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- Опубліковано 10 вер 2024
- [BEST REDDIT] My Besties Divorce Causing Issues In My Marriage ... - Best Reddit
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My Bestie Recently Divorced From Her Husband, And Her Life Took A Twisted Turn I Never Expected. I Want To Pull Her Out Of It, But My Husband Won't Let Me.
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In today's video, I'm sharing a story about my best friend Alice's devastating divorce and how her life took an unexpected turn. As she spirals into reckless behavior, I'm torn between supporting her and respecting my husband's wishes to cut her out of our lives. Watch as I navigate this emotional journey, balancing loyalty, friendship, and family.
#redditfamily #reddit #familyrelationships
So... We're all in agreement she was 100% cheating the whole time, right?
Yes
Absolutely
Oh fuck yeah
100% positive
@@skintgirafde320
Alice forgot to mention that he caught her cheating.
Boom. The elephant in the room.
I could never support a cheater, I would have called my friend out. Come on now. Throwing away your husband and marriage for what ?! So you can be single with your friend.
theres nothing here to indicate that shes cheating. just heartbroken so much after her separation that shes spiraling/acting out. her ex walked in on her after they were broken up. Shes also now going to visit her ex, again as a single person. It does sound like shes making shit decisions post break up but it could all be cause of the break up that shes spiraling
My wife had to make this choice.
Her BFF was cheating, and wanted her to go along," like we used too"...
My wife told her" I'm married to your cousin", and she said " what he doesn't know won't hurt him".
My wife only told me when I asked where the hell My cousin had gotten off too. Wife knew the score
@@zineguri8515 "theres nothing here to indicate that shes cheating". hahaha
@@reizero246she was still married and I bet not her or the young men in the hot tub with her had swim suits on
Siding with a cheater is an indication of poor morality.
Not really.
@@bobfg3130its definitely an indicator, but it doesn’t mean you are 100% a bad person.
No. Callously writing off friends who’ve been good to you your entire life, just because they made a mistake, is a sign of poor morality. Many good people have made a grievous mistake and come out it on the other side. Being judgmental is not a good look - nor an upstanding character. Give people a chance. This from someone who has never cheated and never would.
@@RusticRonnie
It's not an indicator.
@@ladythalia227 Trashy friends will drag you down to their level.
"like a sister" isn't remotely equivalent to your husband
What are the odds she ends up divorced next?
So….
Woman gets offered a promotion her husband is not comfortable with and she takes it anyway, she acts cold towards him and (most likely) cheats on him during this time, he can’t take her shit anymore so he separates, she goes FULL 304 and he finds out, she mentally scars her daughter, daughter ends up preferring dad and will most likely grow up resenting her mother.
Imagine giving up your loving, beautiful family for a soulless, corporate job that will immediately throw your shit out the day after you die…
But when men do it, it's okay?
The husband is right. If you support that friend then whos to say you aint the same way.
He was not right in that moment, but he was right in the end. You don’t abandon your lifelong friends so quickly. The wife did it right. She gave her bff chances to make things right and when she didn’t, the wife cut her off.
Nah he's insecure and can't trust his wife
Because my cousin is a felon and when he got out I supported him by I’m not a shitbag. This is a difficult one because if she drops her long time friend on her husband’s day so she’s also proving she’s disloyal, meaning she will be disloyal to anyone given the right push
Best friend was cheating the whole time. The husband's communicated and the bf husband let it out that he thought she was cheating, and when the proof came rolling in that she was seeing her ex on these work trips to "Dallas" he up and left.
Are people really this stupid? I understand OP wanting to help her life long bestie but to almost lose her own family over it is beyond my understanding. Her husband was trying to protect her from a toxic friend and she was too blind to see his intentions. Crappy situation overall but hey Ken got out of a toxic relationship and was able to keep his daughter.
Alice is a lost cause, if OP cares about her husband and future, stay away from Alice, support Ken.
Friends dont support their friends when they do something wrong, they hold them accountable for their wrongs. Anyone who supports a cheater (at least in my eyes) is okay with cheating and will likely cheat themself
in your eyes, she cheated cause she was with men after her partner broke up with her ? So if a woman moves on, (regardless of it being shitty type of situation) after they're broken up with- its still cheating? thats one hell of a double standard. No one would bet an eye if a man that was broken up with moved on - heck theyd encourage it with plenty of fish moto. she didnt cheat. Shes spiraling and needs to do better for her daughters sake, but you guys need to learn the definition of cheating
@@zineguri8515 my friend broke up with his girlfriend and despite our entire friend group asking him not to he slept around , no one encouraged him , most men don't live among aholes , ahole men and women alike usually attract each other
@@zineguri8515 Femcel tears
@@zineguri8515accountability really is kryptonite to women like you.
