everyone because 4 different people came up to me a day later asking if I was gay. That ended my friendship with my friend forever. He still occasionally tries to say it was an accident but how do you tell people a secret on accident??
Aww... I hope you're okay now and that the situation got better! You have my support!! 😊
@@jellly._.fiish00 Yeah I’m feeling much better now, thanks for caring ❤️
@@lucaskettman1884 him: so... did I mention my friend's gay?
Person: wait who?
Him:
Him: oops-
This is relatable 😥
I was once that moron in 7th grade because I was super dumb and a lil bit homophobic ngl like I thought she was joking, and at the end all the 7-9th graders knew my best friend was gay,, big yikes moment I still can't believe little me did that.. but fast forward to the present day, we're cool about it bc she said i didnt rlly understand but she's also kinda glad I did it bc it helped her out in a couple of ways
My story (tw: mild aphobia) (happy ending)
Mom asks me if I'm getting interested in boys. I'm a little confused, and she clarifies that she didn't mean liking boys vs liking girls. I comment under my breath that there's such a thing as liking neither. Mom asks what I said. I try to deny I said anything, but I have to explain. I explain about asexuality and aromanticism, and I tell her I'm asexual. She gives me the standard "you're still young, you'll find the right person." She asks me if she can Google it, and I let her.
Now, here's the twist. Mom goes on to say she didn't feel sexual attraction until she met my dad in college. I think, "So you're demisexual," but don't say it because I know this is a risky situation. As Mom keeps going through the Google results, she finds out on her own that she's demi. She's confused that this isn't the norm, and we share a laugh over how horny some people can get.
amazing ending. 10/10
Wow, that's so cool that your mom realized on her own that she is demi.
damn, that's the first time I hear about someone's parent realising they're queer through their kid! that's awesome :D
I was forced to come out as pan because two girls where literally fighting for me. It was affecting my mental health pretty bad, and one of the girls was a very close friend of mine, so my parents wanted to know why i stopped talking about her. I avoided talking about it until eventually the fight over me got serious, and they where starting to become aggressive. I had to tell my parents what was happening, and they responded with
"why does this matter? Why are they fighting for you, you're a girl."
I had to come out as pan, and explain that they knew i also liked girls and that they knew they had the chance to date me. They said it was a phase and all 3 of us would get over it.
that was several years ago and we've ignored this conversation. I think I've snuck back into the closet.
I wish I could but these girls in my class are like “iSnT iT a SiN? liKe Do WhAt YoU wAnT bUt ItS sTiLL wRoNg” like pls yall change boyfriends each 2 weeks-💀💀😭
(also, i don’t think it’s a sin but these basic rats think so.)
SISTERR it’s not a sin! If you want to come out and are afraid they’ll say it’s a sin, say that those verses actually talk about ped0ph3lia. Arsenkotai, and other Greek words directly translate to relations between a man and a boy, and not homosexuality! Come out when you’re ready and if you’re certain that you’re safe! 💚💚
@@caleboop1814 thank you so much! I’ll try to do so with my closest friends!❤️
@@shototodorokisbiggestsimp2316 idk if you believe in God (I don't care if you do or don't, it's not my choice) but if you do, he made you like this. It's not a sin to be like God made you.
@Ochaco Uraraka yesh m’am 😃
@@mollie1421 exactly! I don’t think it’s wrong for loving who I want!
My coming out story:
Hi. I'm Asexual. ^.^
😄💜💜
🖤🤍💜
💂♀️🦹🧑🚀🕶🌂👟🐕🦺🦄🐏🌑☂️☁️🖤💜🤍 I think I may be to!
@@justruthh dude me too!
I was saying i may be bi but i donno...
imma do this too
go to my parents and be like
hi,I'm aroace
Haven't come out to my family yet, but my coming out story to my friends is:
My friend sent me a drawing challenge (one of those design a character based on you things), and one of the prompts was "add a bow if you're LGBTQ+". I, of course, added a bow, and my friend basically immediately saw it and asked "so what sexuality are you?" I told her I was lesbian, and she and another friend both came out as abro. A few years later, and we have a whole friend squad of LGBTQ+ people, and it's great!
