A good tip to make all that awareness EASIER-- is an old martial art trick- called SOFT EYES.. your eyes take in pretty much everything- and your mind catches what you FOCUS on--- but if you want to be situationally aware- use "soft eyes"- and DO NOT focus on one thing specifically-- but take in the situation like scanning the ocean when out at sea-- sailors do NOT look AT the horizon- but above it.. same in this-- don't focus ON the items in front of you but just look "in general" and see everything.
I would like to add that as a woman living in a high crime city and having worked in high tech I was taught what to do while driving as well…. Be aware of leaving distance between bumpers don’t roll up so close to the car ahead that you cannot pull around them should an emergency arise. Also as a self defense person. Stay aware of vehicles that may be following you. If you suspect your being followed go to a police substation… or another Public place. Don’t head home. If your being followed or stalked then they will know where you live! Stay safe out there Ladies and Gents! Thank You She Defends Herself this lady Loves your content! 🌸
Decades ago when a field employee of HP, we were provided with a company car. Before we drove away, we were given a short driving lesson by a pro in the back lot of our building. He specifically taught us about NOT stopping right behind the car in front of us for the exact reason you mentioned: it prevents you from maneuvering should there be a reason to maneuver quickly out of the area. Good tip that I have always observed since that training. AND like she said in the video: ALWAYS lock your car as soon as you get into it.
My daughter's dont always listen to old over protective dad regarding these things. So I'm sharing this video in hopes they will listen to someone their own ages. Thanks!
My wife and kids think I'm paranoid cause when I go to a restaurant I like to sit in a specific table and seat so I can see all exits and entrances. And never put my back to a door or window. Great video and information 👍
One thing I tell people whether your spiritual or not, most if not all of us just get a "feeling" when something is off in an environment.. ALWAYS listen to that sense! Don't just shrug it off like oh I'm just in my head, always take it to be real. Whether something happens or not we get those feelings for a reason and its best to be mentally and physically prepared when you need to be. Sure has worked in favor for me.
Very true. My father would tell us the same, and one of the stories he told to emphasize the point is a time he got one of these feeling on the highway, that he needed to drop further back from the 18 wheeler just before the tire blew and threw a large chunk where he would have been. While I've had my own experiences with it, i haven't had any that memorable.
An old Top Sergeant once told me that "Situational Awareness" has saved more lives than close air support.....that was true then (50 years ago) and it is true now
Re the tip about don't play with your phone, I like to pretend like I'm playing with my phone. Mean while I'm inconspicuously keeping an eye on my surroundings. Sometimes you stand out more when every single person around you is lost in there phone and you are the only one looking around.
Yep, and be wary of any car with a driver or, especially with a few people in it just sitting there idling. I once parked my car and just felt odd about an idling car a few spaces over. So, I walked toward the store, then doubled back down another row to find the people who were in the idling car trying to break into my car. Beware of what I call 'headlight idlers' who sit in a car in a parking lot idling away for no reason. Yes, they may just be waiting for someone, but all too often they are waiting for an opportunity to break into your car.
Great start... also, look under your and adjacent vehicles. If possible, park your car so when you get ready to leave you drive out instead of backing out [it's called "combat parking"]. Always a great idea (especially) for the ladies, get some form of 'close quarters training', Krav Maga, Brazillian ju- jitsu, mui thai, tai kwon do. If ever in a fight, do your best to NEVER go to the ground and be on your back, hard to throw a "powerful" punch up from there. Go for the eye's! If attacked do not scream HELP... *SCREAM FIRE! And then squeeze that trigger*. Hope you've practiced your "double taps" Well, you [warned] your attacker when you said "fire". Oh, train with your weapon often as possible and in various conditions/scenarios... left/right hand, even the variety of clothing and shoes you wear. Keep 'em in the 10 ring!
Fyi, most women's thighs are stronger then arms. Yes on the ground is bad however I have saved my own a** using the power of my thighs to punch my legs at the sucker enough that they were stunned/dazed and I could get away. In an emergency situation every inch of your body has to become a weapon and needs to be furled as such.
Im actually sitting at a dealer getting my car serviced. And i sat in the back so i can face all the doors and then sat here watchig UA-cam videos. My 12 year old sittkng accross from me (on her phone) text me saying "mom that guy across from us looks like he is taking pictures". I wish I was paying closer attention. Assuming i was safe, i was mistaken. You really never know who is sitting next to or near you, so please be mindful of that too. Mucu luv. ❤
What really gets me are the people being in such a hurry who pull their cars into a parking place in a crowded lot, turn off the engine, pull the keys out of the ignition and just get out of the car without looking around to see what is around them. This irks me to a point like I cannot even describe! Such people deliberately place themselves in the middle of an environment that they are not prepared to immediately deal with if a danger were in fact present. It only complicates matters further when the AC is running and accompanied by music! But the people just pull into that stall and out they come with reckless abandon! Parking garages are the absolute worst!
A tip from a country where carjacking is an everyday occurrence - set your central locking feature that it only unlocks the driver’s door when you push the remote. Protects you from someone approaching from the passenger side.
Retired Special Forces Team Sergeant here. Good video. Here is something else for you to do. When you pull into a parking space and stop turn your front wheels to the right. If confronted by an attacker at your window simply reverse out and the car will run them over. Try it with a cardboard box next to your door for practice. Another tip is put I love my German Shepherd/Pitbull etc sticker on your car with tinted back window and rear side windows. Trust your body....if the hair is sticking up on the back of your neck, thousands of years of survival instinct is telling you something ain't right! Next time you are at Target buy the biggest dog water bowl and bone you can find and leave it by the front door, even meth heads don't want to tangle with 42 teeth and 18 claws. Don't have a security system, buy a sign on Amazon and a fake camera. If you live where you have a lot of sunshine get some solar powered motion sensor lights, all you need is a screw to install, no wires. Where their is no sunlight ie pergola entrance like I have, buy a battery operated motion detector light.
Situational Awareness is SO important! I live in a city with college town and I cringe whenever I see a pretty young co-ed walking, jogging, or riding with earbuds in! They might as well be wearing a shirt that says "take me, I'm yours!". Many of these tips apply to driving as well and would prevent so many traffic accidents! The one about looking for the exits is similar to one I was taught when I first started driving, always allowing yourself space for an escape route if a car veers toward you. Everything you shared is applicable to every single person out there, and this should really be taught in school. The fact you carry changes only your response to a threat, the SA can help prevent the need to respond at all! Great job Stav!
Important car door locking tip: If your car door automatically unlocks when you put your car in park, you can easily change that. Just take your car to the dealership's service center and ask them to reprogram the locks so that they stay locked until you choose to unlock them.
Great tip! I did this and the mechanic showed me how to adjust the settings myself using the menu on the steering wheel (nissan). That feature was really getting on my nerves. You can set it to auto-unlock when you turn off the ignition OR just disable the feature all together.
Thank you so much!! As soon as I put it in park the doors unlock & I instantly hit the lock button but I had no idea the dealership can fix it.. You’re a lifesaver
I stopped wearing clothing with logos and sayings in 2019 after a local resident made a comment on the logo. It was Ruger logo and he instantly began trying to figure out what I was carrying, as he said, I love Ruger what do you have. That did it! I donated all my shirts and restocked. Thank you for sharing and be safe.
Stav, One especially dangerous place is the gas station. A number of years back I was living in Houston (after we had CCW); there was a gang that specialized in stealing cars from people (mostly women) by waiting for a car to pull up to the pump; they would then approach from the rear driver side quarter; if the window was down or the door open they would shoot the driver in the head; roll the body out and drive away. The took advantage of drivers fiddling around to find wallets or whatever walking through their blind spot. Totally ruthless. Don't just drive in a place similar to that without surveying who is there, where they are and their body language. Head on a swivel not eyes in your lap. You may also redeploy your weapon for faster access. Really good video as always!!
I think part of the problem is that people assume a gas station is very safe because it's well-lit. That is NOT the case, at least in areas with a high population density. Criminals aren't afraid of lights.
The tip about using the windows to is something i learned to do long ago. It's a really good tip! I would add that when walking at night, you could also use the lighting to try and pick out shadows that move underneath cars or behind cars or around the corners of buildings. That way you can "see" someone or an animal is there without actually seeing it. If someone is hiding out looking for a victim, you'll see their shadow first and you'll know to keep a distance be ready for anything that comes.
