The saddest thing is most people don't even know what really makes them happy. Most just walk around with someone else's idea of what happiness looks like.
You can thank social media for that. Best decision I've ever made was getting rid of facebook. Now all I've got to do is work some strength to remove my instagram too!!!
@@nimazsheik5152 This. Social Media (i make youtube an exception because i mostly use it for laughs and learning) can be extremely bad for you. Actually i'd say its bad for most people who have it right now. They just dont really think about it because its such a habit in their brain by now. I got rid of all my social media about 1.5 years ago and it improved my life without question. Now im looking to get back into it but with a business angle, it the only acceptable use for social media in my eyes. Never again will i be one of those people who upload pictures of themselves and other nonsense desperately fishing for likes. Its quite sad just how hive-minded people have become much because of social media.
@@prcimtimamu3218 Ehhhh, that's the common use of social media. I just use social media because there's interesting stuff sometimes. Plus, there's friends. Thank God I don't go fishing for likes because it seems lifeless.
How’d you interpret dis lines - “I'm on the pursuit of happiness, and I know Everything that shine ain't always gonna be gold, hey I'll be fine once I get it I'll be good”?
"I'll be happy when" is the biggest illusion and trick the ego will play on us. The present moment is all we have, fall in love with the present. Incredible video!
That’s true. I used to think that I can only have fun when I pay off most of my debt but all that did was make me extremely unhappy. Make sure to include fun in your life. It truly does help!
I agree, because in those moments you are focused on doing something you enjoy or being with people that you love and you're neither burdened by thoughts about tomorrow or regrets about yesterday.
"Happy moments doesn't exist, only happiness." Because happiness comes from our brain. The chemicsls and hormones are what dictate our emotion and state of mind. Your happiness can be faked. Everything can be faked and your brain will never know.
steVENOM it’s about more than physical items. You can watch people explain how intense trauma can be sources of empathy, that your depression can help you help others and truly understand.. I’ve been using affirmations for my depression and it has helped me like no other. Tell your brain to find something good about any situation, it will. Just like it does when your depression makes you think something bad about a good situation. Hang in there! The fact you even commented on a video like this lets me know that you’ve come way too far to give up now.
"Whoever among you wakes up in the morning secured in his dwelling, healthy in his body, having his food for the day,then it is as if the world has been gathered for him.'" This is what prophet Mohamed peace be up on him said 1400 years ago about real happines in life ..wish you all the best🌷
There are many people that care about you and that want to help you out, as good as they can. Something i learned about myself was, that the only problem i had all along, is not accepting happiness/better things/my true self. Tell yourself that you deserve it, until you believe it. And if you need an open ear, do not hesitate to drop a message in here. Among the toxic "internet-crowd" there are many good souls out here. Hope you're doing well.
This video hit me in the feels. I am a month off my antidepressants, and I am starting to feel deeply, eat better, and sleep consistently. I realized that my depression will always remain but changing my attitude towards it; not allowing dread to fill my up days and working to stay motivated on my down days. I discovered gratitude for who I am today and becoming proud of myself for overcoming the hardship within my own mind to be happy or satisfied with my present.
I don't usually make any comments on YT but this stood out to me as I have just also quit Effexor cold turkey this past week. I was on it for 10 years. I feel the same things you describe, and feel more grounded. My goal was to lay bare my own emotions, tolerate them, and let them guide me to who I'm truly meant to be as person. I feel like I'm recalibrating my life. Good luck to you.
There is a bunch of new studies showing depression can be exasperated by a poor gut biome. Try adding a daily quality nutritional supplement/ multi vitamin into your diet, at least 6 to 9 months. Hope this helps. Congratulations on coming off the meds..
Hey buddy. I was also on meds for at least 6 months until it made me worst. I attempted S a lot. That was 2017. Now I'm doing great. Replying here to tell you that as long as you're looking for ways to better your condition, you will get that. You will heal. I found my ways. I hope you find yours. Cheers and may love rule in your soul.
@Arpad Toth I mean.. if you are happy with that and you don't care as much about materialistical things.. But ofcourse you could also aim high while at the same time trying to be content with where you are. As long as you are not the person who does care but doesn't achieve.
You're right, but this can misinterpreted. It's about being able to enjoy the things you didn't consider to be something you can enjoy to begin with, the smaller things so to speak
I used to be so happy in my early twenties. Now, at 30 years old, the older I get, the sadder I become. I haven't accomplished anything I wanted, my dreams feel so distant, seems like all my friends and everyone around me just made it and they living their best lives. I'm not jealous, I swear! I just got myself thinking sometimes, why can't I succeed? I'm so frustrated… Seriously, I don't even want to be ambitious anymore because I'm tired of failing. I just want to be happy with the few things that I have, but I just can’t.
@@ΣΤΕΛΙΟΣΓΙΑΛΥΡΑΚΗΣ Yeah. The “happiness” at the end of the tunnel is momentary because you start wanting more once you reach it because of hedonic adaptation. Might as well have fun on the way by doing stuff :) like posting stuff on my yt channel...
since the ultimate destination is death... life is mostly all about preparing yourself both physically and mentally to die one day... everything else including enjoyment is a mere distraction in an attempt to procastinate/temporarily forget this very fact, like if we were all in a bunker... our mission is to accept death... or perhaps defeat it... but, can we? i dont think so and i dont think so...
7:07 Every single Night before you go to Bed write down 3 good things. #1. Something that made you smile #2. Something that you're grateful for #3. Something that you did well
TIP: Categorize GRATITUDE: - a person - a character trait of yourself - a seemingly bad thing that happened to you, but turned out to be good - about your personal growth journey - fill: for not struggling with... - opportunities you have - wisdom - mentors * make it specific * write it down or say it out loud (don't just think of it)
I think some of us would be more happier if we weren’t so damn judgmental towards others and give others a chance but I guess that’s not how life works.
A majority of people i see who complain about ithers being judgemental is often the ones doing the least amount of accomplishments, or are bkthering otgers the most, or look at life in the most empty or negative lense.
"The more ambitious you are, the harder it is to be grateful." - I couldn't agree more. So very relatable. This video was a powerful reminder of the importance of gratefulness for me. Thank you
this is my 8th time watching this video in many different occasions and i still always find myself coming back and watching it whenever it pops up in my recommended
Its like that side chick that doesnt know how to hold a conversation but she blows you so good you see stars and start gasping for air and you coming back for more over the years.
There have been times when I’ve said out loud that I would sacrifice happiness and joy to feel nothing. No sadness, no regret, no anger, no stress, no pain of any kind….but no happiness as a trade off. Yes, I realize this is cowardly. Sacrificing happiness to feel nothing isn’t living, it’s merely existing. I also realize that there have been tens of millions of people who lived throughout history who would have given anything to have my normal, mundane, average guy life with its normal hardships and comparatively microscopic levels of suffering. I’ve heard it said that for most of human history until fairly recently life was difficult, brutal, and short. I believe I’m grateful for the life I have been blessed with, though it may not sound like it. And there are time when I still wish I could switch it all off.
“We are constantly postponing our own happiness, it’s almost like every person who ever lived if left unchecked, will hamster wheel themselves right into their grave” I just love this guy!
I think there’s more to it. For me personally there are things I’d like to do but can’t afford to do them. It’s not for lack of working hard but life happens (divorce, children, down sizing) and takes you further away from your goals.
He's your new Osteen/Robbins/Chopra! Just one more "You're Doing It All Wrong" guru for the weak people who can't exist without being told what to do! No different from any church's pastor whose main goal is to convince you that HIS interpretation of the Bible is better than the pastor down the street.
I’m afraid of losing all the things I’m grateful for, the fear of life changing and knocking me back scares me everyday to a point where I can’t feel happy I wanna know what it feels like to live with no anxiety
Gratitude has been game changer in my life. It’s made me a totally different person from who I was a year ago. Every morning I say thank you for another day of being alive and getting a chance to live life. I say thank you for the things I have. I do the same at night. I wish the same change for whoever’s facing really tough times.
Many people think they will be happy after achieving one specific goal. But the problem is that this happiness is also temporary. Enjoy the process. This will make you happy,not only the result .
