6 things you probably need to hear

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  • @johnshoulders6586
    @johnshoulders6586 Місяць тому +105

    Perfect timing to hear this in my life. I’m 62 and I really needed to hear this. Thanks.

  • @frido_lino
    @frido_lino 2 місяці тому +1934

    1. You already know what you need to change & do. Stop being stuck in analysis paralysis and take action. You don’t need to watch another self help youtube video. What you need to do is doing the stuff you tell yourself you’re going to do without shortcuts or excuses
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    • @noscope-1962
      @noscope-1962 2 місяці тому +61

      This hit too close to home.. honestly thank you man

    • @twitchgoogle
      @twitchgoogle 2 місяці тому +7

      I guess

    • @HomeAutomated-v2r
      @HomeAutomated-v2r 2 місяці тому +20

      Thats your analysis of life, but its not mine. Do what works for you, I hope your expectations and needs are met, but we only need to please ourselves in the end.

    • @Achelois7
      @Achelois7 2 місяці тому +1

      Brilliant.

    • @SlavStash
      @SlavStash 2 місяці тому +7

      there is a skit by Andrew Rousso "When your phone is on 1% but you just keep scrolling" worth waching

  • @TheEndOfABloodline
    @TheEndOfABloodline 2 місяці тому +527

    I used to watch these homeless. Was for 5 years nearly. Now, I'm working 40-48 hours a week. I'm going to Texas to becomems diesel technician. I'm aurviving until february when i start paid school. Haven't missed a day in 60 days now. Worked longer than i ever have in my life. I'm 38. I realize it's never over while you're still alive. If you can read this. You can change your life. I've slept on cardboard and porches for YEARS... Now I'm heading towards making $90,000 a year. It can be done. I still drink. I still struggle. You need to get to a point where you're tired of your life, and you're ready... Only then will you START to make necessary changes. This isn't easy.

    • @Sevse-nh3fi
      @Sevse-nh3fi 2 місяці тому +23

      Oh shit, congrats!

    • @ATRTAP
      @ATRTAP 2 місяці тому +21

      Right on man, eloquent comment too. I’m glad you worked your way up off the streets, what a great story, you’re strong bro!

    • @fishlestat
      @fishlestat 2 місяці тому +12

      Holy shift bro! Way to go! You’re an inspiration! Best of luck going on huh?! 💪🏾😺

    • @behindthepie9430
      @behindthepie9430 2 місяці тому +2

      It's not over until it's over.

    • @WarriorOfLightHomeAlone
      @WarriorOfLightHomeAlone 2 місяці тому +2

      Dreams is to live the life like I am able to wish for myself. Guys i wish Best mma bettor .Thats not any advertisement of myself. I just start to show to myself that i can do it.

  • @theT-journal
    @theT-journal 2 місяці тому +301

    7. Don't try to live someone else's life, just because others do it doesn't mean its always right.

    • @Z3ROMyth
      @Z3ROMyth 2 місяці тому +2

      Golden advice 💯.

  • @forestpump3
    @forestpump3 2 місяці тому +344

    Joey I appreciate you for not using generic stock footage. I'm so tired of seeing it. I love seeing your own b-roll and footage. It makes it more personal, relatable and unique.

    • @lovekittyforever
      @lovekittyforever 2 місяці тому +6

      Yeah, Joey preparing for war at 11:40 in black and white just for this video, *chefs kiss* just cinematographer things 🥹

  • @digger3578
    @digger3578 15 днів тому +2

    My mom was killed by my stepdad January 1st two years ago. Beaten into a stroke and then coma, then dead.
    He wasn’t prosecuted.
    I’ve had this feeling that someone is coming to help ever since.
    Thanks for reminding me that no one is coming to help.

    • @vestry4642
      @vestry4642 7 днів тому

      damn man, that must have hurt a lot 😢

    • @alimccreery755
      @alimccreery755 4 дні тому

      Sounds like a little sarcastic but I get it and I’ve been there. I hope you’re getting yourself going because the people that claimed they were there for me were not and I needed to help myself. Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ coming your way

  • @alexwunsch6760
    @alexwunsch6760 2 місяці тому +41

    I cut all my subscriptions to 5. You are by far the one who delivers the most value. I highly appreciate you work. thank you!

    • @Gabe_itch_916
      @Gabe_itch_916 6 днів тому

      Simon Alexander Ong and this guy are the 2 best self help people on UA-cam for sure

  • @Alfetto8
    @Alfetto8 2 місяці тому +48

    "If you don't change your inputs don't expect your output to change" is such a powerful mindset, accurately summarizes the video.

    • @jm7804
      @jm7804 2 місяці тому

      That's the one gem in the entire list. Guard your eyes is kinda BS filler stuff. Sheep will continue to be sheep. A tip on YT isn't going to change that fact. Your life, your relationships, your body, your bank account, your quality of retirement is reflective of behavior over time. Some men make it about other people... my wife, my boss, my parents...but it's all about you bro. Stop being a victim and take charge. At the risk of sounding sexist...that's what men are supposed to do. Do it.

  • @ViceYash17018
    @ViceYash17018 2 місяці тому +1792

    I should go get a life.

    • @shapur_II
      @shapur_II 2 місяці тому +78

      It's sold out man

    • @Zach.3246
      @Zach.3246 2 місяці тому +21

      @@shapur_IITicket Master has my back

    • @WillyJunior
      @WillyJunior 2 місяці тому +9

      ​@@shapur_IIyou're just looking in the wrong stores

    • @denvernow7294
      @denvernow7294 2 місяці тому +11

      Temu

    • @ch3mdawg1
      @ch3mdawg1 2 місяці тому +2

      Ditto

  • @j.d.5709
    @j.d.5709 9 днів тому +1

    "Some things just suck and they will always suck." This is such an underrated statement and mentality. Our culture is so afraid of pain and hard work when it's those very things we have to experience and do to even see true growth no matter what area of life you are talking about.

