On the note of using wisdom and sound thinking, Here is the list I have compiled for the man I marry. 1. Must love God with heart, soul, and mind, and seek to serve him. 2. Must be strong in areas where I am weak (and vice-versa). 3. Must be self-confident (know himself). 4. Must share my passions. 5. Must respect and value me. 6. Must be someone I enjoy talking to. 7. Must be my best friend. 8. Must push me to be better. 9. Must be a hard worker. 10. Must pursue me. 11. Must be willing to inconvenience himself for me. 12. Must know the word of God. 13. Must protect my purity. 14. Must be a joyful person. 15. Must make me laugh. 16. Must be attentive. 17. Must be selfless. 18. Must defend me. 19. Must be a good steward of his body. 20. Must hold me up to similar standards.
My wife and I went on ONE date and Holy Spirit was making it so obvious we had to get married. It’s possible if you’re totally focussed on God! We’ve now been together 3 and a half years and have a baby girl and life’s amazing!
I also know a guy who married a girl after knowing her for a week because "God told me in a dream to marry her." And their marriage is SUPER CRAZY with verbal abuse all the time. Her moving out and going to a homeless shelter. Her fighting with the in-law to the point of making her mother in-law cry. Even her sleeping over another mans house. God cant be put in a box, so sure he can tell you on a first date but there are other people who were "sure" they heard from God and it went horribly. There is no harm in waiting patiently and dating to being sure. And if you two were SURE after one date then fine, that's a very beautiful thing. Her message is just don't be naive and put yourself in a bad position when you could miss hear God.
I wish you all the best.I heard so many stories- God tells me and today they are divorced- and clapping, singing every Sunday.Half of our church is divorced today.And I know people who didn't ask God but they were loyal. Despite all trouble celebrate 50th anniversary together.
@@jojo_inspire My guess is you only heard the man's point of view on this story. Which if she ended up in a homeless shelter, their were legal issues on his end ( physical abuse more than likely) and if the mom in-law is trying to defend her son, then yes the girl is going to be upset because she is in a very emotional situation. And right off the bat, with the dude having a dream to marry her, and DOING SO, he is probably in a manic state of mind, and is psychopathic more likely. Hence the charm he puts off as a "nice guy", her saying yes to him and she falling for it because she's a believer, the physical abuse he done and won't admit to, the story building where he tries to make her look bad and himself good, and he probably never got the help he needed because the mom as well is babying him instead of actually getting him the help he needs. just a little psychological insight for you, and to get another perspective. because even from reading this, there's things that doesn't make a lot of sense, and I'm sorry for such a strong reply, but after knowing MANY people in these situations, and myself too, and "church" people judging the VICTIM without understanding physiological study or even knowing legal facts, I really don't take this lightly and it is heartbreaking to even hear about this situation. I'm sorry, but i'm 99% sure your guy friend is a jerk.
My mother and father went to church together. My dad is 9 years older than my mom and she passed him in the hall one day and she heard in her head “that’s your husband.” And she freaked out, because at this point she was 18 and he was 27 and she hadn’t put much thought past just simply “oh he’s cute.” She thought it was crazy, but here they are 27 years later and 3 kids!
Ruth Crawford no way!! That’s too funny! What a sweet story too 😍 My dad felt that way with my mom when they met too- like God was saying she was his wife. Almost 35 years later, here they are!
Ok so something interesting happened to me this summer. I'm 21 and I've had guys I've liked in the past, but I've never dated anyone. I go to a Christian Youth and young adult camp every year with my church. Last year when I was there I saw this guy, I thought he was cute, but didn't think much of it, He acted like he wanted to talk to me but never did, so I had forgotten about him until this year at camp, I saw him again (he is 21 also) and this time he talked to me, I didn't think to much of it because no ones every liked me, and even though I thought he might like me I chalked it up to wishful thinking, But without me saying anything My friends started pointing him out saying I think that guy likes you. So My reaction was wow someone I like might like me. But at a morning church service I prayed about him, I asked the lord what I should do If he asked me for my number? If I could give it to him. or if I could talk to him in a way that would encourage him a little bit, But I felt the lord speak to me and say, ''No not right now, he's battling something and he needs to concentrate on it right now.'' he said it in a loving but firm way like most fathers, when they tell you not right now. Then he placed a heavy burden for him on my heart, it was such a weird feeling, I'm not sure what he was fighting, but I could feel in my spirit as I prayed for him that there was a war going on for him. After the service I was walking on the side walk to go to the dorm, when I met him, as I walked by I said Good morning, But immediately I felt the spirit check me in a gentle way as if pulling me back a little, ''Ahh I told you not to talk with him.'' I think he felt it too, because it looked like he was gonna say something but Instead he put his head down and we walked by each other. I'm not saying he's the one at all, But it was such a strange experience, I've had the Lord speak to me not to talk to someone before, I was not interested in this man, but he was a youth leader at another church, I felt the lord speak to me in a Very forceful way, Not to speak or go near that youth leader, I obeyed and a year later it came out that he had been molesting young girls in his youth group. So I know the lords voice, and I know when the lord warns me about someone. But when he spoke to me about him, it was more like he was saying I would be a distraction for him right now, and maybe another time. I know for me God speaks about people, I have never really asked God for permission to talk to someone before because I'd never liked someone that much to take it to a dating level before. But I'm thankful God cares for me and for others like him. Maybe one day I'll see him again and the Lord will say we can talk or maybe not, all I know is God is good and he cares for his people. :D Love your videos, they're truly wonderful.
Daughter of The King that is so awesome you paid attention to what God whispered to your heart!! And what a faith-builder to find out some of those things afterwards! I’ve definitely had similar things happen with guys - and then find out later on He saved me from a bad situation. It was always so weird and unusual when it would happen, but I was so thankful. He’s such a good father.
one of my cousins gave me this fantastic advice: date the one you want to marry, through all 4 seasons. in other words, don't simply fall in love and that's it. find out how the other person reacts in as many different situations as you can, so you can make good judgement where a relationship with that person is concerned.
Would you consider doing a video (if you haven’t already) on how to talk to your future partner about past mistakes you’ve made? I’d love to get your advice.
Did she make a video on this yet? I've been with my gf almost a year and I feel its about time to delve pretty deep into some heavy stuff but I'm not sure but Gods just been weighing on my heart lately
I agree with your tips. We should take time to discern properly and we need to discern in a human logical way while praying and learning to listen to God's voice.
I love this video! I would like to add, don't became obsessed! I believe God told me who my future husband is and I would have never given him the time of day before that dream. God has changed my perspective since then. I was obsessed for about 2 years. I finally talked to him and realized we both are not ready for each other. The 💓 will do crazy things if you let it.
Love how you phrased that - God can guide you to a person, but that doesn't mean there's necessarily just one person in the whole world you could be with. That's exactly what I think! If that were true, you would have to conclude that remarriage after the death of a spouse is sin, which Biblically, obviously it isn't. Personally, I rather suspect God won't tell me point blank who to marry. The reason I say that is because I have a history of mishearing God. Maybe he would, if I grow and get more practised at discerning his voice, but for me there's a good chance he won't. Really helpful video :)
I think each relationship is unique to the couple. I know relationships that dated for years, and their marriage ended in divorce, and I know relationships that dated for a few weeks, and they're marriages are 5+ years going, and the most beautiful examples I've ever seen. So much wisdom in this video, though! Especially the part where you said don't tell him you two are to get married. I really needed that ❤🌹 Blessings ♡
Another little gem from my Grandpa (married 52 years till my grandmother's passing) "Don't go into Marriage with a back door. Cause if it's there when things get tough you will take it." (That's not to say there is no Scriptural case ever for divorce, but God intended Marriage to be for Life) 🤗💓💓
I don't believe in the THE ONE. God gives us wisdom, commandments, grace and counsel to choose our partner wisely and have the best possible marriage, but I don't think He prepares someone from birth to be our spouse. If that were so, we would each have a perfectly matched spouse and that's not reality.
