Things NOT to Say to a Girl You Like
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- If you really like a girl and want to kiss her, have sex with her and be her boyfriend, then I highly recommend that you avoid saying the following 3 things to her:
1. I need to tell you something. I really like you and I want to take our
friendship to the next level.
2. What do you think about people who date their friends? Would you
ever date a friend?
3. Yeah, I agree! (About everything she says).
Why?
If you say one of those things, she will almost certainly play hard to get, friend zone you or in a worst case scenario, reject you.
From then on, your friendship with her will probably feel a bit awkward for the both of you.
Why will she play hard to get, or potentially even reject you for saying one of those things?
For one of the following reasons:
1. She doesn’t want to seem too easy, so she acts like she isn’t sure. If a guy then worries that he’s losing her and tries harder to impress her, a girl will usually then feel turned off by his insecurity and desperation. As a result, she becomes harder to get and in many cases, friend zones him or rejects him.
2. She isn’t normally hard to pick up, but based on his approach, she feels like she might be too good for him. She’s not too good for him, but he is making her feel that way based on his approach.
3. She feels turned off that he doesn’t have the balls to just kiss her, or set up a date and instead, is trying to discuss his way into a relationship with her.
4. The sexual and romantic feelings aren’t mutual, so it feels like it would be a one-sided relationship in which he is more into her than she is into him.
5. She feels pressured to make a decision to be his girlfriend right then and there because he is essentially asking for a yes or no answer. Yet, she would prefer to have an opportunity to kiss him, have sex with him and see how she feels first.
This is why I don’t recommend that you say any of those 3 things to a girl you like.
It just makes things more complicated and almost always leads to being friendzoned or rejected.
To make things simple and easy for you, what I recommend is that you talk to her in a way that makes her really want something to happen between you and her.
Make her feel excited that she might be able to get a chance with you.
Then, allow her to have that chance with you.
That way, she feels like the lucky girl who gets to be with you and you get yourself a girl that you really like.
To learn more about what to say to girls to get them to want you sexually and romantically, plus how to move in for a first kiss and initiate sex in a way that she wants and welcomes, go to:
www.themodernm...
Cheers
Dan Bacon
Founder of TheModernMan.com, author of The Flow and the best UA-cam dating coach for men
The flow just works. Read it whilst listening to it and I did it on night 1. Just went up to the most beautiful girl in the park with all the confidence in the world and almost never lost it. Got the kiss and number, but then got cockblocked at 100m from my place by friends with a taxi ride home. Problem: they saw us and she got scared AF by what they were thinking of her so she just ran to them after giving the digits. 3 hours of tentions between us and many forgiven mistakes. If you say things confidently and never say sorry, they won't care. Even called her the wrong name and still came back hungry for more.
Dan, you are the man. I had everything in me, but you taught me how to use it.
My best regards.
As a woman, the first time I read one of your articles I finally felt like I was understood, like someone was reading my mind. Whenever you said things like "She might think this:" those were always things I personally had thought before. I could'nt believe it. Recently I've been watching your videos out of curiosity because I'm learning so many things about myself, for example why I'm behaving the way I'm behaving with my boyfriend.. everything makes sense. You're a genius.
This is so true...I told a girl not to come over because "you can't control yourself when you're around me actually...your passion for me is something I can't even control"...next thing I know...ding-dong...guess who was at my door?...#truestory
Me: "You haven't invited me out to ice cream yet!"
Her: "But you're lactose intolerant."
Me: "Dan help."
I can't get tired of listening to this dude ever since I found him in the UA-cam one thing I really regret it's why I never knew this during my 20's but Dan you are the legend of love and relationships.
" Be willing to be real but saying it in a unique way that will make her attracted to you, so you turn the tables again.
The way you talk with her will shape the type of relationship you have with her.
You make her feel desirable emotions and draw in her attraction for you." - Dan Bacon
This really hit, diamond advice. Social intelligence and playful remarks.
Confidence, being relaxed and not being predictable an/or desperate and displaying clear social Intelligence seems to be the gold answer when conversing
with a lot of women. As Dan says they need to really want you, not you wanting them. You turn the tables around in your favour. This advice is gold.
I shall be using some of these techniques for my date this weekend coming, having been out of the dating arena for a while.
Listening now to an expert on dating and interaction, it feels complex but with simple, smooth, effective comments.
How can this guy not have more views? By far the best dating coach out there for men. Great work buddy, glad I just discovered you
20 years ago: kissing > get into relationship > maybe having sex
now: kissing > having sex > maybe get into relationship
things getting changed lol
Nobody in this world speaks the truth the way Dan does. Heaven has a special place for amazing individuals like him
I feel like I’m finally starting to see what you’re trying to say, and the approach you’re taking to the issues you present. It’s more like you’re offering life advice rather than just hookup advice. I really appreciate that mate. Cheers
This guy is on another level, social genius!
"Wanna breed?"
So smooth so right not needy...... just deliver calmly like it’s something you say everyday with hesitation. Fantastic advice as usual Dan the man.
