Only video on UA-cam, explaining without judgement, the depth on why is critical to move and never be involved with a married person. That should be good enough for everyone to understand that at the end of the day, it's hurt like hell to be an option or used. Thank you coach
Tell me about it. It's been 9 months and she hasn't reached out and said in the first few months to move on and she doesn't feel the spark anymore and. I broke no contact 1 time and now I'm on 82 days no contact. It sux, I hope she comes back someday.
4 years with my x and I never felt this about anyone, funny part is I probably would take her back if she came in to my life even after all the heart break and pain she caused me. When we broke up I couldn’t accept it and didn’t know about NC. I tried for months to get her back. First she was nice then she became angry then she said to just move on. I broke no contact like 4 months ago and she eventually stopped responding to me and said she went back to her Husband and wanted to work things out with him for the sake of the kids. I told her I will treat her kids like my own . But she didn’t care.
Wondering if you could revisit this topic again Coach lee, only if there is any additional information to add. I watch all your videos but this one is most tied to my situation. Thanks for all your advice. You truly help people
I’m a man and in this exact situation as you described. I must have said wow a dozen times listening to you. Feels like I lost part of me but I understand better now. Thanks for the non judgemental advice
Such a eye opening video. I’ve been caught in this mess and this is so accurate to everything that goes on. It’s hard to move on but that is the only option
This is not who you are, this is something that happened to you...you can put this behind you after you grieve for your loss...you can go forward with what you have learned and makea happy life because living well really is the best revenge...I wish you every happiness...
this really hits home, like its my warning to leave! im crazy in love with a married woman......what was supposed to be a one time hook up has now turned into a 6 year undercover relationship......a couple years ago she told me she loved me, I was very surprised at first but relieved at the same time because I felt the same way. We're both 41, and she's been with this guy since she was 18. its a loveless and sexless (so she says) marriage. She told me she has never loved or had such a connection with a man like she does with me, and the sex is BEYOND amazing between us......crazy passion unlike either one of us has ever experienced. As good as this is goin and feels.....deep down I feel like im setting myself up for heart break, even though she swears I'm the man she wants to be with and NEEDS in her life. I know I need to walk away but its just so hard when the two of you have 6 year history ( yes I know she has 20 something years with him) and such a powerful connection.....
danoles2k. I read your story, and I've heard it before! I believe she does love you, but not the way she loves her husband. Everything is wonderful, and sex is Amazing. I believe she needs you for "different" reasons, for example, fulfillment. Her husband does not give her that. I know it's hard to accept, but she will not leave him. It's up to you if you want to spend your life with a married woman. I wish you the best of luck, but I want to say one more thing. Be careful, and take care of your Heart.
@@inge3819 I'm thinking that I wouldn't want anyone who would use me married or not Pull yourselves together and know YOUR value Forgive and move on. Remember that users are also LIARS.
Brenda Roberts Thanks for your comment, I told him what I wanted, so at least I stood up for myself but since this was the first time in my life that I did this, it was so difficult.
inges_toys inges_toys i am a believer and believe God is forgiving, but one thing i am sure of is God did not ask us to put ourselves in this situation. Actually the way i see it ‘ he got me out of this mess’ - anyways i am a fire sign - Aries - and tend to move forward and let go easily. Although this was not easy for me to let go, but i managed after a while and after consistent determination which i believe everyone can do.
Getting involved with a married person is all about your lack of self esteem … ask why you should settle for less than what you deserve … you are being used this married person is using you to fulfill their unmet needs … a relationship built on lies and deception is doomed for failure … learn to love yourself enough and demand love and respect from all your partners
Not easy to cover such a taboo subject like this one. But you covered it well and said what many have experienced yet have no direction when it happens. You're the best
I am a widow. I was made to believe that I was loved and really cared for by this married man. 3 days ago he dumped me and told me he cannot leave his family. I was devastated. I feel so ashamed of myself for believing what he used to tell me...that I am the one he truly loves, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and that he wants to grow old with me. It was all a lie. I am hurting and I am depressed.
Sis, I'm with you. I am a widow as well And I was duped by the Married guy that I got involved with. He told me he was divorced! After I found out he was married, He hung around me a couple of months before he finally went back to his married life and dumped me. I am a woman of faith and I do believe the Bible when it says that God makes provisions for the widows.. I feel sorry for his wife but that's her issue. I'm just glad that God gave me a way of escape and I pray God will heal you & your pain as well.🙏🙏🦋
I was dumped a month ago (both of us are married). I tried to end it numerous times and he wouldn’t leave me alone. I finally took him back and he dumped me after seeing him again (we live 1000 miles apart). Horrible situation and I’m ashamed of myself for even starting it. Sometimes there are worse things than being lonely.
You describe my situation exactly. Thank you. I am devastated been in agony over the break up was so in love with this married man . He is fine pretty much
I wish wish wish I had seen this video weeks ago before HE dumped me and I could have just ended it myself and not feel the terrible pain of being dumped by someone. This is THE BEST video ever and I will NEVER get involved with a married man ever again.
How did your situation turned? I do ME at this point. I dumped him only to reach out 2 days later where he dumped me...sorta of power play/control gain move. Since then we haven't spoken but he has my house key, obviously keeps it for control and as a reason for me to contact him.
Its Terrible dating a married man it never works out dont do It im glad I ran across this video im planning on ending my situation with a married man Screw him Move On His Controlling wife Can have him
@@mattiereed4283 run as fast as you can. It ended for me 9 months ago and I have never looked back. The slime bucket tried to come back like a boomerang and I kicked him to the curb, ZERO desire to ever be involved with him again, I moved on to another person who was single.
I do believe he will be back. Also I quit on this so called relationship just because after a while I finally got it, it's a dead end and I deserve a million times better. I will be doing no contact because I know this way I will heal in no time. Hopefully he won't reach out. After binging on your videos I feel soooooooo good!!! ;)
He always reaches out and its the same old cycle again. I don't want to be a gap filler, but the emotional control over me is far too great. And some how we have an amazing chemistry between us, especially in bed. But I think I need to put my foot down now... I can't do this anymore...it's too self degrading!
@@RR-lx7ll i feel the same way the difference between us we never had sex its more on emotional connection its been on and off for 10 or 9 years now....i hope il find the courage to end it now.
@@panggingelvas1449 You will. I did, though it was extremely difficult. But I said NO and though he made ways to come back, I stood by my NO. But even now, I get teary when I listen to our favourite song or pass by our favorite restaurant. But I can deal with it.
