Why Japanese Guys Hesitate To Date Western Girls
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Japanese people don't have the same experience as we do Westerns and Europeans.
I'm something of a Asian myself but grow up in 🇨🇵. My very first crush when I was kid was a White Girl.
Now I'm dating one. It's interesting how much differencies between us and some things in common.
Hi TAKASHii Great videos, keep it up, however i just realised what you said at the end "how was it? that was interesting!" So i wanted to give you advice on that.
Instead of saying "how was it? That was interesting!" which sounds kinda weird/off, try saying it the other way around "That was interesting, but what do you think ? Let me know in the comment section below" and ask your viewers what they thought, which might animate some viewers to actually type something in there and maybe even talk to each other ;P.
Have a nice day.
Thumb nail picture, looks like your brother. Same clothes, same nose, same hair
0:04 guy looks like you.
@@jeremyraia1064 I kinda like it when he says ”How was it? That was interesting” with no emotion 😂 It might sound weird but it sticks in my head xD
I’m from the US and I find Japanese men very attractive. There are attractive men and women in all cultures and races. I think a hard working, kind and gentle man is sought by good women all over the globe! Looks fade as we age but a good heart lasts a lifetime. By the way….many western women are shy to approach men too. Thanks for sharing and all the best to you.
Very well said,!!
As a guy, I agree, they are handsome asf
I totally agree❤
Agreed
Also so many of them have such nice hair! You don't see a lot of guys with nice hair over here.
As a European girl in Japan, it’s actually interesting hearing the questions about dating religious people. At least to me, I don’t consider Western people to be very religious. At least not in the traditional way, perhaps more in a cultural way where we follow cultural norms with roots in religion, but this is also the case for many Japanese people and shinto traditions.
American girls definitely tend to be hyper religious IF they are religious. As a former religious person, I cringe at my past self.
@@Zapporah85 you'll cringe at your current self when you're older, atheism is cringe and doesn't produce families
Depends what countries though... Here in Poland it's in decline now but it's not that unusual for people to be religious. Almost everyone hates the institution of the church, but the faith itself is quite common and Catholic religion is still a basic subject at school for all ages! You can sign out, but every child is signed in by default..
It really also depends what country you're from. I'm from Denmark and people there aren't religious at all basically, especially young people.
They view religion in the context of secularism. For example they may view things like believing in "good vibes" or other new-age stuff as religious behavior due to its lack of basis in a secular worldview. Even just casually saying things like "thoughts and prayers" may come off as "religious" to some.
Takashii it would be interesting for you to ask whether Japanese men would consider a serious relationship or marriage with a foreign or western woman, because my experience (admittedly limited) is that while some Japanese men are keen to casually date foreign women, its usually just out of curiosity or even fetish and rarely with the view of forming a serious, long-lasting relationship. Thanks, I love your videos!
“Would you marry a foreign girl?”
Coming soon
@@takashiifromjapan Cant wait!
@@takashiifromjapan perfect! 😊
Some of them would, but it's not common at all. Most Japanese men are much more patriarchal than most Western men. They will expect you to change a lot to suit them but they won't do the same for you, and they pretty much never do housework. This is why most Japanese men prefer Asian women as wives over Western women. Asian women are perceived to be more feminine, better at educating children, better at cooking, and can have kids that could physically fit in easier in the conformist Japanese society. Japanese men may find Western women attractive and may want to date them (or just have sex with them) but they are far less interested in marrying them and having them be the mothers of their children. Japanese women are much more likely to marry Western men than Japanese men are to marry Western women.
I am from Hawaii and part white,Hawaiian, and Asian. I am interested In knowing more about what they think about mixed girls or what they think about Hawaii girls/people
As a western girl, I'm surprised no one mentions how straightforward and touchy we can be. My dad says I scare guys away with my demeanor, if western men are scared of me, Japanese men would likely drop dead after the encounter 😅
they didn't saw that part of us hahaha 🤣🤣🤣
🤔 hmmm
Haha!
That was my interpretation when the guy with the scarf mentioned we're more assertive (plus the sex comment lol)
@@DanielleBaylor I also think they may perceive western movies as being good representations of how women actually behave, i.e., most of us would have sex on the first date, be more promiscuous, etc.
It's interesting how many seem to think that foreigners can't/won't adapt... After living in Japan for 2 years, I spoke mainly Japanese and only ate Japanese food! The 3:40 "scared to approach" answer felt most accurate to what I personally experienced. I could tell some men were interested (though sometimes just for superficial reasons) but none ever approached me or wanted to meet more than once haha. After a while, I noticed that I was subconsciously trying to suit/please them by being more modest and cute (i.e more like what they're used to with Japanese women). I think if I were to have had a relationship, it would only have worked with someone with a more 'international' mindset (with some Engish skill or travel experience) so that we could meet halfway and not just me adjusting.
