Borderline (BPD) Woman interview-Brianna

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

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  • @Inthemorningisay
    @Inthemorningisay Рік тому +156

    BPD here. Mark, thank you for asking “what are the positives about BPD”. There’s a negative stigma around BPD so questions like this helps us. 🙏🏻

    • @JennyLynn-x9o
      @JennyLynn-x9o Рік тому +1

      Absolutely does

    • @xxxMusoukaxxx
      @xxxMusoukaxxx Рік тому

      y e s.
      you feel all the parts of life.

    • @nickkemp4979
      @nickkemp4979 11 місяців тому +5

      My mom had BPD. She was an increibly loving and caring person but she would lash out on those she loved. She never lashed out on me because I understood her and we were really close but I've seen (emails) and heard some of hte stuff that she's said to others and it's like looking at a completely different person.

    • @taylorc2542
      @taylorc2542 8 місяців тому +3

      Imagine asking "what are the positives about being a psychopath"?

    • @angelinag4116
      @angelinag4116 8 місяців тому

      BPD is post-traumatic stress syndrome following narcissistic abuse (usually from growing up in a narcissistic household or after being married to a narcissist). I don't know what the stigma might be? Why does society not care who narcissists are? A covert narcissist is a true psychopath at his core. But nobody cares. People are stupid.

  • @chloecampbell5266
    @chloecampbell5266 Рік тому +277

    I went to highschool with her. You never know what someone truly deals with. I love you Brianna.

    • @naomiparis98
      @naomiparis98 Рік тому +3

      WTF you mean you went to school with her??? She never met you before in her life so stop all that cap and have a wonderful day

    • @naomiparis98
      @naomiparis98 Рік тому

      Oh yeah.... How could I possibly forget? You were very mean to me, you bully me all the time and since the last time we spoke was back in 2020 and you threatened that you want to be my ass and now you want to act all goody two shoes and pretend that that never happened seriously Chloe you are awful person with the awful soul I would never forgive you for the amount of hell that you put me through so don't act like you like Brianna better than that you like me cuz you and I were never friends and we could never be friends cuz I really don't like you

    • @naomiparis98
      @naomiparis98 Рік тому +1

      And you seriously owe me a big apology for what you put me through!

    • @terrytownsend5583
      @terrytownsend5583 Рік тому +1

      Eye roll

    • @terrytownsend5583
      @terrytownsend5583 Рік тому

      @@naomiparis98loads of people do that. It’s like when they say they do this and that for a living. Chloe is full of s hit

  • @D9Beats
    @D9Beats Рік тому +441

    To anyone who is dealing with mental health issues, I hope the very best for you. Much love.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 Рік тому +9

      ❤❤❤

    • @Love407here
      @Love407here Рік тому +5

      Thank you for your kind words from Florida hugs

    • @D9Beats
      @D9Beats Рік тому +4

      @@Love407here hugs to you

    • @sizecap9713
      @sizecap9713 Рік тому

      get a Life

    • @sizecap9713
      @sizecap9713 Рік тому

      You're a coward. you're probably broke. And an absolute Loser.

  • @BecomeConsciousNow
    @BecomeConsciousNow Рік тому +117

    Her fragility is palpable. Her horrendous childhood has made her very vulnerable and her whole being screams trauma. It sounds like her whole family has gone through generational trauma, which has been carried down to Brianna. I wish you peace, love and joy Brianna. I think you have gone through enough trauma in your life. Good luck with everything you do in life. I strongly sense how much you want to help yourself and others. Be kind to yourself too!

    • @gjh9299
      @gjh9299 6 місяців тому +1

      shes on a lot of meds or a heavy dose

  • @MB.77
    @MB.77 Рік тому +190

    Mark is getting even better at picking pertinent questions. We hear the compassion and kindness in his voice. I really appreciated this young woman’s delivery and admire her courage. Not enough is said about mental illness and all the different challenges each conditions entail. Wishing her success and healing. She’s an inspiration.

    • @jennross6466
      @jennross6466 Рік тому +1

      Sounds like maybe a different interviewer in this one unless Mark is catching a cold.

    • @deuphoria2587
      @deuphoria2587 Рік тому +4

      What a kind and compassionate comment. I have mental heath issues as well from childhood abuse. Thank you.

    • @MB.77
      @MB.77 Рік тому +3

      @@deuphoria2587You’re welcome. I hope you’re able to heal and always love yourself. All the best to you.

  • @bearlywatching
    @bearlywatching Рік тому +87

    That advice at the end was spot on! That’s how I deal with my BPD I distract myself I go and get busy for my own sake. I run my own business, went back to school for my second engineering degree, taking care of my family, building connections with others.
    I sometimes just ignore that I’m experiencing BPD symptoms. I’m aware but they don’t consume me like before.

    • @WildandFree4
      @WildandFree4 3 місяці тому

      Try mdma & and Psilocybin. Research it

  • @inthechairwithcloochy8102
    @inthechairwithcloochy8102 Рік тому +141

    I hope this lovely soul continues to find support and love in her community. She is so articulate and could really be such a helpful force in the space of Mental Health issues. My beautiful Niece took her own life after living with BPD for a few years. She was 21 years old. Every day was so difficult for her to navigate. I miss her so deeply. I am glad though that she is no longer struggling, it was agony to watch her in agony. XOX Love from Ireland to Brianna

    • @karenfryberger4260
      @karenfryberger4260 Рік тому +5

      @@Alpen_liber And you know this how? Such a concrete belief, with nothing to back it up.

