pinkpostergirl my kids farther is both of these personalities. He had a baby on me with a woman he has cheated on me with and blames me for the baby he is having. They have brung so much drama in my life she is bothering me and he is also.
Mistreatment at work especially from a supervisor is so difficult. It's makes life miserable. Also if you respond with peace they will pick on you even more because they see it as a sign of weakness. There are some really evil people out there unfortunately.
This isn’t easy at all. Especially when I’m naturally nice and everyone around me has the capability to be rude to me. When really..I just want to treat them the way they treat me because I’m tired of constantly being tried for no reason over and over and over again. People don’t hear you until they feel you. I try so hard to keep my peace go about things the right way and it’s getting frustrating to deal with.
Bkb omgosh. This is me at work. Feel so defeated. The whole “it takes 2” is so wrong! I definitely need to pray more about this subject. Because what I’m seeing is, it’s very one sided. Crazy but a very real subject to talk about. God help us all 🙏♥️
@@tinacristallo7226 when you be kind to haters then you will be joyful. Be nice to haters and be nice to people that criticize you because you don’t know what is going on in there life. Remember do your part and forgive and be kind. Negative mind will never lead to a positive life.
That is exactly where I’m at too. I wish I could just let it go but I take it personally like an attack. I’ve tried ignoring it but knowing I did nothing to deserve it and knowing what I’m capable of does not make it easy. It actually makes me angrier.
I have thought about what you have said and with much thought I come to a conclusion. This is considering the difference between being silent and not silent for optimal results in my social circle, and how this can affect those I work with, freinds, family, and all others positively or negatively to get the results I am looking for to improve my relations with those I work with, freinds, family, and all others. Also, considering how either being silent or non silent can better shape the world in future generations. I have come to the undeniable conclusion of no comment.
He makes good and valid points, but no one is to take abuse from anyone. You do have the right to be direct and stop people from mistreating you, even if that means walking away.
@@dujuanevans9975 - sometimes if you can't physically remove yourself, you can remove yourself emotionally from the situation and let Christ take the abuse for you. It will seem as though you are incredibly strong for not lashing back but you are just letting Jesus take the burden of it. When you don't respond in a knee-jerk emotional way, it's amazing how you can more effectively and directly deal with the abuser.
@@vannoycg I agree, we are called to love everyone but not everyone can have access to your heart because people will mistreat your heart and leave you with bitterness, the only one that you should be letting in your heart is Jesus. We are also called to be BLAMELESS before the LORD.
Many good points. But we are also to confront those that sin against us. Jesus confronted the Pharisees and others by speeking truth when He was mistreated. When we overlook sin, we can end up enabling it. I have spent most of my life forgiving, overlooking, and blessing those were sinning against me. I ended up being used, abused, and taken advantage of. It didn't gain me respect, only contempt. My point being, yes we do all these things, but we also confront people who mistreat us. I lived one sided for too long. we love others enough to speak the truth and we love ourselves enough not to let others continually mistreat us.
Very well said Denine. Thank you for that perspective. Funny, I plan to do a video entitled, "What Does it Mean to Turn the Other Cheek?" We are taught this, but what does it mean? Thank you,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr for my two cents on turning the other cheek. When someone slaps, you it was a sign of disrespect. When Jesus was crucified He was mocked, spit on and disrespected, but they could not take away His value, worth, or rightousness. Same with taking your cloak and coat which has to do with status. The point is no one can take your salvation or our place as a child of God away from us... Then the 1 mile go two. I believe the point is no matter the roads or paths this life take us, we will always find our way home with Him. The point being their is nothing in this world that can take away who we are or what we have in Christ.
Denine Taylor. Thank you!! I see your point. We cannot enable them. Yet it does no good to seek any revenge. I feel that my life has been with this type of conflict always. I am falsley accused, used, taken advantage of and guilty of enabling. I take a beating constantly. To the point that I want to give up on life. I am without understanding as to why I am such a target. Especially when I try to live a life of good morals and high standards. I do believe that my way of living makes others feel like I am "raising the bar" for them. Such is not true. I live to do what is right. I don't expect anything from others but respect and fair treatment. I don't hold them to my standards. I only ask for fair treatment. These people who purposely make life difficult for me, Rob the pure joy of life from me.
I have always felt like a target too. My brother says, its because I am too nice. I decided to start being better to myself, respect myself, and stop all the people pleasing. I started to really paying attention to what people are saying and how they are acting towards me. Now instead of just reacting to slights and put downs, I am learning to respond. For example, instead of being hurt and trying to explain my innocents or prove myself, I question the persons. I ask them simple questions like, " what did you say?" or "what's is your point?." I focus in on their intent; are they trying to shame me, hurt me or belittle me? Its much easy not to let it effect you, when you know it is their intent. I am starting to use my discernment to stay away from these types the best I can or keep the interaction minimal. I think their whole purpose is to rob us of our Joy. These types of people are usually unhappy, hateful, controlling and manipulative. It makes them feel better to hurt others. In Christ, we can overcome the things they do. Our wounds will heal and we can get stronger. We just need to stop spending time with people who continually try to inflict them on us. No matter how much we change; they will still remain the same. Its not you!
I try so hard to be a true Christian it’s hard 😖due to my anger issues I am glad I watched this I just wish to control it there is a lot of cruel people out there 😔
It is truly hard.. but ask for the Holy Spirit to help you... it really changed a lot concerning my anger issues... due to the Spirit and laying it down before God, now it is my new nature to stay calm and smooth even if they´re really firing on me :D but not because of my own strength (this doesn´t exist lol), but by the Holy Spirit, which enables me :) hope this could help you
@@galemiller7422 God will stick up for you, remember the bible verse said: "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay". So allow God to represent you on your behalf. He shall stick up for you.
Omg!! This is exactly what i needed to hear! I’ve been mistreated for years and i feel like it will never end. Thank you for reminding me that Gods word is what i need to listen to and respond to.
Well some people become a reprobate spirit the bible also speaks about if u cannot get along with other people DEPART. Some people you cannot get along with. Even when its family
@Libra love excellent point. I love this man’s videos and think he is spot on most of the time, however I think that you can find just as many verses validating for instance, calling out false teachers, judging people righteously, righteous indignation, and setting up boundaries and consequences for people who are harmful. This video makes it out to be like you just have to sit there and be a punching bag. What if the other person is doing something that threatens your marriage, your children, your job and therefore your ability to support yourself and family? Voddie Bachman does an excellent sermon on “sissified Jesus”. This kind of reminds me of what that sermon speaks to.
I need this so much! I don’t want to feel the need to defend myself. God is my defender! I need the faith to trust that God WILL deal with whatever mistreatment or feelings of offense is coming at me! 🙏🏼
My oldest daughter is bullied constantly. While I'm aware this is the world we live in & "those girls" will always be out there... The pain doesn't go away. This video is a good reminder & I'm going to sit down with her & watch it together & pray.
I used to be verbally abused by another resident. It really hurt me. People who wanted to help me had their hands tied they could do NOTHING to help me, even though they wanted to. Anyone who says "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me has not lived with a verbally abusive person. Words DO HURT
Everyone overlooks when Paul told people that they can just go and emasculate themselves, and this was over something petty. Paul should never be a role model, nor a standard by which to live by; but Paul has many wonderful things to say. Christ led a perfect example of how to live, love, and treat people. 🥰
One of the most important videos for me right now. Thank u!! This is SO hard for me becuase ive always been the person that has a hard time turning the other cheek and often times seek my own revenge or just take it into my own hands instead of letting God handle it and im realizing that it just doesnt work well for me or the other person. I really want to start letting go and letting God. The Lord KNOWSSSS I struggle with this topic. But this video just really helped me and i hope i can get better with this.