@@RR-lx7ll just thinking about it hurt so much..i cant talk about it even with my friends coz the discremanation in my society is different and we dont have divorce here so we dont really have a chance to be together....you were right my dear its going to be extremely difficult im sure with coz you see hs the only one who can make me truely happy....he's steering my emotion i cant decide if il give it a try to be real yet on the other side the moral, the self love and respect also have weight...he came back recently and his putting much effort and even lower his guard on emotional level much deeper level...its kinda like lets give it a try for the last time will see if its going to be a happy ending or a sad ending....
No ,I don’t feel that I was dumped by him because it was my choice to let him go . I know he do loves me too but he also loves his family and I don’t want to compete with those things I don’t gonna win . This is not so connected to this at all but I just want to express my feelings as of now . I’m happy for him even it still hurts me . I know that we don’t have any future because he won’t feel safe with me compared to his wife whom he knew for many years . He’s happiness is what I always wish . Thank you for the video that you uploaded !
I can confirm, to the best of my personal experience, that your analysis is sound and complete. I will only add one thing: a married woman might also fill those areas with OTHER lovers available to her: "you disappeared? Well, let me call x, y..and so on". Is any worse case thinkable?This way the impact of your absence on her life will be approaching to 0. Still, you have no best option than stop any contact. Sad, but you totally are on the losing side of the game. On the other hand, destroying "the big picture" you had of her may be easier and of significant help.
I've seen situations where the person does no contact on them and they get another side chick while still keep their wife. They cannot help having another person on the side besides their wife.
The worst is how good she makes me feel and how I can be myself around her and the chemistry seems amazing but we always go back to the discussion of me wanting more and her not leaving her husband. The emotional carousel is making me crazy
I'm almost out of this situation and it's terrible. Trying to move forward is really tough when geographically you're close. I'll never let myself get tricked into a relationship like this again. Yes I'm single.
This is the first video of it's kind I find and I thank you so much for it. I went no contact when she broke up with me and went as far as deleting my FB, Messenger, and stopped going to places she frequented. Is like I disappeared from the face of the earth and what I did was start working on myself. I know she still lives with him, but whether the marriage will last for the rest of their lives, is unlikely. I just want to hear from you if I did the right thing by completely erasing myself from her life when she broke up with me. It still hurts, but I been doing so many things to work on myself and try to move on. I just wish I knew if she misses me like I miss her. We went out for 1 year, but knew each other for about 4 years, but only as friends. She showed like one day she would be serious with me, but when they started talking about divorce and lost her full time job, she started backing off and asked me for space. One week later, she texted me that it was over, but wanted to still be friends. I did not respond and erased myself completely.
You are doing the right thing - Keep going Yes we are all human - unless some mental issue - the woman will be missing you . But not enough to drop everything to be with you. . Keep doing what your doing - Move on ....
Be you bro.. just pray for her if you really love her.. move on with kind heart.. if you miss her just think she's happy what she made.. so accept that and respect her.. god bless you bro
I’m in the exact situation 4 years later and I’m beginning to accept it but it hurts so bad. I know it won’t work out, I’m just left so puzzled and in pain that someone could just use me like that, and that I allowed my self to be used. Fml
I just broke up. I thought mine was single like me and divorced with kids. After my ex husband cheated on me I vowed never to be that other woman and invade another woman’s family, but somehow I’d been hoodwinked into this role. Started to get suspicious why he never invited me to his place, he’d only text, never phone, we never went out, he wanted to take things epically slow, but the time we were together was amazing but eventually I realised what was going on. He’s still living with one child and the mother although they’re not married. I feel so deeply hurt I’ve had no choice but to walk away. I didn’t sign up for that.
Most times relationships are non fulfilling because people stop making an effort. If two people got married/ long term the chances are there was high compatibility at one point.
This was very helpful, thank you ! Yiu confirmed my own thought regarding a situationship a married man is trying to lure me into. I told him that I don't share and if he wants me he should get divorced.
It's very convenient for him to have two sources of fulfilment, free of charge. In another word, he is using you for his self ambition. Nice passion at the beginning, but it fades, and then he goes back to his spouse. But the poor spouse is not getting a good deal either. Such illusion for a lover
@@Amylynnklh900 no. it doesnt worth it dear. it will backfire to you and you will be deemed as the villain of the situation. just step away. you may not find another one but i can tell you for sure he is not the one for you.
Wow, this is incredibly similar with what happened to me. She left me, after begging I went NC and since 40 days I havent contacted nor heard back from her.
Coach Lee, you need to do a video on a person who is separated but on the brink of finalizing their divorce only to break up with you. Tell us does no contact with that situation works? Or, do a video on how to have a person claiming to be in the middle of divorce show proof its the fact.
Lee you are spot on.. I dated a married guy he was still with his wife they had no children. I was not in a sexual relationship but he used to do other sexual things outside the body. He bought .e a sex toy I was disgusted and gave it back to him and went no contact. Yes what he was ot getting from his marriage he was filling the void with me. He only came in two evening a week. I was totally brainwashed no excuses that is what happened. Never ever again.
Damm right on point i like this girl but i have to let her go its affectimg all areas of my life and she will never leave her boyfriend for me good advice its time for me to move on
Shes married, and after 2 years, dumped me, the pain is intense, I cant eat or sleep, I hurt so badly, never thought I could cry for days, and my jobs falling apart on top of it, omg, what a huge mistake....😭😭
This probably wont make you feel any better but know you're not alone. I'm in a very similar situation right now. It's absolutely gut wrenching. The pain is worse than any relationship I had with a single woman. I dont know what i was thinking. This has been going on for 2 years.
I learned this the hard way. I wish I knew this ahead of time. We were exclusive and suddenly she broke up with me. I wasn't sure if no contact would work... I'm glad to have this verified. Well I'm pretty SOL
The guy I dated wasn't married and said he was single and that he was done with his ex. Turns out I was his rebound and eventually secretly started seeing her again once she was available. He kind of withdrew and I found out they were back to together one morning when I received a random text msg from an unkown number. The message advised " that I stop talking to this guy". I was hurt, I realized it was his ex and that was her way of letting me know she was back in the picture as he never did. It was kind of what coach said, he just wanted to keep me orbiting just in case. He then ghosted me once he knew that I knew he was back with the ex. It was very painful, I dated this person for a year and in the end I got nothing but lies and ghosted. Coaches advice was spot on. The person that has someone is playing a different game. So even if they aren't married please do your research and make sure that the person you are seeing has fully healed and moved on from the ex.
