Waking up from the seduction of ‘the dream’

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  • Опубліковано 4 лис 2024

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  • @Malithi-P
    @Malithi-P Рік тому +48

    “Keep the dream, replace the person” ❤

  • @BryanPablo6270
    @BryanPablo6270 Рік тому +26

    We do not mourn the person, we mourn the dream that we created
    -Susan Winter -

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +2

      Thank you Bryan

    • @lorysutherland5464
      @lorysutherland5464 3 місяці тому +1

      Thank-You. I am in a shame spiral as to what I said/did that changed his,attraction. I am healthy enough to ask.. What was it ? His answer.. let sleeping dogs lie. So I ask myself What the hell ? What happens to me.. . Have stayed out of relationships. I believe this is what I do. Thank-You so much.

    • @ZacharyBiichle
      @ZacharyBiichle 2 місяці тому +1

      Susan Winters I desire you with all my heart and soul.

  • @dryad6709
    @dryad6709 Рік тому +11

    Dear Susan, every evening, you are helping me with the wisdom of your very own language to get over my different relationship anxieties in so many ways. Thank you ✨

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +2

      I’m honored to be able to help you!

  • @princesssheogorath1979
    @princesssheogorath1979 Рік тому +7

    These questions at 4:22 are absolutely fantastic. By asking yourself those four questions you dissociate yourself automatically from the dream and are confronted by a future that may not align with the dream at all.

  • @anushajain1673
    @anushajain1673 Рік тому +4

    One of the most insightful channels on relationships. Susan, you're incredible!

  • @bentmetal01
    @bentmetal01 Місяць тому

    This all good advice for sure. The variable is that most people fill you with lies about the dream, then once you're far enough into it they begin to destroy the dream little by little until you're living in their dream that only includes you for their satisfaction.

  • @desertrose111
    @desertrose111 Рік тому +4

    Sometimes we should own it that we have projected a version of what we want onto an ordinary human being with his own problems/past trauma to face in life, a version so ideal that we ourselves can't meet yet. The reason the rich gets richer is that they always think they already have the money which is the abundant mindset, so they can attract more of that with similar people. If we already have love within ourselves and are just looking for a partner to share more love and abundance together, we may be able to walk away faster from those who are energy vampires with lacks and attract better energy next time. This is why taking the time to work on ourselves, heal our childhood traumas, to develop self-love and abundance is more important than rushing into a relationship out of fear of life timeline/loneliness/getting older...etc. Because what we attract is simply a reflection of where we are at that stage in life. This is also the reason most rebound relationship doesn't work out. Just a thought.

  • @turner2952
    @turner2952 Рік тому +3

    Great common sense message. In dating, it's always better to think with the logical side of the brain first and not get swept up in the emotions. Fantasy only happens in Hollywood.
    Thank you so much, Ms. Susan!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +1

      It’s not always easy to do so but one must try their best to stay grounded when possible! ❤

  • @Platinum907
    @Platinum907 Рік тому +1

    I was this guys ‘dream’ … he didn’t know my birthday, middle name, address and he deff. didn’t know the big stuff such as if I wanted what he wanted … he just wanted to ‘attach to me’.

  • @sofialatte2501
    @sofialatte2501 Рік тому +6

    Love it, Susan! Such wisdom ❤️

  • @catherinegardener9511
    @catherinegardener9511 Рік тому +5

    Keeping my dream 🥰

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +1

      Good. Never let them destroy your dream. Simply replace your romantic lead!!

  • @kristyorpwood4590
    @kristyorpwood4590 Рік тому +4

    Thank you, Susan. I have pretty much given up on love, but I still like listening to your excellent advice, just in case!😉

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +1

      You got this! Keep your head up and trust the universe has your back!

    • @Platinum907
      @Platinum907 Рік тому +1

      Same! Sometimes this info. makes me think, nope still not ready for the headache of dating.

    • @kristyorpwood4590
      @kristyorpwood4590 Рік тому

      @Brandy Schade Being single can be tough, but not as tough as navigating through the games and turmoil! Content to just be alone and enjoy the predictability that brings!x

  • @Ann-oq1rj
    @Ann-oq1rj Рік тому +3

    I'm always getting this dream with ppl I like. I hate it Please make a video on Limerence Susan. 🙂

    • @dzzzzzt
      @dzzzzzt 4 місяці тому

      I'm the same but is it really limerence? Mayne you didn't mean they were one and the same? To me they aren't the same.

