What Is Borderline Personality Disorder | BetterHelp
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Borderline Personality Disorder is a severe mental illness that needs the treatment of a licensed mental health professional. Individuals with BPD have difficulty managing their emotions and often struggle to maintain long-lasting relationships including friendships and romantic partners.
One of the reasons it’s difficult for someone with Borderline to stay in healthy relationships is because of their difficulty with emotional regulation. Friends and intimate partners may have trouble knowing what to do when their loved one with BPD is suffering from mood shifts.
Many people with BPD experience intense, painful emotional states that they have trouble tolerating. One moment they may become furious and lash out in rage, and the next minute they’ve switched from anger to sadness. It can be hard to keep track of their emotions as their loved one because they are struggling to figure out their feelings out as well. Individuals with BPD often place people on pedestals when they love them, and if that person does something where they feel betrayed in the slightest, that love turns quickly to hate.
Those with Borderline Personality Disorder often struggle with self-destructive behavior such as self-harm because their pain is so intense and overwhelming. They hurt themselves to try to feel something other than emotional distress. One of the most effective forms of therapy for people with Borderline Personality Disorder is called DBT or Dialectal Behavior Therapy.
It teaches people with BPD to regulate their emotions and think before they take out their feelings on others. If you are living with Borderline, there is help out there. You may experience emotions intensely, and that could be painful, but you can learn to tolerate your feelings with the help of a skilled therapist.
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‘Please reach out, you don’t have to do this alone’....
If you’ve got money
Yeah sorry . well said Rachael S
Amen brotha
I’ve been with a girl who has BPD. It hasn’t been easy, but in no way have I ever forgotten it’s hard for her more than I know. She has all my heart and I’ll do anything I can to make it easier for her.
Jack Jammen Good luck. All I ever got was intense splitting, manipulation, and gaslighting galore. Anytime I encounter someone with BPD it takes a long time to recover.
So glad to hear that, my partner is the same way and holds me accountable and lets me ask questions no matter how dumb they are, most of the time that tiny bit of assurance from him helps me stay stable rather than getting lost down the rabbit hole of false thoughts filling in the blanks instead of his assurance. He has taught me so much and in turn I have helped him too with empathy, he struggles with expressing emotions. Communication is a big key in any relationship but with BPD even more so. Keep loving her and she'll blossom
This is so touching to read, and I just want to thank you for being that person she can lean on. You may or may not realize just how helpful this can be with her. Much love to you and yours.
Bless you. You’re a good guy. Good luck.
@@liesdamnlies3372 wow we are incapable of manipulation, shows you don't even know what you're talking about. Try having it and living with it, asshole.
"Fear of abandonment is strong in this one..."
You’ll go from so happy the best happy you can be everything gorgeous and perfect then 7 minutes go by and your ready to die because of the emotional pain.
Tyler Chula God it’s the most painful and bizarre experience..
I Think I have been Experiencing this recently! :(
Seems Pretty Relevant as far as I'm Concerned...
:/
Nope. I have BPD and that doesn't make sense at all. I wish it was that simple.
Inaccurate. I've been diagnosed for yeears with BPD.
Stop self diagnosing.
People with BPD can still have different experiences.... They all have their own personalities... some are co morbid with ASPD, NPD etc. Some are just BPD, Some are Quiet BPD, BPD doesn't mean you'll only experience things one way. It's all based around the same sort of patterns of thinking though. The experiences are vastly different though.
In the case of this disorder, the patient's self-image is distorted, making him feel worthless and fundamentally imperfect. Anger, impulsivity and frequent mood swings can keep it away from others, although the patient desperately desires affectionate relationships.
It's hell :(
Yes it is !
They might desire them, but in reality they push them away as hard as they can.
I do desire love but i ruin everything that i touch. Bpd is a terrible affliction.
@@amymoore8140 because we don't know how to do things in a normal way. The condition changes your responses to situations.
I’m not sure how unique her insights are but I must say she is the first person I’ve heard in over 50 years who has ever said a nice word about bpd clients. Usually, we are the scourge of both practitioners and family/friends (OK, she got there eventually -and I can’t argue with that-but she didn’t start there.). Thank you.
