My child want's to marry outside our race/culture - Mufti Menk

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  • So you moved to an environment which is mixed with so many nationalities and races yet your child must only marry within your own race... hmm...
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  • @breesadak4962
    @breesadak4962 2 роки тому +2208

    Racism in the ummah is a serious issue! Everyone puts their culture over religion, it’s so bizarre to me as a white Australian revert 😂 I think born Muslims have a lot to learn from reverts, we come to Islam from a clear perspective, not influenced by cultural practices.

    • @mdsabilsarfaraz7685
      @mdsabilsarfaraz7685 2 роки тому +36

      exactly that's the major issue ..here in the indian subcontinent people kill if their child asks for a marriage outside their caste...here we have castes in muslims like hindus have...they dont understand it's a cultural practice and continue to be ignorant

    • @deistormmods
      @deistormmods 2 роки тому +74

      Agreed!

    • @chaimaez.h.4530
      @chaimaez.h.4530 2 роки тому +70

      I agree with you. We take everything for granted.

    • @mirbilal8225
      @mirbilal8225 2 роки тому +53

      You are right brother. This mindset needs to change

    • @tehreemmunnisa7865
      @tehreemmunnisa7865 2 роки тому +34

      i never agreed so strong

  • @amena777
    @amena777 2 роки тому +1054

    Love has no race, but be certain that it is love, and not lust.

    • @Syedafathima12005
      @Syedafathima12005 2 роки тому +18

      Exactly 💯

    • @jibril2473
      @jibril2473 2 роки тому +37

      @@Syedafathima12005 as Muslims, as Ahlus Sunnah Wal’Jamaa’ah, we don’t necessarily marry for love either. We marry to grow closer to Allah ﷻ and to better serve & worship The Almighty. That’s something this generation tends to forget.

    • @ameerasyeda429
      @ameerasyeda429 2 роки тому +75

      @@jibril2473 u can get close to Allah while being in love
      U shouldn't marry someone u don't love otherwise its just for convenience

    • @jibril2473
      @jibril2473 2 роки тому +3

      @@ameerasyeda429 I never said you “shouldn’t” sister. Please read my statement again with wisdom. Baarak’Allahu Fik

    • @jibril2473
      @jibril2473 2 роки тому +6

      @I love Jews grow up, get a life, be a man and stop trolling.

  • @kimjongun6746
    @kimjongun6746 2 роки тому +864

    I'm a Christian and it is really great to see the perspective of Islam on diversity.....

    • @fahadus
      @fahadus 2 роки тому +71

      All you need to know is that Salman Al Farsi (Persian), Suhayb Ar Rumi (blonde haired, colored eyes. They called him Suhayb the Roman, most likely mixed race), Bilal Al Habshi (Ethiopian, black guy who used to be a slave) were all part of the inner circle of the Prophet SAWW. They all spoke with accents, at the same time, were considered great authority in Quranic teaching. They are also among the most highly regarded companions of the Prophet as well. As soon as you embrace Islam, you're part of the community. And everyone is a brother and sister. Diversity is encouraged in Islam.

    • @rokiahaidara7472
      @rokiahaidara7472 2 роки тому +13

      If only all people could saw that way, this world will be confortable for live. I'm muslim.

    • @themercifulguard3971
      @themercifulguard3971 2 роки тому +16

      @@unstoppable2308 Victim complex. Speak of Muslim violence yet purposely blind to the disproportionate and far more frequent lynching by radical Hindutva extremist mobs.

    • @deistormmods
      @deistormmods 2 роки тому +5

      @HAIL SATAN May Allah guide you.

    • @aomineswife3029
      @aomineswife3029 2 роки тому +11

      @HAIL SATAN nah cuz are u replying to each comment hating thats actually really saddd LMFAOOO

  • @sheilajames9331
    @sheilajames9331 2 роки тому +371

    Am a Christian, but since I started watching u.... am drowning close to God more than before, u really a blessing to many. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @inspiringmuslim
      @inspiringmuslim 2 роки тому +17

      May Allah guide us to the right path....ameen

    • @abeyqanimohamed9554
      @abeyqanimohamed9554 2 роки тому +6

      May God bless you

    • @justfelix30
      @justfelix30 Рік тому +4

      May Allah (god) bless you dear sister.

    • @danladiojito9741
      @danladiojito9741 Місяць тому

      I hope this is not an eye service ???

    • @immi117
      @immi117 Місяць тому

      Very knowledgeable ma sha Allah
      Religiously !!!

  • @julianbashir8277
    @julianbashir8277 2 роки тому +309

    Im an American Muslim in Love with an Egyptian. When God speaks of that hes created us in pairs I feel that with her. But she has kept herself apart from falling because of judgement of her family here and back home. Ive prayed on this many times. The pain is so heavy. It's in Allahs hands.