Quick edit since this is kinda outdated - I've decided that I'm now nonbinary/pan/ace, not lesbian (yes, my friends still support me thankfully) :)
Awww i wish i had a lgbt group like you guys❣
Awwwww how cute :3
Edit: spelling oops >
Gaydar 101
When I was in 5th grade, I came out as bi to basically all of my friends because I wasn’t scared of a damn thing. I immediately found a bunch of friends who are part of the community to, and me coming out to them helped them come out to me! We are going to go into 7th grade now, and we have a whole squad!
i hope people know they don’t have to come out to specific people, especially if they genuinely think there will be serious backlash
I was planning on staying in the closet until I was an adult lol but then had an emotional breakdown bcus a stranger at a party said, "where does he go to school?" to my mom, in reference to me. and mom goes "oh, *deadname*? *deadname* is my daughter hahaha. She goes to *insert school*." I tried to be positive about it because holy frick that person just called me he without any prompt from me and I still mostly see it as a positive experience, but I also decided I didn't want it to happen again and I came out to my mom when she went to the gas station for some drinks.
I came out to my dad one day during dinner, my brother was in on it and it was kinda awkward cause I wasn’t sure my dad was getting the hint and I didn’t outright say I was bi. Once I finally said it, he just looked at me shrugged and said “the only difference from now and an hour ago was that you finally said it”
Thanks dad
My coming out story is:
I was with my dad an apartment and he was kind of sensing that I was really anxious and that I’ve been having a lot of anxiety so he sat me down to talk but I really didn’t want to tell him because I was really afraid of his reaction and I also have this speaking problem that every time I want to talk about a serious matter my throat just doesn’t let me speak so I grabbed my phone ( which he took as really offensive) and told him in a message then he just came in my room and gave me a hug and proceeded to tell me that why would I think that he would be mad at me, then told me that I have to tell my mom because not telling her was hurting her which wasn’t an easy task because my mom is much more in the religious side and then told me to promise him that I’ll tell her tomorrow, I did but a part from being extremely hard she still hasn’t accepted the fact that I like girls and pretend like the conversation ever even happened
So, a funny Story
My mom basically outed me as bisexual....
Let me explain. After a horrible breakup I wasnt dating someone for a long time because the relationship seriously hurt my mental health. I met a girl and we kinda started dating and I told my mom about her. She was working in our garden and just said ,, Huh? I thought you liked guys´´ and laughed. I got stumped, didnt say anything and just went back inside .We talked about it later on about how I like guys as well. She is very supportive.
So yeah, a reverse coming out.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to come out to my stepmom or not so I started with, "I got a date to the winter formal." She said, "Oh yeah? What's his name? ...Or her name." (this makes me believe she already suspected it) and i said "oh her name is --." and she asked who asked who out and such. Anyway the girl ghosted me after I went out and bought a nice pantsuit and jewelry and shoes and all that. I looked good as hell without her anyway. I'm pretty sure she didn't come because her mom is homophobic (she told me that was a possibility when i asked her out) but also she could have told me she wasn't coming.
I think it would be cool to hear how people knew that they were gay. I've dealt with a lot of confusion with gender and sexuality in the past. I think that would be helpful to both myself and others.
I have a little story for you! I think mine is particularly interesting.
So I've always known in some part of me that I was attracted to women, but I denied it for various excuses over the years, due to mostly religious reasons (example: im bisexual because I could marry a man even though I'm not attracted to them but I just won't ever have a relationship with a girl so that I won't be sinning). Then I talked to one of my friends and I told her how I was feeling and that I thought I was a panromantic lesbian. Then October came and I was bored and wanted to bake something and I had just come out to my friend and I go "I know I should bake a lesbian cake and come out to my dad and stepmom." So I did that. It was fun and the cake didn't taste great but I did come out. Then that night, I was thinking about it, and realized I had been doing the same thing for my gender as I had my sexuality. I had identified as genderfluid for the last year and realized it was just like when I identifed as bisexual so I could pretend to be straigt. I identified as genderfluid to pretend to be a girl. So I could go to church and still be a girl. And i realized then that I was transmasculine.
