@Str8 Shooter That's great, I am with a potential but thinking should I actually stay or leave because on paper he's a good man, but pockets are full. Honestly I am thinking hard what to do.
funny how you said they'll come at you negatively and unprovoked.... and they a dusty starts swearing at you and cussing. Lol. Stay proving your point.
Real Talk baby, fret not ! Dusty’s like yourself are not a target. We do Alphas around here. A protector, and provider. Not a simp whose on a WOMENS chat. No Alpha has time to be abusing women verbally on the net, they are too busy getting the bag. Go back to your alpha FEMALE boss and ask HER for a raise and extra vacation time cuz you seem stressed. Being broke is rough.
Only 2 genders Word. When yrs ago after I broke up the x said „You still owe me money!“ (it was ridiculous, maybe 100€) I said: „Did I charge you my sexual services?“ Never heard from him again!!! 👌🏼😂😂😂
@Only 2 genders Adult book stores are still selling toys if y men need to save money f dates. In addition, online stores such as Adam and Even f v day are giving $30 free dollars in mystery gifts when y use the word dog after f spend $50. I find theses store great if y need to save on dating, done dating, or just want to play it safe w all the viruses going around in the world this day and age. Personally, I am afraid to kiss after all theses virsues , herps, hep A and ect.
This is why OUR Mothers told us to be able to be alone. If you can’t have what you want be ALONE. I may take time but use that alone time to level all the way up.
Milk Marie I’m beginning to feel this way a lot. It’s annoying and frustrating dealing with a man that doesn’t meet my standards and doesn’t want to provide or protect
@@bluediamond4895 same. I can't be around people who are going to be pissed at me for making better life choices than they did. It's like, you had the same chance I did. tough!
I feel like society has a hidden agenda to push women in the bob the builder and pickmeisha direction; for example, last time when I went shopping all I saw were brown, gray, black formless clothes, no way could I find body fitting clothes in feminine colors with cute details. It was like all the fashion is designed for 'workhorses' instead of elegant women. BTW I like your outfit and make-up in this video, it's very soft and elegant.
I noticed a shift in fashion 4 years ago. I used to see bright, beautiful jewel tone tops, dresses and handbags. Also Instagram started the pale crop tops, big sneakers and athletic wear. Ugh!
@Str8 Shooter Where I'm living women wear nothing else than those leggings with sneakers or jeans. Indeed, 'gender neutral' is a perfect description :-)
It's always the working woman that sides with dusty men thinking it's gonna attract them. In reality it just makes them one of the guys and not a wife.
Omg this chick I know posted some bs about how women who want a man to provide more for them than they can provide for themselves are "abusive". I had to put a laughing emoji and keep it moving. She is an overweight, unattractive, masculine workhorse type.
90% of women are working even part time. To afford a house especially where I live it takes 2 incomes. You act like working is not normal. Like its a sin lol. Nothing worse than a lazy moocher regardless of gender.
"What if the D is too good?" Eventually you are going to get tired of just "good d" and you will want more than what he is willing to give. Then resentment and breakup will kick in. Now you've just wasted your precious time when you could have been with someone with good money...
Some women think it's "selfish" to ask for or expect more from a man. That frame of mind, I'd never understand. After all, isn't it usually the man that do the pursuing? So apparently, he sees someone worth working for and being financially responsible towards. Thus, of course she's deserving and there's NOTHING selfish about it...that's just how it is.
They pushed this independent woman ish when women wanted the OPTION of working so that we wouldn't have to be trapped in dysfunctional relationships when men used money to control women. Now some are bitter and gas these Pickmeshas into siding with them. They think they're being cool but men will just use them for a come up.
I think it’s selfish for men to expect women to pay bills, cook and clean, cater, and give head, meanwhile dusty men don’t do anything but take take take.
Dusty Dudes ❤️ Love ❤️ a work mule PickMesha to side with them -so they can get “built up” by her. THEN after 5 years using her up, will go out and get the woman they really want. 😆
Hi Shera,those ladies are what i call" born to suffer " women.it's not even about the looks .I know of drop dead gorgeous feminine looking women who have done this' labour of love in vain....😩😩😩'.These two gorgeous ladies had men at the top flying them around the world,shopping in luxe stores but they blew it up because of a dusty ..Now they bitter,frustrated single moms.with only regrets.
@LBC Ulrica she has the ideal situation quite frankly. He married her for image or to get some other benefit either way depending on long they've been married. She come out better than he will. I would not be working full-time and cleaning up after anyone. Nope she needs a maid. She needs to stop doing those other things period. He doesnt give her money to take care of the household. That's financial abuse.
My godmother is moving from a million dollar house in the hills, to a house around the corner from where the LA riots started in order to save it for her boyfriend who is going to prison.....you’re right some women feel sorry for their long time dusties and will give it all out of emotion🤧
Your videos made me notice my dusty and I cut him RIGHT OFF! He had his hand out all the time . He works his Baby mama like a dog and then he talked bad about right after. I told him about his self and let his ass go!
No offense to the moms who dont know any better, but I wonder if dustiness is brought about by the mother's 1st. I wouldnt work to take care of my grown son. He would need to do that for himself!
No disrespect The Women in the video and women like her..It seems Society has really hit Rock Bottom. Men and Women, Rich and Poor. People out here really just want to bust a nut or gain material possesions Only..Love is dead for many. To me, people like that don't really care for others just some artificial temporary human connection for all the wrong reasons. I don't understand why women are like this and the men are like this. What happened to real love and building families around that. Am I missing something here?