    • @AlhamdulillahforEverything
      @AlhamdulillahforEverything 2 роки тому +9

      ⬅️Assalamualikum I invite everyone to listen the beautiful Recitation of The Holy Qur'an ❤️

    • @dr.sofiataranum605
      @dr.sofiataranum605 2 роки тому +30

      May Allah make it easy for you. Indeed he's the one who accepts Duas. May Allah swt bless you

    • @ifsahussain1434
      @ifsahussain1434 2 роки тому +14

      Pray tahujjud at night

    • @inspiringmuslim
      @inspiringmuslim 2 роки тому

      @@dr.sofiataranum605 ameen

    • @beaw5616
      @beaw5616 2 роки тому +1

      May Allah ease your affairs! Ameen

  • @StarsabovetheEmeraldForest
    @StarsabovetheEmeraldForest 2 роки тому +190

    My husband is white (Irish and French) and I am black. We are both born and raised in America. Our parents are too. My parents are the ones who objected to us being together. His parents were more than okay with him wanting to be with me. My husband and his parents are from Massachusetts which is north in the US and my parents and I are from Georgia which is south in the US. My parents objected because of the experience they had and things they seen in the South when they were kids. My Dad didn’t have good things to say about white people because of his experience as a child and his mother’s experience. My dad eventually warmed up to the idea and gave him a chance. My husband and I are still together 15 years later. He is so amazing.
    I learned that my parents based their initial decision off of their experiences with white people and that they weren’t just trying to enforce what they wanted on me nor were they trying to be mean.
    May Allah bless those seeking marriage with good believing spouses. May he guide us all and help us in our decisions.

    • @xSunnyDaysx
      @xSunnyDaysx 2 роки тому +7

      Ma sha Allah. Bad experience can mess up someones judgement. But alhamdulillah it all went well with the two of you!

    • @shairafaiza7261
      @shairafaiza7261 2 роки тому +1

      ameen. ofc i understand your parents perspective. may allah bless your marriage and keep you both happy. ameen x

    • @janellodge985
      @janellodge985 2 роки тому

      Ameen

    • @mariaodonnell8220
      @mariaodonnell8220 Місяць тому

      Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

    • @majesticx2680
      @majesticx2680 Місяць тому

      I have a serious question- i oftwn hear you nees consent from both parents to get in a relationship or to gett msrried , why do i often hear that the parent choose your partner for you in Islam? That is insane to me.

  • @whateverboss2272
    @whateverboss2272 2 роки тому +343

    I wish he was my dad! 😭for the all dads and brother reading this comment please don’t be harsh it’s already so difficult to find a spouse so stop being too judgemental!

    • @sallieceelee5660
      @sallieceelee5660 2 роки тому +15

      "I wish he was my dad"... That speaks volumes about the kind of dad you actually have...

    • @whateverboss2272
      @whateverboss2272 2 роки тому +22

      @@sallieceelee5660 unfortunately not every son of Adam is as educated as this man so yeah….

    • @justfelix30
      @justfelix30 Рік тому +2

      Dude I wish mufti was my dad right now lol.

    • @Al-Baqarah-02-256
      @Al-Baqarah-02-256 Рік тому +3

      To be frank, It speaks more to what kind or child you are. No matter how our parents are, Muhammed ﷺ asks us to respect our elders, especially our parents, no matter how they are.
      Ibrahim alayhi was-salaam prayed for his father to enter Jannah despite the atrocities his father committed against him and against Islam's rise. And so, we must emulate their footstepz and strive to be as they are.
      After all, your father has been through things you don't know of and I'm sure cares about you, even if he does not express it in a way that is beneficial to both of you.
      Peace be upon you.

    • @rw3745
      @rw3745 Місяць тому +9

      @@Al-Baqarah-02-256Stop with the gaslighting. Some people have a self interest when it comes to their children future because of ego.

  • @Muhammad_Uvais
    @Muhammad_Uvais 2 роки тому +142

    May Allah open up the hearts of those parents who got the proposal for their righteous daughter from an righteous and responsible man but they reject it without even listening to the man just for the sake of illusions of this duniya.

  • @dinaalquzah894
    @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +173

    I tried to talk to my dad and mom about marrying an American/Hispanic. They refused it he talked to my dad my brother and 2 of my uncles to try to get them to see the good in him and no one gave him a chance.. I married him without their consent.. it’s years later now my mother loves him he’s a great Muslim better than some of my own born Muslim cousins. He made me wear my hijab and is making me a better Muslim overall.
    However a lot of my family was talking really bad about me some of my family still don’t talk to me to this day

    • @dinaalquzah894
      @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +2

      @Rainbow for what reason? I’m good

    • @dinaalquzah894
      @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +9

      @Rainbow I don’t need your disrespect please be nice to people

    • @dinaalquzah894
      @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +2

      @Rainbow okay thank you

    • @dinaalquzah894
      @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +21

      @Tiseir A. yes we got married islamicly and by state the next day . I would say talk to the imam the imam will try to talk to ur parents your local imam is probably your best bet. Explain everything to him and don’t be shy the only thing ima say is get married in a halal way. And message me if u got any questions or need advice … I went through it

    • @dinaalquzah894
      @dinaalquzah894 2 роки тому +4

      @Tiseir A. my profile pic is me and my husband

  • @Rashad__
    @Rashad__ 2 роки тому +103

    I am Sri Lankan recently I met a Moroccan girl we both are like to get married and I told my parents about her alhamdulillah my parents are ok with it. I wish everyone to have understanding parents Inshallha.

    • @goeasy80
      @goeasy80 Рік тому +1

      Lucky if you get her because that didnt happen to me because of the distance we had..

    • @adriabd
      @adriabd 2 місяці тому

      So, did it work ?

    • @Rashad__
      @Rashad__ 2 місяці тому +15

      I am commenting after 2 years. Since you’re so curious Yes we are married and happy too 😮 when people visiting to other countries they should visit with good intentions not going to a club and find women and complain she didn’t treat me well. I am not telling you individually I am saying in general.