If you're walking at night, it's a good idea to have a flashlight in your hand, or at least somewhere you can quickly deploy it. I always have one clipped on my pocket. You can leave it off, but if something doesn't feel right you can quickly shine a bright light at it. Where I live, I'm probably shining a light at some raccoon or opossum sniffing around my chicken coops, but city folks or even surburban folks might end up scaring off a larger predator of the two-legged variety. Somebody who means you harm at night is looking to ambush somebody and get away unseen. Getting a bright light shined on them, followed by a confident and stern "stop" behind that light, they've certainly lost the element of surprise, and that might very well just be enough deterrence on its own. If somebody doesn't stop, then you've accomplished identifying your target, and established that force might be necessary. Weapon lights are good, but having a light separate from that which you can use to look around, while your gun stays in its holster, is generally a good idea. I think of it like the floodlights I have around my home, on motion sensor. Anybody comes in range (it's always deer, lol) the whole outside of my house lights up like a Christmas tree. Somebody trying to get in has to know that they're going to be seen the whole time they're figuring out their best way in. And if I'm coming home at night, when my vehicle gets into the driveway I know for sure nobody's lurking around there in the dark and nobody's recently gone inside.
The one time Wild Bill Hickock sat facing the wall he got shot in the back. I always remembered that story and I always sit with my back facing the wall.
Wow. So refreshing to hear a female's take on self-protection. I wish my nieces could all watch this video. Refuse to be a victim. Excellent advise, thank you.
Wile seated anyplace you need to be able to see all outside doors if possible, restrooms, cash register and your car. Why the restrooms? A lot of times criminals will go to the rest room first to put on a disguise plus you can see them if your wife, husband or kids use them. I have carried for decades and have found this to be very helpful in giving me an edge.
Good information. Thank you. I bought my first gun because of you. I am 64 and I really enjoy learning protection ideas. Thank you!!! When my husband leaves the car I lock the door until he returns. I keep my head on a swivel while he is gone.
Looking at shadows can also detect people on the street. Don't round blind corners close to the corner, keep enough distance so if someone is waiting to jump you, you have space to react.
Excellent tips! RECOMMENDATIONS: (1) Instead of Pom pepper spray, carry Sabre Red Crossfire OC stream. It’s just as effective, but the Crossfire version allows the canister to discharge the OC while the canister is held from any angle. The Sabre Red MK-3 canister also contains a greater volume of OC. (2) Clip onto your clothing (e.g., a belt loop or draw string) a She’s Birdie personal safety alarm. When activated, it will emit a 130 dB siren and a flashing strobe light. (This should be a “must have” item if you like jogging alone through the woods.). 👍
This reminds me of how effective tactical flashlights are at night. Super bright with a strobe pointed directly at your face at night can be real disorienting. And the period of disorientation buys time to respond. As far as i'm aware, they don't need any kind of permit to carry anywhere.
Another safety issue unrelated to guns: My aunt is very short and pulls the seat of her car very close to the steering wheel. During an accident, the airbag deployed and stuck her from the bottom of the chin--pushing it up. This caused her head to over rotate backward and hurting her cervical spine. She recovered. What has she done since? She has gotten pedal extensions for her car. Now she can sit at a safe distance from the wheel (which IS adjustable / telescopic).
As a kid my neighbor and I were sitting and talking in his Trans am out in front of his house. His door opens and a knife is placed around his throat. Both of us freaked. Ended up it was one of our neighbors high as a kite and trying to teach us a lesson. Since then, I have always locked my doors as soon as I get in the car. Great advice Stav!
All great tips, and these things become second nature over time. One thing that makes women so vulnerable is their obsession with their phone. A predator will pass on a woman who is aware, because the easy targets are everywhere. One bitter subject for some people is whether you have an obligation to be a hero. You should think about this before the question clouds your judgement during an event. For me personally, my training and preparedness is only for myself and those in my party.
A little paranoia never hurt. I use just about every tip you talked about. “The eyes are the window to the soul but the hands are the window to the intent.” -Active Self Protection (Thought of this when you mentioned looking at peoples’ hands.)
As an apparent fellow somewhat petite person...THANK YOU for showing the wait while the seat shifts forward so you can even reach the brake and accelerator pedals! Hello. It's a thing. I need to be more vigilant with IMMEDIATELY locking the doors. So easy to get complacent. Thanks for the tip about using windows as mirrors! I definitely need to be more aware! And for being aware of peoples' hands.
Totally agree that locking the doors of the car immediately after entering the car is being very proactive and safe. I once had a guy jump into the back seat of my car soon after I got in my car because he thought I was the Uber ride he was waiting for. It was dark and rainy and he obviously mistook my car as being his ride. It was a very intense situation when it initially happened because I pulled my Glock 19 on him and he freaked out. Fortunately for both of us it was just an innocent mix up that could have gone bad very quickly had cooler heads not prevailed.
Good tips. Ive been to some dangerous countries and havnt had a major problem. Its so important to watch peoples eyes and being aware of people around you like you expertly mentioned. If your walking down the street and you see someone looking at you its best to look in their eyes for a second and let them know you are aware of them. Its not in a threatening way. When people are up to something they will start glancing at eachother and you should be watching and notice them. And when they see you are aware they will likely let you pass and wait for someone with their head buried in their phone. If you have kids you should be aware of whos watching you and around you and following you. I live in a small town with our shopping centers next to the interstate and criminals like these areas because their is nice people here and can snatch someone and be 20 miles down the road and change cars before the cops are even called.
Good tips Stav a lot of people have no situational awareness. Get off your phones not only will it keep you safer, it will remind you that there is more around you than meets the eye good and bad.
I only use ATM machines that are built into the wall of a bank. As I approach I make sure all windows are up, all doors locked. Circle the building slowly looking for hiding places. Pull up to the ATM / wall so close to it that the skinniest person won’t fit between my vehicle and the wall. If I’m on my motorcycle I park it to the right side of the lane (6 to 8 feet away from the ATM) and quickly get off of the bike to deal with the ATM while my helmeted head is constantly scanning. Sitting on a non- moving motorcycle is a vulnerable position to ambush. If this all sounds paranoid to you then you don’t know anyone who has been killed at an ATM.
I am so glad I found your channel, my wife suffers from PTSD from an attack she received some years ago,I'm always trying to teach her about situational awareness and self defense but coming from me it's hard to relate to her the importance of being able to be aware of her surroundings in a way that gives her more confidence, and I believe that your videos will be of help. So thank you and stay safe, peace.
I do carry everyday, my wife is afraid of guns, afraid to go to shooting range, afraid to hold it, even tho her dad was in the army for years. I've seen her many times not paying attention on surroundings, I ask: "did you see that old couple in the car waiving to our daughter and smiling?" she responds as, which couple which car when? ugh. My eyes are around everytime we go somewhere, but I wish my wife could pay more attention to surroundings too, especially when our year and a half daughter brings so much attention to strangers.
This was a very good video for those who support gun control. This video showed how gun owners try to be more aware of reasons not to use there gun than to use it. I support education not restrictions about firearms.
Good advice as always. Watching the hands is first, then I like to scan waistbands to see what someone might be carrying. As a martial artist, I also learned not to watch the eyes once a person got close because a good fighter will fool you with his eyes. A loose center mass focus will let you see from the toes to the forehead & body position will tell you as much as the eyes but with less chance of deception.
Me again. Absolutely outstanding content, Stav. What you explain about tactical awareness is hugely important. Predators have a strong preference for those amongst the sheep who appear unaware. The mere appearance of being aware of one's surroundings is a deterrent. Keep your phone in you pocket. Do not wear earbuds. Do not dilly dally.
My niece just bought her first concealed carry pistol, and I went shopping with her when she picked out her belly band. I recommended your channel to her and was happy that she had already been watching your videos. You are making a difference! Keep it up :)
Great video! One thing to also keep in mind is while some newer vehicles auto lock when you shift into drive, they also auto unlock when you shift into park. This is especially important to be aware of these days when you may be stopped during a riot/protest/civil unrest. If your vehicle is running and in park, your doors might also be unlocked.
My dad is a correctional officer so ever since I was little he has lovingly drilled self defense tactics into my head. Sitting facing the door is a big one and even before I started to carry I did it. Definitely something I would always recommend someone consider. Never thought to check hands though, that's a good one!
@@jeffgreer198613 just stick with her "training" over the years and I'm sure she will. It's an amazing memory I have with be my father even though at the time I wasn't completely sure why he was teaching me things.
