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Marriage legally protects your wife in a way a girlfriend is not protected when it comes to inheritance, medical decisions, travel privileges, migration privileges etc. Some people do not care and it is their right. But I feel when you love someone, you want them to be as safe as humanely possible.
Exactly and we'll stated. An empath gives and a person that controls the relationship breeds cracks later too because health is not permanent and perfect. Children need to know they are wanted, including heritage and name.
My state has common law marriage. Basically, after living with someone for an X amount of years, the state recognizes you as a couple and you can even file taxes together. Other things vary, as i havent done much research into the pros and cons, but its definitely something the state recognizes. If im not mistaken, its like being married without being married. Although i could be wrong.
I have a degree in Family Science and have been married 33 years-not always happily, btw. But, we have our faith and our children & knew that divorce is not an option so we had to figure it out. We had lots of therapy and worked very hard because we knew darn well that neither of us were without sin and that if we left each other, it would leave generations of scars. We decided that neither of us would ever try and win an argument and that we would always try and see the best in the other. It’s worked very well. We are happier than ever because we dis the work and both now feel cared for because we value each other while also having respect and kindness toward each other. Living together is devaluing to us as humans. We deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for love.
Marriage in the United States of America gives the spouse access to social security benefits if one of you dies. The children would receive a payment of about $400 per month in the event of one of the spouses death. In the United States it can also give you a tax benefit on income tax. And in the United States it gives you certain protections that you would not have if you were single especially to a partner's pension. So a lot of it has to do with the security for the child in the future. I'm not sure what you have in your country it may be totally different. But in the United States it's pretty important for the benefit of a child that parents do get married
I think if you have a child, you are going to be in each other lives for at least 18 years, but really a life time. And all children want the security and commitment of their parents’ marriage. Of course being married doesn’t guarantee security but it is a pledge and a promise to gift your children. Just my opinion and no judgement about your own choices.
Our society works BEST WHEN PEOPLE BUILD FAMILIES so that children are legally protected and laws are designed and God blesses families. Both parents are responsible to meeting each other’s needs and have made vows with each other and God. It gives strength to our society and a community as well as each person in the family. I always wanted children and so I married first, then we had three sons. The life in the eternities is in the form of FAMILIES. The basic unit of society here on earth and in the eternities. It has always been God’s plan that we are in families.
You two remind me of my husband and I SO much. The dynamic of your personalities together (as far as we see) the love language differences. The way you seem to share alot of goals and connection with nature but also have some core differences that cause some really difficult to navagate feelings. Getting married gave us a deeper security a deeper commitment to being completely dedicated to our family and relationship HEALING. Its not easy to look at your behaviors and patterns and find how to meet eachothers needs without comprimising your own but when youre vowed to one another it becomes more of a solace in the rough patches.
This beautiful little baby boy, has been blessed with two most beautiful, loving parents and his life will be filled with such love, what an incredible start to life. We love you all. XX
ON MARRIAGE … my now husband and I lived together for 3 years before we tied the knot. Once done, (I was 51, he 47), he couldn’t believe the deeper connection he felt and the secure feeling it unveiled. Believe me we were already a very secure couple. It wasn’t about wearing rings … we still after 15 years don’t have any. It somehow made us “one”. 🇨🇦 I know you have your hands VERY full at the moment Christine but you might at some point really enjoy rug hooking. It’s such an easy craft and results/designs so individual. Not only that, you end up with very useful items … rugs, purses, window valances, stair treads, seat cushions, table runners. Ideas and designs are endless. I’m sure there in Sweden, good quality wool is readily available. 🐑
Christine's answer to the question "why don't you get married ?" : The day I'm going to get married, Kalle would have to ask me.... dude, read the room... forget all the lingo and philosophy etc and get down on one knee and stop being selfish. I would think that there are some financial benefits in Sweden, protection for married women in case something happens to you.
In the States, it's a sign of commitment, or permanency. It's the final way of saying you're there for the long haul, and you're not going to leave when things get tough
Christine gives the impression that she would consider marriage if u had the guts and courage to ask her. Do u not want to call her your wife? A sad world we live in.
The phase of being roommates with my husband lasted around three years. We got married in the end...for legal reasons and to make things easier. Having a newborn is definitely an intense time. I remember my husband feeding me while I was nursing our son. I had problems with postpartum depression so that made things even more difficult. Wish you all the best ❤
In my country marriage protects both spouses financially in the event that something happens to one of them. Also, I think marriage symbolizes deep love and commitment, which is a wonderful and secure thing to feel from your partner. That said, everyone should do whatever arrangement is best for them and their partner. ❤
I would say that I would love to see you two get married because I believe it's a powerful, beautiful thing for a man to call a woman his wife (not just his girlfriend or "partner"), and for a woman to call a man her husband. I think "husband and wife" sounds more like a family. :)
100 percent agree! It’s the most secure layer I think (especially with faith) that you have as a family. Especially for children to know that your a team for always and they know they have that security with both parents.
Yes, I totally agree!! And God performed the first marriage. So that is an important thing to consider what God thinks as he knows what is best for us. So get through this amazing time and then you can plan those other important events when the time is right!! Much Love to you both!!💜💜💜
It's nothing but a social construct created to enslave women. The price of witnessing your friends pledge their young lives to an institution that until only recently gave men the legal right to rape their wives (and still does in some US states, thanks to legal loopholes) does not come cheap. Marriage is not now and never has been designed with women’s happiness in mind - and yet we’re told that without it, we will be miserable. As any sociologist can tell you, it’s men who benefit from marriage: they live longer, they are generally healthier and happier, and their economic prospects improve. On the other hand, studies have shown that married women die earlier. And marriage alone isn’t a guarantee of happiness for women - they are happy if they have a happy marriage. When it comes to divorce, the financial risk to women is more perilous: ASX research based on numerous studies has shown that women’s incomes drop by around 21-30% after divorce, an economic hit that it takes an average of six years to recover from. The same is not true for men, their income briefly dipping by about 5% before recovering. We can assume one of the reasons for this is the cost of raising children, both in terms of economic outlay and deprivation of economic opportunity. When you peel back the layers of history and propaganda, it’s impossible not to want to completely destroy this inherently misogynistic institution.