    • @hijabibeautiful
      @hijabibeautiful 2 місяці тому +2

      @@Rashad__alhumdullilah! I’m so happy to hear that mashallah tabarakallah

    • @yOusfless
      @yOusfless Місяць тому

      Alhamdulilah

  • @benbritton1984
    @benbritton1984 Місяць тому +66

    This is literally the first and only Muslim I've seen speaking in this way. If they were all like him there wouldn't be a problem.

    • @DonR-zb2cm
      @DonR-zb2cm Місяць тому +1

      Facts! I know a lot of them and they disown they’re children that marry black people. You can convert as a black person and they have no problem with that. But try marrying one of they’re own and watch how they react to it

    • @brianbayer4868
      @brianbayer4868 Місяць тому +2

      I feel sorry for Christians who donno the true word of God, they will fall so hard for this man.

    • @chukwudiogechukwu4385
      @chukwudiogechukwu4385 Місяць тому +3

      I hope you know you basically just said “He’s one of the good ones”. Don’t let single experience define your expectations for a whole group of people and expose your biases, that’s just plain ignorance

    • @Dekoherence-ii8pw
      @Dekoherence-ii8pw Місяць тому

      @@chukwudiogechukwu4385 It's probably not a single experience. He's preaching these ideas because he knows a lot of people in his community don't feel that way and he wants to get through to them about it.

    • @khrttartrahht4188
      @khrttartrahht4188 Місяць тому

      But they are not. So there is. Lol

  • @JasSkynX
    @JasSkynX 2 роки тому +159

    I'm not muslim, but have recently been wanting to read Quran and learn more about Islam...I've been enjoying listening to Mufti Menks videos and find his explanation of Islam very refreshing

    • @beaw5616
      @beaw5616 2 роки тому +8

      Nouman Ali khan and Mufti Menk are my favourite scholars. They make everything very easy to understand.

    • @foofooaaa5968
      @foofooaaa5968 2 роки тому +3

      Salam sister! May God make it easy for you, Ameen. Imam Omar suleiman is also someone to listen to aswell, he’s very good at explaining things mashaAllah. Also let me know if you have any questions about Islam or if you need help with anything 😊

    • @moorooster223
      @moorooster223 2 роки тому +1

      may God bless you with the strength to read and listen to the generous Quran and may He bless you with understanding by it and may He bless you with guidance to the straight path thereby in sha'a Allah

    • @Shoma-me4kh
      @Shoma-me4kh 2 роки тому +1

      Mashallah ❤️

    • @gilbertyevutsey7666
      @gilbertyevutsey7666 2 роки тому +2

      @@beaw5616 watch Quran Centric as well. He is phenomenal

  • @mujahidplays1
    @mujahidplays1 2 роки тому +110

    As our generational differences come to an end, through the visions of the new generations, mixing with other cultures will be viewed optimistically and encouraged in'shaa'allah

  • @sean87arnaout
    @sean87arnaout Рік тому +34

    I am an American Muslim of Syrian descent, and my wife is a Pakistani Muslim of Punjabi descent. We have been happily married together, since July 2022.

    • @user-mz4zw8zt1p
      @user-mz4zw8zt1p 4 місяці тому

      How I convince the girl father I also live in Punjab and want to marry out of culture and country but he is Muslim

    • @yOusfless
      @yOusfless Місяць тому

      Alhamdulilah

    • @shansiddiqui4741
      @shansiddiqui4741 Місяць тому

      Surprised your technically an arab

    • @sean87arnaout
      @sean87arnaout Місяць тому

      @@shansiddiqui4741 I am surprised too. I really do not see myself as having Arab in me.

    • @DonR-zb2cm
      @DonR-zb2cm Місяць тому

      You’re arab/ Asian so they don’t have a problem with that. When you’re black that’s when it’s a big big problem. Racist people

  • @ArtofBeauti
    @ArtofBeauti 2 роки тому +212

    In my first marriage, he was the same nationality as me. I was pushed to marry him and every red flag I saw, I was told I am being ridiculous. In the end he was a liar, cheater, used me to come to America, just a big disgrace to humankind. I divorced him less than 1 year of marriage. I knew in my heart something was wrong and all I could do was pray to Allah. If I survived those dark times it was through my faith in Allah. I didn’t know it at the time but Allah had better plans for me. 3 years after that I met my now husband. He is not the same nationality as me but the same religion. Elhamdilillah I have 2 beautiful babies with this wonderful man. I truly feel blessed. For anyone suffering out there please do you duas, keep faith in Allah. It will all make sense one day. May Allah bless you all.

    • @minadabunny
      @minadabunny 2 роки тому +24

      Your story sounds very similar to my current situation. I hope someday i get to have the same outcome as you and have a good future husband who will love and cherish me, Insha Allah. 🤲🏼

    • @mm_me
      @mm_me 2 роки тому +15

      May Allah bless u

    • @ImranAhmed-mt4np
      @ImranAhmed-mt4np 4 місяці тому

      INSHALLAH​@@minadabunny

    • @pr00009
      @pr00009 Місяць тому

      @@minadabunny you might someone if you step out of your religion.

    • @habib1379
      @habib1379 Місяць тому

      Alhamdulilaah

  • @AsmaAli-mq6xe
    @AsmaAli-mq6xe 2 роки тому +261

    please make dua for my brother Akram married a christian women who is learning islam Ya Allah guide them both through the right path of islam, ya Allah bless them happiness and contentment in their marriage forever ya Allah make it easy for his wife to understand and be guided into islam Ameen🤲🏻

    • @mr.beardedtipguy4454
      @mr.beardedtipguy4454 2 роки тому

      In sha Allah. Ameen!