  • @rastaphyllis
    @rastaphyllis 2 місяці тому +64

    Dude LITERALLY last night I’m laying in bed at like 1 am, on your channel, like “cmon man… I need another video from you”

  • @BendingPinkSteel
    @BendingPinkSteel 2 місяці тому +618

    1. Nobody is on their way to save you.
    2. Guard your eyes.
    3. Change your inputs to change outputs.
    4. There is nothing wrong with you.
    5. Embrace chosen suffering.
    6. Get hyped.

    • @BendingPinkSteel
      @BendingPinkSteel 2 місяці тому +39

      @@stronglegs-s3l bit harsh? My comment is mostly to help people follow along, not to replace an in-depth video.

    • @AlbinitoShep
      @AlbinitoShep 2 місяці тому

      ​@@stronglegs-s3lYeah man is like a reminder of the video. If there's people that don't want to watch the video and only read the comments then they are aliens

    • @adams115
      @adams115 2 місяці тому +25

      I appreciated the notes bud

    • @bitpilot79
      @bitpilot79 2 місяці тому +8

      @@BendingPinkSteel Thanks for the notes, appreciate it.

    • @Sacheess
      @Sacheess 2 місяці тому +1

      @@stronglegs-s3l it would be useful with timestamps
      withouth them, I agree that it's useless

  • @tinmouse1083
    @tinmouse1083 27 днів тому +4

    This thing I have listened to 3 times now and I'm finally actually hearing it. I'm turning 60 in a month or so. I can't belive how this completely relates to my situation. Amazing content from you. Thank you.

  • @noreen5718
    @noreen5718 2 місяці тому +11

    About #4, I think the phrase "you can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you love" is definitely one of the biggest lessons I learned in my 20s. Shame was such a big part of my identity, and I felt stuck in this mindset. I'm now 31 and so much happier with my imperfect self. A much healthier approach to life is to ask yourself "what do I dislike in my life right now, what am I not proud of? And how can I improve those things, so I can start feeling better just by knowing I'm taking action?". Two big examples for me somewhat recently was that my freelance job 1- didn't fulfill me, and 2- made me too sedentary and lead to weight gain and sluggishness. So I took it easy and took steps to fix those things while staying gentle with myself. Today, I've lost the extra weight and feel much stronger and energetic thanks to exercise, and I'm still taking steps to change careers, while also trying to make my current one happier! It takes work and time, but it's worth it. Embrace the daily improvements you make, don't just dream about the results. Love yall ♥

  • @graceisonline
    @graceisonline 2 місяці тому +6

    6 things you definitely need to hear:
    1. I love you.
    2. It's going to be okay.
    3. You're working really hard and doing a great job.
    4. Your efforts are making a positive impact.
    5. I'm proud of you.
    6. The world is better for simply having you exist in it.

  • @thijshalsema7513
    @thijshalsema7513 2 місяці тому +95

    I have felt this imense sense of insecurity. I tried to combat it by achieving fitness goals. Somehow in my mind I was convinced if I became stronger people would like me more. Now im here and its still the same. Dont get me wrong, exercise does make my life alot better in a lot of ways, and people even compliment me on my goals. Yet still, it doesnt fill the void.
    It feels like fighting to keep your head above water. A constant struggle to try to prove yourself.
    A week ago in a meditation I felt a surge of surrender. A feeling of 'let me be weak' giving into the fear. And for some reason i felt a sigh of relief
    No more need to proof anything. No more need to keep my head above water.
    It felt like peace
    It's like I broke through a wall, like the negative thoughts didnt had any meaning anymore.
    Ofcoures this was a moment, and the old feeling came back a day after that. But it does seem to give me a different sense of direction

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 2 місяці тому +4

      That's good! Your surrender sounded a bit like what Eckhart Tolle experienced and described in Chapter 1 of The Power of Now. Also, you countered the "what you resist, persists". All the best!

    • @AlbinitoShep
      @AlbinitoShep 2 місяці тому

      I understand you man. Sometimes you don't have the strength of fighting every day. But let me tell you it's totally worth it, so don't totally stop trying and relax sometimes. It's ok

    • @ffh6795
      @ffh6795 2 місяці тому

      wait wait wait
      you ENJOYED that?!
      but about the feeling of drowning? loosing sense and purpose? what about guidance?

    • @anemptyshell
      @anemptyshell 2 місяці тому +3

      Similar thing I realized recently. All these goals that I have which I sometimes pursue intensely for short bursts, most of which I never even start chasing, are, in essence, me trying to make myself "more acceptable" to some outside person I couldn't even name. It's insecurity all the way down. Which sucks cause I always thought I'd gotten over that brutally insecure phase once I left my teens but I guess it's still the same, I just learned to effectively mask it to the point where not even I even notived it anymore. But as you say, I know that chasing these things won't change the inherent insecurity. The goalpost will just move and shift and I will never be good enough either way.
      Learning to be okay with yourself as you are, even though you're so very imperfect, is a real tough one lmao. (Not saying that you shouldn't change at all obviously, it's the WHY that's important here.)

    • @namangupta8988
      @namangupta8988 2 місяці тому

      !

