How to Make Friends in your 20s (Part 3)

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  • Опубліковано 21 сер 2024
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  • @JeffreyChang
    @JeffreyChang  Рік тому +30

    PART 4:
    ua-cam.com/users/shortsa70LpU55KBQ
    PART 2:
    ua-cam.com/users/shortsOTLfiZ9pnWc

  • @disneylover192
    @disneylover192 Рік тому +10505

    Honestly it's not even just that you think "the world revolves around you", i think it's more like you are used to people thinking the same way as you mostly and listening to your feelings. It's so true what you said about fighting to be heard not to hurt. So many people don't realize that.

    • @JeffreyChang
      @JeffreyChang  Рік тому +734

      interesting point!! ❤

    • @zisssi7928
      @zisssi7928 Рік тому +167

      Yes... when I argue with my parents, I just want to make the point that I love them and that this can look different to what they expect.... on the other hand, I just want to be taken seriously in my statements, viewpoints and feelings... but due to the upbringings of both, my mom and dad, feelings were hardly ever even a topic... 🤐😪😔🥲

    • @whyiseveryoneusinghandle
      @whyiseveryoneusinghandle Рік тому +3

      ​@@zisssi7928

    • @tanisgeorgetti7317
      @tanisgeorgetti7317 Рік тому +10

      @@JeffreyChang Is this brioche bread? And do you have a recipe for it because it looks amazing!

    • @carenneetienne4449
      @carenneetienne4449 Рік тому

      Very true!!!

  • @CrimsonSlytherin
    @CrimsonSlytherin Рік тому +5093

    Huge insight:
    “We weren’t fighting to be right, we were fighting to be heard”
    I gotta remember this sometimes is the case. Thanks dude!!!

    • @sukai121
      @sukai121 Рік тому +3

      It seriously opened my eyes to why I get into arguments 😢

    • @robinhoode3875
      @robinhoode3875 Рік тому

      Same

    • @SSraii
      @SSraii Рік тому +1

      exactly it's exact 😭

  • @namjoons1367
    @namjoons1367 Рік тому +2537

    As important as it is to set boundaries and not just “it’s not that deep” for jokes that make you uncomfortable, it is also incredibly important to be calm and explain why you don’t like that joke being made, instead of trying to hurt the other person.

    • @JeffreyChang
      @JeffreyChang  Рік тому +249

      yup

    • @jamieadams2589
      @jamieadams2589 Рік тому +65

      Not just calm explanations but knowing when to let things go. So many things happen in life and so many of them aren't worth the effort of dealing with

    • @cherylwade264
      @cherylwade264 Рік тому +6

      I have intentionally listed to things
      I don't like or agree with because those
      jokes broaden my understanding about
      misunderstanding. There are times in life when stuff happens or someone needs help without you freaking out because of the way someone expressed an idea .There are Gross jokes in life things can get gross . Dark humor ,Blue humor, Insensitive humor. The main
      theme is stereotyping (bias for some people) or absurdity.

    • @krustygureum
      @krustygureum Рік тому +5

      It is just a joke tho

    • @cherylwade264
      @cherylwade264 Рік тому +2

      @@krustygureum
      This video is a joke but some people
      get offended easily. I was listening to some Off-Color jokes and a young woman walked up with my son and said she was offended by what she heard.

  • @jbaby283
    @jbaby283 Рік тому +47

    My best friends used to call me ugly as a joke. They never did that in public, just when we're in our small group of friends. Regardless, the joke hurt me. Eventually when I had enough of it, I confronted them. They both apologised to me right away, made sure that I knew it was just a joke and they didn't mean to really hurt my feelings and just never mentioned it again. There's never been a 'you remember when you were such a snowflake that you could not take the joke and got all defensive like a baby?' ever. They've never made a similar insensitive joke again. And yeah, we still stay best friends till this day.
    I guess it's because i was so young at the time that i based my worth on people's opinions about me and I was told by real school bullies that I was ugly before so it was kinda hurt when they did the same. But now that I think ab it again, since they treasure me so much as a friend, if I was really ugly in their eyes, they wouldn't make the joke in the first place lol so yeah i'm completely healed.
    I guess what I'm trying to say is jokes or not, real friends would not get defensive when you called them out for hurting you.
    It feels like they only admitted that they hurt you because you took half of the mistake for them, when perhaps they should just take full of it because it's their fault and not yours at all? Like, there's a big difference between compromising and lowering your standards just to soothe others' ego. Idk man I can't relate.