    • @ibrahim_-_-_
      @ibrahim_-_-_ 2 роки тому +1

      Ameen

    • @ibrahim_-_-_
      @ibrahim_-_-_ 2 роки тому +19

      @@mr.beardedtipguy4454 my brother don’t say inshallah when making a dua. Mufti menk even made a video on it, inshallah means god willing or if Allah wills it to be, and when you are making a dua, you don’t say, “oh Allah please let this happen if you want,” no, you call out with conviction, you say “ya Allah make this happen for me.”

    • @dr.sofiataranum605
      @dr.sofiataranum605 2 роки тому +1

      Ameen

    • @Shoma-me4kh
      @Shoma-me4kh 2 роки тому +1

      May Allah make it easy For them and grant the barakah in their marriage ❤️ameen

  • @farhanaanis8382
    @farhanaanis8382 2 роки тому +32

    MASHA ALLAH brilliant way of advice to convince the parents n caring n Amazing guidance. Beautiful message. MAY ALLAH SWT guide every parent and every children as well. Aameen.

  • @malika2910
    @malika2910 2 роки тому +64

    I always had an issue with people saying you do it the wrong way first and then try to halalize it.
    Ask yourself why your child couldn't come forward about it to you in the beginning? What made them fear your reaction? Why did you push them to take the haram route?
    When you have a good relationship with your child where respect is given both ways, where you try to understand your child and the world it lives in, when your child knows that you will give them the best advice for their happiness and not your reputation in your community then they will come clean with things from the start, then they will do it the halal way. It's easy to blame children for their wrong doings but it's hard to ask why they went that route. Respectfully to Menk tho love him may Allah bless him.

    • @danyalrazzaq7033
      @danyalrazzaq7033 2 роки тому +9

      Totally agree ! There is this common theme of a lack of transparency / & communication amongst children and their parents… which I assume results in the child keeping everything inside for so long until they’re urged to perhaps share their feelings and communication with someone who may listen and seek to understand them, more than their parents offered to do… just my 2 cents !

    • @shyramunas
      @shyramunas 2 роки тому +5

      I partly agree and disagree. This is never a one-sided thing, the blame goes both ways. But yes, it is of utmost importance that parents create a comfortable and non-judgmental environment for both parties to discuss these life topics. Obviously parents must let their kids know that relationships outside of marriage are haraam but also explain to them and widen their perspective on why it so, and what they can do to stay on the right path.
      At the same time, this is a test of sorts for the "children" assuming they have reached puberty which means they are considered adults and are accountable for their actions by Islamic standards. Just because they had a non-supportive environment at home doesn't mean their actions are excusable and justifiable. We have to be unbiased and objective in these dealings, and like I said, the responsibility goes both ways.

    • @danyalrazzaq7033
      @danyalrazzaq7033 2 роки тому +2

      @@shyramunas I agree sister. It does work both ways. I should have been clearer, you summed up my point nicely , in regard to the benefits a comfortable and non-judgemental environment can do for the both parties to improve their communication !

    • @urekmazino2485
      @urekmazino2485 2 роки тому +1

      @@shyramunas Well said.

    • @urekmazino2485
      @urekmazino2485 2 роки тому +1

      @@shyramunas Nicely done.

  • @KZivert
    @KZivert 2 роки тому +37

    If only the people who don’t let their children marry out of race/culture put Islam first! It’s so heartbreaking when you really want to be with someone and spend the rest of your life together but the family won’t accept it..

    • @deynstyle8998
      @deynstyle8998 2 роки тому +1

      I can relate. My husband family did it. Insha-Allah everything is gonna be alright.

    • @madkhaliqfarhan
      @madkhaliqfarhan Рік тому +2

      @Mocrovich 🇲🇦 This comment is not helping!

  • @nargisgomez844
    @nargisgomez844 2 роки тому +10

    Thank you so much. This melt my heart. Love has no race ❤️

  • @johnboyle3297
    @johnboyle3297 2 роки тому +14

    Truly you are a man of God, regardless of religious persuasion, may God bless you and yours.

  • @bmalian994
    @bmalian994 Рік тому +6

    May Allah Bless you with a special blessing Mufti Menk , you are glowing 🇬🇲

  • @greatness_awaits7059
    @greatness_awaits7059 2 роки тому +76

    Some parents refuse for their daughters to marry like someone like who works in warehouse and his deen is in the right place.They say yes to someone who is like a doctor and his deen is not there. Some these Parents are making haram easy and halal hard

    • @tfk5566
      @tfk5566 2 роки тому +13

      Some parents refuse their sons to marry an educated muslimah, firm in Deen but is from Africa even if she loves their son. May Allah grant us all sabr.

    • @justfelix30
      @justfelix30 Рік тому +1

      This bro like the Muslim may be working at a warehouse or as a trucker and practicing his Deen but they choose someone of higher standard with less of the DEEN itself.

    • @ayishabehardien6310
      @ayishabehardien6310 Місяць тому

      So true!

  • @Omar31587
    @Omar31587 2 роки тому +16

    Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the differences that make each of us unique.

