Therapy and Theology: Good Guilt vs. Destructive Shame

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  • @skastner7684
    @skastner7684 Рік тому +1

    such a brilliant teaching + especially the combination of Theology with Counselling and personal experiences. I had so many "aha moments" when you shared about what shame does to the mind. It is sooo brilliant that I had to listen twice and surely will listen again + recommend this teaching. Thanks for sharing these helpful insights + mainly for all your efforts and research + all inputs you have given to make this such a relevant + helpful video.

  • @barbarayoung5632
    @barbarayoung5632 9 місяців тому +4

    Thank God for this day & this show I lived in shame & guilt for over 30 years. God had already started to heal me about a month ago by making me aware of what was happening and then He blessed me to hear this show! Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to help me see myself even further! Thank You!!! ❤

  • @niklever73
    @niklever73 3 роки тому +24

    Beautifully stated. Thank you all so much! God never wastes our pain. Keep healing Lysa!

  • @betsyferrell
    @betsyferrell Рік тому +1

    27:21 thank you. Praising God for your ministry to us

  • @YolandaMatta-t5q
    @YolandaMatta-t5q 11 місяців тому

    THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART‼This particular podcast brought so many confirmation, clarity and insight to my own situation that worth above and beyond second spent listening to it...THANK WARRIORS‼🔥💥☄

  • @carynplatt9790
    @carynplatt9790 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you for speaking these truths! Thank you for your transparency, Lysa! You are such a blessing! May you experience the blessings of God in your life!

    • @gobigandgohomeschool4882
      @gobigandgohomeschool4882 11 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing the shame you eld for your abortion. I just want others who maybe reading this to know that free help is available. Pregnancy Resource Centers everywhere offer free post abortion counseling.

  • @leonalirangues3340
    @leonalirangues3340 Рік тому +1

    This is excellent. Every denomination should have this support. Best of theology and psychology. I wish my Catholic denomination would have more of this. Thank you.

  • @eboronkay
    @eboronkay 3 роки тому +15

    Wow! This is the best session yet. Truly potentially life-changing wisdom here because it comes from The Word and people steeping in His presence.
    I sent this link to my Celebrate Recovery Ministry leader, my sponsor, my sponsees, my accountability partners, and my children.
    There are not words enough to adequately thank you for serving our Father God in this way.

  • @pattypisces
    @pattypisces 3 місяці тому +1

    This is definitely a blessing listening to their knowledge

  • @michelelovechrist9148
    @michelelovechrist9148 2 роки тому +6

    Beautiful lesson it helped me to me so much in understanding shame. And good guilt. Thank you so… much🌺

  • @beckmarlow8055
    @beckmarlow8055 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Lord so happy for you all!!

  • @ruthchaffer646
    @ruthchaffer646 Рік тому

    Thank you Joel for all your deep studies of ancient cultures. It really helps me to understand the scriptures within their context and increases my faith. Thanks for digging these things up and sharing it with us👍👍👍

  • @Thankful305
    @Thankful305 3 роки тому +12

    I love the 3 of you and cant get enough of these ! Please make more.
    It's remarkable how much insight I get listening to these! ❤
    Gotta rename y'all....
    "Therapy, Theology and the Thinker"
    Yes Lysa is a deep thinker! If she wasn't, she couldnt bring the truth of The Word to life, for the rest of us!

  • @slloyd4278
    @slloyd4278 Рік тому +1

    I am so blessed to have found ur channel
    I am a trained therapist but currently bk in therapy for so much past trauma. I am also in Faith & have struggled with the repressed memories & addiction.
    I am finding renewed hope. Getting support &have ended my relationship with alcohol.
    I am healing and ur conversation has made so much sense of me.
    Thank you☺️❤️🙏

  • @mistielmore4741
    @mistielmore4741 Рік тому

    I love this program, God so put you all together, thank y'all for hearts!

  • @tanyalenmark4194
    @tanyalenmark4194 Рік тому +2

    Love you Three , and you have blessed me so much
    Thank you💖 🍀🐇🌷have a lovely Easter Sunday.