I'm asian, I'm curious what it's like to date a woman from a different country. Can i date you?
That’s not his w that works…
@Hehe I've seen people commenting on videos saying they lived in Japan and didn't even learn any Japanese?! To me this simply doesn't make sense. A country/culture can be much more strongly appreciated if you take the time to learn the language.
@@a.s.1737 yeah it’s good to learn and a cool language. To be fair tho, it’s hard and very different from English. Doable, but takes much longer than learning another European language to an intermediate conversational level.
@@a.s.1737 I mean, consider this video. This very conversation would not happen without an entire legion of foreigners whose mindset is to consume content with subtitles in their own language. They did not come here to this video to learn a different language.
The "people from the US don't take their shoes off" made me laugh because my African American mother raised me to take my shoes off at the door LMAO I didn't realize it wasn't something everyone did until my first time at a friends house
It's a regional thing. In dry places with little humidity or rainfall it's not a big deal. When I moved closer to the coast I started seeing how nasty bringing the shoes in was because everything is wetter and sticks to the shoe. I just switch to sandals indoors now. When I go back to see family, we all wear shoes indoors. They seem to think it's weird I always bring sandals with me to visit. I got into the habit and can't get out if it now lol.
My Eastern European would kill me if I didn’t take off my shoes when I came in the house and I was to make sure my friends did also. I’m American and most of my friends did the same at their houses too. also did it at my apartment and now my house.
I don’t know why people think Americans don’t remove their shoes! Maybe bc on tv shows they don’t? It’s extremely rude to not remove your shoes at the door. We don’t hand out slippers like in Asia, but we take off shoes and have socks or bare feet. I do wear house sandals, but a lot don’t.
A lot of Americans do that and keep their houses very neat
@@polarbarr21 a lot of Americans don’t. I was shocked to find out about this habit when I first moved to the us, as it’s quite disgusting for me. I live in Florida and I’ve so far visited North Carolina and New York and never did people remove their shoes at the door. It’s a topic me and my man actually argue about as I don’t understand how you can walk public bathroom and club floors and then come straight to your bedroom with the same shoes 🤢🤢
It would have been great to ask what their description of a Western Girl is first off, as its completely varied - blonde to black hair, different eye colours and ethnic backgrounds. For the Japanese that are interested, I'm curious to know if they are interested in only certain types of looks since we already know how popular blonde hair and blue eyes are there.
Yeah - I was thinking how western perceptions of Japanese girls can be very artificial and idealized and I wonder if there’s a similarity the other way around
first off, when they say "western", 98% of the time they actually mean "us-ian", meaning europeans are completely excluded. i will however put australia and the uk in the same basket with the us, the culture is more or less the same (sharing a language is heavy, culturally speaking), but europeans can absolutely not be considered the same as the anglosaxons, even if we disregard the inner differences between each european country.
but i can say it, looks wise they 99,9999% prefer paler skin over darker skin due to the old "pale = rich, dark = poor" stereotype (if i had to give one reason, since this same argument is very much prevalent in asia as a whole)
I think this is an excellent question!
@@FruitsChinpoSamuraiG every culture has a bias for paler skin
@@guyincognito320 many people immediately picture a white, blond, light-eyed individual in a southern, new yorker, or California manner when they think of an American. Even, I am guilty of having such a biased opinion on how people in different demographic groups are supposed to look. Several eastern nations may have the last impression that a POC is an example of an American stereotype when they look at Europe, England, or America. It makes sense that this user want to know how Japanese people think the perfect foreigner should be for them. It is better to be aware of the general viewpoint than to experience disappointment at the rejection of their society's ideals.
"I don't have that same level of confidence..I feel like I won't be able to match their level"... The 3th guy was very honest about himself 🙂
Wow, these guys are so sweet and honest. They’re also really underestimating their value and ability to have a relationship with a western woman.
I loved that he knew himself so well, too!
Haha I think he would be able to match my level of confidence no problem! I have terrible social anxiety...
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@@dolliicake third
I have a message for these guys. You can meet foreigners who share your ideals. Just be open minded and connect. It’s ok if things don’t work out. But open your minds and know there are many people who aren’t all like the typical American you think of
This is such a good point! When we think of others in terms of generalizations we often don't get to know them as a person. We are all human and there could be perfect matches that live on different continents. 😊
Tbh most Japanese men will tell you that they find Asian girls more attractive because they are more petite feminine. That’s why you don’t see them approach western women. It’s not that they are too shy they just aren’t interested. They will tell you (especially on camera) that they like westerners so they don’t sound rude. That’s why the one guy was apologetic about saying no in the video.
@@docbrown3139Interesting feedback, I was just wondering about that.