Laura M. I don’t think him preparing someone is equivalent to that person being what you deem as perfect for you as in the perfect person to get along and checks all your boxes because a lot of times we are dead wrong on what we want. But i believ if we truly believe God knows beginning from end and the plans He has for us, then I think how can we not believe that our God actually has the ideal will for our lives but the allowance of free will means you can very well get with someone that is great but wasn’t the ideal plan. Just like careers or paths. God may have had a certain will for you but you can very well make choices to change things. Jonah ran from God and his story didn’t follow perfection. But everything turns for the good so God Still has the plan to turn us around. But that’s my thought. I don’t think you should be fearful at all because God is God and all this work irk together l, but I think to believe that Hod doesn’t have an ideal plan with every ability/plan to make things work out regardless of our choices actually stifles the perspective of the great God He is. But that’s just my conviction after a lot of wondering about this😅
I do believe in THE ONE. But, I think it's a case by case basis. Some people might choose to pray and ask God to select a mate for them. And since God said in Psalm 139:16 "Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them." It is reasonable to consider that before anyone prayed a prayer asking God to choose their spouse for them, He knew there would come a day when they would pray that prayer. So it makes sense that He would prepare a spouse for the person who asks that of Him, IF it is His will for Him to do so. Concerning your last sentence, not everyone desires to marry. God places different desires in each one of us. Just because God might desire that it's His will for a certain couples to get together doesn't mean He has a perfect-match spouse laid out for everyone. Some are just meant to remain single, and I believe that those who are meant to remain single might not even have a desire to marry because God did not give them such a desire to begin with.
Thanks Tiffany! I love the fact you say you need to use your brain! So true... often one gets caught up in emotions and fail to see red flags because we forget to use our brains...
I love this and totally agree! My husband and I knew very early on but I remember even telling him, time will tell, when he said he was falling for me because I believe in allowing time to test things. But not tooooo much time, especially when people are younger and need to get married to avoid the lust and don’t have a lot of baggage and complications. I agree with 6 months to a year.
One of my pastors once said "there's no such thing as the one. If ONE person marries wrong, the whole world is screwed!" comical point, but valid in it's way
Thank you SO much for your channel Tiffany. You give such valuable advice and keep me sane through high school XD I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me get through doubts in my faith and relationships. I've only really started pursuing God in recent months and it can be a little overwhelming, but having you to go to for advice and reassurance is such a blessing. All the best with your baby Xx
Willow Moon awwww!!! Thank you for sharing this - it encouraged me so much!! I actually have a video coming up in a few months about developing a relationship with God and I think it will be sooo encouraging for you!!
Thank you so much for doing this video I'm not with this guy but when he asked me to hang out for the first time I heard God say this is the man of God that you prayed about its been tough we've slowed down a lot in regards to conversation cause we did get too deep too quick God has reassured me that he has his hand on the situation and I have seen signs too so I am trusting him even though we aren't together yet I know he is who God has for me. He doesnt see what I see just yet but I know God is working in his life and God keeps speaking to me as well about this guys purpose because the guy told me what he things God is calling him to do and God has shown me things that will help him on his journey so I know the step back we have taken is a good thing to focys on our purposes. God is just taking me through the wilderness to see if I will trust and have faith in what I can't see yet and I am holding onto his promise and believing with all my heart.
I remember when I thought God was giving me signs about someone because of a guy I liked who kept appearing in my dreams. I usually write all my dreams down and sometimes the Lord has revealed the meaning. I waited and talked to someone I thought I could trust. They told me the dreams meant to wait and that God would bring us together in the future. I waited and a year later he married someone else. It is very important to wait for confirmation on both sides or else you could be led into deception. After that experience, I’m actually not even hoping for signs anymore. I just want things to play out in the natural.
You're videos have been such a help and blessing lately. Right now I have feelings for a young man that have been so completely different from any feelings I have ever had for a guy before. We talked about it and even though we are still just friends, the gracious way he responded has done nothing but cement my feelings for him. I'm not totally sure God didn't tell me he is the one but it isn't the time and He has pointed out a lot of things in me that He is still working on. So right now I am in that time of waiting and discernment. Because God knows His plan, and even if this young man is not the one, God has definitely used him for some big things in my life.
Wow I’m in a similar situation. I have this boy that I’ve liked for about three years now, and everybody I’ve talked to about him says. that he probably likes me. He was out of my life for about a year and a half, and then a door that was extremely unlikely to open opened, and now I have a chance to reconnect with him. The whole time we were relatively out of contact (a few casual conversations and stuff on Snapchat but not seeing each other in person) I was so confused by how I couldn’t get over him. I tried everything I could to get over him but nothing worked. All it took was one mention of his name and I couldn’t stop grinning. There’s just something about him that immediately makes me happy (he’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met, but there’s something I can’t really explain that makes it so hard to move on) Some months before the door opened I started accepting my feelings were never going to go away unless I had closure, and the closure wasn’t coming anytime soon with COVID and everything. I thought about him everyday for almost 22 months in that time, and I couldn’t stop my mind from wrestling with itself bc one part of me knew that our story wasn’t over and the other part was trying to convince me that someone could never like me like that. Fast forward to the day I saw him again. I had seen through social media he had been going to a youth group at my friends church so I texted her and asked her to go with me. We went and he was there. The youth group went extremely well and at the end my friend told me he couldn’t take his eyes off of me. I couldn’t wait to go back as the youth group had gone extremely well. The fact that he had been there and still seemed interested made me feel so good. It was like the Lord was showing me that this boy wasn’t going anywhere, that this door was remaining open, and that our story wasn’t over. Unfortunately we didn’t get to directly talk to each other bc of the circumstances, but I felt way better about it. Then the next week I went he wasn’t there and I convinced myself that I did something wrong. But then the Lord reminded me of the fact that we’re still young, and He provided me with inner peace with the situation. He gave me contentment with this season of waiting and working on myself and my faith. He has given me so much strength to give Him control, which is something that as someone with anxiety who overthinks a lot is really hard to do. So yeah the whole part about the season of waiting made me feel like I wanted to share my story. :)
I think this is so wise Tiffany! Everyone’s story is different (of course) but time really will tell if it’s in His will for our life or not. If God has something in our life He will keep it there. No amount of wrong turns could ever make that thing that God has in our lives change. Our choices can make things either more difficult or easy but either way if God wants it to happen you better believe it will happen. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
I have often wondered this too. Recently, I had a guy I used to work with message me on Facebook out of the blue. He asked if I wanted to play frisbee with him sometime. Previous to that God was showing me somethings about relationships. I wondered if this one would go anywhere. I really tried to not let my mind go overboard with the "what if this turns into something". I figured even if all we ended up doing was being friends, that would be enough. I have often wondered if God will tell you that he's the one. I agree with what you said. We can totally misconstrue things that are really our emotions and not God.
I dated somone for about 4 or 5 years and just realize that he wasn't the one and wasn't somone who God had for me t marry he always wanted me to text him even when I told him I couldn't bc I was doing missions worke, somrhi ng at church and he would get mad at me if I didn't. So I just told him one day that we wasn't going to work out.
Listening to you talking about the beginning of your relationship with James, I’m like WOW that’s me. 🙈 Glad I’m not the only one who wonders about this and second guesses. Thanks for the advice!