I will admit that there’s plenty of room for growth for me in this area, but, to me, when a person disrespects you and you allow it, they will continue to do it because in their minds it’s permissible. I expect the same respect from a person that I give to them. If they’re not willing to give it then that’s a person I’m going to avoid. I won’t go around slandering their name, nor will I be openly disrespectful to them when our paths cross. I will just treat that person like they don’t exist. Peace doesn’t always mean we love everybody and get along with everybody. Sometimes peace means,”Yeah, we don’t particularly care for each other, but we’re not going to war with each other. We’ll just keep our distance.” It works for me.
Thanks a lot for this message, I sure needed to hear it! It's hard treating someone better when they are doing their best to destroy you! But it's true las you implied, if we revenge or treat them the way they treat us, then we're no better than them!
Thank you for this message. I came home tonight and my wife explained to me how my neighbor has been blowing leaf’s onto our property, my reaction was to go and confront the neighbor in a real negative way. I was really ashamed on how I reacted in front of my and realized how spiritually Immature I am. Your message calmed my spirit and reminded me that I must always stay in communication with the lord, thank you and god bless.
WOW. This is really good. For so many years I have been silent to people mistreating me, my reaction to the world seems crazy. But I love the lessons that God used you to breaking it down for us. Thanks so much. Now I do not feel bad. I will continue to pray for people that mistreat me. This word is life changing. Man God is Good. I just subscribed to your page. This is a blessed word.
You are totally right, I have fed him and he said that my cooking was awful and I have Cook for myself and he came up and said that smells good . I have told him that I thought you dislike my cooking and he laughed at me. I blessed over the food and he rushed eating and gotten choked, I have told him Not to talk about anything while eating or asking questions while I am eating. God bless me to do better than before and after that we have to follow the rules , not to talk with your mouth full.
Love it bro! Keep up the good work! I use these vids to encourage my children in their Bible reading. They're all very visual and tech savvy, so this format and these topics speak right to where they are. I praise God and thank you for this ministry. PEACE!
I always tell ppl that if they mess with me they've put a shovel in their hands because God can take care of them way better than me. I don't have s vengeful bone in my body. Like recently my bf got the next door neighbor preggo. Everyone is wondering why i haven't snapped for one the universe will take I'd the wrongdoings that have been done to me. The punishment for him is that he has to be father to a illegitimate child of a mother who four other baby daddies which will probably land him in the system. I get to move on in my life. Feel like this was God's way giving me a push to move on I've given him several chances to be better man to me but this has shown me he has no respect for me or her. To first of all he was friends with the girl husband who is doing life in prison for her infidelity. Before his incarceration we were common with one another but after he got locked up I noticed that my spouse continued friendship with the wife. Then we all became cool. A neighbor bought to my attention of the extensive time they were spending together. Anyway my point is since I'm not able to break my lease im out of here the beginning of the year. Let Jehovah avenge me. I will sit back and watch the chips fall where they lay. While I'm living my best life put of bondage. Can u say freedom. I'm excited for 2019
OMG I KNOW youre sooo much better now but I had to comment. Look how GOD removed that trash from your life QUICK. I would LOVE to hear how GREAT youre doing now!
@@monicarwells2 good morning but I'm doing well. Living single. Its is one of the best things I've could've ever done. To be single is to be 100% whole. I'm not willing to trade it for anything now. Not while I work on my getting online fitness career off the ground. Laser focused! He's still denying the baby and want me back. Not me, I'm not doing it. I have a better peace, love and happiness for myself to go bk to trash
@@Sofrofitness As a Christian, I wouldn't call him trash; he sounds like he is unsaved and is just following his fleshly sinful nature and suffering the consequences thereof.
Thank you. You are so right! I allowed these people to push my buttons and I became no better than them. As of today, I will say this; they will hang themselves. A female who teaches her kids to play in her dirty dealings will have something to answer to soon enough. I BELIEVE IN TWO THINGS; KARMA AND THE POWER OF GOD! I WILL CHANGE BACK TO THE RESPECTFUL DECENT PERSON I'VE ALWAYS BEEN. Again, thank you for helping to open my eyes.
Why do you say "female" Ya, in this case perhaps it is but it's weird to phrase it like that. Most people would say "parent" or "mother" Strange choice of words.
ignore and forgive them by forgiving them you also give peace to your self love your enemies indeed by praying that they realize how ill mannered they are before they experience the karma that comes with their bad attitude
this really helped. my ex wife divorce 4 years ago still gives me a hard time. she brings the worst out of me. she says things that my worst enemy would not say...and i cant just leave the country we have kids after 21 years of marriage..
@Mikael Remember that we all deserve hell for our sins, and be grateful to God not all of us go there. Also, keeping in mind Mark 4:24, would you like to know something Jesus commanded us to do that very, very few people have accepted?
Sorry to hear that. Don’t give her strength over you. I know it’s hard but set the example for your kids to see. Show them you are bigger than that. They’ll remember that.
Hi Allen. Well, I think that it's also really necessary to be WISE AND STRONG enough so others won't misteat us constantly. I've been TRYING to follow the words of God (all of which you cited in the video) for all my childhood and adolescnce. But the result was only unending, repeated hurts. And I came to know why. I was being a terrible PHARISEE. I only followed A FEW words of God (not gossiping, not revenging) but in my mind, I was ALWAYS FULL OF ANGER AND HATRED. I thank God so much, because it's only been like some weeks that I learned this,, that I was totally wrong. I learned that one should never try to FORCE oneself to follow SOME words of God, because eventually and essentially, you are gonna end up sinning(hating)! I think, personally, it's almost impossible for most people to live LITERALLY AS WRITTEN ON BIBLE. i think jesus hasn't meant us to do so either. I think he told us such and such things so we can constantly know that we need help from him in order to love and forgive. Humans can never love and forgive truthfully by one's will. So when somebody mistreats you, it's SO IMPORTANT to tell God how much you hate him or her, maybe even CURSE that person in the prayer. God knows our thoughts already. i think we have to comtemplate: whether we could really forgive and bless the ones who hurt us. We must pour out our emotions to God because if we don't, it just gets piled up, you know. the anger and hatred. so these days, for me, i actually tell God everything and I say badwords almost all the time. I tell God to take revenge on them. I tell God how bad some ppl are, how hurt i am. God understands. He heals. and most importantly, after doing this, after pouring my emotions to God, He helps me understand those ppl who hurt me and forgive them. Another thing i wanna tell is that when somebody mistreats you, you must let that person know it and you must let them stop doing it. I think that just as our parents never wants their child to get bullied or be mistreated even minorly, God doesn't want His children to be a STUPID who can't even speak properly or react properly. I just wanna say Allen that being a literal bible follower could lead many people to becoming a PHARISEE.... God bless you Allen. i appreciate your videos very much. But I hope you really get what i say.. and it would be even better if you could post a video about what i said-- the mistake of hating while following wordsof God. it is trully destructive and far from Bible...
Been sick for some time.. just called the doctors office to make an appointment.. the miss on the other end was snarky.. no, I didn't care for it and got Very upset.. then I got upset with the Mrs. *shame on me* so I came here to see what to do... I remember now reading this in the Bible but hearing you talk on it makes more sense. I got some pray time to do.. thanks so much Brother Allen. for your Love and insight in the Word. Bless you.