@@jeffgreer198613 Yeah, just keep reinforcing it. Have her count exits when she goes into a room. It'll become second nature to always look for them. Have her count how many people are wearing t-shirts, vs. button shirts, like it's a game. Keep it fun. How many hats? Does she know without having to look around again? How many people with glasses? Are there more men or more women? Have her point out fire extinguishers and AEDs, too. When she gets older, and understands more about the world, she'll already have those built-in observational skills, and can apply it to other things. And kids learn by example. With mine, I just sort of talk about what I'm seeing, what I'm thinking, just in daily life as we go around, and I include those sorts of observations I'm making to keep us safe and able to best respond to things. That way they know I consider it important to notice stuff like that. They hear me say it, see what I'm looking at, and remember all the other times I did the same. When they notice things before I do, and mention it, they get rewarded with praise at having beaten me. We're homeschooling, so this is a 24/7 kind of thing for us. When we go camping, we talk about navigation, how not to get lost, how to survive if we do. How important fire safety is, and how to put one out, while we're at the campfire. In the kitchen making meals, we talk about burns and how to treat them, or how to stop a bleed if we cut ourselves with a knife. We talk about the Heimlich maneuver when we're eating our lunch as a family, and CPR is a natural progression from that, as is bursting out singing "Stayin' Alive" as a family (which is the right tempo for chest compressions, by the way). There's always things to learn, that can help them be safe, be aware of their surroundings, and what to do in an emergency. The most valuable skill in an emergency is remaining calm, and calmness comes from knowing what to do. When people don't know what to do in an unexpected situation, they panic, and make bad decisions. I can't shield them from every danger, and leave them ignorant and vulnerable. I can just give them the confidence to handle those dangers, and prepare themselves for as many things as possible.
I have 3 small children. Thankfully with grocery pickup, we’re not in stores as often. But if we are, we have a routine every SINGLE TIME we are in public. Everyone sits (or rides on) the buggy in the exact same seats, and gets in and out of the van at the trunk area so one door is open and I’m in total control of each child. Another thing about safety is, my children are well disciplined. They know they’re not allowed under ANY circumstances to argue, beg, have fits, walk away from me, or touch things when we’re out. Mama needs to be completely aware of our surroundings and on guard to protect them. I don’t scare them, but it’s real. I see parents allowing their children to trail 6 ft behind them while looking at their phone and I’m terrified for that child!
That's something I never really thought of. Also I try to be the grey man. I try not to draw attention to myself. There is a book about how to be a grey man.
People that know me think I am some kind of psychic ninja or something. They never know how I know they are behind me or off out of direct sight. I always check reflections and shadows and track patterns of behavior. It blows my mind how so many people are oblivious out in public. I am dodging shopping carts every time I go to the grocery store.
I often use playing with my phone as cover for my hyper-attentiveness. I don't look like the kind of person who takes a lot of selfies? You're right, I'm not. I'm looking at the guy behind me.
I preach all the time to my kids watch your surroundings when you're driving when you're walking always watch your surroundings be aware of what's going on around you
Situational Awareness (SA) becomes a mindset, something you almost do sub-consciously. Check for exits. Look for anything "going on." Sit in the proper seat. Park under a light. Lock the car doors. Scan the area when entering or exiting a building/room/parking area. Make it a habit and it becomes second-nature. Great video Stav.
Fabulous video. Being a former fire fighter exits are my first priority. I have always looked for the best view at a eatery. I have a fobia of people sneaking up on me.
Simple, common sense advice here, Sue. You would think this stuff goes without saying, but that is not the case. I watch all the people around me when I am out and about. 1. I see just how vulnerable most people are. 2. By doing this, I am practicing my own situational awareness.
I was just commenting on a post about advertising, or NOT advertising that you have guns or are an advocate of carrying. I joined the NRA a few years ago and they sent me a few stickers to put on my cars. Umm,,,, No. That just opens me or anyone driving those vehicles to potential trouble. If I were to tell everyone I know I have lots of weapons in my home, that would be an invitation for potential thefts. How would you feel if your guns were stolen and the cops should up asking about a murder your gun was linked to. Silent but deadly,,, that's what is really happening.....
@@jamesw4445 TOTALLY Disagree - the attacker knows that the 2A/NRA shirt granny is the only clear threat so takes her out first. Then attacker expects the intimidated sheep to line-up. The BEST case scenario is that the attacker *assumes* that some unadvertised granny is NO threat, treats her like a common sheeple - then is dramatically surprised at exactly the WRONG moment. Not advertising your force capability is a VERY serious advantage. Giving this info away for free is for dum-dum macho types. - IOW *bad* tactic.
Tip #1, When unlocking your car to get in only hit the door open button 1 time. Hitting it more than once opens the passenger door also allowing people to enter from the other side. Thugs use this method for car jacking all the time.
I always lock my car along with starting the car when I get in just in case I have to haul ass away from someone or something. I also like to look in windows but I also look around every once in a while to let people know I’m aware of my surroundings. Great video girl
I don't know why, but I always did all of these things, even as a kid. I always wanted the seat to watch people come in and out. As I got older, I mentioned this to my parents, and they were stunned that I was looking out for their safety like that. They never even noticed before that I always took the seat facing the door. In public my head is always on a swivel. I do look at reflective surfaces a lot. I always know where the exits are, and beyond that, I know which cardinal directions are where, like I'm some kind of homing pigeon. Always had a good sense of direction. I pay attention to landmarks, and how I've moved in relation to them. I know where I am, and where I need to go to get myself to my car, or get to home, or just get out. I always make note of where the exits are on the outsides of commercial buildings (those exit-only crash bar doors), as I'm going in, so I have some idea of where I'll be when I come out of one of them, and won't be disoriented if I do. I'll know what's around there, where that is relative to where I came from. And I always people watch. I feel it's given me a good understanding of human behavior, what kind of mood they're in, what sorts of things they're doing, and this naturally extends to assessing threats. I'm never the guy staring at his phone in public. I'm the guy staring (not in a creepy obvious way) at everyone else while they stare at their phones. Over the years, I've found that the number of people looking around, and noticing that I'm even there, has decreased steadily. People are really becoming so clueless. It must be so easy to be a pickpocket now, or some kind of stalker.
I love how you advise not to ignore things like a balled up fist or knife in a hand. It’s amazing how many people ignore violent body language. I wonder how much of that comes down to our cognitive biases.
Great video today Stav! Taking the camera along was a much better way to illustrate situational awareness. Plus, the example of a second amendment shirt wearing guy came up too. Nicely done.
Another quick tip. Before entering or exiting your car make a quick 360 degree visual sweep around your car. If there are people nearby that make you feel nervous you can either drive away or walk back into the store or public place and ask for help.
Will be sharing with my millennial children, all girls. Nice to have you repeat everything I've been saying. Dad isn't paranoid, he's safe. Keep up the great work. Thank you!
My girlfriend and I have also discussed creating a distraction to allow us to get out of a bad situation. If I can't draw my CW I want us to extricate ourselves and not become hostages so we've agreed that one of use would start yelling at the other to create a scene of two love birds fighting. As we scream at each other we just make our way to the exit and get out. Bad guys are not going to want anything to do with us. And, we simply ignore the bad guy or guys as we make our exit. Situational awareness is very important as you have pointed out, but you also need an exit plan in mind before you actually need it. Nice video.
Great Situational Awareness video, Stav! I might also suggest walking around your entire car before entering it, especially parked at home where one's defenses are often lowered. You can better fully inspect the interior BEFORE getting in with someone hiding in the backseat.
The things you say are the same things I do & tell others! I work in Law Enforcement... I NEVER sit with my back to the crowd... anywhere I go! I'm always aware of what's going on or if anyone coming up from behind or to my sides! I'm always looking for the exits, or if people are getting too loud or too excited, when there's no good reason for it! NOT scared or paranoid, just want to be aware & make sure my family is safe if we're out as a group!
Great video, been married to my lovely bride for almost 40 yrs., just got her and my 2 grown daughters the LTC here in Texas. Been working on they're situational awareness but falling on deaf ears. You might be able to help, love seeing your every day carry, maybe I can convince them with your video it can happen and look good. Thanks again
Thank you so much for this video. I'm slowly convincing my wife to carry, specially during her photography jobs in weird areas. Right now she's in the process of overcoming the "scary" aspect of guns. Baby steps, no rushing.