There was this guy I met last Dec. while I was studying abroad. He was with his church doing field work at the school I was attending there. As I was sitting in the lobby he approached me with his missions buddy and invited me to a Friday Bible study that his church was having. Every Friday before the Bible study meeting, we would meet an hour early and go to a coffee shop together and talk. I didn't think much of it until 3 months into us meeting. It was as if out of the blue I suddenly had very strong feelings for him. In fact, one day I was thinking about him and the next thing I know my mouth was like... He's my husband. I was so shocked, and was like..... No no no, he's not, what am I saying?? I've generally always been uninterested in marriage, mainly because I was scared of possibly getting divorced one day. Just about everyone in my family who has been married, has gotten divorced at least once (with the exception of my parents, but they argue a lot and my mom has expressed how she wishes she would have married a different man). However, after that whole "he's my husband" thing, I've become more interested in marriage and getting married one day. Unfortunately, me and him weren't able to spend much time together during my last 3 months there. We were both very busy with school, and he did a lot of ministry work (he's a team leader at the church). We tried a few times to set up a time to meet, but weren't able to actually meet on those days due to last minute projects. A couple friends I met from the church would always make comments about me and him meeting, and how it was "love at first sight". One girl even said he was my "Knight in shining armor" 😂. Before I left he asked me if I wanted to stay, and when I would be back. I plan on going back next year and working there for at least a few years, if not long term. I don't talk to him much, because I didn't want to be distracted. It took many months of praying for my feels for him to finally "go away". I still care about him, but I definitely don't feel as strongly as I did.
Great vid! What you said about the importance of dating first is helpful. What you said makes sense and has a lot of wisdom in it. Thanks for bringing more clarity to my own heart on the topic!
I do appreciate you acknowledging that in some circumstances for some people, God does tell people whom they should marry. I also agree that it's important to "test the spirits" as 1 John 1:4 says as we might have misheard God, or mistook His voice for our personal desires, or worse, we're being deceived by the enemy. So, when we think we hear God telling us someone is the person we're supposed to marry, we should first pray and ask God for confirmation. We should also seek wisdom and godly counsel from other trusted believers. We furthermore should surrender it to God and ask for His will in the matter, and see if we have a peace about it. I do believe He can speak to each of us differently in such a way that we know that it's Him. But, it still takes careful prayer and seeking wisdom. We don't want to jump the gun on something without seeking God's confirmation and wisdom otherwise it could lead to unnecessary heartache.
This was such great & wise advice!!! Thank you!!! I love the point about using your MIND not just your heart! The heart can be deceitful ! God Bless you and your channel! :)
I think that lyric was more about what God did in her and her husband's life (as sort of confirmation after the song was written) . When she met her husband he DID give her a special look. They met in March and married about a year later. I guess when you know, you know, especially when you have wise people around you to help you navigate with Rebecca does.
I showed a picture of my now husband then boyfriend to a female friend of mine and she looked at it and said "that's your husband". I rolled my eyes because I was taught that it's the LAST thing you "prophesy" about is marriage. It's just too changeable and hard to know for sure. Another leader in our church told me once "you'll be married in two years" and I hadn't even met anyone yet and had been going through a dry spell that lasted from 19 to 27. I did meet and get engaged to my husband within that two year mark and this guy brought it up when he found out. He said "I prophesied that and you laughed at me." You can't go by "signs" or whatever, but sometimes they DO happen. I remember a bible verse being assigned to me with a special nickname that my friends thought was from the Lord and had prophetic meaning when I was in my late teens. That same Bible verse is the verse my husband, then fiance, wrote in the card he gave me after we got engaged. I never told him about the verse. We were a long distance relationship, that once we met each other for the first time went pretty fast, then slowed down when the immigration stuff came into play. Oh, and my friend, who said that guy if your husband, she knew the day he'd propose too, something I didn't know until a few weeks ago when she brought it up during a visit to my new home country (Australia). My boyfriend came to visit, spend about 12 days with my family and I and got a blessing to ask to marry me from both my parents and left as my fiance.
I have been with a man for 3ish years. He wants a break for God to tell him that I am the one. The part of distance has been hard, he is working at home while I am in college online at home. PA and NY. Time is all he wants I asked if we broke up and he just sad “Just give me some time to think about everything” could you pray for him, Alec, to feel the voice of God and not over look it. I could use some advice ❤️ God is good and my faith is growing but my waking up have been hard and falling asleep even harder. Christian brothers and sisters please share some kind words. God is good
My grandparents 52 years until my grandmother's passing. Grandpa always said don't marry potential : if you can not accept the person now the way they are and being married to them for the rest of your life then don't. They won't magically get better. My experience 💓: and after you are married sometimes things come up that drive your spouse away from you (death of a child or other trauma)and suddenly they are not the person you fell in love with. This is not the time to question if you married the wrong person. God will help you if you are willing to humble yourself and be the right person for your spouse. Remember your Vows. You made them Before God 💓
I think gut feelings are really important.(but I think gut feelings are just Gods way of trying to tell you something)I’ve known this guy my whole life and we care about each other so much. I’m so sure he’s the one I’m going to marry. And I think he believes that too. Pray for us. I hope he’s the one
Love your hair and your videos are AMAZZIINNNNGGG!!! Just wandering if you could do a video and/or give some advice about the topic ‘Are you ever too young to start dating?’ (regarding teen dating). :)
Heyyy would you be interested in doing a video about hope in God vs expectation and when your expectations get too far? Like, what kinds of expectations you fee God has encouraged or allowed you to keep in your life and which kinds can begin to do you harm or disrespect God? AND when hope starts to turn into expectation etc. I've recently begun to write letters to my future husband within a journal and I've been using it as sort of an experiment to see how many of the thoughts and images I have in my head or how my future relationship will be and what he will be like but I don't intend to leave God out of it and want to make sure that even while writing out all my hopes for that part of my future, I'm not ever telling God what to do, you know? Would you maybe have any thoughts on that? Did you ever write to the idea of James before meeting him? I feel its been helping me keep focused on my life at hand instead of constantly thinking about my future mans. :/
Christina Pantz oh what a cool video idea!! So..just trying to make sure I understand ... you mean when you’re making unrealistic expectations in your head vs when your expectations are realistic and God honoring?
Yes! Like, the Lord says to pray and believe what you're asking for will be done, but when does hoping and believing turn into basically telling God what to do in your life without the humility that is necessary when you're addressing the Lord? I pray for things and hope for things but I would never want to disrespect God by having an attitude of expecting him to just do what I want. Where can we find that balance and humility? I know God wants the best for me and I guess I just find it difficult to figure out when I'm simply hoping vs when I'm believing that I know whats best for my life more than God.
I’m always cautious about people who say, “God told me to go out with you/marry you.” I’ve only seen that work out once out of multiple people. I’m not saying it’s not possible, but it’s possible when we are so emotionally invested to mistake God’s voice for our own desires. At least in my experience 😅
Hi Tiffany. This is a great video! Would you be willing to share your thoughts on my situation (below)? I'm 19 and in my second year of college. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. A week before we started dating, we were eating breakfast together in the dining hall when all of a sudden I had, no joke, a vision of us eating breakfast together, but we were married. Everything was white and peaceful, but it scared me! I had never thought about him that way before, but now that we've been dating for some time and I've been able to reflect on that vision, I have decided that I'm going to let it be a reminder of what could happen, not necessarily what will. I can definitely see it being possible, but I don't want to rush things as I'd rather focus on graduating before marrying. Do you have anything to say on this?
