Be gentle with this couple. They are being honest about the struggles of raising a child with special needs. I admire how hard and committed they are to their family. Sending ❤ to o all.
yeah, my husband was in the military and sometimes when he would come home, he would say gosh it’s like you don’t like me being home. And I said no we have a routine you have to drop into our routine. Everything doesn’t change because you come home. kids need a routine.
The other parent is probably distraught by the reality that all their future visions have been destroyed. There's no future there. Before u answer, address the fact if that kid can grow and function in normal society independently. And wouldn't be thrown to the state.
Some of y’all are wild in these comments. Relaxxx. It’s a 10 min video, watch until the end to gain a full perspective. Yes there are re enacted portions but they help to tell the story along with the portions of actual audio. It’s no different from other documentary style videos/shows. Chris and Precious I applaud you both for the dedication to yourselves, your family, and the commitment to bringing value and authenticity to this community. 💜
@@SilentThundersnow they did legit ask for everyone to keep their opinions to themselves until the end-and it was continued.. So they've not finished. And folks are giving opinions.
I want to give you a piece of advice. Autism is not the issue. Children with autism thrive from routines, but they also need boundaries and discipline. Sometimes we have to give each other grace and hear each point of view. My husband and I may have different approaches to parenting but we have to compromise and when it doesn't work then we go with what does. Love is rare, and maintaining healthy boundaries within our family helps to keep that going. You guys are wonderful, and I want to see you thrive. Just focus on each other and sometimes realize the full gentle approach can cause more harm than good.
It makes me so sad watching this channel for the last year or so seeing how much y'all are going through, and it seems to get worse as time goes on. Praying for y'all. Thank you for sharing and showing all the parts that arent pretty. Even though its upsetting, its real and you are helping people by letting us in to see it and not faking it like a lot of "autism families" on youtube do. Thank you. Love you guys and Im rooting for all of you and your journey through life.
@@ferraodeaf436I think it's a skit. I've noticed that they sometimes create problems. Last week(?), it was the Mom doing Mikko's hair for four days and now this. The way this ended, it may be at least another part to this story. I still love this channel but I'm looking at it a little differently. JS ❤
@@lindawilliams141 🎯🎯🎯 I saw some of the “hair day”, I didn’t finish it. I couldn’t get why take so long on her hair when she doesn’t even go to school or therapy. And yes, it’s a skit, I think!🤷🏽♀️
The family and marriage dynamics change when you have a child with special needs. It's similar to a death of what you had planned or envisioned. It's life altering but NOT LIFE DESTROYING. Each family is different. Praying for healing and restoration individually and collectively. With GOD All Things Are Possible. 🙏 😊
Sometimes, one spouse for a time has to be the stronger one, and to be blunt, grow up. It's not always about the wife or the husband. Abandoning your spouse because of a difficult time shows lack of character.
@@helixmoore7636Unfortunately, it happens alot. Many relationships have broken 💔 up because one parent finds themselves in the thick of things while the other one " can't deal "
Our 4 month old has special needs and medical needs...i can make our life "all about her" but ibqm realizing it cannot be that way. There is more to life. I have put her in daycare....its only day 2 but im hoping forbsome bit of normalcy. We hace to see how this all goes but we both needed a break
From what i've noticed, a lot of times, is that one parent (usually the father), loses interest in his family when he realizes his child (ren) are special needs. It's like "since the kid isn't perfect, i'm out of here.". Then they use the issues that happen from having a special needs child as their reasons for checking out. Instead of coming together with their wife to tackle those issues. Either you want your family or you don't. No family or situation is perfect and as long as you choose to run when the going gets tough, you will be running for the rest of your life. There are no cheat codes to life; this isn't a video game. You have to get up every day and CHOOSE who and what you are going to be for your family, even when it hurts...even when you didn't get what you thought you were getting. Try to run and find "perfect" if you want, bet you don't find it.
From what I've seen usually the mom will take over everything and treat the dad like everything he does is wrong and he's already scared so he backs off because he'd rather let someone that "knows" handle it and then mom berates him for not helping despite not actually wanting his help she wants him to be her clone and do everything her way
@@tarledamanley2832 that is no excuse to leave your family. If the bank account was missing money would a man go to the bank and handle it or just pull away to avoid conflict? Yeah, thought so. But I guess it’s okay to fight more for your money than your wife and child(ren).
@@meganmordecai7321 You have to find the right school. They were very patient and caring with my son. You can’t just pick the first school . You have to investigate
Not everyone can bear their souls in the manner that you have. Your honesty and transparency will help others who feel that they are alone and that no one understands. You have a community that loves you and is praying for your entire family.
Marriage is hard work! I got married at 18 to my husband of 38+ years. We raised 3 sons all on the Spectrum. My husband was a work aholic, and I took care of my son's needs, including homeschooling the last 2. I had no family or support groups to turn to because they had mild forms of autism. I wasn't ok at times. Today, we are all happy and successful . Don't give up! They grow out of these challenges with proper care. Nobody knew what Asperger Syndrome was in the 80s when my first child was born. I was very verbal about it 13 years later when we got him diagnosed . Fight !
Nobody new what ASD was in 1993 when my son was 5. It took a long time to get him diagnosed (also OCD & Tourettes). And you can't get treatment not special ed until you know what is wrong. He is now 36 and leading the best life. He lives in his own place. He has an amazing girl friend. He is happy as can be. So stable & content. I would not have believed it was possible!
It's not that you didn't help, it's places and agencies that can help Mikko. Even for a few hours a day to give both of you a break. It will probably be good for Mikko also.
Right u cant do it all n shouldnt have to. Thats what those agenies r for n theyll push your child along so fast n those issues will b gone instead of still spending time working on it They will also quickly spot new ways of helping when something isnt working n they can tell u why
@@Danisha-rn2yj ik from experience...theyre absolutely amazing! Quick results n sometimes immediate Everything from speech physical n occupational therapy At home u should only b doing whatever they instruct u to do
Thank you so much for being so open and honest. Instead of sugar coating it and making life look so easy. Best wishes that it works out for the best. You deserve nothing but happiness. ❤
This video is everything! Autism is hard, period! Then, every family dynamic is tough. Thank you for sharing and being transparent and real. I’m praying for you all.
As an early childhood educator that has had and still have children in my class with autism, Im suggesting you enroll Mikko in a good formal school, that will be able to help her as well. Mom..i get that you want to do everything for your baby and obviously would have some reservations/ separation anxiety, but you also need to give yourself some grace and time to relax and recharge throughout the days. Its ok to get some help and its ok to put urself and needs first at times. I can see you're a great mom but, you're only human as well.
As a mother of a daughter with Autism school is a dangerous place especially with the adults including teacher.... We need far more awareness about SA with this group , not to trust the TEACHERS or THERAPIST they are the main CULPRITS and it takes away from your child trying to get justice
@@Showers_OfBlessings not all schools and teachers are the same. You can only speak of your experiences and its sad that you have to feel the way u do. I care deeply for the children whom I have care of at my institution and their parents as well. Our institution is highly recommended to parents ,with children who are on the spectrum and they never regret enrolling their child.