I have been struggling with depression for years, even when I achieve my stated goals. Watching 2 of your videos put so much into perspective for me. And as you said, you stated things I'd heard before - but you found a way to communicate them more clearly to people watching your channel. Thank you so much for taking the time to create this content. I find myself relating to others more and pitying myself less.
I was unhappy because I was repeating unhealthy steps. It was like I was in a negative cycle of self- destruction. When I turned 19, I decided to put my life, and my habits, on its head. - quit my addiction to weed and porn - started to lift weights and read daily - got an internship and work for a purpose I've even started a youtube channel to spread this internal knowledge we all know of. If you are on the path, my content will remind you why you do what you do. Stay strong y'all, remember what's important and strive for that!!
Disappointment is the problem. When you're told you'll be happy if you do X,Y & Z. Only a 10-20 years ago, you were told to work hard and your ideal life would happen. Suddenly, a kid on TikTok pops up and makes $20 million a year and you became a dr and can't pay bills.
I swear to god, this guy says the realist shit I’ve ever heard. I’m tearing up while listening to this video. He has such a great way of using his words, it resonates so much with me and I’m grateful for these videos.
I challenge anyone who reads this to take his advice and list 3 things before you go to bed for the next week: 1) Something that made you smile today 2) Something that you're grateful for 3) Something that you did well. Thank you for this Joey. It's important to realize that, no matter how difficult it may seem, we have the ability to direct our subconscious mind.
It’s easy to get caught up in negative thought patterns, which I deal with every day but if you can try and see the positive every day, then that would be great. I might try that. I can usually be positive for a few days then get back into being depressed/anxious.
It's what i did all the time during 20 years... i though that when i achieved somethings i would be happy but this isn't true cuz you'll never be at a point where you will stop and realize that you are happy because this don't exist! We need to live the days by reason of happness is into the days and is not a forever period. As we say here in Brazil "Dias de luta e dias de glória" and in english is like "Fight days and glory days"
The sad thing is to follow other people and think that you can be as happy as them and live their lives Bro you will only lose your life Thank you very much to the presenter of this video
I've heard that intelligent people are more likely to be depressed. I don't have any sources except something I heard second hand a few years ago, but maybe they exist...
@@stupidrainbo I don't consider myself a genius but I'm definitely smarter than average, I get lost so easily in negative thoughts, those negative thoughts split off so many ways, it's crucial for intelligent people to keep their thoughts positive, I've read that somewhere before, I tend to listen to and have a deep respect for those more experienced than me...I'm only 18, I wish I was an AI most of the time...emotions suck
Thank you so much! I've definitely been the type with insane goals and always thinking when I reach them I'll "become happy." But my goals are so out of reach and have been taking me years to pursue them, I have been putting my present life on hold for it. It wasnt until very recently that I've realized this and tried to change myself. Doing a lot more self care, rather than sacrificing most things for my end goal. I remember distinctively telling myself, "I just have to do X and then I'll be happy." "If I can just hold out for this one thing, I'll be that much closer to my goal." I'd get closer and closer to the goal, but never fully reach it. My mind and body was exhausted and I felt like I was running on E for far too long. Now I'm trying to do small things that give my life meaning. And I'm trying my best to get out of this mindset.
I’ve recently entered a period in my life where I feel very happy and emotionally stable. And nothing has really changed except my nutrition, exercise, and overall discipline. I’ve realized I can’t have one of these elements without the other, but together they make me feel so amazing. Every day, I’ve been tracking my nutrition and making sure I’m getting every essential nutrient in sufficient quantities (to prevent deficiencies and ultimately, prevent depression or hormonal imbalances). I’ve also been walking or doing some form of dedicated exercise at least once a day for 30 minutes. I’m reading a book on the link between exercise and psychology and it’s inspired me to do so. And finally, instead of making up excuses to not follow through with the plans I’ve made, I simply stop thinking about it and go through the motions mindlessly. The next thing I know, I’m fully motivated. Relying on discipline instead of “do I feel like it” or “am I motivated” has really filled me with joy and hope for the future. Sometimes it’s not about waiting to get out of a rut, but just getting off the couch (or out of bed) and working for your own happiness.
People were alot happier back before the internet. Knowing what everyone is doing and feeling and thinking all the time is very unhealthy and just makes people narcissistic. Who gives a shit what some person you don't even know is doing? Focus on your loved ones. That's all that matters in life.
I have no hope in my future. I have no friends, no family, i lost the one who i thought i was going to spend my life with because she got into drugs and passed away. I have no motivation or reason to keep going. I always hurt both physically and mentally. All of everything i once had is dead and gone.. yea i have money, a house and a boat all paid off but thats what i got, stuff. Just stuff.. have no life at all. Everyday i drive past a concrete wall and think everytime just to drift over and flatten myself in it at 70mph..
Thank you for making these videos… I know you probably read a lot of comments like this, but your videos truly make a difference in my life. Today was extremely difficult and I have been struggling with feeling happy and content for many years. I am always looking ahead and ignoring the present, and I’m afraid my entire life is going to fly by with my head in the future. But I knew when I went to UA-cam that I would be able to find one of your videos that would help me, and you did. This really gives me hope and I’m going to do the “Write 3 things down” thing every night from now on. Thank you for making a difference, you truly inspire me.
Happiness is a paradox. We strive to find it, sacrificing a lot. As we find a piece of it, we feel emptiness. We are evolved to be discontent, though it is how we expand and multiply (Universe's grand plan).
@@rpeshbhujade3974 yeah, absolutely. Awareness is nothing and everyting at the same time. The thought that we have to do anything to be happy is the biggest conditioning in todays society.
dont be too sad about what troubles you know. Coz someday when things get tougher or darker, you’d wish you didnt waste your time being sad or angry. You are 21. Be honest, be beautiful, don’t give a fuck, and dont try to be philosopher unless you have a six pack abs.
You can’t win with society! When we stay where we are society tells us, “Your not reaching your potential!” However, when we try and climb the ladder society says, “Your not being grateful for what you already have!” So, just do what you feels right if it doesn’t hurt you, anyone else, and is legal by all means go for it!
Thought processes like these are what scare me the most about other people. It’s not a matter of “follow this, follow that”, it’s a matter of how are you able to balance both contradicting ideals into your own life, as a human being possessive of the capability to do so. I do agree with your main point of doing what feels right, without hurting anyone, and going for it.
Luna beat me to it. Most of life is about constant pulls in different directions and (unavoidable) conflicts. Our overarching goal is to achieve balance.
@@utubeskreename9516 And life doesnt just mean to follow the far left or ffar right. It's about balancing ideas of both parties and agreeing with some, not with others. Then again, mate, you're idea is much different than mine. Each to our own, i guess.
I once tried enjoying the present more, and almost lost my job due to becoming to irresponsible and wild. I have no idea how other people are able to balance out their shit. I always lean towards either side to much 😕
@@Modestasgailius I think it is possible to do just it's easier for some people than others. I use to watch those spiritual documentaries where people go on pilgrimages and I have noticed a lot of people later in their lives become more balanced in the present when they are older they probably figure, "Well I had my kids, my wife, my grandchildren, and now retired now it's time to focus on me and the here and now!"
"It's like every person, if left unchecked, will hamster wheel themselves into their own graves" Sounds similar to "Inaction is a slow death" - Thanks for that deep insight
If we were happy all the time, our species would have died out evolutionary speaking... it makes sense that happiness is the hardest to attaining good!
Thank you so much. I'm currently going through one of my periodic bouts of depression, and when I get stuck in that rut, it can be easy to overlook all the good stuff. Today, your video ( and your references to your bald head) made me smile. I'm grateful for the friends I caught up with this morning. I did well with my workout at the gym today. Depression still sucks, but it sucks a little less.
Today I am happy that I forgive my colleague's bad behavior and dealt with our conflicts in a peaceful way, and I am very happy that I ate a juicy pear today. I am grateful to my boss who gives me trust and support to go to milan ,and help us to deal with our visa application. and today I went to gym and work on my shoulder very well and I see my shoulder is becoming bigger.
Dude. What an awesome video. Gratefulness has been an ethos in my life (specially since beating a serious case of Glioblastoma). But the way you explained this, and the examples you gave were so great. And that helpful tip for insomniacs like myself? Amazing. I am subscribed and looking forward to more of your great work. Thank you for sharing your gift!
