5 Signs She's Using You

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  • Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
  • A lot of guys ask me about being used by women. They ask how to tell if a girl is using them or if she is really feeling them. It is often hard to tell if a girl is using you because they often don't even know that they are using you. This video gives 5 signs that she actually is using you.
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  • @bosstownmassholz7475
    @bosstownmassholz7475 5 років тому +121

    If your watching this she's using you💯

  • @darkchild00
    @darkchild00 6 років тому +125

    These 5 signs really hit home. This dude is speaking 1000% real talk.

  • @garymitchell5899
    @garymitchell5899 6 років тому +22

    Good advice. Seen all of those. Cut those users out of your life - walk away and don't look back.

  • @georgeland9862011
    @georgeland9862011 6 років тому +52

    My ex was like this and it hurt me alot because i really had feelings of love for her but she was just being typical with me.

    • @davewilson4765
      @davewilson4765 5 років тому +5

      Typical woman

    • @chimanderu8396
      @chimanderu8396 5 років тому +4

      The same things is happening to me now

    • @karmahleone1196
      @karmahleone1196 Рік тому

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 yall take tooooo long to catch tf onn if a woman is not working understand you gonna have to dig in your pocket

  • @_JEBUS
    @_JEBUS 5 років тому +6

    #5 is the realest sign. It's like when you first start talking to a girl she will move mountains to hang out with you. Once she's over you they never have time. If they don't have time it means they aren't interested or interested anymore.

  • @paulinlasvegas
    @paulinlasvegas 6 років тому +50

    Been a victim of all 5 tactics above. No question in this age most woman are masters of usery to the point when they are nice to me, I can't help but ask silently in my mind. What do you really want ? Excellent video. Brutally honest exposing the truth of what many men are in denial of or just haven't figured out yet. Thanks man

  • @shantzmtl
    @shantzmtl 7 років тому +114

    As a female I can completely vouch for everything Chaz suggests here. I also became aware of my own behaviour and what to avoid doing to prevent hurt feelings. Why not. lol

    • @mac1bc
      @mac1bc 6 років тому +8

      shantzmtl it's good to be aware. Many women do it and don't even know

    • @robertwright9901
      @robertwright9901 6 років тому +6

      shantzmtl. This guy isn't an
      Expert ! But good Points!

    • @carloscabrera5311
      @carloscabrera5311 3 роки тому +1

      You're 1 out of millions who recognize what they were doing..

  • @stevetheyardguy1738
    @stevetheyardguy1738 6 років тому +24

    3:50 Damn right its draining. Listening to someone elses problems is a mentally exhausting. They hand their mental baggage off to you and there is a huge cost attached to it

    • @jcrnda
      @jcrnda 6 років тому +2

      He failed to mention that this is called "looking for validation" which is basically looking for approval. It boils down to insecurity because why else would a person need approval from everyone around.
      Of course they will drain anybody with that, that's why therapists survive, they are paid to listen to this crap!

    • @litobeelouis8819
      @litobeelouis8819 6 років тому

      The Dane I been through this

    • @karmahleone1196
      @karmahleone1196 Рік тому

      Better be ready to pay up

  • @jimk518
    @jimk518 5 років тому +34

    Well done. You nailed it, brother. I wish UA-cam had existed 20 years ago when I couldn't figure out what was wrong with the relationship I was in. I was too stupid to see that I was only being used.

    • @johnllewellyn7085
      @johnllewellyn7085 5 років тому +3

      Hey man it happens to most of us, just don't let it happen again, it's hard to say we will move on without a woman, but it's better than being fucked over by one

  • @thejourneyofone2425
    @thejourneyofone2425 6 років тому +40

    Shit like this can also happen when your relationship is bout to end. So watch the warning signs especially the seeing you at her convenience behaviour. That is the nail in the coffin.

  • @tersooawen5039
    @tersooawen5039 5 років тому +6

    She starts by asking me to pay for her birthday cake, pay for refreshments, buy her a gift and put credit in her cellphone. I think that's crazy!! What could she be up to?

  • @mister_delight
    @mister_delight 6 років тому +39

    There are billions of women in this world, so why focus on one.