Marriage is an unsalvageable lie, designed to keep women in service to patriarchy and away from realising our full potential. We should reject it entirely, and refuse on principle to willingly add our names to a list built primarily on the backs of women who had no choice, no rights and no freedom. The fact that many women still can’t make this choice freely - even Tolentino wound up married, because it was the only way she and her partner could access each other’s healthcare benefits - says everything. Simply put: if the government is bribing you to do something, it’s rarely in your best interest. Criticising marriage, the so-called “bedrock” of western civilisation, is perceived to be a criticism of those who do it. That can feel bad for the person on the receiving end, and anything that makes someone feel bad must be wrong. But we should be willing to engage with critiques of our institutions, particularly those that have the kind of lengthy history of oppression that marriage boasts.
With the beautiful instrumental in the background and August being rocked to sleep by Christine this is an ASMR video as well as a super interesting insight into your family's life! 🙂😊
The perfect introduction to your new series. Thank you to those who posed excellent questions and to you for letting us know more about your inner fire ❤️🔥
I also had a very difficult first birth. I ended up with an emergency c section, after 2 days of labor. I hemorrhaged and ended up in ICU. My next two were scheduled c sections and it was SO much easier to have a c section without going through labor beforehand. My second and third deliveries were more than 50% easier. He’s beautiful and whatever it takes, we’re so blessed to be parents!
I think your idea of buying up cabins and offering them to try out the simple life is great! I could never imagine living with YOU, your cabin or A-Frame as an Airbnb. I would feel like an intruder. Yes, the question about school is difficult. Very, very difficult. School ruins so much for our children .... The marriage question made me laugh a lot. I don't know why others are so interested in that either. Whether you're a great couple doesn't depend on whether you're married. 😂
Thanks for your videos! I enjoy watching them.🙂 I think marriage just seems like a beautiful tradition of dedication and commitment and it also brings some legal and financial benfits with it. I guess one could also ask why not get married when one is already together and has a child together? To me it just seems like the normal thing to do.
You have a beautiful family. Cherish it dearly. I am a mother of 4 and have been married as long as I remember myself 😂😂😂. Anyhow, it might sound old fashioned, but a marriage is an agreement. It is to protect you, your wife and your baby. It is a sacred union. Plus it gives your child your name - his father's name. And it adds security to the child's upbringing.
Wonderful video, you two, but remember, each day is a new day never lived before. Life is not static. So today’s decisions may not be what tomorrow’s will be. Wisdom comes with age! And as you grow old together, comforting each other , remember to be the great team mates for each other that you are now.
it's so nice to see you both in good health. you are a very beautiful couple, and I'm sure your boy will be too. thank you for sharing your ideas and experience with your audience
In the US if you are not married it means you are not committed to the relationship fully. Having a kid outside of being married is viewed as irresponsible. We also get a lot of government benefits once married and tax benefits.
Just like having a baby... you want more. When you make a commitment, you want more, then your bonding increases. and your love grows and develops into more commitment. ❤
Christine i so enjoy watching you enjoy motherhood but just the way you are, how you speak-you are such a beautiful woman inside & out. I would be honoured to find a friend like you😊 Hard to find!
In the USA a marriage license is a contract with the state that you and your children are owned by the state. The general population does not comprehend this. When I visited Scotland I had an interesting conversation while receiving a pedicure. The woman giving me the pedicure has a boyfriend of 10 years and 3 kids and very happy. I asked why not marriage and she said that the Catholic Church makes it extremely difficult to get a divorce. You must have at least 3 years separation before you can begin to start divorce proceedings. She said a good percentage of couples young and older have chosen to skip marriage.
My mom lived with her boyfriend for thirty years and when he died suddenly she didn't get his pension and had to fight to get his life insurance. She had to borrow money to pay for his funeral.
@@Melissa-gn3dv What country? If in the USA each state can have a different set of statutes. There is a thing called "common law marriage" that has the benefits of the license regarding pensions and insurance. These days it seems like no matter how much one thinks they are covered the asshats think up every excuse to deny claims.
I think for me it is cultural. In the US it is culturally accepted that you marry then children. That gives the child a “name” and in olden times here you did not want to be a child without a Father. Besides you love each other and it does give you each a financial and legal safeguards if (God forbid) anything happened to the other.
My partner and I have been together for 23yrs. We have been engaged forever, have an 18yr old daughter, but we do not feel pressure to marry ourselves. It will happen, maybe. Haha
Marriage is an institution by our Father in heaven. He invented marriage and instructed us to get married through the Scriptures. It is His will that we do His will. He created us.
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For me it's scripture in the will where it's a Sin 2 commit for vacation and living. Unmarried is a Sin for me. Because I go by The Bible also oh, when your children get in school and other kids want to know why your names are different and that helps protect your children as well. No, God bless you I love you guys and your baby is absolutely precious.❤❤
I feel most people want you married because they care about you both and most likely feel that being married, you will possibly have a higher chance of staying together. I personally don't think you need to wear a ring to be your partners lover and best friend ❤ we are all different i guess.
Not religious, but in the culture of the US, most people still enjoy the commitment of marriage and tradition, even in the most liberal area, where I live.
People ask it because it would make a beautiful, romantic storybook beginning for your together lives. Some countries pressure more for marriage, perhaps from the religious background for Americans and the leftover sentimental from puritanical days of “living in sin”. This was very prevalent even in the 1970s.