  • @vcvcvc9216
    @vcvcvc9216 Рік тому +320

    I used to say "what up gurl" to one of my guy friends. one day he asked that I didn't because he didn't really love it, I instantly stopped because if I'm doing something to be funny with my friend then why would I continue if they actively dislike it, it felt like a no-brainer to me. Feels unnecessarily hard headed to continue doing anything if your friend asks that you stop, they should want to make you happy, isn't that what friendship is about?

    • @derekhasabrain
      @derekhasabrain Рік тому +73

      This. THIS. THIS I AM SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS THIS. If someone is unhappy about something you did, and they have a valid reason to be, then why the hell would you NOT stop doing it out of respect for them? Instead of doubling down and saying “it’s just a joke, man, toughen up”, replace that with “hey I’m sorry that hurt you, can I ask why?” And it opens up a dialogue and you can have an open discussion about boundaries and values. Too many people who are online all the time truly just like being offensive and hurtful and don’t care about the pain they cause. Thank you for being a good person

    • @JohnSmith-se5js
      @JohnSmith-se5js Рік тому

      You should have asked him to give you a heads up next time he's on his period.

    • @winnie.blues.m8
      @winnie.blues.m8 Рік тому +9

      He didnt specify what was said that made him upset and from the context its something he was able to get over so maybe he just took it as a lesson to grow instead instead of being offended. Seems pretty innocuous

    • @mr.nazareth4501
      @mr.nazareth4501 Рік тому +17

      @@winnie.blues.m8 both sides are valid here bro

    • @JackVonDuripperMedia
      @JackVonDuripperMedia Рік тому +3

      Queers

  • @Jasnah.Kholin
    @Jasnah.Kholin Рік тому +12

    i love the way he facilitates discussions in his comments section. ppl are really thoughtful talking here

  • @MrFriend97
    @MrFriend97 Рік тому +142

    i was literally in this exact situation a few days ago where my boundry was crossed by the friend i spend the most of my time with and he shut down the conversation when i tried to explain why its a boundry he shouldnt cross. it took us over a week of arguing as everytime he tried to say sorry it was “sorry but …” so i felt extremely disrespected and that my boundries arent something to respect. i talked to a mutual friend and after that we decided to have her call the both of us out on our mistakes and my other friend finally listened to my feelings and he came to understand why i was so hurt and unwilling to take a “sorry but you were a horrible person to me because of xyz” as an actual apology.
    as someone with asd its really hard to deal with these things and i learned that its okey to have a neutral party intervene is nessasairy, you cant always fix it yourself and thats okey.❤

    • @TrashDaddy1
      @TrashDaddy1 Рік тому +5

      Bro If they’re your friend and they’ve been your friend for that long then joke with them
      Don’t ever take yourself too seriously and don’t ever make someone adjust their humor or conversation points for your comfort

    • @MrFriend97
      @MrFriend97 Рік тому +38

      @@TrashDaddy1 it wasnt a joke that was the issue, he kept crossing my boundry and making a joke out of me being extremely uncomfortble due to him not respecting my boundry. boundries should never be joked about. you are allowed to have people respect those. if they cannot respect your boundries they arent really your friend imo, if i make my friends skin crawl because of me overstepping their boundries and not caring about their feelings, then i am not being their friend.

    • @Emu19
      @Emu19 Рік тому +39

      ​@@TrashDaddy1 "Adjusting humour", is actually a normal part of making relationships. It's called Accommodation, and is something we all do subconsciously or conciously in order to bond and HAVE relationships. I guarantee that you talk differently to your parent than you do your friend, differently to your friend than you would a boss, differently to a boss than you would a teacher. The same exact thing happens on a smaller scale with every single person you meet. Your personality and humour are obviously the same, but part of a relationship is learning boundaries and what everyone involved is comfortable with. It goes without saying that there are toxic relationships where you feel you can't say ANYTHING you want to, but this situation is different. In the event you are unable to be yourself in a relationship, that is a very good sign you and your friend are not compatible. However, it is natural to change the way you frame jokes or the topics you bring up depending on the person you are speaking to. Those kinds of things should be a mutual exchange and comfortable for both parties. It's nothing to do with "being too serious" or forcing someone to change their entire outward expression, it's just a natural, human kindness. I hope this comment comes off as genuine and not aggressive, I'm bad at expressing my tone through text.

    • @Komorebiki
      @Komorebiki Рік тому +6

      ​@@Emu19 You did very well explaining actually, kudos!

