Very wise words Susan as always, thank you! It reminded me of something my Dad used to tell us for situations like this - “have your second thoughts first”
I came across this video when I was going through a potential argument. I'd to thank you for this video, it stopped me on saying something I'd regret, and instructed me on how to respond.
Good advice, this approach requires both parties to be mature in the relationship though. If the person whom you feel has wronged you or hurt you by their actions isn't mature and isn't willing to take responsibility for their own actions, any attempt to rationally communicate your thoughts and feelings to them and resolve the issue in a mature and mutually beneficial manner will essentially be futile. It takes two to tango and if your relationship partner is toxic or has very strong narcissistic tendencies, no amount of waiting or calm communication on your part will help resolve the issue - though taking time to think does allow you to come away with your dignity intact instead of flying off the handle like a savage. At least that is my experience. You can address the issue calmly and still get the cold shoulder, be stone-walled or get a silent treatment - but that's just a sign for you to get out, while you still have your sanity.
I have saved my own number in my contact list as,”notes to self”. Whenever I get upset with my boyfriend I write my angry email and sent to myself,. I read it, edit it, redo it and send it to myself multiple times. By the end of it I’ve cooled down and write a sane text to him.
Expressing how you feel is pretty important, people can bottle up such things and let it boil too long. It’s how we approach it in the right state of being. In the intense moment, we are too emotional and hyped up and therefore we can’t think straight.
I am sitting here watching this SEETHING and wanting to explode at my partner but this video is knocking some rationality into my head. Thank you for keeping me grounded Susan. This video has helped me tremendously.
late for me to see this vedio. I already send multiple txt 3months ago and I left here cold, alone and sad. 😣 😥... Been chasing him but it's time for me now to moved on and let it go since I know he already blocked me 💔 😓.. And I've learned my lesson.
I had this happen to me yesterday. My partner had cancelled plans on me last minute right as I was about to walk out the door (with a good reason for doing that though), but I was just so angry and wanted to send that text. But I waited a few hours later and calmed down and realized that it wasn’t too big of a deal, and that I would’ve probably regretted sending that text in the moment
A much needed message, Susan. Thank You! It's very hard "sitting on my hands" when I'm the type that wants everything put on the table. Patience and respect for my love...and myself.
Sent an angry text too, but I don't regret. I know it was the right time to dump them, and if I cooled down first, I'd not set myself free from that relation. Instead I'd wait for a "better occasion" and still be stuck there!
The way you present thing and hit the nail on the head every time, very concise and easily understandable, it's wonderful and you've helped a great many people with these videos. Thank you. I bet you would be great to just kick back and talk to
Great advice Susan! I'm working on this and it's not easy but something that my new boyfriend brought up to me as I am used to reacting to things impulsively. I find that when I wait it out I get over it and there is no need to react most of the time.
Ugh I need to work on this so badly! My bf and I don't communicate well really in general, but tonight him hanging up in my face when I was trying to communicate in earnest was too much! I'm not trying to be selfish, just seeking understanding from him where there isn't any. I admit that I'm toxic, and I just don't know how to do relationships 😭😭😭
you are great Susan, there are many video that i got inspired by you but, one that has made an impact on me the most was, "how to stop your obsession on someone". i put a thumbs up on many videos you have uploaded...more power to you and hope to meet you one day. All the best
Yep Susan. I see this a lot these days! Got to learn to pause, because everything you say could, can and will be used against you depending on the relationship situation. Knowing this could prevent a lot of arguments, breakups and divorces. Great video, topic and tips 👍
what if they broke it off with a text?> Mine not only did that, she sent it on facebook messenger then blocked me when she saw I was reading it. Then wouldn't answer the phone? So Hell yes I sent a text saying "It is a blessing and a relief to be free from you!" It ended with "You did me a favor Thank you" In between it was pretty bad. That was 3 months ago and BTW I owe you my life because of your "text message breakup" message. I listened to that over and over and it empowered me like nothing else. That actually changed my whole view of the breakup. Thank you so much!
Susan, you are such a blessing :))) Thank you so much for your videos, they are so informative, supportive and refreshingly REAL!!!! You are in my YT life pretty much on a daily basis. Sending you much love and hugs from Barcelona
OH YEAH! Never send that pissed off text, and the same is true for phone calls. You will degrade yourself and if you still care for that person -- you blew it. Wait and think about it as the video says. Susan! You give the finest advice.
How true I sent an angry text breaking up.with him and as soon as I hit send I was sorry. Well we ended up making up but it took a few days to get back to where we were.
