I have to appreciate Drew, I remember when he started, it felt more like assisting, asking questions, now he's like a full on host, he drives the conversation, he's got so much more confidence and knowledge!
How do we accept our feelings? A lot of people says to accept whatever negative feeling we have towards a lover, a friend, a family member etc, but no one actually explained how to embrace those feelings and push through.
Happiness is an over-used state of being. We're responsible for creating our own "happiness". If we can't generate it from within, we can't expect it to come from without.
honestly this was more philosophical and much wanted , tbh i like ur content for philosphy and psychology . pls give us more valuable episodes older ones were bit drag. as a years long fan, we would love if you talk about existentialism, and mundaneless of life
35:45 But everything is all about the packaging-even the whole self-development industry. At least (let's say) 80% of what we hear is not profound. We just need people and books to remind us of what is good for us, to keep moving forward and becoming the best versions of ourselves...and Drew, I totally get what you mean based on the book. The way I got it is that life can be much more fun and happy when you put in a conscious effort daily to constantly explore new adventures, people, and activities, no matter how boring it may sound or how many times you've travelled or done something similar. Consistently putting in the effort every day to find something interesting in anything can also lead you to a happy place... like trying to see something interesting in sitting alone in a room, xD. I hope I didn't sound too vague either!
31 here, and knee deep in the crisis coming out of phase 2. I'm a software engineer who can't choose a subfields to focus on, and keeps applying to jobs in other areas, and then backing out, and doing personal projects related to... a ton of different stuff. Feels like I'm just spinning my wheels. I also have phases where I get obsessed with the idea of working in some other completely unrelated field. Same with hobbies - my main hobby is music, but I play 5 different instruments and can't focus on one or two. And I keep randomly getting obsessed with completely unrelated things. I feel awful about it all time time, because I'm not really good at anything, and I know I just need to choose something, but... it's so hard. Luckily, I'm pretty secure in my relationship, so that's something at least.
I have similar problem but pointed in other direction. I am keenly aware of what is going on in the world. For years now, and I think it made me a very unhappy person. So where is this border between engaging in things that are important, but you ultimately feel you have no impact on, and just not giving a fuck about anything.
I feel like all I do in life is work, commute, cook, grocery shop, clean, yard work, and desperately try to fit in a workout. Where's there room for any level of meaning or happiness? I miss my friends, my hobbies, the sun, but I don't know how to cut back on any of these things, especially as the cost of living goes up. Please tell me there's more to life than this.
Uou nice. About the first minutes, as long im aware of what im feeling when i start doomscrooling, i will reallly quick getting bored of it. At least for me it feels like so much subjects are going in my direction, i feel excited, and then seconds after i forgot what was it. And this for me is frustrating, and glad it is, cause is the reason i will never be addicted to social media. Another important thing i noticed is that some people use it to "relax". If something can relax you like reading or a massage, you will get sleepy. You hardly get sleepy while on instagram, so its not really relaxing you, just distracting you, and is not the same thing. is my opinion
I really appreciate what you put on your podcast. I look forward to it from time to time. I'v been following you and reading your newsletters, Mark. I love your straightforwardness to every topic and I feel the same on a certain topics. You and Drew are the best team on this podcast. Thank you! ❤ from The Philippines! Anyway, Drew, I'm single 😂😂😂
The '4 stages' was one of mt favourite articles from way-back-when. I can certainly appreciate the awkward of 'such I be invested in this Conflict or Cause, blah blah blah' but my uncle thought is as kids what he called 'Eamonns Law: the 3 states of Does It matter: There are things you HEAR about. Things you THINK about. And things you CARE about Don't confuse the 3. Sure the struggles in East Yemen or North Macedonia, matter but you only HEAR about them. You might even THINK about them. Is it really smart or right for you or me in Suburbia to Care them though? 🤔
I also feel like I get annoyed by social media, news, etc. much faster these days. I think this is partly because the internet is kind of dying. Every social media is either trying to serve some super generic memes or manipulate me in some way and it gets pretty boring.
Of course not. You can commit to many diffrent things. Maybe for you"settling down" is dedicating yourself to your passion or career. It's all about choosing what you really want in life
Hmm... For me personal it's probably both. After shitty experience not that I became sadder, but it became hard to smile, and so the existential crisis left its scars, and now it just seems to me that I died at 23, but I will be buried when my body dies physically.
Love the discussion and I wonder how much of the four stages could be split between professional and personal life. I.e. I feel like I'm in Stage 3 for my professional life (I'm very committed to my work which I love) and Stage 2 for my personal life (still finding the hobby to commit to, the person to settle down with etc.)
I have to appreciate Drew, I remember when he started, it felt more like assisting, asking questions, now he's like a full on host, he drives the conversation, he's got so much more confidence and knowledge!
the fact that nobody talks about Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood speaks volumes about how people are stuck in trance
How do we accept our feelings? A lot of people says to accept whatever negative feeling we have towards a lover, a friend, a family member etc, but no one actually explained how to embrace those feelings and push through.