I strongly agree. For a whole year, we were in and out of lockdown. Looking back, it definitely gave me anxiety. And I looked to two people on the internet to make me happy. In my abstract little word, I took the happiness they gave me out of context. I put it everywhere and into everything. It felt like, no matter what I had something. And I waited and waited for the day, saying “once they get back together, I’ll be so happy!” And they finally did. And because of my real life situation (a surprise lockdown at Christmas), I wasn’t happy. And now they’re gone. They broke up, and I have to try and live in the present, because I can’t tell myself they will come back anymore. There is no “once they…” or “when they…” anymore. And I’ve gone through this before. “By the 23rd of april, I’ll be the best version of myself.” I wasn’t waiting to be happy, I was trying. And by April 23rd, I was happy. But as my life got harder, I missed their joy, and now I’m in the same situation, I can’t leave them behind. But now I’m trying again. I am going to be the best version of myself by July 2nd. And I’m appreciating my life now, trying to forget about them, and love my own life, in the present. I took their joy and my attatchment to them as a lesson. A lesson to appreciate my own life, and live in the present. I made my life revolve around someone else, and when they brought my the most joy they could, I was still not even happy. So By them leaving, I learnt to love me. And it’s one of the best lessons I’ve ever learnt.
I'm not sure I comprehend your statement. So Basically, for a long time your personal happiness depended upon 2 individuals who you never met, and only saw via social media? IMO you really need to seek refuge, consolation and advice through real live people. It should be organic and tangible, it could even be a neighbor or a co-worker, someone at a restaurant you frequent or at the Gym or local swimming pool. You need to get out more from what it sounds like. Family & Friends. The most important network for us. Seeking happiness solely through entertainment entities is not a recipe for your happiness. I enjoy my media too, Netflix, other streaming of shows, even story-driven video games but those connections are not real. Not in the sense of human reality in the real world. I'm not saying they cannot produce happiness they CAN. I'm with you on that. There are times I look forward to being alone so i can marinate in those pleasures but you need outside contact. I do love your last statement by them leaving you learned to love yourself...agree 100% that's so important. Continue on that path and you're going to succeed and feel better about yourself and the world around you. But don't do it alone...and don't rely on the internet & media to produce sources of happiness
@@Original-Juice don’t worry, I have definitely learnt my lesson by this point :) Lockdown was the cause, being unable to socialise kickstarted the attatchment I have to them. Obviously, being only young I had people in real life too, like friends and people at school. It’s just that when things went wrong I relied on them. They were my backup happiness and that’s bad and i know it. But for example, at christmas, I couldn’t see my family due to covid, and that’s when they made me happiest. Even though my life was a mess, I had everything I could have wanted from them. That was the last time they were publicly obvious as a couple, despite not announcing they were dating. After that they went quiet, and pretty soon after that it became believable they could have broken up. So since then I’ve been replacing the massive hole they left my life, it’s just hard to change everything when it was all revolving around them. My backup happiness was taken away. And now, I am able to live without them. You’re right, the last statement is the one I’m most proud of. It’s easier when I have things to distract myself, like studying or going out. But I try my best, every day, to appreciate and love my own life. Out of the whole thing I have learnt so many lessons, like “everything happens for a reason”, and then that leads onto smaller lessons. Thank you for reading my comment and trying to understand, it really validates me in a way :)
I've been writing down my gratitudes daily for a month now. I've realized that every page says the exact same. Like grateful for my family, grateful for a roof above my head, that i have access to food and water, ect. but i just don't feel anything when i write now. Like i am grateful for those things but they're the basic stuff i've had since my existance. The things i despise outweigh the things i'm grateful for by a ton. Ofcourse i'm trying to create things to be grateful for, but the society we live in make those things nearly impossible to get/have. While those things aren't even too much to ask for
Funny enough, I'm watching this video while being up all night from my insomnia. This is my third night of not sleeping and because I have never gone through this before I didn't know how to even tackle this. Thank you for sharing the story about your mother, it brought me comfort knowing I'm not alone and I'm excited to try being grateful every night before bed.
I am so happy that I found your channel. I have all of the problems you mention and keep looking for ways to "fix" them and it never works. Your advice seems honest and I will definetely implement your knowledge into my life. Keep up the good work!
U know what man, there had been times when I came to ur channel for some meaning and understand of things in life and there had been times when I just thought you to be just a guy speaking motivatingly and friendly but of no real use as that made me feel comfortable so that I actually relieve myself temporarily of pain that’s caused because deep down my mind knew stuff you were saying was actually true but it was hurtful so I could put myself into an illusion (yeah still knowing I’m doing wrong to myself but I’m desperate, broken and really lost it-control, hope or everything!). And here I’m today coming to ur videos after searching like a desperate maniac - I searched ‘how to be happy’ with no intention of any video to actually inspire me. I’m not telling yours did but sure however painful (because u talk REALITY!) was the stuff u said-i knew it would have some value or an idea to change my perspective because I listen to u talking with rapt attention or so is my condition right now. So leave the strategy to be happy and shit for now, all I’m saying guys is that no one(fucking nobody will come atleast to a guy like me when reaching out for help itself is a problem due to the fear they wouldn’t talk comfortingly in the way you would want them to or not have time to completely understand what you’re going through) will come to our aid. If we need some fixing it’s always you and you Only. Trust me Ive fantasized things getting better with time but no they don’t if you have the same approach and you get exhausted and you don’t even want to fix anything because you lost it. You just want to go or never wanted to be here at all but suicide is not an option and still want to bring change you try to do stuff atleast like an experiment. Reading this again it sounds like another shitty motivation post but I’m writing only what i feel exactly. The fact that really to fix yourself it has to be only you. Maybe you should atleast initiate something and maybe things might alleviate(actually you’ve become stronger that you think you will be able to deal with them and get the hang of it but that’s all the later easy part. The hard and important part is you don’t want to be the you that you are now and only you have to start that fixing yourself process)
This video will help me a lot, thx so much, these days I've been so depressive and lonely, I'll try to conquer happiness again, even that I try my best everyday and I follow a few of the channel's advices to progress with my life, I am grateful for this channel, thx again
This "hamster wheel" idea is something that I think about a lot. It's so difficult to juggle the idea of preparing/saving for you future with the opposing idea of just having fun and using everything up now. But there is a balance to be struck. As always, love the video and inspires me to do better with my YT content on my channel! Thanks!
What you said about how the more ambitious you are, the harder it is to be grateful may be true for some people, but honestly I've found being grateful pushed me to have more ambition. It's a great cycle where the more I appreciate the good things / 'wins' in my life the more it fuels my ambition to want more. At the same time I may find myself hitting my long term goals and losing some ambition if I hit that quality of life I am working hard towards now so who knows
Yeah, it depends on what your current thought patterns are. If you have solid control over neurotic tendencies, it's far easier to be grateful while maintaining a high degree of ambition.
It also depends whether you make a distinction between being grateful and complacent. The video didn't really stick one definition of gratefulness, at some point, I think, he means complacency while he is taking about gratefulness. You can be grateful without getting complacent with your situation
For the record in a pretty low place right now I mean who isn't during this year I've dealt with a lot of suicidal ideation and contemplation for a long time and had a pretty good / not so good relationship with death Either wanting it wishing it or hoping for it I lost one of my best friends this year at least so far she ghosted me instead of trying to work things out And I was there for her for years when she was in tough times when I was in a tough time which is now she won't even give me the time of day Work has been difficult blah blah blah Anyways this concept of gratitude although I can't really feel it right now It's something I'm going to try to meditate on alongside my study on mindfulness and just sitting with the feeling sometimes I'm doing better finally towards the tail end of this year Thank you for this video It gave me some hope
I'm contemplating the idea of ending my relationship and I've been in a dark place generally.I agree with you, in though times it's a difficult concept to grasp. I think I'll try to do it anyway, I have nothing to lose at this point. If anything else, it will force me to get moving more in my day, so I can have something to be grateful of. I used this method already, for a very short period of time. Things you can be grateful for can be very very small or hidden (and I would say, the smaller the better), like the sun shining after some rainy days, or an warm shower, or simply to have a place that you call home. To me, today would be 1. Something that made you smile: a fan-fiction about my favorite character 2. Something you're grateful for: my cat being here with me 3. Something that you did well: washed my hair, they turned out wonderful
Happiness is a product of our minds. Some people manage to be happy with very little, some can't be happy no matter what. Being able to achieve personal goals helps a lot, but it doesn't guarantee anything. The more control you have over your thoughts and emotions and the better you can manage your expectations, the closer you'll be to happiness, but at the end of the day happiness is always something extremely fragile and subjective. It has to do with the way you interpret reality at any given moment, it's not something you can hold on to. Don't expect to be happy, expect to enjoy happy moments. That should be good enough.