Just keep in mind that "open-minded" actually has multiple meanings in other countries and if you tell someone you are open-minded, they might take it a different way than what you mean .....
I grew up in the US and we have ALWAYS been a NO SHOES household. We even have a rack for our shoes by the door. I think it just varies from household to household.
I grew up wearing shoes in the house and then moved to no shoes in the house Japan. The house stays so much cleaner when you are no shoes in the house! I never wore outside shoes inside again.
Yeah that's the thing. It varies house to house. Whereas in Japan, it's pretty much every house you'd go to. I have some friends who do it, and some that don't.
Yes, it depends upon the household. I grew up on a farm, and we have to take our boots off outside, and lots of times we’d take our clothes off too, get sprayed down with the water hose, and then go into the house to actually bathe. 😂 You can’t just go in the house covered in mud and straw. And when I lived in NYC, I always removed my shoes at the door, because people sh1t in the streets and Lee in the elevators. So I’m not tracking that street sh1t into my house.
I am part japanese, Korean, black and French. My japanese/Korean grandmother passed away, and she was the only link I have to my japanese heritage. I miss her and how she spoke fondly of Japan. I hope one day I can visit Japan and my family there!
Damn, that sucks. I hope you never need a bone marrow transplant.
@Mez 🤣
@@Mezaph literally 😂
Wow lucky go and visit the most beautifull country of the World according to me i really really love this country and it's my next destination thanks God
I can't see your picture very well but I bet you're gorgeous!
I’m from the US and let me tell you, there are so many people over here who would love to be in a relationship with someone from Japan, it’s astonishing. The way the people in your interview feel is the exact same way the people here feel. There’s a lot of ideas they have preconceived on why relationships wouldn’t work out if they were to date someone from Japan. Personally, I think they never know until they try it. It could work out and be amazing
What you said😊
Yes then your kids will be confused, looking like neither parent and not having a country
Guy Incognito Americans are very diverse and mixed race Americans can embrace every part of themselves. We are used to mixed race people in the USA and it’s rarely ever a problem or even talked about. Growing up one of my best friends was Chinese and literally no one cares; we just like and love who we like and love. Japan being very homogenous I could see where issues would be, but mostly no issues in USA.
@@guyincognito320 they wouldn't be confused at all in the US. They would simply be like so many other Americans, and the USA would be their country, and if Japan allowed it, so would Japan.
@j nokes Nice platitudes. Unfortunately reality is not like you suggest.
You should put a Western girl and a Japanese boy or vice versa and ask them that questions. It' ll be interesting listening what they will do with the differences, for instances why food should be a problem? People should not force others to eat what they like.
@@al1999 I won't change my eating habits or impose them to someone. The guy eats whatever he wants and I'll keep eating what I like, for me it is simple like that.
The foreign friends I know who are married to Japanese men and live in Japan have all switched to Japanese style. They love the concept of eating yesterday's dinner leftovers as part of breakfast because it's practical, nutritional and easy to do. All they do is make the morning coffee.
@@natsukitatsumakiniji
i cannot have food in the morning, I just have tea or coffee, fruit and a toast. But I understand that people have different taste and habits.
@@angelesvarella1461fruit and toast is food....
@@natsukitatsumakinijiYou have basically described my breakfast and I am born -and bred Northern European.
I’m from the US and I do find Japanese men to be attractive and I find their personalities alluring. A lot of us American women are very assertive and confident but there also those that aren’t. Some advice to those who are scared to approach us, let me just tell you we are shy as well and probably feel all the same emotions during a relationship but we’re better at putting on a mask and acting cool😂
My only tip is to lose weight
@@Bsfr666😂😂😂😂😂
I did a semester abroad in Japan and can speak decently well and I actually had a lot of men flirt with me. IDK if any of them would have wanted anything long-term but certainly there is interest in short-term. I think the language barrier tends to be the biggest issue based on comparing my experience to some others in the program
I had the same experience! It was surprising because I've never been flirted with that openly before.
This is so fascinating.. the fact that I perceive Japanese women to be so exceptionally beautiful, it just goes to show that we tend to find whatever is different to ourselves/our culture to be very alluring ❤
No 8ts just that japanese people fetishize whites. Actually blonde blue eyed girls are pretty much adored everywhere outside of europe
That's so true!!!
Natural selection, we are more attracted with people that are far from our gene pool.
@@northernchild2023 no thats not how natural selection works. Also people usually have in-group preferences
True. Im asian i like western girls. My best friend is caucasian he likes asian girls.
Your interviewing skills are so impressive! Great follow up questions, and your ability to put people at ease is apparent. It's been cool to see your confidence grow over time ☺️
We appreciate hearing their insights. Seems like Japanese guys have varied preferences.
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I really love all of your videos. You have a very relaxed way of interviewing people, without seeming judgemental of their answers. This one was one of my favorites---I didn't expect a few of the answers and they were very eye opening. Keep up the awesome work!