I just don't Acknowledge them, people don't like being ignored! I just pretend their not there. that's a satisfying way I deal with em. Things you mentioned on the list its just makes a person look like a doormat, im sorry but thats how I see it, why would you make someone who mistreated you feel like they will get a royal treatment?! It makes no sense whatsoever.
Really love your videos and stumbling across this is so timely as there are some people who really treat me badly. It was great realising that I wasn't silly for trying to keep the peace and not treating them as how I'm being. God bless you and I hope he continues to provide the necessary provisions for you to make more awesome videos.
Thank you! I at first looked up how to roast people. Then I saw your video, and realized I had really messed up by wanting to hurt someone back. Now I have a different mindset on dealing with the person I am having trouble with. Thanks!
AMEN. I grew up in the church. Because of people mistreating me right to my face, I've developed anxiety and depression. I cannot leave the church because my family attends there. As I grew older, I am having physical pain from just being in the church. I don't want to leave the church. I'm believing that God will be with me in my struggles and show me His mercy as I continue to trust and have faith in Him. It's a difficult thing to be humble and forgive. But I've learned that "This World is not my home" and all of this is temporary. My life is not mine but God's. Thank you for the reminders! God bless
I’m going through that currently with someone I know. It’s a recurring situation. Even though in rough things up. This person still refuses to examine themselves. The mistreatment is not good at all and this is going on for a while. The words spoken and aggression is not okay.So glad and grateful to have come across this video. Cause I felt bad venting to a person of how I felt. But then I felt God tell me to not respond evil with evil, but with good and compassion.
Good morning, Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Colossians 3:12 KJV Have a safe and blessed day with the love of Christ Jesus ❤.
There must be a balance between all of this and not being a doormat. I’ve done all of this in the past because I wanted to be obedient and I will tell you, people will take advantage of you for the most part rather than being impressed with your godly character.
Allen, I have been in a difficult situation that has lasted 10 ++ years. These 6 steps you have outlined have help me a great deal. Very practical, it’s were the gospel meets the road. As an Irishman, this was not easy at first, over time I have seen good results. Namely enemy’s confounded by my lack of reaction to their desire to create drama. Meanwhile I wait on the Lord and His timing. Thank for this good teaching. Keep it up. (John B)
Thank you for this message. I went to a Christmas party yesterday and someone opened my gift and made a rude comment to embarrass me. My feelings were hurt and I just didn’t know how to handle it. So I thought of just skipping the party next year, with your video and Gods help I will just have to realize that I am the bigger person. God Bless You !! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I will follow these rules and save them to share with anyone else who is mistreated.
Recently, a Christian sister who I (had) considered a good friend, was consistently 'flaky' and disrespectful to me - saying one thing and doing the other. At first, I just prayed about (against) 'divisive spirits' and kind of blamed myself - maybe, I pondered, was I being too critical? (even though I was the one not to blame) . Remember if you are also a survivor of any kind of abuse in childhood like I am, there is always that temptation to blame yourself for others' rubbishy behaviour and the enemy will also try to get you to 'be the wrong one' - the accuser for sure, even when the other is clearly in the wrong. Christ calls us to 'turn the other cheek' but not to endure abuse and to give everything in a situation up to God which is what I also did in this situation through prayer. More examples of flakiness and so I just had to set healthy boundaries. You can make it clear that you love and forgive someone 'in Christ' whilst simultaneously calling them out on disrespect and not allowing them to attempt to control you within a relationship. It's hard because your hopes have been that this person would be a genuine Christian friend and you kind of expect 'fake friends' in the world but not in church. My lesson from this is trust in God only, other Christians will let you down because we are all only human, but most especially that 'forgiveness' does not mean tolerance of unacceptable or abusive behaviour.
Yes, and this can also happen in your own family, from people who claim to be Christians. Jesus said that your enemies will be people in your own household and that He came to bring the sword. This is happening to me right now, so I pray for my family members and distance myself from them because when I attempt to speak to them, they all together, try to silence me so I will only speak what they approve. No, that I will not abide. I will take it to God, as I have done and I trust He will handle it in his time. I do not harbor hate toward my family members, but I will not tolerate use and abuse from them, being taken advantage of by them.
HI, Allan, That was just great and I'm going to copy out all those scripture quotes. I think I have just been seriously deceived by someone I genuinely wanted to help. I know our Lord Jesus said "pray for those who despitefully use you, and persecute you" (Matt.5:44). I thank the Lord that, through his grace, I do not feel anger towards this brother; on the contrary I have through prayer, recieved the Lord's peace and I will have more compassion for him, not less. Thank you again, Allan, for pointing us towards all those passages of redemption, and for all your work on this channel to encourage us into God's righteousness and to the coming of his kingdom on this earth. Bless you.
Seeking to reconcile myself with a once kind but now pretty narcissistic little sister Mr. Parr did give me another sane part of the puzzle to be solved. I love my sister so very much but she really has caused too much damage to my family. I know there is hope, forgiveness and healing in the future. The trick is to see it and where to find it I guess. I can forgive her though. It doesn't stop the tons of pains and sorrows caused by her. But it gives me strength to move on and live again. It really never is too late to live.
If you're in pain you're not alone. If it seems like the world is crushing you you're not alone. If you've wasted ten years you're not alone. If your future is uncertain you're not alone. If you're thinking of killing yourself you're not alone. If nothing seems to work out you're not alone. If you're at your limit and you're ready to throw in the towel you're not alone. If you've never been in love you're not alone. When you're alone you're NOT ALONE! If you relate to anything I just wrote you're not alone. I'm right here with you and so is God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. All of you out there that are hurting you're not alone. Everyday is ONE day closer. One day closer. Pain and struggle isn't wasted. Lord Jesus is with you.
Recently I just had a friend that had another religion than me insult my religion. İt really stabbed me in the heart. I really don't know how to deal with it,because she was my best friend. And after that she insulted my religion again. I never insulted her religion since I didn't want to sin. I'm currently still friends with her because I don't have that many friends. I think I'm going to tell her to stop talking about my religion without knowing anything. I just want to say that everyone should be respectful. You never know how much your words can hurt
Gosh...why are u talking to her..she insulted you and ur gonna let her do it again. She doesnt respect or value you. She's not a friend...shes a bitch. You have to respect ur self to not let people treat u like tht Be strong. Peace
@@zippyblessed839 well do you think I should forgive her. I fell so horrible being her friend after all that. This happened like a year ago. But do you think I should talk about it with her,or maybe quit our friendship. Cause she talks about her religion alot and questions mine. I really don't know what to do. Plz give me some advice But
@@cherylchimaamakihe3089 well we both know her religion is false and she needs jesus so i would continue praying for her soul. But wen it comes to friendship if they dont respect your values or morals then i would question the friendship.. especially if der your best friend. If she can diss your religion which is so personal then she can diss your family or other aspects of your life.thats why you gotta set boundaries You have to let people treat you how you would want to be treated.you can be nice to people but have boundaries..no one shud step on you. My advice wud be to let her know the problem since shes your best friend.she should be able to listen to you with empathy If she attacks in defense wen you tell her then avoid her at all cost. She shud also apologise. You dont need that sort of negative energy. Spend your energy with people that respect who you are. Hope this helped dear. Be strong amd set boundaries.
What I do is think of what Jesus went through. He did nothing but help others and he was betrayed abused and tortured, he took all of it for us. If he can handle that, the least we could do is turn the other cheek and think about how his kingdom will make all of our suffering worth it.
