Breaking In The Habit scratch and you will discover that most of what you chant about applies only to the Western church. Sometimes, most of the time, listening to you I can only conclude I must not be catholic since we are not Latin
have you seen the journey home net work?? it's about protestant pastors and highly educated bible scholars that have converted to the church after studying the early church history and early church fathers. you should watch a few of them. I hope that you come in into the fulnes of the true church of our Lord Jesus Christ.
My husband, the best man, and I were the only three Catholics at my wedding. It was very difficult to even find a church to marry us since we are military and were living in seperate states at the time. We had to go through the cathedral, but despite all the effort it wound up and being a beautiful start to a fruitful marriage. Also if you get married shortly after Christmas, you don't have to spend any money or effort to decorate at all!
I’m going through that same thing! I found that they have an Archdiocese for Armes Services specifically for military personnel that are in this situation
Foolishness , marriage is for the children of this world . Do you not know that the Church does not marry you , you marry each other. As soon as you slept together you are married. Do think Jesus Christ has no eyes or ears.
My wife & I got married on Jan 6, 1968 so we didn't have to have to worry about decorations or flowers. As I was just back from my tour in Vietnam we had a lot of problem getting married at all!
We were married in ‘75. Hubby, a baptized non-Catholic, was in the military, 2 provinces away. He did all the preparation with the Base Catholic Padre. In fact, it was that Padre that first informed me that we were getting married. 😊 We’d gotten engaged a little more than 2 years earlier but then he’d joined the military, I’d gone to nursing school and marriage had seemed like something we’d do “some day”. We’ll, Padre Stack called to tell me “some day” had arrived and I should go see my priest. Then he handed the phone to my fiancé who informed me that he had leave at the end of October, after finishing whatever training he was on and could we get married then? It was the 14th of July. I had 3 months to get ready. Luckily I was living with my parents for work reasons and the wedding would be taking place in the parish where I’d received all my sacraments of initiation and where I still faithfully worshipped. For me there was no preparation beyond the paperwork. At the ceremony Father greeted us at the back of the church, and, although we didn’t process in together as a couple, we did follow Fr. up the aisle in procession with our attendants and my dad.
“Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church.” 😇Blessed Pope John Paul II🙏🏻
The Priest who officiated at my wedding used this topic as the homily. He said the same thing about the covenant being between my husband and me, and he ( Fr. James Keefner, OFM) was just a witness for the church.
I just recently went to my brother's wedding (a Catholic wedding) and I can confirm that the priest does not say these words "I now pronounce you man and wife". Neither that or any form of that
Because the priest or the deacon who officiates at the wedding serves as the Church's official witness of the marriage. As stated in the video, the ministers of the Sacrament of Matrimony are the bride and the groom (At least that is the belief in the Roman/Latin Rite of the Church). The couple, themselves, administer the Sacrament to each other.
I found the section on the theological issue of the father walking the bride down the aisle very interesting in light of the fact that in a Jewish wedding both parents walk the people about to be married down the aisle.
@@hjm5885 my parents met each other at the entrance of the church and walked together towards the altar to signify their total freedom to enter the marriage. In Catholic weddings in fact the bride and groom are considered to be ministers of their own wedding.
@@ntmn8444 I've only been to non-Orthodox weddings - did you go to weddings with a mechitza and gender separation during the party afterwards? I can see why, in that case, a woman who didn't have to be there wouldn't be there.
I'm Catholic, 57 and have never been married. If I ever do sometime, I would have a very simple wedding that focuses on Christ working through us to bring us together. "Here comes the Bride" would embarrass the crap out of me. Ave Maria, The Pacabel Cannon or some other simple songs would suffice for me. This is a well done video that describes how weddings should be.
As an old lady: * The wonder of the vow, you will find, is not that very first day as husband and wife. It's your very last day together, if you've done it correctly, when one of you dies.*
I lol because my catholic wedding was Uber Catholic without knowing it; we walked each other to the alter, no flower girl, no ring bearer, and definitely no “here comes the bride”. We did have a maid of honor and best man as our witnesses. I did have a long dress tho lol.
We're very impressed at how well done, informative and FUN this video was. We are going to be training to be pre-marital counselors at our parish and will probably share this video with the couples we meet with. Thank you for your channel, we've just subscribed, too.
How can you consider this service in the video to be a Nuptial Mass? It is tremendously disrespectful in the ambience of a Catholic church and belongs in a church hall or a reception venue.
Excellent idea. We need to go back to focus on the importance of the sacrament rather than on the "cosmetics". . Nowadays, young bride's first get the venue, one year in advance, and, THEN, , the church!. One year preparing the wedding. No rush getting married, of course, because the sexual part is resolved. The poor groom regretting ever proposing, stressed to no end!. The broke friends spending money on expensive rentals and dresses The important thing is "to look pretty in all the pictures pre-wedding and post-wedding that I am going to post in my Facebook for the envy of all of my friends. It doesn't matter if my marriage doesn't last two years. At least, I had a beautiful wedding!"
@@moragmarinoni3397 This video is NOT a replacement for a nuptial Mass, they simply intend to use it during marital preparation classes. The state of Virginia boasts it is “for lovers” because they allow wedding with sometimes 3 and others only 1 day preparation. The Roman Catholic Church in most places requires a FULL YEAR of preparation.
In my Catholic church couples have to complete marriage classes/counseling (in a way) before they get married. And my mother said it's difficult to get a divorce, you have to do counseling and show you tried to save the marriage before the final decision
Thanks for uploading this video! I'm 6 months away from binding myself to my future husband in the sacrament. This video is great on explaining why, who, etc.. and it's up to date as well! I still have to say.. this wedding stuff is scary! Movies are way too blah and romantic. This is a life long oath with another person and Jesus! It's a HUGE step in spiritual and real life (leaving your parents, starting your own home and family...). Nevertheless, I've prayed a lot for guidance and here I am haha I will do whatever the Lord wants for me in His glory, scary or not!
The Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit, if many churches are correct. If many churches are correct, The Trinity is a Family-- two Parents and a Progeny, just like a human family. (Humans are made in the "image" and "likeness" of God according to Genesis 1:26) In the Book of Job which is part of the bible,the Lord is compared to a father and also a mother with a womb. "From whose womb comes the ice? Who gives birth to the frost from the heavens"--Job 38:29. Because God can also be thought of like a mother (Isaiah 42:14,Isaiah 66:13,Matthew 23:37), all three roles (father,mother,progeny) in a basic human family are filled in the Trinity. Saying that the "Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit" is simply another way of saying that the Holy Spirit "proceeds from the Father and the Son" which has been official Catholic Church teaching for centuries. According to the Catholic Church, the Son is begotten from the Father. If this is true, the Father is the Father (Parent) of the Son. According to the Church, the Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father and the Son.If this is true, the Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit. According to the "Catechism of the Catholic Church" paragraph 264, "The Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father as the first principle and...from the communion of both the Father and the Son" Of course, the scriptures are vague if the Holy Spirit is the 3rd or 2nd Person of the Trinity--whichever of these is true,the First Person and the Second Person may be the Parents of the Third.
Breaking the Habit, Thank you for this enlightening video! The BEST wedding I’ve attended (was one of the witnesses) took a full year of prayerful preparation, took 15 minutes over lunch break, and the couple wore everyday clothes (jeans). SO joyful!
I was surprised that this was a more enlightened view of marriage in my opinion. I was surprised that the bride and groom were seen as equal considering how steeped on patriarchy that most religions are, especially evangelicalism. I also agree with the Friar that that nobody should walk the bride down the aisle, that they should both walk together. The idea of the father "giving" his daughter in marriage leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
Well, in 1521, Henry VIII wrote a response to Martin Luther, in defense of the Catholic Faith and its Sacraments, including marriage. For this, the Pope granted the English monarch the title " Defender of the Faith ", which is still retained by them to this day. The idea of his foundation of the Church of England was only incidentally from the later Papal refusal to grant him a divorce. English monarchs had for centuries assumed the power of religious authority in episcopal and ecclesiastical appointments, derived from the idea that the King was God's chosen and anointed.
@@L30NARDO72 Yes, they do have the title. After Henry VIII was excommunicated by the Pope, the English Parliament voted to allow the Sovereign to continue using it. To this day it still is. A British coin from 2020 reads '" Elizabeth II, DG ( By the Grace of God ) REG ( Queen ) FD ( Defender of the Faith ). Prince Charles has said when he becomes King, he will alter the Title to ' Defender of Faith ' in an effort to be. " more inclusive." Whether they have a right to use it, or who has done more for the Faith, is more a matter of opinion.
This video makes me feel so much better about my upcoming wedding. I don’t look good in white- so I’m not wearing it and I don’t want to spend the extra money on a bridal party either. I know too many people who have dipped into their retirement just to have a glamorous wedding and every single one of them later say it wasn’t worth it and it’s not what the marriage was about anyway.
Excellent video Father. I’ve been subscribed to your channel for over 3 years and just found this video today. Please pray for all divorced spouses who have civilly remarried and the scandal they cause to their families and communities
Excellent explanation We are going through the marriage process now and I personally have no interest in the typical wedding. No flower girl, no ring bearer. We are happy with only two witnesses. The marriage isn’t about photos and flowers and the party afterwards, it’s about your mutual commitment/covenant and God. It’s good to see I’m not the only one who feels this way
I was married in my husband’s Catholic church, was told how my marriage would go. I was told what music and vows I could choose from. I scoured the thick, worn little book to find vows that didn’t say I will”obey” him. He wouldn’t have wanted it either. Worst was being denied taking communion, the sacrament, with my husband at our wedding. It saddens me, still, because it didn’t surprise me. I’ve read the programs at church, been to a Catholic church many times. 💜
catholic church is not a protestant church where you decide for yourself what you want. there are certain rituals that are followed by all catholics. if you are not catholic you cannot take communion. your choice is to become catholic and participate or don't but then you cannot complain about not having membership privileges if you are not a member.
@@liberator275 , hello, and Thankyou. I knew they wouldn’t let us, but I it made me sad before hand.and since. It is a sacrament and a testament, and the ritual all Christians hold in common. I couldn’t imagine being married without doing so. The Church doesn’t consider me to be a real Christian. I understood that and understand why the church sees it that way, but it’s heartbreaking not to celebrate a Christian marriage with communion. I don’t think of his family as less Christian than mine, my church would welcome him, you. Please know I didn’t expect to, but it’s absence was felt by most of us, Catholic and Protestant. I study Christian traditions, beliefs and collect Bible translations. My favorite are my Catholic Bibles, exhaustive footnotes and references. I’m not angry or resentful, it was just a sad thing for us. His priest, who was such a big part of his family’s life, married us, and that was very special to all of us, God, too, I think. I wish you well, but please speak more gently to the next person who’s comment you reply to. Thank you for your insight and your time. God bless you, j
@@humanebeing6230 why not? Jesus asked Christians believe and do certain things and not denomination do. Protestant denominations skipped over large swaths of what Jesus has asked its followers to do.
I am currently writing a story and chose to base the wedding off that part of the scripture that he mentioned, a man and a woman leaving their families to cling to each other. In the story, the groom and his bride are led by their friends and family from opposite sides, who then break away to allow the two to meet in the middle, who will walk to the priest together. It's really satisfying to find out that maybe it's a little more Catholic than I thought it would be!
This is a great video- very clear, and definitely informative. Learned a lot from watching this, and agree that every couple should watch this during their marriage preparation. Well, everyone really- not just couples in marriage prep. If a more simple approach was taken when preparing for 'the big day', perhaps a lot of fall-outs over the small details would be avoided.
In 2004 the Italian Episcopal Conference changed the words of the wedding vows from "I take you" to "I welcome you" to enhance the active role of the man and the woman in the sacrament and their free decision to get married. Also, at the beginning of the ceremony, it was decided to replace the usual penitential rites with a commemoration of our own baptism by the baptismal font followed by the sprinkling of water. It is a reminder that married life comes from the baptism and that it is through this baptism that the couple experiences a sort of baptismal priesthood and is able to be minister of its own wedding. Litanies of the saints (a shorter version, with the patron saints of the bride and groom, of the parish and saints who have experienced married life) were also introduced after the exchanging of the rings, between the prayer of the faithful and the blessing, to remark the communion with the church and establish the calling of God to the married life. In a way, the wedding ceremony is compared to a priestly Ordination.