  • @charleslassiter1116
    @charleslassiter1116 6 років тому +3

    Brother I really liked how you handled the topic. It was straight to the point, not a whole lot of emotional diatribe and well structured and thought out. Great video.

  • @nicholasbristol68
    @nicholasbristol68 5 років тому +2

    Have a girlfriend just like that, asked her to accompany me to a wedding, she's busy. On my birthday weekend, she contacted me to say what's up? but I knew she wanted to hangout at my expense, told her I was busy.

  • @mark7s980
    @mark7s980 6 років тому +44

    You only need one sign. She's talking to you. That's it.

  • @onetakesun694
    @onetakesun694 5 років тому +1

    This topic’s ringing bells all over the place.

  • @stevenroth5424
    @stevenroth5424 6 років тому +3

    Great video, maybe some people will get actaully evaluate what is going on with there relationships after listening to your useful information.

  • @MohamedMohamed-uw8jf
    @MohamedMohamed-uw8jf 5 років тому +6

    Your topics are very true tbh, I'm experiencing this at this moment 😩 I feel so hurt.

  • @berdiddyberdisberbaboint2763
    @berdiddyberdisberbaboint2763 4 роки тому +2

    What you're saying is making me feel sick. Because its TRUE!!!!! Great vid mate 😀😀subscribed

  • @gravelslinger9331
    @gravelslinger9331 6 років тому +1

    Chazz Ellis, Thanks for the Really Helpful Advice!

  • @maximusmech9
    @maximusmech9 5 років тому

    Awesome advice, man. I'll keep it all in a notebook for future reference.

  • @GETFITFORLIFE
    @GETFITFORLIFE 6 років тому +32

    Man im going through this now ..nice video

  • @Tdrums8
    @Tdrums8 5 років тому +31

    #6 never admits shes wrong blames you and wont except the guilt . I was a victim of this .She screamed at her son and said it was my fault even when I was hiding under the bed watching the Yankees and nothing to do with it . Said I was the poison that causes her to yell and feels better about herself because in her mind its your fault . This is a very bad one and causes major problems

    • @janbadinski7126
      @janbadinski7126 5 років тому +2

      The same could be said about men.

    • @lowerf0_rtyei8ht92
      @lowerf0_rtyei8ht92 5 років тому +5

      @@janbadinski7126 the same thing could be said about anybody, so what's your damn point? We're talking about women here, that's the point of the video...

    • @lowerf0_rtyei8ht92
      @lowerf0_rtyei8ht92 5 років тому +4

      @@janbadinski7126 I can already tell you're one of the women they're talking about in this video.

    • @janbadinski7126
      @janbadinski7126 5 років тому

      @@lowerf0_rtyei8ht92 Because males do the same 'damn' thing then think their poop doesn't stink. You want to stay on this vine to bash women, knock yourself out. But next time you want to point the finger of blame go look in the mirror.

    • @janbadinski7126
      @janbadinski7126 5 років тому +1

      @@lowerf0_rtyei8ht92 Eyes rolling. If that's what you choose to believe then knock yourself out. I take responsibility for myself, I don't feel a need to act like I'm in my 20s like you seem to think.

  • @nelsondewaard9267
    @nelsondewaard9267 5 років тому +1

    My brother this was a very, very good video. Keep it up!

  • @johnstewart5010
    @johnstewart5010 6 років тому +1

    Outstanding good info real stuff for the young and old! real talk! Well done!

  • @jackvisn
    @jackvisn 5 років тому +1

    Ouch! This reads like a laundry list. I started wondering and did a search. BINGO! Thanks man for saving me any more hurt than necessary.

  • @NetteJ
    @NetteJ 6 років тому +1

    I had to subscribe this broths is speaking truth. I am really enjoying your channel

  • @michelet3857
    @michelet3857 7 років тому

    Chazz you are always on point! I needed to hold him he was sad! 😂😂😂😂 I don't owe none of y'all an explanation! OMG!

  • @TimOyoIta
    @TimOyoIta 6 років тому +1

    Wonderful video here, man. Keep this up.

  • @theodoresweger4948
    @theodoresweger4948 5 років тому +1

    Thanks very informative, well thought out.