    • @Hartley_Hare
      @Hartley_Hare Рік тому +6

      @@Alpen_liber If you're going to state what you think are certainties, it goes without saying that you should be certain and should also be sure of your audience. This isn't the place.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 Рік тому +4

      @@Alpen_liber What a cruel thing to say to someone hurting. You are not God! His thoughts are higher than ours.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 Рік тому +4

      I am deeply sorry for your loss. ❤️

    • @nonameaccount7773
      @nonameaccount7773 Рік тому +2

      @@Alpen_liber Prayer can save souls, and even though many faiths hold the belief that suicide is a gateway to damnation, it is not supported as such in the scriptures. If you want to help this person, instead of twisting the knife, pray for the soul of the woman that's been lost. You can save her if she needs saving and look after her if she was already saved.

  • @TRUECRIMEARMY
    @TRUECRIMEARMY Рік тому +78

    The shy little smile at the beginning was cute.
    She seems like a sweet girl. I hope she continues to build confidence and make her mark in this world. She was a tad nervous, but she still represented herself well. I really enjoy warming up to people like Brianna. It's very rewarding when help reassure them that they are OK, and they're still important despite any behavioral issues.
    Wish you all the best Brianna

    • @alienfeline
      @alienfeline Місяць тому

      It’s called anxiety people with mental health disorders struggle with it

  • @kristinagerson9831
    @kristinagerson9831 Рік тому +64

    Thank you for giving Brianna a platform to express herself.
    Mental health can be so crippling and so many communities lack the tools for children and adults. We need a new system to help everyone.

  • @kurtiz5191
    @kurtiz5191 Рік тому +214

    I felt a lot of empathy and compassion for this woman. Looking at her you would never know she has issues. I hope she wins!!!

    • @mikemccaine4229
      @mikemccaine4229 Рік тому +10

      what does somebody with issues look like then?

    • @kurtiz5191
      @kurtiz5191 Рік тому

      @mikemccaine4229 Caucasian girl dress neatly on the surface if you see her in the street walking by, would you think that girl has mental issues? That's my point, there are many people out there who have issues and you don't know. They look like your average person.

    • @alal2192
      @alal2192 Рік тому +1

      She wont bpd is for life lmao

    • @kurtiz5191
      @kurtiz5191 Рік тому

      @alal2192 She will medication for life lol

    • @alal2192
      @alal2192 Рік тому +2

      @@kurtiz5191 not necessarily but definitely therapy for a looong time

  • @chichi9908
    @chichi9908 Рік тому +224

    As someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder severely I so much empathize with this beautiful soul .... It is so hard to maintain simple friendships or see any kind of relationship it can seem so lonely .. out diagnosed is the same and our story is so similar... You are not alone babygirl

    • @suzybailey-koubti8342
      @suzybailey-koubti8342 Рік тому +4

      Bless you, Chi Chi!

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 Рік тому +3

      ❤❤❤

    • @patrickhaug1157
      @patrickhaug1157 Рік тому +6

      DBT Therapy!!!.
      Live it and go get some help.
      Without therapy and left untreated BPD never changes!.

    • @Heavy_Hitta_Sucka
      @Heavy_Hitta_Sucka Рік тому +7

      This is one thing that isn't said enough about BPD, the absolutely devastating loneliness that accompanies it after you've alienated your friends who don't understand you really don't want to feel this way. Then after you've ruined so many romantic relationships you don't even want to try again because the pain just isn't worth it. This leads to the absolutely devastating loneliness.

    • @spectro891vec
      @spectro891vec Рік тому +7

      I have BPD and I fully believe you can live a full life if treated properly. I have had an incredible relationship for the past 4 years, all because I learned how to live with and treat my BPD. Its different in every case but we are NOT lost causes!

  • @lesliemarvin160
    @lesliemarvin160 Рік тому +30

    My husband has BPD and she explained it so well. I am my husband's "favorite person " and as much as I love him it does become an obsession sometimes. Thank you for sharing your story . It's so helpful for us all.

    • @phillipwhite4741
      @phillipwhite4741 Рік тому +3

      @Sarah my partner has BPD and I understand how they could feel scared if they don’t understand the illness .
      I know it’s hard to share your true feelings and thinking with your partner but if you do it helps them understand .
      For me it was not knowing or understanding . So I was judging and feeling resentment .
      When you open up it helps a lot .
      Wishing you the best

    • @gjh9299
      @gjh9299 6 місяців тому

      I agree,she has a lot of insight, I stopped trying to have serious relationships because romantically I didnt want to live with anyone and I never wanted kids so staying away from emotional relationships takes away major triggers what her fp did is evil

  • @g.v.9261
    @g.v.9261 Рік тому +35

    She’s so young yet so strong. You can see that she’s working hard for her future. Beautiful girl. God bless you. Hope you heal soon and achieve everything you wish for in life.

  • @HonestObservations
    @HonestObservations Рік тому +18

    Having BPD and CPTD as well ... its is the worst I can't imagine having schizophrenia paid with schizo-effective as well. Praying for you girl.

  • @wishiwassleeping8382
    @wishiwassleeping8382 Рік тому +74

    Mental illness is exhausting to deal with, both for the person experiencing it and those around them. It's such an insidious illness and has caused so much heart ache. We as a society need to put more importance on mental health services and make them free.

