Our son had hand & foot movements, slept very little, was very cranky & non verbal until age 3 1/2. He had headaches often. He was diagnosed with Lyme disease & treated. Today, he is a healthy 32 year old man that is now married & leads a regular life. ❤
The thing that blows my mind is the fact that anyone would give you a dislike. God bless you for sharing your story. I have autism and I’m 36 and I have two kids with autism. We exist! So thank you.
The King I no what your going thru your not alone my son who’s 7 and half has autism and are new born son is a month and a half we try to be strong and not think about it but how can you not. Both are sons are beautiful and we are happy but it’s not easy as I’m sure you no. It’s all in the hands of god
@@aroaro2642 thanks for the repky and understanding. Well my wife said he needs more assessments to be diagnosed, paediatrician said it is level 1 autism or developmental delay. I will also pray for god your sons live a healthy life forever.
The King thank you 🙏 hope the same for your family no matter what we love are children unconditionally I just pray they have a good healthy future. Stay positive and don’t ever think your alone
One hour of sleep every night for 18 months?!?! That must have been torture!! When I don't get enough sleep it affects everything, and my stomach will hurt too. All the best!! Stay safe and be well.
Why didn’t you give them sleeping pills? Then both you and your children would have gotten a healthy amount of sleep. I know a woman with severe autism very low functioning. Never slept. Her parents never slept until she was put on Ambien. After that, they got four hours of sleep per night. They still had to lock her in her room at night because she was always eloping. Torturing yourself is self destructive.
@@pinkbutterfly6878you literally can’t survive off that little of sleep for a sustained period of time without a psychosis not sure how anyone isn’t all over tv sharing this
My grandson age 6 was diagnosed with asperges ( very high functioning on scale) he is now having behavioral problems in class. There is so much red tape to go through before getting help. He becomes very frustrated when he can’t understand a class assignment, if they would just spend a little time explaining he would be able to complete the assignment. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
I’m pretty sure I had some sort of sensory processing disorder when I was little. I hated sitting in grass, and I hated loud noises (still do, but it’s a little better now). I wouldn’t walk down stairs without someone holding my hand.
My g'son _hated_ loud unexpected sounds, the vacuum he hated! But he's otherwise okay, just the noise thing. I know there's a spectrum..my younger g'son _loves_ loud noises! Love them both
Thank you for bringing in your own experience about eye contact as well! That’s one trait that I have a weird relationship with because I thought before my diagnosis that I never had trouble with eye contact, but I found out that if I’m having to think about what I’m saying or if, as you mentioned, I’m uncomfortable, eye contact gets hard. I had a situation at church this evening where I was in a conversation I really wanted to get out of, and it became almost impossible to make eye contact with the person, and I found that even afterwards I didn’t want to make eye contact with anyone for a while. It’s interesting how just one trait can manifest so differently across people and situations.
I am autisitic and when I was a little kid, I didn't sleep much either. Once I was about 2 years old (maybe younger?) I never took naps. The manager of my daycare had to take me on errands with her during naptime because I refused to sleep or even lay down and stay quiet.
When I was two, I stopped napping. I refused to stay at preschool during nap time, and my parents would come pick me up before it started every day 😂 so my parents made up “quiet time,” which was where they would nap downstairs while I sat up in their room and watched tv by myself for an hour 😂😂
@@kipperthedog789 Omg my mom called it "quiet time" too haha. She made me sit in my room in the dark because she was just HOPING i would fall sleep. I never did lol.
I’m in my 60s, and was just diagnosed last year. I wish they knew back then, what was going on. Both of my parents are gone, thinking I was a difficult child, and not like my siblings.
My little brother is high functioning, and doesn’t have too many stims, but he’s always been a flapper too! & as he has gotten older he loves listening to his jams in his AirPods and flapping! Bluetooth headphones are amazing bc regular wired headphones are not flap-friendly !!!
My granddaughter is 27 months old. She doesnt say very many words and does put 2 words together. My daughter thinks she may have autism. She has talked to the doctor. The doctor wants her to take her to speech therapy. She lives in Charleston, SC, but there is no neurologist there. She would have to go to Columbia which is 2 hrs away. Would take a year to get her in.
Thank you for what you do! I’m an Aunty to a wonderful lil 3 yr old girl and she happens to have autism. She’s finally getting some help and I just want her to be able to live a life as free as she can be! Thank you for helping understand in layman’s terms and tips so I can connect with her as much as I can ☺️
Thank you for sharing your families experiences. I was diagnosed w classic autism in my early 30s and I dont want my unborn child to wait that long in life.
A funny thing with me and eye contact is i cant look at the tv screen when someone is looking out and speaking. So things like your vlog today i cant look at. I just listen. In fact i watched you cat in the background.
My daughter didn’t sleep up until she was in her teens. I worked out different ways to deal with her but I was an at home mom, who had the time to watch and figure her out. She is in her 30s now. I haven’t seen her in last 4-5 yrs. I have PTSD from these yrs. it took along time for me to deal.
I'm a firm believer that girls are just DIFFERENT than boys with Autism. My kiddo had horrible eye contact. Then her OT gave her candy. Now she makes great eye-face contact....but it's not true eye contact. She knows it gets her what she wants when adults ask for it. She's never made eye contact with another child.
That sounds so familiar. Tessie has learned people pay more attention to her when she looks at them (and so has Maggie really) and now they both come up and stare intensely into my eyes when they want something because they know it gets grownups attention. Our girls have definitely picked up on that really young. And I know even though I really don't like eye contact with most people I learned to do it because so many people would say "look me in the eyes" growing up.
@@Autmazing I don't like a lot of eye contact either and I am always worried about if I am doing the right amount of eye contact. But I was also told to make eye contact as a child. And people now, who I am close with, they will sometimes think I am not paying attention to them because I am not constantly looking at their face.
Starting watching this to see if my first (11 month daughter) could possibly have ASD. When she was younger she didn’t really want eye contact and LOVED to be held 24/7. She pretty much still loves to be held all the time when we are downstairs with the rest of the family. Now watching the whole video I feel like I might have ASD. I hate eye contact, I kind of dislike touch and I’m terrible at communicating with people. My mom (adoptive) told me it’s most likely because of my past. But I know I used to get into trouble with the teacher when I was about 5 for spacing out and not knowing any of the answers. I didn’t sleep during nap hours and I’d be up most of the night. It’s hard for me to do simple things that most people know how to do but harder things is what I do best. I was in special needs for most of my life because I had a harder time learning. So when we did an ASD they would test me and said the only thing I did good on was my ability to find things that are different/same. But if I had a stem it probably would be work because I had to work 24/7 or I just didn’t feel right. I’m not sure if that’s a thing. My mom also she tested me to see if I’d move things back were they were before being moved. And each time I moved it right to the same spot and I’m still like that to this day. I am so sorry for the long message.
I'm so glad you left a long message and shared you're experience. It seems like more and more now a lot of parents are being diagnosed after realizing that the traits their children have that end up with diagnosis are the same ones they had as children too. Actually after making this video I was diagnosed in February, and my husband ended up being diagnosed on the first of this month. When we were younger they knew so much less about autism and ADD and ADHD (I have ADHD too and I find I relate to so many ADHD things to with focusing and paying attention) and now I think they're finally realizing how many parents are undiagnosed. There are a lot of videos by autistic women on youtube that are really helpful. That's sort of where I got started. I watched Yo Samdy Sam's channel a lot when I was getting up the nerve to talk to my doctor about getting evaluated. Good luck, both with seeking answers for yourself and for your little one. 💖
My son was super high need. He cried for hours on end, never slept more than an hour at a time, didn’t want to be held or cuddled, wanted to face away from us during feeding, wouldn’t look at us for diaper changes or playtime, etc. At 5, he’s still high need. He is very verbal, makes good eye contact (not for pictures), but does not play with toys or entertain himself at all. He also requires tons of exercise and sensory input. He is just recently looking around for us to see if he’s a safe distance which is very helpful because one of his main stims is running. He used to run off every time we were in public and never even notice. Now he still runs up and down the isles or sidewalks but stays decently close to the area or isle we’re on. A few of our other big clues when he was a young toddler were lack of responding when we called his name, major obsession with the alphabet and nursery rhymes, constantly knocking over and spinning the wheels on his stroller, and not following a point. He still has obsessions and still loves to spin things, mostly anything he can twirl around like a lasso.