  • @bdewarrior5
    @bdewarrior5 6 років тому +16

    Not bad little brother I like everything you had to say for young guy you know a lot I only wish some years back I had you in my corner but now I'm older wiser and much happier but nothing worse than Growing Pains stay knowledgeable and keep giving out great advice

  • @lorenllbj88
    @lorenllbj88 6 років тому +5

    #5 is the TRUTH

  • @Siddharth-yk7op
    @Siddharth-yk7op 5 років тому +1

    u r amazing man....ur tips worked out...exactly as u said all those points....

  • @mb5857
    @mb5857 6 років тому +1

    Not the family reunion!! 😂

  • @ladybugradio1988
    @ladybugradio1988 Рік тому

    Smh I can agree with how Chaz is describing these signs.

  • @bernie6355
    @bernie6355 5 років тому +1

    This all happened to me numerous of times until I lost all confidence in myself

  • @3mindgame
    @3mindgame 6 років тому +1

    Great Video bro!! Very helpful!

  • @marknapiza5750
    @marknapiza5750 6 років тому +1

    Damn!! All this signs are true of what I'm going through right now! Man it hurts!

  • @daveh9803
    @daveh9803 5 років тому +2

    Every woman will go to # 4 & 5 once she has decided to dump you. They’ll hold on with the barest minimum, at their convenience, while they line up your replacement. Once she feels the new relationship is on more solid ground is when she’ll go ahead with dumping you. Meanwhile, she’s dragged you along the barbed wire fence, and she’ll move on as if you never existed.

  • @johnsonjgreenidge1956
    @johnsonjgreenidge1956 7 років тому +4

    Real talk keep it up

  • @husseinkanga7980
    @husseinkanga7980 6 років тому +3

    Dude you awesome. Been there. By the way, has anyone told you that you sound like Mohammad Ali? Yes you do mate

  • @ebenezerowusuansah1139
    @ebenezerowusuansah1139 4 роки тому +1

    The guy is genius, all the points are really true

  • @masterjedikeith4952
    @masterjedikeith4952 5 років тому +1

    Awesome video. It’s all true.

  • @hellotherealien
    @hellotherealien 5 років тому +1

    Great advice for men or women of all ages and stages of life. Much Light Love Namaste💗❤💜💙💚💛💗❤💜💙💚💛💗❤💜💙💚💛💗❤💜💙💚💛💗❤💜💙💚💛👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

  • @betterworldok3802
    @betterworldok3802 5 років тому +1

    Very explanatory, clever

  • @alisaiful6717
    @alisaiful6717 5 років тому +5

    6th sign.. You are always a non priority dude to her

  • @Dante-qf9yd
    @Dante-qf9yd 6 років тому +5

    Good advice. #5 sounds like a Scorpio.😂

  • @RICKYDAS1001
    @RICKYDAS1001 6 років тому

    Man you are awesome.....Do keep up the good job...

  • @doug186
    @doug186 6 років тому +1

    My Dude. Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @Adam-mj5hl
    @Adam-mj5hl 4 роки тому

    Great video, bro. Sadly I checked off yes to all 5 signs. Could you maybe do a follow up video for us guys on how to handle a current situation where we feel the girl we’re seeing is probably using us? Like, once we feel like we’re being used, is there some kind of test or something we can say to her like giving her an ultimatum to change her behavior? Or should we just ghost her and kick her to the curb?

  • @CGOD6
    @CGOD6 6 років тому +1

    I like this video very accurate pertaining to my last relatoinship!!!

  • @marcussimmons2708
    @marcussimmons2708 5 років тому

    There are some serious facts here! Guys listen to the expert! 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾!!!

  • @robertlevy586
    @robertlevy586 6 років тому +1

    this man is speaking the truth somewhere some how

  • @EnglishGsbd
    @EnglishGsbd 6 років тому

    Nice one Bro new here keep up the good work

  • @tp8404
    @tp8404 3 роки тому +1

    Not sure if everything he says is true, but man a lot of it does make sense!!!

  • @anand192001
    @anand192001 7 років тому +20

    Eye-opener Thanks Bro!