Great Vlog always... And guys let's take a moment to appreciate not only how bright is Takashi but how handsome he looks 😊Rooting for you Takashi
ありがとう🙏
The guy in a white jacket from 7:20 has such a pleasant voice! I think it would be amazing for him to do voice acting, I can easily imagine such a memorable and nice voice in a game or some animation maybe😍
As someone that lived in Japan for almost 2 years, getting along with the people means respecting their culture and learning from it. Same goes for any relationships from different cultures. If the person isn't willing to compromise and respect their culture such as taking off shoes in the house, then that isn't something that's going to last.
I'm from the US and I've always loved the idea of stepping into another's ways and learning from them. It takes two open minds and respectful people to make such a relationship work. But I think it's the most rewarding when it happens
are we pretending japanese ppl will ever invite you to their house 💀
Good to hear all the different types of honest answers . Good interviews Takashii 💯
As a brazilian, it was really funny seeing people disregard us as not westerns (yes guys, we are western)
Ikr? It seemed a lot of their assumptions and stereotypes about a 'western woman' were only about the US. Which is sad, because even their thoughts about US woman are just stereotypes. A lot of my answers to their concerns were 'it depends on the person'
Yes, they always mean Caucasian when they say Western, don't they?
I laughed at that when he said that, a maioria das pessoas parece que não sabem geografia básica, só resta rir mesmo
It's because people abroad think on the political sphere of "West", on contrary to us, Brazilians, who tend to think in the purely geographical sphere. On the same political sphere, Australia is part of the Western World and Global North, regardless of where it really is on the planet.
At least Brazil gets mentioned all the time. Puerto Rico is literally a US territory, Hispanic but with huge US influence but it is overlooked a lot. I wonder how many Japanese even know of it's existence 😅
Oh goodness, this is a confidence booster for sure! Wow lol no idea so many Japanese men liked western women; I was uneasy about the idea of dating an Asian man because I thought they wouldn't like us... this is nice. Hey guys, girls here would totally be interested in you! And many of us do take our shoes off in the house, but I'll admit, my Indian husband had taken me to a whole other level of no shoes in the house. It's good, not dragging the outside dirt and filth inside.
The probably like them for a couple of dates. Long term is a different matter from what I heard.
As a born and raised Texan I have always found the idea of other cultures, mainly Japanese culture fascinating and beautiful. Among my fascination is the idea of dating a Japanese man. When I was a teenager, I dated a half Japanese and half Mexican boy. It was a wonderful experience, even if his full blooded Japanese grandmother did not approve. Ultimately, a kind hearted man is exactly whom I hope to find.
I think japanese men have wonderful characteristics like kindness and respect which make them really attractive and desirable.
I dated two Japanese guys in London. First one told me he left Japan because society was very suffocating and judgmental. We went out a couple of times, very calm and relaxed person. Second guy came in Europe few months ago. Very cute and kind, curios about so many things, but disappearing all the time 😅 I stopped answering his messages because he was simply ghosting me. But it was very nice to talk about the differences with my country (Italy) and Japan. I live in uk and of course, it’s another type of society and culture. So even if I don’t talk to them anymore I’m grateful for what they taught me
I think it's really interesting that they mentioned food as a potential obstacle to a relationship with a western girl, I always thought of food as a mean to bring together people from different cultures.
Also, if they were to date a western girl, wouldn't she already be accustomed to Japanese food since she is in Japan?
same here ! we love Japanese food I think right ? haha
Yeah I thought that was an odd things to say, like, I dont NEED to have cereal for breakfast, im happy to switch things up 🤣
@@biteofdog yesss ☺️
Yeah! It is even scary that people think that food might be a big problem in relationship. I am with my boyfriend for 10 years and even we are both from the same country, we often eat different things for breakfest for example. Also he is quite religious and i'm not at all 🤷🏻♀️What's the problem 😅
Im white and American and take my shoes off at the door. I think guys would find some of these cultural differences are not as big of an issue as they might think. Also the USA is very diverse in terms of lifestyles and food culture. Many people here actually know some Japanese food culture because it’s very popular. I’m not religious and my friends are not religious. I think if you meet someone from another culture and love them, you can communicate and learn about each other. It could be wonderful 😊 please don’t miss out on expanding your world. And if you have kids, they are guaranteed to be adorable! 😂
I'm mixed (mostly white/partially black) and I have only had a few interactions with Japanese men in my life. In two separate instances I was asked out on dates, but the most recent interaction was at my last job where I was helping him. The gentleman complimented my hair! It was so wholesome and sweet because I don't normally get wholesome genuine compliments from men like that. He said I "looked like an anime girl" and that was probably the nicest thing a random man has ever said to me.
