Why Men Ghost You: The Brutal Truth (and How to Handle It)

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  • @brittthecancerqueenempress9137
    @brittthecancerqueenempress9137 2 дні тому +67

    He’s right ladies 💯

  • @fluffythebluepersian4888
    @fluffythebluepersian4888 2 дні тому +141

    Yess I'm not concerned about why he chose to ghost. All that matters is that he did and that I stay silent and move on.

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  2 дні тому +20

      Exactly! ❤

    • @ONLYmindYourBusiness
      @ONLYmindYourBusiness 2 дні тому +7

      This..... This... This!!

    • @staceywood7800
      @staceywood7800 2 дні тому +12

      And NEVER take him back!!!! 😘

    • @4cocoabutta
      @4cocoabutta 14 годин тому +3

      Yes! That’s it. I don’t need to know anything else. You ghosted, stay a ghost. Casper the ghost. Lol 😂

  • @ЛичныйТелефон
    @ЛичныйТелефон День тому +55

    Playing with souls is not good. Anyone can lose interest. But a respectful ending with dignity and grace is the approach of decent people.

    • @frederickabell8749
      @frederickabell8749 13 годин тому +1

      Yes and they wonder why they don’t have any luck.. or why is happening they don’t understand

  • @brittthecancerqueenempress9137
    @brittthecancerqueenempress9137 2 дні тому +102

    I was just talking about this earlier , you will never be good enough for the wrong person 👌🏾

  • @morphing
    @morphing 2 дні тому +54

    Yes! Choose people who choose you

  • @VirgosGroove3
    @VirgosGroove3 День тому +30

    Ghosting hurts low key. I’d rather them just say they’re not that interested.

  • @lilithrixdorf
    @lilithrixdorf День тому +23

    If someone doesn't appreciate your presence, give them the gift of your absence!

  • @MJacobsHarris
    @MJacobsHarris 2 дні тому +46

    I like that positive look on it, your correct. You probably would have not stayed interested, and or you would have been mistreated by him either way. Because he really doesn’t want you.

  • @iamdreday8224
    @iamdreday8224 2 дні тому +26

    I needed to hear this for re-enforcement. This is why I say he didn’t make you a placeholder…you kept yourself as the placeholder. Park them in the lot n drive on to the next destination

  • @techariahkilpatrick4486
    @techariahkilpatrick4486 День тому +14

    Listen here!! After a man ghost me and decides he wants to reach back out weeks later. I’m definitely not responding back. Bc he gone think it’s cool to keep doing that mess if u let him.

  • @Shanieceflordi
    @Shanieceflordi 23 години тому +48

    Fantastic video A month ago, my five-year marriage came to an end. I'm devastated that my real love chose to distance themselves from me. I've tried everything to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I try my hardest not to think about him, but I can't help but miss him and think about him often. I truly couldn't explain why I'm saying this. 🥺😞

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 23 години тому

      I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 23 години тому

      How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 23 години тому

      His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 23 години тому

      He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 23 години тому

      I simply used your useful information to look him up online. Amazing
      I looked up Father Obah Eze online, and he seems like a sincere person. Again, thank you ❤

  • @tashathomas2552
    @tashathomas2552 День тому +6

    The unhealed version of me wanted to know, why. But now, I'm grateful, bcuz I'm not putting energy into something that's NOT for me!

  • @DST6lady
    @DST6lady 2 дні тому +69

    Recently after 3 or 4 months of dating and talking daily. Spoke Christmas Eve and texted on Christmas then ghosted. Two weeks later he reaches out asking if I'm still alive and I said "I sure hope so. Who is this". 😂 Boy bye!

    • @Heyitschy03
      @Heyitschy03 2 дні тому +12

      The 3 month rule is real.

    • @Sincerity_7
      @Sincerity_7 2 дні тому +10

      The ghost of Christmas past

    • @ONLYmindYourBusiness
      @ONLYmindYourBusiness 2 дні тому +8

      "Who is this?" Is a good one 😁

    • @Angelic_Allure
      @Angelic_Allure 2 дні тому +5

      Love the playfulness in your message. Yea he gonna think you the one who got away..well, let get away

    • @theshadylady1982
      @theshadylady1982 2 дні тому +4

      Hell ya! Did you ghost me? I hadn't noticed. Lol

  • @ONLYmindYourBusiness
    @ONLYmindYourBusiness 2 дні тому +49

    Here's what you do: MOVE ON!