  • @HyperrLgaming
    @HyperrLgaming 5 років тому +1

    Great vid 🙌🙌🙌

  • @FoxyChariot
    @FoxyChariot 5 років тому +4

    I tell my girl, "DO YOU WANT HIM?, OR DO YOU WANT ME?" But that's just me

  • @anthonybush8357
    @anthonybush8357 6 років тому

    No.5 is so damn hilarious....Lol

  • @RandomNorwegianGuy.
    @RandomNorwegianGuy. 5 років тому

    Damn. The fifth one really hit hard. It became much more obivious to me when i got my first car, that a girl i liked was just using me

  • @Gods_Child_52
    @Gods_Child_52 6 років тому +3

    Very helpful

  • @DarkroomMedia007
    @DarkroomMedia007 7 років тому +14

    🔊Notification Gang! 😎

  • @joseluisparreno4999
    @joseluisparreno4999 7 років тому +2

    Very good video

  • @nkuubicharles5814
    @nkuubicharles5814 6 років тому

    Chaz you have enlightened my mind to check out on the one I have been trying to love for a long time.. How should I test her for rightful answers I want to find out...?

  • @tictoc5443
    @tictoc5443 6 років тому

    good advice...thanks

  • @ossiewright2417
    @ossiewright2417 6 років тому

    Insightful

  • @Andenwhat1
    @Andenwhat1 5 років тому

    Omg they cut mee offf hahaha I subbed

  • @jerrykikuli3700
    @jerrykikuli3700 6 років тому

    Good video.

  • @joeaquino5451
    @joeaquino5451 5 років тому +13

    4.5/5 so sad. Stupid me.

  • @rikwilson697
    @rikwilson697 6 років тому

    Thank great advice

  • @brokeneyes6615
    @brokeneyes6615 6 років тому +1

    I had to end a long time friendship for these very reasons (so yeah both genders do this and romance doesn’t have to be in the equation). At the time and a long time after I kept questioning myself but seeing this vid tells me I made the right choice. Thank you and subscribed.

  • @apples8872
    @apples8872 5 років тому

    What’s the short list cuz I don’t feel like watching this for 11 minutes lol

  • @AQS521
    @AQS521 3 роки тому

    It took me way too long to figure all this out but hindsight is always 20/20. Stay strong, Kings. Be cold. Be the douchebag. That doesn’t mean insult the woman you’re talking to, by all means respect them, but respect yourself more and stand your ground when you’re being taken advantage of.

  • @adancordova4389
    @adancordova4389 6 років тому +2

    All those signs are happening to me specially 4 and 5

  • @emranhossain893
    @emranhossain893 5 років тому

    Lol thats what exactly happened to me recently. Its like he is describing my experience!!!! I cant stress enough how true is, what he is saying. if you guys see any one of these sings, just run. I have seen all these sings in one girl:)

  • @kamausuttles8112
    @kamausuttles8112 5 років тому

    #5 her convenience! (I wish I saw this video before now) No room for me during the holidays her birthdays this was the most painful times apart from her

  • @am1995am2
    @am1995am2 Рік тому

    Wow that’s deep but true

  • @danielestrella4365
    @danielestrella4365 6 років тому +14

    That number 5th is so true. And hurtful. 😭😭😭😭😭 my so called girlfriend is doing number 4 and 5 to me.

    • @davewilson4765
      @davewilson4765 5 років тому +1

      Yep. Most women

    • @forward_ever_ever2595
      @forward_ever_ever2595 5 років тому +2

      Dump her in such a nice way...i'll take her out for dinner...show real love & appreciation, thank her for those fun times you guys had. Then without notice, cut all ties. Block her num, if u see her anywhere...go the next way...let your buddies know "i aint here; he left already; he had an emergency. It'll hit her like a ton of bricks. Remember, show no emotions to the crocodile tears.