    • @cristianiliusi3489
      @cristianiliusi3489 Рік тому +1

      @@Emu19 my question is who would willingly change something they enjoy to bind with someone they dont know. And also that is usually an active decision or desire to change rather than a forced change like this one. Like theres a big difference between choosing to change something like humour to bond with new people and making friends as you were and someone in that group getting offended after x amount of time.

  • @zettagotbored9341
    @zettagotbored9341 Рік тому +2

    One of my favorite quotes is something along the lines of "There are always three sides to an attunement; yours, mine, and the truth". Both feelings were correct but there's also an objective truth that no one was trying to hurt anyone and the solution was in understanding why everyone got hurt anyway. We honestly need to get better at that vibe as a society

  • @asillymc
    @asillymc Рік тому +7

    I literally just ended a friendship because someone was making hateful comments that they tried to play off as jokes. The jokes were non stop even when I wasn't talking to them or even when I was in conversation with clients. There's jokes.... And then there's mutual understanding and respect. When I voiced this they were hostile, I stood my ground, and we went our separate ways... I'm much happier for it. It happens 🤷‍♀️

  • @maishananjeeba7436
    @maishananjeeba7436 Рік тому +7

    you have an amazing self-awareness man! it's not easy to go past the emotional part to understand your mistakes, feelings, and why the argument happened. But don't invalidate your feelings, you have a right to be hurt. And as your friend, he or she should have tried to understand the perspective at least. Everyone should try to be more understanding.

  • @BobbieRae1
    @BobbieRae1 Рік тому +57

    I don't fight with friends but my brother as a friend/nearly same age person (there is 2 years between us). It really is about being heard and that not everything can be entirely your own way. I'm not great at that because I'm a very independent person so I hate to give any of that up but if you love and care about the person you talk it out and you move on. You only don't talk if you don't care enough to improve things for both of you.

  • @multibasking
    @multibasking Рік тому +153

    i don’t think the problem is that you were acting bad if the world revolves around you, you have every right to be offended by something. the problem is in the reaction between you too. like you said, different upbringings cause the disconnect that can lead to initial disagreements. it’s just about how you respond to that feeling and how you communicate it to the other person. (and of course how they respond to that)

    • @autumntaylor2533
      @autumntaylor2533 Рік тому +2

      Honestly so often we don't act, we react. And that's what makes it all messy

  • @Handleitt1
    @Handleitt1 Рік тому +101

    This will come in handy because I tend be logical and come off careless. Also 😅 I too would like this bread recipe ❤

    • @GreyPunkWolf
      @GreyPunkWolf Рік тому +5

      That's a rolled brioche :)
      You can find loads of recipes online, and also, don't be afraid to ask your local bakery some tips on how to make your dough and whatnot ! I know artisans may seem rough at first but when you're interested in their craft they will lighten up a lot and become goldmines of knowledge :)

    • @Handleitt1
      @Handleitt1 Рік тому +1

      @@GreyPunkWolf Brioche?? Sounds fancy I will look it up, thank you 💕

    • @GreyPunkWolf
      @GreyPunkWolf Рік тому

      Katsurii French kind of bread, I think. At least that's what I've been hearing all my life as a french, but I'm not a cooking history major idk lol.
      I do know that brioches are delightful though, but basically they're bread loafs with milk, sugar and a fckton of butter like all good french recipes. Also eggs.

  • @ST4RB0M
    @ST4RB0M Рік тому +3

    expressing that something makes you upset or uncomfortable isn't a terrible thing
    watching your tone definitely helps though

  • @yippleman7636
    @yippleman7636 Рік тому

    I firmly believe that 99% of arguments and disagreements stem from confusion. Clearing things up and being completely transparent is a sure fire way to fix things

  • @leyalaatasto9096
    @leyalaatasto9096 Рік тому +2

    I got into a similar thing with my mom recently through text. At the time I was hurt by her words and lashed out, but then after a little cooldown period she reached out to me again and apologized. What stood out to me when she did that was the way she acknowledged that we both misunderstood what the other meant to say.
    Squabbles between people you share bonds with are going to be a thing. I think what matters most is how you resolve them:)

  • @razinamarjan1110
    @razinamarjan1110 Рік тому +193

    I think I can relate. Like sometimes things can get physical - violence is never the option but sometimes communication doesn't always seem to work. Either way, growing from past experiences definitely changes your perspective of like. P.s: I'm not a violent person 😊. Part 4? Also bread looks great 🤩🤩

    • @razinamarjan1110
      @razinamarjan1110 Рік тому

      @woah no, it isn't......