  • @darlingprincess4822
    @darlingprincess4822 9 місяців тому

    Thank you so much Lisa, Joel and Jim.If the root of addiction is shame, God's answer is that we are to be rooted and grounded in Love. I used to know this, deeply. God brought me from the uttermost to the uttermost; from used and abused, crying on the doorsteps of a church, to speaking at the podium and conferences and teaching and leading from His Holy Word, by His Holy Spirit. But when one tragic event after another occurred, I drifted, lost in the trauma, barely breathing for lengths of time. Reaching for relief from the very physical pain, brought me to my knees again and again and again. I spoke recently for a dearly loved sister in Christ, who called me afterward to let me know of her grave concern, because I spoke from a dark place. The light of His redemptive power was muted from the stage that night. I was very tired, but the real problem was a revived sense of shame, rather than His wholly restorative Love, which she'd heard from me years prior. I cannot thank you enough for these broadcasts. "Return to saturate in My Word," I hear Him say. Thank you.

    • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries
      @OfficialProverbs31Ministries  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing your story with us, friend. We're so glad this video was helpful to you!

  • @SR-hn4xf
    @SR-hn4xf Рік тому +1

    This is absolutely fantastic video filled with so much wisdom 🙌

  • @BrideofChrist11
    @BrideofChrist11 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much.....this has really ministered to me.....just felt His Spirit throughout all this session !

  • @HandmadeHomegrownArtist
    @HandmadeHomegrownArtist Рік тому

    Ty for everything ☺️🙏❤️

  • @zechariah4663
    @zechariah4663 3 роки тому +15

    I love these!!!!
    Please make this permanent!!
    This is an on-time work and I love the title. I have often wondered why we as Christians cannot mix I therapy in theology. I divorced a narcissist after 16 painful years of marriage the last 6 years he has worked to alienate our daughter from me and 10 days ago I called the police and had her taken from my home. Well-meaning friends site biblical platitudes that only serve to increase my shame and make me feel that I'm not a good Christian because I doubt that God is really here for me. I have prayed and I have fasted and I have been the bigger person and I dealt with emotional abuse for 16 years and then another six years after the divorce. I'm living the Jobe existence and wondering what else God is going to allow the enemy to take from me. I am in counseling with a wonderful Christian counselor but this is hard day after day. I've purchased this devotion to have something tangible to look at and to clean too and to walk me through these really dark days. Thank you Lysa and proverbs 31 Ministries

    • @Thankful305
      @Thankful305 3 роки тому +3

      Father, you are the God who sees, El Roi!
      Wrap your infinite arms of Love around your daughter and heal her broken heart. Restore her soul! Bring the comfort of reassurance to Zechariah 4:6, that "You are there'! Refresh her Holy Spirit!!
      Restore her daughter back to loving connection with her. Reveal wisdom and understanding as she keeps her eyes on you and not the circumstances ....as hard as that is for us humans. Bless her~ In Jesus mighty name...AMEN!

    • @zechariah4663
      @zechariah4663 3 роки тому

      @@Thankful305
      Thank you😭😭😭😭😭

    • @Thankful305
      @Thankful305 3 роки тому +3

      @@zechariah4663 🤗
      I am in a very similar situation. I get your pain. It's real.
      The enemy wants our eyes OFF of our magnificent, mighty JESUS.
      Just take His hand and let Him walk with you!
      It's not by might, nor by power but by His Spirit (❤ that verse!)...THAT Is your blessed assurance and assignment of faith, that can be relied upon 🤗
      SHALOM ALEICHEM !!

    • @zechariah4663
      @zechariah4663 3 роки тому +2

      @@Thankful305
      This was the verse God gave me when I cried out to him at the ending of my marriage. I asked him how in the world I was going to do this. How was I going to escape this abuse. I was not very familiar with my Bible but I heard not by power nor by might. I then went to Google and did a search and this is what I found. I need him to answer me like he did back then

    • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries
      @OfficialProverbs31Ministries  3 роки тому +4

      Thank you for tuning in, friend. We're glad these have helped you! Be sure to subscribe to the channel so you can be notified of new episodes as soon as they release!

  • @livewire5619
    @livewire5619 Рік тому +1

    great job as always.Good guilt( sorrow)

  • @stephaniechilds2932
    @stephaniechilds2932 3 роки тому +7

    Wow Lysa I had no idea we had so much in common! Thanks for being so transparent! I to had an abortion and have been healing for years now, I am now trying to start my own abortion recovery ministry!

  • @michelinellussier
    @michelinellussier 2 місяці тому

    You are the answer!