@BetterIdeas would be very useful if you put text with the conclusion/key points on the screen somewhere in the end of the video (to be able to take a screenshot). It takes only a few mins, but makes a big difference - please consider this :)
I agree with you a 1000 percent. Being grateful is key to happiness. I shared it with my dad because he has insomnia, hopefully he'll find meaning and help in this material. Thank you.
Unless you’re alone by yourself at home all of the time. Seems like my life these days. It feels like a kinder, gentler version of solitary confinement.
We all have a hunger in our hearts for God - an empty place in our souls that only He can fill. The Psalmist in the Bible put it this way: “My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?” (Psalm 42:2). The problem is that instead of turning to God and letting Him fill our souls, we turn to other things - pleasure, fame, money, sex, or drugs and alcohol. Some people even turn to false philosophies or religions, hoping these will lead them to the truth and fill the empty place in their lives. For a time, they may think they’ve found what they were looking for, but in the end, they’re just as empty as they ever were. Tragically, some will even discover that they’ve almost destroyed their lives. Only God can satisfy our inner hunger, and He will, as we turn to Him and by faith open our hearts and lives to Christ’s transforming power. God doesn’t want us to wander through life, constantly wondering who we are or why we’re here. Instead, Christ came into the world to bring us back to God, and He will, as we commit our lives to Him. Don’t be deceived by those who urge you to take a wrong road, no matter how glamorous or famous they seem to be. Instead, make Christ the center of your life. God’s Word is true: “Why spend money on what is not bread, and your labor on what does not satisfy?… Give ear and come to me; listen, that you may live” (Isaiah 55:2-3).
I've been noticing that my thoughts are changing to more positive even though on the outside I may look serious and mean I don't have those self destructive thoughts like I use to have and for every positive action or thought I have I tell myself how proud I am of myself since I didn't hear that a lot in life. I had to get away from people who were tearing me down or no adding any positivity into my life. That was a big help.
Absolutely great content! I have been doing gratitude journaling for almost two months now since my grandmother died, writing down five different things I am grateful for, that made me smile or that I did well. It helps me slow down, summarize my day on a positive note, remember what I have done (otherwise weeks woosh by) and change my mind to a more positive direction. Nevertheless, I currently feel the effect is incremental to me. This might be because I've grown used to this habit or that I still have some bigger challenges that are building a wall for more gratitude. I would suggest if anyone gets this far, start EXPRESSING gratitude more to people who have made your day or play an important role in Your life, even to strangers. It will go a long way. I am adding this to my journaling day by day. Take care!
One of the reasons why happiness might be so difficult is because we throw in many shades of individual and complex emotions and states under a simplistic umbrella term of 'happiness.'
The saddest thing is most people don't even know what really makes them happy. Most just walk around with someone else's idea of what happiness looks like.
and that is the root cause of most of the unhappiness and desperation in society.
Thank you for pointing this out, it’s very true.
You can thank social media for that. Best decision I've ever made was getting rid of facebook. Now all I've got to do is work some strength to remove my instagram too!!!
@@nimazsheik5152 This. Social Media (i make youtube an exception because i mostly use it for laughs and learning) can be extremely bad for you. Actually i'd say its bad for most people who have it right now. They just dont really think about it because its such a habit in their brain by now.
I got rid of all my social media about 1.5 years ago and it improved my life without question. Now im looking to get back into it but with a business angle, it the only acceptable use for social media in my eyes.
Never again will i be one of those people who upload pictures of themselves and other nonsense desperately fishing for likes. Its quite sad just how hive-minded people have become much because of social media.
@@prcimtimamu3218 Ehhhh, that's the common use of social media. I just use social media because there's interesting stuff sometimes. Plus, there's friends. Thank God I don't go fishing for likes because it seems lifeless.
"Man is happy until he starts looking for happiness".
The quote above changed my life
the ignorance is a blessing
How’d you interpret dis lines - “I'm on the pursuit of happiness, and I know
Everything that shine ain't always gonna be gold, hey
I'll be fine once I get it
I'll be good”?
Happiness is like orgasm, you shouldn't focus on it.
Enjoy what you do and it will come naturally ;)
Man might be but women is another story 🤣
When you are through happiness you don't think about that, you just enjoy the moment
"When most people say they want happiness, what they really want is peace"
Peace on the inside, which does not necessarily have anything to do with peace on the outside.
only way to had peace is too focus in our heart that whatever you do.. you died at the end...
Bro this is why I work so hard. I just want peace and freedom.
no, people want happiness, you can't be happy without ennemy
Yup
"I'll be happy when" is the biggest illusion and trick the ego will play on us. The present moment is all we have, fall in love with the present. Incredible video!
That’s true. I used to think that I can only have fun when I pay off most of my debt but all that did was make me extremely unhappy. Make sure to include fun in your life. It truly does help!
And what if I say, "I'll be happy when I'm healthy"...?
Sound good if you’re white
How can you be happy if you're homeless? This is from a point of privilege
@@blessingndebele1276 I know many houseless that are super happy, they live out of their van.
"Happiness doesn't exist, you only have happy moments"
my dad
Your dad is Bob Ross? 😁
I agree, because in those moments you are focused on doing something you enjoy or being with people that you love and you're neither burdened by thoughts about tomorrow or regrets about yesterday.
This is not true :/
"Happy moments doesn't exist, only happiness."
Because happiness comes from our brain. The chemicsls and hormones are what dictate our emotion and state of mind. Your happiness can be faked. Everything can be faked and your brain will never know.
@@SteveParton happy little trees 🤣🤣
“Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of travelling” - Margaret Lee Runbeck
"people should stop worrying about their happiness and start living and take life as a journey not as enternainment"- my brain
more like it come and gone... the sadness is what made happiness vaule...
@@JP-yt3hd good quote
Exactly
I don’t know why but I have a bookmark that says Another version of that: “happiness is a way of travel not a destination” -Roy m. Goodman...
"If you're never happy with what you have, you'll never be happy with what you get"
Loved the vid Joey 🙌🏼
Thanks Daniel, I’ve seen some of your videos before and they’ve changed my perspective :)
Unless you have depression. Where you feel numb to what you have and guilty if you buy yourself something or someone gives you something.
Or content.
steVENOM it’s about more than physical items. You can watch people explain how intense trauma can be sources of empathy, that your depression can help you help others and truly understand.. I’ve been using affirmations for my depression and it has helped me like no other. Tell your brain to find something good about any situation, it will. Just like it does when your depression makes you think something bad about a good situation. Hang in there! The fact you even commented on a video like this lets me know that you’ve come way too far to give up now.
Don't forget to slap like now.
"Your life is just today repeated"
-this guy
You know what's worse? He's right!
Repetition is key too mastery, just use your days correctly.
Meaningless
420 like i like this
And that,scares the hell out of me!
i was literally crying yesterday to my mom because i realized i never felt happiness since i was 12. i’m never satisfied.
"Whoever among you wakes up in the morning secured in his dwelling, healthy in his body, having his food for the day,then it is as if the world has been gathered for him.'" This is what prophet Mohamed peace be up on him said 1400 years ago about real happines in life ..wish you all the best🌷
How are u now ?
how are u now?
Ask yourself why you arent satisfied.
There are many people that care about you and that want to help you out, as good as they can.
Something i learned about myself was, that the only problem i had all along, is not accepting happiness/better things/my true self.
Tell yourself that you deserve it, until you believe it. And if you need an open ear, do not hesitate to drop a message in here. Among the toxic "internet-crowd" there are many good souls out here.
Hope you're doing well.