You are the scourge. You have complete control over how you treat people and yet you choose to act like a total a-hole once you win someone's trust. The ability to manipulate demonstrates perfectly that you know right from wrong but just don't care. You'll swing either way and say what you have to say as long as it serves you, and you don't care who you f*** over or hurt to make it happen.
All of us hide our true feelings (especially at work) and pretend to at least have basic common courtesy for each other. I lived with a bpd and it was literally the most torturous and hellish 8 mo of my life. And I grew up in a very abusive family, so that's saying a lot.
I think this woman's depiction of bpd is just plain silly. None of you give a shit about anyone but yourselves and you only pretend to care about other people as long as it's going to benefit you. You're not caring in the least. Unless of course it comes to caring about yourself.
Amy: we have never met. You know nothing of my life or behavior. I shared an idea, a positive thought about the presenter, yet you feel compelled to call me “the scourge.” I’m hurt and appalled. Perhaps you need to rethink the targets of your anger. I didn’t deserve this.
Not all of us are the same Amy, and to that point, why are you here? To degrade people diagnosed with that condition? Or to relive the pain your 8 month relationship caused you? I’m sorry, but I’m genuinely curious about your reasons? I don’t understand why you would be watching videos about a disorder that no longer affects your day to day life, and trashing people who had nothing to do with the toxicity of your relationship? My husband and I have been together for 17 years and he loves me more every day, I don’t think your situation applies to every single person with BPD and your generalizations about this disorder hurt anyone attempting to have a life outside of it. If you need to heal I get that, but trolling other people with the same disorder your ex had, is cruel to both yourself and others. So chill out and learn something, or please go find something more productive to do with your anger.
The Sari Studios So beautifully put, SS. I rarely feel the need of a defense, but Amy’s comment was both unexpected AND typical in a hurtful way that I really appreciated your wise words. Thank you, Karen K. aka “ the scourge”
Amy, how can you come here saying all of that hateful stuff about bpd sufferers, saying how we don't care about anybody but ourselves etc, yet here YOU are, choosing to act like a total a-hole? Especially when you seem to have no reason to be watching this video? A little hypocritical is it not? I'm sorry you had a difficult time, but that's no excuse to come here and spew acid.
It is a recognised condition by trained specialists who have spent years studying, who are you to say a trained professionals take on it is silly? It may have been tough for you, but I can guarantee the sufferer with bpd will have had a tough time too.
Everyone I've met diagnosed with borderline personality disorder is a beautiful caring human being.
Im that person but yet i get hurt
Everyone I have met with BPD has been the opposite. However I am sure there are maybe a few good ones. I would have to meet a nice one first.
not me crying because there’s people who like us…. i feel like such a bother
That is because we are sensitive
As someone diagnosed with BPD, I can say she explained the disorder just about as well as you can
I'm in a relationship with guy who cuts him self when we fall out.... I will support him thick and then but wat scars me is ...he says he dont do risk stuff r cheat.. but do u think he maybe tell lies... je lovely sweet guy and trys his best goes fo therapy and stuff
Feel, i have it too
@@vinnyhunk I don't see any indication that he's lying.
Vincent Mcdonagh of course he tells lies. They tell you things based on how they are feeling in the moment.
Vincent Mcdonagh I advice you to run while you still can.
Cut off all contact immediately.
You are in a power position as you are a female.... Wait..... You are not? Never mind. You should run.
If he knows where you live, change your address. Change all your contact numbers and emails, and block him from your social media now.
Diagnosed this year. I feel so ashamed. So lost and so alone. To know I'll be like this forever and how difficult it would ever be to be with me.
14 yrs diagnosed here, best of luck man. Some loved ones learned about it with me. Most won't ever get it. May I suggest linking with others who have it as well. Support groups or group therapy. It's weird and scary at first but it is comforting to learn and share with people who truly understand. I dont know you personally, but I care about your well being. Nobody hates you and you dont have to hate yourself because of BPD.