Wow . Brutally honest And you're right , both of you are . Taking a toll on the relationships of the parents is real . And should be talked about . Thank you ! My daughter has 8 children of which I have 1 . He's on the spectrum. He's 15 , took a long time to learn what works & what doesn't. To always remember his way is different than my own children were. I'm 63 . Learning all the time Patience is important Self care is important. What this video is...IMPORTANT
with the father being a veteran himself, the adjustment to being at home with the family may be stressful considering that's one of the things that's harder to adjust to. you'll have days when you don't understand your problems. Unless it's being work on together because marriage is one, you guys should be fine. its definitely time to spend more time together, and prioritize you guys as the head of the household. Husband and wife are so important to provide for the children. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I wish you all the best.
I almost didn’t make it to the end I’m glad I did because I was getting mad. Please fight to keep it together. I’m married 43 years and it’s still hard but we’re still together. I have a granddaughter on the spectrum and she’s my pride and joy
Therapy "away" from the home for children on the spectrum benefits the child and the caretakers. The caretakers need time to care for themselves and the children benefit from interactions with a person not emotionally invested
I agree with this 100 percent. I work with children with autism and parents always mention how much they depend on respite hours for their sanity and to get things done. They also really value the time their kids are at school. They also really depend on ABA in my area. There’s a lot of controversy about ABA and if it’s right for children with autism but a lot of parents won’t even dream of giving it up because some of these kids get in home ABA up to 5 hours per day 5 days per week, literally from the time they get home from school until bed time and the parents really lean on that support. Some of the kids don’t sleep at night and have pretty significant behaviors. It’s a lot to handle. It definitely takes a village.
So it seems. Caring for loved ones on the spectrum can take a toll on relationships, if, one does not take the time to care for themself.@@carladavis1473
Agreed. My daughter is autistic and she was a lot like Mikko when she was younger. I’ve suggested several things several times and they just don’t seem to care. I personally think they like the attention they get by having things harder.
This is really important how vulnerable you two are being to share your experiences with other parents who may be struggling with similar situations. I applaud you both for sharing your story!
I don’t know what it’s like to have a special need child, but I think from following your page. Miko needs professional help and a special nursery school so both parents can get a break and have some time for themselves. It would do a world of good. I see how her Mother seems so tired and her father seems at the end of his romp. Miko is a smart little girl and she knows how to push your button. You don’t see it because you are so close to the situation. I wish you and your family the best and hope you can work things out. I know all your children would be disappointed like most kids to have their parents split up. Good luck.
Agreed... I have a friend who has a few special needs kids she was trying to do everything to help and teach them and it completely wore her down. I told her don't be afraid to get the kids help she's not superwoman. She didnt listen and is still trying to doing everything and is still stressed to the max. Getting help doesn't mean you are a failure you just understand even as moms we have our limited.
😢I agree with u I don’t watch her videos only reels I see from time to time but yes!!!! I agree with you if they are doing it all on their own there are so many programs that would love to help.
@@andreyacreative6748 The parents just look so exhausted. I worked in the school system here where I live. I know that they have classes for kids with autism like Miko and they learn to a lot. It’s good for her to be around other kids. She could learn to communicate in others ways behind crying when she is trying to communicate with her parents. She is such a pretty little girl. Split-tin image of her father. I have a cousin that has autism and he attends school. He doesn’t talk at all but with school he still seems to do what most kids do. But you know we don’t know the whole story only what we see. Only they know the degree of autism that she has. I pray that as she gets older she can live a normal life. I pray the family stay together. You can tell she loves her father. He seems to be able to clam her down.
From one family with special needs to yours, It’s hard. So very hard. I love what you both said about the arguing. It proves there is still something to fight for. Keep fighting. The tough times don’t last forever. I hope for the very best for both of you. If I could offer some advice for sleep regression (if she’s still going through it) is to take her back to her room and stay in there with her. Lay in there with her until she falls asleep then go back to bed. It’s hard because you’re sleepy, but her room is hers and yours is yours. She is getting used to being in your bed and space and she won’t Give it up so easily when you’re ready for her to go back to hers. You have to reinforce that that is her space and where she has to be. She will understand after a while. Just like with everything else. Good luck and blessings to you all
The way you two talk WITH each other and way you are with each other while having this struggle is something we can all emulate when we are in a similar situation. The transparency is beautiful. The love is obvious. 🥹
I truly appreciate you both being so vulnerable and opening up about your struggles. I think that many people have the wrong idea of marriage, believing that its just supposed to be as easy as when they first meet. But it all honesty marriage take WORK! Its a full time job every minute of the day from shared responsibilities with the home and children down to reciprocated expressions of love for each other and sharing intimate time. Both people have to make a conscious effort to keep a healthy marriage. After 18 years I speak from experience, the easiest part is making love 😂🤞🏼There will be ups and downs but through thick and thin Under all conditions, no matter how challenging or difficult to support someone through good and bad and overcoming those difficult times is when your marriage will strive. The stronger you continue to fight the stronger you will become!! 🙏🏼sending prayers and love 💕 You guys got this!!
YOU guys are a FAMILY.... YOU will make it, boulders in the road will always come, go around. I have been married 30 years, we have had our ups and downs, we lost our son not to long to long ago due to reckless homicide caused by the mother of his child that we are raising. My husband and I have been raising our g daughter who has lvl 2 autism. Yes it is HARD, but do not loose hope. Being married means being partners, sometimes lovers, sometimes enemies and sometimes friends. You guys see what is going wrong so you can fix it. God bless you guys, you both have taught me how to help my little G baby, I will pray for you guys to find a way to work together again.. Much love ❤❤❤❤
Y'all need a community. You need to talk to the pediatrician or public school about support groups for families of children on the spectrum. There are services that can help you guys pur it all in pespective. I am a retired special ed teacher and mother of an adult son with ASD. It has gotten so much better. Reach out and ask for help.
My husband was my rock when our son was finally diagnosed with ASD, Tourettes & OCD. Some men may check out. Some women may check out. I think this husband loves his family & wants to do his best. I hope they can manage to adjust because there seems to be a lot of love & respect in this family
Oh my gosh, this is so authentically genuine, especially with the added audio conversation, we had very similar parenting arguments and we didn't have the added stresses of child with autism/transitioning back to being a civilian, can't hardly wait to hear how you were able to eventually come up with ways to manage everything 🥰
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open! Its tough being parents of neurodivergent kids in this world! Everything you said I can relate so bad! Send you love and trust in your journey.
I have a friend who was told by the pediatrician to treat that child the same as she treated her older son. You are gentle with her, however, you cannot allow her to take over your bed, pushing one parent out. Was it a sleep problem related to Autism or was she doing what most children her age do when they awaken at night? Talk more about getting her into school and therapy. Is there a therapist who visits the school? That will give you time to yourself. Mikko is non-verbal, and smart. She likely understands more than you you think, and she uses it to her advantage. Try using a tone that is stern so that she learns it is not all about her. How will you handle stimming now that she is a little older? Will it be that she is comforted or is the situation where you can let her calm down on her own? The child I mentioned is now a young man in his early twenties and he functions very well. I hope you two can get your marriage back on track. ❤
You 2 have the sensibilities to talk about how your feelings! Especially now that all is on the table, I have faith in both of you! Recognizing that working together, is the key! Your definitely going to have bumps in the road, just keep jumping together, to solve your issues! 🙏
This is so important to talk about. And the fact that you both are able to reflect and see where it went wrong and what you need to change to be happy is such a strength to have.
I’m not only amazed how you parent, but you also try to communicate with one another & your needs. ❤ No one ever did in my family. And regardless if you choose to divorce, you’ll always have to parent together.