Most compliments I receive from American men *STRANGERS mind you)) here just make me uncomfortable because of their delivery...like the verbal way comes off as aggressive / uncomfortable. I hope that man who called me an anime girl is having a beautiful day.
That you look as an anime, that's probably the most weird compliment you will ever receive
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Many preconceived notions, but that's a human trait, isn't it? I believe most Westerners are interested and respectful of other cultures and want to learn about them. All the men you interviewed are interesting, honest, and good looking. I'd be honored if any one of them wanted to get to know me better. I'd like to hear from older men (40+) if they would be interested in dating a Western woman.
That's a good point! I wonder what would older men said about dating women outside of Japan.
i felt that way too... although i come from a place in which the west does not have the best rep even i can understand that some of these "barriers" are kind of stupid. many americans and westerners easily adapt to something like "leaving their shoes in the entrance," like is that really an issue...
Very good question, I would be interested in dating a Japanese man, have been studying the culture for years and hope to go someday. As a Canadian, from a large city, so accustomed to different cultures. I’d wonder as well if men 40+ would be interested too.
@njoud As I started watching more Korean and Japanese TV shows, I began to realize how often people sit on the floor. Westerners don't sit on the floor very often. But then I started thinking, how gross it would be to have someone walk on my sofa or chairs with their shoes on. My parents would yell at us as kids if we ever did that. So the differences make more sense. And now, I do leave my shoes outside because I find it's cleaner.
That's a good point. All of these men are quite young. I would be curious to know what age range Japanese men would be willing to date. In my twenties, older men sometimes proposed to me (sometimes already married and just wanting to cheat), but I wonder if some single men would be willing to be in committed, long-term relationships with someone of the same age.
Takashii, thanks for that I didn't realise we were so frightening 😉😆 lots of love from UK.
This was so nice to hear!! I’m from the US and I love Japan and it’s definitely the same outlook for me, I would love to date a Japanese man, I love the respect and culture of Japan, and I’m also not very religious. I love to keep things clean and tidy and taking my shoes off when entering a home is not foreign to me, there’s actually a lot of homes here that ask you to remove your shoes before entering. I feel like many might have a culture shock in this way but there’s also many that would adjust to dating a Japanese man just fine. I didn’t know western women were considered to be so beautiful by Japanese people 👀
Something that might be cool to do is try to collaborate with the Anming (UA-cam channel Oriental Pearl). She is from America and currently lives in Tokyo, Japan, with her Japanese husband. She is all about sharing cultural differences, and I bet that she and her husband would have some great insights to share!
I'd definitely love he did this with multiple married couples since there are many with UA-cam channels.
It made me sad to hear that one of the guys thought a western girl wouldn't date a Japanese guy. My husband is Japanese and I'm from America & he always tells me about the perspective that Japanese have on westerners but I guess I didn't realize to the extent. Also, I would say not all of us are super religious. But I can def understand why it would be difficult to date a super religious person if you have different beliefs.
I don't like americans either
It seems that personality would be most important here - kindness and thoughtfulness are as important if not more important than ethnicity.
I agree. But language is indeed important. Communication is key.
@@moma-b Also agree but I believe that kindness and thoughtfulness can be conveyed without words…
Yeah exactly, not what food your eat for breakfast, that made me laugh 😂
@@noodlesnakano9238 That's a very Naive take. You simply cannot have a sexual relationship without language.
@@celestialasmr9624 Me too. Please my man eat your natto all you want I eat my cereals and we are both happy ✌️
As a French girl, I've been on a date with a Japanese guy in Paris once. It was really cool and I loved discovering a proper japanese restaurant in Paris because most of them really suck (some sushis taste like dirt...). I've always hated fish and basically any food coming from the sea but this time, I ate octopus and oysters (which I considered the most disgusting things that you can eat coming from the sea :joy: ). I was really surprised because I actually liked proper Japanese cuisine. I am also learning Japanese language and it was really nice to be able to share about our different languages and the little things that reflect one's culture in the language itself (for instance, the fact that you don't use the same word to talk about "your mother" or "my mother", or the fact that you have 10 different ways to address someone according to who they are to you). I am very curious about other cultures.
Plus, I think that shy men are somewhat sexy and I prefer a man who's reserved, quiet and respectful rather than a loud goof who thinks that he's better than everyone else. I don't know, it's like you can never argue or fight with a japanese guy. I imagine he would be like: "Okay, let's calmly talk about this". And THAT is relaxing and sexy. Trust yourselves, guys: why wouldn't we date you? 😁
I think if a couple of people from different cultures are honest with each other and tolerant and open-minded they could compromise here and there and be happy.
Religion and maybe also traditions and cultural values are probably the biggest challenges. So it might be easier to date someone if they already know things about the other culture and if they are enthusiastic about it.