It does get better, DBT is a great treatment. Please know you're not alone, BPD is a painful illness to live with but we deserve happiness just as much as everyone else x
I know how that is, Adam, in my own way. If I felt shame about myself and disorder, now that I'm diagnosed, it's even more so. It feels like karma coming back on me because I have been very judgmental about others. Just because I know what I have does help because I want to know but, now I have to know this forever. That's the part that sucks. I can see how the suicide rate for this disorder is high.
There are treatments for BPD. There are 9 criterion of which a person needs to have 5 or more to be considered to have BPD. Many people have gone through therapy, especially DBT and been declassified as having BPD. Yes, it's a struggle and therapy can be hard but you can get better and live a life worth living!
Check out AJ Mahari BPD. She has lots of vids on UA-cam, plus books, plus she does online counseling with Skype. There's help and hope for you!
I suffer from bpd and it was very painful and frustrating to live with it util I was properly diagnosed about 3 years ago. Getting my diagnosis was so liberating to me, because it finally showed me that I wasn’t a bad person and I wasn’t crazy and that there’s actually nothing wrong with me. Since I was diagnosed, I’ve been on the correct medication and going to therapy every week. I must say that the treatment changed my life entirely. All my relationships benefitted from it, they are healthier, more stable and a lot lighter for me and people around me. I still struggle, I have good moments and really bad ones too, but my life has definitely changed for the better.
I paused after 1 minute. She got me in tears...
I'm really down these days and hearing that from a doctor is a first for me.
It makes me think that maybe, maybe, I'm not as bad as I think I am.
Thank you Doc..
Hi.. I thought Im the only one who cry..
Same here. As someone who has been turned down by three different psychotherapists for ”being too complicated of a case”, it’s refreshing to hear that someone enjoys treating us. :’)
What helped me was meditation, mindfulness, it helped me a lot, and with years of practice the storms get quieter, also therapy, and friends .Avoid alcohol and all others substances that are mind altering. Wish you all the Best, take care!
My partner had this,He was a beautiful loving man.
But all my love & his Daughters wasn't enough to save him.
I feel so useless.
He commited suicide 2 weeks ago.
I’m sorry. Please know he always has loved you and always will.
Grieve and support each other through this time. And more than anything, remember you are deserving of happiness.
I’m so so sorry to hear this. I truly am.
My deepest condolences ❤️💐🙏💐
😢🙏❤
"We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell."
Oscar Wilde.
Beautiful. Thanks.
Borderline personality disorder is being a good person, and not fitting in. Realizing you have to act tough so people don't bully you, be an extrovert so people don't think you're weird, being cruel to fit in, and having to create a personality to be just like these evil people. Then realizing you don't want to be that and going back to your original personality before society shuns you again forcing you to keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Don't let these evil people convince you that you're sick. We have a gift ✊😤
Omg you describe us perfectly, I am BPD too.
I have a good friend who has bpd. It can be quite hard and sometimes even painful. It takes a lot of conscious effort and communication to make sense of it all sometimes. Yet he is a wonderful person, extremely generous, helpful and caring.
I was diagnosed with BPD. Im a 39y old male that looks like he owns the world..looks. This video made me tear up. Such a well done video to explain what it is...I couldnt say in my own words what It felt like to explain to someone having BPD. Thank you for posting this,this is something I wanted to say in words like that for years.
I hate when they say we either think someone is the greatest person in the world, but then can turn to the most hated person in the world. I have bpd and the greatest person in the world to me is my dad always! Even when I'm at my worst I never feel negatively toward him. He is my absolute rock! We can argue till the cows come home but I love him more than anything.
I was diagnosed with BPD at age 12 but I have had symptoms since I was 5 and over the years especially last year and this year in the pandemic I lost a lot of friends and I sort of spiralled into a deep empty hole but I have a found my best friend for life and he has changed my life for the better ☺️
If you struggle with BPD too remember you aren’t alone reply to this comment if you need a friend who will understand you 🙂 love u all keep fighting
As far as i know, Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness. It can not only cause a great deal of suffering, but it also carries a high risk of suicide. Anyone diagnosed with BPD needs specifically targeted treatment... Thanks for the video !