We love your honesty. You’re showing people that their marriage will be tested by many challenges, but how you navigate the challenges is what matters the most. Your family is an inspiration. Well done!
You both are telling the world what the issues are. All you have to do is work on what you know. Pray and seek godly counsel. I pray you all work things out. 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️
Im a single mother with a son with autism. He doesn’t live at home anymore because he needs 24/7 care he is not even a teenager. . I just broke up with my boyfriend with Asperger.. he can’t give me what I crave. They are in their own bubble.. struggling. So much unintended rejection.. I feel lonely. Hurt. Dark place. Jesus help us all
Please fight to get out of that dark place, because it will pull you deeper and deeper. I pray that God will renew your mind and spirit...in Jesus Name!🙏🙏 Blessings
When you say “they are in their own bubble”, do you mean that your son is with your bf and is your bf the father of your son? I’m sorry I didn’t quite understand.🤷🏽♀️
@@Danisha-rn2yj no I mean adult men with high functioning autism / Asperger live in their own world. It brings a LOT unintended rejection and abuse to the other partner. My ex partner is not the father of my children. English is not my native language im sorry
The going to bed part is so relatable 💔 thank you for showing some of the struggles we go through as couples who care for children with disabilities ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. In my marriage we don't have kids, but we have other struggles. And when everyone thinks and sees only certain aspects, it's hard to open up, when so many people SO quickly bring up divorce. I hate feeling defensive or like I need to defend our marriage to others, but it would also be nice to open up to someone I trust without judgement. This video was extremely helpful!!
Awww both of yall will get through this together but separately if that makes sense yall gonna be alight its just a test both yall will pass i still believe in yall togetherness
This is common in a lot of families where one part has a job that takes them away for long periods of time. Add special needs on top of this. A lot of parents go Through this with the spouse IN the home too. I am so glad that you guys have taken the time to rediscover each other. Fight for love and the rest will take care of itself! I love that you guys communicate everything. That is the best part… I am interested in hearing about Your first child.
I'm so glad y'all are sharing this with people so others going through the same thing, or similar things, can see that it is possible to come back together and make it work. Marriage is work. Marriage is a choice. Some days it's easy and some days it may be the hardest thing you've ever done. I wish more couples fought for each other like y'all are doing. My husband and I have been married for 29 years this June15th. We got married on my 18th birthday. It's been hell and it's been heaven. But I am so thankful we've made it. I can't imagine not having him by my side. Y'all will figure this out. Just never give up. Love to your family 🥰
Both of you need to make changes of you want your marriage to work. Help each other with chores, childcare, shopping etc. Split everything and make kids responsible for folding their clothes, picking up toys, etc. There is a lot kids can do to help while building up their self esteem. Now that you two acknowledged your short comings, make efforts to do it right this time around. Set aside alone time for each other (while kids are in school or daycare). Its not too late. You got this!! ❤🙏🏽😮
Thank you both for your honesty, your transparency and letting us be part of your journey! As a parent of two little girls, my oldest age 4 who is on the autism spectrum and the other age 2, not on the autism spectrum. I can say my husband and I share similar experiences, “gentle family”. Children, teens, adults on the spectrum are not the same..hence, why it’s called “ spectrum”. And every family every relationship and marriage is different. Needless to say… I empathize and sympathize with you both!! My husband and I have been together 17 years, and we were informed in 2022 that our now 4 year old was on the spectrum. From that day on it changed the dynamics of what we call “ life”. What keep us together and to work hard at keeping our relationship our marriage strong and united is GOD, praying, our open line of Communication with each other and understanding each other’s feelings, thoughts and emotions when it comes to just about anything! You guys are amazing! Mikko is blessed to have you guys! ❤ Peace and Blessings to your family and your union, “ Gentle Family “ Love from Milwaukee!❤
Please try to go to counseling and stay together for the children. I’m a veteran and it is overwhelming to leave the continuity they provided. I hope you guys can commit to staying together… I look forward to your honest commentary, my Grandson is undoubtedly on the spectrum. I shared your channel with my Daughter in Law and Son. GOD BLESS YOU GUYS ALWAYS 😊❤
Regular school is the best things as well. Don't treat her differently. Treat her the same but she needs more time to get through it. Soft blande flavors work best and add flavor and texture one by one. You'll can do it. 🎉🎉🎉 I'm routing for you'll. Autism wasn't a thing when I was growing up but now I know that's what I struggled with . Still do but it doesn't control my life as much. I have 70% Improvment. I still have obsessions and tactile issues and some food advertions but very very few. But keep at it and you will succeed. Check on magnetized water or metal dexot.
Early intervention is key with autistic children. The earlier the better. This family needs the help of professionals, not only for their daughter’s sake but for their own sake.
This kind of reminded me of the Proud Family reboot when the Prouds found out that Bebe was autistic. They ended up finding him a daycare for children with autism, and it helped him. Maybe finding a playgroup for Mikko every once in a while will give you two the needed break. Also, with the food aversion thing, I kind of understand where your husband is coming from. Yes, autistic children go through spells of not liking food, but they learn how to manipulate just like other kids do.
I so agree with this. I just told my husband once our truck is fixed I will be taking our toddlers to the learning group held at the library. And yes my baby girl always says I don’t want it but I make her eat it. I use to feel bad and fix something else but no not anymore
Thank you for your transparency. The re-enactments were great and the audio is a snapshot into the frustrations and pressure of raising children to the best of our abilities, especially with Mikko having extra needs. Thank you for sharing ❤
My husband used to do that with our oldest. Hes autistic and he swore he was just testing him and when i wanted to get him therapy he would say isnt that the parents job? But not help. Thankfully he ended up realizing he wasnt playing with him and he did need it. He just turned 4
I had to fight with my husband to make him understand that our child...had a problem! (ASD, Tourettes, OCD). But, once my husband figured it out, he was fully on board. He has been my rock. I couldn't have done it without him!
Wow you two, It was mighty for the two of you to open up an share..... You are helping many people.....There healing in transparency.... I pray you two come out of each storm refined like the two diamonds your are. Continue to find ways the family can get out the house and into the sunshine. Sunshine and laughter heals the soul😊
As hard as things are there’s literally no one in the world that will ever love those children as much as their mother and their father so it’s always gonna be the best thing for them and for you if you two can work it out and stay together. Hang in there and keep on communicating with each other and the tide will turn and things will get easier, and when it does you will love each other that much more
It is easy to neglect ourselves and the partnership. I am glad, that you talk about the problems and I hope you don't give up on your beautiful partnership. We all have to work on ourselves and on our relationships our whole life. I would like you to have friends or family or a nanny, to have some time for doing things you like to do alone and as a couple. You said it all. Everybody needs some space to recharge. Some distance to the daily problems. Each of you is as important as your kids.
I think your sharing about the challenges of raising children-particularly a child with special needs-while working through your marital struggles can actually bless others and build your relationship. Your interactions and conversations may be therapeutic for you and for others. You are not alone. I’m praying for your family, for your strength and for your relationship with each other. Try to carve out a little time for yourselves. Make that time a priority-no matter how “little”.
@@neri3376 Keep in mind that she also works. She's a mom hours a day, 7 days a week with those 3 kiddos. If you add to the equation the fact that she AND her kids are on the spectrum, it can make parenting that much harder. So yeah, the dad should also help as much a possible.