    • @Nasdontkno
      @Nasdontkno Рік тому

      @woah facts

    • @Nasdontkno
      @Nasdontkno Рік тому

      @@razinamarjan1110 when all else fails im throwing hands i need my fade the 1's will be ran

    • @Nasdontkno
      @Nasdontkno Рік тому

      @@razinamarjan1110 it might not be the solution but damn it might the greatest back up

    • @mr.nazareth4501
      @mr.nazareth4501 Рік тому

      @@Nasdontkno you better be talking about grabbing the gloves, cuz I'll be damned if I'm gonna let anyone catch me lackin. throwing hands should be the last resort unless you're grabbing the gloves to work some shit out, cuz that's a quick way to get your ass shot.

  • @Jojoav015
    @Jojoav015 Рік тому +1

    Man I love this thought process in figuring a situation out. Everyday seems like people get lost in their own emotions like you were saying you had to get out of.

  • @aetnomas
    @aetnomas Рік тому

    Ouuu these phrases you said hit hard and were well said: “hard when emotions get involved because we lose some of our rationality” and “not fighting to be right, but fighting to be heard.”

  • @marianasaenz325
    @marianasaenz325 Рік тому +123

    I want this bread recipe omg. It looks incredible!!!

    • @Falany
      @Falany Рік тому +2

      Me too!

    • @rheabruen
      @rheabruen Рік тому

      +

    • @karmesean
      @karmesean Рік тому +7

      this looks like the King Arthur Flour recipe for milk bread! emmymade has a good video on it :) "hokkaido milk bread"

    • @AltoTheRacoon
      @AltoTheRacoon Рік тому +4

      I was about to comment idc about ur story what’s the breed recipe

    • @hajarjeddi6020
      @hajarjeddi6020 Рік тому +3

      Here is the exact same recipe ua-cam.com/users/shorts-uFJS3uNCzM?feature=share

  • @videos-bd2qn
    @videos-bd2qn Рік тому +257

    Can u post the recipe (the exact measurements) i wanna try it

    • @dinonuggies145
      @dinonuggies145 Рік тому +19

      Fr tho, I keep rewatching it just to see what he did

    • @WalkersWifey
      @WalkersWifey Рік тому +9

      I want the recipe so bad

    • @WalkersWifey
      @WalkersWifey Рік тому +15

      It’s Japanese Milk bread I believe!!!

    • @SgwiggleMonSquiggles
      @SgwiggleMonSquiggles Рік тому +2

      yea fr

    • @melissawardjohns220
      @melissawardjohns220 Рік тому +8

      Dunno but it's pretty. If a guy pops out bread that fluffy home made I know I need to up my dating game cause that is a good sign he might be a keeper.

  • @cyanzed3221
    @cyanzed3221 Рік тому +2

    “I don’t want him to be on tippy toes and stop making jokes around me” thank you I cried. Had a toxic relationship and my ex partner wanted nothing out of me. Basically all I can and should do is serve and be useful and cheerful and silent all the time

  • @kimidod
    @kimidod Рік тому +25

    I got distracted by the cooking I couldn't proceed the storytime 😂

  • @lynxdani11
    @lynxdani11 Рік тому +1156

    bro knew what he was doing w that dough 💀
    edit: why yall angry im just jk lmao

  • @lizzie_heartz2195
    @lizzie_heartz2195 Рік тому +4

    That food looks soo good, can you share the recipe, it looks soo fluffy and soft. Also glad that you came out of the situation with insight on a way to grow as a person and as a friend

  • @lux5325
    @lux5325 Рік тому

    We need more people like this dude in the world

  • @joeld4012
    @joeld4012 Рік тому +1

    A real friend will fight you and the next day be chilling with you

  • @lincolnv9261
    @lincolnv9261 Рік тому +4

    The title: how to make friends
    The audio: how to keep friends
    The video: how to make bread
    Here I was thinking the way to make a good composition was to have everything actually be related to each other.
    Now I’m going to write an article for buzz feed called “how to make a sandwich” where I’ll describe the intricacies of thermo dynamics by using pictures of sliced black forest ham.