Thing is, many with BPD at their worst, feel they deserve it, which is why they don't seen help.
I wonder what is the dividing line between mental illness (genuine chemical imbalance in the brain) and character problem, seeing that BPD is a disorder of the personality.
@@lawrence9456 its definitely chemical too.
Theoctopus Thoughts then why is it that so many health professionals find it so difficult to treat these people?
There has to be a reason. Like it's the BPD's fault. It's not actually chemical imbalance. It's a character problem.
My friend with schizophrenia is able to regulate his symptoms by taking the medicine. Why can't BPDs do that?
@@lawrence9456 We also take medication. The reason why your friend with schizophrenia can regulate his symptoms with medication but can also have a crisis is the same reason why I take mine and I can have a crisis too. Mental health conditions are not all the same, that's why there's a separate section in the DSM 5 for personality disorders. For example, people with schizophrenia need therapy to learn how to cope and improve their mental health and regulate their symptoms, BDP people also need therapy. Since the conditions are different, you cannot expect the same response from such different things. Even between people with the same condition, each brain is different and some have heavier symptoms than others. Popping pills in is not all the treatment. Ask your friend with schizophrenia if medication only is what he needs... he most likely will tell you that therapy helps, even when some sessions are though.
When I think about it, a lot of things in my life make sense now. Thank you for this video, I needed that.
Thank you for being so nice about it. You will not believe the amount of videos portraying us as these unbearable monsters who should never be shown love and should be left to suffer alone.
It's not that I believe you shouldn't be shown love and left to suffer alone.
But I believe in the name of self preservation and self protection, people should run from BPD, NPD, or any form of crazy.
It's not cos there's something wrong with you.
As much as you don't want to suffer, we don't want to be dragged down and have our lives ruined as well.
It's selfish, but as much as your life is precious, so is our life far to previous to allow sentimentalism to fool us into a dangerous situation.
Having a first hand experience, I know how dangerous BPD can be for our mental health and how it ruin your reputation, bright future and life. Sometimes I have to be selfish to protect myself.
Lawrence Sim Jesus I might as well die if I’m going to destroy everything
@@nothanks1884 DON'T take the opinion of ONE commenter too seriously. They control their life, you can control yours!
Katie Kane they can't control themselves. That's evident as daylight why we should run from them.
They deserve love. We deserve love too. Their need for affirmation and love is too deep and strong and insatiable it can be never be satisfied. They are too insecure to have any stable relationship.
Run from them before they destroy your life.
@@lawrence9456 Absolutely agree with you, I have just been discarded by one of them. A lady that I have given my life to. It got to the point were the dispense of love between two episodes of stormy anger eruptions became an exciting moment while it should have been the norm every day to show love and be loved back. I was walking on egg shells expecting her to blow up for reasons I never even knew about. When she was sad I had to be sad, angry I had to be angry, I was only allowed to be happy when she was happy. Codependency. I have been traumatized. The worst part is she doesn't know her diagnosis and refuses to acknowledge any ill behavior on her part, rather she projected on me.
Thank you so much for posting this! I am actually already working with a Betterhelp professional on (symptoms of) this condition. It feels so good to know that my therapy has a purpose, and that the benefits of the DBT I'm already doing is really something I can bank on going forward. I feel like I finally "get" myself, and look forward to continuing to research this.
As a person who was diagnosed with BPD I feel all of this it's very true it's very difficult and fast and heartbreaking and all the above...
I feel sad for those who suffer from BPD. I feel just as sad for those whose lives are maimed and destroyed in the wake of people who suffer from BPD.
Brentisimo it’s also common that people with BPD, their children have a higher incidence of having BPD. It’s had some strong genetic lineage. My ‘mother has BPD, as did her mothers, and her mothers sisters. It tended to run in the female side. I was abused by my ‘mother’. Me, i never hurt anyone. In fact at times too feeling, always worried about people. I make sure that my son, who has Aspergers Syndrome, never goes through what I did.