    • @evanabt8578
      @evanabt8578 Рік тому

      My wife has bpd and she is so sad and she yells and is mad majority of the time. 😢

  • @natimarivelez
    @natimarivelez Рік тому +28

    My mom briefly took that same medication but she hated the way it made her feel. On and off all different meds all her life that just didn’t work for her. She ended up giving up all together and became a recluse. She ran away from our family to FL and lived out of her mind for 10-15 years before realizing she had end stage cancer and died at alone at home in hospice care. I did what I could for her and it was extremely hard to watch. I wish you the very best and hope you can find meds that will work. Just don’t give up like my mom did. You can absolutely be a functioning member of society, be a good mom, a good person even with mental illness. Don’t let it define you. You will not end up like your father the same way I did not end up like my mother❤

  • @CAMBY608
    @CAMBY608 Рік тому +50

    i love when mark told her happy birthday, and her face lit up with a smile. it was refreshing to see...I pray for more times she can be happy and smile. prayers to you brianna!

  • @priscilla.elaine
    @priscilla.elaine Рік тому +52

    “keep doing things with your life, don’t be unproductive” those last few sentences hit me like a rock. thank you for this 😭❤️

  • @DANStickerman
    @DANStickerman Рік тому +119

    How brave and unselfish of a human soul!
    Why do traumatized people want to help others so badly?
    Do they want us to never experience trauma? -
    It's Absolutely Incredible, how brave Brianna.
    This interview hit me hard....... ;

    • @2jesusbtheglory
      @2jesusbtheglory Рік тому +19

      Because of our pain we can be truly empathetic and we just want to help others get ahead quicker than we did

    • @desserttree
      @desserttree Рік тому +5

      Takes one to know one

    • @BlondeMafia89
      @BlondeMafia89 Рік тому +8

      Why do traumatized people want to help others so badly??
      Because they never want anyone to feel the pain they have gone through!! Also, helping others often helps you to heal... Common sense!

    • @peggysue7898
      @peggysue7898 Рік тому +5

      We don't want others to feel the inner emotional pain that we feel inside.

    • @fulloflightcrystalskarengr8212
      @fulloflightcrystalskarengr8212 Рік тому +4

      We don't want others to feel what we have

  • @aalves9453
    @aalves9453 Рік тому +27

    Smart and well spoken young lady. Hope she sticks to her studies and goes on to live a happy and healthy life.

  • @OhMyeGlow
    @OhMyeGlow Рік тому +94

    Thank you for the phenomenal work you do Mark. We need a Soft White Underbelly Chapter in every country. Thank you for starting the ball rolling!

    • @chuchaftw
      @chuchaftw Рік тому +2

      Like the series on UA-cam called HUMAN. But Soft White Underbelly would be incredible

  • @pcankar
    @pcankar Рік тому +21

    Mark, your gentle approach to some people is an amazing skill you have.

  • @RachelandIzzy
    @RachelandIzzy Рік тому +8

    Brianna,
    Your resilience is astounding 😳 You are an amazing human. I live in FL (Ormond Beach) and I wish I could treat you! I am a year away from obtaining my PhD in Clinical Psychology with a concentration in forensic psychology. One of my practicum rounds was in a state hospital so I understand your concerns about the treatment of residents and where your future goals are headed. Your auditory hallucinations (hearing voices at work - Symptoms of Schizoaffective (instead of saying you have Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective, and bipolar b/c Schizophrenia + Bipolar = Schizoaffective, you can just say “Schizoaffective” if you want ❤️) can be treated with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). The gold standard therapy for BPD is Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). This will help with regulating emotions, changing unproductive emotions, creating positive emotions, and so much more.
    Finding a therapist (we ALL need one - I have one):
    1. Check with your insurance. Get a list of people in your area. SHOULD BE SOMEONE WITH A PSYD OR A PHD. Not to an A-hole, but masters level individuals are not equipped for your level of awesomeness 💫
    2. Read the bios and see if you think you can build a therapeutic rapport with this person.
    3. Do they know about CBT, DBT, or other therapies that interest you?
    4. Anything else you can think of. You are interviewing them. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Good luck to you ❤❤❤

  • @Cali-Girl
    @Cali-Girl Рік тому +31

    I hope this video helps her get support she needs. It sounds like she feels very alone so hopefully she will find out how much people here will care about her. I'm so glad she can tell us about the positives with BPD too, and shows her positivity in spite of her mental illness.

  • @maevelikeawave
    @maevelikeawave Рік тому +10

    I have bpd and I learned more from her about it than my last therapist. I definitely have had "favorite people" without knowing it until now. She's amazing and I think she'll go far in life. ❤

  • @chewonthis...
    @chewonthis... Рік тому +21

    Briana, you're a beautiful young woman with an old soul. Which I'm sure is due to the fact that you were robbed of your childhood. Do not be side tracked by your anxiety. Stay your course; keep moving forward. You got this!

  • @student22044
    @student22044 Рік тому +32

    Brianna, thank you so much for sharing your story. Life is struggle enough without your conditions. Totally awesome that you want to serve others this way. I have no doubt you can achieve this and more. ❤

  • @jenniferthompson6280
    @jenniferthompson6280 Рік тому +7

    she seems so precious with the kindest eyes, i pray she finds all the help she needs to succeed in life and i pray for her safety ..