  • @xDan2710
    @xDan2710 2 місяці тому +48

    On the topic of "chosen suffering"- that was my dad’s philosophy when he taught me to drive. He always made me take the busiest roads or drive in challenging conditions, thinking that if I got comfortable with discomfort in a "safe" environment, I'd be more resilient later on. While I don’t dislike the philosophy, I feel like there has to be a balance. Instead of building my confidence, his approach made driving feel stressful, and I never learned to actually enjoy it. There’s a fine line between learning through discomfort and creating a lasting sense of dread-and finding that balance might be the key to making "chosen suffering" truly effective.

    • @sillopo3421
      @sillopo3421 2 місяці тому +1

      Just a thought: try to challenge yourself in a sustainable way, one step at a time - not too little (boredom), and not too much (one step forward but to steps back). The difficulty is balance and consistency (in gym strength training, it's called progressive overload). That's why the first step is to know yourself: what do you like and dislike; what's your strengths and weaknesses, etc. Compare yourself only with your yesterday's self and see the progress. Don't make the mistake and compare yourself to others - because you don't know their journey and hardships/life lessons they've overcame. Life is a different kind of race, and in the end, you're only competing with yourself. Be kind to yourself to keep maintaining positive outlook for progressive overload aka. "chosen suffering".

    • @kagezen
      @kagezen 2 місяці тому +1

      If you trusted your father you would have known what his intentions were and that he would be there to swoop in the moment you felt overwhelmed. I believe that it also depends on your mindset and from this you experience the world. You were negative and apprehensive about his teaching methods, Perhaps you did not trust him or the relationship between you was not a solid one. At the end of it all, once you understand or rather familiarize yourself with the "discomfort" of that situation its easy to excel in it the next time you feel it. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your practice. Personally i hated working out, but once i started understanding this discomfort and getting used to it, my mindset about working out completely changed.. Embrace the suck!

    • @lewis6590
      @lewis6590 2 місяці тому

      This is a great thought. If the suffering is too big a step, we don't overcome it, so we never build the overcoming muscle up -- and on top of that, we have suffered!

  • @James-vj9ph
    @James-vj9ph 2 місяці тому +70

    5:50 don't put AG1 in front of your eyes

    • @colinrussell2017
      @colinrussell2017 2 місяці тому +7

      I wish he put the endorsement right after "Guard your eyes"😂

    • @RH-ed1gc
      @RH-ed1gc 2 місяці тому +1

      My attention has been farmed. Lol 😂. Do like this video, that comment was just funny.

  • @ahmadjamalmughal47
    @ahmadjamalmughal47 2 місяці тому +10

    I do this thing recently where I don't shy away from re-reading a paragraph or page, or chapter or few pages in book. It is hard because somewhere in our brain we are in a rush to finish the book, even if we don't say it. And I do it with shorts too, it is very hard to watch same video multiple times the instinct is to move on to the next thing. But I'm going to watch it again, and I want to take notes this time. Because it is surprising how much I needed to hear all of this.

    • @js267
      @js267 2 місяці тому

      How bizarre - I have the exact opposite problem - I wish I could stop re-reading and just move on

  • @J3ndi
    @J3ndi 2 місяці тому +5

    Hey, thanks for the 6th tip. The problem with overthinking has been a huge part of my recent struggle.

  • @behglah
    @behglah 2 місяці тому +84

    0:00 - Introduction: Six things you probably need to hear
    0:02 - Number 1: Nobody is on their way
    1:10 - Number 2: Guard your eyes
    3:06 - Number 3: Change your inputs to change your outputs
    5:45 - Sponsor message: AG1
    6:50 - Number 4: There is nothing wrong with you
    10:48 - Number 5: Embrace chosen suffering
    13:52 - Number 6: Get hyped and stop overthinking

    • @voskresenie-
      @voskresenie- 2 місяці тому +4

      just stop, man. the last thing people watching these videos need is to read a summary because they're too lazy or unable to focus for a 15 min video. don't enable that behavior

    • @Meeka-m3k
      @Meeka-m3k 2 місяці тому +10

      Thanks for the summary! After watching the video with much joy and attention, it was nice to go over the short summary you made 👍🏼

    • @inventiveowl395
      @inventiveowl395 2 місяці тому +12

      @@voskresenie- Except people like me who can't focus and use timestamps to return and rewatch multiple times...
      Stop with the assumptions.

    • @voskresenie-
      @voskresenie- 2 місяці тому

      @@inventiveowl395 I assumed that this was for people who couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. You confirmed that you couldn't focus through a 15 minute video. I'm failing to see the reason why I shouldn't make assumptions.

    • @inventiveowl395
      @inventiveowl395 2 місяці тому +4

      @@voskresenie- The assumption I refered to wasn't _"people can't focus through a 15min video"_ but _"people who can't focus through a 15min video are lazy and will use the summary to jump through the video or skip it entirely"._

  • @eltoro423
    @eltoro423 2 місяці тому +22

    Thats it. I commit to getting off social media for 60 days while i focus that time on my bodybuilding and mental health. This time I know I wont fail.

    • @thejeffyb9766
      @thejeffyb9766 2 місяці тому +1

      UA-cam too?

    • @StückaEsser
      @StückaEsser 2 місяці тому

      good luck!

    • @4_seagull
      @4_seagull 2 місяці тому +2

      Not here to doubt you, and I'm glad you're doing this, but make sure you set up a manageable plan that doesn't burn you out for each day.

  • @002wpatrick
    @002wpatrick Місяць тому +2

    1. Nobody's on their way. No one will save you.
    2. Guard your eyes
    3. If you want to change your output, change your input.
    4. There is nothing wrong with you.
    5. Embrace the chosen suffering.
    6. Get hyped. Some things just suck. Don't overthink it. Blast past that obstacle.
    I hope this helps. Have a good day.