I was told by the midwife delivering my baby, ",isn't it about time you get married". I never answered her, I thought it was really inappropriate and quite frankly none of her business. But, no, to be honest, people are obsessed with other people's marital status, why, I simply have no idea.
To answer your question, "Whay is marriage so important", I have a reply. Marriage in the USA is a *contract*. It has certain protections for children. What it means, if the marriage breaks up, that each parent has responsibility for the child. This isn't about the relationship between the parents, it has to do with financial protection of the child. I know personally many children that have been scared and confused by the actions of thier birth parents. I would not wish that on anyone. Think of this : a child does not ask to be born but once here they have their life and rights. I am sure it varies between countries but here in the US, especially in these times, one needs to think beyond oneself.
A marriage is sanctified by God as a circle of protection. That's why it is important to marry, and that's why Christians hope that you will marry, because we love you and want the best for you. God bless you.
Jeder soll das machen, was ihn erfüllt. Wir haben unseren 3 Töchtern auch gesagt, dass sie weder heiraten, noch Kinder bekommen müssen wegen uns. Das ist ihr Leben und ihre Entscheidungen. Oftmals wird da ganz schön viel Druck gemacht.
Sweden is probably different but here in the US marriage is really a financial transaction as it allows rights and access to health benefits, retirement benefits, social security benefits, inheritance rights, etc. It started as a religious requirement but was really seen as protecting the female. Unfortunately it was also looked at as the male owning the woman.
That's because it is such a wonderful love immediately. Can see the love you have for each other and little child Acutally God set up marriage for man and woman to become one flesh and that is a beautiful life. I am 80 and my husband just passed last year the greatest love of my life.
@ I am a lifeguard instructor, and there is nothing more fulfilling than seeing little children in the water. My son, who is 24 in a few days, didn’t like swimming at all, but I think he’s grown to like it 😂😂
School today isn't what it was when you guys were going so don't let your negative experiences dictate your course of action. Don't assume Steiner or Waldorf are better because of the way they present themselves... I'll leave it at that.
Getting married or not? It's culture, religion, traditions, expectations and so much more. Growing up in SWEDEN the perspective of marriage is much different from many countries around the world. For some, not all, marriage is the symbol of belonging to someone. In Sweden it's the committment that matters not the paper, not the status or the religous aspect. One can choose not to get married and still be religious in Sweden. God is a forgiving and understanding God. In some countries, it's the approval to live together and have a family together. It's hard to explain for non-swedes but sambo is common and accepted just as a official marriage. In Sweden cohabitating is accepted same as marriage.
I don't understand people that ask about marriage either. Do they want someone to peak in to their living room and ask them if they are getting married soon. I mean yes you are sharing your life, but you are for sure entitled to have privacy as well and choose what you want to talk about. Just because you are on youtube does not mean that we the people who watch you are entitled to everything about you. I hope it stops now when you given a answer =)
I've been married, I've had girlfriends, I've had domestic partners, and to honest, I have to say I felt more married to my last domestic partner than to my ex-wife, and I felt more in just a relationship with my ex-wife. Marriage is not important, it's only a relic from past when religion oppressed our daily life. We now live in a secular age and society, and this should also be represented in how we choose to have our relationship. And as I normally would say: "Who wakes up one morning, praises how good a relationship they have with their partner, and the first thing that comes to their mind is that the most natural and best thing would be to include the goverment in the relationship."
@@Melissa-gn3dv Well, as things are now it's the goverment. If you get divorced some lawyer is getting rich of it. You get to do a bunch of paperwork that needs to be handed in to the goverment. You need to pay fines to the goverment. So no, there's no gods there, there's the goverment. And in the eyes of society marriage is about inhertitance rights. No god there either. And let's be frank, what ever spirutal belief you put into it has no need for the official bondage of marriage. You can marry in the eyes of what ever belief you may have until the cows come home, but unless the goverment is involved, there's no marriage in the eyes of the goverment, and in extension no rights given. And also one more thing one need to know, as a society the Scandinavian countries is in pratice an aethist society.
Marriage is a covenant. You don't understand why people care? Well, why wouldn't people care? Your viewers are following your channel. It is a normal question to ask a couple, especially now with a child in the picture. What we don't understand is why you are so clearly offended by that question. That question should not be a point of contention. I think what that means is perhaps you need to do more reflection as to why that offends you. I think Christine is worthy of a man committing to her to that degree. Don't you?!
In Sweden, which is one of the most secular countries in the world, people have generally unfortunately moved away from everything religious. This also affects the institution of marriage and loads of people live together and have children without being married. This is a very sad development, that people over here often frame themselves from our Creator. They don’t understand this as they have been taught that there is no Father in heaven. Most are atheists.
@@NennaCand that is the downfall of a Western society and Europe in general - families are no longer valued by youngsters and governments. It's cool and modern to analyze and ponder over feelings and wishes as opposed to working things out when they get hard. A family is the foundation of society and country.
Hej Christine Jeg er 54 og har fulgt dig længe og har overvejet din cirkel. Jeg er efter menstruation og børn et cirklen også for mig? Det kan være svært at finde balancen her også. Kærligst Nynne ❤
You two do what’s best for you both. It’s your journey that you two will travel together. I’m married to my wonderful wife. It was because of our religious beliefs to be married to each other. What counts is what’s best for each other in your relationship to each other. Share all the traditions, pass them down to your children.
Yeah dont understand either why people ask you so much why you are not married, think its a cultural thing maybe..i am Swedish and been together with my man for 15 years and 4 kids later we are not even engaged😮oh my! We dont live in Sweden anymore so it feels less important I dont know, but we will get there some day!❤❤much love to you!!
Yeah dont understand either why people ask you so much why you are not married, think its a cultural thing maybe..i am Swedish and been together with my man for 15 years and 4 kids later we are not even engaged😮oh my! We dont live in Sweden anymore so it feels less important I dont know, but we will get there some day!❤❤much love to you!!