Op can be as close with her as she wants, sense she working toward divorce herself. No doubt she cheated on them trips and the mask of her true self have fallen.
if she had cheated. shed have been found out. It sounds like shes spiraling and making bad choices due to the break up itself. One has to differentiate between the two- cause she doesnt owe her ex fidelity after he dumped her and yet seems to care that shes with other men after their breakup
@@zineguri8515because if she immediately started getting gangb**ged very shorty after separation she was most likely cheating to begin with…
" why does he even care that his wife is getting gangbanged when he goes to drop off their daughter " lol@zineguri8515
Can you try writing that again using proper English, please? 😂☠️
If you can make a comparison between your spouse and bestfriend like they are on the same ground, then you have no proper consideration for your spouse. Just file for divorce before you do worse. You're not spouse material, and probably won't be
Bad boy alpha ex always wins bet she was cheating with co workers on those late nights and trips
On God. it's beyond me how dudes think it's a good idea to play step daddy to Chad's kid.
@@alwaysright3943 Fr. Raising another man's kids is always a lvsing situation
Husband is definitely right, if you go back to her your throwing your marriage too. Why would you throw away your marriage over a cheater. “He’s loyal to Ken, but it’s different for me” no the fuck it’s not it’s not that deep whatsoever if you can’t see that I hope he divorces her.
She started making more money than her Ex Husband and thought she was better than him. That's why she changed
How come “women code” is so strong?
Also, are we all just ignoring the fact that she had kid out of wedlock and her man came in and took the responsibility as a father/husband.
The friend was more than likely cheating the whole time since she started working at that company.
An ops tried to make excuses up for her best friend behavior which kind of tells me that she knew exactly what was going on with her friend before it got to this point because their friends, she's going to tell Opie everything so op knew what was going on and she probably knew the friend was cheating as well.
I don't blame Opie husband and I would tell her if you talk to that lady again I will divorce you and take the children if they have any.
Your friend is a cheat and you are absolutely fine with that, you will throw away your life for what?
An abusive cheat
I’m always surprised at the type behavior women will defend
It's not just women. It's friends. Don't make this a woman thing. Men defend all kinda of heinous behavior too. I watched a ksi clip where a woman got revenge on a cheater and it's clear only men can get revenge and women are crazy if they do and men should cheat. The world is still sxst
@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 I mean I only specifically mentioned women because ,I guess I anticipated like more overall empathy and understanding from women, which is probably some kind of misogyny. 🤷🏿♂️
@cloudyboy1756 ngl man it's my gut too. I get it. Thanks for being open minded. I'm glad you understand. Forces are trying to divide the genders. Make us fight among each other but we are the same. You restore my faith in humanity for being a decent person
@cloudyboy1756 sorry I rambled about something else. This ksi comment section hypocrisy had me mad
You're beyond cringe. @@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259
These damn cakes are killing me.
I hope op told ken about how those people he walked in on in the hot tub were interns in her company. She most likely will be fired if her work finds this out
why does that matter? she was single - Ken had broken up with her at that point in time. Shes def spiraling and making shit decisions, but its none of Kens business what shes doing with her private life given he wanted out. if the genders was reversed no one would bet an eye that the guy was moving on - and would have just said " too bad you broke up with him. his single, can do what ever he likes"
@@zineguri8515 gender doesn't matter nor does the circumstance they were interns she had them in her house in a hot tub while going through a divorce that sets a bad look at her and the company and no one except her and the interns know what happened and the fact she did that they can terminate her for unprofessional behavior with them or using her position to make them do stuff and most likely possibly breach of contract
@@Nopeboat But how is any of that Kens business? the point of my comment is that they're separated/going through divorce, her choices poor or otherwise - are her problem not Kens. SO people wanting Ken to know about all of these details makes no sense.
Maybe old woman shouldn't be acting like predators?@@zineguri8515
@@zineguri8515but hey anything but calling a bitch a bitch, also it doesn't matter, if stating truth gets her fired so be it
Regrets are for those who chose poorly.