@Laqueentrelle I dont know..playing other people because you got played..i mean they ask to demand more but you still getting played in some way. These type of women seem like its fuck love lets play each other but i want my share. im not blaming women but thats what unhealthy society has boil down to be. And the demand more is ususally something superficial. Real no better. Get a woman to invest in but make sure she invest in you which includes non materialistic shit. fuck all that play the game. lol
Tips for dressing feminine in the winter: wear dresses and skirts with pretty opaque (designs, shimmer etc) stockings/pantyhose with knee or thigh high boots. Wear a coat in a pretty color (no black, brown or taupe) so that you stand out in the crowd and are noticeable. Always wear a pretty hat (decorated with pearls etc) in a pastel or bright color. Also pencil skirts with fitted sweaters. Beautiful scarves or pashminas.
This is VERY TRUE. It’s so sad because this is my own mother. I’ve had the toughest 3 years of my life after a car accident. I leveled up, started dating up and THATS when her claws came out and I was fooled thinking she was a “loving mother”. Trusted her. Now I see the truth. She married a disabled dusty. She started copying me asking her husband for money. He would make all sorts of excuses. You can’t squeeze lemon out of a dried up lemon! Insecure women make the shittiest mothers.
Awakened Soul wow...but girl I remember dating a half dustie he wanted to take care of me he worked threee jobs just to make sure I was happy, BUT HIS MOTHER! Was a jealous vindictive, malicious, overworked woman going 50/50 with her husband she caused soooo many issues in our relationship. I loved him dearly but I had to let that go but it just goes to show you that some pickme mothers are full of hatred smh
It’s so sad how natural it is for so many women to just give without benefitting or receiving in any way, shape or form. The low self esteem gotta go. We in 2020 there’s so many free resources accessible to everyone, there is no longer any type of excuse. Take yourself out of the dating game until you Learn your worth and do better. Smh
Lack of self-love, value, and standards drives people not to learn from their mistakes. They know what the outcome will be, but they’re too weak to walk away.
People are so weird asking about Sheras family.🤪🙃 But I think I know why, they never EXPERIENCED or seen a woman live like this! She is literally a Unicorn 🦄 to these pickme’s! People be thinking I’m lying when I say I’m married have a 22 & a 16 y/o and I don’t work or pay bills.And I look 20!😌 And I’ve been with my spouse since 1997! So they request me from the groups I’m in to see my page! 😴🤣
I been there done that... I am good Bro.. I dont need a roommate, i handle my own in the meantime. Meantime ...working on Me - Body, Mind, Spirit..😀😁👑💎💅
Talking doesn't work for all pickmes. Dustisha said she'd have my provider on the balcony. I blocked her. Besides, she doesn't have cash for the *bus* ride to find me.
O you got woman out here WAITING for a dusty to do him and then eventually come to them. It is disgusting...on a lot of tarot channels theirs always a woman wanting to hear an ex coming back. WTH I wish woman love themselves more
Yes...I completely agree with "flipping the script". Once a woman shows pride and appreciation in her man's efforts (yes...even though we know the man's role is to provide and protect anyway 😉), he would go out of his way to do for her...even IF it means working multiple overtime hours/long hours or having more than one job to do it AND possibly form a side business. It's amazing how a determined and/or ambitious man with work ethic (read, NON-dusty mentality) can make an otherwise "average" socioeconomic lifestyle/level seem above average or even luxurious. The power is in the words and approach of the woman. As a disclaimer, "words and approach" and strategy does not apply to men of dusty mentality or for women who made it their life to keep supporting and "believing in" their dusty husbands for the sake of not feeling stigmatized as a divorcee', or for those still waiting to walk down the aisle as they wear they're engagement rings for the last 2+ years that was given only to keep her quiet about "wanting to get married" or for those STILL expecting a ring from a dusty man-child.
Wow. Lesson I got from this: never live with a man. There can be no domestic violence without agreeing to be domestic, think about it. Did they all live with the man?
@@likemycommentifyouwantareply you're right. I had one try to move in with me. No thanks! He had a bad temper. I'm sure he would've put his hands on me if we lived together
Shera ur rare and it's so refreshing to get advice of non pickmiesha... being that so many women are programmed to think that way we may not agree on everything, but this topic I almost always agree with u 😍😉
I wish I saw your videos 10 years ago before I got married :( would have saved me so much chaos. I am a woman who accepted 50/50, he doesn't respect me at all, he is so mean and cruel at times
When I didn’t work for 8 yrs my husband paid the bills and I was able to shop and buy lots of things his sister and friends would tell him whole lots of shit I remember talking to my friend on phone about a Louie bag I said $1500 wasn’t bad for a bag and she told his sister and she called him to tell him that we got into an argument over it but later on he bought the same bag lol
Don't tell your friends and family your finances, because people get real toxic when they see a sister living life especially if it's the husband that provides. I remember been a house keeper for this lady, she had a very beautiful massive mansion kids and her husband would give her over £3,0000 a mth just for her. I ask her does she buys stuff for the kids, she said no because that's her allowance every mth, and her husband don't want her spending her money on the house or the kids as that's his responsibility. All kids go to private school. But they white, but as soon as a black woman wants to live in her faminity she's a gold digger and the jealously kicks in from our own people. Sad
mel jobson omg so true lve been with my husband for 13 yrs and his sister and aunt told him that taking me and picking me up from work was too much for him smh that’s when we only had one car at the time
Lol...I've ironically explained this to my teenage sons...I told them while they're young, they're going to have fun with girls/young women that aren't worth bringing home to momma to introduce as a serious girlfriend. However, when they find that one woman that they feel they want to marry, they have to be in a position to be able to care for self and potential/future family.