I can imagine how this may seem impossible to you, so you just pray, I learnt today that the Holy Spirit does not only yell you when you go wrong, he wants to help you where it is really difficult. I love you with the love of Christ.
I have the same problem to I try to smile and be nice and say nice things about them but they just don't like to respect as a matter of fact, a-lot. Dear Lord, Please bless us all with your love and please help us to get through the difficult times together. Thank you God.
THANK YOU!!! Thanks to Jesus, I discovered your videos within the past 3 months. I watched and re-watched 3 of your videos; How to Respond When People Mistreat You..... How to Trust Again When You’ve Been Hurt Deeply..... How to Forgive When It Hurts. I have been initiating the reconciliation process with my brother and sister-in-law for YEARS to follow God’s commands. If possible, I believe it is better to reconcile on Planet Earth before with sit before Jesus and review our lives with Him, assuming the offender truly repents. I LOVE that you consistently use scripture throughout all your videos. Since your videos are 5-12 minutes long, I am thinking about a variety of ways that I can use your videos in different parts of my career and personal life. Keep up the wonderful work. Again, thank you.
A friend of three years, who stood by me through cancer, recently just completely stopped speaking me. Blocked me on all media, and doesn't even look at me in the streets when we pass each other. I do not know what I did to deserve this either. I wasn't even congratulated on my recent engagement. This video really helped me with how to handle the situation because I'm prone to anger. One thing that drove a wedge between us was his leaving the faith and constantly belittling mine. I wanted to call him out and fight him, but I do not think I will now.
@lucaboden you don't read too well do you? I never criticized him about leaving his faith, it's just that when he did he constantly belittled mine. How would you feel if someone constantly made fun of you for your faith? Also why even bother commenting? Did you think I needed to hear your opinion, or that anyone else cared?
I thank God I came across this. My coworker treats me very badly and today I walked to her and asked her to forgive me if I have done any wrong but she was so mean to me. But I thank God I could go to her with love and humility. But she did not receive me with love. I leave all to God
I say "thank you and good bye", while I bind every fear of mistreatment in my life, the lives of my family, my friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ, while I loosen myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those who fear mistreatment, in accordance with romans 12:14-21, 2 corinthians 6:14-15 and this whole message, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I'm glad you used the explanation of persistently miss treating you. I've not mastered dealing with this yet.... it is absolutely not about revenge, it's about wanting them to stop and let up and they dont. Narcissists who are within your family network are incapable of change and impossible to get rid of completely too. When will God act?
Yes, it is very difficult when family members - your own mother and siblings who claim to be Bible believing Christians take advantage and use you. This is in fact happening to me. The best I can do is separate myself rom them and pray for them, which I have done. I have confronted them on their behavior - using and taking advantage of me but they have doubled down, my mother claiming that there's nothing wrong with her using my property as her own. And they claim to be Christians. So I separate myself because what they are doing is abuse. I do not hate them - I pray for them, but I will not place myself in their midst so that I can be gaslit, used and lied to constantly.
Be kind with your own way. As long as the action is something positive tht suits with your behaviour and are strongly shielded from a sudden attack of dignity crisis and self esteem.
I think this video is being too innocent; though I love the format. For starters if a relationship has gone bad we can plead the blood of Jesus and many times it gets better; we need to not become a doormat- abuse/mistreatment in all forms has become too rampant and we need to know our value in Christ. Then we also need to engage in spiritual deliverance: we need to cover our self with his protection (Psalm 91 etc) and war against the spirits as we war not against flesh and blood but against powers, principalities and wicked forces in high places (Ephesians 6:12) and also the weapons of our war are not carnal but mighty in the pulling down of strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4). I agree with the point of putting in Golds hands reciting the psalms adequately addresses this
Wow I'm dealing with two coworkers right now. One of the boss and another a lead. I made "peace" with the situation I started. I know God forgives and accepted His forgiveness. Now if only the two who seem to be gunning for my job with lies and such is starting to get very old. If any are put there I ask you to pray for peace with th hem and myself.its very hard to not be angry but I'm doing my best.
"If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads." Roman's 12: 20 You are a good man subbed. -PawPaw
This stuff is truly not easy, especially when u are having issues with a sociopath or narcissist personality disorder.
Very true. It is not easy at all. Very little in the Christian life is easy. Lol!
pinkpostergirl I let a narcissist get me out of my character I wish I had better impulse control but I snapped
pinkpostergirl my kids farther is both of these personalities. He had a baby on me with a woman he has cheated on me with and blames me for the baby he is having. They have brung so much drama in my life she is bothering me and he is also.
It’s not easy
It’s not easy at all!
Mistreatment at work especially from a supervisor is so difficult. It's makes life miserable. Also if you respond with peace they will pick on you even more because they see it as a sign of weakness. There are some really evil people out there unfortunately.
This isn’t easy at all. Especially when I’m naturally nice and everyone around me has the capability to be rude to me. When really..I just want to treat them the way they treat me because I’m tired of constantly being tried for no reason over and over and over again. People don’t hear you until they feel you. I try so hard to keep my peace go about things the right way and it’s getting frustrating to deal with.
Remember being nice does not mean you let people walk all over you
Bkb omgosh. This is me at work. Feel so defeated. The whole “it takes 2” is so wrong! I definitely need to pray more about this subject. Because what I’m seeing is, it’s very one sided. Crazy but a very real subject to talk about. God help us all 🙏♥️
@@tinacristallo7226 when you be kind to haters then you will be joyful. Be nice to haters and be nice to people that criticize you because you don’t know what is going on in there life. Remember do your part and forgive and be kind. Negative mind will never lead to a positive life.
If you have to cut them off do it!! Family or not
That is exactly where I’m at too. I wish I could just let it go but I take it personally like an attack. I’ve tried ignoring it but knowing I did nothing to deserve it and knowing what I’m capable of does not make it easy. It actually makes me angrier.
I needed this cuz I was about to go ham on somebody today.
Lol. Glad you came across this vid then.
i went ham on somebody and then saw this :'/ lol
miss kay you made me laugh reading that. 😂😂😂
miss kay I swear every god damn day when I am at work. I feel it
miss kay amen leave room for God
Don’t respond....Silence is power...I had to learn that on my own.
@@Th3odora thank u silence will fuck u over disturb your mental health state of mind I will not tolerate disrespect u can tolerate it I wont
@@Th3odora agreed silence just makes them think they can keep bullying you
I have thought about what you have said and with much thought I come to a conclusion. This is considering the difference between being silent and not silent for optimal results in my social circle, and how this can affect those I work with, freinds, family, and all others positively or negatively to get the results I am looking for to improve my relations with those I work with, freinds, family, and all others. Also, considering how either being silent or non silent can better shape the world in future generations. I have come to the undeniable conclusion of no comment.
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True! I learned that too.
One way only , stand your ground , set boundaries , assertivity!
I think I need to do that but still try to set an example
How does one turn the other cheek and stand one’s ground at the same time?
He makes good and valid points, but no one is to take abuse from anyone. You do have the right to be direct and stop people from mistreating you, even if that means walking away.
Your right. Because you are human and everyone has a stopping point. Best thing to do is remove yourself from the situation
Only it says EXACTLY what it says.
@@dujuanevans9975 - sometimes if you can't physically remove yourself, you can remove yourself emotionally from the situation and let Christ take the abuse for you. It will seem as though you are incredibly strong for not lashing back but you are just letting Jesus take the burden of it. When you don't respond in a knee-jerk emotional way, it's amazing how you can more effectively and directly deal with the abuser.