Keeping the family in my prayers…”Life is a struggle…never give in”. Take some time for yourselves. Individually and together, away from the children…you deserve it. Thank you for your transparency…I could sense the trouble…Stay In Love❤❤❤❤❤.
People have become so much about "self" it's ashame. Dads claim they want to lead. Soldiers lead sir! Not to mention marriage vows you took for better or worse. People forget we only have 40 years on earth God willing, figure this out and help your famiy soldier! You can fight a war but not support your wife with YOUR CHILD!? At this point you have to help your wife. Just start setting an few hours to "turn up" for yourselfves and how far you've come! Mom, laugh and smile more, the children need to see and feel it. God bless
What are you talking about? He is a man, not a machine. Not only did he fight for his country, he's now fighting to save his family! He's nowhere near thinking about himself.
He has a right to feel and express it at least their talking before a decision is made people like you are a problem like someone said he's a man not a robot men need to be listened to also!!
@sillyme1642 that man created that baby. Momma can't run. We can never catch a break. These men get to pack, leave and start over with no worries what so ever. No, stay and raise your creation soldier!
Thank you for sharing your story….you are definitely not the only ones going through the everyday ups and downs of having a special needs child. It’s definitely not for the weak. As parents we have to remember to be gentle with ourselves first before we are gentle with our children and others❤🥰👏🫡
Wow. I have a newborn and me and my husband are so focused on the baby, sone of the exact same things are happening with us. Our child is thru a surrogate and we went thru a lot to have him. Now that he is here, i notice small arguments starting. I love your channel. Thank you for being so open.
Thank you for sharing. I pray for you all. Don't quit each other. You are a blessing to so many. Your message you share is more powerful than your struggle. Stay strong, and build up your close community in your city. Make time for each other and help each other. You got this.
I love y’all Teaching me a lot about parenthood and patience. We don’t have kids yet but my lil cousin diagnosed with autism. I have a better understanding after watching your content.
All you can do is try to make things work, and try, and try. You two will know when there is no more trying, and it is time to part ways. Guess what? It WILL NOT be the end of the world for either of you. This is life. I wish you peace, love, and understanding.
This we honest and ugly and beautiful and authentic. Thank you for sharing. There is true beauty in strength that rises out of pain. Keep fighting for each other. You and your kids will appreciate it in the end.
I appreciate you sharing what works in your home to help others with children with Autism. Your marriage is worth fighting for. Marriage is hard and doesn't get any easier. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but give the channel a break, focus on you, and start thinking about a good school for her. Then, come back when you can on your terms. Much love, prayers, and respect for what you do ❤❤❤❤.
I have faith that you both will make it through these transitions. You have love for each other. You are communicating. Life can be so heavy, but staying together and working through is what it's all about. Divorce is too easy. IMHO Marriage is a marathon. ❤️
I am so saddened by this news. Please try to resolve your marriage issues if it is at all possible through counseling and please get Mikko into Speech Therapy as soon as possible. Therapy is much needed.. I believe she has the capacity to learn talk but needs a trained speech therapist to assist her and to get her to where she needs to be. Thinking of your beautiful family and praying that you will be able to resolve these issues. Sending love and light your way. If the love is still there perhaps counseling can help the both of you.
Thank you for this video. I have to send it to my husband he travels a lot for work and our oldest who is 4 is autistic... and man im so exhausted i totally neglect myself im lucky if i get to shower once a week.. and i feel he feels like a stranger in his own home when he is here because we have our own things going on and at the end of the day in ready to collapse i cant stay up n hamg out with him lile i used too. On top of it i have a serious chronic illness im barely maming it theough the day.. it took a long time for him to even accept that there was something going on with our son..thank you for being real! I pray the best for you guys and that God will give you strength and bless you.
Divorce is easier than working on fixing the problem. I pray you all get couple's counseling with someone that specializes in couple's with special needs children. And you all are able to work out the problems you all have.
I truly pray that you all can work through your issues and regain a healthy marriage and family unit. The fact that you want to fight for it says enough. I pray you all can get into some individual and couples counseling to really determine your next steps. Sending all of the love and prayers your way.
Thank you for showcasing the struggles, not just with marriage itself but also raising kids. I think this goes for everyone and not just parents of special needs. Obviously there is added stress. Plus being out of military has its own struggles to "get back to normal". Thank you so much for showing and talking about this. Thank you for showing real life. It can be messy. Thank you for talking about both sides, not just one sided. Realizing both your mistakes. Realizing the hurt for both of you. I hope it all works out...where is part 2?
Be gentle with this couple. They are being honest about the struggles of raising a child with special needs. I admire how hard and committed they are to their family. Sending ❤ to o all.
Absolutely ❤
I totally agree ❤
yeah, my husband was in the military and sometimes when he would come home, he would say gosh it’s like you don’t like me being home. And I said no we have a routine you have to drop into our routine. Everything doesn’t change because you come home. kids need a routine.
I'm raising my autistic grandson and I'm here to tell you going to school attending speech and occupational therapies has been 90% beneficial!
Great Odds!
100 percent
amazing grandparent❤️
Yaay. Thanks for acknowledging us. Occupational therapy is great!!
@@oyellaokot r u a therapist?
That's what happens one parent doing it all. The other parent don't understand the struggle.
They understand, they just don't care
Keep fighting, don’t give up ❤🙏🏽
The man ruined the marriage due to irresponsibility
@@brain189that is exactly what it is
The other parent is probably distraught by the reality that all their future visions have been destroyed. There's no future there. Before u answer, address the fact if that kid can grow and function in normal society independently. And wouldn't be thrown to the state.
Some of y’all are wild in these comments. Relaxxx. It’s a 10 min video, watch until the end to gain a full perspective. Yes there are re enacted portions but they help to tell the story along with the portions of actual audio. It’s no different from other documentary style videos/shows.
Chris and Precious I applaud you both for the dedication to yourselves, your family, and the commitment to bringing value and authenticity to this community. 💜
Thanks teach. Class has been appropriately reprimanded. Everybody is sitting down, heads on their desks.🫡
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@@SilentThundersnow they did legit ask for everyone to keep their opinions to themselves until the end-and it was continued.. So they've not finished. And folks are giving opinions.
I believe they have the strength and maturity needed to hang in there and work it out.
@@willow_jaydeis the marriage over or not
Exactly
Please Keep Fighting for Your Marriage! Prayers Going Up for You Beautiful People 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Yes Yes 🙏🏾💪🏽❤
Amén
I want to give you a piece of advice. Autism is not the issue. Children with autism thrive from routines, but they also need boundaries and discipline. Sometimes we have to give each other grace and hear each point of view. My husband and I may have different approaches to parenting but we have to compromise and when it doesn't work then we go with what does. Love is rare, and maintaining healthy boundaries within our family helps to keep that going. You guys are wonderful, and I want to see you thrive. Just focus on each other and sometimes realize the full gentle approach can cause more harm than good.
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Absolutely.
Well said
It makes me so sad watching this channel for the last year or so seeing how much y'all are going through, and it seems to get worse as time goes on. Praying for y'all. Thank you for sharing and showing all the parts that arent pretty. Even though its upsetting, its real and you are helping people by letting us in to see it and not faking it like a lot of "autism families" on youtube do. Thank you. Love you guys and Im rooting for all of you and your journey through life.