Yes, it is quite sad for sure, and takes lots of work (DBT) to grow emotionally for those with BPD
Using terms like "maimed and destroyed" is unhelpful, it's stigmatizing, and cruel.
A experience with a BPD, It almost destroyed me...
Terrie Tackett “with a BPD?”. People don’t realize how hurtful reading things like that makes us who suffer from the illness. I’ve struggled with BPD for years now and I really wish people were much more respectful and sensitive to our feelings...
Very well explained. BPD is a heavy label to carry - she did it some justice here! It’s one of the few videos I have watched where I haven’t walked away feeling like I need to go hide in a box of shame!
Wow... Thank you for this video. I’m realizing I have misunderstood the actions of someone I cared about who was diagnosed with BPD and this has helped explain their struggles to me..
Thank you for the compassionate and respectful manner in which you describe something so painful to experience.
Thank you for your kind compassion. The words you said about your patients at the beginning of this video touched me deeply.
I’d been on the lookout for a video that was informative and to the point and easy to understand to send my mom, sister etc. after getting diagnosed. This is by far the best one
I love the compassion with which these videos explain some of the most stigmatized and misunderstood conditions.
Very interesting review for me! I have never heard about Borderline Personality Disorder as a severe mental illness. It is very nice that you can learn to tolerate your feelings with the help of a skilled therapist. Excellent!
d s don’t overestimate the “help of a skilled therapist”. It’s still hell 24/7.
I'm going to therapy after I attempt suicide in Jan, it wasn't the first time, but this time a friend called the ambulance. Then I got help, someone actually starting to listen to me, and when I heard that I struggle with BPD, there was like the missing puzzle took place. It sounds like music to my ears that someone is taking me serious for the first time.
I recommended this video to my FB friends, keep up the good work!
Being recently diagnosed with Bpd1 this has helped me aside from my loved ones this has been the hardest month of my life but also the best. Thank you for this video. ❤☤
I just got finally diagnosed with BPD and it just makes me feel a lot safer that a lot of health care professionals are understanding of BPD. :)
OMG thank you for nice words... when everybody turns their backs, you say that BDP are your favorite clients. so nice of you...
I am a forty year old woman with BPD (among other things). I want to say I very much appreciate this video acknowledging that BPD sufferers specifically, and mentally ill people in general, are complex human beings. We have unique challenges to overcome --in the case of BPD, one of those is interpreting situations and another is controlling our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. We are not monsters, we are not all diabolical destructive heartless supervillains. More often than not, we are human beings who try very hard to communicate with others and control ourselves. Often we do not even know when are being manipulative because we do not understand it themselves. Even after that shocking realization that you are your own problem and that you are being hard on others it is easy to accidentally continue those behaviors with the best intentions because training yourself to see things completely differently and interact with others with better understanding and constantly keeping yourself both in control and not overcontrolled so you don't wind up blowing up is not only exhausting , it is REALLY REALLY HARD. Once you finally figure out the situation, It takes forever to retrain yourself, to forgive yourself for being different, and to believe that you really can change for the better then the rest of your life you learn and perfect how to actually consistently do so. So to all those that think "I have known a BPD person and I know all about it, they are evil heartless and manipulative" (which I am saddened to see in these comments but not surprised)---you are seeing things from a very narrow and oversimplified perspective and it is actually completely inaccurate. Most BPD actually care FAR more than most how others feel, they just cannot always see that they are what is bringing about a situation. They are reacting to the situation as they see and feel it, which often has very little to do with the reality you are experiencing. It is not about caring too little but too much. Of course there are jerks in any group, and us BPD sufferers can sure find ourselves being an absolute mess and hurting others doing so, but it is NOT that we are all monsters. There is a difference in being so overwhelmed with your own suffering and feeling victimized that you can barely see past it to another, much less understand another, and so selfish you do ot care.....To those harmed by a BPD sufferer, You have a right to healthy boundaries and to not being railroaded by a BPD, but do NOT assume because you were that you understand them and their motivations, or that they are all alike..... Love to my fellow BPDs.....Rant over.