i have a story as well.
i was watching a tiktok one day, dont even remember the specifics but it was something like they asked their lesbian grandmother how she knew she was lesbian and she said 'i realized i was checking out girls instead of guys'. i just kinda sat there for a bit and was like... thats not normal? a few days after that me and my friends were talking and they were saying how gross it is to even think about kissing a girl and i was just sitting there like 'its not *that* weird. right?'
i now realize I'm bisexual so yeah
i saw a pretty lady and i went awooga and i realized i am #lesbian
oop not me listening to this on full blast without earphones-
SAME LOL
lmaoooo
Frederic: "if youre 12, put your phone away and take out some pearler beads"
Me: *sweats* I never had peArlEr beaDs
what even is pearler beads 😭
Oh i loved them!!💖💜💙
@@eli8746 they're plastic beads that you put on a board with pegs in a design kinda like pixel art, then you iron them and the beads melt together and boom you've got a cool little plastic thing.
@@nyandoesthings lowkey sounds fun tho-
@@nyandoesthings THATS WHAT THEYRE CALLED??
I recently had to have oral surgery and I was so scared of accidentally coming out while I was still kind of out of it and not fully conscious. There are tons of clips on yt of people saying embarrassing stuff after surgeries and it just made me really anxious. Thankfully I didn't accidentally out myself and was fully aware and conscious the first time I woke up.
My 8 year old brother terrifies me because he’s done stuff like asking me “are you LGBTQ?” at the table *in front of my parents* as well as another time asking me what my gender is, me shrugging, and him saying “ooh im gonna go tell mom you don’t know your genderr”. He has his own damn iPad and is learning about this stuff early which is great but he keeps nearly outing me. The worst part is I know he’s not doing it maliciously he’s just too naive to understand how severe the situation is.
I came out to my mom and she just went : "it's just a phase" 😔
😔😔thats sad but at least you are brave enough to come out! Proud of you. There are people that will accept you. Dont worry. Be patient
@@melissaemelda7198 Thank you! ^^
Yep I've been trying to come out to her for *3 years* not my dad tho
I've been out for 3 years and my parents still think it's a phase 🤣🤣
"Delusion. Convince yourself" -Jinx Monsoon
My mom probably still thinks that. Ik how that feels.
I literally just told my mom "hey I think I like boys and girls" and shes like "cool"
Hey Fredric I know literally no one asked but just a few hours ago, my girlfriend dumped me.. I know it’s bad to put it out here but I wanted to say thank you, you always make me smile. I have been crying for a bit now but your videos always make me happy. 🙂
Frederic, I started a gsa at my southern conservative high school without telling my semi homophobic parents... I can confidently say that the kids are gutsy
With my friends was easier, we were just talking an who has a crush on who and I just wrote it on a little paper, folded it and gave it to them, they just looked so surprised it was kind of funny, we were in the middle of class as well so that was great and I told them exactly a day later because we didn’t have school that day when I found out I liked girls
Fredric: This sentence is grammatically correct, but it’s wordy and hard to read.
please stop, this is plaguing my entire life, unwatering my crops and making my skin even more unclear. /j
Is that the grammarly thing?
@@Dragon_Fire_2468 yupyup
also with the "could care less" thing he was kinda wrong because the brother really COULD have cared less enough to be supportive of them. It all depends on context so op was right either way.