"Strong & independent" that will kill any relationship with a "girlboss"
Im sorry to be the contrarian here but i understood why OP tried to help, its hard to see someone you love fuck up their life. She had no idea how far gone her friend was until it was too late for intervention BECAUSE said friend wasn't willing to accept help, but OP still needed to try for her own peace of mind and process her grief over a sisterhood level friendship that spanned half a lifetime. She didn't hesitate to cut her off when it counted. Too many of yall wanna project issues onto this woman because you've never had a friend or family member snap like that and become unrecognizable, its traumatic to experience for everyone involved.
I agree she want try to do something, she want to believe she could save her friend… until she realizes her friend was lost…
I really respect how down you are for your friend but im glad you laud down the law with her you gotta let em go sometimes they come back other times you just gotta leave em be
The two interns are probably the coolest guys at work
Op is a cheater as well. Might not have happened yet. But she will if she begins to go down her friends path to help her
Your husband is right. How long before Alice hurts you & your husband or her daughter? You say you aren't excusing her behaviour, but this has all been about the effect of Alice's actions on Alice. What about Alice's daughter & her husband? People like Alice do get combative when people who want to help them try to talk to them. Alice is going to hurt you, or your husband or her little girl. If you get hurt, your husband would be hurt & if your husband gets hurt, you would be hurt. If Alice hurts her daughter, Ken, you & your husband would be hurt. Alice being the way she is being is not on you, your husband, her husband or her daughter. It's on Alice & she doesn't like it so she's projecting. I have people like Alice in my life (I bet we all have a few Alice's in our lives), but I told myself it's ok to walk away & look after myself mentally, emotionally & physically. It's hard to let go, hard to accept it, but it's ok to let go to spare yourself, it's ok to accept it's over in some small way, it's ok to miss the people you knew, it's ok to wish it could all be the way it was, it's ok to hurt & wonder if it was your fault. It's ok to cry. It's ok to not be ok. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something or lying.
He didn't give her any indication but she didn't think he'd do it 😂 she for da streets 😂😅
As friends we can only do so much
Heavenly goodness as I would refer to them 😇😌
Zero accountability, ever.
Ive heard this same story from another perspective. Weird how it paints the friend in a sympathetic light
What are the desserts being made in this video?
I guess for Halloween
The best time to marry a single-mother is NEVER!
Never, never, NEVER raise another man's progeny. The baby-dady won't thank you and the single-mother will never respect you.
How about you stop talking as if you knew what love is. You know, the thing that's the REASON why people get married. Why would a single mother not respect you for helping her raise her child? Is this some incel redpill alpha bs where women don't respect men who treat them like humans? You'd have a stroke if I told you about my family. My mom was a single mom when she met my dad. They married and he took her last name. They've been married for 34 years now and it's clear how devoted they BOTH are to each other, my mom cares so deeply about him, it's ridiculous. Quit talking about things you don't understand; if a single mother doesn't respect you, it's not because she's a single mother. She wouldn't have respected you anyway.
As if you can get with someone, let alone a single mom. 😂 stfu
@DwynTwo Single-mothers today are a bad bet. The rate of failure with single-mothers mothers is higher than single women. The new guy will NEVER be a priority in a single-mother's life.
I could not in good conscience recommend a relationship with a single-mother to a man unless I hated him.
Husband was right in not wanting his wife to hangout with someone who cheated on her husband, and did such horrible things.
If Alice was a woman in Ken's position, most people would expect her to accept the absent husband. But regardless if it is a man or a woman, household needs the presents and input.
Op is projecting so hard😂
Very flowery creative writing...
It's called purple prose, and this story had an acceptable amount of it compared to the others.
Alice needs inpatient treatment. She's clearly not mentally stable. If she's never behaved this way, something is clearly wrong.
I gained 10 pounds binge eating during this. How could someone send such harmful subliminal messages? It's the worst betrayal here!
dude why is everything a manifestation or a ripple
nobody talks like this
half the story is just how hurt OP is, every other sentence. this story could've been 5 minutes long
IDK how much of this I believe & even though it's unlikely going to happen, I'd like the bestie's side of the story.
OP, switch the gender-
Are you ok with a dude caring more about his career than his wife and child?
Ignoring his wife's concerns about their marriage?
Him not being home for months on end and unilaterally deciding to prolong "business trips"?
"Entertaining" younger women, inebriated, when it was his time with the kids?
Blowing up on his family when confronted with this behaviour?
If not- _why would it be okay for Alice to do so?_
OP seem in love with her friend
Alice either gas lit her friend or OP gas lit her husband (and by extension is gas lighting the readers)... I know where my money lies based on OP's description of how close she is with Alice.