  • @irmaejaz93
    @irmaejaz93 2 роки тому +9

    Masha Allah that's true. May Allah grant us understanding and blessed everyone of us Ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊

  • @momof4vlogs
    @momof4vlogs Рік тому +8

    I needed this. To give me hope ❤

  • @ImranShaikh-qz2jb
    @ImranShaikh-qz2jb 2 роки тому +3

    Really Appreciate your thoughts .
    Very Rare that some of the leaders and some so called great personalities speak like this But according to me this thought is in right direction Someone must come ahead to bring the change.
    I really appreciate Menk for his words and thoughts May Allah bless him.

  • @rokiahaidara7472
    @rokiahaidara7472 2 роки тому +8

    May Allah Bless you and all people who's followed your advices. Love hasn't flag or colors.

  • @Daybreakhasme
    @Daybreakhasme 2 роки тому +7

    SubhanAllah, may Allah bless us with spouses that are pleasing, loyal, and are believers.

  • @sahanajparvin1490
    @sahanajparvin1490 2 роки тому +2

    MAA SHAA ALLAH , JAZAKALLAH , may ALLAH SUBHANAHU WA TA'ALA guide, bless and reward us all abundantly always

  • @zahrabello3358
    @zahrabello3358 2 роки тому +56

    This happened to me recently. Same culture but just from different states but the father said no. Everything happens for a reason. May Allah choose what’s best for us.

    • @Prince_Unknown1
      @Prince_Unknown1 2 роки тому +3

      That could be because you and i were probably destined to meet.....here in the youtube section at this very specific moment....

    • @abz43
      @abz43 2 роки тому +6

      @@Prince_Unknown1 you need locking up mate

    • @Prince_Unknown1
      @Prince_Unknown1 2 роки тому +1

      @@abz43 I agree.

    • @jamilasalaam
      @jamilasalaam 2 роки тому +1

      I’m so sorry !! May Allah swt forgive our parents for these old ways of thinking !

    • @sallieceelee5660
      @sallieceelee5660 2 роки тому +3

      The best way forward is to live a good life and show them that they have no impact whatsoever on your life...

  • @salmamohammed3267
    @salmamohammed3267 2 роки тому +4

    Mashaa Allah, very beautiful sermon. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @farhanaalam8529
    @farhanaalam8529 2 роки тому +11

    Ya Allah bless our children.
    Get them good decisions
    Ameen 🤲🏻

  • @amykendall768
    @amykendall768 2 роки тому +2

    I hope you are well Mufti your doing great very calm and inspiring ,helping people open their eyes more👍

  • @jamilakaweesi5935
    @jamilakaweesi5935 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much our mufti. Barakallahufikum may Allah reward you more blessings on the dunia and the here after 💙.

  • @annea.b.8232
    @annea.b.8232 Рік тому +5

    MashAllah. I thank you for this as I am having problems with obtaining my mother’s blessing to my choice in spouse. I am being called Jahil for wanting to marry someone who is a non Muslim but is willing to convert. I am not perfect but i want to be better Muslim everyday. May Allah SWT ease my troubles and May my mother slowly become open minded. Aamin

  • @yorgunadam-
    @yorgunadam- 2 роки тому +22

    May Allah give me and all sick people Shifa 🌹🤲🏼 AMEEN

  • @RR-kt7ks
    @RR-kt7ks 2 роки тому +2

    Masha Allah you are the best scholar I've ever seen in my life. May God bless you and your family and live long to serve more people.

  • @rjsaleh7640
    @rjsaleh7640 2 роки тому +1

    Tabarakallah MashaAllah I wish some of our parents will actually listen and practice this.

  • @nameusero-pq3sz
    @nameusero-pq3sz 2 роки тому +6

    Thank youu for this

  • @sahiraali18042
    @sahiraali18042 2 роки тому +4

    Alhamdulillah!
    I was in a real need of this video
    Thank you for easing up some messed up thoughts

  • @taharbenseddik5607
    @taharbenseddik5607 2 роки тому +1

    I always love to listen to you Mufti Menk.
    Because I love to learn as much as possible.
    In particular from an individual who knows much more than I do.
    But, with all do respect Mufti Menk, for the first time I feel a little disagreement due to my way of thinking conserning the reality of my life in relation to western woman up to a normal human (interaction) degree.
    In this case Dutch woman, because after all I live in The Netherlands.
    I don't know what it is.
    But their body language and the look in their eyes is so clear as possible.
    Even if I don't have the attention to behave in a not human way, I'm a gentleman, they think weird.
    Maybe, because I'm a muslim and they heard and saw a lot in the media, maybe for some other inhuman reason.
    Fact is that I can't have a Dutch woman as my wjfe, because we are not on the same human level.
    Respecting eachother is a basic factor.
    So, the Moroccan or Arabic woman is much better for me.
    This is, just like a lot of Moroccan men who do have the same thoughts, my opinion.

  • @safyah5658
    @safyah5658 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for speaking about it . ❤️

  • @SoloAnn
    @SoloAnn 2 роки тому +46

    "Don't come and try to HALALISE things at the end". Halalise. I love this word😂😂👏🏽

  • @ladyjasbeer
    @ladyjasbeer 2 роки тому +15

    Mufti mean we must be open mind now our days but in reasonable way❤

  • @vlockmedia
    @vlockmedia Рік тому

    Thank you for posting this video. Commenting so you may get an even bigger reach!

  • @ShaGojo
    @ShaGojo 2 роки тому +51

    A nice girl proposed to me which was shocking since usually it's the opposite. She is Arab and I'm East African. Things quickly went down hill when her mother intervened after she said she will approve. Not saying Arabs are racist but that's what happened. I was considered a son to her mother growing up but after her daughter wanted to marry me, I became an outsider.