Hi Susan, love your advice on all topics, especially this topic. I’ve been such a slow learner with angry texts, been hard not to do tho with now my ex gf. It was like she manipulated every time tho for me to do it when she would create a fight either being out socialising or blaming me for something while we at my place then abruptly leaving before I had my say or input on the matter. Or sometimes me bottling things up and drinking 3 to many beers and letting her hav it. Also I’ll say she can never apologise or is ever wrong with always flirting and needing other males attention every where we go and behaving like she was still single when she pushed for a committed relationship to start with. So of course now she has and has shown all her friends my horrible texts . Even tho what I said is all true. Always reminding me of them. Thank god tho the NC method is in place by both parties. Ps you explain things so well
Hi Susan....I never got into a heavy text discussion...he knew I wouldn't...I wrote many letters to process my emotions...but only sent a few to him...he processed them... unfortunately his default setting is that of self and there will be no more letters....out enjoying my weekend without him...as promised to myself 😊
I tried. he refuse to call. Or respond. Yes I was angry. I felt the email that I sent wasn't angry. He felt it was. I was only responding. He asked me To when I did. He went ghost. Plus I felt he was wrong for not discussing with me via phone which I prefer I asked if he had a issue let's talk. He did not. He call his self dumping me via email. Which I found was cowardly. That's what started me sending what I felt. His email sound like he was angry at me. It started when he threw a tantrum about baseball tickets he couldn't afford . When he asked me out for a date. I sent a link to cheaper tickets. He stated I should have went on a "cheaper date". Before that a text was sent. The next date saying. I'm not the man u say u wanted. I think I'm dating too early so there , hugh. I feel if your having financial issues why are you dating? Also like I stated his wife died last year. May. We dated in June. Now he says he doesn't see a friendship or romantic relationship. At this point. Then he went ghost for two weeks. Then came back with I don't want to lead you on. Actually it dawned on me he just wanted to get laid. I never told him the kind of man I wanted. I did discuss my standards and I was looking for a healthy relationship in the future. Never sent mixed messages. That I dont believe in casual sex. I wanted to get to know him. So what do u think Susan?
Susan W. If you do that then it leaves it open forever to pick at like a wound that won't heal. It's like a diabetic sore that never heals over, and is just getting worse until a resulting amputation is necessary somewhere in the future. Words can be forgotten easily...but texts/emails/msgs., recordings, etc. can be etched in forever IF someone keeps bringing them up like as if it was just said that very same day. And, every time that it's read or heard played back is just like the first time. 😟 That is much different from saying something to someone and then they get over it soon after because the intensity can't be recreated just by repeating the words. The intensity of the harsh blow to the head or to the heart (when things are verbally said) diminishes or becomes forgotten over time....like 😔 or 😯 ...then 😐 or 😏 or 😚
I just think even if you are that angry and you yell things actually at them over the phone (it's not the best way to go about it) but the minute you put something down in black and white that definitely is evidence, that, definitely can be used against you.
Susan I have a bad behavior that if I think of something I have to get right away and if not I really get mad so now I have to learn how to control my self
I'm actually sitting on my hands. My SO can't seem to give up his porn addiction. I thought he had but then there it was again today on his fb page. And to make matters worse, he and i have only been intimate 1 time in 6 weeks. I truly want to send him a very angry text but this video stopped me. So I'm now trying to compose a text that will be more controlled. Wish me luck
If they send you a all CAP SH!TTY TEXT : GO TO YOUR FONT AND INCREASE THE SIZE OR TYPE IT INTO A TRANSLATION APP STOP BEING SUCH A KAREN !! "KAREN "WILL LIKELY NOT CHANGE.😉
You have contributed a great deal to my personal and emotional development. I adore you Susan
Thank you!!😊
Safiye Unal thank you for your commentary and support.
My friend finds you attractive 😅
@@littleman787how old is he
Wish I would have seen this last night.... I'm an impulsive Aries LOL
Robin Joy Same here! 🙈 Too late 😂
Princess Vanessa Ooooooh no LOL! 🙈
Princess Vanessa I'm delighted for you 😄
Same -_-
Me too lol. Aries moon and Aries rising haha
Very wise words Susan as always, thank you! It reminded me of something my Dad used to tell us for situations like this - “have your second thoughts first”
Man I have I learn a lesson or 6 about not angry texting. This video serves as confirmation that I've done good this year. Love this Susan! 🏹
Drunk texting or regular
I came across this video when I was going through a potential argument. I'd to thank you for this video, it stopped me on saying something I'd regret, and instructed me on how to respond.
Good advice, this approach requires both parties to be mature in the relationship though.
If the person whom you feel has wronged you or hurt you by their actions isn't mature and isn't willing to take responsibility for their own actions, any attempt to rationally communicate your thoughts and feelings to them and resolve the issue in a mature and mutually beneficial manner will essentially be futile.