I also have an impression that Westerners would probably be more tolerant than the Japanese who seem to be more strict and attached to fixed rules in general, but the opposite could happen, everyone is different.
Your videos are always super interesting!
This video provides an interesting perspective on cultural differences and what concerns Japanese men may have when dating Western women. It highlights the importance of understanding and being aware of these differences in order to build strong relationships.
Maybe they should have less concerns considering Japan has the lowest birth rates and highest $uey - $¡de rates in the world.
@@melchior26783 chromosomes
Loved hearing about what the Japanese men think of us. I feel like it is true everywhere that we all hear about the stereotypes of cultures and places around the world. I would love to see you do an interview of Japanese men and foreign woman like at a table to talk about those types of stereotypes and the differences in cultures. Love love love these interviews!! 💕💕
Good vid! A point on how your outtro works in English: "So far" in English is not the same as ここまで in Japanese. Saying "So far" always suggests that there is more to come, so having it at the end of a video feels wrong. Something like "thank you for watching until the end" or "until now" would be more accurate.
Im from Europe and in my country we take shoes off as well and I hate people that dont.
So I absolutely understand that guy. But these are things that can be solved by a simple setting of some house rules.
I would like to just say to the one that thinks western girls wont like asians because of the looks that for example speaking for me, majority of my friends and me included, we love asians. We love the food, culture, mindset, looks... everything. I love how organized, clean, neat, polite you all are
I'm latino
It almost sounded as if they didn't like any novelty in their life and ascif talking and finding compromises is a bad thing. Like the man who worried about her eating bread and him natto. You can just prepare both and everyone eats breakfast how they like it. I honestly don't see a problem there.
My ex ate toast for breakfast and I prefer cereals. So we just both ate what we prefere.
It's just an example how I think that they worry about problems which aren't actual problems.
@@danika9411 lol
I just came back from Japan and was really amazed of how many attractive guys I saw there, but yes, people there in general seem more shy. I hope they wouldn't feel that way and just say hi because everyone is so kind and warm there ❤
My brother in law is Japanese, my sister has been living there in Japan for about 11 years now and I've visited twice, once to Tokushima and then Kobe. Her and her husband just moved to Hokkaido. And yes they have troubles with people being rude/mean (typical elder women).
This is a good follow up to the foreign girls dating video. It came out at just the perfect time for me lol
I really enjoyed this. My step dad (also named Takashi) has been with my mom for 35 years they met and live in the US. I also really loved what the last guys concerns were. He was very thoughtful.
TAKASHII is the GOAT!!! Also Tokyo treat has definitely been so worth it
I'm American and I lived in Japan for 3 years. I taught English and I loved it there. I want to go back. I miss the people and the beautiful countryside. It's so peaceful.
It's interesting to listen to these guys. I find it weird that Japanese men have self-confidence issues nowadays. There are many Japanese male internet personalities with big international following, I figure that should be something that could break the self-confidence barrier for many others. There is no "cool nationality", there's just cool people everywhere in the world.
My admiracion for them has gone down a few points here.
@@00Julian00 now they are intrigued because you lost their respect to them 😂
You can blame old mainstream hollywood for that, asians were always portrayed in a certain way. Purposely never the lead, but luckily its changed and more diverse today than it ever was.
@MaxAttack222 I agree 100% If you see how western characters in japanese games are portrayed you'll get the same vibe. They are very stereotyped.
That's called fragile masculinity. The need to feel above the woman intellectually or workwise to feel confident on themselves
It's incredibly nice to see one of these videos about westerners where the opinion is overwhelmingly positive actually! ❤
As a western girl I have always loved the culture of Japan and Korea and I've even decided to go to college in one of those countries, but I have been going back in forth if I really should move because I was always scared that I would end up living alone. I thought that no guy would want to date a western girl and that just wasn't their type. I thought that it would really be hard to make friends even though I speak fluent Korean and some Japanese just because I am different, and they wouldn't know how to take it. This really helps give me a feel of what some men think about western women. I really love your videos!!
Language barrier could be a big barrier to dating.
You are right! I have first hand experience with this...
there were very difficult times. 😅
Yea g I think the biggest issue with the language barrier is the perception. Of intelligence. Sadly I think a common traits for someone in the presence of another who doesn't speak their language is the notion that they could be dumb or unintelligent and to me stupidity is extremely not attractive..
But to date someone and not learn their language, now that is stupidity
@mikamikamiia
I know. I heard it takes about 2 years to learn Japanese and 3 years to be able to communicate and talk with the locals in Japanese. Sometimes I try to learn it by watching favorite Japanese movies.
4:23 omg that baby in the back left💀😂💀
I enjoy watching your videos, Takashi-san. It’s always interesting to find out how people of different nations see things. Actually, I’ve noticed that some views coincide, some differ.