  • @teresa-gn3gs
    @teresa-gn3gs День тому +10

    Amen I needed to hear this .
    Their inadequacies are within them and NOT 🚫 within me.

  • @keysha2030
    @keysha2030 День тому +8

    Stop forcing things ladies it's not us or maybe it is but it's OK ❤

  • @mzasl8
    @mzasl8 2 дні тому +17

    Ooh wee! I was JUST thinking myself in a hole.... this was RIGHT ON TIME! Thank you!

  • @dollyscott-payne7488
    @dollyscott-payne7488 День тому +3

    *Everything MJ said is right on point...HOWEVER, after ghosting you, they should not circle YOUR block repeatedly or constantly stalk you 😤! For whatever reason(s), they chose to ghost you. So, they should keep it moving in another direction👻!!!*

  • @Angelic_Allure
    @Angelic_Allure 2 дні тому +15

    💯Truth! Im now at an Omarion level of unbothered lol. Grateful to have learned my lesson

  • @valeb3337
    @valeb3337 День тому +9

    Needed to hear this. any man that haven’t told me Happy New Year is left in last year. It shows that they don’t care or think about me 😅

  • @Nia_lacubana
    @Nia_lacubana 11 годин тому +2

    Thank youuuuu!! Who we are unsure about and they are clearly unsure about us. Feeling anxiety in any part of the relationship especially in the beginning is not the goal. Peace and Consistency is. ❤

  • @Holagracias1
    @Holagracias1 2 дні тому +9

    I'm in a happy healthy relationship and I've noticed so many people that I thought were my friends aren't really happy for me

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell День тому +2

    Very few people end a situation before starting another. Can’t be alone.

  • @MJHarrisSpeaks
    @MJHarrisSpeaks  2 дні тому +18

    Have you ever been ghosted? How did you handle it?

    • @brittthecancerqueenempress9137
      @brittthecancerqueenempress9137 2 дні тому +3

      I’m dealing with this now but he stalking me online and liked one of my pics recently 😏

    • @nieshathompson2080
      @nieshathompson2080 2 дні тому +5

      I was ghosted 2 weeks ago. But I found out that he got arrested and got out, but I still wanted to be his friend, but he blocked me so I blocked him back. He can only view my stories and see that I'm moving on. It hurts but this was his decision.

    • @chacaragibson5060
      @chacaragibson5060 2 дні тому +7

      Took it as it was and never reached back out, I just accepted it as it was and kept moving on with life & healed from it.....

    • @ONLYmindYourBusiness
      @ONLYmindYourBusiness 2 дні тому

      Yes... But, I didn't knife it was ghosting at the time.

    • @ONLYmindYourBusiness
      @ONLYmindYourBusiness 2 дні тому

      ​@@chacaragibson5060Have he tried to reach out?

  • @metro3372
    @metro3372 8 годин тому +2

    I don't want an unhealed man. If you're fresh out of a relationship, keep it moving.

  • @capers1766
    @capers1766 2 дні тому +25

    Let him stay a ghost because its not worth the pain your causing yourself

  • @TheDietrichb2005
    @TheDietrichb2005 День тому +4

    Omg I needed this conversation thank you for posting this. Hunty you just gave me life!!

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  День тому

      You’re welcome! I’m glad you found it helpful. 💕

  • @laiken_poppy2025
    @laiken_poppy2025 2 дні тому +22

    I'm cool on ever dating ever tf again! once I recover from this injury,I'ma forever be chasing a bag! eff a man,child! I'm tired!🤣🤣🤣

  • @Theresa08648
    @Theresa08648 11 годин тому +1

    Thank you for bringing this message to me!!!
    I needed this message desperately.. My ego was why I tried to get him back when he clearly moved on. As a result, I turned down several dates with good men who were interested in me..

  • @F.a.i.t.h.speaks
    @F.a.i.t.h.speaks День тому +3

    Whew I needed to hear this. This was at the perfect timing. I don’t think this was a coincidence but rather God wanting to make sure I received this message. I’m saying Amen and Ouch lol.

  • @Sincerity_7
    @Sincerity_7 2 дні тому +10

    I needed to hear this ta-day!!!

