Just here to let folks know that it can work if you both want it to. My partner and I were long distance for the first 2.5 years of our 7 year relationship and are now getting married.
My mom and stepfather never met each other in person for the first 5 years of their relationship. They were online bridge partners. When they finally met in person, they knew they were soulmates. Today they are still in love and happily married after 30 years.
That's a wonderful story. I think the key is: 1) seeing the other person as just a good friend until you actually meet in person - don't get overly invested before that, 2) devising a plan for how to make it a real life relationship once you met and it's been established that there is something to work towards.
Fantasic ! IT support me to carry on, though it is hard: I have a long distance relationship with a friend, I knew many years ago, he is a widower now... and he searched for me 15 years ago.....found a girlfriend, 10 years, now they Are not together, but she lives in his big house! I can only trust him, because people do what they do !!....planning to move nearer to him, we shall not live together...He is working wery much in his pwn comoany for the time being, I am a single living alone for many years....72' now and do not want to go searching on dating sites ! We are good together, both chemistry, personally and emotionally, and thats rare ! .....We support each other on the Phone! Could you please advise me: should I wait for a relationship of more commitment !!?
Been doing long distance for almost a year. Being in company is key. We even do household chores with video call on. When I was ill, I'd even nap while he was working, with video call on, and it made me feel looked after.
I truly agree with you. And the man has to come to the woman for the first meeting, that's just a basic courtesy to establish trust and foster a sense of safety and put her at ease.
Absolutely right. There needs to be a game plan to relocate in as short time frame as possible. Your goal is common law or marriage. Or an Apartners agreement. Marriage and common law are a relationship with the government. Proximity is continuity in the city you live in. It's not real until you're fully integrated into each other's lives. Watch Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician podcasts on LDRs Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Beware of opportunists.
@@SherriFlemming Well, not necessarily marriage or common law, but actually being physically in the same space should be the goal. Remove the distance and be together.
@@wingberry123 Proximity is continuity. Many people do not want to uproot their lives with relocation. That can be the dealbreaker. And the relationship can implode. Compartementalizing is common. Watch Jonathon Aslay, Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid ( avoidant attachment) podcasts on LDRs. They're realistic and solid advice. You're in a cyber relationship with someone that you don't see on a regular basis. LDRs are high risk. They're a common desire on date sites. All the best!
So true. I am getting bored with a long distance relationship our conversations are getting stale and repetitive I enjoy real connections with new friends its great. I joined a dance club and its awesome. I want real people I can hug and sit with and talk to.
@@enchantedsoapsandmore 👍 Wise decision. Proximity is continuity in the city you live in. Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs Rejection is protection. All the best! Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles
Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Boundaries by Henry Cloud Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter I Hear You by Michael Sorenson Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Everything applies for every age....Bravery, yes, but I have to be brave and thats because of life experiences ! I have a job as a volunteer and I akways try to get out among people, only because socialising is necessecary.....The man I know is an important relationship and we just accept each other as we are....True, the pain is just a story ! Practising every day with spiritual masters !❤
It was very challenging to be in a LDR and honestly I wouldn’t do it again. I had never been in one before, we were together a year planned to move there to get a house together next year only to find out he went out and bought a condo without telling me or planning to include me in it. I’ve never been so heartbroken in my life but I’m healing.
@@SherriFlemming yeah there was so many red flags I once again was so anxiously attached and invested I didn’t want to see them. I was a sucker for all his future faking during the love bombing and got too attached and I’m a trusting person so next go around I will be much more cautious!
Damn every time I randomly click on your videos thinking that I probably won’t find anything super new because I watched SOOO MANY of these lol and yet i always find some helpful stuff! Thank you!
This is amazing! I love it when you share parts of your life that shows your “human side” where you tell us how you deal with situations on your relationship. Thank You 😍😍
Omg I had a long distance relationship with a narcissistic person. A red pill guy. Gosh the trauma 😥 I have commented a lot of times about this… it was just heartbreaking to be lied to like that And btw don’t think that you have to watch movies together and that’s quality time. The second time we met we mostly stayed home watching tv and it was so isolating. I doubt he wanted me there just to spend the time being physically next to me. He was still thinking about himself and his needs everyday. When you only watch episodes, and after the episode finishes you check your phone until the new episode starts, you’re just ignoring your partner’s presence. And it’s hurtful
@@ChocoParfaitFra Thankful you survived that relationship! 🙏 Indeed you're right as you've defined it. Rejection is protection. David Tian has informative podcasts on the Red Pill-and Alpha Males. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter Boundaries by Henry Cloud I Hear You by Michael Sorenson 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Stephen A Carter The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Thank you for this great video Matthew! 💌 I have a small suggestion: Please avoid too many sudden cuts and switches in the video, it's distracting. I mean this in a very constructive way! 💛
I’m Canadian and my boyfriend American. It’s been 5 months, i’m lucky enough to spend 2 months and half with him this summer . And I’ll be back this December for 1 month and a half. We are already talking about marriage so I can move there 😅 we are so connecting together even physically we are different
My came last time 22.01.2022. No comments. Only talking about coming. Now gets silent for even 2 weeks and when I asked why "I don't know. I wanted to call next week because I was busy". If calls then only expect sexting (disgusting). He didn't even texted back. I am done.