@@vannoycg I agree, we are called to love everyone but not everyone can have access to your heart because people will mistreat your heart and leave you with bitterness, the only one that you should be letting in your heart is Jesus. We are also called to be BLAMELESS before the LORD.
God tested me today, on this exact thing. I passed y'all!!!!! It's crazy that this popped up on my feed a half hour after thanking God for this test.
I am a Christian and u r speaking the truth about God
Many good points. But we are also to confront those that sin against us. Jesus confronted the Pharisees and others by speeking truth when He was mistreated. When we overlook sin, we can end up enabling it. I have spent most of my life forgiving, overlooking, and blessing those were sinning against me. I ended up being used, abused, and taken advantage of. It didn't gain me respect, only contempt. My point being, yes we do all these things, but we also confront people who mistreat us. I lived one sided for too long. we love others enough to speak the truth and we love ourselves enough not to let others continually mistreat us.
Very well said Denine. Thank you for that perspective. Funny, I plan to do a video entitled, "What Does it Mean to Turn the Other Cheek?" We are taught this, but what does it mean? Thank you,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr for my two cents on turning the other cheek. When someone slaps, you it was a sign of disrespect. When Jesus was crucified He was mocked, spit on and disrespected, but they could not take away His value, worth, or rightousness. Same with taking your cloak and coat which has to do with status. The point is no one can take your salvation or our place as a child of God away from us... Then the 1 mile go two. I believe the point is no matter the roads or paths this life take us, we will always find our way home with Him. The point being their is nothing in this world that can take away who we are or what we have in Christ.
blessing to you! thanks for your reply and letting me share.
Denine Taylor. Thank you!! I see your point. We cannot enable them. Yet it does no good to seek any revenge. I feel that my life has been with this type of conflict always. I am falsley accused, used, taken advantage of and guilty of enabling. I take a beating constantly. To the point that I want to give up on life. I am without understanding as to why I am such a target. Especially when I try to live a life of good morals and high standards. I do believe that my way of living makes others feel like I am "raising the bar" for them. Such is not true. I live to do what is right. I don't expect anything from others but respect and fair treatment. I don't hold them to my standards. I only ask for fair treatment. These people who purposely make life difficult for me, Rob the pure joy of life from me.
I have always felt like a target too. My brother says, its because I am too nice. I decided to start being better to myself, respect myself, and stop all the people pleasing. I started to really paying attention to what people are saying and how they are acting towards me. Now instead of just reacting to slights and put downs, I am learning to respond. For example, instead of being hurt and trying to explain my innocents or prove myself, I question the persons. I ask them simple questions like, " what did you say?" or "what's is your point?." I focus in on their intent; are they trying to shame me, hurt me or belittle me? Its much easy not to let it effect you, when you know it is their intent. I am starting to use my discernment to stay away from these types the best I can or keep the interaction minimal. I think their whole purpose is to rob us of our Joy. These types of people are usually unhappy, hateful, controlling and manipulative. It makes them feel better to hurt others. In Christ, we can overcome the things they do. Our wounds will heal and we can get stronger. We just need to stop spending time with people who continually try to inflict them on us. No matter how much we change; they will still remain the same. Its not you!
NO ONE SAID IT WAS GOING TO BE EASY. JESUS TAKING THE CROSS FOR US WASN’T EASY. BUT HE DID IT! CONSTANTLY PRAY FOR GOD’S HELP TO DO THE HARD THINGS. 😊
A tough thing to do especially when the person who hates you demonized you. Good motivation in this video
I try so hard to be a true Christian it’s hard 😖due to my anger issues I am glad I watched this I just wish to control it there is a lot of cruel people out there 😔
It is truly hard.. but ask for the Holy Spirit to help you... it really changed a lot concerning my anger issues... due to the Spirit and laying it down before God, now it is my new nature to stay calm and smooth even if they´re really firing on me :D but not because of my own strength (this doesn´t exist lol), but by the Holy Spirit, which enables me :) hope this could help you
I believe this is true, but you still need to stick up for yourself.
Yeah I wish he would tell us how to do that? 🙏
@@galemiller7422 right! I have no idea how to do that without causing more pain, its frustrating.
@@galemiller7422 God will stick up for you, remember the bible verse said: "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay". So allow God to represent you on your behalf. He shall stick up for you.
God will stick up for you.
Things will settle.
true
Omg!! This is exactly what i needed to hear! I’ve been mistreated for years and i feel like it will never end. Thank you for reminding me that Gods word is what i need to listen to and respond to.
Well some people become a reprobate spirit the bible also speaks about if u cannot get along with other people DEPART. Some people you cannot get along with. Even when its family
Leah Chalmers amen
Leah Chalmers wow got apoint ; All you can do is pray for them and you cannot reason with them .
Absolutely! It's called loving them from a distance~
@Libra love excellent point. I love this man’s videos and think he is spot on most of the time, however I think that you can find just as many verses validating for instance, calling out false teachers, judging people righteously, righteous indignation, and setting up boundaries and consequences for people who are harmful. This video makes it out to be like you just have to sit there and be a punching bag. What if the other person is doing something that threatens your marriage, your children, your job and therefore your ability to support yourself and family? Voddie Bachman does an excellent sermon on “sissified Jesus”. This kind of reminds me of what that sermon speaks to.
I feel the same way
Glory to God!!!
Thanks Undefeated!
I need this so much! I don’t want to feel the need to defend myself. God is my defender! I need the faith to trust that God WILL deal with whatever mistreatment or feelings of offense is coming at me! 🙏🏼
My oldest daughter is bullied constantly. While I'm aware this is the world we live in & "those girls" will always be out there... The pain doesn't go away. This video is a good reminder & I'm going to sit down with her & watch it together & pray.
Hope things got better for her. 🙏
I used to be verbally abused by another resident. It really hurt me. People who wanted to help me had their hands tied they could do NOTHING to help me, even though they wanted to. Anyone who says "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me has not lived with a verbally abusive person. Words DO HURT
Thanks for the video, it is very clear. I experience the mistread even at church. I give room for God to do something for the person. Amen.
Thank you I suffered from mistreatment today. Thank you for easing my pain with Paul's writing which God uses him.
Everyone overlooks when Paul told people that they can just go and emasculate themselves, and this was over something petty.
Paul should never be a role model, nor a standard by which to live by; but Paul has many wonderful things to say.
Christ led a perfect example of how to live, love, and treat people. 🥰
This is hard when somebody lies on you to the police
One of the most important videos for me right now. Thank u!! This is SO hard for me becuase ive always been the person that has a hard time turning the other cheek and often times seek my own revenge or just take it into my own hands instead of letting God handle it and im realizing that it just doesnt work well for me or the other person. I really want to start letting go and letting God. The Lord KNOWSSSS I struggle with this topic. But this video just really helped me and i hope i can get better with this.
Amen this isn’t always easy but has to be done 😊
I will admit that there’s plenty of room for growth for me in this area, but, to me, when a person disrespects you and you allow it, they will continue to do it because in their minds it’s permissible. I expect the same respect from a person that I give to them. If they’re not willing to give it then that’s a person I’m going to avoid. I won’t go around slandering their name, nor will I be openly disrespectful to them when our paths cross. I will just treat that person like they don’t exist. Peace doesn’t always mean we love everybody and get along with everybody. Sometimes peace means,”Yeah, we don’t particularly care for each other, but we’re not going to war with each other. We’ll just keep our distance.” It works for me.