I think your perspective on it is awesome!! That it could happen but that doesn’t mean it necessarily will. Time will tell. I think that’s a really healthy and wise response to have! ❤️❤️❤️
Super hairstyle! I love it! :) When do you give birth? Good recommandations, Tiffany! I would like to add a thing. "The One" - in the Bible, there is one time when God had made that! In Genesis: God has made Eve for Adam, and that's all. So what can we do now? I really love that thingI can pray for my future husband now when I don't know him. I don't know his name, maybe I never meet him before. These prayers makes my heart and his heart prepared for future marriage. I trust in God, and I've told Him which things are important for me. I know there is a guy somewhere I prayed for, and God uses my prayers to build his heart.
I remember praying to God to like letting me find a guy in like two different locations At a church and at dnd (I was a bit desperate, ok?) I met this guy at dnd And like He was just an acquaintance for like 3 months Maybe the one I liked the least in the crowd, but he was alright and I saw he had a big and gentle heart Then one day he showed up at the church and sat beside me Aaaaaand Well Infatuation Another time I was waiting for him at a meeting point It was near a hill And some birds flew around me before flying to the hill I walked to the top of the hill And there he was on the other side of the hill We have now dated for 3 months And outside of some minor things like him sometimes checking his phone for like a minute around me, everything seems great
Also. I have only told my parents about him. They haven't met him yet. But based on what I told them, they are like super supportive of him. And my friends like just clique with him and we also have some common friends/acquaintances (not exactly sure where the border is)
This is so me right now . i have had an ongoing relationship with an ex and its been complicated. But we are finally starting new and everything seems to be going well. But, i am being led by my mind a lot and keep teling myself it wont work because he isnt a Christian. He has always encourages me though and is happy for me and about my faith. But then i just question if this is what God wants for me? I pray that he may eventually come to Christ but i know i cant hold onto that forever as a burden in our relationship.
I by no means want to tell you what to do, however if I could give you what the Bible says on dating an unsaved person in hopes that it could help you in making a decision. Growing up I didn't know many scriptures on dating an unsaved, except one in particular. For sometime I believe I only knew "do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.." But there is so much more in the Bible that really shows the heart of God on this topic, that I don't think I realized back then, but now I have a fuller picture of it. Here are the scriptures that really helped me. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 (the one I mentioned above) Deuteronomy 7:3-4 (I Know we are not under the law, but the old testament gives us a great description of God's character, which He said He never changes), and lastly the story of Solomon in the Old testament is a great example of him marrying women who did not serve God. God told him not to marry them, because he could be swayed to serve their foreign gods and stop living for the true God. Sadly that is what happened with Solomon. There are some other scriptures, but these I thought were helpful to me and hopefully you :). Like I said Im not here telling you what to do, but I wanted to share this with you, in hopes it would help guide you.
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It would be great if she does, but at the end of the night, it’s her choice. I do pray to God if the girls I had a crush on are not the ones, then I should not make a move. I never dated, and that’s okay. I need to be patient to wait for The One. It will happen unexpectedly. :)
Yes boys! Remember, seek first the kingdom! If you focus on God and go after Him and become one with Him, she will be there beside you already, without confusion or questioning or pain, but in destiny and clarity and purity. Focus. 🔥🔥🙌🏼👊🏼
@@HPTFan Similar story here. No dating yet and have denied girls at school that showed interest just for the fun of dating. I rather wait and meet a girl that is serious about it and dates with a purpose.
That is a good question. In this case I think there are two possibilities. Either the breakup is a turn in the relationship to change it someway and God still does intend for you to marry him, or the breakup is God saying, "No, this is not what I want for you." In this situation prayer and wise counsel from older Christians are both critical. Whatever you do, wait on the Lord. Don't try to force anything, just trust that God will bring him back to you if that is the right thing, or open another door if he wants you to take a different path.
My boyfriend and now fiancée told med that god told him we were gonna marry. ;) I have not heard from god...and I´m fighting it because that how I work, I kinda like to fight things... but I love my fiancée...!
Girlfriend I'm stuggling with wether or not I should say yes or no to the guy 😂😂😂 to be my bf not my husband lol but then I start thinking about that too and it just throws me off 😣😣😣 lol I love your videos so much there always so helping 😂😂
Tiffany I've heard stories including my parents where God was the match maker and brought them together and they both just knew-they still dated for like a year though. But it's like that persons highlighted-to you in a way. some people have just married through Godly set ups like really fast-but i would say you would really have to know that's God and it probably dose't happen immediately like that for everyone. like derek prince second wife-they both heard to marry each other when they were mutual friends.and their relationship escalated-but it's like God was carrying all the pieces-i don't think this would be for everybody. I do think however that God does have in mind of who we should be with.. but maybe there is a few options like you said.
Because I believe in doctrine and have a “denomination” I know if someone is an unequal yoke. God also will show me in a dream that a guy is a snake. It happens every time. I don’t know how a Christian can be so confused when we have the counsel of scripture, prayer, the Holy Spirit, faith and prophecy.
Elizabeth Brennan it’s called a rhetorical question. It’s not an honest question. There was nothing funny or joking about my comment. You have a sarcastic sense of humor. If you want to say something; say it! Anyway, I don’t take God’s name in vain so there were no jokes. Tricks are for kids and whores.
Girls, remember that you have to get a boyfriend first. You have to accept men’s dating invitations. Church is a terrible place to meet a Christian woman.
On the note of using wisdom and sound thinking, Here is the list I have compiled for the man I marry.
1. Must love God with heart, soul, and mind, and seek to serve him.
2. Must be strong in areas where I am weak (and vice-versa).
3. Must be self-confident (know himself).
4. Must share my passions.
5. Must respect and value me.
6. Must be someone I enjoy talking to.
7. Must be my best friend.
8. Must push me to be better.
9. Must be a hard worker.
10. Must pursue me.
11. Must be willing to inconvenience himself for me.
12. Must know the word of God.
13. Must protect my purity.
14. Must be a joyful person.
15. Must make me laugh.
16. Must be attentive.
17. Must be selfless.
18. Must defend me.
19. Must be a good steward of his body.
20. Must hold me up to similar standards.
My wife and I went on ONE date and Holy Spirit was making it so obvious we had to get married. It’s possible if you’re totally focussed on God! We’ve now been together 3 and a half years and have a baby girl and life’s amazing!
Joseph The Dreamer ahhh congratulations on your marriage and little baby girl!! 😍😍😍
Why won't he do that for the rest of us?
I also know a guy who married a girl after knowing her for a week because "God told me in a dream to marry her." And their marriage is SUPER CRAZY with verbal abuse all the time. Her moving out and going to a homeless shelter. Her fighting with the in-law to the point of making her mother in-law cry. Even her sleeping over another mans house. God cant be put in a box, so sure he can tell you on a first date but there are other people who were "sure" they heard from God and it went horribly. There is no harm in waiting patiently and dating to being sure. And if you two were SURE after one date then fine, that's a very beautiful thing. Her message is just don't be naive and put yourself in a bad position when you could miss hear God.
I wish you all the best.I heard so many stories- God tells me and today they are divorced- and clapping, singing every Sunday.Half of our church is divorced today.And I know people who didn't ask God but they were loyal. Despite all trouble celebrate 50th anniversary together.