It takes two to tango and if your relationship partner is toxic or has very strong narcissistic tendencies, no amount of waiting or calm communication on your part will help resolve the issue - though taking time to think does allow you to come away with your dignity intact instead of flying off the handle like a savage.
At least that is my experience. You can address the issue calmly and still get the cold shoulder, be stone-walled or get a silent treatment - but that's just a sign for you to get out, while you still have your sanity.
You are so right kristian
text messages are the worst way to communicate.
Fly boy . I AGREE
For me rn, they're the only way
@@mecca115ablewhat does fly boy mean
The best way for a quick lay though
omg yes, I learned this lesson in the past and now I never express controversial issues through text!!
I have saved my own number in my contact list as,”notes to self”. Whenever I get upset with my boyfriend I write my angry email and sent to myself,. I read it, edit it, redo it and send it to myself multiple times. By the end of it I’ve cooled down and write a sane text to him.
Oh that is 👏
Expressing how you feel is pretty important, people can bottle up such things and let it boil too long. It’s how we approach it in the right state of being. In the intense moment, we are too emotional and hyped up and therefore we can’t think straight.
I am sitting here watching this SEETHING and wanting to explode at my partner but this video is knocking some rationality into my head. Thank you for keeping me grounded Susan. This video has helped me tremendously.
What did your parter do to get you upset ?
late for me to see this vedio. I already send multiple txt 3months ago and I left here cold, alone and sad. 😣 😥... Been chasing him but it's time for me now to moved on and let it go since I know he already blocked me 💔 😓.. And I've learned my lesson.
I had this happen to me yesterday. My partner had cancelled plans on me last minute right as I was about to walk out the door (with a good reason for doing that though), but I was just so angry and wanted to send that text. But I waited a few hours later and calmed down and realized that it wasn’t too big of a deal, and that I would’ve probably regretted sending that text in the moment
A much needed message, Susan. Thank You! It's very hard "sitting on my hands" when I'm the type that wants everything put on the table. Patience and respect for my love...and myself.
Sent an angry text too, but I don't regret. I know it was the right time to dump them, and if I cooled down first, I'd not set myself free from that relation. Instead I'd wait for a "better occasion" and still be stuck there!
Well said Susan. Karma doesn't have an address.
Think before you act.
i need this for coming months for the big transition of my aries.. thank you..🍁
The way you present thing and hit the nail on the head every time, very concise and easily understandable, it's wonderful and you've helped a great many people with these videos. Thank you.
I bet you would be great to just kick back and talk to
Leuff thank you for the kind and supportive words.
Great advice Susan! I'm working on this and it's not easy but something that my new boyfriend brought up to me as I am used to reacting to things impulsively. I find that when I wait it out I get over it and there is no need to react most of the time.
Ugh I need to work on this so badly! My bf and I don't communicate well really in general, but tonight him hanging up in my face when I was trying to communicate in earnest was too much! I'm not trying to be selfish, just seeking understanding from him where there isn't any. I admit that I'm toxic, and I just don't know how to do relationships 😭😭😭
Are you still together or did you break up
you are great Susan, there are many video that i got inspired by you but, one that has made an impact on me the most was, "how to stop your obsession on someone". i put a thumbs up on many videos you have uploaded...more power to you and hope to meet you one day. All the best
Reshma NAvin THANK YOU!! I love reading comments such as these.
u alwayz give positive advice which is not based on games nd is not manupulative ....this gives clarity nd positivity to mind
Yep Susan. I see this a lot these days! Got to learn to pause, because everything you say could, can and will be used against you depending on the relationship situation. Knowing this could prevent a lot of arguments, breakups and divorces. Great video, topic and tips 👍
Secrets To Get Ex Back yes, I agree. Once it’s digital, it lives forever. Really hard to backpedal from hateful comments. .
what if they broke it off with a text?> Mine not only did that, she sent it on facebook messenger then blocked me when she saw I was reading it. Then wouldn't answer the phone? So Hell yes I sent a text saying "It is a blessing and a relief to be free from you!" It ended with "You did me a favor Thank you" In between it was pretty bad. That was 3 months ago and BTW I owe you my life because of your "text message breakup" message. I listened to that over and over and it empowered me like nothing else. That actually changed my whole view of the breakup. Thank you so much!
Susan, you are such a blessing :))) Thank you so much for your videos, they are so informative, supportive and refreshingly REAL!!!! You are in my YT life pretty much on a daily basis. Sending you much love and hugs from Barcelona
You changed my life. Thank you.
OH YEAH! Never send that pissed off text, and the same is true for phone calls. You will degrade yourself and if you still care for that person -- you blew it. Wait and think about it as the video says. Susan! You give the finest advice.
How true I sent an angry text breaking up.with him and as soon as I hit send I was sorry. Well we ended up making up but it took a few days to get back to where we were.