    • @aishawezinakiyingi2912
      @aishawezinakiyingi2912 2 роки тому +22

      Sadly this is very common in Arab households.

    • @shoaibsalman395
      @shoaibsalman395 2 роки тому

      Are you muslim muslim marry muslim and others marry others it is very easy to understand

    • @mesozoicperiodvlogs8323
      @mesozoicperiodvlogs8323 2 роки тому +8

      There is a lot of racism in the old world. I commend mufti for talking about this. he obviously knows it’s a serious problem. It would be nice if people started respecting others based upon their integrity rather than their status or what kind of car they drive. People are so lost

    • @deistormmods
      @deistormmods 2 роки тому +3

      @@shoaibsalman395 What do you mean? They were both Muslim, why did her mom refuse?

    • @beaw5616
      @beaw5616 2 роки тому +1

      Misguided people in every community/ race. May Allah guide us all to the straight path.

  • @ajazahmad1106
    @ajazahmad1106 2 роки тому +8

    Salaam to my all Muslim brother to watch this video.

  • @yuunaamera
    @yuunaamera 2 роки тому +3

    Love your thoughts Sir ❤️

  • @Doc-tech
    @Doc-tech Місяць тому

    Lots of love and respect for your kind words about speaking love... Hope one day everyone understands their person and not their religion.

  • @helenachristi7720
    @helenachristi7720 2 роки тому +2

    I wish I could see Mufti Menk speak here in my country. So sad I will not see him. Am happy he is here though.

  • @leblaugranois3416
    @leblaugranois3416 Рік тому +10

    It's been 7 years since I became a Muslim, and today I decided that if I have to marry a woman then I hope it will be a woman converted to Islam because there is a serious problem with the families who are lucky enough to be born Muslim.

    • @kathleencove
      @kathleencove 2 місяці тому +2

      That’s the way to go. Have a fresh slate with someone who has the courage to disobey their parents by converting to a religion that speaks to her heart. Make your own traditions as a family together, within the bounds of the Quran and word of Allah (SWT). You don’t need to answer to backwards people from any culture or race or religion or social status. Be with someone who speaks to your heart who won’t be more married to their parents or friends than she is to you.

  • @andrewdeal6087
    @andrewdeal6087 2 роки тому +3

    MashAllah I have been blessed in my extended family

  • @famaratraore710
    @famaratraore710 2 роки тому +1

    May Allah bless you mufti menk

  • @ifixeditmyself1926
    @ifixeditmyself1926 Місяць тому +1

    As a person of faith the wisdom spoken was truly good for my heart and ears.

  • @x12624
    @x12624 2 роки тому +34

    I’m an Indian, I married a Palestinian-Lebanese Arab. Alhamdulillah. Race shouldn’t be an issue. Humans cognitive abilities are the same, and so is their BS. At the end of the day, if you both value deen more than the culture, there shouldn’t be issues.

    • @cherry-zg9ln
      @cherry-zg9ln 8 місяців тому

      How did you deal with family challenges/judgment? Or were they accepting?

    • @alystero8838
      @alystero8838 2 місяці тому

      Are you kafar?

    • @vulpesinculta9253
      @vulpesinculta9253 Місяць тому

      No it's not, lol. So different races have different skin tones, organ shapes, bone density, etc, we evolved all these things differently based on our environments, but you actually believe that somehow, everyone is the same when it comes to their brains, their intelligence and personality? Do you ACTUALLY believe that?

  • @lilyrosesoul0077
    @lilyrosesoul0077 2 роки тому +3

    Most important is the religion and character. If the person is a revert to islam - has good character and practising Islam - this ok for me. If the person is "born muslim" - same thing. Culture is not so important - as long as the person does not go against the deen.

  • @soffijarju9129
    @soffijarju9129 2 роки тому

    Mashallah May Allah help us all to do the right thing ameen

  • @JayyRagz
    @JayyRagz Місяць тому

    Well said brother. May god bless you for your words of wisdom

  • @yasminyasin9284
    @yasminyasin9284 2 роки тому +6

    Assalamualaikum Sheikh Mufti Menk and to all subscribers

  • @Truthseeker1977
    @Truthseeker1977 Рік тому +3

    As a British Indian Punjabi , I appreciate your wisdom.

  • @muhdaabaa
    @muhdaabaa 2 роки тому +1

    Ya Arhamar Rohimiin
    Allahumma solli 'ala Muhammad.
    Semoga Allah meredhai kita semua, Semoga taufiq dan hidayah Allah sentiasa bersama kita setiap detiknya dan Semoga Allah sentiasa memandang kita dengan pandangan Rahmat dan Kasih SayangNya, Aamiin Allahumma Aamiin, wa shalallahu 'ala sayyidinaa Muhammad wa 'ala alihi wasohbihi wasallam, walhamdulillahi robbil 'alamiin.

  • @Zeeshankhan8888.
    @Zeeshankhan8888. 2 роки тому

    What is given to us by the Almighty is much more than what He has taken away from us. We need to ponder over this in order to appreciate it.

  • @quran_translations_
    @quran_translations_ 2 роки тому +6

    Probably the best hadith you’ll ever hear 🤯
    Aws bin Aws narrated:
    Allah's Messenger said to me:
    "Whoever performs Ghusl on Friday, and
    bathes completely, and goes early,
    arriving early, gets close and listens and
    is silent, there will be for him in every
    step he take the reward of a year of
    fasting and standing (in prayer).
    At-Tirmidhi (496)
    *Sahih hadith*

  • @tennehfromayan6387
    @tennehfromayan6387 2 роки тому +3

    I love this man 👨💯❤️he is the real deal

  • @PauloTavaresAcademy
    @PauloTavaresAcademy Місяць тому

    Awesome!!