I am going to try that I too like you am sick of getting walked all over!
God is right on time even 5 years later.
Thanks a lot for this message, I sure needed to hear it! It's hard treating someone better when they are doing their best to destroy you! But it's true las you implied, if we revenge or treat them the way they treat us, then we're no better than them!
I love how me and u r still Christian even in this horrible world. God bless u.
Watched this to help me find a better way to deal with my consistently disrespectful neighbors today.
Thank you for this message. I came home tonight and my wife explained to me how my neighbor has been blowing leaf’s onto our property, my reaction was to go and confront the neighbor in a real negative way. I was really ashamed on how I reacted in front of my and realized how spiritually Immature I am. Your message calmed my spirit and reminded me that I must always stay in communication with the lord, thank you and god bless.
Wow! I truly needed this today brother. New season, new tests with people. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. So on time!
WOW. This is really good. For so many years I have been silent to people mistreating me, my reaction to the world seems crazy. But I love the lessons that God used you to breaking it down for us. Thanks so much. Now I do not feel bad. I will continue to pray for people that mistreat me. This word is life changing. Man God is Good. I just subscribed to your page. This is a blessed word.
You are totally right, I have fed him and he said that my cooking was awful and I have Cook for myself and he came up and said that smells good . I have told him that I thought you dislike my cooking and he laughed at me. I blessed over the food and he rushed eating and gotten choked, I have told him Not to talk about anything while eating or asking questions while I am eating. God bless me to do better than before and after that we have to follow the rules , not to talk with your mouth full.
Love it bro! Keep up the good work! I use these vids to encourage my children in their Bible reading. They're all very visual and tech savvy, so this format and these topics speak right to where they are. I praise God and thank you for this ministry. PEACE!
Hey Terry, thanks so much man! So glad the videos are helping even children! That's awesome!
I always tell ppl that if they mess with me they've put a shovel in their hands because God can take care of them way better than me. I don't have s vengeful bone in my body. Like recently my bf got the next door neighbor preggo. Everyone is wondering why i haven't snapped for one the universe will take I'd the wrongdoings that have been done to me. The punishment for him is that he has to be father to a illegitimate child of a mother who four other baby daddies which will probably land him in the system. I get to move on in my life. Feel like this was God's way giving me a push to move on
I've given him several chances to be better man to me but this has shown me he has no respect for me or her. To first of all he was friends with the girl husband who is doing life in prison for her infidelity. Before his incarceration we were common with one another but after he got locked up I noticed that my spouse continued friendship with the wife. Then we all became cool. A neighbor bought to my attention of the extensive time they were spending together. Anyway my point is since I'm not able to break my lease im out of here the beginning of the year. Let Jehovah avenge me. I will sit back and watch the chips fall where they lay. While I'm living my best life put of bondage. Can u say freedom. I'm excited for 2019
Amen
OMG I KNOW youre sooo much better now but I had to comment. Look how GOD removed that trash from your life QUICK. I would LOVE to hear how GREAT youre doing now!
@@monicarwells2 good morning but I'm doing well. Living single. Its is one of the best things I've could've ever done. To be single is to be 100% whole. I'm not willing to trade it for anything now. Not while I work on my getting online fitness career off the ground. Laser focused! He's still denying the baby and want me back. Not me, I'm not doing it. I have a better peace, love and happiness for myself to go bk to trash
@@Sofrofitness As a Christian, I wouldn't call him trash; he sounds like he is unsaved and is just following his fleshly sinful nature and suffering the consequences thereof.
Thank you. You are so right! I allowed these people to push my buttons and I became no better than them. As of today, I will say this; they will hang themselves. A female who teaches her kids to play in her dirty dealings will have something to answer to soon enough. I BELIEVE IN TWO THINGS; KARMA AND THE POWER OF GOD! I WILL CHANGE BACK TO THE RESPECTFUL DECENT PERSON I'VE ALWAYS BEEN. Again, thank you for helping to open my eyes.
Why do you say "female" Ya, in this case perhaps it is but it's weird to phrase it like that. Most people would say "parent" or "mother" Strange choice of words.
ignore and forgive them by forgiving them you also give peace to your self love your enemies indeed by praying that they realize how ill mannered they are before they experience the karma that comes with their bad attitude
this really helped. my ex wife divorce 4 years ago still gives me a hard time. she brings the worst out of me. she says things that my worst enemy would not say...and i cant just leave the country we have kids after 21 years of marriage..
@Mikael Remember that we all deserve hell for our sins, and be grateful to God not all of us go there. Also, keeping in mind Mark 4:24, would you like to know something Jesus commanded us to do that very, very few people have accepted?
Sorry to hear that. Don’t give her strength over you. I know it’s hard but set the example for your kids to see. Show them you are bigger than that. They’ll remember that.
Wow I needed to hear this I used to think bad about the other person 😢
I had a bad day truly speaking and listening to you I am completely healed. Thanks a lot Sir
Thank you Lord for this on time word you know how much I needed to receive these instructions.
Im dying inside this is how it feels.. But i give it all to God.. Im still blessed for i know God is doing something great out of this situation..
Hi Allen. Well, I think that it's also really necessary to be WISE AND STRONG enough so others won't misteat us constantly. I've been TRYING to follow the words of God (all of which you cited in the video) for all my childhood and adolescnce. But the result was only unending, repeated hurts. And I came to know why. I was being a terrible PHARISEE. I only followed A FEW words of God (not gossiping, not revenging) but in my mind, I was ALWAYS FULL OF ANGER AND HATRED. I thank God so much, because it's only been like some weeks that I learned this,, that I was totally wrong. I learned that one should never try to FORCE oneself to follow SOME words of God, because eventually and essentially, you are gonna end up sinning(hating)! I think, personally, it's almost impossible for most people to live LITERALLY AS WRITTEN ON BIBLE. i think jesus hasn't meant us to do so either. I think he told us such and such things so we can constantly know that we need help from him in order to love and forgive. Humans can never love and forgive truthfully by one's will. So when somebody mistreats you, it's SO IMPORTANT to tell God how much you hate him or her, maybe even CURSE that person in the prayer. God knows our thoughts already. i think we have to comtemplate: whether we could really forgive and bless the ones who hurt us. We must pour out our emotions to God because if we don't, it just gets piled up, you know. the anger and hatred. so these days, for me, i actually tell God everything and I say badwords almost all the time. I tell God to take revenge on them. I tell God how bad some ppl are, how hurt i am. God understands. He heals. and most importantly, after doing this, after pouring my emotions to God, He helps me understand those ppl who hurt me and forgive them. Another thing i wanna tell is that when somebody mistreats you, you must let that person know it and you must let them stop doing it. I think that just as our parents never wants their child to get bullied or be mistreated even minorly, God doesn't want His children to be a STUPID who can't even speak properly or react properly. I just wanna say Allen that being a literal bible follower could lead many people to becoming a PHARISEE.... God bless you Allen. i appreciate your videos very much. But I hope you really get what i say.. and it would be even better if you could post a video about what i said-- the mistake of hating while following wordsof God. it is trully destructive and far from Bible...
I love how God's will is always opposite of mine lol
I don't know if I love it, because my flesh doesn't want to do it so in that respect, it's harder and my flesh doesn't like it.
@@frick6946 true
So true
Been sick for some time.. just called the doctors office to make an appointment.. the miss on the other end was snarky.. no, I didn't care for it and got Very upset.. then I got upset with the Mrs. *shame on me* so I came here to see what to do... I remember now reading this in the Bible but hearing you talk on it makes more sense. I got some pray time to do.. thanks so much Brother Allen. for your Love and insight in the Word. Bless you.