I honestly think that it says a lot about a man. If he can't or doesn't want to go to that degree for a woman it speaks volumes about him. This is how we got to this point in civilization is because man and woman got together and birthed nations. The manliest thing a man can do is take that responsibility for his woman, let alone his woman and his child.
Marriage protects the woman. And your children. She is in a very insecure , vulnerable position only being your “girlfriend” and having your child. A marriage is a contract that says you will provide and protect her, honor and cherish her until you both die. That you will be faithful to her and stay true until death. Not only is it a civil contract, recognized by the government, but most of all it is a holy covenant between God (your Creator) and the husband and wife. It’s God’s design whether you believe it or not. Marriage shows that you are willing to lay down your life for your wife and like wise she for you. She already has given so much by going to death’s door to give birth to your child. The manly, right thing to do would be to commit yourself wholly to her.
the world i live in. My country's ,and my culture ,and my religious .belief . I want marriage eventually , .Especially if I was thinking of haveing a family . iwas young and
I agree. I find a lot of people on UA-cam do this to a lot of UA-camr channels. They are always wanting them to get married and have children. Not everyone wants that kind of life. ❤ some just want kids only and no marriage or some want just marriage or neither and that’s perfectly okay because it’s there life and there journey ❤. Iv never understood why others push others to marry and have children
A marriage is sanctified by God as a circle of protection. That's why it is important to marry, and that's why Christians hope that you will marry, because we love you and want the best for you. God bless you.
Me and my partner are constantly asked why are we not married or when are we plan to get married...it' s annoying...there are more important things in life than some piece of paper... We have been together for 15 years and now have a 3 yo daughter... Wish you all the best! By the way...i' m a teacher in Poland and knowing the insides of schooling i definitely would like my baby to be home schooled...
A speeding ticket is a piece of paper…it has meaning. Marriage is more then paper, your right. Depends what your belief and values are. I chose to accept Godly principles in what marriage is. We are all free to live our lives. But marriage is beautiful and it really made a difference to me, instead of referring him to my boyfriend.
I don't think that people ask "when/if you are going to marry?" because it's important. I think they do that just out curiosity and it doesn't really matter, not a big deal. But I get that it might be frustrating to both of you because at some point (if not already) Kalle would feel the pressure to propose and it won't be a surprise for Christina 😂 So stop it, people! 😉
Marriage is created by God. Anything outside that union is sin. It’s a covenant also between husband and wife. TIL death do we part. But many now do not adhere to biblical principles…doesn’t mean it’s not still important. Cohabitation is known as not being successful…I did a paper on that subject in university. Quite interesting that marriage is more successful because of commitment and reverence to godly principles. I got married at 19 years old, and still married just about 42 years and going strong. Bible also says in the last days, people will forbid to marry…a sign of rebellion against God.
I think it’s both religion and culture that marriage is becoming heavy load. Here in USA, co-habitation or girl friend/boy friend lasts long than marriage. Marriage takes away the sense of freedom. Whereas relationships don’t have less strings to depart
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Marriage legally protects your wife in a way a girlfriend is not protected when it comes to inheritance, medical decisions, travel privileges, migration privileges etc. Some people do not care and it is their right. But I feel when you love someone, you want them to be as safe as humanely possible.
So it really has nothing to do with the man but her😂😂
@@Footbal_supremacy 😆💦 Maybe they should re-word it to "spouse"
Exactly and we'll stated. An empath gives and a person that controls the relationship breeds cracks later too because health is not permanent and perfect. Children need to know they are wanted, including heritage and name.
My state has common law marriage. Basically, after living with someone for an X amount of years, the state recognizes you as a couple and you can even file taxes together. Other things vary, as i havent done much research into the pros and cons, but its definitely something the state recognizes.
If im not mistaken, its like being married without being married. Although i could be wrong.
Agree,specially when building life around his stuff(house /land etc)
And if stay home mom
I have a degree in Family Science and have been married 33 years-not always happily, btw. But, we have our faith and our children & knew that divorce is not an option so we had to figure it out. We had lots of therapy and worked very hard because we knew darn well that neither of us were without sin and that if we left each other, it would leave generations of scars. We decided that neither of us would ever try and win an argument and that we would always try and see the best in the other. It’s worked very well. We are happier than ever because we dis the work and both now feel cared for because we value each other while also having respect and kindness toward each other. Living together is devaluing to us as humans. We deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for love.
Marriage in the United States of America gives the spouse access to social security benefits if one of you dies. The children would receive a payment of about $400 per month in the event of one of the spouses death. In the United States it can also give you a tax benefit on income tax. And in the United States it gives you certain protections that you would not have if you were single especially to a partner's pension. So a lot of it has to do with the security for the child in the future. I'm not sure what you have in your country it may be totally different. But in the United States it's pretty important for the benefit of a child that parents do get married
It is the same in Scandinavia ... The Marriage and family law protects your Economic rights after the divorce or When your husband or wife dies.
Sounds like maybe Christine would like to be married.
I think if you have a child, you are going to be in each other lives for at least 18 years, but really a life time. And all children want the security and commitment of their parents’ marriage. Of course being married doesn’t guarantee security but it is a pledge and a promise to gift your children. Just my opinion and no judgement about your own choices.
Thank you Kalle and Christine for answering my question about the A Frame rental. Your idea made much more sense being away from your cabin. 😊
Our society works BEST WHEN PEOPLE BUILD FAMILIES so that children are legally protected and laws are designed and God blesses families. Both parents are responsible to meeting each other’s needs and have made vows with each other and God. It gives strength to our society and a community as well as each person in the family. I always wanted children and so I married first, then we had three sons. The life in the eternities is in the form of FAMILIES. The basic unit of society here on earth and in the eternities. It has always been God’s plan that we are in families.
