I’m Not Manly…
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- Опубліковано 22 лис 2022
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If it's any comfort.... Some of us really want guys who don't sexualise woman and have high body counts....
Exactly! I married a man who treated me with respect and didn't sexualize me but still saw me as a woman if that makes sense. Best decision ever! We're approaching our two year anniversary
I personally steer clear of men with macho tendencies and behaviour, I prefer to be around people who are genuinely themselves, not posturing or playing a fake role!
@@WendyRoy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This!! I run because those men are theeeee 🚩.
Exactly! I was really happy when I found out my boyfriend had never been in love either when we first started dating. I would have still fallen for him if he'd had a "hoe phase" lol or a few serious relationships before me, but it was really nice that we were both new to sex, love, dating and all that.
He's not a macho guy either, but he possesses an inner strength that I really admire. He's kind, calm and has his shit together, which is 1000x better than a guy who talks a big game and acts macho, but doesn't have good qualities to back it up.
Most women want someone like that and don’t want to be treated as objects
I relate on the other side of the coin. Grew up tomboy and got teased if I looked like a boy but being feminine didn't feel genuine and I struggled for a long time thinking I had to pick only one, being masculine or feminine but eventually found my own balance. Growing up different can be so rough and painful but finding oneself through that struggle I think is extra rewarding long term.
Same I’m both feminine and masculine i like a tomboy style sometimes and sometimes a girly girl style and I always get told “just pick one” and my sister she is a tomboy and my aunts always say “she looks like a boy [insert my mom’s name] you need to fix that before she grows up being transgender or gay (my aunts are homophobic because they grew up in an Highly Christian household,my mother is ok with it, they try to change her mind a lot) and i personally don’t like when they say things like that and I speak up about it but when I do I get called rude they like saying my mothers kids are rude (because we speak up for our selves) but..yeah I get that😅
Androgeny for the win
And then there’s me, who went from princess, to tomboy, to Dyke, and then ended up a trans guy. How did I end up here 🤣
@@goddessceleste1481 those types of people will always think you’re rude unless you take their abuse.
Yeah I got and still get accused of being lesbian for dressing in male clothes but it’s weird because I did pageants by choice.
How did i get from watching tate to this? The duality of yt shorts is crazy
probably because tates videos and this one are talking about the same concepts.
Only that both have different experiences.
So you can learn the difference between a man women find attractive vs a man who has to pay women to be in his presence
@@nutella1757
believe it or not both of those are andrew lmao.
@@lol-ot4pn you're delusional if you think those women are around him for any reason besides his wealth. They definitely aren't with him for his personality or good looks.
@@nutella1757
I did say believe it or not.
Which is true. There are women out there who get wet for his extreme masculinity.
You’re not just a man , you’re a gentleman which is exactly what majority of women are looking for , nothing to be insecure about ☺️
Someone just trying to find genuine intimacy is a REAL man imo. Those stereotypical traits to me come across as an insecure guy that has something to prove and is not mature
Yes exactly
Honestly, the guy I felt attracted to the most was super secure with ego he was & I was attracted to him mostly because he was a fun guy with genuine connections with people, and that was exactly the kind of person I was into.
So you get to misgender me because I want ingenuine estrangement?
@@thatsinteresting3415 ingenuine estrangement sounds like some cat shit lmao
why’d you say “REAL man” like that ☠️
Not being able to pay for everything isn't a weakness if a girl loves you she is going to love broke you ...rich you ....
There are different levels to being broke. Theres being broke like he’s still in the midst of building his life and career and the other side to being broke where he’s just a bum with no ambitions.
if someones broke and they dont want to do anything about it or even making it worse then its a different story tho
Copium.
@@purevert you taking a lot of it
We all have different definition of being a man. My dad told me one day I'm not a man. I felt sad and disappointed in myself that he may not think about that to me. But I work hard on myself to not view myself as a man. I may not be assertive all the time but I don't care. I'm a man of my word And I'm kind. I care about others. I carved my definition. I think it's something every man must do is find themselves and what kind of person they are.