I just don't Acknowledge them, people don't like being ignored! I just pretend their not there. that's a satisfying way I deal with em. Things you mentioned on the list its just makes a person look like a doormat, im sorry but thats how I see it, why would you make someone who mistreated you feel like they will get a royal treatment?! It makes no sense whatsoever.
Really love your videos and stumbling across this is so timely as there are some people who really treat me badly. It was great realising that I wasn't silly for trying to keep the peace and not treating them as how I'm being. God bless you and I hope he continues to provide the necessary provisions for you to make more awesome videos.
Hey Pheona, thank you so much for the kind words. Wishing you all the best and thanks again!
THE BEAT by Allen Parr You're most welcome
This is true. Not easy at all.
Thank you for this.
Thank you! I at first looked up how to roast people. Then I saw your video, and realized I had really messed up by wanting to hurt someone back. Now I have a different mindset on dealing with the person I am having trouble with. Thanks!
Thank you for reminding us of what we know but so easily forget in the heat of the moment. God bless you, Allen.
praise GOD, i must worry about my actions and not others. amen.
Youre right It is hard though .Some people are just not peaceful!.. Still have to do whats right.
Seems logical to follow this advice if the person you are dealing with is NOT an abuser. DO NOT mistaken being and ENABLER for LOVE.
AMEN. I grew up in the church. Because of people mistreating me right to my face, I've developed anxiety and depression. I cannot leave the church because my family attends there. As I grew older, I am having physical pain from just being in the church. I don't want to leave the church. I'm believing that God will be with me in my struggles and show me His mercy as I continue to trust and have faith in Him. It's a difficult thing to be humble and forgive. But I've learned that "This World is not my home" and all of this is temporary. My life is not mine but God's. Thank you for the reminders! God bless
I must listen to this video over and over until the message of the scriptures in it becomes a part of me. Thank you brother Allen
Just came across your videos today and wanted to let you know how much I am enjoying them. Thank you for your faithfulness to serve in this way.
Oh my word! I needed this today! I’ve been having such a bad time with someone! I’m so encouraged by this! Thanks so much!
I’m going through that currently with someone I know. It’s a recurring situation. Even though in rough things up. This person still refuses to examine themselves. The mistreatment is not good at all and this is going on for a while. The words spoken and aggression is not okay.So glad and grateful to have come across this video. Cause I felt bad venting to a person of how I felt. But then I felt God tell me to not respond evil with evil, but with good and compassion.
Good morning,
Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
Colossians 3:12 KJV
Have a safe and blessed day with the love of Christ Jesus ❤.
There must be a balance between all of this and not being a doormat.
I’ve done all of this in the past because I wanted to be obedient and I will tell you, people will take advantage of you for the most part rather than being impressed with your godly character.
I have seen this in my own life and have always been happy that I took the high road.
So needed….idk why people act like they’re my friends but now they dislike me and mistreat me..
Allen, I have been in a difficult situation that has lasted 10 ++ years. These 6 steps you have outlined have help me a great deal. Very practical, it’s were the gospel meets the road. As an Irishman, this was not easy at first, over time I have seen good results. Namely enemy’s confounded by my lack of reaction to their desire to create drama. Meanwhile I wait on the Lord and His timing. Thank for this good teaching. Keep it up. (John B)
Thank you for this message. I went to a Christmas party yesterday and someone opened my gift and made a rude comment to embarrass me.
My feelings were hurt and I just didn’t know how to handle it. So I thought of just skipping the party next year, with your video and Gods help I will just have to realize that I am the bigger person. God Bless You !! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I will follow these rules and save them to share with anyone else who is mistreated.
Recently, a Christian sister who I (had) considered a good friend, was consistently 'flaky' and disrespectful to me - saying one thing and doing the other. At first, I just prayed about (against) 'divisive spirits' and kind of blamed myself - maybe, I pondered, was I being too critical? (even though I was the one not to blame) . Remember if you are also a survivor of any kind of abuse in childhood like I am, there is always that temptation to blame yourself for others' rubbishy behaviour and the enemy will also try to get you to 'be the wrong one' - the accuser for sure, even when the other is clearly in the wrong. Christ calls us to 'turn the other cheek' but not to endure abuse and to give everything in a situation up to God which is what I also did in this situation through prayer. More examples of flakiness and so I just had to set healthy boundaries. You can make it clear that you love and forgive someone 'in Christ' whilst simultaneously calling them out on disrespect and not allowing them to attempt to control you within a relationship. It's hard because your hopes have been that this person would be a genuine Christian friend and you kind of expect 'fake friends' in the world but not in church. My lesson from this is trust in God only, other Christians will let you down because we are all only human, but most especially that 'forgiveness' does not mean tolerance of unacceptable or abusive behaviour.
Someone people at my former Church hurt my feelings as well so I understand. Some people are fake .
Yes, and this can also happen in your own family, from people who claim to be Christians. Jesus said that your enemies will be people in your own household and that He came to bring the sword. This is happening to me right now, so I pray for my family members and distance myself from them because when I attempt to speak to them, they all together, try to silence me so I will only speak what they approve. No, that I will not abide. I will take it to God, as I have done and I trust He will handle it in his time. I do not harbor hate toward my family members, but I will not tolerate use and abuse from them, being taken advantage of by them.
Thank you so much! I NEEDED THIS! Put Gods Word Into Action! It will yield the results that you seek… Plus when GOD handles somebody, IT IS DONE!
Thank you for reminding us of GOD'S Truth in Jesus Name, I had been battling this regarding employees at my job.
HI, Allan, That was just great and I'm going to copy out all those scripture quotes. I think I have just been seriously deceived by someone I genuinely wanted to help. I know our Lord Jesus said "pray for those who despitefully use you, and persecute you" (Matt.5:44). I thank the Lord that, through his grace, I do not feel anger towards this brother; on the contrary I have through prayer, recieved the Lord's peace and I will have more compassion for him, not less. Thank you again, Allan, for pointing us towards all those passages of redemption, and for all your work on this channel to encourage us into God's righteousness and to the coming of his kingdom on this earth. Bless you.
Seeking to reconcile myself with a once kind but now pretty narcissistic little sister Mr. Parr did give me another sane part of the puzzle to be solved. I love my sister so very much but she really has caused too much damage to my family. I know there is hope, forgiveness and healing in the future. The trick is to see it and where to find it I guess. I can forgive her though. It doesn't stop the tons of pains and sorrows caused by her. But it gives me strength to move on and live again. It really never is too late to live.
If you're in pain you're not alone. If it seems like the world is crushing you you're not alone. If you've wasted ten years you're not alone. If your future is uncertain you're not alone. If you're thinking of killing yourself you're not alone. If nothing seems to work out you're not alone. If you're at your limit and you're ready to throw in the towel you're not alone. If you've never been in love you're not alone. When you're alone you're NOT ALONE! If you relate to anything I just wrote you're not alone. I'm right here with you and so is God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. All of you out there that are hurting you're not alone. Everyday is ONE day closer. One day closer. Pain and struggle isn't wasted. Lord Jesus is with you.
Beautiful ❤️🕊️✨
Thanks for this comment, much appreciated.🙏🏻🌷
God bless you.🙌🏻☦️❤️
Recently I just had a friend that had another religion than me insult my religion.
İt really stabbed me in the heart.
I really don't know how to deal with it,because she was my best friend.
And after that she insulted my religion again.