@@jojo_inspire My guess is you only heard the man's point of view on this story. Which if she ended up in a homeless shelter, their were legal issues on his end ( physical abuse more than likely) and if the mom in-law is trying to defend her son, then yes the girl is going to be upset because she is in a very emotional situation. And right off the bat, with the dude having a dream to marry her, and DOING SO, he is probably in a manic state of mind, and is psychopathic more likely. Hence the charm he puts off as a "nice guy", her saying yes to him and she falling for it because she's a believer, the physical abuse he done and won't admit to, the story building where he tries to make her look bad and himself good, and he probably never got the help he needed because the mom as well is babying him instead of actually getting him the help he needs.
just a little psychological insight for you, and to get another perspective. because even from reading this, there's things that doesn't make a lot of sense, and I'm sorry for such a strong reply, but after knowing MANY people in these situations, and myself too, and "church" people judging the VICTIM without understanding physiological study or even knowing legal facts, I really don't take this lightly and it is heartbreaking to even hear about this situation. I'm sorry, but i'm 99% sure your guy friend is a jerk.
My mother and father went to church together. My dad is 9 years older than my mom and she passed him in the hall one day and she heard in her head “that’s your husband.” And she freaked out, because at this point she was 18 and he was 27 and she hadn’t put much thought past just simply “oh he’s cute.” She thought it was crazy, but here they are 27 years later and 3 kids!
Ruth Crawford thank u for sharing! I can totally relate to ur mom!
Ruth Crawford wow she must of been so close to Jesus and very discerning to hear and know that! Fair okay Mumma Crawford 😂🙌🏼
Ruth Crawford no way!! That’s too funny! What a sweet story too 😍 My dad felt that way with my mom when they met too- like God was saying she was his wife. Almost 35 years later, here they are!
Ruth that's a beautiful story!!
Ok so something interesting happened to me this summer. I'm 21 and I've had guys I've liked in the past, but I've never dated anyone. I go to a Christian Youth and young adult camp every year with my church. Last year when I was there I saw this guy, I thought he was cute, but didn't think much of it, He acted like he wanted to talk to me but never did, so I had forgotten about him until this year at camp, I saw him again (he is 21 also) and this time he talked to me, I didn't think to much of it because no ones every liked me, and even though I thought he might like me I chalked it up to wishful thinking, But without me saying anything My friends started pointing him out saying I think that guy likes you. So My reaction was wow someone I like might like me. But at a morning church service I prayed about him, I asked the lord what I should do If he asked me for my number? If I could give it to him. or if I could talk to him in a way that would encourage him a little bit, But I felt the lord speak to me and say, ''No not right now, he's battling something and he needs to concentrate on it right now.'' he said it in a loving but firm way like most fathers, when they tell you not right now. Then he placed a heavy burden for him on my heart, it was such a weird feeling, I'm not sure what he was fighting, but I could feel in my spirit as I prayed for him that there was a war going on for him. After the service I was walking on the side walk to go to the dorm, when I met him, as I walked by I said Good morning, But immediately I felt the spirit check me in a gentle way as if pulling me back a little, ''Ahh I told you not to talk with him.'' I think he felt it too, because it looked like he was gonna say something but Instead he put his head down and we walked by each other. I'm not saying he's the one at all, But it was such a strange experience, I've had the Lord speak to me not to talk to someone before, I was not interested in this man, but he was a youth leader at another church, I felt the lord speak to me in a Very forceful way, Not to speak or go near that youth leader, I obeyed and a year later it came out that he had been molesting young girls in his youth group. So I know the lords voice, and I know when the lord warns me about someone. But when he spoke to me about him, it was more like he was saying I would be a distraction for him right now, and maybe another time. I know for me God speaks about people, I have never really asked God for permission to talk to someone before because I'd never liked someone that much to take it to a dating level before. But I'm thankful God cares for me and for others like him. Maybe one day I'll see him again and the Lord will say we can talk or maybe not, all I know is God is good and he cares for his people. :D Love your videos, they're truly wonderful.
I'd like to be your next distraction
You mustn’t. ☝🏼
@Marjan Ezzati What Must I not do?
Daughter of The King that is so awesome you paid attention to what God whispered to your heart!! And what a faith-builder to find out some of those things afterwards! I’ve definitely had similar things happen with guys - and then find out later on He saved me from a bad situation. It was always so weird and unusual when it would happen, but I was so thankful. He’s such a good father.
Wow! That is so powerful!
I didn't like my husband when we first met. I thought he might be crazy. Turns out he was crazy, but in a good way! ;)
Michelle Bishop 😂😂 I love this!!
Would you mind elaborating on what kinds of things did he do to give you that impression?
one of my cousins gave me this fantastic advice:
date the one you want to marry, through all 4 seasons.
in other words, don't simply fall in love and that's it. find out how the other person reacts in as many different situations as you can, so you can make good judgement where a relationship with that person is concerned.
Great advice
Would you consider doing a video (if you haven’t already) on how to talk to your future partner about past mistakes you’ve made? I’d love to get your advice.
Great suggestion!
BabyBlue oh wow that’s such a great idea!! I’m adding this to my list of ideas to mull Over 😄
Tiffany Dawn thank you🙃
@@TiffanyDawn yes...MULL! ☺
Did she make a video on this yet? I've been with my gf almost a year and I feel its about time to delve pretty deep into some heavy stuff but I'm not sure but Gods just been weighing on my heart lately
Your channel is such a blessing!
I agree with your tips. We should take time to discern properly and we need to discern in a human logical way while praying and learning to listen to God's voice.
I love this video! I would like to add, don't became obsessed! I believe God told me who my future husband is and I would have never given him the time of day before that dream. God has changed my perspective since then. I was obsessed for about 2 years. I finally talked to him and realized we both are not ready for each other. The 💓 will do crazy things if you let it.
weenieboys 2 that is a GREAT tip to add! I love it!
Love how you phrased that - God can guide you to a person, but that doesn't mean there's necessarily just one person in the whole world you could be with. That's exactly what I think! If that were true, you would have to conclude that remarriage after the death of a spouse is sin, which Biblically, obviously it isn't. Personally, I rather suspect God won't tell me point blank who to marry. The reason I say that is because I have a history of mishearing God. Maybe he would, if I grow and get more practised at discerning his voice, but for me there's a good chance he won't. Really helpful video :)
I agree
I think each relationship is unique to the couple. I know relationships that dated for years, and their marriage ended in divorce, and I know relationships that dated for a few weeks, and they're marriages are 5+ years going, and the most beautiful examples I've ever seen. So much wisdom in this video, though! Especially the part where you said don't tell him you two are to get married. I really needed that ❤🌹 Blessings ♡
Another little gem from my Grandpa (married 52 years till my grandmother's passing) "Don't go into Marriage with a back door. Cause if it's there when things get tough you will take it."
(That's not to say there is no Scriptural case ever for divorce, but God intended Marriage to be for Life) 🤗💓💓
I don't believe in the THE ONE. God gives us wisdom, commandments, grace and counsel to choose our partner wisely and have the best possible marriage, but I don't think He prepares someone from birth to be our spouse. If that were so, we would each have a perfectly matched spouse and that's not reality.
Laura M. Thaaaaaank you .
totally agree
Hehe
Laura M. I don’t think him preparing someone is equivalent to that person being what you deem as perfect for you as in the perfect person to get along and checks all your boxes because a lot of times we are dead wrong on what we want. But i believ if we truly believe God knows beginning from end and the plans He has for us, then I think how can we not believe that our God actually has the ideal will for our lives but the allowance of free will means you can very well get with someone that is great but wasn’t the ideal plan. Just like careers or paths. God may have had a certain will for you but you can very well make choices to change things. Jonah ran from God and his story didn’t follow perfection. But everything turns for the good so God Still has the plan to turn us around. But that’s my thought. I don’t think you should be fearful at all because God is God and all this work irk together l, but I think to believe that Hod doesn’t have an ideal plan with every ability/plan to make things work out regardless of our choices actually stifles the perspective of the great God He is. But that’s just my conviction after a lot of wondering about this😅
I do believe in THE ONE. But, I think it's a case by case basis. Some people might choose to pray and ask God to select a mate for them. And since God said in Psalm 139:16 "Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them."
