1. Ignore him 2. Give him Anxiety 3. Be Vague (Self & Desires) 4. Never Validate a man!! 5. Have High Standards ~ Always be willing to Walk Away!!! Bonus!!
Secure people are off the market and in secure relationships because they had healthy communication, healthy center of self, and upfront intentions. Everyone left is anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, or dismissive avoidant using tactics to trigger unconscious fears to attempt a relationship. Good luck..
Ladies save this 15 minute video and play every morning to start you day. Do not respond to the Good morning! text. Let him Chase. Ignore ignore ignore ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤You are the prize.
Confusing. Had one of these go crazy for you guys. He turns around talks to another girl, yet is always finding a way to be around "me"> He has anxiety because I don't really talk to him.Then he turns around and has an instagram taken with another girl. He's playing both sides; two different locations. It's like he wants more, but then gives up. Goes somewhere, then comes back. Still doesn't get more. Then he gets well, like always frustrated/anxious. He actually made it so no one around Vday could possibly ask me out for Vday, yet he didn't ask me out for Vday? Good point. If he likes you, shouldn't he be treating you with respect????? This stuff so far has NOT been respectful in my mind.
This is not healthy… ignoring people to make him want you is not healthy. Mature relationships are base on open communication. At some point you will have to interact to build a relationship. This can only last so much .
YOU SOUND LIKE A PICKMEISHA OR A DUSTY. WHAT HE IS SAYING IN THIS VIDEO IS TRUE. MEN WILL BE LAZY IF YOU LET THEM AND TEXT MULTIPLE WOMEN AT ONCE JUST TO PLAY GAMES AND HAVE EASY ACCESS TO GET LAID. RELATIONSHIPS ARE MADE FROM IN PERSON FACE TO FACE CONTACT AND NOT THROUGH TEXT.
YOU SOUND LIKE A PICKMEISHA OR A DUSTY. WHAT HE IS SAYING IN THIS VIDEO IS TRUE. MEN WILL BE LAZY IF YOU LET THEM AND TEXT MULTIPLE WOMEN AT ONCE JUST TO PLAY GAMES AND HAVE EASY ACCESS TO GET LAID. RELATIONSHIPS ARE MADE FROM IN PERSON FACE TO FACE CONTACT AND NOT THROUGH TEXT.
Being obsessed is toxic! Man. Why would you want to give anyone anxiety? When a guy gives me anxiety....I feel very uncomfortable and I bounce. This crap actually creates toxic dynamics and possessive men. But you do you bro. Besides little boys chase! Grown men pursue! Get you a man not a boy.
@@OctobernightJ chasing is popping in non-stop texting, calls, reels or memes on social media, dropping into where they work, basically doing anything and everything to get their attention. Stroking their ego because you're giving them attention instead of the other way around. Pursuing is when a man sends you texts but only when he has time because he's busy working, taking care of kids if he has any, chillin with friends, taking you out on dates that may or may not cost a dime because it's thought and effort that go into it, telling you when they get home and vice-versa out of respect, holding doors open, bringing flowers if you like flowers, talking and being vulnerable with you, making you laugh when you're sad or upset, flirting, not asking for nudes but welcomes them after a while because of your other level of intimacy, overall being a gentleman. Aka zero silent treatment for days on end that they call ghosting. A person interested in you will not go a single day without talking to you. Even if it's just a few random text messages or reels or memes. They make time for you. They don't make you feel like you don't matter and if they do, say something and hear their reaction. Their actions have to match their words. Honesty is everything. What that other guy suggested is actually stringing someone along just to get them to chase you because it boosts their ego.
That's the masculine energy. They get off from testosterones\stress. Doesn't mean they don't want to rest with a girl. Just means it raises them up to the challenge to become men. We all know what happens when a man isn't masculine enough. It drives women crazy 😅
@@SalomejaSaulyte I know that but today it is all ppl use to meet ppl. It just sucks bc it isn’t reality and the ppl on there look nothing like they do in real life. Ppl are trying to look like robots now and then ppl get creeped out in real life. I don’t do apps anymore bc literally nobody wants a real long-term relationship. O well. I can say I tried. Lol
Why are men like this though🤦♀️? I took the advice and tested this out. 🫢 Why did he act like he was dying for my attention. STARVING. It was cute to watch. Him try to pretend like he wasn’t in need of it. Just wtf. Why all these games for men😭 like you have to treat them like they don’t exist for them to basically behave or act properly. I just. Thank you Tomisin but wtf.