My husband wants me to carry… I just started looking at guns…because of a crazy hostile guy approaching me leaving my moms house.. I WAS MAD OF MYSELF BECAUSE I DIDN’T LISTEN TO MY HUBBY BUT EVEN MORE NOTHING in MY PURSE FOR PROTECTION… So shopping We Go…Was also very scary hope your wife reads this and it helps her. I was scary to carry too but NO MORE.
Situational Awareness. Where you sit in a restaurant or enclosed area. If you feel uncomfortable in any scenario, just follow that sense and stay even more on the alert. I never liked narrow corridors, 1 way through or too narrow for immediate defense movement. Excellent video.
I really do like and enjoy your videos, because you are articulate in sharing your valuable knowledge. I agree with you about locking your car door as soon as you get in. I made that a habit some time ago.
Same here, also lock it when you pull up to get gas then get out iso only the driver door is unlocked. I've seen videos of people stealing from an unlocked car while pumping gas. Great video and tips.
@@tomdixon2959 My filler is on the passenger side on one car and the rear in another. I just make it a habit to lock all the doors when I get out to pump gas.
@@tomdixon2959 Some years ago, our daughter stopped for gas coming home from work after dark. She always prepaid with cash inside instead of at the pump. Rag top Geo Tracker, doors locked. After she came out and pumped gas on driver's side, she discovered when getting back in car that her purse had been stolen from the passenger seat. Thief had cut plastic rear side window with a knife, reached in and unlocked front door, and made off with purse. Lost and had to replace all her personal IDs and cards. Major pain. If you leave purse in car, put it on the floor with a dark shirt over it.
I agree and do all of these tips! Especially locking my doors at night or not. I live in a small city where gun crimes are random but very active and in a state where sex trafficking is very high. I also like to look under my car while I’m walking towards it. In the daylight it’s obviously easier but at night I’ll park by a parking lot lamp if accessible. Then when I’m walking out of the store to my car I look under it while I’m a long distance away so it’s easier and less obvious. I read a news article that while a woman had stopped to get gas a man had climbed under her car to grab her ankles or whatever. The gas station attendant tried to warn her in a less suspicious way. The attendant told her, her card was declined. Being shocked she was then able to receive the message and was able to stay safe. So I always look now.
Love the fact that you can take care of yourself. The modern woman. I appreciate that you are helping all of us to know how to properly protect our self's when we go out. Thanks for the pointers. I will start practicing what you tell us. Stay safe okay.
One time I was walking at an outdoor mall and I had an uneasy feeling that this guy was following me. I had my phone in my hand and I flipped the screen to be in selfie mode then I started talking as if I was talking to someone and I slowly raised my phone so I could see the guy behind me and it took a minute but he realized I had his face on my screen. He looked surprised for a minute and then he quickly went into a store, never saw him again. Thanks for this video and all your videos!
Sfax- thank you for the topic today, the SA is a topic that is often overlooked and the hardest thing that I’ve had to teach my wife. If you pay attention to your surroundings you probably will not get yourself in trouble. You and Mac have a great channel.
Regarding looking at people's hands: as they teach over on Active Self Protection, the eyes are the windows to the soul, but the hands are the windows to intent. Looking at the hands is good advice. Choosing a seat: I always choose the best view of the room. Preferably, I like sitting in the back, furthest from the door.
Good tips. Good point about shirts that advertise certain things. Best to go "gray mode". I always wear a plain Tshirt of polo that has no writing or ads on it. I often notice a lot of people get in their car and sit and look at their phone instead of driving off. Not good, especially in a crowded parking lot.
Being cautious and safe is always prudent. Spending your life awaiting an armed intruder or car jacking or mugging is a recipe for anxiety , and paranoia. Unless you live in a high crime area or are in a dangerous profession these recommendations create fear of minimal risks. The chance of dying being struck by lightning or dying in a car crash is infinitely higher. Balanced rational and data driven safety measures should be employed As an aside I love this youtube channel and appreciate Stav (greek is good) She is the best resource for neophyte firearm enthusiasts.
BRAVO, BRAVO, BRAVO!!!! I rate this video an 'A'!!!! So many videos and "self defense" trainings for women are so BS for what women really need, but your video is one I'd recommend any woman watch! So many of the points you made I would've recommended too!! A few notes: 1) Excellent job looking stylish while being fully equipped with your EDC. A lot of women are concerned about their looks or appearance, but your presentation shows how you can be fully equipped and not compromise your appearance. 2) The tip I LOVE the most is using windows to be aware of your surroundings. I would suggest expanding that to using "reflective surfaces". I use any reflective surface to scan my surroundings. The window or door panel of a car, some building walls are nicely reflective with marble or granite. 3) Great job not carrying you pepper spray, knife and gun in your purse/backpack. Too many women think they can get to their gun in their purse in time. Doesn't work with a criminal snatches your purse, now he's armed and you're not.. 4) I agree it is bad to advertise!!! Some people think advertising you may have a gun would be a deterrent and for some it's an ego thing, but it just gives away your tactical advantage. If a criminal doesn't know you are armed, he may underestimate your ability and you can counter-ambush. If a criminal does know you're armed, he may just straight up shoot you so he doesn't take chances and then he'll take what you have.
Love this Stav!! I have recommended your channel and videos to SO many friends. I would love to know if you have any self defense tips for kids, or moms who are out with kids. It was my main reason to start carrying and definitely affects my choices and awareness when out and about. We do some practicing with my kids and my gun so they know what to do if my hand is on it, and have some code words for our family. I would love to see any videos done by you or friends of yours (online or in real life) to address the unique aspects of self defense with and around children. Or tips to teach children. I have seen enough comments on your videos to believe that there are many other viewers who would also appreciate that! Thanks Stav!
A good tip to make all that awareness EASIER-- is an old martial art trick- called SOFT EYES.. your eyes take in pretty much everything- and your mind catches what you FOCUS on--- but if you want to be situationally aware- use "soft eyes"- and DO NOT focus on one thing specifically-- but take in the situation like scanning the ocean when out at sea-- sailors do NOT look AT the horizon- but above it.. same in this-- don't focus ON the items in front of you but just look "in general" and see everything.
I would like to add that as a woman living in a high crime city and having worked in high tech I was taught what to do while driving as well…. Be aware of leaving distance between bumpers don’t roll up so close to the car ahead that you cannot pull around them should an emergency arise. Also as a self defense person. Stay aware of vehicles that may be following you. If you suspect your being followed go to a police substation… or another Public place. Don’t head home. If your being followed or stalked then they will know where you live! Stay safe out there Ladies and Gents! Thank You She Defends Herself this lady Loves your content! 🌸
Decades ago when a field employee of HP, we were provided with a company car. Before we drove away, we were given a short driving lesson by a pro in the back lot of our building. He specifically taught us about NOT stopping right behind the car in front of us for the exact reason you mentioned: it prevents you from maneuvering should there be a reason to maneuver quickly out of the area. Good tip that I have always observed since that training. AND like she said in the video: ALWAYS lock your car as soon as you get into it.
my dad taught me the same thing about keeping distance between bumpers when he was teaching me to drive as a teenager. so grateful for that
It is a mindset that becomes a lifestyle. It is not a life of fear, rather confidence. Confidence produces peace.
My daughter's dont always listen to old over protective dad regarding these things. So I'm sharing this video in hopes they will listen to someone their own ages. Thanks!
same here
That's Always the Case with young people 👎
I hope they watch it, you're a caring & loving father! I was fortunate to learn these tips from my dad...yars 'n yars ago.
I get the same reaction from my family. They just roll their eyes and tell me I'm being a "Burt Gummer".
@Poncho67- You rock Dad!
My wife and kids think I'm paranoid cause when I go to a restaurant I like to sit in a specific table and seat so I can see all exits and entrances. And never put my back to a door or window.
Great video and information 👍
As a military wife, my husband has done this for 21 years +.
The left would call you oppressive for not opening yourself up to be victimized.
I’ve done it for years. Not paranoid, just good common sense this day and time.
I think a lot of us that survived rough environments do that instinctively. Ingrained street wisdom courtesy of the school of hard knocks.
I do that.
One thing I tell people whether your spiritual or not, most if not all of us just get a "feeling" when something is off in an environment.. ALWAYS listen to that sense! Don't just shrug it off like oh I'm just in my head, always take it to be real. Whether something happens or not we get those feelings for a reason and its best to be mentally and physically prepared when you need to be. Sure has worked in favor for me.
Well said! Too many women shrug off those feelings. I would rather have someone think I'm rude than be dead.