    • @themoonbleu627
      @themoonbleu627 4 роки тому

      Forward_Ever &_Ever she probably has two to three waiting on the side anyway so they don’t care when you dump them

    • @karmahleone1196
      @karmahleone1196 Рік тому

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yall be acting dumbbb wake tf up🤣🤣

  • @williamwasswa3169
    @williamwasswa3169 5 років тому +1

    I agree with you brother

  • @narendrans6509
    @narendrans6509 5 років тому +2

    Wow!!! Shit man! I’m going through this right now and still being so dumb not to dump her and still going after her, what should I do? I really love her

  • @kintsugitelevision5251
    @kintsugitelevision5251 7 років тому +4

    Bro You funny As Heck .. Im Dead

  • @silkroad1201
    @silkroad1201 2 роки тому

    I knew this girl once that said "I can't hang out today after all, I mean if you're willing to buy me lunch I probably could, but otherwise I'm too busy". To this day I have no idea why she was so surprised when I laughed at her and told her to have a good life

  • @Poopdoggreturns
    @Poopdoggreturns 4 роки тому

    I am a woman and think your advice is pretty good.

  • @loudhalertrue
    @loudhalertrue 5 років тому +4

    Sign #1 Only matters to Golddiggers! If she doesn't like you, she's not hanging out with you, full stop. What you have to learn is, every woman is different from the next. I can guarantee you right now, that there's women out there who are laughing at these 5 signs because they're already one step ahead.

  • @shadowhunter3445
    @shadowhunter3445 5 років тому +1

    damn i wish i knew this i went through this it hurt all the signs in the end i decided to end the relationship/friendship now ive moved on.

  • @kamausuttles8112
    @kamausuttles8112 5 років тому +1

    #1 Pay to play everytime WOW

  • @kamausuttles8112
    @kamausuttles8112 5 років тому

    She dont want to know about you that really sunk in

  • @diyfab
    @diyfab 6 років тому +1

    Great video and I love your girl voice lol
    I think my female friend is using me :(

  • @jeffbeam2450
    @jeffbeam2450 6 років тому +2

    So true

  • @bendhimanish
    @bendhimanish 6 років тому +7

    man you are aesswome

  • @titaniumt7376
    @titaniumt7376 5 років тому

    Was in that position once!

  • @ghostofsparta7993
    @ghostofsparta7993 5 років тому +13

    A wise Spartan once said, "do not trust something that bleeds for days and does not die"

  • @spectaculardetailing3110
    @spectaculardetailing3110 6 років тому +2

    You’re on point always pay attention #Aries

  • @67261640
    @67261640 5 років тому

    It's true and experienced.

  • @jayisay4485
    @jayisay4485 7 років тому +40

    4 and 5 hit home, currently going threw this.

    • @justinmckay4068
      @justinmckay4068 7 років тому +1

      Jay I say same

    • @cerebrodelictivocarclubps4309
      @cerebrodelictivocarclubps4309 6 років тому +5

      Jay I say I just went through this! It's hurtful, I stopped playing Mr. Nice guy on our last two out of 7 dates, and she's with another guy! 😣 💔😢

    • @stephanoewilks1908
      @stephanoewilks1908 5 років тому +2

      Jay I say Me Too bro & I work with this chick & I'm at a point where I'm bout ready to cut her ass off she ain't done shit for me in return to show appreciation for the few favors I've done for her ass so far & I'm bout ready to pull the damn plug on this shit.... I ain't no dummy I wasn't born yesterday.... she really playing her self, I do things for people outta sincere kindness not because I'm a fool...I'm feeling real irritated & fed up with this damn girl & her bad ass son who is only a little bitty Kidd but he's bad as hell and is only about 1 or 2 yrs of age this lil dude understands right from wrong but he just don't care this lil dude is bad & is a huge cry baby

  • @deenb6744
    @deenb6744 5 років тому

    100% True

  • @johnanderson2320
    @johnanderson2320 5 років тому +4

    Shits the worst. Just literally got done breaking whatever it was i had with this female off. I thought it had a chance. But thats just it i didnt get a real chance.

  • @jamaica1765
    @jamaica1765 5 років тому +1

    This only works in the beginning. If the relationship is established I don't think this is accurate

  • @jamesglenn4266
    @jamesglenn4266 5 років тому +2

    Yes everything mentioned is so accurate. Women love use men to fill in their calendar and at the same time use that man as practice for the real thing and to reassure themselves that they can still get a man.

    • @yourunclesimp1
      @yourunclesimp1 2 роки тому

      It’s like we build their confidence so they can try to find a better man. Hypergamy at its finest

  • @markbaptiste1700
    @markbaptiste1700 6 років тому +2

    Your right