my coming out story: (some background info is that i had my first crush in 2nd grade but i didn’t really know what it was and in 3rd grade that’s when i realized i was lesbian at the time but by the end of 4th i found out i was ftm transgender lol) so the 4th grade was doing this thing in like the school called “bling” for math aka they gave you a medal for doing division or like multiplication i was informed the day before that i was going to receive one and to come “well dressed” at the time i just wore a whole bunch of hoodies and sweatpants so i was like “okay okay i got my outfit planned out” so technically my outfit was just ripped jeans a opened flannel with a white shirt under and just some vans and i had sorta slicked my hair back (it was short length ) so after the ceremony or whatever my dad had been there and before i went to my art class he had pulled me out for a minute or two and was like “you better button up that shirt rn you look like a boy” and so i just did what he asked and i moved on long story short when my mom got home i was sorta forced to come out as lesbian cause she just straight up asked me. its been like an year since that but in between that year i had mentioned to a lot of people that i was now transgender and my sister and stuff knew but for some reason my mom didn’t fully know so like a month or two ago like my older sister told her and my mom was like i didn’t know that and now they’re very supportive over that and stuff and i told one of my uncles and so is he but the only thing is that idk how my dad feels about it since he says he’ll love me no matter what but he gets bothered whenever the subject is covered and he thinks i’m just a lesbian and hates when we mention the name alan and masculine pronouns but i guess he hasn’t been getting as mad as before since my friends come over a lot and they use those pronouns and the name but i don’t think he’ll ever treat me as his son. 😵💫😮💨
who ever dislikes this has no soul. I hope that they stub there toe and they have no milk when they have already have put the cereal in the bowl :D
...and that both sides of the pillow are warm
@@5am0036 yes!☆
@@Sky-st4r ....and that the shower is just to cold
@@5am0036 also that they have holes in the bottom of there socks and get stung by bees in animal crossing
@@Sky-st4r also I hope a creeper blows up their house and than floods all their redstone
Alternative title: Fanny Pack Chen fixes people's grammar for 18 minutes
I came out to my mom when we were on vacation and she was very accepting but sense I’m biracial and I came out to her bisexual she said “You’re bisexual and biracial you’re hitting all the bi’s!” we both laughed awkwardly
Are you bilingual? Triple bi
@@arianaortiz9635 Damn it I was gonna say that but I'm 10 months late T^T lol
I blast girl in red through my house and no one has caught on yet... okay
HOW???
Fredric played the teacher uno reverse card on us “if one person gonna mess up, y’all are gonna go down with them”
I literally came out yesterday to my brother, my best friend, and my closest cousin and today it was two of my closest friends at school. Every single one of them said, I already knew- 😭 bro
my coming out story: dad i’m bi
my stepdad: im not surprised
ok but Frederic is literally glowing in this video. Btw the eye makeup is to die for.
i haven’t seen this teal sweater since like his high school wardrobe dam
Y’all are so brave! I’m happy for those of you who can come out, that’s epic. Accidentally coming out to my parents is something that has been haunting my nightmares for the last few years.
Glad i'm not the only my parents would erase me from existance if they knew 💀☠
8:29 - 8:33 This!! I hate this, because it happened to _me!_
I came out to my mom 3 years ago and she's refused to talk about it since. In recent years she's been more open-minded, and she even threw me a supportive comment about having a girlfriend but there's been no acknowledgment over me being genderfluid and it's seriously stresses me out because I'm graduating next year and I don't want my deadname on my ID or my diploma.
The fact that I have to come out twice is seriously so annoying, I didn't tell you to forget about it.
And I've never told my dad, so next year is gonna be fun.
Um well... I kind of accidentally, partially came out to my friend. We were talking about celebrity crushes and how I don't have any. I told her I didn't develop feelings for anyone unless I already knew them well and she said "so you're demisexual." This caught me off guard, so I didn't confirm nor deny it, I was just like "oh... i dunno." But she was okay with it. I've yet to tell her I like women and identify as nonbinary.
That sounds so similar to when I came out as ace to my mom and she did a little research and found out she's demi. She was like "wait what?"
@@andromeda_va39 lol that's amazing
Normalize coming out multiple times lmao, it took my mom four separate occasions to get it.
My coming out story!
I came out on my B-day (October 11th) which is also National coming out day! All my family, cousins, & friends supported me. I felt super loved and accepted as a Pansexual! I came out a second time on Christmas as Demigirl & changes my pronouns (she/they) and was also supported!🏳️🌈
Not my story but a friend of mine literally went to the store, bought a pride flag, hanged it in her room and forgot about it. Then a week later her mom asked her if she was gay and she was like "wasn't it obvious?". And yeah know we are the school lesbians, life is fun.