  • @dylanhyde8458
    @dylanhyde8458 Рік тому +10

    I can relate to this too much, I had a fight with my friend cause, while me and her can be little judgmental, she took it to another level of just thinking she was better than everyone, I hate conflict so I said nothing, until I broke and started screaming, yeah, didn’t handle that well, but I realized we were both rude so we agreed to steer clear of that subject, and now we even joke about it, I’m only 14 so I thought it was nice that we could work it out by ourselves. So yeah I understand, although I have a lot to learn about life still!😁

  • @iateurdog
    @iateurdog Рік тому

    i appreciate how he realized his wrongs and openly didn’t deny them

  • @chi._.m
    @chi._.m Рік тому +3

    as I I've transitioned into early adulthood I can say that I haven't had any serious conflict with my childhood friends or with newer "adult" friends and honestly because of the scenario you described I fear that day because I'm so conflict avoidant that I shut down or i get rlly dismissive, arguments are fine but serious conflict irks me

  • @maid3685
    @maid3685 Рік тому +12

    Such a valid statement about thickening your skin. I have a friend who would get offended about literally everything and I mean EVERYTHING (like bringing up a tv show or calling someone in my game stupid) to a point where I actively avoided her because I couldn’t handle the burden anymore.

    • @cristianiliusi3489
      @cristianiliusi3489 Рік тому

      Im the exact opposite, i dont care anymore. Ive been through so much shit that at this point it just whatever. I highly doubt i could ever get offended by something unless it’s family related and even then i dont think offended would be the right word and more so emotional

  • @DomieThcHomie
    @DomieThcHomie Рік тому +2

    Man. I’ve talked so much to my friends about this. Everyone thinks everything I do is to make THEM feel some sort of way. If I went to the store to get food it’s because I’m hungry right? Wrong it’s because I knew there was something one of them was craving and I had to make it and show them to make them jealous. I tell them if they gonna talk about feelings I don’t wanna talk because like you said. When it involves feeling all rational answers, thought process goes out the window.

  • @robinpopps189
    @robinpopps189 Рік тому +1

    It's simple...stay open minded and patient

  • @Frovael
    @Frovael Рік тому +8

    You're opening up my eyes about my ex bestie bro
    Bitch would always get offended at everything I say, I always apologized instantly, the second she said that that wasn't cool, yet when I got hurt over her remarks about me she was like "sorry but you need to learn to take a joke/critism"
    ...holy shit I can't believe it took me 5 years after our friendship fell apart for me to discover such things about her
    Like, I was a snotty little child that didn't instantly see the boundaries but c'mon, at least I actually tried in that friendship💀

  • @basicallyweird
    @basicallyweird Рік тому +3

    I don't mean to dismiss the story, but that bread looks so good.
    Anyways, I'm glad you two were able to sort it out!

    • @JeffreyChang
      @JeffreyChang  Рік тому +3

      the bread is the most important part ahah

  • @ZcattheNobody
    @ZcattheNobody Рік тому +2

    My mom never learned this. She thinks fighting is a sign of bad friendship and just leaves. She tells me she never gets into fights with her friends, so I thought that was a normal thing. But It’s toxic, and now that I’m in college I realize that. I get into fights with her a lot, and when we get into fights she acts like it’s her vs me, and not us vs the problem. I try to ask what the problem is, and she repeats the same stuff over and over saying that “You are the child, you don’t have the right to tell me what to do”.

    • @derekhasabrain
      @derekhasabrain Рік тому +1

      I’m sorry your mom acts that way. Seems like she really needs to learn how to handle conflict. I’m afraid I’m a lot like her because I’m conflict avoidant and anytime a potential friend or date says or does something that could be read as hurtful to anyone at all, I just tend to leave and ghost them. I think my motives are noble but I just can’t make connections if I expect everyone to be perfect.

    • @ZcattheNobody
      @ZcattheNobody Рік тому

      @@derekhasabrain I almost became like her. To prevent this I looked at why they did what they did to anger me, and what I did to trigger what they did. It can be hard to do tho but it’s an important step.

  • @masteranakin8827
    @masteranakin8827 Рік тому

    That's why I completely avoid emotions during arguments, which also pisses people off. Because people can't stand to see you completely unbothered whenever they're on the brink of tears.

  • @neneeugene4516
    @neneeugene4516 Рік тому +3

    Me personally, I just fight. But yes, arguments in adult friendships are pretty common. We step on each other’s toes and sometimes cross boundaries. Acknowledging this and apologizing helps your friends trust you more and show them that you respect them and their feelings.
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    That brioche would slap as toast or with soup 🤤🤤🤤

  • @hwang_hyunjinie
    @hwang_hyunjinie Рік тому +8

    How dare you have friends that aren't me 😭

  • @FayeisHere
    @FayeisHere Рік тому +1

    Great vid! One thing. Theres 3 sides to an argument. Your side, their side, and the correct (objective) side.

