5 Things men notice first and find very attractive. Are drawn to. 1. Looks. Visual attraction. 2. Authenticity. Speaking and acting your true self. Alignment. 3. Acceptance of him. Accept ourselves first. Peace. 4. Create the fun over drama. Gossip (negative) is drama to men. 5. Drive to grow. Causes him to want to grow.
I don't understand why women aren't supposed to be "visual", like men. I'm attracted to a good-looking man immediately, though of course he might have an unattractive character under the good looks. Same as beautiful women.
Women, of course, also first fall in love with the appearance of a handsome man. But basically they value more the intellect and character of a man, how caring, responsible, strong he is. And for men, the attractiveness of a woman is mainly a priority, even if she has a bitchy character, men generally tolerate if she has a beautiful appearance
Women, of course, also first fall in love with the appearance of a handsome man. But basically they value more the intellect and character of a man, how caring, responsible, strong he is. And for men, the attractiveness of a woman is mainly a priority, even if she is mean, men generally tolerate if she has a beautiful appearance
The basics of attraction are beautifully universal - they're driven by our shared biology and evolutionary history. Both men and women experience that intense visual and chemical pull. Just look at how women respond to attractive celebrities or musicians - those groupie phenomena aren't random, they're our mate-selection circuits firing at full force. What's fascinating is how these "attractive traits" aren't gendered at all - they're human traits. The chemistry hits first (hello dopamine!) because nature designed us to mate. Then we look for authenticity, emotional safety, and growth potential because these traits signal good partnership material. The real challenge isn't finding these traits - it's moving beyond that initial chemical rush into building something sustainable. Understanding these biological drives helps us make clearer choices about who we connect with and why.
i ran into my old friend at the gym yesterday, and the first thing they said to me was, “wow, you’ve changed. you’ve got this vibe now.” i just laughed it off, but deep down, i’ve been noticing it too. people seem to be reacting to me differently. i had seen Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki recommended a lot in UA-cam comments, so i decided to check it out. now, i’m starting to think it might be connected to how i’ve shifted my energy.
My comment somehow got deleted. I’ll try making it shorter. I think authenticity is a big thing because if a guy knows you tell the truth and also hold to your standards, then subconsciously he knows you can be trusted. It only keeps the good guys. The players don’t want you to have boundaries.
I think what’s most appealing is when someone possesses a combination of charisma, personality, physical attractiveness, intelligence, kind and considerate, and wit. But is that the impossible dream? People may call it shallow, but is it being honest?
It’s honest but it’s what you rank at the top of the list that matters. Attractive, smart, has charisma is all great- as long as your top qualifiers are- faithful, kind, considerate, reliable. Meaning, he might be handsome, smart, tall etc, but if he isn’t your top qualifiers, he’s still gone. No working on him, no hoping it changes later, no hoping he might appreciate you later. Cut him loose. Disqualify on character, before even considering the rest.
🕊️🙌🏻I was homeless, got addicted to drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I make 255k bi-weekly, have a home, a wife and a lovely daughter. A child of God, HALLELUJAH!
0:01 YES!!! That's exactly her name (RENEE MARIE HARRISON) so many people have recommended highly about her and am just starting with her 😊 from Brisbane Australia🇦🇺
@@George-e1y1c Wow 😱I know her too Miss Renee Marie Harrison is a remarkable individual who has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
I'm sorry, I can't agree with the idea about watering down, that what is said, is purely for acceptance. There are many other reasons to water down what is said that are not about non alignment with oneself. In fact, watering down what is said could very well be in alignment, if the belief is to meet others at their level or in trying to understand a group first (tact, respect, etc). Also, there is a difference between negativity and gossip, and looking to one's man for assistance in analysis of a situation and how best to proceed - does a woman's man really want wash over her concerns in possibly being mistreated by another or others (either unintentionally or intentionally). Yes fun, however, too much fun and it's like having fairy floss all the time and then where is the substance?
Yay, the comment stayed and/or no server error 404 ... cars were rumbling outside in the area too ... that's often when that occurs ... and the rumbling cars didn't hang around as long as usual either ... nice.
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
i ran into my old friend at the gym yesterday, and the first thing they said to me was, “wow, you’ve changed. you’ve got this vibe now.” i just laughed it off, but deep down, i’ve been noticing it too. people seem to be reacting to me differently. i had seen Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki recommended a lot in UA-cam comments, so i decided to check it out. now, i’m starting to think it might be connected to how i’ve shifted my energy.
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
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1. Your looks
2. Authenticity of self
3. Acceptance of him
4. Create fun over the drama
5. Women who have drive to grow
The real MVP
MVPPPPP
Thank you👏@@martipaul7864
5 Things men notice first and find very attractive. Are drawn to.
1. Looks. Visual attraction.
2. Authenticity. Speaking and acting your true self. Alignment.
3. Acceptance of him. Accept ourselves first. Peace.
4. Create the fun over drama. Gossip (negative) is drama to men.
5. Drive to grow. Causes him to want to grow.
I'm very visual as a woman, too!
@monicatobon5373 I totally agree. I am too and women not being visual is a myth. We can see fireworks when a man is just hot. ☺️
I don't understand why women aren't supposed to be "visual", like men. I'm attracted to a good-looking man immediately, though of course he might have an unattractive character under the good looks. Same as beautiful women.