I love spinning stims! And it's such good news that he's starting to recognize the need to stay close to you. That is such a parenting goal for all of us!
@@Autmazing I think my nephew may be on the spectrum my sister has seen signs in him like he has had a speech therapist and also I got told that when they would accompany them to the cafeteria he would either be jumping up and down all the way there or on his tip toes. He absolutely loves dinosaurs, he also would sing the ABCs constantly, even though my sister has signs in him i don't think she acknowledges it or even thinks that it could be Autism because he doesn't behave like an autistic boy all the time. I want her to see it. How can I help my sister and my nephew? I would appreciate it if you answer me as soon as possible. Thank you.
I know your not a doctor but im asking for what you would do?? My son also slept as a newborn and content by himself he wouldnt wake up to eat and was preemie. He needed to eat. Also he is almost 2 he flaps his hands loves running back and forth repeatedly. He covers his ears to block out sound. He isnt talking full sentences but he speaks. And sometimes in a language i dont understand its gibberish lol. He also likes to sleep with his head covered. My son also doesnt like being held never did but he did like to lay in bed next to you... But not on us lol it was winter so im sure he wanted by us for warmth... I think my son is on the spectrum imma call his doctor shortly. Oh and he has had food texture issues since he started eating at 6 months. Certain things make him throw up. Now I have worked with adults with intellectual disabilities and i see some similarities bc everyone on the spectrum is different and special in their own beautiful way. I am not afraid of the diagnosis. But ready bc i want my son to get all the help he needs early intervention is key. And mama i love the lipstick lol. Your kids are so beautiful!!! I am pregnant 8 weeks in hoping for a healthy baby and maybe a girl but if it's a boy thats ok too
20 yrs ago doctors could not diagnose babies so early. Now that some diagnosis are given as infants shows how far forward the studies on Autism Spectrum has come.
I wasn't diagnosed until adult hood. My mother always said i hated her and was rejecting because i didn't want to be held a an infant. I was also an early riser, very unlike the rest of my family, so life was interesting.
I believe it can be seen in newborns, with autism newborns babies do not have a strong fist clenching reflex, instead of keeping the thumb tucked in they straighten fingers out. Another thing I've noted with autism is a reluctance to relax when held constantly arching spine away.
All my 3 kids are on the spectrum, they all did not like to be held and would especially not like it when they wanted to go sleep. But my youngest, i noticed when he was 1 day old that he was probably was autistic. Knowing then about my others being autistic, I suspected that offcourse. As a 1 day old baby, when I tried to get him to grab my finger. He would open his palm and tried to move away from it. I have never in my whole life seen a baby to that, and he did it again and again. So I just went hmmmm well he is gonna be something. And he grew up to have alot of aversion to touching, wasn’t allowed to pat his head or hug him even until he was like 4-5yrs old at least.
I think eye contact in girls on the spectrum is different than boys. I'm 52 and autistic, and although, now as an adult, I have more issues with eyes than I did when I was young. I am not sure if it's because of how we were raised and my mom saying LOOK AT ME 5 billion times. It could have been an issue or it could have just been my demanding mother who said that to all of her kids. Not sure lol
I think you're right. I know I heard it a lot from adults when I was younger too. Now I love giant sunglasses because I can kind of hide behind them, at least when I'm outside!
In the olden days kids were just labelled "different personalities" Scary they're now being _labelled so early_ and so treated differently. Makes u wonder..I was v. shy, good @math..today I wld have been labelled Autistic. We _can't lose sight of NORMAL DIFF personality traits,_ look back on history. Do we _really help our kids by SPECIAL HELP_ Wld have spelt social _death_ at my private school ! Give kids a chance to figure _themselves out_ AUTISTIC Are _smart not dumb_
I have 3 kids on the spectrum too. They were all non-sleepers. They are still non-sleepers lol we struggled with breastfeeding a lot. They wanted to nurse but didn't want to be touched. My oldest struggled the most with this.
My littlest sleeps Terribly. I just had to give her melatonin to help her sleep. I went like 2yrs hardly no sleep having had two babies back to back who stopped sleeping once they turned 1. Just now starting to sleep my daughter's are 2 going on 3 and 1 going on 2. Autism and sleep is hard.
@@Autmazing Not entirely. I'm a Special Ed teacher and it's not just better diagnosis. It is much more common. There are causative factors, perhaps environmental, not acknowledged by all.
@@mweinstein1542 I would say in very large part. I know many adults who are being diagnosed now (including my husband and myself) who were simply given a great many other labels everything from troublemakers to shy or snobby. The thing that is that more kids now are actually getting help. The other thing is that people do move around more and get more jobs in tech fields and are able to find people with similar interests because of the internet. I think as a result neurodiverse people are more likely to find each other. And because this is genetic, yes, it can become more common that way. We've always been here. In the past we weren't recognized. Or were institutionalized. You may find many autistic people are wary when you mention working in the field that you do. Many people who are quick to announce their expertise based on working with the disabled to bulldoze over our opinions aren't really allies. It's usually pretty obvious who those people are and what their agendas are.
I suspect my partner is on the spectrum. He was a super easy baby to the point I don't think he's mom did anything with him. He's really smart so a lot of his issues were overlooked as with his brother he struggled and was treated at a young age. I have ADHD and dyslexia which I noticed in him right away. The other stuff like inability to not to hold back on saying things. He gets very overstimulated etc. I'm hoping he can get some help in the next few years because we are thinking about starting a family. So it will be helpful.
Hello, new to your channel ..are any of your girls potty trained fully and will they need to be cared for all their lives? I know the spectrum is very large I am just trying to distinguish high functioning to low functioning autism. My son is severe and is 10 still not potty trained😥
I have a question about your girls responding to noises. How were your girls with sounds and looking. My girl is 10 weeks and 5 days. I had coronavirus with pneumonia and the flu during pregnancy im looking at your videos and my baby doesnt make eye contact with me alot. I feel like she purposely looks away away from me as well. She does sleep through the night for sometime now, but i am noticing she wakes up really easily.
Hello Kim. Could you please share your experience as how the child is now. Even I am tested positive for covid. I feel the baby purposely looks away from me and makes no eye contact. He is 6weeks old now. Please help.
My autistic 2-year-old loves spinning, too. He even spun himself *before* he could stand. He'd sit there on his bottom in the middle of the floor and use his legs to spin himself on his bottom, lol. It was super adorable.
My grandson as an infant was nicknamed propeller feet. He constantly moved his feet literally like a propeller on a boat. He would play with a paticular toy that have moving parts always.. He was always happy and never slept all night. He didn't walk until 18 months and at 5yrs still doesn't talk much but when he does you can't understand him. He many times repeats what we say to him. I have voiced my concerns to the parents and am hoping he will get tested.
They are in a great denial and will effect the rest of his life, not to mention his family, HAVE HIM TESTED, CONFIRM A DIAGNOSIS EITHER YAY OR NAY. IT WILL NOT GO AWAY BY IGNORING IT.
It's so hard. I really thought all babies were like that when we had Sadie and when Maggie came along I was so stunned to learn they weren't (which I guess just shows that I didn't know anything practically apart from reading books, about babies).