  • @michelynnmoss7253
    @michelynnmoss7253 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for this Beautiful message 🙏🏽

  • @courtneyharmsworth6048
    @courtneyharmsworth6048 3 роки тому +3

    Wow..... so powerful and informative. Thank you so much for this incredible resource ❤️

  • @tracytabitha
    @tracytabitha 3 роки тому +7

    I have so much to say but I think thank you so much sums it up

  • @elaineduran8903
    @elaineduran8903 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for this. Helps especially the post of this which is spoken

  • @pattyhall9750
    @pattyhall9750 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you! I needed to hear this!

  • @wlestini
    @wlestini 3 роки тому +3

    So good! Thank you

  • @johnnycalderon833
    @johnnycalderon833 Рік тому

    You for this video❤

  • @rebeccahayhurst442
    @rebeccahayhurst442 3 роки тому +6

    This was such a powerful and conversation. Thank you!

  • @DenisePass-SeeingDeep
    @DenisePass-SeeingDeep 3 роки тому +2

    Beautiful truth!

  • @bn4194
    @bn4194 3 роки тому +10

    Please pray for my teen son who seems to be running and making bad choices. His bio dad wasn’t in his life. He is staying away from a loving family and hanging around bad influences. Me as his mom am worried about this path he is on.

    • @dianaceballosarruda319
      @dianaceballosarruda319 3 роки тому +4

      Hi. My family and I went through the same thing with my brother. Surround your son with prayer, the most powerful weapon. Always ask The Holy Spirit to lead your prayers. And whatever comes, make sure your son knows you love him ❤️

    • @mel3256
      @mel3256 3 роки тому +2

      Remember prayer is action and is powerful. Roman 8:28 God can use all things for good. Your son's and your painful experiences can make you stronger and to show us how dependent we are on our heavenly father.

    • @OfficialProverbs31Ministries
      @OfficialProverbs31Ministries  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing, friend. We're praying for your son!

    • @eboronkay
      @eboronkay 2 роки тому

      BN, I’m praying for you and your family right now.

  • @mellissiad7281
    @mellissiad7281 Рік тому +1

    I recall when I was young and gave myself away before I was married
    I recall my eyes felt like I literally put on a new pair of glasses LITERALLY
    I felt grown up and I know now it was pride
    I heard clearly “ now u know how Adam and Eve felt when they sobbed in the garden “
    Years later I revisited that and challenged that statement and said to the enemy “ you want to go there ok let’s see how God the Father covered me and cursed u!” My point is it’s not to make excuses for my sin but it was very much about my lack of understanding of Gods redemption Love and provision
    And he the enemy continued the process of the deception of garden

  • @liliherndz5792
    @liliherndz5792 2 роки тому

    Psalm 51 LOVE LOVE LOVE …Exit RMP to HOLY TRINTY 🕊✝️🕊 inner HEAVEN
    Every single word you have spoken …Is a
    LIFE GIVING HEALTHY HUMAN CONNECTION …AMEN
    WHOM the SON ✝️ has SET FREE is TRULY FREE indeed …AMEN

  • @michelekeck7716
    @michelekeck7716 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for these wonderful series,l appreciate it all so much and you all complent each other in the beautiful dance and flow of what you have to give from your roles and giftings.may I ask the theologian pleas why in Ephesians sometimes the deity was called Diana and sometimes Artemis.i received some ministry once for an informative influence concerning my tendency to seek knowledge through excessive reading,amongst the other associations with the deity of Ephesians combined then with a somewhat spirit of independence.lfelt grateful as always do at God,s revelation but bewildered,hurt and embarrassed at my counselors annoyance with me as l perceived it ,that as a Christian of a long time it should not have been necessary.they seemed exasperated and disappointed that it be so, in my spiritual journey. This may have been my perception.as I said I was surprised, hurt and bewildered.during the following week,I would dissociately become like a little child and give out an involuntary cry,mummy. Iws unwellfor about 2 months after.as an adult I knew intellectually there were some things mentioned that I knew were generational and thought they had been already dealt with,hence my surprise,but they did not know that. Is this an example of child deep trauma emerging in my subsequent responses and illness. God is always ministering into our deepest heart places in his tender and unfathomable love, constantly bringing us along out of true and false shame, reshaping us again and again eternally into his beautiful image .all praise and glory be to him in Christ Jesus.