You sound delightful! Keep being you, you King!
Kindness is a top virtue any man can ever have. You're gold. ✨
you sound like such a nice guy,,, guys around me try to be over “masculine” (in the sense they try to Take the lead and believe girls are less intelligent and they know everything, they make fun of guys who have interest in traditionally “feminine” things or are expressive and emotional - ) it’s a huge turn off… why aren’t more guys like you. I hope you don’t change yourself you sound like such a lovely person (I’m sorry if my English is poor, im not a native English speaker )
@@0130JU you're good. There's nothing wrong with taking the lead if they're a good leader. It's something that comes naturally. But in the other part I don't think it's a manly thing to view people as lesser than yourself.
That was not very nice of him to say, I’m sorry he did that. Keep doing you, your own opinion of yourself is more important. You don’t need anyone else’s approval or validation!
I was a tomboy growing up and I always felt like I wasn't existing right because of all the ppl telling me I wasn't very ladylike
Also I want that recipe XD
Years ago when I was still in school, there was a movement where teenage boys would wear/own pink coloured items to protest against the notion of traditional masculinity. I think that was very important, despite the reprimands from the adults, they carried their pink bags and wore pink accessories. There was a big shift in the way guys from my generation and younger saw the world, they were starting to show more of their vulnerable sides and were not afraid to embrace things that were deemed “girly” by the older generations. I don’t know who started it, but I’m glad it made a positive long lasting impact here.
Actually what we consider girly these days were originally invented for men, like high heels. Men used to wear wigs and heavy make up once in Europe. Short skirts (kilts) were only worn by guys in Scottland
Traditional masculinity is the key to life for a man.
@@Instructorsai really isnt its more toxic than anything
Wow
We may be around the same age, as nearly every boy I went to school with saw no issue with wearing pink. The school newspaper people ran a survey and found that like 95% of all people at our school, regardless of gender, saw no issue with boys wearing pink. We all just saw it as an arbitrary color. Which it is. The boys my age back then would sometimes talk about their feelings and be emotionally vulnerable. There wasn’t a huge macho culture happening, and I think that the bullying rates at our school were much lower than average as well. The boys were free to hang out with and be friends with girls without being teased for it or considered outcasts (for the most part.) I think that my generation marks history in the way we think and act. Being gay or trans was accepted at my school, and one guy even put on nail polish one time with a couple of other girls. I don’t believe he ever received criticism or judgement about it. As cruel as children can be, I think that we were very accepting when compared to the average school environment, although mean-spiritedness was definitely still present, just not in the same areas. But we for sure rejected the idea of traditional masculinity and femininity. It’s encouraging.
a man is honest and caring and willing to put others before himself, you are doing just fine bro
fact
@8th account good qualities for anyone 👍🏼 maybe we all could be more honest caring and willing to put others before ourselves, even in youtube comments haha
This guy doesn’t know what it means to be a man so his opinion on that subject instantly is worth less
not her boy bestfriend tho
Wrong about putting others before himself.
This doesnt make you any less masculine. And even if it did, that doesnt, and shouldnt matter. The fact that you want real love is a great thing that should be the standard. Your amazing no matter what you think❤
😂
@@georgegerman2513 what? Lmao
@@FiniKonekoindeed what you said is true , I support you statement.❤️🤚🏻💯
A man is defined by self control, discipline, protection, and strong morality that can’t be shaken by anyone.
I agree with this
Those rolls looked absolutely divine.
I feel this way when trying to understand my roles as a woman; we're all told to act an be one way by our parents, while each part of society expects something different and sometimes that just feels so frustrating because we never know which direction to take just to simply learn how to be ourselves.
your role is to be nurturing and caring. it is that simple
If I knew Jeffrey....damn we'd be great friends 😂😂
Don't stress it too much, my man. My fam is from the Philippines, it's real easy for white men to think we're feminine or whatever. Just forget about it, grind hard, stay true to yourself, work on being a better human and adult, be assertive (not controlling) and hold your ground regarding your boundaries, and you'll be alright.