This video hit me in the feels. I am a month off my antidepressants, and I am starting to feel deeply, eat better, and sleep consistently. I realized that my depression will always remain but changing my attitude towards it; not allowing dread to fill my up days and working to stay motivated on my down days. I discovered gratitude for who I am today and becoming proud of myself for overcoming the hardship within my own mind to be happy or satisfied with my present.
I don't usually make any comments on YT but this stood out to me as I have just also quit Effexor cold turkey this past week. I was on it for 10 years.
I feel the same things you describe, and feel more grounded. My goal was to lay bare my own emotions, tolerate them, and let them guide me to who I'm truly meant to be as person. I feel like I'm recalibrating my life.
Good luck to you.
There is a bunch of new studies showing depression can be exasperated by a poor gut biome. Try adding a daily quality nutritional supplement/ multi vitamin into your diet, at least 6 to 9 months. Hope this helps. Congratulations on coming off the meds..
Hey buddy. I was also on meds for at least 6 months until it made me worst. I attempted S a lot. That was 2017. Now I'm doing great. Replying here to tell you that as long as you're looking for ways to better your condition, you will get that. You will heal. I found my ways. I hope you find yours. Cheers and may love rule in your soul.
“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”
-Socrates
Or be content person and have the skills to avoid being discontent
@Arpad Toth I mean.. if you are happy with that and you don't care as much about materialistical things.. But ofcourse you could also aim high while at the same time trying to be content with where you are.
As long as you are not the person who does care but doesn't achieve.
I don’t find it true
Don't forget to slap like now.
You're right, but this can misinterpreted. It's about being able to enjoy the things you didn't consider to be something you can enjoy to begin with, the smaller things so to speak
Enjoying the journey of life instead of waiting for the goal in despair and misery ... Motivation video 👍
Read me a book!
Arabic?!
@@vuzok_ what's about it
@@محمدالربيعي-ز5ن عربي!
Why not both? Without the misery ofcourse.
مرحبا بكم
Humans before: My cave.
Humans now: I can't even afford a cave.
Me: I work inna cave
Hilarious!
Money is the root of all evil
@@VeritableVagabond LOVE of money
Humans before: My cave
Humans from another tribe: No, we like that cave, leave.
*Start war*
"don't focus on where you should be, but on what action can you do today, right now"
I used to be so happy in my early twenties. Now, at 30 years old, the older I get, the sadder I become. I haven't accomplished anything I wanted, my dreams feel so distant, seems like all my friends and everyone around me just made it and they living their best lives. I'm not jealous, I swear! I just got myself thinking sometimes, why can't I succeed?
I'm so frustrated… Seriously, I don't even want to be ambitious anymore because I'm tired of failing. I just want to be happy with the few things that I have, but I just can’t.
I really needed this right now. Appreciate you
I smashed the like button for this comment.
@@tagonminmyatpianistandproducer this kind of positivity makes me happy
Love the pfp Alfredo AOTY
Keep going guys! Everyone who watched this video is on the right way to become a happy person!
my advice stop worrying about your happiness and start living
“Enjoy the journey rather than the destination”
Exactly People are searching their dreams instead of doing things and create them thats why they end up doing nothing
@@ΣΤΕΛΙΟΣΓΙΑΛΥΡΑΚΗΣ Yeah. The “happiness” at the end of the tunnel is momentary because you start wanting more once you reach it because of hedonic adaptation. Might as well have fun on the way by doing stuff :) like posting stuff on my yt channel...
@@ΣΤΕΛΙΟΣΓΙΑΛΥΡΑΚΗΣ hello fellow Greek :)
since the ultimate destination is death... life is mostly all about preparing yourself both physically and mentally to die one day... everything else including enjoyment is a mere distraction in an attempt to procastinate/temporarily forget this very fact, like if we were all in a bunker... our mission is to accept death... or perhaps defeat it... but, can we? i dont think so and i dont think so...
@@kitsune090 that's a crappy way to think and an unhappy mindset to have
7:07
Every single Night before you go to Bed write down 3 good things.
#1. Something that made you smile
#2. Something that you're grateful for
#3. Something that you did well
Ah here's the comment 👍🏻
10 min of watching distilled into 3 seconds of reading 🙌
#4 Invest in Tesla
Thank you sm for this comment!!
#1- Nothing
#2-few things
#3- None
TIP: Categorize GRATITUDE:
- a person
- a character trait of yourself
- a seemingly bad thing that happened to you, but turned out to be good
- about your personal growth journey
- fill: for not struggling with...
- opportunities you have
- wisdom
- mentors
* make it specific
* write it down or say it out loud (don't just think of it)
I think some of us would be more happier if we weren’t so damn judgmental towards others and give others a chance but I guess that’s not how life works.
💯💯💯
So true!
Facts
A majority of people i see who complain about ithers being judgemental is often the ones doing the least amount of accomplishments, or are bkthering otgers the most, or look at life in the most empty or negative lense.
"The more ambitious you are, the harder it is to be grateful." - I couldn't agree more. So very relatable. This video was a powerful reminder of the importance of gratefulness for me. Thank you
So, no ambition it is, then.
"Some times it's just weird being human" That hit like a truck
"School is temporary, gaming is forever"
-Einstein probably
How did i get here?
That's one of the things that made me smile today. Thank you
@@SkelleRok Now that's one thing that made me smile xD
Water Bottle you warped
I think that's an Aristotle quote tbh
Honestly, gaming is one the reason i still feel alive
this is my 8th time watching this video in many different occasions and i still always find myself coming back and watching it whenever it pops up in my recommended
#why_i_converted_to_islam
Its like that side chick that doesnt know how to hold a conversation but she blows you so good you see stars and start gasping for air and you coming back for more over the years.
@@PolishBehemoth?
There have been times when I’ve said out loud that I would sacrifice happiness and joy to feel nothing. No sadness, no regret, no anger, no stress, no pain of any kind….but no happiness as a trade off. Yes, I realize this is cowardly. Sacrificing happiness to feel nothing isn’t living, it’s merely existing. I also realize that there have been tens of millions of people who lived throughout history who would have given anything to have my normal, mundane, average guy life with its normal hardships and comparatively microscopic levels of suffering. I’ve heard it said that for most of human history until fairly recently life was difficult, brutal, and short. I believe I’m grateful for the life I have been blessed with, though it may not sound like it. And there are time when I still wish I could switch it all off.
“We are constantly postponing our own happiness, it’s almost like every person who ever lived if left unchecked, will hamster wheel themselves right into their grave”
I just love this guy!
"when you have less need for happiness you become happier" and "happiness comes naturally not from searching it"- me
sad but true
I think there’s more to it. For me personally there are things I’d like to do but can’t afford to do them. It’s not for lack of working hard but life happens (divorce, children, down sizing) and takes you further away from your goals.
He's your new Osteen/Robbins/Chopra! Just one more "You're Doing It All Wrong" guru for the weak people who can't exist without being told what to do!
No different from any church's pastor whose main goal is to convince you that HIS interpretation of the Bible is better than the pastor down the street.
this came up on my feed and this guy is a tool...k tho.
If you’re always looking to the future instead of enjoying the present, you won’t be able to enjoy the future when you get there. Great video!
This channel is underrated, he's like Prince Ea but he actually does research and lists sources
*prince ae left the chat
Andrew Kirby is really good too.
@@PenguinX96 yeh, i have seen his video. i love its stoic video most
@@PenguinX96 thanks, I'll be sure to check them out
Better than prince ea
I’m afraid of losing all the things I’m grateful for, the fear of life changing and knocking me back scares me everyday to a point where I can’t feel happy I wanna know what it feels like to live with no anxiety
Gratitude has been game changer in my life. It’s made me a totally different person from who I was a year ago. Every morning I say thank you for another day of being alive and getting a chance to live life. I say thank you for the things I have. I do the same at night. I wish the same change for whoever’s facing really tough times.
Many people think they will be happy after achieving one specific goal. But the problem is that this happiness is also temporary. Enjoy the process. This will make you happy,not only the result .
I have been struggling with depression for years, even when I achieve my stated goals.
Watching 2 of your videos put so much into perspective for me. And as you said, you stated things I'd heard before - but you found a way to communicate them more clearly to people watching your channel.
Thank you so much for taking the time to create this content. I find myself relating to others more and pitying myself less.