  • @YouTubeUzername
    @YouTubeUzername Рік тому +2

    This advice is golden, thank you!

  • @godsparticle7657
    @godsparticle7657 Рік тому +1

    One way love = The Dream

  • @devaes
    @devaes Рік тому +2

    this explains a lot of what was happening inside me. Thanks!

  • @catielouise4932
    @catielouise4932 Рік тому

    Thank you, Susan! I exactly needed to hear this today. Your videos always come at the right time! Thank you so much!

  • @auser2721
    @auser2721 Рік тому +1

    Dear Susan, thanks you for all things that you’ve done for us! Can you make a video about - how to stop falling in love with people who don’t love you back
    I had this deal like 15 times, I’m only 18 years old, but it feels great at start, but then too hard every time and I kind of finding things like “Tarot or maybe it’s faith” in my mind telling me, something “could be”, “what if..”, etc.
    I understood all my life that’s only dream but I want to find real love, and don’t know, how to make the right hot mindset.

    • @auser2721
      @auser2721 Рік тому

      I can count those men on my fingers by their names, I don’t remember 14 from these 15, but the last one, like always, hurts so much. Now I feel better after your videos, it make me go after it, never look back, and I know - I’m learning something - and this is only karma that we can talk about, just stop fall in love with these people. Maybe because it’s easy, I can’t say that I’m afraid of relationship, maybe, it is. Just ask for your deep answer. You will rescue me for sure, because i ask for your help. Im ready for it.

  • @mfrance3834
    @mfrance3834 Рік тому

    Your voice is so relaxing ! Keep it up Susan ❤

  • @cuteafff
    @cuteafff Рік тому

    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL THESE HELPFUL VIDEOSSS😭😭💕💕

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому

      Thank you for watching! ❤ Glad I’m able to help!

  • @KB-jl9nl
    @KB-jl9nl Рік тому +1

    If doesn't work out then listen to Arrowsmith and Dream on,Dream on ,oh oh oh oh!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +2

      Great band!

    • @KB-jl9nl
      @KB-jl9nl Рік тому

      @@SusanWinter you and Stephen Tyler would be a great couple!!

  • @amadeo-mysticmusic1542
    @amadeo-mysticmusic1542 Рік тому

    Susan I don't know if this could be material for another video but, is it true that love can come when you least expect it? Like here I am after a long distance breakup just searching for that Love that I've always desired but I feel like I don't know when it will come. It's like I almost don't believe it can happen after many failed relationships.. But can it happen ,even at age 29? I just somehow need it to make "sense" in my timeline. Like I'm sort of like "as if I'll just magically match with that guy I've always desired" And maybe that's what keeping Me from receiving what I always wanted. I don't know. Anyway cheers from UK!

  • @Sparksflymich
    @Sparksflymich Рік тому +2

    Big supporter of you, Susan❤❤

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому

      Hi Michie!! This is great to read. I really appreciate it.

  • @ZacharyBiichle
    @ZacharyBiichle 2 місяці тому

    Susan I told you I would live.i told you.

  • @RRthee1
    @RRthee1 Рік тому +1

    Thank you!

  • @lolachlih3136
    @lolachlih3136 Рік тому

    Great advice thank you!❤

  • @Ann-oq1rj
    @Ann-oq1rj Рік тому

    Isn't this called Limerence Susan? Can you do a video on this? Thank you

  • @fadajoana
    @fadajoana Рік тому

    Thank you🧡

  • @auser2721
    @auser2721 Рік тому +1

    Why it feels lonely to have self respect?

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  Рік тому +3

      Having boundaries is not always easy but it’s necessary

  • @lymanmayhew935
    @lymanmayhew935 Рік тому

    No dude it's a nightmare! 🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🙋‍♂️

  • @siigiitanasad6983
    @siigiitanasad6983 Рік тому +1

    ♥️✌🌍

  • @jodiehighroller9820
    @jodiehighroller9820 Рік тому +1

    It’s called vetting