It's not getting worse. I've worked with autistic children. There are ups and downs.
Im confused. Are they separated or its a skit?
@@helixmoore7636 working with kids and raising them in your own family are two separate things
@@ferraodeaf436I think it's a skit. I've noticed that they sometimes create problems. Last week(?), it was the Mom doing Mikko's hair for four days and now this. The way this ended, it may be at least another part to this story. I still love this channel but I'm looking at it a little differently. JS ❤
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🎯🎯🎯 I saw some of the “hair day”, I didn’t finish it. I couldn’t get why take so long on her hair when she doesn’t even go to school or therapy. And yes, it’s a skit, I think!🤷🏽♀️
The family and marriage dynamics change when you have a child with special needs. It's similar to a death of what you had planned or envisioned. It's life altering but NOT LIFE DESTROYING. Each family is different. Praying for healing and restoration individually and collectively. With GOD All Things Are Possible. 🙏 😊
Sometimes, one spouse for a time has to be the stronger one, and to be blunt, grow up. It's not always about the wife or the husband. Abandoning your spouse because of a difficult time shows lack of character.
@@helixmoore7636Unfortunately, it happens alot. Many relationships have broken 💔 up because one parent finds themselves in the thick of things while the other one " can't deal "
Amen!!!
Couldn't agree more! Well said.
Our 4 month old has special needs and medical needs...i can make our life "all about her" but ibqm realizing it cannot be that way. There is more to life. I have put her in daycare....its only day 2 but im hoping forbsome bit of normalcy. We hace to see how this all goes but we both needed a break
No matter what, you need to fight for this relationship to work. You have a family to consider. Praying for you guys!
From what i've noticed, a lot of times, is that one parent (usually the father), loses interest in his family when he realizes his child (ren) are special needs. It's like "since the kid isn't perfect, i'm out of here.". Then they use the issues that happen from having a special needs child as their reasons for checking out. Instead of coming together with their wife to tackle those issues. Either you want your family or you don't. No family or situation is perfect and as long as you choose to run when the going gets tough, you will be running for the rest of your life. There are no cheat codes to life; this isn't a video game. You have to get up every day and CHOOSE who and what you are going to be for your family, even when it hurts...even when you didn't get what you thought you were getting. Try to run and find "perfect" if you want, bet you don't find it.
She has autism and two of her children do as well. I don’t understand how he didn’t have enough sense to figure out this was a possibility.
@@jennyrose2200I thought men were the head of the house and the leaders. 🤔 you mean to tell me that as the leader he can’t figure out a way to lead?
Agreee same happened my husband withdrew 2 kids w/autism 1.5 and 2.5 . Not all fathers are the same but u can see here this fella is rathr useless
From what I've seen usually the mom will take over everything and treat the dad like everything he does is wrong and he's already scared so he backs off because he'd rather let someone that "knows" handle it and then mom berates him for not helping despite not actually wanting his help she wants him to be her clone and do everything her way
@@tarledamanley2832 that is no excuse to leave your family. If the bank account was missing money would a man go to the bank and handle it or just pull away to avoid conflict? Yeah, thought so. But I guess it’s okay to fight more for your money than your wife and child(ren).
Please be Gentle With Yourselves as you navigate the Gentle Life. Sending prayers🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
That’s why it’s so important to get her in a school setting. It will help her and it would help you and your husband have some time to breathe
Does she get occupational therapy?
Seems like Mom has separation issues
Aba therapy
School system can be overwhelming and damaging for austic kids especially because teachers lack empathy patience and understanding of your child
@@meganmordecai7321 You have to find the right school. They were very patient and caring with my son. You can’t just pick the first school . You have to investigate
Not everyone can bear their souls in the manner that you have. Your honesty and transparency will help others who feel that they are alone and that no one understands. You have a community that loves you and is praying for your entire family.
This 👆🏾
For anybody wondering they are not really getting a divorce 😊
How do you know?
@@kimsmith2425 Did you watch the video🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Maybe I'm reaching, but why would he have his arm around her if he wants to leave her?
I hope they are not divorcing.
Good 😊
Marriage is hard work! I got married at 18 to my husband of 38+ years. We raised 3 sons all on the Spectrum. My husband was a work aholic, and I took care of my son's needs, including homeschooling the last 2. I had no family or support groups to turn to because they had mild forms of autism. I wasn't ok at times. Today, we are all happy and successful . Don't give up! They grow out of these challenges with proper care. Nobody knew what Asperger Syndrome was in the 80s when my first child was born. I was very verbal about it 13 years later when we got him diagnosed . Fight !
Absolutely. Don't give up! There is hope
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Nobody new what ASD was in 1993 when my son was 5. It took a long time to get him diagnosed (also OCD & Tourettes). And you can't get treatment not special ed until you know what is wrong. He is now 36 and leading the best life. He lives in his own place. He has an amazing girl friend. He is happy as can be. So stable & content. I would not have believed it was possible!
It's not that you didn't help, it's places and agencies that can help Mikko. Even for a few hours a day to give both of you a break. It will probably be good for Mikko also.
THIS!!
Right u cant do it all n shouldnt have to. Thats what those agenies r for n theyll push your child along so fast n those issues will b gone instead of still spending time working on it
They will also quickly spot new ways of helping when something isnt working n they can tell u why
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Great advice👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@Danisha-rn2yj ik from experience...theyre absolutely amazing! Quick results n sometimes immediate
Everything from speech physical n occupational therapy
At home u should only b doing whatever they instruct u to do
@@Danisha-rn2yj thanks!
Thank you so much for being so open and honest. Instead of sugar coating it and making life look so easy. Best wishes that it works out for the best. You deserve nothing but happiness. ❤
Active listening is the keg. When one person is just hearing it won't work. She's doing her best and he. Needs to actively listen and meet her needs.
This video is everything! Autism is hard, period! Then, every family dynamic is tough. Thank you for sharing and being transparent and real. I’m praying for you all.
As an early childhood educator that has had and still have children in my class with autism, Im suggesting you enroll Mikko in a good formal school, that will be able to help her as well. Mom..i get that you want to do everything for your baby and obviously would have some reservations/ separation anxiety, but you also need to give yourself some grace and time to relax and recharge throughout the days. Its ok to get some help and its ok to put urself and needs first at times. I can see you're a great mom but, you're only human as well.
As a mother of a daughter with Autism school is a dangerous place especially with the adults including teacher.... We need far more awareness about SA with this group , not to trust the TEACHERS or THERAPIST they are the main CULPRITS and it takes away from your child trying to get justice
@@Showers_OfBlessings not all schools and teachers are the same. You can only speak of your experiences and its sad that you have to feel the way u do. I care deeply for the children whom I have care of at my institution and their parents as well. Our institution is highly recommended to parents ,with children who are on the spectrum and they never regret enrolling their child.
Wow .
Brutally honest
And you're right , both of you are .
Taking a toll on the relationships of the parents is real .
And should be talked about .
Thank you !
My daughter has 8 children of which I have 1 . He's on the spectrum.
He's 15 , took a long time to learn what works & what doesn't. To always remember his way is different than my own children were. I'm 63 . Learning all the time
Patience is important
Self care is important.
What this video is...IMPORTANT
with the father being a veteran himself, the adjustment to being at home with the family may be stressful considering that's one of the things that's harder to adjust to. you'll have days when you don't understand your problems. Unless it's being work on together because marriage is one, you guys should be fine. its definitely time to spend more time together, and prioritize you guys as the head of the household. Husband and wife are so important to provide for the children. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I wish you all the best.