  • @KingoftheScotts
    @KingoftheScotts Рік тому

    Holy shit bro, an actual healthy adult take. 10/10

  • @mir0h2714
    @mir0h2714 Рік тому +11

    Am I like the only person who watched him create that entire bread and just become obsessed with it?

  • @leeminho.-.
    @leeminho.-. Рік тому +7

    Okieee so i cannt relate lol cause I dont have much friends in my lifee I am super Introvert. I remember a month ago my sir said to us there is no such true friends in life idk what made him said that but yeahh just want to share that.
    Mannn I recently started following you and you are greatt. That bread ahhh!!

  • @marciavox8105
    @marciavox8105 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been in a similar situation but decided that the friendship was not worth salvaging. If someone else is not sorry when they hurt my emotions, then that is a sign we cannot be friends. It isn’t about being right, but it’s about being sensitive and empathetic. I have no room in my life for people who can’t acknowledge my emotions in the way that I can acknowledge hers.

  • @mals4142
    @mals4142 Рік тому

    I loveee your take on this!! I like that you don’t want your friends to feel like they’re walking on egg shells for making a joke. I think we get caught up thinking that our feelings matter too much. I’m glad you guys worked it out! Super mature of you.

  • @Wrinkled-Dollar
    @Wrinkled-Dollar Рік тому +3

    “Waaaaah waaaah waaaah my wittle feelings got hurt🥺”- to sum up the short

  • @kalebnelson1610
    @kalebnelson1610 Рік тому +3

    So pretty much u got scared

  • @lilliemillward4870
    @lilliemillward4870 Рік тому

    This was such a perfect video for me to see rn. Me and who I thought was my best friend got into a fight, and I need to remember that we have different sights into the situation. Thank you for reminding me

  • @godofchristmas9611
    @godofchristmas9611 Рік тому

    I really appreciate your take on this man.

  • @RaniaZeHussain
    @RaniaZeHussain Рік тому +3

    i- my bread turned out like a rock 🥺 proves im an idiot special thx to my lovely yeast

  • @mariapizzaa
    @mariapizzaa Рік тому +4

    Meh, sounds like he was being an insensitive asshole. Friends sometimes invalidate you but what makes them True Friends is when they can take a step back, reflect, and realize they shouldn't have invalidated your feelings. And just bc it was intended as a joke doesn't absolve them from blame.

  • @scenekween666
    @scenekween666 Рік тому

    i think your friend should respect how you feel. if there isn’t a need for inappropriate jokes, then he can learn to not say them. that makes more sense than you trying to not be offended by said jokes. that is how friendship works, don’t feel the need to apologize for YOUR feelings

  • @undercookedsalad
    @undercookedsalad Рік тому +5

    Bro i want the recipe, i dont care about your problem man (jk)

  • @GrowingGhosty
    @GrowingGhosty Рік тому

    This is one of the most mature things I've ever heard

  • @JDER-wv1ng
    @JDER-wv1ng Рік тому

    My world revolves around me because I’m the only person that understands me. That also means the same for everyone else. Everyone has their own view of the world and we need to respect that.

  • @knowledgev6409
    @knowledgev6409 Рік тому +3

    Male talking about female traits lmao 😂

  • @-y-n-2
    @-y-n-2 Рік тому +3

    Bro grow up and get over it

  • @cavirich7243
    @cavirich7243 Рік тому

    Looks sooo good!! I love love love bread and I’m happy you and your friend made up. It’s hard to hold on to true friends now a days

  • @unoriginalthought3184
    @unoriginalthought3184 Рік тому

    "Invalidated my feelings" is something I never ever wanna hear another man say

  • @baby_pepperoni_9561
    @baby_pepperoni_9561 Рік тому +1

    Honestly, it was hard to focus on what he was talking about because this guy is just so damn handsome😭 i was stunned as soon as the vid started playing

  • @ally5279
    @ally5279 Рік тому

    Im 23 and met my best friend in 4th grade and we have been friends on & off ever since then. We recently had a small argument because we both felt unheard by eachother and we stopped talking for a couple weeks. This person means a lot to me so I genuinely apologized and she did too. Friends are precious in your 20s, if they mean a lot to you let them know it. If someone tells you that you hurt their feelings, believe them and do better!

  • @MacnByron
    @MacnByron Рік тому

    Remember there are actually ✨three✨ sides to every argument. The first person’s side, the second person’s side, and the unbiased truth.

  • @AlissaSss23
    @AlissaSss23 Рік тому

    Well done for raising awareness!!!!