@@oltamehmeti629 I'm not "teaching them" anything in reference to "having fun with certain girls." Before anyone reads more into what I commented than what's actually noted, or choose to look at the comment for what it isn't, the point I'm saying is, when they are truly ready to settle down, they must be in a position to be able to take care of themselves and their families...that's basic responsibility. Also, I'm not going to be naive to the fact that they won't play the field... as young men they're going to date around...and of course I anticipate AND TEACH THEM TO BE RESPONSIBLE as they date women in order to avoid having children with women that they aren't married to...for THAT YES.. I TEACH THEM. I also advise them not to live with a woman unless they are ready to get married to her as in ENGAGED with a wedding planned no later than a year which really...I would even go so far as to say they should just wait to move her in or get their place AFTER they get married. When they are serious, they better make sure they can in fact be ready to not only be with that woman alone, but be in their role as well. Besides that, when you're young, man or woman, dating IS about having fun and being young and blissful without throwing caution to the wind of course.
That's the same advice I give to my 17yr old, don't have kids or marry if you can't look after a family just never have them. Because it will bring stress a loads of debts in your life, and don't ever let a woman look after you financially it should be the other way around.
Escaping the dusty life style is not an over night process Especially when the 50/50 life includes removing his name from marriage license and mortgage There is a plan to transition away
I'm not saying dusties can't be in other race. Race doesn't determine a dusty but I haven't experienced this white Jewish, Asian and Indian men. Not saying they're perfect but they have a different mindset. It goes back to how they were raised. Most dusty men have dusty PARENTS.
Some Indian, Asian, Jewish men act like a provider UNTIL YOU MARRY THEM! Then you have to work. No spoiling either. Forget shopping and vacations. I've seen this.
They want a Pickmesha. Pickmesha say ANY man is better than No man... The first thing a Dusty will tell you is. I don't like women wearing makeup, I like a natural face. I don't like weave or wigs and I want you to cut your hair.. I don't like women showing this or that and you should wear a long dress with a turtle neck underneath🤣😂😭😭
I work in a large company and I know more cheap successful men than broke. All the guys with high positions brag about sleeping with beautiful women spending barely any money on them. The guys with lower positions usually give what they have and are more successful in relationships.
Perfect, example of this topic is that song, To, The Left to The Left. The song has . In the lyrics she put .Dusty up in her home, bought Dusty a car, and paid f Dusty, just so he could cheat.Although, in the song Pignish , says, " hurry up drop them keys before y taxis leaves, and she still doesn't learn because another Dusty is on his way. Oh, yes , the song, "irreplaceable", these songs put out a Dusty message.A funny thing happened at a traffic light the couple in the car next to me. The f2f was so jealous her guy was looking at a long ha haired blond. And, the blond turn around to be a sixty something year old man.lol
I don't think you would want to be married to a Muslim. I heard the men are very strict, and I don't see you being controlled. I know I could never be married to one.
blackcat 303 I said what I said because Shera indicated (not verbatim) that it did not matter about a man's faith. However, when it comes to the Muslim faith, it is a whole new ballgame. Janet Jackson was a prime example. She thought she was marrying an Americanized Arab, only to find out that he had those Old World views. No amount of money in the world would make me want to marry a Muslim because I am not one to be controlled. I don't understand why you would make such a remark, such as "well duh".
I have a teenage half-sibling...she turned her back on me when my mom became very ill. Just to please her abusive bum bf, who is only after her money (her mom died a few yrs ago, she’s gonna inherit half a million € when she‘s 24). He stopped beating her - but my guess is his alcoholic gambling ass will start bruising her again when her money is gone. And she won‘t wake up before that happens. He is a crazy borderline. She upset & disrespected me deeply for some criminal replaceable idiot. You can‘t replace your family/siblings and it‘s crazy to see how many women have low-standard delusional little sisters like me. Sickening. I had to break off contact with her since he even started to threaten me & friends of mine. „You don‘t know his good sides!!!“ She got so mad at me for speaking the truth. He keeps her in a comfort zone because it‘s serving him. It hurt me terribly...but I move on. I lost hope for her. 🤷🏻♀️ And the story won‘t end well, he‘ll never let her go...UGH!
Only if she's doesn't have a man/isnt taking care of a man. If she has a man, they both on bull and she'll continue to feel comfortable asking you for money, on occasion.
Hey woman highly look up to you...how bout video for low esteem woman why you wait for no man. Your delivery is great and maybe coming from you they listen
Off topic Do have a video on what types of clothes that make women look feminine instead of masculine and a good skin care routine that doesn't involve botox, plastic surgery or any other expensive treatment. I'm currently a student with very little income.
I totally lost it @ the chicken bone in the pocket. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 If his jacket cost $3,000 or more and your chicken bone puts greasy stains in the fabric, you are not going to see him again. I guarantee he won’t be marrying you once he discovers your “surprise”.
This this this is my Exs girlfriend Listen she created a buisiness Thats licensed, bonded and insures a cleaning buisness all so he can evade child support she claims he helps her out and works I knew him since I was 14 hes the laziest piece of crap I left him in his dust pile waaaayyyy long time ago she acts like she got a diamond ha ha syke pickmeisha
Shera always makes some good points and I've learned...or been awakened to a lot of important info here. But I am not a 'black and white thinker'. There are plenty of men who don't have a fair chance on our society. Most won't be able to make over 100k yearly unfortunately. I just want to at least be fair minded and assess my own circumstances fairly. Not everyone is going to get a high earner
@Ms Prestige maybe I should have specified? -- not for dating, but when u go on the MGTOW channels shera has spoke of --- those men are hurt and disgruntled. They are in pain and lashing out online. I dont see anything wrong w seeing through the pain and encouraging another human being.