You two remind me of my husband and I SO much. The dynamic of your personalities together (as far as we see) the love language differences. The way you seem to share alot of goals and connection with nature but also have some core differences that cause some really difficult to navagate feelings.
Getting married gave us a deeper security a deeper commitment to being completely dedicated to our family and relationship HEALING. Its not easy to look at your behaviors and patterns and find how to meet eachothers needs without comprimising your own but when youre vowed to one another it becomes more of a solace in the rough patches.
This beautiful little baby boy, has been blessed with two most beautiful, loving parents and his life will be filled with such love, what an incredible start to life. We love you all. XX
ON MARRIAGE … my now husband and I lived together for 3 years before we tied the knot. Once done, (I was 51, he 47), he couldn’t believe the deeper connection he felt and the secure feeling it unveiled. Believe me we were already a very secure couple. It wasn’t about wearing rings … we still after 15 years don’t have any. It somehow made us “one”. 🇨🇦
I know you have your hands VERY full at the moment Christine but you might at some point really enjoy rug hooking. It’s such an easy craft and results/designs so individual. Not only that, you end up with very useful items … rugs, purses, window valances, stair treads, seat cushions, table runners. Ideas and designs are endless. I’m sure there in Sweden, good quality wool is readily available. 🐑
Legal marriage adds so many layers of protection to your life and partnership.
100% protects his castle from her ...
I never, ever believed that they would marry... He is too selfish but that said .. I do enjoy the videos...
Christine's answer to the question "why don't you get married ?" : The day I'm going to get married, Kalle would have to ask me.... dude, read the room... forget all the lingo and philosophy etc and get down on one knee and stop being selfish. I would think that there are some financial benefits in Sweden, protection for married women in case something happens to you.
In the States, it's a sign of commitment, or permanency. It's the final way of saying you're there for the long haul, and you're not going to leave when things get tough
Sure didn't work out that way for my parents.. or grandparents.. or G-grandparents, or most of the family tree for that matter.. 😲🌲
Yes, legal marriage makes no difference. So many marriages don't last. Marriage and commitment are not the same at all.
Christine gives the impression that she would consider marriage if u had the guts and courage to ask her. Do u not want to call her your wife? A sad world we live in.
The phase of being roommates with my husband lasted around three years. We got married in the end...for legal reasons and to make things easier. Having a newborn is definitely an intense time. I remember my husband feeding me while I was nursing our son. I had problems with postpartum depression so that made things even more difficult. Wish you all the best ❤
In my country marriage protects both spouses financially in the event that something happens to one of them. Also, I think marriage symbolizes deep love and commitment, which is a wonderful and secure thing to feel from your partner. That said, everyone should do whatever arrangement is best for them and their partner. ❤
I would say that I would love to see you two get married because I believe it's a powerful, beautiful thing for a man to call a woman his wife (not just his girlfriend or "partner"), and for a woman to call a man her husband. I think "husband and wife" sounds more like a family. :)
100 percent agree! It’s the most secure layer I think (especially with faith) that you have as a family. Especially for children to know that your a team for always and they know they have that security with both parents.
That is well said. And a child feels that security as well.
Yes, I totally agree!! And God performed the first marriage. So that is an important thing to consider what God thinks as he knows what is best for us. So get through this amazing time and then you can plan those other important events when the time is right!!
Much Love to you both!!💜💜💜
It's nothing but a social construct created to enslave women. The price of witnessing your friends pledge their young lives to an institution that until only recently gave men the legal right to rape their wives (and still does in some US states, thanks to legal loopholes) does not come cheap.
Marriage is not now and never has been designed with women’s happiness in mind - and yet we’re told that without it, we will be miserable. As any sociologist can tell you, it’s men who benefit from marriage: they live longer, they are generally healthier and happier, and their economic prospects improve. On the other hand, studies have shown that married women die earlier. And marriage alone isn’t a guarantee of happiness for women - they are happy if they have a happy marriage.
When it comes to divorce, the financial risk to women is more perilous: ASX research based on numerous studies has shown that women’s incomes drop by around 21-30% after divorce, an economic hit that it takes an average of six years to recover from. The same is not true for men, their income briefly dipping by about 5% before recovering. We can assume one of the reasons for this is the cost of raising children, both in terms of economic outlay and deprivation of economic opportunity.
When you peel back the layers of history and propaganda, it’s impossible not to want to completely destroy this inherently misogynistic institution.
Marriage is an unsalvageable lie, designed to keep women in service to patriarchy and away from realising our full potential. We should reject it entirely, and refuse on principle to willingly add our names to a list built primarily on the backs of women who had no choice, no rights and no freedom. The fact that many women still can’t make this choice freely - even Tolentino wound up married, because it was the only way she and her partner could access each other’s healthcare benefits - says everything. Simply put: if the government is bribing you to do something, it’s rarely in your best interest.
Criticising marriage, the so-called “bedrock” of western civilisation, is perceived to be a criticism of those who do it. That can feel bad for the person on the receiving end, and anything that makes someone feel bad must be wrong. But we should be willing to engage with critiques of our institutions, particularly those that have the kind of lengthy history of oppression that marriage boasts.
With the beautiful instrumental in the background and August being rocked to sleep by Christine this is an ASMR video as well as a super interesting insight into your family's life! 🙂😊
I'm so happy you liked it 🥰
Nice vlog. Thank you for entertaining our questions. ❤
The perfect introduction to your new series. Thank you to those who posed excellent questions and to you for letting us know more about your inner fire ❤️🔥
And thank YOU for watching 🥰
It’s important to protect the woman if something happens to you & your child😊
In sweden sooo many people don’t get married, it’s normal and it’s fine. My parents never married.
I also had a very difficult first birth. I ended up with an emergency c section, after 2 days of labor. I hemorrhaged and ended up in ICU. My next two were scheduled c sections and it was SO much easier to have a c section without going through labor beforehand. My second and third deliveries were more than 50% easier. He’s beautiful and whatever it takes, we’re so blessed to be parents!