Dan, I watched all your videos and read all your testimonials, in two months i got my ex back ans our relationship is stronger than ever. We laugh more, love more, and feel better together. I followed all your steps. I just got my life in order and left insecurities at the door. Thank you
Some guys just take it so seriously right away. Dan always makes fantastic advice
First point is so true. I was doing this mistake over and over, and she was telling me over and over the same - I want it to happen naturally.
Dan still going strong , your advices are gold
What has always worked for me.
- "Just let me know when you're ready".
Girl always says, - "I'm born ready." Or says "umm let me know when you're ready".
Then I say, "I'm born ready". Then we kiss and turns into a year relationship depending on how it goes lol
I am a woman and I like the way you talk. First of all it sounds legit. I mean if someone would approach me this way it would probably work. And I really appreciate that there are no confusing theories, PUA bullshit and routines and no objectification. Just simply do-s and dont-s. 👍
Glad Dan 'the man' is back! The best guy on UA-cam for relationships for males! Great motivation, read his books too, he is the boss! Respect Danny boy :)
Deng! you nailed it here! Thank you for the time and effort that was evidemtly put into this. Respect
Jedi Master Dan. Things I have done by pure accident on many occasions when I wasn't trying but never was smart enough to put together and understand the underlying reasons why they work so well. Purely Masterful Brilliance. My hat is off.
I have made the number 1. Mistake severally and they keep on rejecting me or playing hard to get.
I have really learned alot from you
This man is such a Woman scientist... I would buy all your books and courses anytime anyday
FR if this guy is my dad, i wouldnt have a problem dealing with girls and boosting up my confidence..
Dam good video!!! def will support you I was just about to tell a girl I like her more than a friend , u made me escape that one.
The other day i was going out with this girl and she brought up the topic of feminism and asked me are you a feminist but then i remembered i don’t have to suck up to her so i said no and we debated (a healthy debate of course) and luckily i had valid points explained to her that yes Men and women are equal but the reason why I’m not a feminist is the things that come with modern feminism and them taking it to the next level in a bad way. We even discussed gender pay gap but luckily i was so educated on this with jordan peeterson so i had facts. Long story short she really was into me and now we had several dates she even told me i was different from the rest coz here in France it’s different from the states we really don’t have that much gap between men and women but for some reason every man here sucks up to feminism while there’s no discrimination if not barely. So yes boys don’t suck up to her and be educated on various topics about the world and stuff. Thanks Dan
Man i gonna be honest, i really like the fact that you resume the video in the description, thanks to that you gain my like + my subscription
You’re very witty, made me smile a lot. Will be using your advice! Thanks mate
I put that suggestion into effect and it worked perfectly just as you described. Thanks Dan.
Oh yes, we're going for ice cream tomorrow!
The straight line of "you kiss, have sex and start a relationship" amazes me in this vid 😂
i watched 4\5 of ur videos and i GOT YOUT POINT! thanks man
I just purchased the FLOW audio and am hoping that I don't need the readable version as well. The things that Dan is talking about are exactly what my entire life has been like to date, concerns all the wrong and ignorant things a guy can say to a woman. Will be interesting to see how I am able to change. I have a lot of things I do in my own personal life, and I really don't want to spend a lot of time chasing women, but have made up my mind to go out and apply these concepts and play with women's minds and hearts to get them to actually want to be with me... am going to do this with every woman I meet until I become an absolute pro with these concepts... and at some point, the woman I really want to be with will come along and I will have lots of practice so I can get what I really want. Don't know if this makes sense to any of you, but although I am going to apply these concepts with every woman I meet, flirt, flirt, flirt... I am not going to attempt to go to bed with all of them... but will just refine my skills for when I meet the woman I really want.
Dude you helped me a lot with your videos. You are the best
This is very powerful Dan Bacon. This has exposed the mistakes that I make when interacting with women
Don't just read the flow . . . Study it!
Wow Dan, finally someone who give alternatives in conversation. You get it. Are you available for personal coaching? Just what most men need. I’ve made exactly the mistakes you talk about. Having absolutely no clue on what I could possibly have done wrong. Where can a person learn or see a list of these ideas you convey? Thank you for the complete education on how I consistently screw it up.
Never bring up a relationship first, always let her bring that up first
Well I guess I failed at number 1. I recently told someone who I've been friends with for a while now how I felt about her. She told me that she is thinking about it and that she is going through a lot right now, her mental health is not good right now, and that it wouldn't be fair to me to be with her right now.
Still trying to make it work with her though. 🤷♂️
So many dudes I know need to watch his videos....
I've done all of this without watching this... and pretty much spot on !! genius
I pretty much know what not to say or do, I'm starting to learn what to say or do, this is insightful.
This dude knows his stuff fair play
...... Very good, brilliant dissertations as always Dan.
This guy is so true, I liked this girl to death. I made horrible mistakes by saying I want you and I think we should start dating. Guess what she responded lol " I think we cool as friends so I want is to remain friends." I regret even mentioning me liking her after all. So never will ever make this mistake again in my life. Let it happen and wait for her to say it.