Happiness is an over-used state of being. We're responsible for creating our own "happiness". If we can't generate it from within, we can't expect it to come from without.
honestly this was more philosophical and much wanted , tbh i like ur content for philosphy and psychology . pls give us more valuable episodes older ones were bit drag. as a years long fan, we would love if you talk about existentialism, and mundaneless of life
35:45 But everything is all about the packaging-even the whole self-development industry. At least (let's say) 80% of what we hear is not profound. We just need people and books to remind us of what is good for us, to keep moving forward and becoming the best versions of ourselves...and Drew, I totally get what you mean based on the book. The way I got it is that life can be much more fun and happy when you put in a conscious effort daily to constantly explore new adventures, people, and activities, no matter how boring it may sound or how many times you've travelled or done something similar. Consistently putting in the effort every day to find something interesting in anything can also lead you to a happy place... like trying to see something interesting in sitting alone in a room, xD. I hope I didn't sound too vague either!
31 here, and knee deep in the crisis coming out of phase 2. I'm a software engineer who can't choose a subfields to focus on, and keeps applying to jobs in other areas, and then backing out, and doing personal projects related to... a ton of different stuff. Feels like I'm just spinning my wheels. I also have phases where I get obsessed with the idea of working in some other completely unrelated field. Same with hobbies - my main hobby is music, but I play 5 different instruments and can't focus on one or two. And I keep randomly getting obsessed with completely unrelated things. I feel awful about it all time time, because I'm not really good at anything, and I know I just need to choose something, but... it's so hard. Luckily, I'm pretty secure in my relationship, so that's something at least.
I think Periphery in the intro is what got me hooked with this podcast
I have similar problem but pointed in other direction. I am keenly aware of what is going on in the world. For years now, and I think it made me a very unhappy person.
So where is this border between engaging in things that are important, but you ultimately feel you have no impact on, and just not giving a fuck about anything.
37:08 My favorite part 😂 I was watching it seriously until Mark started making fun of it lol.
Drew's been on a roll in this one🤣🤣 nice episode
The Subtle Art of Not Being in Focus
I feel like all I do in life is work, commute, cook, grocery shop, clean, yard work, and desperately try to fit in a workout. Where's there room for any level of meaning or happiness? I miss my friends, my hobbies, the sun, but I don't know how to cut back on any of these things, especially as the cost of living goes up. Please tell me there's more to life than this.
I feel you. I feel the same.
I resonate with this so much, I am in transition as welli am in stage 3 but transitioning within stage 3... And it has nothing to do with age.
Uou nice. About the first minutes, as long im aware of what im feeling when i start doomscrooling, i will reallly quick getting bored of it. At least for me it feels like so much subjects are going in my direction, i feel excited, and then seconds after i forgot what was it.
And this for me is frustrating, and glad it is, cause is the reason i will never be addicted to social media.
Another important thing i noticed is that some people use it to "relax". If something can relax you like reading or a massage, you will get sleepy. You hardly get sleepy while on instagram, so its not really relaxing you, just distracting you, and is not the same thing.
is my opinion
I really appreciate what you put on your podcast. I look forward to it from time to time. I'v been following you and reading your newsletters, Mark.
I love your straightforwardness to every topic and I feel the same on a certain topics. You and Drew are the best team on this podcast. Thank you!
❤ from The Philippines! Anyway, Drew, I'm single 😂😂😂
Love your conversation about psychologically rich life 😂
all of your videos click with the things I've been reading in the book 'Magnetic Aura', warm recommendation to everyone
The '4 stages' was one of mt favourite articles from way-back-when. I can certainly appreciate the awkward of 'such I be invested in this Conflict or Cause, blah blah blah' but my uncle thought is as kids what he called 'Eamonns Law: the 3 states of Does It matter:
There are things you HEAR about.
Things you THINK about.
And things you CARE about
Don't confuse the 3.
Sure the struggles in East Yemen or North Macedonia, matter but you only HEAR about them. You might even THINK about them.
Is it really smart or right for you or me in Suburbia to Care them though? 🤔
😂 This episode is superb. 👏👏👏 Thanks for the great content everyone 👍🎉🌟
I also feel like I get annoyed by social media, news, etc. much faster these days. I think this is partly because the internet is kind of dying. Every social media is either trying to serve some super generic memes or manipulate me in some way and it gets pretty boring.
@@cnxrogueone Yeah, I mostly did. I am pretty much on youtube only now.
Is it crucial to have kids in life? or we can move on to 3rd stage in different ways?
Of course not. You can commit to many diffrent things. Maybe for you"settling down" is dedicating yourself to your passion or career. It's all about choosing what you really want in life
yes !!! Just be :) !!!
perfect timing
do we become more sad after growing old or the world becomes more boring because theres not many new things left?
Hmm... For me personal it's probably both. After shitty experience not that I became sadder, but it became hard to smile, and so the existential crisis left its scars, and now it just seems to me that I died at 23, but I will be buried when my body dies physically.
i don't understand why Drew is single....
Hahaha hippie Drew was pretty funny
Love the discussion and I wonder how much of the four stages could be split between professional and personal life.
I.e. I feel like I'm in Stage 3 for my professional life (I'm very committed to my work which I love) and Stage 2 for my personal life (still finding the hobby to commit to, the person to settle down with etc.)
Clip this #FckOfTheWeek at 30:58
Please write a new book !!! I will buy it i