Very true. My father would tell us the same, and one of the stories he told to emphasize the point is a time he got one of these feeling on the highway, that he needed to drop further back from the 18 wheeler just before the tire blew and threw a large chunk where he would have been.
While I've had my own experiences with it, i haven't had any that memorable.
This Former Marine is proud to see a fellow American taking steps to be safe!!
An old Top Sergeant once told me that "Situational Awareness" has saved more lives than close air support.....that was true then (50 years ago) and it is true now
Re the tip about don't play with your phone, I like to pretend like I'm playing with my phone. Mean while I'm inconspicuously keeping an eye on my surroundings. Sometimes you stand out more when every single person around you is lost in there phone and you are the only one looking around.
I'm the antique that still carries a flip phone. AND I only turn it on when I want to make a call!
I have been immediately locking my door for years. Sweep the back seat with my eyes before getting in also. Don't park next to vans. Head on a swivel!
Yep, and be wary of any car with a driver or, especially with a few people in it
just sitting there idling. I once parked my car and just felt odd about an idling car a few spaces over. So, I walked toward the store, then doubled back down another
row to find the people who were in the idling car trying to break into my car.
Beware of what I call 'headlight idlers' who sit in a car in a parking lot idling
away for no reason. Yes, they may just be waiting for someone, but all too often
they are waiting for an opportunity to break into your car.
Great start... also, look under your and adjacent vehicles.
If possible, park your car so when you get ready to leave you drive out instead of backing out [it's called "combat parking"].
Always a great idea (especially) for the ladies, get some form of 'close quarters training', Krav Maga, Brazillian ju- jitsu, mui thai, tai kwon do.
If ever in a fight, do your best to NEVER go to the ground and be on your back, hard to throw a "powerful" punch up from there. Go for the eye's!
If attacked do not scream HELP... *SCREAM FIRE!
And then squeeze that trigger*. Hope you've practiced your "double taps"
Well, you [warned] your attacker when you said "fire".
Oh, train with your weapon often as possible and in various conditions/scenarios... left/right hand, even the variety of clothing and shoes you wear.
Keep 'em in the 10 ring!
Fyi, most women's thighs are stronger then arms. Yes on the ground is bad however I have saved my own a** using the power of my thighs to punch my legs at the sucker enough that they were stunned/dazed and I could get away. In an emergency situation every inch of your body has to become a weapon and needs to be furled as such.
I’ve always told my girls “head on a swivel eyes and ears wide open and connected”
And I was taught to keep my keys between my fingers to be able to scratch at an assailant. Also less likely to accidentally drop them.
I love how you address every item as a "tool"! That's exactly what they are!
Hi Im from Fla. and now live in Texas and have learned, BEFORE you get in the car LOOK in front and back seats!!!
Im actually sitting at a dealer getting my car serviced. And i sat in the back so i can face all the doors and then sat here watchig UA-cam videos. My 12 year old sittkng accross from me (on her phone) text me saying "mom that guy across from us looks like he is taking pictures". I wish I was paying closer attention. Assuming i was safe, i was mistaken. You really never know who is sitting next to or near you, so please be mindful of that too.
Mucu luv. ❤
What really gets me are the people being in such a hurry who pull their cars into a parking place in a crowded lot, turn off the engine, pull the keys out of the ignition and just get out of the car without looking around to see what is around them. This irks me to a point like I cannot even describe! Such people deliberately place themselves in the middle of an environment that they are not prepared to immediately deal with if a danger were in fact present. It only complicates matters further when the AC is running and accompanied by music! But the people just pull into that stall and out they come with reckless abandon! Parking garages are the absolute worst!
A tip from a country where carjacking is an everyday occurrence - set your central locking feature that it only unlocks the driver’s door when you push the remote. Protects you from someone approaching from the passenger side.
"The eyes are the window to the soul, but the hands are the windows to the intent."
Yes, John
@@misterlove7034 Exactly
"Remember to cover your ASP!"
If you can see the whites of the eyes above the iris, be on guard.
and windows are the eyes in the back of your head.
Retired Special Forces Team Sergeant here. Good video. Here is something else for you to do. When you pull into a parking space and stop turn your front wheels to the right. If confronted by an attacker at your window simply reverse out and the car will run them over. Try it with a cardboard box next to your door for practice. Another tip is put I love my German Shepherd/Pitbull etc sticker on your car with tinted back window and rear side windows. Trust your body....if the hair is sticking up on the back of your neck, thousands of years of survival instinct is telling you something ain't right! Next time you are at Target buy the biggest dog water bowl and bone you can find and leave it by the front door, even meth heads don't want to tangle with 42 teeth and 18 claws. Don't have a security system, buy a sign on Amazon and a fake camera. If you live where you have a lot of sunshine get some solar powered motion sensor lights, all you need is a screw to install, no wires. Where their is no sunlight ie pergola entrance like I have, buy a battery operated motion detector light.
Turn the wheel to the right, that's a good one. I'm going to start doing that from now on.
Situational Awareness is SO important! I live in a city with college town and I cringe whenever I see a pretty young co-ed walking, jogging, or riding with earbuds in! They might as well be wearing a shirt that says "take me, I'm yours!". Many of these tips apply to driving as well and would prevent so many traffic accidents! The one about looking for the exits is similar to one I was taught when I first started driving, always allowing yourself space for an escape route if a car veers toward you. Everything you shared is applicable to every single person out there, and this should really be taught in school. The fact you carry changes only your response to a threat, the SA can help prevent the need to respond at all! Great job Stav!
Important car door locking tip: If your car door automatically unlocks when you put your car in park, you can easily change that. Just take your car to the dealership's service center and ask them to reprogram the locks so that they stay locked until you choose to unlock them.
Great tip! I did this and the mechanic showed me how to adjust the settings myself using the menu on the steering wheel (nissan). That feature was really getting on my nerves. You can set it to auto-unlock when you turn off the ignition OR just disable the feature all together.
Thank you so much!! As soon as I put it in park the doors unlock & I instantly hit the lock button but I had no idea the dealership can fix it.. You’re a lifesaver
I was able to change mine by reading the owner manual of my car.
Most cars have UA-cam tutorials on how to change your car's door lock settings.
@@Ann-xm4yq yep I did the same thing.
I stopped wearing clothing with logos and sayings in 2019 after a local resident made a comment on the logo. It was Ruger logo and he instantly began trying to figure out what I was carrying, as he said, I love Ruger what do you have. That did it! I donated all my shirts and restocked. Thank you for sharing and be safe.
Smart I only wear 2 shirts that advertise and thats at the range but i cover with regular warm-up jacket
Great common sense tips that people can benefit from whether they carry or not. You've reminded me to step up my situational awareness.
Don't know about anyone else but I LOVE women who carry!
Going into Target... be well aware of your surroundings! Especially in the changing rooms and restrooms....
Stav, One especially dangerous place is the gas station. A number of years back I was living in Houston (after we had CCW); there was a gang that specialized in stealing cars from people (mostly women) by waiting for a car to pull up to the pump; they would then approach from the rear driver side quarter; if the window was down or the door open they would shoot the driver in the head; roll the body out and drive away. The took advantage of drivers fiddling around to find wallets or whatever walking through their blind spot. Totally ruthless. Don't just drive in a place similar to that without surveying who is there, where they are and their body language. Head on a swivel not eyes in your lap. You may also redeploy your weapon for faster access. Really good video as always!!
I missed that....
Fuck those guys!
I think part of the problem is that people assume a gas station is very safe because it's well-lit. That is NOT the case, at least in areas with a high population density. Criminals aren't afraid of lights.
The tip about using the windows to is something i learned to do long ago. It's a really good tip! I would add that when walking at night, you could also use the lighting to try and pick out shadows that move underneath cars or behind cars or around the corners of buildings. That way you can "see" someone or an animal is there without actually seeing it. If someone is hiding out looking for a victim, you'll see their shadow first and you'll know to keep a distance be ready for anything that comes.