I just constantly remind everyone pink yellow and blue are my favorite colours in that order
“Wait are 12 year olds watching this-“
Me : I’m 13 and have been wAtching you on and off for two years and already know I’m bi so yeah gen z’s know a lot about being gay And I learned it at a young age 🌈
I realized when I was at a track meet and the girl next to me made me feel something I don't feel with guys
my coming out story: I'm not fully out just only out to my friends so with one of them it went like ( this gon be LONG)
me:yo dude ask me a question I'm bored
him:uhhh ok, are you gay? ( in his fucked up logic he was asking if I was straight )
me:no. . . oh wait I forgot the way your logic works but you aint wrong
him: oh ok, wait. . . if you're mean to the people you like then
me: well that not always the case
him: YOU LIKE MY SISTER????
me: ??? NO lol NOOO, Im mean to a shit ton of ppl
him:how many people do you like 50??
me: no Im actually nice to the person I like
him: oh ok , so who is it?
me: Ima let you geuss
him: HMMM *names male friend*
me;LMAO XD NO. . . the person I like is a girl
him: ohh *names only female friend I have *
me: you spelled her name wrong, but yes ( we were texting on discord )
him: oh ok * goes on to have a different conversation and is really chill about it *
this made me laugh just by how chill and underwhelming he took it, ok now the next friend
her: hey whatcha doing the project on?
me: first pride parade in history
her: oh cool, btw are you LGBTQ+ or still questioning?
me: Im bi
her: ok
after that we had a conversation about how coming out to family shouldnt be so hard, we're both bi so she didnt really give a shit but was happy that I figured it out. DAMN THAT was long if you made it this far thank you just thanks you.
edit: I still think he doesnt know Im bi but honestly I'll just get a laugh out of him knowing Im bi and having to explain what being bi is lol
My classmate was talking to my teacher about something in the lgbtq+ community and then I came into the conversation and after I just said one sentence my classmate said "Yeah, you're like always so proud that you like girls" my heart stopped and I just walked really quickly away from them. My teacher supported though
Wow. Been wanting to share my "coming out" story for quite a while. (even though I'm months late to this video and I would barely call this coming out)
So, during Covid-19, I've been hardcore questioning my sexuality. I'm was sure that I felt something towards women but, couldn't feel the same for men and when I would picture my future lover, I could only imagine a women. I still wasn't sure though so, I identified as unlabeled or questioning. I kept this from my parents because I wanted to be 100% sure about my sexuality before telling them. I did tell my younger sister and one of my older brothers because I wanted advice.
So, this takes place at about the end of November. I was chilling, playing Minecraft while jamming to my spotify playlist (a mix of genres). Then, my younger sister barged in (which scared the life out of me) and basically dragged me out of my room. She took me into the living room where my dad was.
Apparently, my sister and my dad were debating on whether she should be allowed to wear crop tops out in public areas like the mall. They decided to settle it by asking me and my brothers questions. First was me. They both asked me a bunch of questions but, I don't remember what they asked. The questions they asked lead to my sister talking about mine and her future S.O and that's when it kind of happened. She was talking about mine when she then implied that my S.O was going to be a man (which bothered me a bit, but I didn't want to correct her). She then corrected herself by saying, "..or a women.."
It took me a bit to process what she had said but, when it registered, I started to freak the hell out (in my head). I realized that she implied that I'm questioning in front of my dad who I had never talked to about this yet. Nothing particularly interesting happened for the rest of the debate and I was eventually allowed to go back to my room.
Now, fast forward about a week. I basically put that whole situation at the back of my mind. I decided to go to the store with my dad because I wanted to get a gift card (from what I remember). As we were going though our neighborhood, my dad decided to turned left into another part of our neighborhood (when we had to head straight in order to get to our house) and said, "Alright, let's have a talk".
Whenever he would do that, I knew that this was serious so, I shut it and listened. We had a 30 minute long conversation about my sisters comment, me having to confirm that I was questioning but not wanting to have a label yet, him telling me that he doesn't care who I end up with (as long as they treat me well), him telling me that he loves me, and him asking if he could tell this to my grandparents, aunt, and mom so that they are informed. I told him that I would tell my mom but, I didn't care whether he told my grandparents and aunt or not.