  • @theobookey
    @theobookey 2 місяці тому +18

    I love when you and other podcasters like Huberman and Williamson change the tone of your voice when doing an advert, making it really easy to hear when it's over so I can skip through it quickly. Helps me to guard my eyes

  • @4_seagull
    @4_seagull 2 місяці тому +1

    I'd also add kind of my own take on #4: stop yourself from doing more than you planned and need to do during the day.
    This may be part of my OCD, but it easily slipped into productivity becoming my self worth and me questioning every bit of my leisure time wondering what I "should" be doing and if I'm worthy of love yet.
    Obviously it is crucial we meet our own needs and do work with stuff like exercise and cooking and education, not denying that, but it can also breach a barrier where all that runs through your mind is an obsession with productivity and it burns you out quick. I still dont really know how to do things without my mind ruminating on all of the shoulds I set for myself.
    Best thing I've found yet overall for an OCD ADHD brain like mine is The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Caroll. I'd say that books lays out nearly everything you need for both organization and your mental wellbeing.
    Love your content Joey, and it continues to inspire me to keep working on treating my depression. I just wanted to point out a pitfall for me.

  • @TheJeffry11
    @TheJeffry11 2 місяці тому +7

    Wow! I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.

  • @Tangi_ENT
    @Tangi_ENT 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you for this Joey. Been watching since 2019, you have been one of my biggest motivators on this platform. I cannot tell you how much your work has gotten me out of ruts.
    Now. To go do the THING.

  • @slciser
    @slciser 2 місяці тому +5

    #5 is.. wow.. eye-opening to say the least. This is one of the best videos I've seen in a while. Thank you Joey. love u & all that you do

  • @Uncommony
    @Uncommony 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing and the first point resonates. I had to make the change after 32 years of neglect, negativity, and depression. I disappeared for 8 years, and I'm so glad I made the move.

  • @jameereugene9035
    @jameereugene9035 2 місяці тому +430

    This really clicks with the stuff I have been reading in Casanova: The path to success, wealth and love. It's a masterpiece in my opinion, and the author has released two new books this week (both about dating life and relationships).

  • @carl2072
    @carl2072 2 місяці тому +1

    I love it when words of advice resonate so much that I feel so inspired - then a few days later I’m reminded that I took no action, due to having another injection of inspiration like this one. God I wish I could hold myself accountable and just do the stuff.

  • @Urbanstrangler
    @Urbanstrangler 2 місяці тому +37

    Always glad when these videos pop up

  • @mghrahul6944
    @mghrahul6944 2 місяці тому +1

    I love how straight to the point you are in the content you create. One of the only I have seen that seem to be practicing what they preach!

  • @RiosCosma
    @RiosCosma 2 місяці тому +132

    Excellent video but Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!

    • @LesibaMothupi664
      @LesibaMothupi664 2 місяці тому +17

      Job will pay your bills, business make you rich but investment build and wealth long term, the future is coming.

    • @VullnetKola-el7pg
      @VullnetKola-el7pg 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@SofiaVitali-w9hWow! Kind of in shock you mentioned expert, Jeffrey Kathryn What a coincidence!!

    • @VullnetKola-el7pg
      @VullnetKola-el7pg 2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you Lord Jesus for bringing expert Kathryn into my life and my family, $14,120.47 weekly profit Our lord Jesus have lifted up my Life!!!

    • @Mzefirov
      @Mzefirov 2 місяці тому +2

      I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

    • @BenjaminLavoie-w4e
      @BenjaminLavoie-w4e 2 місяці тому

      I used to work 3 jobs, full time at Walmart, a server at night and Lyft on the weekend, untill jeffrey kathryn change my story.

  • @jungersrules
    @jungersrules Місяць тому

    Another way to look at #5 is think of the hardships you've already been through. I don't know about you, but mine made me stronger. In many ways I both glad I went through it. I learned so many lessons through those hardships. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." It's made me less reactive (shorter reaction) and also patient (a really big struggle for me that I'm still teaching myself constantly, but I'm aware of what I do).

  • @Godlymasculine
    @Godlymasculine 2 місяці тому +3

    How do I deal with a strict dad who does not even allow me to improve , level 1 of self improvement is health and I can't even do that , I am not special, I am not the kind of person who can sacrifice their health for studying , I can't do anything when I'm unhealthy , I can do everything when I'm healthy , I'm an Indian , 15 year old high schooler about to face boards
    And like most people, I don't cope , but this is a genuine problem , because without my health, I cannot be productive
    I think you are one of the few people who can understand me , I am not stupid , my family literally stops me from improving
    Even if I'm going to pursue business, I want a good class 10 result so that I can get a high paying job from the start, like a head start, the reason why my dad does not let me improve my health is because I am in class 10 and he thinks it's a waste of time
    I'm not going to tell you my problems , my comment is long enough
    I'm gonna go insane , I'm not progressing on anything, I feel behind , no , it's not even that , I just want to take care of my health , that's it. Why do I have such strict parents , if they allowed me to do these things , I would be so happier , and they would be too because I would get good grades

  • @user-yh1cl1zf2q
    @user-yh1cl1zf2q 2 місяці тому +5

    Thanks on sharing this valueable information! I wanna add this : You should change your inputs to change your outputs, but the function(relationship between inputs & outputs) changes over time, since it's based on your past. You shouldn't treat life as a rigid machine, which is indeed a comforting view, but as a playful interaction with yourself.

  • @BeingJones1
    @BeingJones1 2 місяці тому +1032

    banned books you need to read
    1. Hidden Laws Of The Game
    2. Money Borlest
    3. Money Hidden Magic

  • @true6457
    @true6457 20 днів тому

    Joey you are a gift!!! Thank you for getting me out of my own way with your talks on procrastination. Straight forward talk, you speak and give great solutions about real things we go thru EVERYDAY!!! YOU ARE A GIFT!!!