@@SuperLucylola the median family income in the us is 56k. The average man makes around 30-40k. So tell that to working families, unfortunately. 20% of people make 100k and above.
I keep missing your lives! I am a person with a disability. I’m legally blind and use a cane. I do have some sight. I do my makeup and hair when I go out and dress well. I feel like men of means will immediately feel like I’m needing to be taken care of so they won’t approach me. Do you have thoughts on this? I’m also in my 49’s.
Don't date someone that MIGHT have money in the future. He needs to have it in the present.
I will teach my daughters this.
True, I’ve learned my lesson.
@Str8 Shooter Yes I agree it can... Helps if your man loves you dearly! Which I'm sure yours does 💕
You are right.
@Str8 Shooter That's great, I am with a potential but thinking should I actually stay or leave because on paper he's a good man, but pockets are full. Honestly I am thinking hard what to do.
Also, these women make it harder for women with standards....cuz the guys will come at u negatively, unprovoked. Women have to stand their ground
funny how you said they'll come at you negatively and unprovoked.... and they a dusty starts swearing at you and cussing. Lol. Stay proving your point.
Real Talk baby, fret not ! Dusty’s like yourself are not a target. We do Alphas around here. A protector, and provider. Not a simp whose on a WOMENS chat. No Alpha has time to be abusing women verbally on the net, they are too busy getting the bag. Go back to your alpha FEMALE boss and ask HER for a raise and extra vacation time cuz you seem stressed. Being broke is rough.
@@lisas9223 😂😂😂😂 my guy friend cursed me out I told him well Damm u TRIPPING about a date
@@SexyCarmelo68 Leave him where he belongs. In the dust 🙂
LISETTE C so true
Dusty’s always say this:
“I ain’t taking care of a grown woman”
They say that because they cannot afford it.
Only 2 genders Word. When yrs ago after I broke up the x said „You still owe me money!“ (it was ridiculous, maybe 100€) I said: „Did I charge you my sexual services?“ Never heard from him again!!! 👌🏼😂😂😂
@Only 2 genders Adult book stores are still selling toys if y men need to save money f dates. In addition, online stores such as Adam and Even f v day are giving $30 free dollars in mystery gifts when y use the word dog after f spend $50. I find theses store great if y need to save on dating, done dating, or just want to play it safe w all the viruses going around in the world this day and age. Personally, I am afraid to kiss after all theses virsues , herps, hep A and ect.
@Only 2 genders100% true
Can you take care of a grown ass man
With education you can take care of yourself..HE is right!
This is why OUR Mothers told us to be able to be alone. If you can’t have what you want be ALONE. I may take time but use that alone time to level all the way up.
Milk Marie I’m beginning to feel this way a lot. It’s annoying and frustrating dealing with a man that doesn’t meet my standards and doesn’t want to provide or protect
It took me years to figure it out I'm happy being alone with my children
Those women enjoy patting themselves in the back for being 50/50 Miss independent, self-sacrificing mules.
Yup. Self righteous in their pick me ways smh
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I can’t stand pick me chicks
They are always the ones who I meet that after getting to knoe a little bit, habe health problems and are overly stressed. NOT worth it.
@@bluediamond4895 same. I can't be around people who are going to be pissed at me for making better life choices than they did. It's like, you had the same chance I did. tough!
I feel like society has a hidden agenda to push women in the bob the builder and pickmeisha direction; for example, last time when I went shopping all I saw were brown, gray, black formless clothes, no way could I find body fitting clothes in feminine colors with cute details. It was like all the fashion is designed for 'workhorses' instead of elegant women. BTW I like your outfit and make-up in this video, it's very soft and elegant.
I noticed a shift in fashion 4 years ago. I used to see bright, beautiful jewel tone tops, dresses and handbags. Also Instagram started the pale crop tops, big sneakers and athletic wear. Ugh!
@Str8 Shooter 😂
@@starrjohnson1327 Right, the big sneakers thing is just ugly in my opinion.
@Str8 Shooter Where I'm living women wear nothing else than those leggings with sneakers or jeans. Indeed, 'gender neutral' is a perfect description :-)
@Ashley Taylor Thanks for the tip! Unfortunately I live on an island and many companies don't ship here. Guess I have to travel for cute clothes :-)
Shera came w the message at 12 am , sis wasnt playing... its a lack of self love and self worth ... when I lost myself this was me ... NEVER AGAIN!
Never, EVER, ever again!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Right I always say I’m getting back to who I always was
@James St. Patrick pull up your panties hun
@Real Talk 😉💚💋
Real Talk Another broke-broke, mad-mad, butt-butt hurt-hurt dusty who can’t afford to provide, and is throwing his self-frustration toward all women.
It's always the working woman that sides with dusty men thinking it's gonna attract them. In reality it just makes them one of the guys and not a wife.
Omg this chick I know posted some bs about how women who want a man to provide more for them than they can provide for themselves are "abusive". I had to put a laughing emoji and keep it moving. She is an overweight, unattractive, masculine workhorse type.
Yany3x Kkrenii
You hit it on the nail. Exactly!!!! Especially the women that have degrees.
MagieNoir 💖💖 It's not abuse if the guy does it willingly. These working women are just jealous.
90% of women are working even part time. To afford a house especially where I live it takes 2 incomes. You act like working is not normal. Like its a sin lol. Nothing worse than a lazy moocher regardless of gender.
Yany3x Kkrenii well said
"What if the D is too good?" Eventually you are going to get tired of just "good d" and you will want more than what he is willing to give. Then resentment and breakup will kick in. Now you've just wasted your precious time when you could have been with someone with good money...
Those women don't think the dusties online are talking about THEM. They always think the men are talking about other women.