That’s a great tip!! Thank you for sharing
Oooh, nice :D Great suggestion
If you're walking at night, it's a good idea to have a flashlight in your hand, or at least somewhere you can quickly deploy it. I always have one clipped on my pocket. You can leave it off, but if something doesn't feel right you can quickly shine a bright light at it. Where I live, I'm probably shining a light at some raccoon or opossum sniffing around my chicken coops, but city folks or even surburban folks might end up scaring off a larger predator of the two-legged variety. Somebody who means you harm at night is looking to ambush somebody and get away unseen. Getting a bright light shined on them, followed by a confident and stern "stop" behind that light, they've certainly lost the element of surprise, and that might very well just be enough deterrence on its own. If somebody doesn't stop, then you've accomplished identifying your target, and established that force might be necessary. Weapon lights are good, but having a light separate from that which you can use to look around, while your gun stays in its holster, is generally a good idea. I think of it like the floodlights I have around my home, on motion sensor. Anybody comes in range (it's always deer, lol) the whole outside of my house lights up like a Christmas tree. Somebody trying to get in has to know that they're going to be seen the whole time they're figuring out their best way in. And if I'm coming home at night, when my vehicle gets into the driveway I know for sure nobody's lurking around there in the dark and nobody's recently gone inside.
The one time Wild Bill Hickock sat facing the wall he got shot in the back. I always remembered that story and I always sit with my back facing the wall.
She is like the GIRL SCOUT OF MY DREAMS ! WELL DONE !
Wow. So refreshing to hear a female's take on self-protection. I wish my nieces could all watch this video. Refuse to be a victim. Excellent advise, thank you.
I love how you always give a little reminders sometimes we just need that because we get too comfortable. Thank you
Wile seated anyplace you need to be able to see all outside doors if possible, restrooms, cash register and your car. Why the restrooms? A lot of times criminals will go to the rest room first to put on a disguise plus you can see them if your wife, husband or kids use them. I have carried for decades and have found this to be very helpful in giving me an edge.
Good information. Thank you. I bought my first gun because of you. I am 64 and I really enjoy learning protection ideas. Thank you!!! When my husband leaves the car I lock the door until he returns. I keep my head on a swivel while he is gone.
Looking at shadows can also detect people on the street. Don't round blind corners close to the corner, keep enough distance so if someone is waiting to jump you, you have space to react.
Excellent tips! RECOMMENDATIONS: (1) Instead of Pom pepper spray, carry Sabre Red Crossfire OC stream. It’s just as effective, but the Crossfire version allows the canister to discharge the OC while the canister is held from any angle. The Sabre Red MK-3 canister also contains a greater volume of OC. (2) Clip onto your clothing (e.g., a belt loop or draw string) a She’s Birdie personal safety alarm. When activated, it will emit a 130 dB siren and a flashing strobe light. (This should be a “must have” item if you like jogging alone through the woods.). 👍
This reminds me of how effective tactical flashlights are at night. Super bright with a strobe pointed directly at your face at night can be real disorienting. And the period of disorientation buys time to respond. As far as i'm aware, they don't need any kind of permit to carry anywhere.
@@nate2838 A flashlight is a defensive weapon even little kids can legally carry. People overlook how valuable they can be at just deterring violence.
Another safety issue unrelated to guns: My aunt is very short and pulls the seat of her car very close to the steering wheel. During an accident, the airbag deployed and stuck her from the bottom of the chin--pushing it up. This caused her head to over rotate backward and hurting her cervical spine. She recovered. What has she done since? She has gotten pedal extensions for her car. Now she can sit at a safe distance from the wheel (which IS adjustable / telescopic).
Using windows as mirrors, that was a good reminder.
Yessssss . . . using windows as mirrors!! I have always done that.
As a kid my neighbor and I were sitting and talking in his Trans am out in front of his house. His door opens and a knife is placed around his throat. Both of us freaked. Ended up it was one of our neighbors high as a kite and trying to teach us a lesson. Since then, I have always locked my doors as soon as I get in the car. Great advice Stav!
All great tips, and these things become second nature over time. One thing that makes women so vulnerable is their obsession with their phone. A predator will pass on a woman who is aware, because the easy targets are everywhere. One bitter subject for some people is whether you have an obligation to be a hero. You should think about this before the question clouds your judgement during an event. For me personally, my training and preparedness is only for myself and those in my party.
A little paranoia never hurt. I use just about every tip you talked about.
“The eyes are the window to the soul but the hands are the window to the intent.” -Active Self Protection (Thought of this when you mentioned looking at peoples’ hands.)
ASP is a great channel. I save and watch it all the time.
As an apparent fellow somewhat petite person...THANK YOU for showing the wait while the seat shifts forward so you can even reach the brake and accelerator pedals! Hello. It's a thing. I need to be more vigilant with IMMEDIATELY locking the doors. So easy to get complacent. Thanks for the tip about using windows as mirrors! I definitely need to be more aware! And for being aware of peoples' hands.
Totally agree that locking the doors of the car immediately after entering the car is being very proactive and safe. I once had a guy jump into the back seat of my car soon after I got in my car because he thought I was the Uber ride he was waiting for. It was dark and rainy and he obviously mistook my car as being his ride. It was a very intense situation when it initially happened because I pulled my Glock 19 on him and he freaked out. Fortunately for both of us it was just an innocent mix up that could have gone bad very quickly had cooler heads not prevailed.
How did you aim the gun at him? Did you twist your body?
I bet it was the last time he just jumped into a car before he checked to be sure it was his ride. 😀
Good tips. Ive been to some dangerous countries and havnt had a major problem. Its so important to watch peoples eyes and being aware of people around you like you expertly mentioned. If your walking down the street and you see someone looking at you its best to look in their eyes for a second and let them know you are aware of them. Its not in a threatening way. When people are up to something they will start glancing at eachother and you should be watching and notice them. And when they see you are aware they will likely let you pass and wait for someone with their head buried in their phone. If you have kids you should be aware of whos watching you and around you and following you. I live in a small town with our shopping centers next to the interstate and criminals like these areas because their is nice people here and can snatch someone and be 20 miles down the road and change cars before the cops are even called.
Good tips Stav a lot of people have no situational awareness. Get off your phones not only will it keep you safer, it will remind you that there is more around you than meets the eye good and bad.
I only use ATM machines that are built into the wall of a bank. As I approach I make sure all windows are up, all doors locked. Circle the building slowly looking for hiding places. Pull up to the ATM / wall so close to it that the skinniest person won’t fit between my vehicle and the wall. If I’m on my motorcycle I park it to the right side of the lane (6 to 8 feet away from the ATM) and quickly get off of the bike to deal with the ATM while my helmeted head is constantly scanning. Sitting on a non- moving motorcycle is a vulnerable position to ambush. If this all sounds paranoid to you then you don’t know anyone who has been killed at an ATM.
I am so glad I found your channel, my wife suffers from PTSD from an attack she received some years ago,I'm always trying to teach her about situational awareness and self defense but coming from me it's hard to relate to her the importance of being able to be aware of her surroundings in a way that gives her more confidence, and I believe that your videos will be of help. So thank you and stay safe, peace.
I do carry everyday, my wife is afraid of guns, afraid to go to shooting range, afraid to hold it, even tho her dad was in the army for years. I've seen her many times not paying attention on surroundings, I ask: "did you see that old couple in the car waiving to our daughter and smiling?" she responds as, which couple which car when? ugh. My eyes are around everytime we go somewhere, but I wish my wife could pay more attention to surroundings too, especially when our year and a half daughter brings so much attention to strangers.
This was a very good video for those who support gun control. This video showed how gun owners try to be more aware of reasons not to use there gun than to use it. I support education not restrictions about firearms.
Good advice as always. Watching the hands is first, then I like to scan waistbands to see what someone might be carrying. As a martial artist, I also learned not to watch the eyes once a person got close because a good fighter will fool you with his eyes. A loose center mass focus will let you see from the toes to the forehead & body position will tell you as much as the eyes but with less chance of deception.
“Rock paper scissors to see who gets the good seat.” 😂🤣😂🤣
We sit side by side so we can both see. 💯
Just like my kiddos and the front seat lo
Me again. Absolutely outstanding content, Stav. What you explain about tactical awareness is hugely important. Predators have a strong preference for those amongst the sheep who appear unaware. The mere appearance of being aware of one's surroundings is a deterrent. Keep your phone in you pocket. Do not wear earbuds. Do not dilly dally.
My niece just bought her first concealed carry pistol, and I went shopping with her when she picked out her belly band. I recommended your channel to her and was happy that she had already been watching your videos. You are making a difference! Keep it up :)
Great video! One thing to also keep in mind is while some newer vehicles auto lock when you shift into drive, they also auto unlock when you shift into park. This is especially important to be aware of these days when you may be stopped during a riot/protest/civil unrest. If your vehicle is running and in park, your doors might also be unlocked.
Lock/unlock settings can be changed in the setup. I didn't want the car to unlock when in park due to the safety concerns.