  • @NoScrollApp
    @NoScrollApp 2 місяці тому +8

    Guarding your eyes is important in 2024.
    Social media is a double edged sword, and we should be intentional with our scrolling!

  • @Turtlpwr
    @Turtlpwr 2 місяці тому +2

    How do you trick and lie yourself into believing you have self worth? I’ve tried my whole life and I just can’t believe it. Even after 12 years of therapy. 12:01 most of my life has been unchosen suffering and just trying to survive. Now, I’m almost 40 and have nothing to show other than surviving. I feel so much less than everyone around me.

    • @StückaEsser
      @StückaEsser 2 місяці тому

      You have to start from stopping lying to yourself that you're not worth anything

    • @Pou1525uop
      @Pou1525uop 2 місяці тому +1

      That’s difficult to answer and I don’t know your situation but I studied psychology and I am sure that a professional in this field can help you. Therapy can look very different from a professional to another and maybe you didn’t find the right fit. You may benefit from trying another approach with a different one.
      Also, maybe you did not find what resonates with you yet, and the only way to solve something that’s been here for this long is to find new creative solutions, to be open to other perspectives by having new experiences such as the help of other professionals. That’s an idea but in my opinion the best you can do is to seek mental support to find what’s the real problem and establish the right method to solve this problem.

    • @malojordan653
      @malojordan653 2 місяці тому +1

      Hey you’re worth it man. Do something you consider of value, keep trying even when you fail and watch yourself be extraordinary. I believe in you and I know you’re capable of greatness

    • @gend01f
      @gend01f Місяць тому +1

      You survived. That's an accomplishment. No joke's.

  • @user-jm6gp2qc8x
    @user-jm6gp2qc8x 2 місяці тому +24

    This advice may sound motivational, but it’s packed with flaws that don’t hold up under scrutiny.
    First off, Telling people “nobody’s on their way” might sound empowering, but it sets up an isolating, cynical worldview that ignores the reality that we all rely on each other. Life isn’t just about standing alone; it’s about forming connections, building trust, and knowing when to ask for help.
    The advice to “guard your eyes” assumes that complete control over your attention is possible or even healthy-when in reality, exposure to diverse ideas and experiences, even distracting ones, can lead to unexpected growth. This “guarding” approach can turn you into a rigid gatekeeper of your own mind, missing out on the richness of life.
    Then there’s the whole “change your inputs to change your outputs” cliché lol. as if external tweaks alone could solve deep-seated issues. This advice leans heavily on external changes and gives an easy excuse to blame everything around you instead of dealing with your own habits, choices, and mindset.
    The idea that “there’s nothing wrong with you” is a comforting lie that glosses over the hard truth-self-improvement requires facing your flaws. Thinking you’re “fine as you are” sounds nice, but it’s an excuse to avoid the brutal self-assessment that real change demands.
    “Embrace chosen suffering” is another half-baked notion that glorifies hardship for its own sake. Pushing yourself is valuable, sure, but valorizing pain as a pathway to growth ignores the importance of balance and wisdom. This approach risks making struggle your identity, trapping you in a loop of unnecessary hardship.
    This one -- “get hyped” is flimsy advice dressed up as motivation--relying on hype to push through challenges is a short-lived solution that crashes quickly. Hype doesn’t breed discipline, and trying to “get excited” about difficult tasks is a poor substitute for the kind of deep-seated motivation that actually drives sustainable progress.
    Each piece of this advice has an alluring ring, but none hold up to the realities of what it takes to genuinely grow and succeed.

    • @samfisher320
      @samfisher320 2 місяці тому +9

      So what would you suggest friend?

    • @TheWerewolfJesus
      @TheWerewolfJesus 2 місяці тому +10

      Let's reframe it:
      1. Don't wait, start assisting yourself immediately. Someone else cannot start this process for you.
      2. Be intentional about your attention. Spend it like a budget.
      3. Examine the familiar. Things closest to you are invisible, be aware of them.
      4. Don't hate yourself for past mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, you can grow and move on without shame.
      5. Something is going to be hard, but you can choose what it is. Difficult preparation is healthier than the difficulty of being unprepared.
      6. Don't overthink it. Some tasks are unpleasant no matter how they are approached, but if they are necessary the only solution is to do them anyway.

    • @Yan-uk8mn
      @Yan-uk8mn 2 місяці тому +5

      @@TheWerewolfJesus Thank you werewolfjesus, it's easy to twist the meaning of the advice just to conclude that everything said is shit

    • @Arsytheslay
      @Arsytheslay 2 місяці тому +2

      Chat gpt generated ahh comment

    • @tpdircks
      @tpdircks 2 місяці тому

      Talk about analysis paralysis. All advice can be scrutinized if you are a pessimist. It won’t get you anywhere. These tips are good, but it was not meant to be an end all, be all. And it seems like this is an AI generated response…so maybe stop trolling people that are doing good and do something good yourself. Best of luck to you.