I think I told my mom around February while we were discussing my mental issues and she fully supports me.
Currently, I'm thinking about labeling myself as a Lesbian because I now believe that what I'm feel around women is attraction (there are other reasons but, I'm way to tired to list them and this is already a long comment). I hope you guys liked my really weird "coming out" story. To those who want to or are going to come out, I wish you the best of luck and to please take your time. Make sure you're in a safe place to come out. Stay hydrated, touch some grass, and eat well. I love you all.
I’m in high school and I just realized through all the years of health class, we were never taught what a trans man or woman was. It’s not like I live in a ultra conservative Wyoming I live in Washington but I guess that it’s not part of the curriculum.
The "don't mess w me" 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 💕
I remember I came out as lesbian to my friends after we watched Love Simon. Not even a month ago I came out as trans to them over text. It's nice to have the few people that are supportive
I'm coming out to you right now, I'm bisexual and proud, but... my family can wait to know lol
Happy pride month 🏳️🌈
I like that green leaf light in the back :)
i was flirting with my friend which is now boyfriend for 2 months until i finally decided to tell him that i have very strong feelings for him and he told me that he feels the same.. so anyway, we're gonna marry next spring lmao
THE HAIR I absolutely love it 👌🏻👌🏻
My best friend and I were ‘beards’ for each other, we dated fo a while and after we broke up he came out as gay, and I came out as bi.
A few years later I came out as trans non binary and said that I no longer ✨vibe✨ with the term bisexual, so now I just say I’m gay. But yea.
It was actually perfect and we’re still really good friends.
We were watching a netflix show and she was ranting about the "overuse" of gay characters in netflix shows. Then she turns to me an goes "are you a netflix?" in a joking matter an then I said in a serious tone "yes."
so thats how i, as an 11 yr old, came out to my mum and she hasn't said anything about just a phase yet so i think im in the clear
You shall name yourself Future Nostalgia: The moonlight edition
I came out to my parents multiple times, but somehow they forget which gives me many opportunities to "come out" (aka remind them) in funny ways. the most recent was my mum and I calling each other random objects because of our personalities and she said "ruler" because I have a bunch of rules and somehow that became ruler like a straight piece of plastic, and I said "but mom, I'm not a ruler, rulers are straight" and I laughed so hard internally. she didn't say anything.
A turtle approves of these emotional stories 😊
hey, i just wanna say very lovely video.Also about the immigrant parents being oblivious, in the Philippines its normal(compared to other places) to be gay/suspect that your children is gay. Being gay is in a lot of filipino jokes( like if a person is asking if u have a girlfriend and you say no, they would then ask if you have a boyfriend). my cousin is most likely gay(he is in grade school) and his mom talks to my mom/family about it and said she already accepted it :)
last time I was this early I was still straight-
yooo saame
"straight"
I came out by muttering at around midnight to my mom because I felt I needed to. I knew she would support but I was scared to tell anyone. But what happened was my mom was awesome and has been supporting me ever since :D Also everyone in my family supports me so thats good.
Oh yeah I'm also 11
Hello everyone!! I am straight and I just wanted to know how often queer people get told they are just a phase
My friend recently came out to her parents and was told they were just a phase
I’ve been telling them they are valid and giving them a safe place in my gay household (my moms and sister are gay)
TLDR: How commen is it to get told your just a phase as a queer person and how can I help people (I’m straight)
Also please correct thing I misunderstood I’m still learning!
They go by she/they
It's quite common, i can't give an exact number but it seems like it happens almost 50% of the time with younger people
who are coming out
This has to be one of my favorite videos of his
i am watching this when it was released 38 seconds ago
Girl 🥺 I love you all💛❤️
Well, I came out to each of my parents separately.
I had come out to my mom by mentioning it in passing when I was about 17, because I was really concerned that something was wrong with me since I was attracted to other girls. She validated that I could be feeling this way but also said it was just a phase. She still hasn't really come around. She thinks everyone gay is really bi and sexuality is a choice. I don't know.