Good point!
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Some women think it's "selfish" to ask for or expect more from a man. That frame of mind, I'd never understand. After all, isn't it usually the man that do the pursuing? So apparently, he sees someone worth working for and being financially responsible towards. Thus, of course she's deserving and there's NOTHING selfish about it...that's just how it is.
Before that was normal and now somehow it is taboo
They pushed this independent woman ish when women wanted the OPTION of working so that we wouldn't have to be trapped in dysfunctional relationships when men used money to control women. Now some are bitter and gas these Pickmeshas into siding with them. They think they're being cool but men will just use them for a come up.
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I think it’s selfish for men to expect women to pay bills, cook and clean, cater, and give head, meanwhile dusty men don’t do anything but take take take.
The problem is that a those women are afraid of being called the bad guy, so she rather be a victim :p
Kris Mladjenovic oh those are the worst and they shouldn't give birth because they will destroy Thier daughters's lives
That's rediculous
@@misshouda1740 true
Kris Mladjenovic I notice that most Dusty’s never want children; they rather be supported like a child.
That's true, I feel like that somtimes myself. I know I am settling for less and evey day.
"You want dusty scraps, that is sad..that in itself is a punishment".. that's gold right there.
Chile as soon as they say "simp", run!
Definitely dead give away
Dusty Dudes ❤️ Love ❤️ a work mule PickMesha to side with them -so they can get “built up” by her. THEN after 5 years using her up, will go out and get the woman they really want. 😆
Whispering Acts This happened to me.
Hi Shera,those ladies are what i call" born to suffer " women.it's not even about the looks .I know of drop dead gorgeous feminine looking women who have done this' labour of love in vain....😩😩😩'.These two gorgeous ladies had men at the top flying them around the world,shopping in luxe stores but they blew it up because of a dusty ..Now they bitter,frustrated single moms.with only regrets.
@LBC Ulrica Omg!!!!
@LBC Ulrica she has the ideal situation quite frankly. He married her for image or to get some other benefit either way depending on long they've been married. She come out better than he will. I would not be working full-time and cleaning up after anyone. Nope she needs a maid. She needs to stop doing those other things period. He doesnt give her money to take care of the household. That's financial abuse.
You are u ryt, I saw some in my area growing up 🤭
Y did they stop getting flown out and shopping Luxe?
alexa i know a pair of sisaters like this, especially the older one.... had men of great means chasing her
My godmother is moving from a million dollar house in the hills, to a house around the corner from where the LA riots started in order to save it for her boyfriend who is going to prison.....you’re right some women feel sorry for their long time dusties and will give it all out of emotion🤧
Update?
Your videos made me notice my dusty and I cut him RIGHT OFF! He had his hand out all the time . He works his Baby mama like a dog and then he talked bad about right after. I told him about his self and let his ass go!
Liina Love You go gurl!! 👏🏻👏🏻 Level all the way UP on his a$$! You deserve the best 💯
No offense to the moms who dont know any better, but I wonder if dustiness is brought about by the mother's 1st. I wouldnt work to take care of my grown son. He would need to do that for himself!
No disrespect The Women in the video and women like her..It seems Society has really hit Rock Bottom. Men and Women, Rich and Poor. People out here really just want to bust a nut or gain material possesions Only..Love is dead for many. To me, people like that don't really care for others just some artificial temporary human connection for all the wrong reasons. I don't understand why women are like this and the men are like this. What happened to real love and building families around that. Am I missing something here?
@@kingelement4160 the economy is terrible
@Laqueentrelle I dont know..playing other people because you got played..i mean they ask to demand more but you still getting played in some way. These type of women seem like its fuck love lets play each other but i want my share. im not blaming women but thats what unhealthy society has boil down to be. And the demand more is ususally something superficial. Real no better. Get a woman to invest in but make sure she invest in you which includes non materialistic shit. fuck all that play the game. lol
Tips for dressing feminine in the winter: wear dresses and skirts with pretty opaque (designs, shimmer etc) stockings/pantyhose with knee or thigh high boots. Wear a coat in a pretty color (no black, brown or taupe) so that you stand out in the crowd and are noticeable. Always wear a pretty hat (decorated with pearls etc) in a pastel or bright color. Also pencil skirts with fitted sweaters. Beautiful scarves or pashminas.
The femininity in this comment almost motivated me to pay somebody bills.
@@MelaninMagdalene Ohh I appreciate your reply. It's great to know my femininity is bleeding even through text and cyber space. 😊
It's to cold in the Midwest 😂😂😂 !maybe 1-2 x a week on going out unless u driving
This is VERY TRUE. It’s so sad because this is my own mother. I’ve had the toughest 3 years of my life after a car accident. I leveled up, started dating up and THATS when her claws came out and I was fooled thinking she was a “loving mother”. Trusted her. Now I see the truth. She married a disabled dusty. She started copying me asking her husband for money. He would make all sorts of excuses. You can’t squeeze lemon out of a dried up lemon! Insecure women make the shittiest mothers.
Awakened Soul wow...but girl I remember dating a half dustie he wanted to take care of me he worked threee jobs just to make sure I was happy, BUT HIS MOTHER! Was a jealous vindictive, malicious, overworked woman going 50/50 with her husband she caused soooo many issues in our relationship. I loved him dearly but I had to let that go but it just goes to show you that some pickme mothers are full of hatred smh
It’s so sad how natural it is for so many women to just give without benefitting or receiving in any way, shape or form. The low self esteem gotta go. We in 2020 there’s so many free resources accessible to everyone, there is no longer any type of excuse. Take yourself out of the dating game until you Learn your worth and do better. Smh
When Shera starts giving instruction all I hear is LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP, LEVEL UP LEVEL UP! By Ciara...😂😂😂
A so-called friend would let her shareable dusty get on the phone to talk to me. I hung up.