It is reasonable to consider that before anyone prayed a prayer asking God to choose their spouse for them, He knew there would come a day when they would pray that prayer. So it makes sense that He would prepare a spouse for the person who asks that of Him, IF it is His will for Him to do so.
Concerning your last sentence, not everyone desires to marry. God places different desires in each one of us. Just because God might desire that it's His will for a certain couples to get together doesn't mean He has a perfect-match spouse laid out for everyone. Some are just meant to remain single, and I believe that those who are meant to remain single might not even have a desire to marry because God did not give them such a desire to begin with.
Thanks Tiffany! I love the fact you say you need to use your brain! So true... often one gets caught up in emotions and fail to see red flags because we forget to use our brains...
I love this and totally agree! My husband and I knew very early on but I remember even telling him, time will tell, when he said he was falling for me because I believe in allowing time to test things. But not tooooo much time, especially when people are younger and need to get married to avoid the lust and don’t have a lot of baggage and complications. I agree with 6 months to a year.
One of my pastors once said "there's no such thing as the one. If ONE person marries wrong, the whole world is screwed!" comical point, but valid in it's way
I agree!!
Thank you SO much for your channel Tiffany. You give such valuable advice and keep me sane through high school XD I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me get through doubts in my faith and relationships. I've only really started pursuing God in recent months and it can be a little overwhelming, but having you to go to for advice and reassurance is such a blessing. All the best with your baby Xx
Willow Moon awwww!!! Thank you for sharing this - it encouraged me so much!! I actually have a video coming up in a few months about developing a relationship with God and I think it will be sooo encouraging for you!!
Yay! I can't wait for it :D
Amen love your insight on relationships.
bruh, c'mon no
Thank you so much for doing this video I'm not with this guy but when he asked me to hang out for the first time I heard God say this is the man of God that you prayed about its been tough we've slowed down a lot in regards to conversation cause we did get too deep too quick God has reassured me that he has his hand on the situation and I have seen signs too so I am trusting him even though we aren't together yet I know he is who God has for me. He doesnt see what I see just yet but I know God is working in his life and God keeps speaking to me as well about this guys purpose because the guy told me what he things God is calling him to do and God has shown me things that will help him on his journey so I know the step back we have taken is a good thing to focys on our purposes. God is just taking me through the wilderness to see if I will trust and have faith in what I can't see yet and I am holding onto his promise and believing with all my heart.
I remember when I thought God was giving me signs about someone because of a guy I liked who kept appearing in my dreams. I usually write all my dreams down and sometimes the Lord has revealed the meaning. I waited and talked to someone I thought I could trust. They told me the dreams meant to wait and that God would bring us together in the future. I waited and a year later he married someone else. It is very important to wait for confirmation on both sides or else you could be led into deception. After that experience, I’m actually not even hoping for signs anymore. I just want things to play out in the natural.
You're videos have been such a help and blessing lately. Right now I have feelings for a young man that have been so completely different from any feelings I have ever had for a guy before. We talked about it and even though we are still just friends, the gracious way he responded has done nothing but cement my feelings for him. I'm not totally sure God didn't tell me he is the one but it isn't the time and He has pointed out a lot of things in me that He is still working on.
So right now I am in that time of waiting and discernment. Because God knows His plan, and even if this young man is not the one, God has definitely used him for some big things in my life.
Wow I’m in a similar situation. I have this boy that I’ve liked for about three years now, and everybody I’ve talked to about him says. that he probably likes me. He was out of my life for about a year and a half, and then a door that was extremely unlikely to open opened, and now I have a chance to reconnect with him. The whole time we were relatively out of contact (a few casual conversations and stuff on Snapchat but not seeing each other in person) I was so confused by how I couldn’t get over him. I tried everything I could to get over him but nothing worked. All it took was one mention of his name and I couldn’t stop grinning. There’s just something about him that immediately makes me happy (he’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met, but there’s something I can’t really explain that makes it so hard to move on) Some months before the door opened I started accepting my feelings were never going to go away unless I had closure, and the closure wasn’t coming anytime soon with COVID and everything. I thought about him everyday for almost 22 months in that time, and I couldn’t stop my mind from wrestling with itself bc one part of me knew that our story wasn’t over and the other part was trying to convince me that someone could never like me like that.
Fast forward to the day I saw him again. I had seen through social media he had been going to a youth group at my friends church so I texted her and asked her to go with me. We went and he was there. The youth group went extremely well and at the end my friend told me he couldn’t take his eyes off of me. I couldn’t wait to go back as the youth group had gone extremely well. The fact that he had been there and still seemed interested made me feel so good. It was like the Lord was showing me that this boy wasn’t going anywhere, that this door was remaining open, and that our story wasn’t over. Unfortunately we didn’t get to directly talk to each other bc of the circumstances, but I felt way better about it. Then the next week I went he wasn’t there and I convinced myself that I did something wrong. But then the Lord reminded me of the fact that we’re still young, and He provided me with inner peace with the situation. He gave me contentment with this season of waiting and working on myself and my faith. He has given me so much strength to give Him control, which is something that as someone with anxiety who overthinks a lot is really hard to do.
So yeah the whole part about the season of waiting made me feel like I wanted to share my story. :)
I think this is so wise Tiffany! Everyone’s story is different (of course) but time really will tell if it’s in His will for our life or not. If God has something in our life He will keep it there. No amount of wrong turns could ever make that thing that God has in our lives change. Our choices can make things either more difficult or easy but either way if God wants it to happen you better believe it will happen. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
Love your hair Tiffany 😍
I love your room and your hair! Your videos are always so comforting. ✌🏼
I'm a 54 year old man, and I would like to say you and James give really good advice. Even for me. God bless.
This video was sooo soo good!!! Uhhh so much amazing advice. Tiffany you are literally the big sister I never had 😊
Yess!
Same!
Kristin Laurens 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I have often wondered this too. Recently, I had a guy I used to work with message me on Facebook out of the blue. He asked if I wanted to play frisbee with him sometime. Previous to that God was showing me somethings about relationships. I wondered if this one would go anywhere. I really tried to not let my mind go overboard with the "what if this turns into something". I figured even if all we ended up doing was being friends, that would be enough. I have often wondered if God will tell you that he's the one. I agree with what you said. We can totally misconstrue things that are really our emotions and not God.
I dated somone for about 4 or 5 years and just realize that he wasn't the one and wasn't somone who God had for me t marry he always wanted me to text him even when I told him I couldn't bc I was doing missions worke, somrhi ng at church and he would get mad at me if I didn't. So I just told him one day that we wasn't going to work out.
I love your hair so much!!! 💗 Also - amazing to hear about your new e-book. So brilliant. Sooo great how you tackled this topic! X
Mat & Est - ChristianVloggers wheeeeyyy it’s Est!
Listening to you talking about the beginning of your relationship with James, I’m like WOW that’s me. 🙈 Glad I’m not the only one who wonders about this and second guesses. Thanks for the advice!
There was this guy I met last Dec. while I was studying abroad. He was with his church doing field work at the school I was attending there. As I was sitting in the lobby he approached me with his missions buddy and invited me to a Friday Bible study that his church was having.
Every Friday before the Bible study meeting, we would meet an hour early and go to a coffee shop together and talk. I didn't think much of it until 3 months into us meeting. It was as if out of the blue I suddenly had very strong feelings for him.