Coach Lee I Wouldn’t Mind Having U In All Areas That U So Gracefully & Honestly Speak Of Ur A Sweetheart Thank U 🙏 For Ur Caring Kind Advice😇 MAY MY LORD GOD BLESS U❤🌹DIMONTE ✊🏻🤗
I am in this situation right now.I barely find it so hard to move-on. We're communicating, and we're doing good.His telling me his missing me a lot.but since covid lockdown that his wife is again w/him, again. Then so suddenly he didn't communicate.., it's been 1 & a half month already and he didn't evwn texted me..and i doing that no contact also.for i knew his married. I need to show him tjat i still value myself..though it hurts a lot.i still respect his discision...though i am missing him a lot😥I need to stand firm and strong .. Thank u for your video lee..i been looking for this. ❤😥
The attached/married guy keeps a safety net going with his Wife/Partner. Sadly, the single person has usually no safety net. Ghosting would really not hurt the attached/married person as they just have their legal partner to fall back on.
I was so pained that I had to call his wife to expose him when I noticed he became distant... I regretted calling her though. I begged him for 3 weeks but he refused said he didn't trust me more
I did the same thing with my co worker I had my friend tell his wife in a message. Me and him didn’t talk for 4 months, I felt guilty and told his friend I needed to say sorry. The friend told him and he actually told me to text him and no need for an apology he knows what he did and “promised” then we started the affair again with everyone at work knowing. Now we’re trying to be friends considering it’s not going anywhere still
50% of marriages end up in divorce today. Not everyone marries because of love and people don't wanna stay in unhappy marriages forever. Just saying never say never, there's always a chance.
Fortunately, I have worked through a lot of the pain process and he has told me he doesn't love me, never said it, that he is best not to come and see me again for my sake and II should be free - so easy for him after 2.5 years on and off!!! I don't know if he is married for sure, as he wouldn't tell me but I only ever saw him at lunchtime or late arvo never at night (I am not stupid) he wouldn't tell me anything about his life either so I could likely never affect his other life - how sad :-( I fell for him regardless which is bad I know but you can't control who you fall for - he used to say so many things like don't fall for me, don't get attached, don't love me etc etc I just dismissed it - he was being honest cruelly so in retrospect!!!
You are so right about being a married man's mistress is filling a role in a married man's life. Especially the married traveling businessman who needs you for sexual gratification during lonely nights while he is on the road.
Good luck 💕it's not easy road , allow yourself to go through everything good and bad feelings during this times,I'm going on week 10 walking away and I still feel crap, Christmas passed with no wishes sucked big time
What if the mistress dumps the married person and the married person is heartbroken because he was genuine in the relationship and whats the mistress back and actually build. Future with them Will no contact work?
DON'T go back to them! At the end of the day they are going to stay married and you'll just be the person to fill the voids in their life. Everybody deserves a full relationship, not half of one
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she needed a honey moon period and it faded. now that shes not horny anymore you are of any use. her stable caring and loving husband is an asset especially if she has kids. if she loved you she d be with you right now.
Married woman tried to get divorced for me after 3 year affair but I told her no. Took her too long so I knew it would t be healthy relationship. Don’t start relationships with women who say they are “separated “
Noooo smh... 😔💔 i lost hope now. For years she did this to me. She not married but she does have 2 kids for him. They dont live wit each other but she's scared of him cause he threatens her. I don't know what to do now after watching this.. im gonna keep NC going an just try an move on. 💔
Had a relationship with a woman in an open marriage. We fell in love. Head over heels for one another. Her husband found out about the “feelings” but she never admitted to him about us being “in love.” He made her cut off all contact. I know she loved me. She didn’t want the stigma of divorce. Or shame from friends and family. Just like that she was gone. She told me if she didn’t try and make it work with him she wouldn’t never be able to live with herself. I’m so broken right now. And I know this had disaster written on it from the start
Can I ask how you are doing now. Im actually going through this at the moment. It isnt fully over but I feel like its going to be. Same as you I met this woman and we basically had a soul connection right away. We both developed feelings and because I was the first guy she had been with in their open relationship when she told her husband she had been sleeping with someone he flipped and said they probably shouldn't do it anymore. That was a few days ago so I have no idea where this will land but I just have a feeling its going to end as these things usually dont go well for the 3rd person. It probably would anyway in the long run. Im curious how you have dealt with this situation? Are you doing better? I hope so because my stomach is in knots just at the thought of her having to leave my life forever.
@@johnscuderi1614 People usually have affairs with no intention of leaving their spouse. Part of the excitement is sneaking around . Once they get caught and the husband threatens divorce, she will stop the affair. Is she financially independent? Do you make as much or more money than her husband? Let’s figure this out.
Coach lee. He left her for me and divorced her. They were married for 19 years. They still live in the house together as it is up for sale and has not sold. They live in the same house for financial reasons and I trusted that because they did divorced. He went through with the divorce for us to be together. Now he has dumped me saying that he needs to work on himself as he never did that after divorcing her. He wants to find the things that make him happy. He hasn't been happy in so long he said. Was I just a rebound or did he really care? I thought he did and now he completely pulled away. He told me on a Friday night he loved me and called me the next day to say he was not in love with me. I'm trying the no contact and it is very hard. I never thought this would end.
hi coach lee, thank u so much for all these amazing advice. it's helping me to get through my situation right now. although i'm not sure of where to write my comment to get a good advice cuz my situation is so diff from the rest. my bf left me last thurs. he is an arab, and part of their tradition is the "arranged marriage" which they can't refuse especially if the arranged was made by their mother. chances are, their family will not accept him as part of them if he disagree. he doesn't want to get married. he told me he doesn't want to lose me but he also doesn't want to lose his mother. he said her mom told her that if he doesn't marry his 1st cousin, he will be no longer be accepted as his son. being the youngest son, i know how difficult his situation is right now. he told me he doesn't even sleep in their house. sometimes in the park cuz his mother always asked him to drive the girl going to their house & going to the girl house. i love him so much, but i can't do anything about it. im from diff race, & i don't think that his family will accept me. last thurs we were together, his mom called him to pick the girl again. he said he will stay with me. i told him i am letting him go to his mom, its really hard but i can't do anything. he told me he will go, then the situation get weird. he run & i run after him until i fell down the stairs. i was begging him to stay. i even broke my leg. he get back to my room & trying to call emergency but i said no. what he did is he run again & leave me with my broken leg & bruises. i block him from whatsapp after i sent him a bit of a msg. Just yesterday i found out he blocked me from whatsapp & ig. until now i haven't heard from him. i want to do the NC but problem is we work at the same company. I know some ppl here will tell me to move on or some will say something bout the traditions, pls ppl i just want some support because what i am going through now is just not that easy. i don't think NC will work for me. his wedding is scheduled Jan 2, 2019. and i dont have enough time. Please coach help me out.. i don't know what to do.