I was unhappy because I was repeating unhealthy steps. It was like I was in a negative cycle of self- destruction. When I turned 19, I decided to put my life, and my habits, on its head.
- quit my addiction to weed and porn
- started to lift weights and read daily
- got an internship and work for a purpose
I've even started a youtube channel to spread this internal knowledge we all know of. If you are on the path, my content will remind you why you do what you do. Stay strong y'all, remember what's important and strive for that!!
Disappointment is the problem. When you're told you'll be happy if you do X,Y & Z.
Only a 10-20 years ago, you were told to work hard and your ideal life would happen. Suddenly, a kid on TikTok pops up and makes $20 million a year and you became a dr and can't pay bills.
The key to happiness is being content with what you have.
I swear to god, this guy says the realist shit I’ve ever heard. I’m tearing up while listening to this video. He has such a great way of using his words, it resonates so much with me and I’m grateful for these videos.
To some extent happiness is a stoic disposition. A choice. Being ok with things as they are.
that is really helpful
Right
So true..Acceptance
Why am I always so motivated to get my life together at 3am in the morning?
Me too
Same
Happy ending? Go to bed being motivated then wake up tired but with the drive to make a change.
2:45am for me
When you have soul sucking depression you can t feel any hope. It’s truly the worst
Today, I woke up feeling down. Perfect timing for this video to come out. Thanks
same here haha
I challenge anyone who reads this to take his advice and list 3 things before you go to bed for the next week:
1) Something that made you smile today
2) Something that you're grateful for
3) Something that you did well.
Thank you for this Joey. It's important to realize that, no matter how difficult it may seem, we have the ability to direct our subconscious mind.
It’s easy to get caught up in negative thought patterns, which I deal with every day but if you can try and see the positive every day, then that would be great. I might try that. I can usually be positive for a few days then get back into being depressed/anxious.
"If you aren't happy with what you have, you'll never be happy with what you get"
Facts!
Did you mean, "Why the pursuit of happiness is ruining your life?"
Lol yes
true but if you watch will smith moive.. it not about finding happiness is not let real life hitting you hard...
It's what i did all the time during 20 years... i though that when i achieved somethings i would be happy but this isn't true cuz you'll never be at a point where you will stop and realize that you are happy because this don't exist! We need to live the days by reason of happness is into the days and is not a forever period. As we say here in Brazil "Dias de luta e dias de glória" and in english is like "Fight days and glory days"
The sad thing is to follow other people and think that you can be as happy as them and live their lives Bro you will only lose your life Thank you very much to the presenter of this video
I swear there's something about Joey's videos that makes you feel connected, like he's actually talking to you. I think it's his natural eye contact.
YEAHH I AGREE :)))
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”
― Marcus Aurelius
I've heard that intelligent people are more likely to be depressed. I don't have any sources except something I heard second hand a few years ago, but maybe they exist...
@@stupidrainbo not neceseraly but stupid people dont have as many worries so they are happier/just dont hink about it. kinda like spongebob
@Sasi Arsivi ye!! it is in fact a great comparison right?
@@stupidrainbo They are called Doomers. The opposite are the Boomers who live in their happy blissful ignorance.
@@stupidrainbo I don't consider myself a genius but I'm definitely smarter than average, I get lost so easily in negative thoughts, those negative thoughts split off so many ways, it's crucial for intelligent people to keep their thoughts positive, I've read that somewhere before, I tend to listen to and have a deep respect for those more experienced than me...I'm only 18, I wish I was an AI most of the time...emotions suck
Thank you so much! I've definitely been the type with insane goals and always thinking when I reach them I'll "become happy." But my goals are so out of reach and have been taking me years to pursue them, I have been putting my present life on hold for it. It wasnt until very recently that I've realized this and tried to change myself. Doing a lot more self care, rather than sacrificing most things for my end goal. I remember distinctively telling myself, "I just have to do X and then I'll be happy." "If I can just hold out for this one thing, I'll be that much closer to my goal." I'd get closer and closer to the goal, but never fully reach it. My mind and body was exhausted and I felt like I was running on E for far too long. Now I'm trying to do small things that give my life meaning. And I'm trying my best to get out of this mindset.
Same
I’ve recently entered a period in my life where I feel very happy and emotionally stable. And nothing has really changed except my nutrition, exercise, and overall discipline. I’ve realized I can’t have one of these elements without the other, but together they make me feel so amazing. Every day, I’ve been tracking my nutrition and making sure I’m getting every essential nutrient in sufficient quantities (to prevent deficiencies and ultimately, prevent depression or hormonal imbalances). I’ve also been walking or doing some form of dedicated exercise at least once a day for 30 minutes. I’m reading a book on the link between exercise and psychology and it’s inspired me to do so. And finally, instead of making up excuses to not follow through with the plans I’ve made, I simply stop thinking about it and go through the motions mindlessly. The next thing I know, I’m fully motivated. Relying on discipline instead of “do I feel like it” or “am I motivated” has really filled me with joy and hope for the future. Sometimes it’s not about waiting to get out of a rut, but just getting off the couch (or out of bed) and working for your own happiness.
Can you tell us the name of the book that you read? The one about the link between exercise and psychology.
@@GeorgeMillerUSA It’s Spark by John J Ratey, MD. Super interesting!
Well said!! Thank you for sharing!
People were alot happier back before the internet. Knowing what everyone is doing and feeling and thinking all the time is very unhealthy and just makes people narcissistic. Who gives a shit what some person you don't even know is doing? Focus on your loved ones. That's all that matters in life.
I have no hope in my future. I have no friends, no family, i lost the one who i thought i was going to spend my life with because she got into drugs and passed away. I have no motivation or reason to keep going. I always hurt both physically and mentally. All of everything i once had is dead and gone.. yea i have money, a house and a boat all paid off but thats what i got, stuff. Just stuff.. have no life at all. Everyday i drive past a concrete wall and think everytime just to drift over and flatten myself in it at 70mph..
Thank you for making these videos… I know you probably read a lot of comments like this, but your videos truly make a difference in my life. Today was extremely difficult and I have been struggling with feeling happy and content for many years. I am always looking ahead and ignoring the present, and I’m afraid my entire life is going to fly by with my head in the future. But I knew when I went to UA-cam that I would be able to find one of your videos that would help me, and you did. This really gives me hope and I’m going to do the “Write 3 things down” thing every night from now on.
Thank you for making a difference, you truly inspire me.
Happiness is a paradox. We strive to find it, sacrificing a lot. As we find a piece of it, we feel emptiness.
We are evolved to be discontent, though it is how we expand and multiply (Universe's grand plan).
"Don't chase happiness, chase meaning" Jordan Peterson
Amen. Peterson is amazing.
Dont chase anything
@@FreeFlow__ what are you nihilistic? Finding peace in nothingness
@@rpeshbhujade3974 yeah, absolutely. Awareness is nothing and everyting at the same time. The thought that we have to do anything to be happy is the biggest conditioning in todays society.
@@FreeFlow__ sounds wise :)
Video was so good I even watched through the ad at the end
I really needed to hear this. Going through some stuff and depression, and this really made me have hope again. Thanks xx
I'm 21 and all this quarantine isolation increased my anxiety and bad thoughts by a mile.... I hope it will help me, thx.
Read david hawkins letting go bud
you got this bud! stay motivated!
Please you are young,try not to worry. It is horrible, but it will go.Today is the day. ONE DAY AT A TIME
FROM AN OLD LADY
dont be too sad about what troubles you know. Coz someday when things get tougher or darker, you’d wish you didnt waste your time being sad or angry. You are 21. Be honest, be beautiful, don’t give a fuck, and dont try to be philosopher unless you have a six pack abs.
You can’t win with society! When we stay where we are society tells us, “Your not reaching your potential!” However, when we try and climb the ladder society says, “Your not being grateful for what you already have!” So, just do what you feels right if it doesn’t hurt you, anyone else, and is legal by all means go for it!
Thought processes like these are what scare me the most about other people. It’s not a matter of “follow this, follow that”, it’s a matter of how are you able to balance both contradicting ideals into your own life, as a human being possessive of the capability to do so.
I do agree with your main point of doing what feels right, without hurting anyone, and going for it.
Luna beat me to it. Most of life is about constant pulls in different directions and (unavoidable) conflicts. Our overarching goal is to achieve balance.