In fact, one day I was thinking about him and the next thing I know my mouth was like... He's my husband. I was so shocked, and was like..... No no no, he's not, what am I saying?? I've generally always been uninterested in marriage, mainly because I was scared of possibly getting divorced one day. Just about everyone in my family who has been married, has gotten divorced at least once (with the exception of my parents, but they argue a lot and my mom has expressed how she wishes she would have married a different man). However, after that whole "he's my husband" thing, I've become more interested in marriage and getting married one day.
Unfortunately, me and him weren't able to spend much time together during my last 3 months there. We were both very busy with school, and he did a lot of ministry work (he's a team leader at the church). We tried a few times to set up a time to meet, but weren't able to actually meet on those days due to last minute projects.
A couple friends I met from the church would always make comments about me and him meeting, and how it was "love at first sight". One girl even said he was my "Knight in shining armor" 😂. Before I left he asked me if I wanted to stay, and when I would be back. I plan on going back next year and working there for at least a few years, if not long term.
I don't talk to him much, because I didn't want to be distracted. It took many months of praying for my feels for him to finally "go away". I still care about him, but I definitely don't feel as strongly as I did.
Great vid! What you said about the importance of dating first is helpful. What you said makes sense and has a lot of wisdom in it. Thanks for bringing more clarity to my own heart on the topic!
you are such a help to us young women. god bless you tiff 💛
I do appreciate you acknowledging that in some circumstances for some people, God does tell people whom they should marry. I also agree that it's important to "test the spirits" as 1 John 1:4 says as we might have misheard God, or mistook His voice for our personal desires, or worse, we're being deceived by the enemy. So, when we think we hear God telling us someone is the person we're supposed to marry, we should first pray and ask God for confirmation. We should also seek wisdom and godly counsel from other trusted believers. We furthermore should surrender it to God and ask for His will in the matter, and see if we have a peace about it.
I do believe He can speak to each of us differently in such a way that we know that it's Him. But, it still takes careful prayer and seeking wisdom. We don't want to jump the gun on something without seeking God's confirmation and wisdom otherwise it could lead to unnecessary heartache.
Good advice for the Bros too.
A96B6 you know it 👊🏼
Wow I just found your channel and I absolutely LOVE your videos and your content!! So so helpful! Thank you 😊😊
This was such great & wise advice!!! Thank you!!! I love the point about using your MIND not just your heart! The heart can be deceitful ! God Bless you and your channel! :)
I think that lyric was more about what God did in her and her husband's life (as sort of confirmation after the song was written)
. When she met her husband he DID give her a special look. They met in March and married about a year later. I guess when you know, you know, especially when you have wise people around you to help you navigate with Rebecca does.
Tiffany, your channel is growing so fast! I'm so happy for you! I love watching your videos!:)
Loving your new hair do, thanks for making this video 🙏😊
I showed a picture of my now husband then boyfriend to a female friend of mine and she looked at it and said "that's your husband". I rolled my eyes because I was taught that it's the LAST thing you "prophesy" about is marriage. It's just too changeable and hard to know for sure. Another leader in our church told me once "you'll be married in two years" and I hadn't even met anyone yet and had been going through a dry spell that lasted from 19 to 27. I did meet and get engaged to my husband within that two year mark and this guy brought it up when he found out. He said "I prophesied that and you laughed at me." You can't go by "signs" or whatever, but sometimes they DO happen. I remember a bible verse being assigned to me with a special nickname that my friends thought was from the Lord and had prophetic meaning when I was in my late teens. That same Bible verse is the verse my husband, then fiance, wrote in the card he gave me after we got engaged. I never told him about the verse. We were a long distance relationship, that once we met each other for the first time went pretty fast, then slowed down when the immigration stuff came into play. Oh, and my friend, who said that guy if your husband, she knew the day he'd propose too, something I didn't know until a few weeks ago when she brought it up during a visit to my new home country (Australia). My boyfriend came to visit, spend about 12 days with my family and I and got a blessing to ask to marry me from both my parents and left as my fiance.
Your words are so good!!!! I love watching your videos they’re so refreshing!!
I have been with a man for 3ish years. He wants a break for God to tell him that I am the one. The part of distance has been hard, he is working at home while I am in college online at home. PA and NY. Time is all he wants I asked if we broke up and he just sad “Just give me some time to think about everything” could you pray for him, Alec, to feel the voice of God and not over look it. I could use some advice ❤️ God is good and my faith is growing but my waking up have been hard and falling asleep even harder. Christian brothers and sisters please share some kind words. God is good
I love you Tiffany! Your videos are amazing and I always look forward to watching them :)
Thanks, Tiffany! This was a great video :) And I love your new hair
Tiffany this was SOOOO SOO helpful; thank you so much sister.
My grandparents 52 years until my grandmother's passing. Grandpa always said don't marry potential : if you can not accept the person now the way they are and being married to them for the rest of your life then don't. They won't magically get better.
My experience 💓: and after you are married sometimes things come up that drive your spouse away from you (death of a child or other trauma)and suddenly they are not the person you fell in love with. This is not the time to question if you married the wrong person. God will help you if you are willing to humble yourself and be the right person for your spouse. Remember your Vows. You made them Before God 💓
I think gut feelings are really important.(but I think gut feelings are just Gods way of trying to tell you something)I’ve known this guy my whole life and we care about each other so much. I’m so sure he’s the one I’m going to marry. And I think he believes that too. Pray for us. I hope he’s the one
Thank you for such good wisdom! I needed it today.
Heyyyyy! Just adding to the conversation girls! ... lol
Love your hair and your videos are AMAZZIINNNNGGG!!! Just wandering if you could do a video and/or give some advice about the topic ‘Are you ever too young to start dating?’ (regarding teen dating). :)
Maria Wright ahhhh thank you!! ❤️🤗 And what a great video idea!! I’ll be adding this to my list of ideas to mull Over...😍
thank you for these beautiful words ❤️
If you have to ask that after you've been together a while they probably aren't.
Great video Tiffany❤️ always on the perfect timing lol
What’s a boyfriend? LOL 😰😂
Umm... a young man who brings you flowers, tells you look beautiful, but you just can't contain him.
That was really nice! 😊
I really like this.
Thanks so much.❤❤💖
Heyyy would you be interested in doing a video about hope in God vs expectation and when your expectations get too far? Like, what kinds of expectations you fee God has encouraged or allowed you to keep in your life and which kinds can begin to do you harm or disrespect God? AND when hope starts to turn into expectation etc. I've recently begun to write letters to my future husband within a journal and I've been using it as sort of an experiment to see how many of the thoughts and images I have in my head or how my future relationship will be and what he will be like but I don't intend to leave God out of it and want to make sure that even while writing out all my hopes for that part of my future, I'm not ever telling God what to do, you know? Would you maybe have any thoughts on that? Did you ever write to the idea of James before meeting him? I feel its been helping me keep focused on my life at hand instead of constantly thinking about my future mans. :/
Christina Pantz oh what a cool video idea!! So..just trying to make sure I understand ... you mean when you’re making unrealistic expectations in your head vs when your expectations are realistic and God honoring?
Yes! Like, the Lord says to pray and believe what you're asking for will be done, but when does hoping and believing turn into basically telling God what to do in your life without the humility that is necessary when you're addressing the Lord? I pray for things and hope for things but I would never want to disrespect God by having an attitude of expecting him to just do what I want. Where can we find that balance and humility? I know God wants the best for me and I guess I just find it difficult to figure out when I'm simply hoping vs when I'm believing that I know whats best for my life more than God.
Love your videos!
I’m always cautious about people who say, “God told me to go out with you/marry you.” I’ve only seen that work out once out of multiple people. I’m not saying it’s not possible, but it’s possible when we are so emotionally invested to mistake God’s voice for our own desires. At least in my experience 😅
Hi Tiffany. This is a great video!