Wow, you are awesome, I wish i watched this video before 😪 I wouldn't live all that painful situation, I "dated" my ex boyfriend while he was in a relationship (I'm not proud of that and i would never recommend to do it because it ends awful) , he always said he was miserable, unhappy, and that he was just waiting the right time to leave his gf, and be with me again, suddenly he just "broke up" with me by phone call, said he was sorry but he made his decision (dumping me), after that he blocked me from every social media, and six months after the dumping a friend in common told me that he got married, with obviously the same girl he was "trying" to leave. I was frustrated, angry, but never reached out to him again and not planning to, I'm just moving on, I finally see that I'm not a second option, that he is a horrible person, and now i know what to do if he ever reaches out, just tell him to f* off (english is not my first language, sorry for grammar mistakes) love your channel!
Ok so is no contact still the right move here? I’ve been at it since she said she was staying with him in December, she used to constantly talk about he’s abusive and she hates this guy. I’m not obsessing or chasing, but I do genuinely have feelings for her that just don’t seem to exist when I’m trying to see someone else. I know the healthy thing in the long run is to cut and run, but something inside us keeps us both coming towards eachother. Call that a delusion or wishful thinking, call it love, call it whatever you like, I can’t stop it. NC is where I live now, she recently started following me on snap so I stopped posting, I’m not sure what any of it means. Soo many questions and zero answers.
@@fj4731 I am talking to my ex again after 90 days, going very slow and just getting to know eachother again. Might not go anywhere, but I feel I’m at least in control of my own feelings now.
@@fj4731 I completely understand and feel your pain. To be honest, I was in the same situation, if she’s married and not talking to you unless she needs something or is upset with her husband, you are being used. Moving on (at least emotionally for yourself) is the best thing you can do. I know it’s hard, but if you tell yourself you can do it all day long, you’ll eventually believe yourself. It sucks, but not all flowers bloom in life the way we want them to and nothing we can do or say will change that. Sorry man, I wish you the absolute best, anything is better than living the pain every day.
Im in this situation. Never heard from her for 1.5 months now. We initially agreed to not fall inlove but it was unavoidable. SHe suddenly broke up with me without clear explanation. It was tough
Tell me about it. It's been 9 months and she hasn't reached out and said in the first few months to move on and she doesn't feel the spark anymore and. I broke no contact 1 time and now I'm on 82 days no contact. It sux, I hope she comes back someday.
Actually, the no-contact technique works effectively on the engaged or married couples just to get them back as a friend and maybe only as a friend and nothing more.
As Lee said:. I SERVE A PURPOSE. I think I have fullfilled him, I think I have stopped him from yelling at his wife and being difficult to live with in the family home...hence why he needs me ...but the wife seems to be O.K with it as he's eldest kids.
Only video on UA-cam, explaining without judgement, the depth on why is critical to move and never be involved with a married person. That should be good enough for everyone to understand that at the end of the day, it's hurt like hell to be an option or used. Thank you coach
This must be the only video on UA-cam on this exact subject - thank you so much 🙏🏻
so true
Really!
The pain is unbearable. Thank you for this nonjudgmental dose of rationality.
I know, I’m going through it myself right now. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worse enemy
@@mocha1886 me too :(
Tell me about it. It's been 9 months and she hasn't reached out and said in the first few months to move on and she doesn't feel the spark anymore and. I broke no contact 1 time and now I'm on 82 days no contact. It sux, I hope she comes back someday.
@@kalsapower this is the worst pain ive ever felt. Nothing i try works :(
4 years with my x and I never felt this about anyone, funny part is I probably would take her back if she came in to my life even after all the heart break and pain she caused me. When we broke up I couldn’t accept it and didn’t know about NC. I tried for months to get her back. First she was nice then she became angry then she said to just move on. I broke no contact like 4 months ago and she eventually stopped responding to me and said she went back to her Husband and wanted to work things out with him for the sake of the kids. I told her I will treat her kids like my own . But she didn’t care.
This coach is highly intelligent and honest.
Wondering if you could revisit this topic again Coach lee, only if there is any additional information to add. I watch all your videos but this one is most tied to my situation. Thanks for all your advice. You truly help people
I’m a man and in this exact situation as you described. I must have said wow a dozen times listening to you. Feels like I lost part of me but I understand better now. Thanks for the non judgemental advice
Thank you so much for treating this subject with dignity and no judgment. It was very helpful.
Thank you for making this video without judgement. Life is complicated, no matter how much others might have their opinions.
Yes, this is a rare video. Topic not discussed by other coaches. Very good points made.Thank you, Mr Lee.
Such a eye opening video. I’ve been caught in this mess and this is so accurate to everything that goes on. It’s hard to move on but that is the only option
How long did it take you to get over you AP
This is not who you are, this is something that happened to you...you can put this behind you after you grieve for your loss...you can go forward with what you have learned and makea happy life because living well really is the best revenge...I wish you every happiness...
this really hits home, like its my warning to leave! im crazy in love with a married woman......what was supposed to be a one time hook up has now turned into a 6 year undercover relationship......a couple years ago she told me she loved me, I was very surprised at first but relieved at the same time because I felt the same way. We're both 41, and she's been with this guy since she was 18. its a loveless and sexless (so she says) marriage. She told me she has never loved or had such a connection with a man like she does with me, and the sex is BEYOND amazing between us......crazy passion unlike either one of us has ever experienced. As good as this is goin and feels.....deep down I feel like im setting myself up for heart break, even though she swears I'm the man she wants to be with and NEEDS in her life. I know I need to walk away but its just so hard when the two of you have 6 year history ( yes I know she has 20 something years with him) and such a powerful connection.....
danoles2k. I read your story, and I've heard it before! I believe she does love you, but not the way she loves her husband. Everything is wonderful, and sex is Amazing. I believe she needs you for "different" reasons, for example, fulfillment. Her husband does not give her that. I know it's hard to accept, but she will not leave him. It's up to you if you want to spend your life with a married woman.
I wish you the best of luck, but I want to say one more thing. Be careful, and take care of your Heart.
Get boundaries. If She really wanted you She would dump her husband. Listem to the video until it gets on your mind. Speaking from experience...
I think we commonly refer to this as "using" someone.
Yes, I agree.
That is what i felt when we decided to split and not see each other again
@@inge3819 I'm thinking that I wouldn't want anyone who would use me married or not
Pull yourselves together and know YOUR value
Forgive and move on. Remember that users are also LIARS.