Thank you brother. I have watched quite a few of the videos you upload and I must say they are very informative. I was born catholic and will die catholic. I will do whatever I can to defend the church. I have seen many comments on other videos bashing the church as well as the lay people and priests. But I will not let that turn me away from true church
Omg yessss about the expensive white wedding dress!!! (and hideous bridesmaids dresses to go along with that) So glad to hear him say that this is unnecessary! It makes absolutely nooo sense to buy a dress ur gonna wear only once in ur lifetime (ofc excluding those who want to hand their dresses down to their daughters) When I get married, I'm gonna wear something really nice, no doubt, but it's gonna be something that I am gonna use again! Thinking about an elegant skirt n top!
A friend and former co-worker (religious affiliation unknown) said that she was willing to be generous when her daughters got married (down payment on a car was the example she gave if memory serves me correctly) but she was not going to pay $400 (or whatever the amount was) for a dress that was only going to be worn one time.
Weddings shouldn't have to be so expensive and treated like a party. However, this is the trend today. If only couples and their families could see the beauty and mystery behind their union that is God, may be they could make it simpler. But this is a lifetime experience and it happens only once so i guess i understand when people give their best here especially being extravagant on their wedding days so long as they commit to their vows and value their commitment. For those who want to throw a party extravagantly, just do it. For those who want to make it simple, go for it. This video only emphasizes that wedding don't have to be that expensive as long as they make a covenant in God's presence with all their hearts. Many people avoid to marry these days as life becomes harder and tougher, thus, many try to shun weddings but they don't understand that as the priest said, - it doesn't have to that way cuz what is more important is the sanctity and sacredness of the marriage. The extravagances are just people's choice of expressing their love and support for the couples.
In Mexico, When having a Catholic marrage the man IS walked down the Isle by his parents or someone close to him. And the bride is walked down by her parents or closest family members. I married my wife in the church after being civily married for 18 years and our children walked us down the isle
My cousin and his wife got married in the Catholic Church, as did my parents, and they both walked down the aisle to Here Comes the Bride! My cousin and his wife had a Mass as part of the ceremony (she’s Italian, and requested it), whereas my parents did not.
Not willing to look this up right now, but I read somewhere that the average wedding in the U.S. now costs around $60K. I'm good with simplicity seeing as that dollar amount adds nothing to an actual marriage past the wedding day.
Yes, there are major questions of justice involved in weddings. When we think about how much is spent, compared to how much poverty there is in our local areas, it is quite extravagant.
I've never understood that giving away part. That must be some anglo-saxon thing. In my country the bride and groom goes together to the church. Unfortunately due to media influence some "misguided souls" think that's something worth to copy. I've only seen that "giving away" thing in English speaking movies, and I always start to search if the father of the bride has a shotgun or something.
Not necessarily Anglo-Saxon...it goes back to ancient times (and in that sense the video is being less-than historically accurate or truthful (I don't think this was done on purpose)...it IS a Catholic custom, just not in universal use any longer. It goes back to the days when a dowry was also exchanged as part of the betrothal, and a daughter could only be married with the consent of her parents, hence the traditional question: "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?" Answer: "Her mother and I do." Now, the custom has taken on a whole new significance today. Special for many families. My Father-in-law gave his daughter away when we were married. If it had not happened that way, I think both he and my wife would have been very hurt. It has a deep emotional significance for some people. However, the traditional question was not asked. This was not because anyone had a problem with it...it was because my mother in law did not believe that my father-in-law would be able to maintain his composure long enough to get four words out of his mouth!
In Slavonija (part of Croatia) at the wedding bride and groom were given a cross and they put their hands on it and repeat vows then they kiss the cross and then each other. After wedding they are thaking that cross with them home and it becomes their family cross.
Good morning..traditions are different and that's ok...for my myself it was joy to walk my daughter down the aisle..nervous ??? YESSSSSSS...No i am not catholic but as i stated traditions are different .....praise God from whom all blessings flow...HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL MOTHERS..PEACE
When I was a third year medical student in Philadelphia, I was driving to my friend's Catholic wedding in NJ. I was on the GSP and already running late, when my 1995 teal hatchback Honda Civic blew a tire. I showed up two hours late after replacing the tire with the "donut" in the back. Fortunately, I was able to catch the last hour of the ceremony. True story. Mmmmm....donut.
Matthew 19:4 And he said to them in response, “Have you not read that he who made man from the beginning, made them male and female?” And he said: Matthew 19:5 “For this reason, a man shall separate from father and mother, and he shall cling to his wife, and these two shall become one flesh. Matthew 19:6 And so, now they are not two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.” Marriage in The Catholic Church is a Holy Sacrament that brings God to the center of the union.
Yes once the spouse dies the covenant of marriage is over. Marriages do not exist as they do on earth. Read the Gospel when the Jewish leaders try to trick Jesus about a woman marrying 7 brothers after each die and what happens to them all in heaven.
I am starting precana soon at an FSSP parish - I never wanted a bridal party . The one tradition I think I’ll keep is the not seeing eachother before the wedding ceremony day off and the white dress lol
In all the weddings I've seen in Chile, the groom's father and the bride's mother walk down the aisle together first, then the groom walks down with his mother, and at last, the bride walks down with her father. I don't know if it is an old tradition or not.
A few years ago, my oldest friend, my Latin teacher from my Catholic high school was dying of a progressive lung disease. His boyfriend of many decades had been diagnosed with lymphoma but had a longer life expectancy. They asked me if they should marry do that the one with the longer life expectancy could continue taking care of his partner until death so that the partner with lymphoma wouldn’t be homeless. I said “of course.”.
I really admires wedding and I need to do, but at a Times my partner doesn't want to start live with Christ as a family in wedding, but I am still praying God to give me the one who also need the wedding.
I can't say with certainty why the act of "giving away" began but it could have been the transferring of spiritual covering from the bride's father to the husband.
It's better, but I'm still not sure if it's the most appropriate of songs. The hymn would best fit the sacrament if it spoke of covenant, God's love and commitment, and giving glory to God.
This video actually makes me happy to be coming back to the church. I do need advice tho @breakinginthehabit how do I get family and friends to stop pestering me about “tradition”? I think most of it is stupid anyway. I love the idea of greeting people before the marriage and then walking in together with my fiancé. I don’t care about superstitious stuff about hiding my wedding dress and all that stuff. I really don’t want to do this but family and friends are forcing me. How do I get them to understand I don’t want any of that nonsense?