Not today, I value my life.
I'm over here holding my tummy while laughing! When I read shareable, I was done for!
she doesn’t even like him 😂 she’s just with him because she feels sorry for him or is afraid to be alone
Women, side w Dusty's because they are settling so they are not alone.
Lack of self-love, value, and standards drives people not to learn from their mistakes. They know what the outcome will be, but they’re too weak to walk away.
Yup. Dusty and Dustina
Dustina 😂
• spacexghost 😂😂
• spacexghost
Girrrrl, Exactly!!!!🤣🤣
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hahahahahaha
People are so weird asking about Sheras family.🤪🙃
But I think I know why, they never EXPERIENCED or seen a woman live like this! She is literally a Unicorn 🦄 to these pickme’s!
People be thinking I’m lying when I say I’m married have a 22 & a 16 y/o and I don’t work or pay bills.And I look 20!😌 And I’ve been with my spouse since 1997! So they request me from the groups I’m in to see my page! 😴🤣
For women that are brainwashed or didnt grow up around it, it seems too good to be true
Your name is lilith?.wow..cant make this shit up lol
Same, married 16years. He pays the bills or what would be the point?😂
Pickmeishas go to war over their dusties
😂😂😂😂 FACTS!
I been there done that... I am good Bro.. I dont need a roommate, i handle my own in the meantime. Meantime ...working on Me - Body, Mind, Spirit..😀😁👑💎💅
Next topic suggestion: why is there so many dusty men?
Constellation Prize yess please lets talk about it! I wanna know why also
🎵Two SheRa videos a day keeps the dusties away🎵 Let's make 2020 our year of abundance ladies 😍 **sprinkle** **sprinkle**
Talking doesn't work for all pickmes. Dustisha said she'd have my provider on the balcony. I blocked her. Besides, she doesn't have cash for the *bus* ride to find me.
S Child #5 😂
What did she mean on the balcony?
O you got woman out here WAITING for a dusty to do him and then eventually come to them. It is disgusting...on a lot of tarot channels theirs always a woman wanting to hear an ex coming back. WTH I wish woman love themselves more
I had a dusty dad. I was codependent. That accounts for many dusty defenders.
I had a dusty daddy too. When, I got my first job at 16 years old, he had the nerve to borrow money from me.
@@lettya3993 if he paid you back shush about it. He kept to his word and just BORROWED the money.
@@sour3000 his job as a dad was to provide for her you absolute cabbage head
Yes...I completely agree with "flipping the script". Once a woman shows pride and appreciation in her man's efforts (yes...even though we know the man's role is to provide and protect anyway 😉), he would go out of his way to do for her...even IF it means working multiple overtime hours/long hours or having more than one job to do it AND possibly form a side business. It's amazing how a determined and/or ambitious man with work ethic (read, NON-dusty mentality) can make an otherwise "average" socioeconomic lifestyle/level seem above average or even luxurious. The power is in the words and approach of the woman. As a disclaimer, "words and approach" and strategy does not apply to men of dusty mentality or for women who made it their life to keep supporting and "believing in" their dusty husbands for the sake of not feeling stigmatized as a divorcee', or for those still waiting to walk down the aisle as they wear they're engagement rings for the last 2+ years that was given only to keep her quiet about "wanting to get married" or for those STILL expecting a ring from a dusty man-child.
They side w the dusty to get his attention👎
I have never met a single woman in my whole entire life that has never been hit by a man they ware dating or married physically
Wow. Lesson I got from this: never live with a man. There can be no domestic violence without agreeing to be domestic, think about it. Did they all live with the man?
@@likemycommentifyouwantareply you're right. I had one try to move in with me. No thanks! He had a bad temper. I'm sure he would've put his hands on me if we lived together
@@Yahshija they always come back to knock you down again. It's about power for them. Level UP not DOWN! Good luck to you and your healing❤
Where do you meet these men? I'm always cohabiting successfully
@@kellymolly3616 sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
Shera ur rare and it's so refreshing to get advice of non pickmiesha... being that so many women are programmed to think that way we may not agree on everything, but this topic I almost always agree with u 😍😉
I wish I saw your videos 10 years ago before I got married :( would have saved me so much chaos. I am a woman who accepted 50/50, he doesn't respect me at all, he is so mean and cruel at times
I think the phones are keeping the women confused
I like how you dont bring down the women who agree with abusive men. More than likely they were raise to think that way
When I didn’t work for 8 yrs my husband paid the bills and I was able to shop and buy lots of things his sister and friends would tell him whole lots of shit I remember talking to my friend on phone about a Louie bag I said $1500 wasn’t bad for a bag and she told his sister and she called him to tell him that we got into an argument over it but later on he bought the same bag lol
Don't tell your friends and family your finances, because people get real toxic when they see a sister living life especially if it's the husband that provides.
I remember been a house keeper for this lady, she had a very beautiful massive mansion kids and her husband would give her over £3,0000 a mth just for her. I ask her does she buys stuff for the kids, she said no because that's her allowance every mth, and her husband don't want her spending her money on the house or the kids as that's his responsibility. All kids go to private school. But they white, but as soon as a black woman wants to live in her faminity she's a gold digger and the jealously kicks in from our own people. Sad
mel jobson omg so true lve been with my husband for 13 yrs and his sister and aunt told him that taking me and picking me up from work was too much for him smh that’s when we only had one car at the time
“They do that because there’s no other way to get positive recognition from men” Say it louder for the people in the back 💅🏽
I like that lil thing you did with ur hands on beginning of the video. Hand 👋🏽🤚🏽
Bowling balls, those women line up 2 get knocked down.