James was sleeping through the night by 4 wks, but never took naps during the day. Honestly now looking back i can see some signs that he showed but none of them were the stereotypical signs they said to look for. He made good eye contact, his gross motor skills were on point, he loved interaction with people but his most significant sign was adhd, he also wasn’t crazy about being held but didn’t completely resist it.Most of his signs were mild so it wasn’t that obvious
It seems like so often kids who are diagnosed have such awesome gross motor skills! Or at least really good ones when they're trying (and then sometimes clumsiness when they aren't paying attention, at least that's how it is around here).
My children's doctor said if you know the diaper is clean and they are warm and feed and a Been feed, add white noise then put them in their crib and leave the light on and close the door and go to bed! set an alarm and peak in to check their OK. I did and after 30 minutes they slept great.
That sadly won’t work for all babies. It may work for some but others get so upset that they throw up which if ur baby is super young they could aspirate.
All the members of our family are autistic and have adhd. I find it personally impossible to separate out the two, although honestly i think of executive function and impulsivity when I think of my adhd. It does make sense that there would be overlap in the signs.
I'm hoping to be. I've had about a half dozen pediatric doctors suggest it and when I asked my doctor about it (finally) he said he thought it was "extremely" likely. He put in the referral but said that he'd wasn't very confident about my insurance covering it as an adult. Today when I was booking an appointment for another kid to be evaluated (because of course I am, and we've been waiting 6 months for it) I asked them how much it costs out of pocked and to please not to just throw it out if the insurance says no and now I'm waiting to hear on that. I put off asking for so long and then when I did I was so disappointed about the possibility of it being out of reach (the testing). Now I'm really hoping it might happen. Sorry that's so long. But that's kind of where we are right now.
@@diadia6269 not based on anything I've observed in her vids, just the fact that there seems to be a genetic component to the fact her 3 girls are on the spectrum. I often wondered if I might be ASD, & it was ultimately confirmed for me so i was curious
Hi can you please do a video about speech differences between the girls as I would find that very useful. I am based in the UK and have a 3 year old autistic son i research alot into autism, but wherever dont recieve mucj help in regards to therapy over here as our healthcare isn't private like it is in USA, finally I am complete aware that every child is completely different bit find that you have alot of experience between the 3 girls and you cover alot. Finally any tips on potty training a nonverbal child
My son was so happy to be in his pack n play most of the time as a baby. But by the time he was 2 he wouldn’t take naps and even at 18 months old had to give him melatonin just to get him to sleep at night or he was up till midnight or 1 am then up again between 8 to 10. Now he’s 3.5 years old and sometimes even melatonin doesn’t always work so I have to go to another over the counter sleep meds (he’s a big 3 year old and only as a last resort. Only used about 2 times since I got it). He’s never really had a sense of fear and still would run into the streets sometimes or run away in the store. I had to get him shoes with squeaker in them just so I knew where he was if he ran away I just follow the squeaker. About a week and a half ago he was diagnosed with Provisional Autism and is now starting to get actual testing to get a actual diagnosis. In the last 2 months he’s changed so much. Went from asking for things to pointing and whining like he can’t understand or verbalize. Forgot his middle name he’s know for a year and a half. He thinks his first and middle name are the same. I used to ask what his first name was and he would say Kayden then I would ask what his middle name was and he would say Tucker. Now when I ask what his first name is he says Kayden and when I ask what his middle name is he says “Ka Ka Ka Kayden”. Forgot things he’s known since he was 15 months old to 2 years old. He stopped responding to his name. I have to say it over and over and over before he’ll answer. Runs away from kids at the playground when they want to play with him. He’ll only play with babies, teenagers, or adults. If he does play with kids his own age is so rare maybe 1 kid but that was before the pandemic so I’m not sure anymore. He spins all the time and never outgrew it. He’ll spin till he’s dizzy or falls down from being dizzy. He started loving fidget spinners because they spin. He started lining toys up the other day one moved out of the line and he moved it right back. He’s started getting obsessed with things he’s never been before and you can’t distract him for anything. He expected a package today and insisted on waiting outside for it for about a half hour and started clapping over and over but barely said anything to the delivery guy like he would 3 months ago. Never learned to dress himself only hake shoes, socks, and pants off but can’t put them on or pull his pants up. Never learned to take his shirt off. Could never potty train him and I almost have to fight him to change his diaper because he insists it doesn’t need changed and actually has told me he likes his diaper wet. I didn’t listen to his old therapist who told me he did everything for attention. He regressed it was for attention. He screamed it was for attention. He doesn’t respond it was for attention. She diagnosed him with intermittent explosive disorder and oppositional defiant disorder right after his 3rd birthday so I guess she just assumed instead of suggesting to get him looked at to make sure. Even after I told her IU13 was alarmed by all of that she insisted it was attention. There’s a Center for Autism and Developmental Disorders which is where he is getting his new testing done and they even said he needed to be re tested (he was tested at 15 months old and they said he was at moderate risk for it they just didn’t know how much was age related and how much wasn’t). What I can say to anyone is if you feel something isn’t right then don’t just believe someone or a doctor that says everything is for attention because it may not be. I literally have a completely different child then I did 2-3 months ago. He’s just becoming more and more dependent on me and others in the house and he was even getting frustrated at first because he didn’t understand why he couldn’t do things he use to.
@@Dhumblemoon COVID backed everything up so he’s just now gonna start therapies outside of the IU. I’m getting him to a psychiatrist (only one that’ll see kids before 5) for his sleep and other issues as it’s became a safety risk for himself and others at times and want to prevent it getting worse or hospitalization. But even the therapies and teacher through IU (occupational and speech along with a teacher) have helped a little and he’s gotten back some of what he lost but still not to where it was.
Bless your heart. You had a child on the spectrum and you dared to have another! I have two daughters myself, and neither is on the spectrum. But being a working mom was so challenging, my second was a surprise! Parenting is a challenge and I get the feeling you are intuitive and a compassionate loving mom.
off topic but your jumping cat was to cute xD anyways ... as a baby I was very quiet, loved to play with my own fingers and totally fine with being only by myself.
There is definitely an evaluation for at least one of them in the future. I've been sort of going through the list one by one figuring it out and there's one kid I have a feeling about and one I have no idea about.