You are an angel, thank you so much.
Hi Susan, love your advice on all topics, especially this topic. I’ve been such a slow learner with angry texts, been hard not to do tho with now my ex gf. It was like she manipulated every time tho for me to do it when she would create a fight either being out socialising or blaming me for something while we at my place then abruptly leaving before I had my say or input on the matter. Or sometimes me bottling things up and drinking 3 to many beers and letting her hav it. Also I’ll say she can never apologise or is ever wrong with always flirting and needing other males attention every where we go and behaving like she was still single when she pushed for a committed relationship to start with. So of course now she has and has shown all her friends my horrible texts . Even tho what I said is all true. Always reminding me of them. Thank god tho the NC method is in place by both parties. Ps you explain things so well
I stopped talking to ex’s a long time ago, unless it’s for a quick lay if I am in the mood with no strings attached imo
Hi Susan....I never got into a heavy text discussion...he knew I wouldn't...I wrote many letters to process my emotions...but only sent a few to him...he processed them...
unfortunately his default setting is that of self and there will be no more letters....out enjoying my weekend without him...as promised to myself 😊
Great advice!
I wish i have seen your video much earlier.. it cost me my relationship by doing the opposite of this video. This is what exactly what happened.
I tried. he refuse to call. Or respond. Yes I was angry. I felt the email that I sent wasn't angry. He felt it was. I was only responding. He asked me To when I did. He went ghost. Plus I felt he was wrong for not discussing with me via phone which I prefer I asked if he had a issue let's talk. He did not. He call his self dumping me via email. Which I found was cowardly. That's what started me sending what I felt. His email sound like he was angry at me. It started when he threw a tantrum about baseball tickets he couldn't afford . When he asked me out for a date. I sent a link to cheaper tickets. He stated I should have went on a "cheaper date". Before that a text was sent. The next date saying. I'm not the man u say u wanted. I think I'm dating too early so there , hugh.
I feel if your having financial issues why are you dating? Also like I stated his wife died last year. May. We dated in June. Now he says he doesn't see a friendship or romantic relationship. At this point. Then he went ghost for two weeks. Then came back with I don't want to lead you on. Actually it dawned on me he just wanted to get laid.
I never told him the kind of man I wanted. I did discuss my standards and I was looking for a healthy relationship in the future. Never sent mixed messages. That I dont believe in casual sex.
I wanted to get to know him. So what do u think Susan?
Thanks Susan!!!
Susan W. If you do that then it leaves it open forever to pick at like a wound that won't heal. It's like a diabetic sore that never heals over, and is just getting worse until a resulting amputation is necessary somewhere in the future.
Words can be forgotten easily...but texts/emails/msgs., recordings, etc. can be etched in forever IF someone keeps bringing them up like as if it was just said that very same day. And, every time that it's read or heard played back is just like the first time. 😟 That is much different from saying something to someone and then they get over it soon after because the intensity can't be recreated just by repeating the words.
The intensity of the harsh blow to the head or to the heart (when things are verbally said) diminishes or becomes forgotten over time....like 😔 or 😯 ...then 😐 or 😏 or 😚
I LOVE YOU SUSAN!
Thank you very much.
Lots of love. 💙💙
Listening skill is also important.
I just think even if you are that angry and you yell things actually at them over the phone (it's not the best way to go about it) but the minute you put something down in black and white that definitely is evidence, that, definitely can be used against you.
Susan I have a bad behavior that if I think of something I have to get right away and if not I really get mad so now I have to learn how to control my self
Thanks
Best advice always. Thank you. ❤
You’re brilliant
I'm actually sitting on my hands. My SO can't seem to give up his porn addiction. I thought he had but then there it was again today on his fb page. And to make matters worse, he and i have only been intimate 1 time in 6 weeks. I truly want to send him a very angry text but this video stopped me. So I'm now trying to compose a text that will be more controlled. Wish me luck
Wish I have known that because I was impulsive once and loss a boyfriend.
I wish i knew you around the time when you posted this video... now It's too late. 😞
I feel .....
Because ...
I want ....
What do u think? ....
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please tell what to do if our man is controlling
Sarabjeet kaur Leave
Hi Susan your really Beautiful I have given up on dating I hate being rejected charlie
Forgive your mother and your anger will fade away... for women: Find a man who is a man instead of a feminin man.
What’s your definition of feminine and a real man.
If they send you a all CAP SH!TTY TEXT :
GO TO YOUR FONT AND INCREASE THE SIZE OR TYPE IT INTO A TRANSLATION APP
STOP BEING SUCH A KAREN !!
"KAREN "WILL LIKELY NOT CHANGE.😉
All
Caps huh
>:( im angri boi!!!
Is that English or gen-z language
Your video didn’t help at all lol
Fantastic advice!