I think your idea of buying up cabins and offering them to try out the simple life is great! I could never imagine living with YOU, your cabin or A-Frame as an Airbnb. I would feel like an intruder.
Yes, the question about school is difficult. Very, very difficult. School ruins so much for our children ....
The marriage question made me laugh a lot. I don't know why others are so interested in that either. Whether you're a great couple doesn't depend on whether you're married. 😂
How sweet your little baby looks so precious, and I'm glad you're going to try and have another one 🙏🤗
Thanks for your videos! I enjoy watching them.🙂 I think marriage just seems like a beautiful tradition of dedication and commitment and it also brings some legal and financial benfits with it. I guess one could also ask why not get married when one is already together and has a child together? To me it just seems like the normal thing to do.
You have a beautiful family. Cherish it dearly. I am a mother of 4 and have been married as long as I remember myself 😂😂😂. Anyhow, it might sound old fashioned, but a marriage is an agreement. It is to protect you, your wife and your baby. It is a sacred union. Plus it gives your child your name - his father's name. And it adds security to the child's upbringing.
Don´t make the baby your boss - you will regret it.
Christine you’re glowing! ❤
Wonderful video, you two, but remember, each day is a new day never lived before. Life is not static. So today’s decisions may not be what tomorrow’s will be. Wisdom comes with age! And as you grow old together, comforting each other , remember to be the great team mates for each other that you are now.
it's so nice to see you both in good health. you are a very beautiful couple, and I'm sure your boy will be too. thank you for sharing your ideas and experience with your audience
Another great video. Thank you for being so frank, honest and forthcoming. You two are a wonderful couple.
And thank you for being here watching our videos 🥰❤️
I enjoyed so much, tranquil and peaceful and appreciate your direct and straight forward responses! ♥
I'm so happy you liked it 🥰 thank you ❤️
In the US if you are not married it means you are not committed to the relationship fully. Having a kid outside of being married is viewed as irresponsible. We also get a lot of government benefits once married and tax benefits.
Just like having a baby... you want more. When you make a commitment, you want more, then your bonding increases. and your love grows and develops into more commitment. ❤
Thank you for answering my question
Most women want more kids right after they have a baby.❤
Apparently 🙈❤
Christine i so enjoy watching you enjoy motherhood but just the way you are, how you speak-you are such a beautiful woman inside & out. I would be honoured to find a friend like you😊 Hard to find!
In the USA a marriage license is a contract with the state that you and your children are owned by the state. The general population does not comprehend this. When I visited Scotland I had an interesting conversation while receiving a pedicure. The woman giving me the pedicure has a boyfriend of 10 years and 3 kids and very happy. I asked why not marriage and she said that the Catholic Church makes it extremely difficult to get a divorce. You must have at least 3 years separation before you can begin to start divorce proceedings. She said a good percentage of couples young and older have chosen to skip marriage.
It explains alot of things, stay strong gentlemen💪💪. Marriage is not for you, it's for her😢😢
My mom lived with her boyfriend for thirty years and when he died suddenly she didn't get his pension and had to fight to get his life insurance. She had to borrow money to pay for his funeral.
@@Melissa-gn3dvwhich country? It's not like that in Canada.
@@Melissa-gn3dv What country? If in the USA each state can have a different set of statutes. There is a thing called "common law marriage" that has the benefits of the license regarding pensions and insurance. These days it seems like no matter how much one thinks they are covered the asshats think up every excuse to deny claims.
Very nice video thanks for sharing, August is so cute.
Hello from a Swede on a farm in Florida. We just got a kid too🥳😁😇 Good luck to you guys!
I think for me it is cultural. In the US it is culturally accepted that you marry then children. That gives the child a “name” and in olden times here you did not want to be a child without a Father. Besides you love each other and it does give you each a financial and legal safeguards if (God forbid) anything happened to the other.
My partner and I have been together for 23yrs. We have been engaged forever, have an 18yr old daughter, but we do not feel pressure to marry ourselves. It will happen, maybe. Haha
Marriage is an institution by our Father in heaven. He invented marriage and instructed us to get married through the Scriptures. It is His will that we do His will. He created us.
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Kelle, When are you gonna propose to Christine?
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3 languages in the home thats so amazing!!
For me it's scripture in the will where it's a Sin 2 commit for vacation and living. Unmarried is a Sin for me. Because I go by
The Bible also oh, when your children get in school and other kids want to know why your names are different and that helps protect your children as well.
No, God bless you I love you guys and your baby is absolutely precious.❤❤
I love the name August too! Reminds me of the movie August Rush❤.
I didn’t know that Christina had a channel! What is the name of it? I will follow! ❤
You can find a link to her channel in the description 😊❤
I feel most people want you married because they care about you both and most likely feel that being married, you will possibly have a higher chance of staying together. I personally don't think you need to wear a ring to be your partners lover and best friend ❤ we are all different i guess.
I'm married, but I don't wear a ring.
My rings come off when I’m home. Hubby always wears his ring. 😃
Thanks for the ride… ❤
Not religious, but in the culture of the US, most people still enjoy the commitment of marriage and tradition, even in the most liberal area, where I live.
beautiful family💛💛💛
Watching from London UK, I have 3 kids all grown up now,all my kids slept in our king size bed, no pressure at all, do what you think best
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I can't imagine the government forcing you to send your kids away to school everyday. I'm thankful we can homeschool in the states.
In Finland we also have easter witches and 🐓🐔🐣🐤🐥🐰
Christine how is your horse doeing i love love love horses
People ask it because it would make a beautiful, romantic storybook beginning for your together lives. Some countries pressure more for marriage, perhaps from the religious background for Americans and the leftover sentimental from puritanical days of “living in sin”. This was very prevalent even in the 1970s.