  • @michaelaengels7825
    @michaelaengels7825 10 годин тому +1

    Yes, you are correct and so smart. You learned your lessons. But some people unluckily will do the same error again and again. No learning effect, or the guy was too handsome 😂

  • @Butterfly5335-s5d
    @Butterfly5335-s5d 2 дні тому +9

    MJ, You always absolutely and unequivocally speak the truth!! .. You provide most excellent and truthful advice all the time!! .. Exactly Why We All Appreciate You!! .. You certainly know of what you speak!! .. In addition, you look very beautiful and certainly do inspire us to be as smart and lovely as you!! ... HAPPY NEW YEAR BEAUTIFUL!! ❤❤❤

  • @MiMiMillionz
    @MiMiMillionz День тому +4

    Thanks MJ for the confirmation!!! On to the next … !!

  • @leahalexis9371
    @leahalexis9371 2 дні тому +8

    Gather us MJ!!!! 😩😩. You ain't said nothing but the truth here honey!!

  • @Kareena1988
    @Kareena1988 День тому +6

    💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥Never allow a man to show you twice that he doesnt want you. Its my mantra for life. Also for people...Im not an option to choose from when you are lonely or bored💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥

  • @Dr.DeeDesta
    @Dr.DeeDesta День тому +6

    Right on time. Life too short. We aint gettin no skinnier! Or younger! 😂

  • @JoanneSmith-i3c
    @JoanneSmith-i3c День тому +1

    I needed to hear this because it happened to me recently I feel like I got played 😢but my cut off game is strong 💪 asf !!! PREACH MJ THANK YOU 🙏 You came in at the right time GODBLESS YOU ❤

  • @nyeshashante
    @nyeshashante 2 дні тому +4

    I love your videos Mj. You really never miss.

  • @cherylalston363
    @cherylalston363 2 дні тому +5

    Speak your truth 👏 MJ.....always on point 👉 ❤

  • @aguitawata
    @aguitawata 2 дні тому +9

    All my favorite dating coaches speak as if there are loads of qualified candidates available today for endless "moving on" & dating new ones... I meet like one every few years and of course get disappointed when, after having enough shared values, he disappears... yes, I go out to events where like-minded people gather, yes I go out in public, yes I go where the men are. I don't have the most popular lifestyle, to put it mildly, and don't sleep with men quickly, so they don't resonate

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  2 дні тому +7

      I hear you-it can be frustrating when the dating pool feels limited. But I do believe that the options are far more expansive than we may think. Sometimes, we can expand our options by changing our “type” or by placing ourselves outside of our comfort zone in different spaces and places.

    • @teenyafrombim8642
      @teenyafrombim8642 3 години тому

      Me too. It takes me years to find someone who interest me so moving on is easier said than done. My girlfriends recently admitted that the pool at my age is small so the battle is not to let the scarcity mindset to set in. Faith does not worry and value doesnt beg so I wont devalue myself by begging. I will continue looking for my tribe

  • @selkertazumi9660
    @selkertazumi9660 2 дні тому +3

    You are 100% correct.
    Going back to my original way of thinking.

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  День тому

      It's good to be back on the right track! ❤❤❤

  • @faunamaua394
    @faunamaua394 День тому +3

    MJ....I feel & hear your vibration all the way from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
    Let me buckle up and accept the reality...
    Thanksssssss❤❤❤

  • @akomimonica3780
    @akomimonica3780 День тому +4

    Wow thank you for seeing this video on time. We move🎉

  • @sheilawheeler5006
    @sheilawheeler5006 2 дні тому +4

    I needed this!

  • @mysticIvy324
    @mysticIvy324 День тому +3

    Haha snif snif, I'm good 😂😂😂 it happens so much with all the technology and modes of connections in this day and age. It's hard for people to stay focused!

  • @mermaidmonroe1947
    @mermaidmonroe1947 2 дні тому +13

    Was ghosted by a guy who later came back and told me I make too much money to be a wife. I’m never dating again, I’ve haven’t been the same since, MJ 😢

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  2 дні тому +39

      He sounds broken and insecure. Don’t let that fractured excuse of a man keep you from finding love. ❤

    • @QueenKetia
      @QueenKetia 2 дні тому +12

      Please don't give up because of his insecurities. Move on so you can be loved properly ❤

    • @2mccsinapack737
      @2mccsinapack737 6 годин тому

      What???