I wish you mentioned more motor skills etc. my baby is 4mo and she’s rotating her wrists funny and stiffens out her legs. I wonder if this is concerning for autism
My grandson too. And fascinating by fans and moving objects. He’s 11 months old. No words yet. Just high-pitched screams. But so sweet and funny and engaging. He loves kisses. So confusing
Oh the title of this video - I can completely relate! I have a 13-year-old high-functioning autistic son who still sleeps in my bed. He doesn't sleep well, so no matter how much medication the doctor put him on for behavioral issues/medical issues, and sleep, My other son, with Aspergers, screamed for the first 2 years of his life, and NEVER - NEVER slept. I was so fed up, I went to the hospital every day for two weeks until they started to take me seriously about the screaming. He wouldn't let us put him down, put him in a stroller, put him in the car seat, nothing - in someone's arms, upright, constantly moving. We took night shifts - I walked him all night until 3"30 am, hubby took him until around 6:00 or so, and then i'd get up to get the other 2 kids off to school. (turned out he also had GERD but even on meds, he just stopped vomiting as much - didn't affect the crying). He was WAY ahead of other babies in the milestones, but refused to be held except to nurse after the age of 2. My mother was so upset by this, insisting it was because I didn't visit with him enough (right, because I have time to even brush my hair to visit, never mind shower, brush my hair, pack the screaming baby up, drive half an hour, then try to have a conversation).When he started to work people came up to me all the time to tell me it was 'bad' for him to run on his toes. Show me a 2-year-old you can teach not to walk on their toes! He never walked on his heels, ever. What you said about staying with their parents is SO true! Also, the eye contact - we bought him a kids' camera, and I KNEW he was autistic when he was taking pictures of people at eye level - so through the camera, I saw that he was only looking at ME, Daddy, and everyone else at eye level - he didn't take pictures of our faces because they were irrelevant. This suspicion was confirmed when my friend's daughter, same age, took all kinds of pics of her parent's faces. AND - the eye contact! In a picture - we have NO photos of him making eye contact - he will turn his head to face me, but his eyes were always looking elsewhere! Anyway - great that you shared this! :)
This is really interesting for me, I have 3 girls oldest ok. Second is 3 we’re going through the diagnostic and the littlest I have is very loud, she likes to make a lot of noise and has done since a baby, I put it down to being the smallest and then I see other things and put it down to copying her sister (the 3year old) she also loves her own space and runs away when outside completely Opposite from the 3 year old. Has now made me think I may need to start watching more closely thank you. X
@@RanaAboMandour middle child was diagnosed yes and the little one she is going through autism diagnosis but they said it will be hard as they can’t start the ADHD to she is 5 she is just 4. But she definitely is both! They are still so alike but so different x
The one good thing was that by the time she was born we had moved out of our tiny cabin and had a couple of rooms, so Sadie could be in her bedroom and Maggie could be in her bassinet. I don't even know what we would have done if we had still been in our tiniest house.
Someday I'll Sleep Autism Vlogs definitely I live in a 3,300 square foot home and my autistic son has his own room with water proof hardwood flooring, his favorite toys and a mounted television. Other wise he would just pull everything onto the floor and destroy everything. I remember sharing a room with him and all of my sheets and blankets would end up on the floor and prior he shared a room with his brother and would rip his homework. Autistic children definitely need their very own space so that their siblings are not effected by their disability.
Typically due to genetics, your parents having it could result in you having it or it can skip a few generations. It's a very very common condition and more people are being diagnosed now as there is better understanding of the condition and of course vaccines DO NOT cause autism
It's not the new norm. It is being recognized and diagnosed more now, because there's a greater awareness of it. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 37. I was autistic when I was born.
@@Autmazing thank you for the reply. My son is showing minor symptoms but as he is getting older by the days, these symptoms are less and less… eye contact is there but not so much and he seems to look around the room he is in everyday as if it’s somewhere he has never been. Apart from the worrying signs, he does what normal babies do 80-90% of the time.
@@Autmazing just thought i'd update... my boy is now 10 months old and really coming around with his little character. Everything that i found strange is now fading away, he isn't doing the odd things like some months back, for anyone reading this, please be patient.
My middle child is 1yo and he’s nonverbal autistic he’s doesn’t like to be touched we knew something wasn’t right when he would forget words or just wouldn’t talk at all and now I have a 1mo and hope he isn’t but if he is then it won’t change anything my oldest son is not autistic
This woman has some good practical information, but is presented in such a way it is confusing. She is very wordy, talking about her three girls by name and expecting the listener to understand which daughter she is talking about. It is very confusing and hard to remember what she is saying and what points she is making. As an early childhood educator, I have dealt with children on the spectrum, even a child whose highly educated and successful parents were in denial. We need this information accessable, but presented in a more structured and understandable way.
She’s not an expert, she’s just giving her account of her own children, of course she would use their names. You might want to check out a pediatrician or early childhood specialist if you’re looking for a professional presentation. It’s nice that this woman is even sharing this much!
@C Johnson "We need this information accessable, but presented in a more structured and understandable way." Rather than just griping about this video, why don't you make your own video on autism? That would make sense, I think, given that you're a recognized authority on how autism videos should be made. 😁
It's not necessarily more common in boys, it's just represented differently in females than it is in males. Autism has really only ever been studied in males so they are more recognizably easier to diagnose than a female.
Our son had hand & foot movements, slept very little, was very cranky & non verbal until age 3 1/2. He had headaches often. He was diagnosed with Lyme disease & treated. Today, he is a healthy 32 year old man that is now married & leads a regular life. ❤
I'm so glad that the girls had you as their mother. You are very loving. Keep up the awesome work.
My son is 7. He never slepted and was the hardest baby. He was diagnosed with autism at 3. God bless you and yours.
The thing that blows my mind is the fact that anyone would give you a dislike. God bless you for sharing your story. I have autism and I’m 36 and I have two kids with autism. We exist! So thank you.
Those unhappy in their own lives or that dont feel good about themselves find it necessary to thumbs down people. They are lacking
My son been diagnosed with autism so it means my next kid would also have austsim i am so worried my wife is pregnant
The King I no what your going thru your not alone my son who’s 7 and half has autism and are new born son is a month and a half we try to be strong and not think about it but how can you not. Both are sons are beautiful and we are happy but it’s not easy as I’m sure you no. It’s all in the hands of god
@@aroaro2642 thanks for the repky and understanding. Well my wife said he needs more assessments to be diagnosed, paediatrician said it is level 1 autism or developmental delay. I will also pray for god your sons live a healthy life forever.
The King thank you 🙏 hope the same for your family no matter what we love are children unconditionally I just pray they have a good healthy future. Stay positive and don’t ever think your alone
You are an inspiration. Please keep sharing your story you real life. Moms need to hear your message.
One hour of sleep every night for 18 months?!?! That must have been torture!! When I don't get enough sleep it affects everything, and my stomach will hurt too.
All the best!! Stay safe and be well.
Oh yeah our son woke every 30 minutes...when he actually went to sleep
Ida been to the dr thats is not normal at all
Our experience was one hour of sleep for 6 years!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why didn’t you give them sleeping pills? Then both you and your children would have gotten a healthy amount of sleep. I know a woman with severe autism very low functioning. Never slept. Her parents never slept until she was put on Ambien. After that, they got four hours of sleep per night. They still had to lock her in her room at night because she was always eloping. Torturing yourself is self destructive.
@@pinkbutterfly6878you literally can’t survive off that little of sleep for a sustained period of time without a psychosis not sure how anyone isn’t all over tv sharing this
As a 34-year-old woman with Asperger's, I still don't sleep through the night. Waking up five or six times on average is normal for me.
raerae1985 me too
My mum is „healthy“ but she wakes up all night long, probably more than 15 times... She cant sleep... /: so „health“ is really rare these days
Me too. I have a split sleep and always have.
My grandson age 6 was diagnosed with asperges ( very high functioning on scale) he is now having behavioral problems in class. There is so much red tape to go through before getting help. He becomes very frustrated when he can’t understand a class assignment, if they would just spend a little time explaining he would be able to complete the assignment. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
I’m pretty sure I had some sort of sensory processing disorder when I was little. I hated sitting in grass, and I hated loud noises (still do, but it’s a little better now). I wouldn’t walk down stairs without someone holding my hand.
Have you looked up information about women on the spectrum and girls with aspergers/autism?
Does it feel familiar to you at all?
My g'son _hated_ loud unexpected sounds, the vacuum he hated! But he's otherwise okay, just the noise thing. I know there's a spectrum..my younger g'son _loves_ loud noises! Love them both
@@mjkelly9801 ,
Yep sensory processing disorder goes along with ADHD, Autism, and can be on its own.
@@mjkelly9801 sounds like an avoider and a seeker
Thank you for bringing in your own experience about eye contact as well! That’s one trait that I have a weird relationship with because I thought before my diagnosis that I never had trouble with eye contact, but I found out that if I’m having to think about what I’m saying or if, as you mentioned, I’m uncomfortable, eye contact gets hard. I had a situation at church this evening where I was in a conversation I really wanted to get out of, and it became almost impossible to make eye contact with the person, and I found that even afterwards I didn’t want to make eye contact with anyone for a while. It’s interesting how just one trait can manifest so differently across people and situations.