Anyway, I thought she had told my dad. Like, they talk (most of the time lol) and I thought it was just info that she passed on. So a few months later when my father made some kind of a comment about my future husband, I was like, "Well since I'm attracted to girls-" and then paused because of the utter look of shock on his face. He was like, "what?"
I turned to my mom and in surprise said to her, "You didn't tell him?" She just shrugged.
Not knowing what to say, I simply said, "Tatty (that's what I call my dad), I'm attracted to girls."
He just looks at me with this big smile and says, "Well, I am too!"
I burst out laughing. It was the best thing he could have said, I swear. He is so great about this stuff. I just wish my mom was more accepting and talked about me dating guys less. But whichever way, my father's reaction was PRICELESS!
12:52 correct me if im wrong but in this case I think it would be “could care less” because the brother is the only one that cares for them :D
i’m out to literally all my close friends( co-incidentally, neither of my best friends are straight) but my favourite coming out story will definitely be when i came out to my sister.
i had actually been planning to come out to her at this fancy asf restaurant/ cafe place, eating fancy food and out of nowhere my sister ( she’s 5 years older than me) goes, ‘’ what do you think the parents would say when they realised both their kids are gay?’ i was like hOw 👁👄👁 and then she was like i * live* with you so there’s that haha. my sis identifies as bi and goes by she/ they prns and back then ( this happened in october 2018) i identified as biro ace.
right now, it’s like unlabelled i guess. all i know is im a girl that’s 100% not straight but i’m not really picky about gender so pansexual maybe? idk labels are confusing. fuck labels if you don’t feel comf w any
im not out to my family but my favorites to my friends are my most recent coming out, and my first, the first was just my friend asking "are u lgbtq?" i said "no" then i said "wait.." "yeah" now were dating and my most recent was to a friend ive had for a while and i said "you know what the lgbtq community is?" she said yes and i asked if she supports and again yes then i said well im part of it and she wouldn't stop on how she was so proud and supported and i cried for an hour
Not me being a 12 year old identifying as a bisexual with almost all the kids at my school being bi too.
✋😳
yeah, I did the "what about a gf" to my mom, she accepted it right away.
I never told anyone else in my family except my cousin. Told people if you want to.
1 minute ago--- im way too early this should be illegal
I love watching videos like these because as an Agender Pansexual who hasn’t come out yet, it helps me feel better about coming out and further motivates me and inspires me to come out. Since I like to make music, I plan to sing one of my favorite songs (girls by girl in red in question) to my family during vacation this year ❤️
STOPPPP I WAS NOT EXPECTING KANDY'S AND JASMINE'S CLIPS 😭😭😭😭😭
Ok but Fredric you look absolutely ✨glowing✨.
i was in a room w two of my best friends playing mario kart and then one of them came out to us randomly and then i said "guess what guys this means there's only one straight person in this room" and that's the story of how i came out as ace/bi
Frederic you look on FLEEK today. Your hair really suits you like that. Looks sophisticated 💛
my coming out story
me, my sister(who knew already ) and my grandma was going thru a mcdonald’s drive through..
me:hey mama(my grandma) what do u think of gay people?
grandma: thats their business- are you gay???
me:no not exactly...im pansexual
grandma: what is that
me: *i explained it to her*
grandma: so u would date a girl??
me: yes i would.
grandma:madison what is wrong with you??
me: nothing but i just like everyone..
the thing is she could accept my 14 year d sister dating a boy but not me liking girls. that there made me sad
Thank you so much! You inspired me to come out.
Once my mum straight up asked me “are you dating Marlo” (Marlo is Non binary but this was this was when my mum didn’t know and thought they were still female) and then I was like “ uh no? why do you ask?” Mum-“oh someone mentioned that ‘she’ was dating someone or something and I thought it might be you.” . Like the frick how do you ask that so calmly one Mum doesn’t know my sexuality I don’t think cause I haven’t told her and two why meeee, although it’s true I wasn’t dating Marlo. Ps I’m Australian so that’s why I say Mum
My coming out story (to my parents) was so weird. For some reason my brother was having some existential crisis and was explaining how he just like wasn’t attracted to men??? And I was like pfft me neither and then my parents were like oh chill