I don't know where Mendelssohn's Wedding March is banned. We had it at our wedding and it's often used at weddings in my church. Perhaps it's a pronouncement by your Bishop's Conference although they're not normally renowned for good taste.
The priest, acting ' in the Person of Christ ' says " I join you in holy marriage, in the Name of the Father, and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen." The vows, and these words, matter.
I thought that was funny about the bridesmaids being dressed like the bride to confuse evil spirits. I thought the bridesmaids wore hideous dresses so that the bride would be the best looking one there, lol
The first time I was on a catholic wedding, I was like "ok, now is when the priest says the famous movie phrase". It never came, I was shocked, I was not even sure if they were already married (they were).
The marriage customs of the church borrow a lot from the conferratio of ancient Rome, which was normally reserved for high ranking patricians making dynastic alliances and the priesthood most romans just lived together and said that they were together and that was enough, quite a contrast from the middle ages and what the church expects of its flock
Some of these non religious customs can be adopted as spiritual, ,especially since they are such a huge part of our culture. We Christianized pagan practices and holidays in the past. We can certainly do it again for the right reasons.
It's really not a serious rule or punishable offense. Some people certainly do it. The point is that the Church takes seriously its liturgy and does not want our prayer to express something that we actually don't believe.
We also had it at our wedding. We discussed all our musical choices with our priest and also our choice for readings and prayers of the faithful. His main goal in these discussions seemed to be reflected our life together in the ceremony a respectful and meaningful way.
What if the priest presiding over the wedding is a family member? Like the groom’s Uncle or great Uncle? Is there any kind of law forbidding a family member presiding over the wedding and if so does it make it invalid? Asking for a friend of a friend who needs prayers.
The phrase “ by the power invested in me “by some ministers is usually followed by the name of the state. It usually doesn’t have to do with the church. What are you going to do with Orthodox weddings ,also sacraments, in which no vows are exchanged?
There are in the UK, or more specifically England. I've never been to a wedding where there isn't at least one, and I go to a lot. I used to sing in a church Choir and now I work for the church full-time. Maybe it's an RC thing not to have them in Europe. I've seen them in RC Churches in England as well as Anglican ones.
@@elton1981 Maid of Honor and Bestman are common as they serve as "independent" witnesses. But not more people, in fact, flower girls / ring bearers are often involved only when there are younger children in close families or friends. (Exempt nobility weddings or weddings in the "financial nobility") Often rituals mix or shift around a wedding. For a long time it was customary in Germany to celebrate the "Polterabend" on the evening before the wedding day in order to break with porcelain; a) to banish evil spirits, b) to test the good cooperation of the bride and groom (to get rid of the broken pieces together). Meanwhile, this evening moves to the weekend before the wedding or is replaced by individual farewell ceremonies of Bachelor/Bachelorette life.
In Perú, USUALLY, the mother of the groom and the father of the bride stay with them the whole ceremony. Are considered to be "the godmother and godfather" of the couple and the only one who can intervene in case of conflicts during the marriage,
Monasteries often allow people to go on retreats and interact with the monks. Some monasteries have mass open to the public or offer spiritual direction. See if there is a monastery near you, and maybe they have ways for you to visit. You being a girl should not be a deterrent. Peace and good.
I know couple who decided to keep it simple in term of clothing and decorations but lavish in the way they fed large number of the poor.
Reading this touched my heart!
What a fantastic idea! I might just do this.
That's what i been saying i hate how is about been fancy when its about true love
Wow this got me closely to thinking of joining the Catholic Church don't know why?. But been thinking, for awhile be interested to join the church. 👍
There is so much richness to the Church when you begin to scratch the surface!
Breaking In The Habit scratch and you will discover that most of what you chant about applies only to the Western church.
Sometimes, most of the time, listening to you I can only conclude I must not be catholic since we are not Latin
I hope you do, J O.
have you seen the journey home net work?? it's about protestant pastors and highly educated bible scholars that have converted to the church after studying the early church history and early church fathers. you should watch a few of them. I hope that you come in into the fulnes of the true church of our Lord Jesus Christ.
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My husband, the best man, and I were the only three Catholics at my wedding. It was very difficult to even find a church to marry us since we are military and were living in seperate states at the time. We had to go through the cathedral, but despite all the effort it wound up and being a beautiful start to a fruitful marriage.
Also if you get married shortly after Christmas, you don't have to spend any money or effort to decorate at all!
I’m going through that same thing! I found that they have an Archdiocese for Armes Services specifically for military personnel that are in this situation
Foolishness , marriage is for the children of this world . Do you not know that the Church does not marry you , you marry each other. As soon as you slept together you are married. Do think Jesus Christ has no eyes or ears.
My wife & I got married on Jan 6, 1968 so we didn't have to have to worry about decorations or flowers. As I was just back from my tour in Vietnam we had a lot of problem getting married at all!
M’y parish insisted on us using the poinsettias on the altar for my New Year’s Eve wedding in 1972. My dad was Sooo happy about that!
We were married in ‘75. Hubby, a baptized non-Catholic, was in the military, 2 provinces away. He did all the preparation with the Base Catholic Padre. In fact, it was that Padre that first informed me that we were getting married. 😊
We’d gotten engaged a little more than 2 years earlier but then he’d joined the military, I’d gone to nursing school and marriage had seemed like something we’d do “some day”. We’ll, Padre Stack called to tell me “some day” had arrived and I should go see my priest. Then he handed the phone to my fiancé who informed me that he had leave at the end of October, after finishing whatever training he was on and could we get married then? It was the 14th of July. I had 3 months to get ready.
Luckily I was living with my parents for work reasons and the wedding would be taking place in the parish where I’d received all my sacraments of initiation and where I still faithfully worshipped. For me there was no preparation beyond the paperwork.
At the ceremony Father greeted us at the back of the church, and, although we didn’t process in together as a couple, we did follow Fr. up the aisle in procession with our attendants and my dad.
“Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church.”
😇Blessed Pope John Paul II🙏🏻
I don't even have a boyfriend but I always thought that if marriege is my vocation i want to do it right and this video helps a lot. thank you!
Fireflycolor1 I agree
The idea of "a boyfriend" is forbidden in Christianity
At the end of the day, its not about doing it right, its about doing it.
Ragheb Alkayyali Really? What’s wrong with having a person that you are interested in marrying?
@@raghebalkayyali6609 Thas a nonsense of course.