A perfect line for me from now on that I am going to use “ I don’t speak broke boy ( man) language”.
From the song by Saucy Santana Material Girl
Dusty scraps mmm mm that’s a bad life!
“Girl, you better sing”
-Shera
*lol at work, disguises with cough
Lol...I've ironically explained this to my teenage sons...I told them while they're young, they're going to have fun with girls/young women that aren't worth bringing home to momma to introduce as a serious girlfriend. However, when they find that one woman that they feel they want to marry, they have to be in a position to be able to care for self and potential/future family.
l kofie I don’t think you should teach your sons to “just have fun” with certain girls..
@@oltamehmeti629 I'm not "teaching them" anything in reference to "having fun with certain girls." Before anyone reads more into what I commented than what's actually noted, or choose to look at the comment for what it isn't, the point I'm saying is, when they are truly ready to settle down, they must be in a position to be able to take care of themselves and their families...that's basic responsibility. Also, I'm not going to be naive to the fact that they won't play the field... as young men they're going to date around...and of course I anticipate AND TEACH THEM TO BE RESPONSIBLE as they date women in order to avoid having children with women that they aren't married to...for THAT YES.. I TEACH THEM. I also advise them not to live with a woman unless they are ready to get married to her as in ENGAGED with a wedding planned no later than a year which really...I would even go so far as to say they should just wait to move her in or get their place AFTER they get married. When they are serious, they better make sure they can in fact be ready to not only be with that woman alone, but be in their role as well. Besides that, when you're young, man or woman, dating IS about having fun and being young and blissful without throwing caution to the wind of course.
That's the same advice I give to my 17yr old, don't have kids or marry if you can't look after a family just never have them. Because it will bring stress a loads of debts in your life, and don't ever let a woman look after you financially it should be the other way around.
You look so beautiful. Idk if you’ve ever thought about doing podcasts but I think it’ll be really great !
This makes me think of Britney Spears & Kevin Federline.
I don't understand where you are coming from? Could you elaborate? You have peaked my interest.
Escaping the dusty life style is not an over night process Especially when the 50/50 life includes removing his name from marriage license and mortgage There is a plan to transition away
So true the worst part is when kids are involved, such as my life right now.
It’s a little tricky to get out of but not impossible, y’all got this 💅🏾
Wheelchair dating is possible, but you'll need to be SUPER feminine.
What is wheelchair dating?
@@shinysworld08 dating while in a wheelchair.
I see it all the time.
I'm not saying dusties can't be in other race. Race doesn't determine a dusty but I haven't experienced this white Jewish, Asian and Indian men. Not saying they're perfect but they have a different mindset. It goes back to how they were raised. Most dusty men have dusty PARENTS.
Some Indian, Asian, Jewish men act like a provider UNTIL YOU MARRY THEM! Then you have to work. No spoiling either. Forget shopping and vacations. I've seen this.
I have seen a lot of dusty white men
@@shaytaylormade5244 yuck! I hate to see that too. Then they want a good looking woman
Exactly! A good looking WORKING woman. It's not fair😑
@Only 2 genders yes!!! I've dated 3 very briefly. They had extremely high standards and were tight with money. Only 1 spent money on me freely
Dustys like to tell you not to call the cops while theyre violating you and Pickmeisha falls for that!
They want a Pickmesha. Pickmesha say ANY man is better than No man... The first thing a Dusty will tell you is. I don't like women wearing makeup, I like a natural face. I don't like weave or wigs and I want you to cut your hair.. I don't like women showing this or that and you should wear a long dress with a turtle neck underneath🤣😂😭😭
i wouldnt eat a rich mans scraps or dusty scraps..Both
I work in a large company and I know more cheap successful men than broke. All the guys with high positions brag about sleeping with beautiful women spending barely any money on them. The guys with lower positions usually give what they have and are more successful in relationships.
@@georgec8210 it can be so true.... some broke guys have more to loose
"The dusty dust!!
Super random but there was a guy in my high school named Dusty 😂😭
I had a uncle name dusty lol
God daughter Jesus child Was he dusty
God daughter Jesus child Lol no shade just messing
@@AC-we4xx 😂 he was a ok person
Could also be for short for Dustin
Perfect, example of this topic is that song, To, The Left to The Left. The song has . In the lyrics she put .Dusty up in her home, bought Dusty a car, and paid f Dusty, just so he could cheat.Although, in the song Pignish , says, " hurry up drop them keys before y taxis leaves, and she still doesn't learn because another Dusty is on his way. Oh, yes , the song, "irreplaceable", these songs put out a Dusty message.A funny thing happened at a traffic light the couple in the car next to me. The f2f was so jealous her guy was looking at a long ha haired blond. And, the blond turn around to be a sixty something year old man.lol
Dusty scraps!!! LMFAO😂😂😂😂
Shera you are a queen!!🥰😀❤️
I don't think you would want to be married to a Muslim. I heard the men are very strict, and I don't see you being controlled. I know I could never be married to one.
well duh. the women have to cover up all but their eyes & they have no rights
blackcat 303
I said what I said because Shera indicated (not verbatim) that it did not matter about a man's faith. However, when it comes to the Muslim faith, it is a whole new ballgame. Janet Jackson was a prime example. She thought she was marrying an Americanized Arab, only to find out that he had those Old World views. No amount of money in the world would make me want to marry a Muslim because I am not one to be controlled. I don't understand why you would make such a remark, such as "well duh".