I am autisitic and when I was a little kid, I didn't sleep much either. Once I was about 2 years old (maybe younger?) I never took naps. The manager of my daycare had to take me on errands with her during naptime because I refused to sleep or even lay down and stay quiet.
Sadie gave up her naps super early too. I remember thinking that she couldn't be done napping yet!
When I was two, I stopped napping. I refused to stay at preschool during nap time, and my parents would come pick me up before it started every day 😂 so my parents made up “quiet time,” which was where they would nap downstairs while I sat up in their room and watched tv by myself for an hour 😂😂
My kids never liked to take naps but I'm okay with it 😊
@@kipperthedog789 Omg my mom called it "quiet time" too haha. She made me sit in my room in the dark because she was just HOPING i would fall sleep. I never did lol.
I’m in my 60s, and was just diagnosed last year. I wish they knew back then, what was going on. Both of my parents are gone, thinking I was a difficult child, and not like my siblings.
Wow 60 yrs old and finally diagnosed. This blows my mind. Im 61
Wow... how are you different?
My little brother is high functioning, and doesn’t have too many stims, but he’s always been a flapper too! & as he has gotten older he loves listening to his jams in his AirPods and flapping! Bluetooth headphones are amazing bc regular wired headphones are not flap-friendly !!!
No they aren’t lol 😂 your right
My granddaughter is 27 months old. She doesnt say very many words and does put 2 words together. My daughter thinks she may have autism. She has talked to the doctor. The doctor wants her to take her to speech therapy. She lives in Charleston, SC, but there is no neurologist there. She would have to go to Columbia which is 2 hrs away. Would take a year to get her in.
Thank you for what you do! I’m an Aunty to a wonderful lil 3 yr old girl and she happens to have autism. She’s finally getting some help and I just want her to be able to live a life as free as she can be! Thank you for helping understand in layman’s terms and tips so I can connect with her as much as I can ☺️
Thank you for sharing your families experiences. I was diagnosed w classic autism in my early 30s and I dont want my unborn child to wait that long in life.
A funny thing with me and eye contact is i cant look at the tv screen when someone is looking out and speaking. So things like your vlog today i cant look at. I just listen. In fact i watched you cat in the background.
Very interesting, what is it about eye contact that’s uncomfortable to you? I’m just curious
keepinitreal It feels invasive. A bit like if someone stared at you in a swimming pool change room while you were naked.
This is very useful for me as a nurse practitioner to recognize early autism in patients thank you!
Thank you. Wish we had seen your videos back in January. You just taught me so much.
You have beautiful eyes. I love how you did your makeup. That lipstick color looks great on you. :)
My daughter didn’t sleep up until she was in her teens. I worked out different ways to deal with her but I was an at home mom, who had the time to watch and figure her out. She is in her 30s now. I haven’t seen her in last 4-5 yrs. I have PTSD from these yrs. it took along time for me to deal.
Sorry to hear that. Are you two estranged and why?
I'm a firm believer that girls are just DIFFERENT than boys with Autism. My kiddo had horrible eye contact. Then her OT gave her candy. Now she makes great eye-face contact....but it's not true eye contact. She knows it gets her what she wants when adults ask for it. She's never made eye contact with another child.
That sounds so familiar. Tessie has learned people pay more attention to her when she looks at them (and so has Maggie really) and now they both come up and stare intensely into my eyes when they want something because they know it gets grownups attention. Our girls have definitely picked up on that really young. And I know even though I really don't like eye contact with most people I learned to do it because so many people would say "look me in the eyes" growing up.
@@Autmazing I don't like a lot of eye contact either and I am always worried about if I am doing the right amount of eye contact. But I was also told to make eye contact as a child. And people now, who I am close with, they will sometimes think I am not paying attention to them because I am not constantly looking at their face.
Starting watching this to see if my first (11 month daughter) could possibly have ASD. When she was younger she didn’t really want eye contact and LOVED to be held 24/7. She pretty much still loves to be held all the time when we are downstairs with the rest of the family. Now watching the whole video I feel like I might have ASD. I hate eye contact, I kind of dislike touch and I’m terrible at communicating with people. My mom (adoptive) told me it’s most likely because of my past. But I know I used to get into trouble with the teacher when I was about 5 for spacing out and not knowing any of the answers. I didn’t sleep during nap hours and I’d be up most of the night. It’s hard for me to do simple things that most people know how to do but harder things is what I do best. I was in special needs for most of my life because I had a harder time learning. So when we did an ASD they would test me and said the only thing I did good on was my ability to find things that are different/same. But if I had a stem it probably would be work because I had to work 24/7 or I just didn’t feel right. I’m not sure if that’s a thing. My mom also she tested me to see if I’d move things back were they were before being moved. And each time I moved it right to the same spot and I’m still like that to this day. I am so sorry for the long message.
I'm so glad you left a long message and shared you're experience. It seems like more and more now a lot of parents are being diagnosed after realizing that the traits their children have that end up with diagnosis are the same ones they had as children too.
Actually after making this video I was diagnosed in February, and my husband ended up being diagnosed on the first of this month. When we were younger they knew so much less about autism and ADD and ADHD (I have ADHD too and I find I relate to so many ADHD things to with focusing and paying attention) and now I think they're finally realizing how many parents are undiagnosed. There are a lot of videos by autistic women on youtube that are really helpful. That's sort of where I got started. I watched Yo Samdy Sam's channel a lot when I was getting up the nerve to talk to my doctor about getting evaluated.
Good luck, both with seeking answers for yourself and for your little one. 💖
My son was super high need. He cried for hours on end, never slept more than an hour at a time, didn’t want to be held or cuddled, wanted to face away from us during feeding, wouldn’t look at us for diaper changes or playtime, etc.
At 5, he’s still high need. He is very verbal, makes good eye contact (not for pictures), but does not play with toys or entertain himself at all. He also requires tons of exercise and sensory input.
He is just recently looking around for us to see if he’s a safe distance which is very helpful because one of his main stims is running. He used to run off every time we were in public and never even notice. Now he still runs up and down the isles or sidewalks but stays decently close to the area or isle we’re on.
A few of our other big clues when he was a young toddler were lack of responding when we called his name, major obsession with the alphabet and nursery rhymes, constantly knocking over and spinning the wheels on his stroller, and not following a point.
He still has obsessions and still loves to spin things, mostly anything he can twirl around like a lasso.
I love spinning stims!
And it's such good news that he's starting to recognize the need to stay close to you. That is such a parenting goal for all of us!
@@Autmazing I think my nephew may be on the spectrum my sister has seen signs in him like he has had a speech therapist and also I got told that when they would accompany them to the cafeteria he would either be jumping up and down all the way there or on his tip toes. He absolutely loves dinosaurs, he also would sing the ABCs constantly, even though my sister has signs in him i don't think she acknowledges it or even thinks that it could be Autism because he doesn't behave like an autistic boy all the time. I want her to see it. How can I help my sister and my nephew? I would appreciate it if you answer me as soon as possible. Thank you.