  • @jonathanvitesse9471
    @jonathanvitesse9471 2 місяці тому +7

    here is my the three things from this video that resonated with me the most :
    1- Look at something to focus on it
    Genuinely helpful and applicable instantly, want to play guitar, just look at it 30 sec and it will become natural to get it, want to get out of your bed, look at your door handle etc
    2-You will always be scared of suffering
    No matter the confort the money the happiness you will always be scared of suffering, so make it be something you’re used to. I think it’s actually really motivating, idk want to tell someone you love them but scared ? well do it and if it turns out great then great if it turns out bad you’ll become stronger at facing suffering and be thankful of becoming stronger
    3-Stop using self hatred as motivation
    I always treat myself like a rubber ball that i squeeze by hating it a lot until i can’t handle it anymore and i jump very high and fall very fast. Everyone could has reasons to hate themselves, happy people just don’t do it

  • @burmakara
    @burmakara 2 місяці тому +690

    the fact that nobody talks about the book called Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

    • @roguedoge2479
      @roguedoge2479 2 місяці тому +8

      Okay dude who did you pay for your likes? Come on, let’s have it. Caught in 4k.
      Are you here to sell your book? Of course you are 🙄

    • @sher69420
      @sher69420 2 місяці тому +1

      spam comment guys

  • @EdelweisSusie
    @EdelweisSusie 2 місяці тому +1

    This is probably one of the most valid videos on UA-cam: everyone, no matter your situation in life, needs to hear it because at some time in the future you’ll wish you had.

  • @hccdgvvfccdgn993
    @hccdgvvfccdgn993 2 місяці тому +168

    Me pressing the emergency button in the stuck elevator hearing that no one is going to come save me. 😭

    • @sidprivt26
      @sidprivt26 2 місяці тому +5

      lmao😂

    • @betterideas
      @betterideas  2 місяці тому +39

      Hahahah no one is on their way 💀

    • @JakeBuccellato
      @JakeBuccellato 2 місяці тому +3

      ​@betterideas Agreed.😌
      You know what sounds even better? I wouldn't necessarily say that.
      I get that people, including myself, are the only people who can help themselves get out of a rut and change themselves for the better, but YOU came and saved US. You gave us the help we need to get the opportunities to be richer and better. As people, no matter who we are or how old we get, we always have the time to help each other out to change our stories. We give each other good tips and wisdom based on our own perspectives on reality. It's not like a fairy or someone from the future is going to suddenly appear and give us the change we want. Although, it would be pretty nice if someone from the future did come and save me.

    • @Ourelleetsy
      @Ourelleetsy 2 місяці тому

      ​@@JakeBuccellato yeah id even say that people will help, but you just have to be willing to open your fuffin eyes for once and see the right hands reaching out to you and actually take it

    • @phased3941
      @phased3941 2 місяці тому +2

      Get hyped.

  • @relaxationacoustics123
    @relaxationacoustics123 2 місяці тому

    Nobody is gonna take you by your hand and show you the way. You have to prove that you are capable of conquering your own goals.

  • @TyeMorrisVlog
    @TyeMorrisVlog 2 місяці тому +9

    0:33 I had to roll that back and look again because for a hot second there it looked like the guy was coming to console his friend with a box of the same canned cat food we buy for our cats 😂

  • @PaulYuNow
    @PaulYuNow 2 місяці тому

    Joey that point about just stare at the thing to become more focused at the thing and to feel more like doing the thing, that's magic. Thank you Joey for sharing that.

  • @Maxxilopez92
    @Maxxilopez92 2 місяці тому +10

    I Suffer Everyday at Work. So I just wait for the unchosen suffering, I will ace that unchosen suffering

  • @Oliverstihonn
    @Oliverstihonn 2 місяці тому +1637

    Really enjoyed this! The advice is spot on, especially when it comes to making the most out of every moment. I’ve found that focusing on what truly matters is key. A while back, I came across some mind-opening concepts in the Nixorus secrets that really helped me put things into perspective. Definitely looking to apply more of these ideas in my daily routine!

    • @stephanndon
      @stephanndon Місяць тому

      thank you for share! they have great books

    • @Oliverstihonn
      @Oliverstihonn Місяць тому

      @@stephanndon no problem bro!

  • @jsilverman8881
    @jsilverman8881 20 днів тому

    Thank you for being real about what it takes to change yourself. It is not pretty. It is not easy, but as a child of the 60s, my dad taught me how to be strong, work hard, and do the right thing. A simple life 😌

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go 2 місяці тому +7

    Love this list!

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski 2 місяці тому +2

      I appreciated the perspectives here too 🙌

    • @faraway_is_close
      @faraway_is_close 2 місяці тому

      Woah look who's here. Much love Psych2go ❤

    • @Sevse-nh3fi
      @Sevse-nh3fi 2 місяці тому +1

      Im guarding my eyes from you.

    • @Thunder_Marshall
      @Thunder_Marshall 2 місяці тому

      Psych2go was also waiting for the video to drop😂😂

    • @Thunder_Marshall
      @Thunder_Marshall 2 місяці тому

      Btw dang I didn't know you were so famous

  • @ReaperspearX
    @ReaperspearX 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for the six things! Now I am aware that I am the best person capable of moving myself forward, and I am worth it.

  • @debbielewis3109
    @debbielewis3109 13 днів тому +4

    When you’ve been told you suck everyday of your life it’s hard to get out of it. Narcissistic abuse is hard to get over!

  • @easternacademy
    @easternacademy 2 місяці тому +1

    The irony of a supplement ad imbedded after Thing 2 (Guard Your Eyes) is rich.

  • @channelndf123
    @channelndf123 2 місяці тому +11

    "I don't want to imply that your life sucks...that's actually one of the next points" 🤣🤣

  • @zsoltpapp3363
    @zsoltpapp3363 2 місяці тому +1

    I really needed this this morning. Thank you, sir !

  • @deanj6722
    @deanj6722 2 місяці тому +18

    Joey is like Johnny if he never sinned! 😁💥

  • @mattb9664
    @mattb9664 2 місяці тому +7

    When you realize that real life is the exact opposite of your University's current advertising campaign that's aired during College Football Saturdays... and that they are gaslighting another generation of students with false expectations in life.