Oh wow yes my old car i couldnt lock til it was out of park. So id have to rush get in put in drive n lock my doors. Glad i no longer own that car.
My dad is a correctional officer so ever since I was little he has lovingly drilled self defense tactics into my head. Sitting facing the door is a big one and even before I started to carry I did it. Definitely something I would always recommend someone consider. Never thought to check hands though, that's a good one!
I do the same for my 7 year old daughter. I hope she remembers it when she grows up.
@@jeffgreer198613 just stick with her "training" over the years and I'm sure she will. It's an amazing memory I have with be my father even though at the time I wasn't completely sure why he was teaching me things.
@@jeffgreer198613 Yeah, just keep reinforcing it. Have her count exits when she goes into a room. It'll become second nature to always look for them. Have her count how many people are wearing t-shirts, vs. button shirts, like it's a game. Keep it fun. How many hats? Does she know without having to look around again? How many people with glasses? Are there more men or more women? Have her point out fire extinguishers and AEDs, too. When she gets older, and understands more about the world, she'll already have those built-in observational skills, and can apply it to other things. And kids learn by example. With mine, I just sort of talk about what I'm seeing, what I'm thinking, just in daily life as we go around, and I include those sorts of observations I'm making to keep us safe and able to best respond to things. That way they know I consider it important to notice stuff like that. They hear me say it, see what I'm looking at, and remember all the other times I did the same. When they notice things before I do, and mention it, they get rewarded with praise at having beaten me.
We're homeschooling, so this is a 24/7 kind of thing for us. When we go camping, we talk about navigation, how not to get lost, how to survive if we do. How important fire safety is, and how to put one out, while we're at the campfire. In the kitchen making meals, we talk about burns and how to treat them, or how to stop a bleed if we cut ourselves with a knife. We talk about the Heimlich maneuver when we're eating our lunch as a family, and CPR is a natural progression from that, as is bursting out singing "Stayin' Alive" as a family (which is the right tempo for chest compressions, by the way). There's always things to learn, that can help them be safe, be aware of their surroundings, and what to do in an emergency. The most valuable skill in an emergency is remaining calm, and calmness comes from knowing what to do. When people don't know what to do in an unexpected situation, they panic, and make bad decisions. I can't shield them from every danger, and leave them ignorant and vulnerable. I can just give them the confidence to handle those dangers, and prepare themselves for as many things as possible.
These tips are great to also say out loud to your kids if they're with you, so they start doing them instinctually.
I am so oblivious to my surroundings. I used to like being in my bubble. Thank you for the tips I will start to implement them.
Use distance.
I have 3 small children. Thankfully with grocery pickup, we’re not in stores as often. But if we are, we have a routine every SINGLE TIME we are in public. Everyone sits (or rides on) the buggy in the exact same seats, and gets in and out of the van at the trunk area so one door is open and I’m in total control of each child.
Another thing about safety is, my children are well disciplined. They know they’re not allowed under ANY circumstances to argue, beg, have fits, walk away from me, or touch things when we’re out. Mama needs to be completely aware of our surroundings and on guard to protect them.
I don’t scare them, but it’s real. I see parents allowing their children to trail 6 ft behind them while looking at their phone and I’m terrified for that child!
Thanks, I never thought about looking at hands. I will have to practice doing that. It makes total sense.
Definitely a good habit!
That's something I never really thought of. Also I try to be the grey man. I try not to draw attention to myself. There is a book about how to be a grey man.
@@karlvanrooyen7402, I will have to check that book out.
People that know me think I am some kind of psychic ninja or something. They never know how I know they are behind me or off out of direct sight. I always check reflections and shadows and track patterns of behavior. It blows my mind how so many people are oblivious out in public. I am dodging shopping carts every time I go to the grocery store.
I often use playing with my phone as cover for my hyper-attentiveness. I don't look like the kind of person who takes a lot of selfies? You're right, I'm not. I'm looking at the guy behind me.
Ha! Me too! The cell phone can be a great tool.
Nice idea
I do the same ... make it appear as though I'm focused on my phone when I'm actually peripherally assessing someone suspicious nearby.
I preach all the time to my kids watch your surroundings when you're driving when you're walking always watch your surroundings be aware of what's going on around you
Situational Awareness (SA) becomes a mindset, something you almost do sub-consciously. Check for exits. Look for anything "going on." Sit in the proper seat. Park under a light. Lock the car doors. Scan the area when entering or exiting a building/room/parking area. Make it a habit and it becomes second-nature. Great video Stav.
Yes, I do everything you suggest. I pay special attention when I'm at a restaurant, the gas pump, shopping centers, and church.
Fabulous video. Being a former fire fighter exits are my first priority. I have always looked for the best view at a eatery. I have a fobia of people sneaking up on me.
Simple, common sense advice here, Sue.
You would think this stuff goes without saying, but that is not the case.
I watch all the people around me when I am out and about.
1. I see just how vulnerable most people are.
2. By doing this, I am practicing my own situational awareness.
Excellent video! I especially like the part about “advertising “ that you are a defender. Be the gray man/woman.
I was just commenting on a post about advertising, or NOT advertising that you have guns or are an advocate of carrying. I joined the NRA a few years ago and they sent me a few stickers to put on my cars. Umm,,,, No. That just opens me or anyone driving those vehicles to potential trouble. If I were to tell everyone I know I have lots of weapons in my home, that would be an invitation for potential thefts. How would you feel if your guns were stolen and the cops should up asking about a murder your gun was linked to. Silent but deadly,,, that's what is really happening.....
@@timplummer8995 On the flip side, when a would be attacker sees a lady with 2A/NRA shirt on, he might change his mind and back off.
@@timplummer8995 -- I think the idea of concealed carry is that no one knows but you.
@@jamesw4445 TOTALLY Disagree - the attacker knows that the 2A/NRA shirt granny is the only clear threat so takes her out first. Then attacker expects the intimidated sheep to line-up. The BEST case scenario is that the attacker *assumes* that some unadvertised granny is NO threat, treats her like a common sheeple - then is dramatically surprised at exactly the WRONG moment. Not advertising your force capability is a VERY serious advantage. Giving this info away for free is for dum-dum macho types. - IOW *bad* tactic.
Tip #1, When unlocking your car to get in only hit the door open button 1 time. Hitting it more than once opens the passenger door also allowing people to enter from the other side. Thugs use this method for car jacking all the time.
I always lock my car along with starting the car when I get in just in case I have to haul ass away from someone or something. I also like to look in windows but I also look around every once in a while to let people know I’m aware of my surroundings. Great video girl
I don't know why, but I always did all of these things, even as a kid. I always wanted the seat to watch people come in and out. As I got older, I mentioned this to my parents, and they were stunned that I was looking out for their safety like that. They never even noticed before that I always took the seat facing the door. In public my head is always on a swivel. I do look at reflective surfaces a lot. I always know where the exits are, and beyond that, I know which cardinal directions are where, like I'm some kind of homing pigeon. Always had a good sense of direction. I pay attention to landmarks, and how I've moved in relation to them. I know where I am, and where I need to go to get myself to my car, or get to home, or just get out. I always make note of where the exits are on the outsides of commercial buildings (those exit-only crash bar doors), as I'm going in, so I have some idea of where I'll be when I come out of one of them, and won't be disoriented if I do. I'll know what's around there, where that is relative to where I came from. And I always people watch. I feel it's given me a good understanding of human behavior, what kind of mood they're in, what sorts of things they're doing, and this naturally extends to assessing threats. I'm never the guy staring at his phone in public. I'm the guy staring (not in a creepy obvious way) at everyone else while they stare at their phones. Over the years, I've found that the number of people looking around, and noticing that I'm even there, has decreased steadily. People are really becoming so clueless. It must be so easy to be a pickpocket now, or some kind of stalker.
Sitting with your back to a corner is called the gunfighter's seat.
I love how you advise not to ignore things like a balled up fist or knife in a hand. It’s amazing how many people ignore violent body language. I wonder how much of that comes down to our cognitive biases.
Great video today Stav! Taking the camera along was a much better way to illustrate situational awareness. Plus, the example of a second amendment shirt wearing guy came up too. Nicely done.
Very good info. I lock my car when I pump gas. I even lock my Car when I return the shopping cart. Small thing, but it gives me peace of mind.
THANK YOU! I'm always telling the gals in my life how important situational awareness is...