    • @jacquelinef7174
      @jacquelinef7174 5 годин тому

      What?!? Omg, that fool sounds like Ikechi from "Married at First Sight " 😮. He's intimidated by a successful BW.

  • @callystaparis
    @callystaparis 12 годин тому

    ALWAYS SPEAKING FACTS

  • @aalulaa2549
    @aalulaa2549 День тому +4

    Thank you this is all I needed today 😂

  • @monday2756
    @monday2756 День тому +1

    OMG . MJHARRIS ! I LIKE YOU A LOT ❤❤❤. YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH 🙋🏻‍♀️

  • @natalielewis5321
    @natalielewis5321 2 дні тому +1

    Love, love, LOVE THIS! SO empowering. Thank you ❤

  • @verastoner6165
    @verastoner6165 2 дні тому +6

    And on to the next I go and I don't do the spin the block thing🎯

  • @renae9199
    @renae9199 День тому

    Your message was much needed. Thank you ❤

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 2 дні тому +2

    KEEP MOVING THE ENERGY🎉

  • @dorisgiridi7548
    @dorisgiridi7548 2 дні тому +2

    Love you. Straight to the point. Thank you ❤😊

  • @Serendipitous444
    @Serendipitous444 2 дні тому +1

    Love the new astheics of the channel the thumbnail and the background throughout the video 🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  День тому

      Thank you! I'm so glad you're enjoying the new look. 🙏🏽💕

  • @kosmopolitanna
    @kosmopolitanna День тому +1

    Perfect guidance.

  • @LaSultrySoul
    @LaSultrySoul День тому +1

    MJ this was one of your best videos I have ever watched. The delivery was on point and it sat in my lap life husky kid. Thank you.❤❤❤

  • @ABLOVE211
    @ABLOVE211 2 дні тому +3

    I needed to hear this thank you!

  • @xica225
    @xica225 День тому

    You are so Right. Thank you!!!

  • @JRLM-e8m
    @JRLM-e8m 18 годин тому

    Excellent video as always best friend MJ!! ❤️

  • @zeens07111
    @zeens07111 День тому

    Spot on ❤ thank you I needed this 😊

  • @roseglitter6786
    @roseglitter6786 День тому

    Thank you for this. It’s just what I needed to hear. ❤

  • @shans_worldx
    @shans_worldx 16 годин тому

    Gem after gem 💎 whew! Thank you so much for this. Ladies, let’s take notes 📝

  • @SammieDuncan-v3u
    @SammieDuncan-v3u 2 години тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤thanks man

  • @caped.6736
    @caped.6736 День тому

    MJ is back with the great advice & self-love ✨️❤

  • @craftorria
    @craftorria День тому

    Thank you for this video

  • @nieshathompson2080
    @nieshathompson2080 2 дні тому +1

    Thank you for this video.

  • @Prettylady2211
    @Prettylady2211 День тому

    Straight 2 the point. I needed 2 hear this….Thank u so much ❤

  • @Chardonnepaynter
    @Chardonnepaynter 2 дні тому +1

    I LOVE THESE VIDEOS!

  • @nattalefrancis8267
    @nattalefrancis8267 2 дні тому +2

    you are right and you are talking about me i love so much i do not know how to let go

    • @iamdreday8224
      @iamdreday8224 2 дні тому

      You’re not alone, Queen. I love hard too n heartbreak is not easy but we always find a way to stand up again. Listen…I’m grieving a dude who introduced me to his mom n siblings after 4mths of dating n his dad told him to go meet my family. 6mth mark…I’m starting to grieve him like he died. His communication shifting…so I shift too ✌🏾

  • @brendaangasan9379
    @brendaangasan9379 День тому

    Truth all day 💯

  • @aprilsochic
    @aprilsochic День тому +1

    Video on setting boundaries

  • @juliamatthew4
    @juliamatthew4 День тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤ Happy New Years everyone Blessings and Love 😍 to all family friends and subscribers Love in the house from Trinidad West Indies ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @pain2powermyrig893
    @pain2powermyrig893 День тому

    This is good!!!!

  • @Zahraa-kk5hp
    @Zahraa-kk5hp 2 дні тому

    You are amazing! BIG Thank you ❤

  • @MaynardsSpaceship
    @MaynardsSpaceship 2 дні тому +2

    If it weren't such a hassle to change my number, I'd do it. 😅 It started with an email 2 years after HE told me his therapist said we shouldn't speak anymore- I shouldn't have responded!!!!
    "Can we move to texting?" 🙄🙄🙄
    Then
    "...I have to tell you that I lied to my therapist about you. I was scared."
    Gurl, now he's on my blocked list. I can't.