I’ll tell you this, a real man is someone who respects a girl like she is gonna be his, or potentially someone else’s wife one day, while also being a strong protecter and leader in his family, now that’s a damn good man
Leading to where??
@@ramu1566 wealth, creating your family wealth and teaching your kids because at the end of the day who last name a person takes that last name trace back to you
@@truvy_5544 the last name doesn't matter. The things you just mention is the responsibility of the parents (the man and woman) and in that case there's no one person that is leading because, they are coming together as a TEAM to work towards the betterment of THEIR family.
@@ramu1566nah 💀💀, the man leads and the woman submits. It’s not sexist it’s how it has always been and how it should continue to be.
the first two lines are the dumbest thing ever. Yeah respect but if she isn’t benefiting me in anything i’m not entitled to respect her. It’s like protecting, providing and building something just for another man to come take it
Honestly the guy right here being sensitive, sharing feelings and making cinnamon rolls is a girls dream guy.
Can’t have 2 emotional people in a relationship it never works
“Dream best friend “ 😂
And that’s why there all single casue none of you date them in real life even though there the “perfect” ideal boyfriend
Yet he's single but the trashy guy has a one night stand every week. Y'all say one thing and do another.
This is not someone’s dream man I can’t bet that
Jeffrey is like a comfort channel I can relate to so many thing that he says and talks about and also those cinnamon buns look so good
Ty guys so much for all the likes
how do you, a female, relate to not feeling masculine enough? 😂
@@dreamkitty who says I am a female?
@@dreamkitty This might sound really crazy to you; even if they were, girls have stereotypes in place too. Be pretty, be nice, use makeup, dress up, be a woman. It's relatable to not fit in and feel bad about it.
This video explained my whole love life in 60 seconds 😂 I’ve always had friends that get girls all the time and sexuality them. Some People have thought I was gay cause I’d only go for a girl if I truely liked them and respect boundaries so I have a hard time making moves and then the girl always gets a new guy cause I don’t flirt enough
Remember masculinity is not sexualizing woman, its providing and protecting with good morals
What difference with feminity ? Are women not providers and protecting “good” morals as well?
@@Aryomfulthey’re a different type of protector. Both have different roles that compliment each other. Just think if the roles of a machine. A well oiled machine works well together.
@@Sifirela Based of what ?
Science @@Aryomful
@@Sifirela 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol, so basically you don’t have arguments
I’m still questioning HOW you’re single because you’re exactly my idea of an ideal boyfriend/husband and my friends even say that my standards are way too high
Me too!!! How come some lucky woman hasn't realised your worth!? Not to worry Jeffrey, she's out there!
Honestly, keep your standards high. Because when it comes to the basic things you should expect in someone, a lot of people are failing to meet those and it just might save you from a horrible relationship.
I marginally lowered my expectations once and it landed me in a mediocre relationship. But before the mediocre one, I didn't have any whatsoever because I had no dating experience. I didn't know what to expect of people so I ended up with a sexually and emotionally abusive boyfriend.
I'm out of that relationship and have a husband now that meets all my expectations and I am the happiest I've ever been. I've grown so much in this relationship it's not even funny.
Don't lower your standards, you'll find someone who fits the bill 😉 I hope you find your dream bf and make him your dream husband
@@melodyscarpitto310 exactly. I have always been "unrealistic" but I just wanted what I thought I deserved. Someone who would enjoy doing things with me, we would enjoy eachothers families. Have the same passion level, want to be the same socioeconomic level and understand what was more important in different situations. I never found a guy (and no guys were really interested in me) in high school, or college, it wasn't until I was 27 I met my husband. After YEARS I had started to believe everyone else and I started mentally crossing "silly things" off my list like "he would enjoy going hiking/parks" and other things, dating my husband all of these "crossed off items" he also did. My husband literally is the perfect man FOR ME. But more than anything else he listens to me and I listen to his concerns and him.