I never insulted her religion since I didn't want to sin.
I'm currently still friends with her because I don't have that many friends.
I think I'm going to tell her to stop talking about my religion without knowing anything.
I just want to say that everyone should be respectful.
You never know how much your words can hurt
Gosh...why are u talking to her..she insulted you and ur gonna let her do it again.
She doesnt respect or value you.
She's not a friend...shes a bitch.
You have to respect ur self to not let people treat u like tht
Be strong.
Peace
@@zippyblessed839 well do you think I should forgive her.
I fell so horrible being her friend after all that.
This happened like a year ago.
But do you think I should talk about it with her,or maybe quit our friendship.
Cause she talks about her religion alot and questions mine.
I really don't know what to do.
Plz give me some advice
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@@cherylchimaamakihe3089 well we both know her religion is false and she needs jesus so i would continue praying for her soul.
But wen it comes to friendship if they dont respect your values or morals then i would question the friendship.. especially if der your best friend.
If she can diss your religion which is so personal then she can diss your family or other aspects of your life.thats why you gotta set boundaries
You have to let people treat you how you would want to be treated.you can be nice to people but have boundaries..no one shud step on you.
My advice wud be to let her know the problem since shes your best friend.she should be able to listen to you with empathy
If she attacks in defense wen you tell her then avoid her at all cost.
She shud also apologise.
You dont need that sort of negative energy.
Spend your energy with people that respect who you are.
Hope this helped dear.
Be strong amd set boundaries.
@@zippyblessed839 Thanks so much for your advice
What I do is think of what Jesus went through. He did nothing but help others and he was betrayed abused and tortured, he took all of it for us. If he can handle that, the least we could do is turn the other cheek and think about how his kingdom will make all of our suffering worth it.
Thank you for Gods perspective on how to deal with mistreating people its a daily occurance and tiredsome. A firmer strategy less battlesome 🙏🏾💯
This doesn’t help me am sorry LORD GOD and I’m really tired of being bullied
MAMA CHOUCHOU you okie bro, u can get through this
I can imagine how this may seem impossible to you, so you just pray, I learnt today that the Holy Spirit does not only yell you when you go wrong, he wants to help you where it is really difficult. I love you with the love of Christ.
I agree with u.
I have the same problem to I try to smile and be nice and say nice things about them but they just don't like to respect as a matter of fact, a-lot. Dear Lord, Please bless us all with your love and please help us to get through the difficult times together. Thank you God.
@@Th3odora become distant as much as possible . And don’t engage with them if you don’t have too
THANK YOU!!!
Thanks to Jesus, I discovered your videos within the past 3 months. I watched and re-watched 3 of your videos; How to Respond When People Mistreat You..... How to Trust Again When You’ve Been Hurt Deeply..... How to Forgive When It Hurts. I have been initiating the reconciliation process with my brother and sister-in-law for YEARS to follow God’s commands. If possible, I believe it is better to reconcile on Planet Earth before with sit before Jesus and review our lives with Him, assuming the offender truly repents. I LOVE that you consistently use scripture throughout all your videos. Since your videos are 5-12 minutes long, I am thinking about a variety of ways that I can use your videos in different parts of my career and personal life. Keep up the wonderful work. Again, thank you.
Read about King Saul and David in the Old Testament if want more guidance on this topic.
You dont know how bad I needed that! Praise God!
A friend of three years, who stood by me through cancer, recently just completely stopped speaking me. Blocked me on all media, and doesn't even look at me in the streets when we pass each other. I do not know what I did to deserve this either. I wasn't even congratulated on my recent engagement. This video really helped me with how to handle the situation because I'm prone to anger. One thing that drove a wedge between us was his leaving the faith and constantly belittling mine. I wanted to call him out and fight him, but I do not think I will now.
@lucaboden you don't read too well do you? I never criticized him about leaving his faith, it's just that when he did he constantly belittled mine. How would you feel if someone constantly made fun of you for your faith? Also why even bother commenting? Did you think I needed to hear your opinion, or that anyone else cared?
The best video i've watched on this subject
I thank God I came across this. My coworker treats me very badly and today I walked to her and asked her to forgive me if I have done any wrong but she was so mean to me. But I thank God I could go to her with love and humility. But she did not receive me with love. I leave all to God
I say "thank you and good bye", while I bind every fear of mistreatment in my life, the lives of my family, my friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ, while I loosen myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those who fear mistreatment, in accordance with romans 12:14-21, 2 corinthians 6:14-15 and this whole message, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I'm glad you used the explanation of persistently miss treating you.
I've not mastered dealing with this yet.... it is absolutely not about revenge, it's about wanting them to stop and let up and they dont. Narcissists who are within your family network are incapable of change and impossible to get rid of completely too. When will God act?
This was right on point!!
Thanks so much!!
"Defeat your opponents with gentleness."
Timothy .
I defeAt haters by saying nothing and not reacting.
And become a doormat. Paul wasn't even gentle when he adressed believers in his letters... im not sure about this all.
@@zion367 it takes more strength to be controlled.
@@Justadudeman22 you can be controlled yet let nobody walk over you.
@@zion367 I agree.
Thank you I have been struggling with this for many months...this really helped me gain some clarity. God Bless brother
I come back to this video when I could have a better time please pray for me and my family in Jesus name
I have to say that this is not what I wanted to hear, but definitely what I needed to hear.
The more proud and happy you can be the more it's going to get to them
How can you be happy while hurting? Please pray for me I am really hurting
Thank you so much for this!! It's actually so hard if it's a family member that does this to you 😭 But may God work in this situation!
Yes, it is very difficult when family members - your own mother and siblings who claim to be Bible believing Christians take advantage and use you. This is in fact happening to me. The best I can do is separate myself rom them and pray for them, which I have done. I have confronted them on their behavior - using and taking advantage of me but they have doubled down, my mother claiming that there's nothing wrong with her using my property as her own. And they claim to be Christians. So I separate myself because what they are doing is abuse. I do not hate them - I pray for them, but I will not place myself in their midst so that I can be gaslit, used and lied to constantly.
Simple and so clear.Praise God
Be kind with your own way. As long as the action is something positive tht suits with your behaviour and are strongly shielded from a sudden attack of dignity crisis and self esteem.
I think this video is being too innocent; though I love the format. For starters if a relationship has gone bad we can plead the blood of Jesus and many times it gets better; we need to not become a doormat- abuse/mistreatment in all forms has become too rampant and we need to know our value in Christ. Then we also need to engage in spiritual deliverance: we need to cover our self with his protection (Psalm 91 etc) and war against the spirits as we war not against flesh and blood but against powers, principalities and wicked forces in high places (Ephesians 6:12) and also the weapons of our war are not carnal but mighty in the pulling down of strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4). I agree with the point of putting in Golds hands reciting the psalms adequately addresses this
thank you, thank you for making me a better person
Wow I'm dealing with two coworkers right now. One of the boss and another a lead. I made "peace" with the situation I started. I know God forgives and accepted His forgiveness. Now if only the two who seem to be gunning for my job with lies and such is starting to get very old.
If any are put there I ask you to pray for peace with th hem and myself.its very hard to not be angry but I'm doing my best.
Your videos are helping me focus on the word of God.scriptures are my peace and joy.
Thank you for this because .........because ........ man .....man ... Thank you 🙏🏽
(John B.) This is one of my favorite talks. Very practical down to earth. A wonderful reminder to me. Thanks again my friend and brother.
"If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads." Roman's 12: 20 You are a good man subbed. -PawPaw