If OP is not gas lighting the readers, then she needs to consider those that normalize cheating, are almost as bad as those who cheat, if cheaters did not have a support network, i am sure a lot of it would happen less. it would still happen but less than is seems to recently.
i hate chocolate, every cakes in this video are chocolate
If ever there's an update, it's going to have ended badly. Alice & that little girl could end up being dead. Alice is adamant in letting that man poison her life, then that's fair enough, he can go right on ahead & poison her. But for Alice to want to allow him to poison her little girl is not on, it's not right & it's not fair. It's not fair on the little girl, Ken, OP's husband & OP. I feel beyond terrible for Ken, that little girl, the OP & OP's husband.
Why is it that women, almost universally, can F up a good relationship.
I feel bad for daughter who has pos parents not Ken.
OP was so self centered focused on losing her best friend and sister when Ken lost his life partner and the daughter lost her stable home life. And now she wants to expose the child to an abusive man who didn’t want her.
Wait, you listened to this whole thing and you call Ken a "POS"? Ridiculous.
@@smallpseudonym2844 im referring to his stbxw and AP/bio dad.
@@smallpseudonym2844 naw, he means the bio parents. hes sayin he feels bad for the daughter an not ken, as in its really the daughter whos losin out here. imagine a custody battle between the step dad an the two actual biological parents
@@noodleboot17 Ah. I see it now. I had interpreted it to mean that "I feel bad for the daughter, not Ken. The parents are POS." Poster _meant_ to say "I feel bad for the daughter. The parents are POS, but Ken isn't."
I would agree that the daughter is the one who loses. However, Ken had to put up with years of mistreatment, emotional abuse, and likely cheating from his wife in a way that the daughter didn't, partially because Ken shielded her. I don't think "ranking" their pain would be helpful here. Pretty clear they both are deserving of empathy.
Another example of why you shouldn't date single moms.
The in group bias in women is so strong. They’ll defend the worse of their tribe.
remember folks: DO NOT date/marry a single parent if you, yourself are not a single parent period. see what happened here with ken? that's the doom waiting for any man with zero self respect to partner up a single mother, is gonna raise someone else's baby, she will end up cheating and boom, congrats you earned your prize
Not everyone is the same
All I'll say for Alice: If you act like a doormat, you will be treated like a doormat (for her going back to her ex)
OP, your friend is a POS.
OP has no empathy for Ken.
Ken deserves better from OP.
It’s not cheating if they’re separated lol.
Idk man, devil advocate I guess… but her husband left her, fuck his feelings when it comes to other man and if she wants to get back w her ex (as long as she wasn’t cheating) that’s her business 🤔 she’s single !
DUMP 403s now.
Stepdad was her second choice.
Dude! How many cakes are you makeing a day? Thats insane.
Likely the cake videos are taken from someone else’s videos
@@Catherine.Dorian. Thank god. Else the poor dude would have diabetes already.
Chat gpt stories 🤦♀️ Stop it
Lol how does OP not connect the dots that the early "business trips" were to go see her ex? Alice literally told you she was going on a business trip when she'd already been caught, and OP can't put it together? Or you lying to yourself?
Why does every AI generated story use "turmoil" to describe feelings. EVERY SINGLE.ONE.😂
I think Alice's husband is TA. He went from 0-100 and just abruptly left which started his wifes series of bad decisions. He could've had a real conversation with his wife before deciding it was just over.
I’m sort tired of AI stories man
Are you sure that's how the first baby daddy actually treated her or is that what she said he was like?
who cares what she's doing now, HE left her. i dont think a woman wrote this honestly ..so possessive and weird...is op in love with bestie. ?? also time line and ages of meeting is all over the place..
AI generated.
Probably her daughter ? Blacking out while trying to have a 3some at the time your supposed to take care of your daughter is atrocious behavior
He left her after neglect from her side and also idk maybe sleeping with young men sounds prefatory
Also you think it's written by a man cause someone had a healthy and supportive relationship since childhood? I pity you never had one cause this is exactly I acted when my friend cheated, shocked but kept trying to help him except he wasn't a ahole who runs from mistakes and owns up to them
Ofc you have blue hair 😂
Fully AI💀
If it was AI it would have an ending where she comes back broke and begging for forgiveness.
Fully agree. The writing style is unmistakeable for anything else.
OP is a hypocrite
I wonder if all those "business trips" coupled with their dead bedroom were not a cover for cheating. the way she immediately had sex with 2 young men at same time in just a few weeks separation tells everything. apparently she was not very motivated by her husband