I am also pregnant with a baby from a donor egg. It is controversial especially among my older friends. I also feel more and more like it is my responsibility to tell her that fact slowly and gradually. this is an inspiring message.
I will tell the kid as soon as he/she can talk and to make a cute illustrated book about it. I knew the happiest adopted 4 year old girl that used to say with a smile on her face: "Mary is adopted!"❤ Maybe the kid will want to know about the donator in the future, but the egg donation subject won't be a surprise. I plan to have 2 kids so they can feel totally related and never be alone. I only have the option of anonymous donation, but if somehow they find the biological donator and they get along, it will be one more person in the world that cares about them.
I plan to tell the child as soon as she/he can talk. However, I wonder what should I do about other people. I'm willing to talk about it openly, with friends and family. It means it will not be a big secret and it will be celebrated as a positive thing. However, I worry that people and their kids are not well educated and talk about it in a negative way and it affects the child if she/he listen to it.
It’s best to tell the child so they don’t feel betrayed and experience an identity crisis. Gentle honesty and understanding of the child’s feelings is vital. Start the story when the child is about 3 years old. Then add more detail as they get older, without making a fuss. Also be careful not to create a fantasy about the donor. Be supportive and confident with your child. Be careful with books, they can make a child feel objectified I have heard. Best to keep it a simple conversation I think.
Its a betrayal if you dont tell the child step by step while they grow up especially when they start figuring out abour how sex works, thats a good time to fully explain
It's not a matter of meeting the donor, just knowing that a donor was used. Also, the recipients (parents) know ahead of the time whether the donor would be open to contact in the future.
PLEASE TELL THEM! it will hurt them way more if they find out in a way that’s not from you
I am also pregnant with a baby from a donor egg. It is controversial especially among my older friends. I also feel more and more like it is my responsibility to tell her that fact slowly and gradually. this is an inspiring message.
I will tell the kid as soon as he/she can talk and to make a cute illustrated book about it. I knew the happiest adopted 4 year old girl that used to say with a smile on her face: "Mary is adopted!"❤ Maybe the kid will want to know about the donator in the future, but the egg donation subject won't be a surprise. I plan to have 2 kids so they can feel totally related and never be alone. I only have the option of anonymous donation, but if somehow they find the biological donator and they get along, it will be one more person in the world that cares about them.
I plan to tell the child as soon as she/he can talk. However, I wonder what should I do about other people. I'm willing to talk about it openly, with friends and family. It means it will not be a big secret and it will be celebrated as a positive thing. However, I worry that people and their kids are not well educated and talk about it in a negative way and it affects the child if she/he listen to it.
It is best to tell them so that they will not end up marrying a half sister or brother or a first cousin.
It’s best to tell the child so they don’t feel betrayed and experience an identity crisis. Gentle honesty and understanding of the child’s feelings is vital. Start the story when the child is about 3 years old. Then add more detail as they get older, without making a fuss. Also be careful not to create a fantasy about the donor. Be supportive and confident with your child. Be careful with books, they can make a child feel objectified I have heard. Best to keep it a simple conversation I think.
Absolutely necessary to tell this info to your child
No, please don’t tell them. I think it is not necessary.
Everyone is entitled to their privacy and secrecy...
La naturaleza se encarga de que no haya secreto. Le dice la verdad al niño. ¿O crees que esto es un juego y la que compra el óvulo, Dios?
Its a betrayal if you dont tell the child step by step while they grow up especially when they start figuring out abour how sex works, thats a good time to fully explain
Noooo!!!dnt tell de child,dnt do it!!!it should be between u,God and yr partner...trust me sum things are better left unsaid(south africa)
And what if the child takes a DNA test and finds out she's a not the mother? Everyone is taking the test these days.
Its your duty to tell
I think you bring extra drama to your kid just let them live no need for that.
No,won't tell.
Your child deserves to know.
They should know.
Correct I almost killed myself when I found out
@@greerterraria7007 So you think it’s best not to tell?
@@sheri2499 yeah
Messy. What if the donor rejects wanting to know them than you have to deal with the fall out of thar. NO BUENO! I wouldn't tell.
It's not a matter of meeting the donor, just knowing that a donor was used. Also, the recipients (parents) know ahead of the time whether the donor would be open to contact in the future.
@@northeastassistedfertility3724nonsense!!!!!sum things u just need 2 take dem wid u 2 yr grave!dnt tell de child!!!