Would you be willing to share your thoughts on my situation (below)?
I'm 19 and in my second year of college. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. A week before we started dating, we were eating breakfast together in the dining hall when all of a sudden I had, no joke, a vision of us eating breakfast together, but we were married. Everything was white and peaceful, but it scared me! I had never thought about him that way before, but now that we've been dating for some time and I've been able to reflect on that vision, I have decided that I'm going to let it be a reminder of what could happen, not necessarily what will. I can definitely see it being possible, but I don't want to rush things as I'd rather focus on graduating before marrying. Do you have anything to say on this?
I think your perspective on it is awesome!! That it could happen but that doesn’t mean it necessarily will. Time will tell. I think that’s a really healthy and wise response to have! ❤️❤️❤️
Super hairstyle! I love it! :) When do you give birth? Good recommandations, Tiffany! I would like to add a thing. "The One" - in the Bible, there is one time when God had made that! In Genesis: God has made Eve for Adam, and that's all. So what can we do now? I really love that thingI can pray for my future husband now when I don't know him. I don't know his name, maybe I never meet him before. These prayers makes my heart and his heart prepared for future marriage. I trust in God, and I've told Him which things are important for me. I know there is a guy somewhere I prayed for, and God uses my prayers to build his heart.
I remember praying to God to like letting me find a guy in like two different locations
At a church and at dnd
(I was a bit desperate, ok?)
I met this guy at dnd
And like
He was just an acquaintance for like 3 months
Maybe the one I liked the least in the crowd, but he was alright and I saw he had a big and gentle heart
Then one day he showed up at the church and sat beside me
Aaaaaand
Well
Infatuation
Another time I was waiting for him at a meeting point
It was near a hill
And some birds flew around me before flying to the hill
I walked to the top of the hill
And there he was on the other side of the hill
We have now dated for 3 months
And outside of some minor things like him sometimes checking his phone for like a minute around me, everything seems great
Also. I have only told my parents about him. They haven't met him yet. But based on what I told them, they are like super supportive of him. And my friends like just clique with him and we also have some common friends/acquaintances (not exactly sure where the border is)
This is so me right now . i have had an ongoing relationship with an ex and its been complicated. But we are finally starting new and everything seems to be going well. But, i am being led by my mind a lot and keep teling myself it wont work because he isnt a Christian. He has always encourages me though and is happy for me and about my faith. But then i just question if this is what God wants for me? I pray that he may eventually come to Christ but i know i cant hold onto that forever as a burden in our relationship.
I by no means want to tell you what to do, however if I could give you what the Bible says on dating an unsaved person in hopes that it could help you in making a decision. Growing up I didn't know many scriptures on dating an unsaved, except one in particular. For sometime I believe I only knew "do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.." But there is so much more in the Bible that really shows the heart of God on this topic, that I don't think I realized back then, but now I have a fuller picture of it. Here are the scriptures that really helped me. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 (the one I mentioned above) Deuteronomy 7:3-4 (I Know we are not under the law, but the old testament gives us a great description of God's character, which He said He never changes), and lastly the story of Solomon in the Old testament is a great example of him marrying women who did not serve God. God told him not to marry them, because he could be swayed to serve their foreign gods and stop living for the true God. Sadly that is what happened with Solomon. There are some other scriptures, but these I thought were helpful to me and hopefully you :). Like I said Im not here telling you what to do, but I wanted to share this with you, in hopes it would help guide you.
hi Tiffany, i would love to buy the e book but unfortunately i do not have pay PAL... isnt There and other Option to purchase it?? :(
itsAfantasyName you should be able to purchase with credit card. When it pulls up the PayPal, you can either sign in with a PayPal account or pay with credit card. I hope that helps!😍❤️
Could you make some videos for guys too? Or is you channel and you passion just mainly for girls, no problem if it is still a great channel.
marcopolo208
Iam a guy to!!!!!👍🏿🌝
It would be great if she does, but at the end of the night, it’s her choice. I do pray to God if the girls I had a crush on are not the ones, then I should not make a move. I never dated, and that’s okay. I need to be patient to wait for The One. It will happen unexpectedly. :)
Yes boys! Remember, seek first the kingdom! If you focus on God and go after Him and become one with Him, she will be there beside you already, without confusion or questioning or pain, but in destiny and clarity and purity. Focus. 🔥🔥🙌🏼👊🏼
@@HPTFan Similar story here. No dating yet and have denied girls at school that showed interest just for the fun of dating. I rather wait and meet a girl that is serious about it and dates with a purpose.
marcopolo208 ahhh such a great question! Yes my channel is geared toward women, but I love having you guys join us here!! 😍
what if you thought you heard correctly but then he breaks up with you?
That is a good question. In this case I think there are two possibilities. Either the breakup is a turn in the relationship to change it someway and God still does intend for you to marry him, or the breakup is God saying, "No, this is not what I want for you." In this situation prayer and wise counsel from older Christians are both critical. Whatever you do, wait on the Lord. Don't try to force anything, just trust that God will bring him back to you if that is the right thing, or open another door if he wants you to take a different path.
My boyfriend and now fiancée told med that god told him we were gonna marry. ;) I have not heard from god...and I´m fighting it because that how I work, I kinda like to fight things... but I love my fiancée...!
Love you Tiffany
Girlfriend I'm stuggling with wether or not I should say yes or no to the guy 😂😂😂 to be my bf not my husband lol but then I start thinking about that too and it just throws me off 😣😣😣 lol I love your videos so much there always so helping 😂😂
I feel, based on God's character, and the idea of monogamy, "the one "has to be somewhat flexible.
Tiffany I've heard stories including my parents where God was the match maker and brought them together and they both just knew-they still dated for like a year though. But it's like that persons highlighted-to you in a way.
some people have just married through Godly set ups like really fast-but i would say you would really have to know that's God and it probably dose't happen immediately like that for everyone.
like derek prince second wife-they both heard to marry each other when they were mutual friends.and their relationship escalated-but it's like God was carrying all the pieces-i don't think this would be for everybody.
I do think however that God does have in mind of who we should be with.. but maybe there is a few options like you said.
Djv N loves hearing your thoughts on this!! It’s always so cool to hear how different relationships developed 😍
Sorry, we’ll continue to drèr😅
Did God even tell you he's the true one god?
No but the Bible does
What about Brittany? She has sweet glasses and a sweet face, mmm
If you're a guy, your boyfriend is not "The One"
EricSmyth14
Thanks i was confused. You know the whole 🏳️🌈 deal and everything.
Your a Godsend 👍🏿😁
lololololol
EricSmyth14
Have a good night/day idk🤗
😂😂 Ok Eric.
mine is
Because I believe in doctrine and have a “denomination” I know if someone is an unequal yoke. God also will show me in a dream that a guy is a snake. It happens every time. I don’t know how a Christian can be so confused when we have the counsel of scripture, prayer, the Holy Spirit, faith and prophecy.
Is this a joke??
Elizabeth Brennan is that a question? Or a statement?
VoL. there was a question mark , so I assume a question .
+VoL.
Yes its was a question.
I dont mean to be rude.
But i wanted to know if what you said was for real or a joke.
Elizabeth Brennan it’s called a rhetorical question. It’s not an honest question. There was nothing funny or joking about my comment. You have a sarcastic sense of humor. If you want to say something; say it! Anyway, I don’t take God’s name in vain so there were no jokes. Tricks are for kids and whores.
Girls, remember that you have to get a boyfriend first. You have to accept men’s dating invitations. Church is a terrible place to meet a Christian woman.