I always enjoy your content! However, the camera switching back and forth every few seconds was extremely distracting and made it difficult to watch. I ended up just listening to it while doing something else.
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid have informative podcasts on LDRs. Real relationships occur in person. Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Boundaries by Henry Cloud Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter I Hear You by Michael Sorenson 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
This was so helpful. Thanks. Just started one last month, not easy however, we met online and straight away made it clear we were on the same page and the connection was great that we both felt like each one of us has what we were looking for in a partner. Pray for us to grow stronger in love daily. Thanks ❤
I'm a few months into a ldr, 2.5 hours away and it's going OK but we see each other for a short while say every few weeks so far. Not ideal. We do text every day and occasionally call in between our meetings. We've met a total of 4 times only for around 1-2 days each. I like her enough to keep this going but do worry.
@@Mike.Cebert LDRs require a relocation game plan. Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs Proximity is continuity.
Chronic Physical Pain: Matthew, have you discussed TMJ with your dentist? My favorite dentist said the nice people have TMJ, because they are very careful about the way they treat others (Um, calling out partners for tidiness) and tend to internalize stress.
Get VR headsets. Hang out together with your avatars in virtual worlds. VRChat and multiplayer games. It’s so much fun and it does give you a level of togetherness that other technologies don’t.
I've been dating this guy for more than three months. I did bring up serious question about what does he want or desire in this dating? or what does he looking for? we have no problem in talking or discussing that kind of topic actually. However, last week when I expressed my confusion about this dating, because I noticed that he's pulling away. so, I told him that I would like to know whether we're in relationship or not. He told me that he enjoys the company and spending together, and so on. Despite of that, he openly said that he doesn't want to put a label on the relationship. he just wanted to take slow and let it unfold naturally. I wonder if he wanted to keep his option open? if that so, I would be cool with it honestly. so that I can have my option open too. I told him before that I don't want to waste each other time. anyway, It does change my perspective on this relationship after he said the he doesn't want to put a label on this relationship, it feels like that I'm starting to letting it go, despite how good we're together. Does it mean that he doesn't want to make the relationship official? I wonder...
I’m in the same boat. Mine wants to “go with the flow”. Which is fine to know someone naturally. But if he doesn’t want a label, he’s keeping his options open. If you tell him that you want a label and he doesn’t, you’re both want different things with each other at this moment in time. I hope you can both figure it out ❤
Mine told me this two years ago I hadn't heard from him so I stopped texting him he always texted me back I haven't contacted him in over 2months nothing from him so I have decided to walk away he was always let's see what happens after two years enough was enough I won't do a ltr again to much hard work
@@JudyPop94 Ladies both of these men want casual relationships. "Go with the flow" Ask them questions about commitment and state your relationship goals clearly. What do you want and what are your goals. Stand in your power and speak your truth without sugar coating anything. Women are in charge of their relationship destiny.You've got this! All the best! Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style. 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter Safe People by Henry Cloud Boundaries by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker I Hear You by Michael Sorenson Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Stephen A Carter
I try to avoid LDR but my type of men don’t exist in my country 😅 i agreed to my last situationship cauz he was coming to my town and it didn’t happen (solid excuses) and i can’t join him either (passport problems) so we ghosted each other 💔 a year later i still think about him and I’ll wonder what if.. this feeling sucks 😢
@@saradf Rejection is protection. What you do matters most of all. ❤️ Proximity is continuity. Beware of opportunists on date sites. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Boundaries by Henry Cloud Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter I Hear You by Michael Sorenson 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style. Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs.
So I just went no contact with my LDR girlfriend of 3 years. I Have done everything to bridge our 1000 mile distance, I was gonna drive to see her she said don't in the beginning, so after a bit of time I bought her a plane ticket, she mysteriously went distant the day of flight and said she was sick, so we made up after all that and about a year ago I drove 1000 miles to see her and I ended up sitting in the hotel for 3 days before driving home cause she avoided me when I showed up. So its been a year since me going to see her and I finally said to her if she can figure out a way to see me let me know, but until then we are not gonna communicate. We have facetimed and never gave her any money so its not that type of situation I just think whenever I get close she avoids.