I almost didn’t make it to the end I’m glad I did because I was getting mad.
Please fight to keep it together. I’m married 43 years and it’s still hard but we’re still together. I have a granddaughter on the spectrum and she’s my pride and joy
Therapy "away" from the home for children on the spectrum benefits the child and the caretakers. The caretakers need time to care for themselves and the children benefit from interactions with a person not emotionally invested
They have been suggested this several times by many different people, and they just continue down the same path they have been on.
I agree with this 100 percent. I work with children with autism and parents always mention how much they depend on respite hours for their sanity and to get things done. They also really value the time their kids are at school. They also really depend on ABA in my area. There’s a lot of controversy about ABA and if it’s right for children with autism but a lot of parents won’t even dream of giving it up because some of these kids get in home ABA up to 5 hours per day 5 days per week, literally from the time they get home from school until bed time and the parents really lean on that support. Some of the kids don’t sleep at night and have pretty significant behaviors. It’s a lot to handle. It definitely takes a village.
So it seems. Caring for loved ones on the spectrum can take a toll on relationships, if, one does not take the time to care for themself.@@carladavis1473
Agreed. My daughter is autistic and she was a lot like Mikko when she was younger. I’ve suggested several things several times and they just don’t seem to care. I personally think they like the attention they get by having things harder.
@@carladavis1473you right!
This is really important how vulnerable you two are being to share your experiences with other parents who may be struggling with similar situations. I applaud you both for sharing your story!
I don’t know what it’s like to have a special need child, but I think from following your page. Miko needs professional help and a special nursery school so both parents can get a break and have some time for themselves. It would do a world of good. I see how her Mother seems so tired and her father seems at the end of his romp. Miko is a smart little girl and she knows how to push your button. You don’t see it because you are so close to the situation. I wish you and your family the best and hope you can work things out. I know all your children would be disappointed like most kids to have their parents split up. Good luck.
Excellent, considerate points
Agreed... I have a friend who has a few special needs kids she was trying to do everything to help and teach them and it completely wore her down. I told her don't be afraid to get the kids help she's not superwoman. She didnt listen and is still trying to doing everything and is still stressed to the max. Getting help doesn't mean you are a failure you just understand even as moms we have our limited.
😢I agree with u I don’t watch her videos only reels I see from time to time but yes!!!! I agree with you if they are doing it all on their own there are so many programs that would love to help.
@@andreyacreative6748 The parents just look so exhausted. I worked in the school system here where I live. I know that they have classes for kids with autism like Miko and they learn to a lot. It’s good for her to be around other kids. She could learn to communicate in others ways behind crying when she is trying to communicate with her parents. She is such a pretty little girl. Split-tin image of her father. I have a cousin that has autism and he attends school. He doesn’t talk at all but with school he still seems to do what most kids do. But you know we don’t know the whole story only what we see. Only they know the degree of autism that she has. I pray that as she gets older she can live a normal life. I pray the family stay together. You can tell she loves her father. He seems to be able to clam her down.
Mikko is NOT pushing buttons. She is trying to learn how to communicate in a world that is confusing to her.
From one family with special needs to yours, It’s hard. So very hard. I love what you both said about the arguing. It proves there is still something to fight for. Keep fighting. The tough times don’t last forever. I hope for the very best for both of you.
If I could offer some advice for sleep regression (if she’s still going through it) is to take her back to her room and stay in there with her. Lay in there with her until she falls asleep then go back to bed. It’s hard because you’re sleepy, but her room is hers and yours is yours. She is getting used to being in your bed and space and she won’t Give it up so easily when you’re ready for her to go back to hers. You have to reinforce that that is her space and where she has to be. She will understand after a while. Just like with everything else. Good luck and blessings to you all
The way you two talk WITH each other and way you are with each other while having this struggle is something we can all emulate when we are in a similar situation. The transparency is beautiful. The love is obvious. 🥹
This is a lot..
Your children need you both around please...
I truly appreciate you both being so vulnerable and opening up about your struggles. I think that many people have the wrong idea of marriage, believing that its just supposed to be as easy as when they first meet. But it all honesty marriage take WORK! Its a full time job every minute of the day from shared responsibilities with the home and children down to reciprocated expressions of love for each other and sharing intimate time. Both people have to make a conscious effort to keep a healthy marriage. After 18 years I speak from experience, the easiest part is making love 😂🤞🏼There will be ups and downs but through thick and thin Under all conditions, no matter how challenging or difficult to support someone through good and bad and overcoming those difficult times is when your marriage will strive. The stronger you continue to fight the stronger you will become!! 🙏🏼sending prayers and love 💕 You guys got this!!
You'll get thru this TOGETHER. FOR BETTER OR WORSE....TIL DEATH DO YOU PART. ❤❤❤
YOU guys are a FAMILY.... YOU will make it, boulders in the road will always come, go around. I have been married 30 years, we have had our ups and downs, we lost our son not to long to long ago due to reckless homicide caused by the mother of his child that we are raising. My husband and I have been raising our g daughter who has lvl 2 autism. Yes it is HARD, but do not loose hope. Being married means being partners, sometimes lovers, sometimes enemies and sometimes friends. You guys see what is going wrong so you can fix it. God bless you guys, you both have taught me how to help my little G baby, I will pray for you guys to find a way to work together again.. Much love ❤❤❤❤
Y'all need a community. You need to talk to the pediatrician or public school about support groups for families of children on the spectrum. There are services that can help you guys pur it all in pespective. I am a retired special ed teacher and mother of an adult son with ASD. It has gotten so much better. Reach out and ask for help.
Yes she tryna do it all alone for what 😂. She’s not even trained to teach her daughter 24/7 reason why her daughter runs the house 🤷🏽♀️
Yes. I still don't understand why the child is not getting the therapies that many on the Autism spectrum get.
Very powerful to show the struggle between the Mom and Dad. Praying for you and others going through this!
Men always get a ticket to check out. Usually, the burden of EVERYthing falls on women. If we check out, too, who will run the family. It's not fair.
My husband was my rock when our son was finally diagnosed with ASD, Tourettes & OCD. Some men may check out. Some women may check out. I think this husband loves his family & wants to do his best. I hope they can manage to adjust because there seems to be a lot of love & respect in this family
Oh my gosh, this is so authentically genuine, especially with the added audio conversation, we had very similar parenting arguments and we didn't have the added stresses of child with autism/transitioning back to being a civilian, can't hardly wait to hear how you were able to eventually come up with ways to manage everything 🥰
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open! Its tough being parents of neurodivergent kids in this world! Everything you said I can relate so bad! Send you love and trust in your journey.
Y’all need family support to help y’all, a trusting community. I’m praying that y’all can work thru this.