  • @gloriahorvath3778
    @gloriahorvath3778 4 місяці тому

    If only I trusted people. I spent 30 years trying to stay married to an abusive liar. I finally left the abuse. I call everyday a vacation. I always regret being around people…….I tell them things and regret it later.

  • @amandakate1247
    @amandakate1247 3 роки тому +9

    Self
    Hatred
    At
    My
    Expense

  • @casmccann3036
    @casmccann3036 2 роки тому +1

    You said you were going to be sure we had access to cards because there were so many verses. How can I find them?

  • @jclilstar1973
    @jclilstar1973 3 роки тому

    Will there be any new videos from you three coming up soon?

    • @eboronkay
      @eboronkay 2 роки тому

      There’s a wonderful new series that just started a few weeks ago.

  • @stevedavies8703
    @stevedavies8703 3 роки тому +1

    Maybe I don't understand this subject fully, but shame is not all negative; surely to repent is to accept reproach for the wickedness of our actions, and that obviously involves a level if shame. This makes the words of Jesus understandable when he said, unless you hate yourself, you cannot be my disciple

    • @suefagan7528
      @suefagan7528 3 роки тому

      That is not accurate at all. We should hate our SIN but not ourselves. Dig deep into the bible and you will see what a loving gracious God we serve.

    • @stevedavies8703
      @stevedavies8703 3 роки тому

      @@suefagan7528 Your certainly missing the mark! Hate our sin? Sounds like ownership. We are to hate all sin: GOD does. If you have sin, you are in a state of rebellion and lost. The idea that you can have any sin and be in fellowship with GOD is antichrist.

    • @suefagan7528
      @suefagan7528 3 роки тому

      @@stevedavies8703 ok Steve. Well I'm not trying to get you worked up but give me chapter and verse where Jesus says unless you hate YOURSELF you cannot be my disciple.

    • @eboronkay
      @eboronkay 2 роки тому +1

      The self we are to hate is the one we were before Christ made us new. That self, not the justified being sanctified self who lives because Christ lives in me, is the self to hate. I had to hate her to let her go. I had to hate her for spending so long thinking she could solve her own problems. I had to hate her pride and ego to surrender completely. Years down the line now I see her with the compassion that our Father God obviously had toward me in order to pursue me and adopt me.
      I still struggle with rebellion around food and exercise which are the sins of gluttony and sloth. Yet I know that I am loved in the same way, but exponentially better, that I have continued to love my children in their rebellion, when they were doing things that I knew were harmful.
      I don’t hate myself now because myself is in Christ, being perfected (with much stumbling) until the day when I see Christ’s face and He will finish me perfectly in that moment.

    • @tjsa4gold
      @tjsa4gold 4 місяці тому

      Where can I find the Bible verses from this show please. Much needed assistance from the word.

  • @jessie_cutebunny
    @jessie_cutebunny 2 роки тому

    Conviction is the cry of a baby saying its diaper needs changing. Condemnation is the diaper rash that results after not dealing with the mess, whether big or small.

  • @Isthishandletakenalready
    @Isthishandletakenalready Рік тому

    How is self glorification a form of self hatred, please expound, thanks!

  • @MM-vg4du
    @MM-vg4du 3 роки тому

    So by design, how can we claim the we are children of a good and capable god when 2/3 od our brain systems are incapable to respond adequately to external threat ?🤔

  • @patrickcasey4609
    @patrickcasey4609 2 роки тому

    So can you explain why religion condemns new born baby's are born into sin, creating shame from the onset ?

    • @eboronkay
      @eboronkay 2 роки тому

      That is not a shaming truth, just truth. Because we are genetically connected to Adam and Eve, their sin is passed to us. A newborn seems innocent. Watch that infant become a toddler. Mine and No are among first words. Mine is our inherent inherited self-centeredness. No is our inherent inherited rebellion against authority. The ultimate authority is God. Rebellion against God is sin. Thus we come to the truth that we are born sinful.

    • @patrickcasey4609
      @patrickcasey4609 2 роки тому

      You have a man made believe system. The above interview is rubbish they are earning money that is their living keeping the negative narrative of living in this world going. Ask yourself if there's life for ever after why do we spend billions on keeping people alive You couldn't make it up or could you!