  • @Learned333
    @Learned333 2 місяці тому +1

    There is a fine line between doing sucky work and working smart, suffering through something or find an efficiency - or two - first, DIYing everything or letting go through delegation, writing your own massive to do list or being guided in steps by the divine.

  • @roxtendo
    @roxtendo 2 місяці тому +5

    Life is like a path that slowly crumbles and plunges into the abyss. If you don't move, you will fall into this abyss and return will be difficult. So always keep moving and never fall into the abyss.

    • @HomeAutomated-v2r
      @HomeAutomated-v2r 2 місяці тому +2

      The abyss is safe. Your path is your own, your expectations are not universal.

    • @JakeBuccellato
      @JakeBuccellato 2 місяці тому

      @@roxtendo I don't want to be in this abyss forever.😞

    • @nokateno
      @nokateno 2 місяці тому

      I am chilling in the abyss 🤷‍♀️

  • @Berxwedan.
    @Berxwedan. 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for this video Jeremy i love the fact that you go straight to the point instead of wasting time and just showing some random sponsors in the beginning, your videos are truly a life changer.

  • @CaptainCowboy476
    @CaptainCowboy476 2 місяці тому +10

    You have to be one of if not my favorite. First you don’t have to make a video every day. And your content is valuable without having to have some guru.
    I really love your approach.
    Thanks

  • @Sevse-nh3fi
    @Sevse-nh3fi 2 місяці тому

    I want to say I really like the way you phrase things. I feel like a lot of self improvement connoisseurs use shame to motivate, but you stick to real facts.

  • @daxx299
    @daxx299 2 місяці тому +28

    3:12 Did you vape just to prove a point? That's some commitment 👏🏻

    • @terrastrike2026
      @terrastrike2026 2 місяці тому +5

      Joey is actually a competitive vaper

  • @Laf631
    @Laf631 2 місяці тому +1

    #3 really reminds me of what holidays are like with my family. Their lives are work, sleep, drink, repeat. It's hard to be around people who are so stagnant, that a snapshot of their lives from 10 years ago would basically look identical to today.

  • @alex2410
    @alex2410 2 місяці тому +7

    Someone else feel like selfimprovement is in a way kinda depressing? Things that remind you how unsatisfying your current thing is.. anyways, try to stat positive and go and get it. Yeah..

    • @alex2410
      @alex2410 2 місяці тому +1

      @myyoutubeaccount4167 I guess everyone feels that way at some point.. but remember not to stay in that space bro. You'll find something thats like.. the thing. You know? Best of wishes

    • @myyoutubeaccount4167
      @myyoutubeaccount4167 2 місяці тому +1

      @@alex2410
      I appreciate the sentiment.
      Best of wishes to you too.

    • @4_seagull
      @4_seagull 2 місяці тому +1

      I found myself in obsession with it which caused me to take a long break. You can definitely go too far and have all your thoughts revolve around improvement. The balance is so hard for me to find

  • @Maxxorbob
    @Maxxorbob 2 місяці тому

    Absolute gold. So important to be reminded of these lessons

  • @TheUnputdownables
    @TheUnputdownables 2 місяці тому +4

    Wow! What a video. Definitely one of your best. Please consider making something on 'chosen suffering '.
    .

  • @VM-oi3dk
    @VM-oi3dk Місяць тому +1

    There is nothing psychopathic about doing your taxes. A psychopath is someone who has no ethics, empathy or guilt.

  • @allisonsmith8025
    @allisonsmith8025 2 місяці тому +3

    I don't think I've ever commented before but your videos are so great! You always find really interesting and inspirational content here. Just wanted to share.

  • @therabidpancake1
    @therabidpancake1 2 місяці тому +2

    Solid list . I would say that you missed or maybe you covered it and I just didn't pick up on it . Things are not always going to go your way. I would say that is a good 90% chance. Another one is that there are people that live just to put pain in the lives of others.

  • @Achelois7
    @Achelois7 2 місяці тому +26

    You're on your own, kid. Yeah you can face this. You're on your own, kid. You always have been.

    • @HomeAutomated-v2r
      @HomeAutomated-v2r 2 місяці тому

      Face what? Theres nothing to prove, only a conception of more, should you try. But who needs more if your content in being alone?

    • @Achelois7
      @Achelois7 2 місяці тому

      @@HomeAutomated-v2r It's a Taylor Swift song

    • @unknown00910
      @unknown00910 2 місяці тому +2

      ​@@Achelois7gay

    • @Achelois7
      @Achelois7 2 місяці тому

      @@unknown00910 sure.

    • @lauravsthepage
      @lauravsthepage 2 місяці тому +2

      CAUSE THERE WERE PAGES TURNED WITH THE BRIDGES BURNED, EVERYTHING YOU LOSE IS A STEP YOU TAKE ❤

  • @CRAVEN79
    @CRAVEN79 Місяць тому

    I’ll tell you this fellas - the first point is abundantly true. No one is coming to help you. Happily married now, but when my first married went south due to cheating (not on my side), I had a stupid expectation that my friends would come and hang out and get me through it. What I found out is that people do legit just care about themselves and they’re not coming to help. You’ve got to get back up and do it on your own. Amazing how those same people suddenly want to talk again when things are going well for you.

  • @thingswillbealright
    @thingswillbealright 2 місяці тому +3

    Brilliant video, I truly need this video, thank you.

  • @gurulaghima6518
    @gurulaghima6518 2 місяці тому +2

    I kinda hated and resented myself and that's what sparked me to change and not I'm the happiest I've ever been

  • @AungBaw
    @AungBaw 2 місяці тому +4

    10:28 thank you.