"I like leaving ring bearers to Tolkien" the doctor knows about the one ring to rule them all 🤣
Now THAT's a kind of ring bearer I'd actually want!
i am not catholic but i agree with a lot of what was said
The Priest who officiated at my wedding used this topic as the homily. He said the same thing about the covenant being between my husband and me, and he ( Fr. James Keefner, OFM) was just a witness for the church.
Very cool!
I just recently went to my brother's wedding (a Catholic wedding) and I can confirm that the priest does not say these words "I now pronounce you man and wife". Neither that or any form of that
Because the priest or the deacon who officiates at the wedding serves as the Church's official witness of the marriage. As stated in the video, the ministers of the Sacrament of Matrimony are the bride and the groom (At least that is the belief in the Roman/Latin Rite of the Church). The couple, themselves, administer the Sacrament to each other.
I found the section on the theological issue of the father walking the bride down the aisle very interesting in light of the fact that in a Jewish wedding both parents walk the people about to be married down the aisle.
Sarah Goldberg my mother would walk me.
Nobody walks anybody anywhere in the Catholic church. This is a western tradition only.
@@hjm5885 my parents met each other at the entrance of the church and walked together towards the altar to signify their total freedom to enter the marriage. In Catholic weddings in fact the bride and groom are considered to be ministers of their own wedding.
It really depends. Orthodox Jewish weddings, no one walks the bride. She walks alone to the chuppah. I’ve been to and seen many.
@@ntmn8444 I've only been to non-Orthodox weddings - did you go to weddings with a mechitza and gender separation during the party afterwards? I can see why, in that case, a woman who didn't have to be there wouldn't be there.
I'm Catholic, 57 and have never been married. If I ever do sometime, I would have a very simple wedding that focuses on Christ working through us to bring us together. "Here comes the Bride" would embarrass the crap out of me. Ave Maria, The Pacabel Cannon or some other simple songs would suffice for me. This is a well done video that describes how weddings should be.
As an old lady:
* The wonder of the vow, you will find, is not that very first day as husband and wife. It's your very last day together, if you've done it correctly, when one of you dies.*
I lol because my catholic wedding was Uber Catholic without knowing it; we walked each other to the alter, no flower girl, no ring bearer, and definitely no “here comes the bride”. We did have a maid of honor and best man as our witnesses. I did have a long dress tho lol.
That’s what I want myself! But ugh, everyone trying to tell me what to do for my wedding.
I love how every catholic i know, including myself, loves the princess bride
We're very impressed at how well done, informative and FUN this video was. We are going to be training to be pre-marital counselors at our parish and will probably share this video with the couples we meet with. Thank you for your channel, we've just subscribed, too.
How can you consider this service in the video to be a Nuptial Mass? It is tremendously disrespectful in the ambience of a Catholic church and belongs in a church hall or a reception venue.
Excellent idea. We need to go back to focus on the importance of the sacrament rather than on the "cosmetics".
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Nowadays, young bride's first get the venue, one year in advance, and, THEN, , the church!. One year preparing the wedding. No rush getting married, of course, because the sexual part is resolved. The poor groom regretting ever proposing, stressed to no end!. The broke friends spending money on expensive rentals and dresses The important thing is "to look pretty in all the pictures pre-wedding and post-wedding that I am going to post in my Facebook for the envy of all of my friends. It doesn't matter if my marriage doesn't last two years. At least, I had a beautiful wedding!"
@@moragmarinoni3397 This video is NOT a replacement for a nuptial Mass, they simply intend to use it during marital preparation classes. The state of Virginia boasts it is “for lovers” because they allow wedding with sometimes 3 and others only 1 day preparation. The Roman Catholic Church in most places requires a FULL YEAR of preparation.
In my Catholic church couples have to complete marriage classes/counseling (in a way) before they get married. And my mother said it's difficult to get a divorce, you have to do counseling and show you tried to save the marriage before the final decision
Yes because marriage is no joke!!
Thanks for uploading this video! I'm 6 months away from binding myself to my future husband in the sacrament. This video is great on explaining why, who, etc.. and it's up to date as well!
I still have to say.. this wedding stuff is scary! Movies are way too blah and romantic. This is a life long oath with another person and Jesus! It's a HUGE step in spiritual and real life (leaving your parents, starting your own home and family...).
Nevertheless, I've prayed a lot for guidance and here I am haha I will do whatever the Lord wants for me in His glory, scary or not!
Best of luck in your preparation! Peace and good to you!
This video made me see marriage in a totally different way 😊 love it
I'm Catholic, I live in Indonesia, here in our Catholic church, the groom and the bride walking down the aisle together so we did the right thing 😄😁
AMEN! Once married will never be divorced by the hands of men :) Can't wait to receive my Sacrament.
Kakak Neko is so beautiful catholic marriages
Same :)
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The Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit, if many churches are correct. If many churches are correct, The Trinity is a Family-- two Parents and a Progeny, just like a human family. (Humans are made in the "image" and "likeness" of God according to Genesis 1:26) In the Book of Job which is part of the bible,the Lord is compared to a father and also a mother with a womb. "From whose womb comes the ice? Who gives birth to the frost from the heavens"--Job 38:29. Because God can also be thought of like a mother (Isaiah 42:14,Isaiah 66:13,Matthew 23:37), all three roles (father,mother,progeny) in a basic human family are filled in the Trinity. Saying that the "Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit" is simply another way of saying that the Holy Spirit "proceeds from the Father and the Son" which has been official Catholic Church teaching for centuries. According to the Catholic Church, the Son is begotten from the Father. If this is true, the Father is the Father (Parent) of the Son. According to the Church, the Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father and the Son.If this is true, the Father and the Son are the Parents of the Holy Spirit. According to the "Catechism of the Catholic Church" paragraph 264, "The Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father as the first principle and...from the communion of both the Father and the Son" Of course, the scriptures are vague if the Holy Spirit is the 3rd or 2nd Person of the Trinity--whichever of these is true,the First Person and the Second Person may be the Parents of the Third.
God willing, you will live a happy marriage!
Even today in India... Catholic couples walk down the aisle together... There's no groom at altar or dad giving away daughter
It is definitely a Western tradition.
Breaking the Habit, Thank you for this enlightening video! The BEST wedding I’ve attended (was one of the witnesses) took a full year of prayerful preparation, took 15 minutes over lunch break, and the couple wore everyday clothes (jeans). SO joyful!