I made a mistake making an attachment with someone who i couldn't make a relationship with. She found me interested and told me I'm her crush. So she was honest that she has a long term relationship with someone, whom she didn't find any attraction to. Now I'm getting hurt every time I am with her. I couldn't get out of my head those moments we spent together. She told me she never treated the way I treated her . Now I'm still hurt and I still continue to be with her. I know I'm gonna get hurt making attachment with her. I'm losing my boundaries I'm getting desperate. She said she love her boyfriend infront of me n I get hurt . She still says that I'm very attractive to her. We even had s*x. I don't know what to do I'm really feeling like God is punishing me. I'm a guy who like to have a long term relationship. I've been single for 4 years since I have been improved myself going to gym finding ways to earn after the recent relationship. Now I'm really hurting myself n I'm really afraid of having a relationship. I've been watching all ur content and i would love to listen some words from you. Thank you very much.
God is not punishing you but we do suffer the consequences of our actions... she's using you to get attention and an ego boost - there are plenty of available girls who would love a guy like you. Does her bf know she cheated on him emotionally and physically? Best is walk away and date other girls, tell her to contact you once she's dumped the poor unsuspecting bf AND grieved the loss out of her system, personally if she'll do it to him she'll do it to you - I'd run a mile. Dignity beloved, shake off the dust when actions don't match words 😢❤🙏🏻
I’m a 69 female and in a long distance relationship. I met him online when I was in Scotland and we had planned to meet up there but then he had business to attend to in Europe for a couple of days which turned out to be a couple of months and he is still there. I had to return to Australia. We have only FaceTimed once and our relationship has progressed to a stage that we both want the same things out of life. We talk about spending the rest of our lives together. At times he is uncontactable and this makes me anxious. I’m struggling with this. He assures me when his work is finished he will fly to Australia. Do you think long distance relationships are really doable and for how long.
Yes, it is possible. But not with this guy. Only Facetimed once? But he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? I'm sorry to break it to you, but his story does not check out.
I’ve had this gut feeling about it and probably just hoping it’s real as I’ve fallen hard, but yes the red flag is there and even my bestie is saying ‘Red Flag’ 😢
I was in a relationship with someone who was initially living in the same area but ended up going far away to study at university and for me the long distance was hard work to maintain it and was sadly forced to end it. One of my prerequisites before going on a date or into a relationship is are they within a reasonable distance to where I am geologically and are we going in the same direction as each other. My sister married a man who lived a long way but they did end up together because they were going in the same direction and that’s something to think about.
My boyfriend after six year started to distance and ghosted .. he left without informing...not picking call msg or any information... my mental and emotional batate completely broke.. what to do
Read the proverbs about that kind of person... block him and get new rules, don't pick up the phone when he comes back... Listen to Dr Ramani on narcissistic abuse Learn to love yourself the way Jesus loves you ❤ you will come thru this 🙏🏻
I dont think that way, distance can give you a taste of reality like are both ready to commit in any Situation and how can you Work through this togehter.
We have been dating off & on for 3 years. We have never met in person, only FaceTime. He has autism & it’s like dating a child. I love him but I’m tired. He isn’t a man but I want him to be. It’s hard.
I'm a 54 yr old guy and on the spectrum. I've never dated tho got a wonderful lady friend I love and I'm starting to enjoy her company helping her build her business. You've got to meet this guy and not facetime each other for starters. I heard that from my female friend... ' you're supposed to be a man !' Well what Am I then ? Maybe if this guy is within driving distance go see him. Forget the notion of relationships! Just enjoy each other's company. Go out shopping with each other for starters. Make it a mission. Go women shopping and ask him to come. Your focus will be on the task at hand. Say looking for a certain coloured chair for a room at home that goes with the curtains and don't find the chair.... Agree to meet up with him again at the shopping center and look for curtains to compliment the chair you would of replaced... Then go to a paint shop because you are thinking about repainting the room... Make it that it's a mission and Not a date ! Autistic people and relationships are awkward as I know being on the spec. At the end of the day you'll probably have a guy right there that's probably stinging deep down to enjoy your company without the awkwardness of feeling he has to Man Up ! Do stuff like that or at least consider it. Don't put pressure on .. just enjoy the moment. So long as things are going in a forward direction, what does it matter ?
@@bettiebxox Honey you're in a cyber relationship. Real relationships occur in person. Proximity is continuity. You cannot change a man. Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles.
Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
can you do a video about a new bell i have discovered: “we are exclusive but not in a relationship, not boyfriend and girlfriend” like what? isn’t that what being exclusive is?