Thank you for your content!
as a french girl this is very interesting to watch, thank you!
Hello from South Africa, I really enjoy your chanel. You have very interesting subjects and they are very informative. I must also add, that your English is very good.
It's interesting that so much is about the US, because I am from Europe (British and German) I also have some similar values like shoes in the house and general politeness. I couldn't really relate to any of the seemly negative aspects of the west because it was all so focused on the US.
It's interesting, I don't think language would be such a big problem. i'm from europe, for example, but i'm learning japanese at the moment, so there are obviously people who are from abroad but speak japanese hahah. btw love your videos keep it up
I wonder if is what happens when people get 99% of their impressions from Hollywood movies. Unrealistic beauty ideals and body images.
Also I loved Takashii’s use of the phrase ‘mouth puckeringly delicious’ for umeboshi. So accurate it made me want to try a haiku
Summer plums in a
Umeboshi pot. Like a
Highschool memory
夏の梅
梅干しの壺
高校メモリー
Doesn’t quite work in both 😂
OMG! They are so sweet, smart and shy😊
personally I appreciated the third guy’s response. His answer is more down to earth and practical.
I recently noticed that Takashii, a genius who continues to produce quality videos, will naturally increase his viewers and channel subscribers simply by shooting, editing, and publishing videos that follow the "Dating Japanese" or "Half Japanese" theme.
Stop reinforcing stereotypes that Japanese women love foreign men but Japanese men don't like foreign women. That has not been my experience at all living in Japan
Europe is so big with many countries and different cultures. but in general eu countries are free and at school they teach discussion in a completely different way than in japan. the family does not determine education or marriage, but everyone is independent at the age of 18. Europe has many and many kinds of people, which I like.
I always love how your channel is constantly improving.
I am older but would love to meet a Japanese man I find your culture refreshing to our fast pace life.
I’m taking Japanese in college! I just learned katakana and hiragana! I’m very excited to improve my Japanese to travel!!
if you haven't heard of wanikani yet give it a try
@@matthewwiebe2228 thank you! I'll look into it!
As an American woman of German and Italian descent, I'm not assertive or confident at all. On the contrary, I'm quiet and shy to approach men, but I find Japanese men extremely attractive. I would love a serious relationship with a Japanese man, but so often I hear that they are only looking for someone to practice their English on or as a short-term partner. Japanese men out there, please know that not all American women are like the stereotype in your head.
It's interesting that one of the men mentioned that it'd be different if they lived in Japan or elsewhere. I wish you had explored those two options a bit more. One of my friends married a Japanese man and they lived in Spain for two years before moving to Japan. While in Spain, they had a perfect partnership, sharing house chores, going out together with friends, what I see as a perfect relationship. However when they moved to Japan he became verbally and psychologically abusive of her, refused to do any house chores and would shout at her for not cooking Japanese food the way he liked. Naturally less than a year after they moved, she filed for divorce. I think the most shocking thing for her and those of us that knew him is that up until then he seemed the sweetest man and a great husband and we don't really understand how the country you live in can have such a strong effect in how you behave.
Simply, your friend had no intention of learning Japanese and was not willing to make the effort to live comfortably in Japan without the help of his ex-wife.
@@Greenforrest7342 I did mention that my friend married a Japanese man? So she was the foreigner in this situation? And he was the one that was abusive?
thats crazy!
それは日本人でなくとも起こることだと思います。一般的に白人男性、黒人男性と結婚した日本人女性の離婚率は高いです。だからハーフの子を持つシングルマザーが問題になっている
I think it's about one's mindset, personality, confidence, and how they consider the identities of different gender.
As with any relationship, there's always that "learning curve." Just take your time and get to know each other. Don't go in looking for the differences. Find the common ground.
I'm part Japanese and personally find Japanese men attractive. I grew up in a Japanese mixed household with Japanese house rules and all that. My mama is Caucation but adapted to my dad's house rules.... Too bad i live in a state in the US that doesn't have much Asian's to begin with 😅
But I think Japanese guys are cute and gentle and funny. If i could, i would date them.
I like your interviews 🙂 ... " People don't keep things neat. " 😜 I'm from Venezuela.. and living with messy people it's terrible... 100% honesty...😂 And the other " people eat a lot " me too...😂😂😂
Takashi! Your face when you ate the snacks from Tokyo Treat was so funny 😂
Love your energy and the effort you put into these videos! I really enjoy watching your interviews. Nice job! Keep up the good work! God bless!
This was really interesting! I might be moving to Japan one day, I was worried about the fact that I’m a Christian but I’m never pushy on anyone it’s just something close to my heart. It’s good to know a lot of them are open minded to it though
I give these guys SO much credit for being so smart and knowing there are differences. I feel that they are more wise and practical in this area than Koreans.