  • @maisenbrown196
    @maisenbrown196 Рік тому +20

    I see her doing great things for mental health for lots of people. Her strength is beyond measurable, I couldn't imagine going and feeling like that everyday......please know ur amazing and strong that's why u hear voices degrading u, they see ur bright empowering strength and want to ruin it. Much love and respect for you Brianna

  • @mandydaly8940
    @mandydaly8940 Рік тому +14

    Heartbreaking story she’s been through so much , such a beautiful young girl I wish her all the love and luck in the world , she’d make a perfect advocate for mental health

  • @vmk5697
    @vmk5697 Рік тому +16

    Something many people don't realize about mental illness is that it (almost?) always comes from childhood trauma. I worked in mental health and I haven't seen one case of mental illness that didn't include child abuse on some level. Our mental health system is a mess. It's heartbreaking. God bless this young woman.

    • @denisepanzarella2833
      @denisepanzarella2833 Рік тому +4

      My daughter has mental health struggles which are hereditary from her father's side. She's on many meds and still struggles. The mind is so very complex.

    • @justinw1765
      @justinw1765 4 місяці тому +1

      A lot, but not even close to all. I recommend reading Dr. Hare's book about psychopathy/ASPD "Without Conscience etc"
      Plenty of cases in there of ASPD/psychopaths who didn't experience any significant emotional trauma, abuse, or the like.
      Fascinatingly, there is a case in there of identical twin girls with a loving home life, one twin was clearly psychopathic and the other twin clearly was very non psychopathic.
      It may be hard to accept, but some people just come in, for a lack of a better term, evil. This only really relates to psychopathy though.
      But yes, a lot of people with NPD, BPD, and the like tend to have gone through major trauma, especially during childhood.

  • @amiraroy2318
    @amiraroy2318 Рік тому +7

    She’s so beautiful. I wish her the best in life. She truly deserves to be happy

  • @kimhsiang8049
    @kimhsiang8049 Рік тому +16

    How I just want to give her a hug and support. To have no one on your side with these conditions is beyond awful. I have mental health issues but nothing like this. I just can't imagine. The Florida system sounds horrendous. I wish you every success in your journey to making a difference. You will do it I'm sure. Sending you so much love from New Zealand sweetheart. You're a strong young, beautiful woman.

  • @carmagurl317
    @carmagurl317 4 місяці тому +1

    What an astounding young lady. So well spoken, in so much pain yet still carrying on. Things are going to continue to improve, I can feel it. Brianna we love you. ❤

  • @DiewithZero62
    @DiewithZero62 4 місяці тому +4

    My ex-wife has borderline personality disorder, but has refused to acknowledge (blames others, justifies her behaviour, etc.). She had a traumatic upbringing and it definitely negatively impacted her ability to be in stable relationships. After many years of chaos and uncertainty our relationship finally imploded. I honestly tried……. In retrospect I wish I knew more about this debilitating issue back then. I don’t think it would have changed the eventual relationship outcome, but it would have made my understanding better and increased my sympathy towards her. The human mind is so fragile….😢

    • @atroxfortuna
      @atroxfortuna 2 місяці тому

      You’re kind to say this bc my ex husband would respond with violence and (r)apes

  • @PrettyPeytonsBows
    @PrettyPeytonsBows Рік тому +17

    Brianna, I'm so sorry that the mental health system has traumatized you and I'm so proud of you for recognizing that and striving to advocate for those of us with mental illness. Just keep on keeping on - for yourself, the friend you lost and the countless others I'm sure your advocacy will help

  • @aubreestone7952
    @aubreestone7952 Рік тому +5

    Mark, thank you for posting this video. I have lived with BPD for the last 12 years of my life and I related to a lot of what she said. It is both a blessing and a curse to have. Best of luck Brianna and thank you for sharing your story. ❤

  • @callmefeckers9870
    @callmefeckers9870 Рік тому +19

    I have borderline and ptsd and am in a stable relationship for almost 8 years, a job, a home, and a family. I have been (and currently am) in therapy for many, many years, and I will always continue to better myself. I often don't talk about it because people often assume the worst. Meanwhile, I have good, solid friendships for 10+ years and longer. Have I made mistakes? Yes, absolutely. Did I learn from them? Yes, absolutely. I will always continue to better myself and do my best for my loved ones. Please be aware that we come in different ways and different levels.. not every person with BPD will be dishonest, manipulative, etc. We are human as well. If you have BPD, get that help if you can, learn about yourself, and find your good and bad sides. Teach yourself how to control it and deal with it. BPD is painful, it's rough, and you will take it to the grave, but you can grow old with it and have a life with it.

    • @Cheri94
      @Cheri94 Рік тому +3

      Great attitude!

    • @VisableToAnyoneOnYouTube
      @VisableToAnyoneOnYouTube 2 місяці тому

      A lot of people recover from their symptoms with DBT. Don’t say you’ll live with it forever…you won’t..

  • @noneyabizness
    @noneyabizness Рік тому +20

    Sending love to all of my fellow BPD sufferers. ❤️

  • @jaimelepore7752
    @jaimelepore7752 Рік тому +13

    She is spot on about the health care field, ppl get treated awful

  • @Xia716
    @Xia716 Рік тому +46

    (Florida resident) My ex partner was baker acted and taken to the “hospital” by police. When I called them the next morning I was told “The doctor will be in on Monday and then you can talk to them about a possible release date.” He had a learning disability and I was terrified of them sticking a pen and paper infront of him for voluntary 6 month hospitalization. I called everyday letting them know that his “72hour wait” ended on Tuesday morning and he will be released then. They tried many times to manipulate the situation with iffy wording like “we’ll see,” and “soon.” I myself have been voluntarily baker acted when I was a minor, was escorted to hospital by parent. I was given a cocktail of different medications to try, some almost caused severe symptoms like passing out/vomiting profusely. There is a huge problem with money hungry psychiatrist and “hospitals” 4:44

    • @sarahjane4908
      @sarahjane4908 Рік тому +3

      It’s a disaster everywhere in this country though. In CA we don’t have a “baker act”, but the Los Angeles county jail is known locally as the largest psych hospital in the state. Our jails and prisons here are packed with mentally ill and developmentally disabled people. And as for being restrained and injected with sedatives against your will, it’s exactly the same in CA. In the hospital it’s called a “Dr strong” and happens every single day.