  • @BlackieBluelick88
    @BlackieBluelick88 Місяць тому

    Good advice pops.

  • @xyz123abc
    @xyz123abc 2 роки тому +3

    I love him very much..I hv leard many things from him..

  • @shaymaanburkatally3544
    @shaymaanburkatally3544 2 роки тому +10

    I have learn a lot from it

  • @all-caps3927
    @all-caps3927 24 дні тому +1

    This is the type of open-minded islam we should all strive towards, thank you Mufti Menk

  • @jasminmiranskilelafajet3725
    @jasminmiranskilelafajet3725 2 роки тому +2

    Good save all Religions of this Planet that are with love Glory and healthness! And Mercy! Amen

  • @devilscharmangelspray6547
    @devilscharmangelspray6547 2 роки тому +22

    We are all humans regardless of where we come from, my husband is pakistani and I am english. I don't mind who my children marry as long as they do halal way and they are happy that is the main thing!

    • @alixasan8667
      @alixasan8667 2 роки тому

      May god bless you sister

    • @devilscharmangelspray6547
      @devilscharmangelspray6547 2 роки тому

      @@alixasan8667 jazakAllah may God bless you too, ameen!

    • @devilscharmangelspray6547
      @devilscharmangelspray6547 Рік тому

      @@rafaelw8115marry the halal way but if they don't what can I do exactly? I would just be upset, so this is why I'm teaching them right from wrong.I do not force them yet I am responsible for guiding them.

    • @devilscharmangelspray6547
      @devilscharmangelspray6547 Рік тому

      @@rafaelw8115 ok😂

  • @50CenT123smoke
    @50CenT123smoke 2 роки тому +12

    I was declined by my parents because I was going to marry a Christian woman. She was ready to take Shahadah but my parents blocked it because of their cultural beliefs. They couldn't accept a woman from who was Black from Jamaica. Basically my parents stopped me from getting a taste of Jannah. But InshaAllah I strive everyday to get there no matter what.

    • @kathleencove
      @kathleencove 2 місяці тому +2

      You’re allowed to disobey your parents. Love and respect them yes, but you’re an adult, you don’t have to obey them if they’re contradicting the faith. Subhan Allah, your parents aren’t gods. “No” is not a haram word to say to your parents if they’re in the wrong. Even Ibrahim (PBUH) had to cut ties with his father who refused to stop worshipping idols. Idols aren’t just figures of wood and clay. An idol can also be a celebrity, a president or king, money, social status, or culture. If your parents worship culture more than they worship Allah (SWT), they are committing idolatry. Culture is a beautiful thing, but it can’t be used to cause people suffering. You don’t have to listen to parents who are stopping you from marrying the woman you love because they’re idolatrous and worship race and culture. Put Allah (SWT) and your heart and soul first. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life if you let idolatrous parents steal your happiness.

    • @johannesheinrich9240
      @johannesheinrich9240 Місяць тому +1

      she showed that she was willed to give more than your parents wanted to give. I wish you all the best.

    • @DonR-zb2cm
      @DonR-zb2cm Місяць тому +2

      BINGO! I have witnessed this so many times. When it comes to black people Islam goes out the window for them. They are literally prepared to disown they’re children. This needs to be spoken about more it’s disgusting

    • @vulpesinculta9253
      @vulpesinculta9253 Місяць тому

      Maybe you should listen to your parents, bud. They're wiser than you are, and that's the case with almost everyone's parents, too.

    • @kathleencove
      @kathleencove Місяць тому +3

      @@vulpesinculta9253 There’s always that one person who’s gotta treat parents like they’re a replacement for God. Honoring, and blindly obeying to the point of sacrificing happiness, are two different things.

  • @md.fardinapon2051
    @md.fardinapon2051 Рік тому +1

    Alhamdulillah im a born muslim from a true practising muslim family from Bangladesh 😇💖 love to All
    Ramjan mubarak

  • @jawinkhantu9930
    @jawinkhantu9930 Місяць тому

    Words of wisdom well said

  • @KazumiHimechan
    @KazumiHimechan 2 роки тому +6

    In Malaysia, mix marriage is normal. Be it Muslims or non-Muslims. Big family of my friend will gather for Chinese New Year, Aidilfitri, Deepavali & Christmas because their family is so diverse, but they can live in harmony. That is one thing I love about Malaysia. Alhamdulillah, this is all from Allah.

    • @FahadFSA
      @FahadFSA 2 роки тому

      Do malay Muslims marry convert Chinese malaysians?

    • @KazumiHimechan
      @KazumiHimechan 2 роки тому +2

      @@FahadFSA Yes. Malays are accepting of other races. As long as that person is kind & willing to practice Islam, we can accept them in our family. Malay culture has a lot of similarity with Islamic practice. That's why it's only normal for Sultans to accept Islam & now all Malays are Muslims. Alhamdulillah, that's huge blessing from Allah.

    • @FahadFSA
      @FahadFSA 2 роки тому +2

      @@KazumiHimechan 👏👏. I love Malaysia. I miss the 2 months I spent in Miri Sarawak. 🇲🇾❤️🇵🇰

    • @madkhaliqfarhan
      @madkhaliqfarhan Рік тому

      Alhamdulillah... This is why I'm glad to be "Anak Malaysia"!