What level Autism is he in? just wondering since he's acknowledging things already, is he high functioning Autistic
I know your not a doctor but im asking for what you would do?? My son also slept as a newborn and content by himself he wouldnt wake up to eat and was preemie. He needed to eat. Also he is almost 2 he flaps his hands loves running back and forth repeatedly. He covers his ears to block out sound. He isnt talking full sentences but he speaks. And sometimes in a language i dont understand its gibberish lol. He also likes to sleep with his head covered. My son also doesnt like being held never did but he did like to lay in bed next to you... But not on us lol it was winter so im sure he wanted by us for warmth... I think my son is on the spectrum imma call his doctor shortly. Oh and he has had food texture issues since he started eating at 6 months. Certain things make him throw up. Now I have worked with adults with intellectual disabilities and i see some similarities bc everyone on the spectrum is different and special in their own beautiful way. I am not afraid of the diagnosis. But ready bc i want my son to get all the help he needs early intervention is key. And mama i love the lipstick lol. Your kids are so beautiful!!! I am pregnant 8 weeks in hoping for a healthy baby and maybe a girl but if it's a boy thats ok too
Hey how's your son doing now? Hope all is well did you get a diagnosis, hope your pregnancy went well blessings to you and your family
Hi I’m curious what you had and how’s your baby?
20 yrs ago doctors could not diagnose babies so early. Now that some diagnosis are given as infants shows how far forward the studies on Autism Spectrum has come.
yet the sex gap is still huge. More males are diagnosed
I wasn't diagnosed until adult hood. My mother always said i hated her and was rejecting because i didn't want to be held a an infant. I was also an early riser, very unlike the rest of my family, so life was interesting.
I believe it can be seen in newborns, with autism newborns babies do not have a strong fist clenching reflex, instead of keeping the thumb tucked in they straighten fingers out. Another thing I've noted with autism is a reluctance to relax when held constantly arching spine away.
May I ask how you know this? I’m just curious. I have a 3 month old and I’m keeping a close eye on him. I have a relative this autism so I’m curious
I was lucky to have a great daycare. Because, my daughter was diagnosed at 6 months.. She also had sleep apnea.
Love the video and thank you for sharing!
Suggestion: it would be very useful for you to use on-screen text and/or time stamps. :)
All my 3 kids are on the spectrum, they all did not like to be held and would especially not like it when they wanted to go sleep. But my youngest, i noticed when he was 1 day old that he was probably was autistic. Knowing then about my others being autistic, I suspected that offcourse. As a 1 day old baby, when I tried to get him to grab my finger. He would open his palm and tried to move away from it. I have never in my whole life seen a baby to that, and he did it again and again. So I just went hmmmm well he is gonna be something. And he grew up to have alot of aversion to touching, wasn’t allowed to pat his head or hug him even until he was like 4-5yrs old at least.
Exactly this we noticed it as a newborn with the fingers stretching out rather than making little fists.
Yup.... I have a Sadie😊
It's so tough during those baby months when they don't sleep, but so amazing as they start to get bigger (and finally sleep)! 💜
I think eye contact in girls on the spectrum is different than boys. I'm 52 and autistic, and although, now as an adult, I have more issues with eyes than I did when I was young. I am not sure if it's because of how we were raised and my mom saying LOOK AT ME 5 billion times. It could have been an issue or it could have just been my demanding mother who said that to all of her kids. Not sure lol
I think you're right. I know I heard it a lot from adults when I was younger too. Now I love giant sunglasses because I can kind of hide behind them, at least when I'm outside!
What are your signs ?
In the olden days kids were just labelled "different personalities"
Scary they're now being _labelled so early_ and so treated differently.
Makes u wonder..I was v. shy, good @math..today I wld have been labelled Autistic. We _can't lose sight of NORMAL DIFF personality traits,_ look back on history. Do we _really help our kids by SPECIAL HELP_ Wld have spelt social _death_ at my private school ! Give kids a chance to figure _themselves out_ AUTISTIC Are _smart not dumb_
Exactly! To me it just sounds like she is describing individualism, different personalities.
Thank you so very much. Your voice is calming.
You were so lucky to have help from husband and family members. Not every one has those outlets or help.
I have 3 kids on the spectrum too. They were all non-sleepers. They are still non-sleepers lol we struggled with breastfeeding a lot. They wanted to nurse but didn't want to be touched. My oldest struggled the most with this.
My littlest sleeps Terribly. I just had to give her melatonin to help her sleep. I went like 2yrs hardly no sleep having had two babies back to back who stopped sleeping once they turned 1. Just now starting to sleep my daughter's are 2 going on 3 and 1 going on 2. Autism and sleep is hard.
You didn't sleep for a year and a half but it wadn't horrible? You are a saint.
The question is...why is this so widespread today?
Because it’s being diagnosed now.
@@Autmazing Not entirely. I'm a Special Ed teacher and it's not just better diagnosis. It is much more common. There are causative factors, perhaps environmental, not acknowledged by all.
@@mweinstein1542 I would say in very large part. I know many adults who are being diagnosed now (including my husband and myself) who were simply given a great many other labels everything from troublemakers to shy or snobby. The thing that is that more kids now are actually getting help.
The other thing is that people do move around more and get more jobs in tech fields and are able to find people with similar interests because of the internet. I think as a result neurodiverse people are more likely to find each other. And because this is genetic, yes, it can become more common that way.
We've always been here. In the past we weren't recognized. Or were institutionalized.
You may find many autistic people are wary when you mention working in the field that you do. Many people who are quick to announce their expertise based on working with the disabled to bulldoze over our opinions aren't really allies. It's usually pretty obvious who those people are and what their agendas are.
My daughter slept well, but only if I was holding her. She could not sleep unless she was in contact with me until she was around four.
It’s interesting that all of their stims are very different.
It is! I always find it so interesting all the different stims that pop up here and there around here.
I suspect my partner is on the spectrum. He was a super easy baby to the point I don't think he's mom did anything with him. He's really smart so a lot of his issues were overlooked as with his brother he struggled and was treated at a young age. I have ADHD and dyslexia which I noticed in him right away. The other stuff like inability to not to hold back on saying things. He gets very overstimulated etc. I'm hoping he can get some help in the next few years because we are thinking about starting a family. So it will be helpful.
Hello, new to your channel ..are any of your girls potty trained fully and will they need to be cared for all their lives? I know the spectrum is very large I am just trying to distinguish high functioning to low functioning autism. My son is severe and is 10 still not potty trained😥
Hi, it would help to join Autism groups on facebook that are run by autistic adults
She's ( the lady) so pretty, beautiful
I have a question about your girls responding to noises. How were your girls with sounds and looking. My girl is 10 weeks and 5 days. I had coronavirus with pneumonia and the flu during pregnancy im looking at your videos and my baby doesnt make eye contact with me alot. I feel like she purposely looks away away from me as well. She does sleep through the night for sometime now, but i am noticing she wakes up really easily.
Hello Kim. Could you please share your experience as how the child is now. Even I am tested positive for covid. I feel the baby purposely looks away from me and makes no eye contact. He is 6weeks old now. Please help.
Hi! How did your babies go?
Hey how's your baby now she's a lot older did anything change? Hope all is well blessings to you and your daughter
@@ddwarakamai923 hey how's your baby doing did anything improve? Hope all is well
@@Dhumblemoon my baby is fine by God's grace. But now I am worried about his flat head.
Your video is really informative and engaging. Just curious, has anyone mentioned to you that you might be under the spectrum too?
My autistic 2-year-old loves spinning, too. He even spun himself *before* he could stand. He'd sit there on his bottom in the middle of the floor and use his legs to spin himself on his bottom, lol. It was super adorable.
omg
My grandson as an infant was nicknamed propeller feet. He constantly moved his feet literally like a propeller on a boat. He would play with a paticular toy that have moving parts always.. He was always happy and never slept all night. He didn't walk until 18 months and at 5yrs still doesn't talk much but when he does you can't understand him. He many times repeats what we say to him. I have voiced my concerns to the parents and am hoping he will get tested.
They are in a great denial and will effect the rest of his life, not to mention his family, HAVE HIM TESTED, CONFIRM A DIAGNOSIS EITHER YAY OR NAY. IT WILL NOT GO AWAY BY IGNORING IT.
@@cjohnson9752 I agree.