Brenda Roberts Thanks for your comment, I told him what I wanted, so at least I stood up for myself but since this was the first time in my life that I did this, it was so difficult.
inges_toys inges_toys i am a believer and believe God is forgiving, but one thing i am sure of is God did not ask us to put ourselves in this situation. Actually the way i see it ‘ he got me out of this mess’ - anyways i am a fire sign - Aries - and tend to move forward and let go easily. Although this was not easy for me to let go, but i managed after a while and after consistent determination which i believe everyone can do.
Getting involved with a married person is all about your lack of self esteem … ask why you should settle for less than what you deserve … you are being used this married person is using you to fulfill their unmet needs … a relationship built on lies and deception is doomed for failure … learn to love yourself enough and demand love and respect from all your partners
Not easy to cover such a taboo subject like this one. But you covered it well and said what many have experienced yet have no direction when it happens. You're the best
This is the truth. A man knows other men!
@Rylin Gough Yep, my spouse having her fun now, on my dime. LOL.
I am a widow. I was made to believe that I was loved and really cared for by this married man. 3 days ago he dumped me and told me he cannot leave his family. I was devastated. I feel so ashamed of myself for believing what he used to tell me...that I am the one he truly loves, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and that he wants to grow old with me. It was all a lie. I am hurting and I am depressed.
Everything he told you was a lie.fprgive yourself ,never settle for a married man and move on.good luck!
I love u
Really
I like u I'm alone 🌹❤❤😍👧👧🌹
Sis, I'm with you. I am a widow as well And I was duped by the Married guy that I got involved with. He told me he was divorced! After I found out he was married, He hung around me a couple of months before he finally went back to his married life and dumped me. I am a woman of faith and I do believe the Bible when it says that God makes provisions for the widows.. I feel sorry for his wife but that's her issue. I'm just glad that God gave me a way of escape and I pray God will heal you & your pain as well.🙏🙏🦋
Read " Mistresses Survival Handbook"
Problem is that unmarried men are users too
I was dumped a month ago (both of us are married). I tried to end it numerous times and he wouldn’t leave me alone. I finally took him back and he dumped me after seeing him again (we live 1000 miles apart). Horrible situation and I’m ashamed of myself for even starting it. Sometimes there are worse things than being lonely.
Wow! Just Wow! Most brilliant words ive heard in a 13 minute time span. Thanks Coach Lee!
You describe my situation exactly. Thank you. I am devastated been in agony over the break up was so in love with this married man . He is fine pretty much
I wish wish wish I had seen this video weeks ago before HE dumped me and I could have just ended it myself and not feel the terrible pain of being dumped by someone. This is THE BEST video ever and I will NEVER get involved with a married man ever again.
How did your situation turned? I do ME at this point. I dumped him only to reach out 2 days later where he dumped me...sorta of power play/control gain move. Since then we haven't spoken but he has my house key, obviously keeps it for control and as a reason for me to contact him.
Its Terrible dating a married man it never works out dont do It im glad I ran across this video im planning on ending my situation with a married man Screw him Move On His Controlling wife Can have him
Emergency Sex
@@mattiereed4283 this boat sailed about 9 months ago. Doesn’t even apply to me any longer.
@@mattiereed4283 run as fast as you can. It ended for me 9 months ago and I have never looked back. The slime bucket tried to come back like a boomerang and I kicked him to the curb, ZERO desire to ever be involved with him again, I moved on to another person who was single.
I wish i heard this 2 years ago. But even if i heard it 2 years ago, I wouldn’t have believed you. Had to die to believe it.. how sad
This is the most realest video on this subject matter on UA-cam....loved it
I've listened to this several times. So VERY TRUE but getting it to "sink in so I can stop the cycle" is a little harder. Thank you.
Basically, a marriage is like pair of matching shoes for one pair of feet. There's no shoe for a third foot.
Dont allow yourself to be used
I do believe he will be back. Also I quit on this so called relationship just because after a while I finally got it, it's a dead end and I deserve a million times better. I will be doing no contact because I know this way I will heal in no time. Hopefully he won't reach out. After binging on your videos I feel soooooooo good!!! ;)
He always reaches out and its the same old cycle again. I don't want to be a gap filler, but the emotional control over me is far too great. And some how we have an amazing chemistry between us, especially in bed. But I think I need to put my foot down now... I can't do this anymore...it's too self degrading!
@@RR-lx7ll i feel the same way the difference between us we never had sex its more on emotional connection its been on and off for 10 or 9 years now....i hope il find the courage to end it now.
@@panggingelvas1449 You will. I did, though it was extremely difficult. But I said NO and though he made ways to come back, I stood by my NO. But even now, I get teary when I listen to our favourite song or pass by our favorite restaurant. But I can deal with it.
@@RR-lx7ll just thinking about it hurt so much..i cant talk about it even with my friends coz the discremanation in my society is different and we dont have divorce here so we dont really have a chance to be together....you were right my dear its going to be extremely difficult im sure with coz you see hs the only one who can make me truely happy....he's steering my emotion i cant decide if il give it a try to be real yet on the other side the moral, the self love and respect also have weight...he came back recently and his putting much effort and even lower his guard on emotional level much deeper level...its kinda like lets give it a try for the last time will see if its going to be a happy ending or a sad ending....
@@panggingelvas1449any news?
No ,I don’t feel that I was dumped by him because it was my choice to let him go . I know he do loves me too but he also loves his family and I don’t want to compete with those things I don’t gonna win . This is not so connected to this at all but I just want to express my feelings as of now . I’m happy for him even it still hurts me . I know that we don’t have any future because he won’t feel safe with me compared to his wife whom he knew for many years . He’s happiness is what I always wish .
Thank you for the video that you uploaded !
What kind of relationship can you expect with a cheater? they will just cheat on you once they get bored.
THIS IS VERY TRUE!!!!
Absolutely true it happened to me
Agreed!
Exactly.
Hi, Lee, I totally get it
And it's not fair that he is only going to feel a slight breeze of this. And I'm feeling the hurricane. Thanx
I got dumped by a married woman and everything you said is dead on thank you I love all of your videos actually
I can confirm, to the best of my personal experience, that your analysis is sound and complete. I will only add one thing: a married woman might also fill those areas with OTHER lovers available to her: "you disappeared? Well, let me call x, y..and so on". Is any worse case thinkable?This way the impact of your absence on her life will be approaching to 0. Still, you have no best option than stop any contact. Sad, but you totally are on the losing side of the game. On the other hand, destroying "the big picture" you had of her may be easier and of significant help.
I've seen situations where the person does no contact on them and they get another side chick while still keep their wife. They cannot help having another person on the side besides their wife.