    • @Rebecca-1111
      @Rebecca-1111 Рік тому +2

      Facts. I have heard it's especially bad in Florida. They call it the Florida shuffle and it needs to be reported on. Shuffle in and out of different rehabs. You have 2 choices shuffle or jail. Shuffle will get you a (conservatorship over your money and healthcare )and broke.

  • @Andrea_k86
    @Andrea_k86 Рік тому +11

    I have BPD & it is a battle at times to handle, but there is help, understanding, & hope out there. Sending love & peace.🦋

    • @ragebait988
      @ragebait988 Рік тому +1

      No there’s not.

    • @goofygirl9998
      @goofygirl9998 Рік тому +1

      ​@Rage Bait if you're trying to be a troll at least don't make it obvious with your name :p

  • @michaelpoplett2745
    @michaelpoplett2745 Рік тому +31

    This young woman has vast amount to offer!😊

  • @dafinkadomuschieva8936
    @dafinkadomuschieva8936 3 місяці тому +1

    Such an amazing soul! Feel so sad that she passed through all that. Her story made my cry.

  • @auddyroses
    @auddyroses Рік тому +3

    Even in a severely failing system, it's spectacular that Brianna still has hope to make a difference and advocate for those like her and her late friend. Advocating for oneself is difficult even without mental health hurdles. I truly wish her the best on her continued work and journey.

  • @jenniferthompson6280
    @jenniferthompson6280 Рік тому +5

    if anyone deserves help it's this girl, she hasn't hurt anyone or stolen from anyone, i hope mark helps her..she's so vulnerable and sweet.

  • @kimkeck6266
    @kimkeck6266 Рік тому +8

    Dear Brianna,
    You, my dear young lady, are a highly intelligent and highly sensitive human being. I will not forget your story.
    I believe every word you have said, AND I believe you when you say you will make changes!!
    God bless you!! 🌺❤️🙏✌️💪😘

  • @olivercampbellsmith6430
    @olivercampbellsmith6430 3 місяці тому +1

    Sending love to Brianna , whereever you are. And thank you Mark for your work.

  • @austinbell7592
    @austinbell7592 Рік тому +17

    I have Borderline as well, I’ll definitely be watching this. Thanks for giving someone the spotlight who deserves it.

  • @25daysAmonth
    @25daysAmonth 8 місяців тому +1

    I’ve had my diagnosis for over 20 years and never- not once have I been able to articulate it the way Brianna does in this interview.
    I have no doubt she’s a great writer ❤

  • @tylersmith1639
    @tylersmith1639 Рік тому +10

    She’s a wonderful person bless her soul I hope things turn brighter for her

  • @vermasean
    @vermasean Рік тому +56

    Love this channel. The stories are so insightful. Thanks for being such an amazing platform 💛.

    • @OhMyeGlow
      @OhMyeGlow Рік тому +5

      Absolutely. Thank you Mark!

  • @StrawberryJam806
    @StrawberryJam806 Рік тому +56

    When she was talking about people with mental illness being failed I felt that. Especially those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder. I got diagnosed in 2019 and I live in East Tennessee, finding a therapist who is qualified or willing to work with a person who has BPD is nearly impossible. On top of that, there are no medications that are FDA approved to treat a personality disorder. I do my best to handle it but i’m 38 years old and I’ve had over 120 jobs since I graduated high school because of my paranoia, I think everyone there hates me or I have issues interacting normally with people or I get into an argument with someone. Sometimes I have bad splitting episodes and I will destroy things in my house and cut or stab my arm with knives. I have issues with binge eating and reckless spending. BPD is the most painful, isolating thing you can live with. Even someone canceling plans with me or not texting me back feels like someone died, I will literally grieve for days and I can go from adoring someone to hating their guts and everyone associated with them in a split second. I feel every emotion times 1,000. My husband is my FP and he has been a saint dealing with this. There’s a reason why so many borderlines have at least one SA, it’s because we feel so alone like no one can understand us or help.

    • @cronaman3196
      @cronaman3196 Рік тому +1

      Guess what. I have bpd, psychiatrics are handing it out like hot cakes and its having a huge negative effect on society. Maybe BPD is real, it feels real doesnt it? But look what it does to you, youre so pathetically sorry for yourself and you think a pill will save you? You want a pill to define who you are the rest your life? Either way, that's impossible. Your faith in that pill will be what defines you. Not the pill. Instead of relying on a pill, i suggest to try and heal on your own. Go against the stream and find a path that doesnt make u so miserable. Somthing brings you comfort, pleasure and joy. With all the jobs youve lost and the realtionships that have been destroyed, youve probably buried all your hapiness under such negative weight and thinking. Being bpd doesnt mean hopless and doomed to fail. people are too quick to feel sorry for themselves. It seems impossible cus facing reality is hard and straight up terrifying. But letting go of the pills, the labels, the abuse and trauma, and figuring out what your issue is and why youre hating yourself and holding grudges. Your life is comprehended through your own lense, not anyone elses. No one see's life the way you do. The brain is so complex, dont let bpd be the thing to inhibit you from growing. You, just like EVERYONE ELSE will die and we dont know where were going. We like to imagine things, but thats by faith. The reality is nobody knows, not even science, so why not just make it worth while and try to discover meaning yourself, and not through the lense of a pill that will masks your unique understanding on life?
      You have BPD, own it, get to know it, why are you so afraid of it? your abuser cant give your innocence back. There's no sense in dwelling on it. But if pills havent worked for you try somthing else