How many koreans you know
@@00Julian00 Lol I love your assumption that I'm not korean myself.
Oh the ppl on the internet!...😂
a couple of guys arent exactly representative of an entire population
@@00Julian00 Have you lived in Korea?
@@wonyoungontop korean men have bad reputation of maltreating western women. There's even a documentary about korean men forcing western women into sex. Some of them got pregnant. The worst is they reported those korean men for (g)rape and sexual assualt but the korean police didn't even do anything. On the contrary, you won't typically hear something like this from western women about Japanese men.
Thus, Japanese men are better than korean men regarding western women.
I'm American and I:
Am clean and tidy
Don't have a religion
Love Japanese food
Speak Japanese
Attracted to Japanese men
Understand the Japanese culture and mindset
Not overly confident and a bit shy and humble
You have no excuses to say no now! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉
Love your interviews. I’m doing a solo trip in February for two weeks and I can’t wait. 🎉❤
I love hearing this. I find Japanese men so attractive and wish I could meet and even date. I love the culture and learning the language. I am just sure about food as I don’t earn fish or seafood, what else is available. I would like to do Japanese cuisine cooking lessons. Thank you for the great content.❤
Canadian/Brazilian here. I’ve always found Japanese men to be very handsome!
My biggest wish is that I could have a friend from Japan and one day i will go there because its so beautiful.I like everything of them i even watch Japanese dramas.they are so handsome.although I am from Malta I know that it's an impossible wish but I love them so much ♥️
One thing I’m curious about for the guys that mentioned sexual compatibility. Is it common for Japanese men to not want sex very often?
That's not true. It depends on the person.
Of course, it depends on the person. But I feel like it would be congruent with the more reserved overall mentality of Japan. Sometimes you just don't feel like having sex, and honestly I can relate.
It's not true. Honestly speaking, we Japanese are exhausted on daily-basis because Japanese work culture is so hard. If we got more private time, more salary, less work time and responsibility, we'll be active.
@@どもみし Not just in Japan! Western men may brag to each other, and Western media may appear as if everyone is getting laid, but in reality... no!
I think western women are portrayed as being very sexually adventurous and active in media, TV and film which might be why Japanese men feel they might not meet those standards. The reality is that media portrayal is not accurate and it all depends on the individual
7:56 he's the sweetest 🥺
You were very tactfully about including the add right after a sensitive topic.
As a western European girl I'd love to meet a Japanese man, I find them very attractive and I love their culture and traditions. I feel like we could connect. I've only met one Japanese guy in my life and we never really spoke, but he was always so polite and nice, and an introvert. I do like that though
This gives me hope. I would love to date a Japanese man :)
Takashii, you keep talking to all the hot guys 🥹💓 Thank you haha
I live in America but have always loved Japan.i fond it very interesting hearing what men think. I would like to say one thing tho, not all women are super confident and also some like myself like order and cleaning of my home. I also don't wear outdoor shoes in my home. I believe if you feel a true connection with someone you will be able to workout any differences. Except of course I would never accept disrespect or abuse. Everyone stay healthy, happy and safe always.
I am a western girl and I really like Japanese guys. Also, many Americans are not religious. I’m not religious.
I'm from South Africa and I would love to date a Japanese guy I find their lifestyle interesting I wouldn't mind learning new things including the language and food
i find this so interesting to see how different japanese guys perspectives are. like personally i feel like japanese guys are a lot cooler and are very stylish more than western guys, but they think the opposite. nice vid 🤍
As an orthodox Eastern European it was very interesting to hear them mention religion, I think it's actually the first time I hear this in an interview of the sort. It's an important aspect to some people and it def should be taken into account. I could never marry an non-orthodox for example, nor would I want, but I know many EE women who are married to Japanese men actually, because they don't really have a religion so they tend to easily take yours.
Also, I think Japanese men should have more self-confidence. You are cooler than you think!
Arigatou gozaimasu Takashii san for your efforts in putting the videos together. 🎉🎉🎉❤
Thank you for these interesting insights 😁! Greetings from Germany!
Guy at 6:45 has similar thoughts to Western girls. He says “why would a western girl date me when western guys are so attractive?” Western girls think “why would a Japanese like me when Japanese women are so beautiful?” But in truth many western women like Japanese men, and many Japanese men like western women, so nobody should compare themselves to what they “think” someone will like. I always thought “no Asian men would like me because I’m 6 feet tall,” but on your show I’ve heard some men say that they are attracted to very tall women. 😁👍
Im from the US but ive always found Japanese men attractive. The language barrier would be the biggest obstacle for me but i would be willing to date for the chance to learn from each other. I love japan and the culture too.
It’s funny because there are so many assumptions and stereotypes and all foreigners lumped into one thing.
But also a lot of valid reasons and concerns.