My son was high needs and would never sleep 🤦
It's so hard. I really thought all babies were like that when we had Sadie and when Maggie came along I was so stunned to learn they weren't (which I guess just shows that I didn't know anything practically apart from reading books, about babies).
Omg that owl onesie was the same one my daughter had and I loveddddd it so much lol.
James was sleeping through the night by 4 wks, but never took naps during the day. Honestly now looking back i can see some signs that he showed but none of them were the stereotypical signs they said to look for. He made good eye contact, his gross motor skills were on point, he loved interaction with people but his most significant sign was adhd, he also wasn’t crazy about being held but didn’t completely resist it.Most of his signs were mild so it wasn’t that obvious
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It seems like so often kids who are diagnosed
have such awesome gross motor skills! Or at least really good ones when they're trying (and then sometimes clumsiness when they aren't paying attention, at least that's how it is around here).
Thank you. You are brave and kind.
My children's doctor said if you know the diaper is clean and they are warm and feed and a Been feed, add white noise then put them in their crib and leave the light on and close the door and go to bed! set an alarm and peak in to check their OK. I did and after 30 minutes they slept great.
That sadly won’t work for all babies. It may work for some but others get so upset that they throw up which if ur baby is super young they could aspirate.
Yeah a lot of this is ADHD symptoms. The two are closely interconnected.
All the members of our family are autistic and have adhd. I find it personally impossible to separate out the two, although honestly i think of executive function and impulsivity when I think of my adhd. It does make sense that there would be overlap in the signs.
Your girls look so adorable god bless them
Given that you have 3 girls with ASD, have you considered being evaluated yourself?
KC P your implying that she herself might have ASD?
I'm hoping to be. I've had about a half dozen pediatric doctors suggest it and when I asked my doctor about it (finally) he said he thought it was "extremely" likely. He put in the referral but said that he'd wasn't very confident about my insurance covering it as an adult.
Today when I was booking an appointment for another kid to be evaluated (because of course I am, and we've been waiting 6 months for it) I asked them how much it costs out of pocked and to please not to just throw it out if the insurance says no and now I'm waiting to hear on that.
I put off asking for so long and then when I did I was so disappointed about the possibility of it being out of reach (the testing). Now I'm really hoping it might happen.
Sorry that's so long. But that's kind of where we are right now.
@@diadia6269 not based on anything I've observed in her vids, just the fact that there seems to be a genetic component to the fact her 3 girls are on the spectrum.
I often wondered if I might be ASD, & it was ultimately confirmed for me so i was curious
@@Autmazingjust read the DSM
Why not father?
Yeah I understand the lack of eye contact isn't immediate.
I love how all your girls are individuals!
God bless you and your family. 💞
I’m 69 and I just diagnosed myself with autism., I can’t make eye contact.
I was like Sadie, if the sun was up I was also up 😂 also, I'm 26 and I still like to spin a lot...
Lol I also liked to spin when I was little 😂 After a few years, I grew out of it
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Hi can you please do a video about speech differences between the girls as I would find that very useful. I am based in the UK and have a 3 year old autistic son i research alot into autism, but wherever dont recieve mucj help in regards to therapy over here as our healthcare isn't private like it is in USA, finally I am complete aware that every child is completely different bit find that you have alot of experience between the 3 girls and you cover alot. Finally any tips on potty training a nonverbal child
My son was so happy to be in his pack n play most of the time as a baby. But by the time he was 2 he wouldn’t take naps and even at 18 months old had to give him melatonin just to get him to sleep at night or he was up till midnight or 1 am then up again between 8 to 10. Now he’s 3.5 years old and sometimes even melatonin doesn’t always work so I have to go to another over the counter sleep meds (he’s a big 3 year old and only as a last resort. Only used about 2 times since I got it). He’s never really had a sense of fear and still would run into the streets sometimes or run away in the store. I had to get him shoes with squeaker in them just so I knew where he was if he ran away I just follow the squeaker. About a week and a half ago he was diagnosed with Provisional Autism and is now starting to get actual testing to get a actual diagnosis. In the last 2 months he’s changed so much. Went from asking for things to pointing and whining like he can’t understand or verbalize. Forgot his middle name he’s know for a year and a half. He thinks his first and middle name are the same. I used to ask what his first name was and he would say Kayden then I would ask what his middle name was and he would say Tucker. Now when I ask what his first name is he says Kayden and when I ask what his middle name is he says “Ka Ka Ka Kayden”. Forgot things he’s known since he was 15 months old to 2 years old. He stopped responding to his name. I have to say it over and over and over before he’ll answer. Runs away from kids at the playground when they want to play with him. He’ll only play with babies, teenagers, or adults. If he does play with kids his own age is so rare maybe 1 kid but that was before the pandemic so I’m not sure anymore. He spins all the time and never outgrew it. He’ll spin till he’s dizzy or falls down from being dizzy. He started loving fidget spinners because they spin. He started lining toys up the other day one moved out of the line and he moved it right back. He’s started getting obsessed with things he’s never been before and you can’t distract him for anything. He expected a package today and insisted on waiting outside for it for about a half hour and started clapping over and over but barely said anything to the delivery guy like he would 3 months ago. Never learned to dress himself only hake shoes, socks, and pants off but can’t put them on or pull his pants up. Never learned to take his shirt off. Could never potty train him and I almost have to fight him to change his diaper because he insists it doesn’t need changed and actually has told me he likes his diaper wet. I didn’t listen to his old therapist who told me he did everything for attention. He regressed it was for attention. He screamed it was for attention. He doesn’t respond it was for attention. She diagnosed him with intermittent explosive disorder and oppositional defiant disorder right after his 3rd birthday so I guess she just assumed instead of suggesting to get him looked at to make sure. Even after I told her IU13 was alarmed by all of that she insisted it was attention. There’s a Center for Autism and Developmental Disorders which is where he is getting his new testing done and they even said he needed to be re tested (he was tested at 15 months old and they said he was at moderate risk for it they just didn’t know how much was age related and how much wasn’t). What I can say to anyone is if you feel something isn’t right then don’t just believe someone or a doctor that says everything is for attention because it may not be. I literally have a completely different child then I did 2-3 months ago. He’s just becoming more and more dependent on me and others in the house and he was even getting frustrated at first because he didn’t understand why he couldn’t do things he use to.
How's your son doing now? Has he gotten and help, and you how are you? Hope you are feeling a little better and that you got answers
@@Dhumblemoon COVID backed everything up so he’s just now gonna start therapies outside of the IU. I’m getting him to a psychiatrist (only one that’ll see kids before 5) for his sleep and other issues as it’s became a safety risk for himself and others at times and want to prevent it getting worse or hospitalization. But even the therapies and teacher through IU (occupational and speech along with a teacher) have helped a little and he’s gotten back some of what he lost but still not to where it was.
Did they ever move their head back and forth a lot like repetitively?
My son did he'd on spectrum
Bless your heart. You had a child on the spectrum and you dared to have another! I have two daughters myself, and neither is on the spectrum. But being a working mom was so challenging, my second was a surprise! Parenting is a challenge and I get the feeling you are intuitive and a compassionate loving mom.
off topic but your jumping cat was to cute xD
anyways ... as a baby I was very quiet, loved to play with my own fingers and totally fine with being only by myself.
Another fun and informative video! Thank you!
Thank you for watching Shelly!
I LOVE shredding paper!
Absolutely gorgeous wolf eyes for sure
Have you ever considered having the boys evaluated as well?
There is definitely an evaluation for at least one of them in the future. I've been sort of going through the list one by one figuring it out and there's one kid I have a feeling about and one I have no idea about.
I wish you mentioned more motor skills etc. my baby is 4mo and she’s rotating her wrists funny and stiffens out her legs. I wonder if this is concerning for autism
This is my son as well. He’s been doing it since early on and it’s more pronounced at 7 months.