    • @Ohjaye_Behave
      @Ohjaye_Behave Рік тому +9

      A lot of therapist don’t really like diagnosing patients with BPD because the symptoms are so similar to Bipolar Disorder. I got diagnosed last year and have been taking Lamictal. I feel like its has been working at first, but now I still have symptoms, so I asked my doctor to increase my dosage soon. It has been so hard to manage a relationship with friends and family. My husband refuses to give on me and always tell me that I don’t have to apologize. I have emotionally abused him and have episodes where I even hit him. My episodes usually last between 2-7 days. Depending on the situation, my favorite person will come and go. When I’m anxious, I will buy things without thinking or make plans that I end up regretting later. Rejection and minor misunderstandings will trigger me into an explosive episode. I absolutely hate misplacing things and will go off like it is the end of the world. When my episodes are over, I feel like a bad person and that I don’t deserve to be in other people’s life’s. I am too afraid to hurt myself and think about how my children would feel if I did. I pray that one day I can be normal, whether on meds or off of them.

    • @Stuck-on-Stuck
      @Stuck-on-Stuck Рік тому +5

      What is an “SA”? I’m not familiar with a lot of the abbreviations.
      Is “FP” favorite person?

    • @lisarodriguez6966
      @lisarodriguez6966 Рік тому

      ​@@Stuck-on-Stuck SA is for $exual a$$Ault. Hope that helps, I'm trying to have my comment not get removed. And yes, FP is for favorite pertain.

    • @kathyhughes4047
      @kathyhughes4047 Рік тому +1

      @@Stuck-on-Stuck Sexual abuse

  • @carriepaget4056
    @carriepaget4056 7 місяців тому

    As someone who is also diagnosed with BPD & PTSD I would love to give brianna a hug. Your not alone. Keep going. Your so strong and you don't even know it.

  • @MizRubyJu
    @MizRubyJu Рік тому +4

    People don’t deserve to be disposable. Whether they have a disability, lgbtq, low income, or survivors of abuse. We all deserve care, accommodations and sustainability.

  • @xorellanaxorellana3908
    @xorellanaxorellana3908 Рік тому +1

    Brianna you are such a beautiful, brave, well spoken ,kind young lady with a heart of Gold. You have been through so much 😢 And you still want to help others suffering with mental health issues and help fix the broken system in Florida. I have so much respect for you dear and I wish 🙏 you much blessings of health, love, happiness and a long & fulfilling life. I am a mother in Florida with a 23 yrs old Son just diagnosed with BPD. I am educating myself with all the info. I can find so I can help my Son cope with his symptoms and live a long fulfilling life also. Thank you so much for being so brave and sharing your story. You definitely made a difference in my life. Continue to be the voice for mental health advocates for all in Florida, Let Us know how We can help you in this journey to recovery.

  • @Marlene_CC
    @Marlene_CC Рік тому +6

    Thank you for sharing your story, Brianna. Listening to stories like yours has helped me gain an insight into a health issue that I have often heard about, but did not understand at all. You seem to be such a strong young woman that has overcome so much in your life. I wish you nothing but the best in your future.

  • @jancoleman7121
    @jancoleman7121 Рік тому +6

    Very intelligent young lady.
    There are so many people struggling in so many ways in this country and nobody is getting real help. I pray that changes for people.

  • @THISandTHISandTHAT
    @THISandTHISandTHAT Рік тому +7

    Why do so many people come to this channel just to downvote? Like what are you giving a dislike to? You want these people to be silenced and go away? wtf

  • @victorial1712
    @victorial1712 Рік тому +4

    Breaks my heart listening to this beautiful soul 😢 Mark you are a Godsend for the work that you do. Bless you 🙏

  • @jamiegregory6981
    @jamiegregory6981 Рік тому +2

    Brianna seems so intelligent and calm. This one really touched me for some reason.

  • @xtinamarie_333
    @xtinamarie_333 Рік тому +27

    This girl has such an overwhelming presence of sadness. Beautiful thoughts your way girl ❤

  • @silent_day
    @silent_day Рік тому +5

    You seem so sweet and kind and I think you should be extremely proud of where you are today. It's truly not easy juggling with school, work, and mental illness, especially if you don't have a good support system. If you keep going, I truly think you will be successful!!

  • @kimberlysisk6410
    @kimberlysisk6410 Рік тому +4

    I just want to wrap my arms around this young lady and hug her til the pain is gone❤

  • @Rochelle721
    @Rochelle721 Рік тому +39

    Although simply put, I felt that at the end when you said that you hope her challenges stay out of her way. It was both relieving & comforting @ the same time.
    Side note : May is Mental Health Awareness month. 💚🎗️💚 (green ribbon)

  • @LynnSolorzano
    @LynnSolorzano Рік тому +1

    Brianna -- you are such an inspiration! Life hasn't been fair to you but you can prevail, sweet girl. Please don't give up! Sometimes people give up on you -- that's because they don't understand you. You're bright and intelligent and you can make a difference, especially helping others who experience the disorders you do. I recently lost my daughter due to her mental illness and the choices she made in life. I now advocate for the mentally ill and provide clothing to the homeless in memory of my daughter. You go girl! You got this!