All points are applicable to women as well (Replace drama with laziness)
Women, of course, also first fall in love with the appearance of a handsome man. But basically they value more the intellect and character of a man, how caring, responsible, strong he is. And for men, the attractiveness of a woman is mainly a priority, even if she has a bitchy character, men generally tolerate if she has a beautiful appearance
Women, of course, also first fall in love with the appearance of a handsome man. But basically they value more the intellect and character of a man, how caring, responsible, strong he is. And for men, the attractiveness of a woman is mainly a priority, even if she is mean, men generally tolerate if she has a beautiful appearance
The basics of attraction are beautifully universal - they're driven by our shared biology and evolutionary history. Both men and women experience that intense visual and chemical pull. Just look at how women respond to attractive celebrities or musicians - those groupie phenomena aren't random, they're our mate-selection circuits firing at full force.
What's fascinating is how these "attractive traits" aren't gendered at all - they're human traits. The chemistry hits first (hello dopamine!) because nature designed us to mate. Then we look for authenticity, emotional safety, and growth potential because these traits signal good partnership material.
The real challenge isn't finding these traits - it's moving beyond that initial chemical rush into building something sustainable. Understanding these biological drives helps us make clearer choices about who we connect with and why.
I agree mat you want to be around the people you want to be around not the the people you don’t ❤️😊👍🏻
i ran into my old friend at the gym yesterday, and the first thing they said to me was, “wow, you’ve changed. you’ve got this vibe now.” i just laughed it off, but deep down, i’ve been noticing it too. people seem to be reacting to me differently. i had seen Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki recommended a lot in UA-cam comments, so i decided to check it out. now, i’m starting to think it might be connected to how i’ve shifted my energy.
My comment somehow got deleted. I’ll try making it shorter. I think authenticity is a big thing because if a guy knows you tell the truth and also hold to your standards, then subconsciously he knows you can be trusted. It only keeps the good guys. The players don’t want you to have boundaries.
Exactly! You set the standards for what you want by who you are... To start with 😊
Great job Matt as always and thank you for the insight!
How about "he's seen you in church or at work"? Some of us (thankfully) don't use online dating....
❤i love the Growth quality, i appreciate all these explanations and stories!
loved it. thank you Mat❤
Excellent advice, as always!!! ❤❤❤
I think what’s most appealing is when someone possesses a combination of charisma, personality, physical attractiveness, intelligence, kind and considerate, and wit. But is that the impossible dream? People may call it shallow, but is it being honest?
It’s honest but it’s what you rank at the top of the list that matters. Attractive, smart, has charisma is all great- as long as your top qualifiers are- faithful, kind, considerate, reliable. Meaning, he might be handsome, smart, tall etc, but if he isn’t your top qualifiers, he’s still gone. No working on him, no hoping it changes later, no hoping he might appreciate you later. Cut him loose. Disqualify on character, before even considering the rest.
🕊️🙌🏻I was homeless, got addicted to drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I make 255k bi-weekly, have a home, a wife and a lovely daughter. A child of God, HALLELUJAH!
Excuse me for real?,how is that
possible I have struggling
financially, how was that possible?
Thanks to *RENEE MARIE HARRISON*
0:01 YES!!! That's exactly her name (RENEE MARIE HARRISON) so many people have recommended highly about her and am just starting with her 😊 from Brisbane Australia🇦🇺
@@George-e1y1c Wow 😱I know her too
Miss Renee Marie Harrison is a remarkable individual who has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.
I started with a miserly $1500. The results have been mind blowing I must say TBH
Matt... thnks for this video... right on time & just the advice i needed 😢❤😊
😢😢 thnks
A man who is drawn to drama IS drama 😂
*the simplest thing I've ever heard or the Dao of dating* I'm dying 😂😂😂
I believe u matt about #1;
Now if I could only find a man who has these qualities who lives in my city. 😩 Anyone else?
Beautiful
Men are everywhere
If you find any send them to me or where i can find them
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
After a marriage that ended with so much negativism I now know we lost the fun
I'm sorry, I can't agree with the idea about watering down, that what is said, is purely for acceptance. There are many other reasons to water down what is said that are not about non alignment with oneself. In fact, watering down what is said could very well be in alignment, if the belief is to meet others at their level or in trying to understand a group first (tact, respect, etc). Also, there is a difference between negativity and gossip, and looking to one's man for assistance in analysis of a situation and how best to proceed - does a woman's man really want wash over her concerns in possibly being mistreated by another or others (either unintentionally or intentionally). Yes fun, however, too much fun and it's like having fairy floss all the time and then where is the substance?
Yay, the comment stayed and/or no server error 404 ... cars were rumbling outside in the area too ... that's often when that occurs ... and the rumbling cars didn't hang around as long as usual either ... nice.
My looks?? 😬Shoot. Already started on the wrong foot
real 😭
@ I don’t fit the beauty standard 😓
@@washurhands5079God created every soul with a mate. Yours is still coming 😅😂🇿🇦🇿🇦
So if you’re not pretty or getting older you’re screwed..makes your heart happy..not😢
Wow!! Absolutely gossip is deadly. Do not do it. So many women are nasty and ‘drama’
Men as well
It's more disgusting coming from a guy. And plenty of guys do this
#4 SOOOOO crucial
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
i ran into my old friend at the gym yesterday, and the first thing they said to me was, “wow, you’ve changed. you’ve got this vibe now.” i just laughed it off, but deep down, i’ve been noticing it too. people seem to be reacting to me differently. i had seen Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki recommended a lot in UA-cam comments, so i decided to check it out. now, i’m starting to think it might be connected to how i’ve shifted my energy.
last weekend, i bumped into an old acquaintance at a party, and without skipping a beat, they said, “you’ve got this aura about you now. it’s different.” i couldn’t believe it, but looking back, i’ve been getting this kind of attention a lot more. i remember seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in a lot of UA-cam comments and finally picked it up. maybe there’s something to how you can shift your energy to get noticed.
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