My long distance relationship has been going pretty strong for nearly two years. My only problem is that over weekends he gets busy and does not call. Some weekends he has ignored me. He said that he didn't and that he was busy and has apologized but it keeps on happening. I am one of those people that do not expect responses straight away and am pretty easy going. I do not hound him with phone calls etc. I just want a good morning and a good night. Should I break up with him? I have told him a few times that when he doesn't connect with me that I get hurt because it makes me feel like nothing. I am just thinking that when I do move and we are staying together, this will continue? Is he going to be busy over the weekends and not have any time for our relationship? If he cant spare a few minutes to just greet me on the phone now.
Definetely this is not a good sign, that he does not text you on weekends. At least there should be continuity of online exchange in a long distance relationship in my opinion. We had that in our 6 years ldr, but now it is still coming to an end on my side, because there is no perspective of living together some time, so that I told him that I am looking for a new partner on dating apps. I wish you all the best!
Is 60 miles long distances I'm falling for a girl and I'm scared if she turns around and doesn't want to carry on We have spoken about a lot even kids and her kids and sending pictures of her and her kids on days out we've had some naughty texting nights 😉 I don't know if I should go on dates with others or 100% focus on us but we're not in a relationship And scared getting too attached and falling too much to lose her
OMG …Who edited this video!?! 😂They need to be tied up in a room and made to watch paint dry.😅 I got sea sick with the constant changing frames. 🤢. Great content though Matt!
Don’t ever send money and if they won’t meet up don’t give them a second chance as they are probably a cat fish or lying about something serious such as their age
I just started talking to a girl that stays almost 2hrs away & I really want it to work out but I don’t want to continue to text her all day everyday even though we ft every night. I just don’t wanna be to clingy, any advice would help
I’m in the same situation… my advice is try not to text too much that doesn’t help. Text maybe three times during the day and try to talk on the phone. Meet up twice a month .. since it’s only 2 hours , go on dates and spend time together. I don’t know if you have your own place or not but if you do invite her over every other weekend and you can go to hers according. This is what l do .. also lastly have a plan and a date on who moves where otherwise it’s just wasting time and you’re better off as friends.
Don’t be too available and clingy even if it’s long distance.. have things going on in your life like work , friends , gym etc and try to keep texting at a minimum. Best is face time and phone calls more intimate..don’t be too available it kills attraction very fast.
Just here to let folks know that it can work if you both want it to.
My partner and I were long distance for the first 2.5 years of our 7 year relationship and are now getting married.
That's awesome, congrats to you both 😊
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Congrats that’s awesome 🎉
I hoped this would be me. We're a year in and my bf broke up with me because he doesn't want to move.
❤
My mom and stepfather never met each other in person for the first 5 years of their relationship. They were online bridge partners. When they finally met in person, they knew they were soulmates. Today they are still in love and happily married after 30 years.
That's a wonderful story. I think the key is: 1) seeing the other person as just a good friend until you actually meet in person - don't get overly invested before that, 2) devising a plan for how to make it a real life relationship once you met and it's been established that there is something to work towards.
Fantasic ! IT support me to carry on, though it is hard: I have a long distance relationship with a friend, I knew many years ago, he is a widower now... and he searched for me 15 years ago.....found a girlfriend, 10 years, now they Are not together, but she lives in his big house! I can only trust him, because people do what they do !!....planning to move nearer to him, we shall not live together...He is working wery much in his pwn comoany for the time being, I am a single living alone for many years....72' now and do not want to go searching on dating sites ! We are good together, both chemistry, personally and emotionally, and thats rare ! .....We support each other on the Phone! Could you please advise me: should I wait for a relationship of more commitment !!?
Was there online bridge 35 years ago??🤔🤔
@@KnightofSunshine There was indeed. They were some of the pioneers on that site.
@@KnightofSunshine I also should have mentioned it was 30 years ago. I was counting the first 5 years of friendship as part of the 30.
Been doing long distance for almost a year. Being in company is key. We even do household chores with video call on. When I was ill, I'd even nap while he was working, with video call on, and it made me feel looked after.
the distinction between 'be in conversation' vs. 'be in company' is great - thank you!
I only believe in long distance relationship for a short period. When it goes on for too long, it doesn't make sense anymore.
I truly agree with you. And the man has to come to the woman for the first meeting, that's just a basic courtesy to establish trust and foster a sense of safety and put her at ease.
Absolutely right. There needs to be a game plan to relocate in as short time frame as possible. Your goal is common law or marriage. Or an Apartners agreement.
Marriage and common law are a relationship with the government.
Proximity is continuity in the city you live in. It's not real until you're fully integrated into each other's lives.
Watch Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician podcasts on LDRs
Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles.
Beware of opportunists.
@@SherriFlemming Well, not necessarily marriage or common law, but actually being physically in the same space should be the goal. Remove the distance and be together.
@@wingberry123 Proximity is continuity. Many people do not want to uproot their lives with relocation. That can be the dealbreaker. And the relationship can implode. Compartementalizing is common.