  • @funkymonk542
    @funkymonk542 Рік тому +22

    My ex had BPD and it’s extremely hard to maintain a relationship, my ex is beautiful and highly intelligent but her mood disorders and acting out is tough . I still love her and miss her but I had to walk away as painful as that was . You try and try to work it out but nothing changes . It’s not there fault as I learned later about the disorder. I wish this young lady the best . At least she’s trying ❤

    • @Cookedandcreepy
      @Cookedandcreepy Рік тому

      ua-cam.com/video/D1bFR4x8dYg/v-deo.html

    • @atroxfortuna
      @atroxfortuna 2 місяці тому

      My ex husband would trigger me by triangulating me with women and he also responded to my outbursts with his fists. He also (r)aped me numerous times.

  • @pcankar
    @pcankar Рік тому +6

    Great Quote: It´s like you´re being punished for needing help. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. All the best to you. Sending love from Mexico.

  • @ellenokland2028
    @ellenokland2028 Рік тому +4

    Sending strength and love on the wind to you, Brianna. I also live with these two conditions, and life can be so hard. I appreciate your want to advocate for us. Choose life always. Blessed be... blessed be.

  • @mmmmlllljohn
    @mmmmlllljohn Рік тому +12

    Brianna is smart, articulate, thoughtful, empathetic, and that is just what I see here. I hope she can connect with a therapy group who can support her. I wonder if Alanon would be helpful for her. I hope Brianna keeps seeking until she finds her own solutions. She has creative abilities that I hope she will pursue. May God bless her and guide her. Thank you, Mark, for showing how mental health issues are prevalent and we have to accept and help those who truly need compassion and not judgment. Many have been through hell and have survived and thrived. I have also been the scapegoat to different people throughout my life due to this role I was assigned in an alcoholic family. ❤️🇨🇦🙏

  • @DopamineSchizo
    @DopamineSchizo Рік тому +17

    my girlfriend had BPD, i have schizo affective disorder. i can definately relate to her, my girlfriend was really jealous wrongly and we both had troubles with alcohol. one night with getting drunk she tried to kill and strangle me wich after we had to break up. i loved her but had to play a psychiatrist and soothe her a lot altough i had problems myself. after what shes done i stil miss her

    • @laurieann1536
      @laurieann1536 Рік тому +5

      Don't u dare go back. There's plenty of people here to date that won't hurt u

  • @evlogismoi
    @evlogismoi 8 місяців тому +2

    It should be said that people who suffer from BPD also have high rates of perpetrating abuse in intimate relationships. I was seriously abused in an almost 10 year long relationship with a woman who had BPD. The abuse was physical, emotional, verbal, consistent and systematic, and highly manipulative. The experience inspired me to become a psychologist. I have great empathy for those who suffer from mental illness but folks with BPD are still hard for me to work with and even talk to.

  • @spklyunicorn
    @spklyunicorn Рік тому

    I am Bipolar II and have BPD. Fortunately, my husband is my hero and helps me on the daily. The docs have finally found the right combination of meds and I cycle much less now. I still have some "Wow that escalated quickly," kind of moments, but I haven't been in the hospital for 7 years now. Hang in there Brianna. Keep fighting! You're worth it!!!!!

  • @chrishasson8804
    @chrishasson8804 Рік тому +3

    A beautiful lady who will help society to no end

  • @justinw1765
    @justinw1765 4 місяці тому

    My heart breaks for you Brianna. I hope you can continue to heal. Keep loving and valuing yourself. You are worthy of love and happiness, but it is best to look for it within first.

  • @rachelwong3474
    @rachelwong3474 10 місяців тому

    The fact that you’re here and talking about this is miracle and is a result of your superhuman intellect, bravery, strength and faith.❤️

  • @lelengigi4644
    @lelengigi4644 Рік тому +4

    I hope she writes a book about her experiences. God bless and protect her.

  • @lizzyb302
    @lizzyb302 Рік тому

    Brianna, I am so proud of you. Thank you for having the courage to share your story with us. I look forward to seeing your achievements in the future. Sending you a huge virtual hug.

  • @Xia716
    @Xia716 Рік тому +4

    To anyone who feels uncomfortable/self conscious about therapy/medication. Just know you are fine just the way you are, it’s the therapy and medication that helps suppress the daily obstacles to let you be the best version of yourself that you can be!

  • @soulie2001
    @soulie2001 Рік тому +35

    Borderline sucks ass. Ive had to avoid romantic relationships because I do not know how to properly handle them as well after my last.

    • @ChiviA84
      @ChiviA84 Рік тому +3

      Me too. I don't even try to entertain being in a relationship. I hurt my ex so bad. But I didn't know I had BPD. Hurting him made me hurt myself... It was then I went to the doctor to find out what was wrong with me. So I have been single since 2017. I can't do it.

    • @noneyabizness
      @noneyabizness Рік тому

      I have BPD and I should be avoiding relationships, too. But I haven’t gotten there yet.

    • @noneyabizness
      @noneyabizness Рік тому +1

      @@jacobus57 that’s not true lmfao.