I was told by the midwife delivering my baby, ",isn't it about time you get married". I never answered her, I thought it was really inappropriate and quite frankly none of her business. But, no, to be honest, people are obsessed with other people's marital status, why, I simply have no idea.
To answer your question, "Whay is marriage so important", I have a reply. Marriage in the USA is a *contract*. It has certain protections for children. What it means, if the marriage breaks up, that each parent has responsibility for the child. This isn't about the relationship between the parents, it has to do with financial protection of the child. I know personally many children that have been scared and confused by the actions of thier birth parents. I would not wish that on anyone. Think of this : a child does not ask to be born but once here they have their life and rights. I am sure it varies between countries but here in the US, especially in these times, one needs to think beyond oneself.
A marriage is sanctified by God as a circle of protection. That's why it is important to marry, and that's why Christians hope that you will marry, because we love you and want the best for you. God bless you.
Jeder soll das machen, was ihn erfüllt. Wir haben unseren 3 Töchtern auch gesagt, dass sie weder heiraten, noch Kinder bekommen müssen wegen uns. Das ist ihr Leben und ihre Entscheidungen. Oftmals wird da ganz schön viel Druck gemacht.
That sounds very healthy 🥰
Parents are to teach their children in the ways of The Lord. Even if they don’t believe or follow God, it’s still their responsibility.
Sweden is probably different but here in the US marriage is really a financial transaction as it allows rights and access to health benefits, retirement benefits, social security benefits, inheritance rights, etc. It started as a religious requirement but was really seen as protecting the female. Unfortunately it was also looked at as the male owning the woman.
Owning the female? Never heard that one? Lol Not here in Canada! 🇨🇦 lol
In my study that I did in university. Marriage couples have better sex then cohabitating couples. Lol ❤
That's because it is such a wonderful love immediately. Can see the love you have for each other and little child Acutally God set up marriage for man and woman to become one flesh and that is a beautiful life. I am 80 and my husband just passed last year the greatest love of my life.
panning for gold
Baby swimming- I love this idea.
It's the best 🥰
@ I am a lifeguard instructor, and there is nothing more fulfilling than seeing little children in the water.
My son, who is 24 in a few days, didn’t like swimming at all, but I think he’s grown to like it 😂😂
School today isn't what it was when you guys were going so don't let your negative experiences dictate your course of action. Don't assume Steiner or Waldorf are better because of the way they present themselves... I'll leave it at that.
Getting married or not? It's culture, religion, traditions, expectations and so much more. Growing up in SWEDEN the perspective of marriage is much different from many countries around the world. For some, not all, marriage is the symbol of belonging to someone. In Sweden it's the committment that matters not the paper, not the status or the religous aspect. One can choose not to get married and still be religious in Sweden. God is a forgiving and understanding God. In some countries, it's the approval to live together and have a family together. It's hard to explain for non-swedes but sambo is common and accepted just as a official marriage. In Sweden cohabitating is accepted same as marriage.
I don't understand people that ask about marriage either. Do they want someone to peak in to their living room and ask them if they are getting married soon. I mean yes you are sharing your life, but you are for sure entitled to have privacy as well and choose what you want to talk about. Just because you are on youtube does not mean that we the people who watch you are entitled to everything about you. I hope it stops now when you given a answer =)
Haha I feel the same, it's such a strange thing. I don't exactly ask random people I meet or follow if they are gonna have kids or get married soon 😅
I think because they talked about marriage. It’s good to talk about these things. Just be respectful.
Women loses out. Just being honest
We will be married coming up 44 years in May 2025. There’s more of a commitment and connection. ❤️
Congratulations ❤
Woe unto you bro
@@KalleFlodinif you follow suit, then maybe you deserve the effery that it comes with 😢😢
Congratulations, and you will be under the protection of God.
goeie genade..wat een gezever van dronken aardbeien. mijn opa en oma hadden 21 !!!! eenentwintig kinderen samen. Daar ging het leven gewoon door.
If you want to keep her, marry her
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I've been married, I've had girlfriends, I've had domestic partners, and to honest, I have to say I felt more married to my last domestic partner than to my ex-wife, and I felt more in just a relationship with my ex-wife. Marriage is not important, it's only a relic from past when religion oppressed our daily life. We now live in a secular age and society, and this should also be represented in how we choose to have our relationship. And as I normally would say: "Who wakes up one morning, praises how good a relationship they have with their partner, and the first thing that comes to their mind is that the most natural and best thing would be to include the goverment in the relationship."
The idea is to include God, not the government.
Government doesn’t care about its people. Especially in Canada. I live my life for God.
@@Melissa-gn3dv Well, as things are now it's the goverment. If you get divorced some lawyer is getting rich of it. You get to do a bunch of paperwork that needs to be handed in to the goverment. You need to pay fines to the goverment. So no, there's no gods there, there's the goverment. And in the eyes of society marriage is about inhertitance rights. No god there either.
And let's be frank, what ever spirutal belief you put into it has no need for the official bondage of marriage. You can marry in the eyes of what ever belief you may have until the cows come home, but unless the goverment is involved, there's no marriage in the eyes of the goverment, and in extension no rights given.
And also one more thing one need to know, as a society the Scandinavian countries is in pratice an aethist society.
Get married because if you’re not married, you’re next to Kin is your parents. If you get sick, it’s a totally different set up at that point.
Marriage is a covenant. You don't understand why people care? Well, why wouldn't people care? Your viewers are following your channel. It is a normal question to ask a couple, especially now with a child in the picture. What we don't understand is why you are so clearly offended by that question. That question should not be a point of contention. I think what that means is perhaps you need to do more reflection as to why that offends you. I think Christine is worthy of a man committing to her to that degree. Don't you?!