@@utubeskreename9516 And life doesnt just mean to follow the far left or ffar right. It's about balancing ideas of both parties and agreeing with some, not with others.
Then again, mate, you're idea is much different than mine. Each to our own, i guess.
I once tried enjoying the present more, and almost lost my job due to becoming to irresponsible and wild. I have no idea how other people are able to balance out their shit. I always lean towards either side to much 😕
@@Modestasgailius I think it is possible to do just it's easier for some people than others. I use to watch those spiritual documentaries where people go on pilgrimages and I have noticed a lot of people later in their lives become more balanced in the present when they are older they probably figure, "Well I had my kids, my wife, my grandchildren, and now retired now it's time to focus on me and the here and now!"
"It's like every person, if left unchecked, will hamster wheel themselves into their own graves"
Sounds similar to "Inaction is a slow death" - Thanks for that deep insight
This hits hard. My mother (though a wonderful human being) is really lazy and unemployed. I try to motivate her to do stuff but, so far, in vain :(
think he means the opposite
No, it doesn't sound similar, it sounds opposite. It's the opposite.
@@qretan3750 How old are you?
Sorry I'm not good at english. What does it mean by "if left unchecked" ?
Fit and healthy = happiness
If we were happy all the time, our species would have died out evolutionary speaking... it makes sense that happiness is the hardest to attaining good!
I’m at a point where I don’t know what makes me happy anymore.
Same i wish i didn’t exist
Thank you so much. I'm currently going through one of my periodic bouts of depression, and when I get stuck in that rut, it can be easy to overlook all the good stuff. Today, your video ( and your references to your bald head) made me smile. I'm grateful for the friends I caught up with this morning. I did well with my workout at the gym today. Depression still sucks, but it sucks a little less.
This still applies to today!
Today I am happy that I forgive my colleague's bad behavior and dealt with our conflicts in a peaceful way, and I am very happy that I ate a juicy pear today. I am grateful to my boss who gives me trust and support to go to milan ,and help us to deal with our visa application. and today I went to gym and work on my shoulder very well and I see my shoulder is becoming bigger.
The only thing that make me happy now is watching people rising in anime
Dude. What an awesome video. Gratefulness has been an ethos in my life (specially since beating a serious case of Glioblastoma). But the way you explained this, and the examples you gave were so great. And that helpful tip for insomniacs like myself? Amazing. I am subscribed and looking forward to more of your great work. Thank you for sharing your gift!
Do small things everyday and find a new skill to learn, you will find happiness.
I strongly agree.
For a whole year, we were in and out of lockdown.
Looking back, it definitely gave me anxiety. And I looked to two people on the internet to make me happy. In my abstract little word, I took the happiness they gave me out of context. I put it everywhere and into everything.
It felt like, no matter what I had something. And I waited and waited for the day, saying “once they get back together, I’ll be so happy!” And they finally did. And because of my real life situation (a surprise lockdown at Christmas), I wasn’t happy.
And now they’re gone. They broke up, and I have to try and live in the present, because I can’t tell myself they will come back anymore. There is no “once they…” or “when they…” anymore.
And I’ve gone through this before.
“By the 23rd of april, I’ll be the best version of myself.” I wasn’t waiting to be happy, I was trying.
And by April 23rd, I was happy.
But as my life got harder, I missed their joy, and now I’m in the same situation, I can’t leave them behind.
But now I’m trying again. I am going to be the best version of myself by July 2nd.
And I’m appreciating my life now, trying to forget about them, and love my own life, in the present.
I took their joy and my attatchment to them as a lesson. A lesson to appreciate my own life, and live in the present. I made my life revolve around someone else, and when they brought my the most joy they could, I was still not even happy. So By them leaving, I learnt to love me.
And it’s one of the best lessons I’ve ever learnt.
I'm not sure I comprehend your statement. So Basically, for a long time your personal happiness depended upon 2 individuals who you never met, and only saw via social media? IMO you really need to seek refuge, consolation and advice through real live people. It should be organic and tangible, it could even be a neighbor or a co-worker, someone at a restaurant you frequent or at the Gym or local swimming pool. You need to get out more from what it sounds like. Family & Friends. The most important network for us.
Seeking happiness solely through entertainment entities is not a recipe for your happiness. I enjoy my media too, Netflix, other streaming of shows, even story-driven video games but those connections are not real. Not in the sense of human reality in the real world. I'm not saying they cannot produce happiness they CAN. I'm with you on that. There are times I look forward to being alone so i can marinate in those pleasures but you need outside contact.
I do love your last statement by them leaving you learned to love yourself...agree 100% that's so important. Continue on that path and you're going to succeed and feel better about yourself and the world around you. But don't do it alone...and don't rely on the internet & media to produce sources of happiness
@@Original-Juice don’t worry, I have definitely learnt my lesson by this point :)
Lockdown was the cause, being unable to socialise kickstarted the attatchment I have to them.
Obviously, being only young I had people in real life too, like friends and people at school. It’s just that when things went wrong I relied on them.
They were my backup happiness and that’s bad and i know it. But for example, at christmas, I couldn’t see my family due to covid, and that’s when they made me happiest. Even though my life was a mess, I had everything I could have wanted from them. That was the last time they were publicly obvious as a couple, despite not announcing they were dating. After that they went quiet, and pretty soon after that it became believable they could have broken up.
So since then I’ve been replacing the massive hole they left my life, it’s just hard to change everything when it was all revolving around them. My backup happiness was taken away.
And now, I am able to live without them. You’re right, the last statement is the one I’m most proud of. It’s easier when I have things to distract myself, like studying or going out. But I try my best, every day, to appreciate and love my own life. Out of the whole thing I have learnt so many lessons, like “everything happens for a reason”, and then that leads onto smaller lessons.
Thank you for reading my comment and trying to understand, it really validates me in a way :)
I've been writing down my gratitudes daily for a month now. I've realized that every page says the exact same. Like grateful for my family, grateful for a roof above my head, that i have access to food and water, ect. but i just don't feel anything when i write now. Like i am grateful for those things but they're the basic stuff i've had since my existance. The things i despise outweigh the things i'm grateful for by a ton. Ofcourse i'm trying to create things to be grateful for, but the society we live in make those things nearly impossible to get/have. While those things aren't even too much to ask for
Funny enough, I'm watching this video while being up all night from my insomnia. This is my third night of not sleeping and because I have never gone through this before I didn't know how to even tackle this. Thank you for sharing the story about your mother, it brought me comfort knowing I'm not alone and I'm excited to try being grateful every night before bed.
Squirrels who strategically hide their food for months to come: "Am I a joke to you?"
Bears too.... Except that they stock up inside themselves for the winter. Well, kinda.
I wonder, is that something that they do because they can plan and organize information or is that something they just intuitively do in the winter.
Instinct, not abstract thought
@@TheAbsoluteSir they even forget where they put the food.
@@oscarrzga4615 exactly.
Thank you Joey! Heyy you should do something like "how not to burn out in pursuit of productivity and happines". It's gonna be very helpful!
Yes please
Nothings rlly good rn Fr so still can’t sleep
I am so happy that I found your channel. I have all of the problems you mention and keep looking for ways to "fix" them and it never works. Your advice seems honest and I will definetely implement your knowledge into my life. Keep up the good work!
Can we just appreciate that the production quality and editing is improving with each video? :)
An important message in these crazy times. Thank you.