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so in this case, my he has everything, should I message his wife and her family about this dirty cheat?
Obviously the married individual has way more options and backup than their single counterpart …. that’s called a RAW DEAL from where I’m from.
The worst is how good she makes me feel and how I can be myself around her and the chemistry seems amazing but we always go back to the discussion of me wanting more and her not leaving her husband. The emotional carousel is making me crazy
Living with a man in marriage makes her an expert at making you feel good and knowing what makes you tick.
You're in powerless position, I was twice. It was horrible...
… Oh .. I feel ya here
I'm almost out of this situation and it's terrible. Trying to move forward is really tough when geographically you're close. I'll never let myself get tricked into a relationship like this again. Yes I'm single.
This is the first video of it's kind I find and I thank you so much for it. I went no contact when she broke up with me and went as far as deleting my FB, Messenger, and stopped going to places she frequented. Is like I disappeared from the face of the earth and what I did was start working on myself. I know she still lives with him, but whether the marriage will last for the rest of their lives, is unlikely. I just want to hear from you if I did the right thing by completely erasing myself from her life when she broke up with me. It still hurts, but I been doing so many things to work on myself and try to move on. I just wish I knew if she misses me like I miss her. We went out for 1 year, but knew each other for about 4 years, but only as friends. She showed like one day she would be serious with me, but when they started talking about divorce and lost her full time job, she started backing off and asked me for space. One week later, she texted me that it was over, but wanted to still be friends. I did not respond and erased myself completely.
You are doing the right thing -
Keep going
Yes we are all human - unless some mental issue - the woman will be missing you . But not enough to drop everything to be with you. . Keep doing what your doing - Move on ....
Be you bro.. just pray for her if you really love her.. move on with kind heart.. if you miss her just think she's happy what she made.. so accept that and respect her.. god bless you bro
I’m in the exact situation 4 years later and I’m beginning to accept it but it hurts so bad. I know it won’t work out, I’m just left so puzzled and in pain that someone could just use me like that, and that I allowed my self to be used. Fml
I just broke up. I thought mine was single like me and divorced with kids. After my ex husband cheated on me I vowed never to be that other woman and invade another woman’s family, but somehow I’d been hoodwinked into this role. Started to get suspicious why he never invited me to his place, he’d only text, never phone, we never went out, he wanted to take things epically slow, but the time we were together was amazing but eventually I realised what was going on. He’s still living with one child and the mother although they’re not married. I feel so deeply hurt I’ve had no choice but to walk away. I didn’t sign up for that.
Stay strong. You deserve someone who is emotionally and physically available for you. You deserve to be treated better and loved.
I am alone 🌷😍❤❤
Are you better now? I knew about everything, but still got played....the pain isn't any different though....
@@richardmccouch9144 I’m curious about what happened now
No going back to any relationship that is non fulfilling!
Most times relationships are non fulfilling because people stop making an effort. If two people got married/ long term the chances are there was high compatibility at one point.
This was very helpful, thank you ! Yiu confirmed my own thought regarding a situationship a married man is trying to lure me into. I told him that I don't share and if he wants me he should get divorced.
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It's very convenient for him to have two sources of fulfilment, free of charge.
In another word, he is using you for his self ambition. Nice passion at the beginning, but it fades, and then he goes back to his spouse.
But the poor spouse is not getting a good deal either.
Such illusion for a lover
he will return to his spouse and all will pretend as nothing happened.
@@gamwsas so in this case, my he has everything, should I message his wife and her family about this dirty cheat?
@@Amylynnklh900 no. it doesnt worth it dear. it will backfire to you and you will be deemed as the villain of the situation. just step away. you may not find another one but i can tell you for sure he is not the one for you.
Wow, this is incredibly similar with what happened to me. She left me, after begging I went NC and since 40 days I havent contacted nor heard back from her.
What happened now?? Is she reached out or moved on?
I dated a guy who was going through a divorce. After one year nothing happened with his divorce. So I broke up with him.
Hi
Safe place. I needed this. Thank you.
Just don't be the 2nd option, or a dopamine dispenser for anyone. Find someone loyal.
This happened to me and I feel completely relieved!!!
I kindly request you to make more videos on this topic dumped by a married woman.
this really explained my current problem ? I am now going to ditch the woman and move on, no matter how much it hurts. Thanks !
Coach Lee, you need to do a video on a person who is separated but on the brink of finalizing their divorce only to break up with you. Tell us does no contact with that situation works? Or, do a video on how to have a person claiming to be in the middle of divorce show proof its the fact.
Lee you are spot on.. I dated a married guy he was still with his wife they had no children. I was not in a sexual relationship but he used to do other sexual things outside the body. He bought .e a sex toy I was disgusted and gave it back to him and went no contact. Yes what he was ot getting from his marriage he was filling the void with me. He only came in two evening a week. I was totally brainwashed no excuses that is what happened. Never ever again.
Damm right on point i like this girl but i have to let her go its affectimg all areas of my life and she will never leave her boyfriend for me good advice its time for me to move on
I love you coach Lee. This video has changed my life. Thanks till a million stars.
This video brings me back to reality
Shes married, and after 2 years, dumped me, the pain is intense, I cant eat or sleep, I hurt so badly, never thought I could cry for days, and my jobs falling apart on top of it, omg, what a huge mistake....😭😭
This probably wont make you feel any better but know you're not alone. I'm in a very similar situation right now. It's absolutely gut wrenching. The pain is worse than any relationship I had with a single woman. I dont know what i was thinking. This has been going on for 2 years.
You guys are fools, you knew it wouldn't end well.
I learned this the hard way. I wish I knew this ahead of time. We were exclusive and suddenly she broke up with me. I wasn't sure if no contact would work... I'm glad to have this verified. Well I'm pretty SOL
This is very helpful and informative.
The guy I dated wasn't married and said he was single and that he was done with his ex. Turns out I was his rebound and eventually secretly started seeing her again once she was available. He kind of withdrew and I found out they were back to together one morning when I received a random text msg from an unkown number. The message advised " that I stop talking to this guy". I was hurt, I realized it was his ex and that was her way of letting me know she was back in the picture as he never did. It was kind of what coach said, he just wanted to keep me orbiting just in case. He then ghosted me once he knew that I knew he was back with the ex. It was very painful, I dated this person for a year and in the end I got nothing but lies and ghosted. Coaches advice was spot on. The person that has someone is playing a different game. So even if they aren't married please do your research and make sure that the person you are seeing has fully healed and moved on from the ex.
Well done!! Excellent! You nailed it!!