  • @MishalxIrfan
    @MishalxIrfan 2 роки тому +6

    Love from 🇲🇽♥

  • @kalimunda77
    @kalimunda77 Місяць тому

    Preach it brother!

  • @aadilhussain1101
    @aadilhussain1101 Місяць тому

    These lectures are all good and well..

  • @ANASantos519
    @ANASantos519 2 роки тому +53

    I’m portuguese my fiancée is arab. I became muslim for marry with him. 🤲🏻😌♥️

  • @abudanyaalabumousaal-alayq5079
    @abudanyaalabumousaal-alayq5079 2 роки тому +3

    Marrying someone with a different cultural or ethnic background isn't going to be without any problems.
    Just a simple example even a Muslim couple of Arabic background but from two differing Arabic countries like from from Algeria and Palestine will have to deal with difficulties at the beginning. From using different words for the same thing or different dishes or or or the list is long but both will have to learn to deal with it and to take a bit from the others "plate of life" always keeping in mind that their Imaan is uniting them and that their marriage is a blessing from Allah swt to bring out Insha'allah a better and open minded new generation of Muslims who think of the whole idea of Islam instead of national or cultural aspects.

    • @mohammedalasad389
      @mohammedalasad389 Рік тому

      You are totally right

    • @takeyouwithme743
      @takeyouwithme743 Рік тому

      so now it s a big deal if we name things differently? within few years in marriage, both would have learned so much about each other's cultures , language and customs. We all come in this world knowing nothing and we leave with nothing except our deeds.

  • @Sophie-cw7bf
    @Sophie-cw7bf Місяць тому +1

    This man is very knowledgeable thank you so much sir for your speech

  • @islamicshowwithmohammed4237
    @islamicshowwithmohammed4237 2 роки тому +1

    High respect for u sir from kashmir

  • @asfarameeralee5022
    @asfarameeralee5022 2 роки тому +3

    The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
    "Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd]
    Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit.
    May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen
    God bless you 🇲🇺

  • @her.radiantlove
    @her.radiantlove 11 місяців тому +4

    Love this as a Christian woman💕

  • @marissasampaco371
    @marissasampaco371 Місяць тому

    I agree with you....Your a good man❤

  • @ingenieurgadonoma225
    @ingenieurgadonoma225 2 роки тому

    Thanks a lot.

  • @m....3767
    @m....3767 2 роки тому +5

    MaShaAllah

  • @user-bx8ty4zx2k
    @user-bx8ty4zx2k 2 роки тому +3

    Take salam from those who are reading my comments.i am going to get married in the next months.please pray to our lord,Allah sothat i get the barakah of the marriage. Your prayer to Allah for me is important for our happy married life.May Allah grant happiness to everyone,amin

  • @rosiehill4096
    @rosiehill4096 2 роки тому +2

    I can not go to sleep until I listen to you. 🙏

  • @smartfocus1
    @smartfocus1 2 роки тому

    I think the settlement is a better thing to note, most of the time the outer caste people don't want to be the part of the spouse family, especially the wife she wants to prefer her family or caste rather than to be part of her husband's family and then the children are confused to which side they should go paternal or maternal, so when a woman from your tradition or culture come to your life she can understand what is going on in her husband's family or how she would foster the next generation

  • @minalsalam2426
    @minalsalam2426 2 роки тому +26

    Love is colorless , it's not just something we say , it's something we do ! Love objectively , not subjectively .

  • @raftai665
    @raftai665 Рік тому +2

    Jubayr ibn Mut’im reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “He is not one of us who calls to tribalism. He is not one of us who fights for the sake of tribalism. He is not one of us who dies following the way of tribalism.”

  • @sahib-ul-amama5819
    @sahib-ul-amama5819 2 роки тому +1

    مجھے صبر دینا مولا 💕
    اپنے علاوہ کسی کے سامنے جھکنے نہ دینا✋🏻🤚🏻
    نہ ہی کسی کی نظروں میں👀
    اور نہ ہی کسی کے قدموں میں.............
    _______

  • @ImmortalExplorer
    @ImmortalExplorer 5 місяців тому

    Fair play mate.

  • @abelievereverrising283
    @abelievereverrising283 2 роки тому +11

    May Allah forgive us

  • @acajudi100
    @acajudi100 2 роки тому +3

    Marry who you want, as long as you are happy. I married my own nationality. One race..Human..

  • @dr.tanveerahmedph.d4176
    @dr.tanveerahmedph.d4176 13 днів тому

    Of course it is. One of the most important aspect of any relationship is communication. What better way to communicate than your own native language..
    Any relationship requires getting along and working out differences. Even when you're married to someone from same culture, each individual and life style would be different and u would have to make adjustments for your partner. When you marry or date someone belonging to an entirely different culture, language etc it requires all the more adjustments and sacrifices.

  • @shelleylarose
    @shelleylarose Місяць тому +1

    Love this guy

  • @mystique9669
    @mystique9669 2 роки тому +4

    Race shouldn't even be a deciding factor. If you feel a person is not good enough based on their race then you are not fit to be a Muslim. Allah judges you based on your deeds not your appearance. Marry who you want and be happy. Inshallah

    • @Enno9
      @Enno9 3 місяці тому

      If an asian man steals something He is going to get the punisment as Same as an european. What Allah meant was that everybody is going to get the same outcome for sins.