Keep your standards high, there is nothing wrong with it, but so much goes wrong when women (and men) lower their expectations.
Then why don’t all of y’all date him?
You don’t want a boyfriend who will pay for the bill at dinner
Please continue to share your self with safe people, I think being exactly who you are, is most important. You are a wonderful person just as you are. Give yourself time to figure this out. Time takes time my friend
The beginning part hits home so hard. I have learned to talk like that just to blend in and avoid awkward conversations
Gives major pick me energy but ok
It’s less about redefining “modern masculinity” and more about understanding what masculinity has always been. It’s always been about the ability to control and protect. It’s not inherently bad or toxic until it becomes an extreme, but that’s goes for every quality.
Reject modernity embrace masculinity
Bingo dude. Right on. Redefining masculinity is our problem, not the solution.
Some fkwits on tiktok really think masculinity is all about sleeping with dozens of women, having zero morals and respect. This isn't masculinity, that's a C grade movie script for the hero. And then those morons would run to internet crying why no woman talks to them 🥴🤣
An actual wise man is the one who realizes that the only thing u can control is ur mind, body and fate. That too with sheer determination. If this need to control starts to extend to people in ur life, then that's not masculinity. That's merely an insecurity fed compulsive behaviour.
@@chaos.746 The extreme is being controlling, which is what your description seems to refers to. I’m only referring to the ABILITY to control, meaning to keep things under control & maintain order. Not letting things get out of hand. Stability. That goes for oneself (as you said), the directory of interactions, and any situation that requires problem-solving.
Idk what to tell you bout how to feel more manly, but them cinnamon rolls look fire😫
Idk what ppl on about, I’m only here for the cinnamon rolls
Facts bro shouldn’t care about all that masculine shit just keep baking cuz that shit looks bomb
ahaha fair fair
@@JeffreyChang you are so handsome I hope you find a beautiful wife as beautiful as you are. And I hope you are not into men.
Me just waiting for the end result and not actually paying heed to what he was saying 🙂
@@Joshua-fs9vmnah he should definitely hit the gym at least
It's still crazy to me that when I tell a guy I don't mind if they're not "masculine enough" or "strong enough", like it's just so heart breaking. A lot of the times they're even used to holding back feelings and often putting up a front, which I tell them is no way for anyone to live and if they'd like they can be comfortable around me.
Being masculine doesn't mean to hold back feelings or to be completely emotionless, it means to be able to control your emotions.
@@mobashirzahidmoghal So you're basically saying that females can't control their emotions?
@@coldjune_parallaxits a scientific fact women are more emotional creatures and less logical thats why women get attached more the men do and thats why there are more women in careers like nursing. Their maternal instincts are strong there are obviously exceptions but overall this is a fact
@@coldjune_parallax that's what it sounds like but probably not what they meant. Being mature means you can control your emotions, doesn't depend on gender. Masculinity and femininity are difficult subjects.
@@slurp3194 yeah, man, give me some sources of these "scientific facts". Peer-reviewed journal, monograph, something like that.
Being a man is being truthful, respectful, dependable, caring amongst other things. It’s not about how much damage you could do, how much you can protect with aggression. You can be all that just being yourself.
Thankyou for this you’ve helped me clear up a lot of insecurity and feel less alone
I think someone should not have to be manly or over possessive to be with someone, you have to care about each other and that's the whole point
I've struggled a lot with my masculinity. I'm short and act pretty femenine and didn't really have any father figures so I was really basing it off of TV/movies
S/o to aang and sokka for being a balance of caring, goofy, and protective of their family
That’s why having a father is important
Watch Hamza and try to fix it
I agree. We need to have this talk. It sounds like both men and women need to work on how we react and respond when having these hard conversations. You are an amazing person. BTW. Love your cooking videos.
As a girl, I DO want a protector. I want a leader of the household. I want someone that’s going to stick up for me. I want someone that will protect me. I want someone that will not be a coward or a pushover. That does not mean I want some alpha-male douche.
You should be able to protect your future family.