1. Ignore him
2. Give him Anxiety
3. Be Vague (Self & Desires)
4. Never Validate a man!!
5. Have High Standards ~
Always be willing to Walk Away!!! Bonus!!
The last one is the most important. Always have an exit strategy.
One thing I noticed about men is once you start switching up your routine and withdraw, they go crazy!!! It works 😅
Aisha . Hi . I have a question for you .
Would you go no contact for a month if he ever cheated on you ?
@@CarlethaHenderson no, if he cheated I would leave him 🤷🏽♀️ in my opinion the cheating doesn’t end, they just get better at hiding it
I was wondering how long did you go with the not responding to texts calls like I did 4 hours because I could tell his anxiety was through the roof
Secure people are off the market and in secure relationships because they had healthy communication, healthy center of self, and upfront intentions. Everyone left is anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, or dismissive avoidant using tactics to trigger unconscious fears to attempt a relationship. Good luck..
Ladies save this 15 minute video and play every morning to start you day. Do not respond to the Good morning! text. Let him Chase. Ignore ignore ignore ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤You are the prize.
How long can you sustain this in a healthy relationship?
Might as well stay single then 😹😹
That's silly...
@@PanAfrikanPrincessright I agree
@@PanAfrikanPrincessyou can’t hold a relationship together like this
This avoidance game is literally not worth the outcome like at all. Not dating sounds better everyday lmao fuck this
You are the big brother we all need 😂
You are my bestie I listen to you more than anyone 😂
Same😆
Love love love your videos!
But can you tell me how to ignore him communicating. How do I make up excuses, or what logic do I give to not talk?
My boy loves when i considered my emotions and looked so happy and shy, specially when i told him how much cute he is.
Confusing. Had one of these go crazy for you guys. He turns around talks to another girl, yet is always finding a way to be around "me"> He has anxiety because I don't really talk to him.Then he turns around and has an instagram taken with another girl. He's playing both sides; two different locations. It's like he wants more, but then gives up. Goes somewhere, then comes back. Still doesn't get more. Then he gets well, like always frustrated/anxious. He actually made it so no one around Vday could possibly ask me out for Vday, yet he didn't ask me out for Vday? Good point. If he likes you, shouldn't he be treating you with respect????? This stuff so far has NOT been respectful in my mind.
Exhausting
Yep
I can’t do this type of stuff anymore
@@JoeyShae22 I think the men this works on are not worth having
@@JoeyShae22 this isn’t real intimacy
Haha I love your honesty and the way you deliver the info in your videos! Perfectly put ❤
Good stuff
Can you do a video on long term relationships and marriages?😭
You look good Tomisin ❤
You are so funny & u know exactly what u are talking about!
Lord bless you... so much love from my part 🥰
You should charge for this information. This is 1000000% true
He does... its called having a monetized channel on UA-cam. And the lives he does generate more revenue.
What if the anxiety is just a Leo from LIB S7 ?
Thumbs up this video and Share ladies❤❤❤❤❤❤
"Or a lot of bit"😅😂😂😂😂💯
Great 👌
This is not healthy… ignoring people to make him want you is not healthy. Mature relationships are base on open communication. At some point you will have to interact to build a relationship. This can only last so much .
It has lated thirty years and hes still chasing. Listen to this young man. Tomisin is giving you the cheat code.
@@JohannahArrington1908a mature person who needs to be “chased” has underlying issues.
YOU SOUND LIKE A PICKMEISHA OR A DUSTY. WHAT HE IS SAYING IN THIS VIDEO IS TRUE. MEN WILL BE LAZY IF YOU LET THEM AND TEXT MULTIPLE WOMEN AT ONCE JUST TO PLAY GAMES AND HAVE EASY ACCESS TO GET LAID. RELATIONSHIPS ARE MADE FROM IN PERSON FACE TO FACE CONTACT AND NOT THROUGH TEXT.