Dan Bacon You really are a Wise Man and an Awesome Deal Breaker... Your Advice is so practical and really Natural... Real 💯
Never seen your videos before but it popped up so I decided I’d give it a chance, and I was pleasantly surprised. Really honest accurate content and a very likeable personality, great work fella keep it going
Dan... I just bought "the flow"and I am going through it... I have been away from dating for a long long long time... I am realizing that I am naturally this way.
All this is a great refreshment. Thank you.
I should have seen this video before... Now she is playing hard ... Same mistakes... Will follow with another girl n get back to you guys ... Love from Tamilnadu
Just found out how I might have screwed up my game. Sigh, let's wait for the next girl.
Hey Dan , there's something i wanna tell you it might upset you.. YOU'RE AFUCKING LEGEND MAN
The ultimate 'LOVE GURU' 🙏🙏
If only I had seen this idea about a week sooner.. guess I’ll be turning on notifications
Change your name from Dan to Don because you're the kingpin, my man.
I needed this video a couple months ago
Hey, I absolutely LOVE your coaching platform Brother! When I get enough money hopefully soon, Ill D eminently buy in! High Value Stuff- Thank You!
Perfect !!!! Almost made this mistake.
Your teaching us how to break the ice with girls
Ok so I tried the technique last week where you basically pretend to ask her out and then say something completely different. I wasn’t sure how she’d react but she ended up laughing at it. I think that’d be a good pickup line to try.
Guilty of the first. NEVER making THAT mistake again. Experience I guess?😂
It's a puzzle when you're picking a very beautiful girl
Great suggestions Dan, I'm impressed. New sub.
Discuss his way into a relationship 🤣🤣
It's a shame that you can only press the like button once
...... DAN, DAN, DAN!!!!!!! braviiiiiiisimo!!!!!!.... A very good video that once again, clearly elucidates how to turn the tables on ladies and make them want US, make them feel like they'd have the privilege to date us. And..... Another video that makes me laugh because of the witty banter and remarks! No funny business you! Only friends! Grazie Dan!
Where were you all this time
What if I dont have such a sense of teasing humour in any occasional moment? Not everyone has. And what if I have been raised as a polite person who should not make weird jokes..
Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/qaUpQpgaGkk/v-deo.html
Dan, you are the OG in this game, just pure legend .
Dan the legend!
We've struck gold!
I'm the one who always get asked for haha there are men like me who can attract girls, but cannot hold a relationship because basically get stuck in that phase... Try ro evolve to a good boyfriend, recently lost my soul-mate due to that.
I actually did this and it worked, she laughed and we did go out for icecream.
What if you made some mistakes already? Is it fixable or reversable?
Like i already said to her that i like her and i played a bit the good boy but i didnt get good results but i noticed that i can easily make her laugh and make her feel comfortable with me more then with others and now we have like a playful atmosphere between us... do i still have a chance? Answer me please!!!
But i'm too shy, women make me tremble in a pathetic way.
Please upload more often dan 🖤
much love
Listen to this guy he is legit he knows what he is talking about
the most i learnt in a single video thanks bacon
U r the god of single men
I realy like that you have examples in video and not just saying-do not do this, do something another.
LOL I just did the first one 😂 I love my life 😂
Thanks Dan for making a difference.
All the Best.
This is genius
This is a great video, thank you.
I actyally love the UFC and had no idea what to say. Man you are good
..... Please tell us more witty comebacks and remarks that triggers attraction and infers that the girl wants some hanky panky from us from the start!
Can you make a video on how i can get my wife back from a new guy. My wife and i seperated in mid December. She started dating and kissing this guy a month later. We were together for 13 years and married for 9. We have 2 sons together. I made mistakes in our marriage and was fixing myself. Then she said she wasnt in love with me or attracted to me. I made every mistake you talk about in your videos. I started watching them a week ago and have been following your advice. I love her so much and want my family back together.she said she loves me and cares about me. They have been together for 4 months now and work together. Is it still a rebound. She used to make fun of him. Do i still have a chance to make her fall back in love with me and steal her away from this guy? Please help.
What if I e been friends with a girl for about three years ? We go on "dates" by ourselves all the time. How can I playfully do the " I've been meaning to tell you something" scenario? Thanks from New York
Dan your a genius and am addicted to your UA-cam channel.
Dan is it possible to get out of the friendzone with someone you've known for years and has known you like them but has also said in the past that they were really attracted to me when they first met me? I really like this girl and I think I can do it I'm just curious what you think my friend.
Lol this guys is so funny, I love it
Dude I learnt a lot in 17minutes. Ty
This guy is such a G😂
And today I have made up my mind....
I will watch and like all ur UA-cam video
I don't think UFC Fighters should wear gloves at all. Fight with bare knuckles like Men.
How long do you have to do the things in the Flow before they become natural?
Where were you these last 3 weeks ?
Dan what you teach is really pragmatic and interesting.
There's this woman I like, but her bf died last year. I don't want to rush her.
Brilliant!
Her: I hate UFC it’s to violent
Me: (looks into her eyes and smiles)
Me: yeah me too that’s why I had to quit. I was beating everyone up.. it was getting bad they all started crying and stuff.. I felt sorry for them