I love the Princess Bride, and this video!
I was surprised that this was a more enlightened view of marriage in my opinion. I was surprised that the bride and groom were seen as equal considering how steeped on patriarchy that most religions are, especially evangelicalism. I also agree with the Friar that that nobody should walk the bride down the aisle, that they should both walk together. The idea of the father "giving" his daughter in marriage leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
I am less than 3 weeks away from my wedding day and I found this video to validate what I believe a wedding should be.
How did it go?
@@tommoore2012 everything has been awesome
The king of england should've watched this video before imposing the protestant church
would that it were so...
Well, in 1521, Henry VIII wrote a response to Martin Luther, in defense of the Catholic Faith and its Sacraments, including marriage. For this, the Pope granted the English monarch the title " Defender of the Faith ", which is still retained by them to this day. The idea of his foundation of the Church of England was only incidentally from the later Papal refusal to grant him a divorce. English monarchs had for centuries assumed the power of religious authority in episcopal and ecclesiastical appointments, derived from the idea that the King was God's chosen and anointed.
yeah, I wish he did not go insane and break away from the church.
@@johnnyzeee5215you really think Brittain has that title? If anythng spanish and portuguese did more for the faith 🤣
@@L30NARDO72 Yes, they do have the title. After Henry VIII was excommunicated by the Pope, the English Parliament voted to allow the Sovereign to continue using it. To this day it still is. A British coin from 2020 reads '" Elizabeth II, DG ( By the Grace of God ) REG ( Queen ) FD ( Defender of the Faith ). Prince Charles has said when he becomes King, he will alter the Title to ' Defender of Faith ' in an effort to be. " more inclusive." Whether they have a right to use it, or who has done more for the Faith, is more a matter of opinion.
Instant thumbs up for showing a scene from the princess Bride.
This video makes me feel so much better about my upcoming wedding. I don’t look good in white- so I’m not wearing it and I don’t want to spend the extra money on a bridal party either. I know too many people who have dipped into their retirement just to have a glamorous wedding and every single one of them later say it wasn’t worth it and it’s not what the marriage was about anyway.
Excellent video Father. I’ve been subscribed to your channel for over 3 years and just found this video today. Please pray for all divorced spouses who have civilly remarried and the scandal they cause to their families and communities
In Poland it is a tradition that groom comes to brides home, they bet blessings from their elders and they go to church together.
Excellent explanation
We are going through the marriage process now and I personally have no interest in the typical wedding. No flower girl, no ring bearer. We are happy with only two witnesses. The marriage isn’t about photos and flowers and the party afterwards, it’s about your mutual commitment/covenant and God.
It’s good to see I’m not the only one who feels this way
I was married in my husband’s Catholic church, was told how my marriage would go.
I was told what music and vows I could choose from. I scoured the thick, worn little book to find vows that didn’t say I will”obey” him. He wouldn’t have wanted it either.
Worst was being denied taking communion, the sacrament, with my husband at our wedding.
It saddens me, still, because it didn’t surprise me. I’ve read the programs at church, been to a Catholic church many times.
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catholic church is not a protestant church where you decide for yourself what you want. there are certain rituals that are followed by all catholics. if you are not catholic you cannot take communion. your choice is to become catholic and participate or don't but then you cannot complain about not having membership privileges if you are not a member.
@@liberator275 , hello, and Thankyou. I knew they wouldn’t let us, but I it made me sad before hand.and since. It is a sacrament and a testament, and the ritual all Christians hold in common. I couldn’t imagine being married without doing so. The Church doesn’t consider me to be a real Christian. I understood that and understand why the church sees it that way, but it’s heartbreaking not to celebrate a Christian marriage with communion.
I don’t think of his family as less Christian than mine, my church would welcome him, you.
Please know I didn’t expect to, but it’s absence was felt by most of us, Catholic and Protestant.
I study Christian traditions, beliefs and collect Bible translations. My favorite are my Catholic Bibles, exhaustive footnotes and references.
I’m not angry or resentful, it was just a sad thing for us. His priest, who was such a big part of his family’s life, married us, and that was very special to all of us, God, too, I think.
I wish you well, but please speak more gently to the next person who’s comment you reply to.
Thank you for your insight and your time.
God bless you, j
@@humanebeing6230 what's stopping you from becoming catholic then? any particular reasons?
@@liberator275 , this answer could be a lot longer, but it comes down to this: I don’t believe Jesus will be concerned with denomination. ✌🏼
@@humanebeing6230 why not? Jesus asked Christians believe and do certain things and not denomination do. Protestant denominations skipped over large swaths of what Jesus has asked its followers to do.
How come this is 4 years old and I just knew you, father, 2 weeks ago? Thanks for you work!
Awww wedding seems beautiful.. ❤️❤️ I want a wedding some day!!!
And I wish you have it and a happy and long marriage
Just remember that a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime. Want the lifetime more than the day! (Married 27 years and counting. 😊)
"I like leaving ring bearers to Tolkien", I am so dead of laughter.
I am currently writing a story and chose to base the wedding off that part of the scripture that he mentioned, a man and a woman leaving their families to cling to each other. In the story, the groom and his bride are led by their friends and family from opposite sides, who then break away to allow the two to meet in the middle, who will walk to the priest together. It's really satisfying to find out that maybe it's a little more Catholic than I thought it would be!
This is a great video- very clear, and definitely informative. Learned a lot from watching this, and agree that every couple should watch this during their marriage preparation. Well, everyone really- not just couples in marriage prep. If a more simple approach was taken when preparing for 'the big day', perhaps a lot of fall-outs over the small details would be avoided.
Mind blowing! thanks for making this video
In 2004 the Italian Episcopal Conference changed the words of the wedding vows from "I take you" to "I welcome you" to enhance the active role of the man and the woman in the sacrament and their free decision to get married. Also, at the beginning of the ceremony, it was decided to replace the usual penitential rites with a commemoration of our own baptism by the baptismal font followed by the sprinkling of water. It is a reminder that married life comes from the baptism and that it is through this baptism that the couple experiences a sort of baptismal priesthood and is able to be minister of its own wedding. Litanies of the saints (a shorter version, with the patron saints of the bride and groom, of the parish and saints who have experienced married life) were also introduced after the exchanging of the rings, between the prayer of the faithful and the blessing, to remark the communion with the church and establish the calling of God to the married life. In a way, the wedding ceremony is compared to a priestly Ordination.