  • @user-mz4sl9bs5b
    @user-mz4sl9bs5b Рік тому

    That looks lovely. I'm glad you guys were able to sort things out. Relationships of any kind can be tough but communication is such a vital tool ☺️

  • @PearCares
    @PearCares Рік тому +2

    A girl (who is no longer my friend, I ended it) and I got into an “argument” over something she said to another friend. Basically what had happened was old friend deadnamed other friend, accidental or not, I pointed it out. Me and other friend tried to make it known to old friend that what she said was wrong, she wasn’t getting the message. Next day I was infuriated at her meanwhile other friend was just sad, at lunch she decided to apologize she said “sorry guys, I was really upset yesterday. I got the booster shot.” I was infuriated. My stress and anxiety over the situation peaked and I blew up at her in this stutter-y stammer-y way. Next day I pulled myself together and firmly but calmly explained my position, and explained if she was going to be that way I didn’t think out friendship would last. She said “shut the f()ck up.” And left🤷‍♀️

  • @AlejandraGonzalez-ws3sk
    @AlejandraGonzalez-ws3sk Рік тому +1

    Guys, it's true that the world doesn't revolve around you, BUT ALSO, your friends also need to respect you and respect your boundaries. If a friend hurts you and every time they do it they try to shift the blame on you for feeling hurt, that only shows lack of maturity on their part. Friendship also means respect, and if a friend hurts you and won't take accountability for that then that means they don't respect you. And sometimes it's better to let go of those friendships. Yes, there might be times in which petty arguments might arise and one of the parties might make a big deal out of nothing, but that shouldn't erase the fact that if a friend hurts you, you are valid for letting them know how you feel.

  • @alexmerka9833
    @alexmerka9833 Рік тому

    dudee i had the same thing happen with my friend last year. He's from Australia and I grew up here in the US and am an extremely anxious and insecure person. We'd joke around at the expense of eachother which was fun until he crossed a line in my mind and i got upset and had to just walk away to calm down. i was kind of mad about it but i also understood that it's just his sense of humor and he can't read my mind, and i really enjoyed our banter/friendly "bullying". He was probably the most blunt person I've ever met and yeah it took me some getting used to but I'm so grateful for it and even though i only knew him for a year he's probably one of the best friends I've had.

    • @JeffreyChang
      @JeffreyChang  Рік тому +1

      i feel that.. v similar to what happened to me

  • @anriko7041
    @anriko7041 Рік тому

    I think all friends have fought with each other at least once. It can be through words or duking it out, but I think it can strengthen a friendship sometimes.

  • @emman1374
    @emman1374 Рік тому

    communication and honesty and trust are 3 things that many any kind of relationship

  • @TheDangerDay
    @TheDangerDay Рік тому

    Bro. You seem like a legit cool dude with such a great mindset. And the food is llokin kill🙌

  • @y_zmine
    @y_zmine Рік тому

    THAT LOOKS SO GOOD OMG 😥

  • @yarfrmdaa1323
    @yarfrmdaa1323 Рік тому

    That’s why I’m happy my parents raised me to be always respectful but never let anyone disrespect me, so if you my homie like you say you is and I feel disrespected I’m going to tell you, so you know and we can move on and continue being friends

  • @crinna
    @crinna Рік тому

    “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. One should, for example, be able to see that things are hopeless yet be determined to make them otherwise.” - Scott Fitzgerald

  • @hellosouuu
    @hellosouuu Рік тому

    Last year I’ve had the same problem with friends but I realized it was me who was crossing boundaries, there was many things I didn’t like that they were doing- but I never expressed it because I was very mentally unstable and couldn’t really process how I felt towards them. Our friendship ended the end of the year because of another conflict, but miscommunication is really a killer of relationships. If you want to keep someone in your life, you both have to communicate. Instead of blaming, even if you didn’t do anything wrong- talk about how you felt about what they did rather than saying “you did.. this, that, etc.).
    Honestly though I feel like even if I didn’t cross their boundaries, I would still be very stressed by the relationship. I felt like I had to be on my tippy-toes around them as to what I would say and how I would act. When I would say certain things because of my own upbringing, they would question it, and I would simply rely, but it got too so much questioning that it would literally feel like a debate and me getting judged.
    I’m kind of relieved to be out of it now, but my current friendships aren’t as open as I was with them, but now most of my relationships feel like their for “convenience” and just passive conversations, but we can’t have conversations when it comes to our deep thoughts, emotions, feelings. I just need real friendships like that but I’ve definitely been a lot more mentally overwhelmed because of it.