YOU SOUND LIKE A PICKMEISHA OR A DUSTY. WHAT HE IS SAYING IN THIS VIDEO IS TRUE. MEN WILL BE LAZY IF YOU LET THEM AND TEXT MULTIPLE WOMEN AT ONCE JUST TO PLAY GAMES AND HAVE EASY ACCESS TO GET LAID. RELATIONSHIPS ARE MADE FROM IN PERSON FACE TO FACE CONTACT AND NOT THROUGH TEXT.
@@JohannahArrington1908 EXACTLY. THE PEOPLE MAKING NEGATIVE COMMENTS ARE DUSTIES AND PICKMEISHA’S. WHAT THE GUY IS SAYING IN THE VIDEO IS TRUE.
And I bet he’s getting the same advice from someone. Then the relationship never gets anywhere 😂
But won’t allowing him to talk about himself make him think he’s the prize?
How can you always be on point?! Oh wait... You're a men yourself! 😄
First ❤
Does This apply to all Races or most times to africans only.. Do I play this game with White too?
Ba most White men are shy to approach,to Begin with, its women that must charge forward to them.. my experience n most friends too.. 😏😏🤷🏽
When it comes to sex, men are men. No matters the race.
Africans????😂😂😂😂😂
Being obsessed is toxic! Man. Why would you want to give anyone anxiety? When a guy gives me anxiety....I feel very uncomfortable and I bounce. This crap actually creates toxic dynamics and possessive men. But you do you bro. Besides little boys chase! Grown men pursue! Get you a man not a boy.
What is the difference between persue and chase¿
@@OctobernightJ chasing is popping in non-stop texting, calls, reels or memes on social media, dropping into where they work, basically doing anything and everything to get their attention. Stroking their ego because you're giving them attention instead of the other way around. Pursuing is when a man sends you texts but only when he has time because he's busy working, taking care of kids if he has any, chillin with friends, taking you out on dates that may or may not cost a dime because it's thought and effort that go into it, telling you when they get home and vice-versa out of respect, holding doors open, bringing flowers if you like flowers, talking and being vulnerable with you, making you laugh when you're sad or upset, flirting, not asking for nudes but welcomes them after a while because of your other level of intimacy, overall being a gentleman. Aka zero silent treatment for days on end that they call ghosting. A person interested in you will not go a single day without talking to you. Even if it's just a few random text messages or reels or memes. They make time for you. They don't make you feel like you don't matter and if they do, say something and hear their reaction. Their actions have to match their words. Honesty is everything. What that other guy suggested is actually stringing someone along just to get them to chase you because it boosts their ego.
Nothing 🤣🤣🤣
@@jessicahitchens6926 actually there is. 🤦♀️
That's the masculine energy. They get off from testosterones\stress.
Doesn't mean they don't want to rest with a girl. Just means it raises them up to the challenge to become men.
We all know what happens when a man isn't masculine enough. It drives women crazy 😅
I feel like nobody ever mentions social media lol what if men add you and they never say anything or watch your stories lol why the add
Don't have social media, and there will be no problem. More good news - a person can stay alive without insta,fb, tiktok....really!
@@SalomejaSaulyte I know that but today it is all ppl use to meet ppl. It just sucks bc it isn’t reality and the ppl on there look nothing like they do in real life. Ppl are trying to look like robots now and then ppl get creeped out in real life. I don’t do apps anymore bc literally nobody wants a real long-term relationship. O well. I can say I tried. Lol
Monitoring spirits 😈
@@Demi1369😂😂😂
@@Demi1369 😂❤
Why are men like this though🤦♀️? I took the advice and tested this out. 🫢 Why did he act like he was dying for my attention. STARVING. It was cute to watch. Him try to pretend like he wasn’t in need of it. Just wtf. Why all these games for men😭 like you have to treat them like they don’t exist for them to basically behave or act properly. I just. Thank you Tomisin but wtf.
Because most are insecure. Raise your bar only a few are the real deal ❤