Watch Jonathon Aslay, Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid ( avoidant attachment) podcasts on LDRs. They're realistic and solid advice. You're in a cyber relationship with someone that you don't see on a regular basis. LDRs are high risk. They're a common desire on date sites.
All the best!
So true. I am getting bored with a long distance relationship our conversations are getting stale and repetitive I enjoy real connections with new friends its great. I joined a dance club and its awesome. I
want real people I can hug and sit with and talk to.
Im just walking away of one thanks to all your advices helping me out figuring out the situation and watching for myself THANKS
@@enchantedsoapsandmore 👍 Wise decision. Proximity is continuity in the city you live in.
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs Rejection is protection.
All the best!
Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Everything applies for every age....Bravery, yes, but I have to be brave and thats because of life experiences ! I have a job as a volunteer and I akways try to get out among people, only because socialising is necessecary.....The man I know is an important relationship and we just accept each other as we are....True, the pain is just a story ! Practising every day with spiritual masters !❤
I think everything you have to say is applicable to me as a mature person, you advice and wisdom is limitless
It was very challenging to be in a LDR and honestly I wouldn’t do it again. I had never been in one before, we were together a year planned to move there to get a house together next year only to find out he went out and bought a condo without telling me or planning to include me in it. I’ve never been so heartbroken in my life but I’m healing.
Emily ❤️. You learned the lesson.
@@SherriFlemming yes indeed!
@@ShopgirlNY182 👍❤️
A double life and compartmentalizing is common. So is infidelity in LDRs.
@@SherriFlemming yeah there was so many red flags I once again was so anxiously attached and invested I didn’t want to see them. I was a sucker for all his future faking during the love bombing and got too attached and I’m a trusting person so next go around I will be much more cautious!
@@SherriFlemming Thank you for your response! I’ve never been in a LDR before but I never want to again and on top of that he was an avoidant. Ugh.
Damn every time I randomly click on your videos thinking that I probably won’t find anything super new because I watched SOOO MANY of these lol and yet i always find some helpful stuff! Thank you!
These videos are a godsend
This is amazing! I love it when you share parts of your life that shows your “human side” where you tell us how you deal with situations on your relationship. Thank You 😍😍
Omg I had a long distance relationship with a narcissistic person. A red pill guy. Gosh the trauma 😥 I have commented a lot of times about this… it was just heartbreaking to be lied to like that
And btw don’t think that you have to watch movies together and that’s quality time. The second time we met we mostly stayed home watching tv and it was so isolating. I doubt he wanted me there just to spend the time being physically next to me. He was still thinking about himself and his needs everyday. When you only watch episodes, and after the episode finishes you check your phone until the new episode starts, you’re just ignoring your partner’s presence. And it’s hurtful
@@ChocoParfaitFra Thankful you survived that relationship! 🙏
Indeed you're right as you've defined it. Rejection is protection.
David Tian has informative podcasts on the Red Pill-and Alpha Males.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Stephen A Carter
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style.
All relationships are lessons.
Thank you for this great video Matthew! 💌 I have a small suggestion: Please avoid too many sudden cuts and switches in the video, it's distracting. I mean this in a very constructive way! 💛
I agree it's too choppy in filming.
I’m Canadian and my boyfriend American. It’s been 5 months, i’m lucky enough to spend 2 months and half with him this summer . And I’ll be back this December for 1 month and a half. We are already talking about marriage so I can move there 😅 we are so connecting together even physically we are different
I just dumped my bf..we haven't seen each other since last December. He is too busy with work and just loves bombs with texts and calls. Done!
My came last time 22.01.2022. No comments. Only talking about coming. Now gets silent for even 2 weeks and when I asked why "I don't know. I wanted to call next week because I was busy". If calls then only expect sexting (disgusting). He didn't even texted back. I am done.
@@ahmedel-jadd7710 🫂🫂 just move on
I did that too. He was always tired and busy with work. All he texted to me was that. I ended our ldr.
If they cared they’d make time for you otherwise it’s best to cut them loose
Invest in yourself and eventually you will find someone worthwhile 🧡✨
@@j12barron 💯
I always enjoy your content!
However, the camera switching back and forth every few seconds was extremely distracting and made it difficult to watch. I ended up just listening to it while doing something else.
Yeah it's just too much. Also "Q&A part 2" would have been a better and more informative headline 😅
I agree , horrible to watch
I don't think long distant relationships work as well in terms of levels of intimacy
Agreed
@@julierobinson8173 Relocation is the common deal breaker. Proximity is continuity in the city you live in. Abundance. 🌞
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid have informative podcasts on LDRs. Real relationships occur in person.
Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Excellent, brilliant advice
Thank you Matthew. You are a refreshing voice of reason and are greatly appreciated
This was so helpful. Thanks. Just started one last month, not easy however, we met online and straight away made it clear we were on the same page and the connection was great that we both felt like each one of us has what we were looking for in a partner. Pray for us to grow stronger in love daily. Thanks ❤
@thematthewhussey5 Good, thanks.
Matthew, great content & beautifully shot... the editing jumps too much! I'm getting a bit of motion sickness.
no one is flawless, not even the relationship expert..
Looooove it!!!! You need to do this more often!!!❤🎉!!!
I'm a few months into a ldr, 2.5 hours away and it's going OK but we see each other for a short while say every few weeks so far. Not ideal. We do text every day and occasionally call in between our meetings. We've met a total of 4 times only for around 1-2 days each. I like her enough to keep this going but do worry.
@@Mike.Cebert
LDRs require a relocation game plan.
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs
Proximity is continuity.
Chronic Physical Pain: Matthew, have you discussed TMJ with your dentist? My favorite dentist said the nice people have TMJ, because they are very careful about the way they treat others (Um, calling out partners for tidiness) and tend to internalize stress.
Get VR headsets. Hang out together with your avatars in virtual worlds. VRChat and multiplayer games. It’s so much fun and it does give you a level of togetherness that other technologies don’t.
Magic make up bag 😂😂Matt thats almost lot of us! -Audrey you keep doing what you’re doing! Hahaha
Great content, but way too many jump cuts in the videos lately. Takes me out of what is being said.
Less is more 👍
I didn’t notice it but now I do 😅
Loved this video, very eye opening for me, thank you!
Soooooo, you love listening to yourself!?! I get it!
Gosh, this channel is so helpful, thank you!
I've been dating this guy for more than three months. I did bring up serious question about what does he want or desire in this dating? or what does he looking for? we have no problem in talking or discussing that kind of topic actually. However, last week when I expressed my confusion about this dating, because I noticed that he's pulling away.
so, I told him that I would like to know whether we're in relationship or not. He told me that he enjoys the company and spending together, and so on. Despite of that, he openly said that he doesn't want to put a label on the relationship. he just wanted to take slow and let it unfold naturally.
I wonder if he wanted to keep his option open? if that so, I would be cool with it honestly. so that I can have my option open too. I told him before that I don't want to waste each other time.
anyway, It does change my perspective on this relationship after he said the he doesn't want to put a label on this relationship, it feels like that I'm starting to letting it go, despite how good we're together.
Does it mean that he doesn't want to make the relationship official? I wonder...
I’m in the same boat. Mine wants to “go with the flow”. Which is fine to know someone naturally. But if he doesn’t want a label, he’s keeping his options open. If you tell him that you want a label and he doesn’t, you’re both want different things with each other at this moment in time. I hope you can both figure it out ❤
Mine told me this two years ago I hadn't heard from him so I stopped texting him he always texted me back I haven't contacted him in over 2months nothing from him so I have decided to walk away he was always let's see what happens after two years enough was enough I won't do a ltr again to much hard work
@@JudyPop94 Ladies both of these men want casual relationships. "Go with the flow"
Ask them questions about commitment and state your relationship goals clearly.
What do you want and what are your goals. Stand in your power and speak your truth without sugar coating anything. Women are in charge of their relationship destiny.You've got this!
All the best!
Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles.
Know yourself and your attachment style.
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Stephen A Carter
You and Audrey just cracked me up with laughter...lol
I try to avoid LDR but my type of men don’t exist in my country 😅 i agreed to my last situationship cauz he was coming to my town and it didn’t happen (solid excuses) and i can’t join him either (passport problems) so we ghosted each other 💔 a year later i still think about him and I’ll wonder what if.. this feeling sucks 😢
@@saradf
Rejection is protection.
What you do matters most of all. ❤️ Proximity is continuity.
Beware of opportunists on date sites.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
I Hear You by Michael Sorenson
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
Ken Reid clinician has informative podcasts on attachment styles. Know yourself and your attachment style.
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs.
Love you videos, follow you on uTube and have learned so much. You are my go to man with suggestions and advice!!
So I just went no contact with my LDR girlfriend of 3 years. I Have done everything to bridge our 1000 mile distance, I was gonna drive to see her she said don't in the beginning, so after a bit of time I bought her a plane ticket, she mysteriously went distant the day of flight and said she was sick, so we made up after all that and about a year ago I drove 1000 miles to see her and I ended up sitting in the hotel for 3 days before driving home cause she avoided me when I showed up. So its been a year since me going to see her and I finally said to her if she can figure out a way to see me let me know, but until then we are not gonna communicate. We have facetimed and never gave her any money so its not that type of situation I just think whenever I get close she avoids.