  • @PowerOfAIandMotivation
    @PowerOfAIandMotivation Рік тому

    Love that you cook so good & also tell & share a personal story\experience\advice]\topics

  • @Jonathan_McConnell
    @Jonathan_McConnell Рік тому +1

    I asked my dad who’s been a pastor for many years how long it should take to know if the person you’re dating is right for you, he said that if you don’t know after six months you haven’t been asking the right questions.

  • @FatkOID
    @FatkOID Рік тому +1

    Ay I’m not gonna lie the whole entire jokes thing is just wow cause when we fight we be talking how he be doing stuff with they sisters and we talk about our family who is dead😂

  • @keishawee6909
    @keishawee6909 Рік тому

    As I grow up, I find it interesting how I perceive the people around me and the conversations we have. The values we grow up with and the things we consider normal may be different from other people, which probably results in disagreements, even over (what we may consider to be) minor or petty things. Nevertheless, I view all that to be a fundamental part of building new relationships and strengthening existing ones, because it really helps an individual to broaden their views and open them up to new perspectives.

  • @thecianashow8417
    @thecianashow8417 Рік тому

    It’s always the most well rounded ones that are yet so far or hard to find like you Jeffery I hope you find the love of your life and all great and peace and happiness ❤

  • @willclemons1639
    @willclemons1639 Рік тому

    I recently have found your shorts in my recommended. I have watched a few, and this one in particular is what made me subscribe. You have voiced a lot of things that I agree with, and it’s nice to find someone who can put into words a perspective you share. Your content makes me believe I can find likeminded people within this world. Keep it up please!

    • @JeffreyChang
      @JeffreyChang  Рік тому

      means a lot thanks will!! happy new year!!

  • @sonrykon5413
    @sonrykon5413 Рік тому

    Yes, disagreements happen. Doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends, it just means talk it out, see each others point and take time to cool off before continuing

  • @Aykndkjh13t
    @Aykndkjh13t 7 місяців тому

    ❤ dis. I love when you tell stories

  • @purevert
    @purevert Рік тому

    Such a good message but the food looks even better.

  • @domgeise221
    @domgeise221 Рік тому +1

    This guy grew up in a Disney movie and now bakes bread on the internet.

  • @jdog61231
    @jdog61231 Рік тому

    That bread looks absolutely amazing

  • @eltigre4569
    @eltigre4569 Рік тому +1

    I’ve heard this story ATLEAST 3 other times..

  • @why8918
    @why8918 Рік тому

    when it comes to this type of situation i’m usually the one that takes things too far, but most of the people that i know have gotten accustomed to it so no one really gets hurt. sometimes

  • @PPMasster69
    @PPMasster69 Рік тому

    I wish apologizing was more common in my life. All throughout my life I’ve always been told that apologies don’t matter because at the end of the day it’s just words and words hold no weight. It’s ok to admit you were wrong, but some people won’t put their pride aside to do so.

  • @sailynnebarcel3628
    @sailynnebarcel3628 Рік тому +2

    That bread is looking delicious, don't be shy share the recipe..hehe

  • @jeefster3177
    @jeefster3177 Рік тому +1

    DA BRED BOUNCIER THAN A TRAMPOLINE MY GOODNESS

  • @mikelarry5498
    @mikelarry5498 Рік тому

    I dont kno if im in love with the bread making video and outcome or this valuable life lesson 😭 KEEP GRINDING KING love the content lol !

  • @the_animal_ark
    @the_animal_ark Рік тому +1

    Three sides to an argument
    Your side
    Other side
    Truth
    😂

  • @SNPs-Room
    @SNPs-Room Рік тому +1

    Idc about the story
    I'm just admiring dat bread it's so soft and fluffy holy shit I'm impressed

  • @limesause1008
    @limesause1008 Рік тому

    I personally think it's best to keep your values, past, and all the things you learn from it but it is best to just talk and not care

  • @korach1
    @korach1 Рік тому

    I haven’t fought or argued once with my best friend, but that’s because personally it’s really hard to upset me, and they’re very open with their feelings, so it’s easy to quickly solve problems between us

  • @user-xu1kw6cn8c
    @user-xu1kw6cn8c Рік тому

    I subbed cus of this video more content creators should be open and humble like this

  • @MiMi-rc1bv
    @MiMi-rc1bv Рік тому

    You‘ve amazing baking skills and personal skills 👍

  • @The_Og_Cracker
    @The_Og_Cracker Рік тому

    The bread looks amazing man, keep it up