The household should be a joint responsibility, but weak men are too prevalent nowadays.
Jeffrey feels like that uncle/
aunt you talk about your feelings to with no judgement and makes you a cinnamon roll to comfort you
Being a man is being strong, masculine, a leader, disciplined, hard working etc and suggest all men go by this. Most men think being masculine is acting tough or never showing emotion that's not true. Being a men requires you to stay strong during tough times for family etc but that's doesn't mean you can't cry when needed.
You’re me!!! OMG I can relate sm! 😭😭
I still struggle with masculinity especially around my straight male friends because we don’t relate to the same things or the way we view treating women. It’s a harsh realization to overcome these struggles but also important to set boundaries & find friend’s who at least think alike to know you’re not alone. I’m still learning how to balance that but I’m glad to have watched this video 🫶🏽
I want to cry, because it’s so accurate to me. I’m was always struggling because in country where I live (which is Russia by the way) masculinity is really important and common, and people without it considered to be gay or really weak, because “real men” should do only “masculine” things… I hate this so much, because sometimes I must pretend that I’m somebody else just to live comfortable life and talk to another guys normally without pressure. That’s horrible. Also most “real men” there are really sexualise women and thinks that it’s ok and every other “real men” should do that, and I just can’t because I find it disgusting and have different personality
I'm glad good caring man exists who don't sexualize woman thanks for new hope
Woah. I needed this. It feels like we’ve had a lot of the same experiences and I’m glad that I get to stay who I am. Thankfully I’ve had a lot of people who supported me in being who I am
How have you been single?!?
Because he sounds like a pick me. And from my experience with a female acquaintance who's also a pick me, people don't really get with them for other reasons than convenience.
Either that or he's a nice guy (tm). And that should be self explanatory for why he's single.
Someone can look good in an edited and carefully worded video. But then you meet them irl and there's no filter to only let the best self shine through it gets yikes really fast. Especially when their best self looks like a pick me.
@@chukyuniqul ❗️❗️
@@chukyuniqul aha cant argue with that given what a 50s short can portray. Those are valid points! Appreciate the perspective :) love seeing all sides - sparks good conversations.
@@JeffreyChang okay mate, you've also replied to my own comment. And while there's a good chance you didn't see the username I wanna make sure in case this was about feeling the need to yourself: I'm genuinely engaging in good faith here. I have the tact of a bowling ball thrown down an icy ramp. But many negative comments are done for the simple sake of getting petty power over you because you respond. I get the urge to defend oneself, fuck knows I do. But I'm lucky to be basically off the radar as far as content creators go so even if I don't break it quite yet I'm safe. There's a reason why as long as the internet has been a thing we've said "don't feed the trolls". I mean it's a good look in my book if you engage in good faith, but if you think the conversation could get at you in a way that would make you show that you were affected by the comment in the first place, avoid engaging them at all. Maybe use a reply to someone else within that chain of comments as a backhanded (but deniable) one-time reply, ya get it, I hope. Anyways, take care!
@@chukyuniqul I don’t quite see eye to eye with this comment. Full respect to you if I’m wrong, but I don’t see why he has to be either in your eyes. Someone can be an amazing person but still be single. Have a blessed day to the both of you.
I know it’s off topic but I would love to know the recipe for the cinnamon rolls you’re making. They look so good 😊
A video of man talking about his feelings while making my most favourite pastry is literally the ultimate thirst trap for me
People need to understand that masculine and feminine are energies not physicalities. And that both male and female have both and those energies are constantly fluctuating. When a person is protecting (not necessarily physically) and providing (not necessarily monetarily) they are in their masculine energy and when they are nurturing and nesting they are in their feminine.
love this
You talk a lot about energy, and it sounds good, but you know nothing about being a man. This is a crap comment.
As if the vulnerability wasn’t enough, you were also making cinnamon rolls. I think I’m in love.
Honestly, I feel you. I'm not a man, but the part about being able to share those feelings without judgement is something that I find myself struggling to see around me.