She’s not the one brother. 🚮
Can we have more of Audrey’s comments ? 😂👏🏼
I made a mistake making an attachment with someone who i couldn't make a relationship with. She found me interested and told me I'm her crush. So she was honest that she has a long term relationship with someone, whom she didn't find any attraction to. Now I'm getting hurt every time I am with her. I couldn't get out of my head those moments we spent together. She told me she never treated the way I treated her . Now I'm still hurt and I still continue to be with her. I know I'm gonna get hurt making attachment with her.
I'm losing my boundaries I'm getting desperate.
She said she love her boyfriend infront of me n I get hurt .
She still says that I'm very attractive to her.
We even had s*x.
I don't know what to do
I'm really feeling like God is punishing me.
I'm a guy who like to have a long term relationship.
I've been single for 4 years since I have been improved myself going to gym finding ways to earn after the recent relationship.
Now I'm really hurting myself n I'm really afraid of having a relationship.
I've been watching all ur content and i would love to listen some words from you.
Thank you very much.
God is not punishing you but we do suffer the consequences of our actions... she's using you to get attention and an ego boost - there are plenty of available girls who would love a guy like you. Does her bf know she cheated on him emotionally and physically?
Best is walk away and date other girls, tell her to contact you once she's dumped the poor unsuspecting bf AND grieved the loss out of her system, personally if she'll do it to him she'll do it to you - I'd run a mile. Dignity beloved, shake off the dust when actions don't match words 😢❤🙏🏻
The view switching up and back in the video was horribly distracting.
The biggest mistake you can make in a long distance relationship is starting it.
I’m a 69 female and in a long distance relationship. I met him online when I was in Scotland and we had planned to meet up there but then he had business to attend to in Europe for a couple of days which turned out to be a couple of months and he is still there. I had to return to Australia. We have only FaceTimed once and our relationship has progressed to a stage that we both want the same things out of life. We talk about spending the rest of our lives together. At times he is uncontactable and this makes me anxious. I’m struggling with this. He assures me when his work is finished he will fly to Australia. Do you think long distance relationships are really doable and for how long.
Yes, it is possible. But not with this guy. Only Facetimed once? But he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? I'm sorry to break it to you, but his story does not check out.
Wanting to spend the rest of his life with you this early babe is a MEGA red flag..🚩
I’ve had this gut feeling about it and probably just hoping it’s real as I’ve fallen hard, but yes the red flag is there and even my bestie is saying ‘Red Flag’ 😢
They are .. But you need to spend time together in real life.. or else your building a fantasy
You need to arrange to meet up again if he’s a no show a second time he’s either a scammer or married and you need to let it go
I was in a relationship with someone who was initially living in the same area but ended up going far away to study at university and for me the long distance was hard work to maintain it and was sadly forced to end it. One of my prerequisites before going on a date or into a relationship is are they within a reasonable distance to where I am geologically and are we going in the same direction as each other. My sister married a man who lived a long way but they did end up together because they were going in the same direction and that’s something to think about.
thanks
My boyfriend after six year started to distance and ghosted .. he left without informing...not picking call msg or any information... my mental and emotional batate completely broke.. what to do
Read the proverbs about that kind of person... block him and get new rules, don't pick up the phone when he comes back...
Listen to Dr Ramani on narcissistic abuse
Learn to love yourself the way Jesus loves you ❤ you will come thru this 🙏🏻
Ghosting you like that is not fair. I'm so sorry. I got broken up with recently. How are you doing now?
Sounds like a classic case of there's somebody else in the picture
Personally I think the best is to just avoid long distance relationship 🤔
Right! 👌🏼
I dont think that way, distance can give you a taste of reality like are both ready to commit in any Situation and how can you Work through this togehter.
That's not a good thing to do
@@Nimmie111 What ?
agree
We have been dating off & on for 3 years. We have never met in person, only FaceTime. He has autism & it’s like dating a child. I love him but I’m tired. He isn’t a man but I want him to be. It’s hard.
I'm a 54 yr old guy and on the spectrum. I've never dated tho got a wonderful lady friend I love and I'm starting to enjoy her company helping her build her business.
You've got to meet this guy and not facetime each other for starters. I heard that from my female friend... ' you're supposed to be a man !'
Well what Am I then ?
Maybe if this guy is within driving distance go see him. Forget the notion of relationships! Just enjoy each other's company. Go out shopping with each other for starters. Make it a mission. Go women shopping and ask him to come. Your focus will be on the task at hand. Say looking for a certain coloured chair for a room at home that goes with the curtains and don't find the chair....
Agree to meet up with him again at the shopping center and look for curtains to compliment the chair you would of replaced... Then go to a paint shop because you are thinking about repainting the room...