My grandson too. And fascinating by fans and moving objects. He’s 11 months old. No words yet. Just high-pitched screams. But so sweet and funny and engaging. He loves kisses. So confusing
How is your baby now
@@sweetsadii how is ur baby doing now
@@sweetsadiihow is your baby now?
Thank you.
Your kids are beautiful!
Mam can you please tell that is autistic baby cry alot during pee and poop.
They are so cute!
Oh the title of this video - I can completely relate! I have a 13-year-old high-functioning autistic son who still sleeps in my bed. He doesn't sleep well, so no matter how much medication the doctor put him on for behavioral issues/medical issues, and sleep, My other son, with Aspergers, screamed for the first 2 years of his life, and NEVER - NEVER slept. I was so fed up, I went to the hospital every day for two weeks until they started to take me seriously about the screaming. He wouldn't let us put him down, put him in a stroller, put him in the car seat, nothing - in someone's arms, upright, constantly moving. We took night shifts - I walked him all night until 3"30 am, hubby took him until around 6:00 or so, and then i'd get up to get the other 2 kids off to school. (turned out he also had GERD but even on meds, he just stopped vomiting as much - didn't affect the crying). He was WAY ahead of other babies in the milestones, but refused to be held except to nurse after the age of 2. My mother was so upset by this, insisting it was because I didn't visit with him enough (right, because I have time to even brush my hair to visit, never mind shower, brush my hair, pack the screaming baby up, drive half an hour, then try to have a conversation).When he started to work people came up to me all the time to tell me it was 'bad' for him to run on his toes. Show me a 2-year-old you can teach not to walk on their toes! He never walked on his heels, ever. What you said about staying with their parents is SO true! Also, the eye contact - we bought him a kids' camera, and I KNEW he was autistic when he was taking pictures of people at eye level - so through the camera, I saw that he was only looking at ME, Daddy, and everyone else at eye level - he didn't take pictures of our faces because they were irrelevant. This suspicion was confirmed when my friend's daughter, same age, took all kinds of pics of her parent's faces. AND - the eye contact! In a picture - we have NO photos of him making eye contact - he will turn his head to face me, but his eyes were always looking elsewhere! Anyway - great that you shared this! :)
How about handflapps?
This is really interesting for me, I have 3 girls oldest ok. Second is 3 we’re going through the diagnostic and the littlest I have is very loud, she likes to make a lot of noise and has done since a baby, I put it down to being the smallest and then I see other things and put it down to copying her sister (the 3year old) she also loves her own space and runs away when outside completely Opposite from the 3 year old. Has now made me think I may need to start watching more closely thank you. X
Was she diagnosed?
@@RanaAboMandour middle child was diagnosed yes and the little one she is going through autism diagnosis but they said it will be hard as they can’t start the ADHD to she is 5 she is just 4. But she definitely is both! They are still so alike but so different x
Eee poor Sadie. I bet nap time with her and Maggie were pretty bad.
The one good thing was that by the time she was born we had moved out of our tiny cabin and had a couple of rooms, so Sadie could be in her bedroom and Maggie could be in her bassinet. I don't even know what we would have done if we had still been in our tiniest house.
Someday I'll Sleep Autism Vlogs definitely I live in a 3,300 square foot home and my autistic son has his own room with water proof hardwood flooring, his favorite toys and a mounted television. Other wise he would just pull everything onto the floor and destroy everything. I remember sharing a room with him and all of my sheets and blankets would end up on the floor and prior he shared a room with his brother and would rip his homework. Autistic children definitely need their very own space so that their siblings are not effected by their disability.
Love your cat!
He always wants to be part of the action!
@@Autmazing it's a cat, obviously, it wants the attention.
Thanks for sharing, please do you know the causes of autism?
Typically due to genetics, your parents having it could result in you having it or it can skip a few generations.
It's a very very common condition and more people are being diagnosed now as there is better understanding of the condition and of course vaccines DO NOT cause autism
Is autism the new norm now? Or is there no such thing? I have a 7.5 month old and worried.
It's not the new norm. It is being recognized and diagnosed more now, because there's a greater awareness of it. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 37. I was autistic when I was born.
@@Autmazing thank you for the reply. My son is showing minor symptoms but as he is getting older by the days, these symptoms are less and less… eye contact is there but not so much and he seems to look around the room he is in everyday as if it’s somewhere he has never been.
Apart from the worrying signs, he does what normal babies do 80-90% of the time.
@@Autmazing just thought i'd update... my boy is now 10 months old and really coming around with his little character. Everything that i found strange is now fading away, he isn't doing the odd things like some months back, for anyone reading this, please be patient.
@@Autmazing but you look absolutely normal and fine. How are you different?
I met the diagnostic criteria for autism. I have quite a few videos about it if you look just a bit.
Can they buy or sell real estate for themselves?
Yes. My husband is an attorney. He’s autistic. He spends his days in court. Legally we can do the same things as neurotypical people in the US.
Specially with non sleeping baby 😥
Where in Michigan?
7:10 thats normally an ADHD sign
OMG..you have been through so much specially with on sleeping baby...such a brave mum you are.
God bless you and increase your courage and strength.
Can autistic people get driving licence in US?
If we can pass the test we can. I’ve driven across the country a few times and more than I like on a regular basis.
Anyone ever mention that it seems like you may be on the spectrum?
Yes! I was diagnosed this February. So a bit (I think a couple months?) after this video was made.
@@Autmazing I can tell :) I'm like you, very good at masking
Did you ever notice if the autism signs started to appear after vaccination was given?
No. Not at all.
@@Autmazing Dr Rashid Buttar has treated children with autism with good success rate...you may contact him if you want...you can search on internet
At this point it autism sounds genetic
What has caused so much Autism?
Genetics 🧬
Traduction svp!!!
I like your Blue eyes
My middle child is 1yo and he’s nonverbal autistic he’s doesn’t like to be touched we knew something wasn’t right when he would forget words or just wouldn’t talk at all and now I have a 1mo and hope he isn’t but if he is then it won’t change anything my oldest son is not autistic
This woman has some good practical information, but is presented in such a way it is confusing. She is very wordy, talking about her three girls by name and expecting the listener to understand which daughter she is talking about. It is very confusing and hard to remember what she is saying and what points she is making. As an early childhood educator, I have dealt with children on the spectrum, even a child whose highly educated and successful parents were in denial.
We need this information accessable, but presented in a more structured and understandable way.
Agreed
Sounds like she may be ADHD which would make sense
She’s not an expert, she’s just giving her account of her own children, of course she would use their names. You might want to check out a pediatrician or early childhood specialist if you’re looking for a professional presentation. It’s nice that this woman is even sharing this much!
Holy f*Ck SPOT ON ! like can you show reference videos or photos and be organized when giving us this info it’s so long winded
@C Johnson "We need this information accessable, but presented in a more structured and understandable way."
Rather than just griping about this video, why don't you make your own video on autism? That would make sense, I think, given that you're a recognized authority on how autism videos should be made. 😁
you have boys too, right? it's interesting that it's your girls that are on the spectrum and not your boys... since autism is more common in boys.
It's not necessarily more common in boys, it's just represented differently in females than it is in males. Autism has really only ever been studied in males so they are more recognizably easier to diagnose than a female.
It's not more common in boys. They just present more obviously in more cases and it's more understood/studied how boys present than girls.
Is that really there names?
Nicknames.
Beautiful girls!
Sooooo long video
LOL. There's always that little option to click away. And 14 minutes is long. You might want to work on that attention span.
Autmazing burn
Los papas con niños con TEA son solo eso papás...me encanta como habla pero es absolutamente sentido común..nada de información fidedigna