Coach Lee I Wouldn’t Mind Having U In All Areas That U So Gracefully & Honestly Speak Of
Ur A Sweetheart Thank U 🙏 For Ur Caring Kind Advice😇
MAY MY LORD GOD BLESS U❤🌹DIMONTE ✊🏻🤗
I also struggle 9 month already, feel like I died, everything hurts.
Actually he said I was sprinkles on the cake....whatever that means. Never again. And it's only been two weeks. Thank you.
Hurl a slipper on his face and say at least u are sprinkles u are worth a slipper
My god.....so glad I found this. It explains so much. It has also made me realize....would this then happen to me?
I am in this situation right now.I barely find it so hard to move-on.
We're communicating, and we're doing good.His telling me his missing me a lot.but since covid lockdown that his wife is again w/him, again.
Then so suddenly he didn't communicate.., it's been 1 & a half month already and he didn't evwn texted me..and i doing that no contact also.for i knew his married.
I need to show him tjat i still value myself..though it hurts a lot.i still respect his discision...though i am missing him a lot😥I need to stand firm and strong ..
Thank u for your video lee..i been looking for this. ❤😥
Go out and date somebody else. It will help. And pray alot.
According to many psychologists "Never fall for a married man
The attached/married guy keeps a safety net going with his Wife/Partner. Sadly, the single person has usually no safety net.
Ghosting would really not hurt the attached/married person as they just have their legal partner to fall back on.
I am so heart broken. No more. I’m gone.
I was so pained that I had to call his wife to expose him when I noticed he became distant... I regretted calling her though. I begged him for 3 weeks but he refused said he didn't trust me more
I did the same thing with my co worker I had my friend tell his wife in a message. Me and him didn’t talk for 4 months, I felt guilty and told his friend I needed to say sorry. The friend told him and he actually told me to text him and no need for an apology he knows what he did and “promised” then we started the affair again with everyone at work knowing. Now we’re trying to be friends considering it’s not going anywhere still
I keep repeating cauze its really help me. And as what i see he is the only one that i can rely on in this content
dang this exactly my situation thanks so so much for the video~
What was the outcome
@@TheRealAlove we talk every now and then but nothing more than that
@@sprinkles3960 add me on ig if you wish the_real_alove
50% of marriages end up in divorce today. Not everyone marries because of love and people don't wanna stay in unhappy marriages forever. Just saying never say never, there's always a chance.
Thanks 🙏
Always a reality.
This is a positive comment..Appreciate it ❤
And second marriages are a 75% fail rate. People take themselves with them and if they cheat that person has HUGE issues
Damn. This is my situation.
Fortunately, I have worked through a lot of the pain process and he has told me he doesn't love me, never said it, that he is best not to come and see me again for my sake and II should be free - so easy for him after 2.5 years on and off!!! I don't know if he is married for sure, as he wouldn't tell me but I only ever saw him at lunchtime or late arvo never at night (I am not stupid) he wouldn't tell me anything about his life either so I could likely never affect his other life - how sad :-( I fell for him regardless which is bad I know but you can't control who you fall for - he used to say so many things like don't fall for me, don't get attached, don't love me etc etc I just dismissed it - he was being honest cruelly so in retrospect!!!
Gosh. Thank you for talking some sense to my stupid ass brain
Thank u I badly need this I hope I can move ON 😢
Hi
You are so right about being a married man's mistress is filling a role in a married man's life. Especially the married traveling businessman who needs you for sexual gratification during lonely nights while he is on the road.
M in luv with married man from 13 years... The pain is horrible... Whenever I try brkup I fall in depression... Life is sick...
Good luck 💕it's not easy road , allow yourself to go through everything good and bad feelings during this times,I'm going on week 10 walking away and I still feel crap, Christmas passed with no wishes sucked big time
What if the mistress dumps the married person and the married person is heartbroken because he was genuine in the relationship and whats the mistress back and actually build. Future with them
Will no contact work?
If she misses you enough, yes. Basically the same rules apply.
What if both people are married
😣
Going thru that now
DON'T go back to them! At the end of the day they are going to stay married and you'll just be the person to fill the voids in their life. Everybody deserves a full relationship, not half of one
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she needed a honey moon period and it faded. now that shes not horny anymore you are of any use. her stable caring and loving husband is an asset especially if she has kids. if she loved you she d be with you right now.
Married woman tried to get divorced for me after 3 year affair but I told her no. Took her too long so I knew it would t be healthy relationship. Don’t start relationships with women who say they are “separated “
100% fml this hurts
Noooo smh... 😔💔 i lost hope now. For years she did this to me. She not married but she does have 2 kids for him. They dont live wit each other but she's scared of him cause he threatens her. I don't know what to do now after watching this.. im gonna keep NC going an just try an move on. 💔
This is tricky, I just broke up with a gf who recently got divorced, but she left the ex husband for me, I feel like I was the rebound and it sucks
Had a relationship with a woman in an open marriage. We fell in love. Head over heels for one another. Her husband found out about the “feelings” but she never admitted to him about us being “in love.” He made her cut off all contact. I know she loved me. She didn’t want the stigma of divorce. Or shame from friends and family. Just like that she was gone. She told me if she didn’t try and make it work with him she wouldn’t never be able to live with herself. I’m so broken right now. And I know this had disaster written on it from the start
Can I ask how you are doing now. Im actually going through this at the moment. It isnt fully over but I feel like its going to be. Same as you I met this woman and we basically had a soul connection right away. We both developed feelings and because I was the first guy she had been with in their open relationship when she told her husband she had been sleeping with someone he flipped and said they probably shouldn't do it anymore. That was a few days ago so I have no idea where this will land but I just have a feeling its going to end as these things usually dont go well for the 3rd person. It probably would anyway in the long run. Im curious how you have dealt with this situation? Are you doing better? I hope so because my stomach is in knots just at the thought of her having to leave my life forever.
Less than 3 % married women leave their marriege for their new lover.. Its a waste of time
@@alisaiful6717 and if they leave its even a worse deal for you
@@gamwsas Forbidden fruits alway forbidden no matter what..
@@johnscuderi1614 People usually have affairs with no intention of leaving their spouse. Part of the excitement is sneaking around . Once they get caught and the husband threatens divorce, she will stop the affair. Is she financially independent? Do you make as much or more money than her husband? Let’s figure this out.
No judgement whatsoever..
You save my life ❤
The only reason a married man dumped you was because he had found another affair partner better than you.
No.
Jennifer, I have seen that happen a couple times. They sometimes get tired of you and meet someone new.
@@A2Kaid What is the reason then?