    • @pinecone1011
      @pinecone1011 2 місяці тому

      Col. 3

    • @GarciansVortex
      @GarciansVortex Місяць тому

      Same

  • @silvermoonuk
    @silvermoonuk Рік тому +1

    Hi. I have mental health issues myself. So I know how hard it can be. Glad shes raising awareness on mental illness. Does anyone else think this lady sounds like Wyona Rider? Xx ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  • @starandswords
    @starandswords Рік тому +4

    Her story hits hard because this is happening across the country. We are 100% in a mental health crisis. Much of our societies struggles with violence and drug addiction are symptoms of mental health troubles. If we had more affordable housing and better healthcare and educational systems, it would dramatically improve everyone’s quality of life. Unfortunately, our country makes a financial killing off of the struggles of its people.

  • @2012BeyondtheWorld
    @2012BeyondtheWorld Рік тому +4

    She's so well spoken, one of my favorites ❤

  • @wilson8979
    @wilson8979 Рік тому +1

    She is very well spoken. Trauma survivors, us people are bright lights to the world.

  • @Cookedandcreepy
    @Cookedandcreepy Рік тому +6

    It’s so disappointing how the stigma still exists even with mental health professionals…
    Yes, they have a textbook and clinical understanding but they will never truly understand what it’s like without having experienced it themselves.
    The best psychologist I ever had was someone with lived experience of mental illness. I wish there were more like her.

  • @jonathangehman4005
    @jonathangehman4005 Рік тому +2

    Blessings to you Brianna. I wish you peace and safety on this journey.

  • @tan_ives
    @tan_ives Рік тому +1

    I hope Brianna reads the comments - it seems everyone is rooting for her! Such a brave and articulate young woman. Her desire to advocate reform in the mental health system or at least highlight the lack of care is commendable.
    Mark I do hope you / we can help facilitate that somehow. I.T training or equipment, creative writing courses, the right support if there are future episodes. I don't know they're just a few ideas. I would say thoughts and prayers but this girl deserves more!!

  • @federicozambelli2045
    @federicozambelli2045 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Brianna, a big hug from an italian BPD

  • @joelyons8238
    @joelyons8238 Рік тому

    Brianna just needs to be loved & to know she is loved.
    I love you Brianna.
    That awesome that you don't use drugs to cope with your problem in life.
    You just keep moving forward & know you are loved.
    You just keep being strong each & everyday.
    & know I am very proud of you.
    Thank you for sharing your story with us.
    Love you Brianna.

  • @mazinelansari-kg1vf
    @mazinelansari-kg1vf Рік тому +2

    I’m 42 year old man I suffer from bpd the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in, is to learn to love yourself be proud that you’re not a victim. You’re a survivor.

  • @celestialcircledance
    @celestialcircledance Рік тому +6

    It's amazing that you survived your suicide attempt at 12 years old without any permanent disfigurements and I hope you can continue to work on the mental component as well and fulfill your life's purpose . You seem like a lovely person and I wish you all the best !

  • @Freelythoughtful
    @Freelythoughtful Рік тому +2

    This woman's resilience and strength and humanity and self awareness of all she has been through and all of it's effects on her is incredible. She will make a very understanding and supportive person if she ends up in a helping profession one da y. I wish her all the very best for now and the future ❤🙏

  • @jennifermesser3184
    @jennifermesser3184 6 місяців тому

    Truly so sad. Thank you so much for being you and being so brave & for helping us to understand these very complicated things better.

  • @JustHuntr
    @JustHuntr Рік тому

    Thank you for telling your story. You are telling my story and you have strength to get on here. You have helped me tonight by telling OUR story, except a little bit different. God bless you young lady.

  • @suzanozturk6005
    @suzanozturk6005 Рік тому +16

    I really relate to you're story sweetheart. I'm writing about mental health here in Australia 🇦🇺.
    💜
    Well done for coming forward 👏 and sharing you're inner soul.

  • @PaulSmith-ru6ne
    @PaulSmith-ru6ne Рік тому +1

    We are wishing the best for you, Brianna. I hope your strength in writing and creativity works toward your goal of improving mental health treatment for others. You've been through a lot and are brave for speaking up. God bless you.

  • @tedohenderson
    @tedohenderson Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing what you've been through Brianna. It makes a difference, it means a lot. You're really brave

  • @fickleemu4life401
    @fickleemu4life401 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing beautiful soul. ❤ Your mental health journey reminds me of my own in some respects. My mental health struggles when I was your age were almost unbearable. I have bipolar 1, CPTSD and borderline traits but I didn’t know it back then. My depression was so bad it felt like my brain was actively atrophying. Now I’m 40, married with kids and have a stable life and a good psychiatrist and good med combo and I’m gong to graduate college soon. I also have physical illnesses that complicate things but they’re well managed. Most days I don’t even feel like I have a mental illness. I never could have imagined how much better I feel now. I’m just saying that to let you and others know it’s possible to feel worlds better, better than you can imagine when you are in that dark place. Glad to see you are on a good path and your mindset is right. You are doing good things and will do great things that help others in big ways, I can tell. ❤

  • @Goddessoftarot216
    @Goddessoftarot216 4 місяці тому

    Thank You 🙏🏽 this disorder is not talked about enough, i dont even think medical professionals can spot this with all the other disorders that are out there. I suffer from this and recently discovered it on my own with the backup of medical professionals. She mentioned a lack of support, i also lack support and this exacerbates our illness its very lonely and we have to fight these monsters in our heads all alone

  • @lazydog1964
    @lazydog1964 Рік тому +5

    Such a beautiful young lady, Prayers and best wishes for healing and as a person who also struggles with these issues I can feel her pain.