Make it that it's a mission and Not a date ! Autistic people and relationships are awkward as I know being on the spec.
At the end of the day you'll probably have a guy right there that's probably stinging deep down to enjoy your company without the awkwardness of feeling he has to Man Up ! Do stuff like that or at least consider it. Don't put pressure on .. just enjoy the moment. So long as things are going in a forward direction, what does it matter ?
@@bettiebxox Honey you're in a cyber relationship. Real relationships occur in person. Proximity is continuity. You cannot change a man.
Jonathon Aslay Evan Marc Katz and Ken Reid clinician have informative podcasts on LDRs
Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter
Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships
Are You The One For Me? by Barbara De Angelis
can you do a video about a new bell i have discovered: “we are exclusive but not in a relationship, not boyfriend and girlfriend” like what? isn’t that what being exclusive is?
Habría que resolver lo del traductor en Español así podríamos disfrutar su contenido Matthew. Agradecida por leerme
3 years long distance relationship, 5 years living together. Still not ready enough. The concept of time is ridiculous.
My long distance relationship has been going pretty strong for nearly two years. My only problem is that over weekends he gets busy and does not call. Some weekends he has ignored me. He said that he didn't and that he was busy and has apologized but it keeps on happening. I am one of those people that do not expect responses straight away and am pretty easy going. I do not hound him with phone calls etc. I just want a good morning and a good night. Should I break up with him? I have told him a few times that when he doesn't connect with me that I get hurt because it makes me feel like nothing. I am just thinking that when I do move and we are staying together, this will continue? Is he going to be busy over the weekends and not have any time for our relationship? If he cant spare a few minutes to just greet me on the phone now.
Definetely this is not a good sign, that he does not text you on weekends. At least there should be continuity of online exchange in a long distance relationship in my opinion. We had that in our 6 years ldr, but now it is still coming to an end on my side, because there is no perspective of living together some time, so that I told him that I am looking for a new partner on dating apps. I wish you all the best!
complete BS. RUN. He’s married or in a relationship. You do not need him to confirm this in conversation or text- his behavior says it all.
Audrey is so funny!
Is 60 miles long distances
I'm falling for a girl and I'm scared if she turns around and doesn't want to carry on
We have spoken about a lot even kids and her kids and sending pictures of her and her kids on days out
we've had some naughty texting nights 😉
I don't know if I should go on dates with others or 100% focus on us but we're not in a relationship
And scared getting too attached and falling too much to lose her
I love you guys
OMG …Who edited this video!?! 😂They need to be tied up in a room and made to watch paint dry.😅 I got sea sick with the constant changing frames. 🤢. Great content though Matt!
😂😂😂😂😂😂 now I have nausea after reading your comment 😂😂😂... psychology 😅😅😅
10 years from syria i
Every sunday ❤
Thought this was a long distance relationship video only.
Don’t ever send money and if they won’t meet up don’t give them a second chance as they are probably a cat fish or lying about something serious such as their age
But you are making the money!
The choppy cut is definitely irritating. Please don’t!
Something about the distance...
It’s done too often
It doesn't work.
ufff that 2nd last topic, happened to me
Out of site out of mind.😂
Fact
I don’t have them. Problem solved.
I just started talking to a girl that stays almost 2hrs away & I really want it to work out but I don’t want to continue to text her all day everyday even though we ft every night. I just don’t wanna be to clingy, any advice would help
This is my problem as well. I think I have already come off as clingy trying to set up a second date.
I’m in the same situation… my advice is try not to text too much that doesn’t help. Text maybe three times during the day and try to talk on the phone. Meet up twice a month .. since it’s only 2 hours , go on dates and spend time together. I don’t know if you have your own place or not but if you do invite her over every other weekend and you can go to hers according. This is what l do .. also lastly have a plan and a date on who moves where otherwise it’s just wasting time and you’re better off as friends.
Don’t be too available and clingy even if it’s long distance.. have things going on in your life like work , friends , gym etc and try to keep texting at a minimum. Best is face time and phone calls more intimate..don’t be too available it kills attraction very fast.
Please talk more about your pitiful experiences.
Hi I'm from Philippines Sana napansin mo Ako ❤
He have problems with long distance relationship. And his new girlfriend she can move to his country.
I'm not particularly tidy at all 😫
Don't do it
Can you get to the point???
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How about making a video that is about 2 mins long?
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Is it me or does matt look like a serial killer in the thumbnail?
I just lost my love, he have a new girlfriend.
I feel for you!
Not your love. If he found another.
@@JeffersonRah What a stupid comment
Good morning! 🩵
Thank you for asking this question @grizle 101🤝
Lol @magicmakeupbag, she's so sweet❤
Love you videos, follow you on uTube and have learned so much. You are my go to man with suggestions and advice!!