Very well explained, I checked this online counseling and the service is amazing, the whole staff is vary carrying and always prepared to help out!
Numbing out the emotions often is not measured well, and end up to numb to think wisely.
Thank you so much for posting this. From someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, if it doesn't make sense to you - take comfort in knowing that it can sometimes not make much sense to us either. It's just... the way reality is. I can't explain it, I just accept it. Again, thank you so much for posting this - it's a very good explanation of a very complicated problem
Thank you for your care on the topic and genuine concern and care. I feel validated.
Thank you for presenting BPD in such an understandable and humane way!
Your voice is so sweet. It makes me calm and feel good. Thank you for describing the issue.
This is my go to video to share, when I need someone to understand how I feel all day every day
I have a cousin that was just diagnosed with this disorder.I think this video would be very helpful for him.Thank you for the video.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
People with BPD are often diagnosed as bipolar. Our mental health system is geared to medicate, not to take time to make a clear diagnosis, and treat accordingly. BPD is highly heritable, more so than bipolar disorders . It occurs in a higher percentage of the population. As far as I know there is no medicine to “fix” BPD only intensive therapy such as DBT.
L J i agree they dont take time to identify the real problem so they make a quick diagnosis to hand out any meds they think might work. when i was hospitalized my roommate fought me unprovoked for no reason so when i defended myself the psychiatrist there immediately wrote down i have bpd because of a few instances in my life where i fucked up and had some behavior issues. my personal psychiatrist tho never made the diagnosis official because he was smart enough not to jump to conclusions on why i act certain ways on the occasion. he eventually diagnosed me with ocd and schizophrenia
L J they hand out medications like its candy
Symptoms can be managed with meds but yea
No cure, beat hope for some normality is acceptance and learning tools to cope with the distress
It’s true.. I was diagnosed bipolar first by a psychiatrist before he even tested my lithium levels. He put me on lithium and it made me very ill. I went to a new psychiatrist and he was horrified that the first one put me on lithium without bloodwork first AND I wasn’t bi polar, I have BPD which was confirmed by my psychologist as well. It’s true, it’s all about money and pills it’s sick.
I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and was very heavily medicated for 11 years all while I was telling everyone that I was NOT bipolar! The meds made me extremely suicidal and I made a dozen attempts b4 almost finishing myself off! Spent 4 days in ICU completely alone. My spouse didn't follow the ambulance, didn't call, NOTHING. Finally got off the meds and was re-diagnosed by a doctor who cares about me. Most psychiatrists don't listen, don't care, they just push drugs that really eff your body and mind up!
I love to watch your videos. Your voice alone is calming to me. You are empathetic which as you evidently know is so comforting. Ive been diagnosed with every "disorder"
I have symptoms of CPTSD, always ive had depression and anxiety.
I cant stand living in my head or outside of my head.
I use many of the numb out techniques you mention.
I feel like cutting everyone out of my life now will make it easier than when they eventually abandon me themselves.
Im in pain. A lot of pain.
I'm pretty sure a former girlfriend had BPD. It started to show up about 2 months into our relationship, and in retrospect, I feel like in the very beginning she put a lot of effort to put on a pleasant face and bury her true self. But then it started to emerge and it got worse and worse. If I made a little joke or even an observation that she perceived to be negative (very often in her own mind), her mood would go pitch black. No amount of explanation could console her. If I dared suggest maybe she had misinterpreted things it would only make it worse. "Don't you DARE try to put this on me! You KNOW what you meant!" It could take hours to talk her down and it was hugely dramatic "I can't ever trust you! Why are we even in this relationship?" And then a few hours or the next day later at most, to judge by her mood, it's like it never happened.
I'm sorry that you and your partner delt with bpd. I was like her but I would switch to extreme guilt and try to do everything I could to apologize after one of my meltdowns. I didn't understand why my bf would be distant after all my apologys. I understand now many years later. If you're with someone with bpd that doesn't want to get help or thinks they don't have an issue I'd tell them to get help or leave.
Thank you so much for this information. Bless you for taking the time and the effort involved in helping us understand what we went through, and helping us along the path to healing.