You’re amazing, very handsome, and thank you for sharing and being vulnerable with your thoughts! 🙏🏾♥️
Real men arent afraid to be intouch with their emotions, treat all others with respect and they dont dehumanise others for their choices or who they are
Getting touch with your emotions make your uncontrollable and rational. Been there done that. I don't mean shut them off and be a zombie but control them especially the negative ones like anger sadness. Emotions are energy the negative ones are always stronger energy cannot be destroyed only transform.
I have no clue why, but I’m sitting here watching this like 3 times and every situation he just described I have either been through or can extremely relate to, it’s actually hitting me hard rn
Youre so brave frl
A men is a person who has ambition and goals and well set, organized, wise, and knows when to act upon something.
❤You are the best definition of a true masculine man you are not afraid of your weaknesses and you know your strengths when you feel that you want to change your weaknesses you will find amazing reasons why that matter only to you.. and you will find people that support your ideals .. I support you!
Now I want to be his friends with him 💕🌸🦋
Thank u for explaining all the simp comments from women. None of em want to be lovers 🤣🤣 just friends🤣 loooool
friendzoned 💀
Love your channel!!!! Thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing your authenticity ❤
It's all about finding what you want. For men, women, and everything in between, there is a wide varying spectrum of personalities, beliefs, and thought processes. The important thing is to not mentally lock yourself into societal expectations or standards and allow yourself to be yourself and make sure you think that you are worthy of finding what you want.
These look so good!! Love your videos 🥰😊
Real men respect women and don't go around having sex with just anyone. Real men do protect and provide for their family.
This is so wholesome! These conversations need to be had !!
I appreciate the way that you are. If you ask me more men need to be like you. Seriously. I’ve been listening to your videos here and it’s refreshing ❤
I honestly think you being able to cook homemade cinnamon rolls is pretty impressive! I’ve always geared towards the humble types.
The idea of being manly is toxic in itself. Being confident enough to openly say that you don’t fit that standard is very respectable and shows a level of self awareness that lots of men don’t have.
True. If you have xy chromosomes you are manly enough. Character traits should be respected more. I was discriminated as a woman just because I prefered to keep to myself and not be so loud like some other girls😤
How is providing for your family toxic?
No it's not toxic lmao. You're making men, who are struggling, more confused. Masculinity is not toxic. It's the men who take things too far(example, looking down on women to feel stronger, bullying others who are weaker than them etc) who are toxic. You sound too woke. Get a balance of life. Genuinely mean it.
@@C-Handle that's not toxic. Portraying it as a trait of being a man is. I mean, providing for oneself is already a great thing. Having a partner who hopefully can also provide for themselves makes it work better.
These days in many relationships women make more money than men and here's where the manliness comes in kicking down your door and telling you you're not being a man because your partner makes more money than you.
There is nothing toxic about being manly. This society has gone to pot
I feel your pain brother, I feel that pain. I've been told I dont look super manly many times.
Also had some pretty similar experiences like you just described..
Reject weakness, embrace masculinity
Without sounding like a creep, watching you make something that looks so delicious is one of the most attractive things I've ever seen. Dunno if it's wierd or comforting to you, but a whole lot of us would agree that you're entire outlook on this subject makes you infinitely more attractive to us than the body counters, and I don't think you were ever a bad person or anything for having the same mindset as that guy who felt insecure about being a protector /breadwinner. It sucks for guys to have that kind of pressure put on them before even getting into a relationship. Stay awesome 😊
Whats your body count ?
@@tas4u93 that’s my other account (btw) i only have 12 :)
@@-shh516 only? Dint brush it off like 12 ain't fking a lot, u used ahh ho 🤣 no shame? No self respect? Honesty hide it from the next man coz ain't no way a man putting a ring on that 💀
@@-shh516 are you... trying to impersonate me?
Your stories are on point and your food looks delish!❤
Do you buddy! I was like your friends in my mid to late 20s! Now in my late 30s I use that history as a learning process and I'm a much better person now! The future is what you make of it! Positive vibes to you man! You are good enough! Much love!