In Sweden, which is one of the most secular countries in the world, people have generally unfortunately moved away from everything religious. This also affects the institution of marriage and loads of people live together and have children without being married. This is a very sad development, that people over here often frame themselves from our Creator. They don’t understand this as they have been taught that there is no Father in heaven. Most are atheists.
@@NennaCand that is the downfall of a Western society and Europe in general - families are no longer valued by youngsters and governments. It's cool and modern to analyze and ponder over feelings and wishes as opposed to working things out when they get hard. A family is the foundation of society and country.
Hej Christine
Jeg er 54 og har fulgt dig længe og har overvejet din cirkel. Jeg er efter menstruation og børn et cirklen også for mig? Det kan være svært at finde balancen her også.
Kærligst Nynne ❤
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Hey Mia 🥰❤
Hey you all ❤❤❤🐾🐾❤❤
You two do what’s best for you both. It’s your journey that you two will travel together. I’m married to my wonderful wife. It was because of our religious beliefs to be married to each other. What counts is what’s best for each other in your relationship to each other. Share all the traditions, pass them down to your children.
Thank you very much for being respectful.
Yeah dont understand either why people ask you so much why you are not married, think its a cultural thing maybe..i am Swedish and been together with my man for 15 years and 4 kids later we are not even engaged😮oh my! We dont live in Sweden anymore so it feels less important I dont know, but we will get there some day!❤❤much love to you!!
Yeah dont understand either why people ask you so much why you are not married, think its a cultural thing maybe..i am Swedish and been together with my man for 15 years and 4 kids later we are not even engaged😮oh my! We dont live in Sweden anymore so it feels less important I dont know, but we will get there some day!❤❤much love to you!!
Too bad. It’ll never be quite right. 🤷♀️
That is rude and opinionated.
I honestly think that it says a lot about a man. If he can't or doesn't want to go to that degree for a woman it speaks volumes about him. This is how we got to this point in civilization is because man and woman got together and birthed nations. The manliest thing a man can do is take that responsibility for his woman, let alone his woman and his child.
I got married, then divorced out of financial circumstances. Economic pressure from my home country is causing the issue in the first place.
Woe unto any simp who gets married 😂😂
You deserved it btw, why did you get married?🤔
are you bouth going to have more doggys
Marriage protects the woman. And your children. She is in a very insecure , vulnerable position only being your “girlfriend” and having your child. A marriage is a contract that says you will provide and protect her, honor and cherish her until you both die. That you will be faithful to her and stay true until death. Not only is it a civil contract, recognized by the government, but most of all it is a holy covenant between God (your Creator) and the husband and wife. It’s God’s design whether you believe it or not.
Marriage shows that you are willing to lay down your life for your wife and like wise she for you. She already has given so much by going to death’s door to give birth to your child. The manly, right thing to do would be to commit yourself wholly to her.
Just follow your heart and don’t worry about what others think you should do. It’s your life so do with it whatever you want.
Of course, we have our own path and compass in life 🥰
@No follow your brain not heart🤦♂️
I dint think people are telling them what to do. We are sharing what we think, plus they asked why we ask about marriage.
Marriage in my opinion makes you legally family. Much like adopting a child, it makes non biological family, family.
the world i live in. My country's ,and my culture ,and my religious .belief . I want marriage eventually , .Especially if I was thinking of haveing a family .
iwas young and
Especially if I were still young and of child bearing age.
were is the women circle wre can i finde it
It's in the description 😊
@KalleFlodin sory i cant finde it sory
@@christinavonheidenstam3206 thewomencircle.simplero.com/page/208558
what a wonderful life you have! I love your stories. I have one piece of advise for you though. Throw out that pacifier!
Wow! Good to know that you cant homeschool in sweden.. woah.
I agree. I find a lot of people on UA-cam do this to a lot of UA-camr channels. They are always wanting them to get married and have children. Not everyone wants that kind of life. ❤ some just want kids only and no marriage or some want just marriage or neither and that’s perfectly okay because it’s there life and there journey ❤. Iv never understood why others push others to marry and have children
It's a spiritual force, it's called jazzabel, it wants men to be slaves to wemen😢😢
A marriage is sanctified by God as a circle of protection. That's why it is important to marry, and that's why Christians hope that you will marry, because we love you and want the best for you. God bless you.
Me and my partner are constantly asked why are we not married or when are we plan to get married...it' s annoying...there are more important things in life than some piece of paper... We have been together for 15 years and now have a 3 yo daughter... Wish you all the best! By the way...i' m a teacher in Poland and knowing the insides of schooling i definitely would like my baby to be home schooled...
A speeding ticket is a piece of paper…it has meaning. Marriage is more then paper, your right. Depends what your belief and values are. I chose to accept Godly principles in what marriage is. We are all free to live our lives. But marriage is beautiful and it really made a difference to me, instead of referring him to my boyfriend.
I don't think that people ask "when/if you are going to marry?" because it's important. I think they do that just out curiosity and it doesn't really matter, not a big deal. But I get that it might be frustrating to both of you because at some point (if not already) Kalle would feel the pressure to propose and it won't be a surprise for Christina 😂 So stop it, people! 😉
Marriage is created by God. Anything outside that union is sin. It’s a covenant also between husband and wife. TIL death do we part. But many now do not adhere to biblical principles…doesn’t mean it’s not still important. Cohabitation is known as not being successful…I did a paper on that subject in university. Quite interesting that marriage is more successful because of commitment and reverence to godly principles. I got married at 19 years old, and still married just about 42 years and going strong. Bible also says in the last days, people will forbid to marry…a sign of rebellion against God.
NO NO NO That is not normal You should come first you are the head of the household and grandparents or sitters for a little while this is disaster
I think it’s both religion and culture that marriage is becoming heavy load. Here in USA, co-habitation or girl friend/boy friend lasts long than marriage. Marriage takes away the sense of freedom. Whereas relationships don’t have less strings to depart