This is very insightful, thank you so much for this info. My mother struggle with (BPD) but she wil never go for help because she thinks she is fine. For years she had this disorder and everyone had to be very carful of what they say because she can snap at any given time. It is so sad.....
Since diagnosis, my aging and now unhappy friend has kicked this to a whole new level. I have 2 who live in their own bubbles and if you try to talk outside of their thoughts, you get cast out. Very frustrating .
Finally someone who gets me.. I really should see a Therapist..
This is the first time I heard of Borderline Personality Disorder. Thanks for the useful information.
Thankyou for the video, Ive had Bpd for about 25 years and struggle with stigma from mental health professionals
I often worry a lot about what other people think of me, and I've been told I pay too much mind to this question. Some time ago I realized that maybe, the reason why other people's feedback matters so much to me is because without the feedback I can't tell who I am... Is this a BPD characteristic?
If you allow this to control your life and if you allow this to define who you are, that BPD is who you are, then that's who you will become.
Make your own meaning. Ask God to help you. If you don't know who you are, go and find yourself.
Try different things. Journal your thoughts down. Discover yourself. Even people without the so called BPD have trouble finding themselves.
Life is a journey. You don't have to know who you are now, but start a journey of discovering yourself, by trying new hobbies, meeting new people, and writing your thoughts down.
Just because you don't know who you are now or what's your purpose in life is does not mean you have a mental illness. This is one of the most warped thinking I have ever seen.
@@lawrence9456 oh you again... 😂 and not spreading hate! how refreshing from you.
yes
I have been struggling with borderline personality since 2009. It's a living hell for me and I basically live day to day. I lost many friends due to the fact they don't understand as my specialist tells me. People are just not interested in problematic stuff. They rather focus on themselves. Anyway great video.
I’m 33 and I’m a boy who is struggling with BPD... but in my city unfortunately there is none Who is using DBT I have been going to psicologist for the past over 5 years but still I’m doing a mess and I don’t know who im and what to do in life a part of the job that I have been doing in the past 10 years. I hope you recovering or you found a good therapist in your city. 😘
Thank you for being so kind. It goes a long way😥 I started rescheduling bpd 2 months and this is by far the BEST video I had seen. People are best at labeling you even though that are not doctor's but they think they are. You feel so alone in this world.
I have BPD and BetterHelp is helping me so much with my counsellor who is using DBT along with the medication from my psychiatrist. I can’t understand how anyone says it a scam. It’s life saving and with a really fair price
thank you for explaining it so well, very informative about borderline personnality
I think these symptoms were hardly get noticed by people, which will lead to worst condition, thanks for sharing this useful info and keep up the good work.
Excellent information about Borderline personality disorder. I agree that some persons have unpredictable emotions have the tendency to shift between the state of extreme emotional dis regulation. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for your kind words in the beginning.....
I believe BPD is simply an offshoot of PTSD. Most if not genetically caused, mental problems are a result of trauma.
What a quite interesting video I have found! I have never heard about Borderline Personality Disorder as a severe mental illness. It is very nice that you can learn to tolerate your feelings with the help of a skilled therapist. This well-done video can help a lot of people who need therapy and who have problems with personality disorders. Thank you for such great information because this field was a big unknown for me. I'll be looking forward to watch your next videos!
Understanding them is one thing. Dealing with them is another story.
They are known by professionals to be very difficult to treat and deal with, and they can be manipulative because the crux of their problem is that they exhibit frantic efforts to avoid abandonment.
Like a toddler seeing her father go to the toilet and out of sight, and crying at the top of her voice because she's anxious.
You have to be careful if you encounter them. I speak from personal experience.
Wow, I had never obtained information on this topic, now I understand many things about certain people. Great explanation Thanks for sharing!
Very well explained as usual. Keep up the good work. Thanks.
Dr. Sonya, you've detailed explained everything, thanks for the video
Good to learn new thing, which we haven't knew. It will helped to handle this situation. Thank for sharing it!!!