Sadly as a guy it's next to impossible to find genuine intimacy these days. At some point you just have to pick someone that is into you and settle or opt to be alone.
Better to be alone in that case
@@coldjune_parallax fr don't make her suffer by settling 🤣 let her find another man who's into her
You truly are inspirational and I love listening to your videos while watching you do something you’re clearly so passionate and great at 10/10 videos
its all right bro, you dont have to be what people want you to be. be yourself and try your absolute hardest always thats what defines a man imo
I understand this so much , thank you for posting this
I don’t really know how to explain being a man. Nobody can. What I can explain is that those are some sweet ass rolls you just made, and if I were a single man or woman I’d want to be with you and your food😂. But on a genuine note, and from my own small brain, being a man is to be the best version of who you want to be, achieve what you want. And if you have a partner do your best to make them happy. Genuine love will come into your life somehow, you just can’t reject it. ❤ hope I helped at least a little bit.
Jeffrey don't worry, you are like the only person on the internet who I relate to on a spiritual level. Your future partner is gonna be very lucky to have you. If I knew you personally I swear we would have been best friends.
Be vulnerable. Don't overshare but make sure you're understood. You'll attract the other people like that and that's* who you want in your circle. Anyone who knocks it still has more growing to do
No one and I mean NO ONE should ever EVER feel ashamed or embarrassed for opening up about how they feel
"If you're not the best, you're the worst."
For me i grew up being critisized for being a masculine girl then switching to feminine randomly, in the end people assumed I was gay and forced to come out when I wasn't ready, it's sad because now I'm asexual and gyno romantic while being gender fluid
🙃
What does any of this even mean
I’ve never heard this gyro romantic and gender fluid gawdam
nah bruh you are just confused teenie
Felt every word you said. I hope you keep that light inside you mine has been snuffed out leading to a lot of anger and hate I’m only recently overcoming.
I love when videos ONLY pointing out the negative aspects of masculinity go viral. Definitely healthy for young men.......
After puberty, I’ve become much more “masculine” on the outside. However, I’ve always been a dorky, fat, loser. So now I’m this big beefy dude that loves the gym, not because of stereotypes though. I just genuinely wanted to change myself for myself. But I’m still socially awkward and inexperienced in love. So thank you for making this video, because it makes me feel a lot more comfortable with who I am on the inside.
Just like u workout in the gym u can work on ur mentality and confidence everything can be improved if ur not happy with something go work on it. No one wants to be unconfident and u dont need experience u need to know urself and be sure of what u want
Keep finding yourself and what makes you happy and nothing is wrong with you and men showing emotions is what makes them human nothing else and no one can't pay for everything all the time pu that does make you less of a person being open minded, kind , and loving, caring is what is important
Sorry a few typos was trying to say plus that's doesn't make you less of a person
You need only a few things to be an attractive man. Ambition, courage, and the ability to not give a damn. I'd argue that courage is the most important. I may not win every fight, but I'd rather die than back down when it comes to protecting my woman or anything else I deem important. Being the man is being willing to give everything you've got if that is what it takes.
Broooo, nailed it!!
That's why I don't understand ppl who look up to Andrew Tate
Why are you going to a guy that women hate to get advice on how to get women?
honestly i am bi and adore any person regardless of gender that is comfortble enough with me to be open about their feelings and emotions. i also tend to see the past not as where i failed or how i found myself a bad person for my mistake, but i see it as a milestone to the journey that brought me to who i am today. i have never been the person people wanted me to be but i am now to person i want to be. that for me is all that matters.
I'm trying to be like you. Never good enough for me or anyone else, anyone there for me might as well be there out of pity
@@aperson2126 it took me years of therapy and self therapy to get to a point where i can even see this myself. its a hard road if you struggle with self image issues. its okey to struggle with it but from personal experience i started to lean more toward my current state when i told myself, i dont need my own pity, i need to see where i went wrong and change it. for me once i got into that being my answer to myself the moment i started putting myself down, my mind became a lot more open to therapy and change. but everyone is different and we all need different ways to be healthy so try to find what helps you and try not to let what doesnt work keep you from finding what does. there is so much strength in that, and anyone can develope that.
all i can do is say, goodluck and i am sending support and lots of care to you. 💕
@@MrFriend97 oh🧍🏻ain't never felt like tearing up from a random, joy to the world, but joy to me too?