I have a friend who was told by the pediatrician to treat that child the same as she treated her older son. You are gentle with her, however, you cannot allow her to take over your bed, pushing one parent out. Was it a sleep problem related to Autism or was she doing what most children her age do when they awaken at night? Talk more about getting her into school and therapy. Is there a therapist who visits the school? That will give you time to yourself. Mikko is non-verbal, and smart. She likely understands more than you you think, and she uses it to her advantage. Try using a tone that is stern so that she learns it is not all about her. How will you handle stimming now that she is a little older? Will it be that she is comforted or is the situation where you can let her calm down on her own? The child I mentioned is now a young man in his early twenties and he functions very well. I hope you two can get your marriage back on track. ❤
You 2 have the sensibilities to talk about how your feelings! Especially now that all is on the table, I have faith in both of you! Recognizing that working together, is the key! Your definitely going to have bumps in the road, just keep jumping together, to solve your issues! 🙏
It's a blessing that y'all realized that you MUST communicate AND take care of each other.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This is so important to talk about. And the fact that you both are able to reflect and see where it went wrong and what you need to change to be happy is such a strength to have.
Praying for you and your family.I recommend counseling for the family and professional help for Mikko. And plenty of prayers.
You’re both very special and God trusted you with an imperfect angel. You’re are incredible people 🤗😘🙏
I’m not only amazed how you parent, but you also try to communicate with one another & your needs. ❤ No one ever did in my family. And regardless if you choose to divorce, you’ll always have to parent together.
We love your honesty. You’re showing people that their marriage will be tested by many challenges, but how you navigate the challenges is what matters the most. Your family is an inspiration. Well done!
You both are telling the world what the issues are. All you have to do is work on what you know. Pray and seek godly counsel. I pray you all work things out. 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️
Im a single mother with a son with autism. He doesn’t live at home anymore because he needs 24/7 care he is not even a teenager. . I just broke up with my boyfriend with Asperger.. he can’t give me what I crave. They are in their own bubble.. struggling. So much unintended rejection.. I feel lonely. Hurt. Dark place. Jesus help us all
Sorry 🙏🏽🫶🏾
Please fight to get out of that dark place, because it will pull you deeper and deeper. I pray that God will renew your mind and spirit...in Jesus Name!🙏🙏 Blessings
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When you say “they are in their own bubble”, do you mean that your son is with your bf and is your bf the father of your son? I’m sorry I didn’t quite understand.🤷🏽♀️
@@Danisha-rn2yj no I mean adult men with high functioning autism / Asperger live in their own world. It brings a LOT unintended rejection and abuse to the other partner. My ex partner is not the father of my children. English is not my native language im sorry
The internet doesn't help, but I pray you two find the help needed for yourselves and children. God bless.
The going to bed part is so relatable 💔 thank you for showing some of the struggles we go through as couples who care for children with disabilities ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. In my marriage we don't have kids, but we have other struggles. And when everyone thinks and sees only certain aspects, it's hard to open up, when so many people SO quickly bring up divorce. I hate feeling defensive or like I need to defend our marriage to others, but it would also be nice to open up to someone I trust without judgement. This video was extremely helpful!!
You are an excellent example of patience, love and compassion. Your kids need both of you. Love always wins!❤️
I pray that you two can pull through and stay together. Life is hard and truly is better with two🙏🏼
Awww both of yall will get through this together but separately if that makes sense yall gonna be alight its just a test both yall will pass i still believe in yall togetherness
This is common in a lot of families where one part has a job that takes them away for long periods of time. Add special needs on top of this. A lot of parents go
Through this with the spouse IN the home too.
I am so glad that you guys have taken the time to rediscover each other. Fight for love and the rest will take care of itself! I love that you guys communicate everything. That is the best part… I am interested in hearing about Your first child.
Please stay together 🙏🏾
I'm so glad y'all are sharing this with people so others going through the same thing, or similar things, can see that it is possible to come back together and make it work. Marriage is work. Marriage is a choice. Some days it's easy and some days it may be the hardest thing you've ever done. I wish more couples fought for each other like y'all are doing. My husband and I have been married for 29 years this June15th. We got married on my 18th birthday. It's been hell and it's been heaven. But I am so thankful we've made it. I can't imagine not having him by my side. Y'all will figure this out. Just never give up. Love to your family 🥰
Your transparency is so refreshing. ❤
Both of you need to make changes of you want your marriage to work. Help each other with chores, childcare, shopping etc. Split everything and make kids responsible for folding their clothes, picking up toys, etc. There is a lot kids can do to help while building up their self esteem. Now that you two acknowledged your short comings, make efforts to do it right this time around. Set aside alone time for each other (while kids are in school or daycare). Its not too late. You got this!! ❤🙏🏽😮
I think they are experts. They probably don't need advice from us. Just our understanding & support.
@kathiward7 If they were "experts" they wouldn't be in this predicament. 🙄😂
Wow! I really appreciate your openness and honesty with this community!
I am so glad you guys are fighting for each other and being adults about everything. I wish the best for you guys and for Mikko.
Thank you both for your honesty, your transparency and letting us be part of your journey!
As a parent of two little girls, my oldest age 4 who is on the autism spectrum and the other age 2, not on the autism spectrum. I can say my husband and I share similar experiences, “gentle family”.
Children, teens, adults on the spectrum are not the same..hence, why it’s called “ spectrum”. And every family every relationship and marriage is different. Needless to say… I empathize and sympathize with you both!!
My husband and I have been together 17 years, and we were informed in 2022 that our now 4 year old was on the spectrum. From that day on it changed the dynamics of what we call “ life”. What keep us together and to work hard at keeping our relationship our marriage strong and united is GOD, praying, our open line of Communication with each other and understanding each other’s feelings, thoughts and emotions when it comes to just about anything!
You guys are amazing! Mikko is blessed to have you guys! ❤
Peace and Blessings to your family and your union, “ Gentle Family “
Love from Milwaukee!❤
I cried watching this, as well as see the deep love you both have for each other.
My heart, love, and prayers for you and your children.❤🙏
Praying for your marriage. Two happy, complete parents is always better divorce🙏🏼🙏🏼
We appreciate the transparency
Thank you for being transparent. Blessings and be well.
praying you work through these hardships and come out stronger 🫶🏻
Please try to go to counseling and stay together for the children. I’m a veteran and it is overwhelming to leave the continuity they provided. I hope you guys can commit to staying together… I look forward to your honest commentary, my Grandson is undoubtedly on the spectrum. I shared your channel with my Daughter in Law and Son. GOD BLESS YOU GUYS ALWAYS 😊❤
Regular school is the best things as well. Don't treat her differently. Treat her the same but she needs more time to get through it. Soft blande flavors work best and add flavor and texture one by one. You'll can do it. 🎉🎉🎉 I'm routing for you'll. Autism wasn't a thing when I was growing up but now I know that's what I struggled with . Still do but it doesn't control my life as much. I have 70% Improvment. I still have obsessions and tactile issues and some food advertions but very very few. But keep at it and you will succeed. Check on magnetized water or metal dexot.
Early intervention is key with autistic children. The earlier the better. This family needs the help of professionals, not only for their daughter’s sake but for their own sake.
Miko looks like her Dad, 100%! God bless this family.
The old folks use to say that if a daughter resembles her dad then the family will have good luck!
Wow, thankyou for being open & honest… may you both receive wisdom in all you do!🙏🏽❤️
This kind of reminded me of the Proud Family reboot when the Prouds found out that Bebe was autistic. They ended up finding him a daycare for children with autism, and it helped him. Maybe finding a playgroup for Mikko every once in a while will give you two the needed break.