F Trozzi I’m pretty sure they’re not allowed to change the essential form of the sacrament.
@@JewelBlueIbanez depends what you mean with "change the form"?
Thank you brother. I have watched quite a few of the videos you upload and I must say they are very informative. I was born catholic and will die catholic. I will do whatever I can to defend the church. I have seen many comments on other videos bashing the church as well as the lay people and priests. But I will not let that turn me away from true church
Omg yessss about the expensive white wedding dress!!! (and hideous bridesmaids dresses to go along with that) So glad to hear him say that this is unnecessary! It makes absolutely nooo sense to buy a dress ur gonna wear only once in ur lifetime (ofc excluding those who want to hand their dresses down to their daughters) When I get married, I'm gonna wear something really nice, no doubt, but it's gonna be something that I am gonna use again! Thinking about an elegant skirt n top!
And considering that very very few brides are virgins anymore....why strain the credulity of those present?
A friend and former co-worker (religious affiliation unknown) said that she was willing to be generous when her daughters got married (down payment on a car was the example she gave if memory serves me correctly) but she was not going to pay $400 (or whatever the amount was) for a dress that was only going to be worn one time.
Sadly I see sooo many that don’t see marriage as respected as it should anymore.
Thank you so much for this great video.
Awesome presentation of credible information!
Weddings shouldn't have to be so expensive and treated like a party. However, this is the trend today. If only couples and their families could see the beauty and mystery behind their union that is God, may be they could make it simpler. But this is a lifetime experience and it happens only once so i guess i understand when people give their best here especially being extravagant on their wedding days so long as they commit to their vows and value their commitment.
For those who want to throw a party extravagantly, just do it. For those who want to make it simple, go for it. This video only emphasizes that wedding don't have to be that expensive as long as they make a covenant in God's presence with all their hearts.
Many people avoid to marry these days as life becomes harder and tougher, thus, many try to shun weddings but they don't understand that as the priest said, - it doesn't have to that way cuz what is more important is the sanctity and sacredness of the marriage. The extravagances are just people's choice of expressing their love and support for the couples.
In Mexico, When having a Catholic marrage the man IS walked down the Isle by his parents or someone close to him. And the bride is walked down by her parents or closest family members. I married my wife in the church after being civily married for 18 years and our children walked us down the isle
16 years ago our priest stepped down from the alter and let us marry in God's presence!! So Cool!
I am 50 and preparing for my catholic wedding in summer. Will be like „Sound of music“.
My cousin and his wife got married in the Catholic Church, as did my parents, and they both walked down the aisle to Here Comes the Bride! My cousin and his wife had a Mass as part of the ceremony (she’s Italian, and requested it), whereas my parents did not.
Not willing to look this up right now, but I read somewhere that the average wedding in the U.S. now costs around $60K. I'm good with simplicity seeing as that dollar amount adds nothing to an actual marriage past the wedding day.
Yes, there are major questions of justice involved in weddings. When we think about how much is spent, compared to how much poverty there is in our local areas, it is quite extravagant.
Major like! Thank you so much for posting this!
I've never understood that giving away part. That must be some anglo-saxon thing. In my country the bride and groom goes together to the church. Unfortunately due to media influence some "misguided souls" think that's something worth to copy. I've only seen that "giving away" thing in English speaking movies, and I always start to search if the father of the bride has a shotgun or something.
Not necessarily Anglo-Saxon...it goes back to ancient times (and in that sense the video is being less-than historically accurate or truthful (I don't think this was done on purpose)...it IS a Catholic custom, just not in universal use any longer. It goes back to the days when a dowry was also exchanged as part of the betrothal, and a daughter could only be married with the consent of her parents, hence the traditional question: "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?" Answer: "Her mother and I do."
Now, the custom has taken on a whole new significance today. Special for many families. My Father-in-law gave his daughter away when we were married. If it had not happened that way, I think both he and my wife would have been very hurt. It has a deep emotional significance for some people. However, the traditional question was not asked. This was not because anyone had a problem with it...it was because my mother in law did not believe that my father-in-law would be able to maintain his composure long enough to get four words out of his mouth!
Where are you from?
This is an ancient custom from a time when a woman was property of her father, and then property of her husband.
In Slavonija (part of Croatia) at the wedding bride and groom were given a cross and they put their hands on it and repeat vows then they kiss the cross and then each other. After wedding they are thaking that cross with them home and it becomes their family cross.
Good morning..traditions are different and that's ok...for my myself it was joy to walk my daughter down the aisle..nervous ??? YESSSSSSS...No i am not catholic but as i stated traditions are different .....praise God from whom all blessings flow...HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL MOTHERS..PEACE
When I was a third year medical student in Philadelphia, I was driving to my friend's Catholic wedding in NJ. I was on the GSP and already running late, when my 1995 teal hatchback Honda Civic blew a tire. I showed up two hours late after replacing the tire with the "donut" in the back. Fortunately, I was able to catch the last hour of the ceremony. True story. Mmmmm....donut.
3 hours is a looong wedding.
Matthew 19:4 And he said to them in response, “Have you not read that he who made man from the beginning, made them male and female?” And he said:
Matthew 19:5 “For this reason, a man shall separate from father and mother, and he shall cling to his wife, and these two shall become one flesh.
Matthew 19:6 And so, now they are not two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
Marriage in The Catholic Church is a Holy Sacrament that brings God to the center of the union.
Pls suggest a touching Catholic song for wedding processional? will really appreciate it.
J. S. Bach wasn't Catholic, so I don't know if it would be allowed, but "Jesu Joy of Man's Desiring" is the loveliest piece of music I can think of.
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he: and in fact the song "here comes the bride ... "
my mind: "tu tu tu tuuu... "
i want an elaborate VARY traditional wedding !!!
Can Catholics remarry if a spouse dies? And if so, what happens in heaven when the two wives meet?
Yes once the spouse dies the covenant of marriage is over. Marriages do not exist as they do on earth. Read the Gospel when the Jewish leaders try to trick Jesus about a woman marrying 7 brothers after each die and what happens to them all in heaven.
"It is not good for a man to be alone" Gen 2: 18-24.... AMEN!!!
Actually…it’s wonderful being alone. So so peaceful and quiet.
