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I am 41 and this sums up exactly how I am got bullied at school knowone taught me how to deal with it or deal with women or money or how to deal with conflict and setting boundaries. Dad was there but passive.
Wow you pretty much described my situation to the T. I'm 30 and still feel so lost, in a weird way I chose my mother over my partner (couldn't explain why, it just happened ) and it destroyed our relationship completely and I hate myself for it. Hope you make a more detailed follow up video on how to fix this dynamic
This was unreal how much it reeonated with me. I would like to hear the steps and how to do it more if thats something you wanted to share. Thank you for such an awakening video
You talk a lot of sense and really know your stuff. I find all this so fascinating. A friend of mine just got divorced from a ‘man’ who’s almost fifty. He was a great example of what you talk about and had not cut the cord from his mum at any point. Not long after they married, he agreed to go abroad with his mother for Christmas not even thinking to talk to his wife about this. It amazes me how she stuck with him for three further years after he did this.
Omg those are totally my parents , my mom is like a boss and my dad is like a free being, he tells me to do things to move out if I want to and my mom cries and says no to move out she needs me and she’s super controlling. I’m 34 yeah but in my mind and my parents eyes I’m 19
Bro my parents are exactly like that, i used to always think my mum acted way to much like a man/masculine around me while my dad was always absent>working
Thank you for the video. This is almost correct in my life apart from the fact that my mother is an obvious cold hearted witch (not one person has ever said so). Apart from that everything else fits. Also, I do not think that the author of this video has children. It seems obvious to me.
Wow! Oliver, you EXACTLY described my parents, my life, and my relationship with my mother. There is just a difference with my mother. She is not overbearing, she is overcaring and she has always been too worried for me. She didn't let me experience the world because it was too dangerous. You have no idea how I'm glad I found you. For the past 2 months, I have been relentlessly working on myself. Made a list of my problems and started to research about them one by one. One day I came across Peter Pan Syndrome and I searched and found your videos and I'm so thankful for that. Because everything I did in the past 2 months (like taking care of my health, eating healthy food, better sleep pattern) has been very fragile and unstable. I'm getting back to my old self recently and I had no idea why but I know there is something very deep wrong with me. I knew there was a core in me that was not fixed. All the fixes I did in these 2 months were superficial but the root cause of my problems is untouched and thanks to you, now I've found the root. This is now my first priority.
I left home at 17yo. I am now 59yo. My mother has refused to understand that I have an independent person. Every time I have set boundaries with her the push back has been horrendous with horrendous accusations of what a horrible person I am. 6 months ago I told her it's best that we don't have anything to do with each other. Apart from feeling a bit guilty because societal norms say you should not do this to your mother. Sometimes, it's necessary. Adult children are not responsible for whatever mental health issues their parents have. That's the parent's responsibility as is any adult
What if BOTH parents are overbearing ("The whole world is dangerous and everybody is out to get you!") and were always fighting in front of the children? Asking for a friend.
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I am 41 and this sums up exactly how I am got bullied at school knowone taught me how to deal with it or deal with women or money or how to deal with conflict and setting boundaries. Dad was there but passive.
Thanks for your share, mate.
Wow you pretty much described my situation to the T. I'm 30 and still feel so lost, in a weird way I chose my mother over my partner (couldn't explain why, it just happened ) and it destroyed our relationship completely and I hate myself for it. Hope you make a more detailed follow up video on how to fix this dynamic
I will most certainly follow this up. It's a tough one but it's necessary.
+1 (and many thanks for this. Eerily autobiographic!!!)
I absolutely love your content. You present these concepts so well that I feel you are speaking directly to me.
Thank you
Big compliment. Thankyou.
This was unreal how much it reeonated with me. I would like to hear the steps and how to do it more if thats something you wanted to share. Thank you for such an awakening video
Next video is on cutting the emotional umbilical chord. Keep an eye out for it!
You talk a lot of sense and really know your stuff. I find all this so fascinating.
A friend of mine just got divorced from a ‘man’ who’s almost fifty. He was a great example of what you talk about and had not cut the cord from his mum at any point. Not long after they married, he agreed to go abroad with his mother for Christmas not even thinking to talk to his wife about this. It amazes me how she stuck with him for three further years after he did this.
It's so common.
Omg those are totally my parents , my mom is like a boss and my dad is like a free being, he tells me to do things to move out if I want to and my mom cries and says no to move out she needs me and she’s super controlling.
I’m 34 yeah but in my mind and my parents eyes I’m 19
if you have job and stuble income and having save money you should move out
if you don't have job don't move out you will be hommeles
Bro my parents are exactly like that, i used to always think my mum acted way to much like a man/masculine around me while my dad was always absent>working
Thank you for the video. This is almost correct in my life apart from the fact that my mother is an obvious cold hearted witch (not one person has ever said so). Apart from that everything else fits. Also, I do not think that the author of this video has children. It seems obvious to me.
OMG olliver, how could this really meet my condition.. i am on journey to uncover the truth to Peter Pan Syndrome..
this video described a lot of the issues with my family. TY so much.
Wow! Oliver, you EXACTLY described my parents, my life, and my relationship with my mother. There is just a difference with my mother. She is not overbearing, she is overcaring and she has always been too worried for me. She didn't let me experience the world because it was too dangerous. You have no idea how I'm glad I found you. For the past 2 months, I have been relentlessly working on myself. Made a list of my problems and started to research about them one by one. One day I came across Peter Pan Syndrome and I searched and found your videos and I'm so thankful for that. Because everything I did in the past 2 months (like taking care of my health, eating healthy food, better sleep pattern) has been very fragile and unstable. I'm getting back to my old self recently and I had no idea why but I know there is something very deep wrong with me. I knew there was a core in me that was not fixed. All the fixes I did in these 2 months were superficial but the root cause of my problems is untouched and thanks to you, now I've found the root. This is now my first priority.
Godspeed bro
This was my childhood
You can become the man you needed when you were a boy
i cant believe how accurate this is for me
I'm glad it resonated.
@@OliverCowlishaw cheers bro. It definitely helped me understand why the dynamics are the way they are
I left home at 17yo. I am now 59yo. My mother has refused to understand that I have an independent person. Every time I have set boundaries with her the push back has been horrendous with horrendous accusations of what a horrible person I am. 6 months ago I told her it's best that we don't have anything to do with each other. Apart from feeling a bit guilty because societal norms say you should not do this to your mother. Sometimes, it's necessary. Adult children are not responsible for whatever mental health issues their parents have. That's the parent's responsibility as is any adult
This hit hard, specially since I see this in my family dynamic now. I can’t have this happen to my kids.
i don't have job
Thank you mate.
What if BOTH parents are overbearing ("The whole world is dangerous and everybody is out to get you!") and were always fighting in front of the children?
Asking for a friend.
Then you are in a cult. I'm not joking, but then someone like Steven Hassan and his book on escaping the cult mentality will help
This exact family dynamic where boundaries and proactiveness and are not taught or encouraged applies to daughters too. Working on overcoming it
Good luck 🙏🏻 I talked to men on this channel but this dynamic is difficult for women too.
@@OliverCowlishaw Thank you👍🏻
Very clear and deep. Thanks!
You're very welcome