U know what man, there had been times when I came to ur channel for some meaning and understand of things in life and there had been times when I just thought you to be just a guy speaking motivatingly and friendly but of no real use as that made me feel comfortable so that I actually relieve myself temporarily of pain that’s caused because deep down my mind knew stuff you were saying was actually true but it was hurtful so I could put myself into an illusion (yeah still knowing I’m doing wrong to myself but I’m desperate, broken and really lost it-control, hope or everything!). And here I’m today coming to ur videos after searching like a desperate maniac - I searched ‘how to be happy’ with no intention of any video to actually inspire me. I’m not telling yours did but sure however painful (because u talk REALITY!) was the stuff u said-i knew it would have some value or an idea to change my perspective because I listen to u talking with rapt attention or so is my condition right now. So leave the strategy to be happy and shit for now, all I’m saying guys is that no one(fucking nobody will come atleast to a guy like me when reaching out for help itself is a problem due to the fear they wouldn’t talk comfortingly in the way you would want them to or not have time to completely understand what you’re going through) will come to our aid. If we need some fixing it’s always you and you Only. Trust me Ive fantasized things getting better with time but no they don’t if you have the same approach and you get exhausted and you don’t even want to fix anything because you lost it. You just want to go or never wanted to be here at all but suicide is not an option and still want to bring change you try to do stuff atleast like an experiment. Reading this again it sounds like another shitty motivation post but I’m writing only what i feel exactly. The fact that really to fix yourself it has to be only you. Maybe you should atleast initiate something and maybe things might alleviate(actually you’ve become stronger that you think you will be able to deal with them and get the hang of it but that’s all the later easy part. The hard and important part is you don’t want to be the you that you are now and only you have to start that fixing yourself process)
Try some punctuation
“If you’re never happy with what you have, you’ll never be happy with what you get” 💯💯
This video will help me a lot, thx so much, these days I've been so depressive and lonely, I'll try to conquer happiness again, even that I try my best everyday and I follow a few of the channel's advices to progress with my life, I am grateful for this channel, thx again
This "hamster wheel" idea is something that I think about a lot.
It's so difficult to juggle the idea of preparing/saving for you future with the opposing idea of just having fun and using everything up now.
But there is a balance to be struck.
As always, love the video and inspires me to do better with my YT content on my channel!
Thanks!
What you said about how the more ambitious you are, the harder it is to be grateful may be true for some people, but honestly I've found being grateful pushed me to have more ambition. It's a great cycle where the more I appreciate the good things / 'wins' in my life the more it fuels my ambition to want more. At the same time I may find myself hitting my long term goals and losing some ambition if I hit that quality of life I am working hard towards now so who knows
Yeah, it depends on what your current thought patterns are. If you have solid control over neurotic tendencies, it's far easier to be grateful while maintaining a high degree of ambition.
It also depends whether you make a distinction between being grateful and complacent. The video didn't really stick one definition of gratefulness, at some point, I think, he means complacency while he is taking about gratefulness. You can be grateful without getting complacent with your situation
How to live in present moment ♥️
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This only works if you are already comfortable with what you have. n my case, i only need to have friends and then everything else will be resolved
Can’t even remember the last time I was happy… it feels like my life is a downward spiral, that, this time I don’t know if I can climb out of.
same. For me it feels somewhere of mid 2012.. but truly happy was prolly even further back during school days
I haven’t been happy in years. Nothing that used to make me happy makes me feel anything anymore. I’m numb or angry or sad. I miss being happy..
It’s hard to live in country and it’s really hard to get out of it . And it makes you think it’s better to take your own live away .
For the record in a pretty low place right now I mean who isn't during this year
I've dealt with a lot of suicidal ideation and contemplation for a long time and had a pretty good / not so good relationship with death
Either wanting it wishing it or hoping for it
I lost one of my best friends this year at least so far she ghosted me instead of trying to work things out
And I was there for her for years when she was in tough times when I was in a tough time which is now she won't even give me the time of day
Work has been difficult blah blah blah
Anyways this concept of gratitude although I can't really feel it right now
It's something I'm going to try to meditate on
alongside my study on mindfulness and just sitting with the feeling sometimes I'm doing better finally towards the tail end of this year
Thank you for this video It gave me some hope
I'm contemplating the idea of ending my relationship and I've been in a dark place generally.I agree with you, in though times it's a difficult concept to grasp. I think I'll try to do it anyway, I have nothing to lose at this point. If anything else, it will force me to get moving more in my day, so I can have something to be grateful of.
I used this method already, for a very short period of time. Things you can be grateful for can be very very small or hidden (and I would say, the smaller the better), like the sun shining after some rainy days, or an warm shower, or simply to have a place that you call home.
To me, today would be
1. Something that made you smile: a fan-fiction about my favorite character
2. Something you're grateful for: my cat being here with me
3. Something that you did well: washed my hair, they turned out wonderful
"You should enjoy the little detours to the fullest. Because that's where you'll find the things more important than what you want."
- Ging Freecs
It`s not hard to be happy. You can be happy even with the smallest things. It`s just hard to be happy continuously.
Happiness is a product of our minds. Some people manage to be happy with very little, some can't be happy no matter what. Being able to achieve personal goals helps a lot, but it doesn't guarantee anything. The more control you have over your thoughts and emotions and the better you can manage your expectations, the closer you'll be to happiness, but at the end of the day happiness is always something extremely fragile and subjective. It has to do with the way you interpret reality at any given moment, it's not something you can hold on to. Don't expect to be happy, expect to enjoy happy moments. That should be good enough.
Man, this video was such a good vibe. Not annoying and fast-paced, calm. I approve of it.
No one knows what's sadness except those who fell in love, but the one they love left them for no reason.
- What made me smile today?
- What I am grateful for today?
- What did I do well today?
@BetterIdeas would be very useful if you put text with the conclusion/key points on the screen somewhere in the end of the video (to be able to take a screenshot). It takes only a few mins, but makes a big difference - please consider this :)
Joey's videos just hit different.
Always !
I agree with you a 1000 percent. Being grateful is key to happiness. I shared it with my dad because he has insomnia, hopefully he'll find meaning and help in this material. Thank you.
His story about his dying mother trying to find happiness ends up being an ad for skill share. Good work man. Using your mother for sponsorships.
‘My happiest times were when I was left alone in the house on a Saturday’ - Charles Bukowski
As an infj and a school student, i agree with this hundred times.
Unless you’re alone by yourself at home all of the time. Seems like my life these days. It feels like a kinder, gentler version of solitary confinement.
Love this !
That maybe be true but in reality we all need human contact...🤗🤗🤗😁😁😁✌✌✌ hit me up on Saturdays after 1pm we good lets get into something I'm off...😘😘😘
We all have a hunger in our hearts for God - an empty place in our souls that only He can fill. The Psalmist in the Bible put it this way: “My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?” (Psalm 42:2).
The problem is that instead of turning to God and letting Him fill our souls, we turn to other things - pleasure, fame, money, sex, or drugs and alcohol. Some people even turn to false philosophies or religions, hoping these will lead them to the truth and fill the empty place in their lives. For a time, they may think they’ve found what they were looking for, but in the end, they’re just as empty as they ever were. Tragically, some will even discover that they’ve almost destroyed their lives.
Only God can satisfy our inner hunger, and He will, as we turn to Him and by faith open our hearts and lives to Christ’s transforming power. God doesn’t want us to wander through life, constantly wondering who we are or why we’re here. Instead, Christ came into the world to bring us back to God, and He will, as we commit our lives to Him.
Don’t be deceived by those who urge you to take a wrong road, no matter how glamorous or famous they seem to be. Instead, make Christ the center of your life. God’s Word is true: “Why spend money on what is not bread, and your labor on what does not satisfy?… Give ear and come to me; listen, that you may live” (Isaiah 55:2-3).
hallelujah He is!
Speaking about being grateful: Thank you, Joey, for making these amazing videos. I can say I always learn something new in this channel.
I've been noticing that my thoughts are changing to more positive even though on the outside I may look serious and mean I don't have those self destructive thoughts like I use to have and for every positive action or thought I have I tell myself how proud I am of myself since I didn't hear that a lot in life. I had to get away from people who were tearing me down or no adding any positivity into my life. That was a big help.
Absolutely great content!
I have been doing gratitude journaling for almost two months now since my grandmother died, writing down five different things I am grateful for, that made me smile or that I did well.
It helps me slow down, summarize my day on a positive note, remember what I have done (otherwise weeks woosh by) and change my mind to a more positive direction.
Nevertheless, I currently feel the effect is incremental to me. This might be because I've grown used to this habit or that I still have some bigger challenges that are building a wall for more gratitude.
I would suggest if anyone gets this far, start EXPRESSING gratitude more to people who have made your day or play an important role in Your life, even to strangers. It will go a long way. I am adding this to my journaling day by day.
Take care!
One of the reasons why happiness might be so difficult is because we throw in many shades of individual and complex emotions and states under a simplistic umbrella term of 'happiness.'
Grateful, but still ambitious.
Happy now, happy in the future.