This makes me feel better about not having many girl friends. XD
I am starting precana soon at an FSSP parish - I never wanted a bridal party . The one tradition I think I’ll keep is the not seeing eachother before the wedding ceremony day off and the white dress lol
In all the weddings I've seen in Chile, the groom's father and the bride's mother walk down the aisle together first, then the groom walks down with his mother, and at last, the bride walks down with her father. I don't know if it is an old tradition or not.
A few years ago, my oldest friend, my Latin teacher from my Catholic high school was dying of a progressive lung disease. His boyfriend of many decades had been diagnosed with lymphoma but had a longer life expectancy. They asked me if they should marry do that the one with the longer life expectancy could continue taking care of his partner until death so that the partner with lymphoma wouldn’t be homeless. I said “of course.”.
Father proud to see you are ok
Great! Thank you!
I really admires wedding and I need to do, but at a Times my partner doesn't want to start live with Christ as a family in wedding, but I am still praying God to give me the one who also need the wedding.
I can't say with certainty why the act of "giving away" began but it could have been the transferring of spiritual covering from the bride's father to the husband.
Ave María will be better instead of here comes thebride??
It's better, but I'm still not sure if it's the most appropriate of songs. The hymn would best fit the sacrament if it spoke of covenant, God's love and commitment, and giving glory to God.
@@BreakingInTheHabit which hymn?
This video actually makes me happy to be coming back to the church. I do need advice tho @breakinginthehabit how do I get family and friends to stop pestering me about “tradition”? I think most of it is stupid anyway. I love the idea of greeting people before the marriage and then walking in together with my fiancé. I don’t care about superstitious stuff about hiding my wedding dress and all that stuff. I really don’t want to do this but family and friends are forcing me. How do I get them to understand I don’t want any of that nonsense?
If you got married since you wrote that, how did it go? Did you convince them?
I don't know where Mendelssohn's Wedding March is banned. We had it at our wedding and it's often used at weddings in my church. Perhaps it's a pronouncement by your Bishop's Conference although they're not normally renowned for good taste.
I guess that kinda ruins Jason Everts "here comes the groom" joke
I have been catholic my whole life but never understood all our ceremonies 😮😯
The priest, acting ' in the Person of Christ ' says " I join you in holy marriage, in the Name of the Father, and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen." The vows, and these words, matter.
I thought that was funny about the bridesmaids being dressed like the bride to confuse evil spirits. I thought the bridesmaids wore hideous dresses so that the bride would be the best looking one there, lol
Thank you father 🙏......
The first time I was on a catholic wedding, I was like "ok, now is when the priest says the famous movie phrase".
It never came, I was shocked, I was not even sure if they were already married (they were).
The marriage customs of the church borrow a lot from the conferratio of ancient Rome, which was normally reserved for high ranking patricians making dynastic alliances and the priesthood
most romans just lived together and said that they were together and that was enough, quite a contrast from the middle ages and what the church expects of its flock
So so young Fr Casey!! 🤣
I thought nearly the same thing. I didn’t know he had 5 year old videos. I thought maybe 2-3 yrs at most....
The phrase is from the Anglican/Episcopalian Book of Common Prayer.
Correct.
Some of these non religious customs can be adopted as spiritual, ,especially since they are such a huge part of our culture. We Christianized pagan practices and holidays in the past. We can certainly do it again for the right reasons.
I want to get married!
Great video!
I'm not religious, but my boyfriend is. Can the Catholic wedding vows be only for him and I can say what I choose?
My parents were married in a Catholic Church and they played “here comes the bride”
It's really not a serious rule or punishable offense. Some people certainly do it. The point is that the Church takes seriously its liturgy and does not want our prayer to express something that we actually don't believe.
We also had it at our wedding. We discussed all our musical choices with our priest and also our choice for readings and prayers of the faithful. His main goal in these discussions seemed to be reflected our life together in the ceremony a respectful and meaningful way.
What if the priest presiding over the wedding is a family member? Like the groom’s Uncle or great Uncle? Is there any kind of law forbidding a family member presiding over the wedding and if so does it make it invalid? Asking for a friend of a friend who needs prayers.
The phrase “ by the power invested in me “by some ministers is usually followed by the name of the state. It usually doesn’t have to do with the church.
What are you going to do with Orthodox weddings ,also sacraments, in which no vows are exchanged?
I was about to
That what father said in the first minute or so is from movies not not really from the church.
Baby Father Casey 😁
I officiate grandeous wedding but my own wedding was so simple without all these elements and entourages.
Brilliant... excellently explained.😘
It could be said that those "traditions" come from protestants. This alone should inform catholics as to what to do with those "traditons".
I agree
Agreed.
There are no bridesmades in europe at weddings....
There are in the UK, or more specifically England. I've never been to a wedding where there isn't at least one, and I go to a lot. I used to sing in a church Choir and now I work for the church full-time. Maybe it's an RC thing not to have them in Europe. I've seen them in RC Churches in England as well as Anglican ones.
@@elton1981 Maid of Honor and Bestman are common as they serve as "independent" witnesses. But not more people, in fact, flower girls / ring bearers are often involved only when there are younger children in close families or friends. (Exempt nobility weddings or weddings in the "financial nobility") Often rituals mix or shift around a wedding. For a long time it was customary in Germany to celebrate the "Polterabend" on the evening before the wedding day in order to break with porcelain; a) to banish evil spirits, b) to test the good cooperation of the bride and groom (to get rid of the broken pieces together). Meanwhile, this evening moves to the weekend before the wedding or is replaced by individual farewell ceremonies of Bachelor/Bachelorette life.
In Perú, USUALLY, the mother of the groom and the father of the bride stay with them the whole ceremony. Are considered to be "the godmother and godfather" of the couple and the only one who can intervene in case of conflicts during the marriage,
The music to here comes the bride is Wagners Marriage of Siegfried. A very pagon story.
expensive weddings increase the likelihood of divorce
Keep it simple ❤️🙏
You didn't mention getting married in church because of the size or location and not ever attending church afterwards or ever.
I want to meet religious brothers in a monastery. They seem interesting to talk to. But I'm a girl. Is that okay?
Monasteries often allow people to go on retreats and interact with the monks. Some monasteries have mass open to the public or offer spiritual direction. See if there is a monastery near you, and maybe they have ways for you to visit. You being a girl should not be a deterrent. Peace and good.
You should approach them only in neccessary matters.