Thank you for this I'm newly diagnosed was mis diagnosis bi polar ..pray for my healing
This is the best description of bpd I have heard.
this has helped me know myself so much better. thankyou.
Still my fav video on UA-cam about bpd. Thank you.
Thank you for saying that about us .. I really needed to hear that today
Great video with very useful information! You helped me a lot, thank you!
The article is really good and tells us about the importance of a borderline personality.To maintain a healthy lifestyle we should be away from addictive substances and exercise regularly.
I never knew a thing about borderline personality disorder, thanks for the video.
Been diagnosed bipolar an recently found out I'm borderline my emotions an everything I always talked about now makes since
I just can't get enough of understanding of human personality. Its crazy.
Its been very constructive to realize that my disorder/I make myself feel imperfect I often blame this on others
I couldn't find this info before and this video has helped me out a lot, thanks.
I was diagnosed when i was 17 years old after childhood trauma.
This is very sad on my part that i have such nice family and no one knows that i am suffering from BPD for years now and its growing. I have a best friend and she is my wife i told her abot how i feel rather she has seen my mood swings, trust in people and in me.. but she thinks this is just in my head or i over watch UA-cam to gain my knowledge and i am adaptive. Initially i thought the same but after loosing my job over a year now and giving myself ample time to recover and cooling down its not helping, rather its getting worse and i think i might loose her and my close ones or i should give up everything and stay aloof as i am not sure how to treat or react to people. You just can't go to some psychiatric to ask for help, as people around you are watching you and again they might stop you or make fun of you. I wish i had a really close person who could understand this and support to help out. This is the very first time i am writing something i really feel. But if you are in same condition as me then i know how you are feeling.
i feel you...
Rasik K ❤️
Watch these videos with them. If they truly care, they will take the time to understand you and your worries. Ignoring it is never the way to go ❤️
I relate a lot with you, you are not alone in the fight, keep strong and educate yourself as much as possible about your conditions. I hope you feel better. Best wishes
I pray that you are doing well now. 💛
Beautiful words at the beginning thank you 🙏
Hy all !!! I am an BPD too! ! Stay strong and u not alone 🤗🤗🤗❤️
Great video ! very useful and informative video about borderline personality disorder betterhelp, Very well explained, I checked this online counseling and the service is amazing, the whole staff is vary carrying and always prepared to help out! Thanks..
Much appreciated some of my friends and family don't understand bpd they need to see the video before judging someone
Ronan Doyle u have demon possession.... God is your judge...get freed of the evil
I never know that Borderline Personality Disorder even exist. But your video made me to reliase it. I learnt about it. Thank you very much!
If you really had tears while watching this.. remember that you are not alone bro ❤️
Yah you help me a lot. Usually I can change my emotion in an instance previously I can't understand why its happening. Now I know what the reason. But its helpful because I can control it as I want.
It’s sad to see comments about not being able to pay for help. Where I’m from it’s paid for. I have BPD and have gotten help. It’s still a long way to go, though. I don’t feel any better but I’ve learned a lot about myself.
nice video, so helpful information about What Is Borderline , recommended to all !Thank you so much !
Video is excellent and detailed as always. Now i know what is Borderline Personality Disorder and what are the symptoms. Thank you so much for sharing.
Excellent presentation...very clear and concise, especially for the lay person.
I heard little about personality disorder and really wants to know more about it. Your this video helped me a lot to know about Borderline Personality Disorder. Thank you for Sharing this video with us.
Thank you for the caring, thoughtful opinion.
I like dr. Sonya videos, I find out a lot about psychology from this videos, and I like a calm voice of dr. Sonya.
I'm so glad & happy that people are starting to realize and recognize BDP, (Bipolar disorder ),, it's so uncomfortable, problems start, l become antisocial, it's very scary,, this is when the toxic people start to get into your life, they begin to manipulate your life, & you get confused, they call them Narcissists, be aware,, l am nowadays,, be safe,,
This is really great video. I have learned a lot of useful information from it. Thanks! keep it up
I’ve had all those symptoms since I was 12
I relate
Thanks for sharing this useful video, I get some interesting informations. Keep going with good work!