Also, with the food aversion thing, I kind of understand where your husband is coming from. Yes, autistic children go through spells of not liking food, but they learn how to manipulate just like other kids do.
facts
I so agree with this. I just told my husband once our truck is fixed I will be taking our toddlers to the learning group held at the library. And yes my baby girl always says I don’t want it but I make her eat it. I use to feel bad and fix something else but no not anymore
Thank you for your transparency. The re-enactments were great and the audio is a snapshot into the frustrations and pressure of raising children to the best of our abilities, especially with Mikko having extra needs. Thank you for sharing ❤
My husband used to do that with our oldest. Hes autistic and he swore he was just testing him and when i wanted to get him therapy he would say isnt that the parents job? But not help. Thankfully he ended up realizing he wasnt playing with him and he did need it. He just turned 4
I had to fight with my husband to make him understand that our child...had a problem! (ASD, Tourettes, OCD). But, once my husband figured it out, he was fully on board. He has been my rock. I couldn't have done it without him!
Wow you two, It was mighty for the two of you to open up an share..... You are helping many people.....There healing in transparency.... I pray you two come out of each storm refined like the two diamonds your are. Continue to find ways the family can get out the house and into the sunshine. Sunshine and laughter heals the soul😊
As hard as things are there’s literally no one in the world that will ever love those children as much as their mother and their father so it’s always gonna be the best thing for them and for you if you two can work it out and stay together. Hang in there and keep on communicating with each other and the tide will turn and things will get easier, and when it does you will love each other that much more
Praying for healing ❤️🩹 🙏🙏🙏we love you ! We are your internet family ❤
It is easy to neglect ourselves and the partnership. I am glad, that you talk about the problems and I hope you don't give up on your beautiful partnership. We all have to work on ourselves and on our relationships our whole life. I would like you to have friends or family or a nanny, to have some time for doing things you like to do alone and as a couple. You said it all. Everybody needs some space to recharge. Some distance to the daily problems. Each of you is as important as your kids.
I think your sharing about the challenges of raising children-particularly a child with special needs-while working through your marital struggles can actually bless others and build your relationship. Your interactions and conversations may be therapeutic for you and for others. You are not alone. I’m praying for your family, for your strength and for your relationship with each other. Try to carve out a little time for yourselves. Make that time a priority-no matter how “little”.
Marriage Counseling and 50/50 parenting could help. Also sleep train Miko in her own bed. 😮
How can it be 50/50 parenting is he is the one that works all day, be realistic.
@@neri3376 Keep in mind that she also works. She's a mom hours a day, 7 days a week with those 3 kiddos. If you add to the equation the fact that she AND her kids are on the spectrum, it can make parenting that much harder. So yeah, the dad should also help as much a possible.
Keeping the family in my prayers…”Life is a struggle…never give in”. Take some time for yourselves. Individually and together, away from the children…you deserve it. Thank you for your transparency…I could sense the trouble…Stay In Love❤❤❤❤❤.
People have become so much about "self" it's ashame. Dads claim they want to lead. Soldiers lead sir! Not to mention marriage vows you took for better or worse. People forget we only have 40 years on earth God willing, figure this out and help your famiy soldier! You can fight a war but not support your wife with YOUR CHILD!? At this point you have to help your wife. Just start setting an few hours to "turn up" for yourselfves and how far you've come! Mom, laugh and smile more, the children need to see and feel it. God bless
What are you talking about? He is a man, not a machine. Not only did he fight for his country, he's now fighting to save his family! He's nowhere near thinking about himself.
He has a right to feel and express it at least their talking before a decision is made people like you are a problem like someone said he's a man not a robot men need to be listened to also!!
Also did you LISTEN to the complete video before commenting NOPE
@sillyme1642 that man created that baby. Momma can't run. We can never catch a break. These men get to pack, leave and start over with no worries what so ever. No, stay and raise your creation soldier!
@@sillyme1642 nope as I figured it was click bait anyhow
Thank you for sharing your story….you are definitely not the only ones going through the everyday ups and downs of having a special needs child. It’s definitely not for the weak. As parents we have to remember to be gentle with ourselves first before we are gentle with our children and others❤🥰👏🫡
No y'all can't give up please you two are the cutest couple ❤❤❤
Wow. I have a newborn and me and my husband are so focused on the baby, sone of the exact same things are happening with us. Our child is thru a surrogate and we went thru a lot to have him. Now that he is here, i notice small arguments starting. I love your channel. Thank you for being so open.
Thank you for sharing. I pray for you all. Don't quit each other. You are a blessing to so many. Your message you share is more powerful than your struggle. Stay strong, and build up your close community in your city. Make time for each other and help each other. You got this.
I love y’all
Teaching me a lot about parenthood and patience. We don’t have kids yet but my lil cousin diagnosed with autism. I have a better understanding after watching your content.
All you can do is try to make things work, and try, and try. You two will know when there is no more trying, and it is time to part ways. Guess what? It WILL NOT be the end of the world for either of you. This is life. I wish you peace, love, and understanding.
This we honest and ugly and beautiful and authentic. Thank you for sharing. There is true beauty in strength that rises out of pain. Keep fighting for each other. You and your kids will appreciate it in the end.
Find god without no marriage will last ❤ “ till death do us part “ 🙏🏾 stay faithful
I appreciate you sharing what works in your home to help others with children with Autism. Your marriage is worth fighting for. Marriage is hard and doesn't get any easier. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but give the channel a break, focus on you, and start thinking about a good school for her. Then, come back when you can on your terms. Much love, prayers, and respect for what you do ❤❤❤❤.
@4:34 *pauses video, wipes tears.....press play*
I have faith that you both will make it through these transitions. You have love for each other. You are communicating. Life can be so heavy, but staying together and working through is what it's all about. Divorce is too easy. IMHO Marriage is a marathon. ❤️
I am so saddened by this news. Please try to resolve your marriage issues if it is at all possible through counseling and please get Mikko into Speech Therapy as soon as possible. Therapy is much needed.. I believe she has the capacity to learn talk but needs a trained speech therapist to assist her and to get her to where she needs to be. Thinking of your beautiful family and praying that you will be able to resolve these issues. Sending love and light your way. If the love is still there perhaps counseling can help the both of you.
Thank you for this video. I have to send it to my husband he travels a lot for work and our oldest who is 4 is autistic... and man im so exhausted i totally neglect myself im lucky if i get to shower once a week.. and i feel he feels like a stranger in his own home when he is here because we have our own things going on and at the end of the day in ready to collapse i cant stay up n hamg out with him lile i used too. On top of it i have a serious chronic illness im barely maming it theough the day.. it took a long time for him to even accept that there was something going on with our son..thank you for being real! I pray the best for you guys and that God will give you strength and bless you.
Divorce is easier than working on fixing the problem. I pray you all get couple's counseling with someone that specializes in couple's with special needs children. And you all are able to work out the problems you all have.
I truly pray that you all can work through your issues and regain a healthy marriage and family unit. The fact that you want to fight for it says enough. I pray you all can get into some individual and couples counseling to really determine your next steps. Sending all of the love and prayers your way.
I'm praying for you both to continue fighting for each other.
Thank you for showcasing the struggles, not just with marriage itself but also raising kids. I think this goes for everyone and not just parents of special needs. Obviously there is added stress. Plus being out of military has its own struggles to "get back to normal". Thank you so much for showing and talking about this. Thank you for showing real life. It can be messy. Thank you for talking about both sides, not just one sided. Realizing both your mistakes. Realizing the hurt for both of you.
I hope it all works out...where is part 2?