@@aperson2126 everyone deserves joy, even if the world makes it seem at times that that isnt an option.
I feel the same way bro
Been wrestling with the same questions. Good videos by the way. Your cooking looks really good. Looking forward to seeing more from you.
So much wisdom packed into such a short video… AND cinnamon buns?!? Gold.
It's the opposite for me. I wasn't girly enough. But I never could fit in with boys nor girls. I felt comfortable with whoever I could talk who didn't remind me of the fact that I don't fit in with the society scenarios. I think it is imperative and OK to first find yourself and be your own friend first before you think about taking on the influence around you. This is something which should be taught.
check if you're a level 1 autistic; we're typically pretty much the only ones who don't follow gender stereotypes like that
😂😂 this is how you know you've never been around those so called men if you think sex is all they think about.
You just need to meet the right person and the right person will make you feel complete for instants I am with my best friend. We were friends, my whole life and we started going out five years ago. She is my rock and we have two beautiful kids and we are great parents so don’t give up it will come your way when you’re not looking
This is me everyday:/ I feel you man
What I’ve learned manly hood is is that you try as hard as possible to become your best self no matter what it takes
male equivalent of a pick me girl
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I watched two videos of yours tonight, and I found that what you said expresses exactly what are my thoughts and portrait some of my insecurities
THIS MAN IS SOOOOO EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE ❤❤❤❤❤
Thinking about this concept, the parts i love most about my boyfriend are the parts that would make him most unlike a stereotypical “manly” westernized man. I think that the parts that make you human are often shamed by men in western society but that’s what people connect to and i don’t understand why we aren’t celebrating what makes us human instead of hiding it
Men are all evil we get it, plus just became a lesbian
This something I say often: "I know I'm a man and I know what I like, I dont have to prove it to anyone"
Woah bro. You just summed my mental conundrum up for me. Thank you
aint that serious man, be yaself fr
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Srsly you and Doobydopap should collab
omg yess!
Great conversation points I agree with you. Those cinnamon rolls look like fire.
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that girl isnt a true friend
or a friend who cares if she said that
you deserve much better ❤
love emma!
Men like you and my boyfriend give me a little more hope that progress can be made in the right direction, thank you
i think the younger generation is breaking down these ideologies pretty well. makes me hopeful
That's what's scary...
But its more like the younger generation are being manipulated. They are not using intuitive thinking, rather they are being subliminally told to believe these things.
@@Islam-and-boxing could you explain further?
What do you mean?
Not trying to criticize you or anything though.
@@ethiopiazoldyk4667 basically, with the use of social media, you can get people to think a certain way and they themselves will think they thought this way from their own initiative... And there's something coming out the water to take the masculinity away from men... And this guy has appeared to be a victim of it but has no idea and believes he's thinking with his own initiative...
Does that make sense?
Basically he's made to think this way and made to think he thought of it himself
@@Islam-and-boxing O kind of agree with you. I'm a gen z girl and social media has a huge influence on our generation. A lot of people have gotten really sensitive, most people ( men and women) are too soft and one can't express a different opinion from the masses without getting cancelled. A lot of things are getting out of hand. I can't even imagine what the next generation will be like🤦
@@ethiopiazoldyk4667 Due to robbing men from masculinity and making women 'strong' and 'independent' the amount of men that have gone on antidepressants and even committed suicide is getting high... It's not spoken of that much because it doesn't fit with social medias reality. The way we perceive the world is so fake because of social media. That's why I felt the urge to comment on here to make people aware that this guy's views are destructive.
I wish I could meet an insightful guy like you in real life. I can tell you're super intelligent