  • @Dreamsareareality
    @Dreamsareareality День тому

    Thank you and as always you are amazing and 💯 ❤😊

  • @mabajaki5555
    @mabajaki5555 День тому

    Great video! ❤

  • @dnoelani5588
    @dnoelani5588 День тому

    Thank you! 💖💖💖

  • @Ladiesfirst321
    @Ladiesfirst321 2 дні тому +3

    Leave the door open?! I think NOT!
    First time shame on him 2nd time shame on you boo. Take it for what it is and reaction to his action.

  • @THEPOWERISINYOU
    @THEPOWERISINYOU День тому

    Thank you king, I’m 22 never date but after your videos I’m ready to make them run

  • @CD-ct6fc
    @CD-ct6fc День тому

    Excellent!

  • @L4Lawrence
    @L4Lawrence 2 дні тому +3

    We need more of these tips MJ ! because wow after GOD fear MEN 😂😂😂😂😂😂 we're dealing with a bob the builder type of man or casper the friendly ghost

    • @MJHarrisSpeaks
      @MJHarrisSpeaks  2 дні тому +2

      Amen, sis! 🙏🏽

    • @L4Lawrence
      @L4Lawrence 2 дні тому +1

      Love you Mj ❤🇿🇦
      Ps - Please can you cover a topic on how to "make a man grovel back to you" 🤭🫣

  • @bridgetsebolai6207
    @bridgetsebolai6207 2 дні тому

    Powerful ❤❤❤

  • @CS-qr7gw
    @CS-qr7gw День тому

    so true

  • @tamterell
    @tamterell День тому

    Not the “hey stranger “ 😂 MJ

  • @stephaniemiles2300
    @stephaniemiles2300 2 дні тому

    You're right

  • @Biznessfashionista
    @Biznessfashionista 17 годин тому

    Truth 💯

  • @VanessaKrystynaBeauty
    @VanessaKrystynaBeauty 2 дні тому

    Literally loved this ❤❤❤❤ amazing so true!! Hilarious

  • @Nyir-lr9mc
    @Nyir-lr9mc День тому

    😘Thank you MJ

  • @Humblyp
    @Humblyp День тому

    That part 🎯

  • @teer7044
    @teer7044 2 години тому

    Exactly 💯

  • @tynicole1513
    @tynicole1513 2 дні тому +3

    MJ I just need to focus on unbigging my back, cuz these men are draining 😅

    • @naeb9486
      @naeb9486 День тому +1

      Yup!!! We Only in your money and health and kids if you have them. I don’t so I be in the gym 😂

  • @rialove6943
    @rialove6943 День тому +2

    I was wondering if something was wrong with me because after two business days I forget you existed and move on with my life. When my friends mention the name am like who is that 😅. No man will have me pining over them that’s why I would say I am never heartbroken I accept things quickly and move on. On to the next.

  • @maryneal8456
    @maryneal8456 19 годин тому

    People make time for what they want to. If he shows you his color believe it! Stop trying to use a darker crayon to try to make him into something he just isn't. If he can't pick up the phone to communicate like a man and say Hey your nice, but just not the one for me. Because communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. I don't have time to be.playing shreds with somebody's grown ass child! Some of you ladies also have to learn how to stop giving these men so much power over your life where your just walking around moping , not eating etc. Never give anyone that much power . Never depend on someone else for your happiness. That is your job to do and control. He's with that girl that knows who she is and how much power she holds. The female with the confidence that makes everyone heads turn when she walks in a room because she is oozing confidence.

  • @ramonasheldon6722
    @ramonasheldon6722 День тому

    You had better teach that thing!

  • @zainabrose96
    @zainabrose96 18 годин тому

    Agreed...

  • @SupaMatho
    @SupaMatho День тому

    I shared this Video the first five minutes i Listen to it. My friend needs to hear this. When soomeone Ghost her. She even starts stocking the person in all social Medias just to know why it didnt work for her. I find it such a waste of time

  • @SacredHealingwEmpressTae
    @SacredHealingwEmpressTae День тому

    I just love you