I have a teenage half-sibling...she turned her back on me when my mom became very ill. Just to please her abusive bum bf, who is only after her money (her mom died a few yrs ago, she’s gonna inherit half a million € when she‘s 24).
He stopped beating her - but my guess is his alcoholic gambling ass will start bruising her again when her money is gone.
And she won‘t wake up before that happens. He is a crazy borderline. She upset & disrespected me deeply for some criminal replaceable idiot. You can‘t replace your family/siblings and it‘s crazy to see how many women have low-standard delusional little sisters like me. Sickening.
I had to break off contact with her since he even started to threaten me & friends of mine.
„You don‘t know his good sides!!!“ She got so mad at me for speaking the truth.
He keeps her in a comfort zone because it‘s serving him.
It hurt me terribly...but I move on. I lost hope for her. 🤷🏻♀️
And the story won‘t end well, he‘ll never let her go...UGH!
Chapstick alley GREMLINS LMFAO CLAP BACK QUEEN💚💋💫😭😭😭
ask yo mama!!! Shera stay cracking me up!!!
I’m reading ur book on kindle it’s amazing
I just finished it. It was a good read 🤓
True that!! Preach it beautiful!! ❤️Much love and respect from Cali!🥰
3D 3 Daddies. Shera, I adore you. You are so wonderful. Thank you for your compassion. You are an Earth Angel. Wow! Right on Little Sister.
I don't understand why women marry or date a Dusty😳 I can be broke by myself.. Why do i need a broke acquaintance.. Make it make sense.
They think they aren't worth it
I had to laugh when you said, so seriously“They want the scraps” true that💯
The sis sounds jealous. Where is her man since she has so much to say about yours. Before you know it she will be pushing up on him.
"The scraps of a dusties" LOL Shera you are so funny!!!! Tears are in my eyes.
"The scraps of a dusty" 😂😂😂😂😂
I hope this isn't a dumb question but is it masculine to give another woman money? Like if a female friend ask to borrow money.....
Only if she's doesn't have a man/isnt taking care of a man. If she has a man, they both on bull and she'll continue to feel comfortable asking you for money, on occasion.
Depends on the amount. And get a promissory note.
Jennifer S yes if you are the go to person when in need of money. So if that’s the case you kind of turn into a provider
Jennifer S I agree with the top reply if y’all both single looking out for each other, just don’t let that much tho
Hey woman highly look up to you...how bout video for low esteem woman why you wait for no man. Your delivery is great and maybe coming from you they listen
Girl you lookin fine innthat sweater
I like what u doing keep up da good work! 👆👇✌
Off topic Do have a video on what types of clothes that make women look feminine instead of masculine and a good skin care routine that doesn't involve botox, plastic surgery or any other expensive treatment. I'm currently a student with very little income.
I totally lost it @ the chicken bone in the pocket. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
If his jacket cost $3,000 or more and your chicken bone puts greasy stains in the fabric, you are not going to see him again. I guarantee he won’t be marrying you once he discovers your “surprise”.
Simple...We are all beautiful, keep shining😊🤗 Men be men, women be women...🤩
It's tacky to date and have another one. Aids and hiv is out there plus it's wrong as two left shoes!
Having DUSTY babies.... smh... its sad
Scraps of a dusty 😂😂😂😂
Gabrielle haa deep voice but she's very feminine (to ME). My voice is deep a little bit too lol makes me feel even more masculine.
Heyy thank you Shera!
This this this is my Exs girlfriend
Listen she created a buisiness
Thats licensed, bonded and insures a cleaning buisness all so he can evade child support she claims he helps her out and works I knew him since I was 14 hes the laziest piece of crap I left him in his dust pile waaaayyyy long time ago she acts like she got a diamond ha ha syke pickmeisha
Shera always makes some good points and I've learned...or been awakened to a lot of important info here.
But I am not a 'black and white thinker'.
There are plenty of men who don't have a fair chance on our society. Most won't be able to make over 100k yearly unfortunately.
I just want to at least be fair minded and assess my own circumstances fairly. Not everyone is going to get a high earner
Dating is not a charity. You are going to get with the best man you can get, you're not going to "charity date" unless you stoopid 😂
@@olgachafeeva2828 ya. I try and not be rude, nasty and harsh with my *words* toward men or women. Lol
@Ms Prestige maybe I should have specified? -- not for dating, but when u go on the MGTOW channels shera has spoke of --- those men are hurt and disgruntled. They are in pain and lashing out online. I dont see anything wrong w seeing through the pain and encouraging another human being.
100k a year is nothing lol
@@SuperLucylola the median family income in the us is 56k. The average man makes around 30-40k. So tell that to working families, unfortunately. 20% of people make 100k and above.
Love your channel❤️
Dusty scraps hahaha 😂😂😂
This is good information thank you
I keep missing your lives! I am a person with a disability. I’m legally blind and use a cane. I do have some sight. I do my makeup and hair when I go out and dress well. I feel like men of means will immediately feel like I’m needing to be taken care of so they won’t approach me. Do you have thoughts on this? I’m also in my 49’s.
Do online dating or date way older. Way older men like someone to spend time with. They'll give you what you ask for
They desperate
2:00 its called Insanity
What if they have good sex, have great money, take great care of you but find out they have cheated a couple times?🤔 We are marries btw
Get a side man dah
14:44 🗣🗣🗣
We all know James does not get any cheeks from Shera
Lying to these men then u R trying to make up for those lies..he won't trust u anymore. Once a liar always a liar!
Shera what do you think about Beyonce's song 'Cater to You' ?
if he's rich and taking care of you then to an extent yes
rmg jay z is rich & it’s destiny child’s song
I don't have the attention span to watch an hour video, let alone 3. please cut and edit these shera