Coach lee. He left her for me and divorced her. They were married for 19 years. They still live in the house together as it is up for sale and has not sold. They live in the same house for financial reasons and I trusted that because they did divorced. He went through with the divorce for us to be together. Now he has dumped me saying that he needs to work on himself as he never did that after divorcing her. He wants to find the things that make him happy. He hasn't been happy in so long he said. Was I just a rebound or did he really care? I thought he did and now he completely pulled away. He told me on a Friday night he loved me and called me the next day to say he was not in love with me. I'm trying the no contact and it is very hard. I never thought this would end.
He loved you, just doesn't love himself
J D How do you know this? Did I miss the signs?
KARMA
hi coach lee, thank u so much for all these amazing advice. it's helping me to get through my situation right now. although i'm not sure of where to write my comment to get a good advice cuz my situation is so diff from the rest. my bf left me last thurs. he is an arab, and part of their tradition is the "arranged marriage" which they can't refuse especially if the arranged was made by their mother. chances are, their family will not accept him as part of them if he disagree. he doesn't want to get married. he told me he doesn't want to lose me but he also doesn't want to lose his mother. he said her mom told her that if he doesn't marry his 1st cousin, he will be no longer be accepted as his son. being the youngest son, i know how difficult his situation is right now. he told me he doesn't even sleep in their house. sometimes in the park cuz his mother always asked him to drive the girl going to their house & going to the girl house. i love him so much, but i can't do anything about it. im from diff race, & i don't think that his family will accept me. last thurs we were together, his mom called him to pick the girl again. he said he will stay with me. i told him i am letting him go to his mom, its really hard but i can't do anything. he told me he will go, then the situation get weird. he run & i run after him until i fell down the stairs. i was begging him to stay. i even broke my leg. he get back to my room & trying to call emergency but i said no. what he did is he run again & leave me with my broken leg & bruises. i block him from whatsapp after i sent him a bit of a msg. Just yesterday i found out he blocked me from whatsapp & ig. until now i haven't heard from him. i want to do the NC but problem is we work at the same company. I know some ppl here will tell me to move on or some will say something bout the traditions, pls ppl i just want some support because what i am going through now is just not that easy. i don't think NC will work for me. his wedding is scheduled Jan 2, 2019. and i dont have enough time. Please coach help me out.. i don't know what to do.
What happened since then, if possible before providing some help
So heartbreaking
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I think u moved on dear
Ur well now Ryt ?
what if they are both married???? and they have no plans to leave their spouses, and are still in love for years?
He/She was never your's... it was just your turn... 😢
Wow, you are awesome, I wish i watched this video before 😪 I wouldn't live all that painful situation, I "dated" my ex boyfriend while he was in a relationship (I'm not proud of that and i would never recommend to do it because it ends awful) , he always said he was miserable, unhappy, and that he was just waiting the right time to leave his gf, and be with me again, suddenly he just "broke up" with me by phone call, said he was sorry but he made his decision (dumping me), after that he blocked me from every social media, and six months after the dumping a friend in common told me that he got married, with obviously the same girl he was "trying" to leave. I was frustrated, angry, but never reached out to him again and not planning to, I'm just moving on, I finally see that I'm not a second option, that he is a horrible person, and now i know what to do if he ever reaches out, just tell him to f* off (english is not my first language, sorry for grammar mistakes) love your channel!
Great job, don't give in ever again, the pain and shame isn't worth it at all
watch knowing the narcissist 's video -''why does a narcissist go back to EX''.
Coach Lee thank you for opening my eyes..
My friend is so blind, I keep telling her all this information. She thinks her situation is different, such a cliche.
Everyone does...
Ok so is no contact still the right move here? I’ve been at it since she said she was staying with him in December, she used to constantly talk about he’s abusive and she hates this guy. I’m not obsessing or chasing, but I do genuinely have feelings for her that just don’t seem to exist when I’m trying to see someone else. I know the healthy thing in the long run is to cut and run, but something inside us keeps us both coming towards eachother. Call that a delusion or wishful thinking, call it love, call it whatever you like, I can’t stop it. NC is where I live now, she recently started following me on snap so I stopped posting, I’m not sure what any of it means. Soo many questions and zero answers.
I feel your pain
@@fj4731 I am talking to my ex again after 90 days, going very slow and just getting to know eachother again. Might not go anywhere, but I feel I’m at least in control of my own feelings now.
@@fj4731 I completely understand and feel your pain. To be honest, I was in the same situation, if she’s married and not talking to you unless she needs something or is upset with her husband, you are being used. Moving on (at least emotionally for yourself) is the best thing you can do. I know it’s hard, but if you tell yourself you can do it all day long, you’ll eventually believe yourself. It sucks, but not all flowers bloom in life the way we want them to and nothing we can do or say will change that. Sorry man, I wish you the absolute best, anything is better than living the pain every day.
yes no contact is the right move
Please make more videos on this topic with a married guy. He told me he will divorce his wife and be with me but he’s suddenly gone silent
David Camero he did
What happened? He divorced her and came back to you?
@@diyabaruah2778curious, update?
Hey Lee. This video doesn't really apply to me, but I have a suggestion for a video - How do I get over the fact that my ex was also my best friend?
Thanks Carl. It's on my list.
Carl Mauch why would you ask this on this-thread? hate that
Robbie Maybe because it was Lee's newest video???
Or if the married person is on the verge of divorce AND is your best friend
Same 🤧😖😣😭
Feels terrible 😣
Im in this situation. Never heard from her for 1.5 months now. We initially agreed to not fall inlove but it was unavoidable. SHe suddenly broke up with me without clear explanation. It was tough
Tell me about it. It's been 9 months and she hasn't reached out and said in the first few months to move on and she doesn't feel the spark anymore and. I broke no contact 1 time and now I'm on 82 days no contact. It sux, I hope she comes back someday.
I couldn’t imagine dating someone that was married I feel bad for everyone!
So stop and have boundaries
( do not date / sleep with married people)
Maybe you have never fallen in love with someone who is married or separated
Actually, the no-contact technique works effectively on the engaged or married couples just to get them back as a friend and maybe only as a friend and nothing more.
What abt those married men who nvr loved their wives , compromising whole life ,had arranged marriage,divorcing soon(3-4 years ) ?
As Lee said:. I SERVE A PURPOSE. I think I have fullfilled him, I think I have stopped him from yelling at his wife and being difficult to live with in the family home...hence why he needs me ...but the wife seems to be O.K with it as he's eldest kids.
how true. same as here. but you can reverse that by going full no contact and ignore him in order to restore previous situation
yessssssssssssssssssssssssssss i needed this Coach lee