Have to watch "Shane" with actor Allen Ladd. Classic cowboy movie always sat with back to wall. You will enjoy.
I've been meaning to watch that movie for decades.
Hi, Stav. you left out one of the most important things: Always, Always. Always. check the back seat BEFORE you get into a car!
Another quick tip. Before entering or exiting your car make a quick 360 degree visual sweep around your car. If there are people nearby that make you feel nervous you can either drive away or walk back into the store or public place and ask for help.
Will be sharing with my millennial children, all girls. Nice to have you repeat everything I've been saying. Dad isn't paranoid, he's safe.
Keep up the great work. Thank you!
My girlfriend and I have also discussed creating a distraction to allow us to get out of a bad situation. If I can't draw my CW I want us to extricate ourselves and not become hostages so we've agreed that one of use would start yelling at the other to create a scene of two love birds fighting. As we scream at each other we just make our way to the exit and get out. Bad guys are not going to want anything to do with us. And, we simply ignore the bad guy or guys as we make our exit. Situational awareness is very important as you have pointed out, but you also need an exit plan in mind before you actually need it. Nice video.
Great Situational Awareness video, Stav! I might also suggest walking around your entire car before entering it, especially parked at home where one's defenses are often lowered. You can better fully inspect the interior BEFORE getting in with someone hiding in the backseat.
The things you say are the same things I do & tell others! I work in Law Enforcement... I NEVER sit with my back to the crowd... anywhere I go! I'm always aware of what's going on or if anyone coming up from behind or to my sides! I'm always looking for the exits, or if people are getting too loud or too excited, when there's no good reason for it! NOT scared or paranoid, just want to be aware & make sure my family is safe if we're out as a group!
Great video, been married to my lovely bride for almost 40 yrs., just got her and my 2 grown daughters the LTC here in Texas. Been working on they're situational awareness but falling on deaf ears. You might be able to help, love seeing your every day carry, maybe I can convince them with your video it can happen and look good. Thanks again
Thank you so much for this video. I'm slowly convincing my wife to carry, specially during her photography jobs in weird areas.
Right now she's in the process of overcoming the "scary" aspect of guns. Baby steps, no rushing.
My husband wants me to carry… I just started looking at guns…because of a crazy hostile guy approaching me leaving my moms house.. I WAS MAD OF MYSELF BECAUSE I DIDN’T LISTEN TO MY HUBBY BUT EVEN MORE NOTHING in MY PURSE FOR PROTECTION… So shopping We Go…Was also very scary hope your wife reads this and it helps her. I was scary to carry too but NO MORE.
Whether you carry or not, this is great info for everyone to practice!
Situational Awareness. Where you sit in a restaurant or enclosed area. If you feel uncomfortable in any scenario, just follow that sense and stay even more on the alert. I never liked narrow corridors, 1 way through or too narrow for immediate defense movement. Excellent video.
I really do like and enjoy your videos, because you are articulate in sharing your valuable knowledge. I agree with you about locking your car door as soon as you get in. I made that a habit some time ago.
So important! Thanks for watching, Gene :) I'm so glad you're enjoying my videos
Same here, also lock it when you pull up to get gas then get out iso only the driver door is unlocked. I've seen videos of people stealing from an unlocked car while pumping gas. Great video and tips.
@@tomdixon2959 My filler is on the passenger side on one car and the rear in another. I just make it a habit to lock all the doors when I get out to pump gas.
@@tomdixon2959 Some years ago, our daughter stopped for gas coming home from work after dark. She always prepaid with cash inside instead of at the pump. Rag top Geo Tracker, doors locked. After she came out and pumped gas on driver's side, she discovered when getting back in car that her purse had been stolen from the passenger seat. Thief had cut plastic rear side window with a knife, reached in and unlocked front door, and made off with purse. Lost and had to replace all her personal IDs and cards. Major pain. If you leave purse in car, put it on the floor with a dark shirt over it.
I agree and do all of these tips! Especially locking my doors at night or not. I live in a small city where gun crimes are random but very active and in a state where sex trafficking is very high. I also like to look under my car while I’m walking towards it. In the daylight it’s obviously easier but at night I’ll park by a parking lot lamp if accessible. Then when I’m walking out of the store to my car I look under it while I’m a long distance away so it’s easier and less obvious. I read a news article that while a woman had stopped to get gas a man had climbed under her car to grab her ankles or whatever. The gas station attendant tried to warn her in a less suspicious way. The attendant told her, her card was declined. Being shocked she was then able to receive the message and was able to stay safe. So I always look now.
Love the fact that you can take care of yourself. The modern woman. I appreciate that you are helping all of us to know how to properly protect our self's when we go out.
Thanks for the pointers. I will start practicing what you tell us. Stay safe okay.
One time I was walking at an outdoor mall and I had an uneasy feeling that this guy was following me. I had my phone in my hand and I flipped the screen to be in selfie mode then I started talking as if I was talking to someone and I slowly raised my phone so I could see the guy behind me and it took a minute but he realized I had his face on my screen. He looked surprised for a minute and then he quickly went into a store, never saw him again. Thanks for this video and all your videos!
Love this channel. Its been super helpful and def a great resource for so many safety things💜Thank you !
I like these tips, Stav! Great job on this one. So many little things we don’t really think about or pay attention to.
The door locking as soon as You get in is the first thing you should do! Excellent tip!
Sfax- thank you for the topic today, the SA is a topic that is often overlooked and the hardest thing that I’ve had to teach my wife. If you pay attention to your surroundings you probably will not get yourself in trouble. You and Mac have a great channel.
Regarding looking at people's hands: as they teach over on Active Self Protection, the eyes are the windows to the soul, but the hands are the windows to intent. Looking at the hands is good advice.
Choosing a seat: I always choose the best view of the room. Preferably, I like sitting in the back, furthest from the door.
I served 4 years in the military and we know situational awareness is very important. I am always looking at peoples hands,it's automatic.
Good tips. Good point about shirts that advertise certain things. Best to go "gray mode". I always wear a plain Tshirt of polo that has no writing or ads on it. I often notice a lot of people get in their car and sit and look at their phone instead of driving off. Not good, especially in a crowded parking lot.
Great tips that everyone needs to remind
themselves of.
Thanks!
Being cautious and safe is always prudent. Spending your life awaiting an armed intruder or car jacking or mugging is a recipe for anxiety , and paranoia. Unless you live in a high crime area or are in a dangerous profession these recommendations create fear of minimal risks. The chance of dying being struck by lightning or dying in a car crash is infinitely higher. Balanced rational and data driven safety measures should be employed
As an aside I love this youtube channel and appreciate Stav (greek is good) She is the best resource for neophyte firearm enthusiasts.
Truly appreciate these tips and being aware of our surroundings. And I seriously need that holster you have! ❤
BRAVO, BRAVO, BRAVO!!!! I rate this video an 'A'!!!!
So many videos and "self defense" trainings for women are so BS for what women really need, but your video is one I'd recommend any woman watch! So many of the points you made I would've recommended too!!
A few notes:
1) Excellent job looking stylish while being fully equipped with your EDC. A lot of women are concerned about their looks or appearance, but your presentation shows how you can be fully equipped and not compromise your appearance.
2) The tip I LOVE the most is using windows to be aware of your surroundings. I would suggest expanding that to using "reflective surfaces". I use any reflective surface to scan my surroundings. The window or door panel of a car, some building walls are nicely reflective with marble or granite.
3) Great job not carrying you pepper spray, knife and gun in your purse/backpack. Too many women think they can get to their gun in their purse in time. Doesn't work with a criminal snatches your purse, now he's armed and you're not..
4) I agree it is bad to advertise!!! Some people think advertising you may have a gun would be a deterrent and for some it's an ego thing, but it just gives away your tactical advantage. If a criminal doesn't know you are armed, he may underestimate your ability and you can counter-ambush. If a criminal does know you're armed, he may just straight up shoot you so he doesn't take chances and then he'll take what you have.
Love this Stav!! I have recommended your channel and videos to SO many friends.
I would love to know if you have any self defense tips for kids, or moms who are out with kids. It was my main reason to start carrying and definitely affects my choices and awareness when out and about.
We do some practicing with my kids and my gun so they know what to do if my hand is on it, and have some code words for our family. I would love to see any videos done by you or friends of yours (online or in real life) to address the unique aspects of self defense with and around children. Or tips to teach
children. I have seen enough comments on your videos to believe that there are many other viewers who would also appreciate that! Thanks Stav!
I second the request 👍