  • @morganrasmussen5071
    @morganrasmussen5071 2 місяці тому

    Your articulation is a gift! Thank you for sharing yourself.

  • @daxx299
    @daxx299 2 місяці тому +11

    4:20 Peter from Family Guy, "ha! He said it, he said the thing"😆

  • @ekurisona663
    @ekurisona663 2 місяці тому

    not just preparing for suffering like training - court and explore the mindset that suffering is part of life (the dark and the light go together) - when the mind accepts that, and you train for it, you are now changed - and so is suffering

  • @OdiiFFA
    @OdiiFFA 2 місяці тому +5

    Sad to see someone still promoting AG1

  • @ParkourBrian
    @ParkourBrian 2 місяці тому +1

    The *BIGGEST* impact to my productivity this month was turning off UA-cam’s watch history. It deletes your entire home page and removes 100% of the attention traps

  • @leanderthal-z
    @leanderthal-z 2 місяці тому +5

    I got divorced recently, and I'm really butthurt that a lot of people stopped interacting with me (I am really not an asshole, I am a decent dude) like my luck is an infectious disease they better not catch.

    • @Nikki.....
      @Nikki..... 2 місяці тому +2

      People stopped interacting and hanging with me and my mom after my dad died, even her family. it's the dynamic that people are not comfortable with anymore, having a single person over instead of a couple or a family

    • @leanderthal-z
      @leanderthal-z 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Nikki..... I'm sorry. Some people suck.

  • @bhuvanesh1
    @bhuvanesh1 2 місяці тому

    Idk why but really get addicted to your better ideas and base my entire life on the concepts you talk about. Happened multiple times.

  • @tinywalnut6337
    @tinywalnut6337 2 місяці тому +3

    I do stuff that sucks every day. I have been for years. I got addicted to it, almost to the point where that's ALL I did. There was no reward.
    I'm now in therapy, working to undo all the damage I've done to myself trying to improve myself.
    Yes, I'm ready for big challenges. I've built that muscle. But I also now need to learn to relax it--both psychologically and literally. I have been tensing my body up for so long that it's a struggle, minute to minute, to relax it.
    Careful with how many rules you set for yourself and how austere you become. Moderation is critical.

  • @bridgetjones8339
    @bridgetjones8339 Місяць тому

    I’m 66 years old and they totally agree with this little talk. And if you are struggling with any one of these points, I highly recommend self-help books or counseling or therapy because it’s very important if you want to be happy in your life.

  • @CJoyArt
    @CJoyArt 2 місяці тому +9

    Embrace your chosen suffering. Deep wisdom. Love this message!

  • @MrDoodah
    @MrDoodah 2 місяці тому +1

    Changes your life brought to you by AG1

  • @Ibrahim-rc8sn
    @Ibrahim-rc8sn 2 місяці тому +3

    This video was helpful, thanks dude

  • @Lindsayrunsfree
    @Lindsayrunsfree 2 місяці тому

    I've been learning from you for years, and am so glad you are making me laugh now and not just teaching me.

  • @Nadirthebottomrock
    @Nadirthebottomrock 2 місяці тому +4

    Its like you sent this video directly to me.
    This morning I said my prayers, and told God that everything is in his hands. I praised him for all of my blessings. Everything you said has been in my head lately.
    Thank you...

  • @jasperalmoore
    @jasperalmoore 2 місяці тому

    One of my favorite variations of "change your inputs", from Henry Ford, that has inspired me many times:
    If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got.

  • @Bubuthakid
    @Bubuthakid 2 місяці тому +3

    I love how the thumbnail is almost always just him staring straight into your soul😂😂😂

  • @Millennial_Republic
    @Millennial_Republic 2 місяці тому +2

    I randomly found your channel tonight and I’m very glad that I did

  • @b-rare
    @b-rare 2 місяці тому +4

    Not only is no one on their way but also no body cares. lol. And the saying “it’ll happen” never happens unless you’re putting in work daily. Nothing just comes to you when you’re just wishing for it and that’s it. You have to put in the time and really want it. Make it no other option but for it to be yours. The universe is always watching and it rewards the “relentless”. You must be relentless. When an issue arises , it’s the universe asking “yea, you really that guy?” And you have to smash that challenge and beg for more. Relentless. Only after many challenges (failures) will the universe back off and then reward you. Be relentless

  • @HappyPhotographs-ey2sl
    @HappyPhotographs-ey2sl 12 днів тому

    Hi Joe, please don't hide any of your videos ... Your videos really helped me a lot to move towards betterment , sometimes I need them, you have really great abilities to put anything in unique which is also eye opening at the same time you show us very practical way to move forward...
    There's always sentence/phrases you say in some part of video which help us a lot!
    Please don't hide any of your videos, you'll never know in which part of the world you are changing life!

  • @sportlams
    @sportlams 2 місяці тому +1214

    it's kinda crazy how nobody talks about Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood

    • @StückaEsser
      @StückaEsser 2 місяці тому +10

      Bot

    • @flflflflflfl
      @flflflflflfl 2 місяці тому +2

      what do you mean? literally everyon is talking about it.

    • @StückaEsser
      @StückaEsser 2 місяці тому +7

      @@flflflflflfl it's a bot

    • @flflflflflfl
      @flflflflflfl 2 місяці тому +4

      @@StückaEsser me too

    • @ttephi3667
      @ttephi3667 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, it's VERY crazy.

  • @FolliYt
    @FolliYt 2 місяці тому

    Great timing for me, thanks!

  • @arrow1-b2v
    @arrow1-b2v 2 місяці тому +15

    Who needed to hear that?! 🙋🏽‍♀️ inspiring ❤ Positive vibes for everybody ❤